@@Dream.fm3 Imagine two people have a cold. one person has a sore throat, the other doesn't. one person tells the other that they're lying about having a sore throat because they have a cold but their throat is fine. that's you right now.
The Bible is truth. The key is genuinely opening your heart and forgiving others. Please read at least three books of the Bible, Genesis Mathew and one you chose yourself. Jesus Christ is the way truth and life’
Where the hell did this young lady come from? It's not just the level of self-awareness that she has, it's her ability to articulate all the scenarios and traumas that people like us have to deal with. If I wasn't addicted to it, I would quit therapy and just watch her all the time❤❤
@@travisgoesthere Try lack of dopamine responses in the brain. You know the chemical imbalance that is caused by ADHD? Our brains struggle because they don't always work the same way.
Im clinically diagnosed ADHD and I've never thought of it like this, but its 101% spot on. Like sometimes i rationalize it with procrastination but otherwise its just "preform the basic task that will take five seconds and solve a great deal of problems for you immediately" and my brain is like "no. I dont want to."
I have a hard time understanding this. I procrastinate a lot but I don’t think it is anything like this. I think I may just lack the discipline necesarry do something that is not absolutely necesarry in that moment. But I feel like if I try I can become more disciplined or I can stop consuming content that absolutely destroys my dopamine receptors making everything else unrewarding. Would these steps not also help for a person with ADHD? Is there really no way you can do something that you do not want to do?
I am so happy to have found videos like these because until I even considered that I might have ADHD(waiting to get an appointment for a diagnosis) I just thought I was failing at being a basic human. It’s the worst feeling ever. Now I use videos like these to help explain to my mom what I’m experiencing
Same. Probably should go get a therapist and meds or whatever. I did see a therapist once for unrelated stuff and it was sooo uncomfortable. I just pretended I was perfectly fine for a year till she signed the papers I needed. I feel like tv show therapy, lying on the couch staring at the ceiling would be way better for being honest and talking than sitting in chairs and having to make eye contact. Not even a table inbetween us. How is anybody comfortable with that? Also i want to speak in English, English is so much better for talking about your feelings than my native language. Also my native language skills kinda deteriorated cause I do way too much stuff in English. Urgh. Maybe some day
U know what I am not diagnosed with ADHD but after watching this I feel I need to get tested. I already have nearly every other symptom of ADHD and this is just wow. It’s so accurate. My dad is always shouting at me for not doing things like tidying but in the tidying scenario I just can’t do it. It is impossible and when I try to explain it I say my brain won’t let me. :)
You see, the worst part about ADHD paralysis is there's no external indicator that you are trying. I will be having a mental war with myself trying to get up to do my homework and on the outside I'm just scrolling TH-cam or something. You wouldn't know, so you would just think I was being lazy
Whenever something has the potential to be stressful, I often just can't make myself do it and have to be philosophical about it, feeling unhappy about not doing it NOW but knowing I will when I can.
@@whatgoesaroundcomesaround920 Absolutely yes. It's hard to accept, but it at least gives the feeling of hope if I can convince myself that I'm not procrastinating.
I literally have to will myself 😭😭😭it's like ik I can do it but I don't have it in me to actually carry out the task until Im able to. For instance I'm great at math, but if u catch me in that moment I can't do simple calculations
@@crownedking_cj8890 sucks don't it . I also get side tracked easily like the amount of times I over Flow the sink at work good thing we clean the floor with a hose anyway 😜
Your videos are brilliant and so helpful for people family members trying to understand the ADHD brain. Thank you so much for all the work you put into making these.
You dont know how many times my mother called me lazy when I was at school. This video makes me feel so much better. I am still not diagnosed, but I have other health issues that need to be dealt with first.
@@claraberg1214 yup. Today I manage to get myself to go buy water for the house and cook lunch, but the one thing I been telling my self to do (seep my room) I just exhausted myself for the day and for tomorrow it is
I say I can do it and then I never do cause I’m like nah actually I can’t I just hyped myself up for no reason and then randomly 1 or 5 years later I’m just do it for no reason
The induction stove in the video only burns metal, you can touch it for 10 minutes without being burned. not many people know this, mostly because people dont try it out 😂
At first I was gonna try and make a point of "Yeah, but you're aware that touching the burner will cause physical pain." Then I realized that paralysis causing you to avoid important tasks (for example, in my case, filing documents or making phone calls and meeting deadlines) will also have bad consequences. And it STILL doesn't make it easier to bring yourself to do. So, I understand this scenario 😂😭
Normal scenario; I have to write a reply to someone in a conversation on discord. And that is how I cleaned 5 years of trash from my bedroom. Still need to write that 1 sentence reply to "how are you doing today?" Spend 10 hours sitting on my bed doing nothing, occasionally trying to fornulate ny reply to them. 2 weeks pass and I finally get the energy to send "gud, u?"
I thought there was something horribly wrong with me and I was the only one, I had so much shame over not being able to reply to emails, posts, etc. and being extremely overwhelmed the more people I have to reply to.
The most unrealistic part is that they apologised and understood lmao Everyone I know even the teachers and all know I have ADHD yet they’re like “just focus harder” “try more” HOW DID YOU THINK I SURVIVED UNTIL NOW??? IM TRYING MY HARDEST ALREADY
@@TrosheeWasTaken okay let me explain a way that adhd effects me so i have adhd and ocd and my ocd wants my room to be clean so i try my hardest to get that done but my adhd says no we are going to do this instead and so then its a never ending cycle of i need to clean my room and i want to clean my room buuut i could do this first and then its just a fight with myself and i get so drained that by the time that i can actually do anything im to exhausted to do anything and then i just start to panic about what I didn’t get done and it is the most overwhelming thing ever so dont say “just try harder“ because you dont know how much we want to get the thing done and how much we fight with our OWN brain to do it we already try our hardest but when people start saying stuff like “try harder” or “why cant you just get it done” then it makes us feel like we are just useless or at least thats how it is for me
@@TrosheeWasTaken yk things u don't understand, you shouldn't comment on you think he/she isnt trying? i have adhd and i can literally get distracted just by staring at a wall and i cant "try harder" to focus cuz I JUST CAN'T DO IT so maybe next time, don't comment shit if u dont understand stuff
That's so real, like I have ADHD and sometimes I get ADHD paralysis when I'm supposed to brush my hair and I always get in trouble when I do that but my parent doesnt believe I have a mental disorder and always blames it on devices or "just being a kid". Same thing in school when I "couldn't" do my hand written work.
anyone else be laying on the couch and you need to get up and you’re just like “okay what if i get up NOW” and just keep doing that but never actually get up
No one has ever understood why I can’t do things at times. I say ‘my brain won’t let me’ and they think I’m mad. I didn’t even understand it until 38 when I was diagnosed and stated to learn about it from other ADHD people!! Thanks for sharing, it’s so helpful xx
I take 90mg of adderall every day and it has changed my life, went from Straight F’s to Straight A’s and college classes while in high school, it was also gave my determination to finish my 60 pound weight loss journey, and I run on 2 hours of sleep a night ( because I work til 2am) but the adderall makes it so 2 hours of sleep is enough, I feel great actually!
@@clickbaitpolice1750 it’s basically saying try to turn a put your hand on the building stove you could but you just don’t and it’s saying that’s what it feels like to do simple tasks with ADHD. You know you can but you just don’t bring yourself to do it.
I'm in the same boat. When you've been told all of your life you're worthless and lazy and then you learn its not your fault, it's incredibly difficult to let go of those thoughts and replace them with new ones.
@clickbaitpolice1750 basically It's like ADHD Is about turning off Ur brain goin nighty night 🌙 meaning U want something It says we should watch Tv U want food U play games It skips the steps of okay let's do something then goes to sleep 😑
my brain be like that, instead of replying the text and mails i need, i instead venture my self in solving engineering problems, quantum math, and commenting on youtube videos
❤ y'all are my ppl now ha I'm not sure if it's good that I personally felt a tiny better upon reading this and our quantum equation cohort and my new friend that's also lost friends to possibly the "reply text fully just sitting as a draft for a week cause I didn't hit send?!?! Again?!" 🥺I feel you and I still feel bad...but thanks for this y'all. I'm going to send a new reply on this one comment every day for the next 10 days...just to see how I do ha is this okay w u guy?
