3 Messages on Dating Apps You Should NEVER Send!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ก.ย. 2022
- Lynn shows you the three worst messages on dating apps you should never send!
Lynn Matalon from The Attractive Man will show you how to message women on online dating apps like Tinder, Bumble, and more!
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Welcome to modern society where saying “hello how are you” gets you rejected immediately
You must be young. Try to look at it from the eyes of a 40 yr old who has done the same routine with hundreds of matches. The whole point of finding people online is to get to know them, not discuss the weather. So ask specific questions. Play a would you rather game. Whatever makes you exchange fun information. Don’y be boring
Well, think of it this way. Nothing screams impersonal than 100 "Hello how are you," Text messages. Texting is the most impersonal form of communication. But, when a guy approaches a woman and asks the question, there is a lot of personality loaded into that question. Body language, statue, level of confidence, tone of voice, etc. You are saying a lot more about yourself than just those words. No, an online photo/profile isn't the same.
It's been years since i used a dating app but ironically the "boring" openings always yielded the most results for me. They seemed to lead to more grounded, easy going women. This video has a "hot" woman telling you that you need to be remarkable. The thing is you only need to be remarkable to get attention from women who find themselves remarkable (because they receive loads of male attention and need to weed out the 95% quickly). There's actually women out there who can hold a normal conversation starting from a normal greeting.
Yes! This is how I feel. I use tinder, Feeld, and hinge and most of the time people will *match* with you and then ignore you when you say “hey”. The frustration comes from the catch 22 of it all: people hate small talk and also hate sexual innuendos….so what are we supposed to open with ?
As it should, it just shows you're putting 0 effort in. Irl saying how are you to a stranger shows youre putting in a good amount of effort
if you have good pictures or she attracted to you it doesnt matter
I’m just commenting on the line as being unoriginal.
It does. Looks will only get you a like. I’m a dude and I’ve matched with 10s before, but their responses were boring, so I actually ghosted them. It doesn’t matter how good looking you are, if you’re boring, you’re not getting far.
It ain’t that simple, trust me.
I get matches half of them fat whales who play way to hard to get and act like there a 10 and the other half really pretty ones never send a message so i think thier bots. The in-between girls that are 6/10 message really freaking late so im already asleep. Then they dont respond. These girls are crazy even if they think your somewhat goof looking its still hard.
hah your profile picture doesn't work for me because i have the dark mode on
WhAT'S A gIrL LiKe yOu DoInG oN BuMbLe? 🤡🤡🤡 Really? 🤣🤣🤣🤣
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I would pass over that stupid comment why is that a good suggestion?!
I saw that question from predators
"What's a girl like you doing on bumble?" That's got to be the second most common line. If you want to catch a fish don't ask a fish, you ask a fisherman.
A guy just texted me this,I don't even know how to respond 🙄
@@jeccym8715That's the equivalent of 'why are you still single?' OR 'What are you looking for here'.
Dont reply or if you want to be sarcastic just say 'is this bumble? I thought this was spotify. No Wonder I was struggling to find some tunes'
You respond by saying what you are looking for. Duh
Equating women to fish is the most red of flags I’ve seen.
@@picthis870it’s an analogy you nonce
Just tried your pick up line and got absolutely blanked 🤦♂️🤣
Her advice here is awful, it has a high failure rate. 😂
😂😂😂😂
That’s cause it’s a horrible line lol I wouldn’t respond either
Avoid dating apps unless you are really good looking if you're really good looking it doesn't matter what you send as a message
Women reject 80% of men on dating apps and only use it for attention
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder
@@freethinkingvlogi am sure you learnt this crap from a feminist
@@freethinkingvlogreally then how come , human hair sells more in western African countries than every other place in the world
If she thinks your hot she'll msg regardless
This is totally true!
Best advice is stay off the apps!
Never take a woman's advice on dating.
hahahah
True...women have NO CLUE what they want or what ticks them.
@@tiraandaz Yes they do....$$$$.
The thing is she is right but you have to be attractive first so that it works. If i write other things than how are you i still get rejected. I am not a Brad Pitt but i wouldnt say that i am too ugly to get at least a normal woman.
The best word of advice to men regarding dating apps is "Don't".
Girl here. A simple hi is fine, if she likes you she likes you lmao.
This is an authentic response from a woman. Do your other female friends think like you?
@@satvindersihra9038 well yeah, if the guy they're intersted in were to send them a simple "hi! How are you?"they would be super happy and answer him.
