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I've taken over 26 Online Classes(with notes... ofcourse) I cannot find words to express how informed I've become. I'm not afraid to put myself out there because of all I've learned from Mr.Speaks. He knows a higher power guides him. I hope to meet you one day Mr.Speaks. Elizabeth Jackson from Elkmont Al
Stephan do you think I can trust a man I’ve been seeing for 8-9months and I don’t know anyone in his circle. He tells me we should move in together but when I visit and am leaving he reminds me to check and make sure am not leaving anything behind.
One time I found a text conversation between my ex and another woman and she asked him who he lives with and he alone....mind you we were living in a home for a year at this point. When I confronted him he got defensive and said it wasn't anything to it and he was just being funny . After finding multiple inappropriate conversations I finally left so now he can be funny without me. The first time my gut instinct told me this wasn't for me but because he's a "good" guy I brushed it off initially. See the thing is it came to a point where I no longer trusted him and the relationship because a toxic mess. Ladies the first time you feel your gut telling you something believe it
You are so right. When a man is talking to women behind your back, they are looking to cheat. That's your clue to dump them . Dont put up with that crap Sorry you had to go through that but at least you found out the truth. I stayed with a liar for 5 years.
I had a man living with me for 4 years talking marriage . Even did the paperwork. He went off to deployment .. and a woman was messaging me saying they are in a relationship and have been doing .. things.. I’m like wtf. When he got out I felt like he may have lived w her but he never stopped messaging me the way we used to message . Men are wild Initials TW . In the navy. Resides in Houston lol run ladies
So true…a “good” man doesn’t mean that they’re the “right” man for you…I have seen red flags 🚩 before but because I thought the man was a “kind” person didn’t mean he was Mr Right n he turned out to be Mr Wrong….
@@weekendnomad5038 I had a female call me n tell me that she had a child with my then husband…the baby turned out to not be his but he had unprotected sex so there was a possibility…the first year we were buying diapers, medicine, n etc….until I pushed the issue of getting a dna test then she cut him off…
I still love my husband but I had to move because he admitted in court to trying to get me to commit suicide and he said I was not safe in the home. He attacked me on numerous occasions unprovoked. I love him but I cannot trust him with my life.
You are a living example of a man lead by Spirit, living in honesty and integrity. Great gratitude for sharing so clearly, the healthy roadmap to loving relationship.🙏✨
#YES HE #IS.🍫😌😌. @ #QUEENS #IDEAL #KING FROM A LITTLE GIRL. I PRAY IM BLESSED WITH ...LIKE HIM..HIS ENERGY IS UNDENIABLE MAY THE #MOSTHIGH👑🙏 BLESS HIM #ABUNDANTLY
That bonus is and will always be on point. I've been single for 3 1/2 years now. I took time out to heal my ❤️ I had to detached myself from him mentally, physically, and emotionally. And now I am in a better place. I recently met someone, and I am praying to the All Mighty to lead and guide me through it all. Because of him, I will not still be standing.
You are spot on about a women’s intuition. Mine has never been wrong. All 10 are great things to pay attention too when in a relationship. Great video!
JUST SOME IDEAS. I agree with that-- what about my ex dumping me -- then finding some my stuff & said “ hope you are doing well “ . Should I text him back ?
After my last encounter, I am done trusting anyone, let alone a man, but I love all of your advice, and I know with time, God heals all wounds. Thank you for all of your books, and wealth of information. It's time to really start paying attention; your advice is not just for female/male relationships, as there are so many other toxic relationships that fits the bill.
I'm going to try to say this with love & compassion. I've gone through position where I couldn't trust anyone after being burned SO badly. After 3 years of therapy it really came down to a lack of self trust. Trusting yourself to recognize toxic people and protect yourself going forward. I feel you, I was very bitter and broken for so long. In my thoughts, queen
I agree. One thing that I knew I can trust my guy is that he created that environment that we can communicate without judging each other and when it comes to communication, my God!! that man is on top, even when the topic of discussion is hush, he ready to talk and get solutions of those issues... His spirit, his love and his energy just makes us connect naturally and we can talk all day long... He's not a talking person but when I became part of his life, he changed completely and now he's so comfortable talking because honestly am a talkative person and somehow he inherited my personality and that makes me happy!!....
A lot of the times, trust issues within a relationship is more about ourselves then the other person. When a woman doesn't think she's good enough for the man and has low self esteem she will have difficulty in trusting the man. When I started dating in my teens, my intuition was so strong I could even tell where the guy was without him telling me know his location or if he's not home. Trust is very important for me. Nothing throws me off like a guy who receives everything I say with scepticism. When they have to insinuate things about who I really am and about more especially when I'm trying to be as honest as I can be. That's a turn off.
No disrespect but every time I didn't trust a person it was actually based on what they were doing ..The signs were in front of me plain as day 👀Not to mention the uneasiness I felt in my spirit.. Regardless if you're a little insecure or not your spirit will speak truth
I trust myself with myself period! I learned this matter may tears of therapy 20+. I paid for it and saw I needed it due to family dynamics at 19(blessed for the sight). When people aren’t trust worthy I look deeper than blaming him or me first! Then ima go in and see his faults and look at mine on the back end/ I’m not responsible for someone being slimy. I am responsible for what I allow and how I interact. The why’s matter more than blaming either willing party.
