Absolutely essential Tools... Started this 35 years ago ..Thank GOD!! Intraspective being able to BE Objective to ourself then BY CHOICE responding to situations ,moods, thoughts SELF CHECKS moment by moment eventually Automatically is the Mortor Between Bricks for Building Skyscrapers These Tools DO BECOME HABIT👊😎
Wow.... you`re really good, I`ve been selfparenting, and talking to myself, by correcting myself when a negative thought enters my mind. I teach myself how to feel good, and it really worx. I said the other day to myself,( Ken I love you bro). Right out of the blue, it brought tears to my eyes!!!! THNK YOU
After lots of self introspection, I finally found out my emotional wounds - anxious attachment style, co-dependency, preoccupied, loneliness, not happy with my blessings and a very low self-esteem. Thankfully, now I know my vulnerabilities. You rightly said that every healing of emotional wounds must start with developing self-esteem. And for that to happen, one must develop and increase self-love. Self-parenting is a nice way to do that Stephanie :) I hope once I start this technique, I can start to take baby steps towards healing my wounds and improving myself as a person. Thanks for this wonderful video. Much appreciated.
This is me. all of it. My parents are good people as individuals. but they're a dysfunctional couple. My mother is not a good listener. She antagonizes and invalidates other people's feelings alot. so I never learned to build an emotional connection with someone until last year (which I ultimately ruined cuz i'm used to being so detatched). I'm 24. And my father was busy with his work & brothers most of my life, never put his family or even himself first. and he had anger management issues so he would lose it at minor things and say things that instilled alot of insecurities in me. He was a provider but he wasnt a mentor/positive father figure. Their dysfunctional duo instilled deep selfesteem issues, co-dependency and other emotional wounds in me and i'm trying to gain some space from them (i love them though, they have their own stories). here in Pakistan, boys dont move out and live with their parents & wife throughout their life, but i'm studying so I can spend the next few years abroad and heal myself. because my parents werent a happy couple, I've always seen relationships as something exhausting and not worth the time. even though I crave for an emotional connection.
Thank you for this video. It is important for people to learn to self parent, because some people did not get this type of validation when they were children. Some people do not know how to take care of themselves mentally and emotionally because it was never modeled for them. I hope people seek the resources necessary to master this tool, because it doesn't come over night. It takes practice. I am still learning to do this. This is an important tool to master.
The Nerdy Black Girl Journal thank you so much for this comment! It is so important to learn how to do this for yourself… I couldn’t agree more that we should’ve learned this growing up but unfortunately most of us did not because our parents did not do it for themselves as well. But as adults we have to learn how to seek out help and information to help us become healthier human beings! 💗
So true the part about how some people (most people) don't get this kind of validation and molding as kids. I know I didn't. As a child I always felt that my existence was not appreciated or that I was in the way. Literally had to ask my mother to give me hugs. Both of my parents were physically and emotionally abusisive. Mother ended up passing on when I was a young girl and my father and I are forever estranged because he has a ton of personality disorders plus he is bipolar and just downright mean. I tried my best to give my daughter what I never had in the form of teaching her self love and always letting her know how special she is. But it's weird. It's almost like this lack of self love thing is in our blood because despite all of her accomplishments at just 23 years old, she still seems to have this lack of esteem. Like when I compliment her on just how fantastic I think she is, she can never just say "Thanks mom." Let me stop before I have a whole bible here but this video comes to me almost a year later but very informative and the food for thought I so needed today.
I’m finally seeing my wounds I was never allowed to be a child at all!! I was never allowed to have fun and too do the things that children do. I was taught to be a caregiver early in age to my Mom I was taught critical thinking and criticism from the man she married not my biological He was physically abuse as well as emotionally abusive She was and still is Emotionally abusive to me. Ive got to build my own mind now!! That’s the key start over mental thinking all together!! Thanks Stephanie I’m really trying I know I want out but he has cancer and no money coming in Make is hard to stay with his anger and bulling day in and out He’s here 24/7 except doctor appointments on Those days I soak up all knowledge for me to survive another week of hell..
OMG You are a God sent. I was going through a very rough patch in my life. I didn't have the motivation to move forward or do anything new. I stopped taking care of myself and reached a point of almost giving up. You are an inspiration to me and ever since I have found your videos, my whole mindset has changed. You are unlike any other life coaches that I have seen on the net. You actually teach people how to love themselves. I have joined the gym again and am learning to take care of myself. I realised that I was co depenent and a people pleaser and always giving and giving to my family to the point where I reached exhaustion! I have now set boundaries and have started saying no. My family is in shock I can tell you! lol. But seriously, I want to thank you from the bottom of my shattered heart. Putting back the peices won't be easy, but at least I have taken the first steps.. baby steps, but steps nonetheless.
