Thats just one of the symptoms of bpd, and one of the 9 criteria for someone to be labeled as having bpd. Of the 9 criteria, only 5 must be present for someone someone be considered borderline. Many individuals have bpd without a major fear of abandonment.
@@penjamin1479True. For me it is about identity confusion more than fear of abandonment. Although I am also no stranger to impulsivity. The latter also has some positive sides: I can make decisions really quick.
I have them all. BPD, CPTSD, general anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder and suicidal ideations. It's so awesome that medications don't help and I'm going to be like this for the rest of my life.
@@E4mafia-_- It’s hard fr. I was told medications for depression/anxiety could work, but only if the symptoms of bpd were minimized through specific therapy first. I’m hoping that’s true, and help is possible.
We suffer because we know exactly who we are and we know we dont fit in society as highly sensitive beings. We are misunderstood, unaccepted, but we pretend not to be based on the people around us. The expectation to be normal results in both self acceptance and outward denial.
If you are able to reflect, you are also able to make active decisions. Do not hide behind your illness, it is not an argument to be a tw**at to people around you.
I was diagnosed 8 years ago. However, it’s impacted my whole life. It’s to the point where I might step away from my job because the emotional roller coaster is way too much.
I was always told I’m “too sensitive” or that I overreact to little things. I’ve also gone through so many identity issues and even to this day I still don’t really know or understand who I am and where I fit in. When I was diagnosed with bipolar, it just didn’t seem right. I’m only 18, but I’ve been struggling for so many years. I don’t remember the last time I was viewed as “normal” by my peers. I couldn’t wait until I was 18 because that meant I could finally figure out what was truly wrong. But my diagnosis of bipolar made me even more confused. Medication wasn’t working, and I didn’t know what to do. Then I started researching BPD, and it just clicked. It’s like I finally understood what I was. I am not diagnosed with BPD, so I won’t say that I am, but BPD is the only answer I can come up with for my struggles. I plan on going to a psychiatrist to get properly diagnosed once I can. Hopefully I can get on some sort of medication to help me cope.
Im 29 and this resonated with me. I was also diagnosed with bipolar 2 and the treatment hasn't worked over the last decade. When I started doing research on BPD, I had the exact same feeling you described. It literally just clicked. It made so much more sense and I have an appointment scheduled with a psychiatrist. I'm very excited for once in a long time. I know the battle won't end but I'm ready to fight for myself again.
Have you ever looked up DBT I learned a lot from that. Went from 4/5 severe panic attacks a day to managing intense emotions that I felt equipped to deal with. Finding the right therapist can take a while and same with meds, but don’t give up. It’s kinda like finding the right fit for you. It’s been about 7 years now of me working hard to grow as a person and not let my BPD OCD and panic disorders stop me. I’m now a paid musician! Don’t get me wrong I still struggle, but I do believe putting the work in for yourself pays off in the long run. Good luck ❤ and sorry for the rambling 🙈
Remember that BPD can come with bipolar, I'm really proud for your comment and willingness to find your real diagnosis, because only when you "know your enemy" you can make strategies and fight back. I'm sorry that you've been through misdiagnosed and halfway meds, or even worse, not even the right meds, I was there at 18. The psychiatrist hit the nail with PMDD but I felt like I was going insane, something else must be there, I thought. Some relatives though that I was a "diagnose seeker", they didn't understand that it wasn't a question of wearing my conditions like a badge from the boy scouts, it was about knowing what I had to finally get some control over my life. At 26 I was thoroughly diagnosed and happened that it was not only 2 things... But more! Overlapping symptoms made things confusing for me and for the doctors but we came with a decent confirmation. My meds now help me a lot. Yeah I still have moments of "we need to adapt this dose or let's try this for a while (it happened with antipsychotics) and then come out of them, it doesn't matter, what matters is that your meds allows you to keep going so you can work your needs in therapy.
Side note: Autism and ADHD are often misdiagnosed as BPD as the symptoms are so similar, the symptoms discussed here are all symptoms of ADHD and autism too! Clinicians not fully trained in neurodiversities often incorrectly misdiagnose as BPD, it is always worth getting a 2nd opinion.
@@alexlaw1892That's not correct at all. I'm autistic and both my brother and sister are borderline and while there's a recognisable crossover of symptoms between both conditions, they are for VASTLY different reasons. I can categorically tell you this because I have lived experience of my own disability and that of brother and sister and they are completely different to me in how they present through their disability. Please educate yourself correctly. BPD is a personality disorder. Autism is a Neurodevelopmental disorder. You're born autistic, you're not born borderline. There are many differences and this blanket statement is what lumps Autism into the mental illness box when it's a neurodiverse condition. Thanks.
As someone with BPD... he has no clue about the storm is creates... we try as hard as we can.... we know who what we are. We are fighting off urges 24/7.... because we don't wanna be judged. We are literally on the brink 24/7
Just diagnosed today with this after a terrible time in my life. I'm glad I have a diagnosis in a way because it all makes sense now. I'm not impulsive I'm don't self don't drink or drugs but my emotions are awful they swing really badly. The fear of been on my own is horrible and I get angry and anger outbursts.
@Lex12102007 hi I told some years ago I had traits of BPD as I was having therapy for ocd and GAD. It didn't really bother me as I was just turned 40 and I was ok going to work not depressed or in a state I am now. When I was told I was relived but also like you fearful. Its just a label and doesn't alter the person you are. It's just a set of symptoms that you have to manage like any other disease. The reason I'm realky struggling now is because I'm in perimenopause and it all started to get worse since then 18 months ago. I'm not good at the moment but trying. I'm just taking it a day at a time. I have looked at the symptoms and here are the traits I have. I'm not good at emotional regulation my emotions can just go from 0 too 100 in a matter of seconds. I get angry quite easily and I can get very low easily especially at the moment with perimenopause. I am not impulsive I don't do drugs or substances I don't self harm either. I do get days where I feel I don't want to be here at the current moment but that is because of raging hormones not BPD. I was told years ago I have it and I wasn't in perimenopause and I was much more happier and wasn't what I'm like now. I have also heard when women are in menopause that they have been wrongly diagnosed with BPD. Xx
The identity disturbance is the one for me. I know my name, my gender, my sexual orientation, my age. But that’s about it. I don’t know who I am apart from that.
