Often one's preferences/goals/values aren't well-defined enough to have more than a vague sense of wasting time. Procrastination is only possible with something worth pursuing, which is the bigger problem worth solving. And before than, one must consistently be in the mental state with enough self-esteem/faith in their long-term ability to imagine and choose what is meaningful enough to commit to pursuing. The ideal self-help course/tools/approach MUST begin with enriching mood states (i.e. self-efficacy, optimism, resilience, and hope ). Next imagination/vision/goal-setting (long & medium-term). Until then, optimizing time is just another distraction. People watch videos all day aimlessly for good reasons sometimes, like exploration/discovery of perspectives, developing curiosities, social and cultural sense of involvement, and so on. Unfortunately, the feed-based interfaces (especially with notifications, auto-play, addictive recommendation algorithms, etc) changes the consumption of information from an active pursuit driven by the user's conscious search queries into a passive, automatic, sensationalist mind-numbing and pleasure-seeking. Props to people for realizing these problems: those seeking solutions, as well as those like Andrew offering solutions... Just be wary that goal-setting itself often is the thing being procrastinated. The 'Stay hungry!'/power-through-the-pain mentality obsession with productivity and focus itself is totally shooting many of us in the foot, self-sabotaging like someone who cannot relax turning to excessive smoking cigarettes. self-efficacy, optimism, resilience, and hope -- mood states are ephemeral for 99% of us who aren't the Buddha or Tony Robbins etc. Once we awaken to goals/purpose/path forward in life (say a 5 year and a 1 year plan at least), then we are better able to consistently feel optimistic and planning our days and months becomes energizing instead of being a dreadful reminder of the aging process/staleness of routines which leave many feeling life is passing them by.
Thank you for this video. 🙏🏾 It was succinct and compelling. Already knew the information but it came at a opportune moment of personal growth for myself. Keep up the vids! ✊🏾
Hey, Martin. I am 60 and learn things everyday. Yes, even at 60 or 79 - it's not late. I m messaging from my brothers phone. My name is Myna. I thought of encouraging you. Tk care
It's the long game- that's what I say quietly to myself every time I make a decision where I'm giving up having something right now for something that will provide a greater outcome in the future 💪🍀But this also just applies in general like you portrayed, e.g. training, taking care of your health, saving a little money continuously, reading some factual information, etc.
For Ali there was the training, then the fighting, then being a champion, then the brain damage. I wonder if he felt it was worthwhile. Brain damage is pretty bad. He kept fighting after he was a champion, so being a champion wasn't the real goal. I suppose these details aren't analogous to my situation - I don't want to be a champion or fight, and the things I value aren't likely to cause brain damage.
“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.” - Jim Rohn
I disagree. I find they weigh about the same, the main difference is discipline weighs you down on a daily basis, while regret only comes around once a month or so and only lasts a few hours.
Or you can just trust in the universe that instead of discipline is better to passionately enjoy actions and rejoice all that is desired will come true
@Voicu Cristian Valentin I think the quote is perfectly making the sense, everything is hard for average person and this is why they can't be in top 1%..! To be in top 1% you definitely need to do super hard things, otherwise you'll stay average/ mediocre
@Voicu Cristian Valentin so keep doing hard things then. That's how life has been since the beginning, we all were hunter gatherers, we were working all the time to find food and place to sleep. Fight with nature and animals to be alive. Hard work is what we must do. 1:1 = 1*hard work: 1*smart work
Jasmin Ha It's taught in uk schools, life skills, values, pastoral (form) time, it's just not backed up much by pop culture or parents, or marketeers of course, so kinda gets lost. Teaching the finer details of debt entrapment, low paid jobs and high priced credit to 30 13yr olds during a "not a real "lesson "" lesson has got to to be tough, I didn't listen to my form teacher explaining the crash of Black Friday in the 80's and I didn't listen to my union rep about pensions when I joined the workforce in the 90's. This is a parental responsibility but even that's tough, that's why this guy is so valuable, like any 13 yr old going to be relating to anyone born last century! I agree with you tho in the absence of such, we need to relate these concepts as a common thread throughout the curriculum.
The Government runs the school’s curriculum so its never going to be taught in US schools same with learning about money and how to actually acquire money aside from a job that pays you shit money unless you’re with the banks, real estate, business owner, investor and entrepreneur. They dont teach you how to do taxes and manage your money, life and budget things out, etc. they literally dont teach you any important life skills just science math english history thats flawed...
@@TehFibe I hear that, its more or less the same in UK schools, but things like form/tutor groups are pastoral teaching groups and things like this will be addressed, but not assessed nor really monitored so its a bit of a teacher lottery. Plus there is a oot of teachers who dont really know enough anyways teaching in the uk is good, sercure and carrys a good pension plus a "free" national health service, so there is less need for teachers to be "surviving the real world." One of the best quotes i saw years ago on the net was "J.O.B = Just Over Broke"!
System is designed to keep us trapped. Just like the human batteries in the matrix. Governments set the school curriculum...no way would they teach anything which will break down the system of debt entrapment. True...the lessons are learned often too late in life.
... that moment when a young kid preaches and an old man feels the wisdom. Great video mate. For what its worth, during lockdown I have been doing oldskool shit like starting to grow plants on my window ledges, cleaning the whole apartment and taking the time to cook food ... all these things felt like chores at the time, all have paid off in the long run. Becoming self sufficient in green leaf vegetables was a lot of time and effort, with no reward in the short term ... but no every time I even look at my plants ... I get a warm glow of satisfaction.
Since a few days i try to completely changed my lifestyle. Less gaming, less social media, less nsfw stuff. Friends told me i have muscular potential so now im doing exercises every morning and every evening. Since 2017 im trying myself into electronic music production and it keeps on growing. In about 40 days i start a 3 year education. Every thing i want in future im writing down on my phone so i dont forget about it and thats probably one of the things besides motivational videos like this that make me feel good. Im finally happier than with my life than before and im ready to sacrifice my time for a good life in future. Im so motivated and if you still read this: Go write down your plans! Get into some good longterm habits and get out of the shortterm habits! Cheers people!
I applaud you!! Sharing your story is motivational for people like me, and let’s people like me congratulate you on your work! You got this my dude! I wish you the best in life
You should actually dislike it so that the video will have a current negative feedback but will be back to positive in the long future when you factor in time.
I love how this was put in graph form. These are familiar concepts but the way Andrew presented them shed new light and is more effective at motivation than anything else I’ve come across.
Sleep now! Sleep is so important for memory formation and brain toxin flushing. It's how you grow better instead of wondering why you are not improving!
There is a scripture in the Christian Bible that says, “All things are permissible for me, but not all things are beneficial. All things are permissible, but I will not be controlled by anything.” This makes a lot of sense. It’s about how much control an activity has over the quality of life. The question is not whether or not someone can live without it. Humans can live without all kinds of things, even if they think they cannot do so. It’s about quality of life and whether or not someone has surrendered their ability to create long term good.
It doesn't really mean what this video is referring to though. It is about looking out for those around you rather than pursuing your own interests. The Bible, more specifically the New Testament, is of course very social democracy leaning in general.
The key to a happy life is to practice moderation in everything - including moderation. The odd hit of dopamine ain't no bad thing and we all need to let our hair down once in a while. Otherwise, yes investing in the long term by doing the hard yards is sensible and beneficial. Just remember to live in the moment and have fun along the way or you'll regret it later. You never know what tomorrow may bring in terms of sickness or disaster.
My biggest regrets are the many times I could have had potentially wonderful & life changing experiences via instant gratification but chose not to. Those are missed opportunities, and they haunt me. It's not healthy to live solely for instant gratification...long term goals and delayed gratification are definitely worthwhile...but don't be afraid to sometimes live spontaneously and enjoy the moment. Balance, my friend.
This may have been posted before, but the secret is to find activities that give you both instant gratification and delayed gratification. For me that would be coding/scripting.
A big life hack is when you realize that pleasure always starts from within you, and you are able to reward yourself whenever you take "long term positive / delayed gratification" actions. The gratification can be instant for any action, if you choose to give yourself that pleasure. Build these long term positive / instant gratification cycles and it becomes automatic.
This is something I'm working on lately, is finding that dopamine hit through making the healthy decisions, even if I don't always feel the intended effects of them immediately. Thanks for sharing!
Wyatt Overstreet you can use something to help... a basic example is eating a piece of candy every time you read 5 pages in a book... then your brain is trained and you can read more easily
EVERY choice we make, no matter how small it might seem, will have an impact on our life situation. SO, LETS FOCUS ON MAKING BETTER CHOICES :)
5 ปีที่แล้ว
tell that to the Bill Gates and Warren Buffets of the world- their pleasures are crashing the global economy so it doesn't really matter the choices you make if these wealthy, insanely wealthy people are determined to destroy the world they live in with their GREAT CHOICES
Let's be honest. Only about 10% of our daily choices impact our life. The key is to understand which choices are important and which aren't. By understanding that fact we can reach the stars.
Everyone does something stupid at least a few times in life, I think Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi. I like to think I have learned from my mistakes. Being human, I will no doubt make many more.
