I love your videos, they have really given me perspective. Three years ago my first relationship ended ugly with me nearly ending my life. Instead of taking time to heal, I allowed men to take advantage of me because at least "I was wanted." Dusty after dusty I let them use me because I felt "validated" I got so emotionally drained made worse because I have BPD. I went from Deans list in my freshman year to academic probation by the end of my sopmore year. I then came across your videos and others and decided to go celibate. I realized I never enforced my boundaries and went according to what the man wanted. However, after my celibacy period, I made it clear to the people I was talking to that we were either friends or in a committed relationship.Of course my DMs were dry, but a month later, I met my current partner and decided I would do it differently. We were friends for about two months before we started dating. And. now, we are one year and three months in a healthy committed relationship. I finally know how a man is supposed to treat a woman he loves. Thank you💜
@Piake Music I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through. Yes, I’ve found it’s with BPD, it’s better to find someone that’s mentally stable, enforces boundaries and communicates. Because with bpd you tend to get unhealthy attached and if you don’t have someone that can say “Hey, I want you to be able to be on your own without me” then you end up spiraling when the person leaves. There is someone out there for you, and yes you are strong and loved 💕
Yes, she is moving way too fast! 3 kids in 2 years, 2 baby daddies... it's almost like she is on autopilot not stopping to take a breath for herself to reflect inward. It's sad to see, I hope she wakes up soon
She’s moving way too fast and it’s scary. Summer is hurting from something that she needs to get to the root of. The bar is set low. I thought when she had bubbles she was going to regroup and come back better. Black queens, please do better. You are the prize. You hold the crown!
Witnessing Summer spiral like this is heartbreaking. Her IG posts are seen as defensive posturing in my eyes, but those who don’t listen must feel. I pray for her children because they will have lots of questions when they get older and realize what’s really going on with their mother.
First of all talented or not, you can take people out the hood, but you can’t take the hood out of people. She represents what’s in the hood girls yesterday today and before there were baby mamas to three different baby daddies this is been going on for generations I need this is nothing new it’s just coming to the forefront, I’m 62 years old sweetie. I new girls back in my day that have babies by the same man well young man so it’s that same I’ve seen it in the 80s 90s and even now that’s the hood for you same shit different faces. And like you said when you got low self-esteem, what are you gonna do?
@@evelynconover5268 I agree with you this is the stuff I was telling other women too (the ones your age) and they just seem to think it’s this generation ( my generation) when they themselves have more than 2 baby daddies smh 🤦🏽♀️
@@evelynconover5268 she said herself she’s not even from the hood she’s from the suburbs she jus started chilling around ppl from the hood and now we’re here.
I remember when Summer Walker first blew up with “ Girls need love” , and we didn’t know what she looked like, or barely anything about her. I miss that.
When Summer and London first started dating, she was taunting his other baby mothers as if she was different from them. Once she got pregnant and gave birth to Bubbles she realized that she was no different than the others. If her father was absent during her childhood that could explain why she looks for love in all the wrong places and ignored all the red flags. I believe in karma.
Right I don’t feel bad for women who taunt other women just cause they ended up with the man. Because however how he treats his past women he will do the same to you as well.
, It does not matter. She could have still continued to be the bigger person. However, she stooped to her level, and when you play tit for tat no one wins. None of them had the children's best interest at heart love. She wanted to show Ebony that she was better because she thought her status would keep him.
@Keisha Jackson no she not supposed to do shit . Ebony was wilding tf out and needed to be check honestly summer better than me cause I would've whooped her ass all the shit she was talking . I don't think she thought she better but she was his girlfriend at the time and that's just how that shit go. I dont agree with her choices though but I don't think she was supposed to let his bm dogg her out. Nah
I always thought Summer had low self esteem. Even when she first started making music, I do love her music but a lot of it is build off pain and heartbreak. Seems like she’s never choose, to me with all the drastic changes she has done to her face and body… She kinda comes off as a pick me girl too. Like look at how fine I am now, why wouldn’t I be worthy to be your girl. And than she has that whole Erykah Badu essence thing going on, always trying to seem mysterious and spiritual to men like her coochie some magic book. I think that’s why she’s never single for long. It wouldn’t shock me if she has a child by that young ass man at all, one bit
@@naturallove6615 she does but she gotta realize that erkyah from a different era. You can’t have a erykah badu for the 2020s if erykah badu still kicking it.
Her mentality makes the perfect celebrity to influence others consciously and unconsciously. Delusional, unstable, impulsive, victim hooded. God bless the children because they suffer the most from these terrible decisions.
This is sad. She doesn’t want to be alone. She can’t face what she has done with her life or pass traumas. She is extremely damaged. Unfortunately, the only way she will become enlightened is by her own downfall. She has to be tired of being tired to change. She probably uses men and sex as validation that she doesn’t know how to give herself. Pray for Summer not judge her. Great video! I love your content.
I actually think Meech is the one that needs to be careful here 😂 nevertheless this video is spot on. She has 3 sweet babies under 5 that can occupy her time. I really don’t think she should’ve ever crossed that line with London from a professional standpoint. I would say she needs a mentor but it seems to be Erykah Badu 🥴🥴
Lol Erica has 3 baby daddies as well…but I will say one thing that’s very different w/ Erica is that, she has great relationships w/ all 3 and they have always spoke so highly of her as a partner & a mother to their kids. She didn’t procreate w/ dusties so there’s that. She has a rare situation lol.
@@BreeziDeezi Yea my father tried not to “let” my sister and I make some of the choices we made in men 😂 At some point he learned he could lead us and give us wisdom on the right choices to make, but we’re our own people and have to learn through our own choices. Plus, parents thinking and acting like they have a dog in that fight can put a strain on their relationship with their kid.
@@__gemoftheeast I was just saying that. Erkyah lucked out cause all 3 of her kids fathers take care of them, are active and you never see her or them blasting each other like how you see summer with her baby daddies. Not too mention her kids all have good age gaps, 25,18, & 13. Summer has 3 under 3 by two men who disrespected her
this is common now a days people just go from person to person to person running from themselves and can’t be alone and deal with the root of their problems just using people to distract them from the real issues within themselves smh
She was calling London “spiritually undeveloped” 🤣. That makes her look stupid because if she was involved with him, that also makes her the same. Common sense is not common.
@@arseeoliveira6934 she use to make fun of those baby mom thinking it will never be her……. I know 2 people just like her both have 2 baby daddies before the age of 25 🤦🏽♀️
@@shutit4024 I know someone with 5 children before 25 and is still successful. That person is me. If you have the funds and maturity to raise children I don’t think age really matters unless they’re under 20.
She used to taunt London's baby mamas and thought she was better than them but ended getting the same man. Pick me's like her stay bird brained. Its just sad that a lot of young black girls look up to these types of birds. Never think you are the one to recieve the better treatment.
As a baby mother myself I wouldn’t DARE let another man baby mama me and put myself and the child through that trauma again. Nothing good comes out of it.
Iswtg I just said the same thing. I’ve gotten on birth control (iud). Because, never again! That’s a trauma that no one should have to endure. Especially an innocent child being brought into this already cruel world.
the best decision I made after failing to vet my last partner was abstinence. I won’t be making the same mistakes over & over again. my cookie 🍪 is on the shelf for sure!!
I only ever had sex with my husband. I dated guys and ones who wanted to leave because they couldn't get the cookie didn't offend me one bit. Because due to abstinence my husband and I enjoyed getting to know one another and becoming very close. He popped the question in 9 months and 4 years later were going strong. I highly recommend it. I know every situation is different but the longer road to the bedroom the better
I had to step away from her music. Beautiful voice but I remember being so down and depressed after listening to Still Over It. It was just SO SAD. If I was sad listening to it, I can’t imagine how Summer feels in real life.
