Maybe not a confession but a positive spin on 'stealing' stories. I heard a friend tell a story and I thought 'that would work really well as a scene for my main character', so I stole it. I didn't feel great about it, so I just asked him if I could take it. He was actually flattered, and let me take in exchange for me naming a random minor, unimportant character after him! It also helped me as I often struggle to come up with names because I don't want to use the names of people I know, in case they mistakenly think I'm writing about them!
For anyone dealing with Self Doubt it seemed to be a common writers trait nearly every writer i have seen on youtbe has talked about it some of them have successfully published dozens of books and for anyone that has a book out that isn't doing as well as you thought look up the story of the man that wrote Moby Dick it was a total flop at the time but now it's a classic
I have to say. I love your channel. I'm an aspiring writer and I find many things that you say very helpful. With that being said, this was just a fun video and I loved it.
I confess that I am elated to have found your channel!! I started a fantasy series 20 years ago that just kept growing and I couldn'tsell it. I lost count of the rejection letters over the years and was about to give up, but after watching your channel, I have been given a new lease on my writing life! What was originally a trilogy spanning several hundreds of thousand of words, is now 8 smaller, tighter, more character driven books. Will they sell? I don't know, but I now feel as though I'm finished with the writing/editing process, and that's priceless! Thank you!
I actually don't read novels very often at all. I read articles, blogs, comics, manga, light novels, short stories, text based video games, text heavy video games, forums, text roleplaying sessions, comment sections, guides, my own stuff(for editing), and AI nonsense. I am actually reading stuff all the time. Not novels though.
It's sad that self-publishing gets such a bad rap. I don't want to give any control of my work to a corporation. And it's not easy either; I'm floundering trying to make any progress getting my book published.
For your #03 Glowing reviews: When I trained at LifeLine to council, we played some games to determine our character. This particular game required the participants to chose only one person whom they would save amongst the group, when being in a liferaft tipping over. So when we all chose somebody other than ourselves, the coach asked us, why we didn't choose ourselves. Afterall, aren't we also valuable enough to be worth saving?
Six months without reading a book? Try a few years. Seriously, I can't remember the last time I read a book written by someone else. The reasons are two, although there were three at first. At first I didn't want someone to accuse me of stealing an idea if I was inspired by something, but now the reasons are only two. I don't have time to read. I write. 300 K words a year. It may not be a lot, but a writer's job is not just tapping on the keyboard, it's coming up with plots, dialogues, etc. The second reason is more painful - I don't like any book I start reading. Unfortunately, neither do my books. I have become incredibly critical. I don't like my own books because I expect better of myself, and I sell them because there is a demand. My readers are less critical than me. But as a reader, I notice every misused word, every poorly constructed description, weak dialogue - everything. And that's why I can't read books.
Maybe audiobooks can help? They're read by a narrator or actor which helps remove the focus from the actual writing of the story and redirects it to the characters and plot. If you have no free time, it's easy to listen to audiobooks while driving, doing chores, cooking, etc.
Did 24 mean that her best friend made a lot of money, or spent a lot of money? Because I thought at first she hadn’t read it because it was bad, rather than that she was jealous! Now I don’t know!
I’m probably a worse version of #5. I’m writing my first novel. 15 chapters in, I’ve written more in the last year than I have read in the last 20. Excluding nonfiction/opinion based media/subtitles of course.
After several years of getting a number of non-fiction (and a few fiction) books published with traditional publishers, it all suddenly went away. I have several highly polished manuscripts and other projects ready to go but for some reason can't get an agent or publisher to even take a look at any of them. I carefully investigate the agents and editors I query to make sure they're a good match for my type of writing and list my publishing credentials on my query letters but it seems everything just goes into either the junk mail folder or is deleted without even an acknowledgement of receipt. Has anyone else experienced this or am I the only author on planet Earth to suffer such a fate?
I respekk that professor who proudly claimed to have reviewed his own books. Dude is a legend lol. Not really because he did it, just that he openly admitted to it and was just like "They're amazing!!!" I aspire towards that level of self confidence
I lied to a partner that I cheated on her to get a realistic grip on how people react to cheating. She forgave Me for the cheating and when I told her the truth she broke up.
You basically broke her trust twice. First by cheating, then by lying about it. Or she cheated on you actually and was relieved you were equal. Or she wanted to leverage the fact you cheated on every future argument.
@@AntipaladinPedigri I didn't cheat on her, I lied about it. If she cheated on me I feel bad for the guy, She was terrible at sex, I would avoid being alone with her for the last five months of the relationship.
@@Yokar_mova1212 My bad, I wasn't clear enough. In her eyes, by lying, you cheated, not that you cheated REALLY. Maybe she was also looking for an excuse to break up herself. Maybe she knew she isn't good at sx and was relieved you got it somewhere else to keep you. But using her as trauma writing material was the last straw. It was manipulative of you to say the least. I would leave, too.
