Absolytely! Cut all negative people out of your life. But this can sometimes also go fot friends, if they are extermly negative all the time and drag you down. Always take care of yourself first
They are immature also. They feel immbalnced insecure also. Everybody wants to feel important. Valued. Worthy. Accepted. To feel a SENSE of BELONGING. PART of a LOVING GROUP of people & or a group of Animals that show a connection of behaviors similiarities. Haters are troubled also. They LASH OUT. Make nasty FACES at u. 😰😈😯. Communication problems. Lack GOOD WORDS to practice with each other. To note.)👀👀👀👀👀👀👀💡🔑👂👂🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🍍
I parent my hurt inner child to move through anger (sadness) and usually I am telling her “I see you, I am here for you, love and appreciate you; you are enough and worthy of healthy love. “.
I struggle with negative thoughts and fears. What I've been doing lately is reminding myself that I am not a time traveler. I can't go back in time or forward in time with my thoughts.
Hi Stephanie, My fiancé who was my very best friend, passed away unexpectedly about 3 years ago. He died right next to me while I was asleep at only 36 years old. Losing him completely flipped my world upside down. The journey since then has been extremely painful and challenging. The first year, I honestly didn’t even want to live anymore but moment by moment, I grew stronger and stronger. I allowed myself to feel what I needed to feel and sit in my sadness. That was the best thing I could have ever done. Usually when people are faced with such negative emotions, it’s understandable to want to distract yourself from the pain. But I knew that if I was ever going to get past this, I had to face it. I spent a lot of time alone with my pain and I took care of it because it was a part of me. I got to know myself on a level I never have before and I’ve learned to actually love myself for the first time in my life. It took me over two years, but I’m finally working again. I have my hard days but my spirit is filled with love and gratitude instead of fear, anger, or resentment. I really do think that if I hadn’t allowed myself to process the loss and hadn’t loved myself through it with out judgement, I know I wouldn’t be in the place that I am today. I wouldn’t have the relationship with myself that I have and I’d probably still be stuffing all that pain and grief deep down inside and covering it up with some kind of artificial distraction. Thank you for your video. It helped me realize just how far I’ve come and how much I’ve helped myself heal and grow. 💕
Marisa Ericson i’m so sorry that you lost your fiancé and best friend! I cannot imagine what that must of been like to go through. You are an incredibly strong and loving person to have gone through that experience and can see how all the progress you have made and all the ways you needed to take care of yourself in order to begin to heal. All the best!
Thank you, Stephanie. Initially it wasn’t a matter of strength. I had no choice but to keep breathing. There were so many moments when I was certain I was going to die because I didn’t think that I could withstand the emotional pain I was in. After he had been gone a month I remember being in shock that I was still alive. It was surreal. Almost 3 years has passed and I don’t think I’ve still fully accepted that he’s gone, it’s strange because for some reason, in my heart I just keep hoping. But that’s ok. I have had to face something unthinkable and accepting my feelings and thoughts instead of shaming them is a big part of what’s helped me heal and grow. Self acceptance along with gratitude. I recognize that my grief is so heavy because our bond was so transforming. And I’m grateful for the opportunity to experience a loving relationship that was so pure and free of ego (manipulation, control, jealousy, resentment...), as I have been there as well. I love your videos. They have helped me come to terms with failed relationships from long ago. Keep doing what you’re doing! You’re helping so many people!!!
@@marisajane7229 hi! I can relate but mine was not death but loss is like death for me, too. Did you have to take meds to get through the sadness and despair?
“Our negative emotions have a purpose as well.” 🎯 I grew up never having the tools to deal with, only suppress them. I am getting there- one day at a time.
You can help yourself, just like u are now by listening to this video...keep on researching and focusing on your issues till u see change....you are clearly on the right track.....ciao
I’m battling Fear and Anxiety . Today I had a big issue with it and I totally got stuck . I do feel stuck in life . This was an amazing video . Thank you 😊
Johana Marin, I agree with you entirely. Stephanie Lyn at times makes more sense than some so-called uplifting Christian books. I am so impressed by your videos, Stephanie! You are truly blessed by God. Keep up the good work!
1) Manage your state. You are choosing to feel a certain and accepting its your responsibility to control your emotions. Doesn’t mean you are not allowed to have the feeling. Start living by that you will no longer be a victim. Be mindful of what you are feeling. 2) Take responsibility for your emotions. What is the story that is causing me to feel this way and change perspective of this story 3) curious with yourself and emotions. What is the root as to why I am feeling this way. I am feeling really stressed because I don’t know what is happening in the future.When you are mindful and live in these moments do you experience joy and happiness. 4) sit in your emotions but have to move on. Have to recognise what are my emotions and how am I standing.
I use my negative emotions. I acknowledge them and tend to use them as a vice to push harder. My mentor taught me that most success is out of spite. I still do a lot of positive things and not lash out at people. My negative emotions come from childhood verbal abuse and disappointment in people that have put me down, deceived and being betrayed by people that I put my guard down. But, this might be a bit twisted, but I just cut these people off and power through it. It's not easy, but I don't allow it to control my life. Thank You for this video.
