Bang on. What a simple and clear cut explanation. After being in a narcissistic relationship for 10 years and coming out after knowing about this disorder. I can say you have touched most of point. In india people are not much aware about such disorder but we are producing more and more. I wish people become more and more aware about this disorder. It’s literally hell living with such demons. They will literally push you to death still will not regret because you need empathy to feel which they don’t have.
My elder brother is a narcissist and he has made my parent's life hell. We just thought that he is a wicked child, but now only after seven years, we have come to know that he is suffering from NPD. Until now we had been hopeful that things will be fine some day, but now we know that there's no light at the end of the tunnel. My parents have gone through a lot and must get out of this trap now.
I laughed about knowing myself in this video I am exactly like what you said. My brother told me I am a narcissist and I searched about it now I will follow up by showing empathy towards other people and I will care and equally respect everyone and I will not only think of myself anymore.
Hey! Thanks for this video… I have been with narcissist person for 2 years. He was exactly like you explained in the video : manipulative; exploiting others with no shame; self centric; abusive; not appropriating anything; raising hand; not respecting family members; etc etc… thankfully i am alive otherwise he made me suicidal & depressive. This is my second chance to live life my way.
same happened to me.. I lost my job, health, confidence and self esteem...he raised hand on me. 5-6 times slapped😢 I left him. I also had suicidal thoughts.
Hey girl.. More power to you.. Have been abused for 11years with NPD and cpstd due to him yet I learned it and survived it on my way.. Glad to see videos of education in hindi.. You really talk well to simplify it for indians.. Thank you and God bless you 🌹
Whatever you mentioned is 100% true with my Narcissistic wife. But why the world doesn't know about it.. This can't be proved in front of judicial system as well. Need to bring more awareness about it because Narcissistic personality is increasing more and more due to improper upbringing by parents. Parents these days don't have time look after their children. So, this personality is a real threat to society. We can save many innocent people from depression or other Ill effects
Out of many children one may be Narcisst. How parents to blame. They are mad people and cannot be cured. What is cured are the symptoms. If you tell a mosquito it should be veg you are killing it. Narcist feed on there near and dear people.
Narcissist In relationship Family Friends colleagues 1) best Extreme Manner able Aap hi Mera sab Kuch. hai. 2) self love Self centered Feel happy. 3) opinion Sahi hai Trigger never accept mistake. 4) cheat Abusive Manipulate Khush Kyu ha 5) tareef Sunna Boht Pasand hai jis ches ko aam ko amm correct kesay kea. 6) ghelt ko b waj wah 7) criticism 8) use kea 9) yah Kiya ker rah es SA ahca toh mein kersakta hu 10) gaslight jhoot Mukar Jana aglay ko ghelt kerna. 11) low high kingdom 11) use
My narcassist father sold my body organs and made me a handicap. I was a national basketball player, then he hospitalised me at the age of fourteen by giving me poison and taking me into coma. When I came to consciousness I was told by the doctors that I have juvenile diabetes. Today at the age of 40 I am walking with crutches and I am addicted to insulin whereas in reality I have low BP. And he keeps me hungry and abuses me all the time. I was a teacher in Germany and earned in Euros. I don't know what to do.
How to deal with narcisistic parents.. Both my parents go thru my room and throw away my belogings without asking me , i feel violated as a girl and even when i cry they r completely emotionless , they act so different in public but ghar mai they r completely shit 😭😭
@@zainabalig514 but how maine 2 days phle hi kha moma se k aap mujhe depress kr rhi ho then she said mai kr rhi yaa tum mujhe kisi ki zaroorat h jisse tumhare hrkt bta sku i mean literally agr wo full conservative h too iska mtlb ye nhi k unke bche v waise hi soche jaisa wo sochte h 😔 hamari thinking alg h maybe liberal h aur aaj tk maine unke against kuch aisa nhi kiya jisse unhe srmendegi mehsos ho but wo chahte h wo sb chiz mai kru wo jo khte overall wo mujhe apni katputli bna k rkhna chahte h at last hun to insan hi apni v kuch wish hogi ho skta h thinking different ho meri too wo kyu nhi smjte h??? kaise smjhau itne din se manage kr rhi hun but now I am going to turn 18 ab nii ho rha phle ingore krti the unki baate i was thinking wqt hi h beet jayega but ab in sb se literally depression ho rha din bhr sona acha lg rha ya mobile use krna even phle mai daily 6hrs at least self krti the but... Ni ho rha manage akhir kb tkk???
@@aafiya987 just live your life the way you want to live. You are not responsible for other' happiness. Unko khush karne ki ya unse validation lene ki koshish karogi to b vo nahi badlenge balki isse tumhari hi mental health kharab hogi. Btw I am turning 19 soon and I fought with them whenever they tried to control me. I choosed for myself whenever I could. Also I allignated myself from them. They are still the same I still feel depressed around them. Ab vo is baat ko lekar tension m h ki shayad m hostel jaa kar unhe yaad b na kru. I hope my experience helps you just don't be the one who always compromises for other's happiness. Vo nahi badalne wale kuchh b kar lo. So just live your life.
I came to know about this (narcissistic )topic from your video...I don't know about this word before... but when you start explaining about the behaviour of a person having a narcissistic personality...Then i realize that i am with a narcissistic person...i was thinking that the reason behind of his behaviour is due to our long distance but now i get it...This is about a disorder...Thanks for your explanation...This will help me alot in my relationship...Thanks to god that i know about it early...
Recently came out of a narc relationship. The worst part of this kind of relationship is you wont realize how wrongly you are being treated till you come out of it. My ex is a narc and she made my life very difficult. At first she used to do all the things which I desired from my partner. She totally build a perspective like she was a person whom I cannot have or difficult to find a person like her. Then once I was in her fake made up personality she slowly started violating my personal boundaries like my office things, my friends and other things. If I would oppose she would react as if I have done something major wrong. Silent treatment was given to me. Manipulated me like I was at the fault. She was really hard to please.. no matter what I did. It was never enough. She used to talk and think very negatively like nidhi said. She couldn't handle criticism. Created fuss in small small things. And finally... something happened between us and she her self brokeup. I am still not able to understand why she brokeup maybe I started standingup for myself and was no more a puppet. I am really thankful it happened.. if you are into one or you can relate to the video pls pls walk away from narc. You cannot fix them or make them understand that they are wrong. It is worthless. So save your self. No matter how beautiful or charming the person is or how great the sex is or anything else just walk away.
I am having same story with my bf after 3 4 month of relationship he started showing his true colours and by mistake i fall for hi charming and caring personality and had physical with him which i have never done which is very very big thing for me. Now I'm getting mental trauma day by day i want to be with him but not with this personality 😣 he will make me suicide I don't break up with him but i seems really really difficult.
@@Haryanvigirlishu yesterday he abuses me bitterly when he gets angry on pitty things and I started abusing him back 🤣🤣. And today he was feeling sorry whatever he has done in anger. But all will go in vain when he will get angry so I don't trust anymore I'm just trying to make him more and more angry so he leave me 😭. I don't know how he acts sweetly when we meet offline but his behaviour is very bad on phone. And he said he will beat me if I don't listen to him. No one has right to beat me who the hell he is.
I have spent 8 years... today I came out finally...but still scared if she make it more critical... because they can't feel other...they do what they like to do...she can't even take funny criticism...she dnt have any friends... actually she can't make it...she judges everyone...even her father...in frnt of her poor people or who is lower then her profession, she treat them like animals....
Bro. You hv poured your heart out writing this comment i know how much it hurts. Been there.. its a text book theory that all narcs follow. Idealise, devalue n discard.. u wont see this bullet train coming towards u until u are hit and crashed to pieces by it. I wish this on no one but try to be urself in any relationship from the beginning coz if you try to people please out of your own childhood traumas ull give a nutrition fodder to the narcissistic partner to feed on u. Setting boundaries means treat everyone equally dont put anyone on pedestal from beginning of any relationship coz u dont know what demons resides in the other human u dealing with. These narc creatures can suck the life out of u if you behave mushy mushy to them. Day one u need to recognise their patterns of their past relationships coz they hv left many good people damaged behind them .. a train wreck so to say. They are on a rampage of destroying good ppl along the way. Walk the fck away and try to heal asap. Theres nothing left in those relationships where u are constantly waiting for ur partners approval based on what type of mood they are in. Damaged evil souls as they are they will make u one if u stay longer.
My ex bf was narcissist, he always try to pull me down, never say sorry, always hurts me and told me those that always I end up crying. He is like everyone is fool in this world and he is like Einstein, he used to say his fashion sense is better than Allu Arjun, he used to manipulate me and said always I told this u r always used to forget
Narsisist to mera wala bhi tha..lekin bahut beizzati karta tha bahut ...par jab main chhor deti thi ...sorry bahut bolta tha ..bolta tha mar jawunga ye wo
I m staying with a narcissistic from last 7 years ...no one else but my husband.....all the characteristics you described are exactly same with his behaviour.....I tried each and every thing to make him happy but all in vain ....now my child is 4 years old.His abusive behaviour and superiority complexes compelled me to step out of this marriage.......i was confused but after watching this video I decided to leave him permanently and to save my son from him.. .thankewwww
Mam may be you are misunderstanding him. Look for following factors:- 1. Has he isolated you from your family. 2. Has he isolated you from your friends. 3. Does he criticise your friends. 4. Does he control what you wear. A single video might not be enough to come to a conclusion. A narcissist hardly has true friends and has relations just for benefits. They "chose" their friends. Actually friends just become friends and there is nothing like choosing a friend. A narcissist typically has friends who are way younger than him or her, that gives him control. He typically tries to isolate you from your parents, siblings and relations. I too am struggling with similar issues and first thing i did was to look for videos about narcissism, i also had video about whether am a narcisssit just to have a deeper insight.