@@AntipaladinPedigri Oh that makes sense, yeah you're probably right, she was the type who neglects and ignores and later Wonders why did it blew up in her face. Also You placed some questions in my head which I didn't know I needed answer for, I'll text her and leave an update. soon probably I'll get what I deserve (our country is about to become a warzone)
@@Yokar_mova1212 No one is obliged to be good at sx you know. It's not some innate universal skill everyone has to possess. And I don't think it's out od malice. She sounds like she's autistic. That too could make her have low sx drive. Could explain why she didn't mind the cheating as much as the dishonesty. Austistics (and adhd-ers since the two often coincide) have a very strong sense of fairness, honesty, and justice, and that's why she could excuse cheating but not lying. If she's autistic she even would have trouble navigating relstionships as she wouldn't even understand the needs of a neurotypical partner (and you hers as well). That's why neurodivergents usually form relstionships with other neurodivergents and their relstionships are often nigh sexless and devoid of touching, hugging lovey dovey talk, verbally expressing love and desire, tenderness etc. They show love through acts of service or info dumping about their fav niche subject, etc. They even prefer texting and detest phone calls because they don't see gestures, facial expressions and other social cues. Calling without texting the reason for calling unnerves them, because they think the call is about people being nad at them or their cat being ran over.
“Writing a book does feel like giving birth in a lot of different ways,” - someone who has never and will never give birth I really don’t think that that’s how she meant it.
Maybe not a confession but a positive spin on 'stealing' stories.
I heard a friend tell a story and I thought 'that would work really well as a scene for my main character', so I stole it. I didn't feel great about it, so I just asked him if I could take it. He was actually flattered, and let me take in exchange for me naming a random minor, unimportant character after him! It also helped me as I often struggle to come up with names because I don't want to use the names of people I know, in case they mistakenly think I'm writing about them!
It's not stealing if you ask for permission
For anyone dealing with Self Doubt it seemed to be a common writers trait nearly every writer i have seen on youtbe has talked about it some of them have successfully published dozens of books and for anyone that has a book out that isn't doing as well as you thought look up the story of the man that wrote Moby Dick it was a total flop at the time but now it's a classic
I wrote my first novel during the pandemic, self published it in 2022 and as of today still struggle to want to write again
On my first draft (still in progress), it took 100k+ words for my protag to leave his hometown. Lol.
That’s a lot of words! What genre’s your book?
@@LeanneHolloway-cy2uo SatNav programming guide?
I have to say. I love your channel. I'm an aspiring writer and I find many things that you say very helpful. With that being said, this was just a fun video and I loved it.
I confess that I am elated to have found your channel!! I started a fantasy series 20 years ago that just kept growing and I couldn'tsell it. I lost count of the rejection letters over the years and was about to give up, but after watching your channel, I have been given a new lease on my writing life!
What was originally a trilogy spanning several hundreds of thousand of words, is now 8 smaller, tighter, more character driven books. Will they sell? I don't know, but I now feel as though I'm finished with the writing/editing process, and that's priceless! Thank you!
You're very welcome, Veronica! Happy to inspire you and good luck with releasing the 8 books!
@Bookfox thank you! It may be a while since I'm still editing, (which is how I found you. LOL!)
I'm a self confessed hack. I self published a book on Amazon, even though I hate kindle.
Still wildly anxious about people hating it.
I actually don't read novels very often at all. I read articles, blogs, comics, manga, light novels, short stories, text based video games, text heavy video games, forums, text roleplaying sessions, comment sections, guides, my own stuff(for editing), and AI nonsense. I am actually reading stuff all the time. Not novels though.
Great unique deep and fun video. ❤ makes me curious about your books!
I have read several almost-great self-published books. They would have been great and successful if an agent had helped them.
Editor. Both a developmental one and a line editor
That is a fantastic image on your shirt. Where did you find that gem?
Love the video. It’s interesting to see what others views as deep secrets.
As always, amazing content.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I keep track of my rejections.
so far 21 rejections and only two acceptances. Well, it's only those last two that really matter :)
It's sad that self-publishing gets such a bad rap. I don't want to give any control of my work to a corporation. And it's not easy either; I'm floundering trying to make any progress getting my book published.
Yes ... but that person was "confessing" it -- they felt bad about feeling that way, and it seems they knew it wasn't the right way to feel.
Self publishing is very hard work. If you can do it, great, but to even know what needs to be done is quite an undertaking.
My first book had a publisher, and it was an awful experience. I have self published every book since then and really enjoy the control.
For your #03 Glowing reviews: When I trained at LifeLine to council, we played some games to determine our character. This particular game required the participants to chose only one person whom they would save amongst the group, when being in a liferaft tipping over. So when we all chose somebody other than ourselves, the coach asked us, why we didn't choose ourselves. Afterall, aren't we also valuable enough to be worth saving?