I have had this experience from my autism and being gender fluid/non binary. In the past I had sometimes wrote a pro and con list then a likes and dislikes then another niche type even something silly like icecream flavors or ones you want to try you think youd like or one you dont thinj youd like. narrow down each time those smaller “silly” parts about you, can use any variable, that being the icecream. If I had trouble thinking of things on my own Id search around for old youtube tag videos for variable inspiration, it let me get to know myself by putting it all infront of me. I often wouldnt even think of my hobbies or wishes/wants/fears because I got so set forward that I never paused long enough to think of what I could be doing, Id honestly be reminded to do that by watching my housemates enjoy their hobbies or talk about topics that end up inspiring me. I hope this may help someone, I genuinely benefitted just writing this out. I want to go back and update my original entries :) x
@GrowwithmebySarahNicole I have done that so much. I feel like I could come off like Im being vain buy I genuinely dont know how I look in my head if Im not infront of a mirror, its like something is off with how my face looks in the mirror too. I never heard someone else actually voice this, thank you-even if u prob didnt intend to help someone out with your reply/question but yeah XD I get you so much
The one thing that I never hear anybody talk about is how this one particular personality disorder is curable!!!! without medication too!!! This is one mental illness that is curable; how? It’s through self-awareness. You introduced self awareness into your every day routine and you will see change. I was diagnosed in 2017 and I have changed my life completely. I have totally regulated my nervous system. I am no longer living a fear based lifestyle. I can see so much change. I still have areas I still am working at but I think it’s a lifelong process, but wow, self awareness is the game changer for borderline personality disorder.
Thank you I’m really struggling but trying to prove I can and this is a game changer I’ve implemented it in multiple situations where before hand I felt helpless and been able to keep calm and talk about it, thank you so much
@@siklin_thing 🫂 I still struggle too, but I look at it as “I am on track with healing” because if I wasn’t struggling with my bp that would mean I’m people pleasing again or on autopilot. You got this ❤️🩹 keep talking to yourself and just one day at a a time🫂
I'm glad to see that there is more video to this because this explanation couldn't be vaguer. It's an extremely complex, multi-faceted diagnosis, and tends to manifest itself differently, on an individual basis.
Mmmmm not really in my experience. I can spot someone with BPD pretty easily. They act a certain way. Generally speaking, you could call it a train wreck
For the longest time I was wondering what was plaguing my ex wife. I even researched Bipolar disorder....but it just didn't match up as she's not manic for long periods of time. When I stumbled across BPD...I was floored!!! It truly explained so dang much. She's undiagnosed....but I am 89% sure it's why she suffers. Was the most miserable and abusive experience of my life with her.
Wow 😢 I’m going through this right now except….. I’m your ex-wife in the situation. Your last sentence hit so hard!!! Because all we want is to really be the BEST version of ourselves. For Ourselves & partners! But idk man! Something just completely TAKES OVER!!! Then Afterwards, we TOTALLY regret the way we behaved. I’m Also undiagnosed and thats why i’m now down this rabbit hole on utube. We know we need help. It’s just hard! & its not that we’re not thinking of the relationship….TRUST ME WE ARE! We think about it A LOT! But there’s something holding us back from getting the help we need! Ugh!! And i’m trying to figure out how to fight that! Or I’m about to lose my relationship just like she did. 😭
@@ladykruger1002 i wish and hope and pray mine is this self aware, she's gone no contact, she says she is having these thoughts she can't control and she doesn't know why she is having them, but they are telling her to never ever talk to me and be in the same space as me ; yet she loves me and cares and so on ; it's really confusing. I have been with her through the worst times, now I am afraid they are coming back and she wants to go at it alone.
Agreed. He got to the point in an understandable way. Also he didn’t have to demonstrate how much he loves himself along the way, unlike some TH-camrs.
I was diagnosed with this to begin with, after the psychiatrist talking to me for no longer than 45 mins, turns out I have adhd and women are misdiagnosed every single day with BPD. There is no enough, research, support anything into a lot of these mental illnesses especially as women! Something needs to change
The core of the problems is there stubbornness for not listening to the advise of there well-wishers. They love to argue and differ, even if it could cost them a life in an attempt to escape from logic. NIH and other reputable sources claims that 75% bpds engage in self harm a d 20% commit sucide. Now that's an alarming number. They're still accountable for there actions!
As someone who struggles with this, I often wish someone had educated my parents on BPD. Them punishing me for it my whole childhood is the thing that I find most hurtful.
I have BPD. I think it’s the reason I’m single. I’m middle aged now but there was a time where I was very fit and would get compliments from women non stop. I’m still studly for my age. I love animals, make good money but relationships are hard to come by. I’m superficially charming but I’m impulsive to the point that I’ve put myself in horrible situations and my emotions are all over the place. I’ll be in very intense but brief relationships with women. I can be into someone intensely but then just not want them around for a while. Ultimately I just end up with a lot of regret and embarrassment
Yeah I constantly want to die because of having BPD. I’m isolated. I’m alone. I don’t even like myself. I’m literally nothing. If I died tomorrow. No one would care. I had one therapist that actually helped me. He was more of a parent than my parents ever were.
To me a relationship with a BPD partner is like finding someone screaming and yelling for help and then you jump into the fire to save them all the while they are kicking and punching you as you try to save them. To them they are not doing anything wrong. Matter of fact it's you that is at fault for their suffering in the BPD's reality. You can tell them that it's not normal and you will get labeled as a narcissist. The irony is that over time you end up becoming one from the trauma of being invalidated, gas lighted, etc. Over time you become numb and don't show emotions or reveal them because they will be used against you.
Bpd and narcissism are not a million miles away from each other except we ( BPD) feel empathy whereas people who suffer with narcissism feel a huge amount of shame and so try to hide it through being grandiose and presenting themselves as not flawed in how they dress and work. I would argue that they were so hypersensitive as children and shamed that the only way to survive was to build an impenetrable wall around themselves so they could never be hurt again. Unfortunately they do tend to hurt but then again so do we.
I’m struggling with this right now and I’m so ashamed how I treat my boyfriend who does nothing but try to love me and I shut down. I want help so bad before I ruin my happiness I can’t be happy and I don’t know why.
I went to your channel and watched some of your videos. You seem like a kind person that is just struggling with this issue. Please stick with therapy/medication/DBT/etc. Do anything that works, try to improve 1% per day (or per week at least). If you can keep with it, and improve a little bit over a long period of time, you will be in a completely different place before you know it! 💙
As someone with undiagnosed bpd I have not told people that I might have bpd because I am afraid of being judged or misunderstood I try to isolate myself from everyone which makes my family mainly my mum make jokes about about me which makes me self harm
I have absolutely NO CONFUSION about "who i am." I don't see why some people are saying this. No, most of us know exactly who we are. We just don't know WHY we're in such pain.
Ugh, I also hear a lot of people have been misdiagnosed with Bipolar disorder. So trust ur gut and advocate for urself. It takes time to find good help sometimes.
It’s the trauma of past relationships, and the confusion of if you are inherently bad, or not good enough, and the reflection of why people leave or things don’t turn out well in certain outcomes. You begin to cope by putting on a mask, and you become very obsessed with trying to control the way you are perceived by others. Until you can no longer differentiate between the person you became to cope with having to deal with others, versus the true version of yourself that you were prior.
