As an ISFJ, I absolutely love to learn anything and everything I can so I can apply in the real world. This is my first comment ever posted on a TH-cam video. That is just how much I really enjoyed your video. So incredibly detailed and easy to follow! Wonderfully done!
I really like learning too. Especially if I can apply the knowledge to benefit myself to grow as a person to have a happier and even longer life because I would have less stress (like astrology, numerology, tarot, MBTI, etc.). Also let myself flourish and grow in terms of my education, career path, etc. by simply taking classes at school that allow me to learn more about other careers - see what I want to do and what I don't want to do. And also learn about the alternatives you can do after high school like trade school, college (4 years), college (2 years), military or just simply getting into the workforce. I even took an Honors class for the first time - and I don't regret it. It increased my skills (being detail-oriented, excellent memory of topics, being able to ask intelligent questions, etc.) that were more dormat because of the regular classes not challenging me enough. Was it challenging at times? - Yes. But it was worth it.
you think you are all smarter than you are. you can memorize a bunch of jargon but are extremely binary with no ability to think outside the box. shoot me
Yes ISFJ tends to be female more often, like dat shy girl in the classroom who never talks to anybody So as an ISFJ guy, im like a cat in the animal shelter "Adopt me, love me, i wont give you hard times, i promise!!" 😂
It’s so nice to listen to a more in depth video of the isfj. It’s sometimes so difficult for me to follow along to vague explanations of the cognitive functions because I can see myself utilizing them all in various ways. Your numerous, real life examples help me a lot ☺️
hey, fellow intj here. i sent this to my isfj best friend and she really enjoyed it. just wanna let you know that your videos are very nicely organized, refreshing, easy to follow and informative. i really appreciate all the work you put in :). this is the type of channel that you’d expect to have hundreds of thousands of subscribers, so when i checked that you only had 3k, it was like finding a hidden gem. stay cool 😎
I keep looking into this. Someone who changed hospitals. I asked if they had to do personality test since everyone’s obsessed with it. They mentioned Myers-Briggs. This is his personality type. Yeah my neurologist. I have people in my family who are in the medical field and you hear about how stressful it is. This ended up in a big heated argument earlier at the beginning of the year. I asked a question about one of the medication’s and then comes the passive aggressive behavior about maybe ought to not be your neurologist anymore. I said you’re right then what am I doing here got up and left. For the record I am. INFP. Past the front desk, someone asked with appointments. I said don’t know don’t care you’re going to have to ask him about it. Conflict avoidant, and wanting to fix unresolved conflict is difficult. I’m sure losing a patient as well. Two weeks later phone call mentioned wanting to do an earlier appointment. I said why did he change his mind? They said no he actually wants to talk to you, the passive aggressive behavior from both of us certainly did not help and I made that worse. For the record that comment yes did have to do with a bunch of stress dealing with difficult family members of new patients. Still awkward though. Took time to rebuild that.can still have heated arguments with these people even on a professional level even if they’re kindhearted. No one’s perfect glad I found this video. Two personalities who take it personal.
Some other types: oh I said Monday I meant Tuesday, whatever Isfjs: OH NO I’m a terrible friend I gave the wrong info now they’re all gonna hate me and think I’m not trustworthy how could I inconvienience people askdbdbdhdhbfjj how could i ever make this up to you
I done the test multiple times over the years and kept getting ISFJ. I used to be extremely shy but by sorounded myself with very extroverted men for aprox 3 years(I am 22M), People around me now describe me as masculine and I often speak up if i think something is wrong and now I often get mistaken as being extroverted. Inside im still introverted and still shy, but I just broke that barrier by consistant pushing. For the ISFJ's that think their personality type is boring, dont worry, you keep leveling up all of your metrics. People around me think im the Main character lol. (Im trying very hard not to over explain). As A Muslim, theres a constant push for constant improvement, I think thats what helped me a lot when it came to building other traits and in islam You have to hold yourself to account, which made me very self aware of my short comings so I can work on them. Conclusion: I believe personality traits can be changed by constant focus and exposure to other traits other than our own. But you have to be self aware.
A great and simple explanation about ISFJ's. This is so me! I married an INTJ and over time we have both changed, and for the most part, it's been in a positive way. I act like an extrovert at work and when I get home, I'm just exhausted from the day and recharge by being myself at home. I used to be very shy growing up, but I have gone outside my comfort zone to start up conversations to get ahead of possible problems (especially at work) and found it to be rewarding. I have picked up a couple of hobbies to help with trying new things, and I absolutely love it! I've also loved reading books all my life and enjoy reading and watching about history. Another way that I recharge is listening to music depending on my mood. My favorites are classical music and older songs that I listened to growing up. Great video!
I used to be an infp on tests, but since I've become more decisive in my life I have slowly changed a little bit. I did the test again and got ISFJ and the description is basically who I was on the inside while I pretended to be a sweet innocent infp on the outside. I'm rather intrigued with this new result and I can't wait to watch this video fully Edit: I wouldn't say I pretended but rather that I preferred to be a passive and sweet infp in order not to step on any toes which now that I think about it is literally a feature of being ISFJ.
I thought I was INTP for the longest time but recently realize I am a very introverted ISFJ all the way. Very similar types from a functional perspective. I think I grew up trying to act like my INTJ dad lol. Great video :)))
@@TaxingIsThieving Both can be quite similar since they are both Ti-Si convergent and Fe-Ne divergent types, difference is, one is a Ti-dom and one is a Si-dom. Both their use of internal frameworking is very concrete, precise, and detailed. There are many of both that are doctors, scientists, engineers, designers, forensic scientists, microbiologists, etc.
I think my wife is an ISFJ. I thought she was an ESFJ because she loves to talk--and she talks about banal, daily routine things that drive me (INTP) crazy. She will talk to anyone and wants to know all about them--ridiculous details that I couldn't care less about. But in a group, more reserved. Growing up she was the type who would befriend the outcast--or foreign students.
@@intrigue8664 I rethought it and I'm pretty sure she is an ESFJ. It's my cognitive functions in reverse order. It's the inner two functions where we have commonality. She's a reader (former librarian and now proofreader). I also edit on the side. We talk about how no one today can spell or knows grammar. We both have a facility for languages. We both love music. We're both into fringe ideas and seeking the truth. The problem is with the outer functions--her logical thinking is weak and I couldn't care about the personal lives of others, so that's where our eyes glaze over.
