I have been seeing a therapist trained by James Masterson, who’s work centered around disorders of the self. After seven years of working with him, I am convinced that lack of a fully formed self is at the heart of most of humanities problems.
This touches on Sam Vaknin's assertion that the problem with narcissists is not that they are selfISH but rather that they are actually selfLESS in the worst possible way. I remember listening to a recorded discussion he had about this topic and he explained that if you are one of the extremely rare people who hangs onto your self in this society, you will be an outcast your whole life. Basically, most people give up their true selves at a young age due to extreme pressure from the adults around them (and social pressure from other children). In return, they get the support of society and never experience isolation and abandonment. The other people around them serve the purpose of the healthy ego that they have given up. People who don't or can't do this for whatever reason immediately become social outcasts and are on their own for their entire lives unless they can find another person who has done the same. But it is very rare that someone walks this path, the reason for that being that it is extremely difficult to live life with no social support. You can have yourself, or you can be a part of society, but not both. I believe that this is a very unnatural state of affairs that has arisen only recently in human history. I believe this is also what causes people to be miserable despite the fact that they have all of the conveniences, possessions and freedoms of modern society. I know too many who have "everything" yet they act as though their life is constant suffering. They are mourning the loss of self
It seems like I'm one of those who you're talking about (kinda irrelevant info). But I want to say that it is possible to have a mask that interacts with society, a mask formed from the years of experience of what is and what is not allowed in your society, but deep down, when you get back home, when you're alone, you're fully back with that self. It is a way to try to have both kind of social support and yourself. But the risk is you might interact with that rare free soul out there with that mask and they lose interest in you. It's tiring, but that's the work.
@@richeeg3271people have been traumatising eachother, but they always had their true selves to fall back on and heal. It’s only recently that people began destroying their own real true selves in order to submit to the society and thus no longer have any true self to fall back upon
Psychosis led me to being the watcher of my thoughts. First time in my life I was able to use my mind. There was no anxiety around others. No need to control anything. No judgment of others. It was quiet. Only lasted few days in the hospital. I believe that the underlying unresolved trauma took me out of it. Ever since then I have been in anguish and self loathing.
How interesting 🧐 that your psychosis sounds like you were hypnotized 😵💫 like Peter, the protagonist from the movie Office Space: th-cam.com/video/AfZpEe7KIJ8/w-d-xo.html ^ I aspire to channel his vibration 🥳
Also I recommend you attempt to fall asleep 😴 or I suppose you could listen to it as background noise, this 528 HZ **pure** **tone** ( no music or rain edited in ) because it’s been researched to heal the DNA of people with spinal cord injuries: th-cam.com/video/wyUPKGWdpQQ/w-d-xo.html
This society is so noisy and distracting in order to keep us in a loop of the self loathing you are talking about. If you can, try meditating at night (when the world is asleep) and do some healing work then. I pray you find out how to bend your timeline to work to your benefit. Many blessings.
I have a friend who is pathologising one of her adopted daughters (4) because the child is expressing her 'self' freely and naturally. She is a lovely child but the way she 'is' does not match up to how her mum wants her to be. When I spend time with them (and the older sister who behaves 'well') I find it really difficult to see the way this child is spoken to and treated. She is now being 'assessed' and seen as 'problematic' when in actual fact she is just different. So sad because she starts school this week and she will start to be labelled in ways which will affect her sense of self (and her lovely nature) negatively. Great video as always, Daniel. Thank you. Joe. UK.
Well said, Daniel- your talk reminds me of the memoir by Jeanette Winterson titled “Why be happy when you can be normal?” - a quotation said by the author’s abusive, adoptive mother. Pretty much sums up our dysfunctional society…just keep your head down and take the hits; keep your mouth shut and stuff down your true selfs and feelings- fear the authorities, even better become those authorities and instill fear in others. It’s dog eat dog- control or be controlled. Such a sad and dangerous state of non existence/non living, non being.
These videos are like an education in the human condition. Very useful if you’re planning on doing the work, helping others do theirs, or creating art that addresses these topics. I always feel like I’m getting in on something of enormous value when I watch these. Like something that’s gonna take the world by storm that I’m getting in on early.
An abstract concept tackled so well. I was smiling throughout the whole video. #7 is so true, had i watched this video 5 years back, i would've dismissed it as just another person complaining about something non-existent and being too sensitive. But when you know, you just know.