O my god, I feel like this! I'm also in the closet and don't want to come out because believe in Christianity. I only feel better when I read the Bible or list3n to music. Sometimes I feel I'm different people. Some have asked if I do drugs because I'm hyper, but after being hyper I feel so guilty and like a criminal! I also struggle with sexual impulses that are always there and so inappropriate! I've been to jail over it. I feel so sad! I don't want to accept I have this condition!!! Sad😔😔😞
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So true. I was diagnosed when I was 21 and I'm 45 now. Even to this day, I fight myself for doing the appropriate or professional thing versus acting on emotion and obsessing.
U said all the opposite of what I have. The major factor of borderline is not impulsively and also u charge up very high but come down very fast, you don't come down slow u come down crashing
You got that right my man. It's so easy to control and try to dominate a situation when someone gets you worked up enough. Something I struggle with is letting it go especially in the moment. I've messed up my life countless many way too many upon 10000 times and more to come. It's just so much harder when you become yourself and be the nice guy just to get taken advantage of even more. Population makes us BPD lives harder. If you're nice I will be super nice to you and be there for you, but if you're mean I won't show gratitude or much empathy and if its aimed towards me, may God be with you.
I'm going to tell my experiences and I want anyone reading this to tell me if it sounds like BPD. When I'm in a relationship, I try and be as good as possible to my partner, cooking for them, cleaning up, massaging them, giving them words of affirmation etc. We can have arguments that don't result in me blowing up, but those arguments can easily and quickly progress into me becoming completely uncontrollable verbally. I will say the most horrible, disgusting, toxic things possibly imaginable (wishing cancer, wishing bad upon their family, throwing out insults about their appearance) this happens through texting significantly more than through in person communication (about 95% of the time) When I'm in those states of anger, I can't do ANYTHING to control myself. It's almost as if the ability to even think about trying to control myself never enters my head, I can only focus on my hatred for that person in that moment and absolutely nothing else. I'm not physically abusive, or necessarily destructive, it's purely verbal abuse. Once I've calmed down, I feel horrible about what I've said, and apologize constantly afterwards in the hopes that I can have another chance with them and not repeat the mistakes I made. But I always inevitably repeat them. I'd say these impulsive outbursts happen maybe 2 or 3 times a month. 1 time a month if things are going well.
This is not an identity issue. You have an issue with not understanding what you want. You may not want this person which is why you are trying so hard to form a connection. You’re fear of loneliness is what is causing you to stay, because without doing so much for someone else you feel you don’t have any purpose, but you have outbursts to subconsciously express your resentment towards this person who you give yourself too because they are taking away all of the effort you should be putting into YOU! You don’t love that person. You love yourself, but you’re afraid of living for and loving yourself because society tells you that that’s selfish and you should love others and that being alone is pitiful. Maybe deep down you actually love being along and you just need to find things to do that make you happy while being alone. Or find people better suited for your personality. Never stop being yourself around people because then you can attract who’s is truly meant to be in your life
Being around my covert narcissist husband makes me feel this way. But when I’m not around him I can regulate my emotions better. He brings the absolute worst out in me and I don’t know how to stop it. I feel like I’m going crazy just being in his presence.
I find the manifesting really helps because I’m naturally like oh everybody leaves me but it’s literally so easy to fix with just like normal positive affirmations
Exactly don’t put up with it if they have the ability to lie about it that means they have the ability to know that they cheated, or else what is the reason for lying
I feel like I have bpd but I keep doubting myself at the same time. I started doing research a couple months ago and I finally brought it up to my therapist, she straight up laughed in my face. I know it wasn’t meant to be rude, but that’s how I took it and I started to cry. I really want answers but I really don’t wanna self diagnose
my sister has ADHD induced BPD, because ADHD can be a precursor to BPD with bad parenting where parents use the threat of abandonment as a tool to correct them
Before I was diagnosed I identified as someone I wasn’t until I couldn’t take it anymore, that other person wasn’t me, now I know it was my BPD and confusion with myself
My ex has bpd but his mom said the psychiatrist doesn’t know what he’s talking about. He’s up and down so much. Took over my personality but in public he will try to be whoever he talks to so they’ll like him. Panic attacks on the regular.
Saw a nurse who noted emotionally unstable BPD but when I went to 18 weeks counselling with professional she said i have PTSD. They're just guessing so take with pinch of salt. If anything I fear being around people. And would just love some peace in my life. Think i also have undiagnosed autism. That stimming thing ive always done, much to others annoyance. GP told me write a letter why i think have autism. Wrote it then thought whats the point in finding out. But maybe i should still deciding.
People- please, please stop diagnosing yourselves and others. Checking the internet is not the same as going to a qualified mental health professional. Mental health diagnosing is not something you do at home. But - If you were evaluated professionally, congratulations for seeking help!
@@lilcho9071 i think there might be but it's complex. Bpd caused by childhood trauma and trauma from relationship with ppl. I would love to know too if someone could answer this question.
Not everyone has BPD who can change their mood. Sleep deprivation, or side effects of many medicine, or just being a sanguine, or just a superb empath.
I have bpd, was diagnosed as a child and despite moving around a lot each mental health team has sustained the diagnosis. I do not see myself as having a fear of abandonment or hatred of being alone 😂😂
I dated a guy with BPD for 3 years 6 months. We had a lot of good times. Sigh it was hard dealing with him being so quick to anger. I hope he gets the help me needs. Today is the 1 week mark of me not calling him.
All these personality disorders stem from childhood lack and childhood traumas. Let’s stop the generational cycle of abuse, start doing better for our children❤
I think it stems from a rejection of feeling isolated, which compounds with more rejection and isolation til you just don’t even wanna show your face around others ever again.
Several in my family suffered from this disorder. All refused help, and all have died because their impulses going to the extremes. Has been devastating to have to deal with and nothing I could do to help them. I and others tried, but its almost impossible to save them from themselves.
I have BPD and I have been working for eight years, once a week counseling, ACA, have completed 13 workbooks and have learned healthy coping skills…I’ve done a huge change but something I struggle with is when I get upset I feel like I’m exploding 🤯 and I can’t control it no matter what skills I put to the test! It’s tough but I make the most of it!
I have a friend with BPD. She's been chronically suicidal since she lost a parent 1.5 decades ago. Bc she's still alive and so miserable, she developed severe AUD in her late 30s. Being 3.5 mo sober, she recently relapsed bc she was suffering far worse despite she was sober. She also has CPTSD (complex PTSD). *Edit via typo fix.
As someone who has BPD i will tell you that it gets easier and you really can live with it and have a normal life. I still struggle but it’s not as intense.Find medication that works for you and stay focused on healing. You will get there I promise
I think i have bpd Ive been searching whats wrong with me and I can’t stop crying of relief when I hear those symptoms and explanation. I can remember flash backs too of ppl telling me things that support my suspicions and my reactions. Maybe I should go see a psychiatrist, I have some physical symptoms sometimes and I think its link to that
I finally got diagnosed 5 months ago after years of suffering and feeling empty.I was strugeling to live my life,drugs where big part of my life for 6 years because I used them as coping mehanism....
