When you still a single you would be asked when to get married. When you are married, people will be asked when you will have the children. When you have a children, people will ask when will you give your child a siblings, and go on ... And go on...
kamoboko86 that’s a great suggestion. Most would probably be divorced by now. Getting married at an early age in today’s Japanese society is a recipe for disaster.
I live in Nagoya Japan. And I know 5 couples who I watched get married right out of college, and 6 years later have kids and are doing better than most people I see who got married late.
@@RebelianAngie being in that decade myself. i can tell you that its not about the wrinkles, you can have those, but its whether you look haggard and worn out. This is where the difference is.
Haha depends on who is looking. People at the airport or at my university, generally western establishments, usually assume I’m around 14-16. Like even when I wear makeup. On the other hand when I visit Asian restaurants or visit Asian countries they’ve always assumed I’m of drinking age even back when I was 15-17.
Married means a lot of things, this is not a word to show to all people your social state, this is Love, friendship, compromise, relationship is not money all about or sexual desires.
im a japanese woman and as soon as i turned 23, people around me started asking me if i wanna get married soon. i already was dating my husband back then and i got married when i was 24 but almost EVERYONE asked me if I'm married or not... when i saw my dad's friend, or my relatives,, the first thing they said was " hello, nice to meet you, how old are you? ah ok are you married?" ....seriously I'm not even joking. lol this is what all japanese women have to go thru lol no wonder why all japanese women feel pressured to get married lol if people around us KEEP asking the same questions like almost everyday. there are many women nowadays thats been in quite higher positions at their work so getting married is not becoming a "must do" comparing like 15years ago but still, those pressure isn't completely gone.
@@SuperAvocadoo no i didn't lol i didn't get married out of pressure like i said i was already engaged when i was 24 when i started being asked by people if I'm getting married or not so no, i was lucky enough not to feel such pressures about getting married. but now, people ask me if i don't want kids or not lololol
It's that Asian obsession to look young. Like what these women said, men tend to choose women that's younger. They might be in there late 30s or 40s, they still would like to take care of themselves to look much younger than their age.
tarin tarin no lol, genetics. Their skin is thicker than the skin of westerners. You can’t do anything against YOUR genetics expect using spf(impoooortant guys,up to 80% of skin ageing is due to sun exposure)
There is nothing wrong being married early or late. It is all about a purpose of your life, definition of happiness, etc. If you want to start a family, and create memories of being in family, getting married is great no matter what age you are, but if you just want to keep yourself independent then marriage isn't for you
but you can be independant while being married, the word you are looking for is autonomy. women shouldn't have to comprise either while being married. It is time y'all chill a bit
The thing is you don't really need marriage in the first place just to be with the person for lifetime. Relationship is about being together not about contract. What's the point of marriage if you can just divorce later on. Also age matters when it comes to building a family. You can't build a family with an old infertile women and that's a fact.
@@craiver00I agree. What’s the point in getting married for the first time if you’re already reaching an age where you’re considered old? I’m not insulting anybody deciding to marrying at a later point in their lives, but there’s still a limit even to that. And starting a family in a later time in life is not something to be taken lightly. For one thing, fertility in both men and women starts declining rapidly, and they won’t have the same amount of energy to take care of children as when they’re younger. If I were to have suddenly found a “true love” by the time I reach my fifties, I would never think of going through with marriage, let alone having children for the first time. It would be pointless. If I knew I would be heading that direction, then I’m better off living single for the rest of my life, and not have to ever worry about marriage.
There's no exact age to marry. You marry when you're ready and mature enough to really understand, support, love wife/husband. Being married is way more than sexual desires.
and here I am in a place where teenagers are getting married or have many childrens at their young age while me.. 29 years old still single, no bf and don't have any plan yet to get one. Lol I'm still enjoying watching anime😍❤
Dont worry too much. Enjoy ur life to the fullest. My friend married at 41, n she has 2 children. If it meant to be, it will come. Just follow the flow.
Hahahha definitely me too. I spent 4,5 years with my girlfriend. At age 24 we broke up, a month after we talk about plan for getting married. Now age 27, singleplayer man. Damn, younger girl are crazy hard to be conquered. I think, the problem are women, men always looking for women. Women looking for money and getting famous.
@@xinjinbun It's a big competition between women who can get the "best" guy... Being perfectly happy with someone "adequate" is not enough - woman only truly feels that she found "the right one" when other women are envious of her choice...
I hope Asian Boss follows up with a male video about the same topic. I’m sure the men feel pressure to make enough money to support a family in this expensive, consumeristic, patriarchal country.
When marriage should be about "unconditional love" but both genders struggles with the conditions of opposite gender's qualifications. Men wants youthful and fertile women. Women wants capable and financial stable men.
TheDxbrown the real underlying issue here is that women lose their value at a certain age. men can get married even when they get older up til their 50s. women's value, according to patriarchal society, is tied to childbearing and beauty. so basically either u are fuckable or u make children but u are never a whole person. patriarchy is alive and well bc it is a system that in most cases and across many situations favors men. this is why women's opinions are important on issues like marriage. comments like yours contribute to seeing street interviews likw thia as negative. even when women speak out, they tend to be ignored or even demonized. if u care about dismantling patriarchy u should educate ys on the issue with real literature, form an opinion, then speak. support japanese women when they have a chance to say what they think
Venus I’m not being negative. I want to know both sides of the story because I live in Japan and I’m super interested in the reason they’re having all these social issues. I don’t care about “dismantling patriarchy” because that’s not the cure for the problems in Japan. The men here are already emasculated enough. I just wanted to hear how the Japanese men feel about this subject. I can almost guarantee that the majority of men who would have been interviewed would say that it’s easier to not get married because they don’t want to have to make more money to take care of a family. Japan is very expensive, and having a family here is a stressor that neither women nor men want to deal with. Thoughts?
OK, I being a Medical Student knows Most Reproductive Phase in Women's is From 18- 36 , my Answer was Related IN Term Of Responsibility..if ur Not Responsible, Working by 35 then Getting Settled in Family is Not Possible. I meant Like that
I just turned 30 and am single and my family is definitely pressuring me to get married and have kids. My aunt told me I’m “running out of time” it stresses me out tbh
she'll call you left over next time. you should broaden your horizons, there are different flavors out there and you should know whether you like salad or sausage on the side from time to time.
Hah, finding the right partner is the best choice. It doesn't matter how much you feel pressured, it's better than having a miserable partner. Besides, I'm pretty superstitious you'll find someone suited for you. All you have to do is believe cause sometimes it did happen.
It's none of their business. I'm also 30 and being bombarded with this kind of pressure BTW. It's my marriage and my happiness that's at stake, not theirs. I especially hate it when someone who constantly complains about their husband asks me this. 😂
It's not only in Japan it happens to every countries. There will always be people who would put pressure on you about marriage, I just hope these kind people would just stop and mind their own business. Not all people should get married. What's important is your happiness.
