Yeah.. My wife would probably not be too happy if I changed my name and started hanging out at a poetry club with lots of other women. I've gotta be honest, I'm too afraid to ask. Changing my name might make it a bit easier to sneak about but I'm not sold on the idea mate.
This is why I'm so glad I live in a state where lottery winnings can be collected anonymously. The state has to know for tax purposes, yes, but you're not obligated to show your face or name for the big photo op.
I live in Florida. Don't know if that is an option in my state(?) I will almost certainly never have to worry about this, but if I were to win the lottery I would absolutely want to remain anonymous for a number of reasons. The primary reason would be safety, followed by not wanting to be pestered by people who resented my good fortune and wanted to prey on me. And I wouldn't want to be overcharged for everything by people who thought I was just some dumbass who didn't have to work for that money anyway, so I might as well just give it to them because I got it for "free". What state do you live in?
Even if your face is shown, just don't hang around bad people, or people you know want money from you. It isn't that hard. Bill gates is rich and hated by many and he's fine.
@@brucejohnson9696 It's like that where I'm from, too. You can stay anonymous. It wasn't always that way, though. They changed it because many people complained about the things you said. And about potential murders, of course!
@@Cbd_7ohm Your advice is very good, practical, common sense. However, it wouldn't protect a person from certain things like being burglarized, armed robbery, arson, murder, kidnappings, being overcharged etc. With today's technology it's very easy to find someone if you know their name. Bill Gates, I believe, has had many problems over the years because everyone knows who he is and that he is very rich. I believe that there was a plot to kidnap his mother years ago(?) Also, he has the expense and worry of extra security for his house, armed bodyguards for himself and his family etc. True, he has so much money he can largely delegate these hassles to other people. I believe Bill Gates has also had to deal with many incidents of people threatening him and his family and also trying to extort, blackmail him etc.(?)
Hi Dr. Grande. Back in 2006, I was working in Salmon, ID. While at work, a thousand pound beam fell on me and as a result, I became an amputee (my right foot) and my back and hips were messed up. I hired an attorney and seven years later I won a settlement. It took a long time to settle as I had many surgeries and needed time to heal. My settlement was no where close to Abraham’s. Not even one million. But, I feel for him as people I didn’t even know would come to me and ask for money. People would come up to me and want me to pay their utility bills, car payments. Buy their groceries. Pay their mortgage or rent. And they would tell me all kinds of sob stories. It was crazy!!! So sad what happened to him. But I can say first hand, money makes people do crazy things!! I’m glad she was caught. Thanks Doc. ❤️💜💚
I'd be pissed. I'd have asked every single one of those where they were while I was on the road to recovery. If they aren't the kind of friends you can call at 3am if have a flat tire then they don't need to be asking for sh!t. If they haven't been calling you on your birthday for at least five years then they shouldn't be asking for sh!t. If some random acquaintance came asking me for money, they'd get their feeling hurt real quick.
I read his story in True Detective years back. He would be approached in the grocery store by people wanting him to pay for their groceries. He was low IQ and drank, an easy target for her. These cases highlight the base nature of a big number of people.
My mom’s uncle won a $32M lottery in the early 1990’s and it caused a lot of division in the family. He was smart with his money. He took the incremental payments, kept working, paid off his 30 year old house and lived like a normal working guy until he passed in 2009. But my grandma (his sister-in-law) started a feud because she felt like he should shell out since they’re family. She, in turn, called him greedy and said he didn’t care about the family, when SHE was the one being greedy. His daughter died in a car accident, so my uncle raised her daughter. We were the same age and lived in the same town, so we grew up close. She never had anything more than I did. He’s buy us ice creams and treat us to the movies and stuff like that, but he wasn’t buying her $300 jeans and *NSYNC concert tickets, I’ll put it like that. But he used to say the worst beggars were the local churches. He was a former Navy sailor covered in tattoos, and pre-lottery, he was too much of a sinner for their comfort. After winning the lottery, it was, “Would you please bless the community with a donation for the kids to go to Bible camp?” 🤢
What happens when you're on payments, and you die? Does the remainder go to your estate? I've always heard if you win the lottery, you should never tell anyone you know.
This is the best country in the world! It always amazes me how ppl are so quick to say move. All you have to do is move to Wyoming or Montana. Hell I’d move to West Virginia or Kentucky lol just move to a very low key spot
"The world is full of dangerous people and money often attract them" I agree with your analysis Dr. Grande. This is a particularly sad case...Thank you for all the perfect guidance regarding the " lottery" and have a nice day!
@@Blackcatsaregoodluck11 True, he was foolish. However, he didn't deserve what happened to him. Being happy about someone else's unjust death will bring you the worst karma possible.
If we won the lottery (which we won’t bc we don’t play the lottery) we would not tell anyone. My husband & I would try to be wise & truly put forth a plan & a budget. Neither of us are greedy. We aren’t poor. We have extra money after paying bills & it goes to charity. As for Abraham, my heart broke when I heard this story the first time. That woman should never ever be let out of prison. She took advantage of a kind person.
This is why if you ever win a huge jackpot, hire a lawyer from a good law firm and have them collect things as your representative so people don't know its you who have one, if possible. Some states allow this, some don't. Then go to a good financial firm and have them manage your money. Also a good accountant.
Yeah my big fear of winning the lottery is that any debt you have like medical bills and student loans would try to drag you through the legal system and falsify how much you really owe.
i believe people can "sniff" money. when i was a kid my neighbour next door won apprx $2.millions . it only took 3 months for people to feel like money's somewhere. i am unsure where he moved to as i was too little to even comprehend the whole thing. but for a somewhat recluse person he started receiving a lot of visit from " relatives"
Im familiar with this really sad case. He was taken advantage of, abused and then discarded. Greed and lust for material possessions drives people to do awful things. Their desire for stuff overrides any respect for life. I find it repulsive.
@@cynthiaschell7246 Where is the evidence that he was greedy? Stop being an ignorant racist. From all reports the man was very generous with his money.
