Why You Shouldn't Get Married Young
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ก.ย. 2024
- In today's video, we tackle all the reasons we were told not to get married young.
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I was 18 and my husband was 19 when we got married in 1967. We’ve been married over 52 years. He was going to a community college and became a grade school teacher. My husband earned an AA and then his BA from a small college in his home town. He taught 4th grade for 18 years and during that time he kept going to school and earned his MA and PhD . We have 2 beautiful daughters and two beautiful granddaughters and twin baby great granddaughters. We are both retired and enjoying our life, but this Pandemic has been a challenge. I wish you both many happy years together!
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your story. It's such an encouragement to hear. Wishing you and your family the absolute best!
I want your life
Simp
YBC YoungLouie what’s wrong with with being kind to people?
Ani Painter marriage is for simps who think they need a spouse to be happy.
I got married young , so I relate so much and we are three years in and we love it
Woohooo! We love hearing from others in the same boat!
Simp
@@GentlemenJack109 That is a weird response
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. We are a Christian couple and keep God at the center. We are about to be juniors in high school this upcoming school year and we have talked about marriage but also we know that that is so far away. You guys give me hope!! I always love hearing about high school sweethearts and also people getting married at a young age!
Aww you’re so sweet! Thank you for sharing your story! Sending love your way ❤️❤️
this is such a cute story!!! I'm in the same situation (except it's just over nine months). Matt and Abby give me such hope because i honestly have such a fear of my relationship not lasting
Simp
Me and my boyfriend met at 12 and started dating two years ago. We graduated high school this year, and plan on marrying next summer!! I am rooting for you two! If you keep God at the center, I am sure He will bless you!
Abbigail Wadholm you are a legend my lady, only 2% of girls on this planet are good, that’s about 500 girls that are good. So your relationship last 12 years that’s very impressive. It’s rare for a relationship to last 6 month’s. You have earned my respect, you shall be called Abigail the great.
You guys are smack down on point. My husband and I were both 20 when we got married. There is definitely no “set order”. We have received the exact same advice and the same amount of negativity from our friends and families, but we went through with it having faith in our marriage. It was definitely hard and challenging the first year considering we have never lived together before, but all of that were inevitable. You simply can not deny or avoid hard times coming your way. People are different, but what makes it work for my husband and I despite our young age, is we trust it will work out - and it does. My advice from my experience is to never stop the faith. I can openly say that there have been points where I ask myself, “Why did I get married to this person”, but looking back, I’m glad we go through the hard stuff because it only gets better. I am so blessed for you guys that you each hold the same amount of faith in your marriage, because faith is the assurance of things hoped for and the conviction of things not seen. You guys didn’t have to wait to see if it is the real deal to commit to it, you guys committed to it having faith it is the real deal - which is what makes it a real deal. Bless you guys!
Wow thank you so much for the sweet comment. We also think that having a strong commitment is so important, and we wanted to go all in or do nothing at all. Thank you 🥰
You can't rush into marriage it will come when both of you feel ready
My hubby was in the military. I left college junior year to move to Hawaii. I caught so much flack for my choice. People said I’d never finish college after I left. Proud to say we’re married going on 9 years, finished my Bachelors and earned a Masters even! ❤️
What?! That’s so cool! Thank you for sharing your story!!
so proud of you guys!!! sending love
How did you guys struggle with college and the distance?
My husband and I were 22 when we got married and we have been together almost 14 years strong! You two remind me of us so much. Going to college and marriage takes some adjustment but keeping your spouse a priority is key. God bless you guys on this journey!
Wow! That’s so cool! Thank you so much for the encouragement 🤗
We got engaged at 18. Married at 19. 11 years and 3 kids later still going strong.
How can I get pretty enough to be a wife to a good man in the next few years? I’m 26.
you're so lucky
@@AmberDennis001 you don't have to do anything to be "pretty enough"! You are perfect already, just be yourself and you will find the right man.
You don't have to have kids just because you're married
@@maevepretty I'm almost 27. I hope to be next. How do I get a man to fall in love with me? I don't want to be 35 and forever alone
My husband and I got married at 18 and have a beautiful daughter and have been together for 10 years and married for 4 years! We heard so many of those comments and never thought we would make it! We proved them wrong! You guys are doing great!
So happy for you guys! Thank you 😊
Simp
I love hearing things like this! I’m 21 and I’m getting married really soon too! Totally relate
Did your parents support you guys?? Or?
I’m 23 and I have actually never been in a relationship with a guy yet. But I love how you guys describe marriage and how it’s a journey in itself and that everyone pages their own marriages! It’s easy to get caught up into comparing yourselves with other people when in reality everyone is on a different journey. I love following y’alls story and best of luck to you too!
Aww you're so sweet! Thank you! Sending you all the love on your journey.
I am twenty four and on the same boat, I love your story!
I was 25 when I met my first boyfriend, and by now we are over a year together. Someday will be your day, it comes faster than you think or at least unexpected.... but waiting for the right person is worth it.
@@vangaxoxo we all young we are only adults by law but kids mentally
I'm 20 and really feel this comment
My husband and I just got married last August. I was 21 and he was 23 and we definitely did get some people who didn’t think it was the best idea to get married so young. My parents really wanted me to finish college first and we agreed to wait until I did. Which I am very happy we did as my parents were happier that we waited. So finally after dating 2.5 years we got married. Of course there’s been hard times but it was the best decision we have made and I’m so happy we did. Going on one year in a month ❤️ so happy to see other couples like us making it work
Thank you so much for sharing! We're super inspired to hear from other couples who have experienced many of the same things!
I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 16, idk how to tell my parents that we are dating so could you please give me some advice?
I am 19 and in a relationship with the purpose of marriage. We’ve talked about it, and plan to get married by the end of the year. I have heard EVERY question from family and friends. ITS BEEN SO FRISTRATING . Thanks for some answers I can give them ☺️
u married now ?
