Thank you Anna, your continuous detailed explanations, your easy down to earth examples give us hope and much needed encouragement..We love you ❤ Congratulation on your book, I ordered it.. looking forward to read it! Will be a best-seller for sure 🎉
Anna as always thank you for pressing on even when people are cruel. I will never understand the need for people to comment in an ugly way. Why can't they just move on? This information is so needed by me and I am sure countless others. I am exciter about my life in the 1st time maybe ever. What I have dealt with since I was a child has a name. I finally feel safely seen and understood by you and others in this community. That is a huge deal on my road to healing. Thank you for sharing your experience and gifts with us. You may not have any idea what huge impact you are making. I am getting teated up just writing this because I have felt so alone for 56 years and not knowing what was wrong with me or how to break free from a very small life when all I have dreamed off was a life where I could touch someone else's life by making then feel heard and seen a d loved. And finally being able to accept that for myself because I have never felt worthy. Keep on keeping on. I loved your phrase "must be present to win." It is going to become one of my new mantras to replace all my negative self talk. I want to win in this life and have it impact others as well in a positive way. Thank you again Anna. I look forward to all your content because I learn so much!
At 67, I'm teared up too reading your heartfelt, sincere post that I can relate to. I finally know what's been "wrong with me" my whole life too and excited for the future. Thank you @jude4247 and Anna.
I’ve been disregulated all my life from childhood trauma ,which then only attracted more trauma as I grew older ,especially relationships with abusive people. I remember always spacing or zoning out starting in grade school which negatively affected my education ,prevented me from learning ,messed up my social life,relationships, etc…..and had zero self esteem leading to constant shame and guilt. Never knowing how to calm my nervous system to verbalize, and advocate appropriately for myself has led me into settling in situations and bad relationships just to keep the peace and go along to get along even though it’s against everything I stand for.
Same thing. I learned to start assigning percentages to the level of danger. Instead of trusting people zero or 100 I can trust this person 50 with personal information but that person has 10 for trust. I walk into a public space and maybe I should be 40 percent on alert and not automatically 100. Having that internal dialogue helps to keep the low brain and cognitive brain working together. At 100 the lower brain is totally in charge and it only sees black and white and zero or 100.
@@boxelder9167 that sounds like a really good strategy! I remember reading from Peter Levine (trauma expert) that traumatized ppl tend to either trust ppl too much, or not enough. Like you said: 0% or 100%. He taught me that trust is something that gets built over time, bit by bit, with each person. That was a real gift, that has kept me out of a lot of trouble.
It truly is bizarre. I am able to take a step back and watch myself overreacting. I see it, I know it, but I can't stop the incredibly horrible feeling of complete despair inside.
If there was a sainthood for mental health I would write you in, all your videos are so spot on, the details and all of it... I'm not cured but you've helped more than anything! In my 50s now and thought it eas too late to do anything about these things. A million hugs and thanks 😊 i will keep watching 😅
Anna, you are a role model. I am so glad I found your channel. Now I finally understand, what is "wrong" with me. I am 35 now. In the past they diagnosed me with all kinds of things that didn't fit me. I felt alienated. And after all that time I never learned how to handle romantic relationships. I tried courses, watched tons of videos. Nothing really worked. Now I understand the issue. Now I feel relieve in a way. I don't have Borderline or god knows what. I have CPTSD. I feel dysregulated and overwhelmed by it a lot these days. But instead of giving up or blaming my boyfriend I understand what's going on. I have to admit that this is kind of shocking though... I am so afraid that my boyfriend will not be able to handle this long enough... until I feel stable. But it just is the way it is. I cannot rush it... So please keep up your work. I am sure that there are lots of people who will change for the better just because you inspire them. May the haters find peace one day. I am sure you constructively reflect on what they say. So you can evaluate whether they got a point or not. No need to do more than that. Finally I got a question... did you make a video about your progress, how long it took you to get to the point at where you are now? Can CPTSD be healed or do you have to live with it? I would love to know how you live now compared to 5, 10, 20 years ago. Thank you, dearest Anna ❤
My mother hated me from birth. Her twin sister told me when I was 35 that the sense mom didnt treat me well was accurate. She treated me with scorn and intolerance so that i wouldn't outshine my siblings who were sickly and obese in childhood. I. 70 and ive tried to get better since i was a teenager. The Beatles were my only happiness. Im still struggling. Still trying. I signed up for your course and im still stuck.
