I didn’t purchase TCB but I have implemented a lot of the tips she posts on her Instagram and they have been super helpful. although I do miss rocking my little baby to sleep it’s amazing seeing him become more independent and able to fall asleep on his own 🥺 Can’t wait to see more progress from Rocky, you guys are doing amazing!
I cannot thank you enough for an honest video on your experiences so far. Cheering you on every step of the way and so proud of little Rocky boy that he's learning so quickly. You'll be on the other side so soon I'm sure of it! I still go back and forth on sleep training my little girl as she does sleep mostly through the night in her bassinet next to our bed with only a couple of binky replacements - no feedings. But she's getting to that point where she'll probably sleep better in her own room and I know there will be moments she needs me still, I'm just not ready to interrupt my 7-8 hours of sleep I'm currently getting to change up the situation. Ahhh this mom life is TOUGH and also amazing at the same time. Hang in there and cannot WAIT for an update to see how Rocky does!
I’m so glad that you’re okay with not following everything to the tee. You totally need to do what’s best for you n your baby. I tweaked everything to what I was comfortable with n I don’t regret it for a second. Yay Rocky! It’s such a proud moment when your babies learn how to self soothe. Best of luck on continuing this journey💕
As a nanny when I helped my current family with sleep training, I found the gentle (Ferber method) was a little harder for the little guy because he was expecting to be picked up each time we went in and the crying would just intensify so we eventually just let him be and the first day it took an hour and then he’d wake after 20-30 mins cry for about 10 more minutes then sleep a couple hours... Second day took about 45 mins to fall asleep. After about 4 days he was falling asleep within 20 mins
The Ferber method is anything but gentle. Cry it out is always cruel, no matter how it's done. Take it frome someone studying infant sleep and brain development. I find it baffling that there are still people willing to subject their own babies to this kind of torture, because that's what it is
@@RachelMassoud because I study infant sleep and early brain developement, so my algorithm shows me a lot of this stuff, and I feel it is important to dispell myths and create awareness. A lot of parents have completely unrealistic expectations when it comes to their infant's sleep. Sleeping through the night has become the desired thing (which is understandable when their is little to no parental leave and ppl need to function) but it is often not what is normal or realistic for an infant.
@@evelynl.5628is there any studies you can link down below, im gonna start sleep training after all the infant sleep studies I have read, and basically the gist is that sleep deprivation is a form of torture to any human let alone a growing baby, and that was one of the reasons that convinced me, cause my baby was not sleeping almost at all, but if your studying it, please link something, I’ve been looking and every expert recommends sleeping training,
@@evelynl.5628what sleep strategies do you recommend? (coming from a mom who accidentally made my baby a co-sleeping baby and would like to get her back to independent sleep)
I’m doing a modified Ferber method. My daughter is 4 months old she stopped taking a binky at 2.5 months. I went cold Turkey with the swaddle day 2.I started off with just naps unswaddled Day 1 and swaddled that night. For the first nap she cried for an hour I checked on her every 5 minutes for a half hour then 10 minutes for the other half hour. She slept for 2 hours and 30 minutes. Nap to she cried for 10 minutes slept an hour 15 minutes, bell 3 cried for about 7 minutes slept for an hour. At night she went to bed at 10:30p was up at midnight feed her back to sleep she woke up every 2 hours. Day 2 no swaddling at all. First nap cried less than 10 minutes didn’t check on her slept for hour, second nape cried leas than 5 minutes slept 1.5 hours, third nap was a cat nap only 30 minutes. Went to bed at 9pm no crying slept til 4am fed her back to sleep by 4:45am woke up at 5am up from 5-6a cried on and off only checked on her twice slept from 6am to 9am. She’s getting better hopefully I can have her fully “trained” in 2 weeks
I hope it gets better soon. we ST my son at 4.5mths and it was really easy, he had alot of things changed . it took 3 nights, first night was only 3-5min checkins for 15mins, then 2nd night was 8mins and 3rd night was like 2mins? he woke up a few times a night but would put himself back to sleep. we still fed him 3x a night and then he eventually weaned from them himself by 5mths. I think the biggest tip was to just remove everything, including pacis (my son ended up rolling over and sleeping on his belly and sucked his thumb) because even IF he knew to replace his own paci, it would keep him up, unless you sleep train much later around 6+mths.
If your transitioning out of the swaddle try the Merlin magic sleep suit then once they get comfy with that switch to a sleep sack I did that with my baby & it helped so much!
I wasn’t sure if taking the course would be worth it or not. It sucks people have to make money off of us sleepless parents 😔 thank you for sharing I appreciate it!