Love this! My husband and I are 24 and 25 and 3 years into our marriage. Planning a wedding while going to college full time was definitely not easy, but I wouldn't trade it for the world! Love seeing other young married couples because who wouldn't want to get more time with your best friend? And my husband's ring was a $20 walmart ring that he loves so much that we haven't replaced it even though we financially could now.
Love this! This is Matt and I feel the same way!
"Prioritize your marrige starts even before your marrige ... " so true
My wife has become a big fan of your channel. So I figured I'd check out your videos too. I can see why she subscribed. Y'all have some pretty good content and of course she is a sucker for seeing people in love. Lol.
She and I also got married young, she was 20, and I was 19. We met back in highschool and didn't start dating until about a month before we graduated in 2010. I wasn't very mature early on in our relationship and so that summer I broke things off with her right before I left for basic training. I still ended up exchanging letters with her while I was there and it became pretty apparent to me I still had feelings for her and she even came to my graduation that fall.
After basic, I was sent to my AIT schooling, and that is when my parents decided to get divorced after a 20 year marriage. I was upset and doing the whole typical child guilt thing of thinking I was the reason for the split. Without my knowledge, my mom ended up reaching out to Magen and asked her to call me because she believed she could cheer me up. I wasn't in the right headspace yet and so sadly I didn't respond initially. Time went by though, and that Christmas I went back home (Florida) on leave and reached out to her and soon after we were back together, but now we were left with tackling the challenge of a long distance relationship as I would soon return to AIT in Virgina and then be shipped off to my first duty station in Ft. Wainwright, Alaska.
We had been back together for five months when she started planning a visit for that summer. That sweet girl saved up all her money to fly 5,500 miles across the country, just to come visit me for two weeks. Late one night we were Skyping when I couldn't help but ask her if she wanted to just stay with me instead of returning home. She laughed and replied, " Uh, not unless you marry me." To which I replied, "Okay, so let's get married then." Now, I understand that's not exactly the most romantic way to ask a girl, but I was already brewing an action plan to make up for it. I told her to let her parents know about our intentions to elope, but not to consider us officially engaged.
She trusted me though and made plans with an officiant, got herself a dress, and sent a couple boxes of her belongings up to me. She flew in on June 30, 2011, and I proposed the following day on the side of a mountain where I had carefully crafted a huge heart out of birch tree branches and foliage. Exactly the way I had told her when we first started dating, I would propose if I ever found the right woman. She said, "Yes!" We actually applied for our marriage licence before I even proposed. Lol. The next afternoon on a rainy day we said "I do" in a tiny chapel.
It's been 9 years this past month and we are still crazy in love with one another. We have two beautiful boys and the chillest dog ever. We have traveled quite a bit with my career in the Army and have been to Washington, Hawaii, and now Virgina as I now am an AIT instructor. I wouldn't change a single thing about all the ups and downs we have had since. We work so hard to keep our marriage strong with healthy open communication and sincere intentionality.
I hope Y'all share many more years of happiness and love together. Young love might be hard to navigate sometimes, but worth every bit of the challenge. I remember sitting in marriage counseling after a particularly hard season and the counselor saying, " If one of Y'all is winning in an argument, your marriage is losing." That has stuck with us for years now and has served as a great reminder to make sure that when we fight is for our marriage, it's with the end goal of working to get back to peace and not fighting for the ego trip of being "right".
Wow! You guys have quite the story. Thank you for sharing. It's so cool how love can flourish when you fully commit to someone. We're so honored to have you both watching our videos. We quite honestly never thought that we would have gained an audience of so many people from different walks of life at this point. We're simply blown away.
I think what you said is so true. "If one of ya''ll is winning an argument, your marriage is failing." That's a solid point to remember during tough times.
We really appreciate you taking the time to reach out and wish you and your family the absolute best!
I love your marriage story!
Simp
Thank you for serving sir.
I had tears running through my cheeks reading ur story..it's so magical like a book. Reading such lifetime memories is a true gift and a worthy lesson. I just have one big question or a fear I would say. That's, how would you not fall out of love with your partner over time ? How would you keep ur beautiful bond beautiful ? I see a LOT of divorces, like you have also mentioned in ur comment as well. People getting divorced after 15-20 years of marriage. How is that happening ? If that's real then what's the point in love and affection you had towards them ?
I had this question in my mind for a long time,but in bits and pieces. But after reading your comment, I got a clear picture. If u could reply to this comment,it would be so great and helpful. And thanks in advance :)
I went through this. The judgement that people had and the friends I lost because of it just showed me who my true friends were. My husband and I got married at 19, we just felt that it was right. We have been married for 5 years and love each other even more then when we got married. I can’t wait for the next 50 years.
Aww! Thank you for sharing your story!
Wowww
Oh boy we heard so many of those too! We got married when I was 17 and my husband was 20. This coming January we'll be married 15 years and 3 kids later
We met in elementary school. We started dating freshman year of high school and are getting married in a month 💜🧡 5.5 years going strong
Congrats!!
I wish I was pretty enough for marriage but I’m 26 and a virgin. Wi wish you young Married people could tell me how I can get pretty enough lol
My husband first “proposed” semi-jokingly over text while I was on a camping trip with my family a couple months into dating in college and I often wonder what would have happened if I had said yes! We already pretty much knew but felt we were young. We didn’t get married young, but I think I fall into that category of wishing we had gotten married sooner! I don’t know if it would really have been practical or reasonable, and I think everything ultimately timed out wonderfully, but it would have also been great to start this part of our lives sooner :)
Love this! Thank you so much for sharing!
I seriously got so many of the same comments, when I called my dad to tell him all he did was yell at me and tell me how disappointed he was cause I was ‘too young’ (i got engaged at 21). who cares what anyone else says, as long as we are happy why does anyone else need to approve of it?
Thank you so much for sharing 🤗
My boyfriend and I went to high school together and were in the same friend group in high school but we didn’t start talking until sophomore year of college, he ended up working full time out of high school and I went to school. I’m now 20 and he’s 21 and we’ve been together for almost 2 years and we both know what we want and that we want to be together. I have never had that conversation before and my family always treats me like I’m a child because I’m the youngest cousin. I don’t know how to tell my family but you guys are such an inspiration and are everything I hope for! 💛
You are so sweet! We are rooting for you. We definitely had pushback initially, but our family eventually warmed up. Sending you all the love.