Even if it was a stranger that you just exchanged a couple of likes with on instagram, like if she likes your style, and thinks you're attractive, she doesn't need to be "talked into" liking you or finding you attractive😂.
You can't convince someone with a super creative one-liner that they like you lmao.
Pick up lines are just super cheesy and cringy to me, they don't seem authentic. To me it's better to just try to get to know that person normally, or to try to peak their interest by asking them their opinion about something.
Words cannot express my complete and utter disdain for this Orwellian text box social world we live in. We are literally letting suits run wild with what’s most personal to us being love and they turned it into a game to profit off the misery of some for the immense options it opens up for the few. Like my ass isn’t gonna find love or even a close friend on tinder I’ve been on it for years simply because that’s all my generation uses and it just doesn’t work for guys like me. And forget about asking in person you don’t understand the stress of needing to make moves to get ahead but also the risk involved when you have no idea what you are doing 100% of my roomates have said fuck dating women it’s not worth it at all.
These don't work if she's not attractive to you. If she's attractive to you she will message you or reply back. Women want men to approach and message them but they want the guy they like to do it.
*attracted
No one cares. How a about a date with, “The Wall.” If women don’t act right it’s no children in a family setting. …Do it all a lone.
Well umm... duh
Truth
@@TrueCrimeDime and all men shall live in truth if a women does not approach or show interest in you then leave.
Don’t use bumble if you want a good woman.
Everything she said towards men about how they communicate on dating apps,,, goes for women as well. On the rare occasion when a woman initiates a conversation (Like on the dating app bumble. where women have to initiate conversations) They either say hey, hi, or make some random statement. that is sometimes insulting. Although I’m sure they do not mean for their opening random statement or greeting to be insulting. I’m sure in someway they think they’re opening insulting statement is funny. But given as a society that we are working towards equality. I think women should initiate more conversations with men. Men that they are interested in and find attractive. It takes a lot of confidence to initiate a conversation with a perfect stranger. So I believe everyone should be willing to risk rejection. Given that we are all adults.
You are the man, you're supposed to put in effort. Unless you wanna wear a dress now.
@@DiamondsRexpensivethat’s why you’re single.
I have over 600 likes on bumble and try my best to think outside the box. I know that I’m not boring, I’ve been out of the dating scene for 18 years and have no idea what these guys are expecting me to say. I’m confused and will be deleting all dating apps this month. Ughhh take me back to the early 2000’s. I hate it here!
Get out of dating apps guys!! It is ruining men's lives!
But I want 😼
How so?
The guys she wants can say and do anything. Friends Zone set- up here.
Man can't say the opening line on Bumble.
“What’s a girl like you doing on Bumble?” Sounds like a repackaged line from an old Humphrey Bogart movie. “What’s a girl like you doing in a gin joint like this.”
What are you doing this weekend is a reasonable question and should lead to an answer that tells alot about the person. Don't be deterred from asking reasonable questions when trying to get to know someone, but also always remember your question might be reasonable and put to an unreasonable egotistical person.
I disagree. It’s another filler question that does not tell you anything about me. You can read their profile and pick on something they said or a photo. Like if they have pics of travelling, ask “what was the best part of Machu Pichul”. or if you both have kids, something like “what is the craziest thing your kid has done last week”
Never ever take a dating advice from a woman
why? if a man likes her, wouldn’t she be the best person to tell you how to impress her?
@@gladlockNo man this insecure to say this @gladlock, would want to. And @ssvensic is leaking insecurity.
I’ve been using: Have you ever eaten food you found on the ground at a bus stop? Pick me and you’ll get your chance!
Bro wtf 😂😂
Just seeing her eyes and lips makes me so calm.. thanks For the advise 😀 I know what to avoid now
🤦♀️ she said don’t 😂
Says don't be boring, but then offers the most stale boring opening line 😂
So 1# just being a polite person and starting a conversation like a respectful normal human being. "Imagine if 100 people message the same thing". Yeah, i probably say that same thing to 50 people a day in real life, and 50% of the time, it starts a conversation. On top of that, you matched with them so pick one and dont match with them if you're not interested in a respectful adult conversation
"Whats a girl like you doing on bumble??" Yea i dont think they would like that either smh lol.
So what if they get the same openers from many men. How is that even a problem? Lol smh. Were not trying to separate ourselves through a greeting or openers. Are women not able to communicate back like an actual adult?