Your videos are always so helpful! My little guy is turning 4 months in 2 weeks and I’m planning to sleep train him in a few months once we move into our new house and I’m so glad I have your tips and experience to follow! You’re doing great. Just remember consist is key and he’ll get the hang of it!! ❤️
Hi Kilean, hoping to get your feedback on your nap training. I am doing the ABC Taking Cara Babies training as well. My baby is on Night 5 tonight and he is able to self-soothe last night. His nap is still horrible. I have to rock him to sleep but he would only nap for 30 mins after. If i want him to sleep longer, i will have to hold him on my arms the whole time. Question is, when you are doing the night sleep train, do you try to do nap sleep train too?
I did cry it out for my baby at 3 months and it hurt me so much to see my daughter cry like that. By day 3 I gave up and started picking her up after crying for 10min to soothe her a bit and continued with that routine till it finally became less and less crying. She goes to bed on her own now no swaddling or rocking (she is a day older than your son). I strongly believe it's best to tweak the way you feel comfortable cause it definitely works. You're doing awesome!!!
One thing that helped with nursing after my baby got his shots he didn't eat for 12 hours the first day and then wouldn't eat for like 6 or 7 hours on other days after that. I was getting stressed trying to put him on my boob and so was he my friend who had seen a consultant said to just lay there skin to skin and put no pressure on breastfeeding just lay there cuddle talk maybe read and then eventually he made his way down to my boob and ate.
On night one with our second- I bought the course with my first and never saved it! This video is a great reminder , I was replacing the paci and going in for more than 30 sec. My heart is breaking this second hearing my baby scream 😭
When my baby is sleepy he struggles to feed on me, I give up and put him back to the crib with an empty stomach then he starts to cry out loud in hunger so I have to pick him up again and feed him so he falls asleep in my arms 🤦🏻♀️ I think this way I will never succeed in sleep training 💔
I don’t know why but I cried and felt that when you said you picked rocky up and he curled into your arms. Thank you for sharing your experience! You’re so strong, and follow your mommy instincts, you know what’s best for your family. 💙
Awh you’re sweet 💛 it’s been harder than I thought but he just fell asleep 2 min after I laid him in his crib.. 🥺 it’s definitely working. Thank you for the encouraging words 💛
I haven't been able to cut the night feeds. My baby has colic so not feeding at night was not an option. Now that she's three months I might just try it. She doesn't wake up and cry but she kicks, wines, and is fussy. I feed her and she goes right to bed. Her dad won't let her cry so it's hard.
I want to discuss sleep and general “transitioning” for my second baby coming in the fall. With my 1st, I coslept and breastfed for 2 years. I liked having her near me because I wanted to encourage that instinct and bonding especially after she was literally part of my body for 9 months... However, I struggled with knowing when to “transition” to the next phase and I found each transition was SO agonizing for all of us. Examples: > when to transition from being with mom (co-sleeping or bassinet for example), to say a CRIB + if baby is right next to mom in whatever capacity and they dry or wake are you grab right away or put arm on them right away doesn’t this make them dependent on you for that instant response (not saying it’s bad) just posing question of - does it make that later transition of them self soothing etc more difficult when you suddenly aren’t responding and what does this all look like. I mean at 3am I wasn’t into letting my 1st scream and scream when she woke so that my hard working husband would then also wake up. > when and HOW to cut off night BREASTMILK so that it’s easier and HOW/ what to do to get them to sleep and no longer be dependent on those night feedings? I felt like there was yelling and arguing because my 1st was a toddler when I finally took the milk away at night(2yrs). I couldn’t handle not getting any sleep after 2 years of giving my first my all. 🥹 Things I have been told so far: > I have learned/heard that not letting a baby fall asleep ON you if you’re breastfeeding so they don’t associate “I only sleep if I am on mommy” is a good place to start > putting them in a crib when they are tired but not yet asleep so they “fall” asleep in their physical space (crib) > that using crib for naps right away when they are a newborn will more easily develop the habit as opposed to car sleeping more than a crib or a side sleeper more than a crib.. > keeping a lot of noise so they can sleep deep in noise as opposed to being a 👻 when they are asleep. My first is such a light sleeper and we never made a peep! Sorry this is long winded. I don’t even know what my exact questions are. I just need a better flow and plan to be confident in this second time around that May have worked for several others. So please help! I am more open minded than I used to be! Any little nuance you can share I’d love to hear!!
Hi I’m wondering about your dresser you use as a changing table in Rockys room. Just trying to find a dresser/changing table and looking at the best height and depth. To be able to fit the changing pad properly as well! Any tips on yours would be great! Love the baby room!
Mama, y’all are doing AMAZING!! It’s so not easy but 1000% worth it in the end! Keep doing what you are doing and I promise you will feel so much pride in all that y’all have accomplished! Sending lots of love your way! ❤️
My babe is just about a month younger than Rocky and he started doing the “refuse to eat” thing at night for a while there too! It really helped us to just keep trying, stay calm and minimize all distractions. Sometimes putting the binky in his mouth first to calm him down and then switching him to the breast helped. I know how frustrating and heartbreaking it can be to feel rejected by your baby and to worry about how much they’re getting to eat and if they’ll sleep well- but hang in there! Everything is a phase and this too shall pass. You’re doing great :)
Ahhh!! I am so excited to hear that things got better. That’s exactly how it was with my baby. When he learned to sleep on his side he was so much more comfortable and the Binky didn’t matter as much!! I am soo happy for you!