Thanks for this video..its really life changing for many.... i have also faced this situation ... although it was a love marriage 18 years ago...lmy life after marriage was full of criticism and blaming etc .. although he is good ,loves me too.... but his narcissistic traits were killing me inside...i lost my worth... felt worthless.... developed many health issues..... But the story started changing since few years...i started practicing all the tricks explained in this video somehow with gods blessings.... i removed all expectations... I accepted the fact that his nature can't be changed...i started making myself distant from him from inside... started doing regular prayer and breathing meditation.... and started focusing on becoming financially independent... Now i am in much much much better position...all my health issues has resolved...i m emotionally much balanced and strong....i feel good from inside....his behaviour has become better than before ...... but I don't care much....i try to not react on anything... neither interfere in his business........
This is absolutely terrible..I am daughter of a narcissist. I gone trough this n nw its too late..she already harmed me psychologicaly..she succeeded what she wanted..now i am not able to get married..what she always wanted..my student life ruined..she insulted me infront of friends n teachers..she plays so many mental games..its hard to explain..n yes she uses other siblings ..ganged up n torturing mentally n somtime phisically..now I am going through severe depression..I used to be a vry enjoying person with friends ..now I forgt how to smile..she played with my emotions so much making confusion ..n now I find love is hard..I dnt knw what she got frm all these.. now she exploiting my brother..torturing him emotionally..make him feel guilty..make him starve ..next level torture
Ye info sabko pata honi chahiye, bahut Jyada toxicity h Apne surrounding mein aajkal. Manipulation,love bombing, passive aggressive behaviour and cheating ye Sab red flags h
We had a mam in our higher education level who was narcissistic and used to constantly devalue the weak ones, total obsessive about looks and achievement, highly competitive, envious and seeking admiration. Had bad times when she used to humiliate me infront of people.
I remember when I was in 9th grade there were some guys who were narcissists,they used to make me uncomfortable by making sexual remarks in the name of jokes and would point out small mistakes of others.But if a teacher or any other student pointed out their mistakes they used to argue and create ruckus.
It's not as simple as that, they were just bullies/rowdy boys you can say. NPD is a disorder and we all can exhibit some signs of narcissism. What Nidhi shared in the video are common signs of a full blown narcissistic person.
Just this month my 1+yr relationship with a narcissist got over.. I'm glad for whatever happened.. atleast I'm alone rn.. but i no longer have to go through his shit..
Also hey, narcissism is a personality disorder and has a spectrum, we all can have some characteristics unless you're everything she said in the video, then you should try therapy.
आप ने 100/% सत्य बोला मैम मैंने भी 2 शाल डील किया लेकिन उसकी मंशा पूरी नहीं होने दिया और उसके अस्तित्व से रूबरू कराया ताकि आगे किसी को धोखा ना दे आप का बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद आप की इस जानकारी से ना जाने कितने लोग निकल पाएंगे 😊
One thing to always remember is that you should not treat narcissists like they are because they are sick, their infection is dangerous, so as long as you are in that environment, you should provide a calm and friendly environment from your side.
LoL u either are one or have no idea how destructive these ppl are. Providing calm environment doesn’t make any difference as long as they make effort to change.
@@abhasrivastava2691 I think dunia ko na hi batay to aacha hai kuki koi believe nhi karega..isliy khud samjh kar apne safety k liy jo step ho sakta hai wo le..
Duniya ko batane ke lye mjhe to mere narcissistic husband ki call recordings mili (due to god's grace) jisme wo apne parents se bat krte the 😂....mtlb is had tk un lgo k plans chlte the mere khilaf...arrest kra dnge ...marne ka hi soch liya mjhe....ise akelapn feel kra ye wo mtlb total gaslighting k plans b the usme...now I have left him aur logo ko proofs b dikha diye mne aur even uske relatives ko b bhej diye sb proofs🤣 jha usne mjhe jhut bol bolke bdnam kr rkha tha
I visited a restaurant. The server was being mistreated bya manager with a hot temper creating a drama attacking a brand new employee with little training because her co workers all called off sick. This wreched task master would not roll up his sleeves to train her but yelled at her to do dishes and take drive up orders and yell at her for not clearing off tables and she waited on me the bestshe could and I noticed the security cameras recording all this. A few days later, she no longer works there, and I asked the owner why she is not working here and he told me she was not qualified according to what his assitant manager said. I asked the owner if these camers are hooked up to a video tape machine and if so, does he keep a regular library of videos and he said yes we do. Why do you ask? I told him about that evening i came and what i saw, and that none of the employees came to work and how this employee did more than this narcissistic assistant manager did by gas lighting her and yelling at her with no mercy! He went to his office and ran the tape and the woman got her job back and the other manager who fired her was chewed out by the boss showing his assistant the tape had him terminated from his job. I give God praise for providing this woman a witness and devine deliverance. I cannot imagine the type of upbringing some people had that corrupted them or know the causes of such personality disorders.
u explained it very well...main itne salo se yehi soch rha tha ki meri gf normal behave kyn nehi karte ..mujhe nehi pta tha ki Aisa kuch disorder v hain..but she is not normal...jab main musibat me hota hu to wo kabhi help nehi karta or koi dusra mujhe help kare to pagalo ki tarah ladte hain...she enjoys while m suffering.. she can't tolerate if I talk good things about my dog ... she hates my all friends bcz I have good moments with them in past...not even in present times...she always explained how she is great in her village, how society treat her father...they have so much of property...but this all fake..she is just a sweet talker...if its came to action she just make story that how u explain... she use me like a device whenever I am unable to talk to her for 4-5 hours and can't praise she treat me like nothing..... their mind is so strange...once they make you feel like you r everything and the next second u felt like u r the worst .... they cheat frequently but while they caught they just laugh like they did nothing..its normal....they are demons.. thnq for educating the society... finally I came out the relationship...but she can't digest that how can someone below her status left her..
Mujhe NPD hai.....ye mjhe tab realize jab mere saare relationship khrb ho gye.....tb mjhe iss bimari k baare me pta chala.......Ye mjhe mere father se mila hai aur unhone bht torture kiya bachpan me....meri mother ki jindagi bekaar ho gyii hai.....uske husband aur sirf 1 ladka dono ek trh hai.......Mere pass suicide krne k alwa aur koi option nhi hai because it is near impossible to change your behaviour that you nurtured in the childhood......mjhe nhi pta chala ki mai yese kyun behave kr rhaa huuu.....kyoki meri ek alg hi duniya hai....illusion se bhari hui.....na mai sadness feel kr sakta huu naa happiness naa love naa hate.... actually I have no feeling......Jo log bhi mera comments padh rhe....please jab apka baccha childhood me ho to please usko chahe kch do ya na do......empathy jaroor dena nhi to wo monster ban jaayega aage jeevan me......please it is request.....
Kosis Karo Bhai life me sb possible hai Suicide solution nhi hai ...agr acknowledge kr pa rhe ho ki ye problem hai too shi bhi kr skte ho...bs shi hone se phle marriage Mt kariyega aapko pta hai kyo... meri wife narcissistic hai mujhe ye 1 saal baad pta lg rha hai Mai kuch time aur dunga fir dekhte hai jo bhagwan ki marzi...
Mere sasural me to saare hi narcissistic personality disorder person h meri saas 52 meri wife 28 dono ke narck same ke sath maa beti bhai bhin ye naracssistic character less mentally finished...
Imagine watching this video to know about other person but you find out that you're the one who's narcissistic (kind of ) not 100% but 40% but that maybe because of immaturity because i am just 18 yrs old and its totally understandable teenagers behave this way and also because of childhood trauma and other stuff atleast i had the guts to accept that i have SOME of these traits
YAAAS! good work Nidhi! You highlighted the main characteristics, sadly not many ppl discuss this/want to acknowledge this is India. But people with these disorders are everywhere around us. Because I have done extensive research and am passionate about this subject, I was hoping you will use terms like love bombing, new supply, future faking and cognitive dissonance etc, "because you talked about them all briefly.." However I understand that you might've wanted to make these concepts easy to understand so you skipped the terms but great job, I can finally share this with my family since it's in Hindi.
This is a wonderful video giving accurate description of such personalities. As per my experience in life many partners just carry on with such people because of lack of clarity about such behaviours. Nidhi you did a good job in this video. I would like you to come out with more videos suggesting solutions . God bless you.
Video is overall awesome....my favourite part which made me ur fan....starts at 9 mint.....the statement about low status friends u stated.....i always thought of this about a person and gossiped with someone about her and low status friends of her....and she was ruling them .....and feeling like a king....and than gaining energy ,charging from them ....and than feeling that i m some special person....my friends thinks i m very intelligent and superior person so....u shud also adore me....and praise me.....and give me special place ...because she strongly belives herself superior from that energy and special attention provided by her crap friend.... I simple desi haryani words They say... Andha mein kaana raja.... Means one eye person ruling the blinds .....and feeling superior because he can atleast see.....as the blinds cant......narcissistic person always finds a company of blinds.....to get that energy....... But problem occurs wen they apply that energy ,(which they always do) to person who has both eyes....
