Stephan Speaks...the issue with women that arent discreet or exploded have yet to learn emotional intelligence. Its work that many people lack to do. I truly enjoyed this video. There are a lot on this list I knew but it's good to be reminded. I believe before I begin dating again I will need your help. Imnolder and dating over 50 isn't easy.
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I went out with this guy. He came to pick me up and didn’t open the car door for me so I stood there and waited. He came back to me and apologized. He laughed and said “oh with you, it’s like that. Noted”. Later on, I could tell that even the way he treated me was different (in a very positive way).
I stopped engaging when I noticed I was dating an argumentative man and he felt that I wasn't passionate enough. He equated fighting with passion whereas I considered it toxic and it was clear he didn't have emotional intelligence. Knowledge of self will save you time ladies.
FR. Nowadays I kick em to the curb with the quickness once I see what type of time they on. I'm in my mid 30s. I ain't got time to be fighting and argumentative with any supposed partner of mine at this stage. Cmon now. SMH!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks It sounds like she is already healed and can now use discernment. I think prayers should be for that toxic man. Just some thoughts. Love your content.
My mother was a classy woman. She would dress up just to go to the grocery store. I learned from my mother to ALWAYS be ladylike. When a strange man holds the door open for me. I ALWAYS compliment him for being a gentleman.
My grandmother and mother taught me to be this way! I always put on makeup and clothes no matter where I'm going. My daughter thinks I'm too prissy lol she's the total opposite. I'm also very pleasant and respectful to others especially nice ppl, whether it be a man or woman. However, because it's kind of rare, some men mistake me for flirting or reciprocating advances. Oh well, I'm never going to be mean or rude.
What a blessing! My mom always made fun of me and put me down with horrible insults because I like to "get ready" to go somewhere, even just to the corner market. She broke my spirit. Your mom sounds lovely💕
I've been told I'm a very classy woman by a lot of men. I don't do drama, I'm celibate until I find that special man who reciprocates on my level. I'm very confident I have standards for myself, I dress sexy yet classy. I respect others, and you are right I will stand at a door and wait for him to open it with a smile. 😂🤣You are right on!
This current society is in dire need of manners, morals, values, respect for others. The Bible says to be quick to hear and slow to speak, and to treat others as we would want to be treated. Social media has taught people to express themselves. It is just one big venting session, and most of the people on there would never even think of saying those things to others in real life. One major thing to consider when interacting with people (all people) is that we all go through hard times. Maybe that grocery clerk that is having a bad day and is snappy just found out she has cancer. Maybe that driver that just cut us off in traffic had his wife leave him the day before. Everybody is going through something, and a little kindness and empathy will go a long way. We are all just humans trying to survive in a fallen world. Awesome vid, Stephan. Thank you so much for helping so many people. God bless you!
And this applies to what women find classy in a man too. I loathe men who like to gossip and spill secrets - throw his weight around thinking he's the man. I watch the way he treats strangers, how he drives, how he orders when we're out. Does he show consideration and respect for others. I love it if the he get's the door for me - offers to carry my bag if it's heavy - showing initiative. Not only classy - sexy.
I met this guy, he just came over in his car and we met in the parking lot of my building, he just wanted to meet me that bad, and he was in the way of someone in my parking lots parking space and the guy was looking at him and he snapped at him and im like naw not this guy lol
Yes, agree that being authentic and walking in the truth of who you are is attractive. What you exude is what you attract. When you are a woman who radiates class, character, & confidence that is who is most likely to be drawn to you. Agree, that being versatile in our personality is essential, as life must be lived fully embracing all of who we are, multifaceted. Class is something that you just develop and that element of who we are evolves and transcends as we grow into our best versions. The most beautiful character about a woman is always the essence of her heart & soul. Excellent video, blessings & abundance to you. - The beauty of a woman is always in the way she loves others, pouring into their lives with her grace.
Very eloquently said, I couldn’t agree more! I feel like this video resonated on such a deep level because these are all of the things I’ve been striving to bring full circle as a woman. Now I try to be a template for the women in my life.and for others who struggle with identifying those personality traits that are not so attractive. Thank you so much for all of your wonderful advice Stephan, it’s been a huge bless in my life.
Hi Stephan. I started watching your videos a month ago and they have truly helped me reinforce a lot of things I know and shed light on the things I can do better to be a good woman to a good man. Dating in your 30s is extremely hard these days and trying to find that quality partner can seem so daunting at times. Your videos have been a great sounding board for me when I get discouraged or confused. Thank you so much❤️
Hearing you say that there are men that appreciates a woman who knows that there is a time and place for everything is very relieving Lbvs ! I had an experience with a guy who didn’t show any appreciation for the fact that I wanted to wait until we got home & settled in to discuss an issue him or I may have had instead of RIGHT then and there . Thankyou so much ! I appreciate all of your content 💯
YES!!! The best thing I ever did was join the military!! - I worked semi-hard, went to war, traveled the World!!! BUT what was priceless and still pays dividends: Learning people (races genders backgrounds) and deciding on the woman I wanted to be and became Her - can go from flip flops and beer to a ball gown attending a gala at the MET …. and feeling at home in both settings - Ladies Class is the ONLY way to go !!! Forget a BBL !!! Cartoon bodies are not it - Class. Is.Priceless
That last part was *chef’s kiss*. I believe in “balance” as well. Women should be like chameleons & be able to exist in any environment. I can be in sneakers & jeans hanging with my friends one day, & be able to carry myself at a black tie affair with the “elite” the next. You can learn from both worlds. Variety is the spice of life! 💯
Yes, you said it like me. You don’t have to attend every argument that you’re envited to. I will shut it down as soon as I recognize it. Either the discussion ends immediately or we exit the situationship for the time being.