I hope that you read this. You have no idea how much I have needed this coaching in my life. I found your channel yesterday and I have been listening to you all day today. Thank you!
Thank you Stephanie. I am empath too. When I feel stressed it is enough for me to listen to you to make me feel better. I can feel your positive energy it is such a great thing. Thank you Stephanie for being there.
Exactly what I needed to hear today. It's really learning not to react from the ego. When living with abuse realizing their negativity is about them not me. It's about protecting the inner child from the emotional bully. This video really clicked with me today. Thank you.
I love all your videos . The best life coaching on TH-cam ! I’ve been binge watching and it has changed my mindset . I struggle with depression and anxiety but information like thi is a gift from God. I have left so many toxic people in my past and this helped me feel better so Thank you 😊
Entering week 3 of my breakup. Sitting at the edge of my bed angry at myself for not being able to shut down the voices in my head ... anger toward my ex for not living up to the expectations of our relationship that in my mind were collective. Mad at myself for losing myself in the relationship ignoring the signs confirming what I knew to be true. "It was over" .. So here I sit half the morning gone not wanting to go to the gym.. A job interview tomorrow dreading it .. Did not know that comes from my ego source. Of course it does.. Ego the part of ourselves that want us to crash and burn. Thank you for this video.
Well, I've been doing therapy, NLP and all sorts of energy healing. What you're talking about and giving away so gracefully for fear is the real stuff! What I've been learning all through the last 15 years is accumulated in your videos. I really wish that people open their hearts and mind and help their inner child grow and let accept all the fearful emotions, in order to let the past aside. Thank you for all the advice you share. I've seen tons of your videos and loved every single one!
Self parenting and self reflection is important. The other side of this is having goals around this. Keeping a diary of things that come up and putting the effort into ourselves so we get the best outcome for ourselves. Really important to have me time everyday.
Positive self-talk and positive self-affirmations and being my own best friend are behaviors that I had to start doing. Creating my space to be enjoyable and comfortable and in ways that I had to start mastering these skills. I am the master of my own destiny to believe in myself and my dreams to have a positive trajectory of direction in my life to come to fruition.
I learned sooo much from you these couple of days, because I found you now. You explain it so well and never found a life couch about this like you before. Very thankful ♥️
I have been listening to your videos and it has made so many positive changes in my life. Thank you for doing what you do! Self Love and parenting is something I've never learned. Thank you for helping me find myself , love who I am and to deal with the toxic narcissistic people in eveyday life.
I have been a subscriber for your channel for quite some time now. I love them all, but this one is exceptionally amazing and hits me in a way it’s easy to understand and fills my heart. Thank you!
Stephanie, thank you for the work you do! All of your videos are enormously helpful, but this one provided me with a light at the end of a very long tunnel. I always tell my friends to be gentle with themselves when they’re going through a rough time, but I never tell myself that! As soon as you said the words “self-parenting,” I knew that was what I was missing! Thank you for helping people to put the puzzle pieces of their lives back in place!
Your attitude and Karisma and way of conveying your message is refreshing and a mix of professional and next door neighbour friend approach. It feels relaxing listening to you and watching your video. You explain complex matters so it sounds easy and straight forward. I always feel much better and optimistic after every Stephanie Lyn video, Thank you.
You know what absolutely agree 💯 seriously guys and use correspondence for the self love in all areas of your life. Just love you and accept and tolerate self and the way to do it for you is your do it for others and in learning to love others where they are do it for you and in doing it for you do it for others. It’s a crazy awesome life !!!! Awfully Good !!!! Love Light and Balance ♾❤️🩹🔥🙏😇🌎
I just realised I had been self parenting myself in my younger years but didn't realise what I was doing. On the flip side, I was also the one feeding negative thoughts to myself and reiterating the negativity others threw at me. I think over the years I stopped self parenting because I felt I didn't deserve it. That maybe those around me were right. The negative thoughts then began to take over. Which ultimately lowered my whole vibration. I always felt no one understood me. But maybe thats where I was going wrong. I was looking for validation from others. When really I should have been happy within myself and did not need anyone to tell me who I am. Thank you for this video. I really needed this.
