If She Has Any of These 5 Red Flags, Run
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Tatoos, piercings in places other than their ears, colorful hair, Still single in their 30s, Single moms, divorced, and a feminist. All red flags.
Damn so true
Tattoos are trouble!
💯💯💯💯
1 femenist. 2 violent. 3 tatto & piercings. 4 big notch count. 5 single moms.
6. strong independent woman
@@BingoBangoBongoBOOMSo should women also avoid men who are divorced?
I knew women who weren't _2, 3_ and _5._ Yet the amount of _1_ and _4_ that they were are enough to make that list just two red flags long only.
6. Doesn't drive, 7. Lives with Mom are these red flags.8. Doesn't want kids
@@whiteRaven9475 Perfect for Me.
I haven't met a woman that doesn't have a red flag.
How many men if you met without them? We all have red flags. You choose the ones you can tolerate.
And you think all men don't have red flags, c'mon be realistic 😁
Me too!
I haven't met a human without red flags.
@@seanneumann5790 Sorry, but saying "guys do it too" doesn't apply when it's 100% of women willingly sharing the top 5% of men. Men do not "do it" meaning they don't willingly join harems to trade up.
99% of the girls out there dont even pass the basic standards for me. Tattoos, booz, cigarettes, partying too much ( clubs etc), bad language , too slutty clothes, not private social media, uploading to tik tok , bikini photos etc, are no no from the beginning. i dont even bother talk to them.
Tattoos & single moms are no go zones
Thats 99.90% of Whamen!!!! There's No Hope!!! 😂
I’ve dated a few single moms in the issues always come down to the same stuff. They have out-of-control, kids, or kids who will have outburst of disrespect that they complain about themselves but as soon as you don’t let that kid run over you, there’s a massive problem in the relationship.
@@jamesg1974a you dont have to like the kids, and she might be amazing and worth it
@@coryleblanc it’s not about liking the kids. It’s as soon as you look sideways at the kids she’s going to flip wig and Your out the door. Even when she is the one complaining about the children the whole time and how they abuse her.
@@jamesg1974a pretend that you like them
as soon as I saw how crazy she got after a couple drinks I knew it wasn't gonna work. Literally any dude could smash after two drinks.
Good call. You got her number?
@@riggitydoo5116 let me borrow her after u finish with her 😅
Ive noticed that people mostly get into relationships because they have a fear of being lonely verses whether or not someone is a good partner.
facts
Men want exclusive sex. Women want want help.
I used to have a huge fear of loneliness. One thing I’ve learned is I’m happy with my own company now.
Yes, very true. Its so important to get yourself in the best place you can be...and if someone gravitates to you then thats when you are in the best place to decide. Im 52 and ive only just realised that ive never been truly ready to either accept it or confident enough to let a woman go by if I didnt feel we were compatible...as much as i love my kids and they are the best thing thats happened to me, I sort of stumbled into the relationship with their mother, and once the shine wore off it didnt last..didnt have the foundations to keep going and get stronger together...
Been there. Watching this video to feel good after being in an abusive relationship for two years.
1. FEMINISTS for sure, it's a different mind set and you are the ENEMY
2. Violent Women, women who can NOT control themselves, she will call the cops even though she initiated it
3. Tattoos and Piercings, every woman that seems to have issues has tattoos and or piercings and it only gets worse from there
4. BIG Notch Counts, those that have shared themselves with anybody and everybody, can't be successful when you are a used tire
5. Single Moms, you are going to have responsibility with another man's child(ren) but have no disciplinary recourse or authority
#1 big time. I'll never date a feminist ever again
FACTS 👌!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I’ve had a run in with ALL of these indicators
The tattoos are the only one I’ll reserve my opinion on
Even though I was raised by a single Mom
My Mom was from a different generation
Gentleman, you’re greatest power in relationships is the ability to walk away
Set boundaries and allow her to leave if she chooses
add to that smokers, druggies, alkies, and women with financial problems ie. broke or bad credit history
That is 95 % of the women...
The tattoo thing was confirmed with my last 2 exes. They would get tattoos when they lost control of their life as a self harm technique and to regain control of some aspects of their existence. One or two may be ok but multiple or large amounts of work is a red flag for women big time. Also crazy colored hair is the same thing. I call the tattoos, crazy hair and piercings "poison dart frogs". They warn you of their toxicity clear as day
One of mine has the colored hair and tats, and she's one of the best things to ever happen to me.
@@kenofken9458 The exception does not make the rule. Why is this so endemic and pathological with western culture, the almost psychotic impulse to insist on mentioning the exceptions as if they debunk or disprove the rule?
Excellent analogy. Natures way of warning others of their Venom. Bright colors and body mutalations.
@kenofken9458 yeah, give it time and the issues will rear their ugly head.
Three years and counting and all good.
6. smelly pets (that take precedence over YOU)/house 7. Messy house
Pets that take precedence over you and get more affection than you too
Dude you ain't lying on that one
Hourders 🚩
The dog or cat were there before you. Y'all obviously never bonded with a loyal animal.
@brucesalasar20 Good point. I'll remember that next time I have a chick over and my brothers show up. I'll ask her to leave. 😄
If the woman’s family has several divorces that’s a major red flag that’s often overlooked
Well said, both of my now x wifes sisters were divorced and I found out why. It should have been a big warning sign. Also, of course, it was their x fault, never theirs.
