Exactly this, and then I read she even had more than the 2 she haven't seen over a year. So she keep birthing babies and losing custody of them. Then hear him saying she's a good mom. No. If you were a good mom, you'd work hard to get all your kids back instead of fooling around with some teenage boy and have a baby with him as well.
He’s upset thar his mother left him,when he was 6,but he’s not bothered that his girlfriend has left two little sons behind,and hasn’t seen them for a year.They must be heartbroken.This so-called relationship is doomed.
@anjab6266 Breaking the law is not judging. Instead of trying to straighten her life out for her other children she hadn't seen in a year , she's sleeping with a kid and brought another baby into this mess!! I don't understand your way of thinking and I don't want to!!
Tbf living in a motel means everyone can hear you and if you are there a long time unlike others you're going to fight. Less likely to fight if you're there for a night or 2.less likely for neighbors in a neighborhood/housd to hear you fighting. Just saying not defending
She wouldn't have heard it anyway... Dr. Phil did try to explain that it's a felony. Given her self-serving mindset, nothing can get through. Unbelievable.
Exactly! He wanted an older woman to take the place of the mom he never had. She decided to have a relationship knowing he was vulnerable and took advantage of him. Even the most mature teenager still cannot make lifelong decisions with fully comprehending all the consequences of it. She has something wrong with her thinking a child can take care of her and love her. Just ewe!
A nearly 30 year old woman with the maturity level a teenager if it was flipped he would be in jail by now men need to be protected just as much as women from this type of stuff
She comes to the US with all of her customs to just have baby after baby. She had brought 4 children into the US to make them legal so she can stay even if she does not have custody of them. All kids can remain but she should be deported.
Except he's the predator who creeped around online lying about his age. How many were there before her? Other 20somethings that had the sense to cut it off once they found out that he's underage. She's obviously immature, and doesn't know the difference between truth and lies. Is she autistic? He targeted her! He's the predator, and I doubt that this isn't the first time that he's had trouble with the law. After they split up, he's been in and out of jail. She's found another male, who is an adult male. They're now married and he takes responsibility for this creep's kid.
@@Donna-l3b being a “catfish” isn’t a felony. Other than that, you make a very interesting argument. Thank you for showing me the other side of the coin.
@@Mon67ica yes, the Internet is the final frontier atmosphere, parallel to the wild west. Criminals move faster than the laws can change to keep up with them. That's another thing that criminals use to their advantage. Personally, I stay off the internet - no social media, no dating apps. I also don't hang out at nightclubs and bars, or even go out anywhere after 8pm. I dress modestly, as to not attract attention, and take other precautions to protect myself from the large percent of the male population who thinks with the wrong head. There's no laws against hitting on women. We have to be smart and keep our guard up. I really feel for this woman. She's obviously not right in the head. She has kids and lives in a hotel. She has an accent, so I am guessing that the USA is not her native country. She has no support, no parents or other family members looking after her. She's lonely, desperate, abandoned, list the custody of her older children. IMHO, her biggest mistake was hanging out online. Her story is just a huge mess. 😢
this was 2012, they broke up less than a year later and she married some guy in the military in 2013. she never went to prison. TJ seems to have been in and out of prison since.
@leyahruizdeloreto6420 WHY ARE THEY DEPRIVING HER OTHER CHILDREN? THEY COULD BE LIVING THEIR BEST LIVES, YOU DON'T KNOW THEIR SITUATION, JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT WITH THEIR BIOLOGICAL MOTHER, FOR ALL YOU KNOW IT COULD BE A BLESSING.
@@cheryl5994at 15 when this started…and now at 17 depending on their state…he is UNABLE TO CONSENT. So yeah, her fault. She’s the adult. It’s why we have laws against this
She is emotionally immature and manipulative, he is very young, and this isn't going to last. I also don't believe that it was his idea to have a baby. She wants them to think their relationship is so balanced and mature when its a hot mess. I think she said if they had a baby everybody would have to accept her. That is why she is trying to push that she has this wonderful relationship with his parents. They are cordial because she has their grandchild and that is all. She is living in a dream world and I think this is the first person he has been with. He is also trying to fill the hole his mother left. What he says he likes about her has nothing to do with a romantic relationship.
My then 16,17 yr old son had a 36 yr old woman who would not leave him alone! Only when I threatened to have her arrested for statutory rape did she finally stop the stalking! I was livid!!!
@Artchick1972 True. There is nothing and no one who would ever take my kids from me. Ever. No matter what I had to do. My five children know this is true.
@@Artchick1972 Legit... my ex tried to kill me. My father was a pedo... so I couldn't go home. I literally moved in with strangers to give my kids a safe home. There are NO limits to what "incredible" mothers will do to protect their babies.
I’m changing my mind… she is a predator and he is a child. And the fighting, and the police calls and living in a motel, and having other children that she doesn’t look after…. It’s not sounding great.
of course he is self centered! he's a teenager! of course he's immature! he's a teenager! of course he's argumentative! HE'S A TEENAGER!!!!!! That lady knows what she is! TO THE WOODCHIPPER
@@janicester I'm sorry, WHAT?! She had s*x with a 15 year old boy, and got pregnant with his CHILD! That relationship has been going on for 2 years! He's a CHILD! A TEENAGER! A MINOR! Do you not hear yourself?!
She is delusional, immature, selfish, vane and obstinate. He has a complex about wanting an “mommy” because he was abandoned by his mother. That is why he is gravitating toward this older “woman”. I use that term loosely. She needs to get some humility, gratitude and vulnerability. Good luck, lady. He won’t wait for you! The minute some hot young check comes sashaying alone, he will be in bed with her.