There is so much good stuff in here and Stephanie Lyn is so friendly and wise in all of her valuable videos. She is a one of a kind person. There are so many deep subjects she can discuss in a kind, analytical way and this is great on the subject of self-parenting. Possibly harder if your own parental models were poor I imagine? Thank you for making this video too, it’s so insightful!
At my age I am realizing I need to learn how to master my emotions. I want to learn to not get angry and emotionally blow up when someone is giving me constructive criticism.
I realized that I was always looking for a teacher, guru, person who is responsible for me. Realizing this hurts but also opens my eyes and I realize how this Behavior has broken my neck regarding not realizing the dreams I had and walking the path of my inner guide.
i appreciate this vdo and all your vdos! your vdos get me to really love myself more i appreciate you sooo much!! thank you a thousand times! i live in Thailand so coaching and self development is very very limited!
Thank you so much , I needed to hear this. I’m going to remind myself by playing it every time. Am working in a hostile environment, where there’s a lot of negative energy circulating around and with me having emotional issues it’s had for me to focus on self love and true happiness . Thank you so much.
Hi Stephanie justcwanted to say thankyoucso much ive been watching all of your videos in the last fewcweeks 14cyrs with a narcissistvis ginally com8ng to an end first day of divorce proceedings today went surpisingly extremely well thanks yo following your advice of calm,mindset sticking to a set list of my requirments he ifurious but not home and I wonthe first battle ie custodyvof kids and a huge increase on monthly contributions from 0 to a legally acceptable sum .Now i feel i can finally do this thankyou so much not out of the woods yet but not lost anymore definately in the right direction!
Yes we do have Two Self I like to call it the Higher-Self & Lower-Self. The Higher self is the Mother Of Virtues and the harmonies of life. It breeds justice, mercy, love & right. The Lower self breeds hatred, slander, lewdness, murder, theft and everything that harms. The lower self is rich in promises, but poor in blessedness and peace; it offers pleasure, joy and satisfying gain; but give unrest, misery and death.
Great video Stephanie! I’am a fan of Dr. Wayne Dyer and he formed an acronym for ego calling it Edging God Out. So true and so true to what you are saying. Also, Dyer said about allowing, that you can only be continually abused if you allow. Just don’t allow.
Jerry S absolutely! A lot of the time people are looking for something to say to an abusive person to hurt them or to make the stop hurting them or bothering them and it really has nothing to do with the other person. It is about learning where your triggers are inside of you that’s causing you to feel that hurt and learning how to love yourself and take care of yourself to not allow those triggers to cause you pain. Thanks so much for the comment!
Thank you for your video. I sometimes find myself projecting onto others when I feeling insecure or have had a stressful day. I need to have more compassion for my negative vulnerabilities. The suit of armor called my ego needs to learn who is the boss of my emotions. I need to take more responsibly and yet give myself a break and know that I am only human.
Thank you for this, I have two counslors and I feel like you are the one that is truly helping me. I have a lot of things I'm dealing with and it feels good to know I can access this info whenever I need it.
E. Scorpio I’m so glad that you found the channel! Definitely feeding your mind all day long is the best therapy and the best thing you can do toward self development. Watch as many videos as you can every single day. Listen to positive affirmations. Listen to meditation’s. All of these things are helping you to expand your mind educate yourself and create new healthy habits. 💗💗💗
This presentation is a synthesis of some of the most important aspects, I feel, of personal power and happiness. Highly valuable delivery of knowledge on the subject.
Thank you so much for sharing! I have been told about being your own best friend and to not continue engaging in that negative thought but never been given practical how to tactics of how exactly to achieve that. So excited to start implementing these ideas! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Awesome! I struggle with self talk. Not out of a place of low self esteem but bc I don’t know what to say without feeling totally cheesy. I really can identify with what you say about talking to yourself the way a best friend would talk to you-that is an awesome tool!
Thinking you can master “your “ emotions and create happiness is exactly how “your “ emotions control you. They lead you into believing that you can change when it’s not possible for you. Only after you realize that of your self you cannot change, will it be possible to overcome ALL “your “ emotions which will cause you to have no more conflict within, only perfect peace.
Stephanie, you’re a beautiful soul , Authentic and I can tell that you really genuinely want to hale others. I wonder how did you know that this is what you’re meant to be doing? I believe that I am going through all of this for a reason and I would love to Coach and Mentor others in their lives as well. All of what you’re saying I so agree with. I believe on Hod Himself and the Bible speaks of, “my sheep knows my voice” and it’s been my new goal to listen to His voice more and that would silence “ the other voice ( ego, negativity, bad Angel) Thank you for assisting us to Master our emotions in a conversational way. I appreciate you.
