I Went To A Gay Bar Alone
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I live in Miami Beach.. never was a late-night person.. never used drugs or alcohol but still did well socially.. 69 years old now and grateful for a great life
That's impressive in a town like this 😉
I really like the term "aged out", it's so apt.
I'm 25 and i feel like i've already grown out of going to Gay Bars and get drunk like lots of people do.
lol you're a few steps ahead of me then ;)
Gay guys who still are in that bar and club culture aren't generally very nice to one another, there is always the exception.. Gay men can be very discriminatory towards our own community and that is dissapointing. When I was turning 30 I joined some sports organizations that had been established for gay men and women. I found it to be much healthier than the clubs. I did that until I was 45. I have confidence that you will find your way. You seem to be a very considerate person. Thanks for your interesting posts. 🙂
Thank YOU for watching :)
The gay culture has changed. Before the internet or the hook up apps, gay bars and venues were really the only places you could potentially meet or hook up with other gays. There used to be such an excitement about going out and maybe meeting somebody for a connection or sex. The energies, in these spaces has changed considerably. There used to be that electricity in the air, people used to look at each other, the hunt was on. Nowadays, that electricity has disappeared because everyone is getting their rocks off on the apps. No one is in hunting mode anymore. No one is really interested in anyone else, besides getting drunk and dancing in a gaggle on the dance floor. Everyone is unapproachable, and unfortunately more and more people are getting frustrated and putting on a brave face. We are losing our connection. Just my take. X
Very interesting take. I know exactly the "electricity" you speak of - back in my early 20s, before I ever started using apps (though they had already begun to exist!)...
If you are a "Grandpa", all I can say is that the quality of "Silver Daddies" is definitely on the rise. When I was your age, gay bars, if there were any, were just a place for cops to practice conducting raids.
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I like your honest and organic talk - thanks 😁
Thanks for watching!
Funny story about the flamboyant guy who said you look lonely when you didn’t show him interest. A guy who looked at least ten years older than me did something similar recently when I wasn’t giving him the attention he was like “you must not be a social person” lol. Seems like a common gay defense mechanism when someone they are attracted to isn’t showing them interest
When i was going to the clubs in the 90's in dallas, it was more to be around people like me rather than just to party. Before internet, being gay was very isolating. When a friend took me to the gay bars for the first time around 1993 ish, i was amazed. I didnt know so many gay people existed lol. To me it felt good to be around other gays
I 100% get that and felt the same way in my early 20s, before I started using apps. It was like this liberating yet comforting feeling of "I can be safe here to look at a guy, kiss a guy, etc."
I used to go to a lot of "night clubs" in Metro Detroit and have met a lot of nice people. But overall what I found over the years is there is over the top judgement going on. Have you ever met someone that maybe you didn't like based on looks but later after talking to them found them to be an awesome genuine person. Never judge a book by it's cover! Thanks for the talk video Keven.
100%! But there's also a feeling you have when someone approaches you. Even if they're not your type, you feel someone's genuineness, vs an aggressive feeling, or unwanted sexual advances. So, that's more what I was referring to with the guys who approached me.
@@KevenTalks I think that feeling is tied to one of the three empathy's we might be feeling, Cognitive, Emotional and Compassionate. The world needs more of all three!!
I ALWAYS got my rocks off before I came home 😜
The bars at least gave you the slim hope of 'possibilities'.
In my late 50s now, I felt many of the similar feelings about gay bars; especially the House music was less imaginative than a top 40 music station.
lol agreed on the house music
The truth is that the only way you can enjoy these places is to be off your head on either alcohol or drugs. I used to do both(drugs in a club only) and when you don’t you realise that its actually not much fun. Most people go( whether they admit it or not) with the hope the are going to hook up and are probably sick of the apps which is like ordering a meal-‘I’ll have this extra spicy and that on the side’.
I suppose in a bar at least you get to see the person and not the best pic , taken at the best angle 10 years ago!