💯 soooo true. Being balanced , not too demanding and not too passive is best. Being true to yourself is healthiest. If you put on a facade it soon fades.
Men say they don’t want drama but they do things to warrant it. Women have to learn to say no to being used and taken for granted so their natural emotions are not toyed with. No real woman loves drama. No real man taunts it. Communication is the key to every relationship.
If a guy is doing something inappropriate; then they are out of my life. You’re basically saying, if a man acts a fool that justifies you acting a fool. I think you just missed the whole point & message of this video
Thank you for acknowledging that drama does not have a place in your life/relationship. Stay classy ladies. Stephan, I hope you feel better soon. I appreciate your guidance even when you're not feeling well 🙏🏽❤
I personally don't like to argue, explain it to me softly.i understand words spoken calmly.ii have to have peace in my life. I always try to speak sweetly to everyone.especially the elderly,and children.be blessed Stephan, we love your wisdom.and your voice is nice.
Balance is very important to me. I really like all the points you made. My biggest take away is to exude the energy of which I want to be treated. And I’m definitely the type to stand at a door. Lol my daddy taught me that one 😉
God bless you! I really don't need a man to tell me if I have class, I do naturally. I have strong values, morals, and have a kind heart. I do not need a man to define me, I define myself, I do not want a man who needs a woman to define him, he needs to define himself. It's called equally "Yoked". I can do bad "all" by myself. I truly appreciate all your videos. They are powerful, but you see if you know better than do better. God bless.
I’m glad I found your channel…I am in the beginning stages of separation after many years of marriage and just open minded to learning more in this new journey of my life. Instant sub!
If you feel like you can’t relate to these 9 points then take it as a sign to start healing. When you heal and learn to love yourself you become a more confident drama free mature woman. Ladies you all got it in you, you just gotta learn to love yourself. ❤️
There are women WHO DON'T DRESS SEXY AND ARE MARRIED..FULL STOP. WHAT HE DON'T SAY IT IS BECAUSE NOWADAYS MALE ARE PORN DEPENDENT AND OUT OF THERE IS FULL OF MEAT FOR THEM AND YOU HAVE TO DRESS SEXY IF U DON'T WANT ANOTHER ONE WILL WON U IN THIS FIGHT. THIS IS VERY FAR TO BE A HIGH VALUE WOMAN...
Hi sweetheart I hope your day is going well. I dislike arguing with a passion. I watched my mom relationships deteriorate as a child because of it. I've grown to let things smooth over without escalating it to a level of toxicity. I love nice and I love kind. That's who I am and I choose to walk in this world in such manner. The gain is greater. So with that being said, Mr Labossiere stay humbled and stay handsomely blessed💙
Love this! You explained what it means to be classy very well. I hope all the women watching will really hear it and find the strength to adjust where needed. Also, I love when you throw in bonuses at the end, I always hate getting to the end of the list. Lol
I realize that since puberty, I've been inundated with messages regarding "getting and keeping a man"; as if, being my authentic Feminine Self isn't enough. At my core, these messages have felt destructive to my Spirit. I've attracted the best relationship experiences when I am true to my Feminine Self; my essence; SECURE and confident that I don't have to strategize in order to attract a Man/Men.
Love your perspective. I love these advice on dating, but I don't want my life to be as though everything I do, I do for a man to like me. I want to be comfortable in my own skin, and I pray I get a man who loves me for who I am. Love his advices though
You and Jay are like me finding brothers literally that can give me good advice concerning men. I grew up with four brothers, and never told me a darn thing about men. As a matter fact, they did quite the polar opposite. They showed me what a woman should never look for in a man, but you do what you see and you see what you do and then you learn the hard way. Oh that’s why pick men that are so horrible or that’s why I intend to attract and let in men don’t treat me right, so thank you for all your wonderful videos. Thank you for you know wanting to look out for us and you know for us that they do need a little bit of finessing a little bit of something you know that is a little different to upper game so to speak thank you for those comments as well because a lot of women have not had the privilege of seeing what it’s like to have a good, we know role model, whether it’s a female or a male in their life so thank you so much.
Great advice Stephan! I’m definitely not about drama, and I always make sure that how I dress is appropriate. You can be cute sexy or whatever you want to call it and still keep it classy. How you carry yourself is definitely important not only for women but for men as well. I enjoy seeing men who are confident in their own skin! Thanks for sharing your honesty on this topic!
Be you be confident if you love yourself it shows. Also being pleasant is a classy attribute. I recently started watching you Stephan keep up the informative content. ❤❤️
I think some women can try. Sometimes the environment in which the female grew up was not conducive to creating or developing the traits that we consider or classify as classy.
@Stephan speaks; another great video! Also, when you were saying “be yourself” I kept saying in my head; yes, but be the BEST version of yourself & then you said it! I love how you’re thorough & concise @ the same time ❤️
When a man treats me with respect by showing gentlemen attribrute's, I find that to be so attractive, so I show him affection by doing the little things that will contribute in a positve way and continue his growth as a great man and our growth as good people.
I do the standing at the door without saying a word when a man is approaching a door also. I take offense to men that opens a door and walks in without holding the door for the woman to come through first or if they stand there and wait on the female to open the door.
