What would you do if you suddenly found yourself with 1 Million dollars TOMORROW? How would you spend it, and who would you hide from? Best comment wins THIS cookie. 🍪
My question is why didn't the husband punch that Uncle in his jaw for slapping his wife? And I was her, those other would've got nothing thanks to their parents behavior! I would've disowned everyone of them!😡
@@chasebowman9815 by the caliber of people they’ve already shown themselves to be they would most likely sue her if she punched them, even if it was self defense.
@@PrivateMrs.T 🤔could he sue her if the husband would've popped him one good time for hitting her? I mean especially since her and her husband agree that it's "HER" money instead of "their" money? Asking just in case this happens to me. Lol
@@johnreed9050 Or maybe we could have faith in humanity and do an actual positive relationship. Although from my perspective the husband and wife a team and as such the money is 'our' money. However, all purchases should be agreed upon.
@@johnreed9050 Why would he do that? From his perspective that would be like throwing half the money he has access to away, together with his wife and lots of friends and family who won't like him very much afterwards.
One of the corporate lawyers I know does this. He and his wife have very standard but nice cars and live in a modest home. He and I got chatting about vacations one day and that's where I learned he spends his money. He takes his kids and wife on very nice vacations every year. I'm also pretty sure that his grandkids have amazing trust funds set up.
I worked for an old man that drove an Oldsmobile junker of a car, wore suits that looked like they came from goodwill but, my checks never bounced. I found out later that all of his grandkids had $20+ million trust funds, his wife and he went to Paris, Cancun, anywhere they wanted and they'd take the kids and grandkids too. None of his brothers or sisters knew though.
@@FoxyMomma4ever There's a great article on the internet somewhere. Some lady left some bird feeders on her porch. At first, the birds came and went. Then, they all moved in under the porch and started crapping everywhere. Then, they would get loud and noisy and dive bomb this woman when the feeders ran out. She ended up removing the feeders and her porch has never been more peaceful. Made me think of that.
Tell me about it what are they eating caviar for diner and Kobe steak? Your mortgage is paid off your kids college fund is paid off why are you not saving 70% of your salary ? There poor personality wise so will always be poor even if they have money as will spend it all and be poor again.
My aunt once told me she wouldn’t want to win the lottery, because everyone would be after her money. I said You can just give it to me. She said See, it’s already started!!! 🤣🤣🤣
That is why in some states like the state of California you can have your name removed from the winning announcement to protect yourself from anyone you don't want to know that you won money. You can also have a 3rd party like an attorney claim the money in your place.
My wicked stepmother came into a million dollars a few years ago. It made the online edition of the newspaper. She was quoted as saying people would be coming out of the woodwork. I left a message there, that I wasn’t going to ask for anything, but wished her well. My father had died years before. Trust me when I tell you, she didn’t deserve that respect.
Exactly, she has already been extremely generous and people should be thankful without expecting anything more than she has done!! It is HER money, and if she wants to wipe her ass with 100 dollar bills, that's her prerogative (and I bet that greedy ass family would be brawling for thos poo 💩 covered 100's too🤣
I agree, she did more for "the family" than most would ever even think of doing especially considering they are not a close knit family, it's one thing for someone to do something like what she did of her volition vs someone thinking they are entitled to a "share" of money they had not earned just because a family member did earn it.
The uncle that slapped her knew what he was doing. His aim was for her to hit him back so he could sue for assault charges so he would get that money any way. She was super smart to have the cops there to prevent her retaliation.
great point but im sure the courts etc would see that it was self defence and his claim would have failed especially if it was on camera that he struck first
@@marywebb_22 it doesn't matter if he knew or not and it dont matter if there was a 100 people there. She stated the cameras could see and hear. Hearing alone puts all these people in trouble after they demand money from her lol they all should be arrested for extortion except op and her husband.
My friend always was bugging me to agree to pay him if I ever won the lottery, so I made up giving him a million in cash, and his next co-driver Did win a million, and paid off my friend's pick-up truck of $25,000. Then the same guy won $40,000 on a gambling boat!
I would be happy for a car. Not even a new one but an old car. Actually a 1978. With a bit for license plate and other transfer expenses only. I will pay everything else. I just would be extremely great full for it.
exactly my thoughts but probably because she loves the kids and it seems she does not have kids her own (yet) maybe she loves these nephews and nieces more and the rest of the family did stay away and did cut ties a long time ago and are only coming back now since they heard of money... disgusting people...
@@Ozziecatsmom I don't have kids either but I allways think how I could help make a collegefund for my nephiew and help my closest friends with their problems
@@Ozziecatsmom not sure if you're joking because when I fantasize about winning it that's what I do, guesstimate how much I'd give family and friends. That way I have a ballpark on how much I can blow on other stuff.
Tony Blake Nope, not joking! I also think about which charities I'd give to, my local dog and cat rescues coming in first. I also day dream about driving up to my sister's in a purple car for her. That's her favourite colour and I don't think she'd get one even if she could afford it.
I would tell some people. People I can trust. An if anyone started getting greedy, I'd just cut them out of my life. Part of the problem they made, was being super generous right from the start. Without even being like "Yo we didn't have to do this, but we thought it'd be nice to bless y'all. We can't really do this all the time or for everyone, but...we decided to do something nice for y'all" INstead it was more like "YOu didn't treat us the best and we're just giving money away to ALL family members. Because we can." If you let people think they CAN be Entitled, they WILL be entitled often times. Personally tho, when I dated a girl who had more money than me...I never tried to hit her up for money. I never just expected her to pay for all my meals. Anything she gave me I saw as a gift freely given, and NOT an entitlement. Surround yourself with the kind of people who care for People more than Money. Who know that you don't owe them your wealth.
She needs to let it rain restraining orders, pressing charges, cutting them off, and exposing their asses on social media. Go nuclear! Or Better yet, atomic!
Grateful or not, you can't give people things without expecting something in return. If you do, they will end up being entitled and demand more and more from you. You will hinder them.
It's gotta be at least high six figures. She paid off mortgages for several homes and put aside money for a college education for about 13 kids. For 5 years of education im guessing the amount would be around 100k assuming 20k a year seems pretty normal for a in state non private college.
I knew a person who won a large amount of money from the lotto. Just like you relatives and non relatives came out of the woodwork demanding money. He simply told them that ALL of it was invested and he had no control or access to it. Ended the problem.
People are ghouls. A story of many years ago....My mum's grandfather passed away. My mum the eldest of the family went to the grandfathers house to get his goods and chattels for lack of better words. All the ( or most of ) grandma's jewellery was already gone to the vultures, virtually overnight. The few pieces that were found including a pair of gold teardrop earrings ( very old ) that were left behind as one of the ghouls had given them the tooth test and found they were not solid gold. They left teeth marks in both earrings thus destroying them and threw them back in the box. To this day my mum still has them. Note: they were indeed quite valuable ( she had them valued for curiosity sake,value B4 the damage ) . The ghouls through their selfishness and ignorance discarded value. Those earrings are still stored safely away. Ain't Karma wonderful !!!
@@jackreacher3499 Depends on the amount of alloy in the gold. Much less than 22 kt and you will break your teeth without marking it. You see a lot of scenes in TV and movies biting gold to see if it is real, but in reality back when people used to do that (gold coins actually being in circulation) they weren't biting to see if it was gold, they were biting to make sure it wasn't gold plated lead. If your teeth left clear marks on it then it was BAD.
Having paid off their mortgage, their kids college, etc, was already very generous and kind of her. To demand her to pay for an expensive vacation for them is incredibly fd up. Really! What greedy, ungrateful rats!
@@mflax4331 Well probably wouldn't go so far , but they be distant distant relatives, I'm gonna change my phone number and not even let them know where I really live, if you be a nuisance with me I'm gonna hide from you like The face of God when you've been sinning!
The point lost on the BIL and SIL is: when someone gives you money, you thank them graciously. You do NOT ask them for money or even demand money from them.
Right? If I had a family member with money and they were generous like that (college funds etc), if I needed money for something and wanted it from them particularly, I'd bring up a LOAN. It's not my money. I didn't earn it.
This is the OPs fault. It's what she gets for trying to play savior. Her arrogance, disguised as goodwill, is what created the situation. You cannot start handing out money and expect the whole world not to line up. So instead of making life better for everyone in her extended family she has now divided it. When you give stuff to people, especially those who aren't asking for it or appreciative of it, you end up spoiling them and they become entitled.
@@raulcastro3277 The OPs experience proves me right whether you like it or not. You can't change human nature. It was her arrogance that led her to believe she could make Peeples lives better by giving them stuff, then some of them threw it in her face. Her guilt will lead her to keep "helping" and thus keep dividing because it's apparent none of them will ever be satisfied let alone grateful.
I've heard about one woman in USA who won the lottery and started to buy houses for a lot of people until he spent everything. She asked for help to those people she helped and they didn't.
@@Francisco-mn7gt That is just heart breaking and awful. Unfortunately, you have to invest wisely in the right people. Otherwise you'll have nothing to show for your efforts. I've learned that the hard way. Honestly the whole "Giving money to teachperson asking for help", is one f the big parts of the so called Lottery Curse where you end up WORSE off. People just get a ton f people asking for help, they spend it on people who are just there to party an leech. etc. Then by the time taxes are done, suddenly you have very little to show for all your efforts, if you don't end up bankrupt for failing to save for taxes. One of the things you're supposed to Master in order to be happy with that money, is LITERALLY learn how to say no, without saying no. Like "Hmmm....I;ll think about it. Can you give me a week to think it over?" If someone doesn't need it like most, they never show up again. If they come back, chances are they DO need it and are willing to do what it takes to get it. One rich guy won the lottery and got screwed over by people so bad...he got POOR. He LOST a bunch of money, even though he knew how to invest it. Polce would bully him for money. People wouldn't just accept "y'all stole it from me." etc. An if you want to help a larg amount of people, you're going to have to do it in a way to fight something Systemically. Like bribing the city to create a safe little area for homeless people, for example.
@@TheAyanamiRei I think your system of delaying the answer would only work if you aren't rich and those people are good ones, when you have money people see in you an easy way to fix their problems, family or friend. One friend asked for money in a bad moment in his life and when he was ok and I needed help, asked for my money back and refused. 2 cousins travel thousands km. to visit one of our aunts who was in the hospital dying just to make sure she wrote a testament, as soon as she could talk and said she did, they left, didn't call to know about condition, didn't call when she died, didn't come for the funeral, just the money the cared about. If I won the lottery, I'd do my best to hide it from everybody. Easy for me cause I moved alone to another country 😉😉😉.
