Shame in adults with dolls? One psychologist’s take. Plus REBORN DOLLS who made the cut!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 23 ส.ค. 2024
- DISCLAIMER: This video features collectible dolls. No real babies are featured. This content is created for adult doll collectors only and is not intended for children. Link to article: www.psychology...
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I find that I love the way it feels to hold the dolls. I don’t per say role play with them but just to hold them for a little bit can be soothing if I’m having a bad day! And the reason it is soothing to me is because when I hold them it reminds me of cherished memories of holding my own children when they were babies! I am not ashamed at all that I enjoy painting my dolls and I enjoy holding them!🦋
I do wish for the day that I’ll have my first reborn just can’t afford one . Maybe one day . I do still have my vintage baby Crissy from my childhood tho .
I find it endearing that so many men still have teddy bears. I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and I find my dolls to be a great comfort. It's been that way since childhood.
Having been stripped from the opportunity to be a mom leads me to the need to hold, feed and bathe my babies. I am relieved of stress, anger and anxiety just holding them. It is just a few moments of my time to reflect.
Thank you for sharing the article with us. I feel there should be no shame, the shame is that there are mean hurtful people that will do and say things to make us feel bad, I say... phooey on them, if we spend more cuddle time with our therapy dolls, we may be able to take less medications for our depressions & anxieties. Or for a temporary comfort for loneliness. Besides, they’re adorable, lovable, huggable, we know they’re not real, we just need to stand strong to folks that want to shame us.... have a good day & Blessed New Year
My dolls have helped me over the years since my children left home. I suffer with Empty Nest Syndrome Depression and have for several years. My Son will be 30 and my Daughter will be 26, but the day they left home, I will never forget. My babies help me deal with the strong maternal instinct I still have at 54. Just holding a baby relieves so much stress, anxiety, and loss. I deal with the comments my friends and family make about how "creepy" it is. Here lately however, I have been explaining to them that it is no different than someone collecting Army Men or HotWheels or collectibles of any kind. They seem to understand when I put it in this way. I am expecting my first custom Silicone Doll in Sept. 2019 and I can't wait!
Hello from.greece...i have bought my first reborn for the same reason ....the empty nest syndrome..i am widow 18 years and my kids are 19 the twin girls and my son 24..when and my girls moved out last summer i felt my life had end...i couldnt handle the loneles and these dolls make me happy again and happy
@@XRISTEMOYsgapo I'm so happy you have found comfort in them. I love each and every one of them.
I am always happy when you share these two favorites of mine, and I was very intrigued by your thought provoking topic of carrying comforts from childhood into adulthood. I grew up in an abusive household and from a very young age my baby dolls were always my comfort. Now as an adult, that love and comfort has continued to be the same. No one in my family other than my husband understands at this point, but even though that pushes me toward feeling a shame, I simply won’t! I am not crazy, I just know my own methods of relaxation and comfort. xxx
I do not think it is a bit wrong to have a doll as an adult, I am 48 years old and I have my first reborn and it has helped me with the present of not having biological children of my own, I have some spiritual children and that to me feels the same, but I say never feel ashamed of having a doll as an adult ever, God bless you
My dolls comfort me because I never got to be a mother of a real baby, so they fill that void. Yes, I pretend they are my real babies and given the chance, I will and have traveled with them...stroller and all. I'm of the mind that if folks don't like my having and holding dolls, i say they are the ones with a problem. They are so wrapped up in judging me, that they forget they have their own life. Poor folks...
I think people make fun and mark something as shame when they don't understand it..! It's easier to make fun of something than to embrace your true interself and heart for fear of others opinions.
I feel sorry for people who refuse to admit that they need to have a relationship with the child who is still in us! Great topic sweetheart!
Hugs and love xxxnana and papa
jeffrey63031 I do, too. It is a closed off feeling. I remember how tough it was for me to get comfortable playing again with my niece and my stepdaughters. I never thought I would lose touch with my child side but it happened.
Thank you for sharing this! I recently have a reborn baby and it brings me comfort holding her and helps relax me. It reminds me of holding my babies when they were babies and how much joy I had while cuddling with them.
I'm French and my english isn't always very good but i think i have caught the sense of this article.
Reborn babies are not really accepted yet, in France.
I wish i could afford being a collector, but at the moment i've only been able to buy an Ashton Drake silicone doll.
She doesn't look as real as a true reborn made by an artist, but she's cute and her silicone limbs and head make her quite heavy.
I feel no shame, cause i know that she's a doll, i don't care for her the whole day, i don't show her to everyone as if she was a real baby. I have shown her to my sister and my niece, once, a few months ago. I explained them what she was and why i had got her. If anything had to happen to me, i wanted someone to be able to explain that i'm not crazy or depressed.