Characteristics of a Faithful man exude all over you 😊 God Bless you Stephan for you being true to the cause in spite of your voice issues and pushing through. Your real blessing is on the way...🙏🏾❤️ Thanks for looking out for us
What a lightbulb moment !!! I feel safe with him but not when he’s not here! It is my fear and insecurities that are getting in the way. I have done a lot of work on healing from the past yet have been single for so long. The only way to know how much I have healed is to be aware of my own insecurities that get in the way. And at the moment my insecurities and fear are getting in the way.
For the throat: Get that Ginger in. Warm 🍋water & Raw ginger slices 👌🏿 add 🍯. Healthy, trusting relationships have to be the goal. Neither person should try to seek anything else.
this is amazing..i met someone recently and he is so great..I was afraid to open up before about feelings but I did a lot of healing and now I am not and I seriously can see how he appreciates that..it's amazing to hear all of this from a mans perspective..good job stephan big hug xx
Stephan dude, I'm so thankful to have found you. Your words of wisdom truly have the ability to open our eyes, change our thinking, and alow us to observe the opposite sex and their behavior more clearly. Your insights coupled with continued learning from mistakes from previous hurtful failed relationships, will only help to provide the foundation for the right relationship.
I really really love your advice. I’ve been in a long distance relationship and it hasn’t been a easy road at all 😂 but your advice honestly helped me think in a logical perspective instead of thinking emotionally 😂🤦🏽♀️ bc lord knows it can make u crazy so thank u for all your advice 🙏
I love the last point. I have been seeing a man and have fallen in love after an 11 year marriage to a narcississt. I have asked God many times about him to make sure he's right and I have always felt peace. I also have felt a check when I consider other opportunities. Even with that when I'm away from him like u said, I have struggled and looked for red flags when there aren't any and have considered calling it off several times. Thank God for His Holy Spirit because I simply ask Him again and I feel that same peace. That has kept me from making a big mistake.
@@virginiaomoniyi7594 Yesssssss ma'am. Countless years on an emotional rollercoaster. I had no self-love, couldn't see my own value, and negotiated with my own intuition. Ten years later and I'm still trying to heal. Stephan Labossiere has become my TH-cam-Instagram Life Coach because I got one good relationship left in me and I'm trying to get me all the way right first.
hey stephan i want you to know that ive recently stepped back into my walk in faith and this video landed perfectly at a time in my life when i needed it, i really believe that god speaks through your word and thank you for your help
When you asked God, healed self, set healthy boundaries. I finally found my better half. We're balanced🧘♀️Working on self in areas YOU are flawed in. I trust him🥰Thank you so much
I love this whole video, especially the bonus! My man used to say that… “Trust God not man.” We are all human and we all have the potential to mess up.
Oh wow! You really hit the nail on the head when you described the difference of feeling safe when you’re *with* him rather than how you feel when you’re not with him. That’s exactly what I have been struggling with lately… it’s definitely a form of relationship anxiety, when you feel great with your man but then have this awful sense of dread or anxiety when you’re not physically with him and feeling uncertain you can trust him. It’s an awful feeling and it absolutely can be your mind (anxiety) playing tricks on you. (Relationship OCD is also a real and awful thing!) These are our own inner issues we need to heal from and It’s important to distinguish it and not force those false beliefs onto our partner. What a great video!
FOR THE LOVE o. AGREE 100. Here’s my question. My ex dumped me. Then a week later text & said “ I hope you ok “ should I text back ? I’m still wondering WHY he bothered to ask.
All Primo points 👌💎😎 #2 willing to communicate & have difficult discussions 💥🎯 Reluctance to communicate Dodging deep conversation He’s not trying to be open & transparent holding back, he might expose himself - untrustworthy behaviour intimacy issues 🚩 Honesty issues 🚩
Thank you! I needed to hear this. I pray your congestion be healed. Try ginger root, fresh turmeric, fresh thyme and lemon. Boil and make a tea out of ingredients let it cool some drink it warm or hot if you like. All ingredients are fresh and they will heal your throat.
Thank you for your message. My husband is one of those trust worthy men that you speak of and I trust him with my heart because not only does he love me but he loves my mom and my entire family. He was raised by their parents got rest both of their souls his parents his mom and his dad may they rest in peace
Great video. Trust God not man was my favorite part, as God will never fail or disappoint us. I agree with your other key points, such as looking at the history, pattern, and relationship they have with others. This speak volumes about their life. Also, if they are open,vulnerable and transparent that is a good sign you can trust them. It lets you know if they can love openly, and fully. Yes, if you feel safe with their presence and they exude the energy that comforts your being that is a great sign. Lastly, trust your intuition, if has never failed me,yet and that is our internal guide and compass. When two people build the relationship on the foundation of trust that is essential to success. Thank you for the video. Please rest your voice. Sending blessings and love, get well.
NAOMI -- my gut ALWAYS IN A KNOT ! When I was with him . Then he dumped me. Then a week later he text “ I hope you doing ok “ should I text him back ? I’ feel he playing games to keep contact ! But he text me 3 times. Since he said “ he wants to be ALONE “ what do you think?
