And even if you do get him to commit to a relationship, if he originally said he wasn't ready, he's still not ready and the relationship most likely won't even be that great. There's men that eventually marry these women that stick around hoping he will change because he thinks no woman will love him like her, and he better marry her. Although if he wasn't ready to settle down because he wasn't ready to be with one woman, the marriage will most likely not work out. He will not like having to be monogamous. So do yourself a favor and cut your losses IMO. And find a guy excited to be with you, and wanting to prove he is loyal.
Completely agree, my ex was not happy or healthy in his own life, he had no balance. And despite wanting a relationship, fled when I raised the vulnerability block he had with me. Whilst hurt I'm ok, I've always focused on my life balance and filling my life with things and people who make me shine. On the other side, my ex is back on the apps to fill the void with a 'conmitted relationship' - he's aware of his unavailability he just doesnt want to change. He will keep hurting people 😢
Elliot, you should do a video on why men are emotionally unavailable. What it looks like and the reasons why women are attracted to them (equally toxic on both ends)... like explain why women are attracted to this type of man. I already went through this and learned the hard way. I came out stronger, wiser, and happier in the end though.
Why emotionally unavailable men are out there dating? It happened to me in the past I was chased hard and when we had sex I realised I was used as a rebound because the girl after me became his girlfriend 🤷🏻♀️
Love this! Just like going to the Smokey Mountains…pulling off on the side of the road & purchasing the bag of “gems” 💎 ….you sift through the sand and hope….that’s equivalent to finding the authentic one 🤣💃🏼🙌🏼
Great video! What about the guy that gives you the relationship title, treats you well and 8 months in isn't talking about next steps yet? We're long distance, it's going great, he's consistent with everything but I don't want to be doing this 3 years from now. He talks about the future, (travel, things to do together) but hasn't talked about how we will close the distance. He is diligent about traveling to me and I am to him too.
I dated an unemotional man who just separated from his wife, yes he missed his wife and kids, but he and I went into a relationship before his divorce was final, he and I was together for six years. He passed away due to and accident
I wonder if there are different kind of situations a guy is emotional unavailable. Is an emotional unavailable guy just fucked up or can it also be something temporarily like after a divorce.
I think it just depends. Could be fearful or dismissive avoidant attachment styles. Could be temporary as in a divorce, death of family/friend, financial/job pressures. If it's temporary, it can be worked theough. Avoidant attachments require therapy.
Hi what about if is always good to me and is consistent .we are in our sisties and been togesther for quite awhile he calls me girlfriend and I call him my boyfriend but he is not romantic but I am .I know he cares but not sure how much. Pl ket me know what you think. Ty ty
Elliott, can you please enlighten me (I'm a girl). For the instance: there's a man I'm in love with, he sees me, he kinda gets the hots to put it shortly, hyped up, attracted etc. Let's say I'm a writer, more or less I am like writers are, men say I'm beautiful and very mysterious. I'm hard to get, hard to obtain. Then, after months he chooses the kind of bimbo, with a brain a quarter of mine, a woman who was involved with sugar daddies most of her 20s. How could I get over the conviction in my brain that he found that woman better than I was? I felt like a piece of nothing, and I'm being nice here, you know? What's the criteria men use when choosing one over the other? This man had a plan, and he manipulated this girl to extents I won't get into details about. He wouldn't have been able to do this with me. I think he knew
Hey Elliot, can you please do a video on if you love someone, have been together for years…. But you just want to… you know cheat or something. I’m torn right now bc im having urges to see other people and act on my temptations. Don’t get me wrong I love him so much. But what if it’s been years with the same person, and I want to explore with someone. Idk how to explain and I know it sounds messed up. I have a lot of my girlfriends that say “break up for the night” or some people have cheated and they say it makes their relationship stronger. Idkkkk… what to do…. :( Thank you !!
Girl don’t cheat! If you truly love him you won’t want to hurt him. If you are bored or interested in other people then break up with him. Tell him that you need space and time. I think most people have urges and of course you may be interested in other people. But think of it like this, what if the roles were reversed? He cheats on you but stays because he loves you? Do the right thing. Let him go, maybe you need to sow your wild oats and then find each other again in the future? Just don’t hurt him like that. If you cheat you can’t take it back.