I was diagnosed with this and bipolar disorder about 20 years ago, but the psychiatrist never told me about it-I just saw it on my insurance paperwork and I didn’t know what that means, but you just said everything that rang true for me! I also have agoraphobia-is that also part of it?
People with BPD and narcissists are the most aggravating, obnoxious, enraging human beings. Count yourself lucky if you've never been around them. Im blessed with both in my immediate family, it's a nightmare.
I think I have BPD. I don't want to self diagnose but I match to all these symptoms. I'm scared to tell anyone but all I can rely on is my mom or my friend right now.
Same here bro. I have all the symptoms. I’ve told my mom and we’re going to a therapist. Your best bet is to try to get help for it bro. Fight the good fight, and don’t forget that you aren’t alone!
When he says BPD emotion goes up and slow to come down, on certain days my emotions a re high ,but still fluctuating between good and bad by the minute. Trying to use dialectical therapy is great, and it's still exhausting to regulate back to stable. It's difficult to do anything else when trying to regulate.
I don’t really need to put any input, everyone in the comment sections got it down. I tell people when they say to me why are you acting like that I’m like “welcome to bpd land”
I’m summarize very easily. Getting on a 100 year old rollercoaster with no belts. Shards of glass get thrown at you throughout ride. And only way off is to jump as the breaks are non existent Basically the most bat S crazy relationship you will ever experience
I think i have BPD..diagnosed as MDD..when i get enraged i go numb i cant remember if im mad and what i say, it takes me a long time to come down from ot
So, I have been suspect to have ADHD, Bipolar II, and BPD. After a month, I thought I really do hit all 3 diagnoses. I have discussed this with my counselor and so far, there hasn't been anything that has proven otherwise, but I cannot be sure as I see that ADHD and Bipolar can have a lot of crossed symptoms. And when I keep track of my own thoughts, emotions and situations for CBT assessment, I noticed that I srsly cannot tell if it's Bipolar II or Borderline or ADHD at work. Cannot pay attention in class and racing thoughts? Inattention and Hyperactivity or Hypomania? Erratic behavior and speech? Hyperactivity or Hypomania? Burst of anger and sadness? ADHD big emotions or Borderline? Mood swings like roller coaster and crippling sadness/depression? Depression from Bipolar II or Borderline?? Although the last one I can sort of tell due to the duration of it. But a lot of these are so hard to tell and not to mention that there's def the possibility that if either ADHD or Bipolar II are neglected enough, it can foster Borderline, esp in household. That's my theory at least.
It’s the root cause that’s hard to pin down, other biological/ physiological causes can be interrupting what’s considered the normalised milestones, the range of coordinating senses between ages 2 & 4 yrs… can be a child confined to bed with an illness, child stuck long periods in high rise apartment
I’ve had many symptoms of adhd bpd and derealisation i dont want to self diagnose but sadly cant talk to my parents about it , they wont treat me normally if i tell them ik them , they are super distant already , symptoms basically are a million different thoughts in my head at the same time , i struggle to focus i can literally read a line a million times but still i cant seem to learn that , im failing literally every class , very short tempered, emotional outbursts, anxiety attacks , a newer symptom is that i can now block emotions and feel nothing at my will i can go completely blank , When i was little i had this POV life , things didn’t feel real had no concept of time like i was not real it was a dream , luckily it wored off and i dont have these symptoms now I really don’t know what to do and how to help myself, my parents behaviour towards me is making it worse
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At the core of BPD is “ fear of abandonment”
Thats just one of the symptoms of bpd, and one of the 9 criteria for someone to be labeled as having bpd. Of the 9 criteria, only 5 must be present for someone someone be considered borderline. Many individuals have bpd without a major fear of abandonment.
@@penjamin1479True. For me it is about identity confusion more than fear of abandonment. Although I am also no stranger to impulsivity. The latter also has some positive sides: I can make decisions really quick.
It's a lack of emotional regulation actually
@@Pleasetiemyshoes I have problems with emotional regulation but I don't have Borderline.
I have that- now I am more terrified.
Just a note: Complex PTSD is often misdiagnosed as Borderline Personality Disorder. Makes sure it isnt CPTSD first.
Also Autism in women.
C-ptsd or autism, yes!
I have them all. BPD, CPTSD, general anxiety disorder, major depressive disorder and suicidal ideations. It's so awesome that medications don't help and I'm going to be like this for the rest of my life.
@@E4mafia-_- I do too, just discovered I was asperger... it explained a lot... autistic burnout not BPD
@@E4mafia-_- It’s hard fr. I was told medications for depression/anxiety could work, but only if the symptoms of bpd were minimized through specific therapy first. I’m hoping that’s true, and help is possible.
We suffer because we know exactly who we are and we know we dont fit in society as highly sensitive beings. We are misunderstood, unaccepted, but we pretend not to be based on the people around us. The expectation to be normal results in both self acceptance and outward denial.
This comment needs alot more likes.
If you are able to reflect, you are also able to make active decisions. Do not hide behind your illness, it is not an argument to be a tw**at to people around you.
Completely agree ❤️ it's a different perspective that's misunderstood I feel
Sorry to say thus my dude. But it's also the personality disorder.
I say as someone married to a person with bpd.
Yes. The expectation to be normal. That's it in a nutshell.
I was diagnosed 8 years ago. However, it’s impacted my whole life. It’s to the point where I might step away from my job because the emotional roller coaster is way too much.
ayy how r u doing now?
I left my job too. I can NEVER keep a job!
I did step away from my job...
I pray we get better 🤲🏼💜
@@ayshaullah8420 thank you. Me too!
I was always told I’m “too sensitive” or that I overreact to little things. I’ve also gone through so many identity issues and even to this day I still don’t really know or understand who I am and where I fit in. When I was diagnosed with bipolar, it just didn’t seem right. I’m only 18, but I’ve been struggling for so many years. I don’t remember the last time I was viewed as “normal” by my peers. I couldn’t wait until I was 18 because that meant I could finally figure out what was truly wrong. But my diagnosis of bipolar made me even more confused. Medication wasn’t working, and I didn’t know what to do. Then I started researching BPD, and it just clicked. It’s like I finally understood what I was. I am not diagnosed with BPD, so I won’t say that I am, but BPD is the only answer I can come up with for my struggles. I plan on going to a psychiatrist to get properly diagnosed once I can. Hopefully I can get on some sort of medication to help me cope.
Im 29 and this resonated with me. I was also diagnosed with bipolar 2 and the treatment hasn't worked over the last decade. When I started doing research on BPD, I had the exact same feeling you described. It literally just clicked. It made so much more sense and I have an appointment scheduled with a psychiatrist. I'm very excited for once in a long time. I know the battle won't end but I'm ready to fight for myself again.
