8 Things Controlling Personalities Do To Keep You Under Them
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You might happen to know someone with a controlling personality in your lives, right, guys? It could be your friend, your partner, your boss, or anyone else really,
It seems like they are making plans, and always want everyone to follow along with them; what they are going to do, what they are going to eat, or what they want you to do after that. They are often giving you unsolicited advice, telling you to do something "Because I want you to," or not to do something because "I don't want you to do that."
People with controlling personalities often have codependency issues. They solely rely on their ability to control others, to make themselves feel more confident and happy. Once a controlling person has you under his or her apron, It can be challenging to get out.
By doing this, they end up making you feel like you have lost your personality, your independence. Thereby, they have their thumbs, and they destroy your self-esteem.
Please watch the rest of the video to see all lists ...
I think controlling people are jealous and like to abuse power to hold people back and try to break down their self esteem
Definitelyyyyy
I agree 100%.
Omg so true
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Sounds like my ex husband.
1:24 (1) They continuously criticize everything you do.
2:19 (2) They get angry at your questions.
3:08 (3) They use guilt to manipulate you.
3:41 (4) They have no interest in your opinion.
4:27 (5) They try to make rules about other people's lives.
4:55 (6) They start by showing you love and then they create distance from you.
5:41 (7) They try to make you feel bad for being yourself.
6:12 (8) They try to make fun of you.
People like you are hero’s on youtube. :) Thank you.
Excellent depiction !
Yip.
Do whatever it takes to maintain your self esteem.
It's his or her problem, not yours.
You deserve to be happy.
Hold onto that, and be happy.
With or without him or her.
@@coenterhaar9183 I just loved that 3rd and 7th reason of guilt...please give me any solution of that please 🙏...how to deal with that area of guilt...
@@karanpaul5525
Hi Karan,
You might find the following quote by Eckhart Tolle helpful....
"When you lose touch with your inner stillness, you lose touch with yourself.
When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world."
Your self esteem is at stake here, and bullies are crafty.
You deserve to be happy, so....
Be still and know.
Be still, and you'll know what to do....
Your inner voice will tell you how to cope with his or her mind games, or if you should leave.
Hold on to your inner stillness where wisdom resides....
Best wishes ❤️
What makes me mad is when they know that they are controlling you and try to deny it when you confront them . Smh
Absolutely
Because it is "all your fault" you are upset.
really
My sister was like that. I detest such people. I still come across such people in my life but now I just stay away from such control freaks. I don't care about what they say.
Am in a same situation with my cousin sister because I stay in her house.
@@leahmilazi5427 same I’m dealing with this with my brother. I’m currently staying with him but I’m moving in the next couple days. He’s definitely inferior and try’s to shame me to boost his self of stem. I never pay his bs any mind and cant wait to leave
If you need a laugh, play this video within earshot of your controller. They will either argue with the video or insist that you turn it off. 😂
It’s like Holy Water to a Vampire!
😂 ...that would be a brave thing to do ! 😂
I LOVE IT XD XD XD
Tao Tao it's so true mine always say take this shit off lol
Lisa Leeann That’s hilarious! I’m sending you strength Sis!
Hilarious. I could see that happening.
It’s just so hard to deal with, constantly being controlled and manipulated. It’s a really draining experience. Thanks for this video.
Haha men are so easy. Always trying to be nice and please the women. It is extremely in the womens favor to use that power to gain profit.
No one can control me that way, it only turns bad when they have my kids.
@NATOJUSTICE 😊
Yes it is draining! I have to run and hide sometimes...I like being free!
I was put on Earth for this. I have yet to have a healthy emotional Man love me. Some people are created for abuse. I am one of them.
It is really hard, especially when it's a family member you just can't get rid of. Hope you're doing better love!
Your body will naturally understand when something isn’t right. Try to feel it. Is it in your chest? Your stomach? That’s your intuition. Go with it. Cut that person out quick!! Our minds tend to downplay or justify that person’s manipulative behavior, so listen to your body.