My husband and I are a Christian couple and got married when we were 18! We can relate so much to this! We have now been married for over two years and have never been happier! Also, we have beautiful little boy and another sweet baby on the way!
Aww this is so sweet! Thank you for sharing!
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I’m late to the game, as I just started watching your videos and love y’all’s philosophy on life and marriage! I’m 18 and just got engaged to my fiancé who is 21, and we’re getting married in the fall! We met and started dated when I was 15 and we knew pretty quick that this was it, we had the right intentions in mind and weren’t dating for the fun of it. We’ve received a lot of pushback from family about our choice to get married young but really have felt that this was the right decision for us and that we were better fit as a team in marriage than apart. We knew we were it for each other and we didn’t see the point in waiting until it was “socially accepted” to get married. I’ve loved being able to watch your videos and know that we’re not completely alone in our decision to get married young!
You guys are so cuuute 😍😍 me and my husband got married when we were 19 we were so young and in love and it was the best decision we ever made, it's been 4 years now and we are more in love with each other, and just had a baby 😍😍😍 there are difficult moments but that goes for every relationship whether you marry young or a little older. And to be honest how cool is it that you get to grow up with the love of your life and kids. You grow and learn together🙈♥️ I wish you guys the best and the happiest of lives, and for who ever is still looking i hope you find the right person soonn 🥰🥰
Aww thank you so much for sharing. We really appreciate you and wish you the absolute best!! Much love ❤️
My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were around 7 years old. We met when we both lived in Florida and our families became friends. I had the biggest crush on him from the start. A few years later, his family moved to Georgia. My family would drive up and visit them a few times a year. When I was 12, my family moved to Georgia -- less than a half hour from his! Our families remained friends and when we were 14, we finally began dating -- my dream come true. We are now 19 and in (different but close-ish) colleges and are still so happy and in love. It's so good to see other young couples success stories!!
Thank you so much for sharing your story! You're so kind and we wish you the absolute best!! ❤️
My husband and I are about to celebrate our 11yr anniversary this summer & we were married at 19yrs & 21yrs as well. No college at all & hes active duty as well. We had the same comments about getting married young & im thankful through all the trials & tribulations marriage brings (even if you’re older), we’ve proved them all wrong. You guys are rocking it!
Wow! Thank you for sharing your story! So happy for you guys :)
My boyfriend and I are both 17 and we met and have been dating just over a year now. Marriage was something that we talked about early on in our relationship. Like y’all said we have been so intentional about it and what we want our families know. But we decided to wait until I get out of vet tech school (in two years) and we couldn’t be happier with that decision. We are so ready but continue to grow and learn about each other in our journey. Love you guys! I’m a new subscriber!! ♥️
Thank you for subbing! Welcome to the fam!! Like we said, everyone has a path unique to them. Wishing you the best in everything ❤️
I’m 19, and I’m in relationship with my best friend. Been best friends for 7 years and dating a year. We’ve been doing long distance, he lives 7 hrs away from me I live in Michigan he lives in Kentucky. We’ve been through so much. He went to military school only communication we had was writing letters and calling 10 mins on Friday’s. Then finally we met on New Year’s Eve ever since then I knew he was the one now we’re engaged!! Will be getting married this year. Finally He’s coming here in couple days and I’m going their for 2 weeks 😭💕
How cool!! ☺️ I’m from Kentucky and my BF is from Michigan!!😱😂 We were friends first and have been together for 4 years❤️ life is crazy but sweet❤️
I know this video is a couple weeks old but I’m just catching up, my husband and I started dating in high school when we were 17 years old, we got engaged 3 years later and married 2 years after that, found out I was pregnant right before our 2nd anniversary and now we’re 28, we’ve been together 10 1/2 years, married for 5 and have the sweetest 2 1/2 year old little boy 💙 the best thing about marrying young is growing up with your soulmate.
I love hearing your story and how when you know it’s right for you that’s all that matters, thank y’all for sharing! 💗 My fiancé and I have been together since I was a sophomore and he was a junior in high school, and we are both each other’s first boyfriend/girlfriend. He proposed this year and is going into the air force to help us have a better life. I’m 18 and he’s 20, we’ve had to push back like y’all have with family, we just know that we love each other and we can’t wait to build our lives together!
I got married at 19 my husband was 23. I don’t regret it. We’ve been married for 19 years now. It hasn’t always been good or fun but it’s worth it. Be selfless. Be rigorously honest with one another. Don’t hide each other’s sins from other people. Be open. Let people help you. Love one another more than you love yourself. You’ll do great. Y’all are adorable and will do great things if you fight for each other.
You guys give me hope that their is love in the world
Awww thanks!
It’s rare.
How did you guys “brush off” the negative comments? I’ve struggled so much with that. We’re hoping to be engaged this year but it’s so difficult when there’s so many negatives.
At some point you just got to ignore the haters. Some people are very opinionated and you just got to do you 🥰
People always think you’ll miss out on life if you get married. No, you do a lot of those same things with your spouse and it will be a lot more fun
Y’all have so much wisdom beyond your years! Thank you for your boldness in being so counter-cultural and repping marriage for the beautiful, pure and fulfilling institution it was intended to be! Y’all are an inspiration. God bless!!!
