So happy to see a new video from you! Go strong with the self love! 💕 When I was young my parents forbid me from all things beauty. They just wanted me to study and have straight As. To them it was impossible to be happy and pretty and study (which is what I wanted to do) , no I had to be miserable and look like a boy to study. My mother even forced me to cut my hair like a boy for the first day of school. That is still a trauma to me. They brainwashed me so bad that I started believing that I don’t have to take care of myself but only for them and I believed that doing hair and makeup is bad. I watched all of your videos and here I am now rocking a TH-cam beauty channel. I watch a lot of similar videos but yours I can relate to so much! Thank you so much for helping me rediscover myself! Best, A Fellow Black Sheep
Wow!!! Thank you for your support and I’m glad you’ve found something that makes you happy!! Thanks for sharing and good luck with your channel! Sending love right back at cha!💕💕💕
I never felt a responsibility to help these people. I never looked for these people. I did "think" that if I only pleased enough........ I did always "think" that I was carrying a mark or sign on me that said "stupid". They chose me for the reasons youve spoken of. Your experiences and mine are opposite sides of the same coin.
You explain so good. I was abuse in all kind of ways. Today I am so depress because I got education for working with kids at school. I got a practice work in 2014. After that I got pregnant in 2016. I felt sicker and sicker. It was fybromalgy. Then I finished my practice and I got certificate. And now after 5 years as aprendice I don't get a job there. I feel use. And tired. I felt like allways want to help people or children. But most of my Jobs are using me. Bad paid and no even a thank you. I decide to change my job. But my health is no that good. I experience panics, anxiety, dissociation, pain in my body...all kind of symtomns. Thank you so much. You describe so perfectly what is to be in a abuse relationship. Sorry about my English. Hugs from Norway desde Noruega🇳🇴 Johis
omg....I've known that my father is a narcissist, but it always hitsme, when i hear something which describes me perfectly...actually i not only have abandonment issues, but also BPD, which sucks. It's endless pain, coming from the fear of losing everybody around me. man, this is so sad.....
THANK YOU GOD🙌🙌🙌 YOUR BACK.... YOUR VIDEOS ARE SO HELPFUL AND A BLESSINGS SO I KNOW THAT ITS NOT JUST IN MY HEAD ESPECIALLY BEING THE DAUGHTER OF A COVERT NARCISSISTIC FATHER ITS VERY PAINFUL BUT ITS ALSO AN EYE OPENER.....I HAVE BEEN NO CONTACT FOR 5YEARS BUT EVERYTHING STILLS FEELS LIKE YESTERDAY BUT I PRAY THAT GOD WITH RENEW MY MIND SO I CAN MOVE ON AND GET RID OF MY ANGER AND TOXIC WAYS .... PLEASE KEEP MAKENING THESE VIDEOS YOUR HELPING MANY PEOPLE AND CHANGEING LIVES.... THANKS AGAIN FOR THE HELP🤗😉🙂💙💜💚💛💗
Woooooww!!! This comment just made my day! Thank you so much for all of your support it means so much to me, I never expected to reach so many people but I’m blessed to be able to, good luck on your journey happy I was able to help!😊
I'm dealing with that answer moments have them both narcissistic parents I seriously deal with abandonment issues and feeling like I'm here to serve my friends my family and if I say no I'm just completely disowned it's been like this since we were children my parents always had my two sisters as Golden child was always the problem child my father was sexually abusive my mother negligent him all the time and now she does it with my sister my sister is a narcissist I see everybody in my family is a Corvet narcissist I'm very emotionally detached from every single person in my family and friends they don't want to talk to me they don't want to be around me they talked about me and my some selves I feel like they seek to destroy me every possible way they can and when I try to please or chase after a always least bad
Omg where have you been?! Glad you're back ❤ I've been healing these patterns from childhood lately in a different way so this is perfect timing. Id rather be a codependent than a narcissist lol. Then again, I'm getting tired of dealing with only mentally ill people sigh 😐🙄
Thanks for your videos, they are eye opening. My dad saw me as his soulmate because I never dared to disagree with him. My mum needed me to be needy and helpless to make her feel better. She's an enabler, but so crushed I can't bear watching. It took me 8 years from meeting my fiance to leaving home and getting married, when I finally realised they would never let go. I still feel guilty for leaving. In my late 40s I'm trying to work out how this all works, am low contact with my parents, no contact with my sister who hated me then suddenly decided we should be best friends and insisted on knowing everything I thought, felt and did! My brother and I had virtually no relationship growing up because all interactions had to revolve round my dad. He was always at home so no one else could get to my mum emotionally either. I'm so scared I am messing up my own kids badly because I don't know how to love :( I realised I was draining other people with my emotional neediness so have isolated myself, but that doesn't seem healthy either. Any ideas?