@@Francisco-mn7gt The 1 week rule isn't perfect, but it's definitely a fantastic defense against strangers at the very least. As with anything involving humans there will ALWAYS be exceptions to the rules. Though it IS recommended that you keep your status as a Lottery Winner on the Down Low, or just getting a bunch of money unexpectedly. There was a guide made that was created to help you survive winning the lottery. Since a lot of times you'll be killed by your family members trying to take your money. To say nothing for all the other issues. One smart think they could do, is to put down a downpayment. To pay only enough to pay off the house in monthly installments. Then you could write up a lease to rent to own, where once they pay you enough you give them the house. It'd be a great way to bless someone, but it'd also mean they couldn't take advantage of you. nor you them. (Seriously rent to own can be SUCH a scam unfortunately) An even if it's not your own family....it could be friends of your family. Friends of the granddaughter who was getting a big fat allowance from the grandfather...they pumped her full of info. Then they robbed and maybe killed the grandfather to get money, which wasn't even much if anything at all. Though I can't remember if the guy died or not. Or maybe it was a niece. But it's just a good example. It's honestly scary what some people will do for money. Also REALLY sickening as well.
Had a friend come into money. I was there when it happened. I flat out told him don't let anyone know you have this, just spend only a little extra on yourself over time and no one will be the wiser. He didn't listen to me. Now, the two of us hung out in mostly different circles of friends, I was aquaintance level at best with a few of the circle he hung out with. He said it was no big deal, nothing would change with his close buds. Yeah...within a week his 'close buds' were asking him for money, by the end of a month he had to cut ties with all of them. His own family was haranging him for cash too. After 7-8 months he moved out of state, changes his numbers, didn't tell anyone about his new job, etc. The only one he still talks to is me and his sister, I was shocked to hear the two of us were the only people who never asked him for money. All this from what was honestly not a lot of money. He only found himself suddenly flushed with 'buy 3 houses' money. Which is what he did, one to live in, two to rent as supplementary income while his job generates his actual income. It is incredible how people are more like guppies than they would want to admit.
I had to cut off some of my mother’s side of family especially after she died. They were very phony with grieving and they stole what little money she saved for my son and I as well as her meds. I was even threatened to see a picture of her dead body because she overdosed and my husband had called them out on it. Should I ever come into money they’d be around and only get 🖕from me
$35,000 is insane for a vacation! $35,000 is a good down payment for a house or money for a good kitchen/bathroom renovation, something that would improve your life and be an investment. The entitlement to expect someone else to pay for a vacation at that price is astounding and worse when you consider that OP paid off their mortgage and is putting their 5 kids through college. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I don't agree with that. If she was close with them and wanted to help, it's her money she can do whatever. I'm not mad my two rich uncles don't spend a dime on me (even when they come for Christmas and we all exchange gifts). It's theirs. My feelings used to get hurt bc I truly love my family but decided it was not worth getting upset over because I don't see them enough to let it bother me. Even if I'm bringing him something, that was my choice, he didn't ask for that. Rich or not being descent is great. It's harder to stay rich if you give everyone everything though.
I agree. She should’ve tried an anonymous donation (may have been difficult given that it was several family members). Most people will respect boundaries and not act crazy like this family, but it’s better to be safe. People go nuts if they see an easy fix to their money woes and wants. They lose all pride at the hope of a get rich quick scheme.
Don't you dare give another child college money. After treating you so badly. Have nothing to do with BIL or SIL they're trash. Surprisingly their kids sound wonderful!!! Take care. 😷😎😷
NOBODY should ever expect someone else to pay for their vacations, mortgages or college. You were very generous. This is why I don’t know if I would help if I ever obtained that kind of financial success.
After all this woman did I can't believe that this SIL is still trying to get MORE. she's disgusting. Good for OP saying No And the others that called later are just as gross as the other greedy ones. I would cut off anyone that feels entitled to anything. I also love that she gave them the same quote they gave when OP and hubby needed help. I pray she dosen't give into any of the demands. Stay strong
In elementary school....I had started giving a poor girl in my class a nickel for juice or milk money.... (yes I am aging myself...lol).....UNTIL she showed up to one of my classes....had me go to the classroom door to find she had her hand out demanding “her” nickel she felt was due her....needless to say...that was the end of that....even as a 3rd grader I was well aware I was being used.....sad....but when someone is kind to you....you should never take that for granted....nobody owes you a damn thing...:(
When I was an intern teacher, I did the same thing! The other teachers warned me, but I didn't listen. But, I learned to listen! I gave the kids food instead of money. They never bothered me again.
Ah yes remind me my 4th grade some kids asked me for mh dollar so they buy cookies. They never share them with me, when I mentioned they owes me a dollar, they say what dollar? That is when I quickly cut them off immediately never talk with them again. Same thing when people borrow my pencil for class, I made this rule, I never tell anyone. If they never give back my pencil, if they say honestly they forgot it. I will forgive them to give my spares pencils. But when they tells a lie like I did give you my pencil back. Seriously you can't lie in front of me like that. Sadly not once, that anyone tell me the truth, I do have another option for them to buy a pencil from me instead or give me a replacement pencil what they lost or borrow. Man glad I have this mind set early on, expect giving some money part.
The extended family really blew me. Like where do you get off demanding hundreds of thousands of dollars from someone you barley know or talk to. ESPECw11IALLY since you've refused and talked down to them when they asked for help in the past. I could understand if they were just asking OP to help with college, but what they did was truly despicable.
@@jasondyrkacz8270 I hope he loses more then money. Half to Melissa and he's still a billionaire. I want to hear some juicy stories about the "REAL BILL GATES" though I'm not holding my breath.
OP is not the one ripping the family apart, the families own greed and sense of entitlement is doing a good job of that. She needs to stand her ground. And if she has to cut a few people out of her life, better yet.
@Gerard Rietdijk Agreed. This is a no win situation, if you give anything to them they will keep demanding money until they bleed you dry. They have already resorted to physical intimidation and force, so there is no chance they would see a penny. Easier not to give anything and move away from everyone. As for SIL, she would not get a cent going forward for causing all of this. Her kids would still get the college funds, but she and her husband would see nothing else. What a selfish piece of work.
@Gerard Rietdijk Yeah, but given their level of entitlement (who plans a $35k vacation) they are probably still expecting money. This may include running up debt thinking the OP will help. That said, the kids seem innocent and shouldn't be punished due to the stupidity of their parents.
@ EXACTLY! The problem was that she let them think that was NORMAL. That she felt OBLIGATED or whatever. She should have let them know early on it was a GIFT. That she didn't have to, but wanted to. Doubly so if you be extra nice to someone who was mean to you, without even calling them out. First impressions mean a lot, and once an idea gets into smeone's head, it can be hard to extract it
@@nikitajessen5812 Probably because he doesn't want to call them that. Your 'real family' don't do no shit like this. Case in point: the nieces and nephews came to stay with their aunt and uncle after their mom showed her true colors. Jealousy knows no bounds🤷
Having horrible family members in combination with joining the military, I have learned that just because you are kin doesn’t mean you are family. Shout out to my brothers and sisters across all branches!!! Semper Fidelis
that is correct, not all kin are family and not all family are blood. I think the real kicker for me is when she relates the story of what she was told years back when she asked for help. And reflected on that back at those who said it. Those people aren't family.
There has to be a part 3 to this where she presses charges and gets restraining orders against the family members that ganged up on her. I hope the uncle that hit her gets a long jail sentence.
It's great that OP's money showed the true colors of some of her family members. That's good to know as early as possible so you don't waste your time and energy (and money) with these horrible greedy people.
I remember this story. OP should press charges on all the family members who were the aggressive assholes that invaded her lawn. They chose to cause a fissure in the whole family by being greedy, especially the punch crazy uncle who is apologizing out of desperation to avoid prison.
She has the money I think if she ever chooses to pursue that course of action. I do think they need to suffer the consequences of their actions and live with it. The ultimate slap in their greedy faces seeing that they will get nothing and always have the money out of their reach.
Yes, she should press charges but this is the OPs fault. It's what she gets for trying to play savior. Her arrogance, disguised as goodwill, is what created the situation. You cannot start handing out money and expect the whole world not to line up. So instead of making life better for everyone in her extended family she has now divided it. When you give stuff to people, especially those who aren't asking for it or appreciative of it, you end up spoiling them and they become entitled.
She should send out an announcement to all those family members who showed up "The day you showed up to my home, I was just coming back from my financial advisor where we were in the process of setting up college and vacation funds for you and your children. Your behavior that day was reprehensible and as I don't want to seemingly give in to your threats, I contacted my advisor and canceled those plans. This decision is final. Do not contact me again" That way it seems that they are the cause of not getting the money.
The only problem with that is you're punishing the kids for the actions of their parents. You could be literally changing the course of their lives. Specially after already announcing that you'd be doing this. The OP would literally be spiteful by doing what you suggest. Not a good look.
@Muskoka Mike It's not "punishing the kids". It is not her responsibility to set up their college fund, it is the kid's parents who need to do that. If they can't afford to, that is still on them. She doesn't owe them anything. Them believing she does show their horrible, selfish, entitled, greedy moral character.
It has nothing to do with money, and everything to do with her awful behavior. "The bully keeps slapping me until I agree to lick the bottom of his shoe" "Why didn't you just lick his shoe?"
Too much generous. I had a friend I was always helping more than with money was by driving him somewhere or spending time with him (scared of being alone). One day being drunk he admitted what I was suspecting, he was bad talking about me and my personal problems with his friends, I cut contact with him and he doesn't understand why. One common friend admitted that was happening but did not admit she was also involved, when she did, blamed me for what they were talking on my back 🤨🤨🤨. Also cut with her.