I have ADHD and this happens to me if someone tells me to read a book. I hate reading because it makes me feel like I have to finish it and I get distracted easily and read something then forget what I read and the words dont form sentences if ykyk but if someone asks me to read a book, I will say no it feels just like this video and it makes me understand a bit more how I feel about it ❤
I wish I could send this to literally every person I know because no one understands Edit: thanks for the likes and I want to say that if you guys are gonna argue about this at least do your research because some of you guys don’t even know what ADHD stands for
OMG, I haven't had my Adderall for 6 months. My new Dr refuses to prescribe it to me - I am 67 yo. It has been horrible. I can't get motivated to make phone calls to schedule appts, wash my dishes; I just turn off the alarm and go back to sleep, so I miss appts. I am a mess. I am seeing a new Dr so, I hope he will work with me. I am so glad to have come across this video...I couldn't describe it...I can use this. Thank you so much!!
I'm hoping the new doctor will work out for you. It should be malpractice if a doctor refuses to prescribe a medication that you've had before, and that worked well and is for the condition that you are diagnosed with - especially when you so obviously *need it* to function properly. I've had the same thing happen to me, but with Xanax. I've been taking it since I was 17, and without it I can't get out of bed because of *crippling* anxiety, suicidal ideations, paranoia and panic attacks. I can't shower. I can't eat. I can't meet people. I isolate myself. And then I got a new doctor who thought I shouldn't take it anymore. And I became a mess. It became 1 year in hell, completely isolated from the world (except my wonderful contact people at the Norwegian social services who came by with food and just to help me clean and stuff) until I got help to find a new doctor who understood that because of my complex PTSD, depression, Borderline personality disorder, panic attacks and extreme anxiety I simply cannot function without it. Together with my new doctor and my contact people in the Social Services we sent in a complaint against the doctor who took me off a medication that has saved my life (literally) since I was 17 (I'm 33 now). The doctor who refused to keep prescribing it knew my diagnoses, and heard from all of my contact people in Social Services here in Norway + my therapist, they told him how I didn't function without it, couldn't go out, eat, shower, sleep, nothing. But he still refused. So, it'll be "fun" to see what the medical board will say with all the evidence of his negligence towards me.
i wa without my meds for 3 weks and i wanted to eat nails. i cant imagine 6 months!!!! hope ur new doctor listens to you. good luck . tell us how it goes!!
im 62 and find once you get to a certain age..around 60..doctors treat you differently in terms of the meds theyre willing to prescribe. It does make you mad becuz at this point in my life i know what works better than some doctor half my age lol! Ive never tried Adderall. Im wondering how that would work for me. i have bad anxiety and fibro as well and take Cymbalta. Anyhow good luck ❤❤
there is a HUGE adderall and other ADHD med shortage everywhere in the world right now. it includes almost all ADHD medications. that might be the main contributor to why its super hard to get prescriptions, even just refills of already prescribed medication. they only want to prescribe to extreme risk patients, however sometimes doctors suck and want you to get in and out and never have to see them again. sorry you had that experience with your doctor. i myself just got a new doctor and i was finally listened to for the FIRST time in my life by a doctor! i got a very rare diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome super fast after i started seeing my new doctor and all i had to do was explain the same symptoms i have been for probably a decade now! good luck!
I don’t have ADHD but this is exactly what it feels like on one of my preoccupied bad depressive days. I stay in bed for hours and can’t fathom leaving bed, eating food, or doing anything. Not even something fun like playing a game, turning on a movie or drawing. I just can’t function
I feel you. Depression can be understand only by those who have experience it. People that didn't have it are clueless, even with all the knowledge on the palm of their hands
yeah, depression can do this too. My brother had (and still suffers a bit from) depression and I noticed that a lot. Unfortunately, as the middle child, my parents were quick to jump at him for ‘sitting instead of doing’
Especially since she said "even if you just graze it." Certainly possible to do. Honestly this video is a bad example. Just makes it look like ADHD paralysis is very much possible to overcome with some mental strength, dicipline and a hint of stupidity.
My mother thought I was lazy or defiant. She would scream at me to do chores and homework. But on days she wasn't home I could do my tasks (out of order, and sloppy) but they got done.
I literally have like a lot of projects at school but my mind just says BYEBYE! When I try doing them.... It's like it HATES ME ABSOLUTELY!!!! I was able to do some of them but here I am again.... With one song to record, one brochure to do, notes to take, review for upcoming exams and oof it's overwhelming yet I don't wanna do anything at the same time because I just don't FEEL like doing it.... can someone tell me what's goin on??? Also does not help that I am one perfectionist alright.... (😃😃😀)
Bro same I've been sitting at my table trying to do my schoolwork for 8 hours now but I've only gotten 5 sheets of work done and it's a huge struggle since my Adderall meds wore off 🤠
so are we all crying now? i didn't realize there was a name for this and it sucks because i know im not trying to be lazy, or not eat and im not trying to fail the semester on purpose :(
@@nicowithrow4390 this is littarly Me, I’ve been having adhd paralysis for like 2 years straight, it’s so exhausting, no one understands, like no I don’t lack motivation, nor am I lazy, like people don’t understand and it’s so frustrating.
How bad is it that I have adhd but I would still touch the hot burner for 100 bucks. Personally I could overcome anything for money but that's cause I'm broke af lol. Only issue is nobody offers me 100 bucks to do those tasks like clean 😭
@clickbaitpolice1750: She’s trying to portray what it’s like when someone with ADHD struggles to get to a task. The so-called “procrastination” is actually involuntary-even if they know they should and are capable-almost like an invisible force stopping them. The hot stove analogy was an odd comparison to draw from.
@@LM-is2ry it was odd for sure because why would anyone wanna put their hand on a hot stove? This sounds more like intrusive thoughts than it does ADHD.
@clickbaitpolice1750: 😄 You’re so right! That’s exactly what it sounds like. It’s like telling someone to jump in front of a moving vehicle, and they respond with, “I would, but I have ADHD.”
Thank you so much for this. It's so bad that even things I REALLY REALLY want or need to do are impossible. Like getting ice cream from the freezer, or using the bathroom.
literally i will put off peeing for hours and i don’t even understand why, and i just sit there feeling painfully thirsty for hours instead of just going to get a drink really fast. why???????
@Ken Harris me too! Or on the toilet, or in the shower, sometimes literally standing in the shower with the water off! It's like someone put my avatar on pause!
This is adhd related story, I had a prescription to adderall during college and it helped me focus and get actual good grades, one time my prescription ran out and I was scrambling to get it refilled and my mom saw me panicking and just said “why can’t you just focus?” And I snapped back “if I could ‘just focus’ I wouldn’t need adderall”, she sat there in stunned silence, because people without adhd can’t comprehend why we are thr way we are
@@jw5386 Yup, I got a cavity because I'm not brushing often enough, but now I can't even call the dentist to make an appointment because of my fucking weird brain...
"I just thought you were being lazy" is an interesting statement. Either you come to understand that this paralysis IS laziness and chance your view of laziness into a more positive light. OR you choose to not define this as laziness and thus accept that laziness as you define it DOES NOT exist. To everyone reading this, make sure to remember to live life with respect for others ✌️
I had to tell my doctor that I am crying over the fact that I cannot force myself to work and am afraid of losing my job at this rate before actually giving me meds. When I tried to explain in a very mild manner before, they thought it wasn't that bad 🫠🫠🫠
@@lilmary110522 I put an underscore before and after the word I want italicized. The only thing you have watch out for is punctuation. It has to go inside the underscores, so if a word has a comma or a period make sure it is inside the underscores. You can use an * around words to make them *bold,* and use - to -strikethrough- the text.
The trick that always helps me clean my house is having an important looming deadline for something completely unrelated to cleaning my house. 10/10 never fails to get me cleaning.
heyy my gf has ADHD- idk how I can help her start studying, I know she wants to and I know she's very smart but she has to study for a very important exam... Idk how I can help her with it- she's just not able to start and I know it's not her fault
Because my adhd makes me forget… I keep forgetting a method I learned in health thinking behavioral therapy. I keep forgetting to split myself into another hypothetical person and do things for that person. People with ADHD feel emotions more strongly and are usually more compassionate that people without ADHD. So we have to use that for our advantage. No, not by tricking ourselves. We have to be fully aware and confident about our method to help ourselves so that we can be proud and gain even more confidence. Pretend you’re doing it for a friend. Talk to yourself as if you’re a friend outside of your body. Or help your future self, who is actually your friend. Then, have your other friend self l…compliment you for accomplishing your goal. This is to help you stand up for yourself instead of feeling ashamed for having to use a weird method just to accomplish something. Stand up for your self-friend from the bullying thoughts that enter your negative ADHD mind.
Part of ADHD is an inability to form habits. That includes routine things like taking meds, brushing teeth, and other things others people take for granted.
I'm 35 and had undiagnosed ADHD for a huge part of my life and stuff like this makes me feel so seen and understood, to myself as well - I'm still learning about this neurodivergence, that I actually teared up.