LOL my husband and I were 28 and 27 when we got married and everyone tried to talk us out of it, because „we are too young.“ lol. 🤣 Seems that Austrians think quite different about marriage.
it might be because they wanted to make sure you were all settled down before marriage or they felt anxious that you were getting married and they werent yet
Diet, their food is otherwise healthy Skincare products Not stressing is part of it but genetics would probably have to be more of the case here since Japan is stressful with the work hours they have. Oh and smiling alot Dint know if they do this but sunscreen lotion and I mean a lot
I’ve been living in Japan over 4 years now and dating a Japanese girl too, and from my experience Japanese men are always reluctant, don’t wanna take responsibility, and enjoy the moment without saving up or planning to marry someone. They always say it’s too early until they realize it’s too late. One more factor is both men and women cheat which ruins the relationship and lose faith in one another . They’ve the mentality which is kinda ok to play/ cheat or do whatever until marriage but they don’t realize that mentality keeps them away from marriage.
Gustavo Fussieger de Lima you are kid love can solve the problem boy Marriage need money man need money woman need money in order to make their own life sustainable And that’s the reason poor village make more young gangs than middle class Cuz their parents are tired of their life and can’t give their kids the full education and attention Sustaining middle class is very important this in korea and japan That’s also the reason we avoid the marriage
@@user-fd3ip5ff6z respect my 30 years old. Don't call me a kid. Anyway, If people wants to find happiness, they must marry based on love, not money. Love and money are very different things. Im talking about love and people who marry the people they wanna spend their life with cause of their feelings. I feel pitty for those who marry thiking about money. They might have their pockets full, but their hearts are empty.
I want to marry before 40 lol I'm 26 and I feel too young to marry my partner tbh, you shouldn't rush steps. I prefer having a well done house before just putting a ring on my finger and let my relationship grow . Also, I'm already a mother of a 6 year old girl. So, there is no rush at all. And ending a career and working.
I don't think there should be a certain "age" to get married. You either do it or you don't. A lot of women these days, including in Japan, are not getting married, instead choosing to have a career and stay single. And that's fine. People should be able to decide what they want to do without being pressured.
I don't know the exact reason for not wanting to marry. Is it because they're shy or do they look for a perfect man/woman?. I'm not sure why some because ladies stay single even until their 40s
Well in some countries Parents make their own child's decision,Which is a crap and feels pressurised. If u want to have a family,Then having a marriage before 40's are good.
@Akhnai SEAcel They know what is right and what is wrong. It's their culture on it. We must accept,What they think is correct from their perspective 🤷🏻♂️ In a country like india, It is fully opposite.
Well I guess you could get married, it's having kids that becomes the problem. If she had to support herself too then you would save money living together.
I am 22 years old and I have really bad anxiety about this topic. In my culture you should get married after university, which is around 24-27. Since my parents have been strict with me when it comes to boys and only made me focus on my studies, I have NO clue how I will meet a guy let alone get married 😭 I don't hang out with guys, I don't know where to meet them and I'm can't even speak to them because I'm so awkward..... SO how is this going to work out. I'm extremely stressed about this.
I feel like it's important for us all to realise that marriage if a choice not a requirement of life. If you don't want to get married, that's valid, if you want to get married that's valid too. If you want to get married but don't in your life that's valid, and completely okay too. Live your life, how you want to, not what the world attempts to mould and confine you too; and live your life well! ^^
It is not about that. Human body one day started to have pain and can't endure anymore fit. We know we can't count on other people (friends) as we were in younger days, because our peers started to get married and have other priorities(kids) and left us out. Basically, we as human just need connection, since we are biologically repgrogrammed to survive if you are living in a group compare when you are alone. If we are left out, then subconsciously we might want to search the connection to other human being, by marriage (having partner and having kids). Plus, woman has biological time when they reach certain age might be too dangerous to have baby. Social Connection is basic human needs. If you are the only one left out due to your peers already married, you must be also want to be like them, since they started to rarely hangout with you and prioritize their kids. When they are older, they won't have energy to spend outside since they are taken care by their grown-up children. They will have social Contact with their children and grandchildren. I mean, no human can live alone up to 80 years without other human connection. Even research shows lonely people who lack social connection die faster death than heart attack. Plus, it is impossible to drag your body by yourself to hospital when you already very old. Not many countries provide perfect elderly care. Because family has our trust, nurse is complete stranger, paid by us to take care of us, while family is pure love. This is why I re-think whether I need marriage or stay single. Both choices has their own consequences. However, I do believe living with other human and babies gives our life's meaning that we are needed and our social needs are fulfilled. As humans, we often followed what is the most dominated values in our society since we are afraid of the consequences we had to endure (being left, critized, ignored, etc). I even re-think marriage cause I live in a country where family-oriented is more dominant rather than happy meaningful single life like America. Even a TH-camr in my country must move to US due to her choosing child-free, not only because of negative stigma, but also she wants to feel connected to other people's in America since most people live child-free. Similar values increase our chance of survival with other human's being instead of just being alone and isolated since you live in country with dominant family-oriented society. (if you never marry your whole life). It is just my perspective. We may want to life free forever, but sad, social consequences pushes us to do something we are even unhappy about,due to our fear of consequences of being left out. We had no choice. We just want to survive.
@@angelsub9184 brother i may sound rude bt our Asian women don't want marriage so it's better left those women who don't care about marriage nd bat an eye fr those who love marriage nd families. Second where you live i mean which country, i am from Asian nd as Asian women we need to lots of things than men in marriage so it's better we just avoid this options forever
The girl in the white shirt seems very wise, and had good parents because she said that parents care if they're children get married because they are worried for them.
The "Christmas Cake" term is just downright sexist. If Japanese women nowadays don't want to get married then don't judge them. Getting married and having kids isn't the only way a woman can be happy. And after I learned how normal it is for Japanese men to cheat on their wives and would like it if women act as defenseless, spineless airheads who will depend on them 100% to boost their ego (thanks to the toxic Kawaii culture), I can't blame them for not wanting to settle down. Women these days want men who treat them as equals, but with the misogyny reeking in Japanese society, a kind of man like that is a rarity.
So ok here a list of why this is happening 1. Women want to be more independent. 2. They need schooling to be more independent and don't want a relationship because it would be distracting. 3. They become independent at around 23-25 then don't want a man yet because they do not want to be a housewife and they wan their own income. 4. They realize they do want kids at 28-35 but at that age most men think they are old and will not date them. 5. They end up having no relationship skills and live single till they grow old.
It doesn't really bother me if a lady I hook up with is in their 20's or 30's and isn't married. At the end of the day, it's all about the emotional and physical attraction between the two parties.
My parents were also married young like at 24 and my mom had my oldest sister around 19/20 but now that years go on people are more focused on school and getting a good career and job. It all really depends when you find your true love too
It's interesting how every woman in this video has a lot of friends who are married, yet you couldn't find any of them on the street. I would've loved to hear an opinion from the married women's perspective too.
