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Not sure if you are looking for ideas how to put on weight but if yes, this is what helped my sister who was really skinny because of stress (my mum was sick and died of cancer) : smoothies with protein powder, organic plant based one. Slowly , week by week, she was gaining a bit of weight:) she was really happy and l was happy for her:)💕💕💕💕
From what l can see, you eat healthy so one smoothie a day with your favourite fruits and vegetables (and of course the protein for example from pees) it won’t be a big hassle but it can really help. Wishing you all the best 💐💐 you are a lovely person 💗💗
You know there is a fashion now breastfeed your baby for 2 months and then you can leave Him/Her for weeks and you shouldn't be guilty because they said it's great to be selfish in this world
I started following you when I found out I was pregnant. Your honesty about every aspect of pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting has helped me a lot. And I completely agree about the weight loss while breastfeeding - it just doesn't happen like people say it does.
It might be the case for everyone. And of course it wouldn't we are just not the same. But it did work for me. I lost all the weight and a bit more. It helped my uterus go back down very quickly. Of course I'm left with saggy skin but I'm actually having to eat more than before just to keep a healthy weight on me and produce enough milk for my baby.
@@Simplelivingslowliving My stomach is completely flat, so it for sure helped my uterus shrink, but my hips and thighs have DEFINITELY put on a few inches.
My lactation consultant told me that breastfeeding is a contract. Both parties must agree. If baby doesn’t want to, breastfeeding is over, if mom doesn’t want to anymore, it’s over 🤍
@@monica_zulkerine468 yaaaaay someone with humour! Yes I knew what you meant but couldn't help myself :D Thanks for not being offended at a joke! Yes the world has gone that crazy.
@@halloweellahere7602 hahah I HD a good laugh too and it’s crazy how the internet can be, at first I was like what if she says “no I don’t know what you mean” hahaha
I remember weaning my oldest daughter and feeling SO much of this and feeling alone. No one tells you how to wean only how to start. Your courage to share such an intimate experience is empowering!
I just dropped my last (morning) feed three days ago! I feel ya! Your body has done amazing things! When I dropped my day feeds, I experienced insomnia and I had posted on a breastfeeding FB page about my experience. I was just looking for people with similar experiences. I got no feedback but one person who said, you weaned to fast...I weaned in the span of almost two months...that wasn't fast. I am now dealing with hormonal acne, appetite swings (not wanting to eat till 3pm), hair loss AGAIN, and sadness and joy all at the same time. Praying for you that your body gets the love and care that it needs to thrive.
You’re the best mum to your child (just ask them, they’ll tell you) so you did nothing wrong! Be kind to your body and yourself, it just needs time. Get help if you feel like you need it.
I gained 50+ lbs. with both pregnancies, a lot on my small frame and the journey has been a crazy one. As a person who never worried about body image, I struggled, tried not to care, tried to not let it get to me. Sure I was never going to be back to my prebaby body. And now I'm in the same boat as you, running all day, not eating enough, not sleeping enough; not sustainable at all. Wish you all well Mommas! Our jobs are important and we need to be healthy inside and out to show these littles how to be great humans. ❤️
I have weaned 3 of my children up until now, and I am currently nursing my 4th and dreading that day! Every one of them have had a little different of a story but by far my second was my hardest. I was 20 at the time and she was 15 months and found it the most difficult. She had experienced seizures at 12 months and since then nursing really brought her so much comfort. She had finished her night feeds at that age also, which I think made it harder because that early morning feed were so so special. I also experienced a lot of breastfeeding weight loss with her. This time around I am struggling to loose anything. It’s insane how different my body can react at different stages of life and ages. I agree being kind and slow to your body is the way to go. The crazy thing is, she is now almost 10 and absolutely loves watching her sister (6 months) nurse and she can tell how special the bond is between her and I when we feed, it’s almost like she remembers being in the same position ❤️ Thank you for sharing your journey 🤍
This made me so emotional. I know all of our journeys are different but I’ve always experienced ED and now 1 year PP I keep falling back into my ED. It’s so hard to eat the amount I know I’m supposed to bc I just don’t feel hungry. But I got up and made myself food after this video. Thank you for sharing.
I relate to this so much. I’m only 5 months postpartum but I feel every part of your comment. I have to remind myself that me eating helps my baby gain their calories and I have to be my best for my baby. I also have to keep reminding myself that I grew and housed a human for 9 months so am I being so hard on myself about my weight. You’re not alone mama❤️
I feel the same way. My appetite is gone, I have to force myself to eat. It's triggering because I like how much weight I'm losing however I know it's unhealthy. For me, for my baby. Its hard and no one talks about it.
I don’t know if I’ll ever have children, but I truly appreciate these videos. It’s nice to be aware of what the mamas in my life may be dealing with and how I can better help them out. Knowledge is power 💪🏾 Thank you Brittany, and much love to all the Moms out there 💕
Couldn’t agree more! It’s really refreshing to see such a transparent and positive voice talk about their experience so I can support new Moms in my my corner. It’s so essential to know what signs to look out for yet there is so little public info on it. Thanks Brittany for your transparency and consideration 💗
Thank you for making this video 🧡 My son was born July 13 2020 and we're still on our nursing journey. I have struggled so much with weight gain throughout the whole breastfeeding process. I actually weigh more now than the day I went in to give birth. It's just very empowering to hear someone openly talk about what breastfeeding can be/do to your body that's not always 100% positive
Yes! My daughter and I went as strong as I could until I went back to work. But I didn’t even think I would be able to because all the women in my family never could!! 7 MONTH CLUB
Same. My son just wasn't interested when he was older (I won't disclose how old he was because it's not a competition). He fed for like 10 seconds 2 nights in a row when I got home from work and then picked up his water! I was truly offended for about a year.
I’m in the process of weening my baby, she’s 7 months too! It’s very emotional but ever since I started breastfeeding I lost 30 pounds and HOPE to get my weight back now that I’ve stopped.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I have no kids and can’t relate to the struggles of breastfeeding or weaning but I have been struggling with my health for a few years (I actually found you from your endometriosis surgery video) and I struggle to maintain a healthy weight because of the physical and emotional stress of it, I hate that so many people see me and look up to my body when I know that I am too skinny and not the healthiest I could be.
I've been following you since I was in High School in 2011watching your hair videos and the Our Daily Riot vlogs, and now I'm a mom to my 14 month old son. Being pregnant around the same time as you felt so cool honestly. It really is like having an older sister that I'm growing up with😊💗💗 Thank for all these years🌻🌻🌻🌻
At 5 months I went through a very stressful time and I body just stopped producing. I tried everything to get it back but sometimes you just have to listen to your body. I wasn’t prepared for the hormones changes and body changes at that time either. I’m trying everyday to be kinder to myself and really appreciate all that it’s gone through. Thank you for this video. I needed it. ❤️ you’re doing great mama.
Thank you! My husband sometimes watches your videos with me and we both think you are such a strong Women & Mama! Greetings all the way from Germany.♥️
Sending you so much love. I'm starting to wean and it's incredibly mentally difficult and now I'm starting to realize that my moods/hormones are affected as well; I never put it together. Weaning is way harder for me than breastfeeding ever was but I'm craving the freedom of a night off or having someone else put my 16 month old to bed. Thank you for this reality check and you are NOT alone either 💕
You are so incredibly resilient and inspiring. My daughter is 7 months, so we have a long ways to go but I am already dreading weaning. I have absolutely loved breastfeeding so far. I’m also so glad you talked about how you’re feeling about your body. These frank discussions are SO important. You are amazing, Brittany.
Post breast feeding blues are real and hardcore! You are so brave and strong for sharing this, don’t let anyone take that away from you! I’m still currently BFing my 9 month old and the thought of weaning make me so sad, so this is so helpful for me 💗
Thank you. You are so right! It’s a VERY difficult journey! Preggo with bb#2 and I’m only 11 months pp. I’m excited, yet scared to start the journey over again... just started to get a grip on my “body”, had to end breastfeeding with my baby girl so abruptly & start the formula route. WATCHING IN THE MIRROR and FEELING your body change so drastically is part of the journey. Sometimes a battle!! There’s so much you want to control but in the end you let it go, do what you can, enjoy the 4 hours of sleep, and love on your babies and realize we’ve earned the tittle MOM!! 🥰 Your vids are TRULY PRECIOUS. Real and raw for the moms to be and moms in struggle. A genuine THANK U! You are looking so great by the way!! Snatched & healthy and then some girl! 😍👀
I felt this video. I felt when you said ending breast feeding was a hormonal change. I experienced ppd with my first baby; not with my second. But when I weaned my second, AAAAALLLL those scary sad guilty feeling came rushing back. I cried for like 2 weeks, I got my period and I finished breast feeding and it was the saddest experience for me. I appreciate this video because it’s relatable.