One tip that helped me was playing the paci game during the day A LOT! Also sleeping with 6 pacis helped him be able to find it at night without me and replace it on his own.
I’m tearing up just hearing everything you went through, I keep telling myself we’re going to start & then every night just push it off 😅 Also I’ve been struggling with my little guy not wanting to feed for weeks now. I’ve read everything, and tried so many methods. Sometimes he will nurse & other times I can “trick” him like you do 😅 anywho. You’re not alone in any of this, & you are doing a great job!!
It’s been so hard but so rewarding. He’s improving so much 🥺 but ahhh I hope the nursing goes better for you!! Tricking them is the only way LOL but thanks again 💛💛
Thanks so much for your honesty and details - it’s so helpful! Can I ask how you determine whether he’s crying at night to be fed or just to fuss? I exclusively breastfeed with a 4.5 month old and I feel like she would not be able to sleep through the night without feeding!?
I can’t wait till my Little one is 5 months. He just turned 3 months and he’s going through a sleep regression early 😭 feeding every 2 hours, and each feed takes about an hour. It’s torture! Reading the 3/4 month pamphlet rn from TCB, just waiting till we can do ABC
Just listening gives me trauma It is beyond my comprehension how people are able to congratulate other people and are "proud" of them (?!?) for letting a baby cry, at a certain point she says for 2 hours straight In many a jurisdiction this would be considered child abuse
I’d never did the leave my baby to scream method it’s mental disturbing for them they cry when they need us it’s there way of communicating by leaving them to cry and ignore them is just teaching them that there mummy isn’t going to be there when they need us :( I done the CHAIR METHOD and it’s a lot nicer and worked a treat for my son! We did wait until 6m also as in U.K. where I’m from 6m is the earliest NHD recommended babies fo in there own room. It’s a more gentle approach and less stressful for both the baby and mother
I absolutely love your Chanel. I started watching you when I was pregnant. I just had a baby boy January 15th I’m a first time mom. I watch every single video you post because everything you share is things I want to try along the way with my baby. You remind me so much of myself. You should not have to explain your decision of letting rocky boy sleep in your bed. I personally refuse because I’m scared but there have been nights where I want to so bad just for the sake of some sleep. Thank you for sharing your family’s life with us. You have definitely become one of my favourite people / mom to watch 💙
If my baby is 15 weeks would you recommend taking this course now or waiting until 5 months? My boyfriend wants our bed back but don’t know if she’s too little to do a course
Let me rephrase that 😄 I know this course says for 5-24 month but would you have done a different one, earlier? Or still waited until 5 months since he is a little older.
I personally would wait, just because I know there’s some research with their age! But she does have classes for 3-4 months! Idk if it’s getting them out of the bed though? 🙈 sorry if I’m not much help! You could try to move your little one into a bassinet in your room instead of the crib?
@@KileanRodriguez yeah I saw the research on age as well that’s why I wasn’t sure. I saw the 3-4 month course but I’m really just looking to get her out of bed and want to prepare for when we can start 😄 and lol I tried both the crib and bassinet. She gave me a big fat NOPE to both 😂 also, I private messaged you on Insta if you have a chance 🤍
TCB has an ebook for the 3-4 months phase to help with sleep regression and just gently teaching them to self soothe and fall asleep on their own! I find the PDF really well done and easy to go back to whenever we need some help. It’s working really well for our daughter (15 weeks) and she has been sleeping in her own room for a couple of days now. I’m hoping with this gradual approach we won’t have to properly sleep train, but if so I feel we’ll have a strong foundation 🤞
Hello Beautiful. I know its rough. So hard to watch your baby cry. But your a tough Momma. You've got this. So proud of you !! Keep going sweetie it will get better. Love your Indiana Friend.
Oh gosh this sounds rough - the sleep training and also your struggles with nursing currently. I also have a 5 month old bub and have been considering sleep training as her sleep has been terrible for the past month but I don’t know if I can deal with her crying! I hope this goes well for you ❤️
my boy turns 6 months on the 16th and were finally inching towards sleeping training. were finally starting to use the nested bean sleep sack but he still sleeps in our bed. i have tried 3x already to train but it is so hard. i start crying 20 mins into him crying and just break. we will get there soon though! good luck to you mama!