I have a partner and we’re monogamous so I don’t do either and don’t miss them one little bit🙏
I agree. Without being drunk or high, you realize it's actually a repetitive hamster wheel without much distinct enjoyment. I'd rather go to a quieter, swankier venue with good friends.
very relatable to my experiences in the UK
In my experience, Miami is just sloppier. Fun, but sloppier. At our age (we're the same age) I've found that the daytime version of this like tea dances, and brunch events, etc. are more fun and tend to be less sloppy while still having the hope of making said connection/having a fun time
lol! That's a good word to describe it ;)
63 three years widowed from a 30 yr true loving relationship. Your point of aged out. I just simply won't go to a g bar. I was so very lucky to have gotten to experience a true love. I like your points. You are very handsome, I have watched a few of your vids and know I like you. Nothing creepy seriously. But truly a refreshing take on good topics.
Thank you so much! Hope you stick around my channel :)
On one hand there's too many drunken bums and jerks wrecking bars, cafes and parades. On the other hand the scene has got worse since the 90s where prices skyrocketed & quality guys just use apps etc now so there's less reasons to go out.
Totally!
I absolutely agree with everything you’re stated here, especially the music on repeat. I commented on the short version. I haven’t been in ages and I am probably aged out of it too.
We're grandpas ;)
Haha yes by today’s standards 😂
Thank you for the video Keven. It seems nothing has changed in the clubs. You described how it was when I used to frequent the clubs in the past. It is a generational shift, but the same things are still taking place. The only thing that changes is the generation. The problem is not you. It is hard to meet others out in the community and connecting with others has not become easy. Technology changed things too. I do not use dating apps and do not know how either. You are not a grandpa Keven. People are looking to connect or make a connection with others. That is the challenge. You cannot do the same thing expecting different results. You recognize this and you have learned from this. You will purse something new and different. You are maturing in a positive way. Look at it like that. Please take care.
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You are absolutely correct I too am aware and have noticed the change and the DETERIRATION of the club life and what has come of it and of the younger generation in the club-life. all I can say is I'm so glad that I lived and partied through the 90's experiencing what the club life was all about and how AMAZING the nights would come alive by the many life experiences, friendships and relationships that were created. also the after-club experiences by hanging out in and around the city or going to a house or hotel party and everything that I'm not saying that made the club life what it was and the LEGENDARY and EPIC club themes and designs along with the amazing work of the lighting design and the real DJs remixing LIVE WITH ACTUAL VYNIL RECORDS! unlike today where they put a disc or connect to their phones and play off those devices and that has become really lame. and perhaps it is that we are older but one thing is for certain the time of this Club Life was truly a AMAZING time to be in the life and the level of it all that was always raising the bar to amazement and jaw-dropping production, promotion, music releases, concert/show events with Amazing club Divas like international Recording Artist AMBER or the amazing voice of Deborah Cox to name a few performing club dates with their current Hits at the time. There was nothing like it and will never be and that's because tines have truly changed and the younger people are different also. I mean there was a talent from the clubgoers that would be so creative with their weekly fashions to awe and inspire and at times intimidate and hate! but the presents of these people will always live in my memory forever and I still am wowed by them. I'm rambling but I hope I'm conveying what I'm trying to say but if you get nothing from what I'm sayin all I'm saying is I AGREE WITH YOU!!! 100% 🙂
I grew up in NYC going to the bars . I loved NYC but it was too hard to live there for me . I like it more quiet . I moved to the opposite environment that you did at age 26 Quiet and tranquil. Thought I would be giving up on finding any gay life.. sort of did . But my environment is so much better than the big city life . I would never go back to live
I thought you were going to say the famous weather girls anthem
NYC gets exhausting, for sure!
Hello, new to the channel. Did you have any expectations of going out by yourself? I'm an introvert so I get anxiety easily. I love the occasional going solo and that loud music and bass never disappoints!
Welcome to my channel! 😎
No expectations - just curiosity & boredom, I guess!