When you become baby mama #3 and up it’s kind of hard to feel sympathy for you. Especially if you see he’s already done his previous baby mamas wrong already
I don’t know if Summer knows HOW to put her cookie on the shelf let alone shutting it down to get herself together and properly heal from her past trauma.
I can’t imagine being a single mom of 3 in my 20’s. And yes she had money but money will not save her babies from the absence and trauma of only having one parent. Wish her the best though
While this is about Summer, I am so happy this video was made because I’ve been feeling like I’ve been living sooo wrong by taking a break from the dating scene and sex. I feel like a lame , I literally have nothing to talk about with women bc I don’t want to talk about bd bm drama (and I have the same standpoint as you), my phone is dry af and I haven’t been on a date in sooo long bc I can already tell I’m still attracting the same kind of men but this helps me to understand that I’m making the best decision.
Trust me, you are on the best path for you right now. I’m 43 and took a necessary break from dating and intimacy because my self worth is more important than a man’s approval at this point. 😊
I was single and celibate for 7 years. It was lonely and boring but my mom encouraged me a lot and I was fortunate enough to have support, but nothing like romantic support so I feel you, however, I can tell you that there is nothing like being able to look at yourself and your clean body and mind and be proud of yourself. You gave me something new to pray about, I'll pray that you can keep going.
You’re making a wise decision! The best thing I ever did after my 2nd failed relationship was analyze why they failed. I took a good look at myself & learned to build a relationship w/ me, love me, & built my self esteem. Now I know my worth&who I am&what I deserve in life. Yes it can get lonely at times, I have been single by choice for almost a decade. I’m 29 but I’m reserving my heart for the one who is worthy. Just focus on loving yourself. Your king will find you love, stay optimistic 🙏🏽
I REALLY just don't get it. I will never carry before I marry, 3 kids at 27 and never being married is actually insanity. Tattooing the fool on yourself! This is a different type of baby mama situation bc she still wylin, people worried about Kanye being mentally ill, but what do you call this?
She don't slow down at all and this be some women downfall cause they going thru the same process and not understand why things is not different Same type of dudes , same type of actions but looking for different is insanity
Exactly she doesn’t summer is a pretty girl but she definitely has no chill in the men department… she gotta chill and understand that she don’t gotta give up her “cookie” to every man she comes in contact with!
I give ppl the side eye who just had a baby & already seeking another relationship. As a person with no kids or maybe im just different. If i just had a newborn & me and the child’s father aren’t together anymore. I would focus on my newborn & myself. Idk but I understand stuff happens i guess
I wonder about this too. It seems selfish to just have a baby & knowingly try and put that burden on another man. Like how can you consciously be okay doing that?
At 6:22 you put Erykah Badu as a mentor that Summer Walker should be contacting for "sound advice". Erykah Badu is a 3x baby mama with 3 different baby daddies, the only thing she can teach Summer Walker is to make sure all your baby daddies are in the music industry like her's are.😂😂😂
@@zarario4444 You miss the whole point! The video was implying Erykah Badu (a 3x baby mama) has the wisdom to counsel Summer Walker against making babies, which is a joke. Erykah Badu is the same woman who at age 52 decided to post a "Thirst Trap" with her 18yo daughter Puma. Ms Badu guiding Ms Walker would be like the blind leading the blind.😂😂😂
I feel that the whole rushing into a relationship thing is more psychologically based on the mental habit of being anxious to have that special someone due to the fact that some people cannot handle being alone. I have been single for a long time now but I refuse to rush into something that could fill me with regrets down the line. I don't think that taking it slow in the beginning is something that people should look at as a difficult task.
Just 3 short months later, Summer & Meech broke up allegedly from him cheating. Summer still refuses to take accountability for her decision making. But, I hope she learns from this situation. I also hope she learns to take her Ls in private 💕
At 24. I have reached an awakening. I was raped and molested at a young child and in my first relationship I was raped. I have been in one sided relationships. I’m very self aware. I over loved them and spoiled them, and I got betrayed and cheated on. I’m in a phase of actuality and healing. Stepping away from the scene to work on me. Summer needs to do that, or she will continue to be in toxic situations. Plus she can’t continue to have all these people around her children. The wrong person can harm them. From the botched bbl and to the face surgeries her self esteem is low. And for her to date a 23yr old…. Like he’s not ready to settle down and be a father. She needs to really be alone but only her can grasp that.
At this point, I don’t feel sorry for Summer. Who the hell gets a name tattoo of a man that didn’t even care to marry her?? She is always looking for attention on social media, and then get mad when people are in her business 🙄, like girl, pick a struggle. She should have definitely slowed down and put her cookie on the shelf, these men don’t care about what she went through in the past. They will continue to dog her out if she allows it. I only feel sorry for the children. That’s it that’s all. At summer’s big age, she should have been sought counseling to heal from her last relationship.
Summer’s face before the surgery was beautiful. Even though she had a tomboy style, she still had a feminine soft look. Now she looks a bit stiff and less feminine.
Idk, if Summer was my family member I would tell her to focus on her lousy record deal, therapy for any traumas she may have, and do her best to provide a safe and positive home for her children. But I get the feeling Summer does things her way and gets quite when things blow up in her face, and pops up like "what's good?" Or as my late, Granny would say, "they're just hot in the behind and won't focus ,let them go"
I really dislike when women who are in poor situations try to project or divert the attention elsewhere. I’ve heard some women say I’d rather be cheated on than beat or I’d rather be beat on than cheated on… like how about I’d prefer neither? How about we set boundaries. Respect our boundaries and space/energy. Pray to God and include God in your healing. Get the help that you need and then allow someone who is healed in your space as well.
At 27 I’ve learned to never think you will the exception in a man’s life. If he’s got a track record of being an a**hole/cheater/liar it will not stop just bc your cookie is better or he loves you more than his exes. Believe what he shows you the 1st time!
The victim & scarcity mindset are both inextricably tied to each other . This type of mindset is extremely dangerous to have as a woman because it creates a cycle of toxicity and dysfunction. Summer has failed to take any form of accountability & this is why she’s still in this same cycle . The only way she can break it is by taking accountability & working on herself, she needs to vet men thoroughly and properly in order to not make the same mistake
Summer the type that can see all the red flags and everybody pointing at the red flags too and still not care. She gonna do what she wanna do anyway. If she like it I love it.
My mom use to date London uncle & when summer was with London she use to come with London to Brownsville my mom said Summer look off & I believe something is not clicking up there
She use to be a stripper before fame. I remember when she was a underground R&B and she started to get a lil buzz she did an interview. And she talked about leaving her mom house at 16. And then she is over sexual and tatted up before the fame. The girl been in a dark and broken place since childhood. The music industry exploit depressed people like her. People are trying to paint her as the Ciara - Beyonce type. Sweet, cute, girl next door that grew up middle class, cheerleader, married parents, goal oriented kind of girl. Because she caters to that crowd but she didnt have that privilege lifestyle. She more in the Keisha Cole or KMichelle ratchet lane... respectfully.
I knew summer wasn’t wrapped too tight when she ran and chopped her nose off. She was so beautiful and once she got in the mainstream spotlight she started to get obsessed with plastic surgery..her energy screams “I don’t feel good enough”. She’s moving so fast and to have 3 kids so early in her career by two different men and still dating and the twins not even 1 yet. 😅 I feel like she uses her spiritual “practices” to access confidence/ beauty and not so much healing and peace of mind. Summer reminds me of the girl we all knew growing up that was pretty and had something going for herself but stayed under a new nigga and eventually had plenty kids by different men.