FACTS 👌!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Never marry a divorced woman. Don't even date them for long.
Many years ago my brother was in a relationship with a woman who he planned to marry. When her parents found out our parents were divorced they refused to allow their daughter to marry my brother. My brother was shattered but moved on and is happily married today. In fact, my brother and sister-in-law celebrate their 20th. Wedding Anniversary this month. The folks that refused or shunned my brother had 5 daughters, and today 3 of them are now divorced. One of the divorced women is my brother's ex. I met her quite by chance about two years ago and she told me that her biggest regret is not fighting for her relationship with my brother hard enough all those years ago. Her parents have egg on their faces today, what with 3 of their daughters now divorced. The point I'm making is: my brother may have come from what these people called a "broken home" but he is in a happy and successful marriage today; it was never a red flag for my sister-in-law or her family. I also have two sisters - one in a very good union, sadly the other is a widow but who was in one of the most wonderful marriages you could ever imagine. Just thought I'd share this so it's understood that being a product of divorced parents does not make you a red flag.
I had a date last week with a twice-divorced woman who was asking me (in that job-interview tone they use now) "Why were you never married?" She was 60 (I'm 53). I moved to a new city two days later for a job and by the third night I had three hot women, ages 21, 25, 26.
I'm a 48 year old male, divorced, 2 young daughters, broke, under 6ft, 65kg and going bald. I tick all the red flags myself. It's the best female repellent.
Plot armor sir
plot twist -- men don't have such thing as red flag
women change men as resource, until theres blood to be sucked and payments to be made
Shave your head and get fit. Go get a skill/craft/degree.
Get outside
Get more social
Lmao bro . Stick exteme three razor shave that noggin hit the gym. I still get chick's twenty years your senior women dig a man with confidence. 😊
@@1975normalNo keep doing what you’re doing. Being in a sexual relationship, or an interest in sex in general, is a weakness. Most people don’t develop past this pathetic state of being. Especially the gay rod who commented previously.
My top 5 are as follows
1. Keeps men from her past around
2. Daddy Issues
3. High body count
4. Single Mother
5. Violent woman
Cool....very sound!
Daddy issues is predominantly the foundation to all other Red flags
@@Magnus611 "Daddy issues" is just what 40 year old women use to describe 20 year old women dating 40 year old men.
It's funny how nobody tells us this until we go through something like this
“Daddy Issues” should be 1…. That’s a HUGE red flag
Both my half sisters got tattoos and trust me neither one you would ever want anything to do with.
What are your half sisters Instagrams?
Don't worry.😮
Not having anything good to say about their exes should be in the top 5 list.
If a woman constantly talks shit about all her exes then soon enough she'll be talking the same about you.
I'm a landlord and if a prospective tenant say anything negative about the last landlord; that is an automatic disqualifier.
@@tdgdbs1Sucks there’s no freedom of speech without judgment but unfortunately this is a reality of dealing with people.
1000%
FACTS 👌!!!!!!!!!!!!
@@tdgdbs1 haha, not even in the same sphere, landlords and personal relationships are very different.
I have on several occasions over the years talked to women who have give me an entire timeline of debauchery, crashed cars, people ending up in jail, credit cards maxxed, holidays destroyed, and everything else you could imagine.
And I stupidly asked "Well, why did you do it?"
And ALL of them had the same look on their face when they said "Well, I'm diagnosed bipolar and..." (At this point I'm not listening any more).
It started back in the 90s, this feature whereby a bipolar diagnosis became a license to destroy the lives of everybody around them and not feel one iota of responsibility or regret for it.
Translation: I can't help it...
that’s why the hate the patriarchy, it was holding them accountable
Couldn't agree more...
Been there. You are so right about the bi polar excuse.
BiPolar disorder is a horrible condition. I have known people who had this & relationships never survived. Men can get it too; I dated a guy who abused alcohol & he was BiPolar. He eventually committed suicide but we were not together & he didn't live near me. Felt bad for his daughter.
I just recently decided I will just stay single and not date anymore. The type of woman I want doesn't exist anymore, thanks to social media.
Try church
I feel you man I did all this work on myself, started getting attention and my experience with women has been hell and even slowed down my progression of myself. I’m not doing it no more I’m good just gonna continue to work on myself.
That's a very generic statement with not much substance. I agree social media has had a negative impact on people and it may be harder to find someone worthwhile. But if you actually want a relationship that is mutually beneficial, there's bound to be someone out there. Just depends on how important it is to you and how much effort you want to put into searching.
@@SteeevieC I think bound is a dangerous thing. It's like you are rejecting reality for what it is. I can accept there might never be a woman who meets my expectations again.
@@garethwilliams4467 That's fair, It's definitely good to get comfortable with being alone and nothing is ever guaranteed in life. There may never be the "perfect" woman, but a big part of a relationships is learning each other's quirks and relationship rules and learning to work with each other. It takes a lot of work and as long as your moral and mindset foundations are similar and both the man and woman have an open and loving mind going into it, I think you'd be surprised with what is possible.
It does ultimately come down to your mindset, what you want out of life, and what you think is worth your effort.
my red flag wife would hide the car keys before she started the fight. I later learned her Mom would start fights, get in his face and fall down, acting struck. Domestic (in)sanity crosses generations.
