This was a little surreal, a video by two lovers talking about dating, but it’s also a very kind way of expressing their feelings, to help others, a lovely way to help others find true love, thanks you two
Thanks for watching and commenting Richard. We just ravel and share what we learn. We were both singel and doing online dating when we met. We met on Tinder in Kuala Lumpur in 2016. Check out out video on that here: th-cam.com/video/0wrTAs0R3VA/w-d-xo.html
Good idea. Another great idea about not putting your profile up until you are actually in a town, is that if you are communicating with someone that is not sincere, they won't be willing to meet with you. They are looking for people outside the country to get them to send money. If they ask you for money, they have no excuse to not meet you.
I enjoyed the topic today it’s much easier to put boots on the ground and meet them the old fashioned way coffee shops and malls work best for meeting a mate
I disagree with this and mainly because we're living in a covid world. it's kind of hard to see what a woman looks like when she's wearing a mask and masks are still mandatory in the Philippines.
@@VagabondAwake Dan , You're a Really Good Guy and I Wish You and Qiang Many More Days , Months , and Years Of Fun and Happiness Together . Stay Blessed
Dan you hit the nail on the head. It’s definitely a numbers game. What men need to realize is that online dating sites (apps) women get bombarded by men. Some Women get hundreds of hits (messages) a day. Men are Lust Magnet’s and we love a beautiful face. So by saying that, the Man’s introduction needs to be eye catching and creative. Not some canned line. That doesn’t get it. Qiang nailed it as well. Most Women are experts at Photoshopping or Filtering Photos. You’ll meet a woman and she’ll age 10 years in 1 second.
Before you get serious with a woman you have to know if she is already been married. There is an adultery law in the Philippines. If her husband files against you, both of you could end up in jail or be extorted. Check the law. She can get a CENOMAR - certificate of no marriage for ~$5.00
Good information from both of you, Thanks! Dating a married Fillipina can be a problem. The husband can go after you legally for having relations with his wife. Annullment is lengthy, expensive and may not have a positive outcome. You can do a records check to see if she is married, but only with her permission. There have be times when the husbands will blackmail someone dating his wife if he finds out about it. There have been cases of husbands finding someone in bed with his wife and killing them with no legal penalty. I think it is called act of passion, or something like that, which is a legal defense there. A new thing I have heard is that the Phillipines will recognize I divorce if the marriage was in a country that allows one. I am not an expert on this just someone who has been learning about such things on good video presentations, like this one. (and I am not seriously looking for a wife LOL. Just may visit the Phillipines some day.)
All good points. I was thinking about the same issues with dating a married woman and what problems can occur if the husband finds out, even when they've been apart for many years.
It's called "saving face". The wife has disgraced the family name. Little or no punishment is done. Yelling at girlfriend/wife or in-law in pubic, can also get you hurt or killed with little or no punishment. If you can't control your anger, I suggest than you seriously reconsider coming here for your own safety.
I read online that dating is not enough, you have to have sex. So, I would meet for coffee only until I had proof she was not legally married. But background check would not be enough to make me feel safe. I would want the government document. pcw.gov.ph/repeal-of-rpc-provisions-on-adultery-and-concubinage/
Yeah, they have annulment...lengthy and expensive - I VC my wife for about 3 months until we met for a total of about 24 hours, no sleepovers, came back to the states and she was here within 6 months and married a month later - 3 years later and a child on the way, and I have never been happier. Life if good - ONWARD!!!
Great story Jon Jaso. Thank you for sharing it with us. Your interaction with our channel helps us get subscribers and views, so we really appreciate it. Best, Dan
Great video Dan & Qiang could not agree more ,meet as soon as possible, no longer than a couple of weeks if not wanting to meet ,I will add also why have contact with someone who lives in different country to you or so far away unless of course your be visiting where they live or they are coming to where you live ,unless your only looking for friendship like Qiang said ,when I was young we used to have penfriends and would write to each other so friendship can work over a long period because one never knows life just might take you near to where a friend lives and visa versa ,anyways enjoy vid lots of solid and great info ,continued best wishes to you both take care and God Bless .☺
Dan & Qiang - love this video I'm in the States now do not plan on going to the Philippines until later this year what do you recommend to connect with ladies there ? Thanks
Thanks for discussing such helpful information. FYI: there is no divorce in the PH., though annulment is possible. But, it is expensive and time-consuming and there is no guarantee that it will be granted.
So true when I was single I had a rule that if I was talking to someone off tinder I’d wanna meet up within a week of chatting to them. Are you in the Philippines now Dan? Just about to leave Dumaguete and this is the first place in the Philippines I felt I could see myself living!
Really appreciate these videos . As I've gone back and watch previous videos. I begin to get wonder about traveling. Social security doesn't take you very far in the United States. It just lets you exist, not live. It would be very hard to leave my two children,that are rasin their own families that has given me three grandchildren. The winters here are extremely cold in Nebraska. It wouldn't be hard to leave Nebraska. Just hard to leave family. Even though I hardly see them.
"Just hard to leave family. Even though I hardly see them." I didn't want to live poor in the US. My social security is plenty in SEAsia, I can save at least $500 a month. A roundtrip flight back to Calif is under $1000, add a few hundred more for Nebraska? Your auto insurance is probably more than $1000. It is your life of course, and there is lots of info on this channel and others.
One thing I would add to those looking to meet someone online; if you're using a dating website don't embellish your profile meaning don't photo shop your pics and don't sugar-coat your age, occupation, or your past. First impressions are everything so make the best of who you are and don't come off as a fraud. He or she will always remember that first meeting.
Hi John Hoin, Great story. You are integrating the ideas I have in another report into this one. Thanks .... When you show up in a new town anywhere in the world, even the USA or Europe, you are at a disadvantage. I have a report that explains how I stay safe when I arrive in a place I am not familiar with yet. Here is a link to that report: vagabondbuddha.com/how-to-travel-the-world-safely/ Thanks for watching and commenting. It helps our business grow. Dan
As I'm not currently in Asia, I can't go on a coffee date with any of the Filipina ladies I've met online. So it's either been text messaging, or the occasional video chat. I'm planning on traveling to the Philippines, probably later this year, and that will be my opportunity to find out who I connect with when I finally meet them in person. At the moment, I'm not really sure how any of this will work out. And I won't really know till I get there.
I think this no divorce situation skews the pool of safe available women towards young women in their 20’s. That may or may not be a good thing for older men.
I stay away from fried foods, at least half my diet is uncooked fruits and vegetables, at least half my meals are eaten at home where I can control quality, I stay away from sugar, fats, and I am a low carb vegetarian. Plus, I introduce healthy flora into my diet whenever possible like sugar free Greek yogurts, and I eat probiotics whenever they are not otherwise available in my diets. But I also live my life. I cheat whenever I feel like it, except for meat, after 40 years a vegetarian, meat isn't even slightly interesting to me anymore. Cheating would be like white sugar, white bread, a donut, ice cream, stuff like that. Once a week or so. Whenever I eat antibiotics for any reason, I supplement with probiotics.