I heard about the Shakespeare case a few years ago when I listened to a true crime channel. It always broke my heart because you have a man that was a very good person who had a huge heart. I feel that Abraham was absolutely miserable with his money as he realized that the people that surrounded him outside of his mother only hung out with him and supported him because of his money. He seemed to have been the kind of person that loved people regardless of who or what they were and was so desperate to be loved in return that he would ignore the red flags in a relationship just so that he wouldn't be alone. My heart breaks for Abraham. I can only imagine the pain and betrayal he would have felt when he realized that somebody he called a friend was going to kill him. And for what? Money? Money can't buy you happiness, and if it does, it's going to be there only as long as you have money to spend. If I had known Abraham, I would have advised him to get somebody at the bank to help him with his money. There are people for that.
How do you know he had a "huge heart," you know nothing about here. Victims aren't always saints just cuz they were a victim of a heinous crime, they just a person.
@@cynthiaschell7246 Yes he did. There are documentaries about this case where people stood up and said that Shakespeare helped save one of his friend's homes from foreclosure, he gave money to people, I think one of them used Shakespeare to open some kind of business or something. He helped his mother with her home. Many people went to him after he won the lottery and Shakespeare always helped them out until he realized they were using him. Stop being a racist and get out of this thread. I bet that if Shakespeare was a white man that you wouldn't be here.
"The house is always going to win." What an incredible video, Dr. Grande! As someone who is extremely fascinated with the human brain- yours fascinates me! I feel so terribly sad for Abraham! He had the sensitivity to know that winning the lottery was a bad thing for his life.
Your analyses are way better than winning a lottery, because lottery win isn’t always a “win” but your videos are always a “win.” 🙌🏼 Thank you as always and I hope you have a great weekend Dr. Grande.❤️
It's especially galling that 2 of her first explanations for why she had his assets (avoiding child support and buying drugs) were so dependent on racist stereotypes.
What happened to Shakespeare is heartbreaking when you consider that he was a good man with a giant heart. He loved people and I feel that he was just so desperate to be loved as well. Unfortunately, there's evil monsters out there that look for this sort of vulnerability and pounce. It's tragic that this happened. This man's death could have been avoided had one person in his life cared more about him and his welfare more than the amount of money he could provide them.
@@TiffWaffles His mother cared about him, but he did not listen to her. The girlfriend should've seen off Moore, but didn't. Maybe she was afraid of the consequences.
TY for this. I watched, I think, a days-long interrogation, with this woman, or rather a meeting with the cops on the case, because I think she requested the meeting. (Vain attempt to bolster her innocence) Her circular logic and tone were maddening in the extreme. That she ever thought she had really broke into his "social group", is beyond laughable. That she ever thought she could convince people of her innocence, after it had been proven that she bribed witnesses, is just plain low down ignorant.
I used to have a tshirt in college, that I had made as head of the Econ club, that said “the lottery is a tax on people who are bad at math”. I do really like how you went over the lottery a bit.
Against incredible odds, I personally know 3 different people who have won large lottery jackpots. Two were guys I was in school with, and one was a neighbor who moved back to the small town where I lived and he grew up in. All of them had happy experiences with their lives after winning those lotteries. The two guys were just high school grads who invested their winnings and live very quiet, comfortable lives. The third one was an executive of a major manufacturing company that won nearing his retirement. He and his wife moved back to my hometown, built their dream home and another next door for their adult daughter who helped take care of her elderly parents. Not all lottery winners end up miserable or dead. But we all prefer to hear about the ones who screw up or end up being murdered.
It turned out great for all three of your friends. I have a friend who spends at least $2,000. a month on lottery tickets. He is NOT doing well, financially. Only won a couple of thousand ONCE. You don't have to go to a casino or racetrack to develop a gambling addiction.
I don't buy your story. You knew 3 people personally who won the lottery? We're talking about $1 million plus right? It's like knowing 3 people who got struck by lightning. 70% of lotto winners go broke. that's 2 out of 3. It's like saying that not ever being involved in a car accident.
@@JustDr.S Allegedly many gamblers were found penniless and dead after suicide in Casino hotels at the beginning of Vegas casinos where the men in charge paid thugs to bury the corpses with money in their pockets in the desert to hide the truth of gambling addictions.
Great analysis Dr Grande. I believe that people who win the lottery, should be allowed to remain anonymous. If that had happened, maybe Mr Shakespeare would still be around. That woman who entered his life,was greedy, controlling and had no empathy for murderers this man. Thank you Dr Grande.
This was a great analysis. I remember seeing DeeDee in an interview on some crime show. She was definitely 2 sandwiches short of a picnic basket! Thanks for another great vid, Dr. Grande. Oh, I love the BLUE and white checkered shirt! 💙💙😉
Fascinating story as always, Dr. Grande; and perfect length to get all my dishes done 😊 Speaking as a recovering addict, I would also add that for someone in active substance addiction, winning the lottery would be a sure death sentence. This is another scenario where I would see things not going particularly well after sweeping the jackpot.
The best advice I've gotten about winning the lottery is "you would need to give up your vices", but now I'm understanding it may be others vices that get you too.
You have got to be the best sycatrist that i have ever come across, your speculation. of people's personalities,motives and disorders etc,.., always seems to be SPOT ON!!! 👍
Dee Dee reminds me of one of those people or relatives who come to your home unannounced, and then because they have no where to go, try to explain to you why YOU need THEM there. They are there because “Someone needs to help you take care of these things in this big house!!” Which would be better phrased “Someone needs to help take these things out of this big house, let me help you.” They also have hides as thick as a Rhinos because they won’t or don’t hear that “It’s time for them to move on,” to some other relative. I never disliked someone so much as I did this Dee Dee woman. She really made Abraham her “mark” and drained him dry. I’m not surprised that she killed him. She probably thought she “deserved” that money for “her services.” Yeah right.
When you get your Powerball winnings do you want to get in on the ground floor and invest in my business idea ? O.K., you ready for it? Here it is: Porno for blind people. What do you think ?
I remember seeing this case on American greed. What a sad story, this guy was really nice, just didn’t have the capacity to stop the vultures. People are despicable.
My grandma won the lottery. The money, the house, the cars and such only lasted a year. We all moved into a mansion, but even the money couldn't help the fact that she just isn't a great person to be around. In the end it caused a huge painful rift in the family and we moved out quick. I went from extreme wealth to poverty as a child, overnight. I have money-related trauma. Afterwards, a 'lovely family' came into her life and swindled her out of the house and money. She had just enough left for a small apartment. My family pays her elderly care bills now. Welp. Mo' money, mo' problems.