I'm an introvert myself but I guess at a bar I don' t feel any pressure to "perform" like say on a job interview or a networking event, so it doesn't give me any anxiety at all! Does going out give you anxiety?
21 and think I've been to a gay bar maybe one time lol?? not my thing for some reason and i remember having a very similar experience
Wow! You've aged out pretty young, literally as soon as you became legally eligible to age IN 😂
I'm turning 30 in a couple months and never experienced a real gay scene before. I am friends with a couple of gay guys in my area, but I live in a college town and the only gay bar here is a night club that caters to college students. Having only moved here at age 23 I already felt too old to go, and it's the only gay bar I've ever been to. I know I might not be the best example to give my opinion, but I've never desired going to a bigger city to try out the gay bars there. Maybe I just need to keep an open mind and consider that it's not all gay bars and just my location, but like.... 🤷♂
I was just kidding about the grandpa thing though! 30-something is most definitely not "too old" to be at a bar :)
For me going out alone is so dictated by the mood you are in, it can be really fun or feel lonely depending. Do you think other people in that bar treat you differently than they did when you were in 20s or is it just something internally that’s it’s not as fun when most of the people are a different age than you?
Very true that spending time alone is a double-edged sword!
I am treated a bit differently nowadays in that - dare I say, lol - that I'm in my prime. I'm fitter & healthier than I was in my mid to late twenties, and it gets me more attention nowadays. Of course that's mostly a good thing, but sometimes uncomfortable late night at a gay bar especially if alone (there seem to be more creeps than ever...).
I think businesses try to find formulas that work and then stick to them. But then it just ends up becoming highly predictable and you get to the point where you are over it. I think you also have to consider the age range youre around. 20 somethings are going to be more annoying. Especially under the influence of drugs or alcohol. I am part of the "bear" community. We are less shallow in general. And it tends to have a wider range of ages. So I am around more men rather than young guys. That helps have a more mature environment.
And the problem with party people is if you are not one and you are around them, you sort of have to dumb yourself down to fit in. And who wants to do that? I think one of your issues is that you are interested in a group that doesn't have a real community. You like guys around your age or a bit older, i am assuming your more into fit guys based off of all your videos ive watched on here. Not necessarily muscle guys, but still fit (not overweight at all). I could be wrong. And you said you like dark and handsome guys. So maybe you would like the otter or wolf community lol. My point is, and i know all these subcategories are a little silly, but the point is, if you could find a community if guys you like that are more mature, and went on a night where that is their night at the bar, then maybe you'd enjoy it a bit more. Instead of like a bunch of young twinks and muscle gays popping pills and drinking and being obnoxious. And i know that can be found in any gay group, but in general i think the muscles and the twinks tend to be a little more drawn to those environments.
"young twinks and muscle gays popping pills"
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I think I'm just becoming more and more introverted / annoyed with crowds in general
If you've lived in cities like LA, SF, NYC, Atlanta the club scene is far different because you have variety of places. If you want quality men and people you'll have to step outside of bars and clubs.
You're not a grandpa, lol. As someone who doesn't go out with the expectations of meeting someone (literally nobody lives here LOL), I find myself much more likely to leave a little earlier if the crowd gets annoying. I just go out to dance. Sometimes the music does get a bit same-y (looking at you, house music events), but drunk people who repeatedly bump into me are 1000% the reason why I will leave earlier. People will straight up walk on top of you and completely ignore you.
If you're spending money on something, you're ideally getting something in return (entertainment, fun, etc, whatever). If you're not getting your money's worth, stop going.
That last part about your $ spent being worth something - so true!
4:01 you're my people 😅 loving this story
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I'm twice your age, and I disliked gay bars when I was coming out in the 70s (my weirdest experience was going home with my conservatory harpsichord teacher), still disliked them when I gave them another try in the 80s , hated them when I lived in Amsterdam in the 90s, and frankly didn't know they even still existed here in the 21st century.
I love this comment lol especially the part about the harpsichord teacher (!) 🤭
@@KevenTalks He turned out to be a leather queen with an absolutley terrifying dildo.
