I asked the same question to my father in law who told me not to work and look after my daughter. I asked him.. then why to send my daughter to school.. she will finally get married and get kids. Then he had no answer. I put up my buissiness
I personally think parents need to be more supportive and understanding that women need to work and give value back into the house and society. But there is always a way of talking to parents and winning them over. I have been living with my in-law for 24 years. I think it always the way putting your point forward. Pray to God and support your husband and family I say as a British born woman.
I am a young female doctor 22 years old and all women from past two generations in my family are working . Because of this there is no gossip group in my family and no relatives coming to home because all women are working
Sir this is my story. I am just trapped with the wrong people with wrong mentality. I m struggling to maintain my sanity just for my little son because i want to raise him right. I have found your videos and it's given me hope to make me stronger emotionally
Dear Swati..you are not alone..there are many others suffering like you..take one day at a time and keep walking..you will overcome your obstacles successfully. I am in the same boat..take care.
Very good topic sir I have been working women earning high salary (abroad) and also took break when I had my kids. As we have no help like maids. I did all work myself home cook + office. Also in laws side pressure to keep up with Lena dena culture , entertain their guests. Sir it was very hard to do it all. Indian in laws don’t care whether we work or not but we have to maintain the fly status , entertainment rishtedaar etc Both situations we are badly judged. Worst thing is people will tell us of you look tired , not fresh even after we slog for them. Yes we earn money but the price we may is high. In India atleast maids help is the positive side.
this is the real picture, for women work + home + kids + health issues etc all responsibility is thrown at, but for men just the work, really always feel lucky ones are born as men
@@Hemant81Kumar kitna kare yaar kitna? Hum bhi insaan hai tired ho jate hai. Hum humari friends se milne jao toh hum toh mauj masti karne jaa rahe. Lekin in laws k friends, relatives, husband k dost sabko entertain hum hi kare
@@Hemant81Kumar aap ghar k kya kaam karte the during your youth and padhai k time? Aur wahi office k hectic kaam karke ghar m bhi kaam karna padta hai hume. Aur aapki bhiwi apne ghar chodke aapke saath rehne aayi hai and aap in laws k ghar jane se thak gaye? Wah wah!
I left my job I was in British visa office with very good salary. I absolutely hv no regrets bringing up my kids. Loved each n every moment with them. My kid went through 10 operations but I hv never felt bad it's part of life made myself n my child strong a child who could not walk is a karate champion today. I am a proud mother n a woman. I kept learning n doing something from home. So each one to his own.
Namaste sir, I have started watching your videos very recently and its a blessing to have an elder teach us in such a nice and blunt ways both. I was working as a software engineer 8 years back and after my child was 2 year I had to quit working as we moved abroad. I decided to stay home as child care was very expensive here and we were not comfortable leaving our child in day care. But over the period i started self victimizing and felt nobody is acknowledging my sacrifices so there was no peace at home because of this. But i thoroughly enjoyed my life with my kids so i wont say its a sacrifice :) . Gradually I started focusing on how to get it right so I started my youtube channel and I attended some personal training which gave me the confidence that I can go back to work and my kids are old enough and go to full time school so now I am preparing for my interviews and will soon join the IT company again. I totally agree with what u said in this video sir and thanks to wisdom you give us through your videos. Also please suggest the employment opportunities to those who want to do something being at home. Thank you sir 🙏
Yup... its a great point. Stay at home is a choice, it's freedom,.... its not sacrifice. Taking care of family is a calling, not sacrifice. Its an eye- opener.
Hello Sir You thought process is same as of my father. He raised us the same way. I remember I left my family and marriage for a duration of two years to continue growing in my career and now I feel that's the best decision I have ever made. Now I am back at my home in a better MNC and financial status. There was a time i was thinking of coming back home and leaving my job behind but father didn't let me. Thanks for spreading such ideas. I have my father at that time some might not have. This will help them. Thanks 🙏 Regards Seema
I'm a doctor with a self esteem. I became a doctor, in the first place fighting all obstructions from my conservative father's family. Now, I'm living separate from my husband with two kids, whom i have raised alone, and are both now doctors... I think my pathetic marital status is because i had a self esteem, i was working and i was earning... Yesss, my point is working ladies are exploited and tortured more...
Ma'am, jab koi revolution hota hai to kuch logon ki bali chadhti hai. Ap usi sacrifice ka part ho. Apki agar daughter hai to usko ye problem face nhi karni paregi. Yehi apke sacrifice se nikalne wala achievement hoga. My mother, a working woman exhausted herself with working inside and outside home, her health degraded. She took all those bitter jibes (tum karti hi kya ho) from my patriarchal father. She deserved nothing of it. But unke is sacrifice ka phal mujhe aur meri behen ko mila. We both were very clear in choosing our life partners. No specific gender roles. Ghar ke kaam kbhi career ke bich nhi aayenge, naa woman ke naa man ke. Agar meri mother ne ye example set naa kiya hota, to main bhi shayad unke jaisi ya unse bhi kharab zindagi jeeti.
He is absolutely right about the saree draping.. This business is actually being done in South ranging from Rs 300 to 1000 based on how it needs to be draped for the occasion
Yes....yes. Yes . ...I am 55 year old...worked for 32 years .. has to leave job as politics played against me by bosses...will start working again because of you Sir .... already started looking for a job/running a PG
Madam, work for pleasure and keep yourself engaged so that you don't get involved in petty household politics. Enjoy your middle age. Don't work under someone else
(Amazing ) I have lost many good opportunities, but I dont think i have sacrificed, instead i have got opportunity to frame the good going future of both children.
Sir, please also make part 2 of this video talking about how the husband of working woman should share the work load of the woman once she starts working.
I really love your work but don't get me wrong, this is the reason I feel Indian men should help with housework. Indian men have no idea how much goes into managing a home. You will go to a hotel and give money for the same services. And when you are at home, you think everything occurs magically. Beds are made, home is organised, everything is in order, breakfast-lunch-dinner nutritious tasty meals you are getting. How? Genie magic? You think women have no work? How about you try to maintain a home? Women's work is unending work. You will eat and leave the plate on the table and go. Maids ko manage bhi toh karna padta hai. Managing a home is like managing a small hotel. Aap ne jo ek kapda pehen ne ke liye, subah kapde ke dher bana diya tha, woh phir apne aap kaise sahu jagah me chala gaya almirah me? Dawaiyan time pe mil gayi, thodi thodi der me chai-naasta, saaf sutre, istri kiye huwe kapde. Kaise ho gaya ye sab?