Have you ever looked up DBT I learned a lot from that. Went from 4/5 severe panic attacks a day to managing intense emotions that I felt equipped to deal with. Finding the right therapist can take a while and same with meds, but don’t give up. It’s kinda like finding the right fit for you. It’s been about 7 years now of me working hard to grow as a person and not let my BPD OCD and panic disorders stop me. I’m now a paid musician! Don’t get me wrong I still struggle, but I do believe putting the work in for yourself pays off in the long run. Good luck ❤ and sorry for the rambling 🙈
@@ginasowa-pratt7761no rambling. Great job explaining and providing hope and encouragement! 👍
Remember that BPD can come with bipolar, I'm really proud for your comment and willingness to find your real diagnosis, because only when you "know your enemy" you can make strategies and fight back.
I'm sorry that you've been through misdiagnosed and halfway meds, or even worse, not even the right meds, I was there at 18. The psychiatrist hit the nail with PMDD but I felt like I was going insane, something else must be there, I thought.
Some relatives though that I was a "diagnose seeker", they didn't understand that it wasn't a question of wearing my conditions like a badge from the boy scouts, it was about knowing what I had to finally get some control over my life.
At 26 I was thoroughly diagnosed and happened that it was not only 2 things... But more! Overlapping symptoms made things confusing for me and for the doctors but we came with a decent confirmation.
My meds now help me a lot. Yeah I still have moments of "we need to adapt this dose or let's try this for a while (it happened with antipsychotics) and then come out of them, it doesn't matter, what matters is that your meds allows you to keep going so you can work your needs in therapy.
Coping isn't the answer. You need to actually face and begin to work though your childhood trauma.
The “who am I” affects EVERYTHING.
Ugh
Side note: Autism and ADHD are often misdiagnosed as BPD as the symptoms are so similar, the symptoms discussed here are all symptoms of ADHD and autism too! Clinicians not fully trained in neurodiversities often incorrectly misdiagnose as BPD, it is always worth getting a 2nd opinion.
I was thinking this. What is different about BPD from AuDHD?
BPD from what I can tell isn't a thing. It's simply ADHD and possibly Autism.
@@alexlaw1892That's not correct at all. I'm autistic and both my brother and sister are borderline and while there's a recognisable crossover of symptoms between both conditions, they are for VASTLY different reasons. I can categorically tell you this because I have lived experience of my own disability and that of brother and sister and they are completely different to me in how they present through their disability. Please educate yourself correctly. BPD is a personality disorder. Autism is a Neurodevelopmental disorder. You're born autistic, you're not born borderline. There are many differences and this blanket statement is what lumps Autism into the mental illness box when it's a neurodiverse condition. Thanks.
As someone with BPD... he has no clue about the storm is creates... we try as hard as we can.... we know who what we are. We are fighting off urges 24/7.... because we don't wanna be judged. We are literally on the brink 24/7
Having BPD is like being on an emotional roller coaster ride....and thats for starters. Its horrible.
Just diagnosed today with this after a terrible time in my life. I'm glad I have a diagnosis in a way because it all makes sense now. I'm not impulsive I'm don't self don't drink or drugs but my emotions are awful they swing really badly. The fear of been on my own is horrible and I get angry and anger outbursts.
@Lex12102007 hi I told some years ago I had traits of BPD as I was having therapy for ocd and GAD. It didn't really bother me as I was just turned 40 and I was ok going to work not depressed or in a state I am now. When I was told I was relived but also like you fearful. Its just a label and doesn't alter the person you are. It's just a set of symptoms that you have to manage like any other disease. The reason I'm realky struggling now is because I'm in perimenopause and it all started to get worse since then 18 months ago. I'm not good at the moment but trying. I'm just taking it a day at a time. I have looked at the symptoms and here are the traits I have. I'm not good at emotional regulation my emotions can just go from 0 too 100 in a matter of seconds. I get angry quite easily and I can get very low easily especially at the moment with perimenopause. I am not impulsive I don't do drugs or substances I don't self harm either. I do get days where I feel I don't want to be here at the current moment but that is because of raging hormones not BPD. I was told years ago I have it and I wasn't in perimenopause and I was much more happier and wasn't what I'm like now. I have also heard when women are in menopause that they have been wrongly diagnosed with BPD. Xx
@Lex12102007 just to add I have a massive fear of been on my own and having no one that is awful, I've had that fear most of my life xx
The identity disturbance is the one for me. I know my name, my gender, my sexual orientation, my age. But that’s about it. I don’t know who I am apart from that.
Have you ever stood in the mirror and gazed into your eyes and felt like you were looking at someone else? Someone dark?
I have had this experience from my autism and being gender fluid/non binary. In the past I had sometimes wrote a pro and con list then a likes and dislikes then another niche type even something silly like icecream flavors or ones you want to try you think youd like or one you dont thinj youd like. narrow down each time those smaller “silly” parts about you, can use any variable, that being the icecream. If I had trouble thinking of things on my own Id search around for old youtube tag videos for variable inspiration, it let me get to know myself by putting it all infront of me. I often wouldnt even think of my hobbies or wishes/wants/fears because I got so set forward that I never paused long enough to think of what I could be doing, Id honestly be reminded to do that by watching my housemates enjoy their hobbies or talk about topics that end up inspiring me. I hope this may help someone, I genuinely benefitted just writing this out. I want to go back and update my original entries :) x
@GrowwithmebySarahNicole
I have done that so much. I feel like I could come off like Im being vain buy I genuinely dont know how I look in my head if Im not infront of a mirror, its like something is off with how my face looks in the mirror too. I never heard someone else actually voice this, thank you-even if u prob didnt intend to help someone out with your reply/question but yeah XD I get you so much
@@Goddessoftarot216yes. could you please tell me what this means? happens quite often when i’m high too
@@Goddessoftarot216 Marty Glenn cured himself by looking into his eyes in the mirror. Check out his videos on personality disorder
The one thing that I never hear anybody talk about is how this one particular personality disorder is curable!!!! without medication too!!! This is one mental illness that is curable; how? It’s through self-awareness. You introduced self awareness into your every day routine and you will see change. I was diagnosed in 2017 and I have changed my life completely. I have totally regulated my nervous system. I am no longer living a fear based lifestyle. I can see so much change. I still have areas I still am working at but I think it’s a lifelong process, but wow, self awareness is the game changer for borderline personality disorder.
Thank you I’m really struggling but trying to prove I can and this is a game changer I’ve implemented it in multiple situations where before hand I felt helpless and been able to keep calm and talk about it, thank you so much
@@siklin_thing 🫂 I still struggle too, but I look at it as “I am on track with healing” because if I wasn’t struggling with my bp that would mean I’m people pleasing again or on autopilot. You got this ❤️🩹 keep talking to yourself and just one day at a a time🫂
@@siklin_thing Please seek professional help before heeding an ambiguous nutcase's directions.
Marty Glenn cured himself through inner child healing, which is kind of self awareness
@@ArchAngel435 cursed????? You lost me….