Another example is that they ask you questions as to why you’re going about your ways that are actually normal but apparently “not normal” to them. Like asking you why you are in your room, when you’re just in your room
This was my mother.Her words were like the words of God. It took me until my late forties to break away. I love steering my own ship, designing my own life and getting to trust myself. It can be scary and involves a lot of work to undo the damage but at 52, I am a free woman. There is a way out but the first step is to walk out. Much luck to you all.
My mother, too. I am still cannot afford to move away and I am trapped. Wish me luck. I am really happy for you. You give me hope.
@@yinyangphoenix stay hopeful Lisa. Can you get more money somehow to squirrel away? I know its hard financially. If you cant, set firm boundaries. Dont let her confuse you. They do so much harm. Im so glad i gave you hope, let me know how you get on x x
Mae West, same here.
these ones are tough, killing with kindness and independence with good examples of your work and when they attack using functioning logic and putting their ignorant implications to its full conclusion with sarcasm or skepticism is a good way to puth those out. Usually doing one thing well you bothr espect can work in your favor as a point!
using rhetorical question on brightside, and acceptance also helps. maybe thes controlling ppl have aceptance issues themselves and seeing you subtly move on and function well can give them that encourage from inside out! hainv principles and having anaylsis full of empathy and function can also help win them over.
These are excellent well explain examples. Narcissists are very controlling. People with pure, innocent hearts can become victims. However, once you reach the point of realization & get away.... You will never fall for it again. It's just very sad for people to be victim to a controller. They can come away very broken, especially if they've been in the situation for a long time. It's alot like domestic abuse ( which involves control )
It's abuse to ones very soul.
I grow up like this and now i live my own life its skairi you doint know where to go in live so you have good friends they let you be yourself
@@menachemvanhalem6444
I can understand that. Everything can seem scary.
Decisions so difficult. Searching for somewhere to live can be overwhelming ..... 🙏
Well said K D. Often these people are real life narcissists. And the people that fall for narcissists are people who are pretty innocent and believe in the goodness of people and give people the benefit of the doubt.
@@dalitm7315
Thanks 😊 I agree with your comment too.
Why are they like that and what can I do, so I don't become one
I’m currently dealing with a controlling person and I’m so close to punching them
@Violet Odio I'm also dealing with a controlling person, and as a result,I feel emotionally abused.I end feeling sad and depressed to be honest, which is something that I definitely don't experience when I'm not around him.The next plan with this situation is to either confront him about this or take a stand and refuse to be his lap dog.And you should probably do the same thing, because, talking from personal experience,it will eat you up inside, leaving you unhappy emotionally.That's the honest truth.
@@humphreymadlala4462
Maintain your self esteem whatever it takes.
It's his problem and not yours, it's his.
Hold onto that.
Funny
If your gut feeling says I don’t like living with this you need to get far away break all ties before you become there emotional pinochio
They will turn around and make you the bad guy if you actually did. That would play right onto their hands. It’s such an effed up thing to realize when you’re a good person.
That's why I don't choose to have close friendships anymore. I thrive alone rather than having a ball in chain around.
I think I would be happier 😌 on my own
You can't trust know one but yourself and it facts
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Some people simply just dont understand the words respect love and care .. they just know manupulation
1. Chronic criticism
2. Expect Obedience
3. Guilt to manipulate
4. Closed minded. Not interested in your opinion.
5. They have rules for other's life.
6. They fake love, closeness to gain your trust
7. They you feel bad about yourself.
8. Make fun of you.
I had to break away from my parents .
I noticed I started dealing with people like this out of comfort.
I attracted people like this for a while .
Once I really became self aware .
Looked at myself in the mirror .
Asked why am I dealing with this person?
I try to burn bridges with domineering manipulating people even if they are close relatives and I get badly criticized for not being loyal to them because they are blood relations but I don’t care. Being a family
Member does not give them an excuse to take liberties with me!