Yes I agree. Men think that a maid who comes for 3-4 hours can do all this work. She will sweep and mop and wash some dishes that is it! I have to bathe my daughter, dress her and take her to school, make her 2 lunch boxes, then make dinner, wash dishes, clean the kitchen, buy groceries, organise the clothes, make the beds, clean toilets, organise the mess that my family makes, pick up my daughter from school , help her with school work, take her to the park, give my family dinner , again wash and replace dishes, then go to bed. It is not hard work but it’s not like we are sitting around all day doing nothing. Another thing is- because I am at home my husband can work any job in any city, he can travel on the job too. This brings financial benefits to our entire family. When children hit their teens, the mother can work outside the home if she wants but it is naive to say that a home-makers work can be done by some maid. I’ve seen small children come to the park with nannies. Never seen the parents. I feel sad for those kids.
Ya ,aadmi khbhi nhi samaj skta ,jo housewife ghar ko apna sab kuch deti h ,earning zero h ,vo subh sab kuch manage krti h ,school bhejne se ,tiffin ,homework, vo inhe lgta h ki apne aap ho jata h ,hr jagah gurugram nhi h ,sab kuch khudh manage krna hota h
@@varshasindhu5672 I have worked for many years with young children in many countries.The mother plays a big role in raising the children.Leaving young children in nurseries and kindergarten for long periods of time is suboptimal for 95% of the children.After they are 2.5 - 3 years they need to go to school but not more than 5 hours. The importance for being home for the kids cannot be overstated
i mean, most women don'r know nutrition and can cook, if they realy wanted to be good we would have a much healthier society instad of high carbs diet because women won't even do 1 thing properly
Sir, My mom (died 15 yrs bck) was working in Delhi Administration n at the age of 9 yrs I learnt to receive gas cylinder after measuring it. And because I am working (free Lancer n entrepreneurs) made my girl totally independent since she was a small girl. Working moms have better upbrought children.
Your thought process is very clear & also help getting clarity. I am working from home but it's a high pressure job. My husband is also in a high pressure job. I am thinking about switching to a more flexible & less pressing job so family life is better. In India, if a women is working by her own will, & in laws pay attention to kids, they put it as ehsaan on us & always make us feel like being a selfish & bad mother. Please make a video on how we can stop feeling ashamed by this & do our work with more happiness.
You are doing job for bright future.Don't trapped in inlaws game.If they are logical then why you are emotional.Think logically.Emotions are temporary.
Not agreed.women submit themselves to the circumstances inspite of having potential in them because after losing their all opportunities they endure what cannot be cured.
It's sad that masculine energy is celebrated and femenine energy is ridiculed to the extent that most females have ( most of the time ) taken the mascular role to be accepted and appreciated in society, if you look back, history is proof how monotheism was established, eleminating the divine feminine. Social conditioning is the worst thing and few jokers giving advice based on their own limited perspective in life is quite amusing. Ladies ' you do you' if you are happy however you choose to be happy you will inevitably blossom my queens.
Dear stupid sister, he was talking about women who used to work earlier but have stopped working on some lame reasons & pretexts .. He never said women dont earn or they are useless .. read , listen and understand ... india has only 19% working women population , bangladesh has 35% ... why cant women come out and work ... work and earn well and achieve something in life.. speaking in favor and for betterment of women also makes u angry bcoz u want everyone to praise and pamper u
No they are not. I have heard a lot about this feminine energy and masculine energy bullshit. This is another excuse that women are coming up with. Ghar se baahar nikalke paise kamane se feminine energy mar nhi jati. A woman can be in masculine energy sitting at home as well. Feminine and masculine are two characteristics, and both are required by both man and woman. Lord krishna was feminine most of the time - calm, peaceful and soft. Occassionally he utilised his masculine energy through sudarshan chakra and anger when it was needed the most. Main bhi married woman hun, mera bhi ghar hai. Aise bhi kitne kaam hote hain ghar pe madam? Jhadu poncha maid karti hai. Dishwasher hai bartan ke liye, washing machine hai kapron ke liye. Agar washing machine me kapre daalna bhi kaam lagta hai, to wo bhi ap maid ko bol sakte ho, 500 rs me kar degi. Baaki sab bache hue kaam like purchasing groceries, wardrobe organisation etc., lagbhag sab jobs me sat sun off milta hai ajkal. Shopping and grocery purchasing to sab online hi chal raha hai. Please stop making excuses and earn some money for youself atleast. Taking care of your own expenses is no one's business. Otherwise don't feel bad when husband or in-laws say that you do nothing. Come out of stupid bubble. I call myself a feminist, but now after these comments if i am called a misogynist then i must say, my definition of feminism is very different than so called feminists out there!!
Sir, one question, what can those women do whose husband and in-laws doesn't allow any maid in the house and want bahu to do all the chores as well as look after the children? Consider this a situation of middle class housewife 🙏
I was in the same condition 2 year back... So I started working from home Mil pressurised me with more house work, so that I quit my job. But I stayed focused and after a year of struggle they stopped troubling me when they saw that I was managing my work and house well and was being appreciated in my work. After that I hired a maid for which they could not say no. Now I do what I want and enjoy my part of freedom. 😁
Very crude but undiluted truth. Been in this mode for more than 2 decades and now trying to start afresh and build a career with some new skills that I am training for. Financial independence is paramount and the earlier we start realising it the better. Keeps us ladies out of mess and with a more progressive mind set. Thanks sir for being blunt about this thing. I appreciate it so much.
Waah! Seedhi baat no bakwaas.. anand aa gaya. Sahi galat to sab ko pta hai lekin aapne jo aaina dikhane ka kaam kia hai vo behad prashansniya hai. Its really moral boosting post.. Greatful to you. 🙏
One of the revolutionary videos. If all men and women will listen it and follow it, it will bring change in thought process of the people which will result in positive change in the country. Salute you sir. Keep on. Somewhere I read "A woman is slave untill she is independent".
i think more than money aspect, women need to have a job just to utilise her skills. and although i don't have kids, i have seen some employers discriminate if you have joined a job after a maternal break or after any other break too..
Sir I am pregnant and due to som complexity I have to take a break from my job... But I am feeling guilty that I am not doing anything right now.. but after marriage when 6 years I was working till my pregnancy came my in-laws treated me like I am enjoying my life where as I didn't had any made for cooking and other house hold work... Sir aap bilkul sahi ho ... And Shas is like I have done sacrifice and your are just enjoying... She is enjoying the pension of shasur and that too she always blam him that he didn't allow her to work...