Ok, I’m being negative. She has 3 other kids, a 3 year old, that lives with them , in a hotel room and 2 other kids that she hasn’t been with them for over 1 year! This whole relationship is absurd! What a shame that he’s a young boy and now has a child .
speaking as someone with a disability, and who has friends with disabilities, I do agree, he was. all though he's very intelegent, he does sound like he has maybe a slight intellectual disability. saying that, she is an adult, dating a kid, and maybe someone who may even have a disability, I'm not sure, I just go with the voice, as I'm blind as well, so can't see him, but she really should stop playing the victom here
Yep, when he was talking about "well if you get your grades up, if you stop fighting" what?!?!!?? Nooooo get her arrested over and over until they stop
I can see the story.......... I was 17 fell in love with a merchant marine....24 yrs older than me I had no idea. Of his age........we falsified my birth cert to make me 18 and married in CA......I had traveled from nz to be with him April 1979...Jan 1980 we had a daughter.....she has paid the price ever since as the marriage didn't last obviously day.....today age 62 I say yes both of us ? .I still would of not supported a statuary rape charge......altho the law of the land at the time..
JUST BECAUSE HER CHILDREN HAVE DIFFERENT FATHERS IT DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S A BAD OR PITIFUL PERSON & TBH, YOU DON'T KNOW HER, YOU'VE SEEN 37 MINUTES OF EDITED TV.
@@cheryl5994I've seen your all caps replies to a lot of comments here. Kinda seems like you might be personally involved with these people. She molested a child and ruined his life. He was 15 years old and she was a grown woman. Would you be this outspoken if this was a 30 year old man and a 15 year old girl??
@@cheryl5994different mothers and different fathers is bad look and shows a person doesn’t pay attention. Doesn’t make them a bad person just not a responsible person.
When she knew things were getting serious, she as an adult should live right away. Boys with 16... cmon. She's very very selfish and a PREDATOR. He doesn't know what adult life is and the sacrifices. In a few years he will blame her for destroying his youth
Man or woman these people are disgusting. Teenagers cannot understand the true gravity of adult situations. It's the adult's responsibility to act accordingly and appropriately and I believe this woman has zero mental maturity. They're both living in the same fantasy world. A mentally and physically grown responsible woman would never do this with a teenage boy. She has stolen away his need or ability to grow up and figure himself out before settling down with kids. His lack of a mother is 1000% partly to blame. He's subconsciously looking for motherly love. It's extremely heartbreaking. He does not have the life experience to understand how damaging this relationship is
He like many kids wants to be a victim, that means nothing is his fault. He should have been kicked out of his parents home when he quit school and never opened the door to him again. Trying to make up for a divorce only let him bully the father.
I remember seeing this the first time. I need a whole update! 😩 - She has other Kids - with an "S" - He was 15 -16 when this started. - She is deluded - He's impressionable and LOST and now a whole FATHER. - If she was a man and he was a 16 year old female, the show would be bombastic! - If that were my son, this show wouldn't be aired and she'd be in J-A-I-L.
His circumstances led him to grow up fast. He is a man like he said. I had a child early and I know how that changed my life , I could not change it. While my peers were making stupid decisions, such as drinking,clubing all night, gettkng hooked on drugs, I was figuring out how to navigate motherhood. And I indeed did a good job.
I also had a baby young. Be real though, this boy was not a man at the time of this taping though. It changes the course of your life but it doesn't change your age or over all maturity level. The fact that he wanted to have a baby with a grown woman says how immature he is. The fact that after having a baby, he still doesn't see the problem with his relationship and that she has a higher responsibility to not rape children shows he is still a child at the time of this taping. He didn't grow up because he had a grown woman with the same teenage mentality manipulating him and enabling the childish behavior.
Apparently she married an Airman,and moved 8 hours away from T.J.Their child will be 12 now,and visitation is difficult,because of the distance.Seems like she as selfish as ever.
I thought EVERYONE knew if you are an Adult age you don't mess with an underage child, that it is Against the Law. she doesn't get that. If she did she should have cut it off as soon as she found out he was 15 or 16 yo. AND the FACT she has 2 children from a previous relationship that she doesn't even see, should tell him something about her. But he's still having a child's mind and can't see that she 'may' do the same with his child and she is NOT a Good mother. No GOOD mother leaves their child.
Here is update from internet. So sad. For those of you who were following the "craddle-snatching" love story of TJ Sinavage and Melisa Dilan-Hernandez here's the rest of the story. The case of Melissa vs. TJ was adjudicated and she did NOT go to jail. She did get married though to a man in the US Air Force. (His name will not be released as he has nothing to do with the prosecution of the case). Melissa and her new husband have moved about an eight hour drive from TJ making visitation very difficult.
On Melissa's behalf, that's gross. I think she's very immature. She acts like a teenager. I have a 20 year old son. I wouldn't be at all happy with something like this. I think she needs a lot of rehabilitation, and counseling.
I wish he would have gone there!! I want to hear from the 2 former baby-daddies. Let's hear her history. She refuses to have any accountability for her actions. WHAT HAPPENED with this case?? What was the end result?
@@lalosalamanca8574 The law does not work this way in this country. Her being arrested is one thing but been thrown in jail without due process is another.
