Pelvic Floor Relaxation: Anxiety Skills #10
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Pelvic floor relaxation is one self-regulation technique that works to calm anxiety by calming the body.
By learning to relax the pelvic floor, we can trigger the calming parasympathetic nervous system. This is more effective than coping skills because it actually resolves physical tension and anxiety. This stress management skill utilizes the body-mind feedback loop to create calm.
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I’m in tears with how much relief you have given me. I have OCD and am in a horrible fit of health ocd and I have been in so much pain bc of my stress. This has helped me tremendously and I will be using this video every day. Thank you!!!!!
I know this is an old video but I've been struggling with vulvodynia for half a year. After watching this and realizing the pain was linked to all the muscles in my entire pelvic area, I started doing exercises to loosen those up and the pain is finally starting to gradually go away. Thank you for helping me figure that out!
Do you consume any medicine or cream? I need your answer, i'm from indonesia and i've been struggling with vulvodynia too.thank you
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Oh my friend I’m so happy you are vulvodynia went away. I’m getting treatment now. I’ve been suffering for years. I’m so happy for you. All I want add a life is that for that to go away there’s barely any foods I can eat. I can’t really wear any type of normal clothes they have to be real baggy. I’m just praying that, this treatment I’m going through it’s going to work it’s significantly better. It’s called the morphis eight and I’m gonna start doing pelvic exercises and do whatever I can to make it go away I swear going to doctors almost 9 years ago. None of them will listen to me I had a hard time it was almost like I didn’t wanna live anymore but I’m so glad just this past week. I feel significantly better. Hopefully it will continue. Hopefully I’ll be normal someday but I’m so happy for you.
"Therapist joke!!" You are such a great therapist! Love your videos.
I have chronic hemorrhoids, anal fissures, anxiety attacks and IBS. This was VERY helpful!!!!! Thank you!
Same here, even though it sucks you are not alone.
Good gosh!!!!!!! How do you cope?
Tough luck of the draw god damm
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@@SweetTea742Nice to meet you, I have all of these + psoriasis + gastritis and I live in a third world country lmao
You are just a terrific source of info with gentleness thrown in the mix. Thank you.
I've heard the phrase "Don't get your panties in a twist" when telling someone to relax. Fascinating to see how low brow culture already has a tenuous grasp on this and more
It's so good to listen to different words regarding the same area of the body from different people. Thank you. This helped me tie things together
Thank you so much for these enormously helpful videos!
Such a beautiful person with so much knowledge. Thank you for sharing such valuable information
Thank you, these are really helpful.
This is so helpful! I think I subconsciously tighten my pelvis much of the time and being more aware of this has helped me better relax.
U had problem related to weak urine or incomplete bowel? If u relaxed those muscles, did it help?
@@HarshKS2are you suffering from constipation due to tight pelvic floor
@@HarshKS2are you suffering from constipation due to tight pelvic floor
@@Clarke1412 sometimes I do..but i try to tighten then relax my muscles as an exercise.. it helps
Thank you, Emma!
An exercise that may help without needing to 'control' these muscles is laying on your back (you can do this while you're in bed), lay one hand on your chest and one hand on your belly. Breathe in counting to 4 (when you can feel it for 4 heartbeats) while you make sure the hand on your belly goes up, not the hand on your chest. Then breathe out counting to 4 (or more when you feel like). Breathe in again etc. Gradually you may try to extent the time you breathe out. I used to go from 4 to 8 to 12 to 16. But then number are completely of to you. This will take some time to get used to/train yourself. No pressure. In the end your will feel a relaxing effect in the pelvic floor. I learned this in a an intens9ieve singing class, to liberate your voice. This breathing exercise/mastering your breathing will benefit in other kinds of situations like hyperventilation, stress etc.
Thank you for this.
Excellent methods doc. I have started watching your oldest videos since yesterday. These initial videos are gold. ❤️.so useful.
I love this vid watched it multiple times
Just LOVE your channel and the gift that you share with us!! Helping my whole family! Thank you endlessly!
She's a gem.
Thank you.
Thank you!!
Amazing video I've have pelivc pain for 3 years thank you so much
Glad that you've found it helpful!
Hi Glyn, I hope you don't mind sharing the protocol you followed to heal up, please! I am suffering from CPPS since a good while now and am seeking some help, tips or best practices to make my situation gets better. Thank you.
@@ayoubmerzak1733 did you found any help? What kind of symptoms do you have?