My sis and I recognize that we may inadvertently trigger each other. Our solution is that we have a code word. And if either of us says the code word we stop what we are saying and switch gears and talk about something else, no questions asked. We show each other respect and give each other space. This technique can be used with friends, spouses, family, with anyone that agrees to using the technique. My code word is X-Files. I hope that is useful.
Hi Anna, please continue with your videos. Great to have my behavior explained. Why I've been married to men I wasn't in love with. And who didn't love me. The second was even a narcissist. I learn more from you than from psychologists. We are not permanent victims, but we can heal. What a liberation! Thanks Anna👍👍👍
We are only victims when we are too young to lead our own lives, or when we accept it as who we are. I have been victimized by people, my parents included, but I never accepted it as my role in life and who I am.
Anna both my mom and grandmas have passed. And now my aunt. So whenever I crave a motherly voice I put on your video even if i watched the video before so thank you for all you do. Keep posting!
Anna, your content has been lifesaving. Please don't stop! I'm an Al Anon old timer and also your Bay Area neighbor. I saw one of the best "trauma" therapists for years in SF, but you know so much more even without the professional license, and you are the living example of the Promises of Recovery! Many Blessings and much gratitude for your wisdom.
Anna, I want you to know that I love you, and I thank you so much for helping me and everyone on here. You're a light in the darkness to me and I've shared you with one of my siblings who suffers similarly. Would you consider devoting some time to repairing deeply loved and important relationships that have suffered? I have lost so much. Thanks.
Anna, you are most definitely my 'all-time favorite Crappy Childhood Fairy'!!!! Your masterful words have made an awesome difference in my life...I am only 67 years young!! KEEP Up Your noble work!!!
First time commenter - I started with ACA because of you, found you because of Pete Walkers book, have been doing the Daily Practice and in less than a week am finding it a complete game changer! I also am learning empathy from watching you be such an excellent role model as you read and comment on the letters. Thank you from the bottom of my inner child’s heart❤
Your a lovely caring woman, keep on with sharing your experiences and thoughts, I have learnt a lot about myself by thinking about content for your podcasts
Thank you! We all know how that is and so appreciate your efforts and the help and comfort you bring us. 🙏 I started asking myself every morning: "What can I do for Clara today?" And try to do at least one of those things that have been waiting for me to get done, sometimes for months. Slowly, but surely, the list is getting shorter and shorter. And if I have a tough day and don't do anything today? Well, that's ok. I'm not going to beat myself up, tomorrow is a new day. Funny thing is that often I'll be having a tough day and say to myself that I don't have to get that one thing done, but as I walk past what I was supposed to do, I just go and get it done. Silly, but it makes me so proud of myself! 💖
I'm so glad I found your channel! I look forward to figuring out how to heal the disregulation so I can stop self sabbotaging. I am the WORST procrastinator when it comes to my business, and now...my business is essentially dead, and I need to figure out how to breath new life into it.
Sod the haters, you are really helping people, people who for so long have been misunderstood.... when I heard another of your talks where you explained how getting attacked at 30 triggered Pandoras box..I just thought omg it's me..different circumstances but the fact you soldiered on unaware prior to the attack, then that one final shock tipped you over...its a carbon copy of my story...thank you for all that you do x
Thank you, Anna. You are truly walking me through the darkest time in my life. Please do not listen to the naysayers. Speaking for myself...I need you. I do have a therapist as well. But you are my lifeline. Thank you!
Anna I'm sorry u have a dumb therapist in Indiana telling u to stop. I'm from Indiana and live here. Keep doing what ur doing. You have helped me so much just finding you the last couple of months thank You so much. Keep moving forward without these CORN FED HOOSIERS that think they know what's best. That therapist is just jealous u have so many clients without a office nor office hours and knows less then you. God Bless You Anna.
Anna, You have helped me so much in just a few months since I found you accidentally on youtube. I've shared with cousins and friends that may not be CPTSD themselves, but have friends that are and they shared. One friend commented on how "beautiful your hair is" (just so you know). Recognizing my dysregulation and "toxic friends" has changed how I think and react. Still working on healing, but I am HEALING. Little by little working on the procrastination, etc. Thank you Anna, Callista and your team.
