Dating and marriage in Vietnam ft Phuc Map
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.ค. 2022
- In today's video, we will answer questions about dating and marriage in Vietnam like what you should not do on the first date, culture shocks while dating and getting married to a Vietnamese woman, etc. Thank you anh Phuc Map for collaborating. Check out his channel here / phucmapvlog
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I was introduced to my Vietnamese wife by her aunt in the US who told me I needed to meet a nice girl . I went to Vietnam and met her , went through the paperwork and here we are 25 great years later .
@ere ere On our marriage certificate her ethnicity is noted as " Kinh " which stems from Northern Vietnam and Southern China . Her Grandfather , who was a wonderful old guy and lived to 101 , was originally from the North .
@ere ere @National Socialist Vietnamese Workers Party .
And Vietnam is following China's footsteps.
Silently accumulating wealth and then power.
Once Vietnam has accumulated enough wealth and power, it will start to bully its neighbors and the rest of the world especially America.
Chris Bisho Whoaaaa what a beautiful story. I’m Vietnamese American and I love to hear stories like this. In my opinion, interracial marriage is such a beautiful thing because the couples have to work extra hard to adapt to each other’s different cultures, different upbringings as well as ways of living. Congrats on your 25 years of marriage.
If you know a nice girl, Holla at me 😉
I have done the same thing.
My boyfriend is Vietnamese, and he's the best! Next week I move from Russia to Vietnam to live with him finally! I really love Vietnamese people, they are so kind, easy-going and and they can be amazing partners! Love to everyone!
Aww that’s so sweet :)
are u a girl?
@@tednguyen7258 idk
Vietnamese also love vodka
No such thing. Western women should never marry a Vietnamese man. Dumb
I was once married to a lovely Japanese woman. Not learning Japanese made it impossible for me to ever really know her family, and ultimately that played a part in the demise of our relationship. Heed my advice, and the advice of the guy in this video...if you marry a woman (or man) from a country foreign to you, do your best to learn their native tongue.
Absolutely. It also gives you a secret code language to speak when away from speakers of that language.
You are absolutely right!
RIP to all with Vietnamese wives then lol
Total BS. Married and I know zero Vietnamese. My wife does all the translating and covers for me with any situation be it family, friends or locals in the street. Very happy successful marriage so STFU
@@jasonkim2577 @National Socialist Vietnamese Workers Party .
And Vietnam is following China's footsteps.
Silently accumulating wealth and then power.
Once Vietnam has accumulated enough wealth and power, it will start to bully its neighbors and the rest of the world especially America.
Having moved to Vietnam from the USA, my wife and I have been adopted by a wonderful family and many very close friends. We've been coming to Vietnam for five years and spent one and a half years here during the covid19 lockdown before deciding to sell everything in the USA and moved to Vietnam. We are slowly picking up phases and learning many customs. It not easy for us being elderly but we're trying.
Vietnam is a fabulous country with amazingly friendly people and a rich history. But I was always told by my father "if you're not learning your wasting your life. So my wife and I are still learning and really appreciate our great new life in Vietnam. We feel truly fortunate and blessed to live this wonderful life in this great country! THANK YOU for having us Vietnam! Sam and Margaret Adler
Your new life in Vietnam sounds great. What city did you settle in? Thanks.
OH MAN...get ready for the HENNY.
Great advise given from your father.
I'm married to a beautiful, amazing Vietnamese woman and got married in Vietnam 19 years ago. However I'm super glad we met and fell in love in my home country.
*Where did u find her?*
@@sheencurry8946 We met at university in my home country. If you have ever been to Vietnam you already know so many of their women are gorgeous. It's finding one that is loving, caring and right for you that's the real trick.
@@jaysdood I find all asian women to be beautiful
@National Socialist Vietnamese Workers Party
We all hope you never make more than $200 USD a month. Let's hope the hunger never ends. It's people like you that keep Vietnam from being truly free.
@National Socialist Vietnamese Workers Party capitalism isn't socialist.
Cảm ơn đã mời Phúc!
It was a pleasure sharing my experience on your channel 🤜🤛
Phuc Map, one thing I wished you would have addressed is how serious the girls get after you date them like 3x. Someone in another video mentioned that casual dating isn't a thing there as the girls get attached by the 3rd date and think they are an item. Maybe you can address it on your channel one day.
tôi yêu Putin..ông ấy đang chống lại bày sói Nato
Cảm ơn anh Phúc đã hợp tác trong video lần này! You’re awesome!!
Xin chào Phúc Mập, mọi người đây.