Have you tried a nipple shield? That has helped me so much when my baby boy doesn’t want to take my breast. Also you are doing amazing! You have helped me so much with my 2 month old❤️
We are about to start the ABC’s and it’s nice to get a true break down of your experience. My daughter is the exact same with her binky and I’m worried how she will reach, so I have started using it less during day naps. I know that a bit different to the course, but she is a week off 5months and thought why not. The course is amazing and Instagram doesn’t do it justice, I can’t wait to sleep again. Binky defence at night isn’t fun. Your both doing an amazing job, thanks for being so real.!!!
I’m confused because you say you do a gentle cry it out method but it seems like all he does is cry? So what is the actual cry it out method? Or is that what it’s called? Lol
no judgment, but please google why cio is bad. if your baby boy cries and screams it means something - he is scared and stressed af and by no means capable to self soothe
@@KileanRodriguez As a psychologist I have to say that Freakykatschi is right... sorry to tell you but with sleep training the baby does not sooth himself. It just looks like it but If you look at his stress hormones they don't go down. This is backed down by evidence based research
Please research Brain development about letting your baby cry. Your ruining his chances of healthy attachment 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 dont believe the lies that you should be there for your baby! Listen to yourself “he screamed” “he was shaking” You destroyed his trust with you 😭😭😭😭😭 Listen to your heart!! Your story makes me sob 😭
It's absolutely barbaric. The poor babies stop crying because they learn no-one will come, no other reason, their spirits broken and tummies growling. I thought a lesson was learned from the Romanian orphans who were ignored, and could not bond with adoptive parents, and fear that this trend will create a maladjusted generation.
This is as close as it gets to child abuse, and tons of charlatans like taking Cara babies making money out of letting babies cry in their crib, learning only that they will not be attended by the very same persons who is supposed to loved them. Disgusting.
Yeah well when your baby is waking up every 45min-2 hours every.. SINGLE…NIGHT and won’t go to sleep without boob then you need to very strong and strict to break some habits. Mom needs to be rested too to take care of baby
@@andreac.1999 they just don’t understand and people who say things like this are so ignorant. The health of well being of the mother is always ignored as if the mother isn’t the reason why the baby is even living.
I didn’t purchase TCB but I have implemented a lot of the tips she posts on her Instagram and they have been super helpful. although I do miss rocking my little baby to sleep it’s amazing seeing him become more independent and able to fall asleep on his own 🥺 Can’t wait to see more progress from Rocky, you guys are doing amazing!
I cannot thank you enough for an honest video on your experiences so far. Cheering you on every step of the way and so proud of little Rocky boy that he's learning so quickly. You'll be on the other side so soon I'm sure of it! I still go back and forth on sleep training my little girl as she does sleep mostly through the night in her bassinet next to our bed with only a couple of binky replacements - no feedings. But she's getting to that point where she'll probably sleep better in her own room and I know there will be moments she needs me still, I'm just not ready to interrupt my 7-8 hours of sleep I'm currently getting to change up the situation. Ahhh this mom life is TOUGH and also amazing at the same time. Hang in there and cannot WAIT for an update to see how Rocky does!
I’m so glad that you’re okay with not following everything to the tee. You totally need to do what’s best for you n your baby. I tweaked everything to what I was comfortable with n I don’t regret it for a second. Yay Rocky! It’s such a proud moment when your babies learn how to self soothe. Best of luck on continuing this journey💕
Thank you so much 🥺🥺 such a proud moment!!
As a nanny when I helped my current family with sleep training, I found the gentle (Ferber method) was a little harder for the little guy because he was expecting to be picked up each time we went in and the crying would just intensify so we eventually just let him be and the first day it took an hour and then he’d wake after 20-30 mins cry for about 10 more minutes then sleep a couple hours... Second day took about 45 mins to fall asleep. After about 4 days he was falling asleep within 20 mins
The Ferber method is anything but gentle. Cry it out is always cruel, no matter how it's done. Take it frome someone studying infant sleep and brain development. I find it baffling that there are still people willing to subject their own babies to this kind of torture, because that's what it is
@@evelynl.5628 just wondering how you found yourself watching a sleep training video if that’s how you feel?
@@RachelMassoud because I study infant sleep and early brain developement, so my algorithm shows me a lot of this stuff, and I feel it is important to dispell myths and create awareness. A lot of parents have completely unrealistic expectations when it comes to their infant's sleep. Sleeping through the night has become the desired thing (which is understandable when their is little to no parental leave and ppl need to function) but it is often not what is normal or realistic for an infant.