I remember reading about this case a while back. It's so sad, no matter how you look at it. Abraham won an opportunity to live a life he could never have attained on his own given his education and background. And some greedy, evil person stole not only that new life, but his life in general. And for what? To enjoy 1 year of luxury that she didn't earn, win, nor deserve? Though, listening to Dr. Grande has given me a new perspective on something unrelated to this case. I prefer his acerbic nature to that of other psychologists' Mary Sue/Gary Sue cloying nature (like Dr. Honda and my former therapist). Don't get me wrong, I also enjoy Dr. Honda's content, I just find the dry, slightly caustic wit, like Dr. Grande, to be more trustworthy.
Finding your TH-cam page and later Patreon was like winning the lottery for me in education and entertainment. Thank you for always sharing your insights with us. I absolutely love it.
I felt so bad for this dude. He probably had a difficult life, actually won the lottery and then gets killed. My friends dad got a settlement for a car accident all all the family turned on him constantly asking for money. He had to stop communicating with some of his family because of it.
If this were true he would have given the guy who bought him the ticket a little taste. He only wanted a little. I would have given him one mill no problem. And then managed the rest quietly. But ohhhhh LORD how us monkeys have to prance around like unleashed libidos.
@@j.g.junior9835 The man lied about him and said he stole it from his car. And if that were true why only sue for 1 million? Wouldn't you ask for all the money that was stolen from you? I wouldn't give the guy a dime and have him pay for my lawyer's fees just for having the nerve to take me to court and lying about me.
@@j.g.junior9835 If it were the other way around do you think that guy would have given him anything? As a formerly generous person I can tell you from hard-earned experience that many people don't even appreciate it and take kindness for a weakness, unfortunately. Nobody has to give anybody anything. It's their money, they can do whatever they want with it. You would have given a mil to a guy who sued you and falsely accused you of stealing the ticket out of his wallet ? Too many people get mad about other people's money and how they choose to spend it. You say that you would be magnanimous. Do you think most people would be so generous as to give YOU anything ? 🤔
One thing I learned from bad lottery winners, is that wealth is better when it's accumulated over time, e.g. earned, rather than one giant sum of money at once to people who aren't equipped. Especially if they are younger and burn through the winnings.
Reading about or hearing about how lottery winners went on to better their lives and live well and financially sound lifestyles isn't compelling and doesn't feed our envy and desire for Schadenfreude like the story about the couple that wins the multistate lotto get divorced and spend a decade in court tearing each other apart.
I speculated that Dr Grande would be speculating sometime soon today... In a well speculated speculative video in a situation like this; using powerful speculation techniques derived from speculating along with him in his valued, and of course speculative content. Thanks Dr Grande. ... But, to be fair that was all just speculation...
One big reason why I would resist any temptation to become a criminal is knowing that if I became too famous Dr. Grande would end up making a video with pretty devastating deadpan jokes about my personal life and honestly I'm not sure I would survive that.
The second crime here is hitting the lottery for $31 million but only walking away with $12 million. Since the lottery is a tax, albeit a voluntary one, the government is involuntarily taxing a voluntary tax. In this case the winner was immediately out nearly $20 million. What a crock.
Damn, DeeDee blamed her 14 year old son?! 👀 Her poor kid. I'm glad she has no chance of parole. What she did to Abraham was so cruel, and what she did to her son is unfathomable to me.
I think the lottery is pretty much a bad idea. The people who are addicted win fairly frequently but then lose way more. It doesn’t matter if the win a million dollars. They will lose it fast. People who are financially savvy usually don’t bother to play.
Or on the opposite end of the spectrum in 1988 my friend I was in the Air Force with was the Personal Assistant to the Base Commander. He called her into the office on Monday morning and gave her $5 and told her to go and buy some biscuits because he wanted to shout the HQ staff. As an ex- Air Force chef she thought she'd save him the $5 and rang the kitchen of the Officers' Mess and asked them to make up a morning tea for the boss. She then went in and gave him his $5 back explaining what she had done. At morning tea time he got up and made the announcement he and his wife had won $500 000 on lotto on the preceding Saturday night. The morning tea shout was his definition of really lashing out with the winnings.
IF YOU WIN THE LOTTERY PLEASE HIRE A FINANCIAL ADVISOR OR 2 BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE!!! And don't just hire the first financial advisor you see, research who they are and who else is out there to ensure they aren't taking advantage of you!
Thankfully in the UK you can opt to have no publicity if you win the lottery. It stops the begging letters and other avenues for opportunists to part you from your winnings. I do enter our lotteries, I'd love to be in a position to support the people and charities I hold close to my heart and its nice to have a day dream about the house you'd buy or the holiday you'd take. Thank you very much as always Dr. Grande for the very interesting video. :-)
I buy a lottery ticket about once a year and every time I am absolutely convinced, without a doubt, that I am going to win. That couple of days imagining how I will spend my winnings are pure magic until, unbelieveably, my dreams are shattered. it takes me weeks to recover 😂. Very sad story of how greed and corruption caused the death of this, ultimately, poor man 😥.
You sound just like me! I treat myself to a lottery ticket 2 or 3 times a year when I’m really down and need a quick pick-me-up! I love fantasizing about all the friends & family I will share my good fortune with! As to winning - I’ve amassed winnings upward of $4….maybe $6! I think I blew the money on Diet Cokes and a couple Midnight Milky Way bars! 🤑🤑
@@joycewilliams967 Yes! I splurged my one and only lottery win the same day, and had nothing left to show for it! But that $3 ice cream sundae was great!
I stood in line at a convenience store behind a man who purchased food with a government issued food stamp debit card, and then purchased a bunch of lottery tickets with cash. I wasn't sure what to think. On the one hand, he appeared to be selfishly using the "system" to his own advantage. On the other hand, his appearance seemed to indicate that he has had a very rough life, and the lotto seemed to be his only hope in his mind for something better. I was tempted to say something to him about it, however after my initial angry reaction within myself, all I could do was feel sorry for him. I had no right to judge someone I didn't know anything about.
My mother poisoned me, used my sister to pose as me, after I'd signed deress on POA mom forced me to sign without allowing me to read it. And she lied about what POA meant, and I detected that. And I tasted something mediciny in the food she gave me to eat, just prior to the dirty deed. Didn't eat any, spit out what was in my mouth. No justice to date. Former judge Maureen Coffey almost released access to archived documents on trust, but then turned to me and said " your mother loves you, I know, I have kids". She refuses to talk to me now.
