This one hit hard. I have struggled with self esteem issues all my life and at a certain age (late 20s) I made a conscious decision to become the side support role to someone who was charismatic, strong, confident, visionary. Ultimately self-centred. 12 years later, you can imagine how that worked out. When we don't believe ourselves worthy of investment, we pour all our energy into fulfilling someone else's dream, and when that dream comes true it's pretty empty feeling.
Both me and my ex partner had this problem, only after a while I grew out of hating myself and that made for a really toxic situation. Happy to see a video that articulates a complicated situation like that
I'm still in the process of liking/accepting some aspects of my persona and it's genuinely hard... Sometimes i have to go backwards to even ask myself "Do i TOLLERATE myself?" but i'm taking baby steps, like daily checking-in with myself and staying away from my phone as much as possible during the day, without seeking external connection too much. Thank you for this video!
Ooh I love the approach of asking if you even tolerate yourself! You can't like yourself if you can't stand being around yourself or can't have any patience for yourself.
Yeah, this isn't going to work out! Instead of liking me, I focus on accepting myself, and being compassionate. And this isn't easy either! Baby steps I guess... 😅
thank you for summarizing how i've been feeling for the past few weeks, this was a really great video!
This one hit hard. I have struggled with self esteem issues all my life and at a certain age (late 20s) I made a conscious decision to become the side support role to someone who was charismatic, strong, confident, visionary. Ultimately self-centred. 12 years later, you can imagine how that worked out. When we don't believe ourselves worthy of investment, we pour all our energy into fulfilling someone else's dream, and when that dream comes true it's pretty empty feeling.
I'm so glad this video resonated with your experience! It isn't easy to recognize our worth, but when we do we wonder why it took us so long!
I just discovered your podcast on Spotify and I'm so so grateful for it
I'm glad you found it! :)
this is 100 percent true ,,,,,,,,i have experienced this,,,..thankyou so much ,,,
You're welcome, I'm glad it spoke to your experience!
Both me and my ex partner had this problem, only after a while I grew out of hating myself and that made for a really toxic situation. Happy to see a video that articulates a complicated situation like that
It's definitely not a simple situation to be in! I'm glad this resonated with your experience.
I'm still in the process of liking/accepting some aspects of my persona and it's genuinely hard...
Sometimes i have to go backwards to even ask myself "Do i TOLLERATE myself?" but i'm taking baby steps, like daily checking-in with myself and staying away from my phone as much as possible during the day, without seeking external connection too much. Thank you for this video!
Ooh I love the approach of asking if you even tolerate yourself! You can't like yourself if you can't stand being around yourself or can't have any patience for yourself.
I just cut my hair.
_I like myself now._
Yeah, this isn't going to work out! Instead of liking me, I focus on accepting myself, and being compassionate. And this isn't easy either! Baby steps I guess... 😅
Very interesting take, thank you, young lady!
Glad you enjoyed it!