Six months without reading a book? Try a few years. Seriously, I can't remember the last time I read a book written by someone else. The reasons are two, although there were three at first. At first I didn't want someone to accuse me of stealing an idea if I was inspired by something, but now the reasons are only two. I don't have time to read. I write. 300 K words a year. It may not be a lot, but a writer's job is not just tapping on the keyboard, it's coming up with plots, dialogues, etc. The second reason is more painful - I don't like any book I start reading. Unfortunately, neither do my books. I have become incredibly critical. I don't like my own books because I expect better of myself, and I sell them because there is a demand. My readers are less critical than me. But as a reader, I notice every misused word, every poorly constructed description, weak dialogue - everything. And that's why I can't read books.
Maybe audiobooks can help? They're read by a narrator or actor which helps remove the focus from the actual writing of the story and redirects it to the characters and plot. If you have no free time, it's easy to listen to audiobooks while driving, doing chores, cooking, etc.
Did 24 mean that her best friend made a lot of money, or spent a lot of money? Because I thought at first she hadn’t read it because it was bad, rather than that she was jealous! Now I don’t know!
How would she know it was bad if she hadn't read it
Those were fun
I’m probably a worse version of #5. I’m writing my first novel. 15 chapters in, I’ve written more in the last year than I have read in the last 20. Excluding nonfiction/opinion based media/subtitles of course.
What a touching interesting mean video... Thank you...
After several years of getting a number of non-fiction (and a few fiction) books published with traditional publishers, it all suddenly went away. I have several highly polished manuscripts and other projects ready to go but for some reason can't get an agent or publisher to even take a look at any of them. I carefully investigate the agents and editors I query to make sure they're a good match for my type of writing and list my publishing credentials on my query letters but it seems everything just goes into either the junk mail folder or is deleted without even an acknowledgement of receipt. Has anyone else experienced this or am I the only author on planet Earth to suffer such a fate?
My confession: I’ve never imaged my husband was another actual person… but I have imagined he and I were both characters from my books.
I respekk that professor who proudly claimed to have reviewed his own books. Dude is a legend lol. Not really because he did it, just that he openly admitted to it and was just like "They're amazing!!!" I aspire towards that level of self confidence
Stephen King also wrote drunk
Confession is good for the soul, lol.
I lied to a partner that I cheated on her to get a realistic grip on how people react to cheating.
She forgave Me for the cheating and when I told her the truth she broke up.
You basically broke her trust twice. First by cheating, then by lying about it.
Or she cheated on you actually and was relieved you were equal. Or she wanted to leverage the fact you cheated on every future argument.
@@AntipaladinPedigri I didn't cheat on her, I lied about it.
If she cheated on me I feel bad for the guy, She was terrible at sex, I would avoid being alone with her for the last five months of the relationship.
@@Yokar_mova1212 My bad, I wasn't clear enough. In her eyes, by lying, you cheated, not that you cheated REALLY.
Maybe she was also looking for an excuse to break up herself. Maybe she knew she isn't good at sx and was relieved you got it somewhere else to keep you.
But using her as trauma writing material was the last straw.
It was manipulative of you to say the least. I would leave, too.
@@AntipaladinPedigri Oh that makes sense, yeah you're probably right, she was the type who neglects and ignores and later Wonders why did it blew up in her face.
Also
You placed some questions in my head which I didn't know I needed answer for,
I'll text her and leave an update.
soon probably I'll get what I deserve (our country is about to become a warzone)
@@Yokar_mova1212 No one is obliged to be good at sx you know. It's not some innate universal skill everyone has to possess. And I don't think it's out od malice.
She sounds like she's autistic. That too could make her have low sx drive.
Could explain why she didn't mind the cheating as much as the dishonesty. Austistics (and adhd-ers since the two often coincide) have a very strong sense of fairness, honesty, and justice, and that's why she could excuse cheating but not lying.
If she's autistic she even would have trouble navigating relstionships as she wouldn't even understand the needs of a neurotypical partner (and you hers as well). That's why neurodivergents usually form relstionships with other neurodivergents and their relstionships are often nigh sexless and devoid of touching, hugging lovey dovey talk, verbally expressing love and desire, tenderness etc. They show love through acts of service or info dumping about their fav niche subject, etc.
They even prefer texting and detest phone calls because they don't see gestures, facial expressions and other social cues. Calling without texting the reason for calling unnerves them, because they think the call is about people being nad at them or their cat being ran over.
I shall continue to write books, and continue to avoid other writers...
You, sir, are one hell of an 'influencer'. (unlike those other false entities who make money doing nothing constructive.)
“Writing a book does feel like giving birth in a lot of different ways,”
- someone who has never and will never give birth
I really don’t think that that’s how she meant it.
Stop being a crabby and delusional loser
He didn't claim that that's what she meant
I thought this would be more about writing deepest secrets, like self doubt and such. This was all about personal issues. :-(
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