@@MrTrashcan1I have several ESFJ friends agree their logical thinking is quite weak but of course they can’t see it. They are super nice until unexpected change comes up and releases their crazy person. They can chat away about anything because it is about connection to people not about the topic itself that is important to them.
I LOVED this video!!! Thank you for not just explaining the elements of an ISFJ but also giving the advice to overcome our shortcomings. You hit me right on the head with introverted thinking/extroverted feeling. I can hold onto emotions for so long (out of fear of confrontation) and then one day just let it all out, and in turn, feel horrifically guilty and return to being kind and not stepping on any toes. Gosh this was therapy and I loved it. Great video.
Oh my god, at the end you said that ISFJ's would probably like Anne of Green Gables and my sister (who is older than me- I'm an INFP by the way) showed me, when we were both little, Akage no Anne (Anne of Green Gables), which is the anime from 78/79 about that story written by Lucy Montgomery. We both watched that anime Anne of Green Gables since I was around 3/4 and she was 9/10. This is so funny 😂 And What I think is even funnier is that Anne from Anne of Green Gables is an INFP and Diana from the same show is an ISFJ and they're both best friends. And my sister is obviously my best friend. Thank you so much for your videos. Started watching them today and really appreciated them.
Just wanna say. You have the DEEPEST understanding of the types and cognitive function stacks that I've seen on TH-cam, and I watch a LOT of TH-cam. I've watched some of your videos multiple times which has helped me gain a deeper understanding of types each watch through. Your explanation of the types / people with different cognitive stacks ring very true to me. Please keep making videos. Thanks!!
Lots of info..thanks. I'm an Isfj, female, and I've watched many war movies. Yes to your pick...and Blackhawk down...I love when they run back after enduring so much hell...always get back up...love it!❤️...[my father was a 20 year soldier for his act 1...and one of my brothers...] Having said that...I hate war, and conflict. BUT...I love truth.
I’m an INTP and I’m conflict averse, also this is extremely helpful information to deal with my conflict anxiety. I also probably have an ISFJ mother from what you described.
This video clarifies a lot for me. I was shaped by my strict Christian family of origin environment. My late mother suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She was neurotic, which made my childhood very traumatic. Consequently, my Fe is very shallow. Conflict and yelling impact my nervous system and cause me deep depression.
i can't stop thinking about how screwed i am by being an isfj. i feel like i don't care about people that much and just want to be liked. i act nice but feel like i'm not a good or a smart person. i really want to change and be actually warm and loving, but don't know how. i spend every waking hour thinking i'm bad, which makes me even more selfish and disconnected from others. it's important to me to live in alignment to my values but something seems to hold me back.
I can definitely relate to what you've said. I've found that just being fully honest with myself about how I feel, no matter how selfish or bad it seems, has actually made space for authentic feelings of warmth to grow. Don't be so hard on yourself :) I think even this sense of not being kind or good enough is a very ISFJ thing. I'm sure if you give yourself the understanding we tend to so easily give others things will become better x
Im ISFJ. Jesus healed my broken heart when I was 6yrs. old...He is very truly THE Healer...I can always talk to Him..and sometimes..He makes Himself known... but it takes MANY steps of faith on our part ...
You truly understand the ISFJ. Described me to a tee. Subbed. Loved Band of Brothers and Hacksaw Ridge. Still haven’t seen all of Saving Private Ryan though.
You mentioned Ti usage for men and women, I can attest to the idea that men may use their Ti a lot. I certainly do, I see it as an amazing gift, that I can really look at things logically, and analyse things in order to be concrete about my beliefs and principles. The downside to it is that I can get stuck thinking, as opposed to doing. Inaction is probably my biggest downfall. But overall, Si gives me a real down to earth vibe, and I love that, both in myself and others that have Si as one of their top 3 functions. It also means I am super aware of my body. I'm very confident in my mind about who I am and what I stand for, although outwardly I definitely can improve my confidence when interacting with others, and above all having the confidence in taking actions to meet goals and get things done. I should make more use of Fe for sure. I think a big challenge for ISFJ's is to get new routines and habits going, and we have to invest a lot of mental energy into that. But once we do, like you say, we get in the groove. Appreciate the video, very accurate.
Can please an ISFJ help me on this? especially an ISFJ male. I am an infp female and I met an isfj male online just two days ago. I'm 27 and he is 28 and he is from the same country as me, same religion, im mentioning that to say that we share same values etc. Im well aware of who I am and who suits me. For some time now I have seen that I am myself regardless of my type I fit well with the ISFJ in daily life. Since then I have been working hard to find a partner with such specifications. The thing is, I couldn't control my feelings when I met this when I discovered that he was an ISFJ. At first I behaved normally and he seemed to share my same love for some things like anime for example. The important thing is that on this particular day(which is today!) I suddenly deliberately told him about my personal problems all at once. He was on a military course this morning but he could talk to me on his phone. What happened was that I told him that I had a sudden panic attack now (which was the case, I was not lying with all what i have said to him) and I could not sleep. Then I told him that this is due to my obsessive-compulsive disorder and social phobia, which I have suffered from since childhood and that the reason for all this was my father’s mental health and his fights with my mother. He seemed very upset and sad and it seemed like I had disturbed his day, and he ofc comforted me. I said these things deliberately because a while ago I read that when you want a man to attach and love you, bring out his hero instinct, which is to be completely exposed to my weakness. But after reading a hour ago (I wish I had been reading about this type seriously before all of this) that ISFJs want to take their time in relationships and don't like excessive affection at the beginning of dating, this made me think that I had ruined the possibility of a relationship that was going to go well. It was pathetically clear that I wanted him to love me and I know that seemed very strange because we had only known each other for two days!! Did i mess everything up? Are there better ways to make him think of me as a potential partner and we both be open with eachother more? Especially since I am very aware of how to meet their needs and I am fully prepared for that.