Anna thank you for yoru videos , sometimes i just listen in the background while playing video games bc your voice is so loving , kind and soothing , and also the topics are somethign worthwhile to listen rather a lot of other mind numbing content that i could listen to , thank you for your work
Wow, Anna, you really hit the nail on the head this time! Feels like yr describing my life story...: almost constant low-grade dysregulation, punctuated by periods of brilliant clarity, productivity, insight... (which, like you say, is hard, mainly in the amount of energy it takes). In those clear moments, tho, it feels easy and authentic. I'm able to be of true service to people, and they are grateful for it... Then I go back into my safe cocoon, and struggle to stay present, make healthy decisions, and get things done... etc. etc.. Ugh. Feels like I am lost ... (Yoga is my way out of the trap, when I'm smart enough to do it.) ... But anyway, it's great to feel seen! So I appreciate you even more than usual, in this moment! And as always, I'm very grateful for your honest vulnerability, brilliant insights, and humor. You are such a gift to all of us! I can't imagine what we'd do without you. Big, supportive hugs of THANKS to you, Oh Magic CC Fairy! 🌷🧡
This is the first time I hear someone explain all my problems and have them make sense to me. I have always looked for ways to do nothing. Its like a feeling of just stay calm, do not move, no sudden movements, no noises, nothing. I didn’t know what that was. It’s a way to regulate myself. I thought I was just lazy. I always felt I want to do many things, but I couldn’t get myself to do them. I was just thinking about this the other day and here is my answer. Thank you ❤
Thank you Anna for all of your help. It means a great deal to me that you take time to share your experiences with us and shine that light in the dark corners.
I wake up with anxiety or disregulation every morning. I've just pushed myself forward through it like an overachiever, ignoring for years this weird disregulation. It keeps getting worse. It's like an injured animal that keeps getting louder so it can get some help. I am hoping to find effective ways to calm this "bag of cats" (I love that description). I just want to calm down and think clearly when dealing with stressful situations or even on a day when nothing is wrong. What a huge gift if I could learn effective ways to just have at least one normal day per week.
Oh my goodness I am so sad to hear this negativity. I really appreciate you and have directed many people to this channel. Please don't let the trolls get you down. Love and Prayers for you 💗
Thank you so much, Anna. The Daily Practice has helped me so much. I have found a slight variation of it helps me most. I say the prayer in the morning before work and then, while grooming and dressing, do the Vedic meditation using the word "release." I find that 20 minutes is not enough for me, so I do 1-2 hours in the morning while doing mundane tasks. It works *without fail*. (I tried doing the lists of fears and resentments but found that my lists were the same every day.) Anyway, thank you again for this invaluable tool!❤
Anna thank you so much for being so generous in sharing your insights knowledge, experience, and useful tools. You have helped me so much in gaining a better understand ing of the origins and triggers of some unhealthy patterns in my life and following the Daily Practice and other suggestions you teach continue to help me heal and regain control and connect fully with myself..I’m so looking forward to receiving your book..God bless you for your kindness and compassion, and desire to help others. Your platform has allowed me and so many others to feel seen and understood and to regain self-compassion, forgiveness, and worth and to move forward in healthy ways. Thank you for not giving in to the haters.
Hold my face every time my boss goes off...andshe seems EASILY triggered...yells & scresms...then Im dysregulated. I know... toxic. Working my exit strategy.
It sounds a lot like anxiety or panick attacks I've experienced. One of the only things that helped me in those situations was to sleep. I would try exercise, breathing exercises, medication and herbs and on and on. Sometimes the only thing that worked to reset myself was to sleep.
This was a lot for me and my head is spinning. I’ll need to watch it again and again bc I think it has all the answers I’ve needed for decades. Thank you. ❤
I want to leave,but I can't cause the rehab center won't let me.😢 I called the social worker and told her that I feel like I would be better off to go home cause the problem keeps repeating with my roommate.
This is such a good video. Thank you, definitely sharing it. My only suggestion is please consider adding chapters so we can come back and easily navigate the sections. 💜
I have been listening to your station for awhile and can so relate to the emotional side of things. Wanted to ask about the only thing I could think of in my past to see if it could be related to CPTSD. Early grade school age I was tricked into sitting next to a neighbor of my grandparents on the connecting porch. He began playing with my nipples asking if it felt good. I knew it was wrong but he was an adult. When I found the chance I left. Dad noticed something was wrong and asked. Have never lied to my parents so I told him. He was out the door. Don't know what happened after that. The subject was never spoken of again. Have known people who have been through much worse. In comparison not sure if it's called tramma. I have been through therapy. Never seemed to help. Last therapist assumed it was chemical and told me to stay very close to Jesus. In my mid 70s now. Hoping understanding this will help with struggles now. Appreciate your view.
True. I sweat a ton in awkward interactions. I don't see that response in most people. I know why now, it has become a neurological trigger long long ago. When as an child or as even as an adult, these huge humiliations or also near death incidents have such uncontrollable physiological responses, it can reoccur in slightly less traumatic events. It is an auto mode. I have these panic responses far less now, I assume most humiliations and near death kind interaction/event has been dealt, it still occurs though, too much over stimulation of that fight or flee circumstances make you a awkward adult.