Exactly ❤️she So much knowledgeable 🙌🏻
Thank you 🙏
Wow. I have chronic pelvic floor pain and have been going to PT for years for hypertonic pelvic floor and have disynergic bowels. I've had so much education on the pelvic floor yet I thought bearing down was tensing the pelvic floor, not relaxing. This shows how we can't know what others internal physical experiences are and shouldn't assume what others know. I'm going to discuss this with my pt next visit and I suspect it's going to create an epiphany for us!
Love this and love this lady 💕
Literally got to know today there's a thing called hypertonic pelvic floor. Realizing this is probably what I've always had
Thanks for bringing this to my attention.
Yeah, that not what "literally" means. We know you don't mean hyperbole.
You are a legend!
Corollary: Pelvic floor muscle injury = lifelong panic attacks due to constant vagus nerve stimulation.
This video put into words what I have been suffering for 20 years.
Interesting, thanks for sharing
@@johndoeexists TIL about "Overactive Pelvic Floor Disorder", thanks! I did some basic googling and found this: www.healthline.com/health/fitness-exercise/pelvic-floor-exercises But there's go to be some kind of muscle growth or injection that fixes this quickly. I hope.
i think i have this too for 8 years now and doctors dont know about it
This is helpful information. Been having some ibs-c issues since January & It just about blows my mind how often I have to remind myself to relax the stomach muscles.
When children experience nerves, or anxiety, they will often say, “My Stomach Hurts.” Thank You for reminding me to remember to be proactive in relaxing the pelvic floor area.
You are the sweetest!
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Very common in men that have anxiety and CPPS
It took me months of research to find out about CPPS and starting to get better because very few doctors seem to know anything about it. This is so common and so important to spread awareness about.
Thank you, this is very helpful. I feel like I can breathe deeper by doing this. I had a chest injury which also affected my mid back, and have felt like I can't take a deep enough breaths for years as a result, which has led to chronic anxiety but have been practicing this way of breathing and feel the difference. Do you think it is possible that by breathing in this way I am finally getting enough air? Like it can override my chest muscle tenseness? Thank you again.
No kidding. I finally learned how and I’m already feeling a difference, total mood changer while grounding me in the present. i heard it’ll make you last longer and work in conjunction with kegels... can’t wait hahah
Hey I know it’s been a while but how had this worked for you? Did you practise it the exact way how she teaches (pushing out like you have to pee or poo)? Or did you practise it a different way?
@@gmbgmb She sites Dr. Eric Gentry as the creator of the technique. He’s got a couple videos on TH-cam targeted toward healthcare providers but he goes in depth on the topic. I’d recommend his videos “Tools For Hope (Part 1 and 2)”.
Omg..every day with everyone is..UNCOMFORTABLE..!😳
Your the best .....thanks
The Universe herself has led me to this video! 🙏🏾
So it's anormal to have it always tight? Even if I don't move a lot I always notice that I can relax my pelvic floor, becouse I'm always tensing them.
This helps to stutter also, even if you have a severe stutter it works
New new INFORMATION! No No one has NEVER EVER TOLD ME THIS INFORMATION. VERY ESSENTIAL Knowledge TO CALM ANXIETY.. ?
your butt joke cured my anxiety
Is it possible the pelvic floor is not getting proper relax signals from the brain and thru the spine?
Your voice is so dang relaxing lol
i find it really interesting that most of these self regulation techniques are some of the first basics you learn as an actor. how to ground, be present, and go to a "neutral" stance of place physically. soft gaze is a common phrase in theatre. i've also had a voice teacher tell me to unclench my butthole. we also practice diaphragmatic breathing to support projection. fascinating correlation. (i have anxiety and a theatre degree lol)
Such an interesting perspective.. could you name some introductory resources to such theatre techniques? I am really curious to know..
Hey I know it’s been a while but how had this worked for you? Did you practise it the exact way how she teaches (pushing out like you have to pee or poo)? Or did you practise it a different way?
I have supra ventricular arrythmns;
been instructed in 'bare down',
never feels like defication.
No wonder turding is so relaxing 😌
Lol. You explained this better than my doctor 😂
Could this cause urine leakage? I had a ton of tests done and all good. Never given birth as well. When my anxiety ramped up is when the inconvenience issue arrived. Hmmmm....
How many times should I repeat contractions?