Be observant ladies 😊 you’re a Queen, represent and only entrain a real gentleman 🎉 Gentleman… That’s real women do exist. A hustle lady with a wild side 😊
Yes, we set the stage, standards for those we choose to entertain. Somethings are not negotiable! Move slowly then pick up the pace as we see fit!! Giving too much credit; benefit of doubt; or time can be dangerous!! Don't volunteer too much information on any subject too soon! And, definitely always use the Golden Rule; when determining how to treat another individual!😊. Treat everyone like you expect them to treat you.
I like this. I am a woman with class I made myself this way from 25 years of age. I am now 60 years. I am not ghetto or rachet but can go there if I have to. What you have said from 1 to 9 is truth!!!
Stephan I also think some ladies think material possessions and money make them a classy woman nope, not true my way of classiness is totally different ! Cuz I can been invited to a Kitchen tea but cannot go for several reasons , I will surely call to excuse myself the date I will not be available! How a woman talks and portray herself so many things I describe myself as a classy woman 👌🏽💯
Great video, Stephan! I'm ready to venture out into the dating world again and this is perfect timing and a refresher course to putting my classy self out there!!
Some things that hit home with me is to try to make sure u try to look decent from head to toe,no matter how u may be feeling.Just bc u are getting older,not in a relationship at the time,or or ill is no excuse to look bad in public.Ironing your clothing,putting in a scarf,or wig instead of a bonnet,or hat makes a difference.Appearance does matter.I have never believed in acting desperate,or pushing myself,or up on a man.I’ve learned from experience it’s ok to be a bit flirtatious at times,but never compromise your dignity.I don’t think I’m better than any one else,but never cast pearls b4 swine.By that I mean don’t give too much to ppl that are not deserving of,or don’t appreciate your worth.Men don’t usually like drama,but it seems now a days some males keep up as much drama as women.feminine energy at it’s best).I’m just working on being the best version of myself,and if Mr Right comes along o k,if not it’s been s good ride/ o k .Jehovah Jirah,and Yesuah are my main focus for now.It seems mankind will leave,and forsake u without notice.Sometimes we overlook our true soulmates for vanity,and desire.Unbothered from Flint,Mi💨🙌🏾
I don’t like drama either, but when a man constantly lies to you, disregard your feelings and tells you he got an STD of a porter potty. My stupid butt gave him too many chances in 3 months to do right by me. And sometimes we women get to the point where we act out of character. Lesson learned m, never waste your energy trying to tell a man how you should be treated. Know your worth and just walk away. Because loving yourself is more important than seeking love from a clown. Also he pursued me and wouldn’t let me walk away every time I wanted to. But I also didn’t stand my ground until now.
I agree stephan , it is very important to treat others right. I gotta work on my confidence . I understand alot of the things you spoke on. You said a few things I see as character defects I may have to work on. I glad you showed me this video. It made alot of since. I agree with alot of things you said. You got me thinking. Im a litlle of everything in one. My brother told me one of my biggest problems is im to nice, kind hearted. You know what stephan this is the best video for me. I. a save it. Its on point , now I know where I went wrong but I also find alot of things you said about what type a man I chose and a despret woman. I wasn't desperate but was never taught what to look for in men and how to pick and choose a man. I settled and talorated things that I shouldn't of had to put up with because I didnt want to be alone. Your one hundred percent right! Stephan I need to loosin up I been so busy trying to please him and make him happy or be who he wanted me to be till I lost myself somewhere in there. 😆 im glad I gave you the info I did because If I didn't put what was really going on with me. You wouldn't of been abled to help me see where I needed to inprove. Im a work on the areas where im lacking and I can build up my Character. I see my flaws in some of what you were saying. Im doing this for me not him or any other man. See stephan I really needed to know this because , if you dont know . You just dont know. I really needed help with what to see my flaws and imperfections . My strengths and weaknesses so I can now hold my head up and start to rebuild myself confidence and work on my character defects and flaws. You never to old to learn. I never had parents my life to teach me the things . I was kind of winging it. Thank you again.
Yes Stephan - your #1 for instance: I NEVER HARDLY watched soap operas & for sure NEVER watched straight through not one reality show I.e. "Wives of New York" , etc.
Thank you for explaining Stephan. Some people (men and women) need to be taught there’s a time and place for everything because honestly some don’t know any better and they lack good judgment. That’s where the snooty people come in. Come on don’t judge. you ain’t better than them
I pray that all women listen to this and understand their value and worthiness, because side chicks and baby mamas shouldn't be the trophies of future generations!!💯💯💖thank you for all you do
I can also tell you one thing that shows them you have class is being willing to walk away from a high value man when hes trying you. Like when they start getting inconsistent in the dating phase just nicely tell them your bowing out and exploring other options and wish them well, and mean it. 9 times out of 10 they will stop you from walking out the door and will straighten up. For me if they dont i will walk.
Excellent advice, Stephan. All of the points are relevant and help us improve on our Classiness. Giving examples and sharing your personal experiences allow us to see you as sincere and authentic. Your personality is perfect for coaching - Love your sense of humor! 😀
I appreciate your experience, time, education, and insights. As a widow beginning two years ago, I have begun dating. You are teaching me how to be a healthy, inside woman. You have helped me greatly to be lovely to others and to heal from the past.