As my husband and i have never had the chance to have a baby, and as i have lost my husband 5 years ago, i live alone. I had two dogs and a cat, but i have lost my two dogs recently and my cat doesn't like hugs.
So when i'm sad or stressed, holding my little Sarah in my arms makes me feel better. I don't play with her as i played with my dolls when i was a little girl. I just change her clothes sometimes but not very often. Most of the time, i just hold her and i have noticed something that surprised me a lot : once, i was holding her in my arms and i fell asleep. When i woke up, i realised that i felt much better than when i had a nap all alone.
I have a very bad fibromyalgia and i need to have a nap in the afternoon, but when the pain is too strong, or when i'm stressed, i sleep better with my doll.
Of course, i wouldn't do that with a true reborn, whitch would be more precious and fragile.
Even if i never have the opportunity to get a true reborn, i love to have my little Sarah in bad moments.
This is super interesting!! I have found that what comforts me with my dolls has changed over the years. I never used to feel the need to hold my dolls when I first started collecting, but as my children have grown up and are less needy, I think I have found that there is a lot of comfort and joy in holding my babies. I don't know if that's the reason, but I am certainly enjoying that I have that level of happiness. I also have seen the increased desire to come home at the end of my busy stressful day and hold Monroe and that is the comforting/stress relieving part that I LOVE about having a doll! I wish I didn't feel the need to hide the fact that I collect with most people in my life, and hope to get to a point in life where I don't care. I am less worried about it as I am getting older, but I always dread being judged for having dolls as many of us are in the community. This is such a great topic, thank you for sharing with all of us! xxxooo's
Great topic and discussion! I personally do not role play or sleep with my dolls. I don’t even hold them that much as I’d rather hold my puppies if I feel a need to hold something lol. But I do love that they’re there when I do need a “baby fix”. I don’t think I use them for emotional support but I do find when I spend some time with them changing them, photographing them etc I completely de-stress so there is definitely a therapeutic effect. Which I’m sure would be the case in any hobby someone would enjoy. I just happen to love babies and dolls. As an artist there’s a whole other layer of this hobby for me as a creative outlet. I don’t think anyone should feel shame in finding comfort in a doll or teddy bear or anything like that. But I do agree it can become unhealthy if we cannot “do life” without it.
Thank you for sharing this article. I have always loved my dolls since childhood. I recently adopted a reborn, she arrived just before Christmas. I love to hold her, because it feels so good to have her in my arms. I also have an empty nest thing going on but I would have gotten her anyway. I wanted to share her pictures with my sister who is in rehab for her knee surgery. She asked if I would bring her and I did, the result was that many of the patients became really interested in her. Those who got to hold her seemed transformed, there was a look of bliss on their faces. Many of them were older women whose children are grown and they have the added stress of not being home themselves. I will be bringing her back to visit simply because it felt so good to share the love of a doll.
People, myself being one, that enjoy having a reborn doll are people who seem to have the most compassion for other humans. Maybe a " transitional" object simply holds our humanity for us.
There is no shame of having dolls, I have all my reborn dolls in one room, I love them , they are so unique so different from other dolls , I don’t role play with them but I love to changed once in a while . My grandchild loves them. I have people that likes to see them and they are so amazed by them, others don’t like them at all .......I’ve been called crazy for having them.........Really.......Don’t care ........I tell them you don’t have to like them ....reborn are not for everyone but have a little respect for does who have them........why can’t adults play with dolls as well.......there is no shame playing with dolls.....if that makes you happy go for it.....
and I say people can make fun of me if they want but right now my dolls are like my children until I do have my own
I think the reborns are wonderful for stress reducers. I have been a collector to 9 years and I have taken them on vacations, outings with other collectors. We take them shopping at times when buying for them. I have always had people ask about them and are so pleased that I share with them. I have also found that men are much more taken with them. I don't have shame about my babies and I believe that because I love them and are excited to share them that people who contact me are happy for the experience.
I love this topic and wish the article could be available to everyone. I love my reborn babies and have always loved my dolls. I still have my teddy bear and he sits in a chair in my bedroom. Anyone can tell that he was very well loved because his stuffing has deflated and he lost his nose but he is a reflection of my childhood. He was there when I needed a hug, a friend and a comfort at night when I drifted off to sleep. Thanks for sharing this important subject. xoxo Merrily
I collect Cabbage patch dolls. I dress them and play with them. I am 43 yrs old. I was robbed of the chance of being able to have children due to pre cancer. My dogs are my babies .
They are a great comfort no matter how old or how young you are I get comfort from my babies and I love them dearly to dress them just to hold them is an awesome feeling love flows from the belly up and throughout your eyes it’s amazing feeling to hold a little baby either it be real or not it’s just amazing 🍼👶♥️
Awesome topic! I love everything about the dolls; they are comforting to hold, fun to dress and take pictures of. The dolls are art and capture moments in time of babies,😚
Thank you so very much for making me feel like I’ve come home. My spine began deteriorating in my early 40s and I’ve always been a doll collector so when the pain and depression began using them for therapy was just a natural step for me. Although I love my dolls, I’ve kept my collection very private but I think, I’m coming out of the doll closet!
