10 Ways to Impress Your Vietnamese In-Laws | Vietnamese Culture | AMWF
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- You asked for it and here it is! These are my top 10 tips for impressing your Vietnamese in-laws or family members.
I'm not an expert but I'm pretty sure that if you follow some of these they will help you to bond with your new family. This video if for anyone who is like me and has married into a Vietnamese family and doesn't know what to expect or how to prepare. If anyone has any additional tips, please leave them below in the comments. I hope this is helpful! xoxo
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This is so impressive. As a Vietnamese, I can say all your tips are correct. They sound weird in other cultures but they are communication basic rules that everyone in Vietnam does to always show respect to other people. Seeing your efforts to become a very nice daughter-in-law reminds me to care more about my parents-in-law and make them more happy. Thank you!
I am honored to be able to learn and practice these cultural practices. Vietnamese culture is really lovely. :)
WOW, the dinner table is a minefield. Kudos to you for taking these traditions seriously and making a lasting impression on the in-laws. I'm going to forward this vlog to all my grown kids families for instruction on how to treat Grandpa ( me ).
hahaha you're so funny, John. Glad you enjoyed the video! :)
But I'm surviving.. or better yet, thriving!! :D
1. Learn to speak Vietnamese
2. Greet people with the correct
pronouns
3. Show your concern and care for the family, ask how grandparents doing
4. Always greet people when you’re coming and going
5. Learn polite words “da” and “vang”, it means yes
6. Never say no, “khong”, add polite words to no “khong a” or “da khong”
7. Invite others to eat first, people sit down together for meals, invite the elders to eat first “I invite you to eat rice” “chao moi ong ba anh com” and use the correct pronouns.
8. Always use two hands to pass an object, or pass with an object with one hand on the other other
9. If you are a woman always serve the right, always do two scoops, one scoop is for the dead due to superstitions
10. Be yourself
Thanks for writing the summary!
I'm a french girl beginning to learn vietnamese too (my boyfriend and his family are Vietnam natives), and I liked your video very much ! It's funny because the way you pronounce "Da" for yes I guessed your family-in-law is from the North ^^. Mine is from the South and they pronounce it differently XD. Vietnamese is a hard language but we will do our best ! ;)
It is so hard but I feel like with all languages there comes a time when everything suddenly “clicks” and then it becomes easier! I think French is hard with all the verb conjugations!! Haha that’s why I stopped studying French after 5 years and switched to Chinese 😂😂
@@AudreyNguyenVlogs Aw you're so kind responding me! 😀 You're right I always forget that French is considered as a difficult langage but indeed it is quite hard to learn.... I must admit I feel proud to be able to speak it ☺. It would be such a victory the day I will be capable to discuss with my in-laws in their native language 😇. I am trying hard 😉. So you can speak chinese too ? 🤓 I am watching some others of your videos and I really like your content.... I think you have a new subscriber from France not far from Paris 😄
if you go to marriage please do vlogs like her, Vietnamese people will support🤗
@@aliciawii8227 everything is on good way , bae ?
I’m so impressed and absolutely enjoyed this Audrey! You always blow me away with your progress and how much effort you put into learning the culture, and I adore you so much for it I want to give you a big hug. Always have confidence Audrey because your kickin’ it!
Haha you surprised me for a second with the thumbnail because I thought “how are you in Vietnam already!” 😂 Love you~ 😍
Thank you so much, Cathy! It's fun for me to share this information because I have found so much passion in learning about Vietnamese culture. It really has become a part of who I am!
Soooooon!! We fly out in ONE MONTH FROM TODAY!!!!!
I love that you are so thorough, and you learned from the right source!
Glad I can share the info with others! :)
I’m impressed. Everything you said is true and pronunciation is on point. Kudos!
Thank you! I love sharing what I’ve learned!
Wow, I am impressed! Your points are all just spotted on, that tell me a lot about you and your family in law in the positive way! Respect! I am going to share your video on my Facebook to my kids in law!
Dawn, you're getting good at Vietnamese language and culture
Thank you, Van Hoang!! 😊😊😊
As a native Vietnamese, I have to confirmed that all your tips is 100% true to what I growing up with in a Vietnamese family.
Thank you!
Great video! I think it is supper helpful.
I'm amazed at how good your accent is and how well you speak it. It almost sounds like it's your native language.
omg wow thank you!! I will keep learning and maybe I can be fluent. I want my kids to speak Vietnamese so that's why I want to learn as much as possible so I can be a good role model to them and can help them learn it.