Very interesting. I hesitated before I watched this video,bc i was pretty convinced that these days men doesn't really want a woman with Class anymore. I was really under the impression that men and women have changed so much through out the years,that in 2022 , a classy woman is simply yesterday's paper.
Great video every woman should watch and understand. How a woman moves dictates how she will be treated because she will not settle nor accept mediocrity.
Stephan, you are such a Blessing. You are Spiritual and Speak Truth. At long last, I've found "THE ONE" who loves my "drama free" attitute and "self love". It's such a joy to know there NEVER anything wrong with me for being "God Like": "love thy neighbor as thyself"; "do unto others..."
Omg I love it , a lil ratchet lol! That’s hilarious because we have to be ourselves! You gotta hang out and let loose sometimes. You’re so right! Funny and true, you’re so relatable Stephan.
3:14 Oooo when he started w this one, I felt this one at my core. I deal w this so often, that I just do not engage. We really do have to pick our battles in life, and picking a guy that is constantly presenting and trying to engage in little and big battles over anything. He’s messing w my peace at that point and he has got to go! Immediately! Lol. ……… Instead, I will be over here choosing to enjoy this topic conversation and choose to not be so easily offended and enjoy my day. Thank you very much lol 😅😮💨
Gentle reminder of who I am.. Dude I had to look up Ratchet on Urban Dictionary 🤪. It's nice when people & friends say to me I'm an elegant classy lady & don't look down on anyone. I can be me.. Nothing worse than being with someone obsessed with their image, that 😱 of insecurity.. Saving this video for positive affirmations of good qualities to have as a woman. Thank you Stephan. 😊
I participated in arguments for the first 10 years of a 23 year marriage! I figured out that he was a drama KING and thanks to this, if an argument starts, I check out. I let them know that I am not HER and will not participate. And I cut them off. I don't are WHOM it is, I'm not doing it.
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Stephan Speaks...the issue with women that arent discreet or exploded have yet to learn emotional intelligence. Its work that many people lack to do. I truly enjoyed this video. There are a lot on this list I knew but it's good to be reminded. I believe before I begin dating again I will need your help. Imnolder and dating over 50 isn't easy.
Great info
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I went out with this guy. He came to pick me up and didn’t open the car door for me so I stood there and waited. He came back to me and apologized. He laughed and said “oh with you, it’s like that. Noted”. Later on, I could tell that even the way he treated me was different (in a very positive way).
That's great some men really don't know chivalry
I stopped engaging when I noticed I was dating an argumentative man and he felt that I wasn't passionate enough. He equated fighting with passion whereas I considered it toxic and it was clear he didn't have emotional intelligence. Knowledge of self will save you time ladies.
Thank you for sharing and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
FR. Nowadays I kick em to the curb with the quickness once I see what type of time they on. I'm in my mid 30s. I ain't got time to be fighting and argumentative with any supposed partner of mine at this stage. Cmon now. SMH!
Gee, it sounds like you were dating my ex-friend. 😐 Glad you moved on❗
@@MeetStephanSpeaks It sounds like she is already healed and can now use discernment. I think prayers should be for that toxic man. Just some thoughts. Love your content.
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My mother was a classy woman. She would dress up just to go to the grocery store. I learned from my mother to ALWAYS be ladylike. When a strange man holds the door open for me. I ALWAYS compliment him for being a gentleman.
Me too
Same
My grandmother and mother taught me to be this way! I always put on makeup and clothes no matter where I'm going. My daughter thinks I'm too prissy lol she's the total opposite. I'm also very pleasant and respectful to others especially nice ppl, whether it be a man or woman. However, because it's kind of rare, some men mistake me for flirting or reciprocating advances. Oh well, I'm never going to be mean or rude.
@@notjustaprettyface yes! 💯
What a blessing! My mom always made fun of me and put me down with horrible insults because I like to "get ready" to go somewhere, even just to the corner market. She broke my spirit. Your mom sounds lovely💕
I've been told I'm a very classy woman by a lot of men. I don't do drama, I'm celibate until I find that special man who reciprocates on my level. I'm very confident I have standards for myself, I dress sexy yet classy. I respect others, and you are right I will stand at a door and wait for him to open it with a smile. 😂🤣You are right on!
Good for you! I'm doing the same thing! Single over 2 years now... Not settling! Just got lied to for 15 months and I walked away!
Same! You go sis!
This is me ❤I love it… keep being who you are, being classy and sexy is amazing
You can’t dress sexy and classy. It’s a common misconception but they are actually on two ends of the spectrum
@@AkireMaru You can, it's called French
This current society is in dire need of manners, morals, values, respect for others. The Bible says to be quick to hear and slow to speak, and to treat others as we would want to be treated. Social media has taught people to express themselves. It is just one big venting session, and most of the people on there would never even think of saying those things to others in real life.
One major thing to consider when interacting with people (all people) is that we all go through hard times. Maybe that grocery clerk that is having a bad day and is snappy just found out she has cancer. Maybe that driver that just cut us off in traffic had his wife leave him the day before. Everybody is going through something, and a little kindness and empathy will go a long way.
We are all just humans trying to survive in a fallen world.
Awesome vid, Stephan. Thank you so much for helping so many people. God bless you!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
Yep I agree that’s a good quality when someone has the ability to be confident yet remain humble & down to earth, I love that👌❤️
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that ❤
Don't get the real confident ones confused with the faux confident ones like Lizzo and others.