I’m due December 13th with my first little girl and I love watching your videos. Thank you for your transparency because not enough people talk about every aspect of pregnancy like you do. Love watching you and arrow💜
@Kay I know I can’t wait. I’m honestly so excited. I’m terrified, but I’m excited. Honestly I haven’t enjoyed being pregnant at all. It’s been a very strange process for me. I was actually in the process of having a hysterectomy when I got pregnant but she’s the greatest blessing I’ve ever received. I definitely don’t think I’ll miss being pregnant though 🤣
Breastfeeding and postpartum are no joke. I struggled with really bad PPA right after my son was born in January. I wasn’t eating well, wasn’t sleeping well, and breastfeeding around the clock. I unintentionally dropped 40 pounds in the first few months. Looking back now, I realize how bad my mental health was. Now, almost 10 months later I’m starting to feel more like myself. I’ve watched you since I found out I was pregnant, and your honesty is so refreshing. I think we can feel so alone in this, and think sharing our stories reminds us that we aren’t. Thanks for being a light 💕💕💕
I am considering weaning my son who is almost 1 because I am also dealing with some rapid, unintentional weight loss. I feel so depleted . I would be doing it for my physical and mental health, but the mom guilt is so real. Even though breastfeeding has been difficult at times, it’s been such a source of joy and love on my motherhood journey. thank you for sharing your experiences and making me feel less alone 💜💜💜
I have an almost 22 month daughter and she decided she didn’t want to breast feed anymore around 18 months and I was heartbroken but at the same time relieved. It’s hard with the hormones even right now I have days where I get sad and emotional for the smallest things but I have to keep it together for her. I don’t have any friends that can talk to who have kids but I think that would have definitely helped. You’re such an inspiration! Love your channel!
You are literally the most relatable woman on TH-cam. I am in the weaning process and my son is 14 months old. I’m having a hard time ! Thank you for being open and honest because I don’t feel so alone .
I loooove your videos. I have a 7 month old daughter and fell like I can relate to you a lot. I’m not feeling myself right now and you inspired me to go get help, so thank you. You shouldn’t feel mum guilt (easier said than done, I know). Even though you’re coparenting, you are still the one who implements all the decisions most of the time, and it’s not easy. You don’t have the luxury of just giving her to someone at the moment you feel like you need some time for yourself. You have to deal and continue to be there for her until naptime, bedtime or whatever else and even then, you have to work and provide for you both. If you can afford, few hours a day or even like 3 times a week at daycare or a nanny outside your home would maybe do you good. It doesn’t have to be a whole day, but some time where you know she’s safe but she is also away from you so you dont have baby monitor to think about or whatever else. I feel, as long as I’m near my daughter, I’m the one in charge and that’s stressful. I know you get one day a week, but it still isn’t much. And think about it this way: you will be more present and genuinely happy around your daughter when you get time for yourself. Being mum is just one aspect of you, it’s also closely related to your work so I think you should get some small distance (speaking from the experience). Of course, it’s just a thought and also, based only on what you share online, so please don’t feel affected by it if it isn’t what would work for you.
My breastfeeding story is completely different from yours, but man, did you hit that right on with how i felt when i had to wean. The mom guilt, feeling heartbroken and also the mental health aspect. I am really glad i found your channel last year. I got pregnant with my son right when covid happened so i never got to experience classes or support groups because of it but your channel really makes me feel like i’m in one in the comfort of my own home. You are so real and i appreciate that because as a new mom it gives me inspiration. Thank you. 💕
Breastfeeding mom here… thank you so much for sharing your journey and honesty about your unintentional weight loss & mental health. I have been going through the same thing and it’s nice to know we’re all in it together and not alone. Appreciate your raw honesty.
Bravo Miss B. Conversations like this is exactly why I watch your channel. I'm currently 5 months PP and our bodies do change rigorously. I went from a very petite size to about 3-4 dress sizes up (depending on what I'm wearing). I have not lost or gained weight since breastfeeding....it has just been stagnant. Somedays I love my body for what it has been through and other days I want to lose the weight overnight. I thank God for a husband who reassures me everyday how beautiful I am. But I know its a gradual process...and with time, the weight will come off. Much love to you and your little one on your continued mother/daughter journey.
My baby just turned one year old yesterday and I stopped pumping 2 weeks ago after 3 weeks of weaning. She has a freezer stash so we are still using breastmilk but weaning off of pumping was probably the most gut-wrenching thing I’ve had to do. I almost gave up pumping at 4 months and then at 6 months but finally called it at one year. Even though I made it this far, I felt the guilt in a major way. Thank you for showing that others go through the same thing and that we have people on our side to show us that taking our health back into our hands is not only ok but necessary. Happy mom, happy baby.
You are such a beautiful soul! I am currently breastfeeding my LO and I could not stop losing weight after month 3 to month 6 and felt so unhealthy. It was so hard to make the time to exercise and eat enough to gain healthy weight. You are not alone! Cheers to your health and wellness!! Good luck as your journey continues. Thank you for sharing your journey!
I’m so glad I found you when I found out I was pregnant. My baby is almost a year now and you’ve helped with all sorts of aspects throughout my pregnancy and first year year of motherhood and breastfeeding journey. Thank you for always being so helpful and transparent!!
I’m actually having the complete opposite problem. My baby is almost three months old and it has been a struggle the entire time to get my body to produce milk for him. And I keep thinking to myself that maybe it will be better for my own mental health to just stop trying. But there’s this part of me that just refuses to give up. When I say my supply is low, I mean I get drops at a time, not ounces. I want to believe that it can get better. Breastfeeding is hard. Sending light and love, mama. ✨🖤
I never leave comments but I am so grateful for you I really hope you know your honesty throughout your postpartum journey has dramatically helped my mental health. i am so so grateful Brittany.
Thank you for making this video. I'm weaning and having a hard time, I'm down to first thing in the morning and right before bed. It's been two months since I weaned all the other feeds. I'm doing this for my mental health, but now that I'm down to two, it's been easier so now I'm confused. I'm also weaning because the hormones don't let your body physically heal fast. So I'm hoping when I wean a few months later everything will get better. I had taken a course with an LC to wean and learned to slowly wean because of the hormonal shift. I'm already on anti-anxiety meds so I'm going slow. I experienced so much struggle with my mental health in early Spring that I lost of ton of weight, much below my pre-pregnancy weight. It scared the crap out of me. Called my doctor crying about everything and decided it was time to try meds as nothing else was working for me (been resisting for years) and the pandemic is also to blame, not seeing family for over 18 months was rough. I'm doing better now, and I've gained weight. Which is great but now I see my stomach sticking out and it looks worse to be because boobs are getting smaller. Ahhhh. I'm working on it. Trying to eat better again like I used to and doing movement (walking, workout, whatever) during the day for myself and my family. This journey is difficult and it's amazing to speak out and seek help. It can't be fixed overnight but working towards getting better already feels nicer. Now I still have to drop a feed and your tips are the night and morning one are exactly what I was thinking. I refuse to sit in the chair in the day because I'm scared she'll think it's feeding time haha. Baby is almost 15 months and is adjusting to the change and also doesn't want it drink any other milk. But I'm not stressing on it. Have a good day!
So proud of you for sharing with us. Even though your mental health is struggling it is doing so well Recognizing and realizing these things before it got too far. ❤
I never expected my pregnancy and postpartum to be this way. I never expected the agony, traumatising labour with the best gift. I never expected my body to completely change. I am so grateful for your videos❤️
I'm probably going to get some backlash for this but, being pretty skinny myself and having lived both in North America and in Europe, I can tell you that where I live now (Norway) your body would be seen as totally normal. When I lived in the US people kept telling me I was too skinny, because being overweight was the norm. Ever since I've moved to Europe I realized that my skinny body can actually be the norm in some countries!
You are so strong. I know I'm a stranger on the internet in another country - but Brittany you have done amazing. You are raising a beautiful, smart, strong, amazing little girl. You are running a business. You are going through so much that you don't talk about (and that's ok!), and still uplifting other parents. I know how it can feel to not be proud of your body - but please try and give yourself grace. You have made the right choices for you, and have done so much for your daughter. Thank you for being so open and raw with us. Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life. I couldn't breastfeed long - but I have learned so so much from your videos that have helped me to understand what others have gone through. I am sorry if I've overstepped as a viewer, but so often we forget that the creators we watch may need words of strength as well. (I also have a hard time judging boundaries both in real life and online, so usually err on the side of saying nothing, but wanted to say something since you've helped me through some really tough times without even knowing)
Hi Brittany! This is my first time writing a comment ever but I just felt like I needed to write this to you (hopefully you will read it or anyone who might need it). I started following you when I was pregnant, my daughter is now 7 months old and our journey with postpartum and specially breastfeeding was really hard, going from chapped nipples, tongue-tie, exclusively pumping, nipple shield, blisters… But watching your raw and real journey made me feel like I was not alone, like even if we have different journeys we as mothers going through motherhood were together. After fighting for breastfeeding so much i can imagine how hard, heartbreaking it has been for you to stop, how much guilt for also feeling relief that you stopped. You are doing f*cking amazing, you are rocking motherhood, you’re body is the perfect representation of your personal war and it will get to where you want it to be with time and healing. Thank you for been real and honest, for been my online friend even if we don’t know each other, for the massive help that your videos have been for me as a mother and a woman. I’m going to stop now, love from Spain!
