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Hello, this is nice but my experience is that when I let go this person will act like they did nothing wrong and make me fee like I was an idiot for even feeling hurt in the first place. At least when I’m angry they’ll back off
In that case perhaps it’s helpful to distinguish between letting go of chronic resentment inside (which is helpful) and not setting boundaries or communicating or allowing yourself to feel your inner no and doing things to express it (all of which wouldn’t be helpful). It is possible to hold a boundary without having to hold on to chronic resentment/inner pain. 🌷
Have carried the weight for years of hurts and disappointments that have run very deep--thank you for helping me understand how to release and lighten....
Great input and topic! Very important if you ever find yourself in a situation like this. Self reflection is a opportunity for self growth and a way to find peace and balance within 👍🌠
To the point that you actually NEED your anger. Your hatred. The bile in your heart. It's you're whole life and motivation. The person who stabbed you in the back HAS to be punished. You will not be content until you see her suffering in unimaginable agony, and when she pleas for your help, you will turn your back on her, just the way she did to YOU. And you will walk away, reveling in her cries for mercy and forgiveness. For there is none. That's the rot in what's left in MY heart. And its' fantasy is my most satisfying thought. THIS is what evil, unrepentant betrayal twists you into.
What is your opinion about how we can deal with difficult personality who makes you feel insecure and uncomfortable in the long run? I am so happy to find you, your podcasts are amazing! Greetings from Romania !
Welcome to the channel, I'm glad you found it :) Concerning people who make you feel insecure and uncomfortable in the long run - it is definitely something to turn towards and actively take charge of the situation/relationship. I don't think it's helpful to just let it be and let them have that effect on you. What exactly you end up doing, depends on the person, relationship and circumstances. The most drastic step would be to stop interacting with the person, to end the relationship. That has many consequences, and is often painful, so it needs to be well thought-through. But sometimes it's the only option to protect yourself. Sometimes ending contact with that person is not an option (for many different reasons) - you could still do something about it, like changing how and how often you interact with this person. I think Lindsay Gibson's "maturity awareness approach" is very helpful in these instances, you can watch my explanation of it here: ▶ th-cam.com/video/CSLi8eNOLBY/w-d-xo.html These two videos are also on this topic: ▶ Becoming Immune To Emotional Takeovers & Reclaiming Your Mental And Emotional Autonomy th-cam.com/video/fxz_NuVDSkE/w-d-xo.html ▶ 6 Strategies For Resisting Emotional Takeovers From Emotionally Immature People In Interactions th-cam.com/video/V0G7lGocguI/w-d-xo.html I hope this helps! All the best to you!
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank you for such a great answer! 😇🙏 and for your recommendations. Truly, it is very painful to cut people of from my life, especially when I have anxious attachment style, but otherwise my self esteem will go lower. I was very depressed but, thanks to some of your videos, I started to cure myself. Blessings from Romania! You are very good and profound! 🌹🌹🌹
Such a clear explanation and so kindly shared. Thanks so much maika 🙏🙏🙏 im working on this letting go. I realised why I ruminated and how it isn't helping.
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Best advice I've ever heard!! And I'm 65 years old. What I'm trying to say is this timeless wisdom.
That‘s awesome 🙂 Thank you! And welcome here 🫶🏻
Thank you for the specifics on how to process the pain of the grudges. it was exactly what i was looking for..
I'm glad this was helpful! 🌺
the same here
So good. Thank you
Hello, this is nice but my experience is that when I let go this person will act like they did nothing wrong and make me fee like I was an idiot for even feeling hurt in the first place. At least when I’m angry they’ll back off
In that case perhaps it’s helpful to distinguish between letting go of chronic resentment inside (which is helpful) and not setting boundaries or communicating or allowing yourself to feel your inner no and doing things to express it (all of which wouldn’t be helpful). It is possible to hold a boundary without having to hold on to chronic resentment/inner pain. 🌷
It's called, "gaslighting".
Everything you said makes absolutely 100% sense...feels like my actions are finally put into words
I‘m glad this resonated with you ✨
Thank you. I just do not know how to let go. Is like the grudge is all that I have left.
Sounds like something emotionally intense created the grudge... I wish you all the best with this 💖
Same. To the point that I NEED my hatred and my anger.
Have carried the weight for years of hurts and disappointments that have run very deep--thank you for helping me understand how to release and lighten....
Some pain is really heavy… I’m glad this helped with letting go. All the best 💕
Great input and topic! Very important if you ever find yourself in a situation like this. Self reflection is a opportunity for self growth and a way to find peace and balance within 👍🌠
Glad you liked it! 🙂🌼
😢 so true but it's not easy
💯💖🌺
Because we can't have revenge....no outlet for payback....so it rots inside of us
Revenge often makes people more entangled in the anger and pain of it all. It's a different story for justice.
To the point that you actually NEED your anger. Your hatred. The bile in your heart. It's you're whole life and motivation. The person who stabbed you in the back HAS to be punished. You will not be content until you see her suffering in unimaginable agony, and when she pleas for your help, you will turn your back on her, just the way she did to YOU. And you will walk away, reveling in her cries for mercy and forgiveness. For there is none. That's the rot in what's left in MY heart. And its' fantasy is my most satisfying thought.
THIS is what evil, unrepentant betrayal twists you into.
What is your opinion about how we can deal with difficult personality who makes you feel insecure and uncomfortable in the long run?
I am so happy to find you, your podcasts are amazing!
Greetings from Romania !
Welcome to the channel, I'm glad you found it :)
Concerning people who make you feel insecure and uncomfortable in the long run - it is definitely something to turn towards and actively take charge of the situation/relationship. I don't think it's helpful to just let it be and let them have that effect on you. What exactly you end up doing, depends on the person, relationship and circumstances. The most drastic step would be to stop interacting with the person, to end the relationship. That has many consequences, and is often painful, so it needs to be well thought-through. But sometimes it's the only option to protect yourself.
Sometimes ending contact with that person is not an option (for many different reasons) - you could still do something about it, like changing how and how often you interact with this person. I think Lindsay Gibson's "maturity awareness approach" is very helpful in these instances, you can watch my explanation of it here: ▶ th-cam.com/video/CSLi8eNOLBY/w-d-xo.html
These two videos are also on this topic:
▶ Becoming Immune To Emotional Takeovers & Reclaiming Your Mental And Emotional Autonomy th-cam.com/video/fxz_NuVDSkE/w-d-xo.html
▶ 6 Strategies For Resisting Emotional Takeovers From Emotionally Immature People In Interactions th-cam.com/video/V0G7lGocguI/w-d-xo.html
I hope this helps! All the best to you!
@@DrMaikaSteinborn Thank you for such a great answer! 😇🙏 and for your recommendations.
Truly, it is very painful to cut people of from my life, especially when I have anxious attachment style, but otherwise my self esteem will go lower. I was very depressed but, thanks to some of your videos, I started to cure myself.
Blessings from Romania!
You are very good and profound! 🌹🌹🌹
Articulate snd Powerful!
Thank you!
Such a clear explanation and so kindly shared. Thanks so much maika 🙏🙏🙏 im working on this letting go. I realised why I ruminated and how it isn't helping.
I'm glad this was helpful. All the best for your inner work! 💖
thankyou ❤️ 🙏 🌹
🙂🙏🏻
❤