@@Onevverit This is a difficult one. The thing with an ISFJ is that if you talk about your problems, there will be an empathetic response. However, considering you only just started speaking to him this week, you need to be careful about putting that on to him too strong. You don't want to scare him off! Make sure you are talking about plenty of other things as well. And I would say, as in the original comment, that male ISFJ's can use their Ti a lot, so the empathy may be toned down a bit, although still there of course. Also, whilst we ISFJ's can be sociable with those close to us, we definitely appreciate our alone time - so, in this case, try not to be too needy, take small breaks from messaging! But you have to be authentic to yourself. In response to the bit about exposing your weakness to a man, that can be good as in showing your femininity, but you don't want it to come across as being insecure or having low self esteem. The one thing above all that I'd say about ISFJ's is that we NEED time to process things, whatever it is. This may be an experience, something someone has said to them, or something else. I hope this helps a bit. Don't rush it, but show that you are serious as well, if you are!
@@xElNinoo Thank you very much. Yes, I stopped talking to him after that... but I commented on his Snapchat story... he didn't respond or open it. and he was active to the other application we met in as the same time. I know it doesn't mean anything because we all don't always want to keep talking to the same person. But maybe that's as well he doesn't feel comfortable with all my actions. He even said that Im a witch because I knew his type within half an hour of our first meeting. i seemed so random and weird. Anyway.. I must say that I now, have a desire to not talk to him anymore. I don't think he would see possibilities in me or think thoughtfully. he will think im just the way i acted. I was having future thoughts that i think if he was knowing im a person like that, he will pay attention to me more. Its sad how i could see he want a person like me and that person is near him but he is not aware of it.
Hey! I really apreciate the effort that you putted in this video! ❤ Really good explanation, and What I liked most was the fact that you brought some good tips to deal with issues that are commom to us ISFJs. And still about that issues that you mentioned I feel very lucky that I do not relate to them most part of the time, so I think it can kind of conpensates some ISFJ issues, but I still see that in some others XXFJs that I know. For me, self criticism and not be straightforward really are not part of me, I'm very sincere and direct most of the time (direct but not rude, that's is important haha). And what you said about how the gender of a person can impact that personality (not just that one, I think every type is impacted in different ways) and how males are influenced by Society to be/act more like a T type, just make total sense, I mean, I'm gay so I really did not felt bad about being sensitive in general, but anyway, loved that video! 😊
A few years back I got ISFJ (feeling-thinking % was like 55-45) in 16personalities website. However a few days ago I retake the test in 16personalities and sakirnova website, and I got ISTJ. I kind of relate to ISTJ but I'm not sure whether it's because I'm actually an ISTJ or an ISFJ in an Si-Ti loop 😅
Everyone wants to be INFJ, until they realize being infj is having a personality so fluid you don't feel like you have a personality at all. You are everywhere in one place, and every experience you had is at a distance. Bird's eye view. Even from the self. At least with ISFJ, you know where you are.
I’m an ISFJ and have found out that I’m a fit to be married to an esfp. And that it was for providing stability for the esfp. What about the ISFJ needs?
@@methuselahgechino8128 actually I’m not an INTP anymore. Now I’m an ENTP. Originally I was an INTP but then in college I became an INTJ. After college I became an ISTP. Then for a time period I tested as either an INTP, INTJ, ISTP, or ISTJ about equally every time I took the test. Then I got drunk a few times and realized I was actually an ENTP after it temporarily removed my crippling anxiety and depression based on the way I interacted with people in virtual social situations online with randoms. I wonder if the reason I’m a thinker over a feeler is because of repressed emotions though. I might actually be an XXXX personality meaning I have all the personalities and none of them simultaneously. The more I learn about MBTI the more bs I think it is, even after learning about all the cognitive functions and the shadow and enneagram stuff and all that.
@@BimmerWonif you understand the cognitive functions you'il be able to narrow down to what you I don't understand you can be a sensor at one point and an intuitive in the other Or INTP to ENTP ENTP's Extraverted intuition is so distinct
@@methuselahgechino8128 yeah but I use several of the cognitive function combinations about equally. I’ve been studying the cognitive functions for months and the deeper I dive the more unsure I become. People describe me as unpredictable. Maybe I just have a split personality who knows.
@@BimmerWon well you are right actually, you do have them all because in theory you have all cognitive functions, but four cognitive functions, are your main functions and other four shadow, and they just come naturally to you, so you gotta kinda idk, write a diary and try to figure out which cognitive function you mostly use throughout the day, for me it was also difficult cuz there isn't much difference between Ni and Te, I just knew I had Te and Ni in top two, and lmao I still don't know the order (order in which u use them is important, for example Te-Ni = ENTJ, Ni-Te = INTJ) Hope this helped
Yep I'm an Isfj; before I thought I was Infj, Infp and at one point Intp or Esfj but it was because despite having inferior Ne I am very creative as people of the intuitive type are usually associated with and I thought I was Intp because compared to the stereotypes of the dominant Si I don't interest me VERY much in routine and I'm very analytical but something didn't quite add up to me because I don't rely on the analytical as the main compass of my life, thanks for clarifying
My boyfriend is a isfj and i swear he takes care of me even my parents never did.... Like a mother and he can go to any legth to protect me even from myself 😅😂 i Don't know how to feel about situation.
Excellent video!! I’m excited to watch more of what you have. I have one question about the functions that maybe you can help clarify…so I know we use all functions to some degree. It’s interesting when we refer to the functions in our stack as our top function preferences bc I feel like they are instead the top well balanced functions. For instance I feel like Ne is not my fourth most used function out of all of them. Si, Fe, Ti I can all easily recognize in myself, Ne only somewhat, however I do see some Fi in myself. It seems moreso that the functions in our stack are not the top ones we use, but the top functions we use that make us balanced? Because you don’t have types like Si-Fe-Ti-Fi. What are your thoughts? Also, love the bit you had on male/female ISFJs! My dad is an ISFJ and growing up the way he did I think his Fe was way undervalued so he definitely dove into Ti. He’s very mechanical, and basically a walking encyclopedia of science facts, loves computers, tools, etc. However he is very “maternal” in a way and enjoys taking care of his young grandchild, loves talking about child psychology and constantly goes out of his way to do things for his loved ones. He is quite traditional.