Thank you Asian boss for this great topic... It's related to me so much... This issue is not only in Asia it's in Middle East too.... In every nation as I see
Marriage is important for societal reasons, but I feel like it's not for everyone. But really the thing that is more concerning is the child birth rate declining in Japan (for example). You don't technically have to get married and then have kids. You can have kids, and then later have the formal ceremony or just get the marriage authenticated without the elaborate event & save a ton of money and time. I really don't think it's any of your work place's business asking if you're going to get married or assume that because you're single you have more time.
I also get that pressure. I'm 28 years old and people around me start asking me (well, they asked me since I'm 26 though). But to get married, I'm more consider about the financial issue. I don't want to feel pressure about financial issue after i get married 😊
I'm of 28 and I'm Pakistani also not married yet...people around me like my relatives and neighbours think that i have spent my whole life and now there is no hope for me ...
Do ask the same questions to indian women too. Here the pressure starts once you complete your UG degree. That's the biggest challenge for most of the women who are 20+ here. Do ask women of different regions of india.because it varies from place to place.
I know an older lady, in her 70s, had four children, and three of them don't even contact her and one of them...SHE avoids. Having a large family doesn't always mean those children will come and help you out. It all depends on their relationship with their parent and it depends on what happens to the children throughout their lives.
@@angelsub9184 that's why we see many old age in Asia too sis it's truth nowadays Asian kids going us fr job nd study so when they settle there, they rarely visit their old parents 😢 really feel bad fr those parents some parents just die in house
Let's be honest, marriage is a nuisance and lame lmao. I Love Myself, why should we live for other people instead of living to our fullest and for ourself alone? Marriage is a tradition, and outdated one.
I think people getting marriage and having kids mixed up tbh. People are in a rush to pop kids..marriage is finding someone to share the rest of your life with. The fact divorce rates are at an all time high shows, pressuring people to marry before a certain date - you pick the wrong person
It's not about the age! It's not about the number. People should marry when they find true love, when they find the right person for themselves. Marriage is a way of showing that two people choose to spend rest of their life together and possibly create their own family with having children. A lot of people have these days kids with multiple partners. And don't marry. But my opinion is chose one person for life and look after eachother. Don't cheat or lie to eachother. Create a safe home for your children and raise them with good morals and values. Two people marry and stay together until they die. Sounds maybe old fashioned. But in the end of the day that's what is a stable environment for a child. Mother, father and children. People who plan to cheat should not get married at all. Marriage should be seen as something sacred. It's special. Not as a burden. People should find someone who truely loves them and not have some picky unrealistic expectations. I think those who are most picky usually are the most retarded once with unrealistic expectations. It's about to marry someone whom you can trust fully. Who will be there for you always. In western marriages they say in sickness and in health! I feel like Japanese men want very young looking immortal women while women want rich man. It's all so superficial and no wonder so many cheat there and live miserable life's. They marry for wrong reasons. Marry for love and not for society expectations! However love is not only what you say but also what you do. Treat your partner right!
Are they going to make a follow up video asking, "What's the ideal age for men to get married in Japan?" Don't think so. Thanks for keeping sexism alive and well, Asian Boss.
It would be very interesting to make a video in Taiwan about this topic too. It's the one of the lowest birth rate, highest women position and first same-sex marriage legalization country in Asia.
Amusingly, as a man at 35, I get asked some of the questions too haha. I would say both genders do face similar constrains, unfortunately. I think people gotta change in how they should not try to 'boss' others lives based on their own beliefs and perspectives.
I like these countries but why Asian boss always focused and make more videos about S.Korea, Japan, Indonesia ( although questions are almost similar), China, India and Philippines compared with other Asian countries? It would be great if they start approaching those countries too
It's no one else's business if you want to be married or not and when. It's not their life! By the way, "Konkatsu" is a good drama, you guys should watch it! 👍
Meanwhile in our country, high school students have the nerves to say "my wife" / "my husband" to their boyfriend or girlfriend and get pregnant at an early age.
Most of them are virgin too I’m here since 2014 ,I’ve lots of Japanese friends ,they doesn’t want get married cause it’s too costly and boring they says
I am a filipina who's turning 29 and I am not seeing anyone nor plan on seeing someone soon. I think in any culture, women suffer more pressure when it comes to settling down. Biologically speaking, it's the root of the elders' anxiousness. But in my perspective, seeing someone whom you'll connect with and be financially prepared is rare these days. Women today are not fit for being just housewives. They can bring the bacon home, too. So i guess that's one more reason why many women struggle to get married these days.
8:21 - 9:31 Exactly!!! And not just telling women what to do or think. Japan's entire society is about telling others what to do and think, so much that they suffocate one another all for the sake of sameness and supposedly harmony, but in reality it makes everyone apathetic and miserable.
It's funny how in most Asian countries people think that you are too old to get married around age 30 . Here in India , those typical Aunties would say that you are a left out piece if you don't get married by 30 .
@@riorio745 Most people I know who got married after their thirties aren't able to concieve a child or their children have health problems. Also there is a reason after 35 every pregnancy considered pregnancy at risk and have to do more check ups then younger mothers.
I think, more than a cultural tradition, getting married at a determined age is important for women because there's a biological clock, the doctors say that by 30's woman's bodies go through changes that can led to difficulties in getting pregnant, and giving birth. So definitely we (women) if we decide to have a family, we have to plan for it, many women leave this to end, because of work or other issues, but in the end they have many problems in having children, nature can't wait people.
My mom got me with 39 and I'm totaly fine. My one cousine get here daughter with 35 and she is fine, too. Yeah, there are risks, but our medical care is better now.
@@Nabila-dx8xf No, I was the secound. But my Brother was born as my motger was still around 20. So there is a really big timegap. And I have friends who are the first and a college with her first child with 40.
@@Nabila-dx8xf @Nori Sushi, I'm talking about the probabilities of risks gets higher as the older you get, it's not about medicine, it's not the same to have a baby at 39 than having one at 29, your bones, your skin, your body in general it's way more different, just because everyone does it now days doesn't mean it's okay, and yes there will be many women that do it but doctors always recommend to have babies until 35(and after that age go to a medical check before getting pregnant to view any circumstances), cause beyond that the probabilities of difficulties during pregnancy gets higher, it's not medical care, it's about biological nature, the older you get, the less eggs your body products, that can lead to early infertility in some women, also there is a genetic predisposition and factors like diabetes, high pressure, preeclampsia etc and adding a pregnancy after 35 it's like playing with your baby's life and yours, this is basic biology what did they teach you in school?
In Russia, the age of marriage for women ranges from 20-25, for men 25-30 on average. Students finish their studies by the age of 21. It often happens that girls in their last years of university studies already walk with stomachs. Grandparents deal with children, so there are no particular problems. It also gives experience even to young people, but to adult parents. Suppose my parents had known each other for 5 years before marriage - therefore they are strangers to each other. It is also common.