I don’t ever comment on anyone’s videos but this video made me feel so much compassion for your and a little worried for what is to come for me as I will most likely wean my baby after he turns 1yr old but I’m SO so glad you made this video. Thank you so so much for being so open honest and raw when it comes to motherhood or anything you create. I love you, you’re a great mother. Keep doing what you’re doing, 💜
Thank you for being to brave and vulnerable. You helped me so much when I was preparing for motherhood. From hacks, to newborn essentials, and postpartum recovery. So grateful to know what it might look like when my breast feeding journey comes to a close. Sending you so much love and hoping things get easier!
Thanks so much for this! Our girls are about a month apart even though I’m a mom of 2 I can relate so much. This is new territory for me because I never had to wean my first because she was supplemented on preemie formula and didn’t really take to nursing so that breastfeeding journey lasted 3 months before everything dried up. Fast forward to now I’m trying to wean a 15m old who’s refusing all methods. Never in a million years did I think stopping breastfeeding would so tough. Thanks so much again for sharing this. ❤️
I'm still breastfeeding my 16 month old and it literally brings tears to my eyes thinking of stopping. Thankyou so much for being so open and honest with the weaning process. It really hit home when you said you need to ask for help.
Hi Brittany! I’m not sure if you’re going to see this comment but micro needling helps for the extra lose skin, you can buy the roller on Amazon and do it at home!
My child is 19 and I wish there were resources like this when she was small! I feel your struggle as I was in a similar single situation and there were hardly any online people to connect with with. I watch you because I find it soothing, which may sound strange but there it is. You are doing a wonderful job and will be JUST FINE.
Thank you for sharing this, Brittany! I'm working on weaning now with my little one being 10m and he basically breastfeeds for comfort, and we're already implementing some of the things you mentioned. Hopefully, by 1 he'll be ready to stop 🙃
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I’m going through something similar with my 7 month old. I was dropping night feeds with her during sleep training and in the midst of that I got my period. I felt crazy at times and didn’t know what was wrong. The hormones are on another level. I’m back to nursing her during the night though because I did miss that bond. I’m struggling though mentally and it’s been hard. You’re not alone! Sending you so much love. ❤️
Wow Thank you so much for this video. I really needed this! Breastfeeding is a journey that no one really talks about how it takes a toll on your weight and just in general mentally. I applaud you for putting your thoughts out there because us mamas need to feel like we're no alone.
I’m 4 months pregnant and people ask if I’m gonna breast feed , the answer is no , I always get the why not , it’s so good etc etc .. but it’s my body . Lots of babies have been formula fed and they are ok .
You are an amazing woman and incredible mother! I have watched your channel all throughout my pregnancy and continue to now with my 6 month old daughter. I’ve found your honesty and experience so helpful especially, your mental health struggles. Thank you for sharing!!!
Stopping breastfeeding is so hard! My sons just turned one and everytime I give him a single feed when he’s upset at night (maybe once a week now) I feel sad that it could be the very last time 😭 thankyou for sharing this video. Hope you feel better soon ☺️
Breastfeeding is amazing but weaning is amazing as well. When I weaned at almost an year I felt an immediate change in my kid, he seemed to grow sooo much in just days. Letting go is of course filled with different emotions but I was somehow proud that he really doesn't seem so much like a baby but like a child. Letting go of breastfeeding could be a bit sad but also for me it's a milestone of the mother "releasing" her child for the first time. I felt proud and happy. And the truly best thing: The night wake-ups almost disappeared, we started getting enough sleep IMMEDIATELY after weaning and I can't explain enough how sanity saving this is.
Thanks for this. I've gained so much weight in pregnancy and maintained it with breastfeeding. I am hoping I'll feel healthy again after weaning because right now I'm just not able to exercise and I'm always eating sugar to stay conscious.
This is me to. And it sucks! I’m still 190 lbs I weighed 150 before pregnancy and got up to 200 at the end and I dropped to 170 after birth but I gained it all right back.
I’ve watched your videos since I was pregnant (your daughter is three months older than mine) and I’ve always watched your videos. My daughter is currently 14 months on the 22nd and we’ve been weaning from breastfeeding. I still do one afternoon feeding and nighttime feedings and it is extremely hard. I look forward to your videos and especially ones like these because weaning past 1 is extremely hard. Thank you for always being you and sharing what you can and always trying to not be biased. I truly appreciate you sharing and look up to you so much. 🤍
My baby is 6 weeks and we've only just started our breastfeeding journey, obviously, but I really dread the day we aren't breastfeeding anymore. It's comforting for me too. I know I might feel differently months and months down the line, but I will definitely keep this video in my back pocket for when that time comes. Thanks for sharing your motherhood journey with us, it's made my journey a heckuva a lot easier since Is started watching you when I was trying to get pregnant.
It is natural to have mum guilt during weaning. But what I learn mostly from my bad breastfeeding/weaning experience is that mum needs to love herself and take care of herself well, so that she can give better care to her baby! You are doing this for good reasons.
my first baby is due in january, thank you for making this video! I learned a lot about breast feeding that I really haven’t heard people talk about before.
Im 4w postpartum and i can't imagine how hard it was for you, your journy and you sharing it as well, i felt you, i know when you can beirly talk and hold the feelings and the breakdown you are experiencing inside I hope you are doing better now
Thanks for sharing your experiences! I'm currently BFing and going through the same thing... a lot of weight loss to the point where I look at my reflection and sometimes can't recognize myself... none of it is intentional- but I think the exhaustion of parenthood is taking a toll and taking the time to make full meals for myself is a daunting task that sometimes gets pushed down the priority line. It's sad to say but self-care at this point just seems like something else added onto my plate that I don't have the capacity for. I'm also like you where it's hard for me to ask for help, I feel like it's hard for my non-parent friends to relate and I feel like an inconvenience to others. So I just try to do everything myself and it is so taxing. Watching your video helps me realize I'm not alone but I do need to reach out to my community, I don't need to struggle alone
Thank you for always expressing how I feel. My daughter was a 3rd July 2020 babe so we are on a similar timeline. I also had the 1st birthday blues but went the opposite to binging unhealthy food and energy drinks and put on a lot of weight which exacerbated the C section pooch. My FF boobs stayed large but deflated and seemed to slide down my body 😭 I'm sorry you're struggling too but it's also so comforting to hear a relatable 1y postpartum experience. 💕
This couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m trying to wean my 1 year old. Idk where to start or how. I wanted to BF until he was 1, which I have done but now he is smarter and understands more and is pulling at my shirt to feed and it’s making me feel bad lol.
thank you so much for creating this video. I am 15m pp and, although not weaning yet, I really appreciate the real and raw information. I hope you start feeling better and that your hormones balance out quickly. You are beautiful!
My supply has slowly dropped despite all the extra pumping and trying to save my supply.. I'm only 7mo pp and it's heartbreaking neither of us are ready to quit but as mothers we must be proud of all we have done and continue to do for a babies... you're amazing and so strong.. we will get through the emotional storm 💘
Love this & wish people made more videos like this postpartum!! A lot of people think postpartum is just the first few months, but it definitely isn’t! I struggled with some postpartum anxiety/depression myself. My little one is 8 months old & still struggling with mom guilt. Finding time for myself is hard because I am the type of person that just drops everything to help anyone. I put my needs on the back burner and focus on my husband and baby rather than my mental and physical health. Something I’m learning and trying to work on. Thanks for posting this & being so honest!! Love you 💙
Thank you for sharing! Exclusively breastfeeding my 9m old son and feeling not myself, excited and also really nervous about weaning at 12m. So appreciate videos like this!
I started crying when you talked about mom guilt 🥺 I am experiencing it right now ! It has nothing to do with weaning, but my daughter started daycare a couple weeks ago, couple hours/week. Now we are doing entire days and girl, that's heartbreaking 💔 she loves it but I miss her so so much and I feel like I'm abandonning her! I am getting back to work soon so we have to do it 😭 Btw thank you for sharing your story in such an honest and raw way ❤
my baby is 5 months and we are no where near weaning but it was SO good to hear your perspective! Not looking forward to those hormonal shifts 🥲 but glad I’m somewhat informed now! Also I hope you find inner peace soon and glad you show what steps you’re taking to get healthier! We don’t even know the full story but know you’re going through so much, so thank you for sharing 💞 and helping others
I absolutely love your videos and your honesty, I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant and you’ve helped calm my nerves and anxiety over pregnancy and postpartum, Thank you 💕
Yup 100 agree with different type of bonding. I stopped after 9 months and i saw my daughter act in a way where she would actually want to hug me. Happier and lighter with me!