Yeah I remember watching a video (can't remember the name), but there was a guy describing a grid with 4 quadrants, where each of them represented a relationship between short and long term gratification. There was: - "hedonism" red quadrant (gratification now, detrimental later) -> e.g. watching Netflix - "rat race" green quadrant (detriment now, gratification later) -> e.g. reading a boring research paper for your class - "nihilism" black quadrant (detriment now, detriment later) -> e.g. getting in a fight with someone - "???" blue quadrant (gratification now, gratification later) -> e.g. gym session he basically claimed that you need to find a balance between each of these (except black) in order to succeed in life. Because sometimes you just need to engage in some of those 'red quadrant' activities in order to get some rest, you also need some of those 'green' activities, because even though they might be more boring in the short term, they are usually much more rewarding in the long term. But you should build your core activities around the blue quadrant, because that's where most of the fulfilment comes from. So in your case, gym would be the blue quadrant I guess. P.S.: Pls don't laugh at me if it's one of Andrew's own old videos haha
EDIT: This was a book called "The happiness equation" by Neil Pasricha -> I haven't read it, only watched a video summary, but it made a perfect sense to me.
Glad I discovered your channel while I’m still 15. You may not see this but I want to say it anyway. The knowledge you have given me has been a monumental part in my self development. I grew up surrounded and partaking in negative things. I started drinking when I was 12, and smoking when I was 13. I skipped school after years of good grades because of burnout and stress. My family fell apart early in my childhood, and currently I struggle with financial stress and isolation due to the pandemic. But despite it all, discovering videos like yours and learning more about self improvement on other platforms has quite literally changed my fate. Even as a child I was sure that someday I’d end up killing myself, whether it be intentional or not. I thought I’d fail school. I thought I would be dead young due to my habits. But here I am, because of you and many others, finally happy for the first time in years. I’m set to graduate as early as 16/17, I’ve stopped smoking cigarettes and only drink on special occasions. I’ve started taking opportunities as they come, and contributing to my future while I am still young. Among other many great changes, this all compounded and I am 2 years self harm and depression free. Videos like these, whether you think so or not, can quite literally save a life. People like you who hold such passion in these topics, enough to share them with the world, have my respect and my appreciation. I was never taught how to be disciplined, emotionally stable, how to navigate through life - yet the wonders of the internet have changed that. I actually see a future for myself. I finally have the will to pursue harder things rather than lay in my bed all day. I’m making the most out of my situation. I’m learning new things everyday and realizing new things everyday because of people like you. Thank you.
My motto this year has been simply "DO BETTER" and, honestly, its working. Just, on average, trying to make more good choices is all it takes to begin changing your life... the more effort the more results though, but start with better -- do your best at doing better... because that is all you can realistically do.
For those confused, I'll explain what he means: Rather than doing what you want (aka play Xbox, watch porn, eat pizza, instant gratification stuff) first do things that you don't necessarily wanna do but SHOULD do (finishing your homework, going to the gym, brushing/flossing your teeth, delayed gratification stuff) and THEN you can get back to doing what you want aka the instant gratification stuff because the delayed gratification stuff is already done and out of the way.
@@VesDegree If that's the interpretation of the quote it still doesn't make sense. Don't do what you want, then can you can do what you want. Don't eat the pizza, and then you can eat the pizza.
As a Pro Musician from a young age, I practiced everyday. Once the gigs as a solo Entertainer started stacking up, I hardly needed to practice at home. I was getting PAID to practice by playing. When the gigs became fewer and now none due to covid, I don't practice like I did as a youth, and have noticeably lost my performance skills. Time to practice again... ugh. Hopefully there will be a demand for Live Music in the future.
Keep practicing! People will get fed up of being indoors. Live music is needed. Evan now you can do some live music videos online. Options are: TH-cam, Facebook, Zoom, Google meet, etc
How did you keep your consistency of practicing every day? I want to do that with so many things... piano, guitar, yoga... but I just can't seem to form habits.
Love that video! You just forget one point, it's totally possible to have instant gratification and delayed gratification with the SAME action. For example, if I play Basketball with friends it'll give me instant gratification because I love to play basketball, but it'll also give me some delayed gratification because I'm doing sport and I'll fell better in my body in the long term. [Edit] Another example : If I want to improve my English (my native language is french), I can see some english series. So it'll give me some delayed gratification because I'm learning English, and it'll give me some instant gratification because I'm seeing series (which is fun). So, to use this rule in the best way, I think we have to find some activities which combine instants and delayed gratifications. Do you agree with me?
After watching this vid I immediately got working on my project report and finished it, achieving more than I usually could in a single sitting. Good stuff
@@Surge246 i understand every life experience, every book read, every biography, every religious book etc. but man every week? This guy gets blown away EVERY WEEK? Sounds like click bait to me bro
@@benyameenyitzhak1036 yr on youtube man, not a book. its just the way it is. Creators need to make a living and that works. Also he probably learned all this for years way before he figured out how to segment his comprehension into weekly uploads. Like lets say throughout the course of 8 years there are 100 things you learn, which is plausable given the timeframe. But then you decide you wanna make a youtube channel, you would make videos quite easily since you have a lot of things in your past to fuel the content.
Pity it is so poorly researched. He needs to read more. If he'd researched this properly he would have found out the problems with the marshmallow experiment and that the results don't hold up to scrutiny. He'd know the actual purpose dopamine serves and would not make the faux pas of referring to hits of dopamine.
"It's harder to read a book than watch a TH-cam video". Take this to heart and it can be life changing, especially if you apply it in every area of your life instead of only correlating it between a book and TH-cam. seriously.
My dad always said that "We make the biggest decisions in life when we are least equipped to do so." (being young). Career decisions need to be made young and you need to work hard. Relationship decisions must be correct.
Or maybe when we are least educated a bit on life...... Not young and naive. So you are 17 years old and you decide you want a career and your going to work hard... You've just decided to give up all the best years of your life to working hard 5 days a week. 50 years you will do this. Most of what you earn goes on tax and interest. probably about 70% of your income. Then because you've worked so hard when it comes to retirement your body is worn out because you worked hard and you are now useless. You then spend the majority of the hard money you've earned paying for someone to care for you, then you die and the government takes a massive chunk of everything you've earned. I wouldn't say this is a very good way to spend the majority of your life. 😬
Francisco Scaramango it’s sad that you are so correct. Doesn’t feel as miserable when you are living it,but when you get older and realize the time that was wasted. That’s the real kick in the guts.
@@kingleonidas4296 totally agree. I remember being in the 2nd year of my apprenticeship..... I was about 18-19 and it was then I realised I had been fooled and conned. It was then I realised that I had to do this for the rest of my life, get up everyday and go to work for another 50 years. I then realised school was there to brainwash me to agree to giving my life away. To think it's normal and ok. Everyone does it, so it's fine. The whole system is corrupt to the core and just a glorified version of slavery in my opinion.
Francisco Scaramango I am about to turn 19 and I learned this lesson during the past two weeks because all my friends are picking up careers or going to university. When I finished school I still didn't know what do but i thought something that pays well and is fun should be good enough. But I never thought about the fact that the actual thing I want to get from working is enough money and as much free time as possible to do the things I love and share time with the people i love. I just wanted to say thank you because your comment reminded me of this eye opening lesson.
@@danifufu281 Nice comment. I would say that the only way to have the spare time in life but also the money, is if you set up your own business. If you learned a trade at your age, then you went self employed.... Doesn't have to be a trade though, just your own business. You then dictate the hours you work and what you earn. You will never become rich and have spare time if you have to go to work for somebody else. But sadly our schools don't teach you anything about filing taxes to HMRC and how the money banking system works.
Things to consider while making decisions- 1) Take the effect of time into consideration 2) Habits are formed and hence the practice of instant/delayed gratification in one area, spills over in other areas, which amplifies the net negative/positive effects. 3) Always keep in mind the domino effect, and hence take into consideration the second and third order consequences.
Delayed gratification is the best way to describe real estate ! At the street level it’s “ what goes around comes around” “ karma” . Excellent thank you!
I dont remember who said this, probably Dr. Peterson. He said to that for thousands of years people have watched the successful and the unsuccessful. The successful practice sacrifice, they delay instant gratification. To be successful, you would sacrifice what you love most, it might be a treasured item, a favored cow, a dream, a time-consuming hobby. Negotiate with the present to shape and bring forth a future you that can succeed in the long term and not give in to pleasures. I hope this can be of help to anyone else who's struggling towards order in this chaotic world.
5 ปีที่แล้ว +3
to funny, Dr. Peterson is in rehab because of all his bad decisions he's making in his own life- the guy teaches kids LIFE IS PAIN
@ He's in rehab because he got prescribed an addictive opiod by a psychiatrist, wich he didn't know would have such effects on him. Heck, I think anybody who says he doesn't need to calm down when his wife is dying of liver cancer is a liar.
@ My response goes in accordance with yours. You pointed out facts for wich you have no proof (and wich I dare to say there isn't). On the other hand there's plenty of proof of Peterson's professionalism, that's why I'm pointing out you're either ignorant, or a troll.