When I was just barely 19 years old, a 36 year old married woman found me at one of my shows (I was in a band) and she messaged me on Facebook later. I began a 5 year insane affair with this woman, who I then lost my virginity to in some hotel room. I thought I was so in love, I was ready to drop everything in my life to be with her. She messed with my head SO much to make me think that I was going to be with her forever, she was going to leave her husband, blah blah blah. I was so SO stupid. When you’re this young you simply do not have the brain capacity to know what the heck you’re even doing to screw up your future. I finally broke free from her and moved on. I am now 32, and tomorrow I am getting married to an amazing woman who is also 32. Life is wild. I am very regretful for my past decisions but thankfully mine weren’t the end all be all.
Same with me. I had an affair with a married man who was 33. I was 19. This was back in 2006. He took total advantage of me. My head was messed up! Said all the same rubbish, I'll leave my wife, I've never met anyone like you blah blah blah. I'm celebrating my 12 year anniversary 🎉 tmo with my wonderful husband who knows it all and doesn't judge me- sadly women get judged lol Congrats on your wedding and I wish you all the luck in the world 😊
This woman is horrendous, but that being said, as soon as a child turns 18, never means that they are capable of making “adult” decisions. Frontal lobe isn’t complete until about 24/25. There’s a fine line between the law of consent and actual critical thinking.
I think this poor teenage boy is just looking for the mother figure that he lost when his mother abandoned him. She's taking advantage in every sence and it's sickening. I hope he got away from her.
i really came to realize that the reason that he chose an older woman is primarily because his own mother left him at such a young age…he chose her because he wanted that protection and nurturing that his mother never gave him…which is sad…i hope he gets help and she wakes up
Putting her in prison for 15 years means another child is abandoned and TJ isn’t old enough to look after a baby, he not much more of a baby himself. It’s a big mess and the victims are the baby and TJ.
It’s rape. If a man was her age and the girl was his age what would have happened. So why isn’t she in jail? So is it ne law for men and one for women? Men should asking for equal treatment in the law.
She is a predator. She knew his age, knew it was wrong and she still continued to be with him. Plus lied and is full of word salad. The stepmother is right. This woman is supposed to be the adult here. She should go to jail. If this was a guy with a girl, then the dude would be charged.
The fact that in their fights he goes to a real place of rage and contempt enough to get help from the cops or even thinks of destroying her socially shows that there is a part of him that knows he is a victim and that boundaries have been crossed. That part emerges when there are triggers in their fights. If he has dark thoughts about her (or anything) that is typical of sexual assault victims in ptsd. I would have been more open-minded about this relationship if it was just a simple affair. But the fact that she knowingly planned to have a child shows how poor her reasoning is and how narcissistic she must be to not see that she is destroying his life (and that of the innocent baby!) He doesn’t seem like a great guy or anything, but he is definitely the victim. His desire to become a father and be a provider although seemingly healthy for man might also be because his own self worth is tanked thanks to Mom leaving and he constructing a new family of his own makes him feel like a grown man… “Having kids is hard. Changing diapers is a lot…” are you kidding me?? Diapers? How about providing unconditional love for the rest of your life? That’s hard! Did you think about whether you were ready able to do that?!
It doesn’t matter that she thinks she’s done nothing wrong. The law says she did. She made a choice to pursue him, even when she knew his age. Dr Phil should have went into her past more. She’s been married before, has 4 kids to 3 different men, one of them only 17yrs old. And she’s only 30. This woman’s life is a 💩show. I would have given her a serious wake up call with the truth.
This is a kid from a broken looking for motherly love from a person way way older than him. My heart goes out to him. I hope he finds healing and closure in his life soul, mind and body
This is a great example of how CONFUSING our society is. They claim that "teens" can NOT consent to being physically intimate, YET the schools are passing out birth control And then this happens!!! THIS does NOT make sense!!! Society SAYS that it's acceptable for teens to do this act "sometimes" BUT depends on the situation!? No, these two are NOT crazy, they are victims of the looney society. 😔🙏
There is no way I would have my boyfriend, if I was in a relationship right now, convince me to have a baby even as we are both adults( no way am I dating a 16 year old) much less with a minor! She knew she was trapping him with this baby and now will lose any chance of seeing ANY of her kids if she goes to jail and has to register. And it feels like the whole journalist job will be handed to her instead of having to work for it. Like everything should just go her way no matter what because that’s just how she feels. WAKE UP LADY!
It disgusts me when people continue to have children when they lost custody of their other children
Exactly this, and then I read she even had more than the 2 she haven't seen over a year. So she keep birthing babies and losing custody of them. Then hear him saying she's a good mom. No. If you were a good mom, you'd work hard to get all your kids back instead of fooling around with some teenage boy and have a baby with him as well.
me too! they are the ones who reproduce most
And I can tell you that they often cause heartbreak for relatives of those children.
What age was she when she lost custody of the other kids and how did she lose custody
What are you going to do? Sterilize the parents?
He says Melissa is a good mom who would never “abandon “ her children BUT she has 2 kids she hasn’t seen in over a year🙄
😂right! That is exactly what i was thinking!
Me too! @@pookumscheekels
That’s a great point!!! How can you be such a good mom and not see your children in over a year?
Stop!!!! Do you all know why???? Nooooo!!!! But "Judgement"!!!!! 🤬🤬
@@anjab6266I just started watching but being abusive or addicted is the ONLY reason a parent shouldn't be in their kid's lives.
The delusion of this woman is completely unsettling.