My post pardum depression and anxiety has been horrendous. My daughter's pediatrician said I needed to consider stopping breastfeeding because of it and my daughter was only two months at that time. She is three months and we are still going strong, some medication changes have helped my depression. I thought I would breastfeed for a year or more. My doctor's recommended it to manage my endometriosis. My current goal is to get to six months. We are still every three hours around the clock. She is also a complete Velcro baby. I only get so much time in a day where she lets me set her down and not be right there with her. I love it, but it's also a lot and weighs on me how that would change when I start to wean. Her dad and I are married and she's slowly getting closer to him and he's also working through a lot. It's all just a lot. Thank you for this video definitely helpful
I always tell myself that just because I CAN do something myself doesn't mean I HAVE to. That helped as someone who is very independent feel more ok about accepting and asking for help. Thank you for this video!!
So brave and inspiring being so honest with your journey. I'm 16 months post partem, haven't really started weaning yet. Didn't think my body would still be changing and adjusting because it's just not talked about enough!
Oh man. This was so refreshing but also my heart broke for you. I started watching your channel when I was pregnant. Our daughters are the same age. 🖤 Breastfeeding was a struggle for us but we worked hard at it and pulled it off with supplementing for 6 months. Weaning was beyond difficult emotionally and mentally. I actually changed my mind a few times but a bad cold basically chose for me in the end since it took out what little supply I had left. During the time i was breastfeeding I had hoped burning all those calories everyday (pumping nonstop at work and nursing all night) would shed some of the immense amount of weight I knew I needed to lose. It didn’t. I didn’t lose any of it and in fact I gained back the 10-15 I had lost when I delivered her. She almost 16 months now and my weight hasn’t budged. I have the complete opposite issue as far as the tatas go. 😭 weight gain before my pregnancy and during caused me to go up in several cup sizes but it just seems like there’s no end in sight and it’s just comical but sad at this point. I’ll leave it at that, but I can definitely relate to the rollercoaster of emotions. It’s been a beautiful but rough ride. Through it all I’ve loved watching you and Arrow. I was a little concerned about your recent weight loss so I’m relieved to here you talk about it here. You’ll find your way to a new healthy. 🖤 thank you for this video ❤️✨
Thank you so much for sharing this. Not enough info out there about weaning. ❤ You're a wonderful mother, and I am so happy that you are doing things for yourself. You work so hard at all times, and your health is most important.
Do not beat yourself up about your weight, it is temporary ♥️ we all deal with stress and hormones messing with us differently!!! I gain weight!!! And after my first when I stopped breastfeeding, I was so low.
My son is only a few days younger than Arrow. I definitely had the skinny phase also. I ended up going on birth control pills for my health. It helped level out the ups and downs hormonal wise. Plus, I gained weight and had normal cycles. I was definitely skeptical of medication, but once I weaned, it helped me a ton. Just find what works for you and your girl. It is hard. It is lonely. You can get help and feel good about yourself. One day you will! Sending love
So happy you made this video! I also was not ready for the fact that stopping breastfeeding would be more difficult than starting and doing it. So great you are helping others by talking about this 🙏🏼
What how is that possible girl I have a one year old I couldn't imagine having two small babies it's always best to go on birth control so doesn't occur it's not healthy for you or the babies
Duuuude....I feel u and I am thankful u made this video. As a Mom yet to wean, it's nice to listen to someone with a conscience, who cares, and who isn't afraid to be (somewhat) raw. I can't say I would have as much guts to be so honest about everything with everyone. It's so hard to be a Mom (human?). There is so much (very subtle and very real) judgment I find, and also, massive disagreement, and large polarization there of. Not that this is anything new, only, it is a new playing field, with it's own rules and atmosphere and data. As far as your body goes, I know how painful it is to be so thin so as to attract attention. I suppose, the difference with you and me in this case, is that you are trying to do something about it and are honest about your health. Your daughter will be proud of you. Of this, I am certain.
This is a great video. I currently experienced the mom guilt you talked about. I had to stop breastfeeding at 5 1/2 month. I have a toddler and I felt so overwhelmed and anxious all the time. I decided for my mental health I needed to stop breastfeeding. I feel great now however, I still get mom guilt because I stopped.
Hi Brittany I'm a mom of 3 and my weaning journey with my first 2 children were very different from one another but I found weaning as you said harder than actually breastfeeding because my children were so attached to me through nursing them. Weaning my first born was a disaster i stopped cold turkey at 16 months because he didn't eat food and I had so much pressure from my inlaws/husband to wean him so he would start eating. He cried for 2 days then took a bottle. But sadly he never became a good eater after i weaned him. I regretted that but its fine he wasn't scarred for life and after it was said and done I was happy to have my body back for me. With my second I was much smarter and dropped feeds until he forgot about the breast but it he took a pacifier and already accepted a bottle so it was much smoother of a transition. Please don't be so hard on yourself and your body. We don't need to gauge of worth based on how much we weigh. You were going through a very hard time since you gave birth and you were doing the best you could given the circumstances. Hopefully you are on the mend and you will see as your daughter gets older and more independent you will be in a better place mentally and your weight and appetite will go back to normal. Sending big hugs to you 🤗 ❤
Thank you so much for this! I am 13m postpartum and going through the weaning. I really appreciate you sharing this. I am going through it! The emotional and physical changes no one warns you about! I was feeling crazy, but this video helped me realize like, yes, my body is going through A LOT. And I need to give myself grace. Appreciate you!
This was the most real video Iv watched in a while. And I shared many feelings during my recent weaning time. Thanks for sharing this. All moms who breastfeed need to know the raw! It prepares you, and hey if you don’t experience any of it then that’s great and a good thing and may actually put a little pep in your step knowing you were lucky enough not to experience it!
Just fully weaned after a long and emotional process and I’m so thankful for this video while in the think of the hormones & getting my health back💕 Thank you for sharing your story and making me feel not alone!
Your honesty is inspiring! I’m having a baby girl in March so when I look at different perspectives and experiences it helps so I can then make my best decision. I totally related to the part about you saying you need to ask for more help. I just found your channel & subscribed but I wanted to say you are a strong mama and very inspiring! Thank you so much 💕
Congrats on weaning, and congrats on breastfeeding for so long! Trying to start weaning my 15m right now as I'm going back to work next month and it's so hard! So true with not being able to sit or lay down😅
Dear BB, we are here for you just as much as you are there for us. We care for you and as your online friends I am sure there are many people here would love to support you. I am sure there are many of us go through some kind of difficulties and can give helpful advice. It is odd to say to someone one has never met in real life but honestly if you needed to talk give us a call. ❤️
I watched so many videos on pp and I relate to you MOST! I enjoy your content it’s real and transparent with I appreciate it! Thank you for the updates I’m sure most women feels the same way , I know I do!
Wow I can totally resonate with you! I’m 11 months pp. no paci. She breastfeeds 4/5 a day if I’m off. It’s rare if she fall asleep without me. I’ve lost a lot of weight. I hate when others remind me I’ve lost so much weight. Like I know. Along with life and stress it doesn’t help. And no matter how much or what I eat I’m not gaining
I’m currently weaning for myself and die medical reasons and I feel so bad, somehow confused, stressed without a reason etc. you video really helped me to understand myself better. I never thought about weaning be the reason for my emotional struggles. Thank you for the video, this really gives me the chance to think positive again 😊
Honestly been following you for so long. I really appreciate where you are and how you are handling yourself. Very graceful forgiving and raw. More power to you!!
Thank you so much for watching, if you enjoyed today’s video or found it helpful, please take a second to like this video - it helps out my channel a lot. ✨💞🙌
Not sure if you are looking for ideas how to put on weight but if yes, this is what helped my sister who was really skinny because of stress (my mum was sick and died of cancer) : smoothies with protein powder, organic plant based one. Slowly , week by week, she was gaining a bit of weight:) she was really happy and l was happy for her:)💕💕💕💕
From what l can see, you eat healthy so one smoothie a day with your favourite fruits and vegetables (and of course the protein for example from pees) it won’t be a big hassle but it can really help. Wishing you all the best 💐💐 you are a lovely person 💗💗
You know there is a fashion now breastfeed your baby for 2 months and then you can leave Him/Her for weeks and you shouldn't be guilty because they said it's great to be selfish in this world
Thank you Brittany for this video❤️
I started following you when I found out I was pregnant. Your honesty about every aspect of pregnancy, postpartum, and parenting has helped me a lot. And I completely agree about the weight loss while breastfeeding - it just doesn't happen like people say it does.
It’s BS. It didn’t help me lose wait at all. Now that I’m not breastfeeding and my periods are back I actually lose more weight.
thanks so much! still breastfeeding, and yeah, that promise of loosing weight... pfffff
It might be the case for everyone. And of course it wouldn't we are just not the same. But it did work for me. I lost all the weight and a bit more. It helped my uterus go back down very quickly. Of course I'm left with saggy skin but I'm actually having to eat more than before just to keep a healthy weight on me and produce enough milk for my baby.
