Over-giving is definitely a lack of boundaries. It’s like overpaying. Eventually if you’re not getting mutually back what you give in, you’re being exploited. The only time you should be over-giving is when you owe them, like if it’s your child needing care. But then you’re just giving what’s necessary, not over-giving. Over-giving seems like putting a positive facade on being exploited.
I think overgiving can be about many things and is often a sign of low self esteem or some kind of emotional neglect or abuse or not having needs seen when younger or parentifying a parent and not being able to be a child in recepit of parental care and attention. Yes it may well be that it was your freinds decision to ultimately decide to stop giving so much of they felt used or unhappy or did not feel the person gave back in return but in my expereince it can be like a feedback loop where you give and gove and get used to not having any validation or acknowledgement and so you keep on giving and giving in the hope you will finally get some. It can come from the deep belief that you are never enough and so iin order to be loved and not abandoned etc you have to give and gove because you yourself will never be enough otherwise. I think I did this when much younger and also in a relationship with someone who it turned out was cheating on me and who let me down many times when they should have been there for me. It ends up your confidence and self belief are undermined and you end up believing you are not enough and nothing you do is every good enough or worthy and it becomes self fulfilling.To say its manipulative on the part of the giver...well it maybe so sometimes but its unhealthy overall and sometimes can come maybe from lack of communication or expressed needs. I think some people also just like taking and like attention without thinking of giving back..sometimes this narcissist/empath relationship is common and I think it can be more common for women to overgive but not always for sure. I think women are encouraged to be givers and nurturers etc and men to provide in other ways maybe but I do think gender roles and stereotypes can mean that women are more often overgivers or maybe men who lack secure masculinity. But maybe it is less about gender and more about the masculine/feminine balance and how secure indiviudals are with their gender identity
@@trollsneedhugs absolutely...that is absolutely the kind of overgiving I was thinking of and I rarely think it is about control or manipulation but a low self esteem where you are used to giving and being as you said a caregiver or parentified role. I think often the people who most benefit there are the takers or recipients of your overgiving.Well done for breaking out of that pattern and role...I think even in your thirties you are still doing well to break those kind of trauma bonds and patterns
In my case it was about being parentified by my mother. And abandon by my father. I then found a girl who would take attention, meals, invitations - and all the initiative on my part. But I realized that this had no future. Neither me giving, or her just taking. I think this corresponded to my low self esteem. I was so happy when she just mention giving something back(but she didnt).
wow. so powerful, daniel. so rich. your last line really hit me: "giving from the SURPLUS of myself." there's got to be a surplus! which is such foreign information that i'm learning to live by now. truly filling myself UP. and fill others from that place of ME being full....what a strange concept, much like for your dear jamie. he didn't understand that. wow. thank you daniel.
I had an acquaintance, who says she has the lowest self esteem, today, tell me how she knows that at least she can love herself because she is a very loving person because she can love these people (like her parents and boyfriend) who are emotionally abusive. I told her that although this is how she believes she can have the little self esteem she has, that I can not admire that because by putting up with abuse she is betraying herself. I thought I was pulling the rug out from under her but she was ok and had to agree but said she was unsure how she can really get there.
What a metaphor Daniel, powerful words - thanks. I raised Budgies too, friends to me as well. Devastated by the loss of them especially one, my first. Since then my passion is bird watching now and photographing their daily lives. Birds are special and certain wild birds give to other birds as in feeding fledglings who've been ignored by abusive parent birds. I love watching the wild ones interact, it's self reflecting at times. Once again ... thank you Daniel.
I agree completely that we need to first care about ourselves in order to give back with the remaining energy but have difficulties balancing it myself, even at times feel guilty for taking due to the blaming and name-callings in my youth like being selfish or calculating, and since I was being treated good when I was selfless that stayed with me probably 🥺 thank you Daniel for the important subject analysis 🙏🏻
Every time I break it down I always conclude that it's actually very manipulative to give and give and give. Usually, but not limited to, reasons of enabling weaknesses in another, keeping them in a child like state of dependence.
I love when people are as self aware as you are here. So many “givers” hover above the narcissisti to the point of not learning their equal contribution to the tango.
👍 yep, on point. I have learned to by wary of compulsive/strategic givers and also careful to not do that myself. Their “generosity” can easily be weaponized against the receiver through guilting, shaming and enabling. In my family of origin, I learned that everything was conditional: gift/money exchanges, “moral” support, etc. ppl kept score and crapped on others for inferior reciprocity or for not graveling in gratitude enough …it was so toxic.