Dear Stéphanie, for me this is the beginning of a trip to change myself and I am so glad I found you along the way. You are wise, very intelligent and you really reach and hold the spot. Very very helpful and I am starting to change my viewpoint about myself and life. Thank you so much!
marina emonale oh my gosh thank you so much for this comment! Absolutely I’m so glad that you found the channel and that you are loving the videos! All the best 💗
I know that we don’t always follow the advice we give our friends and I never thought about putting myself in the actual position of a a friend to myself. I am going to try this whenever a negative thought enters my head because I think I have great advice to being more positive 😄 I’m so glad I found your channel recently!😊
There are so many things that go into being able to regulate emotions and pursue happiness. We've had some great philosophers and theologians explore this topic deeply and reading them helped me. Cognitive therapy can be beneficial. I think we need truth for love and happiness. This is quite a big topic.
Thank you doctor for sharing this self parenting with all of us. Sometimes my inner child is agry or crying and I can't stop it. Maybe I can have a four hours argument/discussion with someone who had hurted me and not get into any conclusion. I'd definitely put all of thesd into practice to see if I can overcome my pain and be calmer to seat down and have an effective communication with someone who is doing something which annoyed/hurted me. Thank you very much.
Yes! Learning so much about myself through these videos! Learning great tools! I have learned I am a sensitive codependent...that its ok..I can change myself. ..I can trust myself..I can be my best self, and its ok if my spouse deos not approve of me..I have approved my self! The biggest eye opener ..is I started trying to play his game..I felt horrible being like him! That's not me..I basically became abusive myself while playing the game! Thats not ok with me. I dont have to play the game..I have a choice! Self parenting! Yeeesss!
Hi Steph, Way past ninety days. Working on visualization and not letting my mind drift. Skippy is under control, Tommy wants a union and Thomas keeps being relentless. We work as a team. Your the best!, I was just thinking that : )
Steph such sound quality content and really valuable to each and every one of us, your beautiful inside and out, thank you. 🙏 it’s great to see you smile as amidst such deep serious inner core subject matter, it’s hard to mix the two but you do it well, intro your content. 😇
This is a really needed topic to speak on... I really appreciate the focus of "Self-Parenting" into my daily awareness of keeping myself emotionally and mentally safe... Peace and Love...
I love you more and more with every video I watch, God bless you, your a saviour. And as gratitude I am going to keep the cycle going dedicating my life coaching people just the way you impacted mine. Inshallah
I've always been curious about self parenting. I struggle with negative thoughts and feelings, because I tend to get stuck and don't know what to do. But this trick, ill definitely try from now on
It’s not the ego, it’s the inner critic.
Thank you! ❤ Much needed reminder
I am literally in tears!!! Thank you, from the bottom of my “inner” self ♥️💯🤗
Absolutely essential Tools...
Started this 35 years ago ..Thank GOD!!
Intraspective being able to BE Objective to ourself then BY CHOICE responding to situations ,moods,
thoughts
SELF CHECKS moment by moment eventually Automatically is the Mortor Between Bricks for Building Skyscrapers
These Tools DO BECOME HABIT👊😎
Wow.... you`re really good, I`ve been selfparenting, and talking to myself, by correcting myself when a negative thought enters my mind. I teach myself how to feel good, and it really worx. I said the other day to myself,( Ken I love you bro). Right out of the blue, it brought tears to my eyes!!!! THNK YOU
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After lots of self introspection, I finally found out my emotional wounds - anxious attachment style, co-dependency, preoccupied, loneliness, not happy with my blessings and a very low self-esteem. Thankfully, now I know my vulnerabilities. You rightly said that every healing of emotional wounds must start with developing self-esteem. And for that to happen, one must develop and increase self-love. Self-parenting is a nice way to do that Stephanie :) I hope once I start this technique, I can start to take baby steps towards healing my wounds and improving myself as a person. Thanks for this wonderful video. Much appreciated.
antu_neel hows it going now?
This is me. all of it. My parents are good people as individuals. but they're a dysfunctional couple. My mother is not a good listener. She antagonizes and invalidates other people's feelings alot. so I never learned to build an emotional connection with someone until last year (which I ultimately ruined cuz i'm used to being so detatched). I'm 24.
And my father was busy with his work & brothers most of my life, never put his family or even himself first. and he had anger management issues so he would lose it at minor things and say things that instilled alot of insecurities in me. He was a provider but he wasnt a mentor/positive father figure.