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#6 hit home. I see this pretty often. Conventional, normal Self-denying families. The same with the “dating” thing. It’s just roles that need filling, not much deeper than that. Fair enough - if it helps people and society feel stable - but let’s not pretend it’s luurrvvee. It’s pretty much convention and convenience…
Hearing this made my day. Glad I'm not a shallow person and to know I haven't 'wasted' time getting to know my inner self. I would like to play it for my parents but will avoid doing so since I do not want them to lash out at me. But you know, mom emailed an article about 'how narcissists manipulate you' a few months ago.
Same. I literally am thanking God Almighty himself for making me non-shallow. I can’t imagine living like these shallow people, it doesn’t sound like life.
This explains my difficulties, self is hard, lol. I fit in virtually no where, and the more honest I get, the more this increases, my social skills grow immensely for survival though, along with fluid compartmentalization as necessary. edit: I also don't know what music you like, but I think you'd like three days grace's most recent album, especially "I am the weapon" which goes into the whole cycle of abuse
Everyone obviously has a “self”…which is usually defined as the ego, but not everyone has a conscience. That almost always turns out to be a sad misfortune.
@@dmackler58 Thank YOU ....THANKS A MILLION.... Actually even a million thanks won't be enough for you. Thank YOU for sharing what you've learned Daniel. You are saving lives. Thank YOU for existing.
Suffering is the outcome of not having a Self - it's at the root cause of poor boundaries, toxic relationships, low self-esteem which are all ingredients of poor health, mental breakdowns and eventually mental illnesses. I would never classify that as "advantages".
I am very sad that i feel a lack of my Self, my agency, and for years I'm trying to make it more stable. I think it's cause of lacking of mirroring from my parents. So I thought this video is REALLY about some hidden positive encouraging aspects of a weak Self, rather than a ironic one. Anyway a good one! Thanks
Fair points. The rough part is finding therapists who care enough to let your self emerge while building up skills to cope with daily life. Many of in depth therapies seem destabilizing to a profound degrer that the strategy you've outlined is easier to live with at least in the short term. Also this whole thing does seem to reduce many to just being parts of the unwashed masses, and perhaps rightfully so. Are the selfless people really that unhappy or is this just a reductionist cope to get back at the system and others functioning it, imperfect as it is.
Please make a video or more videos of books you recommend everyone to read. As many books as possible, books that have helped you in some way, not only books related to psychology could be anything.
Spot on for the majority of society and a perfect tie in for me. Please take a look at Tom MacDonald's latest tune, Welcome to The System, on here. Daniel, you are doing such important work unearthing these shadows. Thank you.
I would enjoy learning about being stuck as a child emotionally from early childhood trauma and abuse, What would it be like being an adult being locked in an emotional state of a 4 yr old and not being aware of it. I find this fascinating, it would be a very interesting video.
Beyond the ironic standpoint, you may involuntarily have a point here! Some of us may think that a 5 year old self is the perfect representation of what we should go back to: spontaneity, liveliness, free expression of emotions, creativity... But can we? Eastern philosophy and spirituality is all about giving in our selves; which appeals to many people who think that can solve their problem, and that is a trick too... So what should be the answer to not having a self that fits our expectations? I discovered that there are very few therapists who know the answer...
This is brutal, it almost sounds ironic and not good. I was listening to channel Chiron Last and he's really into mind vs the heart, and I'd like you, Daniel, if ever it interested you, to chime in on such a subject.
Daniel , could you make a video about how narc parents mildly not phyiscally but emotionslly sexualize their childen or maybe creating fantasies about it. I know.dangerous subject but a lot of us need it
Another way that selflessness makes parenting easier is that the selfless parent will forego their own needs in favor of their child's, resulting in better outcomes for the child. Since the end goal of parenting is to attain the best possible results for the child, selflessness aids the parent in meeting that goal. A third way that selflessness makes parenting easier is by precluding the parent's desires for their own children in cases in which "society at large" has different plans for those children (usually for the worse). The child's life may be worsened, but the parent's assessment as a parent will have been improved in their service of society's designs for their child. These are two completely contradictory visions of "advantage" but they are both coherent given different initial preferences
Daniel, please respond. This video gave me GENUINE shivers. I literally cannot believe people live this way. I feel sick even fathoming it. I cannot believe it man, seriously. I don’t get it. We are animals. All animals have selves. How can a person even find life worth living without their own self?