*Exact* SaMe HeRe ->> had Never even given ADHD//ADD a second thought at *any* point in my life, but since I was a child I’ve been called “scatterbrained” // “lazy” // “rebellious” {ok, that last one is still *kinda* true 😆} due to the fact I *CONSTANTLY* Lose [every-] things, CONSTANTLY forget things [from recent conversations to important deadlines, from things I *needed* at the store to an ENTIRE LoaD of clothes at the laundromat - I mean, *HoW* ⁉️ I’m obsessed w my clothes, How does that even Happen?!?! 😂😫] & am RaReLy focused on something I’m doing long enough to get it Done… on the contrary, my mind will be going a hundred miles an hour about everything BUT the task at hand. 🙄 At some point in the last year, a “you could have this disorder if -“ came on a commercial as I was ‘watching’ something {honestly I was distracted aF, just happened to be listening} and I just *froze* for a few seconds….. was suddenly like a lightbulb💡went off, I even nudged my husband {who is a notorious skeptic} and even HE raised an eyebrow and said “🤨 y’Know…. That *Would* make a Lot of sense.” Since I’ve been researching all I can on the topic, and suddenly all my daily-struggles begin to make a little sense… still learning about it myself {AND how to deal with it}, but I’m hesitant to get a legitimate diagnosis simply bc the *only* medicine I’ve ever heard being used for ADD//ADHD, is an amphetamine - which is *not* something I personally believe will help me out at all.
@@PixelatedGypsythat’s how i felt at first too BUT specialists do prescribe stuff bc it works- so yes do your own research, but also don’t close off the idea that meds can legitimately balance the dopamine in your brain so you can complete your to-do list in a reasonable manner. also adderall isn’t the only medication for adhd if you still don’t like that. def talk to a doctor about it.
Im 43. Same. Got a diagnosis about 5 years ago. Meds help but they arent a cure-all. I was recommended to look at executive functioning coaches. Apparently thats a big thing nowadays. And ive been seeing vids like this one that completely reflect what Ive been dealing with for my entire life, with no clue that there are so many others out there just like me.
@Azimuth10000 I resonate with that totatlly! I'm 34 and just got dianosed (type 3), and it's nice to have community that understands the struggles and sees you for who you are instead of the explanations that seem like excuses!
56 here, diagnosed at 33, still struggling. Tried medications back then, not effective. I went to a CBT group and the most helpful thing was hearing how closely others' experiences mirrored mine. Knowing your not alone is priceless.
I wish people were that understanding. Trying to explain my ADHD, Autsim, Anxiety, and other problems… is like talking to a freaking brick wall. Most people can’t understand things that they have never experienced.
Another helpful way to explain how very very strange ADHD paralysis is, is that it happens all the time with peeing. Like omg I have to pee SOOO much, i need to get up and go to the bathroom, but my brain and body are just like "no" for HOURS. Thats not laziness, thats a medical condition lol
@@improvedalpaca3294 me too, i want to improve my eating because im borderline underweight but when im hungry im always like "hmmm i should go eat" and end up not doing it
I don’t have the medical insurance or money to get a diagnosis, but I’ve been like this with pee my whole life (i got a uti because of this). My body will physically tell me “Hey go pee. Hey go pee. Hey go pee.” And my mind will just be like “Okay, I could do that, but I could also just sit here too.” For HOURS. I dunno if I have ADD/ADHD but sometimes watching these shorts, I feel like I’ve noticed I do, not all, but a lot of what she and the comments here describe. :( I wish the American medical system wasn’t so fucked so I could just make an appointment and go get it taken care of.
honestly, i feel that on a deep level. i tried explaining overcoming ADHD paralysis (before i knew what it was) by sheer force of will as "forcing myself to do it". everyone thought i just meant doing something i didn't want too, when i was (in the ananoly) just slamming my hand on the burner and forcing myself not to pull away.
It's a symptom not a life sentence. You can get past it even if it seems like a comfortable excuse. Every person experiences this at times, even people without ADHD experience the same "symptoms" just less frequently.
I can get pretty overwhelmed sometimes and I feel stuck like I can’t work on anything. Like my brain just shuts down and rejects whatever I need to work on.
I almost want to cry, seeing these videos about ADHD. I knew that I don't fit in society. I know that I am different. Nobody ever believes me and I've never been diagnosed as having any problems. I am a 48yo man with no friends or family (to speak of), whom lives alone on a yacht, incapable of holding jobs and broke. It is such a relief to think that there are people who understand my daily battles.
It was a relief to me to distinguish between ADHD type syndromes, and simply being lazy. However, just as many young folks are watching all sorts of disorders and neurodivergence on social media and self-diagnosing, that can happen for ADHD as well. The uncomfortable truth is that some people really ARE lazy, but today they can identify as ADHD and get a pass. I am NOT saying I know which is which, OK? I'm just saying that it unfortunately becomes a wonderful excuse if we are not careful. "Mom, I can't hold down a job because I have ADHD, so it should be OK to live in the basement and play video games all day". I don't know entirely how to deal with this (rely on professional diagnosis?), and I certainly understand why we would not want to foster suspicion of ourselves as just slacking - but it also won't help to pretend that there are no cases of using ADHD as a perfect excuse.
Pretty much, yep. Despite me going "GET UP" in my head, there's this just... nothing. A way to put it is like we get a "You cannot do that here" Message in our brain whenever we try to do something and this kicks in
I know right but when I try to explain it my family there like stop blaming it on adhd but I'm not I'm just trying to be heard but instead they shout at me it makes me feel alone cause I feel like no one understands 💔
I have tried to explain this to my dad. He is a person who floated through school with not needing to study at all. when I say "I just can not do it" I think that it is so abstract to him that he can not even comprehend it.
I'm extremely lucky that I still get good grades while not being able to concentrate and revise. I just know that if I was 'worse' my entire life would be x5 harder
@@joscelanfavre1772 anxiety and sometimes fullblown panic and self deprecation, depression, low self esteem are the injuries they’re getting at but didn’t mention here, and the whole thing is just to explain what it FEELS like for ADHD people who try to force themselves to do something they know they should do but have some sort of block against it. All that worry is something everyone has to deal with to a degree or at certain points in their life, but in terms of every day mundane tasks that shouldn’t require much thought, it occurs at an overwhelming degree in neurodivergent brains and of course these afflictions aren’t taken as seriously by others as physical injuries are because they can’t be seen but you bet your ass it’s more painful, prolonged, and frustrating than that stove burn
@@joscelanfavre1772 lol ok pal. The thing you need to understand, is that having these difficulties with certain tasks doesnt make us *exempt* from having to do them. We still have to be a person. We still have to study, keep a job, keep a clean space, personal relationships, and just in general have the focus, motivation, and organization required to do...anything. I have limits to what i can achieve, and that sucks, but it is what it is. That doesnt mean i get any kind of assistance or help with these things, it just means i have to work harder for less. I dont want to be messy and disorganized, i LOVE clean and organized spaces, but no matter how hard i try it always turns into a shitstorm i cant stay ahead of. With work, i chose a job that i could have a lot of control over the schedule, as maintaining a routine is very difficult for me . I would absolutely love to have the drive and focus to be in a different field that earns more, but that isn't the case, so i earn what i earn and that's what it is for now. The freedom of schedule is necessary, and with that comes a smaller paycheck. Thems the breaks. Having adhd can be life ruining, and we get absolutely nothing out of it, we just want to be believed. Ive been lazy, we've all been lazy, adhd ain't lazy. Through a neurotypical lens that deems tasks like doing chores and going to work a lot as not lazy? Sure we're lazy. But in other areas, generally creative work, we fucking thrive. I have no problem working several back to back 12 hour days on a film set, or work on a script for 8-10 hours at a time and then round out the day making several pieces of jewelry, none of those things are lazy. Why do you get to be the one to decide which kinds of tasks being good at makes a person lazy or not?
@@nikki1400 bro what? You really took that personal, it seems like you have some stuff to sort out within yourself. Anyway. Its only lazy if you dont get your crap done. You clearly get your crap done. So you're not lazy. And yes, its harder for some people to do certain stuff. But thats not an excuse not to do it. Thats all im sayin 'pal'
this is what depression feels like too. something as simple as brushing your teeth or getting up to go to the bathroom feels like a physically impossible task
Same. Age and everything. Those of us that are a bit older were at best put into programs to shuffle us along while explaining nothing. Some weird form of institutional gaslighting.