Their dysfunctional duo instilled deep selfesteem issues, co-dependency and other emotional wounds in me and i'm trying to gain some space from them (i love them though, they have their own stories). here in Pakistan, boys dont move out and live with their parents & wife throughout their life, but i'm studying so I can spend the next few years abroad and heal myself.
because my parents werent a happy couple, I've always seen relationships as something exhausting and not worth the time. even though I crave for an emotional connection.
@@bj7able very relatable i hope you're doing better now bro
16:25 You are encouraging 100%, for me , thank you.😂
I love this video ❤️ I’ve watched it so many times!! I’m so grateful for each and every video!!
Thank you for this video. It is important for people to learn to self parent, because some people did not get this type of validation when they were children. Some people do not know how to take care of themselves mentally and emotionally because it was never modeled for them. I hope people seek the resources necessary to master this tool, because it doesn't come over night. It takes practice. I am still learning to do this. This is an important tool to master.
The Nerdy Black Girl Journal thank you so much for this comment! It is so important to learn how to do this for yourself… I couldn’t agree more that we should’ve learned this growing up but unfortunately most of us did not because our parents did not do it for themselves as well. But as adults we have to learn how to seek out help and information to help us become healthier human beings! 💗
Beautifully said.
So true the part about how some people (most people) don't get this kind of validation and molding as kids. I know I didn't. As a child I always felt that my existence was not appreciated or that I was in the way. Literally had to ask my mother to give me hugs. Both of my parents were physically and emotionally abusisive. Mother ended up passing on when I was a young girl and my father and I are forever estranged because he has a ton of personality disorders plus he is bipolar and just downright mean. I tried my best to give my daughter what I never had in the form of teaching her self love and always letting her know how special she is. But it's weird. It's almost like this lack of self love thing is in our blood because despite all of her accomplishments at just 23 years old, she still seems to have this lack of esteem. Like when I compliment her on just how fantastic I think she is, she can never just say "Thanks mom." Let me stop before I have a whole bible here but this video comes to me almost a year later but very informative and the food for thought I so needed today.
I agree with you completely, Many Parents do not teach this because they never learned it growing up, It passes down from generation to generation.
Amen
I’m finally seeing my wounds I was never allowed to be a child at all!! I was never allowed to have fun and too do the things that children do. I was taught to be a caregiver early in age to my Mom I was taught critical thinking and criticism from the man she married not my biological He was physically abuse as well as emotionally abusive She was and still is Emotionally abusive to me. Ive got to build my own mind now!! That’s the key start over mental thinking all together!! Thanks Stephanie I’m really trying I know I want out but he has cancer and no money coming in Make is hard to stay with his anger and bulling day in and out He’s here 24/7 except doctor appointments on Those days I soak up all knowledge for me to survive another week of hell..
OMG You are a God sent. I was going through a very rough patch in my life. I didn't have the motivation to move forward or do anything new. I stopped taking care of myself and reached a point of almost giving up. You are an inspiration to me and ever since I have found your videos, my whole mindset has changed. You are unlike any other life coaches that I have seen on the net. You actually teach people how to love themselves. I have joined the gym again and am learning to take care of myself. I realised that I was co depenent and a people pleaser and always giving and giving to my family to the point where I reached exhaustion! I have now set boundaries and have started saying no. My family is in shock I can tell you! lol. But seriously, I want to thank you from the bottom of my shattered heart. Putting back the peices won't be easy, but at least I have taken the first steps.. baby steps, but steps nonetheless.
I love that phrase, "Where energy goes energy grows" This is a skill that I really need to learn and apply in my daily life. Thank you Stephanie!
Her tips:
7:40 Recognizing the thought your thinking
9:45 Practice this conversation in your head
Thank you Stephanie. You have helped me a lot. I am so grateful
Thank you for all of you videos. These videos have helped me though a very difficult time in my life!
You and your videos are incredible and have really helped me over these past few months - THANK YOU!
I hope that you read this. You have no idea how much I have needed this coaching in my life. I found your channel yesterday and I have been listening to you all day today. Thank you!
Thank you Stephanie. I am empath too. When I feel stressed it is enough for me to listen to you to make me feel better. I can feel your positive energy it is such a great thing. Thank you Stephanie for being there.
Exactly what I needed to hear today. It's really learning not to react from the ego. When living with abuse realizing their negativity is about them not me. It's about protecting the inner child from the emotional bully. This video really clicked with me today. Thank you.