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I enjoy watching you experience bar life so i don't have too! Moved way beyound it all by the age of 40! Happily in hermit mode with my cat!
lol!🐱
Try a gay karaoke vibe or karaoke in general if you can find one if your into that…also your only 32 that's still young but i can definitely relate to your experience.
Great description of a very very gay bar. These bars are all the same everywhere. No creativity. Lack of culture. Emptiness.
That sums it up lol
Boston has 0 gay night life. Bars close @ 2am.
The bars close in LA at 2am too. I actually prefer that kind of vibe. It forces you to go out earlier and be home by 2, lol. Doesn't screw up your entire next day (for grandpas like me, at least) @@stumack9755
6:50 Im in tears😂😂😂! But im glad that you're Catching on👀 7:00
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I don’t know you well Kevin and it would be nice to get to know you. And from me looking at you besides your looking very cute with those eyes 😉, hair, body hair I can see A nice man looking to be loved after getting to know the right man. And also see if there in the same level as you, and also drama free.❤❤
easy
I’m a 54 yo grandpa don’t go out much more at all only with friends occasionally but your still a young handsome guy I hope you find your forever person 😊
I've been paying New York prices for drinks lately, like $17 for a cocktail. As for Gen Z, I approach them, they are friendly but there is an invisible barrier and we never talk again after that night. There was this meet up group I tried that was young people from instagram and they were all non binary so I felt really out of place. The other meetup group that is ordinary gays is full of old people, like 40+. So at 32 I'm in a weird limbo area where I fit nowhere.
I agree with this strange limbo feeling at 32! Not sure if it's a millennial thing, or a common thing in one's 30s...past young adulthood but not quite a "mature adult" either...
@@KevenTalks And the music at the bars I go to, they just play the same hits from 10-15 years ago on loop. The music in these bars cater to millennial age group I guess thats why they do that but its like you're stuck in a time warp
Yes!!!!
40+ is not old!
@@newworldlove7031 historically speaking, it is.
You know what your problems is Keven? You're a thinker! You observe and you notice stuff. I'm A LOT older than you are (in Phoenix). For lack of anything productive to do on a weekend night (and no small amount of laziness), I make the same trip to the same gay bar every Saturday night, KNOWING full well I'm not going to like the banal conversation, the nose-in-the-air desplays of attitude when there is no basis for attitude, and the utter lack of dignity when there SHOULD be some dignity. After 60-90 minutes, I've had as much as I can take and I drive home, satisfied that, once again, there was nothing to see. I sympathize, buddy.
Every weekend? Wow!
sad
@@KevenTalks But only for about an hour just to get out. All my straight friends are married and my gay friends are old or drunk, LOL.
Perhaps the missing element is intoxication.
lol
Yeah, too funny. You now have wisdom and expect more from the community, though less is what you receive. Heads up man. Don't worry about it..
i say... get a dog.
Times I remember going to a bar alone was when I was 19 years old and within minutes meeting two veterinarians - who I did not believe were vets as they were so party like - but found out later they were - and we left the bar together and all three of us went to a 24 hour restaurant and got to know each other and had food. Both vets liked me and one was very hot with Atlantis green eyes I have never seen before.
Watch out for the ones with green eyes though ;)
I think it depends also on attitude. if you want to have a good time, you will (mostly). if you don't want to, you won't (mostly).
Fair
I think if you have to try that hard to have a good time, then maybe you actually aren't. I realized many years ago, I just hate this and I'm not doing it anymore.
Also true! Not worth forcing it@@dnwitte
@@dnwitte I think it's kind of 50-50. You have to take some initiative to have a good time, chat up some people, move around etc. The other 50 is allowing things to happen to you when they happen. Of course if nothing happens, then you've done your job (your 50 %) and you can leave again without feeling bad. But sometimes those persons chatting you up aren't thaaaaat bad, when you get to know them you might actually start to like them.
this is like looking in the mirror I LOVE YOUR VIDEOS
lol thank you!