Emma you are so amazing and your knowledge is outstanding. You are so updated and thorough. You should be appointed as President of International Psychologist Association. I had troubled childhood with abusive trauma and fear due to severe poverty and financial issues. I wish I could take your therapy but I don't have money. Right now down with Fibromyalgia, severe fatigue with PTSD induced anxiety and suicidal depression. I don't know who can help me as I can't afford such expensive consulting sessions. I don't know where to start. Your videos are amazing but I feel overwhelmed due to my condition. I am almost bed bound. Can you please please help me? Is there any additional resources I can refer to? 🙏
All of her content from her courses is on her youtube channel.
Any video with demonstrations is helpful please.
Thank you for the info but I can't do the stranger with the knees touching exercise it's just too much to handle.
Iliac crest is not single points, its the whole crest :) The specific points you are refering to are called ASIS anterior superior...
Hi Emma! I am a bit confused. On the one hand you say that one shouldn’t use these coping skills and sit with your anxiety and on the other hand you are teaching these calming exercises. Aren’t these coping skills then? When to use them and when not to use them?
Would you please place these videos in a playlist, a sequential order, it's really difficult to find these, in order. I still haven't seen the 1st one in this series.
I think I just answered my own question lol cheers
Sorry I didn't see your comment until just now, I recently updated this playlist and hopefully it's in order now, let me know what else I can do to make your experience better! Thanks
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Thanks, ma'am. Like a picnic
Will it cure dysynnergic defecation?
Every time I try to do pelvic floor tilts and exercises I go into panic mode. Like anxiety all day. Any idea why this happens?
I attended the Andersen-Wise clinic for CPPS. A major part of the protocol is extended “paradoxical” relaxation sessions. The other major component is pressing on both external and INTERNAL trigger points. This means putting a wand up your bum and poking around. With some experience you will begin to instinctively figure out where to apply pressure and it can bring great relief. I do this in conjunction with pressing a lot on various parts of my abdominals, psoas, outer hips and butt using a theracane and this thing the clinic gives you called the trigger point genie, which is just a flat round board with different attachments/lacrosse balls on threads you screw into it. The board gives the resistance of being on a hard floor while the rest of you can actually be on a soft surface like a bed or couch.
0:42 this level of awkwardness is what relaxes my pelvic floor
It also encourages diaphragm breathing
How interesting! But if you push your pelvic floor like that, doesn’t that make the body even more tense from the pushing? Or maybe I haven’t quite understood how it works? It would be wonderful if you would have a second to reply.
Did you find the answer because I’m curious if it makes it more tense too?
I think it's relaxing if you do it softly. (Kind of like how it feels when one doesn't need to push much to poop easily?)
Yes, but the point is that if you can tense it, you can relax it. You'll begin to have control over it and know the sensations.
That's exactly what I thought. What helps me is exhaling hard and long, not inhaling again until I absolutely have to.
Either way the pushing should not be done excessively or strogly, and expecially often, because that might lead to having a stomach hernia. Just lightly is fine
Dear Gorgeous , i have pain in my back. It is triggered by many events.. When i follow your recommendation it makes me relax.. I want to know that: can i do this frequently like 500/1000 times in a day. If i do that frequently will it cause another problem like erectile dysfunction etc?
I am not an expert but from I understand is it is okay to do this as many times as you want without issue
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Is bearing down the same as straining? I really need to overcome lifelong constipation.
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I don't understand "Pressing with your abdominals".
An I pushing down the abdominals with my hands?
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I think it means to act like you are trying to push poop out
When she said "wear a sign around your neck that says something ridiculous", did anyone else think of Die Hard 3?
Lol
I love you
I have none bacterial prostatitis chronic pelvic pain syndrome it's really really painful!!!
it could be that you have Pendunal neuropathia, i thought i had none bacterial prostatitis but it wasnt it
Hi,
So I think I understand what “Bare down” means with regards to tightening the muscles but how does one bare down after clenching the muscles to relax them?
Thank you.
I think act like you are holding in your poop to tighten, then like you are trying to push it out to loosen.
@@jsmith5443 Hey I know it’s been a while but how had this worked for you? Did you practise it the exact way how she teaches (pushing out like you have to pee or poo)? Or did you practise it a different way?
....really recommend using stretchout strap and accompanying lower body stretches. Place butt on wall, legs up wall then replicate as many stretches as possible.
The pelvis tightens, contracts, 'extends' and sends signals directly up to spine with headaches, dizziness and anxiety. You you have a stable and calm walk and posture through life.
Thank you for arabic trans
The 'Bearing Down" technique could be better explained. I don't know what it feels like :(
Me too
It means try and push out a fart. No joke.