@@dmackler58 one of the wonders of life I suppose. A question akin to the creation of the pyramids. Thank you so much for a reply, I can tell you’re one of the true genuine outstanding true souls of this world, I’ve been binging your videos and you help so incredibly much, your work is incredible. You’re providing answers about the masses I never could understand at all. Thank you so much for your deep work, your work is a blessing and I’m happy you were born into this to create it all, Daniel. Blessings friend. 💯
They live very well and are very proud of themselves. In my experience. They are not happy, but happiness doesn't even exist for them. They have no clue about what it is and whether they need it or not. Lots of complaints, petty interests and mostly no creativity whatsoever.
👁️👄👁️ I was thinking this would help me with my lack of sense of self, because I'm tired of trying to heal my trauma. And then you got to the children part... How dare you 😂😡😂😂😂😡
Hahaha. This sounds a lot like inner child work. I like the non-infantilizing version. Although, some of these do indeed sound like advantages... To be honest with you I've been tinkering with the notion of "designer personalities" so I can be different people whenever the situation calls for it. Something more than just code switching. Now that I've seen this I'm not sure if my ex-therapists would actually be against my kind of mental gymnastics.
My God, Daniel! I am losing soooo much time with videos like this and I feel guilty (unhealthy guilt, I know...) that I am not doing anything productive and I am feeling crap on top of all the other problems! Not to mention that I am slowly losing all these advantages too! But I cannot go back to my previous no-self. I am stuck in the painful phase... I was wondering what do you think about the so called "selflessness". I once believed it was a sign of spiritual growth, but it may well be the facade of some religious people that have no Self and are hiding behind this "virtue".
You've convinced me! Getting rid of my self right now, so many advantages. On a serious note, though, aren't you simplifying a bit? What does it mean to not have a self? Is that even possible? From observation, most people have trouble finding romantic partners.
Well, the video actually doesn't make any sense whatsoever, but for the opposite reason: everybody, in a way or another, have a self. Everybody is a complex human being; maybe they're not aware of that, but that's a different story.
Yes, I would define capital 'S' Self as spirit, essence, consciousness, God, or however one chooses to express it. Small 's' self I equate to the ego, worldly experiences and mental impressions that most people erroneously accept as their true essence.
having a true self and being in touch with it makes you healthy (this is the same thing as being in touch with your inner child). most people have a false self that is something that was manufactured and given to them by their parents and society. they mistake this for their true self (which they have lost touch with) and everyone around them supports and encourages this (because they are doing it too). I think this is what Daniel means by being "selfless". He's talking about having no healthy functioning ego
Can you define “self” in this context please. I don’t understand how anyone could not have one. I always thought of selflessness as the opposite of selfishness.
@@christinebadostain6887 Yes, I would define capital 'S' _Self_ as spirit, essence, consciousness, God, or however one chooses to express it. Small 's' _self_ I equate to the ego, worldly experiences and mental impressions that most people erroneously accept as their true essence.
Also, no one will ever feel threatened by you or dislike you or feel challenged by your character, personality or conventional views. You’ll just be too bland and boring.
That's an inaccurate assumption, assessment and insult to generalize about people you don't know. You have no idea who people are and what is required of them. I'll throw out another general assessment of people who have content on TH-cam, etc. They just want people to agree and compliment them. They do not want any discussion or differing points of view - just agreement and thanks preferably immediately. Thank you
Why did you put a picture in the thumbnail of a man that sits in front of a computer screenshot? Is it some sort of an misandric propaganda strategy of yours?
Lmao I think you’re reading *way* too *much* into a thumbnail pic, whilst disregarding, the entire video he worked on. Probably he said something in the video that made you feel insecure, who’s problem is that?
@@sojournerkarunatruth4406Who are you, his minion? I asked Daniel Mackler those questions, and not you. Besides you're projecting, you feel insecure, otherwise you wouldn't care about my questionts on Daniel Mackler and desperetly try to make those questions look ridicilous, wich they are not. Yes, i watched the video and the thumbnail has practically nothing to do with the video itself, he could have just put himself in the thumbnail like he usually does, but he didn't. I think his motives are misandric.
It's no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.
Krishnamurti.
I have been seeing a therapist trained by James Masterson, who’s work centered around disorders of the self. After seven years of working with him, I am convinced that lack of a fully formed self is at the heart of most of humanities problems.