@@leisiyox Well this is just statistics. Here people are often in a relationship, but they can also marry at any age with the will of their children. We are not talking about divorces. They are there too.
er.. they very much look their age to me. i know you are trying to compliment but most of the lasses, their demeanour and soul indicates they are comfortably in their 30s . no amount of chemical pealing can hide that
another thing is that in Japan it`s still common for people to live at their parents` house untill they get married. It`s very rare for couples to start living together before marriage. Then you get a lot of people who are dating for years, never living together, then move together after getting married and suddenly finding out they can`t stand living together, so they get divorced quickly. Asian Boss- you should ask Japanese people about living with their parents
I'm closer to 30 now and I'm afraid too because i still didnt find someone to get marry with me. My parents and collagues start to push me and asking question "when" and "why". Sometimes i feel tired.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 Who are you to tell wether other people will regret it or not. Getting married and having kids isn't the ideal life for people anymore. Its boring.
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 I am married and have children and I am perfectly content with my life like this. But it's not for everyone! Let everyone decide how they want to live their lives.
6:49 It's true what she's saying No If I see a woman above the 30 I would have thought in my head" she's already married and someone else has her bro ? The older you get the more wrinkles you get aslo 👴👵 so it's probably it's better to marry while you have your youthfulness 🥰👍💯 No I know my English it's that good and I hope you understand it 🥰👍 No offense to anyone Btw I love everyone
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Me: "she must be around 27."
Japanese woman: "I'm 44."
Me: .....
She never appeared in the interview afterwards tho...weird
The woman at 2:55 where she said she as 30 kinda looks 40 tho...
*pikachu surprise face*
@Sunflower Shine note taken. Matcha on my shopping list!
@@umishiori I dont think 40, but it's bc she's the tall too thin type, round firm faces = youth.
bruh they do not look their age at all 😭
@@thebaroqueromantic3407 too much western food causing too much glycation end product in the body
Asian dont raisin
That's why Japanese have highest life span in the world.
😂
Whenever they told their age, I was like, "Ehhhhhhh??????" XD
In India---"when u make money", is the ideal condition.
😂😂😂😂 true...naukari lagi ab to shaadi pakki..
True😂😂
@all is secret bro, r u also from Drishti coaching??
@@arvindgupta8749 no
That is a great answer!
When you still a single you would be asked when to get married. When you are married, people will be asked when you will have the children. When you have a children, people will ask when will you give your child a siblings, and go on ... And go on...
Right. The only thing they don't ask is "When are you going to die?"
People always ask those, but deep inside they don't actually care. They're just like to interfere with other people's life.
Humans are just animals and we have to suppress the urge to breed. Choose Antinalism.
I'm pretty sure staying single is worse than have more than one child.
When you realized you're living for other's expectations not for yourself.
I can only hope I look as young as that 44 year old woman when I'm that age lol..
Same lol
Don't get married 😂
You need to re take this video with the point of view of Japanese who got married in their early 20s
kamoboko86 that’s a great suggestion. Most would probably be divorced by now. Getting married at an early age in today’s Japanese society is a recipe for disaster.
I agree
@@TheDxbrown i wonder what is the common reason that happen in Japanese view?
I live in Nagoya Japan. And I know 5 couples who I watched get married right out of college, and 6 years later have kids and are doing better than most people I see who got married late.
kamoboko86 that’s awesome! What year did these couples get married?
More than marriage age I wonder about how would I look in my thirties , I want to age gracefully lol .
me too
but what does that even mean...
@@ScarlettKriss i guess to not look old and wrinkled in 30s lol
That's next year for me. 😭 Well, everybody in JK party is in their 30s, and they all look fabulous!
@@RebelianAngie being in that decade myself. i can tell you that its not about the wrinkles, you can have those, but its whether you look haggard and worn out. This is where the difference is.
They look younger than their actual age.
They look old and ugly.
@@runswimplayball at leats their soul not ugly as yours
asian don't raisin
maybe because they don't stress about husbands and kids haha
Papi Coii Japanese are East Asians so..yeah
Her: I’m 44
Me (A 20 year old Asian girl): Whaaaaaaaaaaaat?!
Me here 20
genetic won't be lie.
you probably look like 12 xD
wow i luv ur picture
Haha depends on who is looking.
People at the airport or at my university, generally western establishments, usually assume I’m around 14-16. Like even when I wear makeup.
On the other hand when I visit Asian restaurants or visit Asian countries they’ve always assumed I’m of drinking age even back when I was 15-17.
Asian parents in a nutshell:
0yo - university: no dating! >:(
@uni graduation date: so, when are you getting married?
lol!
True.
I'm curious what Japanese men's thoughts are about this 🤔
I'd like to know that as well.
It goes either way I think. Japanese men also felt pressure by this but probably with different concerns.
I think Japanese men's feel more relieved in terms of perfect age of getting married
No time to think trivial thoughts. Japanese men are working!
I think that Japanese women want to get married before 30, whereas Japanese men want to be free till 30
Married means a lot of things, this is not a word to show to all people your social state, this is Love, friendship, compromise, relationship is not money all about or sexual desires.
David German Duck Not in Japan
not in asia
Marriage is a social construct
In East Asia marriage is still viewed primary as the union of two families. Yes, love is important but not as much as in the Western countries...
You don't understand those cultures, marriage is about wealth and position there.
im a japanese woman and as soon as i turned 23, people around me started asking me if i wanna get married soon. i already was dating my husband back then and i got married when i was 24 but almost EVERYONE asked me if I'm married or not...
when i saw my dad's friend, or my relatives,, the first thing they said was " hello, nice to meet you, how old are you? ah ok are you married?" ....seriously I'm not even joking. lol
this is what all japanese women have to go thru lol
no wonder why all japanese women feel pressured to get married lol if people around us KEEP asking the same questions like almost everyday.
there are many women nowadays thats been in quite higher positions at their work so getting married is not becoming a "must do" comparing like 15years ago but still, those pressure isn't completely gone.
So you ended up marrying out of pressure... I hope you're happy with that
@@SuperAvocadoo no i didn't lol i didn't get married out of pressure like i said i was already engaged when i was 24 when i started being asked by people if I'm getting married or not so no, i was lucky enough not to feel such pressures about getting married.
but now, people ask me if i don't want kids or not lololol
Sadly, this happen in my country too. As woman, I have biological time.
@@angelsub9184 sis which country
I'm 21 & I've decided to remain single forever..
Anyone else want to join single league..??🤓
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@CPA Potato Lol
@CPA Potato are you from Alabama
@Hm? Ok.I want to be single forever I just don't wanna get married.
The first and 2nd girl doesn't look like their age. Eventhough I'm Asian myself I still get shocked 😂😂
It's that Asian obsession to look young. Like what these women said, men tend to choose women that's younger. They might be in there late 30s or 40s, they still would like to take care of themselves to look much younger than their age.
@Chí Phèo nguyễn both
@@PuffOfSmoke I think all women obsess with looking younger. No?
@tarin tarin not really..
tarin tarin no lol, genetics. Their skin is thicker than the skin of westerners.
