As someone who wad emotionally unavailable, I am available, and thanks to therapy and coaching and putting and work on myself and glad for my change for myself ❣️
My recent ex(broke up 2 weeks ago) is a long term consistently emotionally unavailable. I'll having a hard time coming to terms that she may never change. If she doesn't get on the path to healing I'm not sure I can be with her and that's terrifying
Dude, same recently had a break up with that guy, come on you deserve better, have some self respect, tbh if my ex come back again im never going to allow him back in my life, save yourself..
@@shine2678 couple weeks ago she told me she met someone else already. By my math it was only about a month after we broke up that she met and decided to pursue something with this guy. Clearly a rebound. Huge gut punch. Still pretty stuck on her...
@@shine2678 I identified her as a dismissive avoidant pretty early on and even warned her that if we didn't stay conscious and actively work on it and communicate that it was destined to fail. I'm not blameless tho, I got complacent and stopped paying attention and working on myself. Pretty much abandoned myself and got lost in the relationship
Going through this right now with a girl. We were seeing each other for 4 months before she walked away in Feb. We have started to reconnect a bit over the last 2 weeks but she’s extremely flakey and won’t admit her feelings towards me. One minute saying she thinks she’s done because she can’t handle her emotions, and that she can’t handle a relationship and knows I want one, to the next, wanting me to essentially talk her out of it. I agreed with her that I want to take things extremely slow and not out any label or expectation on it and she said okay. However, she’s still trying her best to avoid seeing me but she is initiating messages, calls and video calls all the time. Unsure if being strung along or she’s just extremely emotionally unavailable.
It really depends on the person who is seeking emotional availability in their partner. A woman may not desire a man who is on equal emotional availability like herself. She will probably dump him or cheat on him for a man who shows less emotional availability
I'm in a bit of an interesting situation. My ex and I haven't spoken for a little under a month now. However, when she offered me friendship, I denied it, because I felt it was a way for her to slowly let me down as she does not have an easy time with rejection. However, when I asked her " Are we finished?" She couldn't say yes or no. Later on in the conversation she said I never think we had any real chemistry. Which is a way for her to justify the breakup. We have the same familial goals same drive for success etc. Now the unique part is that, I have to break no contact as I am going to her city and will be staying with her. I did all the begging and pleading stuff, until I had enough. I love her and I know and she knows deep down that we do have an extremely strong bond. What can I do here? How should I approach this? Is there any way to make this work? Or am I just hoping for my own sake? Thanks.
If you have to beg for something, it was never yours. You deserve someone who will give to you you just as much as you give to them. As someone who dealt with this myself, you’re better off moving on (which is easier said than done, I know). But you will find someone else! Just take your time to gain your wisdoms from the experience and use it to propel yourself forward in a healthier relationship one day. Stand up for yourself and what you’re worth. You got this.
Do you think somebody who went to work far away can develop the emotional unavailability? I have been doing long distance with my gf for 5 months and I’m the 4th she just started to show a big lack of interest and when I saw her she told me she’s emotionally unavailable at the moment. What should I do in this situation?
As someone who wad emotionally unavailable, I am available, and thanks to therapy and coaching and putting and work on myself and glad for my change for myself ❣️
Would you advise to keep away from relationships until this is resolved?
This is true. You can change this very easily when you become self aware of it.
I am open and am on the same team. In a good place. Ups and downs are a part of life. I embrace who I am and the journey.
Thanks for sharing your journey. :-)
You're appreciated clay and the entire staff
Thanks, Andrew. :-)
Hey. Made it to the end. Interesting video. Thank you. Needed this.
My recent ex(broke up 2 weeks ago) is a long term consistently emotionally unavailable. I'll having a hard time coming to terms that she may never change. If she doesn't get on the path to healing I'm not sure I can be with her and that's terrifying
Dude, same recently had a break up with that guy, come on you deserve better, have some self respect, tbh if my ex come back again im never going to allow him back in my life, save yourself..
@@shine2678 couple weeks ago she told me she met someone else already. By my math it was only about a month after we broke up that she met and decided to pursue something with this guy. Clearly a rebound. Huge gut punch. Still pretty stuck on her...
@@bens52310 that's a red flag, when did you first start feeling that she might be emotionally unavailable?
@@shine2678 I identified her as a dismissive avoidant pretty early on and even warned her that if we didn't stay conscious and actively work on it and communicate that it was destined to fail. I'm not blameless tho, I got complacent and stopped paying attention and working on myself. Pretty much abandoned myself and got lost in the relationship
@@bens52310 are you still in contact with her?
You speak a lot of sense and i appreciate it. Such helpful insights.
Going through this right now with a girl. We were seeing each other for 4 months before she walked away in Feb.
We have started to reconnect a bit over the last 2 weeks but she’s extremely flakey and won’t admit her feelings towards me. One minute saying she thinks she’s done because she can’t handle her emotions, and that she can’t handle a relationship and knows I want one, to the next, wanting me to essentially talk her out of it.
I agreed with her that I want to take things extremely slow and not out any label or expectation on it and she said okay. However, she’s still trying her best to avoid seeing me but she is initiating messages, calls and video calls all the time. Unsure if being strung along or she’s just extremely emotionally unavailable.
your behavior lead her on it
Man don’t waste time with people like this
It really depends on the person who is seeking emotional availability in their partner. A woman may not desire a man who is on equal emotional availability like herself. She will probably dump him or cheat on him for a man who shows less emotional availability
Why
@akozak1989 it's the power dynamics. Women want what they can't have.
I'm in a bit of an interesting situation. My ex and I haven't spoken for a little under a month now. However, when she offered me friendship, I denied it, because I felt it was a way for her to slowly let me down as she does not have an easy time with rejection. However, when I asked her " Are we finished?" She couldn't say yes or no. Later on in the conversation she said I never think we had any real chemistry. Which is a way for her to justify the breakup. We have the same familial goals same drive for success etc. Now the unique part is that, I have to break no contact as I am going to her city and will be staying with her. I did all the begging and pleading stuff, until I had enough. I love her and I know and she knows deep down that we do have an extremely strong bond. What can I do here? How should I approach this? Is there any way to make this work? Or am I just hoping for my own sake?
Thanks.
If you have to beg for something, it was never yours. You deserve someone who will give to you you just as much as you give to them. As someone who dealt with this myself, you’re better off moving on (which is easier said than done, I know). But you will find someone else! Just take your time to gain your wisdoms from the experience and use it to propel yourself forward in a healthier relationship one day. Stand up for yourself and what you’re worth. You got this.
It sounds like the relationship is based purely on pragmatism without any sort of passion. Can you see why that would get tiresome to her?
Yes, I made it to the end, lol
Any resources to make yourself available emotionally again?
Do you think somebody who went to work far away can develop the emotional unavailability? I have been doing long distance with my gf for 5 months and I’m the 4th she just started to show a big lack of interest and when I saw her she told me she’s emotionally unavailable at the moment. What should I do in this situation?
Walk away and send your best wishes.
Get a mic man wtf is this 2002 ?
Lolll