This James masterson guy have a pov similar to daniel’s?
wow. what a profound truth. This one sentence could entertain my thoughts for days.
This touches on Sam Vaknin's assertion that the problem with narcissists is not that they are selfISH but rather that they are actually selfLESS in the worst possible way. I remember listening to a recorded discussion he had about this topic and he explained that if you are one of the extremely rare people who hangs onto your self in this society, you will be an outcast your whole life. Basically, most people give up their true selves at a young age due to extreme pressure from the adults around them (and social pressure from other children). In return, they get the support of society and never experience isolation and abandonment. The other people around them serve the purpose of the healthy ego that they have given up. People who don't or can't do this for whatever reason immediately become social outcasts and are on their own for their entire lives unless they can find another person who has done the same. But it is very rare that someone walks this path, the reason for that being that it is extremely difficult to live life with no social support. You can have yourself, or you can be a part of society, but not both. I believe that this is a very unnatural state of affairs that has arisen only recently in human history. I believe this is also what causes people to be miserable despite the fact that they have all of the conveniences, possessions and freedoms of modern society. I know too many who have "everything" yet they act as though their life is constant suffering. They are mourning the loss of self
Do you have a link to it?
Hmm, is it really a modern problem though? I feel like people have been traumatizing each other for as long as we've been around
Very insightful comment. Thank you!
It seems like I'm one of those who you're talking about (kinda irrelevant info).
But I want to say that it is possible to have a mask that interacts with society, a mask formed from the years of experience of what is and what is not allowed in your society, but deep down, when you get back home, when you're alone, you're fully back with that self.
It is a way to try to have both kind of social support and yourself.
But the risk is you might interact with that rare free soul out there with that mask and they lose interest in you.
It's tiring, but that's the work.
@@richeeg3271people have been traumatising eachother, but they always had their true selves to fall back on and heal. It’s only recently that people began destroying their own real true selves in order to submit to the society and thus no longer have any true self to fall back upon
Psychosis led me to being the watcher of my thoughts. First time in my life I was able to use my mind. There was no anxiety around others. No need to control anything. No judgment of others. It was quiet. Only lasted few days in the hospital. I believe that the underlying unresolved trauma took me out of it. Ever since then I have been in anguish and self loathing.
How interesting 🧐 that your psychosis sounds like you were hypnotized 😵💫 like Peter, the protagonist from the movie Office Space: th-cam.com/video/AfZpEe7KIJ8/w-d-xo.html
^ I aspire to channel his vibration 🥳
Also I recommend you attempt to fall asleep 😴 or I suppose you could listen to it as background noise, this 528 HZ **pure** **tone** ( no music or rain edited in ) because it’s been researched to heal the DNA of people with spinal cord injuries:
th-cam.com/video/wyUPKGWdpQQ/w-d-xo.html
This society is so noisy and distracting in order to keep us in a loop of the self loathing you are talking about. If you can, try meditating at night (when the world is asleep) and do some healing work then. I pray you find out how to bend your timeline to work to your benefit. Many blessings.
I hope you’ve been able to feel healing!!!
I have a friend who is pathologising one of her adopted daughters (4) because the child is expressing her 'self' freely and naturally. She is a lovely child but the way she 'is' does not match up to how her mum wants her to be. When I spend time with them (and the older sister who behaves 'well') I find it really difficult to see the way this child is spoken to and treated. She is now being 'assessed' and seen as 'problematic' when in actual fact she is just different. So sad because she starts school this week and she will start to be labelled in ways which will affect her sense of self (and her lovely nature) negatively. Great video as always, Daniel. Thank you. Joe. UK.
Well said, Daniel- your talk reminds me of the memoir by Jeanette Winterson titled “Why be happy when you can be normal?” - a quotation said by the author’s abusive, adoptive mother. Pretty much sums up our dysfunctional society…just keep your head down and take the hits; keep your mouth shut and stuff down your true selfs and feelings- fear the authorities, even better become those authorities and instill fear in others. It’s dog eat dog- control or be controlled. Such a sad and dangerous state of non existence/non living, non being.
These videos are like an education in the human condition. Very useful if you’re planning on doing the work, helping others do theirs, or creating art that addresses these topics. I always feel like I’m getting in on something of enormous value when I watch these. Like something that’s gonna take the world by storm that I’m getting in on early.
An abstract concept tackled so well. I was smiling throughout the whole video.