@@aaliyahhenderson1888 I’m very spiritual and I can tell you from that picture of the altar she uploaded on her IG with those two “things” on it..gave major DARK ass energy. 🤐
It was all fun and games back when she was calling other women "females" and saying women shouldn't be trying to get child support like she did with Eliza Rain. I'd focus on being a great mom, making great music, getting a handle on the anxiety, and making money for a few years if I was in her shoes.
I remember when ‘Girls need love’ came out it was my senior year of HS. I really liked her and felt like she could be a top R&B girl. When summer started dating London I was dealing with a fool as well lol. Literally are kids are born in the same year! Once is a mistake but a second time you have a habit. My point is Summer Walker has enough stardom and money to take a break for few years focus on herself and her child. Those are two simple things, it’s better to realize that you have some mental health issues when you keep having children with men who will just get you pregnant and embarrass you in the process. My advice to Summer allow your team to monitor your social media and delete it off your phone. She has three kids now she has to slow down. One child is enough I can’t imagine THREE!! I noticed a lot of females my age and late 20’s like to party like they don’t have a baby who needs structure?? Who needs you to be on point. Summer seems spiritual but never taps into her true self. It’s really sad to watch when she is out and about who is taking care of her kids??? Motherhood comes with sacrifices and responsibilities. Ladies there is nothing better with closing your legs and protecting your energy in the process ❤
I got pregnant end of 2020 gave birth June 2021. I had a horrible experience from beginning to end of my pregnancy, thankfully for my baby girl and I think she will be the only child. Since conceiving her I haven’t slept with anyone and I plan on keeping it like that for a while, I don’t even date, my friends keep telling to get out there but I am GOOD my last relationship taught me a lesson I will NEVER EVER forget
That’s scary. I couldn’t image carrying someone child and they just abandoned us. That’s my worse fear. I hope everything gets better for you. Do you regret not waiting to have children?
You and your daughter deserve to be loved and protected by a good man and you can and will get that at the right time. Take your time to heal and don't allow one experience to make you believe that is it for you.
Been single 2 years but dating alittle here and there the past few months. Taking the time to heal was so beneficial you go in knowing what you want your boundaries and it’s easier to weed out the Dusty’s by taking your time vetting
I remember being in a toxic relationship that man used to gaslight me mistreat me and use me I got into therapy and I worked on healing😢 now I talk to a guy who makes time even if he’s busy
Sorry to say but I don’t think Lil Meech is in this to be a stepdad to her 3 kids. He himself is only 23 with no kids of his own; not to mention his new found fame. Summer may want to consider focusing on being a mom to her children rather than chasing all these men who obviously are using her as a place holder for the women they will commit to later.
How do you have fresh babies and you’re out here with another man already ? SMH sad ! This is sick and meech need to be careful he can definitely do better in my opinion
Wow this was so powerful. I definitely believe Summer Walker is moving too fast she did that with London. Then again a second time, now a third time. She needs to learn herself , who she is as a woman, and understand her value. Most women these days don’t know their value, and when you try to tell them this they get angry. They usually have to learn the hard way. I always tell people….. if EXPERIENCE doesn’t teach you a lesson , then nothing will. Obviously she’s not learning anything. I’m so happy you spoke in favor of marriage , because it is better to be married starting a family. I hope Summer learns real fast and shelve her cookie. Ladies focus on yourself , before you take up with a man , put that energy into yourself.🙏🏽✊🏽😔
I'm new here but this was a well-curated video. This is my cousin's situation and it's hard because her babies are so precious, her son knows his dad but her twin girls don't, and even at their young age they are looking for a father. It's not easy work holding out but the consequences of allowing the wrong man in are too great for a temporary fix.
Eyrka Badu is her mentor and has kids by multiple different men. She isn’t a real spiritual mentor And whatever she’s telling Summer to practice healthy.
Then got the nerve to be practicing traditional African religions! I know her ancestors and god parents are screeching Lmao. Wasn’t she just dressed in her whites doing her rituals like when do we begin to integrate our lessons. Chileeee
No shade to SW, but she ALWAYS came off as weak and broken. She's had some bops, the girl is crazy talented, but even her music is weak minded so I never really got into her because I genuinely cant relate to most of the music. Thats not my reality. Shes lost. She takes on a new persona every season it seems. I really do wish her healing and peace so she can be there for her kids.
Summer need to sat down somewhere. You've had three kids, two failed situationships, and now you hoppin to the next. She purposely puts herself in questionable situations just to cry about it later...cut the theatrics and take some responsibility
Go look up black athletes and actors babymommas, majority of them are white/Hispanic etc so don’t single out black women solely, all women need to hear this in general
"While we have no control over the world we are born into, we ABSOLUTELY HAVE CONTROL OVER THE WORLD THAT OUR CHILDREN ARE BORN INTO." The best thing I could have ever chosen for myself was solitude. Choices, mistakes, lessons, wins, and losses have been looked over and I could move more strategically in life. I believe many things could absolutely be fate or free will, but I have to live with decisions that I made (right or wrong) and AGAIN, having a child by choice ain't something I could come back from 🤷🏽♀️ I MUST BE INTENTIONAL! If I'm an emotional wreck, and a scornful woman, baby it's time for inner work. My mother always told me, sure you can point the finger, but observe what YOU'VE ACCEPTED AND EXPECTED. See, often time we make silent expectations (many could be vocalized, but I believe vocalizing expectations that are unmet usually results in a cut-off) which turns into resentment of the other party involved. I have been in what I thought was love once, at a very young age might I add; and those lessons my elders taught me didn't kick in until I experienced things with someone. How many times does it take to grasp an understanding? Closing your legs and mouth, and opening up your mind and eyes is a priceless exchange that saves you from a countless amount of aches. You can't put in man-eater hours, and expect to receive family unit benefits. (I believe that it is a publicity stunt, btw 😂)
Something is seriously mentally wrong with Summer. Her lack of self love, self respect & self worth is pathetic. Her music is way too emotional for me. She makes music for the broken pick me chicks who will do anything for a man. She’s the type of chick who only feels whole when she’s with a man- it’s sad! She needs to chill out and work on herself & truly heal. Until then, she will always be broken chasing after broken men who will only break her more
That’s so sad I hope she finds her self worth and esteem I know that’s not an overnight thing it’s gonna take time but it’s sad seeing a talented woman go out like that !