@@andyandy2498 If I was generous I'd make it a point that they couldn't talk about it with anyone else. Just "Hey a friend did this" or "A generous donor saw I was struggling and helped me out with a financial gift!" type of thing. If it was someone I REALLY trusted, a member of my inner most circle who has really stuck by me? THat'd be different. I have a friend that'd just be grateful for anything I could do to help his crappy situation. Whether it was set up an allowance for housing, or paying for him to get certified in WHATEVER for him to get a job with less BS. He's treated me to things and I ALWAYS make it a point for anything he does. Whether it's a ride or what. I know he's going out of his way or spending hard earned money. I'd certainly pay him back for his kidness. I got this GF who has told me that's FAR rather have me in her life than money. That money doesn't buy me happiness, but I make her happiness. I know she hates gifts, so I'd probably just spend money on visiting her an other stuff. For some that;s all you need to do, is just fly over to visit them. Then you'd have a lovely time together. You could even rent a place if you needed or wanted to! Get some souveniers. Pay for some meals. Nothing super big, just "Oh I got some money for a vacation, but there was extra money. So I decided to use it to come see you"
I don't understand. The SIL has a job, no mortgage or rent, no college tuition costs, but she hasn't been able to save and invest her money well enough for her fancy vacay?
With the amount they are saving with nor mortgage payment nor no need to save money for college... they could probably take 1-2 years and save for that $35,000 vacation. (though why would someone spend that on a vacation is beyond me)
I feel so bad for the rich woman’s struggle. That family is absolutely insane, and I’m hoping she is still alive and well and far away from those people. Maybe hired security guards.
She needs to stand her ground. I didnt lay out the money she did but I laid out over 1.5 million this is a huge amount to me. When money was flowing I had people stopping by all the time But after i finally got them to understand there is no more to give away i have not heard from any of them for over 7 years. This all got started by my parents they would get the money from me and give to them first older brother and sister then to nieces and nephews. It got to the point they were giving away more of my income then I was keeping for myself. I don't care how close you think you are with your family when it comes to free money for them they will suck the life blood out of you and then kick you to the curb like a worthless empty McDonald's soda cup.
It's important that people don't know how much money you have. The greedy people will try to turn you into a soft touch. And when you pick up the check all the time it can make the less affluent friends uneasy or embarrassed.
Something similar happened to a friend of mine, who at the time was just 22 years old. When her father died, she got an inheritance of $200,000. She went around telling everyone and of course, everyone wanted to be her friend and family started coming out of the woodwork. She foolishly gave away money, paid car notes, rent or mortgage payments, and anything else these people asked her to pay. 7-months later, she was flat broke and couldn't even pay her own car note and none of those people would help her out.
Do NOT pay for those other kids!! They need to learn how being kind and humble pays off and that threats and violence doesn't get them anywhere. It was your choice to do what you wanted with your earnings. Stay classy. And as for your husband, don't let go of that guy he is a class act on his own. Best wishes for you and your family.
This is why when you win the lottery or otherwise come into a lot a wealth, you hire a CPA immediately and file that shit away into trust funds. For only the people you trust the most. Don't tell anyone about it and live life the way you want to. Money brings out the worst in people around it.
I've said hit the lottery? Three calls: cpa, junk yard dog personal lawyer, tax lawyer. Would try to keep it to myself and disappear as much as possible. Why do you think the wealthy live in gated communities? This would be one big reason why.
This reminds me of stories you hear about in places with heavy starvation. Some group shows up and helps feed as many as they can and the people are grateful. Before long the people are no longer grateful, instead they complain the food they are being given isnt what they want or its not enough. The people no longer thank the group for helping them but now consider it the groups responsibility to give them the food they deserve. Theres the old saying; Give a man a fish and he can eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he can eat for a lifetime. Its wrong, it should read; Give a man a fish and he will be back with his friends tomorrow for more fish. Try to teach a man to fish and he will complain that you should just give him some fish. Better yet just give him money, then he can get fish, beer and cigarettes. He then hints about borrowing your car for a few days
No, you've got it wrong. It goes like this - give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day; teach a man to fish and he'll spend the rest of his life bobbing about on a boat with his mates drinking beer.
@@andystokes8702 One of these reddit videos (probably r/tihi) had this gem: "Give a man a fish and he'll feed his family for a day; give a man a poisoned fish and he'll feed his family for the rest of their lives!" Sorry.
There was never there to begin with when you listen. They hated them. Had no sympathy. Right up until they had lots of money and then SUDDENLY "Oh yeah we need money. An since we decided to be nice to you now, you need to give us lots of it" It's greed at it's finest. The reason why so many wrongs are committed. When Love of Money > Love of People.
Why would this family assume they have any right to the money this woman made especially when they weren't there to lend a helping hand when her family was in dire straights years ago? just because someone you know has money or came in to an inheritance (or whatever) does not mean you should have your hand out. Earn your own money and stop expecting others to take care of you. The audacity of these people astounds me. You can't order someone to give you money just because you want it. If you earned it that's one thing but other than that you should be happy for that person and leave it alone. My gosh! Such greedy people. I really hate that.
don't make social media posts about purchases/upgrades etc either. it gets used as guilt fuel. "well you guys bought _______ so you should be able to help us out with some $$$$"
Don't be a damned fool, do NOT give one cent to any of them or their grandkids. Go NC and get court orders for them to stay away from you. Press charges against the fool who hit you.
"You can afford it" isn't a valid reason to pay for something, even though "you can't afford it" is a valid reason not to. My condolences, but at least you've learned what being generous will get you.
She feels bad that she isn’t standing out for them, but she needs to remember, that they dont stand out for her, before or after. And while being the better person is being above that, it also means not letting them get their way and destroy you. They are no longer family, for they removed themselves when they stopped treating you as family, and instead as gold enriched dirt.
A heads up for anyone who’s comes into money. Tell no one not even your spouse and first hire a lawyer that won’t let you hand out huge amounts of money then let people if you want to. Eventually your spouse would know so just tell them after the lawyer. Nobody can manage money when you think you have enough to spend 10,000 a day.
For the Karen Shout me out impression I think they should have said "YOU'D BETTER SHOUT ME OUT OR I'M REPORTING YOUR CHANNEL FOR INFRINGING MY RIGHTS!"
The last thing I would do Is let anyone in my family know I came into money The worst mooches in the world is family members Trust me I know from experience
Yeah, this isn't anything new, apparently. From stories my Grandma told me when I was a kid, this was standard behavior towards rich relatives, in olden times. My Grandpa was the only son of an extremely rich man. My Great Grandfather was also an only child so my Grandfather ended up inheriting all the family wealth. My Grandma was also from an extremely well off family. So we were financially stable. My Grandpa decided to relocate our family to a big city because he was a lawyer and he wanted more opportunities than he would get in his village. At this time two of my Grandfathers cousins, from his mother's side, came and asked him to split all of his wealth into two and give a part to each of them. Their logic was that my Grandma was just as rich as Grandpa and nobody needed that much wealth. And since he was going to make big bucks as a lawyer, he could afford to give all of his money away. Grandpa had bought them each new houses and a few acres of land the year before. And it wasn't like they were suffering for money or struggling to make ends meet. They were comfortably middle class, just not wealthy. Well Grandpa refused. They said that they deserved a share and Grandpa told them that his wealth was from his father's side and they were on his mother's side of the family. They didn't deserve anything and he wouldn't give anything. They tried everything, from water works and guilt trips to curses and abuse. Grandpa left with our family and they never saw each other again. Good riddance, Grandma always said.
Kudos. How can a man raise their hand to a woman like that, all the while trying to steal all her money as a horde. Disgusting avarice empowered humans. I would predict apx. $420-500 mil. was her financial gain.
Absolute truth, it destroyed my dad's family 40 years of bickering, arguing, and flat out being nasty to one another. Aunts (mostly) speaking ill of my family (we were the black sheep). I broke away from the family and joined the military for the next 20yrs. I wanted NOTHING to do with the money. I instead made my own and proud of it. My general rule is: DO NOT let anyone know your networth!! Be humble and be a "secret santa" year round. I give in smaller increments, its harder to track it. Last, it never stops amazing me how people become entitled for your hardwork. Also, if you do run into money...quickly get a lawyer and file a living trust.
My dad told me as a kid, a millionaire lived down the street from him. The guy lived in a nicer mobile home and drove a Volkswagen. That was his life. What would I do if I’d won the money? Probably be very conservative. But, at the same time, remember you can’t take it with you. It’s still important to bless others. Just find discrete ways of doing so.
Wait, she already paid off their mortgage, put their kids through college and now they expect her to fork out for their ridiculous holiday?! That’s insane!
OP you have been extremely over the top generous to your family, and a friends. Stick to your guns and keep saying NO, to that entitled brats of a SIL and BIL. OP your not an ATM, also OP NTA.
She should stick to paying for the ones she likes, and disowning the ones she doesn't, as they've shown their true colours alright! Cheeky baskets, the lot of them, a family of vultures!
Honestly in the same boat and I agree, not that I have money or anything but our family was torn apart over the inheritance from my grandparents. It ended up being family against family. So my parents and us decided to break all ties with the large family and we haven't had anything to do with them since, we live our own lives and do our own thing and we refuse to ever get together on a holiday or vacation or anything, from our perspective we have no family and those members don't even exist. We decide who is family and who isn't, I don't care if blood or marriage is involved, its still our decision who we welcome and who we ignore.
This had nothing to do with who she likes in the family she sees some family only once every two years if that why should she have to give them anything?
@@63076topher yeah not to mention she literally states/implies that she was only paying the college for her nieces and nephews, her kids, and a couple of her husbands cousins kids, she also took her parent in laws, her family, and her husbands siblings families on vacation, and she has a holiday home, and to be fair she even said like out of all 9 of the aunts only 3 of them helped her and her husband out when they where struggling with money
She should get an award for helping so many people, not be "attacked" by anyone. So from me, thank you for helping so many kids with a good start in life!!!!
If I had a member of my family do for me and my siblings what OP did for hers, I'd slap anyone whoever acted like Entitled SIL. I'd also hope that someone would slap me if I acted like Entitled SIL too. OP didn't have to do any of that and it's stupid to expect more.
For the family members who helped, they deserve to have money put back in their pockets. They sowed in some good deeds when everyone else was abandoning them. Unfortunately, most of the family were cold hearted greedy people. Unwiling to help them out or even give them a loan. There are people that you CAN trust. For instance, I never act entilted with other people's money. I look at it as a gift that I should be thankful for. Even when I had a GF who ahd more money than me, I NEVER expected her to pay for ALL my stuff. Sometimes she'd buy me food or coffee, other times I was paying for it. I never complained the times I was the one paying either. All I tell people is, "If you come into some money i'd ask you at least buy meals when we're together and a nice gift for my Birthday and Christmas. I don't need or expect you to just toss a bunch of money." An in terms of a nice gift, it could be a brand new computer, rather than a brand new car for insance. It's open as to how "Nice" is defined. For some of us, we prefer people to money. Money is nice and all but...I get more out of people than possessions.