There is no divorce in the Philippines but there is annulment. Annulment costs thousands of dollars and takes years to complete if you can ever get the annulment approved at all. If you commit yourself to a married woman in the Philippines, the husband can ask the police to file charges against you and you can be sent to jail. This gives the husband leverage to blackmail you for money. You don't have to run a background check on your Filipina, just ask her to provide to you a card showing she is not married. This is commonly issued by the Goverment in the Philippines and only cost something like 4 dollars. If she won't do this for you then you probably have your answer. The document is call a "cenomar".
Scott Murdocka, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. Like you mentioned, I would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
Have a relationship with a married person and you are taking a big risk because adultery is considered a crime punishable by a prison term. Here's what the law (Philippines Family Code) says: Adultery is punishable by imprisonment of Prision Correcional in its medium and maximum period ( range of 2 years, 4 months, and 1 day to 6 years imprisonment). Both your wife and her paramour shall be subjected to such punishment if found guilty. So, be careful!!! Thanks again for sharing your observations.....
@@VagabondAwake Hi Folks, I hope all is well. Yes, that is also my understanding. Adultery can only be committed by a wife. You would think that the revised penal code would have rectified that inequity. But, it didn't. So, for foreign men, dating a Filipina - who is still legally married - can obviously be a serious risk. And, the Filipina can also lose certain rights concerning her children. We should be very careful not to harm or exploit them in any way. JMO. :)
There is annulment in the Philippines and one of my friend her marriage was finally annulled within 14 months and it cost 230,000 pesos it was a bit expensive in such a way she was in hurry and she was working in Singapore she told me that you must be there only once you've filed the case after that leave it to the lawyer but make it sure to get the best and affordable lawyer in this thing you can asked some legal advices which I am going to do in 1 year more. As I am all planning to file annulment next year as that's what my lawyer advices me. Well anyway Dan, thank you for sharing your videos I kept watching your past videos especially Dumaguete City that's because I am from that City. I missed it lot. Maybe when you get back there yoi will see something new there as the boulevard there is already bigger. Have a nice day!!!
I think Qiang is right, I heard there is no divorce but there can be special annulments of marriage in Phil but very uncertain and costly if the person can even establish a basis to get one. It seems this is a civil matter under law and not just about RC edicts. You might have to shop around for the right judge to allow annulment. I heard Filipinos can get a 'not-married' certificate to allow them to then get married. I know a woman living in US was married in Phil but later got divorced in US. I really wonder what her status is vis eligibility for marriage in Phil i.e. does Philippines still consider her married? If I married her in US, I wonder what would Philippines recognition be?
Yes is right. I did some reading after she mentioned it. I will do a follow up video. I am chatting with a Filipin layer about this stuff. Some of the stuff you read online is real, some is not. Stay tuned.
My brother met his wife on Date In Asia which is free (and known to have a lot of scammers) but he found a new profile that was just created, an OFW nurse in Saudi, after a year on LDR he met her in the PI between contracts, after another year she got her K1 to the US, and they are now happily married and have 1yo kid, she currently makes more than double what he makes, and she just got her RN license and will soon earn twice what she makes now. Fortunately he got a good one, she is real down to earth and simple kinda gal
mike woodley, YES! I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
I ask a few questions in the initial chat like 🙀 have you been married and do you have any children 😲 it’s illegal in the Philippines 🇵🇭 to have a relationship with a married person > you as a foreigner can get blackmailed from the ex partner 🤗
Hey Mr Macau, thanks for sharing this idea. I appreciate the ideas. Thanks for commenting too. When people comment, our videos are suggested to more people. So thank you so much! Best, Dan
What qiang It's talking about is correct there is no divorce in the Philippines there is only anullment which is very costly and a long process And even after you go through this long process there's no guarantee the judge Will grant it. Additionally it's illegal to date a married woman in the Philippines and can land you in jail!
I think adultery requires more than having coffee with someone. I think you have to do the dirty with them. Since I don't want to be a downer before I even see if I am interested in someone, I would continue to wait until there is mutual attraction before asking for prof of marital status. I would wait until after the coffee to bring up the subject.
Dan, Chung is correct. There is no such thing as divorce in the Philippines. Only annulments. Other TH-cam vloggers have commented on annulments in the Philippines and said they are very expensive. So if you & your wife (or ex-wife) bought something together when you were married kiss it goodbye. Like you say all the time Dan: You're not in Kansas anymore Dorothy!
I think it was a pretty reasonable video in general terms, but your suggestions were overlooked by every commenter who found fault with the divorce bit. So many women want to get married and have kids young in Philippines, maybe family pressure, no wonder the extreme expat age gaps. I suggest you make new videos later, a series, that are country focused, start with "Finding a beautiful woman in Malaysia". You know you will get high viewership, because men dream, and some actually are serious. Interview some women too. There are many cultural differences in countries, and you have good experience. Vietnam has a reputation of being difficult for expats to meet women, it isn't Philippines or Thailand, but I see couples regularly at least in expat neighborhoods. Men just have to come and try, where ever there are men and women, nature happens.
Something else t I worry about. If you hit it off,she moves in with you. A husband not seen in years can get you arrested for adultery or try to shake you down,not to!!!