I recognised that my jealousy comes from the fear of abandonment and validation that comes from men, codependency, attachment. From spiritual point of view if you cling on to something or someone or get too attached, you actually produce spiritual aggression towards the object and draw energy from it (vampirism) therefore you have to loose it. So the fear of me causing me to loose someone due to jealously kind of stopped me from at least exposing that reaction. Next thing is that were never able to extract love and loyalty from anyone because if we could, it would be valueless anyway, and the love and care that we actually need is given free, only by free will of the other person. So theres no point making any pressure because if we do we might only cause other part to feed us a lie just to calm us down, but result in a huge disappointment later on. Another reason why i stopped my jealousy is that i kept "self parenting/coaching" myself by making me appreciate and value myself, and conclude that if i can admire myself then there's the maching person in the world who also will admire, love and respect me. So showing my jealousy would only expose that i dont feel good enough, that i dont deserve appreciation for who i am and what i am. Even if im not yet what i want to be i am alright with it and actively improving things that i want to change so theres still room for improvement. And being confident like that if my man flirts with another woman i only observe his behaviour and if he doesn't stay loyal to me then he can go his own way because me extracting sweat and tears of him instead of receiving his free love is tok much of a hard and disgraceful job for me.
As for the trust issues never show it to the man, never expose the insecurity. Always make him feel like you trust him 100% and that gives him power and responsibility that every man wants. Only confront him when you're hundred percent sure that he's doing wrong but then only say how you feel sad, hurt disappointed etc.
You should make it clear that negative emotions resulting from abuse are not our “responsibility”. It’s extremely dangerous to suggest that ask any professional. Others must take responsibility for their actions. Many in the self-help industry are getting this wrong and creating a lot of damage just like TR did. Great channel.
i’m 19 years old. i am 7 months pregnant. and i am struggling. my mom is in jail and has been for a couple now and probably won’t be out for a couple more. i live with people that don’t understand how to socially interact properly. my boyfriend lives 40 minutes away so i’m not really with him a lot and because of my past traumas i always doubt his love for me. and then i end up feeling bad about that because deep down i know he is genuine and really loves me. it’s 3am and i have work tomorrow at 7:30am. you’re video has helped me learn to just live in the moment. when you said “is there anything you need to worry about RIGHT NOW..” and instantly felt better because i am realizing that right now i am in a bed, under a roof, and comfortable. i have a lot to be grateful for and living in the moment is something i’m going to start doing more. thank you stephanie
I know all of this wisdom comes from shooting and missing for an entire lifetime, and that you will probably do more of that. but please know that your own journey at least right now has really uplifted me today. it's not nice to see the world as complex. it often feels really, really bad. just know that today it has taken at least one person from a small place to a bigger place, which may not feel nice but at least it feels like me
Stephanie Lyn here teaches you how to manage effects of external factors; sadness is a sign you need to process and love yourself, pick yourself up, self-parent. SL raises your emotional maturity and positivity with her genius insights, examples. Thank you SL for these many videos!
These skills and methods should definitely be taught in school (if not at home) so the kids can grow up as whole human beings who learnt self-love and compassion. That would make such an impact on society for the good! So happy and hopeful that social media is also a vehicle for these things and not just semi-funny-TikTok challenges
Stephanie you are such a blessing. God has put you in all of our lives to help us and you are doing his work. Thank you so much for all your wisdom, Compassion and quite honestly just being you
We have to surround ourselves with positive people who can channel positive energy. The people who can give encouragement to build up our self-esteem. We have to take our power back and not to give into negative people and negative emotions. People who are beacons of light to bring joy and happiness into our lives. We have to detract and distract ourselves from and to avoid TOXIC people.
Thank you for this video. I recently learned that my anger and hate issues stems from sadness. That means for the past several years I’ve been sad 😞. Thank you for confirming this lesson. Thank you for giving us a step on how to start deal with it. I gave this video 👍🏾 and subscribed in the first 3 minutes.
You have really started helping me in a time in my life that a is very difficult and emotionally hard time. I get it now. More than ever. I just want to thank you. I have a long way to go. It's hard every day. But at least I feel like I have a chance to get out of this instead of being stuck forever. You're a blessing. And I appreciate your videos so much. I feel like you're talking just to me. Anyway, thank you, Stephanie.
This video reminds me of Don Miguel Ruiz book The Four Agreements: mean your word, do your best, don’t have expectations and don’t take things personally. Hard to do!
When people ask me questions like how is it that I just keep going and keep trying, I tell them stubbornness and anger is what keeps me alive and keeps me going. It's not healthy, I know that. It's actually rather sad. And I know I'm not the only one.
Oh my goodness I could not have found you at a better time, I struggle a lot with anxiety, and definetly past dwelling, i am going to try practice the check in with self, I'm a people pleaser I think, and it's cost me a lot of mental damage that I clearly need to fix thank you SO much, however at times how do you challenge sadness in times when you don't know why your sad?