Had the same Experience with my sister in law, who refused to work saying it's too stressful. I decided to STOP being her ATM( after about 15years) and suddenly I'm a bad person, my brother sided with Her and i put Him in the same spot with Her. Now i can enjoy my hard earned money the way i want. She kept saying that i have one child so my expenses are lower than Hers with four kids and so i must help out with money. I work for the Money ALONE but She gets to Spend it with Me.
She also chose to have 4 kids. My mother in law, gave money to her sister all the time. Then the nieces and nephews started demanding money. When my mother in law died, the horde started getting money from my sister in law. It will never end they all have been taught they have a private bank.
I love listening to this channel when sleeping, it’s so calming and the hello my beautiful friends is so calming because you don’t see that in other channels, and I think it’s sort of a emotional thing as well
Those family members tore their own family apart by the way they acted. Not money. Saying that it’s the fault of money and not their own gives them a pass. It’s as if they can say “sorry the money messed with my mind” and then they can get off scott free and not be held accountable for their own detestable actions.
This is crazy, OP should have a restraining order on all of them especially for the uncle that slaps her. OP shouldn't be forced to give her money, she should only do it to the family that actually help her and her husband during stuff time and they like. The rest can screw themselves.
Those people should get a restraining order soo big that they CANNOT be in the same STATE and all states bordering that same state as OP. That way Even if they try to come close, they would be arrested on the spot. Example if OP lives in McAllen Texas the Family cannot even step foot in any of the states bordering Texas. depending on the state The restraining order can span over 300+ miles. ------------------ in order to make the most of that restraining order OP should move to Tennesee since the Family would have a Travel restriction for 10 States. {or about 1/5th of the USA}
@@darknessblades a restraining order like that is completely unenforceable (and would never be issued). A restraining order can't force someone to move homes, quit their job, or massively alter their life style without good reason. Theres a reason most of them are only for a few hundred yards. Also as restraining orders are usually issued by state courts, not federal courts, they can't ever prevent someone doing something in another state. And should you try to get a restraining order banning someone from your state, their lawyer will get a big old smile on their face, and proceed to jump up and down with joy while explaining that a person can not be bared from working, living or residing in any state, that right is enshrined in law.
Wow she came into loads of money. What a incredibly nice lady to pay for so much of her family and friends bills and debts. I would be so grateful for that type of kindness!!
I pray that the lady does not give in to her family. She owes them nothing and should only give to whom she chooses! Stand her ground and tell them: BYE FELICIA!
This is a prefect example of the saying: "No good deed goes unpunished." Keep your business to yourself. The less people know about your situation, the better - especially family.
The first story: I must say you are an awesome woman and human being. To do all that you, and to have so much love for your family. I am 1000% sure you did the right thing. Sil and hubby were so ungrateful, however her children were great! Even your own hubby supports you and knows it's your money, that alone makes you a truly BLESSED person. Don't worry about SIL and her hubby, they will learn from this or they won't. As for you and your hubby...you both rock!!! The very fact that you care enough to give what you did was so sweet. Just because two entitled and ungrateful people don't know when to shut up is not your problem. Stay as humble as you are and stay safe!!!
Please don’t ever give any of those vultures anything. You will never hear the end of it. Give to whom you want and/ or charity, but to reward such behavior puts you down on their level. They will drain your money, your character and your heart. ❤️
My father and a friend of his tried to get me to move with an elderly relative that I was close with. It wasn't to really help her, but to try and get her to sign over her house to me and get money from her. I was extremely angry. I don't get angry often, but when I do, people remember it. I don't yell or swear, I get extremely calm and icy. My father smiled for his friend, but I could tell by his eyes that he was embarrassed and angry. We aren't Asian, but my family is big on the whole, "saving face" thing. He never spoke of it again, but it changed our relationship. I called him even less and when I visited the city I rarely contacted him. He wasn't a good father and the only reason contacted him at all (holidays and birthdays) was out of some misplaced pity because none of my siblings and can stand the man. We fortunately, had a great step-father who was as ethical as he presented himself, unlike my father who acted like he was a great man in public to cover up his narcissistic, manipulative abusive ways. I had wondered for years if I could take advantage of someone to get their money (like my father use to) but my first thought was of how disgusting it was. I was outraged. I couldn't imagine expecting a relative to hand over their hard earned money just because they had a lot. While it would be great, it shouldn't be expected or demanded. If I was close and going through a hard time, financially, I might ask to borrow some money, if I could get over the embarrassment, that is.
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i would honestly help out my family with any debt
Keep some of it in a very secure bank account and invest some of it
Pay my loans, pay off my credit card (then cancel it) and then buy a ton of gift cards.
BWF
Invest it in making more money, then invest in scientific research.
hundreds of thousands of hamburgers
It wasn't money that destroyed the family, it was greed and entitlement.
The only thing I’m asking is why she didn’t clock that ungrateful sil who already was taken on a vacation
My question is why didn't the husband punch that Uncle in his jaw for slapping his wife? And I was her, those other would've got nothing thanks to their parents behavior! I would've disowned everyone of them!😡
@@chasebowman9815 by the caliber of people they’ve already shown themselves to be they would most likely sue her if she punched them, even if it was self defense.
Family destroyed it way before the money, entitlement and greed. Remember she said she hadn't heard from many of them in 5 to 10 years.
@@PrivateMrs.T 🤔could he sue her if the husband would've popped him one good time for hitting her? I mean especially since her and her husband agree that it's "HER" money instead of "their" money? Asking just in case this happens to me. Lol
Respect to her husband though. Always by her side and acknowledging its "her" money and not "theirs" is huge.
You'll never hear a woman say that though. If he was smart he'll cash out and demand half. Any female would do the same
@@johnreed9050 Or maybe we could have faith in humanity and do an actual positive relationship. Although from my perspective the husband and wife a team and as such the money is 'our' money. However, all purchases should be agreed upon.
@@natestevenson3083 Well good luck with that. All my friends that have been screwed over believed the same thing.
@@johnreed9050 Why would he do that? From his perspective that would be like throwing half the money he has access to away, together with his wife and lots of friends and family who won't like him very much afterwards.
@@gonun69
News flash. They don't like him much anyway
This is why you should act like poor even if you have millions. And never let family know about your bank balance. Ever
Yes, your money, it's your business bank info.
One of the corporate lawyers I know does this. He and his wife have very standard but nice cars and live in a modest home. He and I got chatting about vacations one day and that's where I learned he spends his money. He takes his kids and wife on very nice vacations every year. I'm also pretty sure that his grandkids have amazing trust funds set up.
Yup!
*Communism intensifies*
I worked for an old man that drove an Oldsmobile junker of a car, wore suits that looked like they came from goodwill but, my checks never bounced. I found out later that all of his grandkids had $20+ million trust funds, his wife and he went to Paris, Cancun, anywhere they wanted and they'd take the kids and grandkids too. None of his brothers or sisters knew though.
The national wildlife service recommends you _don't_ feed the animals.
It makes them dependant and unwilling to forage for their own food.
Jarrod I almost spit out my coffee when I read your comment! Great analogy!!!
@@FoxyMomma4ever There's a great article on the internet somewhere. Some lady left some bird feeders on her porch. At first, the birds came and went. Then, they all moved in under the porch and started crapping everywhere. Then, they would get loud and noisy and dive bomb this woman when the feeders ran out. She ended up removing the feeders and her porch has never been more peaceful. Made me think of that.
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Kranberry I know, right?!?
Sums up what i wanted to say 👏👏
She paid off their mortgage, and their kids college funds. That's what people work their whole lives for. Why cant they pay their own damn vacation
Tell me about it what are they eating caviar for diner and Kobe steak?
Your mortgage is paid off your kids college fund is paid off why are you not saving 70% of your salary ? There poor personality wise so will always be poor even if they have money as will spend it all and be poor again.
@Sith Jawa No, selfishness and greed at its Worst, not finest.
Entitled creations!
That's how you create entitlement.
People usually don't appreciate things when they don't earn them.
yes but howabout they have a dang Staycation like the rest of us workerbees? Spoiled people are rotten
My aunt once told me she wouldn’t want to win the lottery, because everyone would be after her money. I said You can just give it to me. She said See, it’s already started!!! 🤣🤣🤣
That is why in some states like the state of California you can have your name removed from the winning announcement to protect yourself from anyone you don't want to know that you won money. You can also have a 3rd party like an attorney claim the money in your place.
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Lol
😂😂😂😂😂😂
My wicked stepmother came into a million dollars a few years ago. It made the online edition of the newspaper. She was quoted as saying people would be coming out of the woodwork. I left a message there, that I wasn’t going to ask for anything, but wished her well. My father had died years before.
Trust me when I tell you, she didn’t deserve that respect.
That poor woman. She's been more than generous with HER money.
Exactly, she has already been extremely generous and people should be thankful without expecting anything more than she has done!! It is HER money, and if she wants to wipe her ass with 100 dollar bills, that's her prerogative (and I bet that greedy ass family would be brawling for thos poo 💩 covered 100's too🤣
I agree, she did more for "the family" than most would ever even think of doing especially considering they are not a close knit family, it's one thing for someone to do something like what she did of her volition vs someone thinking they are entitled to a "share" of money they had not earned just because a family member did earn it.
You're damn right
The uncle that slapped her knew what he was doing. His aim was for her to hit him back so he could sue for assault charges so he would get that money any way. She was super smart to have the cops there to prevent her retaliation.
Wow, you're right...
great point but im sure the courts etc would see that it was self defence and his claim would have failed especially if it was on camera that he struck first
@@diamonddiva3204 but he didn’t know that there were cameras and he had 15-20 “witnesses” that would definitely pick his side
@@marywebb_22 it doesn't matter if he knew or not and it dont matter if there was a 100 people there. She stated the cameras could see and hear. Hearing alone puts all these people in trouble after they demand money from her lol they all should be arrested for extortion except op and her husband.
Jail time for uncle.
She is not that sister-in-law's personal bank account. She paid for their house, I would've been so grateful for that.