I’m glad everyone in the comments has common sense and understands that this is a problem! I cannot stand when people on Twitter or IG hype up relationships like this. It’s nothing cute about having 2 BD’s and 3 kids under 3 in 2 years 🥴 Summer needs to slow tf down seriously. If she gets pregnant by Lil Meech I fear all hope for her is lost tbh. She’ll end up with hella kids with none of the BD’s helping her. Then she’ll try to paint the picture for social media that she’s happy and this is what she wanted but it’s not 🤦🏽♀️
Sadly summer reminds me of close friend of mines who going through the same thing as we speak getting pregnant for someone who's got other kids and not active in any of his kids life is something I can't rock with but what I've learned of the years is how to be accountable for myself and my body I almost ended up situation where could've tied to a nga who was deadbeat too but gratefully I wasn't pregnant... This reminds me of why I have to stay focus on reaching my goals in my future career as medical assistant which I'm going to be traveling I'm 34 years old with no kids and blessed to live my life to fullest so I am even though I want a child a way's down the line but not now lol
I think Summer have unhealed postpartum depression…. Although she makes a lot of questionable choices, I think the Summer case is deeper than that, causeeee 😮💨
Ian gon lie this whole obsession thing about sex and these dudes preying on our wombs is really scary and at a ALL TIME HIGH. Its all to tame, exploit, to use the woman as trophy/accomplishment and to hinder. This stuff run deep fr, wayyyy more than what the eyes can see. Its a attack on our wombs. Women when these ninjas gotta do all of this we should know, WE ARE THE CATCH💙💯. Peep how these ninjas gotta show off who they having sex with cause whole time they really haven't achieved REAL ACCOMPLISHMENTS which is within 💯💯 (building character and wealth within, changing and helping community, thriving out of true masculinity etc) THAT MATERIAL ISH AND VANITY IS NOTHING!. Im so ovaaaa this ish like fr😩😩. IDC IMA CONTINUE ON W MY CELIBATE JOURNEY I JUST CANT NOMO DAWG 😩😩
Idk because I’m an Aries and definitely not hyper sexual or rebellious 😂 this has more to do with upbringing and self esteem. Many women do what summer is doing.
She ain't doing nothing that any other female wouldn't do. She just in the industry. It's plenty women out here thats busting it wide open. She just in the public eye!!
Women want children while they’re still ovulating and waiting for men to grow up. The majority of b-lack males pursuing b-lack females don’t want to be husbands and fathers. If they did, the majority of black children wouldn’t be out of wedlock and/or without a father. B-lack males are groomed by older males and peers all their lives to have sex with as many females as possible, with no mention of the consequences of children, child support, disease, mental health of the females/mothers of their children etc.
WILDHEART can you please do a video for the women who are doing the work, abstaining, and staying to themselves but are inevitably feeling bored and have fear of missing out? Any words of encouragement / recommendations on how to spend our time as we’re in solitude?
Her mentor has multiple kids by multiple men with no accountability as well so idk if that advise was useful to her 🤦🏽♀️ I used to really look up to her.
Oh, how I miss the 2017/2018 version of Summer where she was just a pretty, socially anxious woman who could sing 🥲 Once again, Waves, you hit the nail on the head. I think Summer has a lot of issues that need to be resolved before she even *looks* at another man again. She should take a break from dating, practice celibacy, and focus on being a good mom to her three children. Lil Meech is still fairly young and doesn't know what he's getting himself into. He's gonna mess around and become Summer's third baby daddy 🥴
@@sunshinegreen3488 I'm not hating on her. I actually enjoy her music. I don't think anyone here is hating on her. Constructive criticism isn't a crime.
Not everyone has to go into solitude, sometimes your healing comes from being I relationships that expose where your wounds are. Summer has to get tired of her own shit, and her process requires that she needs to be in relationships. Relationships are just mirrors. If your ego is present, you have to see it and be disgusted by your lack of awareness. She is still in victim mode so she needs to exhaust herself in relationships until she recognizes that she is also a problem. We have to stop projecting that there is only one way to evolve. This is Summers process, it’s her karma. Many humans on the planet have to go through identical situations due to their karmic debt. I’m 100% certain that she will eventually rise like a phoenix once she has learned certain lessons.
I will say this and I hope some people take heed to it. It's okay to be with yourself by yourself. It's absolutely nothing wrong wanting to have emotional connection with another person, but by all means please take appropriate actions to minimize unfortunate situations that are hard to get out of.
I love your videos, they have really given me perspective. Three years ago my first relationship ended ugly with me nearly ending my life. Instead of taking time to heal, I allowed men to take advantage of me because at least "I was wanted." Dusty after dusty I let them use me because I felt "validated" I got so emotionally drained made worse because I have BPD. I went from Deans list in my freshman year to academic probation by the end of my sopmore year. I then came across your videos and others and decided to go celibate. I realized I never enforced my boundaries and went according to what the man wanted. However, after my celibacy period, I made it clear to the people I was talking to that we were either friends or in a committed relationship.Of course my DMs were dry, but a month later, I met my current partner and decided I would do it differently. We were friends for about two months before we started dating. And. now, we are one year and three months in a healthy committed relationship. I finally know how a man is supposed to treat a woman he loves. Thank you💜
I have a similar story. Thanks for sharing. ❤
I'm so happy for you.🥳 This is the kind of news i love to hear. I wish all black women growth, love and peace!🥳
@@hyola thank you 💜
Now getting married may be another requirement you want to enforce. If you seek marriage that is
@Piake Music I’m so sorry for everything you’ve been through. Yes, I’ve found it’s with BPD, it’s better to find someone that’s mentally stable, enforces boundaries and communicates. Because with bpd you tend to get unhealthy attached and if you don’t have someone that can say “Hey, I want you to be able to be on your own without me” then you end up spiraling when the person leaves. There is someone out there for you, and yes you are strong and loved 💕
Summer seems emotionally impulsive. I guess on a positive note she’ll never be short on song writing material.
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True. Future Album bout to be lit.
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The laughing emojis were unexpected because I was being deadass serious. 🥹
Yes, she is moving way too fast! 3 kids in 2 years, 2 baby daddies... it's almost like she is on autopilot not stopping to take a breath for herself to reflect inward. It's sad to see, I hope she wakes up soon
@lay She recently had twins.
😩 three? I didn’t even know she got pregnant a second time.
And now she got a new man 😂 it’s like she’s running a marathon out here
THAT'S ALL THAT YOU SEE NOWADAYS THESE WOMEN IN AND OUT OF RELATIONSHIPS.... CONSTANTLY PREGNANT JUST RIDICULOUS
Sexual responsiblity. That's not a concept we hear too often.
this would be a great video on its own
@@Emanixoxo I completely agree! @wildheart waves can we get a video on this “sexual accountability/responsibility” topic alone?! PLEASEEEE 💗
Word, she need laser tattoo removal, a chastity belt, and a therapist.
What do her tattoos have to do w anything??
@@beebeevids6851 she’s probably referring to the tattoo of Larry’s name on her face
Chastity belt threw me to the damn floor!! 😂🤣😂
@@KeryOnly 😂
She needs God!
She’s moving way too fast and it’s scary. Summer is hurting from something that she needs to get to the root of. The bar is set low. I thought when she had bubbles she was going to regroup and come back better. Black queens, please do better. You are the prize. You hold the crown!
🎯 all of this, yes!
She got progressively worse
Well Summer is a little off. She is who she is though
Witnessing Summer spiral like this is heartbreaking. Her IG posts are seen as defensive posturing in my eyes, but those who don’t listen must feel. I pray for her children because they will have lots of questions when they get older and realize what’s really going on with their mother.
First of all talented or not, you can take people out the hood, but you can’t take the hood out of people. She represents what’s in the hood girls yesterday today and before there were baby mamas to three different baby daddies this is been going on for generations I need this is nothing new it’s just coming to the forefront, I’m 62 years old sweetie. I new girls back in my day that have babies by the same man well young man so it’s that same I’ve seen it in the 80s 90s and even now that’s the hood for you same shit different faces. And like you said when you got low self-esteem, what are you gonna do?
@@evelynconover5268 I agree with you this is the stuff I was telling other women too (the ones your age) and they just seem to think it’s this generation ( my generation) when they themselves have more than 2 baby daddies smh 🤦🏽♀️
@@evelynconover5268 she said herself she’s not even from the hood she’s from the suburbs she jus started chilling around ppl from the hood and now we’re here.
@@evelynconover5268you’re 62 years old with this mindset??? 😂😂 naww sweetie go sit down
I remember when Summer Walker first blew up with “
Girls need love” , and we didn’t know what she looked like, or barely anything about her. I miss that.