And BTW: that therapist thinks yr dangerous bc they can see that yr so much more helpful than they could ever be... so, yes, you are a dangerous threat to their narrow-minded career!
Thank You Anna, your videos are helping me understand what never made sense before. I never went to get diagnosed but what you talk about makes lots of sense.
I am in the strees response all day long, it seems impossible to be any other way, i just cannot regulate myself and live alone. So exhausted its hard to do anything in this state, i fear for my life and helath. How do we regulate? Ive tried breathing, stamping my feet etc but its sky high all the time. The mornings bring such doom. I am 60 now and see very little hope for any life. Just want it over. My grown up sons avoid me so i dont see them or their little ones because of the state im in. 😢
6:09 it’s such a distinctive gut feeling like “oh no here it comes” I always know I’m going to get physically ill following: headache nausea thin poop retching sinus acid reflux chronic pain for the next 2 days no food no drink horrible then a deep depression
I was ok until horrific things happened. Incredible horrible things to me and family. NEW TRAUMA. I am doing much much better. But i never want to go through that again.
Is it possible to know which specific 4 videos are compiled together in this one? The first 13 minutes are so are the best explanation, description, and methods I've found for what an oncoming episode is/is like and what to do about it.
Can you do a video on minor avoidance, me not being able to text and email is literally destroying my relationships and work opportunities but I legit don't know what to do about it, I get so overwhelmed when I look at msgs that I've actually accidentally smashed screens and broken phones bc I literally throw them cuz i get so overwhelmed or I will go m.i.a for months even years and worry people even though I'm fine and just living life, but me and online communication has never worked ... idk, never heard of anyone mention it before until you said it
You may like the Daily Practice. With consistent work, you will make progress on your healing journey. Here's a link to the free course, if you're interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
I am really amazed at how knowlegeable and articulatre u r. Iam curious to know the source bwhind yr information. I am doctor actually and i fund u very impressive
Hi, my name is X and I'm not an alcoholic. But After 41 years of c-ptsd I finaly crashed and fucked up so bad so I had to wake up. So I'm on my healing journy right now - I took your advice and went to a AA meeting, but it felt wierd sitting there not having trouble with booze. Can you adress this from your perspective and experience? Thx.
Hey again anna! You and the team are so worthfull and lovely! Thank you for all the tips and tricks, info and love/kindness! Im currently dealing with rejection and doing well, allthough the thoughts of selfworth is up and down.❤im gonna stop seeing this person and keep on being strong! Sending love!
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Thank you Anna, your continuous detailed explanations, your easy down to earth examples give us hope and much needed encouragement..We love you ❤
Congratulation on your book, I ordered it.. looking forward to read it! Will be a best-seller for sure 🎉
Anna as always thank you for pressing on even when people are cruel. I will never understand the need for people to comment in an ugly way. Why can't they just move on? This information is so needed by me and I am sure countless others. I am exciter about my life in the 1st time maybe ever. What I have dealt with since I was a child has a name. I finally feel safely seen and understood by you and others in this community. That is a huge deal on my road to healing. Thank you for sharing your experience and gifts with us. You may not have any idea what huge impact you are making. I am getting teated up just writing this because I have felt so alone for 56 years and not knowing what was wrong with me or how to break free from a very small life when all I have dreamed off was a life where I could touch someone else's life by making then feel heard and seen a d loved. And finally being able to accept that for myself because I have never felt worthy. Keep on keeping on. I loved your phrase "must be present to win." It is going to become one of my new mantras to replace all my negative self talk. I want to win in this life and have it impact others as well in a positive way. Thank you again Anna. I look forward to all your content because I learn so much!
Thank you for your kind words! We're all sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
At 67, I'm teared up too reading your heartfelt, sincere post that I can relate to. I finally know what's been "wrong with me" my whole life too and excited for the future. Thank you @jude4247 and Anna.
I’ve been disregulated all my life from childhood trauma ,which then only attracted more trauma as I grew older ,especially relationships with abusive people. I remember always spacing or zoning out starting in grade school which negatively affected my education ,prevented me from learning ,messed up my social life,relationships, etc…..and had zero self esteem leading to constant shame and guilt.
Never knowing how to calm my nervous system to verbalize, and advocate appropriately for myself has led me into settling in situations and bad relationships just to keep the peace and go along to get along even though it’s against everything I stand for.