Wow thank you sooo very much for sharing !!!! This is very deep & I don’t think I can answer in just one comment but I understand what you’re going through it’s all too familiar. First you have to work on loving yourself loving others starts with loving you as the children of narcs we weren’t taught how to love ourselves so that’s the biggest challenge we face, everything filters through self love. Once you start to love yourself you see the world differently. I would start by keeping a journal and writing down what genuinely makes you happy, not what makes your kids happy or your husband but what makes you happy. Write down your needs, things you need from your self & things you need from others and start advocating for those needs so that your needs are met. This is just a start remember you are a person and it’s ok to have wants needs and desires GOD made us this way. Never feel guilty for having a need, the guilt isn’t real remember it’s a manipulation tactic that’s been instilled in but it isn’t real. Good luck on your journey hope this helps!💕💕💕
Hi Syd, that's soo my famenemy lol! Sad and scary, but true! Congrats, you helped me unplug from a support group and from my famenemy lol narcopathic, obsessive compulsive and depressive second oldest sister which I'm low contact with. I'm still highly co dependent, I haven't shaken it off yet.Take care and thanks!
@@discoveringthenarcissistic7666 I love that, I've been around toxic people sooo long getting rid of the co dependency will take awhile as is my going counterdependent.Thanks again and you're welcome! Take care, that's sweet, love the validation and love back at you!
You are SO on point, as always 😍 ❤️🦄 [As for your initial question, I agree that codependency isn’t a disorder... and what I was originally going to say, is that I would call codependency a character trait... but that’s wrong too. I think that codependency could either be considered a “behavior” or a “behavioral trait,” maybe? I mean we’re groomed to be that way, right? So it could be a “learned behavior” or “learned behavioral trait?” 🤷🏼♀️ Lol, I tried 🤦🏼♀️😂]. I love your posts on IG, but glad to see you back on TH-cam! As always, thank you for all you do! ❤️🦄
I agree I agree I agree!!!!!!! Definitely learned , groomed behavior. We were groomed to be that to be the ultimate lifetime supply!!! 🤮🤮 🤮ugh!! And thank you for all of the support girly 😘😘😘😘😘
Left my children’s father 4 months ago after my therapist told me he was gaslighting me, now the golden child is acting out against her scapegoat older sister with rage and tantrums. I don’t know how to heal this issue, I’m afraid she has picked up npd traits. She does not want to see her father, she says because he was mean to her sisters, but she acts the same way and I’m having a hard time already without this constant struggle between my children’s angry reactions at each other. Any advice? Thanks :)
It's core wounding.runs deep,also with child sex abuse.did prostitution, drugs, literally slamming hard core relationships w psychopaths n soc.poisoned.almost murdered.raped.coming out of fog slowly. My latest quit answering my calls after I went into addiction coaching.they r like the best drug ever w way too many side effects.lol
Can you do a video mainly on daughters that are promiscuous and dateing guys for all the WRONG RESONS.....my narc father made my insercureaties and low self-esteem even WORSE he never gave me a compliment without an insult at the end and whatever outfit I wore or hairstyle I did it just wasn't appealing to him.... Thanks again 💛💛 💛 💛 💛 💛
I'm 54 yrs old. Can't work. Thanks mom and dad. Used me since 8yrs old. I don't have nothing to do with them.
G C I’m 54 this year going thru trauma counseling & psychological counseling
I have come to the conclusion that this is how the whole of our society acts.
So happy to see a new video from you! Go strong with the self love! 💕 When I was young my parents forbid me from all things beauty. They just wanted me to study and have straight As. To them it was impossible to be happy and pretty and study (which is what I wanted to do) , no I had to be miserable and look like a boy to study. My mother even forced me to cut my hair like a boy for the first day of school. That is still a trauma to me. They brainwashed me so bad that I started believing that I don’t have to take care of myself but only for them and I believed that doing hair and makeup is bad. I watched all of your videos and here I am now rocking a TH-cam beauty channel. I watch a lot of similar videos but yours I can relate to so much! Thank you so much for helping me rediscover myself!
Best,
A Fellow Black Sheep
Wow!!! Thank you for your support and I’m glad you’ve found something that makes you happy!! Thanks for sharing and good luck with your channel! Sending love right back at cha!💕💕💕
I only wanted to go to school. I had mother duties. I worked ,,gave money to narc mom. Never had time to study. ,,best wishes. Be who you want to be.