I'm 51 and have been making gradual positive changes for the past 3 years. You have a great gift of wisdom as a young man. Wishing you good things Andrew👍
It reminds me of the Matthew principle, which is clearly right I think. To those who have everything more will be given, and from those who have nothing, everything will be taken. That's exactly what this video was about, and it's a fundamental rule indeed in the world. The success in life (delayed gratification, or sacrifice) will increase the probability of further success (general improvement). p.s. This video helped me to get back my feet and remember that I should be doing my best for the world because I tend to spiral downwards and emotionally forget it. thanks a lot.
It's matter of habit. For me going to the gym and exhausting myself is more fun than watching tv, but it wasn't always like that. Same thing with books. You have to start reading and find the way to like it. Then it's easy and fun
Quite right, JXEL. Most of the "benefits" claimed here are extremely generalized and have a tenuous connection to reality at best. I'm not saying there are never any benefits from considering the long term consequences of your choices and decisions - I would encourage people to do that - but from an actual statistical standpoint, that graph is mostly garbage science and magical thinking, useful as no more than a motivational tool for people who have trouble with impulse control.
I had a friend the asked me "why do I think exercise and eating well will fix everything" now I know her mindset better. I told her what you put into your body or life is what you get back. That is my belief 100%.
This is great info. Just add the passion component... When a delayed gratification task is actually something you like, it becomes easier, you do it better than others and you get more benefits from it over time. The problem for many of us is that in early stages of our life, we never got to experience an useful activity that felt as good as watching TV or play videogames, therefore we grew up without passion and every task that could be beneficial is a huge burden. So maybe this is an idea for another video, how could anyone at any age find their passion... I believe is imposible for many of us, but maybe someone figured it out.
It seems to me that it should not be kinda seems like, it should be exactly like that. As old people would be at the far right of the last graph he showed. Either really well off or really poor off. Good catch, by the way.
JAYZUPP damn it’s so true though. Keep your delayed gratification activities going guys! I’ve been learning to master the stock market and I also started bodybuilding one year ago. Ive come far already but I still have a heck of a way to go, looking forward to the journey!
Whereas I admire the enthusiasm and optimism in this video, there are fallacies and quite a lack in actual examples and sources to back next to every claim. This isnt to say that this video shouldn't be shared but that it should be dissected a bit before taking everything here at face value. For anyone who might think I didnt, I did watch the entire video
I just loved the way you explained. Remembering concepts through visuals kind of solidifies them. I will definitely paste this graph in my room and your explanation in my mind. Thank you for the great work.
You can tell this guy understands what he is preaching because he always steps in to tell people who are itching to skip, leave or fast-forward that they are fucking up and he does it exactly when I get that urge. "If your impatient and watch to see what the graph looks like here it is..." and flashes it for a second. This is exactly my experience in most videos.
This video was the most important realization in my entire life. After I watched this during pandemic in 2020, I learned more about delayed gratification, changed my mindset and started to learn new things. Now, the skills I learned at that time helped to get new jobs. I’ll never forget the concept and live with that. Huge thank you from Japan❤
I work in a doctors surgery in SW England and I see examples of the order of consequence every day. Poor short term lifestyle choices such as (1)smoking (2) lack of exercise (3) poor diet have a knock on effect such as finances, you keep going sick so you're fired from your job or passed over for promotion. An effect on your relationships, your partner has to nurse you through illness or drive you to hospital appts, drs surgery, the pharmacy etc. A compounding effect on your further health, you get complications from drug interactions and you need more and more medications to counteract the ones you're already taking, you need other uncomfortable medical interventions such as endoscopy or steroid injections, this leads to more of the first two. The internet is full of videos on how to reverse this, EDUCATE yourself.
@@AndrewKirbys You're welcome, it may have sounded like a horror movie, but it's depressingly common and every word was true. People seem completely oblivious to the 'dangers' of jumping onto the health service merry-go-round and don't realise that a very high % (80 -90% ??) of medications are designed to manage symptoms, they don't treat your illness, they're NOT a cure.
I also live in UK and totally agree with what you say...I’ve seen this exact series of events in my family...very sad. In the recent UK general election I was dismayed to hear none of the main parties talking about the benefits of positive lifestyle choices in relationship to personal health and welfare and depressed to only hear the politicians talk about pumping more and more money into the NHS to treat illness, no long term plans to prevent illness in the first place. I would love to see Boris Johnson give this message to the general public, now he doesn’t have to appeal to their instant gratification of ticking the box for Tory in the voting booth! (Sorry, didn’t mean to get political! 😉).
some would say that you would be always living for the future, the question is, once you start reaping the results of you delayed gratification, will you be enough in the present to enjoy it. everything needs to be in balance, which seems impossible these days.
I just watched a great interview, Ed Mylett was interviewing Kyle Cease. It's on TH-cam. They talked about this very same subject and I recommend the video to anyone who is wondering about this balance.
Seems to me instant gratification is linked to base emotions like greed, lust, jealousy, rage, frustration etc......but even though sometimes we feel them we don't have to bite, that's our choice. Another brill vid Andy, thanks.
Instant gratification is built in the design of the economic system. En masse delayed gratification would be a massive blow to the current world order. I am all for it.
Its not about the current world. In the past, people were trying to pass time in instant gratification way any time they could. Poor people went to pub every day after work to drink (atleast in my part of europe), rich people did some rich people stuff (probably drink some more expensive stuff or go to brothel which used to be normal 200 years ago here). Instant gratification existed since ever. Or rather since creation of society. The problem is we have way too much of it.
The most encouraging thing is - boring things become enjoyable. Salad, gym, work, reading, meditating etc becomes fun and stays useful. As we all heard The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
"If you eat a burger you may enjoy it in the moment but you're not happier for the rest of the week..." This guy obviously has never had a really good burger.
That’s one thing that I’ve learned on my own regarding food: you will never ever remember how good you felt when you ate something in a moment in life. That’s what stops me from eating like a maniac and gain weight which I hardly managed to loose in the past.
Michael Kirtley that would defy the basic law of food. The better it tastes good in the moment and the more you crave it after, the less healthy it is.
"Nothing worth having comes easy" Is a quote in my parents workout area and I always remember that when I don't want to do something that takes time for gratification.
I hate the general concept that reading is always good and videos are bad, i can't remember the last physical book i read but at least 75% of all youtube videos i watch are educational and science related and i read plenty but mostly they are articles online, wikipedia, etc and some downloaded books. My point is as long as you are absorbing information and learning it doesn't matter from what medium you are getting it. Also reading a funny book is basically the same as watching funny videos you are not really learning because the point of them is to distract you and unwind, which is perfectly fine imo.
It’s reported that people like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates read 500 pages a day. Wonder if it would be less if they had the internet 50 years ago lol
This is a very good point. I've always believed that good stories and life lessons can be learned from movies and video games. The mentality of "put down the controller and read a book" is stupid and antiquated. Many times, somebody poured their heart and soul into writing the story and dialogue of that game you're playing, and it is worth no less than a book of a similar story. Books, as a medium, do have the aspect of having little in the way of instant gratification to sift through. Movies, and especially video games, can often have these instant feel-good aspects that might be worth reducing or avoiding, but that does not mean the medium itself is inherently negative. Lastly, to further this point, if you despise the act of reading books, and enjoy the act of playing a game, you will learn and remember far more of the story or lessons from the game than you do from the book, solely on that alone. The one you despise will feel frustrating, and the one you enjoy will feel natural.
You're investing into a vast godlike pool of different intelligences while simultaneously testing your mechanical abilities on top of having a great time adapting to new enemies and environments. Sounds *PRETTY DAM AMAZING TO ME*
@@voices4dayz469 video games are fake, made-up, fabricated, simulated, whatever you wanna call it. Play the universal game of "going outside" just like our forefathers and see the reward irrespective of some made up arbitrary bs
Damn I saw this one in my recs on the perfect damn time. It's quarantine and I was feeling sluggish and unmotivated as HELL. I've been wating for the day to end every day, it's the same loop, passing time scrolling mindlessly through social media, I feel my mood get worse and my brain get slower, my usual sharp witty brain is now something of a worms brain. This video got me out of this gutter by providing indisputable logic and making me realize my own shame. Thanks so damn much
Exercising and eating healthy don’t have to be boring/hard. Everyone has healthy foods they like, and sports/activities they think are fun. That said, your video is quite motivating!
fukk healthy food do you want to die at 90? 70 is more than generous and 75 should (in my opinion) be the legal limit for life just have fun, screw these idiots who tell u to suffer for fukkall
"Focusing on the long run, balancing it with fun in the short term and the world is your oyster" 11:30 Balance is the key. Be honest with yourself. Seek and understand your true inner motivations. Support yourself to be better.
Shawn Nichols That’s excellent! My wife and I just purchased our first home after years of living really tight financially. In the end we were able to roll our gains over into the house. We had MANY tough days/nights but it was SO worth it in the end.
deltaxcd Look at a stock market chart. In the grand scheme of things, a disasterous pullback is just a blip on a stock chart. In 2008, I saw a 22% decline in my portfolio. No dividend cuts at all. A decade later, I was up over 130% from 2007! By 2011, it was like the recession never happened. The only people who lost in the recession were those who pulled out due to fear or never invested at all.
