I went back to my ex. After he wanted us to be an item again, I was on board but with many conditions. Everyday we are working on ourselves and we are putting us together first before individuality. Until now, it’s working great. For friendship, I am not closed to the idea of forgiveness. People make mistakes. But at one point, some people will never change and I am in no predisposition to be hurt again and again. I wish them the best tho.
For the sister in the dilemma, it helps to also join societies in universities, maybe join the subcommittee. These people can easily become friends because you plan events and do so much for the society together. There is always something to talk about to start a convo and ultimately a friendship.
Wow this came right on time. You guys always come with real solid insightful advice from all angles/perspectives. We love to see it. Sheer excellence 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🔥🔥💪🏿
I really resonated with the dilemma. I also have always been that “awkward, nerdy black girl” and making friends/finding my people especially in my mid 20s has been so challenging. Moving someplace new as a solution has always been in the back of my mind and you both just reaffirmed that for me!
Per usual thank you both for a very insightful episode 👏🏽👏🏽. I’m currently going through this season. To add to the conversation, something I’ve learned that is detrimental to relationships are assumptions versus expectations. Meaning assuming based on past behaviors or length of a relationship how someone will respond or behave in the future instead of how they are in the moment and their actions in the present. Also having expectations about how you expect to be treated or shown up for without actually communicating it to that person. Or automatically thinking because you treat a person a certain way then they should automatically treat you the same way. Which can cause a rift in the relationship. To the sisters out there going through the reconciliation process stay strong and don’t be afraid to lean into the uncomfortable feeling. For there lies the compass for where the breakthrough!
amazing and right on time. Trying to reconcile with someone who let me know they “used to” resent me…even though we are cordial now, I still truly feel like they do.
When I say this message was for me, I mean it! Especially the parent part! I wish you had given more practical aspects in evolving forgiveness with parents and familial bonds!
I went back to my ex. After he wanted us to be an item again, I was on board but with many conditions. Everyday we are working on ourselves and we are putting us together first before individuality. Until now, it’s working great.
For friendship, I am not closed to the idea of forgiveness. People make mistakes. But at one point, some people will never change and I am in no predisposition to be hurt again and again. I wish them the best tho.
For the sister in the dilemma, it helps to also join societies in universities, maybe join the subcommittee. These people can easily become friends because you plan events and do so much for the society together. There is always something to talk about to start a convo and ultimately a friendship.
I'll try to find some problem is I go to a private uni there is no like societies etc... Like we barely have anything honestly. 😭😭😭😭
Wow this came right on time. You guys always come with real solid insightful advice from all angles/perspectives. We love to see it. Sheer excellence 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿🔥🔥💪🏿
I really resonated with the dilemma. I also have always been that “awkward, nerdy black girl” and making friends/finding my people especially in my mid 20s has been so challenging. Moving someplace new as a solution has always been in the back of my mind and you both just reaffirmed that for me!
Per usual thank you both for a very insightful episode 👏🏽👏🏽. I’m currently going through this season. To add to the conversation, something I’ve learned that is detrimental to relationships are assumptions versus expectations. Meaning assuming based on past behaviors or length of a relationship how someone will respond or behave in the future instead of how they are in the moment and their actions in the present.
Also having expectations about how you expect to be treated or shown up for without actually communicating it to that person. Or automatically thinking because you treat a person a certain way then they should automatically treat you the same way. Which can cause a rift in the relationship.
To the sisters out there going through the reconciliation process stay strong and don’t be afraid to lean into the uncomfortable feeling. For there lies the compass for where the breakthrough!
amazing and right on time. Trying to reconcile with someone who let me know they “used to” resent me…even though we are cordial now, I still truly feel like they do.
When I say this message was for me, I mean it! Especially the parent part! I wish you had given more practical aspects in evolving forgiveness with parents and familial bonds!
Oh my gosh this was my dilemma thank you ladies
Sis who sent through the dilemma, girl are you still in uni? Around where in Joburg are you? From a sis also looking to connect and make friends. ❤
I am in JBH still in uni second year
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I didn't think y'all would respond 🫂🫂🫂🫂
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