@@evelynl.5628is there any studies you can link down below, im gonna start sleep training after all the infant sleep studies I have read, and basically the gist is that sleep deprivation is a form of torture to any human let alone a growing baby, and that was one of the reasons that convinced me, cause my baby was not sleeping almost at all, but if your studying it, please link something, I’ve been looking and every expert recommends sleeping training,
@@evelynl.5628what sleep strategies do you recommend? (coming from a mom who accidentally made my baby a co-sleeping baby and would like to get her back to independent sleep)
We are starting this on Friday 🫶 when our girl turns 5 months. Thank you for the honesty. It has helped me better prepare ❤
I’m doing a modified Ferber method. My daughter is 4 months old she stopped taking a binky at 2.5 months. I went cold Turkey with the swaddle day 2.I started off with just naps unswaddled Day 1 and swaddled that night. For the first nap she cried for an hour I checked on her every 5 minutes for a half hour then 10 minutes for the other half hour. She slept for 2 hours and 30 minutes. Nap to she cried for 10 minutes slept an hour 15 minutes, bell 3 cried for about 7 minutes slept for an hour. At night she went to bed at 10:30p was up at midnight feed her back to sleep she woke up every 2 hours. Day 2 no swaddling at all. First nap cried less than 10 minutes didn’t check on her slept for hour, second nape cried leas than 5 minutes slept 1.5 hours, third nap was a cat nap only 30 minutes. Went to bed at 9pm no crying slept til 4am fed her back to sleep by 4:45am woke up at 5am up from 5-6a cried on and off only checked on her twice slept from 6am to 9am. She’s getting better hopefully I can have her fully “trained” in 2 weeks
What is the progress with sleep training? Your comment is very informative, thank you
This has been so helpful! My son is 2 months behind yours, and it’s really good to hear someone going through this right now. You are doing amazing
Thank you so much 🥺 best of luck to you if you do it!!
I'm so anxious about sleep training...its all I can think about! My baby is 4 months in 1 week and I'm dreading it.
This was and is still me 💛
I am getting ready to start the training for my 4 month old baby next week and I am super stressed. Your video gave me courage to start😊
Your bright white background and couch and side table and pillows are giving me all the vibes
Hahaha your comments are giving ME all the vibes!!
@@KileanRodriguez oh goody gum drops!
I hope it gets better soon. we ST my son at 4.5mths and it was really easy, he had alot of things changed . it took 3 nights, first night was only 3-5min checkins for 15mins, then 2nd night was 8mins and 3rd night was like 2mins? he woke up a few times a night but would put himself back to sleep. we still fed him 3x a night and then he eventually weaned from them himself by 5mths. I think the biggest tip was to just remove everything, including pacis (my son ended up rolling over and sleeping on his belly and sucked his thumb) because even IF he knew to replace his own paci, it would keep him up, unless you sleep train much later around 6+mths.
If your transitioning out of the swaddle try the Merlin magic sleep suit then once they get comfy with that switch to a sleep sack I did that with my baby & it helped so much!
I’m crying watching getting ready to start training but so grateful for your honesty! ❤
I just heard about TCB and been listening to some reviews and this one just confirmed that it is not for me.
Your videos are always fire! Sleep training is AMAZING! 🙌🏼 has been a total God send 🙏🏼
Thanks so so much 😭 he’s currently crying and comments like these are making me remember it’ll all be for the best in the end 🥺💛
So proud of you and your husband (and rocky) for staying strong through sleep training! You're doing great momma💖💖
Thanks sweet girl 🥺
This has been one of the honest videos I have ever seen
I wasn’t sure if taking the course would be worth it or not. It sucks people have to make money off of us sleepless parents 😔 thank you for sharing I appreciate it!
Your videos are always so helpful! My little guy is turning 4 months in 2 weeks and I’m planning to sleep train him in a few months once we move into our new house and I’m so glad I have your tips and experience to follow! You’re doing great. Just remember consist is key and he’ll get the hang of it!! ❤️
Hi Kilean, hoping to get your feedback on your nap training. I am doing the ABC Taking Cara Babies training as well. My baby is on Night 5 tonight and he is able to self-soothe last night. His nap is still horrible. I have to rock him to sleep but he would only nap for 30 mins after. If i want him to sleep longer, i will have to hold him on my arms the whole time. Question is, when you are doing the night sleep train, do you try to do nap sleep train too?
I did cry it out for my baby at 3 months and it hurt me so much to see my daughter cry like that. By day 3 I gave up and started picking her up after crying for 10min to soothe her a bit and continued with that routine till it finally became less and less crying. She goes to bed on her own now no swaddling or rocking (she is a day older than your son). I strongly believe it's best to tweak the way you feel comfortable cause it definitely works. You're doing awesome!!!
Baby rocky is so adorable
Thank you for this! Do you have a video for nights after 3 ? Dying to know how it ended up! We are starting next week
Girl you are not alone.. it’s been so hard for me as well. Hang in there ❤️
Ahhh hope it’s getting better for you too 💛
Did he ever do cat naps? How did you get him to nap longer than 45 minutes?
Hi Kilean, thanks for the video! Just wondering did you give him pacifier when you put him down at start? And what about the naps?
One thing that helped with nursing after my baby got his shots he didn't eat for 12 hours the first day and then wouldn't eat for like 6 or 7 hours on other days after that. I was getting stressed trying to put him on my boob and so was he my friend who had seen a consultant said to just lay there skin to skin and put no pressure on breastfeeding just lay there cuddle talk maybe read and then eventually he made his way down to my boob and ate.