Thank you so much for sharing!! 🥰 much love ♥️
This article was so sweet. I am also an adult who still sleeps with her childhood teddy bear and baby blankie, and I was lucky enough that my parents never made me give them up. Not so much with my blankie and teddy bear do I feel shame, but I do feel some shame when interacting with my reborn doll, probably because I associate 'playing with dolls' as a child's activity.
Very interesting article!
I had an amazing childhood and sometimes I do remember and say " oh wow those were good old times" so maybe a part of why I collect these dolls ( even though I don' t think about it) it s cause somehow when I change a doll it brings me back to those good old days..
But I think the main reason I do collect it s cause it helps me take the stress away, it takes anxiety away or makes me feel better if I m feeling low, etc
When I was collecting before I got pregnant with my son it was to kinda " experiment" at least the fun part of being a mom ( buying clothes, accessories, etc) but I never thought they were real and I was aware a doll can't replace a real child..
I think as long as collectors are aware of that and these dolls are a hobby that brings them joy there s no reason to be ashamed for collecting, I think it s totally ok to clear your mind with something you like, we all need some downtime and forget about everyday worries sometimes.
I have to say I was surprised to hear so many men bring their teddy w them on business trips but whatever float their boat, they are not harming anybody right? he he
Thanks for sharing and your babies are adorable!! xoxo
Thank you for sharing this information. I'm just getting my 1st reborn. My daughter has 2. Sending you Love and Light from Washington state. Have a blessed week 💖 🌟
I'm glad you brought that up. I'm there with you on that. I lost my newborn boys. I've been lost since. I want a boy reborn so much just can't afford it in my disability income.
It's quite interesting you have a gray elephant next to the baby. I just bought one myself awaiting for my first reborn baby to arrive 💕
Oh it's so funny I just read this exact article before I watched this video. I agree with the article, who exactly gets to decide what's "normal". I get made fun of all the time because of my reborns yet it's ok and acceptable for men to play with trains. How is this any different, I suffer every day from extreme anxiety and holding my reborns gives me alot of comfort and calms me. So I say we should do whatever works and if nobody likes it well that's just to damn bad😁👍
Niklaus, Charli & Sparrow are just....you! You made them happen...your heart your mind brought them home to you.
My next reborn...I did the same. Literally pinning for her....not long now. Psychologist are renowned to simplify an inanimate object as a child like regression. Also enabling thus object to be less shameful if it helps to release endorphins of comfort. The spectrum for reborn collecting reborns covers many reasons to do so. Great video Renee as usual ❤🇬🇧
Such an Interesting study !! I love it!! I will save this video to my list. Your voice is so soothing that I was listening with my eyes shut when I was getting ready to bake a nap!!! Xoxoxo Happy New Year Renee to you and the family 🎆🎆🎆🎆
I have disability and I have a baby doll because I’m not ready for real kids and I don’t know what to do with a real baby so I play with baby doll
I absolutely loved the article you read! I have had felt a lot of what it stated! Thank you so much for sharing this and your personal experience as well! I plan to make a reaction video to this later!
What a lovely video. My love of dolls started when I was an adult and I still had a son at home, what was different with me was I grew up in a children’s home from the age of 5 so I had to look out for my younger sister, all we ever wanted for Christmas or birthdays was to go back to our mam and dad but that never happened. One of my 3 sons bought me a porcelain doll one Christmas and it took off from there, but as much as they were pretty they were just to look at, so then I moved on to vinyl but nothing like the reborns. I was searching for something I could cuddle. I never had a bear in my life and my life was far from happy, I was getting knocked out by a drunk husband and frequently had black eyes but I feared for my life, when I tried to leave he would find me and I would get another beating. One doll I did have was a baby doll in porcelain weighted like a baby, quite a break through back then, I would cuddle her. Only a few months ago, I found this community and I couldn’t believe my eyes and within about a month I had my very own reborn. I have been a lot happier since I got her, I love shopping for baby clothes, I have always loved looking for baby clothes whenever a family member or friend is having a baby.Thats my story. There are a lot worse things we could be doing, like doing drugs etc but we choose a harmless hobby not causing any harm to anyone xxx
I'm waiting for my reborn and the people who are the judges are the ones that are insecure. I saw a video by some person called Brett Cooper completely dissed the reborn community and it's an example of the type of shame that results in doll owners from revealing their love of their dolls. Everyone needs to face responsibility but everyone needs to nurture their inner child otherwise there would be no pure creativity or presence in life
You knw I feel like some people it is therapuetic for them. For me I have an American Girl doll and I love to hold her and sleep with her. I love children and my career is working with children.So part of me taps into my childlike self. I do feel embarrassed sometimes because I talk to my doll. It's therapuetic.