I don't agree that its always manipulative.Often a person may not even know they are overgiving but may constantly feel they give and give without having their own needs" met or constantly feel taken for granted or unseen or unheard. It can be manipulative too I guess but its not always so..obviously there maybe that expectations if I do this or give that to you then you will give such and such in return. Transactional relationship is very common because lets face it give and take it how it should be and some people I think are natural givers maybe for low self esteem and some natural takers because they are used to having their way. Some people are people pleasers and its a learnt behaviour in order to get love or approval or to feel valid or noticed.Its unhealthy but its not always maniupulative I don't believe.It very often maybe driven my fear rather than intent to make someone else dependent on them or undermine someones own resourcefulness.
@@upendasana7857 you seem to think that if it's unconscious then it's not manipulative. If you want to excuse the takers for their equally weird unconscious justification, then ok. But I disagree. This is how people stay in denial. Let's be very clear that this video is about people who give and give and give! They tend to insist that people take gifts when they don't want them. They're always always always RESENTFUL when their true agenda fails. I've never met an over giver who wasn't more trouble than they're worth. Of course, accepting gifts which are not actually wanted is also very manipulative. There's a reason that so called "givers" tend to gravitate towards one particular type of person over and over. Because it's all the same narcissistic behaviour when we are brave enough to break it down and look at the true psychology of the situation!
Yes, I can relate. After giving so much support to the music community, saving lives many times, rescuing 11 animals and going through everything, I am exhausted. I'm still trying to get a settlement from those who have taken everything and want to take the rest of my life.
Well, for me overgiving to my partner was definitely because of low self-esteem, I believed that she wouldn't be in a relationship with me if I wasn't all the time giving her money, which simply meant, that I felt that I was not worth enough for people to be with me without me giving them money.
It's also a story about balance I believe. There is nothing wrong in giving, giving a lot even. You just have to realize that if you give everything constantly, your condition will deteriorate faster, and maybe you'll die faster. It's like a machine or any mechanism I believe. If you put it in overdrive constantly without taking care of it or letting it 'rest', the mechanism will break down sooner. The same with your body in mind. If you want to live longer and healthier, you must take care of yourself. It's your choice. There are some people in the world who want to sacrifice themselves for something that they consider greater or more important than their own life. But those are very few people. If you want to live a healthy and long life, you must find balance, I believe.
especially when we see that a growing problem for this generation is precisely loneliness, generated by the selfish individuality generated by the "economic approach" to everything in life. "How much am I going to earn with this?" When everyone thinks they deserve more, no one is enough...
@@pedrova8058 well, I must admit I do have this mindset too often. But that's because I'm quite poor actually. Every day is a struggle: 'do I get enough to get by?' And I'm not lazy and I save mony. I think the economy and the world just gets tougher. So it becomes more difficult to just get by. But forgive me if I misinterpreted your comment maybe.
Scary,... but I might be a Jamie too. Sometimes one forgets about the person being served the whole time, and do not realise that being the server might take away the chances of the served party.
Also, perhaps **you** must **save** **yourself** from your Savior Complex, first ✊💝✅ Edit: I’m still needing to be conscious, of myself becoming so “protective” of a separate human being, that I feel an urge to **control** them, but no one owns a person 🥶 #bigyikes I hate that feeling, but it’s **my** codependency, guilt, it’s a shame that everyone doesn’t think the same or what ever; allow other human beings to live life and sooner or, eventually, they may learn; without you bounding to their life 💝… There’s no reason to feel guilt as it’s **far** beyond **you** #loveyourselffirst
@@sojournerkarunatruth4406 I was more speaking as a parent/ child situation, not really the “ control “ as so much to teach/ encourage. Do u have kids?
@@claressarichardson1374 I don’t have children, but I have parents that consistently, rape me with help (my surrogate mum does and I’m 35 this year). If you desire to have a healthy relationship with your child then **work** **on** **yourself** or don’t, and then sit and wait 💣
@@july7578 Tom, the main character, was the giver, and Summer, his girlfriend, was not asking for his “ love. “ She even told him that “: And I can't give you that. Nobody can”. She could not fulfill his expectations, and he ended up heartbroken in the end.