She clearly is immature and has problems or she wouldn't be dating him in the first place
He’s upset thar his mother left him,when he was 6,but he’s not bothered that his girlfriend has left two little sons behind,and hasn’t seen them for a year.They must be heartbroken.This so-called relationship is doomed.
Yes! Agree. 😢
He have mummy issues and is a child.
He is looking for a mom
He's 17, i doubt he has the mental capacity to be that empathetic yet. He's a kid.
The father of the older two may have full custody and because of her life choices, she may be prevented from seeing them.
The bottom line is she broke the law That's why we have laws protecting children
@@mainelady2020 oh BS!!!! He knew it too, so don't judge a book by it's Cover!!! Sometimes, some things are different!!!
What is BS? The laws are in place to protect children, and he was fifteen when they got together. She is the reason for the laws existing!
@anjab6266 Breaking the law is not judging. Instead of trying to straighten her life out for her other children she hadn't seen in a year , she's sleeping with a kid and brought another baby into this mess!! I don't understand your way of thinking and I don't want to!!
Exactly!The boy is a boy..
But what about the president of France?
She cant even speak English properly.
He is a teenager
Mellissa has selective hearing. She is a predator no ifs or buts. They have had cops called 7 times is a red flag.
Yeah I've beeen with my boyfriend 9 years and have not had the cops called once.. lol
Tbf living in a motel means everyone can hear you and if you are there a long time unlike others you're going to fight. Less likely to fight if you're there for a night or 2.less likely for neighbors in a neighborhood/housd to hear you fighting. Just saying not defending
I agree!
Only in backward usa
someone should tell her that statutory rape is a strict liability offense....
She wouldn't have heard it anyway... Dr. Phil did try to explain that it's a felony. Given her self-serving mindset, nothing can get through. Unbelievable.
Depending on the state the age of consent is 16 . If this holds true I see no offense
Doesn't matter at all. @@indoroyale7848
The second he said his mother abandoned him it all clicked into place. Shame on that woman for taking advantage of a child
A smart woman would have known what he was out for. This one isnt smart, rather a bit stupid
Absolutely!!
Exactly! He wanted an older woman to take the place of the mom he never had. She decided to have a relationship knowing he was vulnerable and took advantage of him. Even the most mature teenager still cannot make lifelong decisions with fully comprehending all the consequences of it. She has something wrong with her thinking a child can take care of her and love her. Just ewe!
Not a child
A nearly 30 year old woman with the maturity level a teenager if it was flipped he would be in jail by now men need to be protected just as much as women from this type of stuff
Exactly. I don't know why society in general goes so light on female predators. They're just as bad as male predators.
She comes to the US with all of her customs to just have baby after baby. She had brought 4 children into the US to make them legal so she can stay even if she does not have custody of them. All kids can remain but she should be deported.
Except he's the predator who creeped around online lying about his age. How many were there before her? Other 20somethings that had the sense to cut it off once they found out that he's underage. She's obviously immature, and doesn't know the difference between truth and lies. Is she autistic? He targeted her! He's the predator, and I doubt that this isn't the first time that he's had trouble with the law. After they split up, he's been in and out of jail. She's found another male, who is an adult male. They're now married and he takes responsibility for this creep's kid.
@@Donna-l3b being a “catfish” isn’t a felony. Other than that, you make a very interesting argument. Thank you for showing me the other side of the coin.
@@Mon67ica yes, the Internet is the final frontier atmosphere, parallel to the wild west. Criminals move faster than the laws can change to keep up with them. That's another thing that criminals use to their advantage. Personally, I stay off the internet - no social media, no dating apps. I also don't hang out at nightclubs and bars, or even go out anywhere after 8pm. I dress modestly, as to not attract attention, and take other precautions to protect myself from the large percent of the male population who thinks with the wrong head. There's no laws against hitting on women. We have to be smart and keep our guard up. I really feel for this woman. She's obviously not right in the head. She has kids and lives in a hotel. She has an accent, so I am guessing that the USA is not her native country. She has no support, no parents or other family members looking after her. She's lonely, desperate, abandoned, list the custody of her older children. IMHO, her biggest mistake was hanging out online. Her story is just a huge mess. 😢
She may be 30, but emotionally they are both children.
If this woman was an adult man who dated a teenage girl, dr phil wouldnt be this polite to him and talk to him like this, he would be crusified
I agree, if this was an adult male and a teenage girl, he will not be in a show, he will be in jail
*crucified.
WRONG. Our society applauds men that date young girls. Dr Phil is gonna show out no matter what. Blame everyone for being “nice” to old dirty men. 😂
C not S
@@eh-i1841yo momma *
this was 2012, they broke up less than a year later and she married some guy in the military in 2013. she never went to prison. TJ seems to have been in and out of prison since.
So sad. Tragic!
Typical. Woman has no consequences and the man is the one to suffer.
Dang.
This really shows how unbalanced our justice system is when it comes to gender. How sad.
@heavensadistance what difference does it make she's still a predator and they are stuck connected because of the child
He has mommy issues that’s why
he’s with her.She has robbed his life!
And they are depriving the children she already has
Yes! 💯!!
SHE DIDN'T ROB ANYTHING, HE WAS WILLING & ABLE, HE THREW AWAY HIS LIFE AS MUCH AS SHE MAY'VE TAKEN IT. . . SO JUDGEMENTAL.
@leyahruizdeloreto6420
WHY ARE THEY DEPRIVING HER OTHER CHILDREN? THEY COULD BE LIVING THEIR BEST LIVES, YOU DON'T KNOW THEIR SITUATION, JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT WITH THEIR BIOLOGICAL MOTHER, FOR ALL YOU KNOW IT COULD BE A BLESSING.