My friend always was bugging me to agree to pay him if I ever won the lottery, so I made up giving him a million in cash, and his next co-driver Did win a million, and paid off my friend's pick-up truck of $25,000. Then the same guy won $40,000 on a gambling boat!
@@alfr1 wow, I need some of that luck
I would be happy for a car. Not even a new one but an old car. Actually a 1978. With a bit for license plate and other transfer expenses only. I will pay everything else. I just would be extremely great full for it.
me too
"I know some of you will wonder why I don't just give the money" yeah, no. I'm wondering why you have already given that much.
exactly my thoughts but probably because she loves the kids and it seems she does not have kids her own (yet) maybe she loves these nephews and nieces more and the rest of the family did stay away and did cut ties a long time ago and are only coming back now since they heard of money... disgusting people...
Gecko 2.6 Yes, whenever I day dream about winning the lottery it starts by wondering what I can do for my sister and her girls!
@@Ozziecatsmom I don't have kids either but I allways think how I could help make a collegefund for my nephiew and help my closest friends with their problems
@@Ozziecatsmom not sure if you're joking because when I fantasize about winning it that's what I do, guesstimate how much I'd give family and friends. That way I have a ballpark on how much I can blow on other stuff.
Tony Blake Nope, not joking! I also think about which charities I'd give to, my local dog and cat rescues coming in first. I also day dream about driving up to my sister's in a purple car for her. That's her favourite colour and I don't think she'd get one even if she could afford it.
If I came into a lot of money I wouldn’t tell anyone
That's what a moat filled with piranhas is for.
I would tell some people. People I can trust. An if anyone started getting greedy, I'd just cut them out of my life.
Part of the problem they made, was being super generous right from the start. Without even being like "Yo we didn't have to do this, but we thought it'd be nice to bless y'all. We can't really do this all the time or for everyone, but...we decided to do something nice for y'all"
INstead it was more like "YOu didn't treat us the best and we're just giving money away to ALL family members. Because we can."
If you let people think they CAN be Entitled, they WILL be entitled often times.
Personally tho, when I dated a girl who had more money than me...I never tried to hit her up for money. I never just expected her to pay for all my meals. Anything she gave me I saw as a gift freely given, and NOT an entitlement.
Surround yourself with the kind of people who care for People more than Money. Who know that you don't owe them your wealth.
Who cares. I wouldn't give a shot if my fam knows or not. I would care if I had all the money in the world
I'd move to another country. If they want to harass me, they can pay for plane tickets to come see me
Been there this is the best answer.
I hope the uncle who slapped OP got arrested and charged with assault.
Attempted robbery. He was literally sitting at her house and waiting for to intimidate and beat her so that he could rob her.
@@daphneraven9439 you mean extortion
She needs to let it rain restraining orders, pressing charges, cutting them off, and exposing their asses on social media. Go nuclear! Or Better yet, atomic!
And jailed.
I think OP has a six figure salary. In my opinion, she shouldn't give the ungrateful relatives a cent.
sounds like higher six figures... or maybe she got a lot out of investments or founding some sort of flourishing business... who knows...
Sounds more like 7 figures...
@Denise Christie depends on the country, with a sixfigure income I would be considered rich in my counzry so...
Grateful or not, you can't give people things without expecting something in return. If you do, they will end up being entitled and demand more and more from you. You will hinder them.
It's gotta be at least high six figures. She paid off mortgages for several homes and put aside money for a college education for about 13 kids. For 5 years of education im guessing the amount would be around 100k assuming 20k a year seems pretty normal for a in state non private college.
I knew a person who won a large amount of money from the lotto. Just like you relatives and non relatives came out of the woodwork demanding money. He simply told them that ALL of it was invested and he had no control or access to it. Ended the problem.
Difference here is that sil was being a bitch and telling the rest of the family about it.
People are ghouls. A story of many years ago....My mum's grandfather passed away. My mum the eldest of the family went to the grandfathers house to get his goods and chattels for lack of better words. All the ( or most of ) grandma's jewellery was already gone to the vultures, virtually overnight. The few pieces that were found including a pair of gold teardrop earrings ( very old ) that were left behind as one of the ghouls had given them the tooth test and found they were not solid gold. They left teeth marks in both earrings thus destroying them and threw them back in the box. To this day my mum still has them. Note: they were indeed quite valuable ( she had them valued for curiosity sake,value B4 the damage ) . The ghouls through their selfishness and ignorance discarded value. Those earrings are still stored safely away. Ain't Karma wonderful !!!
Gold is soft and can be dented with teeth bite.
@@jackreacher3499 Depends on the amount of alloy in the gold. Much less than 22 kt and you will break your teeth without marking it. You see a lot of scenes in TV and movies biting gold to see if it is real, but in reality back when people used to do that (gold coins actually being in circulation) they weren't biting to see if it was gold, they were biting to make sure it wasn't gold plated lead. If your teeth left clear marks on it then it was BAD.
No one ever owes another any explanation for anything. Especially not finances.
Having paid off their mortgage, their kids college, etc, was already very generous and kind of her. To demand her to pay for an expensive vacation for them is incredibly fd up. Really! What greedy, ungrateful rats!
It's just normal human behavior. Give someone anything, they'll take it for granted that it should always be given to them, and then some.
I hope this woman stands her ground, and doesn't give in to what is amounting to be family terrorism/extortion.
From this day onward, those are not family anymore. Not to me!
There are reasons why Scrooge McDuck built his fortress, I mean, money bin up a hill with booby traps around it.
@@mflax4331 Well probably wouldn't go so far , but they be distant distant relatives, I'm gonna change my phone number and not even let them know where I really live, if you be a nuisance with me I'm gonna hide from you like The face of God when you've been sinning!
The point lost on the BIL and SIL is: when someone gives you money, you thank them graciously. You do NOT ask them for money or even demand money from them.
Money from others, even family, is a GIFT. It's something they WANT to do, NOT have to do.
Right?
If I had a family member with money and they were generous like that (college funds etc), if I needed money for something and wanted it from them particularly, I'd bring up a LOAN. It's not my money. I didn't earn it.
I jaw dropped when they asked for 800,000 dollars for each child, LIKE WHERE TF ARE YOU TAKING THEM TO NEED THAT MUCH!?
"Well, at least we're not asking a million for each one!"
@@FaydOgolon Yah, anything over 999k is just being greedy....hehe
Probably the Moon.
OP has NO fault on this! She shouldn't feel bad at all,. She is not dividing the family, she is cleansing it!
Cleansing it by bringing it out in to the strong light of day, which is a really good disinfectant.
This is the OPs fault. It's what she gets for trying to play savior. Her arrogance, disguised as goodwill, is what created the situation. You cannot start handing out money and expect the whole world not to line up. So instead of making life better for everyone in her extended family she has now divided it. When you give stuff to people, especially those who aren't asking for it or appreciative of it, you end up spoiling them and they become entitled.
@@zm6301 Um...yeah..nope you are wrong.
@@raulcastro3277 The OPs experience proves me right whether you like it or not. You can't change human nature. It was her arrogance that led her to believe she could make Peeples lives better by giving them stuff, then some of them threw it in her face. Her guilt will lead her to keep "helping" and thus keep dividing because it's apparent none of them will ever be satisfied let alone grateful.
@@zm6301 Uh...yeah...no you are wrong.
My father always said: If you give to each person asking for help, you'll end up with nothing.
I've heard about one woman in USA who won the lottery and started to buy houses for a lot of people until he spent everything. She asked for help to those people she helped and they didn't.
@@Francisco-mn7gt That is just heart breaking and awful. Unfortunately, you have to invest wisely in the right people. Otherwise you'll have nothing to show for your efforts. I've learned that the hard way.
Honestly the whole "Giving money to teachperson asking for help", is one f the big parts of the so called Lottery Curse where you end up WORSE off. People just get a ton f people asking for help, they spend it on people who are just there to party an leech. etc. Then by the time taxes are done, suddenly you have very little to show for all your efforts, if you don't end up bankrupt for failing to save for taxes.
One of the things you're supposed to Master in order to be happy with that money, is LITERALLY learn how to say no, without saying no. Like "Hmmm....I;ll think about it. Can you give me a week to think it over?"
If someone doesn't need it like most, they never show up again. If they come back, chances are they DO need it and are willing to do what it takes to get it.
One rich guy won the lottery and got screwed over by people so bad...he got POOR. He LOST a bunch of money, even though he knew how to invest it. Polce would bully him for money. People wouldn't just accept "y'all stole it from me." etc.
An if you want to help a larg amount of people, you're going to have to do it in a way to fight something Systemically. Like bribing the city to create a safe little area for homeless people, for example.
@@TheAyanamiRei I think your system of delaying the answer would only work if you aren't rich and those people are good ones, when you have money people see in you an easy way to fix their problems, family or friend.
One friend asked for money in a bad moment in his life and when he was ok and I needed help, asked for my money back and refused.
2 cousins travel thousands km. to visit one of our aunts who was in the hospital dying just to make sure she wrote a testament, as soon as she could talk and said she did, they left, didn't call to know about condition, didn't call when she died, didn't come for the funeral, just the money the cared about.
If I won the lottery, I'd do my best to hide it from everybody. Easy for me cause I moved alone to another country 😉😉😉.
@@Francisco-mn7gt The 1 week rule isn't perfect, but it's definitely a fantastic defense against strangers at the very least.
As with anything involving humans there will ALWAYS be exceptions to the rules.
Though it IS recommended that you keep your status as a Lottery Winner on the Down Low, or just getting a bunch of money unexpectedly.
There was a guide made that was created to help you survive winning the lottery.
Since a lot of times you'll be killed by your family members trying to take your money. To say nothing for all the other issues.
One smart think they could do, is to put down a downpayment. To pay only enough to pay off the house in monthly installments. Then you could write up a lease to rent to own, where once they pay you enough you give them the house.
It'd be a great way to bless someone, but it'd also mean they couldn't take advantage of you. nor you them.
(Seriously rent to own can be SUCH a scam unfortunately)
An even if it's not your own family....it could be friends of your family. Friends of the granddaughter who was getting a big fat allowance from the grandfather...they pumped her full of info. Then they robbed and maybe killed the grandfather to get money, which wasn't even much if anything at all. Though I can't remember if the guy died or not. Or maybe it was a niece.
But it's just a good example.
It's honestly scary what some people will do for money. Also REALLY sickening as well.