my husband and I got married at 21 as well and just celebrated our 5th anniversary! 😍
we started dating with 16 so we love each other for almost 10 years now and keep falling more and more in love with each other every day and don't regret a thing! When we got engaged with 18, we had a lot of push back though and it drove our families apart.... After hearing for years that we are too young for marriage, that we can not do it, that we will regret it, why not wait etc...we decided to stop listening to everybody else and start listening to our hearts. BEST DECISION EVER!!!! I am so incredibly thankful that I had the chance to meet my soulmate, my best friend, at such a young age so I can share everything with him. Every milestone, every happy moment, even the sad ones. Love you guys, your attitude and your honesty so much! Keep doing what you are doing! All the best, Corinna
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing. It’s amazing how many other young married couples there are out there. We really appreciate you sharing your story. We agree. Marriage was the best decision. Sending love your way ❤️
My husband and I got married young, he was 20 and I was 21 but we had been together since we were 17 and known eachother all our lives. I never dated anyone before and he dated another girl and said he always regrets that relationship. We were friends first, I helped him through his first breakup and we ended up together. We are best friends and have been together 9 years and married 6 years, never regretted a single second of it. We've grown together, built our careers together and built a life together. I feel so lucky I found my soulmate so young, so that we could spend so much more time together and I treasure every second I have with my husband ❤️ you guys are so wonderful together, you have love, respect and friendship and that is what builds a beautiful relationship, and age cannot build that its only when 2 people in that relationship are right for eachother 💖
Wow! Your comment is so good! We completely agree that the friendship is so vital to the health of the relationship. So happy for you and the life that you and your husband have built for one another :)
I'm 35 and haven't found the right guy yet. But I haven't dated a whole bunch of people or tested out the waters either. And my "college experience" was all about studying, I barely even dated and never really partied. For a whole bunch of different reasons, I just haven't found someone I really loved. If I had found someone younger, I wouldn't have had any problems getting married young. People will judge you no matter what you do. I've had many people tell me that I'm too old to find love and no one is going to want me now. But I know it isn't true. You need to live your life for yourself and do what feels right to you, not go by what anyone else has to say. And that means something different for everyone - we are not all the same and all have our own unique path to follow. Happy for you guys. :)
This video is perfect! Everything you both say is amazing. Everyone takes different paths in life. Not everyone looks the same. You guys are amazing and give me hope for the future! My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married after quarantine ❤️❤️
Wow thank you! Wishing you and your boyfriend the best in everything!
I found you guys on TikTok! You guys are so cute together and I am subscribed now😁❤️
Same
Thank you so much!!
Thank you!!
Meee too
Yeah same
My husband and I were 16 when we got together and we knew it was gonna be a forever thing pretty quickly. We got married when we were 19. We've been married 7 years and next month will make it 10 years that we've been together
My husband and I are 6 years apart and we met after I graduated HS. We got married when I was 18 and not even a year after I graduated HS. We have been married 7+ years now and have 2 of the cutest kids.❤️ So grateful and blessed that I listened to God and got married young. We still have such a great marriage and NO regrets.(: you guys are so cute and remind me of me and my husband when we were first married.
Aww thank you so much for sharing. Way to go! You’re story is awesome. Sending love your way ❤️
So why does God hate me? I’m 26 and still single and only had 1 real boyfriend. I’ve never been proposed to lol
I randomly found you guys on tiktok and decided to come check out your channel. And I really like what you guys have to say and love the way you respect other people's opinions. I had just turned 20 when I got with my husband, I'm 32 now and we're still together. We got married when I was 23, so not super young but I totally get where you guys are coming from. We didn't have much money when we got married either, we had 20 dollar Walmart rings and we got married at the courthouse. And you're so right, someone's wedding doesn't make one's marriage stronger than another. He's 6 years older than me but we've grown together. We've got two beautiful kids together and I don't regret getting married at all. He's my best friend and we try to remember when things are going wrong that it's not me vs. Him, it's us vs. The world
Thank you so much for sharing your story! I love the added note about it being us vs. the world. I think it's so important in marriage to remember that we're on the same team. Much love!!
I found you guys on Tik Tok and love y'all's story and videos!
My bf and I met online dating and we have almost been together for 3 years. He is in the army at the moment, but his contract ends in November. We will start doing long distance in a few months because I am going to grad school in another state. We had already done it once before when he deployed to Iraq for 9 months. While we don't have a set timeline with marriage and living together, we are both willing to make our relationship work no matter what and grateful for each other every day.
Thank you for sharing your story! We love hearing from you. Wishing you both the very best!! ❤️
My boyfriend and I met my freshman year of HS in 2017. He was in 11th, I was in 9th and SOOO many people tried to knock us down. Friends at school, church staff, etc. all told us it wasn’t going to work, we were too young, Ben was too old for me.... on and on. We didn’t care though and now we’ve been dating for over 2.5 years. I’m going into my Senior year and he is going into his second year of college. We plan on getting married in the summer of 2022 after my first year of college. Keeping Jesus as our rock and working to choose each other each day is our key to success after so many trials & tribulations!! 💕 Thank you for speaking on on young marriage Matt & Abby!! ☺️🙌🏼
That's exactly why we made this video. Young marriage isn't for everyone, but it's the right decision for some. We're so happy that we made that decision. Thank you for sharing your story. We're rooting for you guys 🥰
Hey guys, you have a very beautiful rare relationship and I have the biggest respect for you getting married young, I am from Africa, even here me and my girlfriend (I like to talk about her as my wife because we are getting married end of next year) have lots of pressure of going to marry young, but like you said, it is about faith and love, she sent me the link and I am very happy for you and your marriage. My parents always says each day only gets better when married. Me and Jeanette my sweetheart wil send you our wedding photos, blessings to you and may your relationship only get better and grow stronger in your beautiful love to each other.🌹
Wow! We are so honored that you are watching all the way from Africa. It's so cool that we are all in this together even when we are on different sides of the planet.
We hope this video served as an encouragement for you! Young marriage is hard but it's so worth it. We are rooting for you and wish you the absolute best!
-Matt and Abby
My husband and I started dating the August before my sophomore year and his Junior year of high school. We dated through high school and college. Then last summer my husband went on a study abroad for college for over a month whenever he came back we went hiking and went to different state parks. We were constantly doing things. Before he left he talked to his parents about how by the end of the year he wanted to propose. Well our timeline moved up haha. Mid to late July we found out I was pregnant. So we told our family and decided that our 5 year anniversary was coming up so we got married at my bible study leader's house in their living room with my parents and siblings and his parents there to witness it. We now have our beautiful baby girl who is about to be 4 months old. And on August 20th will be our first year married. We couldn't be any happier in the life we have together. He is now 22 and I will be 22 in September. And to make everything even more special our daughter was born on the 11th of march, 5 days before my husband's birthday.