Yoohooo, been waiting for this video. Im starting slowly in learning these things. Especially the language. First i start to listen to their music. Thats how i learned korean language. Thanks Audrey
You're welcome, Anne! So glad that you enjoyed this video! I also made this blog post for this video if you want to print it out:
www.audreynguyenstory.com/blog/10-ways-to-impress-your-vietnamese-in-laws
Exactly! You are so smart and quick learning person. that's all the way making you to become a good daughter in law. Wish your family all the best!
Thank you, Trung Hoang!! 😊😊😊
I'm super impressed. I've been married to Vietnamese women for 20 years with two kids. I've been to Vietnam a few times and have lived with my wife’s parents in Long Thanh. Regardless if you can speak the language, ultimately it's about showing respect. When marrying someone from a different culture it's all about imersing yourself into their culture. I don t speak the language we'll, but I always made a point to show respect to my inlaws. Having cafe’ with the parents in the morning. Helping dad with a bath and feeding him during the day....If you are an American, take your family morals and respect of elders back to the 1950’s.
Thank you so much! Of course I didn't learn all of this overnight but I have a good motivation to learn so it makes it easier. :)
Hi Audrey, it is nice to meet you, especially in-person. I am a Vietnamese American living in Chicago, Illinois, USA. My parents came from Vietnam and I was born to speak Vietnamese. Vietnamese was my first native language before I learned how to speak English and English was really hard for me, but after years went by, I’ve gotten so much better at speaking English. It took me years to learn how to speak 2 languages. You’re doing better at learning to speak Vietnamese, keep on trying and don’t give up. I am proud of you for your hard work and I am glad to know that you love to travel a lot.
Aww thank you so much! How old are you? Your English seems pretty perfect to me now! :D I'm so glad you enjoy my videos. We will be going to Vietnam very soon so I am excited to share more videos speaking Vietnamese when we go back!
Thanks for the refreshing course Audrey! I grew up here so I've lost a lot of those polite habits when I interact with my parents' friends and my parents always correct me about it .
I cracked up so hard when you said : " an mit say khong" and I was eating mit say at the time , lol.
haha wow that's a funny coincidence! lol I'm glad you liked the video! I enjoy sharing what I know with others even though I'm not born there and not an expert.. just trying my best!
Audrey Nguyen Your effort is admirable!
Thanks for saying that! :)
Very interesting. You did a very good job explaining. 😉
You've impressed me in many ways!
Glad to hear that! :)
Amazing Audrey!
Thank you!
Yes , AUDREY is the best
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Great video, Audrey! I never could learn the social order/hierarchy thing so I gave up. I just became that rude kid. LOL! But it's so awesome how you were able to learn all of it and break it down for those of us whom struggled our whole life with the various pronouns.
Haha thank you so much! I love being able to share this info with people who are interested to know more about the culture! It wasn't easy for me to learn all this but I'm happy I made the effort. It's paid off.
Great pronunciation. Keep up the videos!
Thank you!! We will be going to Vietnam in 2 weeks and I can't wait to share those videos with you! :)
This video was so informative to me. I now wish that I was more well prepared when they came to visit us. I was so out of my element and felt like the interaction could have been so much better. I may never know the language but now understand how things could have gone more smoothly. Lol P.S. Your hair seems to be growing at some crazy rapid rate. Love ya. See you soon. ❤️
Hahah omg I guess I should have given you a crash course before they came over! I know it's a lot to know and it obviously took me years to learn everything that I shared in this video (plus more that I didn't get to). But I'm also sure that they understand that you don't know Vietnamese culture as an American so they wouldn't be too upset by you not knowing lol.
My hair is getting sooooo long and I love it but I also want to cut it but then again I don't!! hahaha I am taking a vitamin which has biotin in it so probably that's why! :D
You did a great job! What you learned from Huy family is northern standards. I feel so related because I marries into a northern family too. It took me a while to get used to all of these. It is not even easy for a southern Vietnamese like me. 🤣
I have to stop sleeping to wake up for clicking like on this video!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Your husband is lucky!
Brains and beauty... Some Huy’s just gets ‘em all
All of these are corrects im impressed
I’m glad you enjoyed ☺️
Very good video, Minh Anh.
I so loved this one and you sound pretty fluent to me
Thank you Scotty!! I hope to become fluent someday! :)) I will keep practicing. Might post another vlog in Vietnamese soon, or I might just wait until the trip and speak Vietnamese in those videos. :) Coming soon!