@@cheryl5994at 15 when this started…and now at 17 depending on their state…he is UNABLE TO CONSENT. So yeah, her fault. She’s the adult. It’s why we have laws against this
TJ : “she’s a good mother”
Her- has 4 kids, 2 she hasn’t seen in a year, and 2 little ones living in a motel. 🤦♀️
Funny, that stuff Like why she is living in a Motel, doesn't get talked about as other Things!!!!! Sometimes TV Talk Shows are just a "Show"! 🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔
She is emotionally immature and manipulative, he is very young, and this isn't going to last. I also don't believe that it was his idea to have a baby. She wants them to think their relationship is so balanced and mature when its a hot mess. I think she said if they had a baby everybody would have to accept her. That is why she is trying to push that she has this wonderful relationship with his parents. They are cordial because she has their grandchild and that is all. She is living in a dream world and I think this is the first person he has been with. He is also trying to fill the hole his mother left. What he says he likes about her has nothing to do with a romantic relationship.
My then 16,17 yr old son had a 36 yr old woman who would not leave him alone! Only when I threatened to have her arrested for statutory rape did she finally stop the stalking! I was livid!!!
I would have gone to jail and she would have been in the cemetery
@@mrs.w8193what if your kid were 18 and she were 38.... same age difference but kid is adult
@@sherbertspedophile sherbets bending the reality to justify it.
@@sherbertspedo sherbets bending the reality to justify it.
@@sherbertsso you’re bending the reality to justify it? Sounds like you are okay with people 30+ dating teenagers.
Massive, massive denial on the part of both of them.... They have no clue. She's just as immature as he is
"Incredible" mothers don't lose custody of their babies.
False
@Artchick1972 True. There is nothing and no one who would ever take my kids from me. Ever. No matter what I had to do. My five children know this is true.
@@Artchick1972 Legit... my ex tried to kill me. My father was a pedo... so I couldn't go home. I literally moved in with strangers to give my kids a safe home. There are NO limits to what "incredible" mothers will do to protect their babies.
Simply calling the police seven times in one month - well that's enough to see it will not work. I've been married for 49 years - no police!
Exactly. 40 years for us, no police involvement. We're mature, responsible adults. Go figure
I guess they have very 'carrying ' neighbours in this case. Motel room walls arent thick,are they?
I’m changing my mind… she is a predator and he is a child. And the fighting, and the police calls and living in a motel, and having other children that she doesn’t look after…. It’s not sounding great.
This women is a predator plain and simple she knew exactly what she was doing she is no victim
She is a predator. Didn't win with her first man. He has the kids for a reason. Her brain is still a whiny teenager.
of course he is self centered! he's a teenager! of course he's immature! he's a teenager! of course he's argumentative! HE'S A TEENAGER!!!!!!
That lady knows what she is! TO THE WOODCHIPPER
To the woodchipper? What a stupid thing to say. She doesn't deserve to spend one day in jail.
@@janicester I'm sorry, WHAT?! She had s*x with a 15 year old boy, and got pregnant with his CHILD! That relationship has been going on for 2 years! He's a CHILD! A TEENAGER! A MINOR! Do you not hear yourself?!
@@janicester you need to be in jail with her. Gross.
"im not a stupid boy, im a grown man"
"if they dont accept me into the marines im going to try and get a modeling career"
😂😂😂
The word 'dentist' came to mind.🤭😬😆
They are both delusional
At least he knows what he wants. Most these days has no clue and doesn't want a thing in their lifes,but drugs and crimes
I honestly cannot believe what is coming out of her mouth!!!
She is delusional, immature, selfish, vane and obstinate. He has a complex about wanting an “mommy” because he was abandoned by his mother. That is why he is gravitating toward this older “woman”. I use that term loosely. She needs to get some humility, gratitude and vulnerability. Good luck, lady. He won’t wait for you! The minute some hot young check comes sashaying alone, he will be in bed with her.
I know, right!!!!!
Her mouth is strange, that is her speech.
She’s sick mentally.
Ok, I’m being negative. She has 3 other kids, a 3 year old, that lives with them , in a hotel room and 2 other kids that she hasn’t been with them for over 1 year! This whole relationship is absurd! What a shame that he’s a young boy and now has a child .
So she never went to jail. Left this kid for an Air Force guy and moved 8 hours away so he couldn't see his own child. Wow!
Thanks for the update!
How stupid is that soldier? People just ignore all the flags
@@reynaolvera7526 I wonder if she got a baby with him? Red flags all over if she has 5 more kids somewhere she doesn't even care for.
I feel bad for her husband also.
Bet she had more poor kids.😢
This kid was looking for a mommy figure because his abandoned him. Nothing new. He talks like he’s kind of slow too.
speaking as someone with a disability, and who has friends with disabilities, I do agree, he was. all though he's very intelegent, he does sound like he has maybe a slight intellectual disability. saying that, she is an adult, dating a kid, and maybe someone who may even have a disability, I'm not sure, I just go with the voice, as I'm blind as well, so can't see him, but she really should stop playing the victom here
She seems kinda unintelligent in my opinion…
@@sarahlyons2740I agree..
He's vulnerable in many ways, and she's taking advantage. Also, no one her own age would put up with her immaturity
@@bobcastro3220you blind and Typing? 😂 fr?
