Wow... I am so very blessed to have been led to this ministry. It is just so healing to hear y'all speak so directly to the process of walking through these intense relationship struggles from obvious experience. What a relief and a comfort it is to hear that I don't need to have these things or expect for these things to be miraculously sorted out in a set time frame. For those of us who have OCD and have also suffered in abusive/toxic family dynamics it can be extremely difficult to not have a solid resolution. I find myself going back either to the people, or in rumination over encounters with the people to prove to myself that, "Yes, they are toxic/destructive/abusive" (even with a lifetime of clear trauma) so that I can have permission to stay away. Even then I drive myself crazy thinking I should be willing to "endure all things" and "keep no record of wrongs" if I am "in Christ". It is exhausting.
Wow! "Does this person has what it takes to work on things?" Yeah, it is not about potential is about willingness. I really liked how you discussed this question. It gave me clarity and confidence to finally move on from a toxic relationship. This an invaluable video. I'll have to watch it again to get all these questions written down. 😃
My sister is married to a very toxic husband. He continues to contribute to her low self esteem. He screams and throws tantrums. He won't allow her to leave the house without him, but not to visit her siblings or coworkers. She won't leave the relationship because he controls everything. We've tried to help her but when she left he ended up in the ER with a panic attack. I could go on about his early childhood trauma because his mother died when he was eight years old. His father remarried three times. He feels that the whole world is against him.
Just wanted to tell you both this is very helpful. I've listened twice already. Such good info & so needed in my life.... the hard part is recognizing myself as having been the toxic person at times... I guess we all have at least once... or twice... (or more) if we're honest. Thanks for making these videos. I missed you guys.
I think total trust in any relationship is overpriced as i ended up hating myself for ever believing my ex-husband. When my ex-husband started getting home late, I would ask and he'd say something came up at work. When i couldn't take any more of his lies, I decided it was time i get to know what was really going on. On the recommendation of a friend, I contacted this great ethical hacker (cyberhackingsage@gmail) who cloned his cellphone without physically touching the device and as a result, I was able to access his social media accounts, GPS Location, iMessage, call logs and text messages (both recent and deleted) through a remote decryption link sent to me. I discovered he is a liar who is having a secret affair with his secretary and that he has been using money from our joint account to finance the affair. Thanks to cyberhackingsage, I was able to file for divorce with lots of evidence against him. If you're ever in doubt or you need that extra bit of closure, I recommend you send a mail to cyberhackingsage@gmail or text and WhatsApp them at +15713758467. I hope you find peace of mind just like me after I discovered the truth.
This has opened my eyes! I believe god is working through both of you to really actually help others how to heal. This is such a blessing and thank you for your courage to speak the Truth.
Yeah I had the conversation with my mom and she listened but defended her actions like "oh it's the culture" or "I did it for your own good". And I still struggle with getting annoyed when she comes around, because there's still a rift in our relationship in where there's no room for me to be my authentic self and I revert to my childhood self. So I get angry at myself for reverting and angry at her for not holding space for me to be honest. We're already low contact but in the times she's scheduled to come around, I start ruminating and spiraling.
I first want to say how truly GRATEFUL I am to have discovered you. You have helped me to find so much peace of mind that I’ve been struggling to gain since I was a teenager. You are such a blessing. Both of you and I am so so so grateful. I want to know if you guys are still doing the video on what is a fool/scoffer? These videos have saved me from realizing I can’t save anyone before myself.
I’m in a toxic Marriage. We’ve been married 33 years. He’s not interested in working on things. But I can’t get out now because I don’t have the finances I need to support myself. I am going back to school for counseling … hoping I can become financially stable enough to separate. But I don’t know how long I can handle being here, neglected, unloved, ignored. I feel like that neglected bowl of rice you mentioned in one of your videos, Mark. I have fibromyalgia because of all the neglect … it began when my children were young. I couldn’t leave easily because I was a stay at home mom and we were moving all over the country and to England for his work. We get in arguments and I mention separating and he tells me to get the f-- out … he says it’s his house … he’s paid for it. 😢 Here in NC you have to live in the same house for a year while making the separation final. I’m just starting my Master’s and don’t know if I can handle all the turmoil that filing for separation will bring. My daughter says to stay until I am financially stable or I will be on the streets. All my children have suffered at his neglect … youngest son living with his girlfriend and has tons of tattoos… she’s a tattoo artist; the middle son went trans and my daughter has serious men/trust issues. All have daddy issues and I’m sure I’ve done my share of hurting them too by staying and trying to be both mom and dad. I could write a book explaining everything to you. My daughter is on her third degree, hasn’t been able to land a job with the first two degrees and she has an autoimmune disorder as well and a weight problem. 😢 😭 😢 Watching your stuff has helped. I believe I have OCD (religious and maybe relational). Only God can recover all. But I know I need to make some moves but am afraid and not sure whether to try and wait or get the ball rolling with the separation. I feel stuck and overwhelmed… feel depression rising up again. I have quit going to a lot of church functions because I saw so much performance in it. I was doing good with a lot of suggestions you gave for breaking free from ruminating and learning how to love myself again … but it seems I make progress and then we have a blow up and it sets me back again.