I think you’re describing me lol jk maybe that’s why my man been with me for 5 years 🥴
Indeed Anneka Jordan. I love that too!😊💞
@Alissa G. ☺️💞
Great point about standards... I once had a man tell me, "You could have somebody, but you picky!" I took it as a compliment.
And this applies to what women find classy in a man too. I loathe men who like to gossip and spill secrets - throw his weight around thinking he's the man. I watch the way he treats strangers, how he drives, how he orders when we're out. Does he show consideration and respect for others. I love it if the he get's the door for me - offers to carry my bag if it's heavy - showing initiative. Not only classy - sexy.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
I met this guy, he just came over in his car and we met in the parking lot of my building, he just wanted to meet me that bad, and he was in the way of someone in my parking lots parking space and the guy was looking at him and he snapped at him and im like naw not this guy lol
My (then) low self-esteem, caused me pain. Now that I am wiser, I let wisdom reign. What is not for me, I keep away from.
Indeed, it really helps when we embrace that.
Yes, agree that being authentic and walking in the truth of who you are is attractive. What you exude is what you attract. When you are a woman who radiates class, character, & confidence that is who is most likely to be drawn to you. Agree, that being versatile in our personality is essential, as life must be lived fully embracing all of who we are, multifaceted. Class is something that you just develop and that element of who we are evolves and transcends as we grow into our best versions. The most beautiful character about a woman is always the essence of her heart & soul. Excellent video, blessings & abundance to you. - The beauty of a woman is always in the way she loves others, pouring into their lives with her grace.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks Always my pleasure to share ❤.
So beautifully stated ♡ brava!
Very eloquently said, I couldn’t agree more! I feel like this video resonated on such a deep level because these are all of the things I’ve been striving to bring full circle as a woman. Now I try to be a template for the women in my life.and for others who struggle with identifying those personality traits that are not so attractive. Thank you so much for all of your wonderful advice Stephan, it’s been a huge bless in my life.
ToDaH RaBaH much NeeDeD to hear more than you could know. Abba BaShamayim barukah atah.
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For short, a classy woman is someone who has been healed!
Being comfortable in your own skin is the ultimate goal & attractiveness
Absolutely!
🙃 I never considered myself classy...until listening to this. 🦋🤟 always love your videos. You have a gift Stephan. Please don't ever stop sharing it 🙏
I appreciate that!
Hi Stephan. I started watching your videos a month ago and they have truly helped me reinforce a lot of things I know and shed light on the things I can do better to be a good woman to a good man. Dating in your 30s is extremely hard these days and trying to find that quality partner can seem so daunting at times. Your videos have been a great sounding board for me when I get discouraged or confused. Thank you so much❤️
I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
Thank you Stephan. I certainly will☺️
Hearing you say that there are men that appreciates a woman who knows that there is a time and place for everything is very relieving Lbvs ! I had an experience with a guy who didn’t show any appreciation for the fact that I wanted to wait until we got home & settled in to discuss an issue him or I may have had instead of RIGHT then and there . Thankyou so much ! I appreciate all of your content 💯
Not all men are the same. And that right there should show you what type of man he is. Gotta get better at feeling dudes out ma. And move accordingly.
@@jayc5756 yes absolutely ,, & I definitely have 🙌🏽♥️
@@Jbeloved3 😎
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
@@jayc5756 "gotta get better at feeling dude out".... um, you literally will not know this about a person until the situations present themselves.
My time in the military showed me men are just as catty and equally about the drama and gossip.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@@MeetStephanSpeaks your responses as so sweet!❤️
YES!!! The best thing I ever did was join the military!! - I worked semi-hard, went to war, traveled the World!!! BUT what was priceless and still pays dividends: Learning people (races genders backgrounds) and deciding on the woman I wanted to be and became Her - can go from flip flops and beer to a ball gown attending a gala at the MET …. and feeling at home in both settings - Ladies Class is the ONLY way to go !!! Forget a BBL !!! Cartoon bodies are not it - Class. Is.Priceless
Oh hell yes. They can be...
@@WG-pd9fp what is a BBL?
That last part was *chef’s kiss*. I believe in “balance” as well. Women should be like chameleons & be able to exist in any environment. I can be in sneakers & jeans hanging with my friends one day, & be able to carry myself at a black tie affair with the “elite” the next. You can learn from both worlds. Variety is the spice of life! 💯
Yes, you said it like me. You don’t have to attend every argument that you’re envited to. I will shut it down as soon as I recognize it. Either the discussion ends immediately or we exit the situationship for the time being.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
💯 soooo true. Being balanced , not too demanding and not too passive is best. Being true to yourself is healthiest. If you put on a facade it soon fades.
Most definitely!
Correct. Not too passive and not too demanding. There are times a woman needs to set boundaries and stand up for herself but it’s the way she does it.
Amen I love that quote confidence is not always being right but not afraid 🙌🏽
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Men say they don’t want drama but they do things to warrant it. Women have to learn to say no to being used and taken for granted so their natural emotions are not toyed with.
No real woman loves drama. No real man taunts it. Communication is the key to every relationship.
If a guy is doing something inappropriate; then they are out of my life. You’re basically saying, if a man acts a fool that justifies you acting a fool. I think you just missed the whole point & message of this video
@@lisabuckner243 Said nothing of the sort. Read again slowly......hmmmm Maybe that's a rumor. Don't believe the hype.
Having class is having a beautiful heart ❤️
Thank you for acknowledging that drama does not have a place in your life/relationship. Stay classy ladies.