Great video! Negative emotions has been a huge issue for me. I’ve had to learn to overcome them cause they always felt so uncontrollable. Thankfully I’m learning how to challenge my thoughts and perceptions and tame them quicker! Thanks!
It's been really hard to know what's the roots of all anxiety and negative emotions, now i know you have to watch carefully for your thoughts and mood. Thank you so much.
I have been on this self journey for about a year now and listening to this I feel like I am definitely on the right path to healing. I love your videos❤
One can be provoked to negative emotions. But it is up to us how we respond and regulate our emotions. We dont have to take responsibility for others attack emotionally or physically especially when they are intentional. I dont take responsibility for that.
Toxic people can't care less how they feel. They don't won't can't take responsibility for anything including their own feelings. Easier to project. Hope everyone is doing well
Own those feelings, if you feel you don't know how to get unstuck, get counselling if you can. If you can't get counselling (usually lack of $$ or denial of ownership) then research ways to own, cope with and overcome the negative effects and impact on your life. Thank you 💖 for always giving such helpful and insightful guidance 💖
Surround yourself with people that give a damn. That want to help you I love you through the difficult times in your life. not people that are just going to criticize you and talk about your marriage and negative way.
Thank you, great video! This is SO needed, because so many of us are raised in dysfunctional families these days - we don't get emotional management training in too many cases. Our parents didn't know how to manage emotions or in many cases even take responsibility for their emotional states, modeling blaming and shaming and projection instead. Passive aggression, backhanded compliments, outright hostility, control games... we got trained, but in all the unhealthy ways to manage our states. Interestingly, the deeper under-layer I find (under the sadness beneath the surface emotion) is almost always fear. Analyzing the fear can help me look at the underlying misperception, offering spiritual growth as well as psychological growth.
You are so amazing!!! Thank u Thank u Thank u!!! You truly are extremely talented at your profession!! I do get so scared. Exactly!! God’s Blessings to you Stephanie😍😍😍😍😍
I was with you till you mentioned Tony Robins, anyone who wants you to hug the stranger next to you and makes loads of money from making people share in front of thousands of strangers, red flag...loads of red flags with that guy...also, feelings aren't, 'vibrations,' they are feelings. Some things are helpful, although if you have been violently abused, you aren't, ' choosing,' to be angry about that, you are going through a healthy reaction to that abuse. You have to move through those feelings.
Really interesting and important video. Take care of your own mental health. If your intuition is saying this is bad, unhealthy...listen up. These people are out to damage and hurt you. Why? I don't understand why. Meanness because they are judgemental and arrogant. My personal experience.
We have to manage our state of my mind, it's our responsibility It's our choice She's able to objectively detach from her feelings, rise above it and not get attached to the emotion or stuck in the discomfort. Feel the emotion and then detach from it so you can learn from the experience. People sometimes wallow in their pain for too long and it consumes them. We need to learn how to let go of negative emotions by practising mindfulness and staying in the moment, becoming aware of your surroundings, notice the colors around you, the view you see at this moment, where are you sitting in this moment. It redirects you from ruminating on stuck emotions from triggers or unpleasant memories and helps shift your perspective to the present moment. I found this technique to be helpful in overcoming anxiety and overwhelm. It redirects my perspective to the here and now, living in the moment versus the past. It's a subtle but effective shift to redirect your awareness
This is such a helpful video o do sometimes get upset really easily and since I watched this video, I felt so mentally clean and refreshed. Thanks you so much. If I did not described this channel I would not be the person I am today. Thanks!
During the relationship I pretty successfully called out and checked most of the narcissistic tactics of my ex. I also ended the relationship and did so inflicting a narcissistic injury to them to remember. But it still takes time to recover and now and again I still get triggers that remind me and make me feel bad. The best solution is understanding and educating yourself. You can then more quickly address these flashbacks and go on moving forwards.
The Fearless Man nails this down to a t. He is got a bunch of material on this topic that are simply phenomenal, I am currently working with the sedona method and I am seeing very surprising and positive results, fast!
My plot of her pov Have that inner dialogue (curious of the root of the problem) Slowly start picking yourself up 4 things to think about when you have a negative emotion Manage your state Take responsibility of your emotions Unravel the root of the story Recognizing where you at right now
Thank you 🙏🏼♥️ I take every small thing so personally and I have to pause in the moment and explain to myself that someone’s behaviour doesn’t mean I am bad or unworthy and it’s really helping me heal 😇
Thank you so much for all these informational videos. I've recently started therapy and found out that I've been raised with emotional abuse by my parents and finally I'm able to make sense of why I've been feeling all these shame, hatred, anger, and anxiety and that I've been repressing them as best as I could all my life. However, even though I'm grateful for this self realization, I also feel terrible that as much as I hate my parents, I feel like I also learned their negative behaviors myself and often want to act out(criticizing someone really harsh and putting others down, hating people, blaming on others, giving cold looks) in the same way as my parents hurt me. I know that those behaviors are unhealthy because I was the victim of emotional abuse but at the same time I have this strong urge to control my sadness and anger in the same way as my parents did and every time I see myself wanting to act that way or feeling super anxious, trying to control everything, I feel guilty and cannot accept myself for being that way. Can you talk about this issue of feeling horrible about yourself when you see your parents in you in the future? Love all your videos and I hope more people to see your video.;)
Stephanie this is fantastic information and what you do is so important! It would be so helpful if you could give some quick descriptions of specific examples of these “stories” you refer to that we tell ourselves. Thank you. Love your videos!💖🌈
Both energy is related to the mindset that triggered the positive and negative 💭 thoughts. Beware of the after effects that can cause the fan to blow 👆 away.