Di appne Bilkul bilkul sahi kaha her ek baat sahi Kahi meri saas mera husband dono ko ye problem h. Mujhe bimar bana diya inlogo ne. Ab mene apne apko detach ker liya h. Singing karti hun apne kaam me apne aap me rahti hun. Apne bilkul sahi kaha inko koi nahi badal sakta. Inlogo ke saath rahna matlab apne aap ko kho do. Thanks di. Kosis kerti hun khus rahne ki. Aaki baato se khuch help hoti h. Thanks
Mam aap ne jo bhi khaa wo sb mere papa ke andr My father exploid my mother, he do emotional blackmail that he will kill himself and much more, I don't want to psychiatrists mam do you have some online course to treat my father
Exactly meri bibi avi ese hi behave karti hai 😢15 saal ka relationship ho chuka hai mujhe avi pata chala hai, bahat pyar karta hu 😢😢kaise deal karu pl suggest 🙏
It is a life threatening life destroying mental illness dear. Watch doctor ramani's vedio. You will be blown away to know the reality of narcesstic people and how many lives are totally destroyed by them.
meri b bilkul esa problem hai. i am a canadian who married indian girl in 2 weeks. very sweet. after her coming to Canada, i was finished, completely. i am now mental (gaslight) with addiction problems (from anxiety, living with someonewho wants you dead is difficult), many legal issues, can't see my kids, career ruined from trying to take care of her and fix her. but nothing works. thanks i still want her back.. and will use this diagnosis to be accepting
Maam i too faced a problem by three of my college collegues whose behaviour is extremely narccistic. Thing is that i had loved one of those girl in college and I didnt expressed it due to fear of rejection and bullying from other collegues , but sadly it didnt happened as she had someone who never told or expressed privately/ publicly and married that guy for which i was heartbroken. One of her friends was extremely narrcist and she has misbehaved and threatned me to not mix with the one whom i loved and that girl always show off in social media, wearing luxury dresses, visiting cafes and bars which we often see. I was mentally and brutually broken for that incident for which i went into depression which happened last year but i moved on happily forgetting all those people and memories....
My husband is narsiccist.and sasu ma .is narsiccist. Mam aapane bahut achaa vidio bnaya muze bhuut fayda mila.mai 20 sal se inke torchur sah rahee thi aab aapki vidio me samaz aaya. Ki kaise inse deel karna hai. Thanks.mam.👌👌🙏🙏😊😊😀😀
A. How to know a narcist people in relationship? Stage 1:-Love bombing & Idealization 1. They show himself as a generous person,helpful person,culture person,religious person.They used their charming personality,inteligence,beauty to trap you in their love.At first they started giving show so much caring,so much love,so much time,attention, started praising your beauty,your qualities.Due to this you started ignoring narcistic people other aspects like their nature, behaviour,personality.If you want to save yourself from their trap then dont fall in love for beauty,attraction or intelligence. 2.When a person try everything very fast..Like meeting,dating,talking,gift giving..They do all this because they don't want to give time to you for thinking and use your IQ to difference what is right or wrong.This is called love bombing. They attached their code in your mind. 3. Stared future faking like show big future of love relationship, always try to attract other person through offering sex,time,costly gift and seductive talk. 4. They started mirroring you that means first they collect knowledge from you what you like and what you dislike.Then they started liking, interest in those things in which you have like or interest to show empath that his mentality and empath mentality is totally same.They can read and copy you and also their behavior change as per people intentions..Their face mask changed people to people.. 5. They always hide their feelings and always show themselves as victim.Like family,friends,society all are against them and they always play victim card.They show themselves as very lonely,in problem,no one is for them.They show themselves such type of victim as they want heeling or support from other person. 6. They always like compliments from you but they dont give any compliments to you. 7. If you ask any question to them they will either delay ,avoid to reply or may change the topic. They never give direct answers to you. 8. During converstaion they always change the focus and topic towards themself. They never give you chance to express your thoughts.Ex-If a narcist go for shoping with his friends if you ask them,how is your shoping? They dont tell you about what they did shoping whereas they may say one of his friend jealous with him for his dress,they may say that in mall some girls stabing them in bad intentions.They create this type of fake story to make attention of other person towards him in every conversation. 9. They always target people who have strong personality, higher status than them or have lower status than them. Most of toxic relationship are comes under narcistic people. 10. They afraid when you talk about marriage with them because they afraid of taking any responsibility of marriage. Stage -2-Devaluation 1. Sometimes available sometimes not available.Avoid,ignore game,late reply,devaluing once they know you are fall in love with him.They ignore you for many reason like to get attention, admiration,energy from you.They also ignore you if you expose them or red handed caught them in telling lie or Cheating.They may ignore you if they found any other person in their life. They may ignore you as a punishment to control you and to make yourself dependent on them. 2. Never admit own fault.Telling lie in every matter. Shift own blame to other.If he red handed caught in telling lie then never admit own fault instead of started criticism to other person.This is called gas lighting.They started prove you that you are over possesive,over sensitive. 3. Used manipulate word,love word to others when he feels other person is far away from him. To hold on you or use you as a option for long time they confusing you showing love sometime. Sometimes show love and affection where as sometimes angry and quarrel with you on sily matters. 4. If you want his help for any situation he ignore to help you or they act like he forget or totally deny. 5. They always fall in love for sex, beauty,status not for love or emotions because they have no emotions at all.They always set a goal in every relationship.To achieve that goal they may go to any extent.They always cheat their partner in relationship. 6. Narcist always try to control you.They try to cut you from your friend circle, family circle.They do this because they want that you only depend on them for talking,visiting and giving time..They dont to see you happy..and ultimately it creates co dependent relationship with them. 7. Sometimes they will like you. Sometimes dislike you.They always try to confused you. 8. After marriage they withhold sex to manipulate you.They used sex as a tool to control you or dominate you as per their will.Sometimes they dont do sex with their partner to control their partner. They are emotionless.Sometimes they show their love with physical touch to your body.If they stop touching your body to show love then you may make sure that narcist got any other person for them. Stage-3-Bring another person Triangular love 1. They bring another person to his life and introduce him with his current partner. 2. They will bring the type of situation where he avoid current partner and say current partner to adjust with his new partner.He may try with manipulate words,silent trick and avoid game. Through this type of work he forced his partner to accept his new relationship. 3. If you ask anything to narc about their new relationship they always tell you that you are over sensitive,over possesive, over caring,you are wrong,your thought process is wrong. Ex- They tell you that one of my friend text me and ask me about my beauty.when you ask who is she? Then they show you his mob screen shot to show himself very clean but hide the other part of conversation to confuse you and show you that you are wrong. 4. Sometimes they knowingly started argue with you till your all energy drain.They may not stop arguing with you till you are accepting your fault or say sorry to him.They want to blame you for everything. Stage-4- Discard When they think that you are over possesive or not go as per their intentions then they will block you, discard you.They suddenly stop talking with you and started boycott,discarding you. Stage 5- Hoovering After 1 month,2 month or 6 month even if after 1 year they suddenly unblock you,started message you or started talking with you,recontacting you. They started all this because at that time they have no option,supply with him,there is no one with him.Thats why they need you. And again they started the same cycle with you till a another person come to his life. B. How to save yourself from narcist? Ans:- 1. Just block him from every social media and never comeback to narcist person life. Go ahead and move on. Never in this life time try to contact narcist. If you try to contact with him they will definitely take revenge with you and will do the same cycle.If in future they text you or call you then dont talk with him or dont reply them.Dont prove them they are wrong and dont criticise them.If you reply them then they will started manipulating talk and their words will destroy your mind and peace.They will attach their code in your mind and you again faceing problem to avoid them.They will comeback to your life only to take revenge.Remeber You are narcistic people big enemy because you escape yourself from their manipulating game.This thing hurt their ego. 2. Don't search love from outside of the world.Connect yourself with god for love.see yourself as Krishna point of view.Love Krishna and serve Krishna.Everything in world is false.Every relationship is false.Love Krishna and do bhakti to krishna. 3. Don't expect love,validation from outside world.Your good work will be reward by god oneday.Became a partner of yourself. Never depend upon anyone. Believe on Krishna and depend only on Krishna.Always focus on your goal. 4. Always stand for your own feeling. Don't go for those people who never respect your self respect. 5. Change the nature of loving others after getting insult or devalue from them. Make self respect your first priority. 6. Set boundaries for yourself. Stop believing what others saying good about you,why others showing good behaviors towards you.Narcistic people may compliment you,respect you or give credit to you as per their need from you.They know that you are hunger of validation.They used it as a weapons to manipulate you or take their work from you. 7. Stop explaining and defend yourself. They will never admit that they have any fault because they don't want to loose control over .so don't waste your time on them. Krishna knows very well who you are and what your intentions is. 8. Don't respond or give reaction to their silent treatment,anger . You may follow silence to their every reaction.If you don't follow silence then your own energy are taken by them and you feeling extreme tense and depression. 9. Never make victimize yourself in front of others to get symapthy from narcist or other persons. Never wants sympathy from others.Work on yourself and get out from your problem without wanting help from others.Believe in Krishna. 10.Never expose your plan infront of themself or expose themselves that you know that he is narcist. 11. Always work up on yourself.Work upon your weak point so that in future no one able to use your weak point against you. Do meditation daily to clean your aura. Balancing your masculine and feminine energy with meditation. 12.Never brings expectations while making any relationship.Never share your expectations with anyone.Just remember people will come to your life as per my karmic account and one day they will go from my life once my karmic account will close with those person.