I gained 40 lbs while breast feeding. I gained nothing from pregnancy, but breast feeding hunger is no joke
@@Simplelivingslowliving My stomach is completely flat, so it for sure helped my uterus shrink, but my hips and thighs have DEFINITELY put on a few inches.
Just found out I’m having a baby girl ♥️ I wanted to tell someone.
My son is not even a year yet but he is going to be a big brother 😭😭 PRAISE GOD
omg congratulations!!!
Wow congrats! You're gonna be one BUSY mama with kiddos that close. What a blessing ❤❤
Congratulations 💜💜💜💜
Congrats!!!!
Congratulations!! Same here😁 8 weeks pregnant and I have a 10 month old ❤🥰
My lactation consultant told me that breastfeeding is a contract. Both parties must agree. If baby doesn’t want to, breastfeeding is over, if mom doesn’t want to anymore, it’s over 🤍
Not really how contacts work LOL
@@halloweellahere7602 I meant they must both agree to enter the contract, you know what I meant hahaha 😂😂
@@monica_zulkerine468 yaaaaay someone with humour! Yes I knew what you meant but couldn't help myself :D
Thanks for not being offended at a joke! Yes the world has gone that crazy.
@@halloweellahere7602 hahah I HD a good laugh too and it’s crazy how the internet can be, at first I was like what if she says “no I don’t know what you mean” hahaha
I’m all seriousness, that is such an important/ beautiful message to share.
I remember weaning my oldest daughter and feeling SO much of this and feeling alone. No one tells you how to wean only how to start. Your courage to share such an intimate experience is empowering!
I just dropped my last (morning) feed three days ago! I feel ya! Your body has done amazing things! When I dropped my day feeds, I experienced insomnia and I had posted on a breastfeeding FB page about my experience. I was just looking for people with similar experiences. I got no feedback but one person who said, you weaned to fast...I weaned in the span of almost two months...that wasn't fast. I am now dealing with hormonal acne, appetite swings (not wanting to eat till 3pm), hair loss AGAIN, and sadness and joy all at the same time. Praying for you that your body gets the love and care that it needs to thrive.
You’re the best mum to your child (just ask them, they’ll tell you) so you did nothing wrong! Be kind to your body and yourself, it just needs time. Get help if you feel like you need it.
I gained 50+ lbs. with both pregnancies, a lot on my small frame and the journey has been a crazy one. As a person who never worried about body image, I struggled, tried not to care, tried to not let it get to me. Sure I was never going to be back to my prebaby body. And now I'm in the same boat as you, running all day, not eating enough, not sleeping enough; not sustainable at all. Wish you all well Mommas! Our jobs are important and we need to be healthy inside and out to show these littles how to be great humans. ❤️
I have weaned 3 of my children up until now, and I am currently nursing my 4th and dreading that day! Every one of them have had a little different of a story but by far my second was my hardest.
I was 20 at the time and she was 15 months and found it the most difficult. She had experienced seizures at 12 months and since then nursing really brought her so much comfort. She had finished her night feeds at that age also, which I think made it harder because that early morning feed were so so special.
I also experienced a lot of breastfeeding weight loss with her. This time around I am struggling to loose anything. It’s insane how different my body can react at different stages of life and ages. I agree being kind and slow to your body is the way to go.
The crazy thing is, she is now almost 10 and absolutely loves watching her sister (6 months) nurse and she can tell how special the bond is between her and I when we feed, it’s almost like she remembers being in the same position ❤️
Thank you for sharing your journey 🤍
This made me so emotional. I know all of our journeys are different but I’ve always experienced ED and now 1 year PP I keep falling back into my ED. It’s so hard to eat the amount I know I’m supposed to bc I just don’t feel hungry. But I got up and made myself food after this video. Thank you for sharing.
I relate to this so much. I’m only 5 months postpartum but I feel every part of your comment. I have to remind myself that me eating helps my baby gain their calories and I have to be my best for my baby. I also have to keep reminding myself that I grew and housed a human for 9 months so am I being so hard on myself about my weight. You’re not alone mama❤️
I feel the same way. My appetite is gone, I have to force myself to eat. It's triggering because I like how much weight I'm losing however I know it's unhealthy. For me, for my baby. Its hard and no one talks about it.
I don’t know if I’ll ever have children, but I truly appreciate these videos. It’s nice to be aware of what the mamas in my life may be dealing with and how I can better help them out. Knowledge is power 💪🏾
Thank you Brittany, and much love to all the Moms out there 💕
Couldn’t agree more! It’s really refreshing to see such a transparent and positive voice talk about their experience so I can support new Moms in my my corner. It’s so essential to know what signs to look out for yet there is so little public info on it. Thanks Brittany for your transparency and consideration 💗
Thank you for making this video 🧡
My son was born July 13 2020 and we're still on our nursing journey. I have struggled so much with weight gain throughout the whole breastfeeding process. I actually weigh more now than the day I went in to give birth. It's just very empowering to hear someone openly talk about what breastfeeding can be/do to your body that's not always 100% positive
I definitely cried the last time I breastfed my baby-- such a hard thing to do and I was proud that we even made it the seven months!
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Yes! My daughter and I went as strong as I could until I went back to work. But I didn’t even think I would be able to because all the women in my family never could!! 7 MONTH CLUB
Same. My son just wasn't interested when he was older (I won't disclose how old he was because it's not a competition). He fed for like 10 seconds 2 nights in a row when I got home from work and then picked up his water! I was truly offended for about a year.
I’m in the process of weening my baby, she’s 7 months too! It’s very emotional but ever since I started breastfeeding I lost 30 pounds and HOPE to get my weight back now that I’ve stopped.
Thank you so much for sharing this! I have no kids and can’t relate to the struggles of breastfeeding or weaning but I have been struggling with my health for a few years (I actually found you from your endometriosis surgery video) and I struggle to maintain a healthy weight because of the physical and emotional stress of it, I hate that so many people see me and look up to my body when I know that I am too skinny and not the healthiest I could be.
I've been following you since I was in High School in 2011watching your hair videos and the Our Daily Riot vlogs, and now I'm a mom to my 14 month old son. Being pregnant around the same time as you felt so cool honestly. It really is like having an older sister that I'm growing up with😊💗💗 Thank for all these years🌻🌻🌻🌻
At 5 months I went through a very stressful time and I body just stopped producing. I tried everything to get it back but sometimes you just have to listen to your body. I wasn’t prepared for the hormones changes and body changes at that time either. I’m trying everyday to be kinder to myself and really appreciate all that it’s gone through. Thank you for this video. I needed it. ❤️ you’re doing great mama.
Thank you! My husband sometimes watches your videos with me and we both think you are such a strong Women & Mama! Greetings all the way from Germany.♥️
Hey! German girl over here, too :)
Sending you so much love. I'm starting to wean and it's incredibly mentally difficult and now I'm starting to realize that my moods/hormones are affected as well; I never put it together. Weaning is way harder for me than breastfeeding ever was but I'm craving the freedom of a night off or having someone else put my 16 month old to bed. Thank you for this reality check and you are NOT alone either 💕
I really felt tht part when you said you wanted someone else to be able to put ur 16 month old to bed.. i feel exactly the same 😓😓😓
You are so incredibly resilient and inspiring. My daughter is 7 months, so we have a long ways to go but I am already dreading weaning. I have absolutely loved breastfeeding so far. I’m also so glad you talked about how you’re feeling about your body. These frank discussions are SO important. You are amazing, Brittany.
Post breast feeding blues are real and hardcore! You are so brave and strong for sharing this, don’t let anyone take that away from you!
I’m still currently BFing my 9 month old and the thought of weaning make me so sad, so this is so helpful for me 💗
Thank you. You are so right! It’s a VERY difficult journey! Preggo with bb#2 and I’m only 11 months pp. I’m excited, yet scared to start the journey over again... just started to get a grip on my “body”, had to end breastfeeding with my baby girl so abruptly & start the formula route. WATCHING IN THE MIRROR and FEELING your body change so drastically is part of the journey. Sometimes a battle!! There’s so much you want to control but in the end you let it go, do what you can, enjoy the 4 hours of sleep, and love on your babies and realize we’ve earned the tittle MOM!! 🥰
Your vids are TRULY PRECIOUS. Real and raw for the moms to be and moms in struggle. A genuine THANK U! You are looking so great by the way!! Snatched & healthy and then some girl! 😍👀
I felt this video. I felt when you said ending breast feeding was a hormonal change. I experienced ppd with my first baby; not with my second. But when I weaned my second, AAAAALLLL those scary sad guilty feeling came rushing back. I cried for like 2 weeks, I got my period and I finished breast feeding and it was the saddest experience for me. I appreciate this video because it’s relatable.