Stephan, I hope you feel better soon. I appreciate your guidance even when you're not feeling well 🙏🏽❤
❤ 🙂 Thank you!
And just like that Stephan opens up about himself and what he likes but also gives a lesson on the male perspective of a classy lady. 😊
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Absolutely correct. This is 200% me! My husband appreciates me alot and knows how blessed he is so am I. You're doing a great job Stephan!
I personally don't like to argue, explain it to me softly.i understand words spoken calmly.ii have to have peace in my life. I always try to speak sweetly to everyone.especially the elderly,and children.be blessed Stephan, we love your wisdom.and your voice is nice.
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Balance is very important to me. I really like all the points you made. My biggest take away is to exude the energy of which I want to be treated. And I’m definitely the type to stand at a door. Lol my daddy taught me that one 😉
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You're one of the last male dating coach I have trust in the content with.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
@@MeetStephanSpeaks no problem, I'm still keeping one eye open though lol
I love this. I'm a classy woman by my standards but it's good to be able to cater to what a man may like.
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I never considered myself classy till I listened to this. That's great advice Stephan, thank you.
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God bless you! I really don't need a man to tell me if I have class, I do naturally. I have strong values, morals, and have a kind heart.
I do not need a man to define me, I define myself, I do not want a man who needs a woman to define him, he needs to define himself.
It's called equally "Yoked".
I can do bad "all" by myself.
I truly appreciate all your videos.
They are powerful, but you see if you know better than do better.
God bless.
I’m glad I found your channel…I am in the beginning stages of separation after many years of marriage and just open minded to learning more in this new journey of my life. Instant sub!
Just purchased "How to get a man to cherish you" I'm so excited can't wait to dive into this. Thank you so much
Hope you enjoy it ❤
If you feel like you can’t relate to these 9 points then take it as a sign to start healing. When you heal and learn to love yourself you become a more confident drama free mature woman. Ladies you all got it in you, you just gotta learn to love yourself. ❤️
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100% 🥺❤ you have to do the work!
There are women WHO DON'T DRESS SEXY AND ARE MARRIED..FULL STOP. WHAT HE DON'T SAY IT IS BECAUSE NOWADAYS MALE ARE PORN DEPENDENT AND OUT OF THERE IS FULL OF MEAT FOR THEM AND YOU HAVE TO DRESS SEXY IF U DON'T WANT ANOTHER ONE WILL WON U IN THIS FIGHT. THIS IS VERY FAR TO BE A HIGH VALUE WOMAN...
Dating a younger man..Haven't dated in 30 plus years..find myself trying too hard to change him..when in essence..we both need to mature..
Hi sweetheart I hope your day is going well. I dislike arguing with a passion. I watched my mom relationships deteriorate as a child because of it. I've grown to let things smooth over without escalating it to a level of toxicity. I love nice and I love kind. That's who I am and I choose to walk in this world in such manner. The gain is greater. So with that being said, Mr Labossiere stay humbled and stay handsomely blessed💙
❤ 🙂 Thank you very much and may you be blessed as well!
People always confuse classy with snobby or stuck up. It’s so annoying it happens to me all the time.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
Love this! You explained what it means to be classy very well. I hope all the women watching will really hear it and find the strength to adjust where needed. Also, I love when you throw in bonuses at the end, I always hate getting to the end of the list. Lol
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I realize that since puberty, I've been inundated with messages regarding "getting and keeping a man"; as if, being my authentic Feminine Self isn't enough. At my core, these messages have felt destructive to my Spirit. I've attracted the best relationship experiences when I am true to my Feminine Self; my essence; SECURE and confident that I don't have to strategize in order to attract a Man/Men.
Love your perspective. I love these advice on dating, but I don't want my life to be as though everything I do, I do for a man to like me. I want to be comfortable in my own skin, and I pray I get a man who loves me for who I am. Love his advices though
So true respect demands respect if you respect others certainly you’ll receive it, it all depends what energy you exhibit positive or negative
You're absolutely right it is a two way traffic!
You and Jay are like me finding brothers literally that can give me good advice concerning men. I grew up with four brothers, and never told me a darn thing about men. As a matter fact, they did quite the polar opposite. They showed me what a woman should never look for in a man, but you do what you see and you see what you do and then you learn the hard way. Oh that’s why pick men that are so horrible or that’s why I intend to attract and let in men don’t treat me right, so thank you for all your wonderful videos. Thank you for you know wanting to look out for us and you know for us that they do need a little bit of finessing a little bit of something you know that is a little different to upper game so to speak thank you for those comments as well because a lot of women have not had the privilege of seeing what it’s like to have a good, we know role model, whether it’s a female or a male in their life so thank you so much.
My pleasure ❤️
This just might be the best video and content you have made thus far!
I believe in always striking that balance. This is really important. Always be yourself!💞 Good advice Stephan!❤👏
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Great advice Stephan! I’m definitely not about drama, and I always make sure that how I dress is appropriate. You can be cute sexy or whatever you want to call it and still keep it classy. How you carry yourself is definitely important not only for women but for men as well. I enjoy seeing men who are confident in their own skin! Thanks for sharing your honesty on this topic!
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Exactly! Thank You!
Be you be confident if you love yourself it shows. Also being pleasant is a classy attribute. I recently started watching you Stephan keep up the informative content. ❤❤️
Great video! Yes agree. A lot of those changes for me came from time, experience, and maturity.