Turning you into the victim and then blaming you for "playing the victim" . Classical controlling personality. It may drive you crazy to the point where you dont know who you are, or where you're going unless they are near. There is no "right choice" or "right way of doing things" . You will always be blamed for no matter what. This is exactly why its so maddening for other person and hard to explain to others.
Facts
Great insights. I was married to someone with a lot of these qualities. I finally told her "If all of 'our' problems are my fault, then I'll remove myself from this situation." That got her to straighten up for a bit but I wound up leaving anyway because she just couldn't help being manipulative. Lesson learned...the absolute EASIEST way to know if you're in a good relationship or not is how you feel about yourself, when you're with that person. Second lesson learned your ultimate power in a relationship is your willingness to end it IF you continually find yourself unhappy. A controlling person always needs someone to control and manipulate. However if they know you won't stand for their b.s. (i.e. tell them you'll leave...and actually do it, if you have to...) that shuts down the b.s. pretty quickly. You NEVER deserve to be with anyone who doesn't make you feel good about yourself IF you're being fair, generous and respectful to the other person.
Wise words!
I'm reading most of the comments and I like yours. I'm not strong enough yet but when I am I will remember the strength in what you have written. Thank you
Wise Words! Thanks for sharing
Absolutely true, especially about shutting down their b.s.
Are you paying alimony?
I know this all too well.... I am a very nice person and I know how people can control you... I would not wish it on my worst enemy
Controlling people are jealous that you know how to make yourself happy so they want to ruin for you .
Simple
controlling your emotions even thru anger or frustration let's them control you
This WAS sooo my last employer....walked off the job this morning! So done with demeaning disrespectful ppl. U r well being and value is so much more important!!! These ppl r everywhere! She couldn’t beg me to come back....
Sounds like gaslighting
Life Progress - a channel for introverts gaslighting is certainly one tactic of control.
Gaslighting means that people manipulate you to believe that stuff isn't real or your having illusions by your mind
Because, gaslighting is a part of control; but control contains more of techniques; like demanding accounts in your personal private life and deciding what you do
My controlling ex tried to convince me I was gaslighting her because I expressed my opinions. Lol I told her I have zero interest in that and she can believe what she wants she will anyways. She not only wants to control what I do but then proceeds to tell me how to do it. Like how many seconds to brush my kids teeth for. Lol. Crazy
Holy Spirit enter my life, Jesus Christ protect my family and associates... keep evil far from us.
Whats the matter?
Religion is the most effective control tool.
🙏🙏🙏
Amen 💯
@@Ollychamberlain correct dude
I've seen family members and so called friends try several of these points with me. Good for me that I WILL NOT BE CONTROLLED. So, they failed dismally.
I hope all is going well,I'm still finding my way from people who are toxic.
@@jedimonk993 Keep walking in your truth and they will just fall away because they’re not a vibrational match for you. You will get to your place called “THERE”
just becareful, these people will try to disrupt your life indirectly by using the people around you, your job, where you go do your errands, etc. That's how they are. They're pure evil. I use to be like everyone has good in them, but not anymore. Not in the age of aquarious.
That's awsome do your thing man
@@estifanosberta-samuel2570 thanks so much!!
i used to be like this, i work everyday to try and change myself from acting this way with others,
Is it working? How did U work on it, what measures did u take and how much time did it take for your to overcome this?
No one is perfect we all make mistakes, being able to see them and grow from them is what's important!
Thank you for making the effort. Many people don't even try.
It is impossible to have equal partnership with controlling personalities because they enjoy power more than doing things together , even upbringing of a child. Either you are their robot or you are nobody in their life.