@@Psyberify Yeah, I know. And this is why you will pull your hair until you will become bald this time ;) who could have expected that FED will flood everything with money to prevent the crash? It is hard to tell when to pull out when you are gambling.
This explains perfectly why whenever I engage in something that gives me instant gratification, I seem to engage in many other bad habits afterwards. There’s a chain effect that comes from engaging in one bad habit that will have a greater net negative effect than you would have anticipated
Yeah, I'm reflecting on this right now, and I'm getting to the realization that usually, whenever I opt for something that provides me with instant gratification, that day is gone, filled with bad decisions, procrastination and frustration. And when I do force myself to be productive against my own will, I am able to get so much more from my day.
You are smashing it! I love your stuff and you are great at it! Im a careers adviser and when you said "youtube, i would do it for free" i know you are going to be successful for a very long time! I would do my job for free. It take a huge chunk of lifelong learning but then again im watching this first thing on a sunday morning so i love it too! Thanks for making these videos!
I agree with the general concept of investing in yourself for the long term by pursuing things that don't give you instant gratification, but I don't understand this feeling that people have that reading a book is inherently a better way to gain information than watching a video. TH-cam videos can be more informative and illustrating than a book can because it has another aspect of storytelling, which is video. Likewise, you can just as easily read a junk book as you can watch a junk video. I think it's more about the TYPE of book and video that you watch rather than books are always inherently better for you than videos.
You will remember more when you read than when you listen, Although theres a you can learn and remember when watching and listening. We did after all pass down stories to each other through speaking before we created a writing system. Some cultures never created a writing system, those cultures tend to have better audio memory amongst its population.
In 2012 at my high school I bought 20 Bitcoins at $14. So did my other friends in my engineering classes. My other friends went for instant gratification stock exchange. They kept getting good instant money but it was small. We kept buying more. 2 of them started mining more. It rose a few times, then came 2017 we sold at around $18,000-$18,600. My friends from my engineering class waited 5 years to get delayed gratification and they became Crypto Millionaires. I did not become a crypto millionaire but made amazing money. My other friends that went in instant gratification stock exchange made money but got enough for a small car. In 2018 they took their money from the stock exchange and joined us in the Crypto world. Now we are waiting for 2021, for that delayed gratification.
Good morning Andrew. Thank you for this superb video, everything you say is bang on the money. I’m a busy landscaper, the work is physically and mentally challenging and I’m often in pain and work really long hours. However it is the most spiritually rewarding thing I’ve ever done and my mental health is so much better now. Many of the jobs we do literally change people’s lives and they are so grateful for our assistance, this is such a good feeling and it helps me to get through the tougher days.
Great advice. The only issue I have is your statement, that our decisions are solely responsible to determine if we have a good or bad life. This is only partial responsible, the circumstances beyond one's control is also a significant factor. But successful people often believe their life is a result of decision, and those with struggle believe in circumstance, when in reality everyone's path is a combination of the two.
Excellent Video !!! I’ve had multiple times in my life from GREAT to bad, and I never thought about it until I was in college. Then I thought about everything you talk about, and all of a sudden, I had a system I could follow that keep me on track (I put the notes on my binder so I would see them every day). I sure hope people who are still in high school or younger will see this, and as I did, take notes !!!
Hey! If you feel that you waste time and procrastinate, then check this out: timetheory.com/apply. Cheers!
I'll do it tomorrow.... LOL.
Is there a JPG image of this graph? I would like it to be on my desktop monitor.
I am alright, I don't have anything too procrastinate
Often one's preferences/goals/values aren't well-defined enough to have more than a vague sense of wasting time. Procrastination is only possible with something worth pursuing, which is the bigger problem worth solving. And before than, one must consistently be in the mental state with enough self-esteem/faith in their long-term ability to imagine and choose what is meaningful enough to commit to pursuing.
The ideal self-help course/tools/approach MUST begin with enriching mood states (i.e. self-efficacy, optimism, resilience, and hope ). Next imagination/vision/goal-setting (long & medium-term).
Until then, optimizing time is just another distraction. People watch videos all day aimlessly for good reasons sometimes, like exploration/discovery of perspectives, developing curiosities, social and cultural sense of involvement, and so on.
Unfortunately, the feed-based interfaces (especially with notifications, auto-play, addictive recommendation algorithms, etc) changes the consumption of information from an active pursuit driven by the user's conscious search queries into a passive, automatic, sensationalist mind-numbing and pleasure-seeking.
Props to people for realizing these problems: those seeking solutions, as well as those like Andrew offering solutions... Just be wary that goal-setting itself often is the thing being procrastinated.
The 'Stay hungry!'/power-through-the-pain mentality obsession with productivity and focus itself is totally shooting many of us in the foot, self-sabotaging like someone who cannot relax turning to excessive smoking cigarettes.
self-efficacy, optimism, resilience, and hope -- mood states are ephemeral for 99% of us who aren't the Buddha or Tony Robbins etc. Once we awaken to goals/purpose/path forward in life (say a 5 year and a 1 year plan at least), then we are better able to consistently feel optimistic and planning our days and months becomes energizing instead of being a dreadful reminder of the aging process/staleness of routines which leave many feeling life is passing them by.
Thank you for this video. 🙏🏾 It was succinct and compelling. Already knew the information but it came at a opportune moment of personal growth for myself. Keep up the vids! ✊🏾
WoW I am 79, I wish I had known this when I was 20, will it change my life now? you bet it will
Right on brother!
It's never too late. 👍
Hey, Martin. I am 60 and learn things everyday. Yes, even at 60 or 79 - it's not late. I m messaging from my brothers phone. My name is Myna. I thought of encouraging you. Tk care
kill it my man💪💪
Do it!!!
"It's harder to read a book than watch a youtube video"
Got this quote from youtube video
Валерий Кузнецов I read it in a book
I heard it in an audio book
I watched it on a book.
* video.
D. R I did it from a book
"I hated every minute of my training but I said, 'Don't quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.'" - Muhammud Ali
It's the long game- that's what I say quietly to myself every time I make a decision where I'm giving up having something right now for something that will provide a greater outcome in the future 💪🍀But this also just applies in general like you portrayed, e.g. training, taking care of your health, saving a little money continuously, reading some factual information, etc.
For Ali there was the training, then the fighting, then being a champion, then the brain damage. I wonder if he felt it was worthwhile. Brain damage is pretty bad.
He kept fighting after he was a champion, so being a champion wasn't the real goal.
I suppose these details aren't analogous to my situation - I don't want to be a champion or fight, and the things I value aren't likely to cause brain damage.
“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”
- Jim Rohn
Wow this is great !! thanks for sharing this!!!
I disagree. I find they weigh about the same, the main difference is discipline weighs you down on a daily basis, while regret only comes around once a month or so and only lasts a few hours.
Or you can just trust in the universe that instead of discipline is better to passionately enjoy actions and rejoice all that is desired will come true
Great quote! Thanks!
@@RCBashist Regret mostly comes at night..won't let you sleep..
“If you do what is easy, your life will be hard. If you do what is hard, your life will be easy.” Les Brown
This really hit me
Or you can do some easy things and some difficult ones, and you life is easy sometimes and hard sometimes, it’s never one way or the other.
cliché, some people have it easy, nothing is universal, our world is acataleptic by nature.
@Voicu Cristian Valentin I think the quote is perfectly making the sense, everything is hard for average person and this is why they can't be in top 1%..!
To be in top 1% you definitely need to do super hard things, otherwise you'll stay average/ mediocre
@Voicu Cristian Valentin so keep doing hard things then. That's how life has been since the beginning, we all were hunter gatherers, we were working all the time to find food and place to sleep. Fight with nature and animals to be alive. Hard work is what we must do. 1:1 = 1*hard work: 1*smart work
This needs to be taught in schools because many parents haven't learned it and they pass on their poor decision making habits to their children.
This guy just revealed the Asian parent secret weapon!
Jasmin Ha It's taught in uk schools, life skills, values, pastoral (form) time, it's just not backed up much by pop culture or parents, or marketeers of course, so kinda gets lost. Teaching the finer details of debt entrapment, low paid jobs and high priced credit to 30 13yr olds during a "not a real "lesson "" lesson has got to to be tough, I didn't listen to my form teacher explaining the crash of Black Friday in the 80's and I didn't listen to my union rep about pensions when I joined the workforce in the 90's. This is a parental responsibility but even that's tough, that's why this guy is so valuable, like any 13 yr old going to be relating to anyone born last century! I agree with you tho in the absence of such, we need to relate these concepts as a common thread throughout the curriculum.
The Government runs the school’s curriculum so its never going to be taught in US schools same with learning about money and how to actually acquire money aside from a job that pays you shit money unless you’re with the banks, real estate, business owner, investor and entrepreneur. They dont teach you how to do taxes and manage your money, life and budget things out, etc. they literally dont teach you any important life skills just science math english history thats flawed...