@@phucnguyenvan7759 You love a dictator and murderer
Ten years later, my wife is still the best thing I brought home from Vietnam.
me too
As an American who is now married to a Vietnamese lady more than 45 years I respectfully offer the following comments. When comparing a Vietnamese with any foreigner many people seem to think that we are comparing cat with dog. We are in fact simply comparing human being with human being and that every single human being in this world is unique. Of course... cultural difference will play out but believe me... there are ladies here in Vietnam where my wife and I have been living for the last 30 years... yes means yes and no means no. Simply be natural and respectful with each-other and assuming both parties to a relationship have reasonably similar interests then happiness will abound. Resolve any issue that may have come up during the day before going to bed and let the passcode on the phones be the same as a matter of trust and simplicity. One thing that Phuc Map is absolutely correct is that foreigners in Vietnam should try to learn Vietnamese. Knowing Vietnamese makes the experience here so much more fun and indeed meaningful. Good luck with your channels!
Phúc Mập cũng đang nói được tiếng Việt cũng OK mà bạn bạn
Boring common knowledge for any relationship old man. Vietnamese not required as I know from experience
@@donjohnson5123 @National Socialist Vietnamese Workers Party .
And Vietnam is following China's footsteps.
Silently accumulating wealth and then power.
Once Vietnam has accumulated enough wealth and power, it will start to bully its neighbors and the rest of the world especially America.
@@donjohnson5123 @National Socialist Vietnamese Workers Party .
And Vietnam is following China's footsteps.
Silently accumulating wealth and then power.
Once Vietnam has accumulated enough wealth and power, it will start to bully its neighbors and the rest of the world especially America.
The "No means yes" approach is potentially dangerous when sexual behavior is involved.
Don't know about marriage, but I have very beautiful best friend from Vietnam. I am always willing to learn her culture and language. She feels very much happier to know that I am learning and respecting her culture. She also respect me and my choices and support me in every part of life. She is so good person. She appreciates every little thing I do for her. I don't know about every other vietnamese girl but talking about my best friend, she is really sweet person and I am grateful to have her in my life. Just like from quality of a single grain, you can judge the whole sack. From knowing her, I can say that vietnamese people are really sweet and Friendly.
Wow that a sweet story, how long it had been since you know her?
It's a nice thing that you are trying to learn your friend's culture
@@aniket_bharude_ it's been exact three months
I’m in a relationship with food and culture and the beauty of Vietnam 🇻🇳 😄
Me too
I was able to speak my wife's language before we were married, so when I went back for the wedding, I was able to speak with the whole family in either English or their dialect, whichever they chose to speak in. It's good that we're able to understand each other, and it's good that they were able to choose which language to use......after all, I am the foreigner.
I have met a lot of women from my wife's country, who married guys from my country. Some have said their husbands banned them for speaking in their language at home, or even to cook food from where they came. Very few actually make the effort to learn the language of their wife. Perhaps this just comes down to a husband's need for control, I'm not sure.
But, I've been left wondering at times, if they guy doesn't like the food, doesn't like the culture, doesn't like the language, why did he get married to her in the first place? A lot of times at cultural gatherings, et al, they sit in the corner with other like minded countrymen, beers in their hands, and they don't involve themselves with the activities taking place around them.
The other issue as well is when you have children. Children are very observant. They can pick up what their fathers think about where their mother comes from by his attitude towards anything related to her culture, language, etc. Imagine growing up and not being exposed in a positive way, to the culture of your mother?
This can also affect the way the children interact with their family members back in their mother's homeland as well, and, how the children see themselves as well, since half of who they are, comes from their mother.
Coupling involves sharing, if some are insecure about giving and receiving one could say it's not a healthy basis to build a relationship upon I guess
Bryan Entwistle ,Dear ,I like your point of view ,- ."If a man doesn't like a woman's culture, language, or food, he shouldn't marry her and then ban them from speaking their language, or their food." That's the bad thing.
@@co9mientay562 Cam on ban! :)
My girlfriend is Vietnamese and I am learning Vietnamese now. It’s is challenging but it’s worth it. Very inspiring to see him speaking Vietnamese!
it's much better if you don't understand anything (mother-in-law).
im now on year 8 of my marriage to my vietnamese wife. its a challenge yes but also very unique and interesting. i read a t-shirt while in vietnam, it said "im not afraid of you! my wife is vietnamese!" lol...good luck bro! lol...