Guilt trips are a big one... it’s what causes us to eventually move away with no explanations because every time you try to speak out about it they end up twisting it so YOU are the one to apologize.
controlling person, manipulative person, fake person, one who plays mind games, one who has eevr made fake promises, one who is too much interfering in my life, one who is trying to break my mental peace
#9 they’re right and the rest of the world is wrong. Most controlling people don’t have much to show for either, they’re usually struggling and hate that you’re living better than them.
So I guess I’m a controlling person then. I used to be extremely critical of my little brother, I think how I treated him would definitely fall under bullying. I think I wanted control somewhere because a lot of things were happening in my life that I, as a child, had no control over (parents divorced, all of my best friends moved away, etc). And my brother became the victim of that. Even though I still have to keep myself in check, it’s already a lot better now. I’m now more aware whenever my inferior superiority complex arises and I am better able to deal with it. I hope one day I can get fully rid of it.
I wish I could just be okay with failure. I wish I wouldn’t always feel like I need to be better than others. It’s because I’m scared of being inferior to others. It’s exhausting.
you sound like my daughter, whom i have chosen to go no contact act with. she is the definition of her mother.
It's been two years since you posted this, but I'm glad you're self aware and willing to admit you were in the wrong. Have you gotten better since then? It takes a big person with great character to learn and grow from their mistakes.
This is my parents. Nobody believes me either. Its very frustrating. At first I thought I was at fault for everything in my life but now I know. Its actually really scary that someone would go out of their way to destroy their child's well being. I'm slowly getting better and building confidence in myself but the emotional scars will always be there.
Same 😓💔
I can relate to everything you said
I hope all works out well for you 💜
Same here too...
My parents also
It's common, my mum. Dad was too soft and wanted nothing to do with it.
Same both my parents and nowy live in bf I'm considering doing drugs to escape
To me, it always seemed like someone trying to control me was a sign of care and affection (because that's the environment I was brought up in). It's scary how distorted you become when your upbringing is toxic
The discrption of a Narcissist relationship ! Leave it doesn't work !
Did you mean to type description??
Controlling behaviour not only doing by a NPD, but many others personality disorder such as OCD, PTSD, Anxiety Disorder, etc. That's why so many varieties of the type of _Controlling issues,_ you should seek _the cause_ not _the result._
may I add gaslighting, being passive-aggressive, convincing you to do things you don't want at all, bringing up your insecurities to others, gossipping about common friends, and talking bitterly about others’ physical appearance (they feel superior to others).
My late wife was controlling. Also a covert narcissist
Did she converter into a Christian realigion?They all become brainwashed control freak because there realigion controls them so they controls others with it.
@@ghostbombl8034a true follower of Christ wouldn’t abuse others.
Had a ‘friend’ like this for years. So glad to have her out of my life. She was extremely toxic for me in my life. Nobody liked her because of how she was, but I still thought the problem was with me. She really helped me feel that way too. Thinking about it makes me so angry.
It is sooo common. I looked up recently and realized I have far too many control freaks in my life between work and friendships. It was sooo depressing and I have been angry about it for a while now. Still trying to figure out how to get RID of these types that are apparently EVERYWHERE.
@@Liz-wz8dh rest assured it may feel like they are everywhere but it's not. Just try to maintain your boundaries, values and principles. Then when they see they can't control you they leave and this allows better people to be in your life.
Absolutely... I recognize each one. Pass it on to a suspected victim.
No one can control me....im a free spirit
The other day I met with my (friend) who is a narc. I know exactly how she is. So everything she wanted to do, I suggested the TOTAL opposite and could tell she hated it! She would say stuff to one-up me or someone else. I would always counter what she said and made her so irritated! It was so enjoyable.
Why would you even want to waist your time being around that person period🤷🤦
Duh......it was paycback
First thing is to stop people pleasing these types of people. No matter what you do , they will never be happy. So cut those strings, I struggle with standing up for myself . No matter what when I set boundaries I feel like nothing works. Cut these people off and work on making yourself happy.