This is an incredibly powerful story. I really enjoy all your videos. They take such an authentic and impactful approach at managing important topics. ❤
Indeed. To keep in check where our gives come from: surplus or scarcity? Aside from incompatibility in a couple (ie the over-giving tendencies can be down to simple incompatibility, causing one having to try that much harder), I'm also thinking the prototype of one's learned behaviours in relationships...ie if parents can keep that in check, then perhaps one day, our youngsters could finally grow up with less trauma, and to be more authentic in their relationships later? Good to have some dreams, isn't it?
I think abuse by children toward other children is very common, but it's so hidden because the idea is horrifying for people. And it's not just abused kids that do it. Sometimes they do it because thier personality enables it. I found a survivor website that claimed that sibling abuse is more common than parental abuse.
There can be lots of difference reasons and family dynamics going on...I'm not sure you are talking just sexual abuse ? but it could be anything from acting out from being abused to just the need for emotional or physical connection and unmet needs from parents who maybe cold, hostile or negelectful,emotionally unavailable.I knew some boy siblings who had acted out sexual abuse with one another as a means of control and frustrated feelings of having unmet emotional needs or not ever feeling good enough or overall demeaned and denigrated.Sexual feelings might not always be overtly about sex but about needs for affection or closeness or relief from overwhelming feels of loneliness or abandonment
@@lilysmith9130 I think that idea that their "personality "enables it is a very dangerous and inaccurate idea.I do not think kids are born bad..they maybe born with certain traits or even inherited trauma from birth or very early expereinces of abandonement or abuse but to talk about it as if a child deliberately acts out abuse is BS quite frankly.You look at nearly all th inciences of school shootings for example and there is always a history of severe abuse and trauma.Stop making out like kids are born "evil" somehow.
I get your point but nature is like this, the budgie gave and gave (evolutionarily programmed to do that, perhaps why it ended up being a pet to a human) but it spent everything to ensure its offspring were plentiful etc. Nature's laws aren't our laws and yes you could say well, best to give longer in moderation but that's not how evolution has made any of us. We are carriers for our genes and altruism plays a major part in our development as a species. It's a balance between the selfish and the altruistic gene but for some, the spending of everything is the best long term contribution to a genetic legacy. Maybe the budgie couldn't understand why his human wasn't understanding his message?
I have overgiven many many times to receive in return just a modicum of attention, love, respect. I know I am done because I know now I can't win. It's my job now to get clear about my mission 😌
Hi Daniel. What do you thought about the concept of self compassion? Do you think it is superficial view of self compare to your view of healing childhood wound or is it compatible? I am really interested in your view?
You name of this video is a danger of giving too much. But that would mean that people have a lot, but people are limited. God is the only one who is unlimited. I cannot give too much to the person from the get-go. If I can’t give too much, this is not the danger anymore.
If you invest in a woman and she doesn’t invest in you then she’ll lose attraction and interest. Easiest way to destroy a relationship is placate to a woman. Treat her like a queen and you’ll be treated like a servant.
When you like Daniel’s videos before even watching them
Over-giving is definitely a lack of boundaries. It’s like overpaying. Eventually if you’re not getting mutually back what you give in, you’re being exploited. The only time you should be over-giving is when you owe them, like if it’s your child needing care. But then you’re just giving what’s necessary, not over-giving.
Over-giving seems like putting a positive facade on being exploited.
Well spoken 👏💝🙏
I think overgiving can be about many things and is often a sign of low self esteem or some kind of emotional neglect or abuse or not having needs seen when younger or parentifying a parent and not being able to be a child in recepit of parental care and attention.
Yes it may well be that it was your freinds decision to ultimately decide to stop giving so much of they felt used or unhappy or did not feel the person gave back in return but in my expereince it can be like a feedback loop where you give and gove and get used to not having any validation or acknowledgement and so you keep on giving and giving in the hope you will finally get some.
It can come from the deep belief that you are never enough and so iin order to be loved and not abandoned etc you have to give and gove because you yourself will never be enough otherwise.
I think I did this when much younger and also in a relationship with someone who it turned out was cheating on me and who let me down many times when they should have been there for me.
It ends up your confidence and self belief are undermined and you end up believing you are not enough and nothing you do is every good enough or worthy and it becomes self fulfilling.To say its manipulative on the part of the giver...well it maybe so sometimes but its unhealthy overall and sometimes can come maybe from lack of communication or expressed needs.