Look @ the relationship of her parents.
Most modern women are a huge threat to your peace of mind and finances….just be aware when you are dealing with them 🙄
Incel. You make them sound like DND monsters.
@@Donner906 Which ones? The Goblins or the Tarrasques?
@@patrickrannou1278 The incels come out of the woodwork here.
And some modern women are just huge!... another deal breaker for lot of guys😂
Be selective. Then run😎
I would have named daddy issues as the primary red flag. It critically impacts a women's ability to have a healthy attachment and leads to all the other red flags in the book.
I just dated a girl who was raised by a single mom and no father in the picture. Was a huge toxic mess. She was aggressive, combative, sometimes disrespectful. I Dumped her
I'm starting to find out this is true.
@@gnarlytothemax it's very true
@@Vision-dd8fl I just went through the same thing. Never again
@@eddievalino8074 Always ask about the father.. If she was raised without a masculine father figure... RUN
I will NEVER be the “entertainment committee” for any woman EVER again.
At 22 years old I threw my goals away for the validation of a relationship with a woman who had all 5 of these red flags very strongly and lived in another country. I'm now in my mid 30s rebuilding my life. I grew up without a real father and learned about what it means to be a man by wounded feminist women and ultimately paid the price for listening to them. Was a huge lesson that took a lot of pain to learn but ultimately I am grateful for all of it and for voices like Rich today that help ground the mindset of man amidst the overfeminized landscape of the modern day.
The blending families was what I did. She kept wanting me to love her child exactly like mine and I couldn’t put into words for her how that just wasn’t possible for her or me to love a kid that’s not our blood the same as another. Still love the step kid to death, but we’re divorced now and I’ll never see him again. That in it self is why the love could never be the same
You still have heaps of time
All 5 ? Jesus Christ!
@@nickc3250 yes and a lot more
The kind you find in a dumpster?@@nickc3250
Agreed about tattoos and piercings. Especially tattoos. Smoking also a 100%, non-negotiable deal breaker.
It took me a couple decades to catch on to tats aren’t sexy, they’re red flags thing. And believe me, the more stupid her tats, the bigger issues she has between the ears. I wish I had known starting out.
exactly.
horrendous stuff nobody would wear even on a t-shirt... now permanent on her skin lol
such a shame
Just now ending a relationship of 4.5 years because she doesn't want to fit into my frame for the relationship. We've talked about our future with raising children, finances, moving, etc. At first, she agreed with me on everything and it was smooth sailing. Now she's unhappy and had changed her mind on all of these topics, refusing to compromise and inisiting that it's her way or the highway. Mission aborted, completely destroyed any chance I'll propose to her. Relationship ended immediately.
It is painful but you made the right call.
You dodged a huge bullet. I didn't end it and I got destroyed.
What do you think changed for her? New friends? New podcast?
@@caeaves I thought it was your podcast
Three weeks into an end myself my friend. You did the right thing. You tried communicating, you led in a healthy direction directed with a “tortoise or the hair” discipline for the betterment of both your futures and were met with her true colors when push came to shove. I’m sorry you were let down. It is a rotten deal but you were in the right. Mine was Rx addict, didn’t do her taxes, and had way too much debt. She is in denial about it all and far too invested in her “happiness”.
And a smaller red flag: always late and makes you wait means you don't matter.
From past 6 relationships, i have come to single major conclusion: whether her father has any control over her life or not..
as someone who was raised by alcoholics (I'm talking about heavy drinkers, not your everyday functioning alcoholics), having a substance abuse problem is not a red flag, it's an instant dealbreaker, no matter if she's perfect in every other aspect, no matter if she's in therapy / rehab / whatever, there's no way I'm getting involved in that when it took me so many years to escape that environment
You're a smart man!
I can feel that!!
The implication is that red flags are dealbreakers.
i dated a chronic alcoholic. i had no experience with this situation. the chaos she brought into my . everyday there was drama . plus the hook ups with guys and one time in front of me . she is 47 i’m 60 . i sailed my yacht to another country. on reflection she lost her boys to her x husband lost all her settlement. homeless and living in a car with a older guy than me . she was hot at 40 to 42 . but the 7 years of drinking and cigarettes has f her . what was i thinking. ? i tried to support her on the phone for nearly a year . but alcoholics lie . she went to rehab but only lasted 3 weeks . she hangs out with low level people. i have deleted her now abs it’s given me depression as i thought i could save her . i do t think she will get another hi value guy now .
“Multiple children from multiple men” -HELL NO.
My sister has 3 kids from 3 different fathers; the last is a good guy but she belittles and degrades him and he's unfortunately too simp-ish to see it - hence why he married a female with 2 kids from 2 different dads.
My sister's friends think she's great and don't see any flaws in her - we all have flaws but she's a little exceptional 😅 Fun fact: our father was a loser.
Nothing wrong with that if you like extended families and everyone is mature.