I love all your videos . The best life coaching on TH-cam ! I’ve been binge watching and it has changed my mindset . I struggle with depression and anxiety but information like thi is a gift from God. I have left so many toxic people in my past and this helped me feel better so Thank you 😊
I wish I would have listened to this early this morning when I had an emotional breakdown. 😢 thank you. It’s helpful.
Entering week 3 of my breakup. Sitting at the edge of my bed angry at myself for not being able to shut down the voices in my head ... anger toward my ex for not living up to the expectations of our relationship that in my mind were collective. Mad at myself for losing myself in the relationship ignoring the signs confirming what I knew to be true. "It was over" .. So here I sit half the morning gone not wanting to go to the gym.. A job interview tomorrow dreading it .. Did not know that comes from my ego source. Of course it does.. Ego the part of ourselves that want us to crash and burn. Thank you for this video.
Well, I've been doing therapy, NLP and all sorts of energy healing. What you're talking about and giving away so gracefully for fear is the real stuff! What I've been learning all through the last 15 years is accumulated in your videos. I really wish that people open their hearts and mind and help their inner child grow and let accept all the fearful emotions, in order to let the past aside.
Thank you for all the advice you share. I've seen tons of your videos and loved every single one!
I literally woke up today with an aim to be a Master of my Emotions and as I browse general videos. This video came in the suggestion.. 😅
@@sommm8033 Yes. I have gotten better. It definitely takes time and kindness towards oneself. Good things really take time. 😅
really succinctly put. love Stephanie Lyn
Self parenting and self reflection is important. The other side of this is having goals around this. Keeping a diary of things that come up and putting the effort into ourselves so we get the best outcome for ourselves.
Really important to have me time everyday.
Positive self-talk and positive self-affirmations and being my own best friend are behaviors that I had to start doing. Creating my space to be enjoyable and comfortable and in ways that I had to start mastering these skills. I am the master of my own destiny to believe in myself and my dreams to have a positive trajectory of direction in my life to come to fruition.
I learned sooo much from you these couple of days, because I found you now. You explain it so well and never found a life couch about this like you before. Very thankful ♥️
I have been listening to your videos and it has made so many positive changes in my life. Thank you for doing what you do! Self Love and parenting is something I've never learned. Thank you for helping me find myself , love who I am and to deal with the toxic narcissistic people in eveyday life.
Thank You so very much ❤️.
Your videos are inspirational and highly addictive!
Thanks for all of your videos. Learning so much⚘
I have been a subscriber for your channel for quite some time now. I love them all, but this one is exceptionally amazing and hits me in a way it’s easy to understand and fills my heart. Thank you!
Stephanie, thank you for the work you do! All of your videos are enormously helpful, but this one provided me with a light at the end of a very long tunnel. I always tell my friends to be gentle with themselves when they’re going through a rough time, but I never tell myself that! As soon as you said the words “self-parenting,” I knew that was what I was missing! Thank you for helping people to put the puzzle pieces of their lives back in place!
Your attitude and Karisma and way of conveying your message is refreshing and a mix of professional and next door neighbour friend approach. It feels relaxing listening to you and watching your video. You explain complex matters so it sounds easy and straight forward. I always feel much better and optimistic after every Stephanie Lyn video, Thank you.
Thank you for sharing, your videos are so insightful
This is amazing 🤍so glad I came across this video! Thank you for sharing this message
Thank you so much Stephanie... you are helping me a great deal right now!!
I watch quite a few of your videos... so happy with you😁
I love this women, I fell like she is talking to me
Thank you so much!
You know what absolutely agree 💯 seriously guys and use correspondence for the self love in all areas of your life. Just love you and accept and tolerate self and the way to do it for you is your do it for others and in learning to love others where they are do it for you and in doing it for you do it for others. It’s a crazy awesome life !!!! Awfully Good !!!! Love Light and Balance
♾❤️🩹🔥🙏😇🌎
I just realised I had been self parenting myself in my younger years but didn't realise what I was doing. On the flip side, I was also the one feeding negative thoughts to myself and reiterating the negativity others threw at me. I think over the years I stopped self parenting because I felt I didn't deserve it. That maybe those around me were right. The negative thoughts then began to take over. Which ultimately lowered my whole vibration. I always felt no one understood me. But maybe thats where I was going wrong. I was looking for validation from others. When really I should have been happy within myself and did not need anyone to tell me who I am. Thank you for this video. I really needed this.
You're videos are amazing and help so much. So thank you!
Also, you are so pretty it hurts!
There is so much good stuff in here and Stephanie Lyn is so friendly and wise in all of her valuable videos. She is a one of a kind person. There are so many deep subjects she can discuss in a kind, analytical way and this is great on the subject of self-parenting. Possibly harder if your own parental models were poor I imagine? Thank you for making this video too, it’s so insightful!