Guys no woman is more beautiful then your freedom
A girl like them on Bumble? Answer?: Attention from men or they cant find thier handsome prince charming at clubs, work or the grocery store. Chad and Tyrone have long waiting list along with Joe Millionaire. 5% they swipe right on.
Asking the fish how to fish😂😂
Its about how good looking the person is.
Or
How rich he is.
Opening lines dont matter.
Thst is the truth .
I dont think girls also know this
Maybe good looking more than rich. If you are rich and shes there , then she’s there no attraction but your money. She manipulate you for your money and sleep with someone else.
Sometimes your looks can be helped with money. fixing your teeth, getting nice hair cut and clothes, being fit.
Also guys, fill out the entire questionnaire with correct grammar and spelling, and don't say generic, lame things like "I'll try anything once". Have some imagination, but if the app allows you to send "you-know-what pics", do NOT send those to her! Nearly all women are disgusted by this and will show their friends and laugh at you (which you would deserve)! Be funny, original and respectful to attract a quality woman 👠♀️
Ironically, when girls message me they use these same bland openers..
Unless you're 6', make seven figures, and just stepped off the cover of GQ, and are a simp. Don't use dating apps because all you'll get is 30 something women with kids, who have been run through by 100 or more guys and have nothing to offer.
I have not done any of those, but I still have not a met a single woman on those apps in person. I have been engaging enough to merit that, so it should also be considered that most of the women on them need to improve. It is definitely not always on us men.
Not anymore, that's for sure! Social media and dating apps lean heavily towards women
@@taisou108 That is certainly true. Even in person, women have it easiest, but they for some reason are more likely to give you a chance in that case. I would say that if you know the women, social media is definitely better than dating apps.
@@enlightened7master well, they're more likely to give you a chance in person because they can't swipe you away, lol. Social media has always been a good way to meet new people. If we refine our methods and improve, we can greatly benefit from it but I never said it was easy! I still struggle with it myself, but there is a way!
@@taisou108 Well, they can always say no in person just like when speaking with men on social media or dating apps. I would say it is about the fact that they get to deal with you in your entirety aside from details that they would have to spend enough time with you to learn, and if you look good enough and are able to make your request smoothly enough, you have a good chance of securing a date. I think social media is the best way to connect with someone who is a long distance away since you can more easily start out as friends with a woman and get to learn many details about her before asking her if she would like to give a relationship a chance. In that case though, you will most likely have to deal with being in a long-distance relationship for a while. As far as in-person approaches, I strongly recommend going to a non-western country. It is easier since women are more likely to be direct and give you a chance rather than playing games like way too many of those in the United States and other western countries do. I live in Florida, so I will need to make enough money to travel if I am going to go with that option, and I will have to learn the native language of the country that I go to.
hot women have the options to reject and sort through only rich, attractive men. Some of us get far fewer prospects.
I can't believe dating apps are still a thing.
They are a way to prevent you from having a relationship. It makes men depressed and women entitled.
Just send an empty message. Dating apps are all based on looks anyway, it doesnt matter what is said.
I always comment off of something from her bio. Like, if she likes the show married with children, I’ll say “girl what you know about married with children”. That’s an automatic conversation and that lets them know “wow he took the time out and read about me”.
I hate that question! (“What’s a girl like you doing on Bumble/Hinge, etc.”). That STILL is a generic question as the answers are typically the same (haven’t found ‘the one’/restarting love after breakup or divorce,etc). Let’s completely skip that opener and ask “What is one place or one activity you want to complete before you die?”
Got anymore? 👀 my convo has gotten stale.. I'm thinking about asking this. What do you think - Could you help me with something? You seem stylish 😊 I need some barstools for my kitchen counter. Can you help me find some?
Girls use these. I get messages like this all the time.
There's nothing wrong with going outside the box. However, one shouldn't change who they are just to make someone accept you.
😂ok
@@user-no1nh7ki1t Don't see what the fuck is so funny
Male commenters say : Men are hunters.
Women say: Are you going to kill & eat us?
I say: Dating (apps) is more like fishing....most of them you throw back in the water....every once in a while you catch a nice one.
Would just like it if everyone was real and didn’t wear makeup when I first met them… The next morning can be ruff!!! Gahaha
That’s right, fellas! Don’t ever introduce yourself with a simple ‘hi!’ You’d better be prepared to write a master’s thesis about why she should talk to you…
…a master’s thesis she’s likely going to ignore anyway.
And women wonder why passport bros exist.