@Krezmick WTF get help.😅
Yup..nasty
In my martial arts class, we have quite a few single moms bringing in their kids to learn some form of discipline. All too many of these single moms have tattoos, piercings, and odd colored hair. As a "Leadership student" We are expected to help the instructors on the lower level classes. It is amazing how these single moms are so grateful for our help! I simply respond "Glad to help! See you next class!" And end the conversation. I don't want to know what they are driving to class in, or anything else. Once they are out the door of the Dojo, I don't know them
Nice. Discipline to just be uninvolved
@@snOags Quite. I am there to learn and help those behind me in the learning process. Not to get involved romantically
@@snOags On the other hand....Kudos to these single moms trying something
words of wisdom ❤
They fell for the womanist lie and now the kids will pay the price
Certainly! Here are the top 20 red flags mentioned by Rich Cooper:
1. **Feminists:** Women with a victim mindset and a tendency to see men as oppressors.
2. **Violent tendencies:** Women who exhibit aggression, inability to control emotions, or physical violence.
3. **Tattoos and piercings:** Correlation between body markings and creating drama in their lives.
4. **High notch counts:** Women with a significant number of past sexual partners, as it correlates with relationship instability.
5. **Dating single moms:** Caution against getting involved in a relationship with women who have children from previous relationships due to potential baby daddy drama.
6. **Not willing to enter your frame:** A woman who refuses to follow your lead and enter your perspective.
7. **Unfounded jealousy:** Displaying jealousy without reasonable cause.
8. **Need for constant attention:** Women who constantly crave attention and validation.
9. **Alcohol or drug addiction:** Substance abuse issues that may lead to relationship problems.
10. **Bad relationships with exes:** Difficulty in maintaining amicable relationships with previous partners.
11. **Entitlement mentality:** Women who believe they deserve special treatment without earning it.
12. **Controlling behavior:** Attempts to control your actions, decisions, or friendships.
13. **Financial irresponsibility:** Poor financial habits and lack of responsibility.
14. **Lack of empathy:** Difficulty understanding or caring about others' feelings.
15. **Manipulative tendencies:** Using manipulative tactics to control or influence situations.
16. **Unrealistic expectations:** Having unrealistic expectations in a relationship or partner.
17. **Inability to apologize:** Refusing to admit mistakes or apologize when necessary.
18. **Ignoring boundaries:** Disregarding personal boundaries and crossing limits.
19. **Constant drama:** Attracting and creating unnecessary drama in their lives.
20. **Inability to be alone:** Fear or discomfort with being alone, leading to dependency on others.
These red flags serve as a guide for men to make informed decisions when considering long-term relationships.
There are surveys out there that consistently show tattoos on a woman lower their attractiveness, not raise it, and indicate they're more likely to have sex with a guy on the first date, too; in the eyes of men. As a side note.
It’s definitely subjective. There are many women who just like art. I’m in the tattoo world and not every woman with tattoos has issues. Massive generalization.
@@willietarkington1628 it’s the perception of many
@@willietarkington1628 I like art too but there's a big difference between liking art, and permanently altering your skin with it
@@willietarkington1628 But it still looks horrible on woman's body. And do not call this destroying skin activity an art. It is pure immaturity.
Relationships arent worth it. No matter how good it begins, it will always turn to SH!T and you lose half your sh!t!!! I like being single!
I wouldn't say that. Though I will say if you get in a relationship, she must show great desire for you. She must seek your validation more than you seek hers. If you can find that and she doesn't have red flags, date her long enough to make a well informed decision.
@@luccarowthat means you still not fully unplugged from reality. Unplug 100% brother !
@@luccarowsucks dude. I feel ya. What was the worst part of the last relationship... the straw that broke the camels back let's say
Same here. I'm 52, single, no kids. I took up fly fishing a few years ago and couldn't be happier!!
I don't know. My parents have been together for over 40 years. They have fun together and share a great life. It can work, both have to be compatible and want to put in effort.
Single moms will always choose the kids side even when they are way out of line. Seen it happen firsthand.
If a girl has a piercing in her nose then just stay away.
No problem.😮
So true 👏
That's right
Or she dumps her phone number on you too quickly? That's my biggest problem
Yes. If they dont respect there body. They definitely won't respect you.
My top 5 Red Flags are:
1. Children/Single moms
2. Body tattoos/ piercings
3. Out of shape
4. Drinking/smoking
5. Active on IG.
What about women with high body count?
@@har_d_rocks9987 He didn't want to sound like an incel
@@har_d_rocks9987 -- High body count is hard to find out. Frequently a woman with 400 body count will tell you she slept with only 3 people. You will never find out the truth you are already well invested in her.
@@Donner906get a life fool
@@Donner906 if you like sluts don't point the finger at others bro.
A long time ago I went out with a gorgeous girl .
She was sweet and polite .
Randomly she started talking about the fact she was arrested for stealing her stepdad's handgun .
At the time I smiled and laughed . Never contacted her again .
I now have an amazing girlfriend.
Mental health issues or a history of trauma would be number 1 on my list. Also a lack of or a poor relationship with her father.
Father issues really really f k women right up, never get involved with one that has a bad relationship with her Dad
Dated one hated her Dad. She’s also on meds like a pharmacy antidepressants it was a toxic soup circus.
Yep. My last gf had a crazy past , she has BPD . It was hell and I’m still recovering from that relationship 6 months later
Daddy issues is a huge red flag, that one alone spirals all the other ones into place.
Daddy issues is #1 to many I know.
Thank you. This motivated me to leave this wreck of a woman that's been sucking my life and happiness and resources for too long now.