Had a friend come into money. I was there when it happened. I flat out told him don't let anyone know you have this, just spend only a little extra on yourself over time and no one will be the wiser. He didn't listen to me. Now, the two of us hung out in mostly different circles of friends, I was aquaintance level at best with a few of the circle he hung out with. He said it was no big deal, nothing would change with his close buds. Yeah...within a week his 'close buds' were asking him for money, by the end of a month he had to cut ties with all of them. His own family was haranging him for cash too. After 7-8 months he moved out of state, changes his numbers, didn't tell anyone about his new job, etc. The only one he still talks to is me and his sister, I was shocked to hear the two of us were the only people who never asked him for money.
All this from what was honestly not a lot of money. He only found himself suddenly flushed with 'buy 3 houses' money. Which is what he did, one to live in, two to rent as supplementary income while his job generates his actual income.
It is incredible how people are more like guppies than they would want to admit.
Family can be far more toxic than strangers, cut everyone off the money and tell them that she is the blame for it.
Like your line of thinking.
I had to cut off some of my mother’s side of family especially after she died. They were very phony with grieving and they stole what little money she saved for my son and I as well as her meds. I was even threatened to see a picture of her dead body because she overdosed and my husband had called them out on it. Should I ever come into money they’d be around and only get 🖕from me
Is it just me or is 35,000$ for s family vacation insane ? Normally when i go on a family vacation its 200-300$
No this is extremly insane tbh
Where do you go / What do you do for $200-$300? I'd love to know!
Lol
$35,000 is insane for a vacation! $35,000 is a good down payment for a house or money for a good kitchen/bathroom renovation, something that would improve your life and be an investment. The entitlement to expect someone else to pay for a vacation at that price is astounding and worse when you consider that OP paid off their mortgage and is putting their 5 kids through college. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
it is insane dude
35k is a brand new fucking car and that family expected OP to pay that amount for a little vacation
My god, if anyone even considered paying off my mortgage I’d be so eternally grateful and make sure they knew it. But I guess I’m not entitled
Her first mistake was giving extended family a dime
She should have given it (the handout) as a loan
I don't agree with that. If she was close with them and wanted to help, it's her money she can do whatever. I'm not mad my two rich uncles don't spend a dime on me (even when they come for Christmas and we all exchange gifts). It's theirs. My feelings used to get hurt bc I truly love my family but decided it was not worth getting upset over because I don't see them enough to let it bother me. Even if I'm bringing him something, that was my choice, he didn't ask for that.
Rich or not being descent is great. It's harder to stay rich if you give everyone everything though.
Hence the sign "Don't feed the Animals".....
Lol fr my ex's dad found out i got a little bit from a car accident a few years back and that money was in his pocket in a matter of days.
I agree. She should’ve tried an anonymous donation (may have been difficult given that it was several family members). Most people will respect boundaries and not act crazy like this family, but it’s better to be safe. People go nuts if they see an easy fix to their money woes and wants. They lose all pride at the hope of a get rich quick scheme.
Don't you dare give another child college money. After treating you so badly. Have nothing to do with BIL or SIL they're trash. Surprisingly their kids sound wonderful!!! Take care. 😷😎😷
It sounds like she only gave college money to the kids that she has a good relationship with. Which is fine.
NOBODY should ever expect someone else to pay for their vacations, mortgages or college. You were very generous. This is why I don’t know if I would help if I ever obtained that kind of financial success.
After all this woman did I can't believe that this SIL is still trying to get MORE. she's disgusting. Good for OP saying No
And the others that called later are just as gross as the other greedy ones. I would cut off anyone that feels entitled to anything.
I also love that she gave them the same quote they gave when OP and hubby needed help.
I pray she dosen't give into any of the demands.
Stay strong
In elementary school....I had started giving a poor girl in my class a nickel for juice or milk money.... (yes I am aging myself...lol).....UNTIL she showed up to one of my classes....had me go to the classroom door to find she had her hand out demanding “her” nickel she felt was due her....needless to say...that was the end of that....even as a 3rd grader I was well aware I was being used.....sad....but when someone is kind to you....you should never take that for granted....nobody owes you a damn thing...:(
Exactly... 💯wys!
Exactly. I'm happy to be extremely generous as long as it's my own decision, but force my hand and there'll be nothing.
When I was an intern teacher, I did the same thing! The other teachers warned me, but I didn't listen. But, I learned to listen! I gave the kids food instead of money. They never bothered me again.
Ah yes remind me my 4th grade some kids asked me for mh dollar so they buy cookies.
They never share them with me, when I mentioned they owes me a dollar, they say what dollar? That is when I quickly cut them off immediately never talk with them again.
Same thing when people borrow my pencil for class, I made this rule, I never tell anyone. If they never give back my pencil, if they say honestly they forgot it. I will forgive them to give my spares pencils. But when they tells a lie like I did give you my pencil back. Seriously you can't lie in front of me like that.
Sadly not once, that anyone tell me the truth, I do have another option for them to buy a pencil from me instead or give me a replacement pencil what they lost or borrow.
Man glad I have this mind set early on, expect giving some money part.
This is why you never feed a stray...they come back every time they are hungry
The extended family really blew me. Like where do you get off demanding hundreds of thousands of dollars from someone you barley know or talk to. ESPECw11IALLY since you've refused and talked down to them when they asked for help in the past. I could understand if they were just asking OP to help with college, but what they did was truly despicable.
„You can pay for the holiday, you just don‘t want to“
Yeah, Bill Gates CAN pay the holidays too, so why doesn’t she just ask him?
The OP can also slap her in the face but she didn't do it. See? How generous of the OP lol
Bill Gates is about to lose half.
@@jasondyrkacz8270
I hope he loses more then money.
Half to Melissa and he's still a billionaire.
I want to hear some juicy stories about the "REAL BILL GATES" though I'm not holding my breath.
OP is not the one ripping the family apart, the families own greed and sense of entitlement is doing a good job of that. She needs to stand her ground. And if she has to cut a few people out of her life, better yet.
@Gerard Rietdijk Agreed. This is a no win situation, if you give anything to them they will keep demanding money until they bleed you dry. They have already resorted to physical intimidation and force, so there is no chance they would see a penny. Easier not to give anything and move away from everyone. As for SIL, she would not get a cent going forward for causing all of this. Her kids would still get the college funds, but she and her husband would see nothing else. What a selfish piece of work.
@Gerard Rietdijk Yeah, but given their level of entitlement (who plans a $35k vacation) they are probably still expecting money. This may include running up debt thinking the OP will help. That said, the kids seem innocent and shouldn't be punished due to the stupidity of their parents.
@@bwill1560 They can go on another vacation. Take the kids and leave the parents.
“Do not cast your pearls before swine lest they turn and rend you.”
These people are like blackmailers. They would never be satisfied. They would drain you dry if you let them.
Narcissistic personality… you can treat them like normal people by they don’t behave like normal people.
She is an angel if she is willimg to paying for her relatives children college funds
@ EXACTLY! The problem was that she let them think that was NORMAL. That she felt OBLIGATED or whatever. She should have let them know early on it was a GIFT. That she didn't have to, but wanted to.
Doubly so if you be extra nice to someone who was mean to you, without even calling them out.
First impressions mean a lot, and once an idea gets into smeone's head, it can be hard to extract it
If I had a family member who had a lot of money, I would just congratulate them on their success and that would be the end of it.
@@williamgandarillas2185 same.
Why can't the husband control his family 🤔
@@nikitajessen5812 Probably because he doesn't want to call them that. Your 'real family' don't do no shit like this. Case in point: the nieces and nephews came to stay with their aunt and uncle after their mom showed her true colors. Jealousy knows no bounds🤷
Having horrible family members in combination with joining the military, I have learned that just because you are kin doesn’t mean you are family. Shout out to my brothers and sisters across all branches!!! Semper Fidelis
that is correct, not all kin are family and not all family are blood. I think the real kicker for me is when she relates the story of what she was told years back when she asked for help. And reflected on that back at those who said it. Those people aren't family.
There has to be a part 3 to this where she presses charges and gets restraining orders against the family members that ganged up on her. I hope the uncle that hit her gets a long jail sentence.
I know I'm a year late but yes there are a whole slew of update on the person's reddit about the family saga.
@@FromPointAtoMe links?
@@FromPointAtoMe links please 🙏
I dont care how much money she has, I want to know how she made it.
Stock markets. Though as job wise, I can't tell you.
Investments where mentioned in the story
@@hybrid9mm Street corner.
Probably a stripper, they make like 500$-2k$ a single night
@@kevindumais9610 even at $2k that would be 17 nights of stripping to pay for SIL's vacay. SIL can strip for it herself.
It's great that OP's money showed the true colors of some of her family members. That's good to know as early as possible so you don't waste your time and energy (and money) with these horrible greedy people.
I remember this story. OP should press charges on all the family members who were the aggressive assholes that invaded her lawn. They chose to cause a fissure in the whole family by being greedy, especially the punch crazy uncle who is apologizing out of desperation to avoid prison.
She has the money I think if she ever chooses to pursue that course of action. I do think they need to suffer the consequences of their actions and live with it. The ultimate slap in their greedy faces seeing that they will get nothing and always have the money out of their reach.
Is this in the news Tania? Couldn’t find it
If she in China or someplace which seems likely, court works very slowly and such compalints never bear fruit.
Yes, she should press charges but this is the OPs fault. It's what she gets for trying to play savior. Her arrogance, disguised as goodwill, is what created the situation. You cannot start handing out money and expect the whole world not to line up. So instead of making life better for everyone in her extended family she has now divided it. When you give stuff to people, especially those who aren't asking for it or appreciative of it, you end up spoiling them and they become entitled.
@@zm6301 Why do you say she's trying toi play savior? Do you know her and how she thinks? Or are you just projecting what YOU would do??
The person with the money should keep it. They have already been more than generous
This is why I told my Husband if we EVER come into money.... we will NEVER tell anyone. It brings out the worst in everyone.
She should send out an announcement to all those family members who showed up
"The day you showed up to my home, I was just coming back from my financial advisor where we were in the process of setting up college and vacation funds for you and your children. Your behavior that day was reprehensible and as I don't want to seemingly give in to your threats, I contacted my advisor and canceled those plans. This decision is final. Do not contact me again"
That way it seems that they are the cause of not getting the money.