Why do you always have to talk about your looks at the beginning of the video. Just get to the content. Be a dating coach and don’t focus on trying to be all cute. Your viewers will watch regardless.
@Julie Parrington we never said he’s not a good guy or doesn’t give good advice. Literally pointed out how he consistently is hyper focused on his looks and hair, and when chicks compliment it in the comment instead of the content, he will like it so fast.
A woman can never change a man. But a man will change if he feels compelled to by his own accord. A woman can influence a man, but never change him.
And even if you do get him to commit to a relationship, if he originally said he wasn't ready, he's still not ready and the relationship most likely won't even be that great. There's men that eventually marry these women that stick around hoping he will change because he thinks no woman will love him like her, and he better marry her. Although if he wasn't ready to settle down because he wasn't ready to be with one woman, the marriage will most likely not work out. He will not like having to be monogamous. So do yourself a favor and cut your losses IMO. And find a guy excited to be with you, and wanting to prove he is loyal.
@Julie Parrington you gotta love yourself more
I agree. If he is not there mentally it won’t work In the long run.
People will change when they are sick enough of themselves. But some people will never get sick of themselves and would rather remain in sickness.
Completely agree, my ex was not happy or healthy in his own life, he had no balance. And despite wanting a relationship, fled when I raised the vulnerability block he had with me.
Whilst hurt I'm ok, I've always focused on my life balance and filling my life with things and people who make me shine.
On the other side, my ex is back on the apps to fill the void with a 'conmitted relationship' - he's aware of his unavailability he just doesnt want to change. He will keep hurting people 😢
A man who is emotionally unavailable should not be dating .
That's should be the problem is they still need Sex so they have to victimized Girls esp. empathetic vulnerable Girls
I would pay money to be your friend.. 1) you have the most accurate / truthful advice 2) you are constantly making me laugh
What a wonderful clip, Elliott. So important. Some guys are truly not narcissists, no disorder, they are just avoidant.
A guy can change for the woman he wants to change for
If you’re with a guy and he’s not changing, then you’re not the one
Elliot, you should do a video on why men are emotionally unavailable. What it looks like and the reasons why women are attracted to them (equally toxic on both ends)... like explain why women are attracted to this type of man. I already went through this and learned the hard way. I came out stronger, wiser, and happier in the end though.
Human magnet syndrome
Agree
Elliot we miss you!! You still look good no matter what, we just need the message.
Mad respect for not fooling women that they should wait and change that type of dude. 🙌
My guy wanted a relationship with me, everything was fine until the one month mark of the relationship… then he completely couldn’t handle it.
Why emotionally unavailable men are out there dating? It happened to me in the past I was chased hard and when we had sex I realised I was used as a rebound because the girl after me became his girlfriend 🤷🏻♀️
He was not necessarily unavailable, just not thatn into you….😟
Love this!
Just like going to the Smokey Mountains…pulling off on the side of the road & purchasing the bag of “gems” 💎 ….you sift through the sand and hope….that’s equivalent to finding the authentic one 🤣💃🏼🙌🏼
Great video! What about the guy that gives you the relationship title, treats you well and 8 months in isn't talking about next steps yet? We're long distance, it's going great, he's consistent with everything but I don't want to be doing this 3 years from now. He talks about the future, (travel, things to do together) but hasn't talked about how we will close the distance. He is diligent about traveling to me and I am to him too.
You might want to check him that’s a red flag I learn to have these conversations even before a relationship
I am not dating but...I just watch because I like hearing u talk haha
Makes me think......wonder what would make u loose your attention
Lol just stay single ladies..lol just naw
Lol very good video.
If he acts like an asshole, you don't want him, that's the short story. He knows what he's doing. Smh!
Thanks for the reminder!
So good to see you Elliot! You're handsome either way... Love you!
Its common sense, no one can change some if they don't want to change. Autonomy is something we all have not just woman.
Sad thing is you can’t change a man once his mind is made up that’s that
Needed to hear this! Thank you!!
Happy to see a new video, don’t worry about your beautiful face, your our favourite dating coach, Elliot Scott
I love your videos.
They have been helping me with my relationships. Thank you!