@@TehFibe I hear that, its more or less the same in UK schools, but things like form/tutor groups are pastoral teaching groups and things like this will be addressed, but not assessed nor really monitored so its a bit of a teacher lottery. Plus there is a oot of teachers who dont really know enough anyways teaching in the uk is good, sercure and carrys a good pension plus a "free" national health service, so there is less need for teachers to be "surviving the real world." One of the best quotes i saw years ago on the net was "J.O.B = Just Over Broke"!
System is designed to keep us trapped. Just like the human batteries in the matrix. Governments set the school curriculum...no way would they teach anything which will break down the system of debt entrapment. True...the lessons are learned often too late in life.
when he said "your a dopamine addicted rat" i felt that
Omg samee
So were did you feel it, in your whiskers or your tail?
* you're
same
Dopamine is worse than heroin
“I am the sum total of small actions consistently repeated over time” - a wise man
W B That wise man was Jim Rohn who was the originator of the concept.
... that moment when a young kid preaches and an old man feels the wisdom. Great video mate.
For what its worth, during lockdown I have been doing oldskool shit like starting to grow plants on my window ledges, cleaning the whole apartment and taking the time to cook food ... all these things felt like chores at the time, all have paid off in the long run. Becoming self sufficient in green leaf vegetables was a lot of time and effort, with no reward in the short term ... but no every time I even look at my plants ... I get a warm glow of satisfaction.
That's amazing! Wish I could do that too. Next house, more windows or better: a garden. Are you vegan? 😊
Since a few days i try to completely changed my lifestyle. Less gaming, less social media, less nsfw stuff. Friends told me i have muscular potential so now im doing exercises every morning and every evening. Since 2017 im trying myself into electronic music production and it keeps on growing. In about 40 days i start a 3 year education.
Every thing i want in future im writing down on my phone so i dont forget about it and thats probably one of the things besides motivational videos like this that make me feel good. Im finally happier than with my life than before and im ready to sacrifice my time for a good life in future. Im so motivated and if you still read this: Go write down your plans! Get into some good longterm habits and get out of the shortterm habits!
Cheers people!
Thank you for your comment! I'm at that place now, wanting to change habits so bad...Cheers to you!
I applaud you!!
Sharing your story is motivational for people like me, and let’s people like me congratulate you on your work!
You got this my dude! I wish you the best in life
Very nice to read this man ! If you have a souncloud i wouldn't mind following you :d
It always brings me peace to see other people my age having clarity of the illusion that instant gratification creates upon our realities
I agree
@@DIVIDIII bro you sounded high two years ago
I'm sorry but you have lovely hair
@@DIVIDIII me calling u high was a complement ;)
I'm going to wait a year before liking this video. It'll be worth it....
PompeyMatt17 we’ll see if you remember in a year
@@rcvisuals9427 remember what? 😁
PompeyMatt17 to like the video
@@rcvisuals9427 I was joking 🙄
You should actually dislike it so that the video will have a current negative feedback but will be back to positive in the long future when you factor in time.
I love how this was put in graph form. These are familiar concepts but the way Andrew presented them shed new light and is more effective at motivation than anything else I’ve come across.
"Everyday we make 35000 decisions."
Me: About 30000 of those are "do I go to sleep now or do I watch another video?"
Lol
30,000 videos per day?
Great comment though
That is how I ended up here bro not even kidding😂😂
Sleep now! Sleep is so important for memory formation and brain toxin flushing. It's how you grow better instead of wondering why you are not improving!
😂
There is a scripture in the Christian Bible that says, “All things are permissible for me, but not all things are beneficial. All things are permissible, but I will not be controlled by anything.”
This makes a lot of sense. It’s about how much control an activity has over the quality of life. The question is not whether or not someone can live without it. Humans can live without all kinds of things, even if they think they cannot do so. It’s about quality of life and whether or not someone has surrendered their ability to create long term good.
Fuck christianity you're still .....
What verse please?
@@4everhdt It's 1 Corinthians 10:22-24. Here's a link for easy reference! www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Corinthians%2010:22-24&version=CSB
Interesting
It doesn't really mean what this video is referring to though. It is about looking out for those around you rather than pursuing your own interests. The Bible, more specifically the New Testament, is of course very social democracy leaning in general.
The key to a happy life is to practice moderation in everything - including moderation. The odd hit of dopamine ain't no bad thing and we all need to let our hair down once in a while. Otherwise, yes investing in the long term by doing the hard yards is sensible and beneficial. Just remember to live in the moment and have fun along the way or you'll regret it later. You never know what tomorrow may bring in terms of sickness or disaster.
My biggest regrets are the many times I could have had potentially wonderful & life changing experiences via instant gratification but chose not to. Those are missed opportunities, and they haunt me. It's not healthy to live solely for instant gratification...long term goals and delayed gratification are definitely worthwhile...but don't be afraid to sometimes live spontaneously and enjoy the moment. Balance, my friend.
Just wanted to tell you that you had changed my life. I’m very inspired by your work. Please don’t stop my friend.
I thought I knew what he said but now this knowledge is useful.
Well said, Alba! It's hard to listen to another person's voice.
This may have been posted before, but the secret is to find activities that give you both instant gratification and delayed gratification. For me that would be coding/scripting.
I agree so hard
Absolutely agreed
This seems a better explanation for reading, least for fiction
I like reading books and learning stuff on the internet. The graph will stay above the bottom line forever!
Finding passionate job is one of them
A big life hack is when you realize that pleasure always starts from within you, and you are able to reward yourself whenever you take "long term positive / delayed gratification" actions. The gratification can be instant for any action, if you choose to give yourself that pleasure. Build these long term positive / instant gratification cycles and it becomes automatic.
This is something I'm working on lately, is finding that dopamine hit through making the healthy decisions, even if I don't always feel the intended effects of them immediately. Thanks for sharing!
Wyatt Overstreet you can use something to help... a basic example is eating a piece of candy every time you read 5 pages in a book... then your brain is trained and you can read more easily
EVERY choice we make, no matter how small it might seem, will have an impact on our life situation. SO, LETS FOCUS ON MAKING BETTER CHOICES :)
tell that to the Bill Gates and Warren Buffets of the world- their pleasures are crashing the global economy so it doesn't really matter the choices you make if these wealthy, insanely wealthy people are determined to destroy the world they live in with their GREAT CHOICES
Let's be honest. Only about 10% of our daily choices impact our life. The key is to understand which choices are important and which aren't. By understanding that fact we can reach the stars.
name you're a troll
@ WTF are you even saying. If you're gonna troll, at least be fucking coherent....ffs
Everyone does something stupid at least a few times in life, I think Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi. I like to think I have learned from my mistakes. Being human, I will no doubt make many more.
Lifting is one of the only things that gives both instant & delayed gratification.
epicbehavior I couldn’t agree more 💪 flex on em
ｓｗｏｌｅ
Yeah I remember watching a video (can't remember the name), but there was a guy describing a grid with 4 quadrants, where each of them represented a relationship between short and long term gratification.
There was:
- "hedonism" red quadrant (gratification now, detrimental later) -> e.g. watching Netflix
- "rat race" green quadrant (detriment now, gratification later) -> e.g. reading a boring research paper for your class
- "nihilism" black quadrant (detriment now, detriment later) -> e.g. getting in a fight with someone
- "???" blue quadrant (gratification now, gratification later) -> e.g. gym session
he basically claimed that you need to find a balance between each of these (except black) in order to succeed in life. Because sometimes you just need to engage in some of those 'red quadrant' activities in order to get some rest, you also need some of those 'green' activities, because even though they might be more boring in the short term, they are usually much more rewarding in the long term. But you should build your core activities around the blue quadrant, because that's where most of the fulfilment comes from.
So in your case, gym would be the blue quadrant I guess.
P.S.: Pls don't laugh at me if it's one of Andrew's own old videos haha
EDIT: This was a book called "The happiness equation" by Neil Pasricha -> I haven't read it, only watched a video summary, but it made a perfect sense to me.
@@stepanfau6480 thank you!
Instant gratification is absolutely neccesary to the human condition; it's play. Delayed gratification is also necessary; it's work.
Thanks man, never saw it that way
Glad I discovered your channel while I’m still 15. You may not see this but I want to say it anyway. The knowledge you have given me has been a monumental part in my self development. I grew up surrounded and partaking in negative things. I started drinking when I was 12, and smoking when I was 13. I skipped school after years of good grades because of burnout and stress. My family fell apart early in my childhood, and currently I struggle with financial stress and isolation due to the pandemic.
But despite it all, discovering videos like yours and learning more about self improvement on other platforms has quite literally changed my fate. Even as a child I was sure that someday I’d end up killing myself, whether it be intentional or not. I thought I’d fail school. I thought I would be dead young due to my habits. But here I am, because of you and many others, finally happy for the first time in years. I’m set to graduate as early as 16/17, I’ve stopped smoking cigarettes and only drink on special occasions. I’ve started taking opportunities as they come, and contributing to my future while I am still young. Among other many great changes, this all compounded and I am 2 years self harm and depression free.