What's also a red flag is that the father DID NOT take his son away from this before it escalated completely
Yep, when he was talking about "well if you get your grades up, if you stop fighting" what?!?!!?? Nooooo get her arrested over and over until they stop
I can see the story.......... I was 17 fell in love with a merchant marine....24 yrs older than me I had no idea. Of his age........we falsified my birth cert to make me 18 and married in CA......I had traveled from nz to be with him April 1979...Jan 1980 we had a daughter.....she has paid the price ever since as the marriage didn't last obviously day.....today age 62 I say yes both of us ? .I still would of not supported a statuary rape charge......altho the law of the land at the time..
This young woman is really pitiful! Four kids three fathers all before 30. Actually she has five kids including this one.
JUST BECAUSE HER CHILDREN HAVE DIFFERENT FATHERS IT DOESN'T MEAN SHE'S A BAD OR PITIFUL PERSON & TBH, YOU DON'T KNOW HER, YOU'VE SEEN 37 MINUTES OF EDITED TV.
@@cheryl5994I've seen your all caps replies to a lot of comments here. Kinda seems like you might be personally involved with these people.
She molested a child and ruined his life. He was 15 years old and she was a grown woman.
Would you be this outspoken if this was a 30 year old man and a 15 year old girl??
@@cheryl5994 I mean it seems she doesn’t make the best choices
@@cheryl5994different mothers and different fathers is bad look and shows a person doesn’t pay attention. Doesn’t make them a bad person just not a responsible person.
Kids from different fathers and not being with them suggests she wasnt a good mother
She stole his formative years.😢
Formative years are the first 3 years of a child life.
@@abigailisvirtual3358 she stole his teenage years from him. Is that better?
his biological mother stole his formative years
@@rhiannon-bv9rk Fair enough. Though she preyed on him after he was vulnerable.
@@abigailisvirtual3358 Whoever told you that is ignorant. That isn't true at all.
Omg her voice drove me crazy I couldn’t finish the show she became the mother of the boy
When she knew things were getting serious, she as an adult should live right away. Boys with 16... cmon. She's very very selfish and a PREDATOR. He doesn't know what adult life is and the sacrifices. In a few years he will blame her for destroying his youth
Man or woman these people are disgusting. Teenagers cannot understand the true gravity of adult situations. It's the adult's responsibility to act accordingly and appropriately and I believe this woman has zero mental maturity. They're both living in the same fantasy world.
A mentally and physically grown responsible woman would never do this with a teenage boy. She has stolen away his need or ability to grow up and figure himself out before settling down with kids.
His lack of a mother is 1000% partly to blame. He's subconsciously looking for motherly love. It's extremely heartbreaking. He does not have the life experience to understand how damaging this relationship is
He like many kids wants to be a victim, that means nothing is his fault. He should have been kicked out of his parents home when he quit school and never opened the door to him again. Trying to make up for a divorce only let him bully the father.
@tcurry1531 according to the law, he is literally the victim in this case
I wonder if she went after a boy because she is intimidated by grown men and a 16 yr old doesn’t seem threatening. 🤔
Men r afraid of grown women. Which is why they go for kids
Why is this 30 year old talking like shes 10...u need 2 go 2 jail preditar. 👮 🚙 👋
😂
I remember seeing this the first time. I need a whole update! 😩
- She has other Kids - with an "S"
- He was 15 -16 when this started.
- She is deluded
- He's impressionable and LOST and now a whole FATHER.
- If she was a man and he was a 16 year old female, the show would be bombastic!
- If that were my son, this show wouldn't be aired and she'd be in J-A-I-L.
Bombastic? No, these kinds of crimes are *very* meaningful, not just noise. BUT THE AIRING FROM JAIL PART…I agree 💯
Exactly! I have two sons and id be in jail if this was one of mine!
Someone posted an update.
@@josephinemiller4780what was it?
The way she speaks, her voice and the constant hand gestures are giving me anxiety 😬
ME TOO, SHE'S LIKE A SPOILT LITTLE GIRL.
Oh my... thank you. Her voice is enough to cause a headache
Agree! Where is she from to have such an awkward accent??
It’s like she’s is trying to sound younger.
She sounds like a child all the way around.
It’s STILL illegal lady. Plus he LIED! She is ALSO lying bs. So immature.
His circumstances led him to grow up fast. He is a man like he said. I had a child early and I know how that changed my life , I could not change it. While my peers were making stupid decisions, such as drinking,clubing all night, gettkng hooked on drugs, I was figuring out how to navigate motherhood. And I indeed did a good job.
I also had a baby young. Be real though, this boy was not a man at the time of this taping though. It changes the course of your life but it doesn't change your age or over all maturity level. The fact that he wanted to have a baby with a grown woman says how immature he is. The fact that after having a baby, he still doesn't see the problem with his relationship and that she has a higher responsibility to not rape children shows he is still a child at the time of this taping. He didn't grow up because he had a grown woman with the same teenage mentality manipulating him and enabling the childish behavior.
Apparently she married an Airman,and moved 8 hours away from T.J.Their child will be 12 now,and visitation is difficult,because of the distance.Seems like she as selfish as ever.
Thanks interesting 😏
Did she ever go to jail?
No.A man would still be in jail.@@seniorgal2752
@@seniorgal2752 they said she was looking at 15 years. So maybe not?
@seniorgal2752 Apparently not but someone said he did for something. Don't know what he did.