Mark Meenaghan, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
Martenson Lee, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
You might be surprised Brett, there is a pretty good chance she has done a background check on you. Filipina's can be extremely snoopy to the point of being invasive. Please don't take this wrong, I know and have met a lot of extremely nice women there. Probably a higher percentage than here in the USA. But Prying snoops and scammers are also prevalent over there. Daniel B is correct. You need to accept the Culture, and learn to love the Woman within its confines. On line you don't get to understand her situation. In fact a lot of Filipina's try to avoid letting you see how they live. Even the poorest in America live better than a huge proportion of Filipinas. I met a lady 5 years ago, very classy, very bright. I knew a lot about her before I came over there to meet her. She was a street vender, worked very hard didn't make very much money, but managed to raise 3 kids all honors students. I knew her house was small, and it looked like it was decorated in early American hand me down. Fast forward to my first trip to meet her. She planned everything about the trip to avoid taking me home... Partly because Filipina's with kids tend to be very protective of those kids. But also because she was embarrassed to show me where she lived. Unfortunately, as the saying goes the best laid plans go bye bye fast when the unexpected occurs. In my case I got a small injury heading to the airport, but after 24 hours in planes and transfers, plus an 8 hour Waite for a room. My small injury had grown into a severe wound. We got checked into the Hotel, another BIG taboo crossed there, quite accidentally. and she got me off my feet to examine the problem. she almost lost her cookies, my foot was by this time a bloody pulp. she ran to the drug store got bandages and cleaning solution, and decided I needed more help than she could provide on her own, so she called her mother to ask for help, mother told her to bring me to the house if it was as bad as she said it was. It was. so we hopped on a tricycle and headed about a mile across town through some of the roughest looking neighborhoods I had ever seen. Hung a right at the Mormon temple, a left at the four square church then went rolling down this alley of corrugated steel houses, in various shades of decay. the Trike finally stopped in front of this tiny store with a big cigarette sign on the roof. she helped me off the Trike, down this path beside the store, the stores awnings were wider than the path. she warned me watch your way, puddles are bad for your foot, and sheet mettle might cut your head off. She was right on both counts. We angled back down this winding path about a block and a half only to stop at this Cyclone fence about 6 feet wide and rolled razor wire on top. There was a padlocked gate with a heavy chain that she unlatched. what laid ahead could basically be described as a sidewalk with a steel roof over it the property widened from about 6 feet to 9 feet wide there were a row of coffee cans on the left with herbs growing in them. I had to duck to get under the steel roof. there was a burned out Palm Tree trunk that served as the main structure supporting the roof. On the left was a water spigot. On the right a sink and a little hand built table. the walls were built out of old cargo pallets There was a room that would make old-fashioned outhouses look stylish in comparison, they call them Comfort Rooms, no lights in it. next to that was her dining room, with a picnic table she said her mom built by hand. Its view was the rusting roof of her next door neighbor. The corrugate panels literally ran to her windows sill, when heavy rains fell it would become a waterfall into her house. On the left side of the walk way was a small room with a door on it. inside she had a 3 legged desk she ran her business from. and a hand made bookshelf, filled with her children's achievements. There was about a 30" gap between the top of the office and the tin roof. that's where the family slept and on this evening the girls were hiding. She and her mother laid me out on the picnic table. It seriously was the only space in the house big enough for me to lay down. they made a poultice, and disinfected a couple bandages. They deep cleaned the wound, it hurt like heck. But by the time, they finished, I had learned more about this woman in one hour than I had in a year of chatting with her ...and yes. she is still a very important part of my life 5 years later. Oh as for the Big Taboo... in the Philippines, at least in this town all the hotels automatically charged double occupancy rate... so when I got there and began checking in, I asked the desk clerk if I could get her a spare key, she was going to be coming and going during my stay. They said No Sir, only registered guests. Being the Bull headed American I am I said ok, in that case, I turned to tell her come over and register. but she was hiding off in a shadowed corner. It surprised me. But I called for her to come over anyway. when she came I told her to sign in, I needed two get her a key... she really didn't want to do that. But I more or less forced her. I told her she didn't have to stay, I just wanted her to have access on her own. She dutifully signed in and got the key. When we got in the room. door closed behind us, she looked at me with a fire in her eyes I had only seen once before. She told me in no uncertain terms, never to do anything like that again. Why I asked. She replied, Now everyone at that desk thinks I am your hooker. I am NOT! I apologized immediately.
Great story painter662. Thank you for sharing it with us. Hard to background check someone if you don't know their full legal name, address, etc. Thanks for your thoughts. Plus, your interaction with our channel helps us get subscribers and views, so we really appreciate it. Best, Dan
I spent five years living in Dubai and dated a number of Filipina and Thai women, as well as travelled around Asia. I think expat Asian women are quite different to what you find in Asia. It is probably the more outgoing and adventurous ones who leave to work overseas, but also a lot of expat Asian women will take a job at Mcdonalds in Dubai hoping to find a rich western husband to get their hooks in. The ones who have good jobs and are a bit more financially secure are just easier to be with.
Yes, you raise the most important idea here Rob. We all need to find someone "easy to be with." That is a great thing to have in a relationship in whatever form it arrives. Thanks, Dan
Dan, I think Brett (the subscriber) has a valid reason for verifying that the woman is not married. The Filipino husband could have a violent confrontation with him. If the police were called, Brett would be the one most likely to end up the loser in that situation because of the “no divorce” law. The unscrupulous husband could try to extort money to keep from getting the authorities involved. I love your channels😀. Keep up the good work.
True enough but I think what Dan is trying to say is that "Brett" is, as he says; "putting the cart before the horse." There are several steps that should be gone through first before doing any background check. Brett appears to have never even met this person. So perhaps it would be as well to get to know this person first before doing anything like that.
@@hughjass1044 I agree with you on both points. I have a lot of respect for you and Dan. I just wanted to make a thought provoking add on to the discussion
Great thoughts guys. Yes, I would wait until after having coffee with her before doing a background check. That is for obvious reasons. I would not want to do background checks on 20 different women before I meet them for coffee. First, it is too expensive, second, I think you are asking for sensitive information that could be used to steal identity before she has even met you. If she is smart, she will say no thanks. Keep your cup of coffee. :-) Thanks for commenting guys, Dan
If you are married in the Philippines, your hanging with spouse and you get caught, it is illegal there. You will go to Jail and it will cost you a lot of money to get out, adultery is illegal in the Philippines is prosecuted. That is why he is asking about a background check
Qiang is from Malaysia, Springteen, I have interviewed Qiang and she has her own TH-cam Channel. Make sure to watch her video about how we met and subscribe to her channel. How we Met: th-cam.com/video/h7TwVq90lA0/w-d-xo.html Qiang Interview: th-cam.com/video/t4C_Eg1FrSM/w-d-xo.html Qiang's Channel: th-cam.com/users/HoboVenturesQiang%E8%96%94%E8%95%99/about Thank you, Dan
@@VagabondAwake It's the "Bible of the Red Pill" if that gives you any idea! Tomassi takes an "evolutionary biology" approach to relationships and while he doesn't really have a lot of data to back up his ideas, there have been studies indicating they have some validity. Many feminists object to Tomassi because he says that feminism has encouraged women to pursue relationships as if they're men, and that just doesn't work for them. There's a documentary by a feminist (Cassie Jaye) called The Red Pill that she intended to debunk the "men's rights movement" and she ended up having sympathy for men (she's now "cancelled" in the feminist movement). There's a fair summary of Tomassi's ideas here: th-cam.com/video/vblot9RiULI/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=OnePercentBetter This isn't an endorsement of any of these ideas, but you asked!
Dating a married filapina can be disastrous if the husband prosecutes you both 😲 for adultery you are literally f@$ked. Best to be the first question are you married or have ever been married sorry😭😭😭
Philip Janek, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
Tinder in the Philippines is 70% ladyboys. OK Cupid is good there. Other free ones that are good are Badoo, Date in Asia, and Pinalove, but PinaLove has a lot of pay for play girls and selling camshows. Filipino Cupid is good but you have to pay.