Videos like these, whether you think so or not, can quite literally save a life. People like you who hold such passion in these topics, enough to share them with the world, have my respect and my appreciation. I was never taught how to be disciplined, emotionally stable, how to navigate through life - yet the wonders of the internet have changed that. I actually see a future for myself. I finally have the will to pursue harder things rather than lay in my bed all day.
I’m making the most out of my situation. I’m learning new things everyday and realizing new things everyday because of people like you. Thank you.
Thank you for sharing!
My motto this year has been simply "DO BETTER" and, honestly, its working.
Just, on average, trying to make more good choices is all it takes to begin changing your life... the more effort the more results though, but start with better -- do your best at doing better... because that is all you can realistically do.
This just reminded me of a great quote:
Don't do what you want.
Then you can do what you want.
That didn't make much sense to me.
@@matszz I'm confused too
For those confused, I'll explain what he means: Rather than doing what you want (aka play Xbox, watch porn, eat pizza, instant gratification stuff) first do things that you don't necessarily wanna do but SHOULD do (finishing your homework, going to the gym, brushing/flossing your teeth, delayed gratification stuff) and THEN you can get back to doing what you want aka the instant gratification stuff because the delayed gratification stuff is already done and out of the way.
@@VesDegree thanks for the explanation, now I understand :)
@@VesDegree If that's the interpretation of the quote it still doesn't make sense. Don't do what you want, then can you can do what you want. Don't eat the pizza, and then you can eat the pizza.
As a Pro Musician from a young age, I practiced everyday. Once the gigs as a solo Entertainer started stacking up, I hardly needed to practice at home. I was getting PAID to practice by playing. When the gigs became fewer and now none due to covid, I don't practice like I did as a youth, and have noticeably lost my performance skills. Time to practice again... ugh.
Hopefully there will be a demand for Live Music in the future.
my bf is in literally the exact same scenario as you. im wondering if ur him lol
There will be T Budd, cause we miss your live music so, so much. We now have pent up demand, can't wait to hear live music, any live music again.....
C Finch, is this Brave Combo Carl?
Keep practicing! People will get fed up of being indoors. Live music is needed. Evan now you can do some live music videos online. Options are: TH-cam, Facebook, Zoom, Google meet, etc
How did you keep your consistency of practicing every day? I want to do that with so many things... piano, guitar, yoga... but I just can't seem to form habits.
Love that video!
You just forget one point, it's totally possible to have instant gratification and delayed gratification with the SAME action.
For example, if I play Basketball with friends it'll give me instant gratification because I love to play basketball, but it'll also give me some delayed gratification because I'm doing sport and I'll fell better in my body in the long term.
[Edit] Another example : If I want to improve my English (my native language is french), I can see some english series. So it'll give me some delayed gratification because I'm learning English, and it'll give me some instant gratification because I'm seeing series (which is fun).
So, to use this rule in the best way, I think we have to find some activities which combine instants and delayed gratifications.
Do you agree with me?
Gaetan Lang ... Excellent point!!
Tres bien monsieur ...
This is exactly what I was going to say and he even highlights it in the end with his bad example of making TH-cam videos.
Graph is not necessarily true, yet ballancing out choices towards ones that give long term gain is good
Gaetan, my native language is English, and I watch French videos to improve my French. :)
Kathleen Mavity and do you got some instant gratification when you watch these videos ?
After watching this vid I immediately got working on my project report and finished it, achieving more than I usually could in a single sitting. Good stuff
This is the key to meaning, positivity, fulfillment and happiness.
Your profile picture will manage to trigger someone one day
Every week this guy comes back with something that 'changes his life'
That’s how it should be. If you don’t learn something every week that changes your life somethings wrong..
@@Surge246 i understand every life experience, every book read, every biography, every religious book etc. but man every week? This guy gets blown away EVERY WEEK?
Sounds like click bait to me bro
Its not clickbait but its to attract viewers
@@benyameenyitzhak1036 yr on youtube man, not a book. its just the way it is. Creators need to make a living and that works. Also he probably learned all this for years way before he figured out how to segment his comprehension into weekly uploads.
Like lets say throughout the course of 8 years there are 100 things you learn, which is plausable given the timeframe. But then you decide you wanna make a youtube channel, you would make videos quite easily since you have a lot of things in your past to fuel the content.
Pity it is so poorly researched. He needs to read more. If he'd researched this properly he would have found out the problems with the marshmallow experiment and that the results don't hold up to scrutiny. He'd know the actual purpose dopamine serves and would not make the faux pas of referring to hits of dopamine.
There is a good quote from Goethe:
Who never commands himself will always be a servant.
(I hope I translated it correctly)
Commenting to save.
Nice
Yay
way to goethe
👍
This highlights how It’s so important to practice being uncomfortable
"It's harder to read a book than watch a TH-cam video".
Take this to heart and it can be life changing, especially if you apply it in every area of your life instead of only correlating it between a book and TH-cam. seriously.
Sorry, I missed this part. Are you saying we should read books instead>
Most people can.
this young Thomas Shelby really has some nice ideas
Spot on, eh
Excellent vid. I agree with Scott. Please reach out to Netflix to audition for Thomas Shelby Jr.
Scott Kristian Bidstrup right? First thing I thought too 😂
Ik someone else was gonna say it lol
I said the same, I hadn't seen your comment but he's definitely has the look and the voice.
Step 1: Call an ambulance
Step 2: Take a shot every time he says "gratification"
OMG...
RIP
My dad always said that "We make the biggest decisions in life when we are least equipped to do so." (being young).
Career decisions need to be made young and you need to work hard. Relationship decisions must be correct.
Or maybe when we are least educated a bit on life...... Not young and naive. So you are 17 years old and you decide you want a career and your going to work hard... You've just decided to give up all the best years of your life to working hard 5 days a week. 50 years you will do this. Most of what you earn goes on tax and interest. probably about 70% of your income. Then because you've worked so hard when it comes to retirement your body is worn out because you worked hard and you are now useless. You then spend the majority of the hard money you've earned paying for someone to care for you, then you die and the government takes a massive chunk of everything you've earned. I wouldn't say this is a very good way to spend the majority of your life. 😬
Francisco Scaramango it’s sad that you are so correct. Doesn’t feel as miserable when you are living it,but when you get older and realize the time that was wasted. That’s the real kick in the guts.
@@kingleonidas4296 totally agree. I remember being in the 2nd year of my apprenticeship..... I was about 18-19 and it was then I realised I had been fooled and conned. It was then I realised that I had to do this for the rest of my life, get up everyday and go to work for another 50 years. I then realised school was there to brainwash me to agree to giving my life away. To think it's normal and ok. Everyone does it, so it's fine. The whole system is corrupt to the core and just a glorified version of slavery in my opinion.
Francisco Scaramango I am about to turn 19 and I learned this lesson during the past two weeks because all my friends are picking up careers or going to university. When I finished school I still didn't know what do but i thought something that pays well and is fun should be good enough. But I never thought about the fact that the actual thing I want to get from working is enough money and as much free time as possible to do the things I love and share time with the people i love. I just wanted to say thank you because your comment reminded me of this eye opening lesson.
@@danifufu281 Nice comment. I would say that the only way to have the spare time in life but also the money, is if you set up your own business. If you learned a trade at your age, then you went self employed.... Doesn't have to be a trade though, just your own business. You then dictate the hours you work and what you earn. You will never become rich and have spare time if you have to go to work for somebody else. But sadly our schools don't teach you anything about filing taxes to HMRC and how the money banking system works.
Things to consider while making decisions-
1) Take the effect of time into consideration
2) Habits are formed and hence the practice of instant/delayed gratification in one area, spills over in other areas, which amplifies the net negative/positive effects.
3) Always keep in mind the domino effect, and hence take into consideration the second and third order consequences.
Delayed gratification is the best way to describe real estate ! At the street level it’s “ what goes around comes around” “ karma” . Excellent thank you!
The most ironic part is that im procrastinating by watching this.
call it manufacturing overhead
imma shut the app after this
I'm gonna procrastinate watching this video by watching another.
cause u a dopamine addicted rat bruther >.
Bro I procrastinate 24/7
I dont remember who said this, probably Dr. Peterson.
He said to that for thousands of years people have watched the successful and the unsuccessful. The successful practice sacrifice, they delay instant gratification. To be successful, you would sacrifice what you love most, it might be a treasured item, a favored cow, a dream, a time-consuming hobby.
Negotiate with the present to shape and bring forth a future you that can succeed in the long term and not give in to pleasures.
I hope this can be of help to anyone else who's struggling towards order in this chaotic world.
to funny, Dr. Peterson is in rehab because of all his bad decisions he's making in his own life- the guy teaches kids LIFE IS PAIN
@ He's in rehab because he got prescribed an addictive opiod by a psychiatrist, wich he didn't know would have such effects on him. Heck, I think anybody who says he doesn't need to calm down when his wife is dying of liver cancer is a liar.
@ You're just trolling or deeply ignorant.
@@chrisinderkum9475
@ My response goes in accordance with yours. You pointed out facts for wich you have no proof (and wich I dare to say there isn't). On the other hand there's plenty of proof of Peterson's professionalism, that's why I'm pointing out you're either ignorant, or a troll.