I shared this video to a reborn group hope it was ok. And I’m saving it
People collect porcelain dolls. Sometimes they pay a ton for them. I see no difference.
I work cna and it can be stressful. We are told to recognize the stress and do things to relieve the stress. I just started in the reborn world. The baby seems to help. So what's wrong with that? Better than doping myself up with unnecessary meds.
This is wonderful and insightful, thanks! I have often wondered at my own interest in reborns... Now I know more!
I really enjoyed this video ❤ THANKS 😊
Thank you my Queen for the video.
I got into reborns in 2015 after losing my fiancee to epilepsy and later a baby I was unknown to having. They were really helpful. But now today I just love the dolls. I love how they feel. I'm always told I'm motherly but do not really want kids right now. I get what I like in babies such as them smiling or sleeping peacefully and dressing them in these dolls. To me it's selfish to bring a child in this world when I'm not ready. Also I love art and these dolls to me are huggable art😄. I know people often fear what they do not understand. And around where I live, people see adults loving dolls if they are mentally ill or the eldery. That's how they understand it.
Very well stated comment. I and I am so sorry for your losses ♥️
Awe so super adorable what a great collection much ❤️ and have a fantastic day and happy New year 🎉🎆🎇🎊 there is no shame in adults having dolls.eveyone has something they collect
I just lost my son month ago and think about getting one your son name got the same name as my baby boy
Hi there friend! I thank you for sharing that article! I like you was surprised to hear about the men being attached to teddy bears!! We could absolutely incorporate the reborn dolls and the closeness women feel when they hold..dress and cuddle a reborn baby doll. I feel a sense of peace in those moments when I'm stressed out by. Interactting with one of my dolls. And as far as the Me Ness goes...I recall back as a child how much joy I felt when every Christmas I wanted a doll...
I didn't realize it back then but I was calming myself down by playing with one of my dolls! And women have maternal instincts...I still feel that mother/baby bond when I interact with my dolls now.And you know what? People who don't understand and would rather criticize us should find their own damn hobby!!!! I've already read about men with their toy trains....but it can be a more sensible analysis to compare women with reborn and men who love their teddy bears!!!! They are both the same thing...neither is wrong unless a person sees them as real! Great discussion...love your babies!!!!-Happy New Year!! Love Pam
She looks so adorable
I think the same way as you when attending (dressing, hugging, or holding) my doll as just a comfort time involved with a lot of cuteness. I spend maybe ten minutes out of the day at most for my baby. Sometimes I just look at her, put a paci in her mouth, or bow on her head. I don’t think of her as my daughter, grandchild (because I’m older) - she’s just a cute thing that looks very real. However, my instinct kind of tells me I need to care for her as if a real child. That is the attachment to her, but I don’t think of my childhood with her either. I love looking at baby clothes too, because I sewed all my life, so textiles interest me. I have lots of art interests anyway as I majored in fine arts and interior design. Baby clothes are fashion for the most precious time of a human - a baby. So not only does it give me comfort, it excites me in the artistry of these things. Who doesn’t like cuteness? In addition - most of us just enjoy practicing our mothering instincts. These reborns are amazing just in the realism that the art creates. Nothing wrong with how we feel about it. Whether dolls or bears, these are good things to enjoy at any age. Pets are also fulfilling our mothering/paternal instincts with the cuteness included. We all have different depths to this phenomenon. It’s quite interesting psychologically.
Thanks for sharing ❤️ and I love to paint and hold my dolls .
Very interesting topic!! I have always loved bear's, and doll's. I have not got a reborn yet,but I'm working on it. I do wish i had one when my son was born sleeping. SB. I had the "empty arm's syndrome" your babies are so darn cute! Love Charley!! She could make everyone smile!! Thanks for sharing with us!!
Great article and point of view . I watch alot of brittian and UK shows as love way they live and speak.
I agree 100 %
WONDERFUL topic as always. and a Nice article, I agree it can be Heathly as all hobbies can be..However it can also become unhealthy if it Rules.over the reality of true life. HI Charli💗💕💗, Niklaus💙
I really enjoyed your sharing of this article. I think many people have comfort objects... a pet, a blanket, a doll or a stuffed animal. Why should we feel shame over something that makes us feel better and good or brings back joyful memories? My son sleeps with a small square of his baby blanket. He is thirty and his wife knows about it and has accepted it.
I don't consider collecting/making reborns any different for women than it would be for a man to enjoy legos or model trains. So many people in our community hide behind their reborns and in some cases even their closest family and friends have no idea they own reborns. As more reborners open up and share their reborn experiences, I think we will see that over time it will be better accepted.