Audrey Nguyen , can do both if you have time to ? I promise I want mind 😂
It’s awesome. You make me surprised when I hear about vietnamese culture from your thought.
Thanks, glad you enjoy watching
To be honest, even as a Vietnamese who was born here and all, your accent and mannerism are super.
Im viet and everything you're saying is so true! Im in a amwf relationship as well and i hope my relationship is as strong as yours!
I hope so too! You just need to have true love and understanding for both cultures. Plus, communication! Good luck!!
Gentle, elegant and soft- spoken : these are Vietnamese gold standards for a girl ( not to mention the long straight hair and light skin) I’m born and raised Vietnamese but I can hardly have these straits. No wonder you married to a Viet 🥰
Do you have curly hair??? haha just wondering.
Audrey Nguyen I have straight hair but I layered it too much it’s become curvy.
I’m stubborn and sometimes act like a boy, that’s the thing I meant I don’t have.
Holy shiat! Your pronunciation is perfect
😉They will put you on the pedestal if you give them a grandson (cháu nội trai) soon! 😆
lol oh yes, I know. I'm actually going to be posting a video about this soon.
Yes, have to keep the family name going. :)
The tip to giving rice is coolllllll 😂😂😂
hehe glad you liked it
Wow you are getting very good at this. I bet Huy family love and respect you very much.
Also, for the older to show their love and care for you they will always ask “have you eat yet?” (con ăn chưa?) whenever you come visit them or if they have not seen you for awhile. During the meal, they will try to give you all the good things (the one that they consider good or expensive). It’s their way of showing the care and love for you. This will be awkward for you because it might not be something that you like to eat, however out of respect you should accept it and secretly tell your husband to get it from you if you don’t like it. Anyway love your videos and tell Huy he is a lucky guy. Hopefully he can learn more American culture to show his love to you, especially on your birthday. Lol.
OMG ALWAYS!! I hate lobster and his dad gave me the claw meat of his lobster to show his love! I was like nooooooo hahahaha. I think I will make a video about this because it's an interesting topic that many people don't know about in America!
Would LOVE to see this. Thank You. You're young and Awesome!!!
Very good! Huy must love you a lot a lot..
He sure does! :D
Good Vietnamese, sound natural vietnamese
Wow thank you~!!
You know what? I'm Vietnamese. And I watch your videos to learn English. I like your small family.
Thank you so much!
I'm meeting my girlfriend's family for the first time in a couple months. This is going to be quite useful, especially since it seems that the dinner table (well, eating in general) has a lot of customs
His family is sooo proper lols good luck
hahaha yeah but it's fine
As a Vietnamese I find this adorable :)
Thank you, +Viet Nam Nguyen!! 😊😊😊
when you say "con đi mẹ" you should say "con đi nha mẹ" or "con đi đây ạ" because "con đi mẹ" sometime easily misunderstood into swear line
Lol interesting. Huy always says "con đi mẹ" so I learned it from him.
@@AudreyNguyenVlogs yeah well :))) Vietnamese language have tones so...it's confuse sometime if you're not fully understand the language :))))
Great video! Your accent is very good.
Thank you!!
I like you. You are a good woman who has good education, warm heart, ... I shared your videos on my Facebook. Because i hope every one can learn good things from you.
Thanks for sharing!! That means a lot! Hope you have a wonderful day! :)
It would be nice to communicate with a goddess like you 😇😇
Coming and going greetings are straight out of Wisconsin😂
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Thank you help English and Viet nam show more thank you again
No problem! :)
Hello Audrey! I really enjoyed this video! You're so right about all the formality. It was so important to us when we were little. It's funny - is Huy from the North? some of the words sound like it. That's why vietnamese is so hard to learn for foreigner lol, all the words to show family trees, and then there is northern and southern words. My American wife has a lot to learn hahah
Wow!! Your subscribers are going up FAST!!! hahaha and thank you! I'm glad you liked it! Yes, they are from the north but are now living in the south. So when I speak Vietnamese I speak with a mixed accent because at home they use the northern accent but when we go out in Saigon everyone is using the southern accent so I now have a mostly northern but sometimes hybrid accent. :D haha
@@AudreyNguyenVlogs haha yeah ive been very happy with the growth. I hope to continue to grow. I saw that you passed a big milestone here recently, congrats! I wanted to enter but then forgot :( I hope to be up there with you one day!
your accent is very good and you have a very good grasp on the language structure. I admire you for that. I know that's hard work
I love Vietnam n your videos
Excellent
Thank you, Ben!
Thanks you!