S, Wow! The value you bring to this channel is so appreciated! Would you like to be a guest star with Qiang and I on another video? Hi S Dickinson, Would you like to be a guest start on one of my videos? Here is an example guest star video: th-cam.com/video/ySM_2jAC4v4/w-d-xo.html Your interview could be just your voice or we could do a zoom call showing your face. If you would like to be a guest star and share your story please leave a personal message here: vagabondbuddha.com/contact/ Thank you for your comment. The detail of your comment makes this real for people. If you have a business, service, or TH-cam channel, you could share that on the interview. Best, Dan
Vagabond you both are wrong about doing a back ground check on the person you are interested in before meeting them. there in philippines if you get cought going out with some one that is married you can and will go to jail so you need to know before meeting them they are in fact single if not drop them like a hot potato before you end up in jail. worst that can happen is you get your self into being blackmailed by the other spousal for money. even if you pay the blackmail that will not stop them going to the police in the frist place and still end up going to jail anyways. so what you siad about wasting time and money doing a back ground check is all BS.
You are right overall Mark. But I would just add, adultery is not meeting someone in public for coffee or dinner. The statute requires doing the deed. But you better find out before that happens.
555 It's complicated... I just meet and ask for their cell phone & password... Should they balk, or resist to much... Then I got my anwser... If they ask why, I say I am an ex-undercover Interpole agent and I need to be careful... Should they still resist, I tell them, don't make me arrest you... Unless you want to go all the way to booking, strip search, finger print, background search, and then investigation... If they are still sitting there, I proceed... If they run away, I call them lucky they got away... To me dating is to have fun, and if they can't see through my simplistic sarcastic twist on the get to know one another coffee, then at least I had fun... And she has a great story to tell... I just hope, she doesn't send Big Brother after me...
I might suggest joking in a little more light hearted way because of the nuances in cultural and language differences. On the other hand, if you want someone that wants to play at that level with you in your new relationship, better to put that out early like this so the ones that don't understand what you are doing run in the other direction early.
@@VagabondAwake I always find a challenge fun, my experience tells me I will get board with out the challenge... I might as well be in prison... When I am ploting I often hear the orginal "Mission in Possible" playing in my head... Guaranteed to put a smile on my face... th-cam.com/video/wwpXUn2dF5c/w-d-xo.html
@@t.d.phillips7283 I believe that everyone can find their match, eventually, if you meet enough people. So yes, Mr Phelps, if you decide to accept it, your method could be Mission In Possible.
Interesting what your subscriber asked re background check as to is she married ? before meeting face to face with a girl/boy you have meet online, ( honesty is the best policy) as I know a fella communicated with an asain lady for a year when he arrived his lady had to tell the truth, I am a ladyboy ! imagine his surprise Dan ! no way would he have engaged if he had known the truth, so THAT is another reason to do a background check, is she married, does she have children, is she a ladyboy ! ha ha , good video you two !
Hi eric coyle, Here are three resources I have for that: vagabondbuddha.com/how-to-find-love-in-se-asia/ vagabondbuddha.com/internet-dating-tips-for-world-travel/ (How we met): th-cam.com/video/0wrTAs0R3VA/w-d-xo.html Best of luck, Dan
Trader Geo, Having coffee with a married person in public would not be adultery. I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet (after a coffee in public) for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. Then I would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
pretty sad that you actually have to have this conversation... people are so disconnected.. and if you cant find a woman in the Philippines by just walking down the street, you got serious problems
Thanks for sharing jimmy warsham! It makes our community more interesting. :-) Dan :-) Please grab my free eBook if you haven't already. vagabondbuddha.com/fire-your-boss-travel-world/
Eberhard Ruoff, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
This was a little surreal, a video by two lovers talking about dating, but it’s also a very kind way of expressing their feelings, to help others, a lovely way to help others find true love, thanks you two
Thanks for watching and commenting Richard. We just ravel and share what we learn. We were both singel and doing online dating when we met. We met on Tinder in Kuala Lumpur in 2016. Check out out video on that here: th-cam.com/video/0wrTAs0R3VA/w-d-xo.html
Qiang exudes the pragmatism oft epitomized in the Asian female, she is one smart cookie!
Yes. Very much so. :-)
Great points...I have decided to stay away and hide my profile from the dating sites until my move to the Philippines is complete.
Good idea. Another great idea about not putting your profile up until you are actually in a town, is that if you are communicating with someone that is not sincere, they won't be willing to meet with you. They are looking for people outside the country to get them to send money. If they ask you for money, they have no excuse to not meet you.
Yes, subtle nuances, exactly. Good point. Thanks
I enjoyed the topic today it’s much easier to put boots on the ground and meet them the old fashioned way coffee shops and malls work best for meeting a mate
Boots on the ground for sure 👍
I disagree with this and mainly because we're living in a covid world.
it's kind of hard to see what a woman looks like when she's wearing a mask and masks are still mandatory in the Philippines.
When I was single, I did it all just to increase my chances of finding the best woman possible. I met Qiang on Tinder.
@@VagabondAwake obviously you found a good one but curious have you ever sat and wondered what your life would have been if you didn't meet her?
Traveled the Philippines 22 years ago as saw many things. Married a Malaysian.
When are you headed east Dennis?
@@VagabondAwake I do not understand that question.
THIS WAS GREAT! ...AND WONDERFUL THAT YOU COULD DO IT TOGETHER!❤.
Glad you liked it!!
Dan and Qiang , Enjoyed Both of Your Advice , and Mostly Agree On Tips . Thanks . And Dan , Would Say That You Have Found Ms. Perfect
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@@VagabondAwake Dan , You're a Really
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A very keep it simple approach that makes a lot of sense. I've recently subbed and I love your vlogs. Thanks for sharing!
Awesome, thank you!
Great information and practical advice! Thanks to both of you for being there for us :)
Thank you Steve!
Thank you!
You bet!
Thank you great video
Good information guys.
Thanks for watching and saying hello F&T. I hope you are doing well.
Dan you hit the nail on the head. It’s definitely a numbers game. What men need to realize is that online dating sites (apps) women get bombarded by men. Some Women get hundreds of hits (messages) a day. Men are Lust Magnet’s and we love a beautiful face.
So by saying that, the Man’s introduction needs to be eye catching and creative. Not some canned line. That doesn’t get it.
Qiang nailed it as well. Most Women are experts at Photoshopping or Filtering Photos. You’ll meet a woman and she’ll age 10 years in 1 second.
All great points Byron.
Before you get serious with a woman you have to know if she is already been married. There is an adultery law in the Philippines. If her husband files against you, both of you could end up in jail or be extorted. Check the law. She can get a CENOMAR - certificate of no marriage for ~$5.00
Some couples will get married directly through the Church, which sometimes won't get recorded in the CENOMAR...
I could see a Filipina going to the courts seeking a SEENOMORE certificate. 😆
That is correct Ramblin Man.
Good information from both of you, Thanks!
Dating a married Fillipina can be a problem. The husband can go after you legally for having relations with his wife. Annullment is lengthy, expensive and may not have a positive outcome. You can do a records check to see if she is married, but only with her permission.
There have be times when the husbands will blackmail someone dating his wife if he finds out about it.