You can’t do anything against YOUR genetics expect using spf(impoooortant guys,up to 80% of skin ageing is due to sun exposure)
There is nothing wrong being married early or late. It is all about a purpose of your life, definition of happiness, etc. If you want to start a family, and create memories of being in family, getting married is great no matter what age you are, but if you just want to keep yourself independent then marriage isn't for you
but you can be independant while being married, the word you are looking for is autonomy. women shouldn't have to comprise either while being married. It is time y'all chill a bit
The thing is you don't really need marriage in the first place just to be with the person for lifetime. Relationship is about being together not about contract. What's the point of marriage if you can just divorce later on. Also age matters when it comes to building a family. You can't build a family with an old infertile women and that's a fact.
And what is a happiness for Japanese????? Because in 3 years living in Japan I didn’t find a happy person!
@@Myriel67were they grumpy? Maybe overworked 😅
@@craiver00I agree. What’s the point in getting married for the first time if you’re already reaching an age where you’re considered old?
I’m not insulting anybody deciding to marrying at a later point in their lives, but there’s still a limit even to that.
And starting a family in a later time in life is not something to be taken lightly. For one thing, fertility in both men and women starts declining rapidly, and they won’t have the same amount of energy to take care of children as when they’re younger.
If I were to have suddenly found a “true love” by the time I reach my fifties, I would never think of going through with marriage, let alone having children for the first time. It would be pointless.
If I knew I would be heading that direction, then I’m better off living single for the rest of my life, and not have to ever worry about marriage.
There's no exact age to marry. You marry when you're ready and mature enough to really understand, support, love wife/husband. Being married is way more than sexual desires.
But there is an age where putting off marriage has diminishing returns.
There is if having children will be involved. In that case, the earlier the better.
@@chrishudson9525 "the earlier the better"??? Please do not have children
That's not what other people think. The real point is can you handle the pressure from others around you.
you can be mature and decide not to get married, but ok.
and here I am in a place where teenagers are getting married or have many childrens at their young age while me.. 29 years old still single, no bf and don't have any plan yet to get one. Lol
I'm still enjoying watching anime😍❤
I am 28 and still not married too..where are you from..
@@Nabila-dx8xf suave
@@ryanryan4223 what is that
You go girl
@@Nabila-dx8xf Philippines🇵🇭
When I was 15 yo, I wish I could marry before I reach 23. Now I'm 25 and single, I wish I would die before I reach 40.
holy rice i thought I’ll marry at 25, now im 27 n single af
Hahaha...i swear you're not dying anywhere even close to 40
Dont worry too much. Enjoy ur life to the fullest. My friend married at 41, n she has 2 children. If it meant to be, it will come. Just follow the flow.
Hahahha definitely me too. I spent 4,5 years with my girlfriend. At age 24 we broke up, a month after we talk about plan for getting married. Now age 27, singleplayer man. Damn, younger girl are crazy hard to be conquered. I think, the problem are women, men always looking for women. Women looking for money and getting famous.
@@xinjinbun It's a big competition between women who can get the "best" guy... Being perfectly happy with someone "adequate" is not enough - woman only truly feels that she found "the right one" when other women are envious of her choice...
I hope Asian Boss follows up with a male video about the same topic. I’m sure the men feel pressure to make enough money to support a family in this expensive, consumeristic, patriarchal country.
Aggree. I think men also get presured you know, expecially in patriachal country.
They should, but I won't be surprised if it doesn't happen.
When marriage should be about "unconditional love" but both genders struggles with the conditions of opposite gender's qualifications. Men wants youthful and fertile women. Women wants capable and financial stable men.
TheDxbrown the real underlying issue here is that women lose their value at a certain age. men can get married even when they get older up til their 50s. women's value, according to patriarchal society, is tied to childbearing and beauty. so basically either u are fuckable or u make children but u are never a whole person. patriarchy is alive and well bc it is a system that in most cases and across many situations favors men. this is why women's opinions are important on issues like marriage. comments like yours contribute to seeing street interviews likw thia as negative. even when women speak out, they tend to be ignored or even demonized. if u care about dismantling patriarchy u should educate ys on the issue with real literature, form an opinion, then speak. support japanese women when they have a chance to say what they think
Venus I’m not being negative. I want to know both sides of the story because I live in Japan and I’m super interested in the reason they’re having all these social issues. I don’t care about “dismantling patriarchy” because that’s not the cure for the problems in Japan. The men here are already emasculated enough. I just wanted to hear how the Japanese men feel about this subject. I can almost guarantee that the majority of men who would have been interviewed would say that it’s easier to not get married because they don’t want to have to make more money to take care of a family. Japan is very expensive, and having a family here is a stressor that neither women nor men want to deal with. Thoughts?
Their skincare method must me out of this world. They look very young for their age👍
their legendary bukkake skin care therapy
Even their food
Its very healthy
@@danarthur771 tf dude xD
Chí Phèo nguyễn and they don’t sunbathe as much as western people.
@@Riccurdo ditto....asians hates the sun unlike most westeners
Get Married when You are Ready for it...
Agreed. It never ends well when people rush into marriage, which is [supposed to be] a life long commitment...
@@fetchstixRHD Yup. It's way worse to end up divorced.
Ok, but let's be honest there is a universal concern: menopause.
That's where social pressure really comes from.
Delusional, women's most fertile years are 18-22, it is slow slope from there, till they hit 30 its rapid down hill
OK, I being a Medical Student knows Most Reproductive Phase in Women's is From 18- 36 , my Answer was Related IN Term Of Responsibility..if ur Not Responsible, Working by 35 then Getting Settled in Family is Not Possible. I meant Like that
"If you're over 25, you're an unsold cake"...I never thought the word "cake" could sound like such a deep insult.
Non Asian women: 80 years and resting in bed
Asian women: over 100 years and making family secret recipes
I just turned 30 and am single and my family is definitely pressuring me to get married and have kids. My aunt told me I’m “running out of time” it stresses me out tbh
she'll call you left over next time. you should broaden your horizons, there are different flavors out there and you should know whether you like salad or sausage on the side from time to time.
Lechiffresix six are you drunk?
Hah, finding the right partner is the best choice. It doesn't matter how much you feel pressured, it's better than having a miserable partner. Besides, I'm pretty superstitious you'll find someone suited for you. All you have to do is believe cause sometimes it did happen.
It's none of their business. I'm also 30 and being bombarded with this kind of pressure BTW. It's my marriage and my happiness that's at stake, not theirs. I especially hate it when someone who constantly complains about their husband asks me this. 😂
The problem is finding a good partner
It's not only in Japan it happens to every countries. There will always be people who would put pressure on you about marriage, I just hope these kind people would just stop and mind their own business. Not all people should get married. What's important is your happiness.
LOL my husband and I were 28 and 27 when we got married and everyone tried to talk us out of it, because „we are too young.“ lol. 🤣 Seems that Austrians think quite different about marriage.
it might be because they wanted to make sure you were all settled down before marriage or they felt anxious that you were getting married and they werent yet
Interview Japanese parents also to get their views on their children's marriage.