@@nancybogart3899 Personally, if it were me I would not tolerate the stress & indecisiveness. He dumped you that's the first mistake in not recognizing your value. Leave him alone, you will find better. However. Stephan is the expert and he would say not to tolerate nonsense. Hope that helps 🙏
@@JamaicaLove876 oh I’m so glad you took kindly to my extreme hurt I’m going thru. Thank you. While I DID NOT “ respond to his “ text / note “ I find myself looking for one. Silly I know. I’m still wounded. I truly appreciate your help.
Good points. Trust is a must for a healthy relationship.... The scripture you referred to about God not being the author of confusion is found in 1 Corinthians 14:32.... And that is why we are to do all things decent and orderly(vs. 40)
thank you Stephan. I truly needed this video. I was even in tears at some point because you spoke like you knew the fears I had with my new relationship. you alleviated that and I'm so grateful. God bless you.
Good video. I make a cough medicine of honey onions and thyme, just sauteed it together. Warm tea w honey, and salt water gargle, or even just honey and lemon juice help. Hope you feel better n thanks for the knowledgeable perspective
This has showed me he loves me clearly. I am terrified of everything because my son was killed, and I trust nobody with my life or heart. I cannot tell you how clear the signs and everything you said is in my case. I have even had universal signs.. premonitions, dreams, his messages, he even has changed his behaviors and showed up where he thought I might be. Thank you.
First of all, I hope you feel better soon ❤️. Yes I agree and listening to your intuition is such key factor in determining whether you feel comfortable trusting any person in any situation, friends, family, colleagues and so on. It’s like for eg I’m careful on who or what I allow myself to listen to but when I first came across & watched one your videos, my spirit instantly trusted you. So yes trusting your intuition in everything will not fail you. 🙏
I hope you feel better, thank you for the video. Communication is key, and understanding. I'm in a relationship with a man who is more focused on his career then pouring into our relationship. I can't trust once he's accomplished his career he's going to walk away.
FOR YOUR THROAT/COLD: This works for me every time. Gargle with salt water as warm as you can handle it THREE TIMES A DAY without fail. Definitely do NOT miss the one just before bed. Each time, gargle far back and let a little of the water go down. Repeat this daily until it's gone.
Good Morning Stephan, Enjoyed this mornings' content. Very eye opening. Even though you want to follow what is right in front of you. Trust that "gut" intuition.. Enjoy your day and Be Blessed!
You are so sweet for sacrificing and showing up for us even though your voice is under the weather from whatever! We love you Stephan for your faithfulness in teaching us the truths about relationships that will help us experience true love! Because of you when my Boaz shows up I will be ready to receive him with Love ❤️!! Thanks!!
Very insightful Mr. Laboussiere. "Trust God, not man" is the most powerful truth that transcends all relationships. The most important relationship is with our Heavenly Father and everything else follows. God bless you brother. I pray you feel better. Thank you so much for your advice.
One hundred percent my intuition told me he was the right guy but because of past trauma I didn't notice just how right he was. I became fearful of the past and assumed he would do the same. This makes so much sense. Working on myself because I need to feel that I am good enough before inviting someone back into my life. Great video. Thank you x
I want a healthy loving affectionate playful relationship willing to work together for communication. I want a man that's serious about us and tells me that.
Between your videos and Sarah Jakes Roberts message 'Girl, Get Up' I'm feeling inspired about marriage again. I had secretly given up on marriage and tried to be 'Single' but the non-exclusive nature of being single put an end to that effort. I thought I was going to have to be alone for the rest of my life. God heard my silent prayers and saw my private tears and guided me to your messages and Sarah Jakes Roberts. Thank you for being strong through evident discomfort to bring us this message. Many more blessings ~ Yolonda
My family communication is toxic & affected ways I am in relationships. I am working on these things now but there are challenges to know what is healthy
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you. Doing what is best, takes self accountability and understanding what is best. Your videos help me learn qualities of healthy relationships that I was not taught or did not see in my environment. It starts with me reframing my self narrative which is also my confidence & level of love of myself. This includes healing, cleaning mind and renewing. Thank you for sharing with Us❣
I calmly asked the man I was seeing if he was seeing another woman because he wasn't consistent in his time. He said no and he doesn't appreciate being accussed, then asked me has he ever lied to me. I said yes you have. He said, you know what BYE!
Get better soon. My ex clown cheated all the time and his communications was always debating... Never listen and if he did it was always someone else's fault. I was always honest and open but he took me for granted. Kept playing mind games and I got tired of his games....
You sound like such a confident and safe man, that it's hard not to want to believe you. I know you make money on this, but it works for you, because of what is brought.
This happened to me on my birthday no consideration for me, he is loving me in poems and stuffs but saying to me he owes nothing to no one, and I am always there in everything he drops I am supportive of everything of his, I find that's kinda weird, or then he's lying or hiding feelings , never could I understand it. Thank you for inspiring me Sir.🙏🙏
Thank you for the way you continue to bless us Stephan, may God continue to bless you in abundance🙏🏾❤ Just my contribution. Being a focused, purpose driven woman helps repel the bad ones. If he is not the type of person who brings you closer, to who you have be, to do what God created you to do, he will eliminate himself. Seek first the Kingdom🙌🏾... and all these things...😉❤
Many men who say they have trust issues and project on to you, saying they think you’re out cheating etc are the ones doing the dirt. Talk about this Very important.