My sole experience with any lottery win was decades ago with the NJ Lottery (Dr. G's favorite US state!). My then girlfriend's youngest brother sadly was mildly retarded plus an epileptic and forced to live at home in the care of his parents. The one thing this brother did was weekly play the NJ lottery religiously but had to name his father as guardian or whatever due to his condition. Back in those days the lottery commission actually called their home, asked for the father and announced the big win and the father immediately went into cardiac arrest. He did recover somewhat but after the ambulance and treatments.........so I concur with Dr. Grande on state lotteries being a very poor 'investment' for his reasons and this sad experience. Jim C.
Geez....that is really sad. I can't imagine coming into that much money. (I won $98 on a Super Lotto ticket last week and was over the moon...) She's a real piece of work and she's right where she belongs. Unfortunately, there were a lot of fake friends around him that used him for money. RIP Abraham.
I don't see how anybody after taxes could even blow through 5 million within 10 years or even 20 years if they didn't owe a bunch of debt or anything previously. I know many people say "If I won it would be different" but it truly would for me I believe. You don't need a multi million dollar house or cars above 50k or clothes costing hundreds of dollars or even $50 for a T-Shirt. I could I guarantee make even 4 million last the rest of my life if not much less. If houses are too expensive where you are move away till they are not. Of course I'd buy stuff I normally wouldn't but I would not crank it up and just blow and go. I'd personally never buy a lotto ticket though or gamble so it just wouldn't happen.
Abraham Shakespeare is a cool name
you would have many girls all over you if you where named william shakesphere, and you where doing poetry club and where actually good at it.
Yeah.. My wife would probably not be too happy if I changed my name and started hanging out at a poetry club with lots of other women. I've gotta be honest, I'm too afraid to ask. Changing my name might make it a bit easier to sneak about but I'm not sold on the idea mate.
@@H_cked he said Abraham… where did William come from lmao
Yes. A shame he was killed. Seemed like a decent dude.
@@guest_5992 still, great name for a dead man too
This is why I'm so glad I live in a state where lottery winnings can be collected anonymously. The state has to know for tax purposes, yes, but you're not obligated to show your face or name for the big photo op.
I live in Florida. Don't know if that is an option in my state(?)
I will almost certainly never have to worry about this, but if I were to win the lottery I would absolutely want to remain anonymous for a number of reasons.
The primary reason would be safety, followed by not wanting to be pestered by people who resented my good fortune and wanted to prey on me. And I wouldn't want to be overcharged for everything by people who thought I was just some dumbass who didn't have to work for that money anyway, so I might as well just give it to them because I got it for "free".
What state do you live in?
Even if your face is shown, just don't hang around bad people, or people you know want money from you. It isn't that hard. Bill gates is rich and hated by many and he's fine.
@@brucejohnson9696 It's like that where I'm from, too. You can stay anonymous. It wasn't always that way, though. They changed it because many people complained about the things you said. And about potential murders, of course!
@@brucejohnson9696 unfortunately you can't in Florida.
@@Cbd_7ohm Your advice is very good, practical, common sense.
However, it wouldn't protect a person from certain things like being burglarized, armed robbery, arson, murder, kidnappings, being overcharged etc.
With today's technology it's very easy to find someone if you know their name.
Bill Gates, I believe, has had many problems over the years because everyone knows who he is and that he is very rich.
I believe that there was a plot to kidnap his mother years ago(?)
Also, he has the expense and worry of extra security for his house, armed bodyguards for himself and his family etc.
True, he has so much money he can largely delegate these hassles to other people.
I believe Bill Gates has also had to deal with many incidents of people threatening him and his family and also trying to extort, blackmail him etc.(?)
Hi Dr. Grande. Back in 2006, I was working in Salmon, ID. While at work, a thousand pound beam fell on me and as a result, I became an amputee (my right foot) and my back and hips were messed up. I hired an attorney and seven years later I won a settlement. It took a long time to settle as I had many surgeries and needed time to heal. My settlement was no where close to Abraham’s. Not even one million. But, I feel for him as people I didn’t even know would come to me and ask for money. People would come up to me and want me to pay their utility bills, car payments. Buy their groceries. Pay their mortgage or rent. And they would tell me all kinds of sob stories. It was crazy!!! So sad what happened to him. But I can say first hand, money makes people do crazy things!! I’m glad she was caught. Thanks Doc.
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@Abby Rodrigues Thanks for the info! I’ll do that.
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I'd be pissed. I'd have asked every single one of those where they were while I was on the road to recovery. If they aren't the kind of friends you can call at 3am if have a flat tire then they don't need to be asking for sh!t. If they haven't been calling you on your birthday for at least five years then they shouldn't be asking for sh!t. If some random acquaintance came asking me for money, they'd get their feeling hurt real quick.
bless your heart doll
I read his story in True Detective years back. He would be approached in the grocery store by people wanting him to pay for their groceries. He was low IQ and drank, an easy target for her. These cases highlight the base nature of a big number of people.
Very sad story. He needed an authentic financial advisor and true friends.
He wasn't smart for showing his money.
And he needs to learn to read
Maybe he's not a true friend either. What's money without people to share it with? He just blew it all on himself.
@@walexander8378 I’m betting he shared a lot of $ with drug dealers, strippers & prostitutes
Poor Abraham...
My mom’s uncle won a $32M lottery in the early 1990’s and it caused a lot of division in the family. He was smart with his money. He took the incremental payments, kept working, paid off his 30 year old house and lived like a normal working guy until he passed in 2009. But my grandma (his sister-in-law) started a feud because she felt like he should shell out since they’re family. She, in turn, called him greedy and said he didn’t care about the family, when SHE was the one being greedy. His daughter died in a car accident, so my uncle raised her daughter. We were the same age and lived in the same town, so we grew up close. She never had anything more than I did. He’s buy us ice creams and treat us to the movies and stuff like that, but he wasn’t buying her $300 jeans and *NSYNC concert tickets, I’ll put it like that. But he used to say the worst beggars were the local churches. He was a former Navy sailor covered in tattoos, and pre-lottery, he was too much of a sinner for their comfort. After winning the lottery, it was, “Would you please bless the community with a donation for the kids to go to Bible camp?” 🤢
What happens when you're on payments, and you die? Does the remainder go to your estate? I've always heard if you win the lottery, you should never tell anyone you know.