#7 is so true, had i watched this video 5 years back, i would've dismissed it as just another person complaining about something non-existent and being too sensitive. But when you know, you just know.
Lol! So true… I wanted to send this to every “normal” person I know.😆
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#6 hit home. I see this pretty often. Conventional, normal Self-denying families.
The same with the “dating” thing. It’s just roles that need filling, not much deeper than that. Fair enough - if it helps people and society feel
stable - but let’s not pretend it’s luurrvvee. It’s pretty much convention and convenience…
Incredible, one of the best bits of audio I have ever heard in my life. Actually made me laugh, but the wisdom shines through.
lmao! I think only those with childhood trauma who have done "the work" will get this video
This video made me LOL many times. Thank you daniel
Hearing this made my day. Glad I'm not a shallow person and to know I haven't 'wasted' time getting to know my inner self. I would like to play it for my parents but will avoid doing so since I do not want them to lash out at me. But you know, mom emailed an article about 'how narcissists manipulate you' a few months ago.
Same. I literally am thanking God Almighty himself for making me non-shallow. I can’t imagine living like these shallow people, it doesn’t sound like life.
I'm starting to think this guy is a genius.
This explains my difficulties, self is hard, lol. I fit in virtually no where, and the more honest I get, the more this increases, my social skills grow immensely for survival though, along with fluid compartmentalization as necessary. edit: I also don't know what music you like, but I think you'd like three days grace's most recent album, especially "I am the weapon" which goes into the whole cycle of abuse
Gender Fluidity is such a big topic nowadays too. Worlds gone insane.
@@russellm7530 You're right, although I meant just compartmentalization the defense mechanism, only fluid as opposed to rigid.
I recommend you start here: th-cam.com/video/EaaEd7j1c4g/w-d-xo.html
Everyone obviously has a “self”…which is usually defined as the ego, but not everyone has a conscience. That almost always turns out to be a sad misfortune.
The last one was funny. And all of them very true
Views here must be at least 15 million. And a lot of videos in this channel too.
Oh my god 🙏 ! It's almost three years and you're still going strong ! Keep up the good work, you're taking us with you
Awesome video… i really needed to hear that! It could actually be a good comedy routine for an open mic night!
That last point was great!! Nice work, Daniel.
This one was informative, educational and light hearted. I really enjoyed it 👍🏾
A loving hard-hitting piece. 👍🏼
I wish if I found your channel 10 years ago, or even 5 years ago.
Thanks. And I wish I knew a lot of the things I have learned over the past 25 years back when I was a kid :(
@@dmackler58 Thank YOU ....THANKS A MILLION.... Actually even a million thanks won't be enough for you. Thank YOU for sharing what you've learned Daniel. You are saving lives. Thank YOU for existing.
The ending was cool 😂
Not watching Daniel Mackler? That's a disadvantage
Loved the ending
Suffering is the outcome of not having a Self - it's at the root cause of poor boundaries, toxic relationships, low self-esteem which are all ingredients of poor health, mental breakdowns and eventually mental illnesses. I would never classify that as "advantages".
I am very sad that i feel a lack of my Self, my agency, and for years I'm trying to make it more stable. I think it's cause of lacking of mirroring from my parents.
So I thought this video is REALLY about some hidden positive encouraging aspects of a weak Self, rather than a ironic one.
Anyway a good one! Thanks
after watching this i realize i do have a damned self...lol
Yes, me too!
fantastic piece, loved the ending hahaha
That was brilliant!
This is such an AWESOME video. Im gong to play it a couple of times. No joke
The ending is so deeply true.
Wow, spiritual jokes category award 😅
Fair points. The rough part is finding therapists who care enough to let your self emerge while building up skills to cope with daily life. Many of in depth therapies seem destabilizing to a profound degrer that the strategy you've outlined is easier to live with at least in the short term.
Also this whole thing does seem to reduce many to just being parts of the unwashed masses, and perhaps rightfully so. Are the selfless people really that unhappy or is this just a reductionist cope to get back at the system and others functioning it, imperfect as it is.
Please make a video or more videos of books you recommend everyone to read. As many books as possible, books that have helped you in some way, not only books related to psychology could be anything.
To get started he has a list on his website
Lol love this video, Daniel~thank you :)
Gold!
Would like to hear your take on all the religious and ritualized traditions the say we must get rid of the self
The end of this video had me rolling 😂😂 I like the humor
So true, as always!