I think some people also just like taking and like attention without thinking of giving back..sometimes this narcissist/empath relationship is common and I think it can be more common for women to overgive but not always for sure.
I think women are encouraged to be givers and nurturers etc and men to provide in other ways maybe but I do think gender roles and stereotypes can mean that women are more often overgivers or maybe men who lack secure masculinity.
But maybe it is less about gender and more about the masculine/feminine balance and how secure indiviudals are with their gender identity
@@trollsneedhugs absolutely...that is absolutely the kind of overgiving I was thinking of and I rarely think it is about control or manipulation but a low self esteem where you are used to giving and being as you said a caregiver or parentified role. I think often the people who most benefit there are the takers or recipients of your overgiving.Well done for breaking out of that pattern and role...I think even in your thirties you are still doing well to break those kind of trauma bonds and patterns
In my case it was about being parentified by my mother. And abandon by my father. I then found a girl who would take attention, meals, invitations - and all the initiative on my part. But I realized that this had no future. Neither me giving, or her just taking. I think this corresponded to my low self esteem. I was so happy when she just mention giving something back(but she didnt).
wow. so powerful, daniel. so rich. your last line really hit me: "giving from the SURPLUS of myself." there's got to be a surplus! which is such foreign information that i'm learning to live by now. truly filling myself UP. and fill others from that place of ME being full....what a strange concept, much like for your dear jamie. he didn't understand that. wow. thank you daniel.
Even Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself. You must love yourself in order to love others. Thank you, Daniel 🙏🌿🌺
I had an acquaintance, who says she has the lowest self esteem, today, tell me how she knows that at least she can love herself because she is a very loving person because she can love these people (like her parents and boyfriend) who are emotionally abusive. I told her that although this is how she believes she can have the little self esteem she has, that I can not admire that because by putting up with abuse she is betraying herself. I thought I was pulling the rug out from under her but she was ok and had to agree but said she was unsure how she can really get there.
What a metaphor Daniel, powerful words - thanks. I raised Budgies too, friends to me as well. Devastated by the loss of them especially one, my first. Since then my passion is bird watching now and photographing their daily lives. Birds are special and certain wild birds give to other birds as in feeding fledglings who've been ignored by abusive parent birds. I love watching the wild ones interact, it's self reflecting at times. Once again ... thank you Daniel.
What a lovely story about your sweet little bird Jamie I’m so sorry you lost him. Thank you for this video.
I agree completely that we need to first care about ourselves in order to give back with the remaining energy but have difficulties balancing it myself, even at times feel guilty for taking due to the blaming and name-callings in my youth like being selfish or calculating, and since I was being treated good when I was selfless that stayed with me probably 🥺 thank you Daniel for the important subject analysis 🙏🏻
So important! Went through most of my life over functioning and overcompensating, often over giving is very much to our own detriment in the end..
What a poignant story about Jamie. Thank you for sharing this and the food for thought it is. ❤️ I’m grateful for you.
i deeply appreciate your videos!!
He was such a loving bird.😭😭😭💔
Every time I break it down I always conclude that it's actually very manipulative to give and give and give. Usually, but not limited to, reasons of enabling weaknesses in another, keeping them in a child like state of dependence.
I love when people are as self aware as you are here. So many “givers” hover above the narcissisti to the point of not learning their equal contribution to the tango.
👍 yep, on point. I have learned to by wary of compulsive/strategic givers and also careful to not do that myself. Their “generosity” can easily be weaponized against the receiver through guilting, shaming and enabling. In my family of origin, I learned that everything was conditional: gift/money exchanges, “moral” support, etc. ppl kept score and crapped on others for inferior reciprocity or for not graveling in gratitude enough …it was so toxic.
I don't agree that its always manipulative.Often a person may not even know they are overgiving but may constantly feel they give and give without having their own needs" met or constantly feel taken for granted or unseen or unheard.
It can be manipulative too I guess but its not always so..obviously there maybe that expectations if I do this or give that to you then you will give such and such in return.
Transactional relationship is very common because lets face it give and take it how it should be and some people I think are natural givers maybe for low self esteem and some natural takers because they are used to having their way.
Some people are people pleasers and its a learnt behaviour in order to get love or approval or to feel valid or noticed.Its unhealthy but its not always maniupulative I don't believe.It very often maybe driven my fear rather than intent to make someone else dependent on them or undermine someones own resourcefulness.