Number 5 & 6: I had a "friend" for 7 years who was like that, then couldn't stand to see me getting on without them. A few others apply to that person too, who was & still is a paranoid control freak. Person is now trying to get others to stop talking to me because he no longer talks to me. Glad I don't have that person as a friend now.
Wow were we in the same situation? I had a person who had issues with me befriending people outside the circle and I had to walk on eggshells around the person. We have been no contact and one person from the group reached out saying that they were told by the controlling person not to talk to me.
A controlling person will never ever be happy. Number 2 is extremely creepy
These kind of people you will WIN! They will always find a reason to put you down or have controll over you!
No they won't WIN
WOW, You nailed it! The unidentified subtle pressure I have been feeling just hit me right between the eyes. All the time I've been feeling I must be a bad person for feeling so uncomfortable.
This video makes me feel how the controlling people in my life make me feel. This is because this video is so close to if not representing precisely what the controlling people are like and what the controlling people do in order to stay in control. Great video!
Worst of all - even after calling them out on it, they shamelessly and persistently continue doing all those stated in this video.
When you ask for an explanation, it’s like they suddenly forgot how to construct sentences or that language exist.
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That's fortunate for you, but I dare not do that with my father as calling him out just triggers violencewhich is always followed by him acting like it's my fault. "Look what you made me do you made me mad."
My PhD supervisor was controlling person. He adjusted a camera to monitor my entry and exit from the lab, I was working in on my project. He loved to accuse me in every mistake and made me cry almost every single day. He never apologized to me and made me feel guilty, as If I was a big troube he dealt with...after spending 3 years in this abuse, I got a depression with panic attacks...finally, I graduated with a degree in my hands and left the university he worked forever! Glad to be free now.
Well explained and it is truly extremely sad that controlling wannabes exist. Someone that has a mindset of what they are doing is so very very good and attempt to make it seem like if what your doing is so very very bad is the mark of a nosy trouble maker that hasn't found purpose. Thanks for sharing such an informative video.
Great video, it really is important to stay away from these types of people. 💜
Yeabut what if they are random
People that are controlling have no control themselves which leaves them insecure so being controlling is a way to overcompensate so they feel in control themselves.
"Number 8: They like to make fun of you." I had a former friend doing this in the cowardly third person way. Talking about someone else's so-called problem that sounded like my so-called problem. I just laughed and said, "Why you to say to me directly, coward, instead of creating a fictional situation that you're describing?" They had a rage attack and told me to get the hell out of their apartment. Thankfully I'm no contact with this former friend (but unfortunately stayed friends for a few more years after that) who went from mirroring me as someone with the alleged same life to turning into or sneaking into wannabe bully. This video is very good medicine to remind me why to not give in to the temptation of going back to a bad friendship for what used to be the good parts or whatever
This video so nails it! - and it's general enough to recognize it in all relationships, not just romantic ones. Well done!
I was raised by a narc father and I’m not sure if I’m a controlling personality but I most definitely have no desire to be truly. The lack of control I’ve known most of my life leaves me feeling hyper defensive of losing control of my own situations and I find myself giving unsolicited advice to friends and making assumptive plans. This video helped re-align
the only way to get out of someone who is controlling is to just burn that bridge and deal with the consequences that come from it. As those consequences will be minor in the face of having someone in your life that will cause you pain and suffering for their own happiness. This isn't the best advice, but it's how I got out of a controlling relationship.
I have a father like this , it would take a full on book to tell of our past but I lost my wife 10 yrs ago to diabetes not to mention a partner (mother to my only son ) two years prior to meeting my wife. Yes widowed twice before 45. I miss and l love them both, anyways because I was a mess from the latest loss had to come home and live with my loving mum an dad. I noticed that before my losses that my father treated me and spoke to me alot better and always showed me what he had done and built around our homestead. Since having to return home and live in the bedsit he built ( basically for us kids or visiting family, freinds etc ) all of a sudden I became a hindrance son ( I feel ) who was lucky to have a place to come to. I love my father and appreciate being at home (for the time being) but noticed my younger sisters and their achievements are spotlighted as where I as the eldest feels like a bum. I love my sister's too but now I am under my father's roof again and made felt an underachiever has had my confidence destroyed.