10.00 for a Corona ? At the bar I go to it would be 4.25. It better be a really great bar
you've aged outta these environments. good. now you can be a supermodel and I don't know what you're waiting for. you got it.
Is this sarcasm? 🙈😅
@@KevenTalks oh my God no. it's everything but. this video popped up on the screen so it's the first time I been to your channel. I watched it and thought, I'd feel the same way if I were him and you're right. the whole time watching it I'm greatly admiring the face God gave you at birth. I wondered if you know how beautifully handsome you are. you're beauty is rare. there's only a lucky very few who are at the very top of highest paid models. it's because they were born ..like you. meaning you already have what it takes for that but it doesn't matter who you are, you're oK with me because you're just as beautiful on the inside as you are on the outside. I apologize for being blunt if you find it that way, where I come from it's common but I meant no offense in any way.
@@Pro-Deo You are so sweet! 🥹
I wasn't sure if it was sarcasm because I don't have "model looks" 😅
But I really appreciate your kind words 😘
You look beautiful
Thank you Ushantha!
Miami is the capital of Latin America. You are lucky the guy could speak English:). As to Whitney Houston, all her songs sound new to me even though I have heard them 1,000 times. Honestly, I cannot leave the bar until they play a Whitney Houston song. I Want to Dance with Somebody is the national anthem of gay bars. The only other song that comes close is Save the Last Dance for Me by Donna Summer. That is like America the Beautiful. And I am twice your age. Go figure.
Love Donna Summer lol
HOW VERY DARE YOU say you've aged out of the club scene at 32?!!! I have 10 years on you and still fantasizing about tending bar one night a week as a moonlighting / voyeuristic gig and reason to stay in shape. 😂 Mind you, my 30s were pretty much stolen (don't ask) so I have a lot of catching up to do. And I think growing up in a place without a visible gay community or gay nightlife, the lure of the bars will always be worth the "risk" for me, even if it's not every weekend. Maybe once I hit 50, I'll bow out gracefully-ish and ditch the bars....... for house parties! 😂 Great vid!
Omg I have the same bartending fantasy, but only at a sexy, chic speakasy 😅
@@KevenTalks Totally! There's something very sexy about a daddy type behind a bar. Plus you get to meet all kinds of people with a literal barrier between you for safety! I need to track down an old bartender buddy and see if he'd do it with me. 😁
I'm sure it's not as fun as it seems - "grass is always greener" - they probably deal with so many obnoxious, belligerent drunkards on a constant basis, not to mention the nocturnal lifestyle screwing with a standard sleeping cycle...but maybe it'll happen for us both one day and we can find out for ourselves ;) @@RY-fe3rt
I don’t think it’s cause you’re too old to be in the bar. You’re the perfect age 32 years old and I’m happy that you was sitting there drinking to yourself and seeing if someone find you interested and some people I guess they just look a mingle that’s my opinion pretend they flirt with you and get to know you and do a one night stand and then the next thing they don’t wanna talk no more, not you anyone
Yesssssss
You really can't go to the same sorts of bars later in life as you frequented in your twenties. I go to my neighborhood wrinkle bar in the early afternoon and shmooze with people, and have a nice time. If I were to go to a dance club I'd stick out like a sore thumb and people would assume I were there for a cash transaction. You're still pretty young, but most guys in their 30s are over the club scene.
I lived in West New York, NJ for 32 years. I was a minority there. The Latino Speaking to English Speaking Ratio was 85% to 15%. Miami is exactly the same. You look Latino in a Spanish Community. I love Spanish guys that’s why I lived in West New York. Learn to speak Spanish, Buff Up Your Game . Dave
Keven, I'm a "grandpa,{ literally (more than twice your age), but I think you need to be more flexible. lol I love going to gay bars when I can. But I am very choosy about the type of gay bar I go to. I have no interest in going to the 20 something bars with loud music, etc. I love going to quiet gay bars where I'm with "my people." It's comforting--at least for an old guy like me. You're a lovely guy and should be happy. Don't go to places that are not suited to what you are looking for. Go to places that are fun and comfortable.