At my age I am realizing I need to learn how to master my emotions. I want to learn to not get angry and emotionally blow up when someone is giving me constructive criticism.
I don’t think it’s ridiculous. I think it’s beautiful.
I realized that I was always looking for a teacher, guru, person who is responsible for me.
Realizing this hurts but also opens my eyes and I realize how this Behavior has broken my neck regarding not realizing the dreams I had and walking the path of my inner guide.
This is a priceless advice! Thank you so much!
Love this video!! So helpful, thank you!
It all starts with YOU; only YOU can grant the permission to YOURSELF to be all YOU need to be.
i appreciate this vdo and all your vdos! your vdos get me to really love myself more i appreciate you sooo much!! thank you a thousand times! i live in Thailand so coaching and self development is very very limited!
You look fantastic! And oh, I love your videos. It helps me a lot!
Thank you so much , I needed to hear this. I’m going to remind myself by playing it every time.
Am working in a hostile environment, where there’s a lot of negative energy circulating around and with me having emotional issues it’s had for me to focus on self love and true happiness . Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this video. Self parenting is definitely something I need to do for myself.
Hi Stephanie justcwanted to say thankyoucso much ive been watching all of your videos in the last fewcweeks 14cyrs with a narcissistvis ginally com8ng to an end first day of divorce proceedings today went surpisingly extremely well thanks yo following your advice of calm,mindset sticking to a set list of my requirments he ifurious but not home and I wonthe first battle ie custodyvof kids and a huge increase on monthly contributions from 0 to a legally acceptable sum .Now i feel i can finally do this thankyou so much not out of the woods yet but not lost anymore definately in the right direction!
The first time I heard of self parenting is from you.. love that term
I needed to hear this .... i need to learn to control my emotions
Wow this is amazing thank.you
Yes we do have Two Self I like to call
it the Higher-Self & Lower-Self.
The Higher self is the Mother Of Virtues and the harmonies of life. It breeds justice, mercy, love & right. The Lower self breeds hatred, slander, lewdness, murder, theft and everything that harms. The lower self is rich in promises, but poor in blessedness and peace; it offers pleasure, joy and satisfying gain; but give unrest, misery and death.
Great video Stephanie! I’am a fan of Dr. Wayne Dyer and he formed an acronym for ego calling it Edging God Out. So true and so true to what you are saying. Also, Dyer said about allowing, that you can only be continually abused if you allow. Just don’t allow.
Jerry S absolutely! A lot of the time people are looking for something to say to an abusive person to hurt them or to make the stop hurting them or bothering them and it really has nothing to do with the other person. It is about learning where your triggers are inside of you that’s causing you to feel that hurt and learning how to love yourself and take care of yourself to not allow those triggers to cause you pain. Thanks so much for the comment!
Thank you for this video!
Thank you for your video. I sometimes find myself projecting onto others when I feeling insecure or have had a stressful day. I need to have more compassion for my negative vulnerabilities. The suit of armor called my ego needs to learn who is the boss of my emotions. I need to take more responsibly and yet give myself a break and know that I am only human.
Thank you for this, I have two counslors and I feel like you are the one that is truly helping me. I have a lot of things I'm dealing with and it feels good to know I can access this info whenever I need it.
E. Scorpio I’m so glad that you found the channel! Definitely feeding your mind all day long is the best therapy and the best thing you can do toward self development. Watch as many videos as you can every single day. Listen to positive affirmations. Listen to meditation’s. All of these things are helping you to expand your mind educate yourself and create new healthy habits. 💗💗💗
This presentation is a synthesis of some of the most important aspects, I feel, of personal power and happiness. Highly valuable delivery of knowledge on the subject.
Thank you so much for sharing! I have been told about being your own best friend and to not continue engaging in that negative thought but never been given practical how to tactics of how exactly to achieve that. So excited to start implementing these ideas! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you you are amazing
This is good stuff! I’m so glad I found your channel! I’ve binge watched majority of your videos!! God bless you ❤️
Yay!! Welcome.. so glad you found me!
Stephanie Lyn Coaching ❤️
So healing
It's nice to know ur not alone or crazy
Thank You! ❤️❤️❤️👍🏼
Awesome! I struggle with self talk. Not out of a place of low self esteem but bc I don’t know what to say without feeling totally cheesy. I really can identify with what you say about talking to yourself the way a best friend would talk to you-that is an awesome tool!