Sound like your Dad might be using his children’s accomplishments to prop himself up.HIMSELF up…..
thank you for making this video it has brought a lot of light to a lot of people in my life thank you very much whoever thought of this
I just want to address that some controlling personalities want u to follow their plan because they think it's the best for u which is still harmful of course because u won't have a say in ur life and I would appreciate it if u made a video about that
The best you can do-make things on your own. 🙏☀✔✔
💯I'm afraid at all
Thank you so much for this video! What was shared has brought a lot of clarity & understanding to some of my past/present relationships!
Thank you so much for this video. After high school I picked up a trade so I’ve never attained knowledge from college courses like psychology etc. So I was in a 4 year relationship with a woman that used everything you talked about in this video. I mean exactly like you talked about. I thought maybe she had issues but every time I confronted her about them she would get upset and not want to hear anything I had to say. Which is one of the things you said would be the case. We have been separated for a year now and I hurt so bad and miss her so much because for the first year she was amazing to me. She helped me get out of a whole I dug for myself. In so many ways. So after finding your video, my jaw dropped! This is exactly what she was doing and you made a lot of my pain go away. Thank you so much.
This is an excellent video; it reminds me of someone I have in my life that I have been trying to get rid of for the last thirty-one years.
Excellent points and so well explained...
Always Keep toxic people away from your life...cut relationship completly... Never depend them in any way . never share personal information and never make cash deal with them . then these assholes cant do anything....then they will approach you with tears. and never ever fall on their crocodile tears..bcz from my experience, they never change. They always change their tricks
This happened to me so many times. They always say they need me for their plans to work but I’m just focusing on other things in life. I remember they said an idea that we used to do and a way to bring the past back but truthfully I wasn’t comfortable with and they frankly told me many many things I already know for certain things. I tried writing something better but stress and anger made me scrap the script I was working for them. I had to disconnect to focus on my mental well-being and hopefully I can do this without them coming back to bring my progress back down.
I feel sick after listening to this because you have driven home what I already knew was happening. I feel like a caged animal.
It hurts to think that you've been controlled and not being sure if it's you or them 😳😳
This is why I keep people at a distance. It’s so draining.
Being bossy is a sign of weakness. Even bosses don’t have to act like that.
When you leave, they persistently tell you they miss you blablabla pay tons of attention to you and spend all their time with you and on you and when you stupidly go back to them - guess what - they ignore you once again, act nonchalant, “who you again?”, intentionally withhold affection and communication, act like you’re the one that is clingy / desperate when it’s actually them, prioritise everyone else above you etc and then you wake up and leave and they continuously bug you etc and the cycle repeats until you nip it in the bud.
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Thank you so much for this. This video has nailed the exact character traits of my latest diadic interaction with a woman who is potentially a narcissist.
Oh yeah, recognising it.. Already leaving it alone. I am not putting myself in these situations anymore. Period.
this was helpful. Got out of a marriage this year after six years of being massively controlled, degraded and abused. I decided to try to maintain a positive friendship till they tried to control me that way as well period for me the most horrific part was when they pull away all their affection! The second-worst is when you do stand up to them and they decide to lash out where my case become extremely abusive to get that control back. If there's anyone out there in a relationship like I was in just know that there is light on the other side! Removing yourself from a controlling can be extremely hard, but once you are free life can be beautiful again!
That's me 😨🤨 but I'm an empath so I guess I rationalize the control because I feel like I know what makes people happy. What a sucky realization.
Good video...very accurate.
~Thank you for this very helpful video.
~It seems it is written mostly about people who are in a bad situation and they don’t believe in themselves enough. That is true for many people, but some people who Do believe in themselves (a lot) may watch this too, and there are some people in the middle. This bad situation can happen to all types.