Yes not knowing an artist or celeb is often better
How old is the song? Ngl I just started hearing it on the radio like a year or 2 ago but heard of Summer like 3-4 years ago
Looking back on it that song kinda let us know she has no sexual control and when she horn she will fck on ain’t sht nggas
Real
I miss when artists were unknown. It sounds better for their well being too. I also remember when we didn’t know much about H.E.R
When Summer and London first started dating, she was taunting his other baby mothers as if she was different from them. Once she got pregnant and gave birth to Bubbles she realized that she was no different than the others. If her father was absent during her childhood that could explain why she looks for love in all the wrong places and ignored all the red flags. I believe in karma.
Right I don’t feel bad for women who taunt other women just cause they ended up with the man. Because however how he treats his past women he will do the same to you as well.
@@blackingingerpurrin I agree!
She never shaded them first, she tried to bring all his kids and bms together. His bm ebony started the drams so let's not
, It does not matter. She could have still continued to be the bigger person. However, she stooped to her level, and when you play tit for tat no one wins. None of them had the children's best interest at heart love. She wanted to show Ebony that she was better because she thought her status would keep him.
@Keisha Jackson no she not supposed to do shit . Ebony was wilding tf out and needed to be check honestly summer better than me cause I would've whooped her ass all the shit she was talking . I don't think she thought she better but she was his girlfriend at the time and that's just how that shit go. I dont agree with her choices though but I don't think she was supposed to let his bm dogg her out. Nah
I always thought Summer had low self esteem. Even when she first started making music, I do love her music but a lot of it is build off pain and heartbreak. Seems like she’s never choose, to me with all the drastic changes she has done to her face and body… She kinda comes off as a pick me girl too. Like look at how fine I am now, why wouldn’t I be worthy to be your girl. And than she has that whole Erykah Badu essence thing going on, always trying to seem mysterious and spiritual to men like her coochie some magic book. I think that’s why she’s never single for long. It wouldn’t shock me if she has a child by that young ass man at all, one bit
@Bold&Black MuvA I completely agree with you!!! But I feel like Summer wants that same power and respect that Ms Badu has
@@naturallove6615 she does but she gotta realize that erkyah from a different era. You can’t have a erykah badu for the 2020s if erykah badu still kicking it.
Her mentality makes the perfect celebrity to influence others consciously and unconsciously. Delusional, unstable, impulsive, victim hooded. God bless the children because they suffer the most from these terrible decisions.
This is sad. She doesn’t want to be alone. She can’t face what she has done with her life or pass traumas. She is extremely damaged. Unfortunately, the only way she will become enlightened is by her own downfall. She has to be tired of being tired to change. She probably uses men and sex as validation that she doesn’t know how to give herself. Pray for Summer not judge her. Great video! I love your content.
THAT'S IT THAT'S THE PROBLEM.... THESE WOMEN KNOW HOW TO BE ALONE BUT THEY REFUSE TO BE ALONE
I actually think Meech is the one that needs to be careful here 😂 nevertheless this video is spot on. She has 3 sweet babies under 5 that can occupy her time. I really don’t think she should’ve ever crossed that line with London from a professional standpoint. I would say she needs a mentor but it seems to be Erykah Badu 🥴🥴
I have no kids but I’d never let my future son date a baby mama. He will not a be a baby daddy or step daddy
Lol Erica has 3 baby daddies as well…but I will say one thing that’s very different w/ Erica is that, she has great relationships w/ all 3 and they have always spoke so highly of her as a partner & a mother to their kids. She didn’t procreate w/ dusties so there’s that. She has a rare situation lol.
@@BreeziDeezi Yea my father tried not to “let” my sister and I make some of the choices we made in men 😂 At some point he learned he could lead us and give us wisdom on the right choices to make, but we’re our own people and have to learn through our own choices. Plus, parents thinking and acting like they have a dog in that fight can put a strain on their relationship with their kid.
@@__gemoftheeast I was just saying that. Erkyah lucked out cause all 3 of her kids fathers take care of them, are active and you never see her or them blasting each other like how you see summer with her baby daddies. Not too mention her kids all have good age gaps, 25,18, & 13. Summer has 3 under 3 by two men who disrespected her
If that’s her mentor she gone keep running through men 🤦🏽♀️ back to back
this is common now a days people just go from person to person to person running from themselves and can’t be alone and deal with the root of their problems just using people to distract them from the real issues within themselves smh
I love how she portrays her self as this spiritual woke woman but yet fucks up at her personal life (with the same mistakes) every chance she gets
to not mention that prior to commit her first mistake she had blatant red flags before her eyes
She was calling London “spiritually undeveloped” 🤣. That makes her look stupid because if she was involved with him, that also makes her the same. Common sense is not common.
@@arseeoliveira6934 she use to make fun of those baby mom thinking it will never be her……. I know 2 people just like her both have 2 baby daddies before the age of 25 🤦🏽♀️
@@elainamcclendon5593 yup soul ties your spirit is connected to your partner
@@shutit4024 I know someone with 5 children before 25 and is still successful. That person is me. If you have the funds and maturity to raise children I don’t think age really matters unless they’re under 20.
She used to taunt London's baby mamas and thought she was better than them but ended getting the same man. Pick me's like her stay bird brained. Its just sad that a lot of young black girls look up to these types of birds. Never think you are the one to recieve the better treatment.
As a baby mother myself I wouldn’t DARE let another man baby mama me and put myself and the child through that trauma again. Nothing good comes out of it.
Iswtg I just said the same thing. I’ve gotten on birth control (iud). Because, never again! That’s a trauma that no one should have to endure. Especially an innocent child being brought into this already cruel world.
the best decision I made after failing to vet my last partner was abstinence. I won’t be making the same mistakes over & over again. my cookie 🍪 is on the shelf for sure!!
Exactly, I made the same mistake and shelfed mine for 4 years after that. No more pregnancies for me unless the guy is solid!
I only ever had sex with my husband. I dated guys and ones who wanted to leave because they couldn't get the cookie didn't offend me one bit. Because due to abstinence my husband and I enjoyed getting to know one another and becoming very close. He popped the question in 9 months and 4 years later were going strong. I highly recommend it. I know every situation is different but the longer road to the bedroom the better
I had to step away from her music. Beautiful voice but I remember being so down and depressed after listening to Still Over It. It was just SO SAD. If I was sad listening to it, I can’t imagine how Summer feels in real life.
When you become baby mama #3 and up it’s kind of hard to feel sympathy for you. Especially if you see he’s already done his previous baby mamas wrong already
Exactly
I don’t know if Summer knows HOW to put her cookie on the shelf let alone shutting it down to get herself together and properly heal from her past trauma.
I can’t imagine being a single mom of 3 in my 20’s. And yes she had money but money will not save her babies from the absence and trauma of only having one parent. Wish her the best though
While this is about Summer, I am so happy this video was made because I’ve been feeling like I’ve been living sooo wrong by taking a break from the dating scene and sex. I feel like a lame , I literally have nothing to talk about with women bc I don’t want to talk about bd bm drama (and I have the same standpoint as you), my phone is dry af and I haven’t been on a date in sooo long bc I can already tell I’m still attracting the same kind of men but this helps me to understand that I’m making the best decision.
Trust me, you are on the best path for you right now. I’m 43 and took a necessary break from dating and intimacy because my self worth is more important than a man’s approval at this point. 😊
I was single and celibate for 7 years. It was lonely and boring but my mom encouraged me a lot and I was fortunate enough to have support, but nothing like romantic support so I feel you, however, I can tell you that there is nothing like being able to look at yourself and your clean body and mind and be proud of yourself. You gave me something new to pray about, I'll pray that you can keep going.