Thank you so much for this ❤
Did u feed him at all through the night? How did you know when to feed or not feed if u did?
On night one with our second- I bought the course with my first and never saved it! This video is a great reminder , I was replacing the paci and going in for more than 30 sec. My heart is breaking this second hearing my baby scream 😭
Where did you get rockys sheets from? Love that color!
Ty soooooooooo much!!!
When my baby is sleepy he struggles to feed on me, I give up and put him back to the crib with an empty stomach then he starts to cry out loud in hunger so I have to pick him up again and feed him so he falls asleep in my arms 🤦🏻♀️ I think this way I will never succeed in sleep training 💔
Thank you so much for sharing. I’ve felt so alone, thinning something was wrong with my baby!
Thank you so much for your video- it has helped so much.
You got this mama! You’re not alone❤️
What baby monitor do you use and do you recommend it?
Thank you 💛 we have the dr meter one and love it!!
Excellent video!
I don’t know why but I cried and felt that when you said you picked rocky up and he curled into your arms.
Thank you for sharing your experience! You’re so strong, and follow your mommy instincts, you know what’s best for your family. 💙
Awh you’re sweet 💛 it’s been harder than I thought but he just fell asleep 2 min after I laid him in his crib.. 🥺 it’s definitely working. Thank you for the encouraging words 💛
I haven't been able to cut the night feeds. My baby has colic so not feeding at night was not an option. Now that she's three months I might just try it. She doesn't wake up and cry but she kicks, wines, and is fussy. I feed her and she goes right to bed. Her dad won't let her cry so it's hard.
It’s so hard. I hope you all find peace + sleep soon 💛
I want to discuss sleep and general “transitioning” for my second baby coming in the fall.
With my 1st, I coslept and breastfed for 2 years. I liked having her near me because I wanted to encourage that instinct and bonding especially after she was literally part of my body for 9 months... However, I struggled with knowing when to “transition” to the next phase and I found each transition was SO agonizing for all of us.
Examples:
> when to transition from being with mom (co-sleeping or bassinet for example), to say a CRIB + if baby is right next to mom in whatever capacity and they dry or wake are you grab right away or put arm on them right away doesn’t this make them dependent on you for that instant response (not saying it’s bad) just posing question of - does it make that later transition of them self soothing etc more difficult when you suddenly aren’t responding and what does this all look like. I mean at 3am I wasn’t into letting my 1st scream and scream when she woke so that my hard working husband would then also wake up.
> when and HOW to cut off night BREASTMILK so that it’s easier and HOW/ what to do to get them to sleep and no longer be dependent on those night feedings? I felt like there was yelling and arguing because my 1st was a toddler when I finally took the milk away at night(2yrs). I couldn’t handle not getting any sleep after 2 years of giving my first my all. 🥹
Things I have been told so far:
> I have learned/heard that not letting a baby fall asleep ON you if you’re breastfeeding so they don’t associate “I only sleep if I am on mommy” is a good place to start
> putting them in a crib when they are tired but not yet asleep so they “fall” asleep in their physical space (crib)
> that using crib for naps right away when they are a newborn will more easily develop the habit as opposed to car sleeping more than a crib or a side sleeper more than a crib..
> keeping a lot of noise so they can sleep deep in noise as opposed to being a 👻 when they are asleep. My first is such a light sleeper and we never made a peep!
Sorry this is long winded. I don’t even know what my exact questions are. I just need a better flow and plan to be confident in this second time around that May have worked for several others. So please help! I am more open minded than I used to be! Any little nuance you can share I’d love to hear!!
Hi I’m wondering about your dresser you use as a changing table in Rockys room. Just trying to find a dresser/changing table and looking at the best height and depth. To be able to fit the changing pad properly as well! Any tips on yours would be great! Love the baby room!
Mama, y’all are doing AMAZING!! It’s so not easy but 1000% worth it in the end! Keep doing what you are doing and I promise you will feel so much pride in all that y’all have accomplished! Sending lots of love your way! ❤️
My babe is just about a month younger than Rocky and he started doing the “refuse to eat” thing at night for a while there too! It really helped us to just keep trying, stay calm and minimize all distractions. Sometimes putting the binky in his mouth first to calm him down and then switching him to the breast helped. I know how frustrating and heartbreaking it can be to feel rejected by your baby and to worry about how much they’re getting to eat and if they’ll sleep well- but hang in there! Everything is a phase and this too shall pass. You’re doing great :)
Thank you 🥺🥺 I have tried all of this too and it really does work but man they try your patience hard 😅
Ahhh!! I am so excited to hear that things got better. That’s exactly how it was with my baby. When he learned to sleep on his side he was so much more comfortable and the Binky didn’t matter as much!! I am soo happy for you!