How are you? I'm so very sorry about what you've been going through. Some of what you are dealing with is similar to mine. Just wanted to let you know you have much prayer and moral support. I hope this helps coming from a fleshly stranger, but definitely a soul sibling. God is with you!
@@marcydelgenio8169 Thank you sister. Sorry, I do t check these messages often. Thanks for your prayers and vote of support. My prayers and support are with you as well. Blessings. 🌸
I was married to a woman who was totally narcissistic for 50 years. It was a terribly painful life. I nursed her at home with motor neurone disease for the last 6 years of her life. She died 3 years ago. I met a lovely Filipina woman a year ago. Her first husband was a serial adulterer. I married her 4 months ago. At the time i married her i believed a Catholic annulment is the same as a divorce. Immediately after marrying her i discovered that an annulment does not deal with covenant of marriage as Catholics believe the covenant of marriage because they believe it is unbreakable. They therefore enable a person to legally remarry whilst the original covenant is still in place. I now believe i am in an adulterous marriage. I find it very difficult to sleep, my blood pressure is high. My stomach is in knots and i am permanently stressed. What should i do? In the Philippines there is no divorce, only Catholic annulment.
Wow... I am so very blessed to have been led to this ministry. It is just so healing to hear y'all speak so directly to the process of walking through these intense relationship struggles from obvious experience. What a relief and a comfort it is to hear that I don't need to have these things or expect for these things to be miraculously sorted out in a set time frame.
For those of us who have OCD and have also suffered in abusive/toxic family dynamics it can be extremely difficult to not have a solid resolution. I find myself going back either to the people, or in rumination over encounters with the people to prove to myself that, "Yes, they are toxic/destructive/abusive" (even with a lifetime of clear trauma) so that I can have permission to stay away. Even then I drive myself crazy thinking I should be willing to "endure all things" and "keep no record of wrongs" if I am "in Christ". It is exhausting.
Perfect explanation of how I'm feeling
Wow! "Does this person has what it takes to work on things?" Yeah, it is not about potential is about willingness. I really liked how you discussed this question. It gave me clarity and confidence to finally move on from a toxic relationship. This an invaluable video. I'll have to watch it again to get all these questions written down. 😃
This has been a tremendous help. Thank you!
Thanks so much for these episodes on toxic relationships they are very insightful and helpful fpr us ministering in Belize.
Thank you, you have opened my eyes with this toxic series. I like how you talk about these issues with a Godly perspective💕
My sister is married to a very toxic husband. He continues to contribute to her low self esteem. He screams and throws tantrums. He won't allow her to leave the house without him, but not to visit her siblings or coworkers. She won't leave the relationship because he controls everything. We've tried to help her but when she left he ended up in the ER with a panic attack. I could go on about his early childhood trauma because his mother died when he was eight years old. His father remarried three times. He feels that the whole world is against him.
Just wanted to tell you both this is very helpful. I've listened twice already. Such good info & so needed in my life.... the hard part is recognizing myself as having been the toxic person at times... I guess we all have at least once... or twice... (or more) if we're honest. Thanks for making these videos. I missed you guys.
Thanks Donna, I agree. Appreciate your feedback.
I think total trust in any relationship is overpriced as i ended up hating myself for ever believing my ex-husband. When my ex-husband started getting home late, I would ask and he'd say something came up at work. When i couldn't take any more of his lies, I decided it was time i get to know what was really going on. On the recommendation of a friend, I contacted this great ethical hacker (cyberhackingsage@gmail) who cloned his cellphone without physically touching the device and as a result, I was able to access his social media accounts, GPS Location, iMessage, call logs and text messages (both recent and deleted) through a remote decryption link sent to me. I discovered he is a liar who is having a secret affair with his secretary and that he has been using money from our joint account to finance the affair. Thanks to cyberhackingsage, I was able to file for divorce with lots of evidence against him. If you're ever in doubt or you need that extra bit of closure, I recommend you send a mail to cyberhackingsage@gmail or text and WhatsApp them at +15713758467. I hope you find peace of mind just like me after I discovered the truth.
The us vs. them is definitely the hardest part for me because I tend to villainize the person for not wanting to be healthy and change.
This has opened my eyes! I believe god is working through both of you to really actually help others how to heal. This is such a blessing and thank you for your courage to speak the Truth.
Thanks for another great episode!! You both are such a blessing!!
Thank you! ❤️
Thank you Patricia!