Yep, that’s my cousin. Such great information and so well presented. And then all the subtypes. And then the sage advice. You would be a great counselor. And if you would… recommend which of the 16 personalities test to take. I am wanting to ask this cousin to take the test. 💙
Thank you!! I don't personally have a test preference, but I've heard many people recommend the Keys 2 Cognition test. www.keys2cognition.com/explore.htm I think the most important part is to take it twice: once by yourself and see what you get, and second with a group of people who know you well and see how the answers differ. By combining the two it should get closer to accuracy :)
am I the only person who's had a bad encounter with an ISFJ? Liar, manipulator, gas lighting, trying to force me to accept something I don't want, saying I deserve something and nothing more. fking hell, uter fking hell, I wish I'd never met this isfj, if I could, I'd go back in time and prevent meeting this person. -infj
I have a question. I took the test while in college, and more score was a perfect split between ISFJ and ISTJ. This bothered the councelor who had never seen such an occurrence. In truth, even these many years later, I have nearly as many "split decisions" as it seemed to be indicated in college, and having watched both videos, and relating in almost wqual measure to both, I have a question? What am I?
My gfs an ISFJ. I wouldn't say she's that nice though. She's a. nurse and she comes home and we argue all the time. I'm an INFP. Any advice would be great
So I’m an ISFJ nurse and I have a best friend INFP and another best friend who is an ENFP. I never get into arguments or disagreements with either, but I do think we are all pretty self-aware and fairly healthy. I used to have an unhealthy INFP best friend (she was an enneagram 4, I’m an enneagram 1), our discord had to do with her not thinking I put in enough effort into the friendship, which I didn’t see at all. I always felt like I was walking on eggshells with her, and out of nowhere seemingly she’d insult me and not apologize and expect things to just move forward. I did cut off the friendship when she refused to be in my wedding pictures because she said taking pictures was “boring”, but she apologized and we became friends again. She then cut off the friendship when I got pregnant and she said I wasn’t putting in enough effort and that she had years of pent up rage and frustration with me. I could imagine a few things in your relationship being the issue if they aren’t being warm or kind to you: 1. Your ISFJ might not feel appreciated. It doesn’t take much for us to feel appreciated. Just take note of one small thing and tell them how and why you appreciate that aspect of them. 2. As a nurse we’re constantly giving all day and sometimes we’re tapped out when we get home. I’d just ask your ISFJ if they need alone time, and maybe plan a self care day for them (as we often put self care on the back burner). Once we’re recharged we’re a lot nicer. INFP’s love talking, and we love to listen when we are not overwhelmed with life in general. My INFP current best friend and I can literally talk for 24 hours straight, but there are days/weeks where I just need to be alone in my mind. Obviously it’s not your responsibility to do this, but just some suggestions!
Omg this is me and my husband! I could tell you exactly what the problem is if you gave me an example of your biggest arguments. Here’s an example of mine- My husband is ISFJ and I’m INFP- Our biggest relationship issues come from the S/N part. He’s sensing while in intuitive. That means that he focuses on every little detail. He gets easily stressed and can be incredibly mean once he realizes that I’m not stressed at all. For example- he taught me how to drive (I was a late learner) and he was constantly correcting and criticizing my driving every few seconds, while on the other hand I was just like “Chill we made it home alive lol” and stuff like that causes major arguments. Also- ISFJs are SUPER defensive. They are perfectionists and they take criticism very personally and will become moody or even angry.
I also tried the 16 personality test and typed as ISFP, but then I try the cognitive function test and get ISFJ. My INFJ friend tried to analyzed me more and she said I'm ISFJ. And when I studied it more, I realized I'm truly ISFJ.
2+3=5,10-5=5 , capital of America? = Washington, you says about isfj so results is about isfj, etc , from this ( based on ) mind reached it's destination , why this type destination ? Why mind can't seek ( or to ) another ways ? , Because injected words ( may be ) , this type words ( or knowledge ) is not suitable ( system of teaching ) for new type problem solving , ( hard fabricated system ) ( new type problem means above normal range ) first prise means singular person ( remaining persons are not suitable ) ( I mean everyone's learning , they learn one point ) , why mind's helplessness in different situations ? , ( Yes , injected knowledges or not perfection from knowledges ) , why mind can't seek many points, ways, many destinations ,etc ? This is my focused points , ( focuses of INFJ from east )
As an ISFJ, I absolutely love to learn anything and everything I can so I can apply in the real world. This is my first comment ever posted on a TH-cam video. That is just how much I really enjoyed your video. So incredibly detailed and easy to follow! Wonderfully done!
I really like learning too. Especially if I can apply the knowledge to benefit myself to grow as a person to have a happier and even longer life because I would have less stress (like astrology, numerology, tarot, MBTI, etc.). Also let myself flourish and grow in terms of my education, career path, etc. by simply taking classes at school that allow me to learn more about other careers - see what I want to do and what I don't want to do. And also learn about the alternatives you can do after high school like trade school, college (4 years), college (2 years), military or just simply getting into the workforce. I even took an Honors class for the first time - and I don't regret it. It increased my skills (being detail-oriented, excellent memory of topics, being able to ask intelligent questions, etc.) that were more dormat because of the regular classes not challenging me enough. Was it challenging at times? - Yes. But it was worth it.
you think you are all smarter than you are. you can memorize a bunch of jargon but are extremely binary with no ability to think outside the box. shoot me
My husband was an ISFJ. He died last year. The world lost a great man. He was so kind. Everybody liked him.
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"If ISFJs can win the war in their mind, they are unstoppable."
I'am really having a hard time winning the war in my mind tho...
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ok, then that's you then
@@shaliyaholiver2267 thx
Yes ISFJ tends to be female more often, like dat shy girl in the classroom who never talks to anybody
So as an ISFJ guy, im like a cat in the animal shelter
"Adopt me, love me, i wont give you hard times, i promise!!" 😂
Cute
Awwww, I wanna adopt you ☺👍
Same. I’m an ISFJ male.
@@CKN215 youre d best
I did see it that way.
I’m an ISFJ and I’m a sixth grade teacher. As a teacher, I’m very extrovert until I get home then I’m totally Introverted.
Same. 7th grade teacher
It’s so nice to listen to a more in depth video of the isfj. It’s sometimes so difficult for me to follow along to vague explanations of the cognitive functions because I can see myself utilizing them all in various ways. Your numerous, real life examples help me a lot ☺️
hey, fellow intj here. i sent this to my isfj best friend and she really enjoyed it. just wanna let you know that your videos are very nicely organized, refreshing, easy to follow and informative. i really appreciate all the work you put in :). this is the type of channel that you’d expect to have hundreds of thousands of subscribers, so when i checked that you only had 3k, it was like finding a hidden gem. stay cool 😎
Thank you so much!!