You’re making a wise decision! The best thing I ever did after my 2nd failed relationship was analyze why they failed. I took a good look at myself & learned to build a relationship w/ me, love me, & built my self esteem. Now I know my worth&who I am&what I deserve in life. Yes it can get lonely at times, I have been single by choice for almost a decade. I’m 29 but I’m reserving my heart for the one who is worthy. Just focus on loving yourself. Your king will find you love, stay optimistic 🙏🏽
Keep going girl, you’re on the right path x
You not alone girl! 💗 I feel the same but it’s for the BEST !!!
I REALLY just don't get it. I will never carry before I marry, 3 kids at 27 and never being married is actually insanity. Tattooing the fool on yourself! This is a different type of baby mama situation bc she still wylin, people worried about Kanye being mentally ill, but what do you call this?
It’s really sad how normalized being a BM is, not sure if I want kids at all it is a huge commitment.
She don't slow down at all and this be some women downfall cause they going thru the same process and not understand why things is not different
Same type of dudes , same type of actions but looking for different is insanity
Exactly she doesn’t summer is a pretty girl but she definitely has no chill in the men department… she gotta chill and understand that she don’t gotta give up her “cookie” to every man she comes in contact with!
And they swear up and down it’s not them. Sis if you’re going through the same shit with different men, it’s you…
Girllll watch her ass get pregnant by him bby #4
Literally by every man she dates
@@bruna8663 girlllllllllll smdh
Every man she’s been seen publicly with, she ended up pregnant by him.
I give ppl the side eye who just had a baby & already seeking another relationship. As a person with no kids or maybe im just different. If i just had a newborn & me and the child’s father aren’t together anymore. I would focus on my newborn & myself. Idk but I understand stuff happens i guess
I wonder about this too. It seems selfish to just have a baby & knowingly try and put that burden on another man. Like how can you consciously be okay doing that?
At 6:22 you put Erykah Badu as a mentor that Summer Walker should be contacting for "sound advice".
Erykah Badu is a 3x baby mama with 3 different baby daddies, the only thing she can teach Summer Walker is to make sure all your baby daddies are in the music industry like her's are.😂😂😂
Erykah doesn't have drama with her children Father's. Plus Erykah has never publicly disparaged the Father to her kids.
@@zarario4444 You miss the whole point! The video was implying Erykah Badu (a 3x baby mama) has the wisdom to counsel Summer Walker against making babies, which is a joke.
Erykah Badu is the same woman who at age 52 decided to post a "Thirst Trap" with her 18yo daughter Puma.
Ms Badu guiding Ms Walker would be like the blind leading the blind.😂😂😂
@@zarario4444she speaks highly of all them. If they are beefing with any of them we would never know.
I feel that the whole rushing into a relationship thing is more psychologically based on the mental habit of being anxious to have that special someone due to the fact that some people cannot handle being alone. I have been single for a long time now but I refuse to rush into something that could fill me with regrets down the line. I don't think that taking it slow in the beginning is something that people should look at as a difficult task.
Just 3 short months later, Summer & Meech broke up allegedly from him cheating. Summer still refuses to take accountability for her decision making. But, I hope she learns from this situation. I also hope she learns to take her Ls in private 💕
At 24. I have reached an awakening. I was raped and molested at a young child and in my first relationship I was raped.
I have been in one sided relationships. I’m very self aware. I over loved them and spoiled them, and I got betrayed and cheated on.
I’m in a phase of actuality and healing. Stepping away from the scene to work on me.
Summer needs to do that, or she will continue to be in toxic situations. Plus she can’t continue to have all these people around her children. The wrong person can harm them.
From the botched bbl and to the face surgeries her self esteem is low. And for her to date a 23yr old…. Like he’s not ready to settle down and be a father.
She needs to really be alone but only her can grasp that.
🙏🏾💜 God bless you.
i hope your healing journey is going well 🫶🏽
At this point, I don’t feel sorry for Summer. Who the hell gets a name tattoo of a man that didn’t even care to marry her?? She is always looking for attention on social media, and then get mad when people are in her business 🙄, like girl, pick a struggle. She should have definitely slowed down and put her cookie on the shelf, these men don’t care about what she went through in the past. They will continue to dog her out if she allows it. I only feel sorry for the children. That’s it that’s all. At summer’s big age, she should have been sought counseling to heal from her last relationship.
Summer’s face before the surgery was beautiful. Even though she had a tomboy style, she still had a feminine soft look. Now she looks a bit stiff and less feminine.
Someone said she looked like their trans aunt. Smh
@@NiKiraG 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 honestly they ain't lyin
Idk, if Summer was my family member I would tell her to focus on her lousy record deal, therapy for any traumas she may have, and do her best to provide a safe and positive home for her children. But I get the feeling Summer does things her way and gets quite when things blow up in her face, and pops up like "what's good?" Or as my late, Granny would say, "they're just hot in the behind and won't focus ,let them go"
I really dislike when women who are in poor situations try to project or divert the attention elsewhere. I’ve heard some women say I’d rather be cheated on than beat or I’d rather be beat on than cheated on… like how about I’d prefer neither? How about we set boundaries. Respect our boundaries and space/energy. Pray to God and include God in your healing. Get the help that you need and then allow someone who is healed in your space as well.
At 27 I’ve learned to never think you will the exception in a man’s life. If he’s got a track record of being an a**hole/cheater/liar it will not stop just bc your cookie is better or he loves you more than his exes. Believe what he shows you the 1st time!
The victim & scarcity mindset are both inextricably tied to each other . This type of mindset is extremely dangerous to have as a woman because it creates a cycle of toxicity and dysfunction. Summer has failed to take any form of accountability & this is why she’s still in this same cycle . The only way she can break it is by taking accountability & working on herself, she needs to vet men thoroughly and properly in order to not make the same mistake
If you’re not dating for MARRIAGE, you need to be on HARD BIRTH CONTROL!!!!!!!! 😮😮😮😮😮
Summer the type that can see all the red flags and everybody pointing at the red flags too and still not care. She gonna do what she wanna do anyway. If she like it I love it.
Prayers to Summer. Healing is not an easy journey but it’s beyond worth it ❤
My mom use to date London uncle & when summer was with London she use to come with London to Brownsville my mom said Summer look off & I believe something is not clicking up there
She use to be a stripper before fame. I remember when she was a underground R&B and she started to get a lil buzz she did an interview. And she talked about leaving her mom house at 16. And then she is over sexual and tatted up before the fame.
The girl been in a dark and broken place since childhood. The music industry exploit depressed people like her.
People are trying to paint her as the Ciara - Beyonce type. Sweet, cute, girl next door that grew up middle class, cheerleader, married parents, goal oriented kind of girl.
Because she caters to that crowd but she didnt have that privilege lifestyle. She more in the Keisha Cole or KMichelle ratchet lane... respectfully.
She was probably high
She is very low vibrational.
I knew summer wasn’t wrapped too tight when she ran and chopped her nose off. She was so beautiful and once she got in the mainstream spotlight she started to get obsessed with plastic surgery..her energy screams “I don’t feel good enough”. She’s moving so fast and to have 3 kids so early in her career by two different men and still dating and the twins not even 1 yet. 😅 I feel like she uses her spiritual “practices” to access confidence/ beauty and not so much healing and peace of mind. Summer reminds me of the girl we all knew growing up that was pretty and had something going for herself but stayed under a new nigga and eventually had plenty kids by different men.