That’s just terrible 😞
@@EMILY4DAYS I assume that is something that can be addressed in a will or trust.
@@EMILY4DAYS ever. if you can help it 🙏
“fuck the fame and the fortune. well maybe not the fortune…”
Lies
If you win BIG in the lottery, get out of the country and don't tell anyone. Live simple and don't flaunt your wealth.
No reason to leave the country.
YES
This is the best country in the world! It always amazes me how ppl are so quick to say move. All you have to do is move to Wyoming or Montana. Hell I’d move to West Virginia or Kentucky lol just move to a very low key spot
@@Blackcatsaregoodluck11 It won't be the best country in the world much longer if Biden/Harris have their way.
Agent ORANGE 2Q24!!
and you DEF don't hang around Lakeland, FL. This poor guy didn't have a chance.
I've seen a documentary on this man years ago and the situation still brings me to tears. RIP Mr. Shakespeare
The warning about winning lotteries and shady people should also be heeded by folks who get an inheritance. Just saying.
I agree
"The world is full of dangerous people and money often attract them" I agree with your analysis Dr. Grande. This is a particularly sad case...Thank you for all the perfect guidance regarding the " lottery" and have a nice day!
I am from Plant City, Florida.
This was a very sad story. This is a cautionary tale of what can happen when the wrong people are in your life.
Humanity's greed is the undoing for us all.
Wow! Another "Mastermind!" 😂
Thank you Dr.Grande for illustrating the perils of hanging out with scumbags, whether you're wealthy or not.
I find this to be a really sad and depressing case. He didn't do anything wrong, he just got taken advantage of.
He should have never showed his money.
He got what he deserved. He was foolish
@@Blackcatsaregoodluck11 True, he was foolish.
However, he didn't deserve what happened to him.
Being happy about someone else's unjust death will bring you the worst karma possible.
@dražen g How do you know he was humble? Seems likely that he blew it all because he wasn't living very humbly.
@@Blackcatsaregoodluck11 you're a pee pee poo poo head
If we won the lottery (which we won’t bc we don’t play the lottery) we would not tell anyone. My husband & I would try to be wise & truly put forth a plan & a budget. Neither of us are greedy. We aren’t poor. We have extra money after paying bills & it goes to charity.
As for Abraham, my heart broke when I heard this story the first time. That woman should never ever be let out of prison. She took advantage of a kind person.
This is why if you ever win a huge jackpot, hire a lawyer from a good law firm and have them collect things as your representative so people don't know its you who have one, if possible. Some states allow this, some don't. Then go to a good financial firm and have them manage your money. Also a good accountant.
Crucial: make sure all of these people have a last name ending in 'man' or 'berg'
Yeah my big fear of winning the lottery is that any debt you have like medical bills and student loans would try to drag you through the legal system and falsify how much you really owe.
@dražen g Yeah in the states it depends on the state.
@@elperronimo Or it being a large firm that wants clients and not being an actual person can't run off with it rather than an individual.
i believe people can "sniff" money. when i was a kid my neighbour next door won apprx $2.millions . it only took 3 months for people to feel like money's somewhere. i am unsure where he moved to as i was too little to even comprehend the whole thing. but for a somewhat recluse person he started receiving a lot of visit from " relatives"
Im familiar with this really sad case. He was taken advantage of, abused and then discarded. Greed and lust for material possessions drives people to do awful things. Their desire for stuff overrides any respect for life. I find it repulsive.
He was apparently very greedy too, so he should have expected something bad
@@cynthiaschell7246 Where is the evidence that he was greedy? Stop being an ignorant racist. From all reports the man was very generous with his money.
Wow, this guy had everything to live for but trusted the wrong person. Very unfortunate.
Claim via an Irrevocable Blind Trust, move in the middle of the night, take the annuity, don’t tell anyone (including family) and remain anonymous
What if you win in a state that doesn't allow you to remain anonymous?
@@oldenmarlow339 A trust is not anonymous, but you're right, you may have some legal issues and need expert advice.
@@l.w.paradis2108 Why'd you direct this comment to me? I asked a question. I dont even know what a trust is.
@@oldenmarlow339 I'm sorry. Because the first post mentioned the option, I thought you did.
@@oldenmarlow339 you highlighted anonymous so the other commenter assumed you connected blind trust with anonymous.
Sadly money, greed brings out the worst of people. Great video Dr Grande!!!
I heard about the Shakespeare case a few years ago when I listened to a true crime channel. It always broke my heart because you have a man that was a very good person who had a huge heart. I feel that Abraham was absolutely miserable with his money as he realized that the people that surrounded him outside of his mother only hung out with him and supported him because of his money. He seemed to have been the kind of person that loved people regardless of who or what they were and was so desperate to be loved in return that he would ignore the red flags in a relationship just so that he wouldn't be alone. My heart breaks for Abraham. I can only imagine the pain and betrayal he would have felt when he realized that somebody he called a friend was going to kill him. And for what? Money? Money can't buy you happiness, and if it does, it's going to be there only as long as you have money to spend.
If I had known Abraham, I would have advised him to get somebody at the bank to help him with his money. There are people for that.
Was he a good person? He seems very greedy and that's not good
Was he a good person? Did he ever help or give anything to anybody?
How do you know he had a "huge heart," you know nothing about here. Victims aren't always saints just cuz they were a victim of a heinous crime, they just a person.
@@cynthiaschell7246 Are you a racist, Cynthia? Just curious.
@@cynthiaschell7246 Yes he did. There are documentaries about this case where people stood up and said that Shakespeare helped save one of his friend's homes from foreclosure, he gave money to people, I think one of them used Shakespeare to open some kind of business or something. He helped his mother with her home. Many people went to him after he won the lottery and Shakespeare always helped them out until he realized they were using him. Stop being a racist and get out of this thread. I bet that if Shakespeare was a white man that you wouldn't be here.
Dr. Grande I would listen to you read the dictionary. Your voice always calms me and helps me make sense of this wild world. ❤️
That’s the best compliment I’ve seen yet for Dr. Grande’s calming voice. Well done! Love your handle, it’s Absolutely Criminal, hahaha! Touché! ✨🙏✨
"The house is always going to win." What an incredible video, Dr. Grande! As someone who is extremely fascinated with the human brain- yours fascinates me!