I keep looking into this. Someone who changed hospitals. I asked if they had to do personality test since everyone’s obsessed with it. They mentioned Myers-Briggs. This is his personality type. Yeah my neurologist. I have people in my family who are in the medical field and you hear about how stressful it is. This ended up in a big heated argument earlier at the beginning of the year. I asked a question about one of the medication’s and then comes the passive aggressive behavior about maybe ought to not be your neurologist anymore. I said you’re right then what am I doing here got up and left. For the record I am. INFP. Past the front desk, someone asked with appointments. I said don’t know don’t care you’re going to have to ask him about it. Conflict avoidant, and wanting to fix unresolved conflict is difficult. I’m sure losing a patient as well. Two weeks later phone call mentioned wanting to do an earlier appointment. I said why did he change his mind? They said no he actually wants to talk to you, the passive aggressive behavior from both of us certainly did not help and I made that worse. For the record that comment yes did have to do with a bunch of stress dealing with difficult family members of new patients. Still awkward though. Took time to rebuild that.can still have heated arguments with these people even on a professional level even if they’re kindhearted. No one’s perfect glad I found this video. Two personalities who take it personal.
Some other types: oh I said Monday I meant Tuesday, whatever
Isfjs: OH NO I’m a terrible friend I gave the wrong info now they’re all gonna hate me and think I’m not trustworthy how could I inconvienience people askdbdbdhdhbfjj
how could i ever make this up to you
So accurate!
@@Jana-zp4to😢❤
I done the test multiple times over the years and kept getting ISFJ. I used to be extremely shy but by sorounded myself with very extroverted men for aprox 3 years(I am 22M), People around me now describe me as masculine and I often speak up if i think something is wrong and now I often get mistaken as being extroverted.
Inside im still introverted and still shy, but I just broke that barrier by consistant pushing.
For the ISFJ's that think their personality type is boring, dont worry, you keep leveling up all of your metrics. People around me think im the Main character lol. (Im trying very hard not to over explain). As A Muslim, theres a constant push for constant improvement, I think thats what helped me a lot when it came to building other traits and in islam You have to hold yourself to account, which made me very self aware of my short comings so I can work on them.
Conclusion: I believe personality traits can be changed by constant focus and exposure to other traits other than our own. But you have to be self aware.
A great and simple explanation about ISFJ's. This is so me! I married an INTJ and over time we have both changed, and for the most part, it's been in a positive way. I act like an extrovert at work and when I get home, I'm just exhausted from the day and recharge by being myself at home. I used to be very shy growing up, but I have gone outside my comfort zone to start up conversations to get ahead of possible problems (especially at work) and found it to be rewarding. I have picked up a couple of hobbies to help with trying new things, and I absolutely love it! I've also loved reading books all my life and enjoy reading and watching about history. Another way that I recharge is listening to music depending on my mood. My favorites are classical music and older songs that I listened to growing up. Great video!
I was an INFJ before and now I got ISFJ, what a development. So cool.
SAME Bethel!!! Just retested today after a couple years and got ISFJ and feel way more resonance with this one
Ditto. Being an ISFJ-A right now is much easier to live in than my usual INFJ-T.
Your personality type doesn't change! You were always an ISFJ! 😃
@@supersaturn4742 not true
@@ann8786ur not true
I used to be an infp on tests, but since I've become more decisive in my life I have slowly changed a little bit. I did the test again and got ISFJ and the description is basically who I was on the inside while I pretended to be a sweet innocent infp on the outside. I'm rather intrigued with this new result and I can't wait to watch this video fully
Edit: I wouldn't say I pretended but rather that I preferred to be a passive and sweet infp in order not to step on any toes which now that I think about it is literally a feature of being ISFJ.
You are such a good teacher. You explain so much, so fast and I somehow follow along.
Huh, and it turns out you were a teacher. Lucky students.
Thank you so much!! 😍
I thought I was INTP for the longest time but recently realize I am a very introverted ISFJ all the way. Very similar types from a functional perspective. I think I grew up trying to act like my INTJ dad lol. Great video :)))
Not at all
@@TaxingIsThieving Both can be quite similar since they are both Ti-Si convergent and Fe-Ne divergent types, difference is, one is a Ti-dom and one is a Si-dom. Both their use of internal frameworking is very concrete, precise, and detailed. There are many of both that are doctors, scientists, engineers, designers, forensic scientists, microbiologists, etc.
I think my wife is an ISFJ. I thought she was an ESFJ because she loves to talk--and she talks about banal, daily routine things that drive me (INTP) crazy. She will talk to anyone and wants to know all about them--ridiculous details that I couldn't care less about. But in a group, more reserved. Growing up she was the type who would befriend the outcast--or foreign students.
What can you two talk about?
@@intrigue8664 I rethought it and I'm pretty sure she is an ESFJ. It's my cognitive functions in reverse order. It's the inner two functions where we have commonality. She's a reader (former librarian and now proofreader). I also edit on the side. We talk about how no one today can spell or knows grammar. We both have a facility for languages. We both love music. We're both into fringe ideas and seeking the truth. The problem is with the outer functions--her logical thinking is weak and I couldn't care about the personal lives of others, so that's where our eyes glaze over.
@@MrTrashcan1I have several ESFJ friends agree their logical thinking is quite weak but of course they can’t see it. They are super nice until unexpected change comes up and releases their crazy person. They can chat away about anything because it is about connection to people not about the topic itself that is important to them.
I LOVED this video!!! Thank you for not just explaining the elements of an ISFJ but also giving the advice to overcome our shortcomings. You hit me right on the head with introverted thinking/extroverted feeling. I can hold onto emotions for so long (out of fear of confrontation) and then one day just let it all out, and in turn, feel horrifically guilty and return to being kind and not stepping on any toes. Gosh this was therapy and I loved it. Great video.
Oh my god, at the end you said that ISFJ's would probably like Anne of Green Gables and my sister (who is older than me- I'm an INFP by the way) showed me, when we were both little, Akage no Anne (Anne of Green Gables), which is the anime from 78/79 about that story written by Lucy Montgomery.
We both watched that anime Anne of Green Gables since I was around 3/4 and she was 9/10.