Let's say she's a unicorn and has no 'red flags', and you become highly successful in your career and make lots of money, and after 20 years of marriage she becomes 'BORED' of the relationship, and then her friends tell her all of the financial advantages she can get simply by divorcing you. The STATE is going to royally screw you in every possible way. Don't get married unless you are a citizen of a second country where you can run to, one where the state cannot come after you.
Better yet don't ever get married
yea and put all your assets in a trust so you control everything but dont formally own anything
Let's face it: After 3 times YOU are bored!😮
Tattoos and piercings are cutting that is not recognized as cutting and is viewed as "expressing individuality". Some small, tasteful tattoos, sure, fine, BUT if she's addicted to inking and piercing, it's cutting, the same psychological underlying trauma.
Leviticus 19:28 - you shall not make any cuts on your body for the dead or tattoo yourself
@@retrogamer82 Aside from Orthodox Judaism, it is vital to understand the psychological trauma that the tattoo addicted are literally advertising all over their bodies. It's self-inflicted aposematism, don't ignore the warning signs.
@@tedlogan4867 They look good though.
@@Donner906 The literal physical scars of psycho-emotional instability and trauma looks good on them, eh? Perhaps that reveals something about you?
@@tedlogan4867 I just like how tattoos look. My wife has 17 of them. The fact you have a problem with them is on you.
Never date a women who has addiction problems, even if she’s aware and working on it. When things get hard she’ll fall back on the vice ask me how I know
Yup
Yes
Yes
Aside from generally being unsightly, tattoos are a clear sign that people who get them DO NOT think long-term. They have an impulse to do something and they do it knowing that it cannot be reversed (at least, not nearly as easily as it was applied).
Why would anyone have a picture permanently engraved on their skin that they wouldn't hang in their living room?
I had a buddy in high school who chided me because I would NOT get an earring (he was the biggest hound around, so it was not a gay thing whatsoever), saying that I was afraid to get on. I responded back to him that he was actually afraid of NOT having one because it wouldn't look 'cool'. I never got one, and he wore his for a couple of years before he grew up and took it out for good.
You just said a bunch of rubbish.
@@JerkVegas86
Very few smart and successful business people have tattoos. Having them is not exactly a sign of intelligence.
Women lead with emotion.
Everything fails from there.
Don’t give in your feelings, emotions and vulnerability. Stay cold!
I have to say, Im 36 years old in three days time and through my entire life I have never truly understood why the bible, for example, advocates women NOT leading. There are many benefits to having support from women but It's not addressed enough why it's generally a bad idea for them to lead men. I only came across this perspective a few months ago and the penny dropped. Such a eureka moment! Maybe also because I got to see it for myself in my relationship. My girl saying one thing and literally doing another and being able to justify that with her emotions, I really never knew that about women. Some wild s$%&
The harsh reality is that, large percentage of women out there are no longer marriage / long term relationship material. Therefore the next big question is where to find quality women for marriage / LTR. Two parent households with strong presence of the father is one strong filter. Second is her inner social circle. If her inner socia circle has lot of bottom of the barrel women, then there is very high chance of she also sharing the same values & behaviors. The influence of a woman's sisterhood on her decisions & choices are pretty strong. Bad women are very good at gradually converting good women to be like them.
Absolutely agree on that last point.
You only need one or two rotten apples to destroy an entire barrel of fresh apples. 100% agree on bad women converting good women to be bad. The social circle is very very important in modern times. I have seen even girls from good families end up in bottom of the barrel due to bad association. When considering a woman for serious dating, getting to know on her inner circle is very important. If she has lot of bad apples in her inner circle, then it's a big red flag.
I've said this for years, since the 70s the family unit has collapsed slowly, so many kids being raised in single parent homes esp. girls have not made a successful transition into adulthood, result -- we have a society of adult children, now they're married, divorced, or single parents and the cycle repeats
What you say is very true of life today it's a mess for some people but make the most of it it's the only one wee have
Dating a woman with red flags will lead to challenges and a lot of potential issues in a relationship. Red flags, such as dishonesty, manipulation, or unstable behavior, can signal issues that will impact the relationship negatively. It's crucial to prioritize your well-being and seek relationships built on trust and mutual respect
Here is a red flag: dudes that watch this channel.
@@Donner906 Here's a 🍪
OKeeeeydokee Oparah.
@@Donner906 YOU are insecure, Rich must have been talking about you lol.
With thousands of men saying the same thing, it does count for something!
All western women exhibit at least 2 of these 5, especially the part about "entering your frame and following your lead." Men don't want to join a woman's life, enter her frame and follow her lead, and women for certain don't want this and actively dislike men who do this. If she's got addiction or unhealthy habits, and that's the only issue, that's one thing, but leave her to figure herself out and don't get involved.
Absolutely correct. The Author would not have a TH-cam channel if it was not for Western "Women". The red flags for me are Western/Westernised, feminist, and modern.
Most women view any type of male authority as abuse or violence. They think their own authority is just common sense compromises. They beat down the man and then say he lacks drive and initiative. If the man just agrees with her, he's spineless. If he tries to assert himself she shuts him down and emasculated him. When he gives up, she says he abandoned us.
The only way to operate is to insist on your own path and she either joins or leaves.
@@user-vg8ox3he1i Stay on your purpose, and if she will not be complimentary to that purpose, good riddance.