I have Crohn's. I'm always one sneeze away from shitting myself. I'm always holding in farts because it's not always air
I took your advice about staring into a someone’s eyes so I went in public and done it to a stranger but I got punched in my mouth. Thank you
For 4 yrs , My step mom has pelvic floor spasms and can't "pea" , opposite of women who have leaks. I guess. She has PT but it does last. Has to cath! & she's Weak!
"I just made you grab your butt."
LMAO!
Wow, I always wondered why when I get scared suddenly--someone yells at me, some honks at me in traffic--it feels like my vagina tightens up! Makes sense now 🤣
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That's why I feel dizzy when I take a shit lol
Not easy to do. Ugh. No ONE NO DOCTOR HAS EVER SHARED INFORMATION with me.! Whom in every day LIFE IS THIS INFORMATION COME FROM?
I agree, this is why I made this channel- because there's so much that can be done to help with anxiety and physical symptoms but people just don't have access to the education they need.
@@TherapyinaNutshell Does pushing down too much end up causing too much tension?
I know this video is old but I have a question to something I can't seem to find an answer to anywhere. whenever I do Kegels, I immediately get anxiety and then I start to feel nauseous to where I have to stop right away, any insight to why this may happen?
Keegles make it worse
I have extremely bad anxiety and my pelvic floor stays tight when my anxiety rises. My question would be can this effect your penis? because I notice when my pelvic floor tightens it feels as if my penis is going to disappear into my body. And yes this is a serious question.
You mean like it shrinks?
This is called CPPS Chronic pelvic pain syndrome i have it and after 5 years i got diagnosed with General anxiety disorder well it all solve up with CBT therapy and daily stretching :)
Hi there, can you explain what stretches you do?
@@SweetTea742 search for pelvic pain stretching on TH-cam and on google.
@@4Paok4Eptalofos so you didn’t do the exercise she exsplains in this video?
Is anyone here trying to learn how to help treat Hard Flaccid Syndrome?
Can a tight pelvic floor muscle cause problems with my penis by reducing blood flow
I wasn't able to follow. I can put a thumb on the belt line and the my other fingers under my but? That is? Its not a square but a line. Then what? Whiggle? Pretend you are trying hard to poop and then relax back?
When you said pelvic floor excerise, this is not what I had in mind.
sorry if I didn't get it right but is it essentially "squeezing your butt cheeks" in layman's term?
In layman’s terms, you’re trying to have a bowl movement without actually doing so. So, to practice the feeling, you can do the opposite by squeezing your butt cheeks while tightening the muscle that allows you to stop peeing on command, then release both of those and let it relax and soften. That relaxed feeling is what you want. You’ll notice you can go a step further and “bear down” as if you were having a bowel movement.
I’m looking for help with this due to autonomic failure following brain infection with complicating mitochondrial disease and small fiber neuropathy. When I clench to do the tighten then release, I think I am doing it but biofeedback shows my muscles fatigue instantly (possibly from being in a partially tensed state all of the time). I’ve done 7 years of PT with different therapists but we aren’t able to stay ahead of my illnesses. Now in addition to the pelvic floor tightness I’ve developed abdomino phrenic dyssynergia which is crushing my organs. It’s very frustrating because I want to use PT to improve my situation but many things don’t work well for me because of the damage to my central and peripheral nervous systems. My body has a hard time talking to itself.
Hey, I don't have the answers to your questions but I just wanted to say I wish the very best for you.
Please check out the Wahls Protocol developed by Dr Terry Wahl. You can watch her talk on Tedtalk (You Tube)
Hey I wish you all the best. What you are going through doesn’t sound easy.
Kirasanban hi.
I hope you will see this. My gut instinct tells me that you should practice and experience Feldenkrais for healing your body. I sure hope you are doing better!
Look up Pelvic release meditation hearing a soothing voice to follow along was a bigger help then doing it myself.
For the past week my anus sphincter has got soo tight that I'm having problems getting stool out without my finger. I think stress triggered it to be tight. How can I fix this ?
I have this issue too having to use suppositories, what did you find helped you?
Mmmmm pelvic floor
Lol 🙈
But when I relax it just makes me want to pee
3:13 that's soo romantic now, only if had a partner
Why don’t you show us instead of just talking?. Just wondering.
This video lacks showing where to place one's hands and how to relax the pulvic muscle.
Stop brushing the mic with your hair 😊
I wonder how she jumps between reading evidence-based research papers, and the stuff in the book of Mormon about ancient Jewish kingdoms in the Americas. Odd.
Huh, my wife is about to get injections because her pelvic floor is too weak. Ill show her this.