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Does anyone know where to buy DVDs like the show Friends/The Office/Parks and Rec/any shows where they are speaking vietnamese with English subs?
I'm not sure, could be useful!
Nice video
Thanks!!
Wow..wow..wow..! You’re are amazing. You know everything but your husband family from the north Việt Nam that’s why little complicated. Anyway you are super good wife to learn all of that !!!
Thank you so much, Martin! It wasn’t easy but worth it! I feel like I am Vietnamese now 🤣
HAVE BABIES = #1 way to impress your in-laws LOLOL
Just kidding. These tips are great and you explain them so well! My family is from the south and I grew up in Australia and you even explained some things that we took for granted as kids but now I understand why we do them that way. Thank you. :)
Hahahaha TRUE!!!! I’m glad you enjoyed this video! You can tell I’m quite passionate about the subject 🤣
Hello Good Evening, I know I’m a year late watching this video, I’m Mexican/American my Fiancé is Vietnamese/American and I am trying to learn Vietnamese. I have a question For the tea ceremony do we give our in law’s gifts?
Hi Audrey,
I wonder if you feel stressful of folowing the Vietnamese culture sometimes? These are strict rules that many families try to get rid of in the Southern of the country. Even I don't invite every single person to eat often (I live in the middle). However, " dạ, vâng, ạ" are definitely important to add into your sentences to show your respect, or people will judge you.
Anyway, I appreciate that you really put effort into showing respect to the culture, and great video as always ❤
Hi Vin, for me it was hard in the beginning and of course it can be stressful at times, but for the most part I feel honored to be a part of such a wonderful culture. :)
I think so easy for me with American mother in law :) anyway you are so sweet,i think your mother in law must proud of you a lot
I think she likes me. :) hahaha
Thank you when are you going to Vietnam
We are leaving in a month. :)) But the videos will not come on my channel until the end of May since I will need time to spend with my family and won't be able to edit much.
Like that you learn a lot culture Viet nam you became viet nam 100%
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omg, so complex but you are super sweet!
nghe sao thân quen quá. nghe bạn nói sao mà dễ thương quá. love you
You love mr huy by heart
Of course!
Can you make a video about Vietnamese coffee?
I have a few: th-cam.com/video/Xp86o80JyfQ/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/video/_BBlhIJHm8U/w-d-xo.html
Vui quá
Hi Audrey, your recommendation is amazing good for none Vietnamese daughter in law to learn a new culture and adapt to the family. However, the majority of Vietnamese American do not apply the 10-basic rule within the household today. Personally, believe that you’re in law put you on a pedestal now. They will give you everything you wanted you to give them a grandson in a few years
I don't want to be rude, but why is everyone always talking about a grandson? What if it's a girl? Should the gender actually matter?^^
@@EriileinIn Vietnamese culture gender of very important due to the family name and carry on the business. When the elder son of the family gets married. It required the elder daughter in law have a responsibility to have a grandson. In the case of Audrey husband, the only son in the family. His parents depend on him to continue with the business of the family and pass on to his son. If it a girl then his parents wanted him to have another child should be a boy. Also, Audrey in law came from the North Vietnam which the rule of the gender of very important. Personally, have seen some of the videos her mother in law might lecture husband regarding for not having any children after several years of marriage.
For Huy's family, of course I'm sure they want to have a son for those cultural reasons but obviously I can't control mother nature so we will see what happens. We only want 2 kids so we only have 2 chances. :D
"con di me" :p this could mean totally something else if the pronunciation is off. You might not know this, but i'm pretty sure Huy does! It's amazing that Peanut barely budged throughout the entire video!
hahahaah I will have to be careful then! He's a lazy doggo. He's laying by my side as I write this. :)
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Oh....this is what i find. It can help me definitely. I never want my girlfriend to be angry...
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your northern accent is making me crazy lmaoo i was so confused most of the video because of the accent
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Thanks for watching
Oh okay how was your week
It was good! Already almost Monday again though! I am launching my blog if you want to check it out! Please go leave a comment there. :)
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You are quite an impressive young lady
Thank you, Tom! :)
Late to the party but question. Does a man also volunteer to serve the rice?
Hi Jonah, I don't think so. It's more of a "woman's job" (not my personal belief but that's just the culture so I accept it for what it is).
@@AudreyNguyenVlogs ah I see. Still more old-fashioned in Vietnam in that way. Thanks for responding!
Vui thế
I’m Vietnam’s this is so funny
I'm extreamly happy you are learning vietnamese however man my ears.