I’m due December 13th with my first little girl and I love watching your videos. Thank you for your transparency because not enough people talk about every aspect of pregnancy like you do. Love watching you and arrow💜
@Kay I know I can’t wait. I’m honestly so excited. I’m terrified, but I’m excited. Honestly I haven’t enjoyed being pregnant at all. It’s been a very strange process for me. I was actually in the process of having a hysterectomy when I got pregnant but she’s the greatest blessing I’ve ever received. I definitely don’t think I’ll miss being pregnant though 🤣
I just had my baby girl 3 months ago. She is the joy of my life! Congrats, you’ve got so much to look forward to. 😘
Breastfeeding and postpartum are no joke. I struggled with really bad PPA right after my son was born in January. I wasn’t eating well, wasn’t sleeping well, and breastfeeding around the clock. I unintentionally dropped 40 pounds in the first few months. Looking back now, I realize how bad my mental health was. Now, almost 10 months later I’m starting to feel more like myself. I’ve watched you since I found out I was pregnant, and your honesty is so refreshing. I think we can feel so alone in this, and think sharing our stories reminds us that we aren’t. Thanks for being a light 💕💕💕
I am considering weaning my son who is almost 1 because I am also dealing with some rapid, unintentional weight loss. I feel so depleted . I would be doing it for my physical and mental health, but the mom guilt is so real. Even though breastfeeding has been difficult at times, it’s been such a source of joy and love on my motherhood journey. thank you for sharing your experiences and making me feel less alone 💜💜💜
I have an almost 22 month daughter and she decided she didn’t want to breast feed anymore around 18 months and I was heartbroken but at the same time relieved. It’s hard with the hormones even right now I have days where I get sad and emotional for the smallest things but I have to keep it together for her. I don’t have any friends that can talk to who have kids but I think that would have definitely helped. You’re such an inspiration! Love your channel!
You are literally the most relatable woman on TH-cam. I am in the weaning process and my son is 14 months old. I’m having a hard time ! Thank you for being open and honest because I don’t feel so alone .
I loooove your videos. I have a 7 month old daughter and fell like I can relate to you a lot. I’m not feeling myself right now and you inspired me to go get help, so thank you. You shouldn’t feel mum guilt (easier said than done, I know). Even though you’re coparenting, you are still the one who implements all the decisions most of the time, and it’s not easy. You don’t have the luxury of just giving her to someone at the moment you feel like you need some time for yourself. You have to deal and continue to be there for her until naptime, bedtime or whatever else and even then, you have to work and provide for you both. If you can afford, few hours a day or even like 3 times a week at daycare or a nanny outside your home would maybe do you good. It doesn’t have to be a whole day, but some time where you know she’s safe but she is also away from you so you dont have baby monitor to think about or whatever else. I feel, as long as I’m near my daughter, I’m the one in charge and that’s stressful. I know you get one day a week, but it still isn’t much. And think about it this way: you will be more present and genuinely happy around your daughter when you get time for yourself. Being mum is just one aspect of you, it’s also closely related to your work so I think you should get some small distance (speaking from the experience). Of course, it’s just a thought and also, based only on what you share online, so please don’t feel affected by it if it isn’t what would work for you.
My breastfeeding story is completely different from yours, but man, did you hit that right on with how i felt when i had to wean. The mom guilt, feeling heartbroken and also the mental health aspect. I am really glad i found your channel last year. I got pregnant with my son right when covid happened so i never got to experience classes or support groups because of it but your channel really makes me feel like i’m in one in the comfort of my own home. You are so real and i appreciate that because as a new mom it gives me inspiration. Thank you. 💕
Breastfeeding mom here… thank you so much for sharing your journey and honesty about your unintentional weight loss & mental health. I have been going through the same thing and it’s nice to know we’re all in it together and not alone. Appreciate your raw honesty.
Bravo Miss B. Conversations like this is exactly why I watch your channel. I'm currently 5 months PP and our bodies do change rigorously. I went from a very petite size to about 3-4 dress sizes up (depending on what I'm wearing). I have not lost or gained weight since breastfeeding....it has just been stagnant. Somedays I love my body for what it has been through and other days I want to lose the weight overnight. I thank God for a husband who reassures me everyday how beautiful I am. But I know its a gradual process...and with time, the weight will come off. Much love to you and your little one on your continued mother/daughter journey.
My baby just turned one year old yesterday and I stopped pumping 2 weeks ago after 3 weeks of weaning. She has a freezer stash so we are still using breastmilk but weaning off of pumping was probably the most gut-wrenching thing I’ve had to do. I almost gave up pumping at 4 months and then at 6 months but finally called it at one year. Even though I made it this far, I felt the guilt in a major way. Thank you for showing that others go through the same thing and that we have people on our side to show us that taking our health back into our hands is not only ok but necessary. Happy mom, happy baby.
You are such a beautiful soul! I am currently breastfeeding my LO and I could not stop losing weight after month 3 to month 6 and felt so unhealthy. It was so hard to make the time to exercise and eat enough to gain healthy weight. You are not alone! Cheers to your health and wellness!! Good luck as your journey continues. Thank you for sharing your journey!
I’m so glad I found you when I found out I was pregnant. My baby is almost a year now and you’ve helped with all sorts of aspects throughout my pregnancy and first year year of motherhood and breastfeeding journey. Thank you for always being so helpful and transparent!!
I’m actually having the complete opposite problem. My baby is almost three months old and it has been a struggle the entire time to get my body to produce milk for him. And I keep thinking to myself that maybe it will be better for my own mental health to just stop trying. But there’s this part of me that just refuses to give up. When I say my supply is low, I mean I get drops at a time, not ounces. I want to believe that it can get better. Breastfeeding is hard. Sending light and love, mama. ✨🖤
I never leave comments but I am so grateful for you I really hope you know your honesty throughout your postpartum journey has dramatically helped my mental health. i am so so grateful Brittany.
Thank you for making this video. I'm weaning and having a hard time, I'm down to first thing in the morning and right before bed. It's been two months since I weaned all the other feeds. I'm doing this for my mental health, but now that I'm down to two, it's been easier so now I'm confused. I'm also weaning because the hormones don't let your body physically heal fast. So I'm hoping when I wean a few months later everything will get better. I had taken a course with an LC to wean and learned to slowly wean because of the hormonal shift. I'm already on anti-anxiety meds so I'm going slow. I experienced so much struggle with my mental health in early Spring that I lost of ton of weight, much below my pre-pregnancy weight. It scared the crap out of me. Called my doctor crying about everything and decided it was time to try meds as nothing else was working for me (been resisting for years) and the pandemic is also to blame, not seeing family for over 18 months was rough. I'm doing better now, and I've gained weight. Which is great but now I see my stomach sticking out and it looks worse to be because boobs are getting smaller. Ahhhh. I'm working on it. Trying to eat better again like I used to and doing movement (walking, workout, whatever) during the day for myself and my family. This journey is difficult and it's amazing to speak out and seek help. It can't be fixed overnight but working towards getting better already feels nicer. Now I still have to drop a feed and your tips are the night and morning one are exactly what I was thinking. I refuse to sit in the chair in the day because I'm scared she'll think it's feeding time haha. Baby is almost 15 months and is adjusting to the change and also doesn't want it drink any other milk. But I'm not stressing on it. Have a good day!
God is with u 🤱😃 I have a 15 month old too still 🤱
Please know you are making such a difference in women’s lives by being 100% love you Brittany.
So proud of you for sharing with us. Even though your mental health is struggling it is doing so well Recognizing and realizing these things before it got too far. ❤
I never expected my pregnancy and postpartum to be this way. I never expected the agony, traumatising labour with the best gift. I never expected my body to completely change. I am so grateful for your videos❤️
I'm probably going to get some backlash for this but, being pretty skinny myself and having lived both in North America and in Europe, I can tell you that where I live now (Norway) your body would be seen as totally normal. When I lived in the US people kept telling me I was too skinny, because being overweight was the norm. Ever since I've moved to Europe I realized that my skinny body can actually be the norm in some countries!
You are so strong. I know I'm a stranger on the internet in another country - but Brittany you have done amazing.
You are raising a beautiful, smart, strong, amazing little girl. You are running a business. You are going through so much that you don't talk about (and that's ok!), and still uplifting other parents.
I know how it can feel to not be proud of your body - but please try and give yourself grace. You have made the right choices for you, and have done so much for your daughter.
Thank you for being so open and raw with us. Thank you for sharing such a personal part of your life. I couldn't breastfeed long - but I have learned so so much from your videos that have helped me to understand what others have gone through.
I am sorry if I've overstepped as a viewer, but so often we forget that the creators we watch may need words of strength as well. (I also have a hard time judging boundaries both in real life and online, so usually err on the side of saying nothing, but wanted to say something since you've helped me through some really tough times without even knowing)
Hi Brittany! This is my first time writing a comment ever but I just felt like I needed to write this to you (hopefully you will read it or anyone who might need it). I started following you when I was pregnant, my daughter is now 7 months old and our journey with postpartum and specially breastfeeding was really hard, going from chapped nipples, tongue-tie, exclusively pumping, nipple shield, blisters… But watching your raw and real journey made me feel like I was not alone, like even if we have different journeys we as mothers going through motherhood were together. After fighting for breastfeeding so much i can imagine how hard, heartbreaking it has been for you to stop, how much guilt for also feeling relief that you stopped. You are doing f*cking amazing, you are rocking motherhood, you’re body is the perfect representation of your personal war and it will get to where you want it to be with time and healing. Thank you for been real and honest, for been my online friend even if we don’t know each other, for the massive help that your videos have been for me as a mother and a woman. I’m going to stop now, love from Spain!