@@user-xg6dj9gf2r exactly
I ended up in Vietnam in 1990. When you traveled to any city, you had to surrender your passport at the local police station and they would place a city stamp in it. Most tourist places had a tri-pricing. 1 price for Foreigners, 1 price for Returning Vietnamese and 1 price for local Vietnamese. The one thing that I walked away from my time in Vietnam was how honest, industrious, independent, and overall self-sufficient. I knew this country would do well in the future. I found the women to be at the top compared to all other Asian countries that I lived in.
1990 is not open, acctually that year is a year the country officially stop operate in War mode, every place is no camera, no filming, and foreigners from west are being treated in kind of untrust. But that changed very fast afterward when Clinton lift off the sanction in 1992. 1990 is the year we and china agreed to neutralize the two countries relationship, at 1989 both sides still fire cannon to each other at border 🤣
I visited Vietnam 2 month ago. Vietnam is very nice country. Will definitely visit again ❤️. Love from India 🇮🇳
Did u see plenty of the locals. We're there alot of foreigners you seen there. Was the language barrier alot of trouble.
Any luck finding good girl?
easy to find girl but hard to tell if shes good or just using you lol@@rpatel6461
"Happy in-laws, happy life." Good advice across ALL cultures. Interesting & useful video, Co Van!
I watched his video with you. And now I'm watching your video with him. Both of you are my favorite youtubers in Vietnam. Both of you have unique backgrounds and experiences. I love the advice and content.
Smart of her to dodge the relationship question. Also smart of her to tease it at the start of the video. It's the same thing japanese idols do. She is cute and no doubt has many thirsty male fans (who are hopefully polite enough to not harass her). Announcing she has a boyfriend could impact her views.
Loved seeing you two collaborate!!!
Really enjoyed this video. I'm starting to learn more Vietnamese from my mum so hoping to strengthen my roots even more so this video is very encouraging.
This is such a positive, honest exchanges of marriage family relationship and culture. I love it! Thank you. Keep the good job.
I’m Vietnamese, I’m 13 years old from Vietnam moved to NSW Australia since Feb 2017, My Dad was a refugee and asylum seeker during the Vietnam war, the video is super amazing.
Great to see you guys doing a video together!
You both are the best TH-camr for Vietnam!
I'm impressed by Phuc Map's Vietnamese. Well done. I can appreciate the advice from Phuc Map, "show the soon-to-be wife and her family that you care and your willingness to learn their language and their culture. It will endear you to them." After hearing his advice on this video, I realized that it must have helped me with my wife and with her family.
Excellent interview and information!!
Kudos to this guy for learning the language and culture. I live in Indonesia married to an Indonesian woman, and though she speaks my languages, I wouldn't dream of living in the country without being fluent in the language and understanding a fair amount of the culture, society and history. In fact it changed my life. 👍🏼
It is always good to learn other languages and to understand other cultures.
Hi dear. 😁 Hurley is amazing and super cool, his Vietnamese and knowledge of Vietnamese traditions/culture are far better than mine. 😅👍(I’m here 🇻🇳 since 2008)
Well, I’m just a 50 years old French and I’m more a solitary person than mixing with people, so I don’t communicate much. Only with my students but most of the time in English. 😊
I subscribe to his channel hoping learning a lot about our heart’s country. Thanks dear. 🤗❤️🇻🇳
Wow ! Great personality person ! I wanna to vist vietnam 🇻🇳 love the people's and food love from india 🇮🇳 ❤
Thanks for answering those question's and using some of the examples from phuc maps relationship with his wife before marriage and current life with inlaws. Good info!
I went through all of this and it changed my life and my views on so many things.
Glad to see another video !
very wholesome video. love ur content. keep up the amazing job!
Very good content. I enjoy watching both of you.
Nice side step on the "in a relationship question". Love your work Van.
This is a GREAT interview and questions
great Video! I hope you do more videos like this
Great Video. Very informative.
Very accurate comparison of the differences in work culture between US and Vietnam. Nicely done em be VV!!!
Asian culture is beautiful ! I can fully confirm!
Very informative subject. Keep up the good work 👍
Whaouu. so far the best video i watched in 2022.. humbly thank you for sharing.. Both of you.. questions were accurate, and answers were inspiring.. one word.. keep going
Brilliant discussion
Love Phuc Map. Dude seems so real.
Great Q&A, informative, thanks......
LOVELY!!! THANK YOU BOTH!!!
Great video!
Nice video.... love this topic and your guest is amazing with vietnamese language. Great topic...
Very well explained. He is so understanding and caring.