@@aishwaryanegi2620 Thankyou Aishwarya. But the reality there is no solution to this. Sometimes it feels like I'm done but don't know what keeps me going on
Ahh. I can feel your pain. Born to a malignant narcissistic father and a BPD psychotic mother with high narcissistic traits. Assault from hell since day one! Seems like a cruel joke
मैडम यह बताइए कि अगर विवाह साथी नारसिसिस्ट है और वह गलती के लिए क्षमा मांगता है तो उसे क्षमा कर देना चाहिए या नहीं। क्या क्षमा मांगने के बाद उसमें सुधार संभव है?
Just came accross this video on TH-cam randomly, Coming from a field of Psychology I really don't appreciate the way you talk about Narcissistic people, the way you're saying and the tone you're using puts them under a wrong light as if they're purposefully like this and they chose to be Narcissistic. But Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness which has some deep rooted cause, They don't choose to behave like this but because of various causes like environmental, Genetic and Psychological their personality gets shaped in that way. Also, It's completely Okay to talk about disorder but always try and put accross your point in a way that it doesn't hurt someone anyone because if we also follow this approach then we are only stigmatizing Mental Illness. And Just a small note if you have that information about Narcissistic Personality disorder people then let your audience know that such people can be managed with psychotherapies. We study to treat people like them, Don't put them under a wrong light just for the sake of the video because again they don't chose to be like this. And a little bit sensitivity towards any kind of mental Illness will be very very very helpful. Just want you to know, I am not sending hate it's just coming from the knowledge and Experience I have gained by far working in this field and when you're making videos like these , I really want you to know full and factual details so that you can spread to your audience as well. Thankyou.
Madam i think narcissistic people deserve even more rude and demeaning tone for them. Do they think before totally destroying others lives even their family members, children then why should we bother about them. And i think you need to study more about these empty narcissistic people because you cant change them. They will die as a narcissistic person. I have personal bad traumatic experiences with 3 narcissistic people and i know very well what they are and i hope you dont get one then you might not be as sympathetical towards them as you are now. There is a hell lot of difference between studying about someone and living your day today hell life with them. They are like predators always ready to torture someone. Emotionless stone-hearted, cold blood murderers, self obsessed animals in form of humen. They all need a kick on their ass.
Only 0.0000001% cases are treatable & other emotionless killers!bcoz they are demons according to mother nature curse theory!& they are also supported by demonic entities!If u dont believe then I will show u so many example & also warning for u !treat bipolar disorder ,mental ill but never treat narcs bcoz they suck ur all positive energy bcoz basically they are energy vampires!With regards for ur safety 🙏
@@MrinalM. Okay, Completely understand from where you're coming from, But being from the field and working in this field for past 7-8 years I have a share no. Of experience that is the reason I am saying that no matter what kind of personality disorder a person is suffering from in the end it's a disorder which cannot be cured but managed. In my message as well I wrote that it can be managed and there are various therapies that we can provide to the person in such times. I completely understand the hardships you have faced due to Narcissistic person but let's not forget we don't get mentally ill, we acquire it through various causes. Therefore, I am not telling you to be empathetic but atleast you can be open to knowledge and gaining information so that if you find someone who might have narcissistic traits so you can just advice them to visit a therapist and As a therapist it's our job to help them manage their symptoms and help them get better and treat others in a more better way, Only like this we all can support and promote mental health.
@@DRxNIKHILTANDON Ha-ha, Thankyou for your concern. I really appreciate it. Also, I have not mentioned anywhere that they can be treated or cured, I have used the word "MANAGED".
Same mna b aik aisa insan sa khud ko attach kr leya mja phla idea ni tha ka wo narcissist person ha..wo mja puri tarha apna control ma rkhna chahta jaisa jaisa ap na kaha ha
Bang on. What a simple and clear cut explanation. After being in a narcissistic relationship for 10 years and coming out after knowing about this disorder. I can say you have touched most of point. In india people are not much aware about such disorder but we are producing more and more. I wish people become more and more aware about this disorder. It’s literally hell living with such demons. They will literally push you to death still will not regret because you need empathy to feel which they don’t have.
My elder brother is a narcissist and he has made my parent's life hell. We just thought that he is a wicked child, but now only after seven years, we have come to know that he is suffering from NPD. Until now we had been hopeful that things will be fine some day, but now we know that there's no light at the end of the tunnel. My parents have gone through a lot and must get out of this trap now.
I laughed about knowing myself in this video I am exactly like what you said.
My brother told me I am a narcissist and I searched about it now I will follow up by showing empathy towards other people and I will care and equally respect everyone and I will not only think of myself anymore.
Well done
Well done dear...❤
Good luck! Acceptance is the first step to change yourself.
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I salute u as u admitted it. Moatly people dnt admit
Chhoti chhoti ladkiya kitni emotional intelligent ho rahi hai... just wow....love u
Yes hey
Hey!
Thanks for this video…
I have been with narcissist person for 2 years. He was exactly like you explained in the video : manipulative; exploiting others with no shame; self centric; abusive; not appropriating anything; raising hand; not respecting family members; etc etc… thankfully i am alive otherwise he made me suicidal & depressive. This is my second chance to live life my way.
Hi, after 7 months of marriage. I found out about this toxicity after getting abused for 7 years of relationship. How can I be so dumb!!!
@@Eeeeeeeeeashiraaa How did you get rid of that person?
Im in relationship with the naraccist and this is the same happening with me and I m also suicidal what u did to get rid of ?? Pls help me
same happened to me.. I lost my job, health, confidence and self esteem...he raised hand on me. 5-6 times slapped😢 I left him. I also had suicidal thoughts.
These peoples are full of egos and attitude. Their silent treatment and their behaviour of cheating is the main thing.
Gaslighting, victim playing, triangulation ....... Disappearing act they can stoop to any level to make you look unstable 🙏
Yes
Hey girl.. More power to you.. Have been abused for 11years with NPD and cpstd due to him yet I learned it and survived it on my way.. Glad to see videos of education in hindi.. You really talk well to simplify it for indians.. Thank you and God bless you 🌹
Whatever you mentioned is 100% true with my Narcissistic wife. But why the world doesn't know about it.. This can't be proved in front of judicial system as well. Need to bring more awareness about it because Narcissistic personality is increasing more and more due to improper upbringing by parents. Parents these days don't have time look after their children. So, this personality is a real threat to society. We can save many innocent people from depression or other Ill effects
Out of many children one may be Narcisst. How parents to blame. They are mad people and cannot be cured. What is cured are the symptoms. If you tell a mosquito it should be veg you are killing it. Narcist feed on there near and dear people.
They have a different personality infront of relatives of the spouse. Totally evil in their own house .
Narcissist
In relationship
Family
Friends colleagues
1) best
Extreme
Manner able
Aap hi Mera sab Kuch.
hai.
2) self love
Self centered
Feel happy.
3) opinion Sahi hai
Trigger never accept mistake.
4) cheat
Abusive
Manipulate
Khush Kyu ha
5) tareef Sunna Boht Pasand hai jis ches ko aam ko amm correct kesay kea.
6) ghelt ko b waj wah
7) criticism
8) use kea
9) yah Kiya ker rah es SA ahca toh mein kersakta hu
10) gaslight jhoot
Mukar Jana aglay ko ghelt kerna.
11) low high kingdom
11) use
My narcassist father sold my body organs and made me a handicap. I was a national basketball player, then he hospitalised me at the age of fourteen by giving me poison and taking me into coma. When I came to consciousness I was told by the doctors that I have juvenile diabetes. Today at the age of 40 I am walking with crutches and I am addicted to insulin whereas in reality I have low BP. And he keeps me hungry and abuses me all the time. I was a teacher in Germany and earned in Euros. I don't know what to do.
Being a psychologist/ Mental health professional/ Counsellor....I just love your videos .....Nidhi ....love you
How to deal with narcisistic parents..
Both my parents go thru my room and throw away my belogings without asking me , i feel violated as a girl and even when i cry they r completely emotionless , they act so different in public but ghar mai they r completely shit 😭😭
@@aena5995 you need to take them to counsellor ...and get them counselled
@@zainabalig514 but how maine 2 days phle hi kha moma se k aap mujhe depress kr rhi ho then she said mai kr rhi yaa tum mujhe kisi ki zaroorat h jisse tumhare hrkt bta sku i mean literally agr wo full conservative h too iska mtlb ye nhi k unke bche v waise hi soche jaisa wo sochte h 😔 hamari thinking alg h maybe liberal h aur aaj tk maine unke against kuch aisa nhi kiya jisse unhe srmendegi mehsos ho but wo chahte h wo sb chiz mai kru wo jo khte overall wo mujhe apni katputli bna k rkhna chahte h at last hun to insan hi apni v kuch wish hogi ho skta h thinking different ho meri too wo kyu nhi smjte h??? kaise smjhau itne din se manage kr rhi hun but now I am going to turn 18 ab nii ho rha phle ingore krti the unki baate i was thinking wqt hi h beet jayega but ab in sb se literally depression ho rha din bhr sona acha lg rha ya mobile use krna even phle mai daily 6hrs at least self krti the but... Ni ho rha manage akhir kb tkk???