Thanks for making this video, I'll probably keep doubting if I'm either lazy, just simply feel no need to do something (like it's just an option and not a big thing I have to do, I actually feel like that more and more often when it comes to school) or I'm simply not capable to get off my ass and do it. My parents are both the "just do it" type. At least these videos keep me from being convinced I'm lazy. Doubting myself in some instances is better than that.
this is almost exactly how it feels. except with adhd, there is no “bad thing” you know will happen, so it’s harder to explain. all i know is i /can’t/ do that thing yet. why? because it’s not “right”. it feels like being about to touch a hot stove, brain just says “no”
@@Waterenjoyer1308 they are privileged adhd that's why lol I know cause I was a privileged adhd. I could sit around and be lazy and usually was able to get away with it. once you start going hunger for your choices you start to help your adhd brain to do what needs to be done lol 😂😂😂
Even without adhd that’s ridiculous and a stupid comparison. Anyone who is normal wouldn’t. I get what she’s trying to say but she explained it worse then if I searched it up.
I struggle with taking medicine I need to live on time or at all. What worked for me was having my pill box in my nightstand, a glass of water always topped up and two alarms. One to take them and go back to sleep and one to actually get up half an hour apart because the medicine needs to absorb for 30 minutes
Getting a certain task done can seem as simple as crossing a bridge, but then I realize it’s not that simple. In my mind, that bridge I needed to cross turned out to be missing floor boards, so i have to reconstruct it with new boards. That dives into a whole new task. And then I also found out I needed to carry weights across that same bridge. Now I feel uninterested. Those side tasks contribute to making one simple thing feel overwhelming and undoable, which makes life difficult as hell when even something like doing the dishes can cause adhd paralysis
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The least realistic part of this scenario is getting an apology after explaining how it feels
excactly they just tell you youre exaggerating
@@Dream.fm3 that doesnt mean some people dont get it. just bc you dont doesnt mean it doesn't exist
True story. That part felt a little weird.
@@Dream.fm3 Imagine two people have a cold. one person has a sore throat, the other doesn't. one person tells the other that they're lying about having a sore throat because they have a cold but their throat is fine. that's you right now.
@@Dream.fm3 sounds like someone self diagnosed and think they know all about it 💀💀💀💀
The irony is that I can totally bring myself to touch a scorching hot burner, but I can't bring myself to do my reading assignments
Me too
The Bible is truth. The key is genuinely opening your heart and forgiving others. Please read at least three books of the Bible, Genesis Mathew and one you chose yourself. Jesus Christ is the way truth and life’
@@jamesmayle3787 yeah, I read genesis and most of exodus, and that’s when I realized the whole thing was made up and became an atheist.
Lol relatable
@@jamesmayle3787 ur Joking right 😅
"I'll give you $100-"
*aggressive sizzling*
Ngl same tho 💀
Ongod
Nah same though without any second thoughts
Alright people above me post a video and ill make it happen
I just touched it really just for moment tho. After that put my hand in warm water to coold down a little bit. It's actually not that bad
Where the hell did this young lady come from? It's not just the level of self-awareness that she has, it's her ability to articulate all the scenarios and traumas that people like us have to deal with. If I wasn't addicted to it, I would quit therapy and just watch her all the time❤❤
It sometimes feels like I'm trapped in my body because I can't make myself do the things I need to do.
lack of self discipline
@@travisgoesthere Bro. Did you not watch the vid?!?!?!?
@@londondafunion0790stop blaming disorders instead of your own laziness
@@travisgoestherebro, are you depressed ? Lol you obviously looking to be demeaning towards others
@@travisgoesthere
Try lack of dopamine responses in the brain. You know the chemical imbalance that is caused by ADHD?
Our brains struggle because they don't always work the same way.
Im clinically diagnosed ADHD and I've never thought of it like this, but its 101% spot on. Like sometimes i rationalize it with procrastination but otherwise its just "preform the basic task that will take five seconds and solve a great deal of problems for you immediately" and my brain is like "no. I dont want to."
I have a hard time understanding this. I procrastinate a lot but I don’t think it is anything like this. I think I may just lack the discipline necesarry do something that is not absolutely necesarry in that moment. But I feel like if I try I can become more disciplined or I can stop consuming content that absolutely destroys my dopamine receptors making everything else unrewarding. Would these steps not also help for a person with ADHD? Is there really no way you can do something that you do not want to do?
You’re just lazy don’t worry
I resonate with this so much. I was lucky to be born with some decent intelligence cause work that will benefit me later is something i can't do
@@robert_theWalker that’s because you are lazy
@@benjaminglanville6515 -person who has never experienced this
Omg i experience this so often, its like "i should go eat something" and then literally 3 hours later i have not moved from where i.was
I am so happy to have found videos like these because until I even considered that I might have ADHD(waiting to get an appointment for a diagnosis) I just thought I was failing at being a basic human. It’s the worst feeling ever.
Now I use videos like these to help explain to my mom what I’m experiencing
Yes! I seriously just thought I sucked at life for some reason.
Same. Probably should go get a therapist and meds or whatever.
I did see a therapist once for unrelated stuff and it was sooo uncomfortable. I just pretended I was perfectly fine for a year till she signed the papers I needed.
I feel like tv show therapy, lying on the couch staring at the ceiling would be way better for being honest and talking than sitting in chairs and having to make eye contact. Not even a table inbetween us.
How is anybody comfortable with that?
Also i want to speak in English, English is so much better for talking about your feelings than my native language. Also my native language skills kinda deteriorated cause I do way too much stuff in English.
Urgh. Maybe some day
U know what I am not diagnosed with ADHD but after watching this I feel I need to get tested. I already have nearly every other symptom of ADHD and this is just wow. It’s so accurate. My dad is always shouting at me for not doing things like tidying but in the tidying scenario I just can’t do it. It is impossible and when I try to explain it I say my brain won’t let me. :)
You see, the worst part about ADHD paralysis is there's no external indicator that you are trying.
I will be having a mental war with myself trying to get up to do my homework and on the outside I'm just scrolling TH-cam or something. You wouldn't know, so you would just think I was being lazy
That is so darn true 😓 Good luck! 🤗🍀
There is a thing known as discipline
Wow. The whole point just went right over your head, huh?
Whenever something has the potential to be stressful, I often just can't make myself do it and have to be philosophical about it, feeling unhappy about not doing it NOW but knowing I will when I can.
@@whatgoesaroundcomesaround920
Absolutely yes. It's hard to accept, but it at least gives the feeling of hope if I can convince myself that I'm not procrastinating.
“Get up. You need to get up and do the thing. Come on get up. Please get up. Please?” -me to myself anytime I need to do a chore.
Me toooo XC
Yah same some times I just can't will myself to do it no matter how much I want to
Same 😃🔫
I literally have to will myself 😭😭😭it's like ik I can do it but I don't have it in me to actually carry out the task until Im able to. For instance I'm great at math, but if u catch me in that moment I can't do simple calculations
@@crownedking_cj8890 sucks don't it .
I also get side tracked easily like the amount of times I over Flow the sink at work good thing we clean the floor with a hose anyway 😜
Your videos are brilliant and so helpful for people family members trying to understand the ADHD brain. Thank you so much for all the work you put into making these.
You dont know how many times my mother called me lazy when I was at school. This video makes me feel so much better. I am still not diagnosed, but I have other health issues that need to be dealt with first.
I literally go for like an hour saying to myself “you can do it, you can do it”
Or the entire dayyyy sometimes. Then I give myself permission to not do the thing until he following day... and it starts all over again😅😅
@@claraberg1214 yup. Today I manage to get myself to go buy water for the house and cook lunch, but the one thing I been telling my self to do (seep my room) I just exhausted myself for the day and for tomorrow it is
I say I can do it and then I never do cause I’m like nah actually I can’t I just hyped myself up for no reason and then randomly 1 or 5 years later I’m just do it for no reason
Damn now I’m realizing why The Little Engine That Could resonated with me so much
..and the you don't do it
“Do it.”
“Why?”
“Do it.”
“What about pain-“
“Do it.”
“Ok.”
I actually did it on the 69th try
ok.
The induction stove in the video only burns metal, you can touch it for 10 minutes without being burned. not many people know this, mostly because people dont try it out 😂
Ow owie 😢
"EEEEAAAAAAUGH!"
"Do it again."
"What? It hurts like Hell!"
"Do it again."
"No. I got second degree burns."
"Do it again."
"Ok."
At first I was gonna try and make a point of "Yeah, but you're aware that touching the burner will cause physical pain." Then I realized that paralysis causing you to avoid important tasks (for example, in my case, filing documents or making phone calls and meeting deadlines) will also have bad consequences. And it STILL doesn't make it easier to bring yourself to do. So, I understand this scenario 😂😭
Someone give this woman a cape! You're saving lives my friend 💗
Normal scenario;
I have to write a reply to someone in a conversation on discord.
And that is how I cleaned 5 years of trash from my bedroom.
Still need to write that 1 sentence reply to "how are you doing today?"