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing your story! We love hearing them and wish you the absolute best in your marriage 🤗❤️
We started going out when we were 17/18, got married 24/25, now 38/39, two kids, happier every year. Grew up together, jobs, houses, you don't need to be single before you do these things in life..You go guys, creating a great example..❤️
Oh my gosh!! Yes!! Love you guys already. This is encouragement for me, I am 20 years old. My first and only boyfriend continues to be my one and only. This month will mark 4 years and in the process of making it happen. Keep us in your prayers! ❤️
My fiancé and I have only ever been with each other. It’s been about five years, but we still get told that we’re not ready for almost every single one of the reasons that you guys discussed. We’ve been told that we’re too young, too immature, not financially ready, neither of us have a degree yet, etc. But my fiancé and I have worked so hard to make this relationship and marriage work. I relate to you guys quite a bit. I feel like people just can’t accept getting married young, and yet my fiancé’s grandma was asking if he was going to get me a ring for Christmas. I’ve kept that moment close to my heart because it gives me more hope that this will work out and that people believe in us.
Thank you for sharing.We are rooting for you! Some people don't understand and that's okay. You just have to follow your heart and fight for it. Sending love your way 🥰
You’re so sweet! Thank you so much! We appreciate it 💕
I met my husband after I graduated high school, I had never dated in high school it just wasn't my thing I was waiting until it felt right, but anyways I met him in 2015 a few months after I turned 18. We were working in the same restaurant and it was my first job. We became fast friends and started dating in 2017. Everyone in my life was surprised when we kept mentioning marriage and how we both knew that was our next step, we heard all the same comments and concerns that ya'll did. We knew that our love and friendship was only going to become stronger with time. We both love to travel and our greatest adventure is each other. Also funny enough our anniversary is July 1st, 2019.
What!? That's so cool. Thank you for sharing. Sending love your way!!
My parents' anniversary is also July 1st!
This is so cute!! Found you guys on tik tok. It makes me feel less crazy for my boyfriend and I being so serious about each other. We talk about marriage all the time and would get married today but I worry about the criticisms we’d face for being only 21. You guys seem so happy and I respect your confidence in yourselves and your relationship
Thank you so much! We honestly still feel like kids even though we’re married but it’s so fun! We had to take on a lot of maturity but it’s so worth it! Sending you love ❤️
My husband and I both got married at the age of 19, we are both 21 now. My husband never went to college, but I have been in college the whole time. Many people have warned us against getting married young, but my husband and I have no regrets. There are a lot of people that are still very surprised that we are married at a young age.
Thank you for sharing. Young marriage is so fun!
I'm so glad I found your TikTok and channel!! I've known my current boyfriend for five years and we're about to hit our one year anniversary together. We absolutely know that we're meant to be married soon and young. Also I got really happy to hear ya'll were in a long distance relationship as well, cause we currently are and it's so hard. We have heard every single one of these "reasons" and you guys give me hope!
You got this! It's so hard but worth it. We're rooting for you. Thank you so much for sharing 🤗
I'm 16 and I watch you a lot, I love your shorts, vlogs, especially talks like this. I feel like you guys are my older siblings and just lecturing me in a good way 😂
Like I said on your TikTok, my husband and I just had our 1 year anniversary on June 6th. We dated for 3 years before we married and knew each other for 2 years before then. My mom had been saying that God put “5 years” on head heart for something - a job? a house? health? But my husband (boyfriend at the time) joked that we’d be married by that time. In the time we were dating we went through a lot of experiences - good and bad. From grandma passing away to grandpa remarrying, from siblings getting married and having kids to leading junior high youth groups together. 3 months into dating I went with him to a family reunion and just before we left, his blind grandma (the one who passed away a year later) pulled me aside to go for a walk. We talked for about 40 minutes about how special my boyfriend was and a really deep God Talk. As you know, when you marry someone - you marry their family... and even though we weren’t married at the time, I cherished his family as my own. His family acknowledged that and treated me as such, inviting me to join on family trips to Michigan where I would share a bed with his cousins, and asked me to be there for grandpa’s wedding. Now in the first year of marriage, we are in one bedroom of a house we share with my grandparents, and we’ve had to power through a pandemic, a death of a love one, all while switching jobs and going through college. I’m so grateful that we have a huge support system behind us, but I also love that I get to share in everything with my best friend.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your story. We are so thankful to have a loving community here of support for young marriages. Wishing you and your husband the best ❤️
Hey Matt and Abby! I am engaged and my fiance and I are both young and in college. We have so much fo the same mindset as y'all and are so excited to get married. We know several young marries couples and its awesome to watch y'all as well and know that we are in the same boat. Love watching your videos!
Thanks for sharing!! We're so happy that you're here!
My husband and I got married when I was 18 and he was 20, and we have now been married for two years! ❤️ He was in college and I worked full time as a nanny... we have just found ways to make it work and trusted God through each stage! We heard about every single one of those comments before getting married, but we both can honestly say we have no regrets! Love you guys! 🤟
How have I not found out about your youtube channel until now?! Also, my grandma was married at 14, and she had her first kid in 15. My grandparents knew they wanted to be together, and the rest is history. God has a plan for everyone, and he has something bright for the 2 of you.
Wow! What an incredible story! Thank you so much!
You guys definitely have a good head on your shoulders. I know people who have waited to get married and didn’t prioritize their marriage over the wedding; and they did not make it. I also know people who got married young and are still happy now! You have some amazing advice in this video. I am also on year 1 of marriage and we have been learning as we go along. Never stop investing in your love 💕
You’re so sweet! It’s absolutely important to constantly reinvest in your marriage and it’s something we have to remind ourselves every day. ❤️
I first saw you two on tiktok and you’re the cutest couple I’ve ever seen. You guys seem sooo in love :)❤️
Thank you so much for the support!!