I think not..more likely that anger is expression of internal deep hurt..if u get hurting animal one will get upset And then angry..its the same with ppl..
Anger can stem from various places, Narcissists resentment towards another comes across as anger or contempt for example. Seeing an injustice could make someone angry. Putting up with years of abuse could instill anger.There are many reasons people feel anger
Just a little biology in psychology: Faking a smile or smiling for no reason is like feeding your body nutrients for good mental health. God built a perfect body for us to abuse LOL. Lifting the cheeks muscles actually releases healthy chemicals in the brain which does the body good. 😊
Thankyou Stephanie for your channel and the content you provide, I’m going through a very difficult time in my life just now, about to have a divorce and feel very blessed to have found you.Much love.xo
Hope u find many useful videos to help u.....I feel there's an abundance of self help videos.....and they have made me notice and tend to important personal issues....best of luck....
I think a really important add on from psychology would be, to not label your emotions as negative or positive. They are just emotions and a way your body communicates with you. Don't avoid or stuff emotions either, thats not wise mind and counter intuitive and creates bigger problems down the road. And to understand life is not happening to you, life is just life and it is not fair. Don't play a victim card and feed into cognitive distortions about yourself or others. Take accountability for your emotions, feelings and reactions.
Great suggestions, and everything you have shared is very useful and applicable to get one’s emotions straightened out. How about handling situations that a narcissist does to you on a routine basis when you are exhausted and stressed from work? What they do to you is like place one’s head in a vice on a daily basis. My spouse kept doing spiteful things, even when I strove to stay calm and face my emotions. She has consistently been disrespectful and intentionally pulling the rug from under my feet daily. These suggestions only work when separate from a narcissist, and you have time to yourself. Its fleeting, because just when you start pulling things together emotionally, the narcissist unravels you again. I’ve been sad a long time by being with my narcissist. Finally escaping after being brutally discarded by her. ,
When trying to heal ourselves it's important to get away from the haters who want to put us down.
Absolytely! Cut all negative people out of your life. But this can sometimes also go fot friends, if they are extermly negative all the time and drag you down. Always take care of yourself first
That so hard. I'm trying to distance my self from the haters just awful .
They are immature also. They feel immbalnced insecure also. Everybody wants to feel important. Valued. Worthy. Accepted.
To feel a SENSE of BELONGING. PART of a LOVING GROUP of people & or a group of Animals that show a connection of behaviors similiarities. Haters are troubled also. They LASH OUT. Make nasty FACES at u. 😰😈😯. Communication problems. Lack GOOD WORDS to practice with each other. To note.)👀👀👀👀👀👀👀💡🔑👂👂🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🔑🍍
What do you do if that person is a coworker? You can’t avoid them.
What about when it's a family member?! Like your mother!!😬😨
I parent my hurt inner child to move through anger (sadness) and usually I am telling her “I see you, I am here for you, love and appreciate you; you are enough and worthy of healthy love. “.
Thank you for sharing!! I'll try
I smoked for 20 years and when I finally faced my anger that it was actually unforgiveness I was able to quit and not let people abuse me
Steph!!!!! YOU HAVE A FRICKEN GIFT OF THIS WORK 💜💜💜💜💜 my gawd! You’re amazing lol 😂😊🐈
I struggle with negative thoughts and fears. What I've been doing lately is reminding myself that I am not a time traveler. I can't go back in time or forward in time with my thoughts.
Once again, you are hitting the nail on the head
Hi Stephanie,
My fiancé who was my very best friend, passed away unexpectedly about 3 years ago. He died right next to me while I was asleep at only 36 years old. Losing him completely flipped my world upside down. The journey since then has been extremely painful and challenging. The first year, I honestly didn’t even want to live anymore but moment by moment, I grew stronger and stronger. I allowed myself to feel what I needed to feel and sit in my sadness. That was the best thing I could have ever done. Usually when people are faced with such negative emotions, it’s understandable to want to distract yourself from the pain. But I knew that if I was ever going to get past this, I had to face it. I spent a lot of time alone with my pain and I took care of it because it was a part of me. I got to know myself on a level I never have before and I’ve learned to actually love myself for the first time in my life. It took me over two years, but I’m finally working again. I have my hard days but my spirit is filled with love and gratitude instead of fear, anger, or resentment. I really do think that if I hadn’t allowed myself to process the loss and hadn’t loved myself through it with out judgement, I know I wouldn’t be in the place that I am today. I wouldn’t have the relationship with myself that I have and I’d probably still be stuffing all that pain and grief deep down inside and covering it up with some kind of artificial distraction. Thank you for your video. It helped me realize just how far I’ve come and how much I’ve helped myself heal and grow. 💕
Marisa Ericson i’m so sorry that you lost your fiancé and best friend! I cannot imagine what that must of been like to go through. You are an incredibly strong and loving person to have gone through that experience and can see how all the progress you have made and all the ways you needed to take care of yourself in order to begin to heal. All the best!