Spend 10 hours sitting on my bed doing nothing, occasionally trying to fornulate ny reply to them.
2 weeks pass and I finally get the energy to send "gud, u?"
Gworl. You are definitely not alone.
@@therealkoolaidandkale it's even funnier when the person on the other line has unmedicated adhd. They take even longer, so I don't feel as guilty.
Today, at 39 years old, I finally understand what is wrong with me
Nailed it 🔨💯
I thought there was something horribly wrong with me and I was the only one, I had so much shame over not being able to reply to emails, posts, etc. and being extremely overwhelmed the more people I have to reply to.
The most unrealistic part is that they apologised and understood lmao
Everyone I know even the teachers and all know I have ADHD yet they’re like “just focus harder” “try more” HOW DID YOU THINK I SURVIVED UNTIL NOW??? IM TRYING MY HARDEST ALREADY
Well there not wrong just try harder
@@TrosheeWasTaken Thanks not like I have been doing it for years and that’s the only reason I’m keeping up with neurotypicals.
@@TrosheeWasTaken okay let me explain a way that adhd effects me so i have adhd and ocd and my ocd wants my room to be clean so i try my hardest to get that done but my adhd says no we are going to do this instead and so then its a never ending cycle of i need to clean my room and i want to clean my room buuut i could do this first and then its just a fight with myself and i get so drained that by the time that i can actually do anything im to exhausted to do anything and then i just start to panic about what I didn’t get done and it is the most overwhelming thing ever so dont say “just try harder“ because you dont know how much we want to get the thing done and how much we fight with our OWN brain to do it we already try our hardest but when people start saying stuff like “try harder” or “why cant you just get it done” then it makes us feel like we are just useless or at least thats how it is for me
@@TrosheeWasTaken yk things u don't understand, you shouldn't comment on
you think he/she isnt trying? i have adhd and i can literally get distracted just by staring at a wall and i cant "try harder" to focus cuz I JUST CAN'T DO IT
so maybe next time, don't comment shit if u dont understand stuff
@@NoThankYou444 well said
I showed it to my mom and now she understands how I feel when I can't get up.
just get the fuck up
That's so real, like I have ADHD and sometimes I get ADHD paralysis when I'm supposed to brush my hair and I always get in trouble when I do that but my parent doesnt believe I have a mental disorder and always blames it on devices or "just being a kid". Same thing in school when I "couldn't" do my hand written work.
anyone else be laying on the couch and you need to get up and you’re just like “okay what if i get up NOW” and just keep doing that but never actually get up
Ikr I’m like : okay, now I’m going to get up : I don’t get up, I want to, I don’t. It’s the same thing
Me sitting on my couch saying I have to clean NOW: but how- who tol- are you spyin- 😵💫💀
I have that too and wasn't diagnosed with ADHD.
YES OMG
Yessss. Relatable af
The problem is that even if you explain it to someone like this, they'll still call you lazy.
Because they simply are
You are the burner can actually hurt u
bro if you had actual adhd you’d know otherwise 💀
@@majdxgames3328 quit playing games and go do something productive you cretin.
@@lolzforthewin3360i have it diagnosed and it is like this wtf
This video helps me a great deal for a multitude of reasons. Thank you dearly, infinite gratitude.
We need to be tougher on some folks and help those that really need it
No one has ever understood why I can’t do things at times. I say ‘my brain won’t let me’ and they think I’m mad. I didn’t even understand it until 38 when I was diagnosed and stated to learn about it from other ADHD people!! Thanks for sharing, it’s so helpful xx
I still don’t get this video.
I take 90mg of adderall every day and it has changed my life, went from Straight F’s to Straight A’s and college classes while in high school, it was also gave my determination to finish my 60 pound weight loss journey, and I run on 2 hours of sleep a night ( because I work til 2am) but the adderall makes it so 2 hours of sleep is enough, I feel great actually!
@@clickbaitpolice1750 it’s basically saying try to turn a put your hand on the building stove you could but you just don’t and it’s saying that’s what it feels like to do simple tasks with ADHD. You know you can but you just don’t bring yourself to do it.
I'm in the same boat. When you've been told all of your life you're worthless and lazy and then you learn its not your fault, it's incredibly difficult to let go of those thoughts and replace them with new ones.
@clickbaitpolice1750 basically It's like ADHD Is about turning off Ur brain goin nighty night 🌙 meaning U want something It says we should watch Tv U want food U play games It skips the steps of okay let's do something then goes to sleep 😑
Sending an email, replying to a text message, even the tasks that seem like they should be so simple can be so hard to do
my brain be like that, instead of replying the text and mails i need, i instead venture my self in solving engineering problems, quantum math, and commenting on youtube videos
It has cost me more than one valued friendship.
❤ y'all are my ppl now ha I'm not sure if it's good that I personally felt a tiny better upon reading this and our quantum equation cohort and my new friend that's also lost friends to possibly the "reply text fully just sitting as a draft for a week cause I didn't hit send?!?! Again?!" 🥺I feel you and I still feel bad...but thanks for this y'all. I'm going to send a new reply on this one comment every day for the next 10 days...just to see how I do ha is this okay w u guy?
Yup I hate responding to text messages. I keep my phone on silence because the ring would nearly give me a panic attack.
I can't even apply to jobs
I have ADHD and this happens to me if someone tells me to read a book. I hate reading because it makes me feel like I have to finish it and I get distracted easily and read something then forget what I read and the words dont form sentences if ykyk but if someone asks me to read a book, I will say no it feels just like this video and it makes me understand a bit more how I feel about it ❤
I hate how this is relatable.
I wish I could send this to literally every person I know because no one understands
Edit: thanks for the likes and I want to say that if you guys are gonna argue about this at least do your research because some of you guys don’t even know what ADHD stands for
Sameee!!!
Absolutely!!! This is insane. Like she’s definitely in my head!!!
Yes
Dude fr
Yes oh my god
OMG, I haven't had my Adderall for 6 months. My new Dr refuses to prescribe it to me - I am 67 yo. It has been horrible. I can't get motivated to make phone calls to schedule appts, wash my dishes; I just turn off the alarm and go back to sleep, so I miss appts. I am a mess. I am seeing a new Dr so, I hope he will work with me. I am so glad to have come across this video...I couldn't describe it...I can use this. Thank you so much!!
I'm hoping the new doctor will work out for you. It should be malpractice if a doctor refuses to prescribe a medication that you've had before, and that worked well and is for the condition that you are diagnosed with - especially when you so obviously *need it* to function properly. I've had the same thing happen to me, but with Xanax. I've been taking it since I was 17, and without it I can't get out of bed because of *crippling* anxiety, suicidal ideations, paranoia and panic attacks. I can't shower. I can't eat. I can't meet people. I isolate myself. And then I got a new doctor who thought I shouldn't take it anymore. And I became a mess. It became 1 year in hell, completely isolated from the world (except my wonderful contact people at the Norwegian social services who came by with food and just to help me clean and stuff) until I got help to find a new doctor who understood that because of my complex PTSD, depression, Borderline personality disorder, panic attacks and extreme anxiety I simply cannot function without it. Together with my new doctor and my contact people in the Social Services we sent in a complaint against the doctor who took me off a medication that has saved my life (literally) since I was 17 (I'm 33 now). The doctor who refused to keep prescribing it knew my diagnoses, and heard from all of my contact people in Social Services here in Norway + my therapist, they told him how I didn't function without it, couldn't go out, eat, shower, sleep, nothing. But he still refused. So, it'll be "fun" to see what the medical board will say with all the evidence of his negligence towards me.
i wa without my meds for 3 weks and i wanted to eat nails. i cant imagine 6 months!!!!
hope ur new doctor listens to you. good luck . tell us how it goes!!
Same for me! Hugs and prayers
im 62 and find once you get to a certain age..around 60..doctors treat you differently in terms of the meds theyre willing to prescribe. It does make you mad becuz at this point in my life i know what works better than some doctor half my age lol! Ive never tried Adderall. Im wondering how that would work for me. i have bad anxiety and fibro as well and take Cymbalta. Anyhow good luck ❤❤
there is a HUGE adderall and other ADHD med shortage everywhere in the world right now. it includes almost all ADHD medications. that might be the main contributor to why its super hard to get prescriptions, even just refills of already prescribed medication. they only want to prescribe to extreme risk patients, however sometimes doctors suck and want you to get in and out and never have to see them again. sorry you had that experience with your doctor. i myself just got a new doctor and i was finally listened to for the FIRST time in my life by a doctor! i got a very rare diagnosis of Ehlers-Danlos syndrome super fast after i started seeing my new doctor and all i had to do was explain the same symptoms i have been for probably a decade now! good luck!