@@bdmenne you mean you love it when people agree with you
@@upendasana7857 you seem to think that if it's unconscious then it's not manipulative. If you want to excuse the takers for their equally weird unconscious justification, then ok. But I disagree. This is how people stay in denial. Let's be very clear that this video is about people who give and give and give!
They tend to insist that people take gifts when they don't want them. They're always always always RESENTFUL when their true agenda fails. I've never met an over giver who wasn't more trouble than they're worth. Of course, accepting gifts which are not actually wanted is also very manipulative.
There's a reason that so called "givers" tend to gravitate towards one particular type of person over and over. Because it's all the same narcissistic behaviour when we are brave enough to break it down and look at the true psychology of the situation!
Yes, I can relate. After giving so much support to the music community, saving lives many times, rescuing 11 animals and going through everything, I am exhausted.
I'm still trying to get a settlement from those who have taken everything and want to take the rest of my life.
RIP Jamie❤️ such a beautiful soul 👍❤️
Well, for me overgiving to my partner was definitely because of low self-esteem, I believed that she wouldn't be in a relationship with me if I wasn't all the time giving her money, which simply meant, that I felt that I was not worth enough for people to be with me without me giving them money.
It's also a story about balance I believe. There is nothing wrong in giving, giving a lot even. You just have to realize that if you give everything constantly, your condition will deteriorate faster, and maybe you'll die faster. It's like a machine or any mechanism I believe. If you put it in overdrive constantly without taking care of it or letting it 'rest', the mechanism will break down sooner. The same with your body in mind. If you want to live longer and healthier, you must take care of yourself. It's your choice. There are some people in the world who want to sacrifice themselves for something that they consider greater or more important than their own life. But those are very few people. If you want to live a healthy and long life, you must find balance, I believe.
especially when we see that a growing problem for this generation is precisely loneliness, generated by the selfish individuality generated by the "economic approach" to everything in life. "How much am I going to earn with this?"
When everyone thinks they deserve more, no one is enough...
@@pedrova8058 well, I must admit I do have this mindset too often. But that's because I'm quite poor actually.
Every day is a struggle: 'do I get enough to get by?' And I'm not lazy and I save mony. I think the economy and the world just gets tougher. So it becomes more difficult to just get by. But forgive me if I misinterpreted your comment maybe.
Your Parakeet matches your interior decor and your outfit, lol
This brushes on a topic that I think about constantly self love vs love you give to others.
I just started to watch this video. This is my issue. I notice that I give too much to the point I exhaust my resources and feel empty.
Thanks for the story Daniel. Will take it to heart
I 💜 hearing your insights and stories. Thank you… I can tell you deeply connect to animals… I always have too
Wow...very beautifully said...
Good story.. reminds me of my beautiful adorable blue budgie Joey 💖 ✨ 🎶
You popped up on the algorithm I can only wonder why 🤔 I like this video. Nature is a great teacher if we are a good student👍🏾
Absolutely correct‼‼🙏🏻🕉🎊🎉🙏🏻‼
Scary,... but I might be a Jamie too. Sometimes one forgets about the person being served the whole time, and do not realise that being the server might take away the chances of the served party.
Thanku Daniel 🌻
Could you speak about the feeling of guilt associated with not being able to “save” a person you care for.
You can’t take a bath 🛀 for some one else #worryaboutyourself
Also, perhaps **you** must **save** **yourself** from your Savior Complex, first ✊💝✅
Edit: I’m still needing to be conscious, of myself becoming so “protective” of a separate human being, that I feel an urge to **control** them, but no one owns a person 🥶 #bigyikes
I hate that feeling, but it’s **my** codependency, guilt, it’s a shame that everyone doesn’t think the same or what ever; allow other human beings to live life and sooner or, eventually, they may learn; without you bounding to their life 💝…
There’s no reason to feel guilt as it’s **far** beyond **you** #loveyourselffirst
@@sojournerkarunatruth4406 I was more speaking as a parent/ child situation, not really the “ control “ as so much to teach/ encourage. Do u have kids?
@@claressarichardson1374 I don’t have children, but I have parents that consistently, rape me with help (my surrogate mum does and I’m 35 this year).
If you desire to have a healthy relationship with your child then **work** **on** **yourself** or don’t, and then sit and wait 💣
Thank you for sharing it. Great video as always
This reminds me of the movie I saw yesterday for Valentine's Day, “ 500 days of summer!”