"How can we kill time, without damaging eternity?" -Henry David Thoreau
That's really cool. XD
Woah!
from the way he names his videos, it seems his life is changing everyday
Must be exhausting.
I'm 51 and have been making gradual positive changes for the past 3 years. You have a great gift of wisdom as a young man. Wishing you good things Andrew👍
It reminds me of the Matthew principle, which is clearly right I think. To those who have everything more will be given, and from those who have nothing, everything will be taken. That's exactly what this video was about, and it's a fundamental rule indeed in the world. The success in life (delayed gratification, or sacrifice) will increase the probability of further success (general improvement).
p.s. This video helped me to get back my feet and remember that I should be doing my best for the world because I tend to spiral downwards and emotionally forget it. thanks a lot.
"If you read a book, it's boring in the moment". Dude you read the wrong books if that is the case
CallMe Andy maybe you don’t read the right ones 😊
scrolled down to see how far ride have to go before someone said this. books are the best mate.
It's matter of habit. For me going to the gym and exhausting myself is more fun than watching tv, but it wasn't always like that. Same thing with books. You have to start reading and find the way to like it. Then it's easy and fun
@@piotrekuygiutf4946 Yeah, I couldn't agree more, proper habits are key :P
I've never personal enjoyed a book... I've read personal help books. I can't read anything else.
“ Take a run .... get a promotion “ makes sense
Did we watch the same video?
Haha, I latched on to that also!
jxel ur not smart
@@GCFproduckins savage
Quite right, JXEL. Most of the "benefits" claimed here are extremely generalized and have a tenuous connection to reality at best. I'm not saying there are never any benefits from considering the long term consequences of your choices and decisions - I would encourage people to do that - but from an actual statistical standpoint, that graph is mostly garbage science and magical thinking, useful as no more than a motivational tool for people who have trouble with impulse control.
I had a friend the asked me "why do I think exercise and eating well will fix everything" now I know her mindset better. I told her what you put into your body or life is what you get back. That is my belief 100%.
This is great info.
Just add the passion component... When a delayed gratification task is actually something you like, it becomes easier, you do it better than others and you get more benefits from it over time. The problem for many of us is that in early stages of our life, we never got to experience an useful activity that felt as good as watching TV or play videogames, therefore we grew up without passion and every task that could be beneficial is a huge burden. So maybe this is an idea for another video, how could anyone at any age find their passion... I believe is imposible for many of us, but maybe someone figured it out.
This kind of seems like something I've noticed where old people are either total bums or wise like Gandolf.
Stark contrast
Holy shit I’ve never noticed that before but now that you mention it, it’s so damn true
@@WiseFoolTrades after people are done with school seems to be where things really start to show, from what I've seen
It seems to me that it should not be kinda seems like, it should be exactly like that. As old people would be at the far right of the last graph he showed. Either really well off or really poor off. Good catch, by the way.
JAYZUPP damn it’s so true though. Keep your delayed gratification activities going guys! I’ve been learning to master the stock market and I also started bodybuilding one year ago. Ive come far already but I still have a heck of a way to go, looking forward to the journey!
@@WiseFoolTrades it's tough to see the benefit of something that only seems like a hassle in the moment
Whereas I admire the enthusiasm and optimism in this video, there are fallacies and quite a lack in actual examples and sources to back next to every claim. This isnt to say that this video shouldn't be shared but that it should be dissected a bit before taking everything here at face value.
For anyone who might think I didnt, I did watch the entire video
I also thought it was good, but oversimplified - too much focus on delayed gratification can be problematic
Will you point out some fallacies that were in this video?
10:46 he comes right out and says that this is only a broad summary and that you don't need to delay all gratification.
I just loved the way you explained. Remembering concepts through visuals kind of solidifies them. I will definitely paste this graph in my room and your explanation in my mind. Thank you for the great work.
You can tell this guy understands what he is preaching because he always steps in to tell people who are itching to skip, leave or fast-forward that they are fucking up and he does it exactly when I get that urge. "If your impatient and watch to see what the graph looks like here it is..." and flashes it for a second. This is exactly my experience in most videos.
This video was the most important realization in my entire life. After I watched this during pandemic in 2020, I learned more about delayed gratification, changed my mindset and started to learn new things. Now, the skills I learned at that time helped to get new jobs. I’ll never forget the concept and live with that. Huge thank you from Japan❤
I work in a doctors surgery in SW England and I see examples of the order of consequence every day. Poor short term lifestyle choices such as (1)smoking (2) lack of exercise (3) poor diet have a knock on effect such as finances, you keep going sick so you're fired from your job or passed over for promotion. An effect on your relationships, your partner has to nurse you through illness or drive you to hospital appts, drs surgery, the pharmacy etc.
A compounding effect on your further health, you get complications from drug interactions and you need more and more medications to counteract the ones you're already taking, you need other uncomfortable medical interventions such as endoscopy or steroid injections, this leads to more of the first two. The internet is full of videos on how to reverse this, EDUCATE yourself.
@@AndrewKirbys You're welcome, it may have sounded like a horror movie, but it's depressingly common and every word was true. People seem completely oblivious to the 'dangers' of jumping onto the health service merry-go-round and don't realise that a very high % (80 -90% ??) of medications are designed to manage symptoms, they don't treat your illness, they're NOT a cure.
@R-Type Thank you for your thoughtful reply. . So many people fail to understand what is right under their noses, to their own detriment.
I also live in UK and totally agree with what you say...I’ve seen this exact series of events in my family...very sad. In the recent UK general election I was dismayed to hear none of the main parties talking about the benefits of positive lifestyle choices in relationship to personal health and welfare and depressed to only hear the politicians talk about pumping more and more money into the NHS to treat illness, no long term plans to prevent illness in the first place. I would love to see Boris Johnson give this message to the general public, now he doesn’t have to appeal to their instant gratification of ticking the box for Tory in the voting booth! (Sorry, didn’t mean to get political! 😉).
You’re describing the whole driving force behind consumerism - careful your channel doesn’t get blocked for “inappropriate content” 😂
😂😂
I know you laughed but deeply seen it’s really sad how they control our life with those dopamine rush’s and I am myself a victim of it
You've said SO MUCH in such a short amount of time. Thank you for your brilliant simplification of ancient wisdom for today's world.
”May we ever choose the harder right instead of the easier wrong” - Thomas S Monson
Great quote. I have my own quote, which is “time is what it takes”
some would say that you would be always living for the future, the question is, once you start reaping the results of you delayed gratification, will you be enough in the present to enjoy it. everything needs to be in balance, which seems impossible these days.
I just watched a great interview, Ed Mylett was interviewing Kyle Cease. It's on TH-cam. They talked about this very same subject and I recommend the video to anyone who is wondering about this balance.
Seems to me instant gratification is linked to base emotions like greed, lust, jealousy, rage, frustration etc......but even though sometimes we feel them we don't have to bite, that's our choice. Another brill vid Andy, thanks.
It’s called “Instagram” for a reason
Sorry I'm Late 🤯
Instant telegram
Instagram.
But I see yer point.
@@ptowntravis Yeah
INSTAnt GRAtification Moment
Instant gram of dopamine is what I thought you meant hahaha.
This is one of the best videos I've watched, will remember and follow this.
Instant gratification is built in the design of the economic system. En masse delayed gratification would be a massive blow to the current world order. I am all for it.
Yeah... I kind of agree. XD
Its not about the current world. In the past, people were trying to pass time in instant gratification way any time they could. Poor people went to pub every day after work to drink (atleast in my part of europe), rich people did some rich people stuff (probably drink some more expensive stuff or go to brothel which used to be normal 200 years ago here).
Instant gratification existed since ever. Or rather since creation of society. The problem is we have way too much of it.
The most encouraging thing is - boring things become enjoyable. Salad, gym, work, reading, meditating etc becomes fun and stays useful. As we all heard The rich get richer and the poor get poorer.
"If it was easy, everyone would have done it". Remember this when you do things which challenges your ability.
Yo I actually though this was a clickbait title, but now I’m just questioning my life choices rn
"If you eat a burger you may enjoy it in the moment but you're not happier for the rest of the week..." This guy obviously has never had a really good burger.
Was thinking the same
I'm still savouring the best burger I've ever had, 2 years ago. And I've washed my teeth many times since.
That’s one thing that I’ve learned on my own regarding food: you will never ever remember how good you felt when you ate something in a moment in life. That’s what stops me from eating like a maniac and gain weight which I hardly managed to loose in the past.
What if it turns out that a burger is healthier than a salad?
Michael Kirtley that would defy the basic law of food. The better it tastes good in the moment and the more you crave it after, the less healthy it is.
"Nothing worth having comes easy" Is a quote in my parents workout area and I always remember that when I don't want to do something that takes time for gratification.
i was supposed to study, but my desire for instant gratification made me click on this video...
It sounds like young Darth Vader's trying to get me to give up french fries.
If I had a dollar for every time I heard that...
Order 66 number of likes on this comment...