I'm glad to see that there is more video to this because this explanation couldn't be vaguer. It's an extremely complex, multi-faceted diagnosis, and tends to manifest itself differently, on an individual basis.
Mmmmm not really in my experience. I can spot someone with BPD pretty easily. They act a certain way. Generally speaking, you could call it a train wreck
For the longest time I was wondering what was plaguing my ex wife. I even researched Bipolar disorder....but it just didn't match up as she's not manic for long periods of time.
When I stumbled across BPD...I was floored!!! It truly explained so dang much. She's undiagnosed....but I am 89% sure it's why she suffers. Was the most miserable and abusive experience of my life with her.
Wow 😢
I’m going through this right now except….. I’m your ex-wife in the situation.
Your last sentence hit so hard!!! Because all we want is to really be the BEST version of ourselves. For Ourselves & partners! But idk man! Something just completely TAKES OVER!!! Then Afterwards, we TOTALLY regret the way we behaved. I’m Also undiagnosed and thats why i’m now down this rabbit hole on utube. We know we need help. It’s just hard! & its not that we’re not thinking of the relationship….TRUST ME WE ARE! We think about it A LOT! But there’s something holding us back from getting the help we need! Ugh!! And i’m trying to figure out how to fight that! Or I’m about to lose my relationship just like she did. 😭
You don’t have to be manic to have bipolar. I have both disorders, bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder.
@@ladykruger1002 i wish and hope and pray mine is this self aware, she's gone no contact, she says she is having these thoughts she can't control and she doesn't know why she is having them, but they are telling her to never ever talk to me and be in the same space as me ; yet she loves me and cares and so on ; it's really confusing.
I have been with her through the worst times, now I am afraid they are coming back and she wants to go at it alone.
@@sweet2sourr your channel has been so so so helpful!! And its a fun channel too.
@@isma_th_1st Thank you for the feedback! I’m happy it’s helpful. 💗
This barely scratches the surface of what dealing with someone with bpd is like.
Almost like it’s a TH-cam Short or something
This is the best explanation I’ve ever seen. Period.
Agreed. He got to the point in an understandable way. Also he didn’t have to demonstrate how much he loves himself along the way, unlike some TH-camrs.
Thank you for this explanation 😢my teen daughter is suffering. I hope this new counselor can reach her without resistance
What did you do to her? It's caused by childhood trauma, abuse, and neglect. Wow!
Dr. Ali, your a great resource to TH-cam viewers. Social influencers please take note.
I was diagnosed with this to begin with, after the psychiatrist talking to me for no longer than 45 mins, turns out I have adhd and women are misdiagnosed every single day with BPD. There is no enough, research, support anything into a lot of these mental illnesses especially as women! Something needs to change
Best vid explanation I’ve ever seen . Amazing job doctor ❤😊
The core of the problems is there stubbornness for not listening to the advise of there well-wishers. They love to argue and differ, even if it could cost them a life in an attempt to escape from logic. NIH and other reputable sources claims that 75% bpds engage in self harm a d 20% commit sucide. Now that's an alarming number.
They're still accountable for there actions!
As someone who struggles with this, I often wish someone had educated my parents on BPD. Them punishing me for it my whole childhood is the thing that I find most hurtful.
This is my Father all over he has BPD but won't come to terms with it.
I have BPD. I think it’s the reason I’m single. I’m middle aged now but there was a time where I was very fit and would get compliments from women non stop. I’m still studly for my age.
I love animals, make good money but relationships are hard to come by. I’m superficially charming but I’m impulsive to the point that I’ve put myself in horrible situations and my emotions are all over the place.
I’ll be in very intense but brief relationships with women. I can be into someone intensely but then just not want them around for a while. Ultimately I just end up with a lot of regret and embarrassment
We are the same. I cannot believe I’m finally figuring this out.
Yeah I constantly want to die because of having BPD. I’m isolated. I’m alone. I don’t even like myself. I’m literally nothing. If I died tomorrow. No one would care. I had one therapist that actually helped me. He was more of a parent than my parents ever were.
I have felt exactly the same way and push the feelings down daily.
To me a relationship with a BPD partner is like finding someone screaming and yelling for help and then you jump into the fire to save them all the while they are kicking and punching you as you try to save them. To them they are not doing anything wrong. Matter of fact it's you that is at fault for their suffering in the BPD's reality. You can tell them that it's not normal and you will get labeled as a narcissist. The irony is that over time you end up becoming one from the trauma of being invalidated, gas lighted, etc. Over time you become numb and don't show emotions or reveal them because they will be used against you.
That sounds like a relationship with a narcissist, tbh.
Nope... Definitely sounds like a BPD relationship too.
Bpd and narcissism are not a million miles away from each other except we ( BPD) feel empathy whereas people who suffer with narcissism feel a huge amount of shame and so try to hide it through being grandiose and presenting themselves as not flawed in how they dress and work. I would argue that they were so hypersensitive as children and shamed that the only way to survive was to build an impenetrable wall around themselves so they could never be hurt again. Unfortunately they do tend to hurt but then again so do we.
@@aaronhelbert1135I was thinking the same thing!
Exactly!!!
I’m struggling with this right now and I’m so ashamed how I treat my boyfriend who does nothing but try to love me and I shut down. I want help so bad before I ruin my happiness I can’t be happy and I don’t know why.
I went to your channel and watched some of your videos. You seem like a kind person that is just struggling with this issue. Please stick with therapy/medication/DBT/etc.
Do anything that works, try to improve 1% per day (or per week at least). If you can keep with it, and improve a little bit over a long period of time, you will be in a completely different place before you know it! 💙
At least you’re ashamed or something. Mine is a totally different story. Enough is enough
As someone with undiagnosed bpd I have not told people that I might have bpd because I am afraid of being judged or misunderstood I try to isolate myself from everyone which makes my family mainly my mum make jokes about about me which makes me self harm
I have absolutely NO CONFUSION about "who i am." I don't see why some people are saying this. No, most of us know exactly who we are. We just don't know WHY we're in such pain.
Ugh, I also hear a lot of people have been misdiagnosed with Bipolar disorder. So trust ur gut and advocate for urself. It takes time to find good help sometimes.
It’s the trauma of past relationships, and the confusion of if you are inherently bad, or not good enough, and the reflection of why people leave or things don’t turn out well in certain outcomes. You begin to cope by putting on a mask, and you become very obsessed with trying to control the way you are perceived by others. Until you can no longer differentiate between the person you became to cope with having to deal with others, versus the true version of yourself that you were prior.
O my god, I feel like this! I'm also in the closet and don't want to come out because believe in Christianity. I only feel better when I read the Bible or list3n to music. Sometimes I feel I'm different people. Some have asked if I do drugs because I'm hyper, but after being hyper I feel so guilty and like a criminal! I also struggle with sexual impulses that are always there and so inappropriate! I've been to jail over it. I feel so sad! I don't want to accept I have this condition!!! Sad😔😔😞
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i always explain my bpd to my friends as "going through the 5 stages of grief, more than once, every day"
It really makes it difficult for women that should get an asd diagnosis but the lazy doc would rather hit them with BPD.