Where are the quiet gay bars? Asking for a friend 😅
@@KevenTalks I don't know about Miami. But I used to go to Therapy in NYC before it closed. It got loud late in the evening. Also, there are a couple in DC but I used to go to a long time ago--maybe 10 years ago.
Therapy was a classic! 😂@@rjcarter2904
@@KevenTalks I agree. It was my favorite. I was heart-broken when it closed during the pandemic.
I have!☺️
Corona is popuar w/ the spanish crowd. Hense y grandpa started speaking spanish w/ u. U both aged out of clubs.
Miami like Peurto Prico is USA but predominantly spanish.
I always walked around w/ a VB frown too. 😂Thank god i found my man of 23yrs @ a gay dive pool hall bar.
My question is why would u move to Florida, a not a very gay friendly state.
Miami is to Florida what Los Angeles is to California, or NYC is to New York state. It's in its own little bubble. I otherwise would never live anywhere else in Florida.
You say the bar is not your scene, but a bar isn't a bar unless there's at least one person who's there for the sole purpose of being aloof and judgy.
lol perhaps ;)
I went to a gay bar for the first time two months ago in NYC. The music was the best part about the place. It was majority of millennials at the bars and not Gen Z. The place was actually pretty dead at 1 AM and I was told the ideal time was at 11:30 PM. The men were very judgemental. I was shocked even the bartenders had a little attitude. Well that's their tip you won't get from me. As far as Hispanics speaking in their own language, that bothers me a lot. I'm Hispanic myself and if one cannot speak in English and lacks literacy then I'm not going to even be interested in that person no matter how hot their body is. Communication is very important and they cannot speak the language of the land effectively, then there's zero chance I want anything to do with them. About these places making money, yes they will make money off those rhey frequent bars but they clearly do not care about us folks so therefore, they will lose business to folks like us that didn't feel welcomed or accepted in a gay bar. I was very disappointed. You described your experience in NYC as better but I actually think Florida may have a better scene for gay bars
Thanks for sharing your experience! Do you remember the name of the bar in NYC? Curious if I know it. There's definitely more attitude & ego in NYC bars, but with that also comes a higher caliber of guys, I think. Double-edged sword for sure. There's less of that here, but it's also SO much trashier in every way (even beyond the gay bars).
@@KevenTalks I went Pieces then Monster then Stonewall. Pieces was fun but I felt very lonely going to that bar by myself. It was hard to meet anyone there. The other two bars were more laid back but not what I was looking for or expected. The second time I went to NYC, I went to Fairytale and Hardware since they are right next to each other. I don't like either of them. I'm debating if I will ever go to any gay club/bar in NYC again. For me, I never been around so many gays so it was something new to me. I've been told to visit Fire Island this summer (only 3 months away) but I'm really unsure if I will like it or not especially if I'm going by myself
Oh ok, West Village spots! Honestly, I never hung out at the Village bars. They're not really...hip ;) Mostly tourist traps. Hell's Kitchen bars are the hot spots where modern NYC professionals are.
I've never been to Fire Island but it's not for me. It's one of those gay cesspools - lots of sex (orgies), drugs, etc. Not my scene. You may get overwhelmed based on what you mentioned.
Some queens go to gay bars for the all illusive validation and attention. Some go to their social media sites. À chacun son goût.
"À chacun son goût" indeed ;)
Hi Kevin wow you’re 32 that’s A great age and you look attractive and to me you do not look old. And I’m about to be 35 years old April 18th and most people think I look young 😅
Thank you!
I’m 57 and don’t do gay bars anymore. Maybe being referred to as a grandpa is a turn off for me and certainly striking up a conversation with a younger guy if only platonic gets the same reaction as you did….ya walk away! 🤷♂️
But you are lucky because you area very attractive guy and you would be welcomed as people like a nice face. Even the bar would like to have a handsome face like yours.
We don't have that luxury because we don't have your look.