My lying ex lied about his past relationships, I had to do my own digging to find the truth. He was so vague and ambiguous about why they broke up, like “ we weren’t seeing each other” “ I wanted more” etc, all BS, he cheated on them like he did to me. Hope he gets his karma!
I embrace these topics and your videos; they're helpful with sound guidance. Also have been having girls night in the home where we all together view your videos.
WOW, Very Good Points !! And it's very important to watch for all these signs because it's so real , just had to let a person go ,there were several of these points that was on this list was the reason And my Spirit said. Let Go 😊 Yes Trust God
I love those signs, 😊thanks. I grew up sheltered so there's some things I just don't know. The Bible passage you mentioned about "God is not the author of confusion..." yes, it's actually found at 1st Corinthians 14:16 ("God is not the author of confusion, but of peace") Glad I cld share that info bcuz I'm learning a lot from you too. Thank you.
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How do you feel about physical abuse? Should work on it ..
I've taken over 26
Online Classes(with notes... ofcourse) I cannot find words to express how informed I've become. I'm not afraid to put myself out there because of all I've learned from Mr.Speaks. He knows a higher power guides him. I hope to meet you one day Mr.Speaks. Elizabeth Jackson from Elkmont Al
Great book
If you're in a relationship that's not meant to be and on your way out, will this book help with this process?
Stephan do you think I can trust a man I’ve been seeing for 8-9months and I don’t know anyone in his circle.
He tells me we should move in together but when I visit and am leaving he reminds me to check and make sure am not leaving anything behind.
One time I found a text conversation between my ex and another woman and she asked him who he lives with and he alone....mind you we were living in a home for a year at this point. When I confronted him he got defensive and said it wasn't anything to it and he was just being funny . After finding multiple inappropriate conversations I finally left so now he can be funny without me. The first time my gut instinct told me this wasn't for me but because he's a "good" guy I brushed it off initially. See the thing is it came to a point where I no longer trusted him and the relationship because a toxic mess. Ladies the first time you feel your gut telling you something believe it
You are so right. When a man is talking to women behind your back, they are looking to cheat. That's your clue to dump them . Dont put up with that crap
Sorry you had to go through that but at least you found out the truth. I stayed with a liar for 5 years.
TRUE
I had a man living with me for 4 years talking marriage . Even did the paperwork. He went off to deployment .. and a woman was messaging me saying they are in a relationship and have been doing .. things.. I’m like wtf. When he got out I felt like he may have lived w her but he never stopped messaging me the way we used to message . Men are wild
Initials TW . In the navy. Resides in Houston lol run ladies
So true…a “good” man doesn’t mean that they’re the “right” man for you…I have seen red flags 🚩 before but because I thought the man was a “kind” person didn’t mean he was Mr Right n he turned out to be Mr Wrong….
@@weekendnomad5038 I had a female call me n tell me that she had a child with my then husband…the baby turned out to not be his but he had unprotected sex so there was a possibility…the first year we were buying diapers, medicine, n etc….until I pushed the issue of getting a dna test then she cut him off…
Trust has to be earned. Without trust how can you love a person. Actions speaks louder than words. I live by that.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
I still love my husband but I had to move because he admitted in court to trying to get me to commit suicide and he said I was not safe in the home. He attacked me on numerous occasions unprovoked. I love him but I cannot trust him with my life.
You are a living example of a man lead by Spirit, living in honesty and integrity. Great gratitude for sharing so clearly, the healthy roadmap to loving relationship.🙏✨
😃 ❤ Thank you very much!
Yes Ma'am you said it
#YES HE #IS.🍫😌😌. @ #QUEENS #IDEAL #KING FROM A LITTLE GIRL. I PRAY IM BLESSED WITH ...LIKE HIM..HIS ENERGY IS UNDENIABLE MAY THE #MOSTHIGH👑🙏 BLESS HIM #ABUNDANTLY
Yesss 🤩I agree ! 100
I am a trusting Lady 🙂 is there a trusting man in eauclaire WI?
That bonus is and will always be on point. I've been single for 3 1/2 years now. I took time out to heal my ❤️ I had to detached myself from him mentally, physically, and emotionally. And now I am in a better place. I recently met someone, and I am praying to the All Mighty to lead and guide me through it all. Because of him, I will not still be standing.
Sign number 4 really hits my spirit. So true we feel safe but sometimes our mind and fears are getting the best of us.
You are spot on about a women’s intuition. Mine has never been wrong. All 10 are great things to pay attention too when in a relationship. Great video!
Glad you enjoyed the video thank you for your response and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!
JUST SOME IDEAS. I agree with that-- what about my ex dumping me -- then finding some my stuff & said “ hope you are doing well “ . Should I text him back ?
When it all comes down to it
(Trust God and not man) PERIOD......... love ❤️ it!!!!!
Amen!
After my last encounter, I am done trusting anyone, let alone a man, but I love all of your advice, and I know with time, God heals all wounds. Thank you for all of your books, and wealth of information. It's time to really start paying attention; your advice is not just for female/male relationships, as there are so many other toxic relationships that fits the bill.