I feel so terribly sad for Abraham! He had the sensitivity to know that winning the lottery was a bad thing for his life.
Your analyses are way better than winning a lottery, because lottery win isn’t always a “win” but your videos are always a “win.” 🙌🏼
Thank you as always and I hope you have a great weekend Dr. Grande.❤️
Rejane,love the comment. You have a happy Saturday, I'm enjoying my Sunday 😴
@@cottontails9003 Thank you! Enjoy your Sunday!🥰😘
Poor guy....the lottery winning became a curse instead of a blessing
Great case to talk about Dr. Grande! I always love your witty commentary in every episode!! Love your channel ❤️
I always automatically like Dr. Grande's videos and I never have to go back on that decision.
It's especially galling that 2 of her first explanations for why she had his assets (avoiding child support and buying drugs) were so dependent on racist stereotypes.
She was a murderer and a racist. Great combination. 😑
What happened to Shakespeare is heartbreaking when you consider that he was a good man with a giant heart. He loved people and I feel that he was just so desperate to be loved as well. Unfortunately, there's evil monsters out there that look for this sort of vulnerability and pounce. It's tragic that this happened. This man's death could have been avoided had one person in his life cared more about him and his welfare more than the amount of money he could provide them.
Believing in stereotypes led to his downfall. He was surrounded by his own, but who did he give control over his money?
@@TiffWaffles His mother cared about him, but he did not listen to her. The girlfriend should've seen off Moore, but didn't. Maybe she was afraid of the consequences.
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TY for this. I watched, I think, a days-long interrogation, with this woman, or rather a meeting with the cops on the case, because I think she requested the meeting. (Vain attempt to bolster her innocence) Her circular logic and tone were maddening in the extreme. That she ever thought she had really broke into his "social group", is beyond laughable. That she ever thought she could convince people of her innocence, after it had been proven that she bribed witnesses, is just plain low down ignorant.
I used to have a tshirt in college, that I had made as head of the Econ club, that said “the lottery is a tax on people who are bad at math”.
I do really like how you went over the lottery a bit.
Against incredible odds, I personally know 3 different people who have won large lottery jackpots. Two were guys I was in school with, and one was a neighbor who moved back to the small town where I lived and he grew up in. All of them had happy experiences with their lives after winning those lotteries. The two guys were just high school grads who invested their winnings and live very quiet, comfortable lives. The third one was an executive of a major manufacturing company that won nearing his retirement. He and his wife moved back to my hometown, built their dream home and another next door for their adult daughter who helped take care of her elderly parents. Not all lottery winners end up miserable or dead. But we all prefer to hear about the ones who screw up or end up being murdered.
Interesting, thank you for sharing this.
It turned out great for all three of your friends. I have a friend who spends at least $2,000. a month on lottery tickets. He is NOT doing well, financially. Only won a couple of thousand ONCE. You don't have to go to a casino or racetrack to develop a gambling addiction.
I don't buy your story. You knew 3 people personally who won the lottery? We're talking about $1 million plus right? It's like knowing 3 people who got struck by lightning. 70% of lotto winners go broke. that's 2 out of 3. It's like saying that not ever being involved in a car accident.
I’m glad they’re doing well
@@JustDr.S Allegedly many gamblers were found penniless and dead after suicide in Casino hotels at the beginning of Vegas casinos where the men in charge paid thugs to bury the corpses with money in their pockets in the desert to hide the truth of gambling addictions.
This story is WILD. Thanks for bringing awareness to it, Dr. Grande! Love your work and your calming voice 💜
What an evil and greedy woman.
This poor man needed real friends
Great analysis Dr Grande. I believe that people who win the lottery, should be allowed to remain anonymous. If that had happened, maybe Mr Shakespeare would still be around. That woman who entered his life,was greedy, controlling and had no empathy for murderers this man. Thank you Dr Grande.
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Such a sad story. From other reports everyone said Abraham was a sweet person. He was scammed by a dumb criminal.
If Abraham had been educated he would have been better able to protect himself
She wasn't so dumb...
I live in Pinellas county FL and this was a huge story at the time. Unbelievably cruel crime.
This was a great analysis. I remember seeing DeeDee in an interview on some crime show. She was definitely 2 sandwiches short of a picnic basket! Thanks for another great vid, Dr. Grande.
Oh, I love the BLUE and white checkered shirt! 💙💙😉
“2 sandwiches short of a picnic basket?” 🤔
I am sorry but what does this phrase mean?😟
@@rejaneoliveira5019 Lacking mentally, "crazy" is what that expression means.
@@brucejohnson9696 Oh ok, thank you!😁😅
You mean she was 2 spoons short of a silverware set? Or a couple sparkplugs short of a working engine?
@@parallelsandtangents938🤣 Absolutely! Her elevator doesn't go all the way to the top!
If she picked her nose, her head would cave in.
Fascinating story as always, Dr. Grande; and perfect length to get all my dishes done 😊
Speaking as a recovering addict, I would also add that for someone in active substance addiction, winning the lottery would be a sure death sentence. This is another scenario where I would see things not going particularly well after sweeping the jackpot.
Pleasant surprise to see today's episode so early. Thank you!
Impeccable timing, Dr. Grande. Have a great weekend!
The best advice I've gotten about winning the lottery is "you would need to give up your vices", but now I'm understanding it may be others vices that get you too.
You have got to be the best sycatrist that i have ever come across, your speculation. of people's personalities,motives and disorders etc,.., always seems to be SPOT ON!!! 👍
She was smart enough to talk someone out of his money, and so completely stupid that she got caught. Can't fix stupid.
Dee Dee reminds me of one of those people or relatives who come to your home unannounced, and then because they have no where to go, try to explain to you why YOU need THEM there. They are there because “Someone needs to help you take care of these things in this big house!!” Which would be better phrased “Someone needs to help take these things out of this big house, let me help you.” They also have hides as thick as a Rhinos because they won’t or don’t hear that “It’s time for them to move on,” to some other relative. I never disliked someone so much as I did this Dee Dee woman. She really made Abraham her “mark” and drained him dry. I’m not surprised that she killed him. She probably thought she “deserved” that money for “her services.” Yeah right.