@@user-vg8ox3he1i “male authority”? No, not abuse or violence, just a hilarious sense of entitlement and lack of self awareness on their part, a bit like the divine right of kings, and equally absurd. Maybe just try being a well rounded adult in an adult relationship, if you can manage that.
100% agreed with the single mother thing. Whilst I’ve never had to deal with the sibling problem that whole “you’re not my dad” bullshit has got to hurt the most. Followed closely by the mother telling you they aren’t your children.
What can I say “it’s a fail”. 🤷🏻♂️. Don’t bother
Don’t try. It’s only a liability that will come back to hurt you over and over again.
I had that...felt like I had zero authority, in my own house. When I finally decided to leave I told her that her daughters saw her laziness as an excuse to be the same. The example I tried to set was an exercise in futility. Glad I left. I gave her the house, didnt want to haggle or prolong my stress any longer...ive bounced back...and I bet the house is an even bigger shithole now...
Never be a step dad!
Purple hair is a red flag for sure
Step children will never be loyal because they're not blood related to you & this is why you shouldn't get involved because protecting & providing for another man's kids is an act of loyalty.
it's an act of complete stupidity and a BIG L for the idiot who does it
No way. Forget it.😮
I’ve learned my lesson the hard way with the tattoos and piercings one. 100 percent the truth. When I first met her she was the coolest sweetest gal, but behind the facade was actually this mean spirited psycho. She had tons of tattoos and always wore a septum piercing. Be sure to look out for those too, every woman with them are unhinged.
You described my ex wife that I left 2 weeks ago. Complete nightmare man, she tried to ruin my life and have me thrown in jail
I have same experience. Was with the girl that had 3 of 5 red flags they mentioned. One of them tattoos and piercing. Men she turned my life into total chaos,drama and real nightmare. Amount of lies manipulation and drama that she caused is fuc@@@ crazy. When I look at this now after time it was really horrible time in my life.
high body count is the biggest red flag
The ONLY RED FLAG that will decimate the relationship inevitably:
does not have genuine burning desire for you (you find yourself wanting sex more than she does, she limits the acts, or straight up refuses).
100 percent of times it leads to loss of her beauty, disrespect, and cheating ideation.
So the way I like having sex will effect how she feels about me?
100% agree!
I disagree. I’ve met multiple women in very romantic and stable long term relationships that have basically faked the sexual attraction altogether. They just don’t care about sex more than they care about the companionship (therefore faking the sex as much as he wants to keep him around). Women who focus heavily on the sexual part of a relationship often find themselves in toxic situations or with indecisiveness about their partner.
@@jacquelinew2396chad only
Also you forgot male best friends
Those weren't all 21 red flags.
Hang out with guys less drama 🙄
@@Norcaljourneyman yeah lol always gets me lol
holy crap. if she has male best friends they better be gay or run run run.
Just remember there's NO PROMISES in relationships
100% agree on feminists and violent women, I dated a very beautiful and attractive middle eastern woman in Canada for 3 years. Everything was amazing, except she was violent towards me when she does not get her way. I came to know of this problem in my first few months of dating but I still ignored it since she was very hot and I thought of marrying her and have kids with her. Well long story short, exactly what Rick mentioned her; I found myself hand-cuff because we live in a country where defending and pushing a violent woman away is a crime. Thankfully nothing bad happened to me but I learned my lessons moved out of that relationship and stayed away from anyone who is a feminist, violent or just someone who does not listen to anyone else's opinion but her own.
The other thing I would say is stay away from is big/extensive Tattoos girls, any girl who thinks it is ok to go through the pain to get these large tattoos are no good for any man who is serious with them.
Thinking she is entitled to your money, thinking she doesn’t have to put in work for a relationship, “what can you do for me” thinking, she is a con woman in real life, aggressive, manipulative to name a few things
This one is the best summary I've heard about this subject so far. Thank you!
Where are all the traditional women who want to be a home maker and look after you and your children.
Making more money, dating better men and raising their own children instead of adding another man child to her list of things she needs to take care of.
@@tallspicy no fr where tf are they
Think it’s fair to say to never go looking for love? Let her find you?
If you try and find someone, then she maybe won’t ever respect you. If she finds you, then she wants you, and that’s very important.
Thanks Rich. Really appreciate your knowledge. Agree with a lot of things you say.
Thank you Rich for doing this content on TH-cam. More men need to search out for this info.
I'm 67, married 38 years and together 40. We beat the odds as good friends we watched each other go thru first marriages. She had a four year old son and no tattoos when we got married. Your right about raising a stepchild. Discipline is a damned if you do, damned if you don't thing. Now she's got plenty of tattoos but that's ok. We have a great marriage but it hasn't always been easy. It has been more than worth it.
Late 60s and tattoos...are you bikers?
@@Jerry-yb7po Well yes and no. We both have Harleys but I prefer my Suzuki DL650 VStrom. We have friends that are bikers and they call me a motorcycle enthusiast. That's OK I've no problem being called that because for me it's more fitting. Biker to me denotes a lifestyle and though I love riding and I've got hundreds of thousands of miles in the saddle, my life doesn't revolve around my motorcycles. I'm the only one among my wife and kids that have no tattoos also. I'd probably bleed out if I tried to get a tattoo at my age! Lol
Goodluck bro. I really wish the best for you 💪 my parents divorced after more than 40 years of marriage. Although it sucks and its hard i do understand it. My. Dad has no social skills and my mom is a blind follower :( in just trying to learn from it. Although i always thought i would never marry and ill probably never will. I dont see any positive thing from a marriage for me.