I can't get how come they look so young and beautiful in their 30's. I hope they all have a great life.
Diet, their food is otherwise healthy
Skincare products
Not stressing is part of it but genetics would probably have to be more of the case here since Japan is stressful with the work hours they have. Oh and smiling alot
Dint know if they do this but sunscreen lotion and I mean a lot
I’ve been living in Japan over 4 years now and dating a Japanese girl too, and from my experience Japanese men are always reluctant, don’t wanna take responsibility, and enjoy the moment without saving up or planning to marry someone. They always say it’s too early until they realize it’s too late. One more factor is both men and women cheat which ruins the relationship and lose faith in one another . They’ve the mentality which is kinda ok to play/ cheat or do whatever until marriage but they don’t realize that mentality keeps them away from marriage.
well said
What's your job? Is it IT related?
@@angelsub9184 I’m still studying and moved out of Japan at the end of 2019
It depends when she falls in love.
Gustavo Fussieger de Lima you are kid love can solve the problem boy
Marriage need money man need money woman need money in order to make their own life sustainable
And that’s the reason poor village make more young gangs than middle class
Cuz their parents are tired of their life and can’t give their kids the full education and attention
Sustaining middle class is very important this in korea and japan
That’s also the reason we avoid the marriage
@@user-fd3ip5ff6z respect my 30 years old. Don't call me a kid. Anyway,
If people wants to find happiness, they must marry based on love, not money. Love and money are very different things. Im talking about love and people who marry the people they wanna spend their life with cause of their feelings. I feel pitty for those who marry thiking about money. They might have their pockets full, but their hearts are empty.
I want to marry before 40 lol I'm 26 and I feel too young to marry my partner tbh, you shouldn't rush steps.
I prefer having a well done house before just putting a ring on my finger and let my relationship grow . Also, I'm already a mother of a 6 year old girl. So, there is no rush at all.
And ending a career and working.
Tania Sugimura I hope you doing great sis! 💙💙💙
Tania Sugimura, I love you... Love from Indonesia...
I feel like having a child would interfere more with your career than being married
Too late to get married? Marriage isn’t just about babies. Fall crazy in love and do it,👍🏽
I don't think there should be a certain "age" to get married. You either do it or you don't. A lot of women these days, including in Japan, are not getting married, instead choosing to have a career and stay single. And that's fine. People should be able to decide what they want to do without being pressured.
For women who want their own biological children, age cannot be ignored.
I don't know the exact reason for not wanting to marry. Is it because they're shy or do they look for a perfect man/woman?. I'm not sure why some because ladies stay single even until their 40s
@@arvinsim egg harvested early, then implant at leasure. We have technology.
Well in some countries
Parents make their own child's decision,Which is a crap and feels pressurised.
If u want to have a family,Then having a marriage before 40's are good.
@Akhnai SEAcel They know what is right and what is wrong.
It's their culture on it.
We must accept,What they think is correct from their perspective 🤷🏻♂️
In a country like india,
It is fully opposite.
26 and I barely able to pay rent and my student loan. How am I supposed to get married LMAOOOOOO
Well I guess you could get married, it's having kids that becomes the problem. If she had to support herself too then you would save money living together.
You don't need an extravagant wedding
"Iam 44"
NANI!!!!!😱😱
Age of getting married doesn't matter I feel meet the right person is most importantly
I am 22 years old and I have really bad anxiety about this topic. In my culture you should get married after university, which is around 24-27. Since my parents have been strict with me when it comes to boys and only made me focus on my studies, I have NO clue how I will meet a guy let alone get married 😭 I don't hang out with guys, I don't know where to meet them and I'm can't even speak to them because I'm so awkward..... SO how is this going to work out. I'm extremely stressed about this.
I feel like it's important for us all to realise that marriage if a choice not a requirement of life. If you don't want to get married, that's valid, if you want to get married that's valid too. If you want to get married but don't in your life that's valid, and completely okay too. Live your life, how you want to, not what the world attempts to mould and confine you too; and live your life well! ^^
kuro exactly!
You nailed it:)
It is not about that. Human body one day started to have pain and can't endure anymore fit. We know we can't count on other people (friends) as we were in younger days, because our peers started to get married and have other priorities(kids) and left us out. Basically, we as human just need connection, since we are biologically repgrogrammed to survive if you are living in a group compare when you are alone. If we are left out, then subconsciously we might want to search the connection to other human being, by marriage (having partner and having kids). Plus, woman has biological time when they reach certain age might be too dangerous to have baby.
Social Connection is basic human needs. If you are the only one left out due to your peers already married, you must be also want to be like them, since they started to rarely hangout with you and prioritize their kids. When they are older, they won't have energy to spend outside since they are taken care by their grown-up children. They will have social Contact with their children and grandchildren. I mean, no human can live alone up to 80 years without other human connection. Even research shows lonely people who lack social connection die faster death than heart attack. Plus, it is impossible to drag your body by yourself to hospital when you already very old. Not many countries provide perfect elderly care. Because family has our trust, nurse is complete stranger, paid by us to take care of us, while family is pure love.
This is why I re-think whether I need marriage or stay single. Both choices has their own consequences. However, I do believe living with other human and babies gives our life's meaning that we are needed and our social needs are fulfilled.
As humans, we often followed what is the most dominated values in our society since we are afraid of the consequences we had to endure (being left, critized, ignored, etc). I even re-think marriage cause I live in a country where family-oriented is more dominant rather than happy meaningful single life like America. Even a TH-camr in my country must move to US due to her choosing child-free, not only because of negative stigma, but also she wants to feel connected to other people's in America since most people live child-free. Similar values increase our chance of survival with other human's being instead of just being alone and isolated since you live in country with dominant family-oriented society. (if you never marry your whole life).
It is just my perspective. We may want to life free forever, but sad, social consequences pushes us to do something we are even unhappy about,due to our fear of consequences of being left out. We had no choice. We just want to survive.
@@angelsub9184 brother i may sound rude bt our Asian women don't want marriage so it's better left those women who don't care about marriage nd bat an eye fr those who love marriage nd families. Second where you live i mean which country, i am from Asian nd as Asian women we need to lots of things than men in marriage so it's better we just avoid this options forever
Europe in the medieval age *"I'm now 13 can I get married ?"*
“These opinions don’t reflect... the general Indonesian population”
Haha I should think not??
I wonder what the heck with the description
In indonesian is both though, both men and women. Since marital sex is frown upon.
😂
The girl in the white shirt seems very wise, and had good parents because she said that parents care if they're children get married because they are worried for them.
The "Christmas Cake" term is just downright sexist. If Japanese women nowadays don't want to get married then don't judge them. Getting married and having kids isn't the only way a woman can be happy. And after I learned how normal it is for Japanese men to cheat on their wives and would like it if women act as defenseless, spineless airheads who will depend on them 100% to boost their ego (thanks to the toxic Kawaii culture), I can't blame them for not wanting to settle down. Women these days want men who treat them as equals, but with the misogyny reeking in Japanese society, a kind of man like that is a rarity.