I don’t ever comment on anyone’s videos but this video made me feel so much compassion for your and a little worried for what is to come for me as I will most likely wean my baby after he turns 1yr old but I’m SO so glad you made this video. Thank you so so much for being so open honest and raw when it comes to motherhood or anything you create. I love you, you’re a great mother. Keep doing what you’re doing, 💜
Thank you for being to brave and vulnerable. You helped me so much when I was preparing for motherhood. From hacks, to newborn essentials, and postpartum recovery. So grateful to know what it might look like when my breast feeding journey comes to a close. Sending you so much love and hoping things get easier!
Thanks so much for this! Our girls are about a month apart even though I’m a mom of 2 I can relate so much. This is new territory for me because I never had to wean my first because she was supplemented on preemie formula and didn’t really take to nursing so that breastfeeding journey lasted 3 months before everything dried up. Fast forward to now I’m trying to wean a 15m old who’s refusing all methods. Never in a million years did I think stopping breastfeeding would so tough. Thanks so much again for sharing this. ❤️
I'm still breastfeeding my 16 month old and it literally brings tears to my eyes thinking of stopping. Thankyou so much for being so open and honest with the weaning process. It really hit home when you said you need to ask for help.
14 months. I feel like weaning because it feels like ME all the time but my heart hurts thinking about actually doing it too.
This video is a hug to so many moms in the world. You are brave, kind and an amazing mom!
Hi Brittany! I’m not sure if you’re going to see this comment but micro needling helps for the extra lose skin, you can buy the roller on Amazon and do it at home!
My child is 19 and I wish there were resources like this when she was small! I feel your struggle as I was in a similar single situation and there were hardly any online people to connect with with. I watch you because I find it soothing, which may sound strange but there it is. You are doing a wonderful job and will be JUST FINE.
Thank you for sharing this, Brittany! I'm working on weaning now with my little one being 10m and he basically breastfeeds for comfort, and we're already implementing some of the things you mentioned. Hopefully, by 1 he'll be ready to stop 🙃
Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I’m going through something similar with my 7 month old. I was dropping night feeds with her during sleep training and in the midst of that I got my period. I felt crazy at times and didn’t know what was wrong. The hormones are on another level. I’m back to nursing her during the night though because I did miss that bond. I’m struggling though mentally and it’s been hard. You’re not alone! Sending you so much love. ❤️
Wow Thank you so much for this video. I really needed this! Breastfeeding is a journey that no one really talks about how it takes a toll on your weight and just in general mentally. I applaud you for putting your thoughts out there because us mamas need to feel like we're no alone.
I’m 4 months pregnant and people ask if I’m gonna breast feed , the answer is no , I always get the why not , it’s so good etc etc .. but it’s my body . Lots of babies have been formula fed and they are ok .
You are an amazing woman and incredible mother! I have watched your channel all throughout my pregnancy and continue to now with my 6 month old daughter. I’ve found your honesty and experience so helpful especially, your mental health struggles. Thank you for sharing!!!
Stopping breastfeeding is so hard! My sons just turned one and everytime I give him a single feed when he’s upset at night (maybe once a week now) I feel sad that it could be the very last time 😭 thankyou for sharing this video. Hope you feel better soon ☺️
Breastfeeding is amazing but weaning is amazing as well. When I weaned at almost an year I felt an immediate change in my kid, he seemed to grow sooo much in just days. Letting go is of course filled with different emotions but I was somehow proud that he really doesn't seem so much like a baby but like a child. Letting go of breastfeeding could be a bit sad but also for me it's a milestone of the mother "releasing" her child for the first time. I felt proud and happy. And the truly best thing: The night wake-ups almost disappeared, we started getting enough sleep IMMEDIATELY after weaning and I can't explain enough how sanity saving this is.
Thanks for sharing.. still breastfeeding at 14 months and thinking about weaning but can’t do it yet 😆
Thanks for this. I've gained so much weight in pregnancy and maintained it with breastfeeding. I am hoping I'll feel healthy again after weaning because right now I'm just not able to exercise and I'm always eating sugar to stay conscious.
This is me to. And it sucks! I’m still 190 lbs I weighed 150 before pregnancy and got up to 200 at the end and I dropped to 170 after birth but I gained it all right back.
I’ve watched your videos since I was pregnant (your daughter is three months older than mine) and I’ve always watched your videos. My daughter is currently 14 months on the 22nd and we’ve been weaning from breastfeeding. I still do one afternoon feeding and nighttime feedings and it is extremely hard. I look forward to your videos and especially ones like these because weaning past 1 is extremely hard. Thank you for always being you and sharing what you can and always trying to not be biased. I truly appreciate you sharing and look up to you so much. 🤍
Thank you for sharing and helping the rest of us feel less alone.
My baby is 6 weeks and we've only just started our breastfeeding journey, obviously, but I really dread the day we aren't breastfeeding anymore. It's comforting for me too. I know I might feel differently months and months down the line, but I will definitely keep this video in my back pocket for when that time comes. Thanks for sharing your motherhood journey with us, it's made my journey a heckuva a lot easier since Is started watching you when I was trying to get pregnant.
It is natural to have mum guilt during weaning. But what I learn mostly from my bad breastfeeding/weaning experience is that mum needs to love herself and take care of herself well, so that she can give better care to her baby! You are doing this for good reasons.
my first baby is due in january, thank you for making this video! I learned a lot about breast feeding that I really haven’t heard people talk about before.
Im 4w postpartum and i can't imagine how hard it was for you, your journy and you sharing it as well, i felt you, i know when you can beirly talk and hold the feelings and the breakdown you are experiencing inside
I hope you are doing better now
Thanks for sharing your experiences! I'm currently BFing and going through the same thing... a lot of weight loss to the point where I look at my reflection and sometimes can't recognize myself... none of it is intentional- but I think the exhaustion of parenthood is taking a toll and taking the time to make full meals for myself is a daunting task that sometimes gets pushed down the priority line. It's sad to say but self-care at this point just seems like something else added onto my plate that I don't have the capacity for. I'm also like you where it's hard for me to ask for help, I feel like it's hard for my non-parent friends to relate and I feel like an inconvenience to others. So I just try to do everything myself and it is so taxing. Watching your video helps me realize I'm not alone but I do need to reach out to my community, I don't need to struggle alone
Thank you for always expressing how I feel.
My daughter was a 3rd July 2020 babe so we are on a similar timeline. I also had the 1st birthday blues but went the opposite to binging unhealthy food and energy drinks and put on a lot of weight which exacerbated the C section pooch. My FF boobs stayed large but deflated and seemed to slide down my body 😭
I'm sorry you're struggling too but it's also so comforting to hear a relatable 1y postpartum experience. 💕
This couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m trying to wean my 1 year old. Idk where to start or how. I wanted to BF until he was 1, which I have done but now he is smarter and understands more and is pulling at my shirt to feed and it’s making me feel bad lol.
Awwwe it's hard mama.
I'm breastfeeding my two month old baby and I feel like I can conquer the world now lol .
I’m in the exact same boat!
thank you so much for creating this video. I am 15m pp and, although not weaning yet, I really appreciate the real and raw information. I hope you start feeling better and that your hormones balance out quickly. You are beautiful!
Thank you so much 💞 I hope your journey is a bit easier than mine was - some people have a really easy time weaning!
I found the same thing when I started weaning my girl!! She got so cuddly and hugs me now. It's the best 💕💕
My supply has slowly dropped despite all the extra pumping and trying to save my supply.. I'm only 7mo pp and it's heartbreaking neither of us are ready to quit but as mothers we must be proud of all we have done and continue to do for a babies... you're amazing and so strong.. we will get through the emotional storm 💘
Absolutely
Love this & wish people made more videos like this postpartum!! A lot of people think postpartum is just the first few months, but it definitely isn’t! I struggled with some postpartum anxiety/depression myself. My little one is 8 months old & still struggling with mom guilt. Finding time for myself is hard because I am the type of person that just drops everything to help anyone. I put my needs on the back burner and focus on my husband and baby rather than my mental and physical health. Something I’m learning and trying to work on. Thanks for posting this & being so honest!! Love you 💙
Thank you for sharing! Exclusively breastfeeding my 9m old son and feeling not myself, excited and also really nervous about weaning at 12m. So appreciate videos like this!