I am 19 my fiancé is 20. We are getting married next month! He is in the military and have been doing long distance for the majority of our relationship. I have heard every single one of these comments you mentioned in the video. This helps a lot knowing I am not alone ! 💛
You guys give me so much hope! I've always been so worried about the problems of marrying young since I've been with my boyfriend since we were 13, we're almost 19 this year and he's being dropping little hints, thanks so much for the reassurance
i have a boyfriend right now, but it's very fresh. we talked about marriage and we both want to do it before the age of 25. i think you guys are amazing and i love and support you ! much love from The Netherlands !
So happy for you! Thank you. We're so glad to have friends from all over the world 🥰
My husband and I got married at 19 and 22! We definitely heard all of those reasons. We also only knew each other 6 weeks before we got engaged 😳 I don’t blame people for being afraid for us but we just knew when we met. It’s crazy! We both had seen so much of what we didn’t want that we were able to recognize what we did want immediately. We’ve been married 5 years this December and have 2 kids and 0 regrets! Marriage is the best! I have loved getting to grow up with my husband and experience so much of life together
My husband and I got married at 23 (which is still fairly young). I had been out of college for a year and he had a year left! It’s been really cool the past 3 years together that we have gotten to grow so much together! Our first year was actually pretty easy, but years 2-3 have been a lot harder because we’ve gone through a lot more changes of jobs and moved and stuff. It’s just so nice that we are a team and we have each other to get through life together! 💕 you guys are really sweet, and I love seeing your videos!
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing. We're so glad that you're here. Sending love your way!!
I'm 55. I've never been married. But, I have two daughters. Their father is deceased years ago. I've been trying to find someone to share my life with but I keep getting involved with the wrong men who just want to use me and throw me away like a piece of trash. I've finally have reached a point in my life where I just don't care anymore about finding someone now. If it happens it happens. You and Matt are very luck to have found each other so young that way you didn't have to go through all the toxic negative people like I did. I feel like I took the wrong path in life somewhere early on. Oh well you can never go back but I wish things would have turned out different. I'm not saying I regret my children because I don't. I just wish things would have been better. I hate being alone. I always found that I was in a one way love relationship where I was the only one truly in love. Sorry about the venting but I felt the need to share.
Met in 2016 (We were both 22 years old), he was visiting a mutual friend in Spain, where I was currently living (we are both from the UK). We kept talking everyday and began a long distance relationship, visiting eachother every couple of months. Less than a year later, I moved back to UK, to his hometown. Just before our 1 year anniversary, he popped the question. I said yes! 💍 May 2018 we got married- the best day of our lives! 2 years going strong and love eachother more and more everyday... ❤️❤️
P.s. we also didn't live together before we were married but we spend most of our time together when we lived in the same country, so felt like we already lived together 😅
Thank you so much for sharing your story! We're so happy to hear from other young couples that get it! Sending you love 🥰
I’m 18 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years! He was 14 and I was 15 when we first met. We decided to get married on our four year anniversary in April 2021! Some family and people aren’t supportive since we are so young, so it helps knowing we are not the only young people who have this issue. I never understood why all of the stereotypes you guys listed are even a thing! Every relationship is different and does not fit into the mold society shapes.
Thank you so much for sharing! Everyone's path is different and we are so glad that you both have discovered your own. Above all else follow your heart. Wishing you the absolute best in your marriage! ❤️
ME AND MY BF HAVE BEEN DATING SINCE WE WERE 14 AND 15 AND HAD OUT 3 YEAR ANNIVERSARY RECENTLY. he goes to basic soon and we've always wanted to get married since we were 15. Its so cool to see other living our dream
I don’t see anything wrong with people getting married young.
I agree.
I disagree. I disagree with marriage.
YBC YoungLouie why
I wish I married young
My husband and I got engaged at 7 months of dating and married that year! At 18! Everyone thought we were crazy and maybe we were. 🤣 marriage has kicked out butts and grown us in ways we never thought possible. But now we’re 22 & 23 with 2 beautiful babies and wouldn’t have it any other way. God is so faithful.
Love you guys! Y’all are doing awesome, we love watching y’all!
My husband and I got married when I was 20 and he was almost 23. We met just 2 months before he left for Navy boot camp, dated long distance and wrote old school letters through his bootcamp time and got engaged 6 months later. We had a longer engagement so I could finish college (since getting married would mean moving wherever the Navy took us). Weve been married 8 years now and have a 5 and 2 year old. He's done his 5 years in the military, went back to school and got his Masters. He even had to leave the hospital hours after we had our second born to go take a final exam 😂 but we survived and every challenge has made us stronger.
Wow! Thank you for sharing your story. You are so strong and we're so happy you're here. Welcome to the fam!!
I"m about to get married pretty young, we decided it was definitely best for us and we both really want it. Watching this is helping me feel more confident in our decision, and ignore the people who might tell us it isn't the right choice. Thanks for the great vid!
Thank you!! 👏🏻👏🏻 I recently got married!! I’m only 20 and my husband and I love life so much!! But when we got engaged someone literally told me “honey, I’m not the one with problems if you’re getting married this early on.” It was hurtful. But my husband is 23 and I’m 20 and we love each other so much. We met when I was a freshman in college and he was a sophomore, and we were told so much of this stuff and it sucks! But seeing you guys, it’s just amazing to see other people in the same boat!!! ❤️❤️❤️ Yeah it can be hard but if you truly love each other it’s worth it!! Plus it’s amazing to go to college with your best friend and have the guaranteed school venting buddy and snuggle buddy!!
Thank you for sharing! Some people will never understand, but you just have to do what’s best for you. Congrats on the marriage! Sending love your way!
Question: Did you ever take a break at any point in your relationship? What are your thoughts on couples who do or couples who try to rebuild a relationship after splitting? Asking for a friend 😉😉 You guys are a huge inspiration and I've fallen in love with you both and your story! 💛
Aww thank you! You’re so sweet.