Perfect timing Dr. Grande, I’m about to win the powerball so I needed this advice. 😏
When you get your Powerball winnings do you want to get in on the ground floor and invest in my business idea ?
O.K., you ready for it? Here it is: Porno for blind people.
What do you think ?
Spare £20k for a friend.....?
@@natashabruce9209 20 pounds ? Sure, I'd love to lose 20 pounds. Not sure why you'd want it though. 🤔
@@brucejohnson9696 £20,000
@@watermelonwishes4193 C'mon man, I'm not THAT fat.
In Shirley Jackson's short story "The Lottery" the end result was the same even if the end arrived quicker for the winner.
Maybe if he'd been stoned to death...
do much respect 4 Shirley Jackson. same story everywhere 🔄 😞 on n on iffy group intelligence
Very different Lottery though. Jackson's was more like The Purge if memories from 50 years ago are correct.
@@meumnomen well played. what an extremely unnerving short story!
Yeah
I remember seeing this case on American greed. What a sad story, this guy was really nice, just didn’t have the capacity to stop the vultures. People are despicable.
Good evening Dr. Todd.. always a pleasure to see you.
The lottery curse kinda reminds me of the Alanis morissette song called ironic. The part where she says "he won the lottery and died the next day"
I love Alanis ❤️
Final destination 2 scene
I agree 100% on the lottery. I look at it as a win every time I don't play, which is always.
My grandma won the lottery. The money, the house, the cars and such only lasted a year. We all moved into a mansion, but even the money couldn't help the fact that she just isn't a great person to be around. In the end it caused a huge painful rift in the family and we moved out quick. I went from extreme wealth to poverty as a child, overnight. I have money-related trauma. Afterwards, a 'lovely family' came into her life and swindled her out of the house and money. She had just enough left for a small apartment. My family pays her elderly care bills now. Welp.
Mo' money, mo' problems.
I remember reading about this case a while back. It's so sad, no matter how you look at it. Abraham won an opportunity to live a life he could never have attained on his own given his education and background. And some greedy, evil person stole not only that new life, but his life in general. And for what? To enjoy 1 year of luxury that she didn't earn, win, nor deserve?
Though, listening to Dr. Grande has given me a new perspective on something unrelated to this case. I prefer his acerbic nature to that of other psychologists' Mary Sue/Gary Sue cloying nature (like Dr. Honda and my former therapist). Don't get me wrong, I also enjoy Dr. Honda's content, I just find the dry, slightly caustic wit, like Dr. Grande, to be more trustworthy.
Finding your TH-cam page and later Patreon was like winning the lottery for me in education and entertainment. Thank you for always sharing your insights with us. I absolutely love it.
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I felt so bad for this dude. He probably had a difficult life, actually won the lottery and then gets killed. My friends dad got a settlement for a car accident all all the family turned on him constantly asking for money. He had to stop communicating with some of his family because of it.
He was a generous good man and his friend's greed and selfishness lead to his death. He deserved better!
Exactly!
If this were true he would have given the guy who bought him the ticket a little taste. He only wanted a little. I would have given him one mill no problem. And then managed the rest quietly. But ohhhhh LORD how us monkeys have to prance around like unleashed libidos.
@@j.g.junior9835 Abraham sensed that man's greed and I'm sure he had his reasons. He helped many others with HIS money. The proof is in the actions
@@j.g.junior9835 The man lied about him and said he stole it from his car. And if that were true why only sue for 1 million? Wouldn't you ask for all the money that was stolen from you? I wouldn't give the guy a dime and have him pay for my lawyer's fees just for having the nerve to take me to court and lying about me.
@@j.g.junior9835 If it were the other way around do you think that guy would have given him anything?
As a formerly generous person I can tell you from hard-earned experience that many people don't even appreciate it and take kindness for a weakness, unfortunately.
Nobody has to give anybody anything.
It's their money, they can do whatever they want with it.
You would have given a mil to a guy who sued you and falsely accused you of stealing the ticket out of his wallet ?
Too many people get mad about other people's money and how they choose to spend it.
You say that you would be magnanimous. Do you think most people would be so generous as to give YOU anything ? 🤔
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One thing I learned from bad lottery winners, is that wealth is better when it's accumulated over time, e.g. earned, rather than one giant sum of money at once to people who aren't equipped. Especially if they are younger and burn through the winnings.
Thanks for the financial advice big red machine.
"The world is full of dangerous people, and money often attracts them."
That’s quite a bit of inculpatory evidence. I thought it would never end.
A bang on assessment of lotteries by Dr. Grande.
Reading about or hearing about how lottery winners went on to better their lives and live well and financially sound lifestyles isn't compelling and doesn't feed our envy and desire for Schadenfreude like the story about the couple that wins the multistate lotto get divorced and spend a decade in court tearing each other apart.
I speculated that Dr Grande would be speculating sometime soon today... In a well speculated speculative video in a situation like this; using powerful speculation techniques derived from speculating along with him in his valued, and of course speculative content. Thanks Dr Grande.
... But, to be fair that was all just speculation...
I speculated that someone would make such a speculative comment, but again, that was all speculation.
Winning a lottery with this amount should be collected anonymously + you gotta cut ties with all people you know and move away
Excellent ....a lot of people saw this on TV and we're all excited to hear your clinical analysis🧐🕵️🇺🇲📝👏🌠
One big reason why I would resist any temptation to become a criminal is knowing that if I became too famous Dr. Grande would end up making a video with pretty devastating deadpan jokes about my personal life and honestly I'm not sure I would survive that.
The second crime here is hitting the lottery for $31 million but only walking away with $12 million. Since the lottery is a tax, albeit a voluntary one, the government is involuntarily taxing a voluntary tax. In this case the winner was immediately out nearly $20 million. What a crock.
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Love the channel just want to tell you one thing your audio sounds incredible crystal clear
Oh nice i love this case! RIP Abraham
I once heard that if you ever win the lottery the first thing you should do is change your phone number. That pretty much says it all.
Damn, DeeDee blamed her 14 year old son?! 👀 Her poor kid. I'm glad she has no chance of parole. What she did to Abraham was so cruel, and what she did to her son is unfathomable to me.
The real advice is if you win, don't tell anyone. Or at least, don't tell them how much you won.