I started crying when you talked about mom guilt 🥺 I am experiencing it right now ! It has nothing to do with weaning, but my daughter started daycare a couple weeks ago, couple hours/week. Now we are doing entire days and girl, that's heartbreaking 💔 she loves it but I miss her so so much and I feel like I'm abandonning her! I am getting back to work soon so we have to do it 😭
Btw thank you for sharing your story in such an honest and raw way ❤
my baby is 5 months and we are no where near weaning but it was SO good to hear your perspective! Not looking forward to those hormonal shifts 🥲 but glad I’m somewhat informed now! Also I hope you find inner peace soon and glad you show what steps you’re taking to get healthier! We don’t even know the full story but know you’re going through so much, so thank you for sharing 💞 and helping others
I absolutely love your videos and your honesty, I’m currently 34 weeks pregnant and you’ve helped calm my nerves and anxiety over pregnancy and postpartum, Thank you 💕
Thank you for always being so vulnerable with us. Your strength helps so many ❤️
I’m also tearing up watching this 🥺
Yup 100 agree with different type of bonding. I stopped after 9 months and i saw my daughter act in a way where she would actually want to hug me. Happier and lighter with me!
Brittany, I just really appreciate you. Thank you for sharing so much about your personal life. You’re like the older sister I don’t have. 🤍
❤️❤️❤️❤️
She really is💕 I'm the oldest child and it feels nice to look up to someone like a sister 😊
My post pardum depression and anxiety has been horrendous. My daughter's pediatrician said I needed to consider stopping breastfeeding because of it and my daughter was only two months at that time. She is three months and we are still going strong, some medication changes have helped my depression. I thought I would breastfeed for a year or more. My doctor's recommended it to manage my endometriosis. My current goal is to get to six months. We are still every three hours around the clock. She is also a complete Velcro baby. I only get so much time in a day where she lets me set her down and not be right there with her. I love it, but it's also a lot and weighs on me how that would change when I start to wean. Her dad and I are married and she's slowly getting closer to him and he's also working through a lot. It's all just a lot.
Thank you for this video definitely helpful
I always tell myself that just because I CAN do something myself doesn't mean I HAVE to. That helped as someone who is very independent feel more ok about accepting and asking for help. Thank you for this video!!
So brave and inspiring being so honest with your journey.
I'm 16 months post partem, haven't really started weaning yet.
Didn't think my body would still be changing and adjusting because it's just not talked about enough!
Oh man. This was so refreshing but also my heart broke for you. I started watching your channel when I was pregnant. Our daughters are the same age. 🖤 Breastfeeding was a struggle for us but we worked hard at it and pulled it off with supplementing for 6 months. Weaning was beyond difficult emotionally and mentally. I actually changed my mind a few times but a bad cold basically chose for me in the end since it took out what little supply I had left. During the time i was breastfeeding I had hoped burning all those calories everyday (pumping nonstop at work and nursing all night) would shed some of the immense amount of weight I knew I needed to lose. It didn’t. I didn’t lose any of it and in fact I gained back the 10-15 I had lost when I delivered her. She almost 16 months now and my weight hasn’t budged. I have the complete opposite issue as far as the tatas go. 😭 weight gain before my pregnancy and during caused me to go up in several cup sizes but it just seems like there’s no end in sight and it’s just comical but sad at this point. I’ll leave it at that, but I can definitely relate to the rollercoaster of emotions. It’s been a beautiful but rough ride. Through it all I’ve loved watching you and Arrow. I was a little concerned about your recent weight loss so I’m relieved to here you talk about it here. You’ll find your way to a new healthy. 🖤 thank you for this video ❤️✨
Thank you so much for sharing this. Not enough info out there about weaning. ❤ You're a wonderful mother, and I am so happy that you are doing things for yourself. You work so hard at all times, and your health is most important.
Do not beat yourself up about your weight, it is temporary ♥️ we all deal with stress and hormones messing with us differently!!! I gain weight!!! And after my first when I stopped breastfeeding, I was so low.
I have a 2 month old and have been so thankful for all of your videos through this journey. Thank you for being you!!💕✨
My son is only a few days younger than Arrow. I definitely had the skinny phase also. I ended up going on birth control pills for my health. It helped level out the ups and downs hormonal wise. Plus, I gained weight and had normal cycles. I was definitely skeptical of medication, but once I weaned, it helped me a ton. Just find what works for you and your girl. It is hard. It is lonely. You can get help and feel good about yourself. One day you will! Sending love
So happy you made this video! I also was not ready for the fact that stopping breastfeeding would be more difficult than starting and doing it. So great you are helping others by talking about this 🙏🏼
Started following you when I was pregnant, our kids are 1 month apart. Thank you for always being honest.
❤️ I hope you’re doing well on your motherhood journey, it’s all so hard but amazing!
What how is that possible girl I have a one year old I couldn't imagine having two small babies it's always best to go on birth control so doesn't occur it's not healthy for you or the babies
Duuuude....I feel u and I am thankful u made this video. As a Mom yet to wean, it's nice to listen to someone with a conscience, who cares, and who isn't afraid to be (somewhat) raw. I can't say I would have as much guts to be so honest about everything with everyone. It's so hard to be a Mom (human?). There is so much (very subtle and very real) judgment I find, and also, massive disagreement, and large polarization there of. Not that this is anything new, only, it is a new playing field, with it's own rules and atmosphere and data. As far as your body goes, I know how painful it is to be so thin so as to attract attention. I suppose, the difference with you and me in this case, is that you are trying to do something about it and are honest about your health. Your daughter will be proud of you. Of this, I am certain.
This is a great video.
I currently experienced the mom guilt you talked about. I had to stop breastfeeding at 5 1/2 month. I have a toddler and I felt so overwhelmed and anxious all the time. I decided for my mental health I needed to stop breastfeeding. I feel great now however, I still get mom guilt because I stopped.
Hi Brittany I'm a mom of 3 and my weaning journey with my first 2 children were very different from one another but I found weaning as you said harder than actually breastfeeding because my children were so attached to me through nursing them. Weaning my first born was a disaster i stopped cold turkey at 16 months because he didn't eat food and I had so much pressure from my inlaws/husband to wean him so he would start eating. He cried for 2 days then took a bottle. But sadly he never became a good eater after i weaned him. I regretted that but its fine he wasn't scarred for life and after it was said and done I was happy to have my body back for me. With my second I was much smarter and dropped feeds until he forgot about the breast but it he took a pacifier and already accepted a bottle so it was much smoother of a transition. Please don't be so hard on yourself and your body. We don't need to gauge of worth based on how much we weigh. You were going through a very hard time since you gave birth and you were doing the best you could given the circumstances. Hopefully you are on the mend and you will see as your daughter gets older and more independent you will be in a better place mentally and your weight and appetite will go back to normal. Sending big hugs to you 🤗 ❤
Thank you so much for this! I am 13m postpartum and going through the weaning. I really appreciate you sharing this. I am going through it! The emotional and physical changes no one warns you about! I was feeling crazy, but this video helped me realize like, yes, my body is going through A LOT. And I need to give myself grace. Appreciate you!
This was the most real video Iv watched in a while. And I shared many feelings during my recent weaning time. Thanks for sharing this. All moms who breastfeed need to know the raw! It prepares you, and hey if you don’t experience any of it then that’s great and a good thing and may actually put a little pep in your step knowing you were lucky enough not to experience it!
Just fully weaned after a long and emotional process and I’m so thankful for this video while in the think of the hormones & getting my health back💕 Thank you for sharing your story and making me feel not alone!
Your honesty is inspiring! I’m having a baby girl in March so when I look at different perspectives and experiences it helps so I can then make my best decision. I totally related to the part about you saying you need to ask for more help. I just found your channel & subscribed but I wanted to say you are a strong mama and very inspiring! Thank you so much 💕
Congrats on weaning, and congrats on breastfeeding for so long! Trying to start weaning my 15m right now as I'm going back to work next month and it's so hard! So true with not being able to sit or lay down😅
Dear BB, we are here for you just as much as you are there for us. We care for you and as your online friends I am sure there are many people here would love to support you. I am sure there are many of us go through some kind of difficulties and can give helpful advice. It is odd to say to someone one has never met in real life but honestly if you needed to talk give us a call. ❤️
I watched so many videos on pp and I relate to you MOST! I enjoy your content it’s real and transparent with I appreciate it! Thank you for the updates I’m sure most women feels the same way , I know I do!
Wow I can totally resonate with you! I’m 11 months pp. no paci. She breastfeeds 4/5 a day if I’m off. It’s rare if she fall asleep without me.
I’ve lost a lot of weight. I hate when others remind me I’ve lost so much weight. Like I know. Along with life and stress it doesn’t help. And no matter how much or what I eat I’m not gaining
I’m currently weaning for myself and die medical reasons and I feel so bad, somehow confused, stressed without a reason etc. you video really helped me to understand myself better. I never thought about weaning be the reason for my emotional struggles. Thank you for the video, this really gives me the chance to think positive again 😊
Weaning can definitely mess with your mental state and emotions in an expected way! 💞
Honestly been following you for so long. I really appreciate where you are and how you are handling yourself. Very graceful forgiving and raw. More power to you!!
Thank you so much 💞