There have been cases of husbands finding someone in bed with his wife and killing them with no legal penalty. I think it is called act of passion, or something like that, which is a legal defense there. A new thing I have heard is that the Phillipines will recognize I divorce if the marriage was in a country that allows one.
I am not an expert on this just someone who has been learning about such things on good video presentations, like this one. (and I am not seriously looking for a wife LOL. Just may visit the Phillipines some day.)
All good points. I was thinking about the same issues with dating a married woman and what problems can occur if the husband finds out, even when they've been apart for many years.
I've heard the same things you mention here.
It's called "saving face". The wife has disgraced the family name. Little or no punishment is done. Yelling at girlfriend/wife or in-law in pubic, can also get you hurt or killed with little or no punishment. If you can't control your anger, I suggest than you seriously reconsider coming here for your own safety.
I read online that dating is not enough, you have to have sex. So, I would meet for coffee only until I had proof she was not legally married. But background check would not be enough to make me feel safe. I would want the government document. pcw.gov.ph/repeal-of-rpc-provisions-on-adultery-and-concubinage/
It is very true Frosty
The decoration is great. Do the pictures and cushions belong to you?
This is an Airbnb in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia. We are here for a few more days before we fly to the Philippines.
Yeah, they have annulment...lengthy and expensive - I VC my wife for about 3 months until we met for a total of about 24 hours, no sleepovers, came back to the states and she was here within 6 months and married a month later - 3 years later and a child on the way, and I have never been happier. Life if good - ONWARD!!!
Congratulations. Check back in with us when it's been 10 years.
Great story Jon Jaso. Thank you for sharing it with us. Your interaction with our channel helps us get subscribers and views, so we really appreciate it. Best, Dan
Good practical and common sense advice. Got my attention when you said “beautiful woman….” LOL
Boom!
Great video Dan & Qiang could not agree more ,meet as soon as possible, no longer than a couple of weeks if not wanting to meet ,I will add also why have contact with someone who lives in different country to you or so far away unless of course your be visiting where they live or they are coming to where you live ,unless your only looking for friendship like Qiang said ,when I was young we used to have penfriends and would write to each other so friendship can work over a long period because one never knows life just might take you near to where a friend lives and visa versa ,anyways enjoy vid lots of solid and great info ,continued best wishes to you both take care and God Bless .☺
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this Mike! Dan
Dan & Qiang - love this video I'm in the States now do not plan on going to the Philippines until later this year what do you recommend to connect with ladies there ? Thanks
Stay tuned! Follow up video!
I NEED A 'GUIDE' FOR MY TRIP THERE.
Thanks for discussing such helpful information. FYI: there is no divorce in the PH., though annulment is possible.
But, it is expensive and time-consuming and there is no guarantee that it will be granted.
Good video. I'm surprised you didn't know divorce wasn't allowed in the Philippines Dan, considering your experience and time spent there.
BYOB David. I have always brough my own girlfriend to the Philippines so never had to think about this too much. You guys are teaching me.
So true when I was single I had a rule that if I was talking to someone off tinder I’d wanna meet up within a week of chatting to them.
Are you in the Philippines now Dan? Just about to leave Dumaguete and this is the first place in the Philippines I felt I could see myself living!
We loved Dumaguete. Not in the Philippines yet. Hopefully within a few days. :-)
Really appreciate these videos . As I've gone back and watch previous videos.
I begin to get wonder about traveling. Social security doesn't take you very far in the United States. It just lets you exist, not live. It would be very hard to leave my two children,that are rasin their own families that has given me three grandchildren.
The winters here are extremely cold in Nebraska. It wouldn't be hard to leave Nebraska. Just hard to leave family. Even though I hardly see them.
Maybe try both? Live the winter in the Philippines and summer in Nebraska?
-Nils
@@AsianRomance You've never been to Nebraska in the summer, have you?
@@Falconlibrary never...
@@AsianRomance
The air travel is very expensive. I don't know if I would have enough cash to travel back and forth twice a year
"Just hard to leave family. Even though I hardly see them." I didn't want to live poor in the US. My social security is plenty in SEAsia, I can save at least $500 a month. A roundtrip flight back to Calif is under $1000, add a few hundred more for Nebraska? Your auto insurance is probably more than $1000. It is your life of course, and there is lots of info on this channel and others.
One thing I would add to those looking to meet someone online; if you're using a dating website don't embellish your profile meaning don't photo shop your pics and don't sugar-coat your age, occupation, or your past. First impressions are everything so make the best of who you are and don't come off as a fraud. He or she will always remember that first meeting.
Pure gold. Always under-sell. As a foreigner, you have the goods. Don't be another BS=er! Filipinas will spot you a mile (a few kilometers) away.
Don't leave a open drink on the table.. even coffee..
Untill you get to know each other.
Hi John Hoin, Great story. You are integrating the ideas I have in another report into this one.
Thanks .... When you show up in a new town anywhere in the world, even the USA or Europe, you are at a disadvantage. I have a report that explains how I stay safe when I arrive in a place I am not familiar with yet. Here is a link to that report: vagabondbuddha.com/how-to-travel-the-world-safely/
Thanks for watching and commenting. It helps our business grow. Dan
As I'm not currently in Asia, I can't go on a coffee date with any of the Filipina ladies I've met online. So it's either been text messaging, or the occasional video chat. I'm planning on traveling to the Philippines, probably later this year, and that will be my opportunity to find out who I connect with when I finally meet them in person. At the moment, I'm not really sure how any of this will work out. And I won't really know till I get there.
Only time will tell Bruce.
Instead of divorce, there is the option of legal annulment in the Philippines. That is often a protracted and obviously expensive process.
I am checking on the cost and likelihood of success now for annulments.
I think this no divorce situation skews the pool of safe available women towards young women in their 20’s. That may or may not be a good thing for older men.
The law is actually slanted against the wife too. Read this. www.international-divorce.com/2016/11/philippines-laws-on-adultery.html
I have a totally unrelated question. As you travel around the world, how do you stay healthy more to the point, what do you do to keep your gut happy?
I stay away from fried foods, at least half my diet is uncooked fruits and vegetables, at least half my meals are eaten at home where I can control quality, I stay away from sugar, fats, and I am a low carb vegetarian. Plus, I introduce healthy flora into my diet whenever possible like sugar free Greek yogurts, and I eat probiotics whenever they are not otherwise available in my diets. But I also live my life. I cheat whenever I feel like it, except for meat, after 40 years a vegetarian, meat isn't even slightly interesting to me anymore. Cheating would be like white sugar, white bread, a donut, ice cream, stuff like that. Once a week or so. Whenever I eat antibiotics for any reason, I supplement with probiotics.
@@VagabondAwake - the only way I could survive as a Vegetarian that long is by moving to India, they know how to do it right!
No divorce, but you can get a marriage annulled in the Philippines. I know someone who did that.
I hear so long as you have money ($4k USD), you can get it done.