This is so funny 😂
And What I think is even funnier is that Anne from Anne of Green Gables is an INFP and Diana from the same show is an ISFJ and they're both best friends.
And my sister is obviously my best friend.
Thank you so much for your videos. Started watching them today and really appreciated them.
Just wanna say. You have the DEEPEST understanding of the types and cognitive function stacks that I've seen on TH-cam, and I watch a LOT of TH-cam. I've watched some of your videos multiple times which has helped me gain a deeper understanding of types each watch through. Your explanation of the types / people with different cognitive stacks ring very true to me. Please keep making videos. Thanks!!
Lots of info..thanks. I'm an Isfj, female, and I've watched many war movies. Yes
to your pick...and Blackhawk down...I love when they run back after enduring so much hell...always get back up...love it!❤️...[my father was a 20 year soldier
for his act 1...and one of my brothers...]
Having said that...I hate war, and conflict. BUT...I love truth.
I’m an INTP and I’m conflict averse, also this is extremely helpful information to deal with my conflict anxiety. I also probably have an ISFJ mother from what you described.
This video clarifies a lot for me. I was shaped by my strict Christian family of origin environment. My late mother suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). She was neurotic, which made my childhood very traumatic. Consequently, my Fe is very shallow. Conflict and yelling impact my nervous system and cause me deep depression.
i can't stop thinking about how screwed i am by being an isfj. i feel like i don't care about people that much and just want to be liked. i act nice but feel like i'm not a good or a smart person. i really want to change and be actually warm and loving, but don't know how. i spend every waking hour thinking i'm bad, which makes me even more selfish and disconnected from others. it's important to me to live in alignment to my values but something seems to hold me back.
I can definitely relate to what you've said. I've found that just being fully honest with myself about how I feel, no matter how selfish or bad it seems, has actually made space for authentic feelings of warmth to grow. Don't be so hard on yourself :) I think even this sense of not being kind or good enough is a very ISFJ thing. I'm sure if you give yourself the understanding we tend to so easily give others things will become better x
thanks
Im ISFJ. Jesus healed my broken heart when I was 6yrs. old...He is very truly THE Healer...I can always talk to Him..and
sometimes..He makes Himself known...
but it takes MANY steps of faith on our part ...
You truly understand the ISFJ. Described me to a tee. Subbed. Loved Band of Brothers and Hacksaw Ridge. Still haven’t seen all of Saving Private Ryan though.
That was the best explanation of how to find the functions using the letters. Simple and elegant. Well done!
I find it hard to try new things especially with job. I quit my restaurant job and I’ve been having a tough time to find jobs from another field.
i’ve thought i was an INFJ, then an INTJ, then an INTP, then an INFJ again, and now i think ISFJ?
Probably by far the best video I've watched on MBTI types it was really informative and helps understand everything in an easy way.
O my o my. 100% recognizable. Thank you.
I am gonna stay introverted i love the truth and i love to be with myself
I am an ISFJ thank you ❤️
ahhh u explained it soo well and understandable really appreciate that i get to know my strenth and weakness
Best explanation I've heard so far!
11:05 - I FEEL SO CALLED OUT
Ne-thing is possible! Haha. Thanks for the upload!
You mentioned Ti usage for men and women, I can attest to the idea that men may use their Ti a lot. I certainly do, I see it as an amazing gift, that I can really look at things logically, and analyse things in order to be concrete about my beliefs and principles. The downside to it is that I can get stuck thinking, as opposed to doing. Inaction is probably my biggest downfall. But overall, Si gives me a real down to earth vibe, and I love that, both in myself and others that have Si as one of their top 3 functions. It also means I am super aware of my body. I'm very confident in my mind about who I am and what I stand for, although outwardly I definitely can improve my confidence when interacting with others, and above all having the confidence in taking actions to meet goals and get things done. I should make more use of Fe for sure. I think a big challenge for ISFJ's is to get new routines and habits going, and we have to invest a lot of mental energy into that. But once we do, like you say, we get in the groove. Appreciate the video, very accurate.
Can please an ISFJ help me on this? especially an ISFJ male. I am an infp female and I met an isfj male online just two days ago. I'm 27 and he is 28 and he is from the same country as me, same religion, im mentioning that to say that we share same values etc. Im well aware of who I am and who suits me. For some time now I have seen that I am myself regardless of my type I fit well with the ISFJ in daily life. Since then I have been working hard to find a partner with such specifications.
The thing is, I couldn't control my feelings when I met this when I discovered that he was an ISFJ. At first I behaved normally and he seemed to share my same love for some things like anime for example. The important thing is that on this particular day(which is today!) I suddenly deliberately told him about my personal problems all at once. He was on a military course this morning but he could talk to me on his phone. What happened was that I told him that I had a sudden panic attack now (which was the case, I was not lying with all what i have said to him) and I could not sleep. Then I told him that this is due to my obsessive-compulsive disorder and social phobia, which I have suffered from since childhood and that the reason for all this was my father’s mental health and his fights with my mother. He seemed very upset and sad and it seemed like I had disturbed his day, and he ofc comforted me. I said these things deliberately because a while ago I read that when you want a man to attach and love you, bring out his hero instinct, which is to be completely exposed to my weakness. But after reading a hour ago (I wish I had been reading about this type seriously before all of this) that ISFJs want to take their time in relationships and don't like excessive affection at the beginning of dating, this made me think that I had ruined the possibility of a relationship that was going to go well. It was pathetically clear that I wanted him to love me and I know that seemed very strange because we had only known each other for two days!! Did i mess everything up? Are there better ways to make him think of me as a potential partner and we both be open with eachother more? Especially since I am very aware of how to meet their needs and I am fully prepared for that.
@@Onevverit This is a difficult one. The thing with an ISFJ is that if you talk about your problems, there will be an empathetic response. However, considering you only just started speaking to him this week, you need to be careful about putting that on to him too strong. You don't want to scare him off! Make sure you are talking about plenty of other things as well. And I would say, as in the original comment, that male ISFJ's can use their Ti a lot, so the empathy may be toned down a bit, although still there of course. Also, whilst we ISFJ's can be sociable with those close to us, we definitely appreciate our alone time - so, in this case, try not to be too needy, take small breaks from messaging! But you have to be authentic to yourself. In response to the bit about exposing your weakness to a man, that can be good as in showing your femininity, but you don't want it to come across as being insecure or having low self esteem. The one thing above all that I'd say about ISFJ's is that we NEED time to process things, whatever it is. This may be an experience, something someone has said to them, or something else. I hope this helps a bit. Don't rush it, but show that you are serious as well, if you are!