How ? : ) I'm just curious!
@@july7578 Tom, the main character, was the giver, and Summer, his girlfriend, was not asking for his “ love. “ She even told him that “: And I can't give you that. Nobody can”. She could not fulfill his expectations, and he ended up heartbroken in the end.
Excellent story, thank you for sharing this with us. I hope you're staying safe in the city friend.
This is an incredibly powerful story. I really enjoy all your videos. They take such an authentic and impactful approach at managing important topics. ❤
This makes me cry because I can relate to the story about the bird. 😭😭😭
Thank you Daniel. You always follow our time when making these videos. Superpowers?
Indeed. To keep in check where our gives come from: surplus or scarcity?
Aside from incompatibility in a couple (ie the over-giving tendencies can be down to simple incompatibility, causing one having to try that much harder), I'm also thinking the prototype of one's learned behaviours in relationships...ie if parents can keep that in check, then perhaps one day, our youngsters could finally grow up with less trauma, and to be more authentic in their relationships later?
Good to have some dreams, isn't it?
Could you do a video about when children abuse other children? I would love to hear your perspective on how these situations develop
I think abuse by children toward other children is very common, but it's so hidden because the idea is horrifying for people. And it's not just abused kids that do it. Sometimes they do it because thier personality enables it. I found a survivor website that claimed that sibling abuse is more common than parental abuse.
There can be lots of difference reasons and family dynamics going on...I'm not sure you are talking just sexual abuse ? but it could be anything from acting out from being abused to just the need for emotional or physical connection and unmet needs from parents who maybe cold, hostile or negelectful,emotionally unavailable.I knew some boy siblings who had acted out sexual abuse with one another as a means of control and frustrated feelings of having unmet emotional needs or not ever feeling good enough or overall demeaned and denigrated.Sexual feelings might not always be overtly about sex but about needs for affection or closeness or relief from overwhelming feels of loneliness or abandonment
@@upendasana7857 Every type of abuse under the sun!
Definitely learned behavior from their childhood caretakers who didn't heal their generational trauma and passed it on
@@lilysmith9130 I think that idea that their "personality "enables it is a very dangerous and inaccurate idea.I do not think kids are born bad..they maybe born with certain traits or even inherited trauma from birth or very early expereinces of abandonement or abuse but to talk about it as if a child deliberately acts out abuse is BS quite frankly.You look at nearly all th inciences of school shootings for example and there is always a history of severe abuse and trauma.Stop making out like kids are born "evil" somehow.
I get your point but nature is like this, the budgie gave and gave (evolutionarily programmed to do that, perhaps why it ended up being a pet to a human) but it spent everything to ensure its offspring were plentiful etc. Nature's laws aren't our laws and yes you could say well, best to give longer in moderation but that's not how evolution has made any of us. We are carriers for our genes and altruism plays a major part in our development as a species. It's a balance between the selfish and the altruistic gene but for some, the spending of everything is the best long term contribution to a genetic legacy. Maybe the budgie couldn't understand why his human wasn't understanding his message?
Why some people seem to lack self-interest and have low self preservation instinct?
Reminded me of the video about your childhood friend who died
Omg, maybe this is bad, but I laughed :)). I mean, that parakeet must have done something wrong, regurgitating all its food. But nice analogy.
I have overgiven many many times to receive in return just a modicum of attention, love, respect. I know I am done because I know now I can't win. It's my job now to get clear about my mission 😌
Hi Daniel. What do you thought about the concept of self compassion? Do you think it is superficial view of self compare to your view of healing childhood wound or is it compatible? I am really interested in your view?
I guess you know I thought it was going to be me The Giver thank you for making Godly since all this life
Altruistic surrender
You should only be selfish if you’re smart, as we inherently (weather you like it, or not) got to avoid the Darwin Award
🥇☠️😇
You name of this video is a danger of giving too much. But that would mean that people have a lot, but people are limited. God is the only one who is unlimited. I cannot give too much to the person from the get-go.
If I can’t give too much, this is not the danger anymore.
If you invest in a woman and she doesn’t invest in you then she’ll lose attraction and interest.
Easiest way to destroy a relationship is placate to a woman. Treat her like a queen and you’ll be treated like a servant.
I am almost positive my mom died the same fate as your budgies