@@aafiya987 just live your life the way you want to live. You are not responsible for other' happiness. Unko khush karne ki ya unse validation lene ki koshish karogi to b vo nahi badlenge balki isse tumhari hi mental health kharab hogi. Btw I am turning 19 soon and I fought with them whenever they tried to control me. I choosed for myself whenever I could. Also I allignated myself from them. They are still the same I still feel depressed around them.
Ab vo is baat ko lekar tension m h ki shayad m hostel jaa kar unhe yaad b na kru. I hope my experience helps you just don't be the one who always compromises for other's happiness. Vo nahi badalne wale kuchh b kar lo. So just live your life.
@@aena5995 girl I feel the same. Seems like we have same parents.
My dad is narcissist my mom life exploid kar diya merko bhi dipress kar raha hy😭i m trying to go far from home & job🙏
More power to you girl
God bless you sis
God bless ✨
Nahi sister bo bs ek Personality disorder ha
Aap theek krva sakte ha
Get seperated, take your mom along with you
Thanks for explaining Gaslighting behaviour in a simple words and examples
100% accurate description of a narcissist. I can vouch for that. Thank you Nidhi
If u want to save ur life from Narc's then never lost ur self respect 🙏
Yeah so true i bear alot but after i reqlise i took stand and do whatever i want to do even he tries all his best to ruin my happiness
I leave it for her
Yeah never lose your self respect. It takes way too long get self esteem back
I came to know about this (narcissistic )topic from your video...I don't know about this word before... but when you start explaining about the behaviour of a person having a narcissistic personality...Then i realize that i am with a narcissistic person...i was thinking that the reason behind of his behaviour is due to our long distance but now i get it...This is about a disorder...Thanks for your explanation...This will help me alot in my relationship...Thanks to god that i know about it early...
Recently came out of a narc relationship. The worst part of this kind of relationship is you wont realize how wrongly you are being treated till you come out of it. My ex is a narc and she made my life very difficult. At first she used to do all the things which I desired from my partner. She totally build a perspective like she was a person whom I cannot have or difficult to find a person like her. Then once I was in her fake made up personality she slowly started violating my personal boundaries like my office things, my friends and other things. If I would oppose she would react as if I have done something major wrong. Silent treatment was given to me. Manipulated me like I was at the fault. She was really hard to please.. no matter what I did. It was never enough. She used to talk and think very negatively like nidhi said. She couldn't handle criticism. Created fuss in small small things. And finally... something happened between us and she her self brokeup. I am still not able to understand why she brokeup maybe I started standingup for myself and was no more a puppet. I am really thankful it happened.. if you are into one or you can relate to the video pls pls walk away from narc. You cannot fix them or make them understand that they are wrong. It is worthless. So save your self. No matter how beautiful or charming the person is or how great the sex is or anything else just walk away.
I am having same story with my bf after 3 4 month of relationship he started showing his true colours and by mistake i fall for hi charming and caring personality and had physical with him which i have never done which is very very big thing for me. Now I'm getting mental trauma day by day i want to be with him but not with this personality 😣 he will make me suicide I don't break up with him but i seems really really difficult.
@@Haryanvigirlishu yesterday he abuses me bitterly when he gets angry on pitty things and I started abusing him back 🤣🤣. And today he was feeling sorry whatever he has done in anger. But all will go in vain when he will get angry so I don't trust anymore I'm just trying to make him more and more angry so he leave me 😭. I don't know how he acts sweetly when we meet offline but his behaviour is very bad on phone. And he said he will beat me if I don't listen to him. No one has right to beat me who the hell he is.
God bless you all and keep you away from trauma🥰🙏
I have spent 8 years... today I came out finally...but still scared if she make it more critical... because they can't feel other...they do what they like to do...she can't even take funny criticism...she dnt have any friends... actually she can't make it...she judges everyone...even her father...in frnt of her poor people or who is lower then her profession, she treat them like animals....
Bro. You hv poured your heart out writing this comment i know how much it hurts. Been there.. its a text book theory that all narcs follow. Idealise, devalue n discard.. u wont see this bullet train coming towards u until u are hit and crashed to pieces by it. I wish this on no one but try to be urself in any relationship from the beginning coz if you try to people please out of your own childhood traumas ull give a nutrition fodder to the narcissistic partner to feed on u. Setting boundaries means treat everyone equally dont put anyone on pedestal from beginning of any relationship coz u dont know what demons resides in the other human u dealing with. These narc creatures can suck the life out of u if you behave mushy mushy to them. Day one u need to recognise their patterns of their past relationships coz they hv left many good people damaged behind them .. a train wreck so to say. They are on a rampage of destroying good ppl along the way. Walk the fck away and try to heal asap. Theres nothing left in those relationships where u are constantly waiting for ur partners approval based on what type of mood they are in. Damaged evil souls as they are they will make u one if u stay longer.
My ex bf was narcissist, he always try to pull me down, never say sorry, always hurts me and told me those that always I end up crying. He is like everyone is fool in this world and he is like Einstein, he used to say his fashion sense is better than Allu Arjun, he used to manipulate me and said always I told this u r always used to forget
I am laughing so hard 🤣
His fashion sense is better than ALLU ARJUN 😂
Really 😅
Sister God bless you 🙏
Narsisist to mera wala bhi tha..lekin bahut beizzati karta tha bahut ...par jab main chhor deti thi ...sorry bahut bolta tha ..bolta tha mar jawunga ye wo
I appreciate you taking time out nd standing up against this hidden serious disorder. Im glad u are educating indians in hindi. Needs to be brought up
I m staying with a narcissistic from last 7 years ...no one else but my husband.....all the characteristics you described are exactly same with his behaviour.....I tried each and every thing to make him happy but all in vain ....now my child is 4 years old.His abusive behaviour and superiority complexes compelled me to step out of this marriage.......i was confused but after watching this video I decided to leave him permanently and to save my son from him.. .thankewwww
Mam may be you are misunderstanding him.
Look for following factors:-
1. Has he isolated you from your family.
2. Has he isolated you from your friends.
3. Does he criticise your friends.
4. Does he control what you wear.
A single video might not be enough to come to a conclusion.
A narcissist hardly has true friends and has relations just for benefits. They "chose" their friends. Actually friends just become friends and there is nothing like choosing a friend.
A narcissist typically has friends who are way younger than him or her, that gives him control. He typically tries to isolate you from your parents, siblings and relations.
I too am struggling with similar issues and first thing i did was to look for videos about narcissism, i also had video about whether am a narcisssit just to have a deeper insight.
Yes, children observe parents behavior and copy it. So better to get separated.
I am also in same situation from 7 years of marriage and u have a 4 year old daughter..
@@ashuexcelmy husband doing the same which describes in above comments and also matching all things from video
Thanks for this video..its really life changing for many....
i have also faced this situation ... although it was a love marriage 18 years ago...lmy life after marriage was full of criticism and blaming etc .. although he is good ,loves me too.... but his narcissistic traits were killing me inside...i lost my worth... felt worthless.... developed many health issues.....
But the story started changing since few years...i started practicing all the tricks explained in this video somehow with gods blessings.... i removed all expectations... I accepted the fact that his nature can't be changed...i started making myself distant from him from inside...
started doing regular prayer and breathing meditation.... and started focusing on becoming financially independent...
Now i am in much much much better position...all my health issues has resolved...i m emotionally much balanced and strong....i feel good from inside....his behaviour has become better than before ...... but I don't care much....i try to not react on anything... neither interfere in his business........
This is absolutely terrible..I am daughter of a narcissist.
I gone trough this n nw its too late..she already harmed me psychologicaly..she succeeded what she wanted..now i am not able to get married..what she always wanted..my student life ruined..she insulted me infront of friends n teachers..she plays so many mental games..its hard to explain..n yes she uses other siblings ..ganged up n torturing mentally n somtime phisically..now I am going through severe depression..I used to be a vry enjoying person with friends ..now I forgt how to smile..she played with my emotions so much making confusion ..n now I find love is hard..I dnt knw what she got frm all these..
now she exploiting my brother..torturing him emotionally..make him feel guilty..make him starve ..next level torture
Call please or Emergency immediately
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Ye info sabko pata honi chahiye, bahut Jyada toxicity h Apne surrounding mein aajkal. Manipulation,love bombing, passive aggressive behaviour and cheating ye Sab red flags h
Allah maaf kare you pointed out correctly abt narcissist ppl. I'm dealing with one rn plz pray for me may I get rid from him asap😢🤕
Treat them with same thing
Makichut Allah
We had a mam in our higher education level who was narcissistic and used to constantly devalue the weak ones, total obsessive about looks and achievement, highly competitive, envious and seeking admiration. Had bad times when she used to humiliate me infront of people.
I remember when I was in 9th grade there were some guys who were narcissists,they used to make me uncomfortable by making sexual remarks in the name of jokes and would point out small mistakes of others.But if a teacher or any other student pointed out their mistakes they used to argue and create ruckus.