Thank you so so much 🥺🥺
Love your channel Kilean 💕 thanks for all of the tips!!
Always 💛
you are such a strong momma!!
I’m going to sleep train this week and I’m so nervous.
Where is your couch from in this video? Love it!
This is soo helpful! I have a 2 month old and this video will definitely help when the time comes. 😊 Thank you!
You’re so welcome 💛💛
Did you feel the videos contained much more information than the PDF? Or did the video and pdf mirror?
So what do you do when you do check ins? If your not supposed to touch him? Please and thank you 🙏
One tip that helped me was playing the paci game during the day A LOT! Also sleeping with 6 pacis helped him be able to find it at night without me and replace it on his own.
Yes we have done both of these two 💛💛 super helpful!!
I’m tearing up just hearing everything you went through, I keep telling myself we’re going to start & then every night just push it off 😅 Also I’ve been struggling with my little guy not wanting to feed for weeks now. I’ve read everything, and tried so many methods. Sometimes he will nurse & other times I can “trick” him like you do 😅 anywho. You’re not alone in any of this, & you are doing a great job!!
It’s been so hard but so rewarding. He’s improving so much 🥺 but ahhh I hope the nursing goes better for you!! Tricking them is the only way LOL but thanks again 💛💛
Thank you for this video! Are you still giving the binky at the start of the night and for naps??
Absolutely! And yes we are :)
Thanks so much for your honesty and details - it’s so helpful! Can I ask how you determine whether he’s crying at night to be fed or just to fuss? I exclusively breastfeed with a 4.5 month old and I feel like she would not be able to sleep through the night without feeding!?
So rocky hasn’t fed through the night in months! So I know it’s not that, but the class walks you through night feedings 💛💛
I can’t wait till my Little one is 5 months. He just turned 3 months and he’s going through a sleep regression early 😭 feeding every 2 hours, and each feed takes about an hour. It’s torture! Reading the 3/4 month pamphlet rn from TCB, just waiting till we can do ABC
Hang in there 🥺
@@KileanRodriguez thank you! Hopefully by time your next videos up, all three of you will be sleeping peacefully through the night!
You guys are so strong!
How is TCB different than Feber method ?
So night one was also when you wean night feedings? I am trying to figure out how to do it
Just listening gives me trauma
It is beyond my comprehension how people are able to congratulate other people and are "proud" of them (?!?) for letting a baby cry, at a certain point she says for 2 hours straight
In many a jurisdiction this would be considered child abuse
I’d never did the leave my baby to scream method it’s mental disturbing for them they cry when they need us it’s there way of communicating by leaving them to cry and ignore them is just teaching them that there mummy isn’t going to be there when they need us :(
I done the CHAIR METHOD and it’s a lot nicer and worked a treat for my son! We did wait until 6m also as in U.K. where I’m from 6m is the earliest NHD recommended babies fo in there own room.
It’s a more gentle approach and less stressful for both the baby and mother
Sleeping with a baby is up to the parents. It may be a nightmare or easy to break the habits. I've done different ways with my boys.
I absolutely love your Chanel. I started watching you when I was pregnant. I just had a baby boy January 15th I’m a first time mom. I watch every single video you post because everything you share is things I want to try along the way with my baby. You remind me so much of myself. You should not have to explain your decision of letting rocky boy sleep in your bed. I personally refuse because I’m scared but there have been nights where I want to so bad just for the sake of some sleep. Thank you for sharing your family’s life with us. You have definitely become one of my favourite people / mom to watch 💙
Awh thank you so so much, it truly means more than you know 🥺🥺
If my baby is 15 weeks would you recommend taking this course now or waiting until 5 months? My boyfriend wants our bed back but don’t know if she’s too little to do a course
Let me rephrase that 😄 I know this course says for 5-24 month but would you have done a different one, earlier? Or still waited until 5 months since he is a little older.
I personally would wait, just because I know there’s some research with their age! But she does have classes for 3-4 months! Idk if it’s getting them out of the bed though? 🙈 sorry if I’m not much help! You could try to move your little one into a bassinet in your room instead of the crib?
@@KileanRodriguez yeah I saw the research on age as well that’s why I wasn’t sure. I saw the 3-4 month course but I’m really just looking to get her out of bed and want to prepare for when we can start 😄 and lol I tried both the crib and bassinet. She gave me a big fat NOPE to both 😂 also, I private messaged you on Insta if you have a chance 🤍
TCB has an ebook for the 3-4 months phase to help with sleep regression and just gently teaching them to self soothe and fall asleep on their own! I find the PDF really well done and easy to go back to whenever we need some help. It’s working really well for our daughter (15 weeks) and she has been sleeping in her own room for a couple of days now. I’m hoping with this gradual approach we won’t have to properly sleep train, but if so I feel we’ll have a strong foundation 🤞
Absolutely horrible and traumatic for your poor baby. Hearing about him shaking, I had to turn it off.