As an unmarried female, I agree with you. I have seen housewives in my family taking pride in staying at home & doing 'house chores' & what they do in the name of house chores is cook & wash clothes using washing machines of course. Because doing dishes & cleaning the house is done by househelps. Today, in the 21st century there are machines for almost every work. I fail to understand how are the modern world's Indian housewives bringing equal or near-to-equal contributions to the family. Yet men are blamed for not providing enough.😢 And how can housewives raise/teach children when they have low IQs themselves? The condition of many housewives' brains is horrible. They are unable to have a constructive criticism, an opinion of themselves & use the basic gadgets or internet. But if I say these things loudly people may call me anti-feminist but the truth is truth.
Hello sis ,jab shadi ho jaygi ,bacche honge ,joint family m rhna hoga tb bat krna ,sab kuch aapko hi krna ho ,tb bat krna ,abhi aapo kuch samaj nhi aayga
Too good sir ek ap he ho jo hamarey typical samaj ke ankhon se galat soch ka chashma utar rahey ho i really respect u from the bottom of my heart💖 agar har ek lady or male ke soch ap jesey ho jaye toh hamarey desh sudhar jaye
Yes sir. Please make a video on the ideas of earning at home! I wanted to do something while i was at home when i took break from the job after having a baby, but that research took much time. Please give some practical ideas if u can. Thank you for your words of wisdom🙏🏻
Absolutely true as you said in this video heavy works nd household chores r done by men as well, even then some women will be blabbering and such women cannot do anything in their life. Strongly said no work is low r high as per their need nd capability earn some amt. You are the person to bring out the exact problem with solution in various field. आप अकेला व्यक्ति हो जो सब के पोल खुलवा देते हो और ऐसे वीडियो बनाते रहो हमें भी कुछ आईडियास मिलेगा खूब-खूब धन्यवाद.
Everyone should read Lean In...such men are more dangerous who think that they don't have any inherent gender bias but ultimate it shows in their behavior... Hamne to allow kiya attitude..
Another gem of a video by Amitji. I relate to it 200%. It's high time we adopt these best practices and relieve people of inferiority complexes. Indian women have a lot of potential, our past history is a prime example.
Ek aur topic hai aapke liye. Why can’t men have choice to stay at home fathers ? If women are highly qualified n ambitious.. let them bring bread n butter n let men take care of kids n home n parents etc. I believe u can’t leave everything to maids or helpers . N it’s not easy to compete with youngsters who have no other responsibilities at home. Too much mediocrity in things because of these home entrepreneurs nowadays. Not all can give good quality stuff or value for money to customers. As a customer I m tired of such mediocrity
This is a topic which has never been thought about and discussed so clearly and strongly...hats off to you Sir... keep up the good work...it is helping millions of people... thank you
The reasoning for medals and upbringing is a flawed one. Even if a mother is providing completely nutritionally there are many other factors like accessibility to sports infrastructure such as coaches, equipment, food safety and income safety that leads to poor athletic development of our population.
Jab aap kisi ke ghar jaate hain, apko khana kaun offer karte hain? Aadmi ya aurath? Thoda sa iss kona pe bhi dhyaan dijiye. I agree hum exactly sacrifice nahi bol sakte. Lekin situations aise lead karte hain.
Now cooking is not a difficult job . With new gadgets it is easy to cook. Grocery, vegetables fruits can be bought by Apps like big basket, Dunzo etc. Maid is there to do other household work. Hence many home makers especially from middle class can work outside or do business. Work may not be bringing you fat pay cheque but to keep you occupied.
I took a saree draping class many years back… unke ghar par hi hum 5-6 students the… 2 hrs ka class tha… but it was so good and useful! ₹500 and worth it. Aaj-kal same class ₹1500 per person ho sakta hai…
Yess....both will earn and both will bring money.....and both will bring stress too.....males take one beer and get relief but woman starts removing that stress on kids.... on husband .....what happiness that money will give......here still exploitation of employees is common
Sir, jab aapke subscribers 40k something the, tab se main aapke videos dekh raha hu. Kafi sare dekhe hain. Aaj notice kiya ki ab 140k + hogye hain. 😄 Congratulations, and keep up the good work.🎉🎉🎊🌟
Hello Sir,Thanks for motivating everyone in right manner. It's true ladies has to sacrifice for family wellbeing...but ladies must start doing something after 50 yrs of age. That's what I am also trying now.Started writing,painting and at the same time my my main profession as CA. But it's a not easy to restart things after certain gap.So,please guide about some platform where restarting can be done easily...or start some venture where ladies can participate as per their capabilities. Thanks.
@@kirtiamitbhardwaj1521 hi kriti.. I did some online courses bt I was doing yoga from the last one year in a group near my house n it helped me a lot..
Patriarchy का सिक्का चलाए रखने के लिए औरतों को crush करके रखना बहुत जरूरी है। घर पर खाली बैठेगी तो अफेयर करेगी. बाहर काम पर निकलेगी तो affair करेगी। कुछ तो कहना ही है। ऐसा लगता है वो औरतों के साथ अफेयर करती हैं। या जो आदमी उनके साथ affair करते हैं वो सत्यवान और राम होते हैं।
First of all sir…many women would want to continue working after children but it is the in laws and husband who restrict us …we want to work hard but egoistic male does not want us to work ..
Why do u even listen to them?😂 Just dont do any work for one month and if they bark let them or give them suitable replies. Kuch din kalesh hoga aur phir sab kuch line pe àa jayega.
2020 2nd child born… was a professor before that… job chala gaya… learned stock market from scratch… husband trusted and allowed to manage funds… no question asked… earning great! Loving my new profession.. will return to teaching once kids are grown up. Also property broker. Investor! Trader! Professor!property dealer
Sir I am retired woman from government service on superannuation recently. Aap ki batein bahut related lagti hai. I will definitely join your post retirement webinar in future
Very true.. Half of talent is wasted due to family status.. I love dance but not allowed.. There are many it professional women who sit at home due to family pressure.. Thanks for this video
Yes I want to do something but my husband is not supporting in nature.He always want each things should be done perfectly.he will always unsatisfied with my work.he never appreciate my work.due to his irritating nature I left my job as a teacher
Sir, there are still orthdox families in urban cities also who expect that women should not work. And if she works aginst will of family her contribution in household activities should not be any less than that of a housewife. Root cause of every mistake is seen as because she is working she is not taking good care of family.