😂 #7 was great!
I love your irony!
Spot on for the majority of society and a perfect tie in for me. Please take a look at Tom MacDonald's latest tune, Welcome to The System, on here. Daniel, you are doing such important work unearthing these shadows. Thank you.
three days grace's whole last album too, on a rebellious level
I hadn't heard of him, thanks for the reference
@@levilabs1781 thanks, I'll take a look.
That end! 😂
I would enjoy learning about being stuck as a child emotionally from early childhood trauma and abuse, What would it be like being an adult being locked in an emotional state of a 4 yr old and not being aware of it. I find this fascinating, it would be a very interesting video.
Beyond the ironic standpoint, you may involuntarily have a point here! Some of us may think that a 5 year old self is the perfect representation of what we should go back to: spontaneity, liveliness, free expression of emotions, creativity... But can we?
Eastern philosophy and spirituality is all about giving in our selves; which appeals to many people who think that can solve their problem, and that is a trick too...
So what should be the answer to not having a self that fits our expectations? I discovered that there are very few therapists who know the answer...
This is brutal, it almost sounds ironic and not good.
I was listening to channel Chiron Last and he's really into mind vs the heart, and I'd like you, Daniel, if ever it interested you, to chime in on such a subject.
sarcasm unmatched loll
great content thanks Daniel
Congrats on reaching 40K subs! :D
Daniel , could you make a video about how narc parents mildly not phyiscally but emotionslly sexualize their childen or maybe creating fantasies about it. I know.dangerous subject but a lot of us need it
And how it affects ur sexual mantality or how it affects subcounciously. And if it is leads to obssesive thoughts about victims body.
#7 is hilarious 😂😂😂 made me laugh
Amazing video.
Another way that selflessness makes parenting easier is that the selfless parent will forego their own needs in favor of their child's, resulting in better outcomes for the child. Since the end goal of parenting is to attain the best possible results for the child, selflessness aids the parent in meeting that goal. A third way that selflessness makes parenting easier is by precluding the parent's desires for their own children in cases in which "society at large" has different plans for those children (usually for the worse). The child's life may be worsened, but the parent's assessment as a parent will have been improved in their service of society's designs for their child. These are two completely contradictory visions of "advantage" but they are both coherent given different initial preferences
aesthetic preferences*
Daniel, please respond. This video gave me GENUINE shivers. I literally cannot believe people live this way. I feel sick even fathoming it. I cannot believe it man, seriously. I don’t get it. We are animals. All animals have selves. How can a person even find life worth living without their own self?
Hi Puff Jig, I often wonder about that question myself... I'm not sure if I have a good answer. Wishing you the best, Daniel
@@dmackler58 one of the wonders of life I suppose. A question akin to the creation of the pyramids. Thank you so much for a reply, I can tell you’re one of the true genuine outstanding true souls of this world, I’ve been binging your videos and you help so incredibly much, your work is incredible. You’re providing answers about the masses I never could understand at all. Thank you so much for your deep work, your work is a blessing and I’m happy you were born into this to create it all, Daniel. Blessings friend. 💯
Thanks Puff Jig. Much appreciated! Daniel
They live very well and are very proud of themselves. In my experience. They are not happy, but happiness doesn't even exist for them. They have no clue about what it is and whether they need it or not. Lots of complaints, petty interests and mostly no creativity whatsoever.
👁️👄👁️ I was thinking this would help me with my lack of sense of self, because I'm tired of trying to heal my trauma. And then you got to the children part...
How dare you 😂😡😂😂😂😡
ROTFLMAO! Thank you, Daniel --- YOU are THE BEST! LOL! LOL! LOL!
Hahaha. This sounds a lot like inner child work. I like the non-infantilizing version. Although, some of these do indeed sound like advantages... To be honest with you I've been tinkering with the notion of "designer personalities" so I can be different people whenever the situation calls for it. Something more than just code switching. Now that I've seen this I'm not sure if my ex-therapists would actually be against my kind of mental gymnastics.
Love you ❤
lolol haha snort... lolol haha snort.... lolol haha snort... yes, you're right! Fortunately the video does make sense
My God, Daniel! I am losing soooo much time with videos like this and I feel guilty (unhealthy guilt, I know...) that I am not doing anything productive and I am feeling crap on top of all the other problems! Not to mention that I am slowly losing all these advantages too! But I cannot go back to my previous no-self. I am stuck in the painful phase...