We never took a break, but our advice would be to be critical of why the break happened in the first place. Have circumstances changed? If the relationship was paused because of a conflict, has that conflict been resolved?
Hope this helps! Sending you love!
We dated when I was 16 and he was 19. We got married when I was 19 and he was 22. We are coming up on our ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY!! I love watching your videos. I admire you guys. Your videos are perfect. 💖💖💖
My husband and I got married at 20 and 21 and we just celebrated our 5 year anniversary! I never regret getting married that young. It has been such an adventure. Wish you guys so much happiness and thanks for putting out content like this ❤️
My husband and I met when I was 16 and he was 18, he was my first ever boyfriend/partner and we got married this year when I was 22. He’s been in the army since he was 20 and since then I’ve gotten my degree and we did long distance for a long period of that and he’s now overseas serving. You guys are the cutest 🥰
Aww you're so sweet! So happy for you guys! Thank you for sharing your story ❤️
You guys remind me of my husband and I! We've only ever dated each other and are high school sweethearts. We got married in 2018 at 21 and 22. We just welcomed our first baby boy this past April. Love your videos!❤
Wow! Thank you so much for sharing! Thank you for being a part of the fam!
I am so happy to have come across y’all’s channel! I can see how true your love is for each other, and I hope that you are so successful in this TH-cam journey. More people need to believe in the power of love. My fiancé and I have been together since 8th grade. We went to separate high schools and when we graduated we decided we wanted to go to college together. It was a huge decision in our relationship, and I think it was the best decision of my life. People always ask if we feel like we’ve missed out on the college experience and I always respond by saying that I didn’t. My experience just may look a little different than most. I got to spend one of the most pivotal times in someone’s life with my best friend and the man I love. We basically lived together all through college, and we moved out this week. Looking back on my last 4 years, all I think of is how blessed we are to have each other. Our relationship has always been and always will be our main priority. We are getting married next year after 9 years together...FINALLY!! Love is real. Thank you for sharing ❤️
My fiancé and I have been dating since we were 16! If we could’ve gotten married at 18, we would’ve! We definitely got to experience the college life as well as maintaining our relationship♥️
Thank you for sharing! Sending love your way ❤️
I think it’s totally okay to get married young! I bet it matures people and there’s something awesome about having a spouse as part of each other’s team, but yeah I agree with the point that life doesn’t have to happen in the same line of patterns. I know of married couples who are working still without kids, for years. I’m 26 and still single and I honestly am okay with being on this stage of my single life because it personally suits me and I needed to discover self-growth in so many areas, specifically spiritually and mentally. I was able to focus so much more when I pushed myself through school and work and had opportunities to keep traveling, which would’ve left my partner behind if I was married. I also didn’t have the best luck when it came to meeting the right one and dating for so long, which can be the case for many who are still single (I was in a 3 year toxic relationship who wanted to marry me but I dodged a bullet BIG time and I had dated so many different people after) and meeting the right one can just be the hardest thing at first. So, it’s really all about where people are in their stage of life and how truly ready they feel.
My husband and I got married at 21 (literally 9 days after his 21st birthday) after dating for 4 years and being friends since we were 10. We dated long distance due to school and him being in the army. We are going to be married for 4 years this November. We just welcomed our first baby, a boy named Reid last September and we couldn’t be happier! Next chapter = growing our youtube channel!
I love you guys! My husband and I got married 8 years ago at ages 20 and 22. The fall after getting married we went to college! We now have 2 beautiful daughters, he has a great job, and we own a sweet, modest home in the country! We have had a lot of heartbreak but we are so strong and have grown so much. Im so thankful my Husband was the one at my side when life took some unexpected turns. God had a plan for us and brought us together young. We had a lot of well meaning 'advice' like you did, but our journey was meant to be different for a reason. We were created unique and with purpose and every story is beautiful in its own way. I wish you guys a wonderful and life-long marriage 💕💕💕
I didn’t care about college experience... I never went to clubs or drinking until I was drunk... don’t like dancing...I don’t feel like I missed out. Didn’t ever seem fun.
It’s really great that this has all worked out for ye and I’m happy for ye. The negativity about being selfish is unwarranted I think. If you are already single it can be incredibly beneficial to be “selfish” and learn exactly who you are and what you want in life. That can make marriage in the future have a higher chance of success. It can also be incredibly fun. It doesn’t mean you’re rude to people but when you don’t have any other responsibilities and you can focus on yourself it is fantastic. You’ll spend the rest of your life taking others into consideration and taking care of others. I’ve been in counselling for years trying to learn that putting myself last isn’t noble. I think being selfless and putting everyone else’s needs before your own is overvalued.
I have a question for both of you, and it’s kind of a heavy one: Did you ever have any opposition to your marriage or relationship in general, and if so, what did you do to remain grounded and confident in your relationship? My boyfriend and I met almost 2 years ago and finally started dating last August. From the moment I introduced my boyfriend to my parents, they made it very clear that they didn’t want to get to know him based on his background. My parents are incredibly image-oriented and think that they are better than other people, despite them both growing up in difficult situations. My boyfriend’s parents did not go to college, so he grew up very poor and has been made to feel ashamed of where he comes from by my parents and other people. I’ve also had my parents try to sit me down and tell me that our relationship is “toxic” to try and convince me that he isn’t the one for me, which has caused some problems with my trust in them. My boyfriend and I are both 20 now, and he is without a doubt the greatest guy I have ever met. He genuinely loves me and goes out of his way to take care of me. He is my greatest friend, and I have never felt more like myself than when I am with him. As cheesy as it sounds, I love him with everything that I am, and the thought of losing him really, really hurts me. Even though we aren’t planning on getting married anytime soon, we have talked about marriage and can both genuinely see a life with each other. Your relationship is so humble and genuine, and you can genuinely tell that you are both so happy with your lives and the decisions you’ve made, even if you both are young. It gives me hope that my relationship will somehow turn out okay, despite my parents unexplainable disapproval.