What can we do from home after 45 yrs.? Give some guidance....make video for women above 45 who is interested to work from home or another earning resources
Thanks for the video... Much needed for every man and women.... Mann kharab lagta hai agar kuch nahi karte hai tho... Husband's support mile tho confidance aata hai nahi tho lagta hai kis ke liye kare...
I'm happy to see u addressing important topics. These shud be discussed at every platform in d nation. Hope our folks learn.Ppl sweep all issues under the carpet lying about family & kids happiness.
Hello Sir, I just started watching your videos and one thing that is so consistent with what you say is - how everything matches with what my husband has been preaching over the years. Even, I was a bit uncomfortable when I left my job after having my baby, but not considering it as a sacrifice has made all the difference. I was working with investment bank (financial crime), now when my kid is all settled with his school I am preparing to venture into Fintech industry in the same space (and the best part is everyone is as new as me in this space). I took a good amount of time to think through this move, attended a lot now courses to understand how the industry (in my case financial industry) has changed over the years. Thank you and keep inspiring with your hard hitting facts 🙏🏻
@@completefuss7715 As I mentioned I was working in the compliance space (AML) in International Investment Bank, now I am pursuing my certifications in the same space but relevant for Fintech industry. Thanks.
@@pushparao181 Nice... You can be a role model for men like us also. Really it is a challenge to get into work after such a long gap. Also, getting your concentration back for studies is difficult.
Very informative video Sir. Now a days every girl/woman should work whether small or big or from home no matter what. Family obligations must not be a barrier. Could you please a video on remote/work from home job/business opportunities for woman. It would be very useful for ladies out there Sir.
Please make a video on topic - what happens if you have only girl child and no male child. Please sir - what is life of parents after the girl child's marriage when parents become old!!!
Sir aajkal ek new scenario dekhne ko mil rha hai society me...log working bahu leke aate hai aur use sirf atm machine and ghar kaa kaam karne vali machine samajhte hai. Ussse uski puri salary chheenne ki koshish karte hai aur us bahu pe apni marzi se apne daily kharcho pe bhi pabandi lagate hai...ghar me Sara kaam karne ko mazboor karte hai...pati bhi bilkul help nhi karta....maid bhi nhi rakhne dete hai aur kahate hai ki khana to bahu hi banayegi...kyunki yhi to uska main kaam hai... matlab ki Paisa usse pura lelo aur ghar kaa Sara kaam karne ko mazboor karo...aur uske bache sambhalne me bhi koi help nhi karta...aise me vo mentally n physically torture ho jaati hai...agar vo maid rakhne ke liye kahati hai to use hazaar taraha ke taane sunaye jaate hai... society se pressure aane lagta hai ki ye khana to banana hi padega bhale hi uske working hours kitne hi kyu naa ho....uske dwara kamaye gye paise pe pati ke alawa uske dever, Jeth sabki nazar hoti hai....usse paise chheenne ke chakkar me din raat uske against uske husband ko uske baare me galat galat bolte hai aur husband kaan kaa kaccha hota hai aur vo apni hi wife ko ut patang tarike se torture karne lag jata hai...ye to us working lady pe dohra atyaachaar hone lag jata hai...uske baare me aapka kya kahana hai .. please make a vedio on this topic also
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I asked the same question to my father in law who told me not to work and look after my daughter. I asked him.. then why to send my daughter to school.. she will finally get married and get kids. Then he had no answer. I put up my buissiness
Excellent
The only answer is to pass the information to your offspring
I personally think parents need to be more supportive and understanding that women need to work and give value back into the house and society. But there is always a way of talking to parents and winning them over. I have been living with my in-law for 24 years. I think it always the way putting your point forward. Pray to God and support your husband and family I say as a British born woman.
Very hard hitting, but true
Great 👌 well said..
I am a young female doctor 22 years old and all women from past two generations in my family are working . Because of this there is no gossip group in my family and no relatives coming to home because all women are working
Awesome!
👍👏👏
Either you're not 22 or you're not a doctor
@@pritamdas9015great😂😂
Itna bhi sahi nhi bolna tha😂😂
I started working after 21 years of marriage.4 years have passed.
Its been really fulfilling.
I enjoy my life very much now.
Sir this is my story. I am just trapped with the wrong people with wrong mentality. I m struggling to maintain my sanity just for my little son because i want to raise him right. I have found your videos and it's given me hope to make me stronger emotionally
Dear Swati
I have lived the kind of life that you described . Please start working ,your job will be your support system
Same with me.l feel physically and mentally drained.
Dear Swati..you are not alone..there are many others suffering like you..take one day at a time and keep walking..you will overcome your obstacles successfully.
I am in the same boat..take care.
Very good topic sir
I have been working women earning high salary (abroad) and also took break when I had my kids. As we have no help like maids.
I did all work myself home cook + office. Also in laws side pressure to keep up with Lena dena culture , entertain their guests.
Sir it was very hard to do it all. Indian in laws don’t care whether we work or not but we have to maintain the fly status , entertainment rishtedaar etc
Both situations we are badly judged.
Worst thing is people will tell us of you look tired , not fresh even after we slog for them. Yes we earn money but the price we may is high.
In India atleast maids help is the positive side.
this is the real picture, for women work + home + kids + health issues etc all responsibility is thrown at, but for men just the work, really always feel lucky ones are born as men
Hame to bethne ka bhi parmission nahi ,bimar hua to alsi bolajatahe.
Harsh truth of society!
@@Hemant81Kumar kitna kare yaar kitna? Hum bhi insaan hai tired ho jate hai. Hum humari friends se milne jao toh hum toh mauj masti karne jaa rahe. Lekin in laws k friends, relatives, husband k dost sabko entertain hum hi kare
@@Hemant81Kumar aap ghar k kya kaam karte the during your youth and padhai k time? Aur wahi office k hectic kaam karke ghar m bhi kaam karna padta hai hume. Aur aapki bhiwi apne ghar chodke aapke saath rehne aayi hai and aap in laws k ghar jane se thak gaye? Wah wah!
It's very grateful to see many men are raising their voices like you for the economic empowerment of women.. Keep it up 👍
But not all of them are openly saying that working women don't have to do all the household works like before. That's also a point!!
This video is amazing. I left job to be with my daughters and fully enjoyed the time. Now they are grown up and I have started my boutique.
I left my job I was in British visa office with very good salary. I absolutely hv no regrets bringing up my kids. Loved each n every moment with them. My kid went through 10 operations but I hv never felt bad it's part of life made myself n my child strong a child who could not walk is a karate champion today. I am a proud mother n a woman. I kept learning n doing something from home. So each one to his own.