Love this guy’s voice
Digital Brand I hope he is not doing an Elizabeth Holmes🤓
I actually hate it but the info is very valuable. He sounds like he has a cold and is talking through a bottle, but again, very valuable info.
“Easy choices hard life, hard choices easy life.”
I liked this video a lot, but I had to stop it in the middle because I was instantly gratified, and I’m trying to change my life for the better.
On of the best videos I ever saw thank you.
I hate the general concept that reading is always good and videos are bad, i can't remember the last physical book i read but at least 75% of all youtube videos i watch are educational and science related and i read plenty but mostly they are articles online, wikipedia, etc and some downloaded books. My point is as long as you are absorbing information and learning it doesn't matter from what medium you are getting it.
Also reading a funny book is basically the same as watching funny videos you are not really learning because the point of them is to distract you and unwind, which is perfectly fine imo.
It’s reported that people like Warren Buffett and Bill Gates read 500 pages a day. Wonder if it would be less if they had the internet 50 years ago lol
This is a very good point. I've always believed that good stories and life lessons can be learned from movies and video games. The mentality of "put down the controller and read a book" is stupid and antiquated. Many times, somebody poured their heart and soul into writing the story and dialogue of that game you're playing, and it is worth no less than a book of a similar story.
Books, as a medium, do have the aspect of having little in the way of instant gratification to sift through. Movies, and especially video games, can often have these instant feel-good aspects that might be worth reducing or avoiding, but that does not mean the medium itself is inherently negative.
Lastly, to further this point, if you despise the act of reading books, and enjoy the act of playing a game, you will learn and remember far more of the story or lessons from the game than you do from the book, solely on that alone. The one you despise will feel frustrating, and the one you enjoy will feel natural.
@@morningwaves 500 pages of what? That is the question.
Difficult study books you can sometimes only read 6 pages an hour.
Why are you so smart? I always think about it.
@@morningwaves actually. Don't believe boomers so quickly
"compound effect is the 8th wonder of the world"
Albert Einstein
Hm, this is pretty interesting.
*Goes back to playing video games*
You're investing into a vast godlike pool of different intelligences while simultaneously testing your mechanical abilities on top of having a great time adapting to new enemies and environments. Sounds *PRETTY DAM AMAZING TO ME*
Voices4dayz video games are useless in the long run, they dont develop any skill that is applicable to other usefull things
@@voices4dayz469 video games are fake, made-up, fabricated, simulated, whatever you wanna call it. Play the universal game of "going outside" just like our forefathers and see the reward irrespective of some made up arbitrary bs
@@Lucas-nv4uf false, they hone us into killing machines of mass destruction
@@Lucas-nv4uf Not really. I recommend you check out the Mindfield episode "Your Brain on Tech" :)
Damn I saw this one in my recs on the perfect damn time. It's quarantine and I was feeling sluggish and unmotivated as HELL. I've been wating for the day to end every day, it's the same loop, passing time scrolling mindlessly through social media, I feel my mood get worse and my brain get slower, my usual sharp witty brain is now something of a worms brain. This video got me out of this gutter by providing indisputable logic and making me realize my own shame. Thanks so damn much
I'm applying delayed gratification to all 3 areas of my life finances, fitness/diet, and mindset. Great vid
As they say “look at this graph”
Every time I do it makes me laugh
Instant data gratification lol
And whattha hell is on Joey's head!?
looks like - 12 yr old
sounds like - 40 yr old
knowledge of - 80 yr old
Cillian Murphy's love child haha
Haha this made me proper lol
Ok not 12. Maybe 16 .
His eyes look older
Vanilla Chërub I look older than him, and I’m 14. But god damn he is knowledgeable.
are you saying he has the knowledge of a senile dude ?
Exercising and eating healthy don’t have to be boring/hard.
Everyone has healthy foods they like, and sports/activities they think are fun.
That said, your video is quite motivating!
Yes burgers aren't bad if you have one once a week, this brings in reward .... a healthy body is a reward ....so important topic
fukk healthy food
do you want to die at 90?
70 is more than generous and 75 should (in my opinion) be the legal limit for life
just have fun, screw these idiots who tell u to suffer for fukkall
You know why it's so cool to watch ur videos, you promote visual learning using the graphs... Helps a lot, thanks
THANK YOU! This is what I'm taking with me: Practice delayed gratification and restrict the instant gratification activities.
"look at this photo GRAPH" - nickelback 2k15
I wanted to like this 1000+ times
😭😂
Hahahahaha
"Focusing on the long run, balancing it with fun in the short term and the world is your oyster" 11:30
Balance is the key. Be honest with yourself. Seek and understand your true inner motivations. Support yourself to be better.
Thank you ☺️
When I started cutting back on spending to invest, it was SO hard for me. And now years later, seeing those dividends come in makes me so happy I did.
Shawn Nichols That’s excellent! My wife and I just purchased our first home after years of living really tight financially. In the end we were able to roll our gains over into the house. We had MANY tough days/nights but it was SO worth it in the end.
And a year later you will be pulling your hair seeing all your investments burn in the market crash LOL
You are simply playing in the casino
deltaxcd Look at a stock market chart. In the grand scheme of things, a disasterous pullback is just a blip on a stock chart. In 2008, I saw a 22% decline in my portfolio. No dividend cuts at all. A decade later, I was up over 130% from 2007! By 2011, it was like the recession never happened. The only people who lost in the recession were those who pulled out due to fear or never invested at all.
@@Psyberify
Yeah, I know. And this is why you will pull your hair until you will become bald this time ;)
who could have expected that FED will flood everything with money to prevent the crash?
It is hard to tell when to pull out when you are gambling.
This explains perfectly why whenever I engage in something that gives me instant gratification, I seem to engage in many other bad habits afterwards. There’s a chain effect that comes from engaging in one bad habit that will have a greater net negative effect than you would have anticipated
Dude, same. Thank you for mentioning this because I wasn't sure there was a connection. I'm gonna pay more attention to this.
Yeah, I'm reflecting on this right now, and I'm getting to the realization that usually, whenever I opt for something that provides me with instant gratification, that day is gone, filled with bad decisions, procrastination and frustration. And when I do force myself to be productive against my own will, I am able to get so much more from my day.
You are smashing it! I love your stuff and you are great at it! Im a careers adviser and when you said "youtube, i would do it for free" i know you are going to be successful for a very long time! I would do my job for free. It take a huge chunk of lifelong learning but then again im watching this first thing on a sunday morning so i love it too! Thanks for making these videos!
I agree with the general concept of investing in yourself for the long term by pursuing things that don't give you instant gratification, but I don't understand this feeling that people have that reading a book is inherently a better way to gain information than watching a video. TH-cam videos can be more informative and illustrating than a book can because it has another aspect of storytelling, which is video. Likewise, you can just as easily read a junk book as you can watch a junk video. I think it's more about the TYPE of book and video that you watch rather than books are always inherently better for you than videos.
It can be bout in my opinion you have to take notes while watching and revise afterwards. Otherwise you won‘t remember much afterwards
You will remember more when you read than when you listen,
Although theres a you can learn and remember when watching and listening. We did after all pass down stories to each other through speaking before we created a writing system.
Some cultures never created a writing system, those cultures tend to have better audio memory amongst its population.
In 2012 at my high school I bought 20 Bitcoins at $14. So did my other friends in my engineering classes. My other friends went for instant gratification stock exchange. They kept getting good instant money but it was small. We kept buying more. 2 of them started mining more. It rose a few times, then came 2017 we sold at around $18,000-$18,600. My friends from my engineering class waited 5 years to get delayed gratification and they became Crypto Millionaires. I did not become a crypto millionaire but made amazing money. My other friends that went in instant gratification stock exchange made money but got enough for a small car. In 2018 they took their money from the stock exchange and joined us in the Crypto world. Now we are waiting for 2021, for that delayed gratification.
Who else likes Andrew's videos even before watching?
This is incrediblY wise. Thank you.
Good morning Andrew.
Thank you for this superb video, everything you say is bang on the money. I’m a busy landscaper, the work is physically and mentally challenging and I’m often in pain and work really long hours. However it is the most spiritually rewarding thing I’ve ever done and my mental health is so much better now. Many of the jobs we do literally change people’s lives and they are so grateful for our assistance, this is such a good feeling and it helps me to get through the tougher days.
TV is a bad influence.
Me watching this on my TV
Chu chu
The only thing I ever want to watch on TV is Baseball.
Exercising is both an instant and delayed gratification for me.
because you're habituated. May not be true for someone without the habit
The magic three:
Choice, change and consequences.
Great advice. The only issue I have is your statement, that our decisions are solely responsible to determine if we have a good or bad life. This is only partial responsible, the circumstances beyond one's control is also a significant factor. But successful people often believe their life is a result of decision, and those with struggle believe in circumstance, when in reality everyone's path is a combination of the two.
Excellent Video !!! I’ve had multiple times in my life from GREAT to bad, and I never thought about it until I was in college. Then I thought about everything you talk about, and all of a sudden, I had a system I could follow that keep me on track (I put the notes on my binder so I would see them every day). I sure hope people who are still in high school or younger will see this, and as I did, take notes !!!