I never felt a responsibility to help these people. I never looked for these people. I did "think" that if I only pleased enough........ I did always "think" that I was carrying a mark or sign on me that said "stupid". They chose me for the reasons youve spoken of. Your experiences and mine are opposite sides of the same coin.
You explain so good. I was abuse in all kind of ways. Today I am so depress because I got education for working with kids at school. I got a practice work in 2014. After that I got pregnant in 2016. I felt sicker and sicker. It was fybromalgy. Then I finished my practice and I got certificate. And now after 5 years as aprendice I don't get a job there. I feel use. And tired. I felt like allways want to help people or children. But most of my Jobs are using me. Bad paid and no even a thank you. I decide to change my job. But my health is no that good. I experience panics, anxiety, dissociation, pain in my body...all kind of symtomns. Thank you so much. You describe so perfectly what is to be in a abuse relationship. Sorry about my English. Hugs from Norway desde Noruega🇳🇴 Johis
omg....I've known that my father is a narcissist, but it always hitsme, when i hear something which describes me perfectly...actually i not only have abandonment issues, but also BPD, which sucks. It's endless pain, coming from the fear of losing everybody around me. man, this is so sad.....
This was incredibly well spoken. You used your words so effectively in painting a clear picture on abandonment issues / codependency. Thank you ❤
THANK YOU GOD🙌🙌🙌 YOUR BACK.... YOUR VIDEOS ARE SO HELPFUL AND A BLESSINGS SO I KNOW THAT ITS NOT JUST IN MY HEAD ESPECIALLY BEING THE DAUGHTER OF A COVERT NARCISSISTIC FATHER ITS VERY PAINFUL BUT ITS ALSO AN EYE OPENER.....I HAVE BEEN NO CONTACT FOR 5YEARS BUT EVERYTHING STILLS FEELS LIKE YESTERDAY BUT I PRAY THAT GOD WITH RENEW MY MIND SO I CAN MOVE ON AND GET RID OF MY ANGER AND TOXIC WAYS .... PLEASE KEEP MAKENING THESE VIDEOS YOUR HELPING MANY PEOPLE AND CHANGEING LIVES.... THANKS AGAIN FOR THE HELP🤗😉🙂💙💜💚💛💗
Woooooww!!! This comment just made my day! Thank you so much for all of your support it means so much to me, I never expected to reach so many people but I’m blessed to be able to, good luck on your journey happy I was able to help!😊
I’ve missed you! I thought you left TH-cam. So happy to see you back 😊
Awww thank you so much 💕
Thank you for the video. Very interesting. I am an empath with a narcissistic father. The same as you.
You are welcome thank you for listening 💕
Same. Sending love to you!
May the Universe, G-d, Good Energies Protect You.
The Both of You.
it hurts and it is very well put. love you. thank you🧡
Yes yes yes u hit 🎯🎯🎯🎯 omg amazing video loved it thank you so very much many continuous blessings
I'm dealing with that answer moments have them both narcissistic parents I seriously deal with abandonment issues and feeling like I'm here to serve my friends my family and if I say no I'm just completely disowned it's been like this since we were children my parents always had my two sisters as Golden child was always the problem child my father was sexually abusive my mother negligent him all the time and now she does it with my sister my sister is a narcissist I see everybody in my family is a Corvet narcissist I'm very emotionally detached from every single person in my family and friends they don't want to talk to me they don't want to be around me they talked about me and my some selves I feel like they seek to destroy me every possible way they can and when I try to please or chase after a always least bad
Your videos are so good and so informative. Please never stop making them !!
Literally me... you describe it so well. Really helps me to discover my feelings and patterns. Thank you!
So spot on.
Wish you posted more videos!
Omg where have you been?! Glad you're back ❤ I've been healing these patterns from childhood lately in a different way so this is perfect timing. Id rather be a codependent than a narcissist lol. Then again, I'm getting tired of dealing with only mentally ill people sigh 😐🙄
Awwww thank you!!!💕I agree codependency is better than narcissism for sure!! Good luck with your healing! You got this!
Disease to please. book recommendation for codependency
Thank you will definitely check it out
@@discoveringthenarcissistic7666 and hmb 26 - how about "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving"
Feel like meeting you .. exact same !!