I'm going to try to say this with love & compassion. I've gone through position where I couldn't trust anyone after being burned SO badly. After 3 years of therapy it really came down to a lack of self trust. Trusting yourself to recognize toxic people and protect yourself going forward. I feel you, I was very bitter and broken for so long. In my thoughts, queen
Praying for your healing
I agree. One thing that I knew I can trust my guy is that he created that environment that we can communicate without judging each other and when it comes to communication, my God!! that man is on top, even when the topic of discussion is hush, he ready to talk and get solutions of those issues... His spirit, his love and his energy just makes us connect naturally and we can talk all day long... He's not a talking person but when I became part of his life, he changed completely and now he's so comfortable talking because honestly am a talkative person and somehow he inherited my personality and that makes me happy!!....
A lot of the times, trust issues within a relationship is more about ourselves then the other person. When a woman doesn't think she's good enough for the man and has low self esteem she will have difficulty in trusting the man.
When I started dating in my teens, my intuition was so strong I could even tell where the guy was without him telling me know his location or if he's not home.
Trust is very important for me. Nothing throws me off like a guy who receives everything I say with scepticism. When they have to insinuate things about who I really am and about more especially when I'm trying to be as honest as I can be. That's a turn off.
Thank you for sharing!
No disrespect but every time I didn't trust a person it was actually based on what they were doing ..The signs were in front of me plain as day 👀Not to mention the uneasiness I felt in my spirit.. Regardless if you're a little insecure or not your spirit will speak truth
@@sweetlife1423 I agree with you, when I don’t trust someone, it was them, nothing to do with me!
I trust myself with myself period! I learned this matter may tears of therapy 20+. I paid for it and saw I needed it due to family dynamics at 19(blessed for the sight). When people aren’t trust worthy I look deeper than blaming him or me first! Then ima go in and see his faults and look at mine on the back end/ I’m not responsible for someone being slimy. I am responsible for what I allow and how I interact. The why’s matter more than blaming either willing party.
Glad I found this channel. Truth lives here. Stephan always keeping it 💯🙌
thank you ❤ I appreciate that
Same here 🤗
Yes...im about to shout and catch the Holy Ghost
I love it tooo
Yes! He’s the real deal. He's definitely living his true calling💯
He told me that I couldn't trust him and that he doesn't trust anyone. Odd! Red flag!
You're absolutely right because without trust the relationship is not going to succeed.
When a man say he don't trust "anyone" that just mean he can't be trusted....shame
I had a guy friend like that he did not trust anyone. And he think all women are the same.
He’s trying to evoke that challenge mentality. Don’t fall for it.
Believe him and run! Xx
🏃🏿♀️💨 RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!📢✨🧖🏿♀️✨🕊
Characteristics of a Faithful man exude all over you 😊 God Bless you Stephan for you being true to the cause in spite of your voice issues and pushing through. Your real blessing is on the way...🙏🏾❤️ Thanks for looking out for us
Thank yo very much I appreciate your support ❤
I met someone a couple months ago and he displays all these qualities.
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks you said you're not allowed 🚫 or
I can completely see myself as feeling safe with him but suspicious when he is not there. It's all happening in my mind and I gotta work on that
Indeed, it will really help if you work on that.
@@biancadelarosa7986 no thanks. I can heal myself by actually working on myself
@@biancadelarosa7986 and I definitely don't want my ex back!
What a lightbulb moment !!!
I feel safe with him but not when he’s not here! It is my fear and insecurities that are getting in the way. I have done a lot of work on healing from the past yet have been single for so long. The only way to know how much I have healed is to be aware of my own insecurities that get in the way. And at the moment my insecurities and fear are getting in the way.
Stephan is the REAL deal. His advise is always on point. ❤️ May God continue to bless you! 🙏🏽
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that and may God bless you as well!
Trust is initially given, though earned going forward.when trust is broken building the foundation necessary through positive communication.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
For the throat: Get that Ginger in. Warm 🍋water & Raw ginger slices 👌🏿 add 🍯. Healthy, trusting relationships have to be the goal. Neither person should try to seek anything else.
this is amazing..i met someone recently and he is so great..I was afraid to open up before about feelings but I did a lot of healing and now I am not and I seriously can see how he appreciates that..it's amazing to hear all of this from a mans perspective..good job stephan big hug xx
I just met someone and feel very comfortable. These steps helped me decide to trust my intuition and move forward. Thanks
This video came at just the right time. Thank you for this word! We can sometimes sabotage ourselves stemming from our own insecurities.
Yes, it definitely isn't an easy situation!
Stephan dude, I'm so thankful to have found you. Your words of wisdom truly have the ability to open our eyes, change our thinking, and alow us to observe the opposite sex and their behavior more clearly. Your insights coupled with continued learning from mistakes from previous hurtful failed relationships, will only help to provide the foundation for the right relationship.
Thank you for your consistency, regardless of your health. Your commitment and passion is visible. 😊☺ Please take care of yourself.
🙂 ❤Thank you.