SAME HERE 😔
Same thing. I learned to start assigning percentages to the level of danger. Instead of trusting people zero or 100 I can trust this person 50 with personal information but that person has 10 for trust. I walk into a public space and maybe I should be 40 percent on alert and not automatically 100.
Having that internal dialogue helps to keep the low brain and cognitive brain working together. At 100 the lower brain is totally in charge and it only sees black and white and zero or 100.
@@boxelder9167 that sounds like a really good strategy! I remember reading from Peter Levine (trauma expert) that traumatized ppl tend to either trust ppl too much, or not enough. Like you said: 0% or 100%. He taught me that trust is something that gets built over time, bit by bit, with each person. That was a real gift, that has kept me out of a lot of trouble.
Messed up my life too😊
This is true It is so hard to stop deregulating once you start you can’t stop
It truly is bizarre. I am able to take a step back and watch myself overreacting. I see it, I know it, but I can't stop the incredibly horrible feeling of complete despair inside.
If there was a sainthood for mental health I would write you in, all your videos are so spot on, the details and all of it... I'm not cured but you've helped more than anything! In my 50s now and thought it eas too late to do anything about these things. A million hugs and thanks 😊 i will keep watching 😅
Wow, I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! Thank you for being a part of our community :)
-Calista@TeamFairy
I was thinking the same thing about sainthood for the CC Fairy!
@@stacyeleanza4917 some people with that title haven't done half as much to heal human beings! ❤️
@@ShekinahGwaii totally agree! Therapy never did much for me, that's for sure!
Anna is a gift from God.
Anna, you are a role model. I am so glad I found your channel. Now I finally understand, what is "wrong" with me. I am 35 now. In the past they diagnosed me with all kinds of things that didn't fit me. I felt alienated. And after all that time I never learned how to handle romantic relationships. I tried courses, watched tons of videos. Nothing really worked. Now I understand the issue. Now I feel relieve in a way. I don't have Borderline or god knows what. I have CPTSD. I feel dysregulated and overwhelmed by it a lot these days. But instead of giving up or blaming my boyfriend I understand what's going on. I have to admit that this is kind of shocking though... I am so afraid that my boyfriend will not be able to handle this long enough... until I feel stable. But it just is the way it is. I cannot rush it...
So please keep up your work. I am sure that there are lots of people who will change for the better just because you inspire them.
May the haters find peace one day. I am sure you constructively reflect on what they say. So you can evaluate whether they got a point or not. No need to do more than that.
Finally I got a question... did you make a video about your progress, how long it took you to get to the point at where you are now? Can CPTSD be healed or do you have to live with it? I would love to know how you live now compared to 5, 10, 20 years ago.
Thank you, dearest Anna ❤
My mother hated me from birth. Her twin sister told me when I was 35 that the sense mom didnt treat me well was accurate. She treated me with scorn and intolerance so that i wouldn't outshine my siblings who were sickly and obese in childhood. I. 70 and ive tried to get better since i was a teenager. The Beatles were my only happiness. Im still struggling. Still trying. I signed up for your course and im still stuck.
My sis and I recognize that we may inadvertently trigger each other. Our solution is that we have a code word. And if either of us says the code word we stop what we are saying and switch gears and talk about something else, no questions asked. We show each other respect and give each other space. This technique can be used with friends, spouses, family, with anyone that agrees to using the technique.
My code word is X-Files. I hope that is useful.
Thank you for sharing this!
Nika@TeamFairy
Hi Anna, please continue with your videos. Great to have my behavior explained. Why I've been married to men I wasn't in love with. And who didn't love me. The second was even a narcissist. I learn more from you than from psychologists. We are not permanent victims, but we can heal. What a liberation! Thanks Anna👍👍👍
well said
We are only victims when we are too young to lead our own lives, or when we accept it as who we are.
I have been victimized by people, my parents included, but I never accepted it as my role in life and who I am.
Thank you for being a part of our community. It's wonderful to hear that the channel has been helpful :)
-Calista@TeamFairy
Anna both my mom and grandmas have passed. And now my aunt. So whenever I crave a motherly voice I put on your video even if i watched the video before so thank you for all you do. Keep posting!
Anna, your content has been lifesaving. Please don't stop! I'm an Al Anon old timer and also your Bay Area neighbor. I saw one of the best "trauma" therapists for years in SF, but you know so much more even without the professional license, and you are the living example of the Promises of Recovery! Many Blessings and much gratitude for your wisdom.
Wow, thank you!
Anna, I want you to know that I love you, and I thank you so much for helping me and everyone on here. You're a light in the darkness to me and I've shared you with one of my siblings who suffers similarly. Would you consider devoting some time to repairing deeply loved and important relationships that have suffered? I have lost so much. Thanks.
