Tickles my fancy that a video on Perfectionism has a typo smack bang in the word itself in the topic title slide too funny .... ...Educational video AND an informal screening tool for all of us Perfectionists watching it all rolled into one : )
what are some of the other ways Unr Standards play out or manifest. Realised I think of it in terms of Perfectionism. Maybe thats too narrow a view - others ways?
It can also involve pressure for time and achievement and needing to do things a specific way (not perfectionism) but a righteous "one should do it this way" - have a look at the Unrelenting Standards 7 minute schema for more info
Hi I am a trader and I do analyse before I trade and when I come to the live market I’m experiencing fear of missing out . I have found that this is schema of having the overwhelming urge to be right. In order to replace this schema with discipline I have recorded my voice re activating the schema and then adding a statement of dis confirmation. Due to trading being very psychological . Is there a more effective way of over riding this schema, your content is great thankyou!
HI Asap Rows, we encourage people to seek out therapy support as schemas are very challenging and the therapy relationship in Schema Therapy is a very healing experience
Hi Katja, that's a great question! Each person has unique ways that schemas connect, but often the Unrelenting Standards schema is operating to "protect" a client from the Failure schema - "if I do everything perfectly I won't fail", but that just reinforces failure schema.
@@schematherapyinstituteaust thanks for your answer. Is there a book or scientific literature that you can recommend about the connection between those schemas, like one is the base and the other is reinforcing the base? If not, don't mind. And what's your opinion on "schema chemistry" between two persons. Like A) has defectiveness/shame, unrelenting standards and entitlement and B has emotional deprivation, self sacrifice and abandonment Are there studies that research those "chemistries" between two people, be it parent child or romantic partners?
@@ruthholt2895 Is this a common practice you utilise? Wondering as I've seen it in Gestalt therapy a bit. Also I love that Boolini's comment can be taken both as a question regarding a client and for themself as a practitioner haha. Your answer addresses both I guess ;)
I’m loving these series, thank you for making the effort to compile all this information and also presenting in such an easy to digest manner.
Glad you like them!
Thanks for this teaching
Tickles my fancy that a video on Perfectionism has a typo smack bang in the word itself in the topic title slide too funny .... ...Educational video AND an informal screening tool for all of us Perfectionists watching it all rolled into one : )
We are full of tricks!
what are some of the other ways Unr Standards play out or manifest. Realised I think of it in terms of Perfectionism. Maybe thats too narrow a view - others ways?
It can also involve pressure for time and achievement and needing to do things a specific way (not perfectionism) but a righteous "one should do it this way" - have a look at the Unrelenting Standards 7 minute schema for more info
Hi I am a trader and I do analyse before I trade and when I come to the live market I’m experiencing fear of missing out . I have found that this is schema of having the overwhelming urge to be right. In order to replace this schema with discipline I have recorded my voice re activating the schema and then adding a statement of dis confirmation. Due to trading being very psychological . Is there a more effective way of over riding this schema, your content is great thankyou!
HI Asap Rows, we encourage people to seek out therapy support as schemas are very challenging and the therapy relationship in Schema Therapy is a very healing experience
What do you think is the connection between unrelenting standards and failure schema with perfectionism?
Hi Katja, that's a great question! Each person has unique ways that schemas connect, but often the Unrelenting Standards schema is operating to "protect" a client from the Failure schema - "if I do everything perfectly I won't fail", but that just reinforces failure schema.
@@schematherapyinstituteaust thanks for your answer.
Is there a book or scientific literature that you can recommend about the connection between those schemas, like one is the base and the other is reinforcing the base? If not, don't mind.
And what's your opinion on "schema chemistry" between two persons. Like A) has defectiveness/shame, unrelenting standards and entitlement and B has emotional deprivation, self sacrifice and abandonment
Are there studies that research those "chemistries" between two people, be it parent child or romantic partners?
How can I cope with the need to fix everything right now in sessions, when I have a patient who is perfectionistic or has OCD?
I would suggest identifying the part that "needs to fix everything right now", putting that part in a chair and doing a mode interview with it.
@@ruthholt2895 Is this a common practice you utilise? Wondering as I've seen it in Gestalt therapy a bit.
Also I love that Boolini's comment can be taken both as a question regarding a client and for themself as a practitioner haha. Your answer addresses both I guess ;)
Yes Jacky, Schema therapy uses techniques from Gestalt and psychodrama!