I really really love your advice. I’ve been in a long distance relationship and it hasn’t been a easy road at all 😂 but your advice honestly helped me think in a logical perspective instead of thinking emotionally 😂🤦🏽♀️ bc lord knows it can make u crazy so thank u for all your advice 🙏
I love the last point. I have been seeing a man and have fallen in love after an 11 year marriage to a narcississt. I have asked God many times about him to make sure he's right and I have always felt peace. I also have felt a check when I consider other opportunities. Even with that when I'm away from him like u said, I have struggled and looked for red flags when there aren't any and have considered calling it off several times. Thank God for His Holy Spirit because I simply ask Him again and I feel that same peace. That has kept me from making a big mistake.
I’m experiencing the same thing! 🙌🏾♥️
Another important quality that adds more trust is consistency. Be consistent with your actions and make sure your words match your actions.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Yes it's true trust on God not the man!!
All 9 reasons are good Sig.
Thanks so much Stephen. I share the video for my friends.
Thank you for sharing ❤ I appreciate your support!
I've learned communication is the key.in or out of a relationship. One of life's skill that is needed.
Communication is definitely key thank you for sharing!
I love you Stephan. Thank you so much. I feel your love for your listeners by giving them these very essential information. God bless you always.
It's good when a man considers what you say but we still need to give him the space to lead in the relationship
I met someone a month ago. For the first time I have listened to my Intuition & he giving me all theses signs. Lets see where this leads 💫
Are you still with the person?
I feel blessed and thankful to follow your every video. More power. God bless you Stephan
I really wish I had Stephan Speaks' guidance in my 20s...smh
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So do i , i feel i wasted years on untrustworthy men
@@virginiaomoniyi7594 Yesssssss ma'am. Countless years on an emotional rollercoaster. I had no self-love, couldn't see my own value, and negotiated with my own intuition. Ten years later and I'm still trying to heal. Stephan Labossiere has become my TH-cam-Instagram Life Coach because I got one good relationship left in me and I'm trying to get me all the way right first.
Omg....who u telling....me too 😂
@@virginiaomoniyi7594 You are not alone. ....Lawd a mercy !
hey stephan i want you to know that ive recently stepped back into my walk in faith and this video landed perfectly at a time in my life when i needed it, i really believe that god speaks through your word and thank you for your help
Wish I had discovered your channel years ago! Better late then never! I’m good now!
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Grlllll....high 5 up top ✋
When you asked God, healed self, set healthy boundaries. I finally found my better half. We're balanced🧘♀️Working on self in areas YOU are flawed in. I trust him🥰Thank you so much
My pleasure ❤
I love this whole video, especially the bonus! My man used to say that… “Trust God not man.” We are all human and we all have the potential to mess up.
😳 A person that knows him/her Self. Will settle for Nothing for less than what they’re worth/deserves!! FACTS!!!💯
Amen, God knows. Pray without ceasing and fast🙏🏾🙏🏾🥰🥰
Oh wow! You really hit the nail on the head when you described the difference of feeling safe when you’re *with* him rather than how you feel when you’re not with him. That’s exactly what I have been struggling with lately… it’s definitely a form of relationship anxiety, when you feel great with your man but then have this awful sense of dread or anxiety when you’re not physically with him and feeling uncertain you can trust him. It’s an awful feeling and it absolutely can be your mind (anxiety) playing tricks on you. (Relationship OCD is also a real and awful thing!) These are our own inner issues we need to heal from and It’s important to distinguish it and not force those false beliefs onto our partner. What a great video!
FOR THE LOVE o. AGREE 100. Here’s my question. My ex dumped me. Then a week later text & said “ I hope you ok “ should I text back ? I’m still wondering WHY he bothered to ask.
Consistent communications is key🥰🙏🏾
Praying for your speedy recovery as soon as possible.🌹🙏🏿
All Primo points 👌💎😎
#2 willing to communicate & have difficult discussions 💥🎯
Reluctance to communicate
Dodging deep conversation
He’s not trying to be open & transparent holding back, he might expose himself - untrustworthy behaviour
intimacy issues 🚩
Honesty issues 🚩
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Thank you! I needed to hear this. I pray your congestion be healed. Try ginger root, fresh turmeric, fresh thyme and lemon. Boil and make a tea out of ingredients let it cool some drink it warm or hot if you like. All ingredients are fresh and they will heal your throat.
Confusion can also come from other factors then the relationship but still cause you to need clarity, so pray for the clarity from God...
Thank you for your message. My husband is one of those trust worthy men that you speak of and I trust him with my heart because not only does he love me but he loves my mom and my entire family. He was raised by their parents got rest both of their souls his parents his mom and his dad may they rest in peace
I am 38 and I’ve never been able to trust a man!
All I want is to feel loved!🙏🏽
I need to learn to love myself!😭
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but you need to focus on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@MeetStephanSpeaks, You’re right! Thank you!❤️
31 years old and I feel the same way 😔
Great video. Trust God not man was my favorite part, as God will never fail or disappoint us. I agree with your other key points, such as looking at the history, pattern, and relationship they have with others. This speak volumes about their life. Also, if they are open,vulnerable and transparent that is a good sign you can trust them. It lets you know if they can love openly, and fully. Yes, if you feel safe with their presence and they exude the energy that comforts your being that is a great sign. Lastly, trust your intuition, if has never failed me,yet and that is our internal guide and compass. When two people build the relationship on the foundation of trust that is essential to success. Thank you for the video. Please rest your voice. Sending blessings and love, get well.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Appreciate and recognize your effort. Take time to rest, please. Excellence Always.