Anna, you are most definitely my 'all-time favorite Crappy Childhood Fairy'!!!! Your masterful words have made an awesome difference in my life...I am only 67 years young!! KEEP Up Your noble work!!!
Wow, thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Agreed with what you said and am 67 too!
First time commenter - I started with ACA because of you, found you because of Pete Walkers book, have been doing the Daily Practice and in less than a week am finding it a complete game changer! I also am learning empathy from watching you be such an excellent role model as you read and comment on the letters. Thank you from the bottom of my inner child’s heart❤
Your a lovely caring woman, keep on with sharing your experiences and thoughts, I have learnt a lot about myself by thinking about content for your podcasts
I'm so glad the podcast has been helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you! We all know how that is and so appreciate your efforts and the help and comfort you bring us. 🙏
I started asking myself every morning: "What can I do for Clara today?" And try to do at least one of those things that have been waiting for me to get done, sometimes for months. Slowly, but surely, the list is getting shorter and shorter.
And if I have a tough day and don't do anything today? Well, that's ok. I'm not going to beat myself up, tomorrow is a new day.
Funny thing is that often I'll be having a tough day and say to myself that I don't have to get that one thing done, but as I walk past what I was supposed to do, I just go and get it done. Silly, but it makes me so proud of myself! 💖
Thank you for sharing you! We're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thanks for creating here so we can all be healing together. 🙏💖
I'm so glad I found your channel! I look forward to figuring out how to heal the disregulation so I can stop self sabbotaging. I am the WORST procrastinator when it comes to my business, and now...my business is essentially dead, and I need to figure out how to breath new life into it.
Sod the haters, you are really helping people, people who for so long have been misunderstood.... when I heard another of your talks where you explained how getting attacked at 30 triggered Pandoras box..I just thought omg it's me..different circumstances but the fact you soldiered on unaware prior to the attack, then that one final shock tipped you over...its a carbon copy of my story...thank you for all that you do x
Thank you, Anna. You are truly walking me through the darkest time in my life. Please do not listen to the naysayers. Speaking for myself...I need you. I do have a therapist as well. But you are my lifeline. Thank you!
You're a brilliant and very beautiful woman (no disrespect). I enjoy your knowledge and you have a calming voice. Thumbs up (two)!
Anna I'm sorry u have a dumb therapist in Indiana telling u to stop. I'm from Indiana and live here. Keep doing what ur doing. You have helped me so much just finding you the last couple of months thank You so much. Keep moving forward without these CORN FED HOOSIERS that think they know what's best. That therapist is just jealous u have so many clients without a office nor office hours and knows less then you. God Bless You Anna.
Thank you for your kind words towards Anna!
Nika@TeamFairy
TRUTH! about the jealous therapist!
Anna, You have helped me so much in just a few months since I found you accidentally on youtube. I've shared with cousins and friends that may not be CPTSD themselves, but have friends that are and they shared. One friend commented on how "beautiful your hair is" (just so you know). Recognizing my dysregulation and "toxic friends" has changed how I think and react. Still working on healing, but I am HEALING. Little by little working on the procrastination, etc. Thank you Anna, Callista and your team.
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! Thank you for your kind words, we're all so glad you're here :)
-Calista@TeamFairy
Anna thank you for yoru videos , sometimes i just listen in the background while playing video games bc your voice is so loving , kind and soothing , and also the topics are somethign worthwhile to listen rather a lot of other mind numbing content that i could listen to , thank you for your work
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment! -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Wow, Anna, you really hit the nail on the head this time! Feels like yr describing my life story...: almost constant low-grade dysregulation, punctuated by periods of brilliant clarity, productivity, insight... (which, like you say, is hard, mainly in the amount of energy it takes). In those clear moments, tho, it feels easy and authentic. I'm able to be of true service to people, and they are grateful for it... Then I go back into my safe cocoon, and struggle to stay present, make healthy decisions, and get things done... etc. etc.. Ugh. Feels like I am lost ... (Yoga is my way out of the trap, when I'm smart enough to do it.)
... But anyway, it's great to feel seen! So I appreciate you even more than usual, in this moment! And as always, I'm very grateful for your honest vulnerability, brilliant insights, and humor. You are such a gift to all of us! I can't imagine what we'd do without you. Big, supportive hugs of THANKS to you, Oh Magic CC Fairy! 🌷🧡
This is the first time I hear someone explain all my problems and have them make sense to me. I have always looked for ways to do nothing. Its like a feeling of just stay calm, do not move, no sudden movements, no noises, nothing. I didn’t know what that was. It’s a way to regulate myself. I thought I was just lazy. I always felt I want to do many things, but I couldn’t get myself to do them. I was just thinking about this the other day and here is my answer. Thank you ❤
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you Anna for all of your help. It means a great deal to me that you take time to share your experiences with us and shine that light in the dark corners.