Sometimes good looking guys like you may cause many of us to think that we out of your league. We think that attractive guys like you would dismiss less attractive guys like us. So most of don't even try. We don't want to get our feelings hurt. i think you should accept that.
God, Gay bars were a bore forty years ago, I can only imagine how disappointing they must be now.
lol!
Why do you live in Florida?
Miami Beach is like a different state within Florida lol
I know how that works. I live in Salt Lake City a gay mecca in the middle of a huge red sea.
Ohh SLC is a gay mecca?! It's so Mormon-based, I'd never assume so
Umm actually, America has no native language except for the actual Native American Languages. So You should learn to speak the native language as you pointed out.
Out gooning... 😂
exactly! looking to get laid & failed. only has a $30 bill for 3 piss beer coronas to show. .
You want to be in bed by 1 at 32!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Sure do 🤣
I grew out of the gay scene in my early 30s. Early 40s now. Found I enjoy a dive bar more or hanging with friends at my house. I recently went to a bar/club and was like yeeeeah I’m done here.
See I love a good house dinner or get-together as well but the thing is then it indulges my homebody nature, you know? Sometimes it's good to be out and about among the people, lol. I just want more sophisticated venues at this stage in life...
A decade ago I went out with this guy my age (50) and one weekend we roadtripped somewhere and I shit you not there was nothing on his CD changer more recent the early 80s music. I broke up with him after that trip! I listen to mostly current music, I'm not stuck in the decade I came out in so naturally I had to wonder "what other stuff from that era are you stuck on as well? Have you grown at all in the last 3 decades?" So yeah sadly that facet of imcompatability just killed it for me.
When you said English was the native language, I agreed there that might be a grandpa statement. Lol Someone once said to me about people speaking Spanish over English in the United States was they are doing the same as Europeans did. Europeans came to the Americas and forced the Natives to speak English. They didn't come here and learn Diné or any of the actual native languages. To say they must speak English can be seen as hypocritical. Hope this is taken with a grain of salt, as I enjoy your videos and see you as traveled and cultured, otherwise.
But...Spanish is not the native language of the US? So that's where you lose me lol.
I just thought it was obnoxious on his behalf to assume I spoke *his* language vs the national language, especially since he spoke English anyway. It's like if I approached someone in Spain speaking English to them in a presumptuous manner, like as if they ought to speak English to accommodate me. That ish just irritates me lol
@KevenTalks I will say English isn't the native language, either. The US doesn't have an official language, but English is most accepted. However, the states of California, Arizona, New Mexico, Texas, and Florida all accept Spanish as a major language, so have all government documents in English and Spanish. All in all, you can be annoyed by the interaction, which I have experienced myself in California, a lot, or choose not to be when you live in a Spanish dominant society. Miami, after all isn't an English word. It came from Cuba. That's all I was saying. Spanish will probably continue to grow in the US. Even the Midwest has large populations of Spanish speaking people.
I’ve gone a million times alone in my 20s. After age 35 I wouldn’t be caught dead in a gay bar. They are VERY trashy. You’ll never meet your husband in a gay bar. You’ll meet him at a benefit in the Hamptons or Palm Beach, or through a dating app. Men who are successful, professional and who genuinely want to build a meaningful monogomous relationship are not in gay bars. Trust me
I get your point but I'm not sure my "future husband" would be at the Hamptons or Palm Beach. 😅 I find those environments sooo pretentious and..."frou frou" 😉
Gay men go to gay bars to hookup... Not marry each other
You got old. Think of a song that you've heard however many times. Someone still hasn't heard that song yet. They could be young and that's why..or even an older person who never listened to that artist and it's their first time hearing that song. For you the song might still be great, want to hear it from time to time...to someone new they wanna hear that song over and over again.
Yeh, you need to get over it! Im an old gay man. I kinda like it, its Fun man.
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This sounds very judgmental. Stay home next time. You also sound a tad Trumpy! He can speak whatever language he wants to and why don't we speak his language. Stop!