There is no divorce in the Philippines but there is annulment. Annulment costs thousands of dollars and takes years to complete if you can ever get the annulment approved at all.
If you commit yourself to a married woman in the Philippines, the husband can ask the police to file charges against you and you can be sent to jail. This gives the husband leverage to blackmail you for money. You don't have to run a background check on your Filipina, just ask her to provide to you a card showing she is not married. This is commonly issued by the Goverment in the Philippines and only cost something like 4 dollars. If she won't do this for you then you probably have your answer. The document is call a "cenomar".
Scott Murdocka, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. Like you mentioned, I would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
She is soo beautiful 😊
Have a relationship with a married person and you are taking a big risk because adultery is considered a crime punishable by a prison term. Here's what the law (Philippines Family Code) says:
Adultery is punishable by imprisonment of Prision Correcional in its medium and maximum period ( range of 2 years, 4 months, and 1 day to 6 years imprisonment). Both your wife and her paramour shall be subjected to such punishment if found guilty.
So, be careful!!!
Thanks again for sharing your observations.....
A Filipino told me men can cheat on their wives with single women without going to prison. Is that your understanding?
@@VagabondAwake
Hi Folks, I hope all is well.
Yes, that is also my understanding. Adultery can only be committed by a wife. You would think that the revised penal code would have rectified that inequity. But, it didn't. So, for foreign men, dating a Filipina - who is still legally married - can obviously be a serious risk.
And, the Filipina can also lose certain rights concerning her children.
We should be very careful not to harm or exploit them in any way. JMO. :)
There is annulment in the Philippines and one of my friend her marriage was finally annulled within 14 months and it cost 230,000 pesos it was a bit expensive in such a way she was in hurry and she was working in Singapore she told me that you must be there only once you've filed the case after that leave it to the lawyer but make it sure to get the best and affordable lawyer in this thing you can asked some legal advices which I am going to do in 1 year more. As I am all planning to file annulment next year as that's what my lawyer advices me. Well anyway Dan, thank you for sharing your videos I kept watching your past videos especially Dumaguete City that's because I am from that City. I missed it lot. Maybe when you get back there yoi will see something new there as the boulevard there is already bigger. Have a nice day!!!
Thanks for sharing. $4300 USD is nothing if you can find a great wide for 20 or 30 years!
I think Qiang is right, I heard there is no divorce but there can be special annulments of marriage in Phil but very uncertain and costly if the person can even establish a basis to get one. It seems this is a civil matter under law and not just about RC edicts. You might have to shop around for the right judge to allow annulment. I heard Filipinos can get a 'not-married' certificate to allow them to then get married. I know a woman living in US was married in Phil but later got divorced in US. I really wonder what her status is vis eligibility for marriage in Phil i.e. does Philippines still consider her married? If I married her in US, I wonder what would Philippines recognition be?
Yes is right. I did some reading after she mentioned it. I will do a follow up video. I am chatting with a Filipin layer about this stuff. Some of the stuff you read online is real, some is not. Stay tuned.
Dan and Qiang, you say "make online contacts. What are the best online sites you've found for dating?
Watch again, they said.
We met on Tinder. But okay cupid can be good too.
@@formica. Thanks.
@@VagabondAwake Thanks much, Dan!
My brother met his wife on Date In Asia which is free (and known to have a lot of scammers) but he found a new profile that was just created, an OFW nurse in Saudi, after a year on LDR he met her in the PI between contracts, after another year she got her K1 to the US, and they are now happily married and have 1yo kid, she currently makes more than double what he makes, and she just got her RN license and will soon earn twice what she makes now. Fortunately he got a good one, she is real down to earth and simple kinda gal
They can file for annulment. I do not know what requirements are involved.
Need a Cenomar certificate or problems if you get too close to a married lady
mike woodley, YES! I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
I ask a few questions in the initial chat like 🙀 have you been married and do you have any children 😲 it’s illegal in the Philippines 🇵🇭 to have a relationship with a married person > you as a foreigner can get blackmailed from the ex partner 🤗
Hey Mr Macau, thanks for sharing this idea. I appreciate the ideas. Thanks for commenting too. When people comment, our videos are suggested to more people. So thank you so much! Best, Dan
What qiang It's talking about is correct there is no divorce in the Philippines there is only anullment which is very costly and a long process And even after you go through this long process there's no guarantee the judge Will grant it.
Additionally it's illegal to date a married woman in the Philippines and can land you in jail!
I think adultery requires more than having coffee with someone. I think you have to do the dirty with them. Since I don't want to be a downer before I even see if I am interested in someone, I would continue to wait until there is mutual attraction before asking for prof of marital status. I would wait until after the coffee to bring up the subject.
It is time consuming and expensive but Filipinos can get an annulment.
Dan, Chung is correct. There is no such thing as divorce in the Philippines. Only annulments. Other TH-cam vloggers have commented on annulments in the Philippines and said they are very expensive. So if you & your wife (or ex-wife) bought something together when you were married kiss it goodbye.
Like you say all the time Dan: You're not in Kansas anymore Dorothy!
Thanks for waking people up Marvin!
I think it was a pretty reasonable video in general terms, but your suggestions were overlooked by every commenter who found fault with the divorce bit. So many women want to get married and have kids young in Philippines, maybe family pressure, no wonder the extreme expat age gaps.
I suggest you make new videos later, a series, that are country focused, start with "Finding a beautiful woman in Malaysia". You know you will get high viewership, because men dream, and some actually are serious. Interview some women too. There are many cultural differences in countries, and you have good experience. Vietnam has a reputation of being difficult for expats to meet women, it isn't Philippines or Thailand, but I see couples regularly at least in expat neighborhoods. Men just have to come and try, where ever there are men and women, nature happens.
All great ideas and points Formica! Thank you for sharing, Dan
Something else t I worry about. If you hit it off,she moves in with you. A husband not seen in years can get you arrested for adultery or try to shake you down,not to!!!
Mark Meenaghan, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
I thought you guys were together.
We are. But we both dated online for years before we met.
There is no divorce in the Philippines.... And you can be put in jail for dating somebody that's married even if it's from years ago....