Respect...
Bravo 👏
Respect
This is a special case everyone is not like that
Please give ideas for working from home.
Namaste sir, I have started watching your videos very recently and its a blessing to have an elder teach us in such a nice and blunt ways both. I was working as a software engineer 8 years back and after my child was 2 year I had to quit working as we moved abroad. I decided to stay home as child care was very expensive here and we were not comfortable leaving our child in day care. But over the period i started self victimizing and felt nobody is acknowledging my sacrifices so there was no peace at home because of this. But i thoroughly enjoyed my life with my kids so i wont say its a sacrifice :) . Gradually I started focusing on how to get it right so I started my youtube channel and I attended some personal training which gave me the confidence that I can go back to work and my kids are old enough and go to full time school so now I am preparing for my interviews and will soon join the IT company again. I totally agree with what u said in this video sir and thanks to wisdom you give us through your videos. Also please suggest the employment opportunities to those who want to do something being at home. Thank you sir 🙏
After a gap of so many years will u get employment in IT sector?
women who dont even earn a single penny wants 12lpa guy and they are not even at good at cooking so what those women brings on table
In foreign countries u can work at any age and learn skills too, but this is not the case in India, not enough job opportunities here
Yup... its a great point. Stay at home is a choice, it's freedom,.... its not sacrifice.
Taking care of family is a calling, not sacrifice.
Its an eye- opener.
Hello Sir
You thought process is same as of my father. He raised us the same way. I remember I left my family and marriage for a duration of two years to continue growing in my career and now I feel that's the best decision I have ever made.
Now I am back at my home in a better MNC and financial status. There was a time i was thinking of coming back home and leaving my job behind but father didn't let me. Thanks for spreading such ideas. I have my father at that time some might not have. This will help them. Thanks 🙏
Regards
Seema
I'm a doctor with a self esteem. I became a doctor, in the first place fighting all obstructions from my conservative father's family.
Now, I'm living separate from my husband with two kids, whom i have raised alone, and are both now doctors...
I think my pathetic marital status is because i had a self esteem, i was working and i was earning...
Yesss, my point is working ladies are exploited and tortured more...
Ma'am, jab koi revolution hota hai to kuch logon ki bali chadhti hai. Ap usi sacrifice ka part ho. Apki agar daughter hai to usko ye problem face nhi karni paregi. Yehi apke sacrifice se nikalne wala achievement hoga. My mother, a working woman exhausted herself with working inside and outside home, her health degraded. She took all those bitter jibes (tum karti hi kya ho) from my patriarchal father. She deserved nothing of it. But unke is sacrifice ka phal mujhe aur meri behen ko mila. We both were very clear in choosing our life partners. No specific gender roles. Ghar ke kaam kbhi career ke bich nhi aayenge, naa woman ke naa man ke. Agar meri mother ne ye example set naa kiya hota, to main bhi shayad unke jaisi ya unse bhi kharab zindagi jeeti.
He is absolutely right about the saree draping.. This business is actually being done in South ranging from Rs 300 to 1000 based on how it needs to be draped for the occasion
So true sir...I am also from the "sacrifice" group 😊but I am totally agree with you 👍
Yes....yes. Yes . ...I am 55 year old...worked for 32 years .. has to leave job as politics played against me by bosses...will start working again because of you Sir .... already started looking for a job/running a PG
Madam, work for pleasure and keep yourself engaged so that you don't get involved in petty household politics. Enjoy your middle age. Don't work under someone else
Hey, how was your experience running a pg?
(Amazing ) I have lost many good opportunities, but I dont think i have sacrificed, instead i have got opportunity to frame the good going future of both children.
Sir, please also make part 2 of this video talking about how the husband of working woman should share the work load of the woman once she starts working.
Like your advice,l am starting my job again after 12yrs after listening to you.from Pakistan
I really love your work but don't get me wrong, this is the reason I feel Indian men should help with housework. Indian men have no idea how much goes into managing a home. You will go to a hotel and give money for the same services. And when you are at home, you think everything occurs magically. Beds are made, home is organised, everything is in order, breakfast-lunch-dinner nutritious tasty meals you are getting. How? Genie magic? You think women have no work? How about you try to maintain a home?
Women's work is unending work. You will eat and leave the plate on the table and go. Maids ko manage bhi toh karna padta hai. Managing a home is like managing a small hotel. Aap ne jo ek kapda pehen ne ke liye, subah kapde ke dher bana diya tha, woh phir apne aap kaise sahu jagah me chala gaya almirah me? Dawaiyan time pe mil gayi, thodi thodi der me chai-naasta, saaf sutre, istri kiye huwe kapde. Kaise ho gaya ye sab?
Yes I agree. Men think that a maid who comes for 3-4 hours can do all this work. She will sweep and mop and wash some dishes that is it! I have to bathe my daughter, dress her and take her to school, make her 2 lunch boxes, then make dinner, wash dishes, clean the kitchen, buy groceries, organise the clothes, make the beds, clean toilets, organise the mess that my family makes, pick up my daughter from school , help her with school work, take her to the park, give my family dinner , again wash and replace dishes, then go to bed.
It is not hard work but it’s not like we are sitting around all day doing nothing.
Another thing is- because I am at home my husband can work any job in any city, he can travel on the job too. This brings financial benefits to our entire family.
When children hit their teens, the mother can work outside the home if she wants but it is naive to say that a home-makers work can be done by some maid.
I’ve seen small children come to the park with nannies. Never seen the parents. I feel sad for those kids.
Ya ,aadmi khbhi nhi samaj skta ,jo housewife ghar ko apna sab kuch deti h ,earning zero h ,vo subh sab kuch manage krti h ,school bhejne se ,tiffin ,homework, vo inhe lgta h ki apne aap ho jata h ,hr jagah gurugram nhi h ,sab kuch khudh manage krna hota h
maid ko manage krna 🤡
that is the work you
@@varshasindhu5672 I have worked for many years with young children in many countries.The mother plays a big role in raising the children.Leaving young children in nurseries and kindergarten for long periods of time is suboptimal for 95% of the children.After they are 2.5 - 3 years they need to go to school but not more than 5 hours. The importance for being home for the kids cannot be overstated
i mean, most women don'r know nutrition and can cook, if they realy wanted to be good we would have a much healthier society instad of high carbs diet because women won't even do 1 thing properly
Sir,
My mom (died 15 yrs bck) was working in Delhi Administration n at the age of 9 yrs I learnt to receive gas cylinder after measuring it. And because I am working (free Lancer n entrepreneurs) made my girl totally independent since she was a small girl.