@@xElNinoo Thank you very much. Yes, I stopped talking to him after that... but I commented on his Snapchat story... he didn't respond or open it. and he was active to the other application we met in as the same time. I know it doesn't mean anything because we all don't always want to keep talking to the same person. But maybe that's as well he doesn't feel comfortable with all my actions. He even said that Im a witch because I knew his type within half an hour of our first meeting. i seemed so random and weird. Anyway.. I must say that I now, have a desire to not talk to him anymore. I don't think he would see possibilities in me or think thoughtfully.
he will think im just the way i acted. I was having future thoughts that i think if he was knowing im a person like that, he will pay attention to me more. Its sad how i could see he want a person like me and that person is near him but he is not aware of it.
Hey! I really apreciate the effort that you putted in this video! ❤
Really good explanation, and What I liked most was the fact that you brought some good tips to deal with issues that are commom to us ISFJs.
And still about that issues that you mentioned I feel very lucky that I do not relate to them most part of the time, so I think it can kind of conpensates some ISFJ issues, but I still see that in some others XXFJs that I know. For me, self criticism and not be straightforward really are not part of me, I'm very sincere and direct most of the time (direct but not rude, that's is important haha).
And what you said about how the gender of a person can impact that personality (not just that one, I think every type is impacted in different ways) and how males are influenced by Society to be/act more like a T type, just make total sense, I mean, I'm gay so I really did not felt bad about being sensitive in general, but anyway, loved that video! 😊
A few years back I got ISFJ (feeling-thinking % was like 55-45) in 16personalities website. However a few days ago I retake the test in 16personalities and sakirnova website, and I got ISTJ. I kind of relate to ISTJ but I'm not sure whether it's because I'm actually an ISTJ or an ISFJ in an Si-Ti loop 😅
Everyone wants to be INFJ, until they realize being infj is having a personality so fluid you don't feel like you have a personality at all.
You are everywhere in one place, and every experience you had is at a distance.
Bird's eye view. Even from the self.
At least with ISFJ, you know where you are.
Thank you for this brilliantly crafted video 😊
Entj- totally agree, they’re so nice 👌 I love them
ISTP: I'm here to TRY and understand my ISFJ wife better. MBTI has been a very useful tool to try and understand why she does the things she does!!
Yes, we're really nice but it's also because we really hate conflict and will avoid it.
I’m an ISFJ and have found out that I’m a fit to be married to an esfp. And that it was for providing stability for the esfp. What about the ISFJ needs?
I'm an ISFJ married to an ESFP where can I learn more about this?
My oldest son is ISFJ ❤ he's so kind
This is sooo helpful and gives me so much hope!
Oh no... That shallow Fe is so true! I guess being 9w1, i tend to do it with frequency.
Do you have a video for a toxic ISFJ and how to get them back to their healthy selves? Sincerely, INFJ
Stressful thinking also. - isfj/p, a, 4w5/w3
In an INTP when I take the MBTI test but an ISTJ when I have my writing analyzed. It just makes no sense.
That makes sense if you're an INTP
MBTI rarely makes sense to INTPs
@@methuselahgechino8128 actually I’m not an INTP anymore. Now I’m an ENTP. Originally I was an INTP but then in college I became an INTJ. After college I became an ISTP. Then for a time period I tested as either an INTP, INTJ, ISTP, or ISTJ about equally every time I took the test. Then I got drunk a few times and realized I was actually an ENTP after it temporarily removed my crippling anxiety and depression based on the way I interacted with people in virtual social situations online with randoms. I wonder if the reason I’m a thinker over a feeler is because of repressed emotions though. I might actually be an XXXX personality meaning I have all the personalities and none of them simultaneously. The more I learn about MBTI the more bs I think it is, even after learning about all the cognitive functions and the shadow and enneagram stuff and all that.
@@BimmerWonif you understand the cognitive functions you'il be able to narrow down to what you
I don't understand you can be a sensor at one point and an intuitive in the other
Or INTP to ENTP
ENTP's Extraverted intuition is so distinct
@@methuselahgechino8128 yeah but I use several of the cognitive function combinations about equally. I’ve been studying the cognitive functions for months and the deeper I dive the more unsure I become. People describe me as unpredictable. Maybe I just have a split personality who knows.
@@BimmerWon well you are right actually, you do have them all because in theory you have all cognitive functions, but four cognitive functions, are your main functions and other four shadow, and they just come naturally to you, so you gotta kinda idk, write a diary and try to figure out which cognitive function you mostly use throughout the day, for me it was also difficult cuz there isn't much difference between Ni and Te, I just knew I had Te and Ni in top two, and lmao I still don't know the order (order in which u use them is important, for example Te-Ni = ENTJ, Ni-Te = INTJ)
Hope this helped
can you please turn on english subtitles? U have korean captions😁
Thank you so much, this was really helpful 💗
Yep I'm an Isfj; before I thought I was Infj, Infp and at one point Intp or Esfj but it was because despite having inferior Ne I am very creative as people of the intuitive type are usually associated with and I thought I was Intp because compared to the stereotypes of the dominant Si I don't interest me VERY much in routine and I'm very analytical but something didn't quite add up to me because I don't rely on the analytical as the main compass of my life, thanks for clarifying
My boyfriend is a isfj and i swear he takes care of me even my parents never did.... Like a mother and he can go to any legth to protect me even from myself 😅😂 i Don't know how to feel about situation.
Amazing
You're very lucky
I am isfj
I will b forever single
Eww i hate humans
@@Traumatised311i hate humans as well
Excellent video!! I’m excited to watch more of what you have. I have one question about the functions that maybe you can help clarify…so I know we use all functions to some degree. It’s interesting when we refer to the functions in our stack as our top function preferences bc I feel like they are instead the top well balanced functions. For instance I feel like Ne is not my fourth most used function out of all of them. Si, Fe, Ti I can all easily recognize in myself, Ne only somewhat, however I do see some Fi in myself.