Hello Beautiful. I know its rough. So hard to watch your baby cry. But your a tough Momma. You've got this. So proud of you !! Keep going sweetie it will get better. Love your Indiana Friend.
Thank you as always Darlene 💛💛
@@KileanRodriguez your welcome Beautiful
Oh gosh this sounds rough - the sleep training and also your struggles with nursing currently. I also have a 5 month old bub and have been considering sleep training as her sleep has been terrible for the past month but I don’t know if I can deal with her crying! I hope this goes well for you ❤️
Thank you 🥺 it’s seriously so hard and pulls on my heart so much but when he sleeps for long stretches it’s so rewarding 💛
Reminder: your a badass, AMAZING, loving mama!
You’re the sweetest as always, thank you 🥺
Hang in there! You’re doing amazing! 🥰
Thanks so much 🥺
Did you not feed him through the night ?
my boy turns 6 months on the 16th and were finally inching towards sleeping training. were finally starting to use the nested bean sleep sack but he still sleeps in our bed. i have tried 3x already to train but it is so hard. i start crying 20 mins into him crying and just break. we will get there soon though! good luck to you mama!
Have you tried a nipple shield? That has helped me so much when my baby boy doesn’t want to take my breast. Also you are doing amazing! You have helped me so much with my 2 month old❤️
I haven’t! I notice that he’s more so distracted or not getting enough, not necessarily not wanting to latch if that makes sense 💛 but so so glad!! 💛
This is beyond helpful. Im happy to finallt find someones real option on a course before i purchased it! Thank you!
I couldnt watch this
This is so sad.
Developing anxiety when they become adults. So so so sad.
We are about to start the ABC’s and it’s nice to get a true break down of your experience. My daughter is the exact same with her binky and I’m worried how she will reach, so I have started using it less during day naps. I know that a bit different to the course, but she is a week off 5months and thought why not. The course is amazing and Instagram doesn’t do it justice, I can’t wait to sleep again. Binky defence at night isn’t fun. Your both doing an amazing job, thanks for being so real.!!!
Also whyyyy do you put him to bed so early
I’m confused because you say you do a gentle cry it out method but it seems like all he does is cry? So what is the actual cry it out method? Or is that what it’s called? Lol
BTW I literally teared up hearing your experience knowing I’ll have to go through that soon. 🥺
the actual cry it out no check ins is called extinction!
@@NicoleDayrit oh my! 😦 that sounds so scary lol
I wouldn’t swaddle a baby that’s sleep training. If they aren’t rolling back and forth put a weighted sack on as it helps when their hands are free
Im curious, do you ever wish you would have started sleep training closer to 4 months?
Glad Rocky is doing so great!!
I don’t personally because I don’t think we were ready for it 💛
no judgment, but please google why cio is bad. if your baby boy cries and screams it means something - he is scared and stressed af and by no means capable to self soothe
This program is backed by evidence based research 💛
@@KileanRodriguez As a psychologist I have to say that Freakykatschi is right... sorry to tell you but with sleep training the baby does not sooth himself. It just looks like it but If you look at his stress hormones they don't go down. This is backed down by evidence based research
Please research Brain development about letting your baby cry. Your ruining his chances of healthy attachment 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 dont believe the lies that you should be there for your baby!
Listen to yourself “he screamed” “he was shaking”
You destroyed his trust with you 😭😭😭😭😭
Listen to your heart!! Your story makes me sob 😭
It's absolutely barbaric. The poor babies stop crying because they learn no-one will come, no other reason, their spirits broken and tummies growling.
I thought a lesson was learned from the Romanian orphans who were ignored, and could not bond with adoptive parents, and fear that this trend will create a maladjusted generation.
This is as close as it gets to child abuse, and tons of charlatans like taking Cara babies making money out of letting babies cry in their crib, learning only that they will not be attended by the very same persons who is supposed to loved them. Disgusting.
This sounds really cruel, I will just co-sleep with my baby until he is preschool
This is heartbreaking :(
Wow you speak so fast. Thanks for the video, but it was really hard to follow.
3 months is too young
That's why your experience sucked? 4 to 5 months, even 6 months is better.
This “sleep training” sounds quite traumatic for baby and mommy. What?????? Not touching him!!!!!!! It sounds kind of crazy to me!
This comment is not at all helpful nor what she needs to hear.
It’s not traumatizing at all stop it. Babies cry that’s normal and they don’t know how to put themselves to sleep you have to teach them
Yeah well when your baby is waking up every 45min-2 hours every.. SINGLE…NIGHT and won’t go to sleep without boob then you need to very strong and strict to break some habits. Mom needs to be rested too to take care of baby
@@andreac.1999 they just don’t understand and people who say things like this are so ignorant. The health of well being of the mother is always ignored as if the mother isn’t the reason why the baby is even living.
Continuum babies don’t need sleep training