I wake up with anxiety or disregulation every morning. I've just pushed myself forward through it like an overachiever, ignoring for years this weird disregulation. It keeps getting worse. It's like an injured animal that keeps getting louder so it can get some help. I am hoping to find effective ways to calm this "bag of cats" (I love that description). I just want to calm down and think clearly when dealing with stressful situations or even on a day when nothing is wrong. What a huge gift if I could learn effective ways to just have at least one normal day per week.
I get it. I hope you'll check out our membership community. This is what we do.
Your candour is so appreciated, by me at least this very morning ❤ thank you
Oh my goodness I am so sad to hear this negativity. I really appreciate you and have directed many people to this channel. Please don't let the trolls get you down. Love and Prayers for you 💗
Thank you for your kind words :) -Calista@TeamFairy
It never occured to me that you would have to overcome worries to make the videos. I am so appreciative that you do. You do make a difference. ❤❤
Thank you for your kind words! I'm sure Anna will appreciate this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you so much, Anna. The Daily Practice has helped me so much. I have found a slight variation of it helps me most. I say the prayer in the morning before work and then, while grooming and dressing, do the Vedic meditation using the word "release." I find that 20 minutes is not enough for me, so I do 1-2 hours in the morning while doing mundane tasks. It works *without fail*. (I tried doing the lists of fears and resentments but found that my lists were the same every day.) Anyway, thank you again for this invaluable tool!❤
Anna thank you so much for being so generous in sharing your insights knowledge, experience, and useful tools. You have helped me so much in gaining a better understand ing of the origins and triggers of some unhealthy patterns in my life and following the Daily Practice and other suggestions you teach continue to help me heal and regain control and connect fully with myself..I’m so looking forward to receiving your book..God bless you for your kindness and compassion, and desire to help others. Your platform has allowed me and so many others to feel seen and understood and to regain self-compassion, forgiveness, and worth and to move forward in healthy ways. Thank you for not giving in to the haters.
Wow, thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad the channel and daily practice have been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
You have helped so much in getting my act together - at least trying. Thanks :)
You got this! We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Big hello from India!
I think this just saved my life
Hold my face every time my boss goes off...andshe seems EASILY triggered...yells & scresms...then Im dysregulated. I know... toxic. Working my exit strategy.
It sounds a lot like anxiety or panick attacks I've experienced. One of the only things that helped me in those situations was to sleep. I would try exercise, breathing exercises, medication and herbs and on and on. Sometimes the only thing that worked to reset myself was to sleep.
This was a lot for me and my head is spinning. I’ll need to watch it again and again bc I think it has all the answers I’ve needed for decades. Thank you. ❤
Wow, I'm so glad the video was helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy ♥️
It doesn't do any good to talk when noone listens.😢
I want to leave,but I can't cause the rehab center won't let me.😢 I called the social worker and told her that I feel like I would be better off to go home cause the problem keeps repeating with my roommate.
Ask for a room transfer. That roommate may be just too much to deal with on top of your own issues.
After listening to you I figured I have no choice but let her have her way cause nothing is going to change and stay tensed up.
This is such a good video. Thank you, definitely sharing it. My only suggestion is please consider adding chapters so we can come back and easily navigate the sections. 💜
I have been listening to your station for awhile and can so relate to the emotional side of things. Wanted to ask about the only thing I could think of in my past to see if it could be related to CPTSD.
Early grade school age I was tricked into sitting next to a neighbor of my grandparents on the connecting porch. He began playing with my nipples asking if it felt good. I knew it was wrong but he was an adult. When I found the chance I left. Dad noticed something was wrong and asked. Have never lied to my parents so I told him. He was out the door. Don't know what happened after that. The subject was never spoken of again. Have known people who have been through much worse. In comparison not sure if it's called tramma.
I have been through therapy. Never seemed to help. Last therapist assumed it was chemical and told me to stay very close to Jesus.
In my mid 70s now. Hoping understanding this will help with struggles now.
Appreciate your view.
Anna, I did your live daily practice today... and I'm looking forward to getting the book in October x
Yay, thank you!