I was wondering what do you think about the so called "selflessness". I once believed it was a sign of spiritual growth, but it may well be the facade of some religious people that have no Self and are hiding behind this "virtue".
You've convinced me! Getting rid of my self right now, so many advantages. On a serious note, though, aren't you simplifying a bit? What does it mean to not have a self? Is that even possible? From observation, most people have trouble finding romantic partners.
When he says having a self he means being secure, enough with yourself; that’s possible ✅
th-cam.com/users/NothingnessAntidotetoNarcissism
7 advantages to being an NPC..
Not having a self is a self.
Every person you meet is fighting a battle which you know nothing about.
That is true.
But do people who don't have a self know that they have a problem? Are they self aware or do they believe they are happy?
This is easy, I'm told I don't exist all the time and I'm invisible to the eye as well
positive Disintegration->nietzsche
Too funny, lol
Well, the video actually doesn't make any sense whatsoever, but for the opposite reason: everybody, in a way or another, have a self. Everybody is a complex human being; maybe they're not aware of that, but that's a different story.
One is psychologically "healthy" to the extent one does not have a self.
Yes, I would define capital 'S' Self as spirit, essence, consciousness, God, or however one chooses to express it. Small 's' self I equate to the ego, worldly experiences and mental impressions that most people erroneously accept as their true essence.
having a true self and being in touch with it makes you healthy (this is the same thing as being in touch with your inner child). most people have a false self that is something that was manufactured and given to them by their parents and society. they mistake this for their true self (which they have lost touch with) and everyone around them supports and encourages this (because they are doing it too). I think this is what Daniel means by being "selfless". He's talking about having no healthy functioning ego
haha, there is even a word for people without self nowadays - "normies"
It’s go0d not to have an identity
You incarcerate yourself into a concept. You’re constantly evolving. The self is fluid, not fixed.
What does it mean to have a fractured self?
I think it might mean that parts of you are traumatized but other parts remain intact?
What do you think about the materialist pushing this nonsense "there is no self"?
I am unsure what is meant by “self” in this video. I thought having a sense of self results to these outcomes or did something go over my head?
DaN is mad
The most desperate of your videos 😢
is not having a SELF a form of DID?
sounds like mayonnaise.
Can you define “self” in this context please. I don’t understand how anyone could not have one. I always thought of selflessness as the opposite of selfishness.
People with CPTSD and childhood trauma do not have a sense of self.
Self is dual: lower and higher "self" from my perspective, as an adherent of the Baha'i Faith
@@christinebadostain6887 Yes, I would define capital 'S' _Self_ as spirit, essence, consciousness, God, or however one chooses to express it. Small 's' _self_ I equate to the ego, worldly experiences and mental impressions that most people erroneously accept as their true essence.
@@ainslie187 Your reflectons resonate with my understanding
so it's good to not have a self. i'm joking.
Omg this is sarcastic… I was concerned initially. I was about to get mad.
Also, no one will ever feel threatened by you or dislike you or feel challenged by your character, personality or conventional views. You’ll just be too bland and boring.
What do you think sbout self is a illusion concept that people like Sam Harris discuss
Sir? Did you just tell a joke? ;)
Is this a sarcastic upload? 😂
That's an inaccurate assumption, assessment and insult to generalize about people you don't know. You have no idea who people are and what is required of them.
I'll throw out another general assessment of people who have content on TH-cam, etc. They just want people to agree and compliment them. They do not want any discussion or differing points of view - just agreement and thanks preferably immediately. Thank you
Why did you put a picture in the thumbnail of a man that sits in front of a computer screenshot? Is it some sort of an misandric propaganda strategy of yours?
What?
Lmao I think you’re reading *way* too *much* into a thumbnail pic, whilst disregarding, the entire video he worked on.
Probably he said something in the video that made you feel insecure, who’s problem is that?
@@sojournerkarunatruth4406Who are you, his minion? I asked Daniel Mackler those questions, and not you. Besides you're projecting, you feel insecure, otherwise you wouldn't care about my questionts on Daniel Mackler and desperetly try to make those questions look ridicilous, wich they are not. Yes, i watched the video and the thumbnail has practically nothing to do with the video itself, he could have just put himself in the thumbnail like he usually does, but he didn't. I think his motives are misandric.