Do the male version of this in Japan before Korea
I'm asian, 26 years old and my family and friends think I'm an OLD MAID.😭
54 here... Never wanted to be Married.. So far it's working... get tougher when i get to be older... I'm prepared.
So ok here a list of why this is happening
1. Women want to be more independent.
2. They need schooling to be more independent and don't want a relationship because it would be distracting.
3. They become independent at around 23-25 then don't want a man yet because they do not want to be a housewife and they wan their own income.
4. They realize they do want kids at 28-35 but at that age most men think they are old and will not date them.
5. They end up having no relationship skills and live single till they grow old.
maybe men should change there thinking, too. Womans aren't to old with 28. Not even with 32.
@@kupferspan4407 I agree, it's just that Japanese men unrealistic standards when it comes to age and personality.
@@MrJetFormation Yeah, but the japanese mens aren't the only ones. But I'm happy that some men change there mind and think in a more modern way
@@kupferspan4407 Well I'm willing to date a 28-34 y/o Japanese chick. But I'm sure they aren't gonna be willing to date me.
@@MrJetFormation wow..are you saying that 28 is really old to get date and married..I am 28 years old now
It doesn't really bother me if a lady I hook up with is in their 20's or 30's and isn't married. At the end of the day, it's all about the emotional and physical attraction between the two parties.
Dude just thinking about marriage it stresses me out, and I'm not even in my 20s!!!!, like... no thx I'll pass on that one.
It's not only WOMEN, MEN get pressured tooo!
Man, I got married at age 19 and have been married for 19 years. These women would probably think I’m crazy. 😂
i think you are crazy but what do i know LUL
Those were simpler times. Nowadays, the dating and marriage world is a mess
Zhin Null Very true. I married my high school sweetheart, but that was becoming more rare even then, let alone today.
My parents were also married young like at 24 and my mom had my oldest sister around 19/20 but now that years go on people are more focused on school and getting a good career and job. It all really depends when you find your true love too
Lol my mom gave birth to me at 19 I think you are fine 🤗
For me I don't want to get married hahahaha
Lol same
omg i thought im the only one
Lol me too
Same
Same
I hate that women have to choose between marriage and career. Why can’t they do both?
2:15 my man Hideo Kojima casually walking
lmaoo he does look like him
Lmfao
i was the unsold Christmas cake, i am very sad (T_T)....
As asian im shook damn i looked old at 25
It's interesting how every woman in this video has a lot of friends who are married, yet you couldn't find any of them on the street. I would've loved to hear an opinion from the married women's perspective too.
because they are married to plastic dolls.
Thank you Asian boss for this great topic... It's related to me so much... This issue is not only in Asia it's in Middle East too.... In every nation as I see
Marriage is important for societal reasons, but I feel like it's not for everyone.
But really the thing that is more concerning is the child birth rate declining in Japan (for example).
You don't technically have to get married and then have kids. You can have kids, and then later have the formal ceremony or just get the marriage authenticated without the elaborate event & save a ton of money and time.
I really don't think it's any of your work place's business asking if you're going to get married or assume that because you're single you have more time.
I also get that pressure. I'm 28 years old and people around me start asking me (well, they asked me since I'm 26 though). But to get married, I'm more consider about the financial issue. I don't want to feel pressure about financial issue after i get married 😊
yup..me too..same age with me..and I really feel the pressure to get married..I am 28 too..
I'm of 28 and I'm Pakistani also not married yet...people around me like my relatives and neighbours think that i have spent my whole life and now there is no hope for me ...
Do ask the same questions to indian women too. Here the pressure starts once you complete your UG degree. That's the biggest challenge for most of the women who are 20+ here.
Do ask women of different regions of india.because it varies from place to place.
I know an older lady, in her 70s, had four children, and three of them don't even contact her and one of them...SHE avoids. Having a large family doesn't always mean those children will come and help you out. It all depends on their relationship with their parent and it depends on what happens to the children throughout their lives.
She avoids? The old lady avoid her child or the child avoid the old lady?
@@angelsub9184 that's why we see many old age in Asia too sis it's truth nowadays Asian kids going us fr job nd study so when they settle there, they rarely visit their old parents 😢 really feel bad fr those parents some parents just die in house
Let's be honest, marriage is a nuisance and lame lmao. I Love Myself, why should we live for other people instead of living to our fullest and for ourself alone? Marriage is a tradition, and outdated one.
Marriage is natural
Tazboy Most of them are forced upon, and were done out of lust
@@ZERO_ULTRA 100% agreed
I think people getting marriage and having kids mixed up tbh. People are in a rush to pop kids..marriage is finding someone to share the rest of your life with. The fact divorce rates are at an all time high shows, pressuring people to marry before a certain date - you pick the wrong person
Okay??
some of these comments are disappointing but not surprising lmao
It's not about the age! It's not about the number.
People should marry when they find true love, when they find the right person for themselves.
Marriage is a way of showing that two people choose to spend rest of their life together and possibly create their own family with having children.
A lot of people have these days kids with multiple partners.
And don't marry.
But my opinion is chose one person for life and look after eachother. Don't cheat or lie to eachother.
Create a safe home for your children and raise them with good morals and values.
Two people marry and stay together until they die. Sounds maybe old fashioned.
But in the end of the day that's what is a stable environment for a child. Mother, father and children.
People who plan to cheat should not get married at all.
Marriage should be seen as something sacred. It's special.
Not as a burden.
People should find someone who truely loves them and not have some picky unrealistic expectations.
I think those who are most picky usually are the most retarded once with unrealistic expectations.
It's about to marry someone whom you can trust fully.
Who will be there for you always.
In western marriages they say in sickness and in health!
I feel like Japanese men want very young looking immortal women while women want rich man.
It's all so superficial and no wonder so many cheat there and live miserable life's.
They marry for wrong reasons.
Marry for love and not for society expectations!
However love is not only what you say but also what you do. Treat your partner right!
Are they going to make a follow up video asking, "What's the ideal age for men to get married in Japan?"
Don't think so. Thanks for keeping sexism alive and well, Asian Boss.
While in France most of the people don't marry nowdays
Massive low birth rate is a problem in Japan, but also in South Korea as well.
idk but I always see so many kids/babies there
Don't have worry about that in America, Black and Hispanic women having 6 or 7 kids.
Shaderite Matobit actually worse in korea
Send Chinese or indians to increase population btw I am joking
It would be very interesting to make a video in Taiwan about this topic too. It's the one of the lowest birth rate, highest women position and first same-sex marriage legalization country in Asia.
Great Video, please do the male version
Ahh Christmas cake tastes good any day
🤐
Amusingly, as a man at 35, I get asked some of the questions too haha. I would say both genders do face similar constrains, unfortunately. I think people gotta change in how they should not try to 'boss' others lives based on their own beliefs and perspectives.