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You have a super personality, appreciate your videos as always thank you for sharing with everyone. 😊😊😊
Love your video! You can not teach someone to be classy. It's mostly about behavior, either you have it or you don't.
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I think some women can try. Sometimes the environment in which the female grew up was not conducive to creating or developing the traits that we consider or classify as classy.
God bless you Precious Stephan this is a great video.
Always Love Almeta ❤️🙏🏿😘
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
@Stephan speaks; another great video! Also, when you were saying “be yourself” I kept saying in my head; yes, but be the BEST version of yourself & then you said it! I love how you’re thorough & concise @ the same time ❤️
Totally agree on everything. You're like describing me. God helped me to be this way. All the fruits of the spirit. ❤
Amen 🙏
When a man treats me with respect by showing gentlemen attribrute's, I find that to be so attractive, so I show him affection by doing the little things that will contribute in a positve way and continue his growth as a great man and our growth as good people.
A attractive women knows how to balance all these positive traits in any situation.
You're absolutely right!
I do the standing at the door without saying a word when a man is approaching a door also. I take offense to men that opens a door and walks in without holding the door for the woman to come through first or if they stand there and wait on the female to open the door.
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❤❤ Thoughtful, loving excellence, as always. Thank you, Stephan
Be observant ladies 😊 you’re a Queen, represent and only entrain a real gentleman 🎉
Gentleman… That’s real women do exist. A hustle lady with a wild side 😊
Omgosh, no wonder why I ❤️ your videos so much! Born and raised in Miami too!
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Yes, we set the stage, standards for those we choose to entertain. Somethings are not negotiable! Move slowly then pick up the pace as we see fit!! Giving too much credit; benefit of doubt; or time can be dangerous!! Don't volunteer too much information on any subject too soon! And, definitely always use the Golden Rule; when determining how to treat another individual!😊. Treat everyone like you expect them to treat you.
Exactly 👍
It really helps when we embrace treating others as we would like to be treated. Thank you for sharing ❤
I like this. I am a woman with class I made myself this way from 25 years of age. I am now 60 years. I am not ghetto or rachet but can go there if I have to. What you have said from 1 to 9 is truth!!!
Stephan I also think some ladies think material possessions and money make them a classy woman nope, not true my way of classiness is totally different ! Cuz I can been invited to a Kitchen tea but cannot go for several reasons , I will surely call to excuse myself the date I will not be available! How a woman talks and portray herself so many things I describe myself as a classy woman 👌🏽💯
Great video, Stephan! I'm ready to venture out into the dating world again and this is perfect timing and a refresher course to putting my classy self out there!!
Some things that hit home with me is to try to make sure u try to look decent from head to toe,no matter how u may be feeling.Just bc u are getting older,not in a relationship at the time,or or ill is no excuse to look bad in public.Ironing your clothing,putting in a scarf,or wig instead of a bonnet,or hat makes a difference.Appearance does matter.I have never believed in acting desperate,or pushing myself,or up on a man.I’ve learned from experience it’s ok to be a bit flirtatious at times,but never compromise your dignity.I don’t think I’m better than any one else,but never cast pearls b4 swine.By that I mean don’t give too much to ppl that are not deserving of,or don’t appreciate your worth.Men don’t usually like drama,but it seems now a days some males keep up as much drama as women.feminine energy at it’s best).I’m just working on being the best version of myself,and if Mr Right comes along o k,if not it’s been s good ride/ o k .Jehovah Jirah,and Yesuah are my main focus for now.It seems mankind will leave,and forsake u without notice.Sometimes we overlook our true soulmates for vanity,and desire.Unbothered from Flint,Mi💨🙌🏾
Balance in all areas is important. Being your unique self will always be a blessing.
Always Love Almeta ❤️🙏🏿😘
I don’t like drama either, but when a man constantly lies to you, disregard your feelings and tells you he got an STD of a porter potty. My stupid butt gave him too many chances in 3 months to do right by me. And sometimes we women get to the point where we act out of character. Lesson learned m, never waste your energy trying to tell a man how you should be treated. Know your worth and just walk away. Because loving yourself is more important than seeking love from a clown. Also he pursued me and wouldn’t let me walk away every time I wanted to. But I also didn’t stand my ground until now.
Leave him don’t let it get that far
Thank you Stephan🙏very clear and positive information😊❤
I agree stephan , it is very important to treat others right. I gotta work on my confidence . I understand alot of the things you spoke on. You said a few things I see as character defects I may have to work on. I glad you showed me this video. It made alot of since. I agree with alot of things you said. You got me thinking. Im a litlle of everything in one. My brother told me one of my biggest problems is im to nice, kind hearted. You know what stephan this is the best video for me. I. a save it. Its on point , now I know where I went wrong but I also find alot of things you said about what type a man I chose and a despret woman. I wasn't desperate but was never taught what to look for in men and how to pick and choose a man. I settled and talorated things that I shouldn't of had to put up with because I didnt want to be alone. Your one hundred percent right! Stephan I need to loosin up I been so busy trying to please him and make him happy or be who he wanted me to be till I lost myself somewhere in there. 😆 im glad I gave you the info I did because If I didn't put what was really going on with me. You wouldn't of been abled to help me see where I needed to inprove. Im a work on the areas where im lacking and I can build up my Character. I see my flaws in some of what you were saying. Im doing this for me not him or any other man. See stephan I really needed to know this because , if you dont know . You just dont know. I really needed help with what to see my flaws and imperfections . My strengths and weaknesses so I can now hold my head up and start to rebuild myself confidence and work on my character defects and flaws. You never to old to learn. I never had parents my life to teach me the things . I was kind of winging it. Thank you again.