I missed you! Glad to see a new video from you, you always have good advice
Elliot looking good 🔥
That’s so very true and I did try and it was so much effort then when he was, I wasn’t emotions change daily sometimes
Elliot your vids are so fun haha. Keep it up
What a great video!❤️
Great advice!
Thanks for sharing
I dated an unemotional man who just separated from his wife, yes he missed his wife and kids, but he and I went into a relationship before his divorce was final, he and I was together for six years. He passed away due to and accident
Man we missed you a lot !!
I love you Elliot, thank you for your videos ❤️❤️
I wonder if there are different kind of situations a guy is emotional unavailable. Is an emotional unavailable guy just fucked up or can it also be something temporarily like after a divorce.
I think it just depends. Could be fearful or dismissive avoidant attachment styles. Could be temporary as in a divorce, death of family/friend, financial/job pressures. If it's temporary, it can be worked theough. Avoidant attachments require therapy.
I agree with you Elliot. 💯‼️
Thanks for your help
😘
Hello Coach Elliot!
I miss ur videos Eliot!!!
You always look amazing you be having me dying laughing 😂
Thank you
Hi what about if is always good to me and is consistent .we are in our sisties and been togesther for quite awhile he calls me girlfriend and I call him my boyfriend but he is not romantic but I am .I know he cares but not sure how much. Pl ket me know what you think. Ty ty
Hello Elliott!
Elliott, can you please enlighten me (I'm a girl). For the instance: there's a man I'm in love with, he sees me, he kinda gets the hots to put it shortly, hyped up, attracted etc. Let's say I'm a writer, more or less I am like writers are, men say I'm beautiful and very mysterious. I'm hard to get, hard to obtain. Then, after months he chooses the kind of bimbo, with a brain a quarter of mine, a woman who was involved with sugar daddies most of her 20s. How could I get over the conviction in my brain that he found that woman better than I was? I felt like a piece of nothing, and I'm being nice here, you know? What's the criteria men use when choosing one over the other? This man had a plan, and he manipulated this girl to extents I won't get into details about. He wouldn't have been able to do this with me. I think he knew
Men goes with someone who's easier..
Elliot’s one tan away from being my type
Hey Elliot, can you please do a video on if you love someone, have been together for years…. But you just want to… you know cheat or something. I’m torn right now bc im having urges to see other people and act on my temptations.
Don’t get me wrong I love him so much. But what if it’s been years with the same person, and I want to explore with someone. Idk how to explain and I know it sounds messed up. I have a lot of my girlfriends that say “break up for the night” or some people have cheated and they say it makes their relationship stronger. Idkkkk… what to do…. :( Thank you !!
Girl don’t cheat! If you truly love him you won’t want to hurt him. If you are bored or interested in other people then break up with him. Tell him that you need space and time. I think most people have urges and of course you may be interested in other people. But think of it like this, what if the roles were reversed? He cheats on you but stays because he loves you? Do the right thing. Let him go, maybe you need to sow your wild oats and then find each other again in the future? Just don’t hurt him like that. If you cheat you can’t take it back.
@@marimar8175 you’re right :/ I really gotta make a decision
Where the fuck have you been?
Makes me wonder if he found an Asian woman to date. It would make sense to take dating advice from a guy in a relationship
For reaaaal
He’s a very busy man
I was wondering the same thing I miss Elliot
You don’t look rough! You look even hotter just having rolled out of bed 🥰🥰🥰
You kidding me? You look hot like this live the rugged manly look
5 years in :( he’s not a bad guy. But he’s emotionally unavailable.
Cause they have fractured empathy? Psychotic?
Why do you always have to talk about your looks at the beginning of the video. Just get to the content. Be a dating coach and don’t focus on trying to be all cute. Your viewers will watch regardless.
I noticed that too ..Well we ain't judging him at all we just want to see the content 😂😂😂
@@murel8319 I know, he really does bring attention to his own looks a lot when we don’t care.
@Julie Parrington we never said he’s not a good guy or doesn’t give good advice. Literally pointed out how he consistently is hyper focused on his looks and hair, and when chicks compliment it in the comment instead of the content, he will like it so fast.
''It's not your job to'' remember that ,,, stop wasting your time
poundtown🤣
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Your cute...miss the man bun lol
lol the man bun made him more into himself. Plus he is growing up and needs a look to parallel it.
@@j-tenn226 good point..thanks gorgeous