Even Though I'm half Japanese I'm still surprised on how young these people look I-
Same
I like these countries but why Asian boss always focused and make more videos about S.Korea, Japan, Indonesia ( although questions are almost similar), China, India and Philippines compared with other Asian countries? It would be great if they start approaching those countries too
It's no one else's business if you want to be married or not and when. It's not their life!
By the way, "Konkatsu" is a good drama, you guys should watch it! 👍
partiallyhydrogen8ed okay
Meanwhile in our country, high school students have the nerves to say "my wife" / "my husband" to their boyfriend or girlfriend and get pregnant at an early age.
Goldee 15 lol🤣😂
are you from +62
Let me guess? PH? Hahaha
Are you from +62 country?😂
Why dont ask same question to hiroko.
Do you dare to ask?
If you ain't no punk holler "We want prenup!"
Ayy Kanye bars!
i think the idea age to get married is whenever you get married.
I would add "and have properly considered it and know what you're getting into", but otherwise yeah.
Agreed
結婚＝幸せって固定観念は良くないと思います。人ぞれぞれの生き方があるし
Girl: *I’m 44*
Me: *I thought you were 24*
Which girl ? In what minute she says that? Please answer me
Most of them are virgin too
I’m here since 2014 ,I’ve lots of Japanese friends ,they doesn’t want get married cause it’s too costly and boring they says
I am a filipina who's turning 29 and I am not seeing anyone nor plan on seeing someone soon. I think in any culture, women suffer more pressure when it comes to settling down. Biologically speaking, it's the root of the elders' anxiousness. But in my perspective, seeing someone whom you'll connect with and be financially prepared is rare these days. Women today are not fit for being just housewives. They can bring the bacon home, too. So i guess that's one more reason why many women struggle to get married these days.
I like this topic so much coz im in my early 30s now and not married
8:21 - 9:31 Exactly!!! And not just telling women what to do or think. Japan's entire society is about telling others what to do and think, so much that they suffocate one another all for the sake of sameness and supposedly harmony, but in reality it makes everyone apathetic and miserable.
It's funny how in most Asian countries people think that you are too old to get married around age 30 . Here in India , those typical Aunties would say that you are a left out piece if you don't get married by 30 .
To be fair, fertility drops massively past age 30.
@@riorio745 Most people I know who got married after their thirties aren't able to concieve a child or their children have health problems.
Also there is a reason after 35 every pregnancy considered pregnancy at risk and have to do more check ups then younger mothers.
Wow and I'm barely 20 and my mom's like start preparing to get married 😶
so many beautiful single women but i'm like 8 thousand kms away :(
37 is ideal age for marriage
37 wtf
More like 32
I think, more than a cultural tradition, getting married at a determined age is important for women because there's a biological clock, the doctors say that by 30's woman's bodies go through changes that can led to difficulties in getting pregnant, and giving birth. So definitely we (women) if we decide to have a family, we have to plan for it, many women leave this to end, because of work or other issues, but in the end they have many problems in having children, nature can't wait people.
I dont think so..a lot of women married in their 30s can have kids..I am 28 and still not married..still struggling to find love
My mom got me with 39 and I'm totaly fine. My one cousine get here daughter with 35 and she is fine, too. Yeah, there are risks, but our medical care is better now.
@@kupferspan4407 are you the first child..to have first child at 39 is quite dangerous..but meghan markle have first baby at 38
@@Nabila-dx8xf No, I was the secound. But my Brother was born as my motger was still around 20. So there is a really big timegap. And I have friends who are the first and a college with her first child with 40.
@@Nabila-dx8xf @Nori Sushi, I'm talking about the probabilities of risks gets higher as the older you get, it's not about medicine, it's not the same to have a baby at 39 than having one at 29, your bones, your skin, your body in general it's way more different, just because everyone does it now days doesn't mean it's okay, and yes there will be many women that do it but doctors always recommend to have babies until 35(and after that age go to a medical check before getting pregnant to view any circumstances), cause beyond that the probabilities of difficulties during pregnancy gets higher, it's not medical care, it's about biological nature, the older you get, the less eggs your body products, that can lead to early infertility in some women, also there is a genetic predisposition and factors like diabetes, high pressure, preeclampsia etc and adding a pregnancy after 35 it's like playing with your baby's life and yours, this is basic biology what did they teach you in school?
In Russia, the age of marriage for women ranges from 20-25, for men 25-30 on average. Students finish their studies by the age of 21. It often happens that girls in their last years of university studies already walk with stomachs. Grandparents deal with children, so there are no particular problems. It also gives experience even to young people, but to adult parents.
Suppose my parents had known each other for 5 years before marriage - therefore they are strangers to each other. It is also common.
That's in western Russia?
@@leisiyox in east too. Only
north nations can have different traditions
@@anetamew Women here marry with 30+ yo, are preassured to do so and dont want to do it
It's amazing how conservative are the Russian ppl still
@@leisiyox Well this is just statistics. Here people are often in a relationship, but they can also marry at any age with the will of their children. We are not talking about divorces. They are there too.
@@leisiyox in Rusia?
4:05-4:10 Hiroko turns into a Pacman
😂😂
I paused the video around that time and LMAO
Japanese women are so beautifull
Most of them look much younger than their age, no wonder Japanese have highest life span in the world!
er.. they very much look their age to me. i know you are trying to compliment but most of the lasses, their demeanour and soul indicates they are comfortably in their 30s . no amount of chemical pealing can hide that
another thing is that in Japan it`s still common for people to live at their parents` house untill they get married. It`s very rare for couples to start living together before marriage. Then you get a lot of people who are dating for years, never living together, then move together after getting married and suddenly finding out they can`t stand living together, so they get divorced quickly.
Asian Boss- you should ask Japanese people about living with their parents
I'm closer to 30 now and I'm afraid too because i still didnt find someone to get marry with me. My parents and collagues start to push me and asking question "when" and "why". Sometimes i feel tired.
how old are you now..I am also close to 30 and didnt have someone yet..I feel scared right now..I am already 28
There is so many other things to do in life that finding a husband and having children is just not that appealing of a path
you gonna regret your lifestyle later, dont say you havent been warned
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 Who are you to tell wether other people will regret it or not. Getting married and having kids isn't the ideal life for people anymore. Its boring.
Agreed
Lol look at the bible t humper. Asia is different from America. Go overpopulate America with 10 kids. Leave Asia alone!
@@taketheblackpillneo3940 I am married and have children and I am perfectly content with my life like this.
But it's not for everyone! Let everyone decide how they want to live their lives.
6:49
It's true what she's saying
No
If I see a woman above the 30 I would have thought in my head" she's already married and someone else has her bro ?
The older you get the more wrinkles you get aslo 👴👵 so it's probably it's better to marry while you have your youthfulness 🥰👍💯
No I know my English it's that good and I hope you understand it 🥰👍
No offense to anyone
Btw I love everyone
The no wasn't supposed to be there LOL 😂🤣😭👍