Best explanation I’ve ever seen
Only 2 unrealistic things here is
1- Them actually understanding
2- Them genuinely apologizing
i am replaying the last part cause an apology feels really nice to hear
@@davidrightpostI’m going to try this
My brain won't allow me this satisfaction, on the contrary it gets upset because how unrealistic it seems for my situation
They're rare as hell, I get what you mean.
Holy shit I never realised this was a symptom of my adhd
This makes too much sense
That’s what’s going on with me?!
You could definitely say it’s a symptom of depression too
its used as an excuse much too commonly, sure it hinders performance in a lot of things but adhd doesnt remove your free will
Same!
@@McMediaGroupyou made me worried until o read the last bit
Thats the best explanation
The excuses are getting to the point where they self diagnose lmfao no way
I don’t have ADHD but this is exactly what it feels like on one of my preoccupied bad depressive days. I stay in bed for hours and can’t fathom leaving bed, eating food, or doing anything. Not even something fun like playing a game, turning on a movie or drawing. I just can’t function
As someone with both ADHD and depression, I understand this completely
or when i am just too focused on something
That makes sense, depression can impair executive functioning, which is the same thing that causes ADHD paralysis.
I feel you. Depression can be understand only by those who have experience it. People that didn't have it are clueless, even with all the knowledge on the palm of their hands
yeah, depression can do this too. My brother had (and still suffers a bit from) depression and I noticed that a lot. Unfortunately, as the middle child, my parents were quick to jump at him for ‘sitting instead of doing’
"go. Go.... Okay GO! .... GO!!! What's the matter with you?!"
-An ADHD brain to itself
Underrated comment
Exactly though
Real
I dont have adhd but im like this + afterwards i always think... ok 10 more mins
Ong tho 😭
I have adhd, and i can touch it, its all about not being a wimp
Thank you, so glad someone said it
“I’ll give you a hundred bu-“
Me laying on the burner:
I would face plant a burner for 2 bucks.
@@StrakanDocrusReakal hospital bills gonna cost a lot more than that
Lol
LMFAOOOOO
Especially since she said "even if you just graze it." Certainly possible to do.
Honestly this video is a bad example. Just makes it look like ADHD paralysis is very much possible to overcome with some mental strength, dicipline and a hint of stupidity.
My mother thought I was lazy or defiant. She would scream at me to do chores and homework. But on days she wasn't home I could do my tasks (out of order, and sloppy) but they got done.
It is being lazy!!
@shieldb no its not being lazy it's ADHD
@@Who_Tao everybody has ADHD! And yes it is just being lazy!!!!
@@shieldbare you alright? Want me to call an ambulance? I think you should get your head checked up, youre talking nonsense.
@@shieldbi hope your ignorance brings you somewhere good instead of hurting people like this.
This people like you in the world that can explain things really well and you are one of them OK my grammar just sounded like awful
Trauma response is often misdiagnosed as ADHD especially in teens and adults. That kind of paralysus is a trauma response.
This is a good reminder to be patient with myself… Still, paralysis is torture when you’re ambitious…
I literally have like a lot of projects at school but my mind just says BYEBYE! When I try doing them.... It's like it HATES ME ABSOLUTELY!!!! I was able to do some of them but here I am again.... With one song to record, one brochure to do, notes to take, review for upcoming exams and oof it's overwhelming yet I don't wanna do anything at the same time because I just don't FEEL like doing it.... can someone tell me what's goin on??? Also does not help that I am one perfectionist alright.... (😃😃😀)
@@Ian_Ignacio THIS IS SO RELATABLE HELP
Ambitious, perfectionist plus overachiever here... This paralysis shit causes me so much anxiety/ breakdowns.
If you let this get to you then you’re not ambitious
@@ImWithMe you clearly know no ambition yourself bud
“I’ll give you a hundred bucks”
Me: “aight bet”
* doesn't give you $100*
Sold
@@LS_on_YT :(
The trick is to hold your hand over the burner then smack it with your other hand.
Works with ADHD too, metaphorically.
@@MajorBubbledwhat’s the fucking metaphor 😂
I used to think this was a good argument. But then I realized somebody would just say "So it physically hurts you to do things."
For a person that has ADHD this is accurate
This the exact explanation to why I am sitting on my couch even though I want to be productive but I'm still just here.
No, you're just lazy.
Same. I HAVE SO MUCH HOMEWORK. 😩
Go
Hey me too! 😂
Bro same I've been sitting at my table trying to do my schoolwork for 8 hours now but I've only gotten 5 sheets of work done and it's a huge struggle since my Adderall meds wore off 🤠
I started crying while watching this because it feels like no one understands what it's like. Thank you for putting this into the world
Yeah, I cried too, I didn't quite know this yet but it makes soooo much sense
so are we all crying now? i didn't realize there was a name for this and it sucks because i know im not trying to be lazy, or not eat and im not trying to fail the semester on purpose :(
I knew that this was an adhd thing but actually listening to the explanation and seeing that someone understands me made me cry too.
@@nicowithrow4390 this is littarly
Me, I’ve been having adhd paralysis for like 2 years straight, it’s so exhausting, no one understands, like no I don’t lack motivation, nor am I lazy, like people don’t understand and it’s so frustrating.
Yes
Oooooh my god. I can’t get over the fact that my life becomes more clear day by day, this explained my paralysis for MYSELF. Thank you🙏
This actually helps a lot
This is what the internet is for. Just Knowing you are not alone helps me
I still don’t get this video.
How bad is it that I have adhd but I would still touch the hot burner for 100 bucks. Personally I could overcome anything for money but that's cause I'm broke af lol. Only issue is nobody offers me 100 bucks to do those tasks like clean 😭
@clickbaitpolice1750: She’s trying to portray what it’s like when someone with ADHD struggles to get to a task. The so-called “procrastination” is actually involuntary-even if they know they should and are capable-almost like an invisible force stopping them. The hot stove analogy was an odd comparison to draw from.
@@LM-is2ry it was odd for sure because why would anyone wanna put their hand on a hot stove? This sounds more like intrusive thoughts than it does ADHD.
@clickbaitpolice1750: 😄 You’re so right! That’s exactly what it sounds like. It’s like telling someone to jump in front of a moving vehicle, and they respond with, “I would, but I have ADHD.”
Thank you so much for this. It's so bad that even things I REALLY REALLY want or need to do are impossible. Like getting ice cream from the freezer, or using the bathroom.
using the bathroom one is the worst. i physically cannot get up and do it until it's an EMERGENCY. So happy to hear I'm not alone.
literally i will put off peeing for hours and i don’t even understand why, and i just sit there feeling painfully thirsty for hours instead of just going to get a drink really fast. why???????
@@ellaizcool exactly!
@@selardohr7697 I know it's awful!!!
@Ken Harris me too! Or on the toilet, or in the shower, sometimes literally standing in the shower with the water off! It's like someone put my avatar on pause!
but thats not even dangerous in the slightest, placing your hand on a burning stove is
This is adhd related story, I had a prescription to adderall during college and it helped me focus and get actual good grades, one time my prescription ran out and I was scrambling to get it refilled and my mom saw me panicking and just said “why can’t you just focus?” And I snapped back “if I could ‘just focus’ I wouldn’t need adderall”, she sat there in stunned silence, because people without adhd can’t comprehend why we are thr way we are
"just do it"
"I can't"
"You have ADHD paralysis?"
"NO I DONT HAVE HANDS"
oh didn’t notice sorry 💀
@@kfcccccxc nawww💀💀😭😭
My fingers are knives! Are you an angel, Sharon?
It must be hard having to type with two thumbs
Damn
ADD here, I always need stress to do certain tasks like when I know I get guests I arrange the house at the last moment.
Scheduling visitors is the only way I KNOW I can get the house clean... It's exhausting.
@@cutiemama2913 Amazing, that is exactly like me! I schedule on purpose guests and ask my daughter to invite her friend overnight.
Same. I'm autistic and adhd and I usually can't even brush my teeth unless I'm going to see people.
@@jw5386 Yup, I got a cavity because I'm not brushing often enough, but now I can't even call the dentist to make an appointment because of my fucking weird brain...
@@nic12344 I'm sorry dude. Maybe you could ask someone else to call for you
The more i watch ADHD videos the more i want to get myself tested
This helped explain ADHD to all of my friends.
Bro fr just explained my whole life in 29 seconds 💀
SAME like i feel this way daily
My dumbass burning my hand off for $100 😂😂😂😂
Fr me too
😂
Honestly same
Me totally because it’s an induction burner and it wouldn’t even be hot😂
I would do it for a ham sandwich
"I just thought you were being lazy" is an interesting statement. Either you come to understand that this paralysis IS laziness and chance your view of laziness into a more positive light. OR you choose to not define this as laziness and thus accept that laziness as you define it DOES NOT exist. To everyone reading this, make sure to remember to live life with respect for others ✌️
Thanks for explaining my life
Yes! That is _exactly_ how it is. I _know_ that I need to do something, and I literally cannot force myself to do it.