Martenson Lee, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
You might be surprised Brett, there is a pretty good chance she has done a background check on you. Filipina's can be extremely snoopy to the point of being invasive. Please don't take this wrong, I know and have met a lot of extremely nice women there. Probably a higher percentage than here in the USA. But Prying snoops and scammers are also prevalent over there. Daniel B is correct. You need to accept the Culture, and learn to love the Woman within its confines. On line you don't get to understand her situation. In fact a lot of Filipina's try to avoid letting you see how they live. Even the poorest in America live better than a huge proportion of Filipinas. I met a lady 5 years ago, very classy, very bright. I knew a lot about her before I came over there to meet her. She was a street vender, worked very hard didn't make very much money, but managed to raise 3 kids all honors students. I knew her house was small, and it looked like it was decorated in early American hand me down. Fast forward to my first trip to meet her. She planned everything about the trip to avoid taking me home... Partly because Filipina's with kids tend to be very protective of those kids. But also because she was embarrassed to show me where she lived. Unfortunately, as the saying goes the best laid plans go bye bye fast when the unexpected occurs. In my case I got a small injury heading to the airport, but after 24 hours in planes and transfers, plus an 8 hour Waite for a room. My small injury had grown into a severe wound. We got checked into the Hotel, another BIG taboo crossed there, quite accidentally. and she got me off my feet to examine the problem. she almost lost her cookies, my foot was by this time a bloody pulp. she ran to the drug store got bandages and cleaning solution, and decided I needed more help than she could provide on her own, so she called her mother to ask for help, mother told her to bring me to the house if it was as bad as she said it was. It was. so we hopped on a tricycle and headed about a mile across town through some of the roughest looking neighborhoods I had ever seen. Hung a right at the Mormon temple, a left at the four square church then went rolling down this alley of corrugated steel houses, in various shades of decay. the Trike finally stopped in front of this tiny store with a big cigarette sign on the roof. she helped me off the Trike, down this path beside the store, the stores awnings were wider than the path. she warned me watch your way, puddles are bad for your foot, and sheet mettle might cut your head off. She was right on both counts. We angled back down this winding path about a block and a half only to stop at this Cyclone fence about 6 feet wide and rolled razor wire on top. There was a padlocked gate with a heavy chain that she unlatched. what laid ahead could basically be described as a sidewalk with a steel roof over it the property widened from about 6 feet to 9 feet wide there were a row of coffee cans on the left with herbs growing in them. I had to duck to get under the steel roof. there was a burned out Palm Tree trunk that served as the main structure supporting the roof. On the left was a water spigot. On the right a sink and a little hand built table. the walls were built out of old cargo pallets There was a room that would make old-fashioned outhouses look stylish in comparison, they call them Comfort Rooms, no lights in it. next to that was her dining room, with a picnic table she said her mom built by hand. Its view was the rusting roof of her next door neighbor. The corrugate panels literally ran to her windows sill, when heavy rains fell it would become a waterfall into her house. On the left side of the walk way was a small room with a door on it. inside she had a 3 legged desk she ran her business from. and a hand made bookshelf, filled with her children's achievements. There was about a 30" gap between the top of the office and the tin roof. that's where the family slept and on this evening the girls were hiding. She and her mother laid me out on the picnic table. It seriously was the only space in the house big enough for me to lay down. they made a poultice, and disinfected a couple bandages. They deep cleaned the wound, it hurt like heck. But by the time, they finished, I had learned more about this woman in one hour than I had in a year of chatting with her ...and yes. she is still a very important part of my life 5 years later. Oh as for the Big Taboo... in the Philippines, at least in this town all the hotels automatically charged double occupancy rate... so when I got there and began checking in, I asked the desk clerk if I could get her a spare key, she was going to be coming and going during my stay. They said No Sir, only registered guests. Being the Bull headed American I am I said ok, in that case, I turned to tell her come over and register. but she was hiding off in a shadowed corner. It surprised me. But I called for her to come over anyway. when she came I told her to sign in, I needed two get her a key... she really didn't want to do that. But I more or less forced her. I told her she didn't have to stay, I just wanted her to have access on her own. She dutifully signed in and got the key. When we got in the room. door closed behind us, she looked at me with a fire in her eyes I had only seen once before. She told me in no uncertain terms, never to do anything like that again. Why I asked. She replied, Now everyone at that desk thinks I am your hooker. I am NOT! I apologized immediately.
Great story painter662. Thank you for sharing it with us. Hard to background check someone if you don't know their full legal name, address, etc. Thanks for your thoughts. Plus, your interaction with our channel helps us get subscribers and views, so we really appreciate it. Best, Dan
So what happened with her, did you continue your relationship with her...?
I spent five years living in Dubai and dated a number of Filipina and Thai women, as well as travelled around Asia. I think expat Asian women are quite different to what you find in Asia. It is probably the more outgoing and adventurous ones who leave to work overseas, but also a lot of expat Asian women will take a job at Mcdonalds in Dubai hoping to find a rich western husband to get their hooks in. The ones who have good jobs and are a bit more financially secure are just easier to be with.
Yes, you raise the most important idea here Rob. We all need to find someone "easy to be with." That is a great thing to have in a relationship in whatever form it arrives. Thanks, Dan
Dan, I think Brett (the subscriber) has a valid reason for verifying that the woman is not married. The Filipino husband could have a violent confrontation with him. If the police were called, Brett would be the one most likely to end up the loser in that situation because of the “no divorce” law. The unscrupulous husband could try to extort money to keep from getting the authorities involved.
I love your channels😀. Keep up the good work.
True enough but I think what Dan is trying to say is that "Brett" is, as he says; "putting the cart before the horse."
There are several steps that should be gone through first before doing any background check. Brett appears to have never even met this person. So perhaps it would be as well to get to know this person first before doing anything like that.
@@hughjass1044 I agree with you on both points. I have a lot of respect for you and Dan. I just wanted to make a thought provoking add on to the discussion
Great thoughts guys. Yes, I would wait until after having coffee with her before doing a background check. That is for obvious reasons. I would not want to do background checks on 20 different women before I meet them for coffee. First, it is too expensive, second, I think you are asking for sensitive information that could be used to steal identity before she has even met you. If she is smart, she will say no thanks. Keep your cup of coffee. :-) Thanks for commenting guys, Dan
If you are married in the Philippines, your hanging with spouse and you get caught, it is illegal there. You will go to Jail and it will cost you a lot of money to get out, adultery is illegal in the Philippines is prosecuted. That is why he is asking about a background check
Hi Bill, Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. Best, Dan
So is your wife from the Philippines?🤔
Qiang is from Malaysia, Springteen, I have interviewed Qiang and she has her own TH-cam Channel. Make sure to watch her video about how we met and subscribe to her channel.
How we Met: th-cam.com/video/h7TwVq90lA0/w-d-xo.html
Qiang Interview: th-cam.com/video/t4C_Eg1FrSM/w-d-xo.html
Qiang's Channel: th-cam.com/users/HoboVenturesQiang%E8%96%94%E8%95%99/about
Thank you, Dan
Vagabond Awake thanks I was just curious cause use of her accent 🤔
Vagabond Awake thanks for taking your time to reply🙏
All men should read the book "The Rational Male" by Rollo Tomassi to understand female evolutionary behavior.
Hi Fastnail, Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I haven't read the book yet. What are the main ideas of the book? Best, Dan
@@VagabondAwake It's the "Bible of the Red Pill" if that gives you any idea! Tomassi takes an "evolutionary biology" approach to relationships and while he doesn't really have a lot of data to back up his ideas, there have been studies indicating they have some validity. Many feminists object to Tomassi because he says that feminism has encouraged women to pursue relationships as if they're men, and that just doesn't work for them. There's a documentary by a feminist (Cassie Jaye) called The Red Pill that she intended to debunk the "men's rights movement" and she ended up having sympathy for men (she's now "cancelled" in the feminist movement).