NAOMI -- my gut ALWAYS IN A KNOT ! When I was with him . Then he dumped me. Then a week later he text “ I hope you doing ok “ should I text him back ? I’ feel he playing games to keep contact ! But he text me 3 times. Since he said “ he wants to be ALONE “ what do you think?
@@nancybogart3899 Personally, if it were me I would not tolerate the stress & indecisiveness. He dumped you that's the first mistake in not recognizing your value. Leave him alone, you will find better. However. Stephan is the expert and he would say not to tolerate nonsense. Hope that helps 🙏
@@JamaicaLove876 oh I’m so glad you took kindly to my extreme hurt I’m going thru. Thank you. While I DID NOT “ respond to his “ text / note “ I find myself looking for one. Silly I know. I’m still wounded. I truly appreciate your help.
Good points. Trust is a must for a healthy relationship.... The scripture you referred to about God not being the author of confusion is found in 1 Corinthians 14:32.... And that is why we are to do all things decent and orderly(vs. 40)
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that!
Trust is BIG! This was very helpful
GREAT morning to you. I listen to you quite often. Thank you for sharing the raw truth. Thank YOU for sharing your wisdom.
Glad to hear that thanks for listening and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks I certainly will. Shared knowledge is power. Keep up the great work!!
Love this!! And AMEN TO TRUSTING GOD!!🙏🏻❤️It’s how I live my life! Thank you and God bless!🦋
thank you Stephan. I truly needed this video. I was even in tears at some point because you spoke like you knew the fears I had with my new relationship. you alleviated that and I'm so grateful. God bless you.
Good video. I make a cough medicine of honey onions and thyme, just sauteed it together. Warm tea w honey, and salt water gargle, or even just honey and lemon juice help. Hope you feel better n thanks for the knowledgeable perspective
This has showed me he loves me clearly. I am terrified of everything because my son was killed, and I trust nobody with my life or heart. I cannot tell you how clear the signs and everything you said is in my case. I have even had universal signs.. premonitions, dreams, his messages, he even has changed his behaviors and showed up where he thought I might be.
Thank you.
I am incredibly sorry for the loss of your beautiful son and your trauma 😭😭😭😭😭😭
These signs are so realistically true, especially sign four (4).
First of all, I hope you feel better soon ❤️. Yes I agree and listening to your intuition is such key factor in determining whether you feel comfortable trusting any person in any situation, friends, family, colleagues and so on. It’s like for eg I’m careful on who or what I allow myself to listen to but when I first came across & watched one your videos, my spirit instantly trusted you. So yes trusting your intuition in everything will not fail you. 🙏
You're absolutely right, it is always important to listen to your intuition! Thank you for sharing!
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This is why am so fearful when it comes to men,
I hope you feel better, thank you for the video. Communication is key, and understanding. I'm in a relationship with a man who is more focused on his career then pouring into our relationship. I can't trust once he's accomplished his career he's going to walk away.
FOR YOUR THROAT/COLD: This works for me every time. Gargle with salt water as warm as you can handle it THREE TIMES A DAY without fail. Definitely do NOT miss the one just before bed. Each time, gargle far back and let a little of the water go down. Repeat this daily until it's gone.
Thank you!
That really works.
Yes, it works. Glad you made that suggestion. Also, ginger tea with ginger root, lemon/honey. Plus elderberry.
Apple cider vinegar and honey works amazing as well
@@MeetStephanSpeaks You're welcome!
I love all your video Stephan please can you make some for men too. There are alot of men in the wrong relationships and you need to talk to them too.
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
I like how you conclude each video...with a reliance on God. With all the advice, if God doesn't do it, it can't be done. Thank u🙏🙏🙏
Good Morning Stephan,
Enjoyed this mornings' content. Very eye opening. Even though you want to follow what is right in front of you. Trust that "gut" intuition.. Enjoy your day and Be Blessed!
It is always important to listen to your intuition, thank you for sharing, and may you also enjoy your day and be blessed!
God said it and I wholeheartedly agree that we shouldn’t trust man 100%. We’re all capable of doing wrong.
Thank you Stephan!! You are telling the truth. I love watching and taking notes from your videos they are a must. God bless you and your family.
Thank you for watching and don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing!
Wow number nine was what I most definitely NEEDED to hear. I need to work on that area. Thanks Stephan
You are so sweet for sacrificing and showing up for us even though your voice is under the weather from whatever! We love you Stephan for your faithfulness in teaching us the truths about relationships that will help us experience true love! Because of you when my Boaz shows up I will be ready to receive him with Love ❤️!!
Thanks!!
Very insightful Mr. Laboussiere. "Trust God, not man" is the most powerful truth that transcends all relationships. The most important relationship is with our Heavenly Father and everything else follows. God bless you brother. I pray you feel better. Thank you so much for your advice.
One hundred percent my intuition told me he was the right guy but because of past trauma I didn't notice just how right he was. I became fearful of the past and assumed he would do the same. This makes so much sense. Working on myself because I need to feel that I am good enough before inviting someone back into my life. Great video. Thank you x
I want a healthy loving affectionate playful relationship willing to work together for communication. I want a man that's serious about us and tells me that.