True. I sweat a ton in awkward interactions. I don't see that response in most people. I know why now, it has become a neurological trigger long long ago. When as an child or as even as an adult, these huge humiliations or also near death incidents have such uncontrollable physiological responses, it can reoccur in slightly less traumatic events. It is an auto mode. I have these panic responses far less now, I assume most humiliations and near death kind interaction/event has been dealt, it still occurs though, too much over stimulation of that fight or flee circumstances make you a awkward adult.
Morning anger is bad for me
And BTW: that therapist thinks yr dangerous bc they can see that yr so much more helpful than they could ever be... so, yes, you are a dangerous threat to their narrow-minded career!
Thank You Anna, your videos are helping me understand what never made sense before. I never went to get diagnosed but what you talk about makes lots of sense.
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you, you are an angel. ❤
Thank you for your work. Your explanations have shed a great deal of valuable light on past experiences and present potential.
Great! Good luck on your healing journey!
Nika@TeamFairy
You have helped me a ton. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience with us
I'm so glad the channel has been helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
So true
I am in the strees response all day long, it seems impossible to be any other way, i just cannot regulate myself and live alone. So exhausted its hard to do anything in this state, i fear for my life and helath. How do we regulate? Ive tried breathing, stamping my feet etc but its sky high all the time. The mornings bring such doom. I am 60 now and see very little hope for any life. Just want it over. My grown up sons avoid me so i dont see them or their little ones because of the state im in. 😢
One great tool to help with getting regulated is the Daily Practice. You can learn it for free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Calista@TeamFairy
I wouldn't worry about the jerks.... We all have to deal with jerks....
That’s ME
Glad you are here!
Nika@TeamFairy
Please continue making videos
6:09 it’s such a distinctive gut feeling like “oh no here it comes” I always know I’m going to get physically ill following: headache nausea thin poop retching sinus acid reflux chronic pain for the next 2 days no food no drink horrible then a deep depression
Making mountains out of molehills.... Another unique talent of mine....
:)
I was ok until horrific things happened. Incredible horrible things to me and family. NEW TRAUMA. I am doing much much better. But i never want to go through that again.
You're so helpful. Thank you ❤
I'm so glad the video was helpful! -Calista@TeamFairy
Thank you Thank you 🙏🏻
Is it possible to know which specific 4 videos are compiled together in this one? The first 13 minutes are so are the best explanation, description, and methods I've found for what an oncoming episode is/is like and what to do about it.
I need to take your course.
You are always welcome to take any of Anna's courses: courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/
Nika@TeamFairy
I get up to do stuff and just wish i could go back home
We truly understand how difficult it can be! You're in the right place and we're all here to support you :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Thanks❣️
I am working on re regulation in therapy and in life in general...
New favourite channel ❤🎉 wow
Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy
This feels so rocky. I am nervous.
Can you do a video on minor avoidance, me not being able to text and email is literally destroying my relationships and work opportunities but I legit don't know what to do about it, I get so overwhelmed when I look at msgs that I've actually accidentally smashed screens and broken phones bc I literally throw them cuz i get so overwhelmed or I will go m.i.a for months even years and worry people even though I'm fine and just living life, but me and online communication has never worked ... idk, never heard of anyone mention it before until you said it
I feel one step forward then 2 steps back all the time....
You may like the Daily Practice. With consistent work, you will make progress on your healing journey. Here's a link to the free course, if you're interested: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
I tend to clam up when I'm hurt.
I am really amazed at how knowlegeable and articulatre u r. Iam curious to know the source bwhind yr information. I am doctor actually and i fund u very impressive
Hi, my name is X and I'm not an alcoholic. But After 41 years of c-ptsd I finaly crashed and fucked up so bad so I had to wake up. So I'm on my healing journy right now - I took your advice and went to a AA meeting, but it felt wierd sitting there not having trouble with booze. Can you adress this from your perspective and experience?
Thx.
You are. a guest in AA. But your recovery best takes place in something meant for you. You are certainly welcome in my program.
I cling ah. . . Lonliness.
We're here to support you!
Nika@TeamFairy
Anna why aren't you a therapist?
I have a unique talent for black and white thinking...
Is there any data on PTSD cPTSD being made worse after suffering a virus such as Epstein barre?
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Thank you, Anna. Your insights and your obvious kind heart have helped my sister, me, and countless others. Kudos 👏💐! 🫶
Wonderful! Thanks for sharing!
Nika@TeamFairy
Hey again anna! You and the team are so worthfull and lovely! Thank you for all the tips and tricks, info and love/kindness! Im currently dealing with rejection and doing well, allthough the thoughts of selfworth is up and down.❤im gonna stop seeing this person and keep on being strong! Sending love!