I am really enjoying the video from you Van. You are a great presenter and so photogenic. I had a lot to do with Vietnamese in Australia for the past 50 years and absorbed a lot of their culture especially the food. Even my adult children (personal friends with restauranteurs) and grandchildren are big Vietnamese eaters. Love the food, love the people. You are such a fine representative of your culture & people. Brisbane Australia
Awesome video.. thank you 🙏
bloody impressive interview
Really great interview. I grew up in Hawa'ii and married my best Friend, a Japanese-Hawaiian Girl. Luckily I spoke Japanese and Hawa'iian early. This is one of the greatest gestures of Respect for a Family. I studied Japanese Culture and the Language in their Honor. They really appreciated this...
nice
Great video! Learned a lot!! Looking forward to the chance to visit.
We wanna see video on Van Vu relationship with food and culture and dating relationship 🙃
I really like this interview, when is part 2?
I love Vietnamese girls. They're so pretty.
What a great interview....!
Solid video!
I loved this exchange of ideas through this brilliant interview, thanks
That was a GREAT interview. Comparing cultures at the same time using both Vietnamese and English languages made it more fascinating.
Great job Pho :)
Actually, her name is Van.
@@svennielsen633 sue me simp.
I'm going by the channel name as many do on TH-cam.
Do u feel better? Are u just praying that Van sees this and falls to her knees for you?... hoping next video when asked if she is dating someone it will be you?
Wake up man, and just enjoy the information she is providing..
Good job pho:))??
@@nguyenanh-xm6mn yes...and?
Great video, really good advice.
This video was so funny and great
Seriously I love their culture more than anything.
Phuc Map created a new formula: Happy Wife + Happy In-laws = Happy Life 😀
this is why off the bat, I try to establish the fact that I am single and I am not looking for anything to serious. marriage is for some while its not for others
Thank you so much for the videos you make, I am moving to Vietnam for work, (I am so excited ) but your videos are really helpful. Thank you and keep it up! 😁
Great info. Thanks.
kk, the phrase on the shelf is so good, i like thissssssss
Hoping someday I, ll be in Vietnam.
Thanks for nice informative conversation.
Very upbeat interview.
Beautiful scenes , beautiful Words and beautiful all.
Sounds somewhat like Indian culture too! Actually we Asians are very similar in many ways. 🇮🇳🇻🇳🙌
Good video, both of you. (makes a note to study Vietnamese harder). Very nice
awesome video
I am a Filipino and admire Vietnamese women, they're beautiful. And I have a lady friend of mine is a Vietnamese
This guy sounds amazing when he talks Viet
really good! 👏
The best name for a channel on TH-cam.
Hi Van , very interesting topic . When the western meet the East culture which is amazing thing. Because the people learning how to compromise both sides cultures and learn each other. So it depends on the people how to care about both sides. And also that could be a reason to motivate and encourage people learning different cultures in order to build a good relationship in the future. Very meaningful topic..😀
Really fun video, my wife is from Philippines and lots of the same things apply that u talked about.
Great video great lnterview.
Great city great. Great view. Good show.
I love this episode
How are you?
Hello 👋
"Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right?" 😉
True lol
I'm both
Amazing and interesting talking you guys 😍🤔😊
Perfect conversation
Wow his vietnamese is on point 👌 he's way better than me and I'm viet lol. Good job 👏👏👏
Very informative video dear sister
He said family oriented,love to hear that.
I agree with the language thing. I was in Central America in the 90's. I was introduced to a young lady at a house party because in this country women won't talk to men unless they are trying to sell something. I was taught how to write in Spanish in High School and in college but not speak it much. So I started asking her about herself and then to be a little flirty, I would ask her the Spanish name for her body parts like legs, head, face. I would ask in Spanish and then sometimes I would intentionally mispronounce the words and she would giggle like a little girl. Not much came of it but an enjoyable evening. Good tip for the future!!
Oh man you so good in Vietnamese brother great jobs !
Oh wow this explains alot abt why a girl i dated had already wanted me to meet her family on the 2nd date! Didn't work out for us after the 5th date cos i panicked at how fast everything was going 😂. Now i know its just my foreign ignorance and not her wanting to tie me down so fast
I am liking the Vietnamese host. She's looking much better each time I see her on video.
Phonomenal. Stay hungry my friends!
Great interview both of y’all 👍
3:43 Mine coasts 2500 € in 2008. 😅
200 people, most of them were neighbors or family I didn’t know and never met since. 😂👍
Vietnamese women are so beutifull!
Yes 1%
@@kippsguitar6539 75%
Hey Van, love your show. I'm Viet and living on the Gold Coast Australia 🇦🇺 . Left Vn 1983, and planning to go back to live for a few years as a trial... any tips and suggestions 🤔!!!
"we're like Cinderellas, we have to go home before midnight." Love your videos and you.
Love you n your videos