I watch so many videos I feel like everything’s a red flag 🚩😩🥲😅😓
Same 😅
As a Scorpio, I am highly attuned to people’s behaviors and can spot when something is out of alignment very easily.
Gang.. I totally feel you in that 🦂💫
I know to many no good Scorpio guys, no good Gemini guys, no good Libra guys, no good sagatarius guys 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮👹👹👹👹👹👹🤮👹🤮👹🤮👹😈😈😈😈😈🐍🐍🐍🐍
Put not your trust man. All fall short . Facts and Amen
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Between your videos and Sarah Jakes Roberts message 'Girl, Get Up' I'm feeling inspired about marriage again. I had secretly given up on marriage and tried to be 'Single' but the non-exclusive nature of being single put an end to that effort. I thought I was going to have to be alone for the rest of my life. God heard my silent prayers and saw my private tears and guided me to your messages and Sarah Jakes Roberts. Thank you for being strong through evident discomfort to bring us this message. Many more blessings ~ Yolonda
Glad to hear that, you got this, and thank you for your response!
My family communication is toxic & affected ways I am in relationships. I am working on these things now but there are challenges to know what is healthy
I feel you it definitely isn't an easy situation, but we need to focus on doing what is truly best!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Thank you. Doing what is best, takes self accountability and understanding what is best. Your videos help me learn qualities of healthy relationships that I was not taught or did not see in my environment. It starts with me reframing my self narrative which is also my confidence & level of love of myself. This includes healing, cleaning mind and renewing. Thank you for sharing with Us❣
#8…….LOL. You’re Hilarious!!!
Thank you for
S P E L L I N G things out in such a fun and clear way.
Trust yourself first. This part is the most important.
You're absolutely right!
I calmly asked the man I was seeing if he was seeing another woman because he wasn't consistent in his time. He said no and he doesn't appreciate being accussed, then asked me has he ever lied to me. I said yes you have. He said, you know what BYE!
Get better soon.
My ex clown cheated all the time and his communications was always debating...
Never listen and if he did it was always someone else's fault.
I was always honest and open but he took me for granted.
Kept playing mind games and I got tired of his games....
You sound like such a confident and safe man, that it's hard not to want to believe you. I know you make money on this, but it works for you, because of what is brought.
Very insightful ! Especially the part at the end about speaking to God. Thank you!
My pleasure!
This happened to me on my birthday no consideration for me, he is loving me in poems and stuffs but saying to me he owes nothing to no one, and I am always there in everything he drops I am supportive of everything of his, I find that's kinda weird, or then he's lying or hiding feelings , never could I understand it. Thank you for inspiring me Sir.🙏🙏
Thank you for the way you continue to bless us Stephan, may God continue to bless you in abundance🙏🏾❤
Just my contribution. Being a focused, purpose driven woman helps repel the bad ones. If he is not the type of person who brings you closer, to who you have be, to do what God created you to do, he will eliminate himself. Seek first the Kingdom🙌🏾... and all these things...😉❤
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback, and may God continue to bless you as well!
Many men who say they have trust issues and project on to you, saying they think you’re out cheating etc are the ones doing the dirt. Talk about this
Very important.
My lying ex lied about his past relationships, I had to do my own digging to find the truth. He was so vague and ambiguous about why they broke up, like “ we weren’t seeing each other” “ I wanted more” etc, all BS, he cheated on them like he did to me. Hope he gets his karma!
Love this whole video…I know this video was a long time ago, but I hope that you healed well 🍲💙🖤💛
The bonus is key. That’s all that needed to be said.
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Thanks for speaking directly to me! Glad I’m with a man that has all these qualities🙏
Glad to hear that ❤ thank you for your response!
Money doesn't necessarily corrupt but reveals one's character
Yessss!! Trust God, Not man!!! 🙏🏼💜 #prayer #intuition #instincts
Thank you, Stephan!! 🙏🏼💜
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
I embrace these topics and
your videos; they're helpful with sound guidance. Also have been having girls night in the home where we all together view your videos.
I feel like I love you and care about you as well. Your books are very affordable on audible and I appreciate that❤
I have highly recommended Love After Heartbreak to many others. (But as Stephan says, you must do all the work he suggested.)
WOW, Very Good Points !! And it's very important to watch for all these signs because it's so real , just had to let a person go ,there were several of these points that was on this list was the reason
And my Spirit said. Let Go 😊 Yes Trust God
Yes, we should put our trust in God!
Goodmorning sir Stephan, thank you for your Message, it's so calming.
First time in my life I ever heard a message like this thank you so much
Love it!! Your trust is in God and not in the person.
Absolutely!
This is very true. I have seen so many examples of what you said. Of my ex husband and also seen it from people I have known. Thank you ☺️
I love those signs, 😊thanks. I grew up sheltered so there's some things I just don't know. The Bible passage you mentioned about "God is not the author of confusion..." yes, it's actually found at 1st Corinthians 14:16 ("God is not the author of confusion, but of peace") Glad I cld share that info bcuz I'm learning a lot from you too. Thank you.
❤ 🙂 Thank you very much I appreciate that!