Working moms have better upbrought children.
Your thought process is very clear & also help getting clarity. I am working from home but it's a high pressure job. My husband is also in a high pressure job. I am thinking about switching to a more flexible & less pressing job so family life is better. In India, if a women is working by her own will, & in laws pay attention to kids, they put it as ehsaan on us & always make us feel like being a selfish & bad mother. Please make a video on how we can stop feeling ashamed by this & do our work with more happiness.
You are doing job for bright future.Don't trapped in inlaws game.If they are logical then why you are emotional.Think logically.Emotions are temporary.
Not agreed.women submit themselves to the circumstances inspite of having potential in them because after losing their all opportunities they endure what cannot be cured.
Too much english
@@AdityaJape then learn it.....
Sir, the women are bringing a lot on the table- personally and professionally and the men are digesting all of it without a burp.
It's sad that masculine energy is celebrated and femenine energy is ridiculed to the extent that most females have ( most of the time ) taken the mascular role to be accepted and appreciated in society, if you look back, history is proof how monotheism was established, eleminating the divine feminine. Social conditioning is the worst thing and few jokers giving advice based on their own limited perspective in life is quite amusing. Ladies ' you do you' if you are happy however you choose to be happy you will inevitably blossom my queens.
Dear stupid sister, he was talking about women who used to work earlier but have stopped working on some lame reasons & pretexts .. He never said women dont earn or they are useless .. read , listen and understand ... india has only 19% working women population , bangladesh has 35% ... why cant women come out and work ... work and earn well and achieve something in life.. speaking in favor and for betterment of women also makes u angry bcoz u want everyone to praise and pamper u
@@KCR3306 So true sis💯 you are spitting facts.. couldn't have said better.
Bhai video pura dekho
Inke video middle-class aur uske upar wale ke liye he
Lower middle class or village or small town female ke liye nahi he
No they are not. I have heard a lot about this feminine energy and masculine energy bullshit. This is another excuse that women are coming up with. Ghar se baahar nikalke paise kamane se feminine energy mar nhi jati. A woman can be in masculine energy sitting at home as well. Feminine and masculine are two characteristics, and both are required by both man and woman. Lord krishna was feminine most of the time - calm, peaceful and soft. Occassionally he utilised his masculine energy through sudarshan chakra and anger when it was needed the most.
Main bhi married woman hun, mera bhi ghar hai. Aise bhi kitne kaam hote hain ghar pe madam? Jhadu poncha maid karti hai. Dishwasher hai bartan ke liye, washing machine hai kapron ke liye. Agar washing machine me kapre daalna bhi kaam lagta hai, to wo bhi ap maid ko bol sakte ho, 500 rs me kar degi. Baaki sab bache hue kaam like purchasing groceries, wardrobe organisation etc., lagbhag sab jobs me sat sun off milta hai ajkal. Shopping and grocery purchasing to sab online hi chal raha hai.
Please stop making excuses and earn some money for youself atleast. Taking care of your own expenses is no one's business. Otherwise don't feel bad when husband or in-laws say that you do nothing. Come out of stupid bubble.
I call myself a feminist, but now after these comments if i am called a misogynist then i must say, my definition of feminism is very different than so called feminists out there!!
Even though I'm a woman I totally agree with you.. woman should work not for others but for themselves and their and family members sanity.
Sir, one question, what can those women do whose husband and in-laws doesn't allow any maid in the house and want bahu to do all the chores as well as look after the children? Consider this a situation of middle class housewife 🙏
I was in the same condition 2 year back...
So I started working from home
Mil pressurised me with more house work, so that I quit my job.
But I stayed focused and after a year of struggle they stopped troubling me when they saw that I was managing my work and house well and was being appreciated in my work.
After that I hired a maid for which they could not say no.
Now I do what I want and enjoy my part of freedom. 😁
@@SheShinesNeha what job u have started please reply
Very crude but undiluted truth. Been in this mode for more than 2 decades and now trying to start afresh and build a career with some new skills that I am training for. Financial independence is paramount and the earlier we start realising it the better. Keeps us ladies out of mess and with a more progressive mind set. Thanks sir for being blunt about this thing. I appreciate it so much.
Waah! Seedhi baat no bakwaas.. anand aa gaya. Sahi galat to sab ko pta hai lekin aapne jo aaina dikhane ka kaam kia hai vo behad prashansniya hai.
Its really moral boosting post..
Greatful to you. 🙏
Kasam se kaha se late ho aisa topic. You are too good at attracting people with relevant questions. Good job sir I admire your truthfulness.
One of the revolutionary videos. If all men and women will listen it and follow it, it will bring change in thought process of the people which will result in positive change in the country. Salute you sir. Keep on. Somewhere I read "A woman is slave untill she is independent".
i think more than money aspect, women need to have a job just to utilise her skills. and although i don't have kids, i have seen some employers discriminate if you have joined a job after a maternal break or after any other break too..
Yes, motivated. I am working for 30 years , retiring after 4 years. Now I am searching for some business after retirement.
Yes ,I agree. I have stood for myself as a single parent.
Sir I am pregnant and due to som complexity I have to take a break from my job... But I am feeling guilty that I am not doing anything right now.. but after marriage when 6 years I was working till my pregnancy came my in-laws treated me like I am enjoying my life where as I didn't had any made for cooking and other house hold work... Sir aap bilkul sahi ho ... And Shas is like I have done sacrifice and your are just enjoying... She is enjoying the pension of shasur and that too she always blam him that he didn't allow her to work...
Sir,
बहुत खूब, सही डांट लगाकार दोंनो पक्षों को सुनाया है,
Or मार्गदर्शन भी दिया. ये है U Tube का सही इस्तेमाल. ❤❤❤❤
Uncle if possible please focus on the topic related job options for women sitting at home..like work from home kind of options..in the next videos..
As an unmarried female, I agree with you. I have seen housewives in my family taking pride in staying at home & doing 'house chores' & what they do in the name of house chores is cook & wash clothes using washing machines of course. Because doing dishes & cleaning the house is done by househelps. Today, in the 21st century there are machines for almost every work. I fail to understand how are the modern world's Indian housewives bringing equal or near-to-equal contributions to the family. Yet men are blamed for not providing enough.😢
And how can housewives raise/teach children when they have low IQs themselves? The condition of many housewives' brains is horrible. They are unable to have a constructive criticism, an opinion of themselves & use the basic gadgets or internet.