Lmfao um the girl actually has to message first on Bumble and 9/10 times they never message or they send the most basic "Hi" opener
so then you get to ignore her for being lazy. Works both ways
You amazing lady, you're playing them well 😂 I actually got that exact line from a guy who most likely listened to your "advice". He was instantly blocked.
The worst part of this advice is that you can be a giga-Chad and literally say any of these and you'll get replies back.
I really do not expect to date any gals on an app. But I do have fun starting out with some witty comment. They'll start rambling about things 🤣. . . I then think, man! If I really did hit it off with this lady and get married, I'd be screwed 😂. I only use dating apps for simple casual chatting. Nothing disrespectful, though.
I am a gentleman 😁. . Believe it or not
It’s so funny to hear girls give advice on what to say on dating apps, then you go to bumble where the girls have to message you first, and it’s exclusively “Hi :)” lol. Maybe this is good advise, but you’ve had the dating game on easy mode your entire life and that will never change.
As a girl, if someone used that line on me I would not respond I would rather respond to the message asking how was my day
Imagine yourself, a guy, getting 100 messages a day asking the same thing. Well I would have a message copied and ready to paste to answer the 5 most common questions if that's what you're about.
lol ive never seen any woman give any opener other than "hey"
What's a girl like you doing on bumble has to be the worst opener ever
Oh you mean the EXACT type of messages that Women send on Bumble? Got it. 👍🏼
We get ignored so we gave up trying. Women don't want to put in the effort so expect generic messages.
99% of messages are the ones you showcased. I signed up on an app for 2 days and just deleted it. So many notifications it was killing my battery. Most of the message intros were the ones you mention here, and a few were different. One said “hi beautiful, I see you live in Dallas like me, I’d love to come over and sniff your gorgeous hair”. Another one said “hi, you have nice eye brows”. I got tired of responding to the vague messages and deleted my account. Even then I was STILL getting pings. I had to delete the app from my phone to make it stop! I’ll remain happily single and if I meet someone in the wild then who knows.
It's also culture specific. I'm Irish. If I asked an Irish girl on Bumble "What's a girl like you doing on Bumble" she'd tell me to f**k off. American culture and European culture is so different.
Number rule : never take dating advise from a women 🤷🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
Number 2: Stop paying for dating apps it’s is a big disadvantage for you as a guy
3) you have a better chance of getting her number if you talk to her in person than online
4)
Stop paying just to talk to girls online , simps makes its harder for other men
Update
5) very soon another lady would make a video about how men shouldn’t use the same opening sentence she just suggested. There is no point
6) No matter what message you said women are talking to the once they find most attractive
7) Saying hello isn’t the problem and do not send sexual disrespectful messages.
8) Each female gets at least 1000 likes or messages,off course it becomes a game of who can entertain me the most.
Honestly I responded to questions and comments of stuff on my profile. Like “hey I’ve been to that place, they had the best fries” as an example if i posted a place. Which also indicates they aren’t fake since they know that location. Or “where were you in that photo?” Just a conversation starter past the usual
What about girls that all say there bored and having nothing to do then you see such a shame in her think she's literally so boring what am going to do with her😮
It's called being polite
Like really being polite
my first message was 'hey just wanted to tell you that i think you're cute' and next thing i know i end up becoming best friends with that person and now i'm dating them lol
I’ll just keep my passport handy.
The best word of advice to men regarding dating apps is "Don't".
Try this one: dress nice, be attractive and have money. Otherwise, youre invisible.
Generally though, id recommend a passport.
There’s no way a girls replying to “ ___what are you doing on bumble” 😂
Im a guy and women send me "HI' all day....
the 3 intro messages that ran me off dating apps 1) "hey there" 2) "hi" 3) ♥️
The message that I received on a dating app from my wife: "hey there "
it's always what not to do instead of what you should do
I’m a guy on Match and some of the women just say as a opening message “Hi” or “Nice Profile”.
I think you ladies can take this woman’s advice as well.
That line will work great!... Except on the women who will find a reason to take offense, for some reason 😮💨
I just send a copy of my paycheck
Guys at this point just stop
If you’re a Woman on a Dating app getting 100s of matches all saying “hey” then why is it so hard to find someone? Just choose one and move on and quit using apps for validation.
Shows how much she knows.. Being direct and asking for pizza right up front, has netted me dozens of dates off the Internet. Now i avoid it all together, cause if you're not direct up front, you're getting ignored cause apparently only hos use the apps to begin with.