Nice Your Video 😍🌍🌹🌹🌹. Thanks for sharing. Mọi người sẽ hiểu hơn về văn hóa va cách xưng hô ở Việt Nam.
Thank you, Teresa Central Highlands Y!! 😊😊😊
Probably the most important thing is to eat and drink and party and Karaoke.
lol I love to eat so I guess I fit in! I don't drink and am a horrible singer!! hahaha
hahaha good to know
Imagine you are Vietnamese, but u didn’t know anything about your culture until you seen this
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your vietnamese is so food 😊
hehe you mean so "good" right?! :D thank!
Sorry yes so good hihi
Yeah right, I am a husband to a Vietnamese wife and I experience a very very disrespectful behaviors from my in laws, my mom in law would even throw my luggage on the floor when she accidentally carried mine rather then hers and guess what, I don't give a face to them until the day they know how to respect me and welcome me as a family respectively.
I’m sorry you have such a bad experience with your in laws. What does your wife think? My husband would allow this behavior
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Good video, thank you. For me it would've been easier if you stopped the music while saying the vietnamese words/sentences. I have difficulties understanding the words correctly
Vietnamese culture is pretty complicated to both Vietnamese and foreigners. My parents sometimes yell at me just because I don't know chu, bac, cau, duong, anh, em, co, di, mo, chi....so you shouldn't worry about those things so much. Kinda of those mistakes are acceptable.
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maybe his parents was born North Vietnam bc people from there so picky
Yes, they are from Hai Phong.
Làm phụ đề tiếng Việt đi em. Sẽ rất thêm nhiều người xem và hiểu em nói gì
Hi, just stumbled on to your channel. A few things:
1. Your husband and his family are lucky to have someone that is interested in VN culture and willing to learn and live the culture. It's not an easy thing. Much respect to you.
2. Your children will be beautiful. Caucasian/Vietnamese mixed children are beautiful. My nephews are mixed American/VN. Trust me. :)
3. If you are a doctor, lawyer or engineer, you are way ahead of most. (career status is pretty important - but dependent on family to family)
4. What Tim H. said - providing a grandson (Chau noi trail).
5. But like all cultures, as long as you're respectful and love your family, all is good. :)
6. As a Westernized Vietnamese born dude, I personally think there's way too much formality, but understand and embrace the history and culture. :)
Hi Andy! Thanks for watching and sharing your perspective on these cultural points!
I know you were born in the US and is an American, but heritage-wise, do you have any Asian blood in you? My niece is half Vietnamese and half Caucasian (her Dad is Canadian) and she has a lot of your resemblance. That's why I ask.
Hi! My ancestors are French Canadian and Italian so no Asian blood in me. Many people think I look mixed though but I think that might be because I am so involved with Vietnamese culture and so they assume I must be part Vietnamese. They also think I look like Phi Nhung but I don't see it. lol
Not always works, my husband is vietnamese-american and his family disowned him for marrying a mexican woman, they wanted to be the ones who will chose his spouse, and decide when he will be marrying. The experience was very painful and traumatizing specially when they decide that they don't like you or accept you because your ethnicity or background. They were extremly controlling and months after we got married and leave, they tried to harass me and my husband, we had to use legal help to put an end to all of that :(
Wow I am really sorry for your experience, Johanna! I wish his family would be more open minded and accept you! Hopefully you will still be able to enjoy a happy life together ❤️
@@AudreyNguyenVlogs Thanks a lot for replying and your kind words 💕 Indeed we love each other and our marriage above all things, we've been together for 6 and a half years and been married for 3 and a half years, and we are planning of having children very soon🌸💕
Excellent! But what you say in this video is very formal, the teenagers nowadays somtimes do not follow this manner. Anyhow I appreciate your good knowledge of Vietnamese culture.
true I know many fam conflicts of daughter in law and husband's mother bc the daughter is a modern one and she does not want the old ways
Flaky 96 To create harmonious relationship among daughter-in-law and her husband's family is not to be easy, especially in oriental culture.
It's good and bad because being modern means more freedom and more relaxing for young people but you also start to lose some core elements of the culture. I am trying to preserve it so I can also share it with my kids. Not like I want them to be perfect but I want them to understand their background.
That must be difficult!
Audrey Nguyen that's good, not bad, but that must be difficult.
I am Vietnam and I really want to know my culture and my last name is Nguyen
One thing should never be forgotten, Lunar New Year is created by Vietnamese people. The Chinese stole that traditional Vietnamese culture then claimed it as their own.
Interesting, I didn’t know that