But if I say these things loudly people may call me anti-feminist but the truth is truth.
Hello sis ,jab shadi ho jaygi ,bacche honge ,joint family m rhna hoga tb bat krna ,sab kuch aapko hi krna ho ,tb bat krna ,abhi aapo kuch samaj nhi aayga
@@ektakadyan4683true😂
Too good sir ek ap he ho jo hamarey typical samaj ke ankhon se galat soch ka chashma utar rahey ho i really respect u from the bottom of my heart💖 agar har ek lady or male ke soch ap jesey ho jaye toh hamarey desh sudhar jaye
Yes sir. Please make a video on the ideas of earning at home! I wanted to do something while i was at home when i took break from the job after having a baby, but that research took much time. Please give some practical ideas if u can. Thank you for your words of wisdom🙏🏻
Your thoughts and ideas are so interesting and practical.
U can become online reseller.
You can do trading
You can learn parlour..masaage coirse and start own setup.
E t c
Many more ideas i hv.
Childs safety is a very important issue
Condition favourable nahin hai toh mat karo .
Set your priority that's ok
Staying in family still you are an individual .
Think in that direction
Absolutely true as you said in this video heavy works nd household chores r done by men as well, even then some women will be blabbering and such women cannot do anything in their life. Strongly said no work is low r high as per their need nd capability earn some amt.
You are the person to bring out the exact problem with solution in various field. आप अकेला व्यक्ति हो जो सब के पोल खुलवा देते हो और ऐसे वीडियो बनाते रहो हमें भी कुछ आईडियास मिलेगा खूब-खूब धन्यवाद.
Everyone should read Lean In...such men are more dangerous who think that they don't have any inherent gender bias but ultimate it shows in their behavior...
Hamne to allow kiya attitude..
Another gem of a video by Amitji. I relate to it 200%. It's high time we adopt these best practices and relieve people of inferiority complexes. Indian women have a lot of potential, our past history is a prime example.
Ek aur topic hai aapke liye. Why can’t men have choice to stay at home fathers ? If women are highly qualified n ambitious.. let them bring bread n butter n let men take care of kids n home n parents etc. I believe u can’t leave everything to maids or helpers . N it’s not easy to compete with youngsters who have no other responsibilities at home. Too much mediocrity in things because of these home entrepreneurs nowadays. Not all can give good quality stuff or value for money to customers. As a customer I m tired of such mediocrity
Because of law, section 125 . Ok.
are you dumb?
This is a topic which has never been thought about and discussed so clearly and strongly...hats off to you Sir... keep up the good work...it is helping millions of people... thank you
The reasoning for medals and upbringing is a flawed one. Even if a mother is providing completely nutritionally there are many other factors like accessibility to sports infrastructure such as coaches, equipment, food safety and income safety that leads to poor athletic development of our population.
Bahut badhiya video maza agya hai sir ,mere ghar me bhi kalesh karne wali aurate house wife hai or baccho ke sahare jee rahi hai
Pls make a video about career options after break n what things taken into consideration while deciding to pursue any career opportunity.
I would want my sister and wife to be independent. Because u have to put something at the table, otherwise people don't give value to your existence.
Jab aap kisi ke ghar jaate hain, apko khana kaun offer karte hain? Aadmi ya aurath? Thoda sa iss kona pe bhi dhyaan dijiye. I agree hum exactly sacrifice nahi bol sakte. Lekin situations aise lead karte hain.
Now cooking is not a difficult job . With new gadgets it is easy to cook. Grocery, vegetables fruits can be bought by Apps like big basket, Dunzo etc. Maid is there to do other household work. Hence many home makers especially from middle class can work outside or do business. Work may not be bringing you fat pay cheque but to keep you occupied.
Sir I am 55 years old and after listening to you I have started tiffin service from home.
All the best mam
Yes please share some home based ideas as I have toddler and aged mil at home ..
I took a saree draping class many years back… unke ghar par hi hum 5-6 students the… 2 hrs ka class tha… but it was so good and useful! ₹500 and worth it. Aaj-kal same class ₹1500 per person ho sakta hai…
Yess....both will earn and both will bring money.....and both will bring stress too.....males take one beer and get relief but woman starts removing that stress on kids.... on husband .....what happiness that money will give......here still exploitation of employees is common
I liked what you said for women... we have a choice.... we are not in that category where we are suppressed !!!
Sir, jab aapke subscribers 40k something the, tab se main aapke videos dekh raha hu. Kafi sare dekhe hain. Aaj notice kiya ki ab 140k + hogye hain. 😄 Congratulations, and keep up the good work.🎉🎉🎊🌟
I live in Boston I agree with u but Indian husband are not working at home it’s hard for women
Indian men have lot of ego
आपका वीडियो बहुत ही अच्छा है आप का सामाजिक अध्ययन बहुत ही गहरा है धन्यवाद
नमस्कार बुद्ध और ओशो के बाद आज आप की बाते बहुत काम की जानकारी देते हैं धन्यबाद l
Hello Sir,Thanks for motivating everyone in right manner.
It's true ladies has to sacrifice for family wellbeing...but ladies must start doing something after 50 yrs of age.
That's what I am also trying now.Started writing,painting and at the same time my my main profession as CA.
But it's a not easy to restart things after certain gap.So,please guide about some platform where restarting can be done easily...or start some venture where ladies can participate as per their capabilities. Thanks.
Agree with u.. I was lecturer in india.. Now I m in kenya n working as a yoga trainer. I am happy in this new field.
Hello, from where u have done ur yoga training?
@@kirtiamitbhardwaj1521 hi kriti.. I did some online courses bt I was doing yoga from the last one year in a group near my house n it helped me a lot..
@@kirtiamitbhardwaj1521
Check Svyasa Bangalore
You are just a gem sir.This is iconic “jo ghar mein akeli bethti hai uska affair nhi hoga?😂.This is the biggest myth in the society
Patriarchy का सिक्का चलाए रखने के लिए औरतों को crush करके रखना बहुत जरूरी है।
घर पर खाली बैठेगी तो अफेयर करेगी. बाहर काम पर निकलेगी तो affair करेगी। कुछ तो कहना ही है। ऐसा लगता है वो औरतों के साथ अफेयर करती हैं।
या जो आदमी उनके साथ affair करते हैं वो सत्यवान और राम होते हैं।
First of all sir…many women would want to continue working after children but it is the in laws and husband who restrict us …we want to work hard but egoistic male does not want us to work ..