The thing about greedy narcissists is that nothing is ever their fault.
The thing is that she already said she's not a liar so I doubt she would do that.
@@Batmans_Pet_Goldfish very true
The only problem with that is you're punishing the kids for the actions of their parents. You could be literally changing the course of their lives. Specially after already announcing that you'd be doing this. The OP would literally be spiteful by doing what you suggest. Not a good look.
@Muskoka Mike It's not "punishing the kids". It is not her responsibility to set up their college fund, it is the kid's parents who need to do that.
If they can't afford to, that is still on them.
She doesn't owe them anything. Them believing she does show their horrible, selfish, entitled, greedy moral character.
ok, who is actually thinking "wh don't you just give them the money?" I'm certainly not, she's been far to generous as it is
It has nothing to do with money, and everything to do with her awful behavior.
"The bully keeps slapping me until I agree to lick the bottom of his shoe"
"Why didn't you just lick his shoe?"
@@frankvonfrauner unrelated, but ok
Too much generous.
I had a friend I was always helping more than with money was by driving him somewhere or spending time with him (scared of being alone). One day being drunk he admitted what I was suspecting, he was bad talking about me and my personal problems with his friends, I cut contact with him and he doesn't understand why. One common friend admitted that was happening but did not admit she was also involved, when she did, blamed me for what they were talking on my back 🤨🤨🤨. Also cut with her.
If by chance I came into some fortune.... No one would know. If I did do something generous it would be done anonymous
@@andyandy2498 If I was generous I'd make it a point that they couldn't talk about it with anyone else. Just "Hey a friend did this" or "A generous donor saw I was struggling and helped me out with a financial gift!" type of thing.
If it was someone I REALLY trusted, a member of my inner most circle who has really stuck by me? THat'd be different. I have a friend that'd just be grateful for anything I could do to help his crappy situation. Whether it was set up an allowance for housing, or paying for him to get certified in WHATEVER for him to get a job with less BS. He's treated me to things and I ALWAYS make it a point for anything he does. Whether it's a ride or what. I know he's going out of his way or spending hard earned money. I'd certainly pay him back for his kidness.
I got this GF who has told me that's FAR rather have me in her life than money. That money doesn't buy me happiness, but I make her happiness. I know she hates gifts, so I'd probably just spend money on visiting her an other stuff.
For some that;s all you need to do, is just fly over to visit them. Then you'd have a lovely time together. You could even rent a place if you needed or wanted to! Get some souveniers. Pay for some meals. Nothing super big, just "Oh I got some money for a vacation, but there was extra money. So I decided to use it to come see you"
I don't understand. The SIL has a job, no mortgage or rent, no college tuition costs, but she hasn't been able to save and invest her money well enough for her fancy vacay?
"I know some if you wonder why I not simply give them the money" Who in der right mind would wonder about this?! You are incredibly generous as it is.
Sister-in-law that started it would get nothing ever again!
Exactly!!!
Plus, sister in law as already received a great deal,
She shamed her own children. Good grief.
Glad I am not her. Ughh
With the amount they are saving with nor mortgage payment nor no need to save money for college... they could probably take 1-2 years and save for that $35,000 vacation. (though why would someone spend that on a vacation is beyond me)
Hell, she deserves to be PERMANENTLY BANNED FROM EVERYTHING RELATED TO OP for this.
I feel so bad for the rich woman’s struggle. That family is absolutely insane, and I’m hoping she is still alive and well and far away from those people. Maybe hired security guards.
I wasn’t wondering why op didn’t pay for the holiday. I was thinking “Wow!!! How incredibly generous she had been.”
“We pack up the kids and go home” I’m just imagining putting the kids into a suitcase or luggage bags.
If the kids were younger maybe one a baby there is a lot you must take with you wherever you go.
I wish to God it was that easy lol
I have to say the same imagery went through my head too...
@@rexifelis
Lol. 2 cute
I feel bad for her being put in this situation. She doesn't desrve it. She worked hard for the money and they just wanna be greedy... Godbless her..
She needs to stand her ground. I didnt lay out the money she did but I laid out over 1.5 million this is a huge amount to me. When money was flowing I had people stopping by all the time But after i finally got them to understand there is no more to give away i have not heard from any of them for over 7 years. This all got started by my parents they would get the money from me and give to them first older brother and sister then to nieces and nephews. It got to the point they were giving away more of my income then I was keeping for myself. I don't care how close you think you are with your family when it comes to free money for them they will suck the life blood out of you and then kick you to the curb like a worthless empty McDonald's soda cup.
@sookableh I said that because when you drive down the street you always see a McDonald's cup laying next to the curb some where.
It's important that people don't know how much money you have. The greedy people will try to turn you into a soft touch. And when you pick up the check all the time it can make the less affluent friends uneasy or embarrassed.
Yep nobody in my family knows how much Ive paid for my house. Its more than all the rest of the other houses put together.
Something similar happened to a friend of mine, who at the time was just 22 years old. When her father died, she got an inheritance of $200,000. She went around telling everyone and of course, everyone wanted to be her friend and family started coming out of the woodwork. She foolishly gave away money, paid car notes, rent or mortgage payments, and anything else these people asked her to pay. 7-months later, she was flat broke and couldn't even pay her own car note and none of those people would help her out.
@@TaDarling1 Sometimes you pay a lot to learn basic lessons. She'll probably be much wiser as she works and saves in the future.
Lesson of the story:
Hide your money
Do NOT pay for those other kids!! They need to learn how being kind and humble pays off and that threats and violence doesn't get them anywhere. It was your choice to do what you wanted with your earnings. Stay classy. And as for your husband, don't let go of that guy he is a class act on his own. Best wishes for you and your family.
This is why when you win the lottery or otherwise come into a lot a wealth, you hire a CPA immediately and file that shit away into trust funds. For only the people you trust the most. Don't tell anyone about it and live life the way you want to.
Money brings out the worst in people around it.
No, Money just amplifies what's already there.
I've said hit the lottery? Three calls: cpa, junk yard dog personal lawyer, tax lawyer. Would try to keep it to myself and disappear as much as possible. Why do you think the wealthy live in gated communities? This would be one big reason why.
This reminds me of stories you hear about in places with heavy starvation. Some group shows up and helps feed as many as they can and the people are grateful. Before long the people are no longer grateful, instead they complain the food they are being given isnt what they want or its not enough. The people no longer thank the group for helping them but now consider it the groups responsibility to give them the food they deserve.
Theres the old saying; Give a man a fish and he can eat for a day. Teach a man to fish and he can eat for a lifetime. Its wrong, it should read; Give a man a fish and he will be back with his friends tomorrow for more fish. Try to teach a man to fish and he will complain that you should just give him some fish. Better yet just give him money, then he can get fish, beer and cigarettes. He then hints about borrowing your car for a few days
No, you've got it wrong. It goes like this - give a man a fish and he'll eat for a day; teach a man to fish and he'll spend the rest of his life bobbing about on a boat with his mates drinking beer.
It's called "socialism".
You have some crappy friends.
@@andystokes8702 One of these reddit videos (probably r/tihi) had this gem: "Give a man a fish and he'll feed his family for a day; give a man a poisoned fish and he'll feed his family for the rest of their lives!"
Sorry.
@@jon_j__ Ha, I had to think about that for a few seconds. Very good.
i hate that people think because you have things or money that you are OBLIGATED to give to them.
Money, or lack of money, exposes how much family members truly care about someone.
"Money comes in the door, love flies out the window."
There was never there to begin with when you listen. They hated them. Had no sympathy. Right up until they had lots of money and then SUDDENLY "Oh yeah we need money. An since we decided to be nice to you now, you need to give us lots of it"
It's greed at it's finest. The reason why so many wrongs are committed. When Love of Money > Love of People.
Why would this family assume they have any right to the money this woman made especially when they weren't there to lend a helping hand when her family was in dire straights years ago? just because someone you know has money or came in to an inheritance (or whatever) does not mean you should have your hand out. Earn your own money and stop expecting others to take care of you. The audacity of these people astounds me. You can't order someone to give you money just because you want it. If you earned it that's one thing but other than that you should be happy for that person and leave it alone. My gosh! Such greedy people. I really hate that.
NEVER EVER tell family or friends about your wealth. Family thinks you’re obligated to give them your hard earned money.
So true
don't make social media posts about purchases/upgrades etc either. it gets used as guilt fuel. "well you guys bought _______ so you should be able to help us out with some $$$$"
Don't be a damned fool, do NOT give one cent to any of them or their grandkids. Go NC and get court orders for them to stay away from you. Press charges against the fool who hit you.
"You can afford it" isn't a valid reason to pay for something, even though "you can't afford it" is a valid reason not to.
My condolences, but at least you've learned what being generous will get you.
She feels bad that she isn’t standing out for them, but she needs to remember, that they dont stand out for her, before or after. And while being the better person is being above that, it also means not letting them get their way and destroy you. They are no longer family, for they removed themselves when they stopped treating you as family, and instead as gold enriched dirt.
That’s why my husband’s family doesn’t know I make double of their son is making. We both keep it down low.
I would do the exact opposite. Best way to recognize the toxic people in your life and cut them off without any sort of hard feelings.
@@Icetuga1 Well, it’s his family so it’s not up to me to cut them off. I need to respect my husband’s feelings in this.
A heads up for anyone who’s comes into money. Tell no one not even your spouse and first hire a lawyer that won’t let you hand out huge amounts of money then let people if you want to. Eventually your spouse would know so just tell them after the lawyer. Nobody can manage money when you think you have enough to spend 10,000 a day.
If you win a state lottery, some states require that the winners be announced. Bad law.
Wow. This is a whole new side of crazy.
If OP gives them MORE money, they will never stop.
What a family, I wouldn't give a dime to such ungrateful people.
For the Karen Shout me out impression I think they should have said "YOU'D BETTER SHOUT ME OUT OR I'M REPORTING YOUR CHANNEL FOR INFRINGING MY RIGHTS!"
The last thing I would do
Is let anyone in my family know I came into money
The worst mooches in the world is family members
Trust me I know from experience
Yeah, this isn't anything new, apparently. From stories my Grandma told me when I was a kid, this was standard behavior towards rich relatives, in olden times.
My Grandpa was the only son of an extremely rich man. My Great Grandfather was also an only child so my Grandfather ended up inheriting all the family wealth. My Grandma was also from an extremely well off family. So we were financially stable.