Great video!!! I’m a recent college grad and single, but many people in my community are 20-25 and engaged or married. I personally think there isn’t a “right” age to get married. I think time of marriage should be based on maturity and knowing the difference between love and infatuation. All other factors are secondary.
I have found such value in being a single independent college grad with an amazing full-time job supporting myself, but I know that that’s not everyone’s journey and that is okay!!!
Thank you so much for sharing! We would completely agree. Everyone's path is different :)
My boyfriend and I are sophomores in college and have been together for almost a year! We were best friends throughout high school and once we got together, it just felt so right. We both love talking about our future together and are eager to see what life has in store for us! Thank you for this video :) It’s so wonderful to see two people breaking the societal “norms” of marriage!
Awww thank you! So happy for you guys!!
May God bless the two of you with a lifetime of love and happiness 🙏🏻
Thank you for this video.
It's very disheartening how people keep telling others it isn't worth getting married at all.
And here, the two of you ❤️
Love this!!
My Husband and I got married right before Corona went down! We are in our early 20’s. We planned for a wedding in August but with everything going on at the time we thought.. hey what are we actually waiting for?! So we got both our parents together by a little church in town and had a friend that was ordained marry us. Literally the day before they stopped issuing out marriage license!! It was perfect timing and we are so glad we didn’t wait! Hopefully we can have a celebration when corona dies down.
Oh my goodness! Good for you guys! Abby and I actually talked about how we would have done the same thing if we were in the same situation. Wishing you the absolute best in your marriage!!
thank you! Right back at you guys!!
My husband and I got married young! We met back in high school our freshman year through mutual friends and didn't really like each other at first lol. During the summer of our freshman year (2016) we actually got together. We been together ever since and got married our senior year (I know fast right). It was actually for a good reason A because we wanted to and B my husband is in the military and it would have taken years for us to have a wedding wedding. We actually planned on court house but my parents ending up offering to pay on a budget only 7,000 spent and it was all done in four months 😂. But I wouldn't have it any other way. My husband and I are now married a year and about to be together for 4 :)
Wow! Thank you for sharing your story! So happy for you guys :)
My husband and I got married at barely 21 (me) and 23 (him) after 2 years of dating. We’ll be celebrating our 9th anniversary in October. I got a lot of pushback from people because I was so young. Him not so much. I’m grateful for the people who had those hard conversations with me though. It wasn’t a brush off of “oh, you’ll never make it.” It was more of a “marriage is hard sometimes and a huge commitment and responsibility and I want to make sure you’re prepared.” It showed they really cared about us and wanted us to succeed. Eight years, a dog, and three kids later and I don’t regret a thing.
Also, the first year is not the hardest. There will be trials that you’ll have to face, but it’s nice to have someone to face them with you.
Got married at 21 and 22 and now we are 15 years strong! 💕💕💕 time flies!
Wow!! That's so cool!! Thanks for sharing :)
I wish I was beautiful enough for love like that but I’m 26 and still single. I wonder if I had brown eyes and blonde hair is things would be different
@@AmberDennis001 Beauty,marriage isn't everything, focus on other things in life
My wife was 20 and I was 23 when we got married. We heard most of the same things you guys mentioned in this video. For us the first 5 years were the hardest because you're young and trying to mature and learn to compromise and live together. We had to learn that I always takes a backseat to US. That being said we were so much in love and knew that no matter what struggle we were going through at the time we weren't willing to give up on each other and that we had to figure out a way to make it work. Now 20 years later our oldest daughter is 17 and a senior in high school plus we have freshman twin girls. We have had struggles along the way but I haven't regretted any of it. I still think its the best decision I ever made
My boyfriend & I started dating our sophomore year of High school! We were 15 & 16 and we’re now 20 & 21 going into our junior year of college! AND.... We have plans to get married next Summer 20201! (there is a proposal coming soon 🤩) But in our expression of wanting to get married before graduating we’ve had family & friends say we should wait for after we graduate, have full time jobs & are ‘more financially stable’. We are trusting in the Lord that he will provide! Loved this video!! I relate to y’all so much!!!
I love watching your guys' videos! I so appreciate your openness and honesty! I met my boyfriend in high school during my junior year and his senior year. We are both in college right now going on four years in our relationship and we always talk about how we plan to wait until we have a certain amount of money and are set in our careers before we get married. Your videos have definitely opened my eyes to a new perspective on marriage and that there doesn't have to be a set timeline. I love hearing your story and seeing how your faith, trust, love, and commitment to each other led to such a happy marriage. Cheering you guys on!
Thank you so much for the support! We’re cheering for you too ❤️ Sending you love!
I’ve been with my boyfriend for 6 years! We started dating in high school - junior year. We had a ROUGH start - just will high school drama and high school emotions. We both continued our paths but all that has made us stronger and better humans is because we have one and another! I swear we build eachother in the others weaker moments. We received the “college experience” note from SO many people. But we got that! We lived on campus and made great friends. But at the end of the night we were eachothers - we say how blessed we are to have found our BESTFRIEND for life already when some look for theirs all throughout their life! Thanks for sharing
I resonate with the point regarding maturity. I have this heart for marriage but people keep stopping me by talking about how I'm so immature. Thank you for addressing this point! God bless yall!
Y’all should make a video about your time long-distance! I’m in a long distance relationship now and would love to hear your tips/experiences:)
I love how some videos you guys just set down with us and just be real! A lot of people/vloggers don’t do that and that’s one of many reasons why you two are my favorite! You guys knew that you were meant to be married at a young age so it doesn’t matter what others said/thought. I am still waiting on my future wife but pray for her every day!
Wow! Thank you for that. We appreciate the feedback and we don’t want to be your typical vlogger couple. We want to be more real and authentic and just be ourselves. Thank you so much!
Matt & Abby you’re very welcome! We can tell that and it means a lot to your viewers and we thank you so much!!
I pray fit my future husband daily too but I’m 26 and may just be wasting my time lol