She definitely uses spirituality for the aesthetic of it
@@aaliyahhenderson1888 I’m very spiritual and I can tell you from that picture of the altar she uploaded on her IG with those two “things” on it..gave major DARK ass energy. 🤐
It was all fun and games back when she was calling other women "females" and saying women shouldn't be trying to get child support like she did with Eliza Rain. I'd focus on being a great mom, making great music, getting a handle on the anxiety, and making money for a few years if I was in her shoes.
Exactly she was making fun of future baby mom and even Londons baby mothers too
I love that you created a space for women and girls to learn. Love to hear wisdom from black women. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🥳🍾 Thank you Wildheart Waves🤎🤎🤎
Thank you, Bre! 🤍 I appreciate the kind words. 🫶🏽✨💙💕
Chile..this video came full circle 😩 she’s still not taking accountability AND dragged Jayda in it 🫠
I remember when ‘Girls need love’
came out it was my senior year of HS. I really liked her and felt like she could be a top R&B girl. When summer started dating London I was dealing with a fool as well lol. Literally are kids are born in the same year! Once is a mistake but a second time you have a habit. My point is Summer Walker has enough stardom and money to take a break for few years focus on herself and her child. Those are two simple things, it’s better to realize that you have some mental health issues when you keep having children with men who will just get you pregnant and embarrass you in the process. My advice to Summer allow your team to monitor your social media and delete it off your phone. She has three kids now she has to slow down. One child is enough I can’t imagine THREE!! I noticed a lot of females my age and late 20’s like to party like they don’t have a baby who needs structure?? Who needs you to be on point. Summer seems spiritual but never taps into her true self. It’s really sad to watch when she is out and about who is taking care of her kids??? Motherhood comes with sacrifices and responsibilities. Ladies there is nothing better with closing your legs and protecting your energy in the process ❤
I got pregnant end of 2020 gave birth June 2021. I had a horrible experience from beginning to end of my pregnancy, thankfully for my baby girl and I think she will be the only child. Since conceiving her I haven’t slept with anyone and I plan on keeping it like that for a while, I don’t even date, my friends keep telling to get out there but I am GOOD my last relationship taught me a lesson I will NEVER EVER forget
That’s scary. I couldn’t image carrying someone child and they just abandoned us. That’s my worse fear. I hope everything gets better for you. Do you regret not waiting to have children?
You and your daughter deserve to be loved and protected by a good man and you can and will get that at the right time. Take your time to heal and don't allow one experience to make you believe that is it for you.
As I stated before she loves drama. She’s so beautiful all of this could’ve been prevented
Been single 2 years but dating alittle here and there the past few months. Taking the time to heal was so beneficial you go in knowing what you want your boundaries and it’s easier to weed out the Dusty’s by taking your time vetting
amen, because lord knows the duties have time to be low vibrational.
I’m doing that this summer.
I remember being in a toxic relationship that man used to gaslight me mistreat me and use me I got into therapy and I worked on healing😢 now I talk to a guy who makes time even if he’s busy
Sorry to say but I don’t think Lil Meech is in this to be a stepdad to her 3 kids. He himself is only 23 with no kids of his own; not to mention his new found fame. Summer may want to consider focusing on being a mom to her children rather than chasing all these men who obviously are using her as a place holder for the women they will commit to later.
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How do you have fresh babies and you’re out here with another man already ? SMH sad ! This is sick and meech need to be careful he can definitely do better in my opinion
She’s a hot pocket fr fr
@@Slimd89 comments like these are so disappointing. I would expect this from a man not a woman.
@Blessing Osagi 20ESA Elev exactly!!!!! Having a baby is a lot of work how does she have the energy to give to two babies ! And a man smh
She's looking for love in all the wrong places.
Wow this was so powerful. I definitely believe Summer Walker is moving too fast she did that with London. Then again a second time, now a third time. She needs to learn herself , who she is as a woman, and understand her value. Most women these days don’t know their value, and when you try to tell them this they get angry. They usually have to learn the hard way. I always tell people….. if EXPERIENCE doesn’t teach you a lesson , then nothing will. Obviously she’s not learning anything. I’m so happy you spoke in favor of marriage , because it is better to be married starting a family. I hope Summer learns real fast and shelve her cookie. Ladies focus on yourself , before you take up with a man , put that energy into yourself.🙏🏽✊🏽😔
She went from having no kids to 3 in .5 seconds
All in 2 years 😭💀
@@shaniahpaster12 dummy 😁
I'm new here but this was a well-curated video. This is my cousin's situation and it's hard because her babies are so precious, her son knows his dad but her twin girls don't, and even at their young age they are looking for a father. It's not easy work holding out but the consequences of allowing the wrong man in are too great for a temporary fix.
Eyrka Badu is her mentor and has kids by multiple different men. She isn’t a real spiritual mentor
And whatever she’s telling Summer to practice healthy.
The streets say Meech stink and it’s not the raggedy streets. It’s the well lit at night, maintenance on the weekends streets saying this man is FONKY
🤣🤣🤣
Her babies ain’t even teething yet
It sounds like she doesn’t care at all. She wants to be a single mother with multiple baby fathers . She loves it ❤
She doesn’t tho😭, the songs she’s written and sung are showing her true emotions.
Well said Wildhearts 👏🏾 Summer needs to grow up, heal and like you said take accountability for her actions.
Then got the nerve to be practicing traditional African religions! I know her ancestors and god parents are screeching Lmao. Wasn’t she just dressed in her whites doing her rituals like when do we begin to integrate our lessons. Chileeee
That’s what gets me!!!!!!!!! What the hell is Osun and Oya saying because I know better.
She’s living a human experience you can be spiritual but also live the human experience
@@ashantiwrlds6119that's not the point here
@@yoyou3848 thank you
@@MissFaevyn okayyyy that is what gets meeee
No shade to SW, but she ALWAYS came off as weak and broken. She's had some bops, the girl is crazy talented, but even her music is weak minded so I never really got into her because I genuinely cant relate to most of the music. Thats not my reality. Shes lost. She takes on a new persona every season it seems. I really do wish her healing and peace so she can be there for her kids.
SHE GAVE BIRTH IN JANUARY?! I THOUGHT IT WAS LAST JANUARY Ily summer but please slowwww down baby 😢
Summer need to sat down somewhere. You've had three kids, two failed situationships, and now you hoppin to the next. She purposely puts herself in questionable situations just to cry about it later...cut the theatrics and take some responsibility
Every black female needs to hear this. As a man I see this waaaay too often. You are doing the Lord's work with this one‼️‼️🙏🏾🙏🏾Peace&Blessings
**woman
Go look up black athletes and actors babymommas, majority of them are white/Hispanic etc so don’t single out black women solely, all women need to hear this in general
Do these ppl ever heal and work on themselves
This is really sad. Wasn't she the one with social anxiety and now she is all over social media?
I pray for her mental, physical and emotional peace.