I had to tell my doctor that I am crying over the fact that I cannot force myself to work and am afraid of losing my job at this rate before actually giving me meds. When I tried to explain in a very mild manner before, they thought it wasn't that bad 🫠🫠🫠
How did you italicize some of your words?
@@tina1061that’s why I ALWAYS exaggerated my symptoms!
@@lilmary110522 I put an underscore before and after the word I want italicized. The only thing you have watch out for is punctuation. It has to go inside the underscores, so if a word has a comma or a period make sure it is inside the underscores. You can use an * around words to make them *bold,* and use - to -strikethrough- the text.
@@tina1061 de s😊p
I would literally have an easier time touching a hot surface than cleaning my house.
💩💩💩💩💩
Or me completing my tasks
The trick that always helps me clean my house is having an important looming deadline for something completely unrelated to cleaning my house. 10/10 never fails to get me cleaning.
@@altipathyoh man , you are not wrong! I'll do the bare minimum cause I can't start then renovate the house if I know someone is coming over!
heyy my gf has ADHD- idk how I can help her start studying, I know she wants to and I know she's very smart but she has to study for a very important exam... Idk how I can help her with it- she's just not able to start and I know it's not her fault
Okay, I know that I have ADHD, but this was new for me. I don’t know how I missed. This explains a lot. Thanks. Love you.
This is way too relatable. I have the worst ADHD in my family.
Because my adhd makes me forget… I keep forgetting a method I learned in health thinking behavioral therapy. I keep forgetting to split myself into another hypothetical person and do things for that person.
People with ADHD feel emotions more strongly and are usually more compassionate that people without ADHD. So we have to use that for our advantage. No, not by tricking ourselves. We have to be fully aware and confident about our method to help ourselves so that we can be proud and gain even more confidence.
Pretend you’re doing it for a friend. Talk to yourself as if you’re a friend outside of your body. Or help your future self, who is actually your friend.
Then, have your other friend self l…compliment you for accomplishing your goal. This is to help you stand up for yourself instead of feeling ashamed for having to use a weird method just to accomplish something.
Stand up for your self-friend from the bullying thoughts that enter your negative ADHD mind.
THIS MAY HELP ME!! I am a helper & WAAAAY more compassionate of others & forget myself 🫠 currently trying to figure out how to care for myself rn
I think this might help me thanks!
How about we start a helper club? 😉
I’ve been saying “Be a friend to your future self for a while now!” I had no idea I was inadvertently coming out to everyone (I am diagnosed) lol
Part of ADHD is an inability to form habits. That includes routine things like taking meds, brushing teeth, and other things others people take for granted.
I'm 35 and had undiagnosed ADHD for a huge part of my life and stuff like this makes me feel so seen and understood, to myself as well - I'm still learning about this neurodivergence, that I actually teared up.
*Exact* SaMe HeRe ->> had Never even given ADHD//ADD a second thought at *any* point in my life, but since I was a child I’ve been called “scatterbrained” // “lazy” // “rebellious” {ok, that last one is still *kinda* true 😆} due to the fact I *CONSTANTLY* Lose [every-] things, CONSTANTLY forget things [from recent conversations to important deadlines, from things I *needed* at the store to an ENTIRE LoaD of clothes at the laundromat - I mean, *HoW* ⁉️ I’m obsessed w my clothes, How does that even Happen?!?! 😂😫] & am RaReLy focused on something I’m doing long enough to get it Done… on the contrary, my mind will be going a hundred miles an hour about everything BUT the task at hand. 🙄
At some point in the last year, a “you could have this disorder if -“ came on a commercial as I was ‘watching’ something {honestly I was distracted aF, just happened to be listening} and I just *froze* for a few seconds….. was suddenly like a lightbulb💡went off, I even nudged my husband {who is a notorious skeptic} and even HE raised an eyebrow and said “🤨 y’Know…. That *Would* make a Lot of sense.” Since I’ve been researching all I can on the topic, and suddenly all my daily-struggles begin to make a little sense… still learning about it myself {AND how to deal with it}, but I’m hesitant to get a legitimate diagnosis simply bc the *only* medicine I’ve ever heard being used for ADD//ADHD, is an amphetamine - which is *not* something I personally believe will help me out at all.
@@PixelatedGypsythat’s how i felt at first too BUT specialists do prescribe stuff bc it works- so yes do your own research, but also don’t close off the idea that meds can legitimately balance the dopamine in your brain so you can complete your to-do list in a reasonable manner. also adderall isn’t the only medication for adhd if you still don’t like that. def talk to a doctor about it.
Im 43. Same. Got a diagnosis about 5 years ago. Meds help but they arent a cure-all. I was recommended to look at executive functioning coaches. Apparently thats a big thing nowadays. And ive been seeing vids like this one that completely reflect what Ive been dealing with for my entire life, with no clue that there are so many others out there just like me.
@Azimuth10000 I resonate with that totatlly! I'm 34 and just got dianosed (type 3), and it's nice to have community that understands the struggles and sees you for who you are instead of the explanations that seem like excuses!
56 here, diagnosed at 33, still struggling. Tried medications back then, not effective. I went to a CBT group and the most helpful thing was hearing how closely others' experiences mirrored mine. Knowing your not alone is priceless.
The least realistic part of this video is the person refusing to touch the hot burner for 100 dollars💀
I wish people were that understanding. Trying to explain my ADHD, Autsim, Anxiety, and other problems… is like talking to a freaking brick wall. Most people can’t understand things that they have never experienced.
Another helpful way to explain how very very strange ADHD paralysis is, is that it happens all the time with peeing. Like omg I have to pee SOOO much, i need to get up and go to the bathroom, but my brain and body are just like "no" for HOURS. Thats not laziness, thats a medical condition lol
I do this and I will be bouncing around all day and be in actual pain but I'm just "not ready yet".
Also with getting out of bed in the morning.
So hungry my stomach goes through multiple rounds of quezy hunger pains and i just sit there like hmm should eat soon
@@improvedalpaca3294 me too, i want to improve my eating because im borderline underweight but when im hungry im always like "hmmm i should go eat" and end up not doing it
As I sit here holding my pee. 😂❤
I don’t have the medical insurance or money to get a diagnosis, but I’ve been like this with pee my whole life (i got a uti because of this).
My body will physically tell me “Hey go pee. Hey go pee. Hey go pee.” And my mind will just be like “Okay, I could do that, but I could also just sit here too.” For HOURS.
I dunno if I have ADD/ADHD but sometimes watching these shorts, I feel like I’ve noticed I do, not all, but a lot of what she and the comments here describe. :( I wish the American medical system wasn’t so fucked so I could just make an appointment and go get it taken care of.
I think the toughest part is when you realise these two are in your head, fighting and making you feel lazy
When you wait long enough, the encouraging one stops.
And TIRED 😅😢
Yea
This 😖
Yup and then there’s always the parent who refuses to admit you have adhd standing in front of you yelling at you as well as the inner conflict
honestly, i feel that on a deep level. i tried explaining overcoming ADHD paralysis (before i knew what it was) by sheer force of will as "forcing myself to do it". everyone thought i just meant doing something i didn't want too, when i was (in the ananoly) just slamming my hand on the burner and forcing myself not to pull away.
So comparing intensional self harm with a scam created by the pharmaceutical industry. This video is unintentionally truthful.
‘Go do your homework’
“But I cant”
‘Just do it’
“I CANTTTT”
You are just lazy
It's a symptom not a life sentence. You can get past it even if it seems like a comfortable excuse. Every person experiences this at times, even people without ADHD experience the same "symptoms" just less frequently.
Dude I have adhd and you guys are just lazy and use it as an excuse just do your fucking homework dude
@oeoeoeoeoeoeoeoe that’s a dumb question, would you burn your hand on the stovetop for a million?
@@bruce4476 hell fucking yea
I can get pretty overwhelmed sometimes and I feel stuck like I can’t work on anything. Like my brain just shuts down and rejects whatever I need to work on.
I feel the same way sometimes.
Same.
Same same heheh .
Me too man 💜
Everybody does
I almost want to cry, seeing these videos about ADHD. I knew that I don't fit in society. I know that I am different. Nobody ever believes me and I've never been diagnosed as having any problems.
I am a 48yo man with no friends or family (to speak of), whom lives alone on a yacht, incapable of holding jobs and broke. It is such a relief to think that there are people who understand my daily battles.