It's not as simple as that, they were just bullies/rowdy boys you can say. NPD is a disorder and we all can exhibit some signs of narcissism. What Nidhi shared in the video are common signs of a full blown narcissistic person.
Just this month my 1+yr relationship with a narcissist got over.. I'm glad for whatever happened.. atleast I'm alone rn.. but i no longer have to go through his shit..
Dear friend ab kya karte ho husband tha ya boyfriend aap ne to ak jhatke me pind chuda liya acha kiya akhir ye hi hona tha
@@nilemdevi3916 bf tha..
after watching this vedio i realized that iam little bit narcissist 😟
now i have to work on my character 😞
thanks for this vedio
Narcs are not self reflective. May be you are dealing with a narcissist and your behaviour is a defence machanism towards it.
You actually broke the narcissistic behavior, my confession
Also hey, narcissism is a personality disorder and has a spectrum, we all can have some characteristics unless you're everything she said in the video, then you should try therapy.
आप ने 100/% सत्य बोला मैम मैंने भी 2 शाल डील किया लेकिन उसकी मंशा पूरी नहीं होने दिया और उसके अस्तित्व से रूबरू कराया ताकि आगे किसी को धोखा ना दे आप का बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद आप की इस जानकारी से ना जाने कितने लोग निकल पाएंगे 😊
Thanks a lot...my husband is narcissist...after 16 years slowly now I realised
Same here
Leave him
One thing to always remember is that you should not treat narcissists like they are because they are sick, their infection is dangerous, so as long as you are in that environment, you should provide a calm and friendly environment from your side.
LoL u either are one or have no idea how destructive these ppl are. Providing calm environment doesn’t make any difference as long as they make effort to change.
Very well explained,faced each and every point in my life...
Kaas ye video 6month phle mili hoti toh mai is narcissist ke sath time waste nhi karti 😢 thank you for sharing this video
Mujhe bhi pata nhi tha par ab to pyaar ho gaya hai lagta hai. Ki shayad mai thik. Kar dungi usse
My mother in law is a narcissist personality but her family members called she is a emotional person
Love it kya samjhaaya hai 👏🏼👏🏼
Absolutely correct !!
Actually my mother in law is also a narcissist and I’m just learning about their traits
Very comprehensive explanation in Hindi.
The way you explain is so very easy to understand 🙏
Wah kya explain kiya h bohot experience kiya h ye mne 🤣🤣 luv u nidhi ji😘
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Nidhiji Good Work - Simple Accurate Indepth Explanation
My husband is a narcissistic person..he spoiled my life..finaly I leave him..ND now feel comfortable with my baby
Duniya ko kaise batayen ki mai thik hu aur samne wala insaan nercissist
@@abhasrivastava2691 I think dunia ko na hi batay to aacha hai kuki koi believe nhi karega..isliy khud samjh kar apne safety k liy jo step ho sakta hai wo le..
@@aishwaryasingh2668 thnqqq
Duniya ko batane ke lye mjhe to mere narcissistic husband ki call recordings mili (due to god's grace) jisme wo apne parents se bat krte the 😂....mtlb is had tk un lgo k plans chlte the mere khilaf...arrest kra dnge ...marne ka hi soch liya mjhe....ise akelapn feel kra ye wo mtlb total gaslighting k plans b the usme...now I have left him aur logo ko proofs b dikha diye mne aur even uske relatives ko b bhej diye sb proofs🤣 jha usne mjhe jhut bol bolke bdnam kr rkha tha
Good. You saved you kids life
Absolutely Right 💯
Your videos are so enlightening ❤️
The pure frustration and truth in your voice tells me, you have experienced some narcissistic asshole in your own life… I hear you girl.. 😊😊
Why narcissism is an extremely serious issue in the West but is an intentionally (seems to be) very neglected issue in India.
Experienced all these recently..100per true..
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Your videos are really helpful🌼❤️ thank you💛
I visited a restaurant. The server was being mistreated bya manager with a hot temper creating a drama attacking a brand new employee with little training because her co workers all called off sick. This wreched task master would not roll up his sleeves to train her but yelled at her to do dishes and take drive up orders and yell at her for not clearing off tables and she waited on me the bestshe could and I noticed the security cameras recording all this.
A few days later, she no longer works there, and I asked the owner why she is not working here and he told me she was not qualified according to what his assitant manager said. I asked the owner if these camers are hooked up to a video tape machine and if so, does he keep a regular library of videos and he said yes we do. Why do you ask? I told him about that evening i came and what i saw, and that none of the employees came to work and how this employee did more than this narcissistic assistant manager did by gas lighting her and yelling at her with no mercy! He went to his office and ran the tape and the woman got her job back and the other manager who fired her was chewed out by the boss showing his assistant the tape had him terminated from his job. I give God praise for providing this woman a witness and devine deliverance. I cannot imagine the type of upbringing some people had that corrupted them or know the causes of such personality disorders.
Ma'am the way ur saying, it seems you're victim of narcissistiam ,, it's very helpful bcz you are speaking through your experience..Thank you
Mam thank you your video have changed my life mera husband bhi bilkul esa hi hai aap ka video dekh ker mujhe bhut help mili
i faced this type of person 3 years of my life .
me and my best friend tried a lot to change him atlast he made us bad in front of everyone
This is what they do
Address
u explained it very well...main itne salo se yehi soch rha tha ki meri gf normal behave kyn nehi karte ..mujhe nehi pta tha ki Aisa kuch disorder v hain..but she is not normal...jab main musibat me hota hu to wo kabhi help nehi karta or koi dusra mujhe help kare to pagalo ki tarah ladte hain...she enjoys while m suffering.. she can't tolerate if I talk good things about my dog ... she hates my all friends bcz I have good moments with them in past...not even in present times...she always explained how she is great in her village, how society treat her father...they have so much of property...but this all fake..she is just a sweet talker...if its came to action she just make story that how u explain... she use me like a device whenever I am unable to talk to her for 4-5 hours and can't praise she treat me like nothing..... their mind is so strange...once they make you feel like you r everything and the next second u felt like u r the worst .... they cheat frequently but while they caught they just laugh like they did nothing..its normal....they are demons.. thnq for educating the society... finally I came out the relationship...but she can't digest that how can someone below her status left her..
Mujhe NPD hai.....ye mjhe tab realize jab mere saare relationship khrb ho gye.....tb mjhe iss bimari k baare me pta chala.......Ye mjhe mere father se mila hai aur unhone bht torture kiya bachpan me....meri mother ki jindagi bekaar ho gyii hai.....uske husband aur sirf 1 ladka dono ek trh hai.......Mere pass suicide krne k alwa aur koi option nhi hai because it is near impossible to change your behaviour that you nurtured in the childhood......mjhe nhi pta chala ki mai yese kyun behave kr rhaa huuu.....kyoki meri ek alg hi duniya hai....illusion se bhari hui.....na mai sadness feel kr sakta huu naa happiness naa love naa hate.... actually I have no feeling......Jo log bhi mera comments padh rhe....please jab apka baccha childhood me ho to please usko chahe kch do ya na do......empathy jaroor dena nhi to wo monster ban jaayega aage jeevan me......please it is request.....
Kosis Karo Bhai life me sb possible hai Suicide solution nhi hai ...agr acknowledge kr pa rhe ho ki ye problem hai too shi bhi kr skte ho...bs shi hone se phle marriage Mt kariyega aapko pta hai kyo...
meri wife narcissistic hai mujhe ye 1 saal baad pta lg rha hai Mai kuch time aur dunga fir dekhte hai jo bhagwan ki marzi...
इसका इलाज है मेरे पास.
Realisation is the key to cure. Start taking rejections and insults nicely and positively.
Treatment karao koshish karo badalne ki warna aage Puri generation barbaad ho jaegi
U r so amazing Nidhi ❤️ I was recalling so many narcissist people while watching this video
Mere sasural me to saare hi narcissistic personality disorder person h meri saas 52 meri wife 28 dono ke narck same ke sath maa beti bhai bhin ye naracssistic character less mentally finished...
Very well explained in simple words
And daily life's examples
Imagine watching this video to know about other person but you find out that you're the one who's narcissistic (kind of ) not 100% but 40% but that maybe because of immaturity because i am just 18 yrs old and its totally understandable teenagers behave this way and also because of childhood trauma and other stuff atleast i had the guts to accept that i have SOME of these traits
YAAAS! good work Nidhi!
You highlighted the main characteristics, sadly not many ppl discuss this/want to acknowledge this is India. But people with these disorders are everywhere around us.
Because I have done extensive research and am passionate about this subject, I was hoping you will use terms like love bombing, new supply, future faking and cognitive dissonance etc, "because you talked about them all briefly.." However I understand that you might've wanted to make these concepts easy to understand so you skipped the terms but great job, I can finally share this with my family since it's in Hindi.
True.. I m been in such married life.. World doesn't knows that.. Today came to know this character is known as narcissistic 🥺
@@Haryanvigirlishu
Bakwas.. Only word married remained.. We are living seperate. Rest just life is there focused on my cute daughter..
Can you come with part 2 of narcissist .. where you also speak about narc hidden physical abuse
I'm stuck with a partner who has NPD.. we have 3 kids.. please give me advice on how to make my life better .