There's a fair summary of Tomassi's ideas here: th-cam.com/video/vblot9RiULI/w-d-xo.html&ab_channel=OnePercentBetter
This isn't an endorsement of any of these ideas, but you asked!
Dating a married filapina can be disastrous if the husband prosecutes you both 😲 for adultery you are literally f@$ked. Best to be the first question are you married or have ever been married sorry😭😭😭
Philip Janek, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
Your process is very western
How is yours different Byron?
Tinder in the Philippines is 70% ladyboys. OK Cupid is good there. Other free ones that are good are Badoo, Date in Asia, and Pinalove, but PinaLove has a lot of pay for play girls and selling camshows. Filipino Cupid is good but you have to pay.
S, Wow! The value you bring to this channel is so appreciated! Would you like to be a guest star with Qiang and I on another video? Hi S Dickinson, Would you like to be a guest start on one of my videos? Here is an example guest star video: th-cam.com/video/ySM_2jAC4v4/w-d-xo.html
Your interview could be just your voice or we could do a zoom call showing your face. If you would like to be a guest star and share your story please leave a personal message here: vagabondbuddha.com/contact/
Thank you for your comment. The detail of your comment makes this real for people. If you have a business, service, or TH-cam channel, you could share that on the interview. Best, Dan
Vagabond you both are wrong about doing a back ground check on the person you are interested in before meeting them. there in philippines if you get cought going out with some one that is married you can and will go to jail so you need to know before meeting them they are in fact single if not drop them like a hot potato before you end up in jail. worst that can happen is you get your self into being blackmailed by the other spousal for money. even if you pay the blackmail that will not stop them going to the police in the frist place and still end up going to jail anyways. so what you siad about wasting time and money doing a back ground check is all BS.
You are right overall Mark. But I would just add, adultery is not meeting someone in public for coffee or dinner. The statute requires doing the deed. But you better find out before that happens.
555 It's complicated... I just meet and ask for their cell phone & password... Should they balk, or resist to much... Then I got my anwser... If they ask why, I say I am an ex-undercover Interpole agent and I need to be careful...
Should they still resist, I tell them, don't make me arrest you... Unless you want to go all the way to booking, strip search, finger print, background search, and then investigation... If they are still sitting there, I proceed... If they run away, I call them lucky they got away...
To me dating is to have fun, and if they can't see through my simplistic sarcastic twist on the get to know one another coffee, then at least I had fun... And she has a great story to tell...
I just hope, she doesn't send Big Brother after me...
That's twisted
I might suggest joking in a little more light hearted way because of the nuances in cultural and language differences. On the other hand, if you want someone that wants to play at that level with you in your new relationship, better to put that out early like this so the ones that don't understand what you are doing run in the other direction early.
@@VagabondAwake
I always find a challenge fun, my experience tells me I will get board with out the challenge... I might as well be in prison... When I am ploting I often hear the orginal "Mission in Possible" playing in my head... Guaranteed to put a smile on my face...
th-cam.com/video/wwpXUn2dF5c/w-d-xo.html
@@t.d.phillips7283 I believe that everyone can find their match, eventually, if you meet enough people. So yes, Mr Phelps, if you decide to accept it, your method could be Mission In Possible.
@@formica. th-cam.com/video/soDZBW-1P04/w-d-xo.html 1:40
Interesting what your subscriber asked re background check as to is she married ? before meeting face to face with a girl/boy you have meet online, ( honesty is the best policy) as I know a fella communicated with an asain lady for a year when he arrived his lady had to tell the truth, I am a ladyboy ! imagine his surprise Dan ! no way would he have engaged if he had known the truth, so THAT is another reason to do a background check, is she married, does she have children, is she a ladyboy ! ha ha , good video you two !
Hi eric coyle,
Here are three resources I have for that:
vagabondbuddha.com/how-to-find-love-in-se-asia/
vagabondbuddha.com/internet-dating-tips-for-world-travel/
(How we met): th-cam.com/video/0wrTAs0R3VA/w-d-xo.html
Best of luck, Dan
Please learn Philippines law, it’s illegal to be involved with a married person,you can be put in jail and deported.
Trader Geo, Having coffee with a married person in public would not be adultery. I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet (after a coffee in public) for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. Then I would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
Two weeks? If you're texting that much you're a social spare tire, at best. And Tinder? Didn't everyone just move over to Instagram?
Hello IaintTheHerb, thanks for the chuckle. :-) Dan
pretty sad that you actually have to have this conversation... people are so disconnected.. and if you cant find a woman in the Philippines by just walking down the street, you got serious problems
Thanks for sharing jimmy warsham! It makes our community more interesting. :-) Dan :-) Please grab my free eBook if you haven't already. vagabondbuddha.com/fire-your-boss-travel-world/
You should know if you have a sexual relationship with a married woman in Philippines you can go to jail, I'm surprised you missed that.
Eberhard Ruoff, I do not know the Philippines law, but I read online that adultery requires having sex with a married person. Two thoughts come to mind. I may have coffee with 10 different women before I find one attractive enough to meet for an actual date. I would not do a background check just to have coffee. But I would make sure I wasn't committing adultery before I took it to the next level. A would require a Certificate of No Marriage Record (CENOMAR) is simply what its name implies. It is a certification issued by the PSA stating that a person has not contracted any marriage. Also called a certificate of No Record of Marriage or Certificate of Singleness. That is a government document saying they are not married. That is what I would want, not a background check. If the background check has her name wrong or something and it turns out she is married ... that is not good enough. Thanks for asking. Dan
@@VagabondAwake kind of hard to do, takes the edge of any potential rom
guess first one, dont go for a man/ladyboy
That depends on you. I am into women. You sound like you may be into women too? Sounds like you are teasing or something?
LMAO ,, dating secret for Philippines ,, "have a pulse".
You Found One Beautiful Woman, Latched On To Her And Now You're An Expert !!!??? LOL !!!
Did you wake up this morning and decide to be a pain in the ass, Mick, or is it just something that comes naturally to you?
@@Falconlibrary If You Have A Pain In Your Ass It Cold Be Serious Or It Could Be That You Need To Use A Different Seat. LOL !!!
@@mickeygarcia1876 Dan has a gorgeous model for a girlfriend, you're jealous. I get it.
@@Falconlibrary Obviously, You're Clueless.
Thanks for watching and commenting guys. A back and forth comment stream like this helps our channel get more attention. Thanks again you two, Dan.
Solid advice especially on wasting time before you're going there. 3-4 weeks before you go is plenty. Never ever send money.
Robin, Exactly! Very smart advice. Sending money to me is the only exception. lol. :-) Thanks for the smart advice to our community. Dan