@@namelesssnitchygood luck bro? This guy can be your grandpa… and your parents divorce isn’t a failure. They lasted for multiple decades.
do you have kids with her?
I would offer this....a relationship is like a process. And a process is like a chain with links. One weak or broken link, and the chain doesn't work any more, nor the process, nor the relationship. Just ONE red flag is enough reason to stop the wagon train and say no, I am not doing this.
Rent the cow...don't try and own it.
As a married man I will say find the right woman who supports your goals and aspirations, let love find you not you find it because sometimes we end up seeking love in the arms of the wrong person which creates a setback. I'm not gonna lie and say i don't have my issue or my wife but we together identify what those issues might look like and we address them, as well as individual issues we have. Every relationship has it peaks and valley but most importantly center yourself around god be judge by the fruit you bare, marriage or amy relationship takes work but you must recognize if a woman is non motivated in her life if she has no goals and aspirations for herself that to me equals out to a woman who won't put any effort into anything including a relationship run away i hope this helps anyone reading
God bless you thanks for the message of wisdom.
@@blairsaid you're welcome man and Merry Christmas and a blessed New Year to you
Yes I totally agree with these red flags, every damaged girl I’ve known or even hookers if you see them have tattoos. Tattoos are form of hiding the pain they have endured in their life.
Watch out for women who are "dismissive avoidant". That alone has them placed in a masculine frame.
What is that.
@@bruceknee4941 when you get a chance look into "attachment theory". It describes a person's interaction style. And how that style may or may not affect the dynamic of the relationship. Dismissive avoidants tend to "dismiss" their partners needs and feelings as well as avoid communication at will, whenever they feel like it. But because they are terrible communicators you'll have no clue that this what they are doing. They are very reserved, telling you only what you need to know, etc. But there are levels to it such as 1-10 on scale for example. These types can make even the most "secure" attachment types feel "anxious".
My first and only girlfriend was dismissive avoidant. She would shut me out instead of dealing with the issues at hand, then come at me with things I did wrong. Never once did she take accountability for her actions. After we broke up, she was the most vile woman I'd ever met. I talked to her about my mental health struggles, to which she said "well that's your own fault". That one statement left me so utterly broken. I felt like trash, discarded. Giving so much love to someone and they say that directly to your face with no emotion, it still haunts me.
Good content Rich...I thank you for the education of this stuff
Was a lifelong bachelor through my 20’s 30’s and early 40’s. Had an amazing time seeing the world, served my country, and had more than enough women to last a few lifetimes. Met an amazing woman five years ago and we’ve become a strong confident couple and my best advice would be…. Make sure to sew your wild oats before settling down and when you do make sure you are best friends. And oh yes good points here to avoid red flags.
This is how I want my story to read. Meeting your soul mate at 40-50 still leaves you with plenty of decades... Most likely more than most
Many die while sewing wild oats brother.
@@Rileyedindeed brother but some of us weren’t cut out for the mundane 9 to 5 rat race with the white picket fence fantasy waiting to retire at 65 and start trying to see the world then. If I could do it all over again, I would do it the same way, only thing I would do different would be to invest a little more.
@@hecmen7298 I’m talking about wild women and booze.
@@Rileyed yup good times
Red flag videos are always good. A healthy revision
I like my human psychology reduced to bullet points. Bullet points never over generalize! Lol
Finding a woman in her 30s that doesn't have kids and is single is a pot of gold on its own
Facts
Big facts
No it ain’t. And she will have the most issues of all. Trust me I know. Getting divorce to one of those now.
@@3chunter307 You are getting divorced from a single 30 year old without kids? A married single woman? Pretty stupid comment...
She was 30. Single. No kids. We married and had a child. Now divorcing. She cheated.
I’m beginning to believe that it’s better to be alone, the need for being with someone is getting less and less important the longer I’m single. I love my peace, women tend to love drama… I really wish you all good luck. Maybe you’ll find what you’re looking for.
like Leo Tolstoy said,
if you can keep from writing -- do not write
if you can live without a woman -- do yourself a favor and live without a woman!
As much as women deny it and fight against it, body count does matter. In fact, it is irrelevant what women say about that topic. I decide what is important for me and what matters, wether they like it or not.
Excellent thinking!
If it body count wasn't that important, why are they trying to hide it????
I decide. 😎
Spot on 💯. Well said, I’m 45 and absolutely agree with the red flags and the things that you’ve communicated. I think there are a lot of men who are in alignment with this and who see these things for what they are.
Also, please consider putting the link to the full length version of your interview and conversation link in the description, if you’re not interested in utilizing the feature to connect it to the end of this video. It works better with the TH-cam algorithm and will start to pair your short videos with the originals. Cheers. 🍻
Yes, I am 47 and i agree with that also, but in that age range (as a man in his 40s) you should date women in their 30s and 40s, but there is a problem when applying the exclusion rule (the red flags: 1 femenist. 2 violent. 3 tatto & piercings. 4 big notch count. 5 single moms) .... this would mean you can only potentially date about (estimate) 10 percent of the women out there (because most women available for dating at this age have a red flag) ... so this is all a lot of carbage if you really want to date.