My Grandpa decided to relocate our family to a big city because he was a lawyer and he wanted more opportunities than he would get in his village. At this time two of my Grandfathers cousins, from his mother's side, came and asked him to split all of his wealth into two and give a part to each of them. Their logic was that my Grandma was just as rich as Grandpa and nobody needed that much wealth. And since he was going to make big bucks as a lawyer, he could afford to give all of his money away.
Grandpa had bought them each new houses and a few acres of land the year before. And it wasn't like they were suffering for money or struggling to make ends meet. They were comfortably middle class, just not wealthy.
Well Grandpa refused. They said that they deserved a share and Grandpa told them that his wealth was from his father's side and they were on his mother's side of the family. They didn't deserve anything and he wouldn't give anything. They tried everything, from water works and guilt trips to curses and abuse.
Grandpa left with our family and they never saw each other again. Good riddance, Grandma always said.
Well thats great
Kudos. How can a man raise their hand to a woman like that, all the while trying to steal all her money as a horde. Disgusting avarice empowered humans.
I would predict apx. $420-500 mil. was her financial gain.
I was expecting her to give the uncle a right hook.
I read the story on reddit. She Did.
She knew the police where there.
Absolute truth, it destroyed my dad's family 40 years of bickering, arguing, and flat out being nasty to one another. Aunts (mostly) speaking ill of my family (we were the black sheep). I broke away from the family and joined the military for the next 20yrs. I wanted NOTHING to do with the money. I instead made my own and proud of it. My general rule is: DO NOT let anyone know your networth!! Be humble and be a "secret santa" year round. I give in smaller increments, its harder to track it. Last, it never stops amazing me how people become entitled for your hardwork. Also, if you do run into money...quickly get a lawyer and file a living trust.
My dad told me as a kid, a millionaire lived down the street from him. The guy lived in a nicer mobile home and drove a Volkswagen. That was his life. What would I do if I’d won the money? Probably be very conservative. But, at the same time, remember you can’t take it with you. It’s still important to bless others. Just find discrete ways of doing so.
Wait, she already paid off their mortgage, put their kids through college and now they expect her to fork out for their ridiculous holiday?! That’s insane!
Right?
OP you have been extremely over the top generous to your family, and a friends. Stick to your guns and keep saying NO, to that entitled brats of a SIL and BIL. OP your not an ATM, also OP NTA.
I told my relatives that I would never tell them about my good fortune and of course, they were offended. Money changes everything. That poor woman!
She should stick to paying for the ones she likes, and disowning the ones she doesn't, as they've shown their true colours alright!
Cheeky baskets, the lot of them, a family of vultures!
You have no idea how wrong that could go. Family relations will be affected.
@@mugu007 Who needs to have any relationship with such utterly ghastly, greedy people?
Honestly in the same boat and I agree, not that I have money or anything but our family was torn apart over the inheritance from my grandparents. It ended up being family against family. So my parents and us decided to break all ties with the large family and we haven't had anything to do with them since, we live our own lives and do our own thing and we refuse to ever get together on a holiday or vacation or anything, from our perspective we have no family and those members don't even exist. We decide who is family and who isn't, I don't care if blood or marriage is involved, its still our decision who we welcome and who we ignore.
This had nothing to do with who she likes in the family she sees some family only once every two years if that why should she have to give them anything?
@@63076topher yeah not to mention she literally states/implies that she was only paying the college for her nieces and nephews, her kids, and a couple of her husbands cousins kids, she also took her parent in laws, her family, and her husbands siblings families on vacation, and she has a holiday home, and to be fair she even said like out of all 9 of the aunts only 3 of them helped her and her husband out when they where struggling with money
I wouldn’t give ANY of them ANYTHING ever again!!
well maybe a restraining order
She should get an award for helping so many people, not be "attacked" by anyone.
So from me, thank you for helping so many kids with a good start in life!!!!
Money doesn't destroy people and rip families apart. Greed and entitlement do.
That's when you need to tell,the relatives "you know, i never liked you", and cross them off your Christmas card list.
If I had a member of my family do for me and my siblings what OP did for hers, I'd slap anyone whoever acted like Entitled SIL. I'd also hope that someone would slap me if I acted like Entitled SIL too.
OP didn't have to do any of that and it's stupid to expect more.
This is the family from hell! OMG! I feel so sorry for her. She should never have told anyone that she had money. I wouldn't give them one red cent.
Every Family, if the Lotto told everyone what happens to winners after winning. NO body would play the lottery
For the family members who helped, they deserve to have money put back in their pockets. They sowed in some good deeds when everyone else was abandoning them.
Unfortunately, most of the family were cold hearted greedy people. Unwiling to help them out or even give them a loan.
There are people that you CAN trust. For instance, I never act entilted with other people's money. I look at it as a gift that I should be thankful for. Even when I had a GF who ahd more money than me, I NEVER expected her to pay for ALL my stuff. Sometimes she'd buy me food or coffee, other times I was paying for it. I never complained the times I was the one paying either.
All I tell people is, "If you come into some money i'd ask you at least buy meals when we're together and a nice gift for my Birthday and Christmas. I don't need or expect you to just toss a bunch of money." An in terms of a nice gift, it could be a brand new computer, rather than a brand new car for insance. It's open as to how "Nice" is defined.
For some of us, we prefer people to money. Money is nice and all but...I get more out of people than possessions.
Had the same Experience with my sister in law, who refused to work saying it's too stressful. I decided to STOP being her ATM( after about 15years) and suddenly I'm a bad person, my brother sided with Her and i put Him in the same spot with Her. Now i can enjoy my hard earned money the way i want.
She kept saying that i have one child so my expenses are lower than Hers with four kids and so i must help out with money. I work for the Money ALONE but She gets to Spend it with Me.
She also chose to have 4 kids. My mother in law, gave money to her sister all the time. Then the nieces and nephews started demanding money. When my mother in law died, the horde started getting money from my sister in law. It will never end they all have been taught they have a private bank.
I love listening to this channel when sleeping, it’s so calming and the hello my beautiful friends is so calming because you don’t see that in other channels, and I think it’s sort of a emotional thing as well
Those family members tore their own family apart by the way they acted. Not money. Saying that it’s the fault of money and not their own gives them a pass. It’s as if they can say “sorry the money messed with my mind” and then they can get off scott free and not be held accountable for their own detestable actions.
This is crazy, OP should have a restraining order on all of them especially for the uncle that slaps her. OP shouldn't be forced to give her money, she should only do it to the family that actually help her and her husband during stuff time and they like. The rest can screw themselves.
if it was me they would be shot for traspassing
I cannot believe how low they are.,. not only do they show up at her home like an angry mob ... a male SLAPS her!?? Wow.
Those people should get a restraining order soo big that they CANNOT be in the same STATE and all states bordering that same state as OP.
That way Even if they try to come close, they would be arrested on the spot.
Example if OP lives in McAllen Texas the Family cannot even step foot in any of the states bordering Texas. depending on the state The restraining order can span over 300+ miles.
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in order to make the most of that restraining order OP should move to Tennesee since the Family would have a Travel restriction for 10 States. {or about 1/5th of the USA}
@@darknessblades a restraining order like that is completely unenforceable (and would never be issued). A restraining order can't force someone to move homes, quit their job, or massively alter their life style without good reason. Theres a reason most of them are only for a few hundred yards.
Also as restraining orders are usually issued by state courts, not federal courts, they can't ever prevent someone doing something in another state.
And should you try to get a restraining order banning someone from your state, their lawyer will get a big old smile on their face, and proceed to jump up and down with joy while explaining that a person can not be bared from working, living or residing in any state, that right is enshrined in law.
Wendell Porter lol. They’re not gonna kill them😂😂
"No", is a complete sentence.
Honestly if someone offered to pay my mortage and education for my kids, I’d be super great full of what they have done. It’s just generosity.
Wow she came into loads of money. What a incredibly nice lady to pay for so much of her family and friends bills and debts. I would be so grateful for that type of kindness!!
Some people just don't have brains.
Some people just don't have brains.
She didn't "come into money" - she earned it!
I’m almost in tears. Poor woman. Nobody deserves that.
I pray that the lady does not give in to her family. She owes them nothing and should only give to whom she chooses! Stand her ground and tell them: BYE FELICIA!
This is a prefect example of the saying: "No good deed goes unpunished." Keep your business to yourself. The less people know about your situation, the better - especially family.
The first story: I must say you are an awesome woman and human being. To do all that you, and to have so much love for your family. I am 1000% sure you did the right thing. Sil and hubby were so ungrateful, however her children were great! Even your own hubby supports you and knows it's your money, that alone makes you a truly BLESSED person. Don't worry about SIL and her hubby, they will learn from this or they won't. As for you and your hubby...you both rock!!! The very fact that you care enough to give what you did was so sweet. Just because two entitled and ungrateful people don't know when to shut up is not your problem. Stay as humble as you are and stay safe!!!
Please don’t ever give any of those vultures anything. You will never hear the end of it. Give to whom you want and/ or charity, but to reward such behavior puts you down on their level. They will drain your money, your character and your heart. ❤️
My father and a friend of his tried to get me to move with an elderly relative that I was close with. It wasn't to really help her, but to try and get her to sign over her house to me and get money from her.
I was extremely angry. I don't get angry often, but when I do, people remember it. I don't yell or swear, I get extremely calm and icy.
My father smiled for his friend, but I could tell by his eyes that he was embarrassed and angry. We aren't Asian, but my family is big on the whole, "saving face" thing. He never spoke of it again, but it changed our relationship. I called him even less and when I visited the city I rarely contacted him.
He wasn't a good father and the only reason contacted him at all (holidays and birthdays) was out of some misplaced pity because none of my siblings and can stand the man. We fortunately, had a great step-father who was as ethical as he presented himself, unlike my father who acted like he was a great man in public to cover up his narcissistic, manipulative abusive ways.
I had wondered for years if I could take advantage of someone to get their money (like my father use to) but my first thought was of how disgusting it was. I was outraged.
I couldn't imagine expecting a relative to hand over their hard earned money just because they had a lot. While it would be great, it shouldn't be expected or demanded. If I was close and going through a hard time, financially, I might ask to borrow some money, if I could get over the embarrassment, that is.
OMG! OP is so much more generous then I would have been. That is exactly why you don't let people know if you have money. Stay strong OP.