@@pradeepsingh-ol8jj sick
Why do u even listen to them?😂
Just dont do any work for one month and if they bark let them or give them suitable replies. Kuch din kalesh hoga aur phir sab kuch line pe àa jayega.
Ek dum sahi jagah hit kiya hai apne...!!!🙏🙏🙏
It's not a sacrifice it's a privilege & a beautiful blessing 🙏🙏🙏🙏
We need more men like u in our society.
Guruji you should be in Niti Ayog of India and the Ayog should be only of one Executive and it should be You
People don't understand that they have their own purpose. Ladies should do what they have to and not try to replace men and vice versa.
What should we do in case of domestic violence
Very hard hitting video !! I would appreciate if you could give some practical examples of what women over 40 can do to earn respectable money
2020 2nd child born… was a professor before that… job chala gaya… learned stock market from scratch… husband trusted and allowed to manage funds… no question asked… earning great! Loving my new profession.. will return to teaching once kids are grown up. Also property broker. Investor! Trader! Professor!property dealer
amazing.. we need financial advisors for women..
Super fun ! You're a Nice Man with great values in life. Appreciate you ji...🙏🌺
Sir I am retired woman from government service on superannuation recently. Aap ki batein bahut related lagti hai. I will definitely join your post retirement webinar in future
This is one of the channel where I regularly come to get more clarity in my life. Thanks you for discussing such deep topics
Very true.. Half of talent is wasted due to family status.. I love dance but not allowed.. There are many it professional women who sit at home due to family pressure.. Thanks for this video
😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤humour kitna excellent h beech beech m hasi nahi rukti 😂😂😂😂
Yes I want to do something but my husband is not supporting in nature.He always want each things should be done perfectly.he will always unsatisfied with my work.he never appreciate my work.due to his irritating nature I left my job as a teacher
U should continue your job jo abhi tk khush nhi hua aage kya hoga.. ese aadmi k liye kya job chodna..
Plz educate yourself abt Narssism... and try to find out some other job
More power to all of us!!..let's explore together possibilities to earn and grow.
Sir, there are still orthdox families in urban cities also who expect that women should not work. And if she works aginst will of family her contribution in household activities should not be any less than that of a housewife. Root cause of every mistake is seen as because she is working she is not taking good care of family.
Please add english subtitles they are very much necessary for such progressive topics
What can we do from home after 45 yrs.? Give some guidance....make video for women above 45 who is interested to work from home or another earning resources
Thanks for the video... Much needed for every man and women.... Mann kharab lagta hai agar kuch nahi karte hai tho... Husband's support mile tho confidance aata hai nahi tho lagta hai kis ke liye kare...
Apne liye karo yaar, husband ki marzi ko kab tak pakde rahoge??
Yes, we want some good ideas for women...to earn from home.
I'm happy to see u addressing important topics. These shud be discussed at every platform in d nation. Hope our folks learn.Ppl sweep all issues under the carpet lying about family & kids happiness.
Agreed to some extent !! I am working since the last 30 years , loaded in many ways ... Thought provoking
Yes
Need ideas to work from home
Hello Sir, I just started watching your videos and one thing that is so consistent with what you say is - how everything matches with what my husband has been preaching over the years. Even, I was a bit uncomfortable when I left my job after having my baby, but not considering it as a sacrifice has made all the difference. I was working with investment bank (financial crime), now when my kid is all settled with his school I am preparing to venture into Fintech industry in the same space (and the best part is everyone is as new as me in this space). I took a good amount of time to think through this move, attended a lot now courses to understand how the industry (in my case financial industry) has changed over the years.
Thank you and keep inspiring with your hard hitting facts 🙏🏻
How are you exactly trying to venture into fintech??
@@completefuss7715 As I mentioned I was working in the compliance space (AML) in International Investment Bank, now I am pursuing my certifications in the same space but relevant for Fintech industry. Thanks.
@@pushparao181 Nice... You can be a role model for men like us also. Really it is a challenge to get into work after such a long gap. Also, getting your concentration back for studies is difficult.
U r absolutely right I’m now 49 I left my govt job for family but now my kids are busy please suggest something for work from home at this age
Very informative video Sir. Now a days every girl/woman should work whether small or big or from home no matter what. Family obligations must not be a barrier. Could you please a video on remote/work from home job/business opportunities for woman. It would be very useful for ladies out there Sir.
True both husband and wife must work in order to support financially
Don't agree with this idea that home making is wrong. But its not necessary to broode ovrer sacrificing career
👍 Yes, rather to chat with neighbour, good to work.
I am 74 year I stay at home and make kitchen masala and acher for seal and also take orders of cooking and use that for Donetion
Please make a video series dedicated to challenges for women and how to come out of it?
Please make a video on topic - what happens if you have only girl child and no male child. Please sir - what is life of parents after the girl child's marriage when parents become old!!!
Nice lecture. Tell what should a lady do whose children r in higher education.
Very very important topic . Thanks for sharing. It’s going to be very helpful 👏👏👏👏🙏
Thank you sir. I’m working and was thinking to leave job. But now I won’t be stopping my earring
Hello uncle very relevant topic.. Thanks for talking openly about it
Sir aajkal ek new scenario dekhne ko mil rha hai society me...log working bahu leke aate hai aur use sirf atm machine and ghar kaa kaam karne vali machine samajhte hai. Ussse uski puri salary chheenne ki koshish karte hai aur us bahu pe apni marzi se apne daily kharcho pe bhi pabandi lagate hai...ghar me Sara kaam karne ko mazboor karte hai...pati bhi bilkul help nhi karta....maid bhi nhi rakhne dete hai aur kahate hai ki khana to bahu hi banayegi...kyunki yhi to uska main kaam hai... matlab ki Paisa usse pura lelo aur ghar kaa Sara kaam karne ko mazboor karo...aur uske bache sambhalne me bhi koi help nhi karta...aise me vo mentally n physically torture ho jaati hai...agar vo maid rakhne ke liye kahati hai to use hazaar taraha ke taane sunaye jaate hai... society se pressure aane lagta hai ki ye khana to banana hi padega bhale hi uske working hours kitne hi kyu naa ho....uske dwara kamaye gye paise pe pati ke alawa uske dever, Jeth sabki nazar hoti hai....usse paise chheenne ke chakkar me din raat uske against uske husband ko uske baare me galat galat bolte hai aur husband kaan kaa kaccha hota hai aur vo apni hi wife ko ut patang tarike se torture karne lag jata hai...ye to us working lady pe dohra atyaachaar hone lag jata hai...uske baare me aapka kya kahana hai .. please make a vedio on this topic also