Thank you, Stephanie. Initially it wasn’t a matter of strength. I had no choice but to keep breathing. There were so many moments when I was certain I was going to die because I didn’t think that I could withstand the emotional pain I was in. After he had been gone a month I remember being in shock that I was still alive. It was surreal. Almost 3 years has passed and I don’t think I’ve still fully accepted that he’s gone, it’s strange because for some reason, in my heart I just keep hoping. But that’s ok. I have had to face something unthinkable and accepting my feelings and thoughts instead of shaming them is a big part of what’s helped me heal and grow. Self acceptance along with gratitude. I recognize that my grief is so heavy because our bond was so transforming. And I’m grateful for the opportunity to experience a loving relationship that was so pure and free of ego (manipulation, control, jealousy, resentment...), as I have been there as well. I love your videos. They have helped me come to terms with failed relationships from long ago. Keep doing what you’re doing! You’re helping so many people!!!
@@marisajane7229 🙏🌹 God bless you.
Monica Sos thank you 🙏 Sending you 💗
@@marisajane7229 hi!
I can relate but mine was not death but loss is like death for me, too. Did you have to take meds to get through the sadness and despair?
I wish I could. But I am so wrecked emotionally now that I don't think I'll ever heal or overcome!
So useful, our minds are running away with us, even those who think they know
“Our negative emotions have a purpose as well.” 🎯
I grew up never having the tools to deal with, only suppress them.
I am getting there- one day at a time.
You can help yourself, just like u are now by listening to this video...keep on researching and focusing on your issues till u see change....you are clearly on the right track.....ciao
Art with Mama Fairybread thank you, God bless 🤍
I’m battling Fear and Anxiety . Today I had a big issue with it and I totally got stuck . I do feel stuck in life . This was an amazing video . Thank you 😊
Self awareness and accountability for your own actions. Best to catch yourself before you get yourself in trouble.
You are so onpoint every single time. Thank God for you!
Johana Beauty thank you for watching! I am so glad you are liking the videos! 💜
Johana Marin, I agree with you entirely. Stephanie Lyn at times makes more sense than some so-called uplifting Christian books.
I am so impressed by your videos, Stephanie! You are truly blessed by God. Keep up the good work!
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can you do a video on how to overcome severe trust issues?
Yes
Whenever I'm lonely when I first wake up in the morning I watch one of your videos to help and get my day started
Taking responsibility for my feelings is an entirely new concept for me, but I'm all ears to new concepts in my life today.
This is by far the best channel on TH-cam coaching people on emotional maturity and self love. Lots of love Stephanie!
Amazing video 📹 👏 ❤️. Thank you 😊 🙏 ❤️ 🙌 😘 😀 😊 Stephenie Lyn.
1) Manage your state. You are choosing to feel a certain and accepting its your responsibility to control your emotions. Doesn’t mean you are not allowed to have the feeling. Start living by that you will no longer be a victim. Be mindful of what you are feeling.
2) Take responsibility for your emotions. What is the story that is causing me to feel this way and change perspective of this story
3) curious with yourself and emotions. What is the root as to why I am feeling this way. I am feeling really stressed because I don’t know what is happening in the future.When you are mindful and live in these moments do you experience joy and happiness.
4) sit in your emotions but have to move on.
Have to recognise what are my emotions and how am I standing.
stephanie, i LOVE your videos
whenever i'm in a funk, I always turn to your videos and come out feeling MUCH better
you are a life saver
I use my negative emotions. I acknowledge them and tend to use them as a vice to push harder. My mentor taught me that most success is out of spite. I still do a lot of positive things and not lash out at people.
My negative emotions come from childhood verbal abuse and disappointment in people that have put me down, deceived and being betrayed by people that I put my guard down.
But, this might be a bit twisted, but I just cut these people off and power through it. It's not easy, but I don't allow it to control my life.
Thank You for this video.
Can you do a video about jealousy and trust issues in a relationship? I have problem with jealousy and insecurity.
Same boat.
Me too!
I recognised that my jealousy comes from the fear of abandonment and validation that comes from men, codependency, attachment. From spiritual point of view if you cling on to something or someone or get too attached, you actually produce spiritual aggression towards the object and draw energy from it (vampirism) therefore you have to loose it. So the fear of me causing me to loose someone due to jealously kind of stopped me from at least exposing that reaction.
Next thing is that were never able to extract love and loyalty from anyone because if we could, it would be valueless anyway, and the love and care that we actually need is given free, only by free will of the other person. So theres no point making any pressure because if we do we might only cause other part to feed us a lie just to calm us down, but result in a huge disappointment later on.