Nidhi Eyeblinks 😀😀😀
Jatti Nidhi is best😘😘😘
This is a wonderful video giving accurate description of such personalities. As per my experience in life many partners just carry on with such people because of lack of clarity about such behaviours. Nidhi you did a good job in this video. I would like you to come out with more videos suggesting solutions . God bless you.
Absolutely correct... It means I'm living with a narcissist man.. But it's too late now.. I cannot leave him.. I'm stuck
U r a man, ur name is suraj yet u live with a man? So u r gay or u made a mistake?
@@natka6649 hey no no no.. You got me wrong.. I'm a girl behind this I.D
But you can stabilise your mental state with more knowledge and practice of psychology. More power to you🤍
I’m feeling extremely sad for you 😢 you must leave on any cost 😭
If you think this, you are being cruel to yourself. Consult a professional and leave
Video is overall awesome....my favourite part which made me ur fan....starts at 9 mint.....the statement about low status friends u stated.....i always thought of this about a person and gossiped with someone about her and low status friends of her....and she was ruling them .....and feeling like a king....and than gaining energy ,charging from them ....and than feeling that i m some special person....my friends thinks i m very intelligent and superior person so....u shud also adore me....and praise me.....and give me special place ...because she strongly belives herself superior from that energy and special attention provided by her crap friend....
I simple desi haryani words
They say...
Andha mein kaana raja....
Means one eye person ruling the blinds .....and feeling superior because he can atleast see.....as the blinds cant......narcissistic person always finds a company of blinds.....to get that energy.......
But problem occurs wen they apply that energy ,(which they always do) to person who has both eyes....
Nidhi G,
My father is narcissist around 70 year how to deal with him as I can't leave him
Please help out
All narcissistic man made by an big break up 💔💔
The people who came to your mind while listening to this are all narcs.
Mujhe to mai hi yaad aw rhi hu😂
@@reetgrewal6411 no doubt aap bhi ho
My father 😬
Di appne Bilkul bilkul sahi kaha her ek baat sahi Kahi meri saas mera husband dono ko ye problem h. Mujhe bimar bana diya inlogo ne. Ab mene apne apko detach ker liya h. Singing karti hun apne kaam me apne aap me rahti hun. Apne bilkul sahi kaha inko koi nahi badal sakta. Inlogo ke saath rahna matlab apne aap ko kho do. Thanks di. Kosis kerti hun khus rahne ki. Aaki baato se khuch help hoti h. Thanks
Mam aap ne jo bhi khaa wo sb mere papa ke andr
My father exploid my mother, he do emotional blackmail that he will kill himself and much more, I don't want to psychiatrists mam do you have some online course to treat my father
Very difficult to treat such people as they don’t listen to others
Exactly meri bibi avi ese hi behave karti hai 😢15 saal ka relationship ho chuka hai mujhe avi pata chala hai, bahat pyar karta hu 😢😢kaise deal karu pl suggest 🙏
Sahi hai.. Well explained!! 👍👍
Mam avoid kaise kare meri wife se door karna chaha usko bhaga hi le gya aur usko mistress bna rakha h
My mother in law always do same thing wth me and always create miss understanding wth me n my husband 😭😭
Same ...my husband and mil both are narc
What is solution ?
I was dealing with a narcissist girl now discard her from last 7 months guys dont trust them they are evils They just use people for their benefit
Mera husband meri saas meri bahan sab yese hi h. Apne jo jo bola sab sahi bola. 😢bahut jyda mushkil h in logo ke saath rana.
When I listen word “Narcissistic “,
I always remember “Salman Khan”
Narcissist human is dangerous for society😢
He is very kind bro, he helped a lot of poors... and if any person become angry that doesn't means ki wo Narcissist h...
@@muneershakeel dekhane k liye karta he..so that other would praise
@@shraddhadevkota8326 bruh! Kuch bhi
@@muneershakeel sis i am not bruh
Bestest Nidhi mam ✌ such a clear description
Thanks for the video ❤️ very helpful
My father is also a narcissistic man.. we all family members are facing lots of difficulties with him and he keeps on exploiting to our life. 😔😔
This is how my wife exactly behaves.
So true , I know this type of person, never care for others
Narcissism, एक जानलेवा बीमारी।
Jai Ho Guru Maa 🙏🏻 😁
It is a life threatening life destroying mental illness dear. Watch doctor ramani's vedio. You will be blown away to know the reality of narcesstic people and how many lives are totally destroyed by them.
Jab relationship hogai unse to unko kaise. Manage karen ??
Ab unse rishta to tod nahe sakte .
Solution batain pls .
This symptoms are found in my husband what shall I Do?
Symptoms? Are you exploited? If yes leave
Great 👍! Itne time par bahot acha explain ker diya
I saw such traits in genius scholar students
Topper students
Soo school toppers bhi narcissistic ho skte hai??🤔
Bilkul
Mostly NPDs are quite successful and intelligent in studies. They're also very sharp minded.
meri b bilkul esa problem hai. i am a canadian who married indian girl in 2 weeks. very sweet. after her coming to Canada, i was finished, completely. i am now mental (gaslight) with addiction problems (from anxiety, living with someonewho wants you dead is difficult), many legal issues, can't see my kids, career ruined from trying to take care of her and fix her. but nothing works. thanks i still want her back.. and will use this diagnosis to be accepting
You are too good, Nidhi 😄 Thank you so much 🙏🏽😊
Good explanation in simple words.
Medam mujhee ksi insaan ko chorna he pyaar bhi baot krta hn bs faimly ki wajah se apne lover ko chorna he but himat nh ho rhi me kya kru😭
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Right description of narcissistic personality
Maam i too faced a problem by three of my college collegues whose behaviour is extremely narccistic. Thing is that i had loved one of those girl in college and I didnt expressed it due to fear of rejection and bullying from other collegues , but sadly it didnt happened as she had someone who never told or expressed privately/ publicly and married that guy for which i was heartbroken. One of her friends was extremely narrcist and she has misbehaved and threatned me to not mix with the one whom i loved and that girl always show off in social media, wearing luxury dresses, visiting cafes and bars which we often see. I was mentally and brutually broken for that incident for which i went into depression which happened last year but i moved on happily forgetting all those people and memories....
Sad to hear that. U shouldn't go into depression because of shitty people like those that u mentioned.
My husband is narsiccist.and sasu ma .is narsiccist.
Mam aapane bahut achaa vidio bnaya muze bhuut fayda mila.mai 20 sal se inke torchur sah rahee thi aab aapki vidio me samaz aaya.
Ki kaise inse deel karna hai.
Thanks.mam.👌👌🙏🙏😊😊😀😀
A. How to know a narcist people in relationship?
Stage 1:-Love bombing & Idealization
1. They show himself as a generous person,helpful person,culture person,religious person.They used their charming personality,inteligence,beauty to trap you in their love.At first they started giving show so much caring,so much love,so much time,attention, started praising your beauty,your qualities.Due to this you started ignoring narcistic people other aspects like their nature, behaviour,personality.If you want to save yourself from their trap then dont fall in love for beauty,attraction or intelligence.
2.When a person try everything very fast..Like meeting,dating,talking,gift giving..They do all this because they don't want to give time to you for thinking and use your IQ to difference what is right or wrong.This is called love bombing. They attached their code in your mind.
3. Stared future faking like show big future of love relationship, always try to attract other person through offering sex,time,costly gift and seductive talk.
4. They started mirroring you that means first they collect knowledge from you what you like and what you dislike.Then they started liking, interest in those things in which you have like or interest to show empath that his mentality and empath mentality is totally same.They can read and copy you and also their behavior change as per people intentions..Their face mask changed people to people..
5. They always hide their feelings and always show themselves as victim.Like family,friends,society all are against them and they always play victim card.They show themselves as very lonely,in problem,no one is for them.They show themselves such type of victim as they want heeling or support from other person.
6. They always like compliments from you but they dont give any compliments to you.
7. If you ask any question to them they will either delay ,avoid to reply or may change the topic. They never give direct answers to you.
8. During converstaion they always change the focus and topic towards themself. They never give you chance to express your thoughts.Ex-If a narcist go for shoping with his friends if you ask them,how is your shoping? They dont tell you about what they did shoping whereas they may say one of his friend jealous with him for his dress,they may say that in mall some girls stabing them in bad intentions.They create this type of fake story to make attention of other person towards him in every conversation.
9. They always target people who have strong personality, higher status than them or have lower status than them. Most of toxic relationship are comes under narcistic people.
10. They afraid when you talk about marriage with them because they afraid of taking any responsibility of marriage.
Stage -2-Devaluation
1. Sometimes available sometimes not available.Avoid,ignore game,late reply,devaluing once they know you are fall in love with him.They ignore you for many reason like to get attention, admiration,energy from you.They also ignore you if you expose them or red handed caught them in telling lie or Cheating.They may ignore you if they found any other person in their life. They may ignore you as a punishment to control you and to make yourself dependent on them.
2. Never admit own fault.Telling lie in every matter. Shift own blame to other.If he red handed caught in telling lie then never admit own fault instead of started criticism to other person.This is called gas lighting.They started prove you that you are over possesive,over sensitive.
3. Used manipulate word,love word to others when he feels other person is far away from him. To hold on you or use you as a option for long time they confusing you showing love sometime. Sometimes show love and affection where as sometimes angry and quarrel with you on sily matters.