Idk why say "hi" is such a bad thing, thats just how conversations start, if a guy doesn't respond back to hi, hes not worth it, it takes time to get to know some one it shouldn't have to be such a rush and compeition. Real ones will respond back to "Hi"
Basically what she’s implying is don’t be normal don’t be weird just be a form of entertainment which is one sided and not fair. And I don’t think that last part is gonna help at all.
“Hi Ashley, so how many kids are we going to have?”
I would not answer to a question like that either. She or he already knows why they are on a dating site. This is what I want to hear from a guy: Hi (name), (Give a compliment or compliments). Let's get to know each other. Can we exchange numbers and talk or FaceTime before meeting? What time would you like to talk or would like to arrange a time for FaceTime? This way you don't waste each other"s time to see if you like the person or not. Show what your after, you will likely get a response.
Most girls are hesitant to give out the number after the first text. This won't work. Comes off as desperate.
This is pure genius. I had the pleasure of reading something similar, and it was sheer brilliance. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint
Looks like we're both on the same wavelength of genius! Great minds think alike, right?
😵💫 good thing I’m not on these sites anymore.
She gave 3 examples of what not to do, but only one example to do. Balance, please.
If she’s getting hundreds of messages, she not the one… no wonder why your genuine hello, how are you doing is be slanted
Of course, modern women complain about mature greeting which is why women are alone
I can't stand it when a guy asks the following:
Are you single?
What's your age city etc. literally every question he asks is answered on my date profile.
What do you do with your life? Do you work? I think that is a rude way to put it better question what don't I do in my life. As an adult we all have bills so obviously work.
Send me pics I feel if a man wants to make sure you are not a catfish why not just webcam for even a few minutes I'm not sending a bunch of pictures.
Wanna link up, when it has only been a few messages.
From a man's point of view it's like this 60% is she clean and going to smash 20% what baggage does she have 20% how needy and or cool is she in public. Because chances are I'm going to do and pay for a majority of everything. And honestly girls are the worst about reading the profile... hey you're cute... and..... no progressing past that point. A normal looking girl probably gets thirty or forty guys humping their leg daily. A good looking guy who isn't fd up might get a few bites a week for the first couple months. Then his profile is circulated and he's old news. I date more from people I meet in person anyway. This $hit is just a joke social experiment for me now. I like to ask how to clean blood out of carpets... Is there a cure for herpes... How many babies daddies do you currently possess... Just to entertain myself and see what crazy responses I get 😅
From experience, you can write a great message, give them plenty to talk about. Part of the problem is women are dry and dull on dating apps.
I always advise these young men to steer clear of these Apps.
the world is changing and people are not meeting in person anymore. Even in places where people used to meet for hookcups (like clubs) people are glued to their phones and nobody dances anymore
If a girl get 100 similar messages -> RUN
Your last statement, I’m in 19 conversations in 4 days. I hope I’m subscribed to your channel.
Who says we have to differentiate ourselves? Many girls is not a differentiating factor. Some women responding is what differentiate women.
what are you supposed to say, the first thing you should say and it is the normal etiquette
is Hi. You just have to accept that you will have to restart with a Hi when it's a new person. Too much coding going on when life could be more simple.
Bumble makes me laugh. It lets women message first. Because you’re tired of guys not having anything to say. And you know what they message me.? “Hey” 😂😂😂
It's always something a lot of the women on there complain about receiving themselves. It's either "Hiii, hi, hey, heyyy....or my favorite....crickets
Don’t give a general greeting so what do you do then send a pic of SpongeBob playing the clarinets
i’d want to talk to someone if they sent that.
You can't message first as a guy on bumble lol. You're "whats a girl like you doing on bumble" don't work unless she messages first
If a guy messages me with a "hi" and I'm interested then he gets a "hi" back. Effort for effort. I'm not going to say, "oh hi, darling, how is your day? So nice to chat with you." Bla bla bla
And that’s what I feel I have to do when chatting
I don't know if I should do thumbs up or thumbs down WOMEN ARE TOO GOOD TO TALK TO IN A NORMAL CONVERSATION !!?!??
I just saw Ur post, thank U. I appreciate it 👌🏻
Narcissism is wild
And also what's wrong with a normal greeting? That's the entitlement nowadays, we don't know each other. A general greeting is how you'd greet someone in person anyway? Women do better.
That is so lame .
Exactly a 100 messages, that is why I am not there
Much needed and much appreciated awareness and knowledge is key. Even though this is Costan Rican channel glad you discussed other Latin American countries as well. Thank you AFA. Cheers 🥂
BS just be attractive , you stand out