So true. I was diagnosed when I was 21 and I'm 45 now. Even to this day, I fight myself for doing the appropriate or professional thing versus acting on emotion and obsessing.
I choose to stay alone I know everyone think we are bad persons and I feel tired to explain that isnt like that...but I had no choice
Great video put into a short!
Glad you liked it!
U said all the opposite of what I have. The major factor of borderline is not impulsively and also u charge up very high but come down very fast, you don't come down slow u come down crashing
Yea I agree on that, I really don’t go down smoothly
I come down slow as in I’m still upset for HOURS. So you’re saying you crash fast and feel better?
@@sweet2sourr I think it’s not about how long the downs or ups take, but rather how long it takes for one to develop into the other
You got that right my man. It's so easy to control and try to dominate a situation when someone gets you worked up enough. Something I struggle with is letting it go especially in the moment. I've messed up my life countless many way too many upon 10000 times and more to come. It's just so much harder when you become yourself and be the nice guy just to get taken advantage of even more. Population makes us BPD lives harder. If you're nice I will be super nice to you and be there for you, but if you're mean I won't show gratitude or much empathy and if its aimed towards me, may God be with you.
This explains why it takes me so long to center myself if I'm upset
I'm going to tell my experiences and I want anyone reading this to tell me if it sounds like BPD.
When I'm in a relationship, I try and be as good as possible to my partner, cooking for them, cleaning up, massaging them, giving them words of affirmation etc. We can have arguments that don't result in me blowing up, but those arguments can easily and quickly progress into me becoming completely uncontrollable verbally. I will say the most horrible, disgusting, toxic things possibly imaginable (wishing cancer, wishing bad upon their family, throwing out insults about their appearance) this happens through texting significantly more than through in person communication (about 95% of the time)
When I'm in those states of anger, I can't do ANYTHING to control myself. It's almost as if the ability to even think about trying to control myself never enters my head, I can only focus on my hatred for that person in that moment and absolutely nothing else. I'm not physically abusive, or necessarily destructive, it's purely verbal abuse.
Once I've calmed down, I feel horrible about what I've said, and apologize constantly afterwards in the hopes that I can have another chance with them and not repeat the mistakes I made. But I always inevitably repeat them. I'd say these impulsive outbursts happen maybe 2 or 3 times a month. 1 time a month if things are going well.
This is not an identity issue. You have an issue with not understanding what you want. You may not want this person which is why you are trying so hard to form a connection. You’re fear of loneliness is what is causing you to stay, because without doing so much for someone else you feel you don’t have any purpose, but you have outbursts to subconsciously express your resentment towards this person who you give yourself too because they are taking away all of the effort you should be putting into YOU! You don’t love that person. You love yourself, but you’re afraid of living for and loving yourself because society tells you that that’s selfish and you should love others and that being alone is pitiful. Maybe deep down you actually love being along and you just need to find things to do that make you happy while being alone. Or find people better suited for your personality. Never stop being yourself around people because then you can attract who’s is truly meant to be in your life
Being around my covert narcissist husband makes me feel this way. But when I’m not around him I can regulate my emotions better. He brings the absolute worst out in me and I don’t know how to stop it. I feel like I’m going crazy just being in his presence.
Sounds like you’re trying to find reasons to divorce him.
@@SteveDobbs-hj7fc yeah maybe. But I have also been trying to find reasons not to divorce him too. I’m in a weird place with it all mentally.
I find the manifesting really helps because I’m naturally like oh everybody leaves me but it’s literally so easy to fix with just like normal positive affirmations
Impulsivity doesn’t excuse Cheating. Btw 🗿
Exactly don’t put up with it if they have the ability to lie about it that means they have the ability to know that they cheated, or else what is the reason for lying
I feel like I have bpd but I keep doubting myself at the same time. I started doing research a couple months ago and I finally brought it up to my therapist, she straight up laughed in my face. I know it wasn’t meant to be rude, but that’s how I took it and I started to cry. I really want answers but I really don’t wanna self diagnose
I'm sorry. I know the feeling and just bursting into tears. It sucks.
This is amazing!
Great to collab!!!
@@draliI’d love to collab too 😅
my sister has ADHD induced BPD, because ADHD can be a precursor to BPD with bad parenting where parents use the threat of abandonment as a tool to correct them
Before I was diagnosed I identified as someone I wasn’t until I couldn’t take it anymore, that other person wasn’t me, now I know it was my BPD and confusion with myself
My ex has bpd but his mom said the psychiatrist doesn’t know what he’s talking about. He’s up and down so much. Took over my personality but in public he will try to be whoever he talks to so they’ll like him. Panic attacks on the regular.
you just doing DMS beautiful easy to everyone.
Thanks 🙏
Saw a nurse who noted emotionally unstable BPD but when I went to 18 weeks counselling with professional she said i have PTSD. They're just guessing so take with pinch of salt. If anything I fear being around people. And would just love some peace in my life. Think i also have undiagnosed autism. That stimming thing ive always done, much to others annoyance. GP told me write a letter why i think have autism. Wrote it then thought whats the point in finding out. But maybe i should still deciding.
Completely disagree with this guy. Family scapegoats have very similar symptoms but they do NOT suffer with bpd.
People- please, please stop diagnosing yourselves and others. Checking the internet is not the same as going to a qualified mental health professional. Mental health diagnosing is not something you do at home. But - If you were evaluated professionally, congratulations for seeking help!
When you have both borderline and infj personality😂
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Is it possible they are connected? Maybe Bpd caused personality type? Or being an infj could make you more susceptible to bpd
@@lilcho9071 i think there might be but it's complex. Bpd caused by childhood trauma and trauma from relationship with ppl. I would love to know too if someone could answer this question.
same
Yikes.
Not everyone has BPD who can change their mood. Sleep deprivation, or side effects of many medicine, or just being a sanguine, or just a superb empath.
I have bpd, was diagnosed as a child and despite moving around a lot each mental health team has sustained the diagnosis. I do not see myself as having a fear of abandonment or hatred of being alone 😂😂
I dated a guy with BPD for 3 years 6 months. We had a lot of good times. Sigh it was hard dealing with him being so quick to anger. I hope he gets the help me needs. Today is the 1 week mark of me not calling him.
All these personality disorders stem from childhood lack and childhood traumas.
Let’s stop the generational cycle of abuse, start doing better for our children❤
Well, you just explain my life in a short. . . I was misdiagnosed for over 10 years as being bipolar 😅
It’s unfortunate how many people confuse bpd with bipolar or mania 🤦♀️
@@ZestyBarnacle69 it’s very unfortunate. 😞
I think it stems from a rejection of feeling isolated, which compounds with more rejection and isolation til you just don’t even wanna show your face around others ever again.