Thinking you can master “your “ emotions and create happiness is exactly how “your “ emotions control you.
They lead you into believing that you can change when it’s not possible for you.
Only after you realize that of your self you cannot change, will it be possible to overcome ALL “your “ emotions which will cause you to have no more conflict within, only perfect peace.
"wicked successful"...you're showing your Boston again 😀
Stephanie, you’re a beautiful soul , Authentic and I can tell that you really genuinely want to hale others. I wonder how did you know that this is what you’re meant to be doing? I believe that I am going through all of this for a reason and I would love to Coach and Mentor others in their lives as well. All of what you’re saying I so agree with.
I believe on Hod Himself and the Bible speaks of, “my sheep knows my voice” and it’s been my new goal to listen to His voice more and that would silence “ the other voice ( ego, negativity, bad Angel) Thank you for assisting us to Master our emotions in a conversational way. I appreciate you.
Thank you so much
Jesus thank you 🙏🏼🙏🏼💞💞💞
Great content it’s so helpful
You are a blessing in the skies💜
Johana Marin se dice “in disguise” o “en disfraz”
Dear Stéphanie, for me this is the beginning of a trip to change myself and I am so glad I found you along the way. You are wise, very intelligent and you really reach and hold the spot. Very very helpful and I am starting to change my viewpoint about myself and life.
Thank you so much!
marina emonale oh my gosh thank you so much for this comment! Absolutely I’m so glad that you found the channel and that you are loving the videos! All the best 💗
I know that we don’t always follow the advice we give our friends and I never thought about putting myself in the actual position of a a friend to myself. I am going to try this whenever a negative thought enters my head because I think I have great advice to being more positive 😄
I’m so glad I found your channel recently!😊
Thank you for teaching self-parenting
There are so many things that go into being able to regulate emotions and pursue happiness. We've had some great philosophers and theologians explore this topic deeply and reading them helped me. Cognitive therapy can be beneficial. I think we need truth for love and happiness. This is quite a big topic.
Thank you doctor for sharing this self parenting with all of us. Sometimes my inner child is agry or crying and I can't stop it. Maybe I can have a four hours argument/discussion with someone who had hurted me and not get into any conclusion. I'd definitely put all of thesd into practice to see if I can overcome my pain and be calmer to seat down and have an effective communication with someone who is doing something which annoyed/hurted me. Thank you very much.
This stuff should be taught in school...excellent stuff ... Thank you so much for your work
The message is really on point, very helpful and good to listen not just once but every time you want and need to feel good about yourself.
Thank you!
Amazing! Truly...Thank you!
I absolutely love this and needed this. Thank you!!! ❤️
Yes! Learning so much about myself through these videos!
Learning great tools!
I have learned I am a sensitive codependent...that its ok..I can change myself. ..I can trust myself..I can be my best self, and its ok if my spouse deos not approve of me..I have approved my self! The biggest eye opener ..is I started trying to play his game..I felt horrible being like him! That's not me..I basically became abusive myself while playing the game! Thats not ok with me. I dont have to play the game..I have a choice!
Self parenting! Yeeesss!
honestly, thank you so much
You are so amazing 😊thank you so much
This is an amazing wealth of knowledge. Thank you so much
Getting goosebumps seriously x
Thank you Stephanie, this is so helpful.
Hi Steph, Way past ninety days. Working on visualization and not letting my mind drift. Skippy is under control, Tommy wants a union and Thomas keeps being relentless. We work as a team. Your the best!, I was just thinking that : )
I love this woman !!! Ty so much... She's beautiful and smart !!!!
Thank you so much Doreen!
Thank you🤍
Steph such sound quality content and really valuable to each and every one of us, your beautiful inside and out, thank you. 🙏 it’s great to see you smile as amidst such deep serious inner core subject matter, it’s hard to mix the two but you do it well, intro your content. 😇
Thank you for this video! I really needed this dead on.
This is a really needed topic to speak on... I really appreciate the focus of "Self-Parenting" into my daily awareness of keeping myself emotionally and mentally safe... Peace and Love...
Paula Davis 💗
Thank you , so need to hear this ✨
I love you more and more with every video I watch, God bless you, your a saviour. And as gratitude I am going to keep the cycle going dedicating my life coaching people just the way you impacted mine. Inshallah
I've always been curious about self parenting. I struggle with negative thoughts and feelings, because I tend to get stuck and don't know what to do. But this trick, ill definitely try from now on
Yes! I love this.. it is a practice but once you start doing this you will relieve so much stress, fears, worries and anxieties.