Love this series on relationships - preparing me with lots of info for the future. I hope I can soak it all in
You too are so helpful! Very timely messages....thank you!!
Great teaching, very powerful
Yeah I had the conversation with my mom and she listened but defended her actions like "oh it's the culture" or "I did it for your own good". And I still struggle with getting annoyed when she comes around, because there's still a rift in our relationship in where there's no room for me to be my authentic self and I revert to my childhood self.
So I get angry at myself for reverting and angry at her for not holding space for me to be honest. We're already low contact but in the times she's scheduled to come around, I start ruminating and spiraling.
Thank you both for this 🙏🏽
I first want to say how truly GRATEFUL I am to have discovered you. You have helped me to find so much peace of mind that I’ve been struggling to gain since I was a teenager. You are such a blessing. Both of you and I am so so so grateful. I want to know if you guys are still doing the video on what is a fool/scoffer? These videos have saved me from realizing I can’t save anyone before myself.
Yes I made that video
Hi. Do you have the title for that particular video?
Great insight and help. Thank you!
Glad you enjoyed it!
Incredibly helpful TY
I am so glad!
Love it thanks
I love your ministry x
I’m in a toxic Marriage. We’ve been married 33 years. He’s not interested in working on things. But I can’t get out now because I don’t have the finances I need to support myself. I am going back to school for counseling … hoping I can become financially stable enough to separate. But I don’t know how long I can handle being here, neglected, unloved, ignored. I feel like that neglected bowl of rice you mentioned in one of your videos, Mark. I have fibromyalgia because of all the neglect … it began when my children were young. I couldn’t leave easily because I was a stay at home mom and we were moving all over the country and to England for his work. We get in arguments and I mention separating and he tells me to get the f-- out … he says it’s his house … he’s paid for it. 😢 Here in NC you have to live in the same house for a year while making the separation final. I’m just starting my Master’s and don’t know if I can handle all the turmoil that filing for separation will bring. My daughter says to stay until I am financially stable or I will be on the streets. All my children have suffered at his neglect … youngest son living with his girlfriend and has tons of tattoos… she’s a tattoo artist; the middle son went trans and my daughter has serious men/trust issues. All have daddy issues and I’m sure I’ve done my share of hurting them too by staying and trying to be both mom and dad. I could write a book explaining everything to you. My daughter is on her third degree, hasn’t been able to land a job with the first two degrees and she has an autoimmune disorder as well and a weight problem. 😢 😭 😢 Watching your stuff has helped. I believe I have OCD (religious and maybe relational). Only God can recover all. But I know I need to make some moves but am afraid and not sure whether to try and wait or get the ball rolling with the separation. I feel stuck and overwhelmed… feel depression rising up again. I have quit going to a lot of church functions because I saw so much performance in it. I was doing good with a lot of suggestions you gave for breaking free from ruminating and learning how to love myself again … but it seems I make progress and then we have a blow up and it sets me back again.
How are you?
I'm so very sorry about what you've been going through. Some of what you are dealing with is similar to mine.
Just wanted to let you know you have much prayer and moral support. I hope this helps coming from a fleshly stranger, but definitely a soul sibling.
God is with you!
@@marcydelgenio8169 Thank you sister. Sorry, I do t check these messages often. Thanks for your prayers and vote of support. My prayers and support are with you as well. Blessings. 🌸
@@dja192 🙏❣️
We love you both💜
Thank you so much! ❤️
Thank you!
This is super helpful and encouraging and loving. Thank you
Thats so great to know! Thank you!
Love you guys. This was so helpful... the questions really bring practical assessment & clarity! You guys rock!
Thank you 😊 that means a lot!!!
Thank you so much Sue!
What about a toxic relationship with a son or a daughter?
We plan to cover that in an upcoming episode. Stay tuned.
Mark DeJesus Thank you!!!🤗
I was married to a woman who was totally narcissistic for 50 years. It was a terribly painful life. I nursed her at home with motor neurone disease for the last 6 years of her life. She died 3 years ago.
I met a lovely Filipina woman a year ago. Her first husband was a serial adulterer.
I married her 4 months ago. At the time i married her i believed a Catholic annulment is the same as a divorce. Immediately after marrying her i discovered that an annulment does not deal with covenant of marriage as Catholics believe the covenant of marriage because they believe it is unbreakable. They therefore enable a person to legally remarry whilst the original covenant is still in place. I now believe i am in an adulterous marriage. I find it very difficult to sleep, my blood pressure is high. My stomach is in knots and i am permanently stressed. What should i do?
In the Philippines there is no divorce, only Catholic annulment.
Mark DeJesus how do I know if my relationship is toxic
Its like going to the dentist give root canal treatment or lose the wisdom tooth with absence root attach too the tooth.
Yup!
Simple answer: leave and walk away