Thanks for your videos, they are eye opening. My dad saw me as his soulmate because I never dared to disagree with him. My mum needed me to be needy and helpless to make her feel better. She's an enabler, but so crushed I can't bear watching. It took me 8 years from meeting my fiance to leaving home and getting married, when I finally realised they would never let go. I still feel guilty for leaving. In my late 40s I'm trying to work out how this all works, am low contact with my parents, no contact with my sister who hated me then suddenly decided we should be best friends and insisted on knowing everything I thought, felt and did! My brother and I had virtually no relationship growing up because all interactions had to revolve round my dad. He was always at home so no one else could get to my mum emotionally either. I'm so scared I am messing up my own kids badly because I don't know how to love :(
I realised I was draining other people with my emotional neediness so have isolated myself, but that doesn't seem healthy either. Any ideas?
Wow thank you sooo very much for sharing !!!! This is very deep & I don’t think I can answer in just one comment but I understand what you’re going through it’s all too familiar. First you have to work on loving yourself loving others starts with loving you as the children of narcs we weren’t taught how to love ourselves so that’s the biggest challenge we face, everything filters through self love. Once you start to love yourself you see the world differently. I would start by keeping a journal and writing down what genuinely makes you happy, not what makes your kids happy or your husband but what makes you happy. Write down your needs, things you need from your self & things you need from others and start advocating for those needs so that your needs are met. This is just a start remember you are a person and it’s ok to have wants needs and desires GOD made us this way. Never feel guilty for having a need, the guilt isn’t real remember it’s a manipulation tactic that’s been instilled in but it isn’t real. Good luck on your journey hope this helps!💕💕💕
@@discoveringthenarcissistic7666 Thank you!
Ross Rosenberg calls it 'Self-Love Deficit Disorder'. He has a great channel and a book as well.
Thank you! Loving all the book ideas you guys are giving me! Will definitely look into it
WOW!!! This helps me a lot.
Wow so true!!!!!!!
I always look forward to your videos-I’ve learned so much from them. Glad you’re back 🙂
Wow thank you
Hi Syd, that's soo my famenemy lol! Sad and scary, but true! Congrats, you helped me unplug from a support group and from my famenemy lol narcopathic, obsessive compulsive and depressive second oldest sister which I'm low contact with. I'm still highly co dependent, I haven't shaken it off yet.Take care and thanks!
Thank you for your support and for watching the video I’m glad I was able to help you ! Take care.💕
@@discoveringthenarcissistic7666 I love that, I've been around toxic people sooo long getting rid of the co dependency will take awhile as is my going counterdependent.Thanks again and you're welcome! Take care, that's sweet, love the validation and love back at you!
You are SO on point, as always 😍 ❤️🦄
[As for your initial question, I agree that codependency isn’t a disorder... and what I was originally going to say, is that I would call codependency a character trait... but that’s wrong too. I think that codependency could either be considered a “behavior” or a “behavioral trait,” maybe? I mean we’re groomed to be that way, right? So it could be a “learned behavior” or “learned behavioral trait?” 🤷🏼♀️ Lol, I tried 🤦🏼♀️😂]. I love your posts on IG, but glad to see you back on TH-cam! As always, thank you for all you do! ❤️🦄
I agree I agree I agree!!!!!!! Definitely learned , groomed behavior. We were groomed to be that to be the ultimate lifetime supply!!! 🤮🤮 🤮ugh!! And thank you for all of the support girly 😘😘😘😘😘
Thank you for posting this! I needed to hear this today 💖
Very welcome 💕💕💕💕
And yes ur true about that too than!
Great explanations in all your videos.
Thank you so much !
Yay you are back!
💕💕💕💕💕
Left my children’s father 4 months ago after my therapist told me he was gaslighting me, now the golden child is acting out against her scapegoat older sister with rage and tantrums. I don’t know how to heal this issue, I’m afraid she has picked up npd traits. She does not want to see her father, she says because he was mean to her sisters, but she acts the same way and I’m having a hard time already without this constant struggle between my children’s angry reactions at each other. Any advice? Thanks :)
Well that’s scary than
yep
Damn.
It's core wounding.runs deep,also with child sex abuse.did prostitution, drugs, literally slamming hard core relationships w psychopaths n soc.poisoned.almost murdered.raped.coming out of fog slowly. My latest quit answering my calls after I went into addiction coaching.they r like the best drug ever w way too many side effects.lol
Can you do a video mainly on daughters that are promiscuous and dateing guys for all the WRONG RESONS.....my narc father made my insercureaties and low self-esteem even WORSE he never gave me a compliment without an insult at the end and whatever outfit I wore or hairstyle I did it just wasn't appealing to him.... Thanks again 💛💛 💛 💛 💛 💛
Is coodependency = abandonment issues ?
Abandonment issues can definitely stem from codependency