Another reason why i stopped my jealousy is that i kept "self parenting/coaching" myself by making me appreciate and value myself, and conclude that if i can admire myself then there's the maching person in the world who also will admire, love and respect me. So showing my jealousy would only expose that i dont feel good enough, that i dont deserve appreciation for who i am and what i am. Even if im not yet what i want to be i am alright with it and actively improving things that i want to change so theres still room for improvement.
And being confident like that if my man flirts with another woman i only observe his behaviour and if he doesn't stay loyal to me then he can go his own way because me extracting sweat and tears of him instead of receiving his free love is tok much of a hard and disgraceful job for me.
As for the trust issues never show it to the man, never expose the insecurity. Always make him feel like you trust him 100% and that gives him power and responsibility that every man wants. Only confront him when you're hundred percent sure that he's doing wrong but then only say how you feel sad, hurt disappointed etc.
@@jolaola1987 Thank you so much. what were you doing to self parent/coach yourself?
You should make it clear that negative emotions resulting from abuse are not our “responsibility”. It’s extremely dangerous to suggest that ask any professional. Others must take responsibility for their actions. Many in the self-help industry are getting this wrong and creating a lot of damage just like TR did. Great channel.
I understand you saying I get all that trying stay clam and get my negative thoughts off my head and my attitude
i’m 19 years old. i am 7 months pregnant. and i am struggling. my mom is in jail and has been for a couple now and probably won’t be out for a couple more. i live with people that don’t understand how to socially interact properly. my boyfriend lives 40 minutes away so i’m not really with him a lot and because of my past traumas i always doubt his love for me. and then i end up feeling bad about that because deep down i know he is genuine and really loves me. it’s 3am and i have work tomorrow at 7:30am. you’re video has helped me learn to just live in the moment. when you said “is there anything you need to worry about RIGHT NOW..” and instantly felt better because i am realizing that right now i am in a bed, under a roof, and comfortable. i have a lot to be grateful for and living in the moment is something i’m going to start doing more. thank you stephanie
Best wishes to you! Got my first child at 19 too, it was scary, but she turned out to be my greatest blessing (one of two).
I know all of this wisdom comes from shooting and missing for an entire lifetime, and that you will probably do more of that. but please know that your own journey at least right now has really uplifted me today. it's not nice to see the world as complex. it often feels really, really bad. just know that today it has taken at least one person from a small place to a bigger place, which may not feel nice but at least it feels like me
Your channel is quickly become one of my favorite channels on TH-cam
Stephanie Lyn here teaches you how to manage effects of external factors; sadness is a sign you need to process and love yourself, pick yourself up, self-parent. SL raises your emotional maturity and positivity with her genius insights, examples. Thank you SL for these many videos!
These skills and methods should definitely be taught in school (if not at home) so the kids can grow up as whole human beings who learnt self-love and compassion. That would make such an impact on society for the good! So happy and hopeful that social media is also a vehicle for these things and not just semi-funny-TikTok challenges
My negative emotions ONLY surface when I'm around JERKS
Yep
Facts
Stephanie you are such a blessing. God has put you in all of our lives to help us and you are doing his work. Thank you so much for all your wisdom, Compassion and quite honestly just being you
Hi Stephanie, I think your teaching/coaching is so full of wisdom and very helpful. Thank you..
I struggle with allowing myself enjoy excitement. Being fearful of the other shoe falling. I’m trying to just enjoy the good feelings.
Thank you! Your presentation really helped.
I love this woman 🌹
All things are possible if you set your mind to it. Change your thoughts and you can change your life.💙 Thanks again Coach Stephanie.
Thanks for being a blessing!! God bless you and your family!!
We have to surround ourselves with positive people who can channel positive energy. The people who can give encouragement to build up our self-esteem. We have to take our power back and not to give into negative people and negative emotions. People who are beacons of light to bring joy and happiness into our lives. We have to detract and distract ourselves from and to avoid TOXIC people.
The advice you give is really worth millions. Thank you!
Thank you for this video. I recently learned that my anger and hate issues stems from sadness. That means for the past several years I’ve been sad 😞. Thank you for confirming this lesson. Thank you for giving us a step on how to start deal with it. I gave this video 👍🏾 and subscribed in the first 3 minutes.
You have really started helping me in a time in my life that a is very difficult and emotionally hard time. I get it now. More than ever. I just want to thank you. I have a long way to go. It's hard every day. But at least I feel like I have a chance to get out of this instead of being stuck forever. You're a blessing. And I appreciate your videos so much. I feel like you're talking just to me. Anyway, thank you, Stephanie.
Every time I watch you you leave me with the mouth open, thank you..
This video reminds me of Don Miguel Ruiz book The Four Agreements: mean your word, do your best, don’t have expectations and don’t take things personally. Hard to do!
Thank You so much for making me a better person
Here I am right waking up from a nightmare from my ex evil spouse watching a video to help
When people ask me questions like how is it that I just keep going and keep trying, I tell them stubbornness and anger is what keeps me alive and keeps me going. It's not healthy, I know that. It's actually rather sad. And I know I'm not the only one.