I thought EVERYONE knew if you are an Adult age you don't mess with an underage child, that it is Against the Law. she doesn't get that. If she did she should have cut it off as soon as she found out he was 15 or 16 yo. AND the FACT she has 2 children from a previous relationship that she doesn't even see, should tell him something about her. But he's still having a child's mind and can't see that she 'may' do the same with his child and she is NOT a Good mother. No GOOD mother leaves their child.
I think Melissa is not on a 30 year old mental level. She seems like she is on the same level as a 16 year old.
I agree. She needs a social worker involved in her life.
That's being generous, I was thinking 12
Right!@@SarahSherman-di7ku
Here is update from internet. So sad.
For those of you who were following the "craddle-snatching" love story of TJ Sinavage and Melisa Dilan-Hernandez here's the rest of the story.
The case of Melissa vs. TJ was adjudicated and she did NOT go to jail. She did get married though to a man in the US Air Force. (His name will not be released as he has nothing to do with the prosecution of the case).
Melissa and her new husband have moved about an eight hour drive from TJ making visitation very difficult.
Thanks for the update! Really appreciate it!
Did she ever made an effort to get her kids back or did she had another baby with this us air force man?
There was another comment that TJ had been in and out of prison…
Thanks for the update
@@kathyg.3566in other words her raping him caused him further issues? Caused him issues with his decision making abilities?
She need to be locked up that's like a teacher messing with a student
On Melissa's behalf, that's gross. I think she's very immature. She acts like a teenager. I have a 20 year old son. I wouldn't be at all happy with something like this. I think she needs a lot of rehabilitation, and counseling.
No. Like male predators, she needs a prison cell.
You wouldnt be happy with what? A twenty year old man dating an older woman?
Is she really thinking that it's okay? She blows My Mind 😮
She's ruined his Life
I wish he would have gone there!! I want to hear from the 2 former baby-daddies. Let's hear her history. She refuses to have any accountability for her actions. WHAT HAPPENED with this case?? What was the end result?
Me too!!! I think he had something good on her, like proof of her talking to other underage boys. I want to know so bad 😂
I’m 24 and I couldn’t even imagine being with someone 18-20… let alone 30 with a 16 year old!!! Disgusting
So you wouldn't date somebody that was 4 years younger than you? What's the big deal
If you are both in your twenties then whats wrong with that? Anyone who disagrees can call the police.
Should have arrested her on Stage and given her life in Prison!!
Oh😮really she never killed no one. Maybe you’ll trip up in life.
@@dorawell4752do some research on Mary Kay letourneau..she spent 7 1/2 years in prison for sleeping with her 12 year old 6th grade student...
That's now how the law works. The law doesn't work according to your feelings
@@lalosalamanca8574 The law does not work this way in this country. Her being arrested is one thing but been thrown in jail without due process is another.
I want to know what Dr.Phil has on those cards about her....She got real quite after he said that !!!!!!!
Probably more illegal stuff she has done and can get arrested e...what doesn't she have her two older kids
@debrakiser1976 Yeah it's some foul stuff... she got real quite. She looks like a druggie.
When I was just barely 19 years old, a 36 year old married woman found me at one of my shows (I was in a band) and she messaged me on Facebook later. I began a 5 year insane affair with this woman, who I then lost my virginity to in some hotel room. I thought I was so in love, I was ready to drop everything in my life to be with her. She messed with my head SO much to make me think that I was going to be with her forever, she was going to leave her husband, blah blah blah. I was so SO stupid. When you’re this young you simply do not have the brain capacity to know what the heck you’re even doing to screw up your future.
I finally broke free from her and moved on.
I am now 32, and tomorrow I am getting married to an amazing woman who is also 32.
Life is wild.
I am very regretful for my past decisions but thankfully mine weren’t the end all be all.
Same with me. I had an affair with a married man who was 33. I was 19. This was back in 2006. He took total advantage of me. My head was messed up! Said all the same rubbish, I'll leave my wife, I've never met anyone like you blah blah blah. I'm celebrating my 12 year anniversary 🎉 tmo with my wonderful husband who knows it all and doesn't judge me- sadly women get judged lol
Congrats on your wedding and I wish you all the luck in the world 😊
Congrats!!
CONGRATULATION'S AND ALL THE BEST FOR THE FUTURE 🎉🎉🎉
Your birthdays must be on the same exact day. A day difference and its rape.
She wants his parents to condone what she did!
The father is the most sensible one in all this mess.
Why didn’t the cops take her away,the first time they were called to that motel,to find her living,as man and wife,with a 15 year-old.
She’s insane if she thinks people aren’t going to see her as a predator at the very LEAST.
I have two boys and this woman is an example of what we need to protect our children from! This is sick!
You mean in lust
That is not love that is going on there
correct.🎯💯
I remember seeing an update that eventually these two seperated and she remarried and kept TJ and his fanily from ever seeing the baby again.
Was the update on Dr Phil’s show?
@@LAStars-sratS it was an update article on the Drphil website awhile back.
She is evil.
She’s a sexual predator. She has the nerve to keep the child away from him? Jeez poor kids. Him included.
This woman is horrendous, but that being said, as soon as a child turns 18, never means that they are capable of making “adult” decisions. Frontal lobe isn’t complete until about 24/25. There’s a fine line between the law of consent and actual critical thinking.
I know when I was 17 I was incredibly naive and I shudder when I think of many of the stupid decisions I made back then.
I find myself resistantant to this interview, like tensing up for an oncoming car accident.
No wonder she is attracted to him. She acts like an immature child too!
I think this poor teenage boy is just looking for the mother figure that he lost when his mother abandoned him. She's taking advantage in every sence and it's sickening. I hope he got away from her.