It was a relief to me to distinguish between ADHD type syndromes, and simply being lazy.
However, just as many young folks are watching all sorts of disorders and neurodivergence on social media and self-diagnosing, that can happen for ADHD as well. The uncomfortable truth is that some people really ARE lazy, but today they can identify as ADHD and get a pass.
I am NOT saying I know which is which, OK? I'm just saying that it unfortunately becomes a wonderful excuse if we are not careful. "Mom, I can't hold down a job because I have ADHD, so it should be OK to live in the basement and play video games all day".
I don't know entirely how to deal with this (rely on professional diagnosis?), and I certainly understand why we would not want to foster suspicion of ourselves as just slacking - but it also won't help to pretend that there are no cases of using ADHD as a perfect excuse.
So ADHD paralysis is basically just all of your action abilities are on cooldown
Pretty much, yep. Despite me going "GET UP" in my head, there's this just... nothing.
A way to put it is like we get a
"You cannot do that here"
Message in our brain whenever we try to do something and this kicks in
Or when the wizard runs out of mana.
@@zer0pointnothing sounds like an excuse every one of these I read I’m like really dude.
"Go get something to eat"
"Sorry that action is on cooldown rn"
@@johnjames2162 Ikr, sounds like my generation is running out of bullshit to spew.
As somebody with ADHD you have no idea how much willpower it takes to snap out of it for a second long enough to go do something productive
I know right but when I try to explain it my family there like stop blaming it on adhd but I'm not I'm just trying to be heard but instead they shout at me it makes me feel alone cause I feel like no one understands 💔
As someone without ADHD I'm just wondering why all these 16k comments are saying they have ADHD
@@CorbinOlson-zs9dlmaybe because they actually have it. Dunno, just sayin’…
@@CorbinOlson-zs9dl because people with ADHD are the main people that watch this? (I have ADHD myself 😌)
Yes
Exactly explains it! Great example. Thanks for sharing it!
I can fight my ADHD paralysis, but it takes literally EVERYTHING within me. 😒😔
I have tried to explain this to my dad. He is a person who floated through school with not needing to study at all. when I say "I just can not do it" I think that it is so abstract to him that he can not even comprehend it.
Fr that’s me too i literally tried telling a family member I have adhd and they didn’t believe me
I'm extremely lucky that I still get good grades while not being able to concentrate and revise. I just know that if I was 'worse' my entire life would be x5 harder
FRRRRRR
Literally how my mother acts
Nah you're just lazy
"But that's not the same thing! Your situation won't hurt you, you're just being lazy"
Neurotypicals when you use this analogy
Neurotypicals ☕️
@@joscelanfavre1772 anxiety and sometimes fullblown panic and self deprecation, depression,
low self esteem are the injuries they’re getting at but didn’t mention here, and the whole thing is just to explain what it FEELS like for ADHD people who try to force themselves to do something they know they should do but have some sort of block against it. All that worry is something everyone has to deal with to a degree or at certain points in their life, but in terms of every day mundane tasks that shouldn’t require much thought, it occurs at an overwhelming degree in neurodivergent brains and of course these afflictions aren’t taken as seriously by others as physical injuries are because they can’t be seen but you bet your ass it’s more painful, prolonged, and frustrating than that stove burn
@@joscelanfavre1772 lol ok pal. The thing you need to understand, is that having these difficulties with certain tasks doesnt make us *exempt* from having to do them. We still have to be a person. We still have to study, keep a job, keep a clean space, personal relationships, and just in general have the focus, motivation, and organization required to do...anything. I have limits to what i can achieve, and that sucks, but it is what it is. That doesnt mean i get any kind of assistance or help with these things, it just means i have to work harder for less. I dont want to be messy and disorganized, i LOVE clean and organized spaces, but no matter how hard i try it always turns into a shitstorm i cant stay ahead of. With work, i chose a job that i could have a lot of control over the schedule, as maintaining a routine is very difficult for me . I would absolutely love to have the drive and focus to be in a different field that earns more, but that isn't the case, so i earn what i earn and that's what it is for now. The freedom of schedule is necessary, and with that comes a smaller paycheck. Thems the breaks.
Having adhd can be life ruining, and we get absolutely nothing out of it, we just want to be believed. Ive been lazy, we've all been lazy, adhd ain't lazy. Through a neurotypical lens that deems tasks like doing chores and going to work a lot as not lazy? Sure we're lazy. But in other areas, generally creative work, we fucking thrive. I have no problem working several back to back 12 hour days on a film set, or work on a script for 8-10 hours at a time and then round out the day making several pieces of jewelry, none of those things are lazy.
Why do you get to be the one to decide which kinds of tasks being good at makes a person lazy or not?
@@Rosemary33399 that was really beautifully explained, thank you.
@@nikki1400 bro what? You really took that personal, it seems like you have some stuff to sort out within yourself. Anyway. Its only lazy if you dont get your crap done. You clearly get your crap done. So you're not lazy. And yes, its harder for some people to do certain stuff. But thats not an excuse not to do it. Thats all im sayin 'pal'
That is the part of adhd effects me the most
💚 this helped me understand why I'm like this
this is what depression feels like too. something as simple as brushing your teeth or getting up to go to the bathroom feels like a physically impossible task
I cant tell you how much seeing these explains the last 35yrs of my life.
Why can’t you tell us? I’ll give you 100 bucks if you tell me. . .
@@jnnxlol
I sincerely hope that this info gave you some amount of peace. It did me. And I think it is something we deserve after struggling for so long.
Same.
Same. Age and everything.
Those of us that are a bit older were at best put into programs to shuffle us along while explaining nothing. Some weird form of institutional gaslighting.
Thanks for making this video, I'll probably keep doubting if I'm either lazy, just simply feel no need to do something (like it's just an option and not a big thing I have to do, I actually feel like that more and more often when it comes to school) or I'm simply not capable to get off my ass and do it. My parents are both the "just do it" type. At least these videos keep me from being convinced I'm lazy. Doubting myself in some instances is better than that.
ADHD is genetic, yet it sometimes feels like my parents don’t even understand.
this is almost exactly how it feels. except with adhd, there is no “bad thing” you know will happen, so it’s harder to explain. all i know is i /can’t/ do that thing yet. why? because it’s not “right”. it feels like being about to touch a hot stove, brain just says “no”
Exactly
And pushing yourself hurts the brain & makes one unravel.
Yeah, and there's no way to make things feel right - that I've yet found
It’s so nice someone’s out there explaining ADHD issues we face every day
Ikr
I have adhd and I don’t experience that at all, I just get things done.
@@Waterenjoyer1308 good for you 💀💀💀💀😭😭 Do you want a cookie or something ??
@@mr.theory5733 wow how nice of you. 😂
@@Waterenjoyer1308 they are privileged adhd that's why lol I know cause I was a privileged adhd. I could sit around and be lazy and usually was able to get away with it. once you start going hunger for your choices you start to help your adhd brain to do what needs to be done lol 😂😂😂
I actually showed this to my brother (he has ADHD) to see if it was true and he confirmed, he said this was very accurate
Why do these have to be so relatable!
Da ppl who would touch the burner for $100
👇
Even without adhd that’s ridiculous and a stupid comparison. Anyone who is normal wouldn’t. I get what she’s trying to say but she explained it worse then if I searched it up.
ive got adhd like a mf but trust me you put money on it consider that burner licked
Oh hell yeah if I'd get 100 USD for that I'd 100% graze the shit out of my hand
Yes
@randomname8220 Well, I'm not necessarily. How would you say......"Normal"
Not me watching this at almost 3PM, after a few hours of telling myself "I really should get up, eat and take my medication" while still in bed-
I struggle with taking medicine I need to live on time or at all.
What worked for me was having my pill box in my nightstand, a glass of water always topped up and two alarms. One to take them and go back to sleep and one to actually get up half an hour apart because the medicine needs to absorb for 30 minutes
U can do it buddy!
Your just lazy, 2.5 percent of the population has adhd and your not that 2.5 percent most likely
I don’t take adhd meds but I feel you I wanted to get something to eat at 11pm it’s now 6:24 am…
Same
Getting a certain task done can seem as simple as crossing a bridge, but then I realize it’s not that simple. In my mind, that bridge I needed to cross turned out to be missing floor boards, so i have to reconstruct it with new boards. That dives into a whole new task. And then I also found out I needed to carry weights across that same bridge. Now I feel uninterested. Those side tasks contribute to making one simple thing feel overwhelming and undoable, which makes life difficult as hell when even something like doing the dishes can cause adhd paralysis
Thats not fucking adhd that is self preservation
@AubreyBlakelyn what
@AubreyBlakelyn well then my appologies :) thanks man