Oh my goodness I could not have found you at a better time, I struggle a lot with anxiety, and definetly past dwelling, i am going to try practice the check in with self, I'm a people pleaser I think, and it's cost me a lot of mental damage that I clearly need to fix thank you SO much, however at times how do you challenge sadness in times when you don't know why your sad?
Great video! Negative emotions has been a huge issue for me. I’ve had to learn to overcome them cause they always felt so uncontrollable. Thankfully I’m learning how to challenge my thoughts and perceptions and tame them quicker! Thanks!
Thank you Stephanie for always putting things in prospective. Your videos have changed my life and helped me love myself. Your awesome!
I love that your advice is often similar to Sadhguru's.
It's been really hard to know what's the roots of all anxiety and negative emotions, now i know you have to watch carefully for your thoughts and mood. Thank you so much.
I love the info you put out. It helps me in so many ways. Validation from an outsider/professional helps me to be confident about myself.
I have been on this self journey for about a year now and listening to this I feel like I am definitely on the right path to healing. I love your videos❤
One can be provoked to negative emotions. But it is up to us how we respond and regulate our emotions. We dont have to take responsibility for others attack emotionally or physically especially when they are intentional. I dont take responsibility for that.
Toxic people can't care less how they feel.
They don't won't can't take responsibility for anything including their own feelings.
Easier to project.
Hope everyone is doing well
Own those feelings, if you feel you don't know how to get unstuck, get counselling if you can. If you can't get counselling (usually lack of $$ or denial of ownership) then research ways to own, cope with and overcome the negative effects and impact on your life. Thank you 💖 for always giving such helpful and insightful guidance 💖
Diana Boughner thank you so much for a lovely comment!
Surround yourself with people that give a damn. That want to help you I love you through the difficult times in your life. not people that are just going to criticize you and talk about your marriage and negative way.
Thank you, great video! This is SO needed, because so many of us are raised in dysfunctional families these days - we don't get emotional management training in too many cases. Our parents didn't know how to manage emotions or in many cases even take responsibility for their emotional states, modeling blaming and shaming and projection instead. Passive aggression, backhanded compliments, outright hostility, control games... we got trained, but in all the unhealthy ways to manage our states. Interestingly, the deeper under-layer I find (under the sadness beneath the surface emotion) is almost always fear. Analyzing the fear can help me look at the underlying misperception, offering spiritual growth as well as psychological growth.
You are so amazing!!! Thank u Thank u Thank u!!! You truly are extremely talented at your profession!! I do get so scared. Exactly!! God’s Blessings to you Stephanie😍😍😍😍😍
Thank you so much Amy!
I was with you till you mentioned Tony Robins, anyone who wants you to hug the stranger next to you and makes loads of money from making people share in front of thousands of strangers, red flag...loads of red flags with that guy...also, feelings aren't, 'vibrations,' they are feelings. Some things are helpful, although if you have been violently abused, you aren't, ' choosing,' to be angry about that, you are going through a healthy reaction to that abuse. You have to move through those feelings.
Really interesting and important video. Take care of your own mental health. If your intuition is saying this is bad, unhealthy...listen up. These people are out to damage and hurt you. Why? I don't understand why. Meanness because they are judgemental and arrogant. My personal experience.
Why are you so brilliant!? :-)
We have to manage our state of my mind, it's our responsibility
It's our choice
She's able to objectively detach from her feelings, rise above it and not get attached to the emotion or stuck in the discomfort.
Feel the emotion and then detach from it so you can learn from the experience. People sometimes wallow in their pain for too long and it consumes them. We need to learn how to let go of negative emotions by practising mindfulness and staying in the moment, becoming aware of your surroundings, notice the colors around you, the view you see at this moment, where are you sitting in this moment. It redirects you from ruminating on stuck emotions from triggers or unpleasant memories and helps shift your perspective to the present moment. I found this technique to be helpful in overcoming anxiety and overwhelm. It redirects my perspective to the here and now, living in the moment versus the past. It's a subtle but effective shift to redirect your awareness
This is such a helpful video o do sometimes get upset really easily and since I watched this video, I felt so mentally clean and refreshed. Thanks you so much. If I did not described this channel I would not be the person I am today. Thanks!
During the relationship I pretty successfully called out and checked most of the narcissistic tactics of my ex. I also ended the relationship and did so inflicting a narcissistic injury to them to remember. But it still takes time to recover and now and again I still get triggers that remind me and make me feel bad. The best solution is understanding and educating yourself. You can then more quickly address these flashbacks and go on moving forwards.
You are so helpful 😢😃❤️
I'm surprised people thumbs down these videos of hers
Simple for no reason, I like that. Sometimes you just have to keep that intersmile.
The Fearless Man nails this down to a t. He is got a bunch of material on this topic that are simply phenomenal, I am currently working with the sedona method and I am seeing very surprising and positive results, fast!
You should make more videos, this is helpful.
My plot of her pov
Have that inner dialogue (curious of the root of the problem)
Slowly start picking yourself up
4 things to think about when you have a negative emotion
Manage your state
Take responsibility of your emotions
Unravel the root of the story
Recognizing where you at right now
Spot on! I have been practicing this method, affirmation! You have got me feeling so much more empowered!