I think summer hasn’t healed from her own childhood trauma. And she should take sometime for herself. Thanks for the Vid. Until next time✨🫂
"While we have no control over the world we are born into, we ABSOLUTELY HAVE CONTROL OVER THE WORLD THAT OUR CHILDREN ARE BORN INTO." The best thing I could have ever chosen for myself was solitude. Choices, mistakes, lessons, wins, and losses have been looked over and I could move more strategically in life. I believe many things could absolutely be fate or free will, but I have to live with decisions that I made (right or wrong) and AGAIN, having a child by choice ain't something I could come back from 🤷🏽♀️ I MUST BE INTENTIONAL! If I'm an emotional wreck, and a scornful woman, baby it's time for inner work. My mother always told me, sure you can point the finger, but observe what YOU'VE ACCEPTED AND EXPECTED. See, often time we make silent expectations (many could be vocalized, but I believe vocalizing expectations that are unmet usually results in a cut-off) which turns into resentment of the other party involved. I have been in what I thought was love once, at a very young age might I add; and those lessons my elders taught me didn't kick in until I experienced things with someone. How many times does it take to grasp an understanding? Closing your legs and mouth, and opening up your mind and eyes is a priceless exchange that saves you from a countless amount of aches. You can't put in man-eater hours, and expect to receive family unit benefits. (I believe that it is a publicity stunt, btw 😂)
She’s in a desperate search for “love”
I wish my bm can listen to this she doing the same thing with our first kid we broke up she already with new dudes
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Soul ties are real folks!!
I’m still not over what she did to her face. That shit sad
I'm so glad you're back,you get into the meat of things and explain things so eloquently.keep doing your thing sis.
Something is seriously mentally wrong with Summer. Her lack of self love, self respect & self worth is pathetic.
Her music is way too emotional for me. She makes music for the broken pick me chicks who will do anything for a man. She’s the type of chick who only feels whole when she’s with a man- it’s sad!
She needs to chill out and work on herself & truly heal. Until then, she will always be broken chasing after broken men who will only break her more
That’s so sad I hope she finds her self worth and esteem I know that’s not an overnight thing it’s gonna take time but it’s sad seeing a talented woman go out like that !
I’m glad everyone in the comments has common sense and understands that this is a problem! I cannot stand when people on Twitter or IG hype up relationships like this. It’s nothing cute about having 2 BD’s and 3 kids under 3 in 2 years 🥴 Summer needs to slow tf down seriously. If she gets pregnant by Lil Meech I fear all hope for her is lost tbh. She’ll end up with hella kids with none of the BD’s helping her. Then she’ll try to paint the picture for social media that she’s happy and this is what she wanted but it’s not 🤦🏽♀️
She didn't need to vet London, everything was in her face. She was just being silly imo it's sad.
Sadly summer reminds me of close friend of mines who going through the same thing as we speak getting pregnant for someone who's got other kids and not active in any of his kids life is something I can't rock with but what I've learned of the years is how to be accountable for myself and my body I almost ended up situation where could've tied to a nga who was deadbeat too but gratefully I wasn't pregnant... This reminds me of why I have to stay focus on reaching my goals in my future career as medical assistant which I'm going to be traveling I'm 34 years old with no kids and blessed to live my life to fullest so I am even though I want a child a way's down the line but not now lol
I think Summer have unhealed postpartum depression…. Although she makes a lot of questionable choices, I think the Summer case is deeper than that, causeeee 😮💨
I feel like summer has some type of mental issues just how she comes off
@@ashantiwrlds6119 Exactly, 100% !
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Ian gon lie this whole obsession thing about sex and these dudes preying on our wombs is really scary and at a ALL TIME HIGH. Its all to tame, exploit, to use the woman as trophy/accomplishment and to hinder. This stuff run deep fr, wayyyy more than what the eyes can see. Its a attack on our wombs. Women when these ninjas gotta do all of this we should know, WE ARE THE CATCH💙💯. Peep how these ninjas gotta show off who they having sex with cause whole time they really haven't achieved REAL ACCOMPLISHMENTS which is within 💯💯 (building character and wealth within, changing and helping community, thriving out of true masculinity etc) THAT MATERIAL ISH AND VANITY IS NOTHING!. Im so ovaaaa this ish like fr😩😩. IDC IMA CONTINUE ON W MY CELIBATE JOURNEY I JUST CANT NOMO DAWG 😩😩
Summer is a female Aries. That explains everything 😂.
Exactly. Every female aries I know is the exact same way!
What does that mean, please explain?
@@annet1784 impulsive hyper sexual short sighted rebellious…until they mature
Lmao don't do us fr 😂 took another male Aries to straighten me up
Idk because I’m an Aries and definitely not hyper sexual or rebellious 😂 this has more to do with upbringing and self esteem. Many women do what summer is doing.
She ain't doing nothing that any other female wouldn't do. She just in the industry. It's plenty women out here thats busting it wide open. She just in the public eye!!
Yep
Chile, Summer needs to be somewhere giving them twins and bubbles some attention. they all just got into the world. got damn Summer!!!
Women want children while they’re still ovulating and waiting for men to grow up. The majority of b-lack males pursuing b-lack females don’t want to be husbands and fathers.
If they did, the majority of black children wouldn’t be out of wedlock and/or without a father. B-lack males are groomed by older males and peers all their lives to have sex with as many females as possible, with no mention of the consequences of children, child support, disease, mental health of the females/mothers of their children etc.
WILDHEART can you please do a video for the women who are doing the work, abstaining, and staying to themselves but are inevitably feeling bored and have fear of missing out? Any words of encouragement / recommendations on how to spend our time as we’re in solitude?
I think this is an excellent video idea & this might actually fit in well with the Levels series. 💕✨
I think it’s time for a part two for summer walkers love life.
You’re always spot on! Look now
Her mentor has multiple kids by multiple men with no accountability as well so idk if that advise was useful to her 🤦🏽♀️ I used to really look up to her.
If the girls are gonna put their 🍪 on a shelf than imma b putting my 🧁 on a shelf 2.
Vetting #2 is going to b lit 😎
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She definitely needs to chill and focus on her n her babies. I believe it's a stunt for the both of them. It's not going to last. Great video ❤
Oh, how I miss the 2017/2018 version of Summer where she was just a pretty, socially anxious woman who could sing 🥲
Once again, Waves, you hit the nail on the head. I think Summer has a lot of issues that need to be resolved before she even *looks* at another man again. She should take a break from dating, practice celibacy, and focus on being a good mom to her three children.
Lil Meech is still fairly young and doesn't know what he's getting himself into. He's gonna mess around and become Summer's third baby daddy 🥴
Leave summer alone. What is wrong with her now vs 2018
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@@sunshinegreen3488 I'm not hating on her. I actually enjoy her music.
I don't think anyone here is hating on her. Constructive criticism isn't a crime.
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Not everyone has to go into solitude, sometimes your healing comes from being I relationships that expose where your wounds are. Summer has to get tired of her own shit, and her process requires that she needs to be in relationships. Relationships are just mirrors. If your ego is present, you have to see it and be disgusted by your lack of awareness. She is still in victim mode so she needs to exhaust herself in relationships until she recognizes that she is also a problem. We have to stop projecting that there is only one way to evolve. This is Summers process, it’s her karma. Many humans on the planet have to go through identical situations due to their karmic debt. I’m 100% certain that she will eventually rise like a phoenix once she has learned certain lessons.
I agree
Crazy how things played out. But her interview with Caresha was enough for me to not believe this would be successful
this why i am 27 with NO KIDS lmao... And I WILL NOT.. Unless I meet a man that marries me and takes full care of me and follows NO WOMEN ON IG...
U speaking value as woman we have to cherish our body she hang with low self esteem woman so she will never change her mindset
its crazy how summer has social anxiety but she puts allllll her business on social media... social anxiety, social media idk ,idk
They did something bad to her behind the scenes and I’m thinking she’s self medicating in the worst way! She’s looking crazy
I will say this and I hope some people take heed to it. It's okay to be with yourself by yourself. It's absolutely nothing wrong wanting to have emotional connection with another person, but by all means please take appropriate actions to minimize unfortunate situations that are hard to get out of.