@@neonovalis yeah, well said, I agree. Like you, I tend to date 30’s - 40’s also. Gotta vet 💯 of the time and slim pickings. Spin plates until you attract someone worth more exclusivity.
@@maxwell-cole I have in the back of my head a red flag list ... but tatoos and single mom status are not a red flag ... because (I am in Europe where 90 percent of women have a tattoo) I would not find anybody to date if I would apply the "Rich Cooper Rules"
Great video! Encountered all five often. Keep spinning plates. Righteous!
I went thru so many women .. looking for a unicorn .. just one that wasn’t into drama
Or try to create jealousy which I felt once with 1 girl, never keep those around .. ever .. or keeping some orbiters for backup .. never found it ..
So basically get a dog.
Yep... better off with a dog and a sex doll. Even who a man thinks he's with the best woman in the world will eventually get hurt....and it destroys you.
Great information. Learned a lot, and it makes sense from what I've learned in psychology
Good info... Thanks Richard!
My attitude early was a philosophy that has served me well. I told every woman I tried to date that she is welcome to do whatever she wants but if she wants to continue to see me, group A will always happen and group B never will. Then I would give her time to reveal her true intentions and faults. Finally after realizing a Western woman is no longer an option, I moved to Latin America and found a woman who I never thought existed. Been with her a year and life is very good.
Just got divorced few months ago, got a few kids who I love. Happy to be alone now…
Anyways, if and when I go back to dating and getting in to a relationship I just feel that single moms would be more responsible than women who’ve never had any children.
Everybody tells me the golden rule to never get in a relationship with a single mother so just feel torn between the two mind sets.
For now I’m happily alone ;)
There are several good videos that explain why its never in a mans favor to get involved with a single mother, and one of the things about them is that they are far less responsible then you think.
One of the reasons women become single mothers, is that they were *less* responsible than the woman who didn't end up as one.
More important that any of these is her relationship with her father. No relationship with her father or a bad relationship with her father is the biggest red flag of all.
💯 facts
Very happy with my girlfriend for years now. She has been with one other guy when she was a teen, im her nr 2, it really do make a difference from other woman I have had, seems those girls never really bond. With this woman I have now, its magic. She is such a sweetheart, and havent changed over the years, we still in love and cant get enough of each other. I really hope other men get to experience this too, this is what life is all about
Somewhat recent widows can potentially be a better case for connecting with a single mom. Better chance of a well adjusted, low body count, stable life prior to you being in the picture. The problem is these are fairly rare with still fertile, younger women. However, if she is having ongoing issues dealing with the traumas of her loss, that could be a red flag itself and tread very carefully. You don't want to be perceived as taking advantage of a loss stricken, vulnerable woman.
Exactly. The widow's enthusiasm for you, could easily be clouded by her immediately needing someone to 'fix' her.
My girlfriend and I were talking the other day, and she mentioned that she'd forgive me if I had an affair. Isn't she just projecting that SHE has those tendencies and is banking on our love to forgive HER one day?
Oh boy
@@Karll541 Yeah...😟
Run
She has already done it 💯
You’re finished
Useful information! Great video! I will stick to it blindly
Rich, where were you 35 years ago, you could have saved me a lot of trouble and money. I had no answer guy back then and I had to learn the hard way. Keep up the good advice.
I was married for 23 years. Five years later I tried dating. (I’m a lawyer, grown children, financially secure, in decent shape.) I ended up with a far left feminist who was a mean drunk.
When I got away from her, over a dozen years ago, I resolved to have a quiet, solo existence. I’m more content than ever. Even a friends with benefits is too much drama for me.
A lawyer who got married 😂
I'm an older man, here are my Red Flags with older women:
1) Older children still living at home (and sometimes with grandchildren)
2) Renting and not owning their home
3) Money problems, see #2
4) Social media addiction, can't put the phone down
5) Multiple divorces, can't keep a relationship
6) Multiple cats
7) Women with low-paying jobs, see #3.
And horses...
Your first red flag should have been older and looking for love. She's been looking for 40 years run what a waste of time and money
@GhyRat , ONE cat is cute. ONE.
Great info !!
All very true. Just went through a divorce. My ex wife had 2 kids from her first marriage. Both boys. Good dudes. Even though we agreed that I was to be viewed as the male authority figure in our house there were a number of times where I’d try to teach them things as men like respect, manners, etc and she’d step in and undermine what i was doing. She always had to be in control. This caused a lot of issues in our marriage which was most likely one of the reasons it failed after 6 years.
Tattoos are an exception for me personally, as long as she doesnt make her tatts the core of her personality and she isn't littered in them it's fine with me. I have 2 tatts personally, they are there for family.
That's ok
Excellent points all. That leaves maybe 1 in 100 women worth even being around.
Dodging landmines over here! Thanks Rich
Ty brother great video
Tattoos and piercings. Giving some stranger access to intimate parts of her body for hours on end. No quality woman is comfortable with that.
Women today look creepy.😮
Agree with the top five, although I don't recall if BPD or Dark Triad are in your top 20, I would put Dark Triad in the top five, maybe instead of single mother.