Several in my family suffered from this disorder. All refused help, and all have died because their impulses going to the extremes. Has been devastating to have to deal with and nothing I could do to help them. I and others tried, but its almost impossible to save them from themselves.
Back in the day they just called us “nutty”
😂
I have BPD and I have been working for eight years, once a week counseling, ACA, have completed 13 workbooks and have learned healthy coping skills…I’ve done a huge change but something I struggle with is when I get upset I feel like I’m exploding 🤯 and I can’t control it no matter what skills I put to the test! It’s tough but I make the most of it!
I don’t have BPD but I relate to this so much 😭
CPTSD? PTSD? Maybe undiagnosed BPD? Also, could be just the life stage your in rn, your age/ what you’re going through atm.
I have a friend with BPD. She's been chronically suicidal since she lost a parent 1.5 decades ago. Bc she's still alive and so miserable, she developed severe AUD in her late 30s. Being 3.5 mo sober, she recently relapsed bc she was suffering far worse despite she was sober. She also has CPTSD (complex PTSD).
*Edit via typo fix.
It's a really difficult thing to have...days can be tough
As someone who has BPD i will tell you that it gets easier and you really can live with it and have a normal life. I still struggle but it’s not as intense.Find medication that works for you and stay focused on healing. You will get there I promise
I think i have bpd
Ive been searching whats wrong with me and I can’t stop crying of relief when I hear those symptoms and explanation. I can remember flash backs too of ppl telling me things that support my suspicions and my reactions.
Maybe I should go see a psychiatrist, I have some physical symptoms sometimes and I think its link to that
I finally got diagnosed 5 months ago after years of suffering and feeling empty.I was strugeling to live my life,drugs where big part of my life for 6 years because I used them as coping mehanism....
I was diagnosed with this and bipolar disorder about 20 years ago, but the psychiatrist never told me about it-I just saw it on my insurance paperwork and I didn’t know what that means, but you just said everything that rang true for me! I also have agoraphobia-is that also part of it?
People with BPD and narcissists are the most aggravating, obnoxious, enraging human beings. Count yourself lucky if you've never been around them. Im blessed with both in my immediate family, it's a nightmare.
You sound like a perfectly peaceful, understanding, empathetic and respectful human being... 😐
It's really awesome knowing that I'll never be in a loving relationship or start a family.
Great, we'll be alone forever. 😔
Feels like that, for sure. 😔 It’s like we’re undeserving of love unless we get lifelong therapy or an ungodly combination of meds? 😭❔
PBD is not a real thing its underlying issues of something else. Problems don't just come out of nowhere. Nhs England throws PBD round like its sweets
I think I have BPD. I don't want to self diagnose but I match to all these symptoms. I'm scared to tell anyone but all I can rely on is my mom or my friend right now.
Same here bro. I have all the symptoms. I’ve told my mom and we’re going to a therapist. Your best bet is to try to get help for it bro. Fight the good fight, and don’t forget that you aren’t alone!
How do you get diagnosed?
Can the emotions come up quickly but also come down quickly ?
Yes
Oh God I think you may be…gasp…a human.
@@tschantzall of the symptoms of bpd are the same as what all humans experience m the difference is the intensity.
When he says BPD emotion goes up and slow to come down, on certain days my emotions a re high ,but still fluctuating between good and bad by the minute. Trying to use dialectical therapy is great, and it's still exhausting to regulate back to stable. It's difficult to do anything else when trying to regulate.
I feel like I might have this because I’ve always been very impulsive with my emotions 😅
I have bpd but haven’t been diagnosed yet but my psychiatrist thinks it’s bipolar 2 which I know is common to be confused for bpd and vice versa.
How can they get help?
I don’t really need to put any input, everyone in the comment sections got it down. I tell people when they say to me why are you acting like that I’m like “welcome to bpd land”
I’m summarize very easily. Getting on a 100 year old rollercoaster with no belts. Shards of glass get thrown at you throughout ride. And only way off is to jump as the breaks are non existent
Basically the most bat S crazy relationship you will ever experience
Is being a bad person really a diagnosis?
I have BPD and it shows more then ever sense having kids
That identity thing happens with CPTSD too but not the impulsivity really.
I think i have BPD..diagnosed as MDD..when i get enraged i go numb i cant remember if im mad and what i say, it takes me a long time to come down from ot
having bpd as an INFP 💛
oh fax
Me as an INTJ 😂
Me
Whats infp mean?
MAN 😔✊🏼
I have all of these symptoms and I can’t really form a real relationship with anybody it’s getting worse
What if it's bipolaria with depersonalization disorder those syptoms how to know witch one is it? + fearful avoidant attachmentstyle
So, I have been suspect to have ADHD, Bipolar II, and BPD. After a month, I thought I really do hit all 3 diagnoses. I have discussed this with my counselor and so far, there hasn't been anything that has proven otherwise, but I cannot be sure as I see that ADHD and Bipolar can have a lot of crossed symptoms. And when I keep track of my own thoughts, emotions and situations for CBT assessment, I noticed that I srsly cannot tell if it's Bipolar II or Borderline or ADHD at work. Cannot pay attention in class and racing thoughts? Inattention and Hyperactivity or Hypomania? Erratic behavior and speech? Hyperactivity or Hypomania? Burst of anger and sadness? ADHD big emotions or Borderline? Mood swings like roller coaster and crippling sadness/depression? Depression from Bipolar II or Borderline?? Although the last one I can sort of tell due to the duration of it. But a lot of these are so hard to tell and not to mention that there's def the possibility that if either ADHD or Bipolar II are neglected enough, it can foster Borderline, esp in household. That's my theory at least.
Very true!!!
It’s the root cause that’s hard to pin down, other biological/ physiological causes can be interrupting what’s considered the normalised milestones, the range of coordinating senses between ages 2 & 4 yrs… can be a child confined to bed with an illness, child stuck long periods in high rise apartment
I deal with this disorder everyday
Osho and Robert greene were the reason i am suffering personality disorder😅
If you are with someone who is borderline, all of their problems become your problems.
Hi folks! Anyone has experience with St John's Wort tea to calm the highs & lows in mood?
The fears are what is horrid for me
I’ve had many symptoms of adhd bpd and derealisation i dont want to self diagnose but sadly cant talk to my parents about it , they wont treat me normally if i tell them ik them , they are super distant already , symptoms basically are a million different thoughts in my head at the same time , i struggle to focus i can literally read a line a million times but still i cant seem to learn that , im failing literally every class , very short tempered, emotional outbursts, anxiety attacks , a newer symptom is that i can now block emotions and feel nothing at my will i can go completely blank ,
When i was little i had this POV life , things didn’t feel real had no concept of time like i was not real it was a dream , luckily it wored off and i dont have these symptoms now
I really don’t know what to do and how to help myself, my parents behaviour towards me is making it worse