It seems moreso that the functions in our stack are not the top ones we use, but the top functions we use that make us balanced? Because you don’t have types like Si-Fe-Ti-Fi. What are your thoughts?
Also, love the bit you had on male/female ISFJs! My dad is an ISFJ and growing up the way he did I think his Fe was way undervalued so he definitely dove into Ti. He’s very mechanical, and basically a walking encyclopedia of science facts, loves computers, tools, etc. However he is very “maternal” in a way and enjoys taking care of his young grandchild, loves talking about child psychology and constantly goes out of his way to do things for his loved ones. He is quite traditional.
Yep, that’s my cousin. Such great information and so well presented. And then all the subtypes. And then the sage advice. You would be a great counselor. And if you would… recommend which of the 16 personalities test to take. I am wanting to ask this cousin to take the test. 💙
Thank you!! I don't personally have a test preference, but I've heard many people recommend the Keys 2 Cognition test. www.keys2cognition.com/explore.htm I think the most important part is to take it twice: once by yourself and see what you get, and second with a group of people who know you well and see how the answers differ. By combining the two it should get closer to accuracy :)
@@AlexisKingsley Thanks
am I the only person who's had a bad encounter with an ISFJ? Liar, manipulator, gas lighting, trying to force me to accept something I don't want, saying I deserve something and nothing more. fking hell, uter fking hell, I wish I'd never met this isfj, if I could, I'd go back in time and prevent meeting this person. -infj
I have a question. I took the test while in college, and more score was a perfect split between ISFJ and ISTJ. This bothered the councelor who had never seen such an occurrence. In truth, even these many years later, I have nearly as many "split decisions" as it seemed to be indicated in college, and having watched both videos, and relating in almost wqual measure to both, I have a question? What am I?
I feel attacked by your comment about liking Pride and Prejudice :D
Nice...great
lol, maturing is realizing I’m not an INTJ and I’m actually an isfj
Life make more sense when you realize that you are an isfj instead of infj
Thank you.... lady
Hi. Excuse me, Why do you have Korean subtitles? 😢 Can you change them to English? Thanks a lot.
I keep getting tested that I'm an ISFJ but I don't agree with much of this. And I feel like I'm an INTP.
You look almost identical to my ESFP friend
She’s the opposite type lol
As a ISTP they are not good. Too easy to offend and close them off, also their communication sucks. But my social skills are crap so yeah
Can you please do Isfj vs infp
My gfs an ISFJ. I wouldn't say she's that nice though. She's a. nurse and she comes home and we argue all the time. I'm an INFP. Any advice would be great
So I’m an ISFJ nurse and I have a best friend INFP and another best friend who is an ENFP. I never get into arguments or disagreements with either, but I do think we are all pretty self-aware and fairly healthy. I used to have an unhealthy INFP best friend (she was an enneagram 4, I’m an enneagram 1), our discord had to do with her not thinking I put in enough effort into the friendship, which I didn’t see at all. I always felt like I was walking on eggshells with her, and out of nowhere seemingly she’d insult me and not apologize and expect things to just move forward. I did cut off the friendship when she refused to be in my wedding pictures because she said taking pictures was “boring”, but she apologized and we became friends again. She then cut off the friendship when I got pregnant and she said I wasn’t putting in enough effort and that she had years of pent up rage and frustration with me. I could imagine a few things in your relationship being the issue if they aren’t being warm or kind to you:
1. Your ISFJ might not feel appreciated. It doesn’t take much for us to feel appreciated. Just take note of one small thing and tell them how and why you appreciate that aspect of them.
2. As a nurse we’re constantly giving all day and sometimes we’re tapped out when we get home. I’d just ask your ISFJ if they need alone time, and maybe plan a self care day for them (as we often put self care on the back burner). Once we’re recharged we’re a lot nicer. INFP’s love talking, and we love to listen when we are not overwhelmed with life in general. My INFP current best friend and I can literally talk for 24 hours straight, but there are days/weeks where I just need to be alone in my mind.
Obviously it’s not your responsibility to do this, but just some suggestions!
Omg this is me and my husband! I could tell you exactly what the problem is if you gave me an example of your biggest arguments. Here’s an example of mine- My husband is ISFJ and I’m INFP- Our biggest relationship issues come from the S/N part. He’s sensing while in intuitive.
That means that he focuses on every little detail. He gets easily stressed and can be incredibly mean once he realizes that I’m not stressed at all. For example- he taught me how to drive (I was a late learner) and he was constantly correcting and criticizing my driving every few seconds, while on the other hand I was just like “Chill we made it home alive lol” and stuff like that causes major arguments.
Also- ISFJs are SUPER defensive. They are perfectionists and they take criticism very personally and will become moody or even angry.
Shes cheating on you
@@cesarchimalpopoca4401 we aren’t together anymore but thanks.
I am a ptsd isfj
I was ISFP before but now ISFJ, how do you think this happened?
I also tried the 16 personality test and typed as ISFP, but then I try the cognitive function test and get ISFJ.
My INFJ friend tried to analyzed me more and she said I'm ISFJ. And when I studied it more, I realized I'm truly ISFJ.
2+3=5,10-5=5 , capital of America? = Washington, you says about isfj so results is about isfj, etc , from this ( based on ) mind reached it's destination , why this type destination ? Why mind can't seek ( or to ) another ways ? , Because injected words ( may be ) , this type words ( or knowledge ) is not suitable ( system of teaching ) for new type problem solving , ( hard fabricated system ) ( new type problem means above normal range ) first prise means singular person ( remaining persons are not suitable ) ( I mean everyone's learning , they learn one point ) , why mind's helplessness in different situations ? , ( Yes , injected knowledges or not perfection from knowledges ) , why mind can't seek many points, ways, many destinations ,etc ? This is my focused points , ( focuses of INFJ from east )
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Are isfj understanding?
Yes, they can be one of the most understanding types. My Dad is one, and one of the best people I've ever known.
I think these r similar to beta
Wow that's a lot of negative. 😅
Talking too fast, for beginners..
You can change the playback speed by hitting the gear icon in TH-cam - I'm here listening at 2x and can follow just fine.
Wow! Spot on!
You are brilliant!
Thank you so much for all the tips! 🫶
Yֻou are amazingly generous with your knowledge and talent,
And effective & clear with your delivery.
Thank you!