I think the lottery is pretty much a bad idea. The people who are addicted win fairly frequently but then lose way more. It doesn’t matter if the win a million dollars. They will lose it fast. People who are financially savvy usually don’t bother to play.
Or on the opposite end of the spectrum in 1988 my friend I was in the Air Force with was the Personal Assistant to the Base Commander. He called her into the office on Monday morning and gave her $5 and told her to go and buy some biscuits because he wanted to shout the HQ staff. As an ex- Air Force chef she thought she'd save him the $5 and rang the kitchen of the Officers' Mess and asked them to make up a morning tea for the boss. She then went in and gave him his $5 back explaining what she had done. At morning tea time he got up and made the announcement he and his wife had won $500 000 on lotto on the preceding Saturday night. The morning tea shout was his definition of really lashing out with the winnings.
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This was an outstanding analysis. And it is true. Most people who win the lottery lose at life.
It’s a good day for a man to wear a navy check shirt. Happy Saturday, Dr Grande! Thank you for your lottery thoughts.
thx very much
IF YOU WIN THE LOTTERY PLEASE HIRE A FINANCIAL ADVISOR OR 2 BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE!!! And don't just hire the first financial advisor you see, research who they are and who else is out there to ensure they aren't taking advantage of you!
Love the consistency of uploads!
The Mary Higgins Clark series of Regan O’Reilly mysteries have a lottery winner support group for just this reason!
Thankfully in the UK you can opt to have no publicity if you win the lottery. It stops the begging letters and other avenues for opportunists to part you from your winnings.
I do enter our lotteries, I'd love to be in a position to support the people and charities I hold close to my heart and its nice to have a day dream about the house you'd buy or the holiday you'd take.
Thank you very much as always Dr. Grande for the very interesting video. :-)
I buy a lottery ticket about once a year and every time I am absolutely convinced, without a doubt, that I am going to win. That couple of days imagining how I will spend my winnings are pure magic until, unbelieveably, my dreams are shattered. it takes me weeks to recover 😂. Very sad story of how greed and corruption caused the death of this, ultimately, poor man 😥.
You sound just like me! I treat myself to a lottery ticket 2 or 3 times a year when I’m really down and need a quick pick-me-up! I love fantasizing about all the friends & family I will share my good fortune with! As to winning - I’ve amassed winnings upward of $4….maybe $6! I think I blew the money on Diet Cokes and a couple Midnight Milky Way bars! 🤑🤑
@@joycewilliams967 Yes! I splurged my one and only lottery win the same day, and had nothing left to show for it! But that $3 ice cream sundae was great!
I stood in line at a convenience store behind a man who purchased food with a government issued food stamp debit card, and then purchased a bunch of lottery tickets with cash. I wasn't sure what to think. On the one hand, he appeared to be selfishly using the "system" to his own advantage. On the other hand, his appearance seemed to indicate that he has had a very rough life, and the lotto seemed to be his only hope in his mind for something better. I was tempted to say something to him about it, however after my initial angry reaction within myself, all I could do was feel sorry for him. I had no right to judge someone I didn't know anything about.
Rule One of winning the Lottery: *Keep your anonymity!*
I’m 67 and would quit my job in a New York minute if I ever won a lottery.
Ya that's pretty funny that someone would take home 12 millhouse and still get up and go to work everyday! 🤥🤭
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Another perfect analysis by Dr Big
I am in gambling Anonymous and today I have 50 days clean I have no need to make a bet because I will never win but I was losing my lives
Thankyou to all
Happy for you :) keep it up!
Keep up the good work! 🙏🏻 Proud of you!
Hello, Dr. Grande. Hope you're doing well! I remember this Case. It's so sad! Thank You!🌞🌞🌞
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This is why you never tell anyone you won the lottery. You keep your private life private.
My mother poisoned me, used my sister to pose as me, after I'd signed deress on POA mom forced me to sign without allowing me to read it. And she lied about what POA meant, and I detected that. And I tasted something mediciny in the food she gave me to eat, just prior to the dirty deed. Didn't eat any, spit out what was in my mouth.
No justice to date. Former judge Maureen Coffey almost released access to archived documents on trust, but then turned to me and said " your mother loves you, I know, I have kids". She refuses to talk to me now.
Hello you are right?
Hahaha.."it would be a short book". You always make me laugh..thank you for that.
My sole experience with any lottery win was decades ago with the NJ Lottery (Dr. G's favorite US state!). My then girlfriend's youngest brother sadly was mildly retarded plus an epileptic and forced to live at home in the care of his parents. The one thing this brother did was weekly play the NJ lottery religiously but had to name his father as guardian or whatever due to his condition. Back in those days the lottery commission actually called their home, asked for the father and announced the big win and the father immediately went into cardiac arrest. He did recover somewhat but after the ambulance and treatments.........so I concur with Dr. Grande on state lotteries being a very poor 'investment' for his reasons and this sad experience. Jim C.
I never feel sorry for any woman who cries once she's asked questions
Abraham Shakespeare. What a name. All that glitters is not the better angels of our nature.
Did HE do something wrong?
Geez....that is really sad. I can't imagine coming into that much money. (I won $98 on a Super Lotto ticket last week and was over the moon...) She's a real piece of work and she's right where she belongs. Unfortunately, there were a lot of fake friends around him that used him for money. RIP Abraham.
In the State of Florida the winners have to be known by everybody that was a big mistake if you win the lottery tell nobody
I adore you Dr Grande !!Thanks again💋
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I don't see how anybody after taxes could even blow through 5 million within 10 years or even 20 years if they didn't owe a bunch of debt or anything previously. I know many people say "If I won it would be different" but it truly would for me I believe. You don't need a multi million dollar house or cars above 50k or clothes costing hundreds of dollars or even $50 for a T-Shirt. I could I guarantee make even 4 million last the rest of my life if not much less. If houses are too expensive where you are move away till they are not. Of course I'd buy stuff I normally wouldn't but I would not crank it up and just blow and go. I'd personally never buy a lotto ticket though or gamble so it just wouldn't happen.
I ❤ thrift stores!
If I hit it big I'd have houses full of thrift store treasure!!🛋🪑
That's right. First rule of Vegas: The house ALWAYS wins.
If you could beat the house, there wouldn’t BE a house.
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Lakeland resident here!
Thank you for the superb video.
How are you doing pretty woman hope you are safe there 😘