Thank you 🙏🏼♥️ I take every small thing so personally and I have to pause in the moment and explain to myself that someone’s behaviour doesn’t mean I am bad or unworthy and it’s really helping me heal 😇
Stephanie. You da best. This really helped me out. 😊
Thank you....I've made lots of notes and really appreciate your rich store of support here for me to access. x
*_Thank God for you!_*
I’m stuck in my pain from betrayal but this helps
Good to hear you and see you thank you for helping people ❤
Anger is sadness with an identifiable cause
Thanks Strphanie for sharing i was stuck in that cycle for months hence when i saw your videos i stated listening and applying the advice given.
Thank you so much for all these informational videos. I've recently started therapy and found out that I've been raised with emotional abuse by my parents and finally I'm able to make sense of why I've been feeling all these shame, hatred, anger, and anxiety and that I've been repressing them as best as I could all my life. However, even though I'm grateful for this self realization, I also feel terrible that as much as I hate my parents, I feel like I also learned their negative behaviors myself and often want to act out(criticizing someone really harsh and putting others down, hating people, blaming on others, giving cold looks) in the same way as my parents hurt me. I know that those behaviors are unhealthy because I was the victim of emotional abuse but at the same time I have this strong urge to control my sadness and anger in the same way as my parents did and every time I see myself wanting to act that way or feeling super anxious, trying to control everything, I feel guilty and cannot accept myself for being that way. Can you talk about this issue of feeling horrible about yourself when you see your parents in you in the future? Love all your videos and I hope more people to see your video.;)
박정은 this is more about learning how to parenting yourself. Here watch this.. th-cam.com/video/OfhHWikX4kw/w-d-xo.html
Need to Remove My Daughter Out MY Life For Now and Deal with The Triggers. This is About Healing Me. I want This So Much. Thank You💖🤩😍🌹🙏
Thank you
I think this is something I have struggling with lately
Absolutely wonderful
Thank you. I needed to hear what you said today. God bless you.
Katy Bloom 🙌👍
Stephanie this is fantastic information and what you do is so important! It would be so helpful if you could give some quick descriptions of specific examples of these “stories” you refer to that we tell ourselves. Thank you. Love your videos!💖🌈
Thank you for posting this it’s really helped me deal with my feelings and not just ignore them 💕
I am so glad it helped you. Thank you for watching!
Love watching your videos. Just watching always makes me feel better. Your beautiful!!
Yep..I feel this way too....i really need to know all this stuff....she's helped me too....
Perfect timing,thank you so much ❤
Both energy is related to the mindset that triggered the positive and negative 💭 thoughts. Beware of the after effects that can cause the fan to blow 👆 away.
Thank for the advice Stephanie I actually felling like that my whole life ,I love listening to you💪😉
Philipp Jahn thank you for watching!
This is really great advice! Thank you.
Anger is an outward expression of fear
I think not..more likely that anger is expression of internal deep hurt..if u get hurting animal one will get upset And then angry..its the same with ppl..
Fear is more like defense emotion..
Anger can stem from various places,
Narcissists resentment towards another comes across as anger or contempt for example.
Seeing an injustice could make someone angry. Putting up with years of abuse could instill anger.There are many reasons people feel anger
Fear-sadness-anger. I think sadness often comes in between.
Love your vlog and your vibration is wonderful!!! Continue doing your thing
Loved it really helpful ❤️❤️❤️
Just a little biology in psychology:
Faking a smile or smiling for no reason is like feeding your body nutrients for good mental health. God built a perfect body for us to abuse LOL.
Lifting the cheeks muscles actually releases healthy chemicals in the brain which does the body good. 😊
Can you please share some tips on visualisation and how we can do it ourselves to keep our motivation up? Please.
Thankyou Stephanie for your channel and the content you provide, I’m going through a very difficult time in my life just now, about to have a divorce and feel very blessed to have found you.Much love.xo
Hope u find many useful videos to help u.....I feel there's an abundance of self help videos.....and they have made me notice and tend to important personal issues....best of luck....
I think a really important add on from psychology would be, to not label your emotions as negative or positive. They are just emotions and a way your body communicates with you. Don't avoid or stuff emotions either, thats not wise mind and counter intuitive and creates bigger problems down the road.
And to understand life is not happening to you, life is just life and it is not fair. Don't play a victim card and feed into cognitive distortions about yourself or others.
Take accountability for your emotions, feelings and reactions.
Great suggestions, and everything you have shared is very useful and applicable to get one’s emotions straightened out.
How about handling situations that a narcissist does to you on a routine basis when you are exhausted and stressed from work? What they do to you is like place one’s head in a vice on a daily basis.
My spouse kept doing spiteful things, even when I strove to stay calm and face my emotions. She has consistently been disrespectful and intentionally pulling the rug from under my feet daily.
These suggestions only work when separate from a narcissist, and you have time to yourself. Its fleeting, because just when you start pulling things together emotionally, the narcissist unravels you again.
I’ve been sad a long time by being with my narcissist. Finally escaping after being brutally discarded by her.
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