4. If you want his help for any situation he ignore to help you or they act like he forget or totally deny.
5. They always fall in love for sex, beauty,status not for love or emotions because they have no emotions at all.They always set a goal in every relationship.To achieve that goal they may go to any extent.They always cheat their partner in relationship.
6. Narcist always try to control you.They try to cut you from your friend circle, family circle.They do this because they want that you only depend on them for talking,visiting and giving time..They dont to see you happy..and ultimately it creates co dependent relationship with them.
7. Sometimes they will like you. Sometimes dislike you.They always try to confused you.
8. After marriage they withhold sex to manipulate you.They used sex as a tool to control you or dominate you as per their will.Sometimes they dont do sex with their partner to control their partner. They are emotionless.Sometimes they show their love with physical touch to your body.If they stop touching your body to show love then you may make sure that narcist got any other person for them.
Stage-3-Bring another person Triangular love
1. They bring another person to his life and introduce him with his current partner.
2. They will bring the type of situation where he avoid current partner and say current partner to adjust with his new partner.He may try with manipulate words,silent trick and avoid game. Through this type of work he forced his partner to accept his new relationship.
3. If you ask anything to narc about their new relationship they always tell you that you are over sensitive,over possesive, over caring,you are wrong,your thought process is wrong. Ex- They tell you that one of my friend text me and ask me about my beauty.when you ask who is she? Then they show you his mob screen shot to show himself very clean but hide the other part of conversation to confuse you and show you that you are wrong.
4. Sometimes they knowingly started argue with you till your all energy drain.They may not stop arguing with you till you are accepting your fault or say sorry to him.They want to blame you for everything.
Stage-4- Discard
When they think that you are over possesive or not go as per their intentions then they will block you, discard you.They suddenly stop talking with you and started boycott,discarding you.
Stage 5- Hoovering
After 1 month,2 month or 6 month even if after 1 year they suddenly unblock you,started message you or started talking with you,recontacting you. They started all this because at that time they have no option,supply with him,there is no one with him.Thats why they need you. And again they started the same cycle with you till a another person come to his life.
B. How to save yourself from narcist?
Ans:-
1. Just block him from every social media and never comeback to narcist person life. Go ahead and move on. Never in this life time try to contact narcist. If you try to contact with him they will definitely take revenge with you and will do the same cycle.If in future they text you or call you then dont talk with him or dont reply them.Dont prove them they are wrong and dont criticise them.If you reply them then they will started manipulating talk and their words will destroy your mind and peace.They will attach their code in your mind and you again faceing problem to avoid them.They will comeback to your life only to take revenge.Remeber You are narcistic people big enemy because you escape yourself from their manipulating game.This thing hurt their ego.
2. Don't search love from outside of the world.Connect yourself with god for love.see yourself as Krishna point of view.Love Krishna and serve Krishna.Everything in world is false.Every relationship is false.Love Krishna and do bhakti to krishna.
3. Don't expect love,validation from outside world.Your good work will be reward by god oneday.Became a partner of yourself. Never depend upon anyone. Believe on Krishna and depend only on Krishna.Always focus on your goal.
4. Always stand for your own feeling. Don't go for those people who never respect your self respect.
5. Change the nature of loving others after getting insult or devalue from them. Make self respect your first priority.
6. Set boundaries for yourself. Stop believing what others saying good about you,why others showing good behaviors towards you.Narcistic people may compliment you,respect you or give credit to you as per their need from you.They know that you are hunger of validation.They used it as a weapons to manipulate you or take their work from you.
7. Stop explaining and defend yourself. They will never admit that they have any fault because they don't want to loose control over .so don't waste your time on them. Krishna knows very well who you are and what your intentions is.
8. Don't respond or give reaction to their silent treatment,anger . You may follow silence to their every reaction.If you don't follow silence then your own energy are taken by them and you feeling extreme tense and depression.
9. Never make victimize yourself in front of others to get symapthy from narcist or other persons. Never wants sympathy from others.Work on yourself and get out from your problem without wanting help from others.Believe in Krishna.
10.Never expose your plan infront of themself or expose themselves that you know that he is narcist.
11. Always work up on yourself.Work upon your weak point so that in future no one able to use your weak point against you. Do meditation daily to clean your aura. Balancing your masculine and feminine energy with meditation.
12.Never brings expectations while making any relationship.Never share your expectations with anyone.Just remember people will come to your life as per my karmic account and one day they will go from my life once my karmic account will close with those person.
Kya batau ...my mom is too much....m tired I need love I need to feel safe ...I need to be happy ..I need to be protected
Now imagine a NPD women and a Bipolar men
Now imagine both of them are in Indian Society
Now imagine being their son/daughter
🙁
Hi Devansh! I hope you have strength to deal with all this..
@@aishwaryanegi2620 Thankyou Aishwarya.
But the reality there is no solution to this.
Sometimes it feels like I'm done but don't know what keeps me going on
Please take care of urself
Ahh. I can feel your pain. Born to a malignant narcissistic father and a BPD psychotic mother with high narcissistic traits. Assault from hell since day one! Seems like a cruel joke
मैडम यह बताइए कि अगर विवाह साथी नारसिसिस्ट है और वह गलती के लिए क्षमा मांगता है तो उसे क्षमा कर देना चाहिए या नहीं। क्या क्षमा मांगने के बाद उसमें सुधार संभव है?
My wife is narcissistic personality and
i left him
Bahi unhe Personality disorder ha
Ilaaj krvayie ,.,.,.....
@@308.winchester ओके
Yes exactly right
My Mother is a Narcissist and I know few others too
Just came accross this video on TH-cam randomly, Coming from a field of Psychology I really don't appreciate the way you talk about Narcissistic people, the way you're saying and the tone you're using puts them under a wrong light as if they're purposefully like this and they chose to be Narcissistic. But Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness which has some deep rooted cause, They don't choose to behave like this but because of various causes like environmental, Genetic and Psychological their personality gets shaped in that way.
Also, It's completely Okay to talk about disorder but always try and put accross your point in a way that it doesn't hurt someone anyone because if we also follow this approach then we are only stigmatizing Mental Illness.
And Just a small note if you have that information about Narcissistic Personality disorder people then let your audience know that such people can be managed with psychotherapies. We study to treat people like them, Don't put them under a wrong light just for the sake of the video because again they don't chose to be like this. And a little bit sensitivity towards any kind of mental Illness will be very very very helpful.
Just want you to know, I am not sending hate it's just coming from the knowledge and Experience I have gained by far working in this field and when you're making videos like these , I really want you to know full and factual details so that you can spread to your audience as well.
Thankyou.
Madam i think narcissistic people deserve even more rude and demeaning tone for them. Do they think before totally destroying others lives even their family members, children then why should we bother about them. And i think you need to study more about these empty narcissistic people because you cant change them. They will die as a narcissistic person. I have personal bad traumatic experiences with 3 narcissistic people and i know very well what they are and i hope you dont get one then you might not be as sympathetical towards them as you are now. There is a hell lot of difference between studying about someone and living your day today hell life with them. They are like predators always ready to torture someone. Emotionless stone-hearted, cold blood murderers, self obsessed animals in form of humen. They all need a kick on their ass.
Only 0.0000001% cases are treatable & other emotionless killers!bcoz they are demons according to mother nature curse theory!& they are also supported by demonic entities!If u dont believe then I will show u so many example & also warning for u !treat bipolar disorder ,mental ill but never treat narcs bcoz they suck ur all positive energy bcoz basically they are energy vampires!With regards for ur safety 🙏
Sorry to say but I have doubt that u r also a Nar'c!
@@MrinalM. Okay, Completely understand from where you're coming from, But being from the field and working in this field for past 7-8 years I have a share no. Of experience that is the reason I am saying that no matter what kind of personality disorder a person is suffering from in the end it's a disorder which cannot be cured but managed. In my message as well I wrote that it can be managed and there are various therapies that we can provide to the person in such times. I completely understand the hardships you have faced due to Narcissistic person but let's not forget we don't get mentally ill, we acquire it through various causes. Therefore, I am not telling you to be empathetic but atleast you can be open to knowledge and gaining information so that if you find someone who might have narcissistic traits so you can just advice them to visit a therapist and As a therapist it's our job to help them manage their symptoms and help them get better and treat others in a more better way, Only like this we all can support and promote mental health.
@@DRxNIKHILTANDON Ha-ha, Thankyou for your concern. I really appreciate it.
Also, I have not mentioned anywhere that they can be treated or cured, I have used the word "MANAGED".
Thanks for information.mere saath bhi kuch log hai
Love you di❤️❤️
When you’re getting engaged?
Abhi time hai 😄
kitna time lagega ..or??...mai wait kar rha hu😫
@@rahulprajapati2619 bhai tu karle
@@sumitsaha3860 🤣🤣🤣 bhai kaa sai tapke ho..itne din tadipar the kya
@@rahulprajapati2619 nai.. Bhai... Nai.. Amit shah ji ki padbi mujhe mat do unka asamman hoga isse😂
Same mna b aik aisa insan sa khud ko attach kr leya mja phla idea ni tha ka wo narcissist person ha..wo mja puri tarha apna control ma rkhna chahta jaisa jaisa ap na kaha ha