Yes it's really attractive when a man is simple and humble that's the kind of man I been looking for, love this video
Glad to hear that, thank you for your feedback, and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏
Keep on educating us I love your shows it has really helped me . Now I know my worth .
Glad I could help 🙏
Yes Stephan - your #1 for instance: I NEVER HARDLY watched soap operas & for sure NEVER watched straight through not one reality show I.e. "Wives of New York" , etc.
Great advice Stephan there's nothing good can come out of drama
And is good to be nice to people
Treat people the way you wanna be treated ✨️ ✨️ ✨️
You're absolutely right!
Thank you for No 7,it helped me greatly...
Glad I could help 🙏
Thank you for explaining Stephan. Some people (men and women) need to be taught there’s a time and place for everything because honestly some don’t know any better and they lack good judgment. That’s where the snooty people come in. Come on don’t judge. you ain’t better than them
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I pray that all women listen to this and understand their value and worthiness, because side chicks and baby mamas shouldn't be the trophies of future generations!!💯💯💖thank you for all you do
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I can also tell you one thing that shows them you have class is being willing to walk away from a high value man when hes trying you. Like when they start getting inconsistent in the dating phase just nicely tell them your bowing out and exploring other options and wish them well, and mean it. 9 times out of 10 they will stop you from walking out the door and will straighten up. For me if they dont i will walk.
Excellent advice, Stephan. All of the points are relevant and help us improve on our Classiness. Giving examples and sharing your personal experiences allow us to see you as sincere and authentic. Your personality is perfect for coaching - Love your sense of humor! 😀
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
I appreciate your experience, time, education, and insights. As a widow beginning two years ago, I have begun dating. You are teaching me how to be a healthy, inside woman. You have helped me greatly to be lovely to others and to heal from the past.
Very interesting. I hesitated before I watched this video,bc i was pretty convinced that these days men doesn't really want a woman with Class anymore. I was really under the impression that men and women have changed so much through out the years,that in 2022 , a classy woman is simply yesterday's paper.
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Very much on point with this video and some really great tips! Thanks Stephan
So cute to see you carefully describing your preference in woman 😄
It was great that you expounded on the being your best self as you keep growing paradigm... THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR WHAT YOU'RE DOING 🙋
I appreciate that ❤
You inspire me SO much - God bless you for the content you create, it's incredibly helpful and encouraging - Great job.
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Great video every woman should watch and understand. How a woman moves dictates how she will be treated because she will not settle nor accept mediocrity.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, be sure to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
Stephan, you are such a Blessing. You are Spiritual and Speak Truth. At long last, I've found "THE ONE" who loves my "drama free" attitute and "self love". It's such a joy to know there NEVER anything wrong with me for being "God Like": "love thy neighbor as thyself"; "do unto others..."
Your laugh is contagious, love it. appreciate your advice always.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I did the car door thing without any words. No worries going forward. In fact he gets a little reward at the door now
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Omg I love it , a lil ratchet lol! That’s hilarious because we have to be ourselves! You gotta hang out and let loose sometimes. You’re so right! Funny and true, you’re so relatable Stephan.
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3:14 Oooo when he started w this one, I felt this one at my core. I deal w this so often, that I just do not engage. We really do have to pick our battles in life, and picking a guy that is constantly presenting and trying to engage in little and big battles over anything. He’s messing w my peace at that point and he has got to go! Immediately! Lol. ……… Instead, I will be over here choosing to enjoy this topic conversation and choose to not be so easily offended and enjoy my day. Thank you very much lol 😅😮💨
One of your best videos yet!! Thank you Stephan!♥️
Always look at your own thoughts, attitude and actions. This is elegance.
👍🏼You’re right on point. I was speechless. Nice Job! Information that will stay with me for a lifetime. Thank you 😊
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I love this, Stephan! 🫠💯👋🏼🤍
I really appreciate these videos good sir 🙏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Gentle reminder of who I am.. Dude I had to look up Ratchet on Urban Dictionary 🤪. It's nice when people & friends say to me I'm an elegant classy lady & don't look down on anyone. I can be me.. Nothing worse than being with someone obsessed with their image, that 😱 of insecurity.. Saving this video for positive affirmations of good qualities to have as a woman. Thank you Stephan. 😊
My pleasure ❤ I'm happy this has been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love and healing ❤ 🙏
Be mindful , beautiful words. My mums family LOVE drama. I have been surrounded by it. I walk away. They hate it. But it’s not who I am.
Thank you for the tips, humbly, I need to work on myself.
God Bless
Kudos!!! Golden nuggets all the way… Thank you, Stephan!
My pleasure ❤️
Thanks for the honesty! LOL...i have to say i love your open mindedness💃🏾👍🏾💯
I participated in arguments for the first 10 years of a 23 year marriage! I figured out that he was a drama KING and thanks to this, if an argument starts, I check out. I let them know that I am not HER and will not participate. And I cut them off. I don't are WHOM it is, I'm not doing it.
Just watching this now & I loved every point! Great video❤
Thank you stephan.Youre a guide for me and I really value your wisdom !:)
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Drama for me is extremely toxic , I’m always telling my mum off for listening to what people tell her about others and then judging them on it