She doesn’t deserve your help Dr. Phil!
There’s something here that’s not making a lot of sense.
Yea it’s you lady.
You pursued him. Yes you are.
SHE'S A WONDERFUL MOTHER...TO HIM.
She's obviously slow. She's acting and speaking like a child. Definitely going to jail!!
If she’s the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen, he hasn’t gotten out much
FACTS !!!
She doesn’t get it she is 17 in her head too. Her emotional level is 16. She has some screws missing.
i really came to realize that the reason that he chose an older woman is primarily because his own mother left him at such a young age…he chose her because he wanted that protection and nurturing that his mother never gave him…which is sad…i hope he gets help and she wakes up
She lacks a sense of judgement in thinking it was okay to be in the relationship, but also to publicize it
Putting her in prison for 15 years means another child is abandoned and TJ isn’t old enough to look after a baby, he not much more of a baby himself.
It’s a big mess and the victims are the baby and TJ.
That child is better off adopted by their grand parents than being raised by an awful mother who is manipulative and a criminal!!
It’s rape. If a man was her age and the girl was his age what would have happened. So why isn’t she in jail? So is it ne law for men and one for women? Men should asking for equal treatment in the law.
Omg the voice of this woman
THEN she would WAIT until he was legal. She’s accident prone.
wow she wasn't messing around with that eyeliner
As a 30 year old woman myself, I can't imagine what I'd see in a teenager.. that is literally a child..
She is a predator. She knew his age, knew it was wrong and she still continued to be with him. Plus lied and is full of word salad. The stepmother is right. This woman is supposed to be the adult here. She should go to jail. If this was a guy with a girl, then the dude would be charged.
He wants to be with a woman who will not abandon her children but she hasn't seen her two older boys in over a year? HELLO!🙄🙄
Dear TJ Melissa is not your mama
Lock her up! Gross!
Is it gross 🤮 with your husband. Look like the mother law?
The fact that in their fights he goes to a real place of rage and contempt enough to get help from the cops or even thinks of destroying her socially shows that there is a part of him that knows he is a victim and that boundaries have been crossed. That part emerges when there are triggers in their fights. If he has dark thoughts about her (or anything) that is typical of sexual assault victims in ptsd.
I would have been more open-minded about this relationship if it was just a simple affair. But the fact that she knowingly planned to have a child shows how poor her reasoning is and how narcissistic she must be to not see that she is destroying his life (and that of the innocent baby!) He doesn’t seem like a great guy or anything, but he is definitely the victim. His desire to become a father and be a provider although seemingly healthy for man might also be because his own self worth is tanked thanks to Mom leaving and he constructing a new family of his own makes him feel like a grown man…
“Having kids is hard. Changing diapers is a lot…” are you kidding me?? Diapers? How about providing unconditional love for the rest of your life? That’s hard! Did you think about whether you were ready able to do that?!
Absolutely gross.She is a predator taking advantage of an immature teenager who has abandonment issues.
It doesn’t matter that she thinks she’s done nothing wrong. The law says she did. She made a choice to pursue him, even when she knew his age. Dr Phil should have went into her past more. She’s been married before, has 4 kids to 3 different men, one of them only 17yrs old. And she’s only 30. This woman’s life is a 💩show. I would have given her a serious wake up call with the truth.
30:56 he said “for a few yrs”. Melissa repeats it and TJ said “no no”. What?!?!?! 😂😂She just heard you say it.
Shes abandoned her other 2 children
I thought they said that she lost custody of them?
*UPDATE*
*Melissa did not go to prison. She broke up with TJ, married an Air Force man, and moved 8 hours away from TJ. Not the biggest surprise.*
Shoulda gone to prison
This girl is so evil. She never answers a question honestly.
How do you know
This is a kid from a broken looking for motherly love from a person way way older than him. My heart goes out to him. I hope he finds healing and closure in his life soul, mind and body
Because it is a crime
If this were a man, he’d be in jail right now.
That’s exactly what I thought during this episode, right on
@@oksanav7899 Special exceptions for us women. Even pedo women. 🙄
It’s absolutely disgraceful.
For sure, and the opinions would be very diferent.
Her voice is unbearable
"It was not my intention..."
She sounds just like the predators on To Catch A Predator
Someone, please tell me she went to jail!
From other comments, she did no jail time. She and TJ split up, she married a man in the Air Force and they moved an eight hour drive from TJ.
It’s creepy how he says I want a woman to take care of her children… he knows he’s one of those
Kills me to hear about children abandoned. Confusing and sad.
This is a great example of how CONFUSING our society is. They claim that "teens" can NOT consent to being physically intimate, YET the schools are passing out birth control And then this happens!!! THIS does NOT make sense!!!
Society SAYS that it's acceptable for teens to do this act "sometimes" BUT depends on the situation!?
No, these two are NOT crazy, they are victims of the looney society. 😔🙏
There is no way I would have my boyfriend, if I was in a relationship right now, convince me to have a baby even as we are both adults( no way am I dating a 16 year old) much less with a minor! She knew she was trapping him with this baby and now will lose any chance of seeing ANY of her kids if she goes to jail and has to register. And it feels like the whole journalist job will be handed to her instead of having to work for it. Like everything should just go her way no matter what because that’s just how she feels. WAKE UP LADY!
She wanted Dr Phil to pay for her lawyer.
Now she’s 42 and he’s 29 their kid is 12.
Are they still together?
@@ShilbossaNo. She married someone else less than a year later.