~Please remember that you can be confident and believe in yourself no matter what they do. You can hold your own truth and heart even if the situation is ongoing.
~So, many people only talk about the only solution is to leave. But that day may not be here yet for any # of reasons. Continue to remind yourself of who you really are, you can survive, and thrive. When you can even leave the room, you can be with your good self right then.
~That valuable self, your true heart, who is not perfect (no-one is) is good, and good enough.
~You can be like the pearl, who grows layers of beauty no matter what.
~There may or may not come a time when you can leave, it could be any day, or some day, or today.
~Today, and every day, you are a pearl, and that will do more to make you ready to be free than anything else. Be free inside whatever happens. Every pearl knows how to love themselves.
There's also such thing as arrested development. my relatives were very controlling of me as a child. they made it forbidden for me to go places on my own. they convinced me that this is dangerous. even though it was barely dangerous at all.
My family is controlling also
Wisdom ❤ this made me too walk far from my exes. Gosh wisdom over desire when it comes to people in general
Life is so very short some people you push away never come back it must be so very lonely for the controller and shameful
Thx... i forgot these and needed reminding...
For some reason there's always gotta be one person at work that is like this. And I dont understand why people let people like that get away with it.
I now feel like my best friend is controlling. At first she would be very nice to me and then ask for a favour. If I say no or something like that, she would get very angry and say that I am a bad friend until I would give in. She also didn’t like a lot of people and when I go and stay with them, she would get very angry with me to a point where she yells at me and tell me to end my friendship with her. If I also made friends with another person she also tells me to leave them because ‘they’re taking me away from her’ .My other friend (lets call her Natalia) and other people are telling me she is trying to control me and how I deal with it. Now Natalia and my best friend are arguing and I don’t know how to tell my best friend that our friendship should end. What do you think I should do?
Sorry if it was too long
you need to end that relationship with her. she is NOT a friend......shes an insecure, control freak. Get away from her ASAP!!!
It's best for you to stay away from her if she's going to be that way.
She sounds manipulative and like she has ulterior motives 😕
She might have Borderline personality disorder
Absolutely totally right on!
GREAT INFO! THANKS!!!
Anyone else watching this to better the SELF and not blame others? Or is it just me.
If you come from a parent like this, you probably have the tendencies. Self awareness is the best way to make heaven on earth.
Great video.
Thank you for your enlightening video
Amazing video, I know a person I suspect is controlling and this helped me realize that he is likely that kind of person
Love the drawing while explaining the points.
I had close friend like this, thirty years of her making all the decisions about where we go out socially. Being invalidated, told to shut up and never allowed to voice or say how I feel.
Thank you so much for this
Very helpful video.we know wt is going on with us, we know the way out ...but we could not...reason is described in the video...it is their tactics...I respect you,I love you...and we get into love- respect trap ..and finally they achieve their ultimate sole aim ...your self-esteem. beware of such people,coz they can't live alone,they need someone to control...
This is the worst type of friend anyone can ever have, and what's even worse is when it takes you so long to get away from this toxic relationship.
Dang, wish I would have found this video sooner, would have saved me a ton of arguments haha thanks, and awesome drawings by the way.
Ton of headaches to 😆
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Well this video appeared suddenly to me & unfortunatly many of these attribiutions exist in me. Thanks for putting this video. It caused me change
My Sister told me to look this up. Thanks SiS 😊
Very helpful video
I know a few people like this, I’m trying to distance myself from them.
Some people just dont have much going on their life!
I loved this video!!! As a person who has survived a controlling-narcissist boyfriend I must say that this video is 10000000% ACCURATE!!!! 👍👍👍👍👍👍
Criticising is the favourite technique of controlling abusers. Guilting is another. Others are also true. Thank you very much.
I live with a uncle that has a controlling personality and I can say this is 100 percent accurate