Shifting from Fear to Love (Dealing with Unsupportive Parents/Family)

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  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +81

    Thank you so much for your amazing feedback so far!! I'm so lucky to have you guys 🙏✨💖💕
    If you want to learn more about my story, here are some podcasts where I go deeper into my childhood & story:
    → PODCAST: Rewrite Your Stories Through Love (about my childhood) | bit.ly/2ICxQKt
    → PODCAST: You Don't Have to Have It All Figured Out (about my confused life path, conflicts with parents) | bit.ly/2x6JR5P
    For one of the BEST BOOKS on this topic, please read A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson (amzn.to/1Gt5kQu). It changed my perspective on EVERYTHING in life and helped me shift to love. Highly recommend 💖 Here's my video I made after reading that book in 2015: bit.ly/2LnmvM8

    • @mandvi24
      @mandvi24 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I found you so late but also happy that i found you. Love your grounded personality. You have become my fav youtuber! Lots of love from India

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      aw thank you, love you dear

    • @mandvi24
      @mandvi24 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Keep spreading the light 🙏💛

    • @sameoldlove55
      @sameoldlove55 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      I really love how you are able to touch on things about family because a lot of TH-camr seem to have less family problems and can't give advice to their audience or have a hard time about sharing not so perfect side of their life. You are special! Aileen:)

    • @prabhashitasharma2222
      @prabhashitasharma2222 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      You really clear mind every time. Thanks so much.💖

  • @revolutionaryhealing9992
    @revolutionaryhealing9992 6 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Happiness is like a butterfly, the more you chase after it the more it eludes you, but if you turn your attention to other things it will come and sit on your shoulder

  • @ellaskills
    @ellaskills 6 ปีที่แล้ว +106

    “Love is letting something be free as it is” .
    That butterfly illustration was great. Thanks for another awesome video A ♥

  • @amy_lee
    @amy_lee 6 ปีที่แล้ว +69

    I loved this video. As someone who struggles with control, I found so much enlightenment in this. ❤️

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ✨✨✨

    • @cykanetwork775
      @cykanetwork775 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'd rather watch everyone cry as they kill themselves

  • @melindavasquez6404
    @melindavasquez6404 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I suffer from OCD and embracing uncertainty is incredibly hard and sometimes painful but it is the only door to a peace of mind and happiness 💕.

  • @lavendaire
    @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Arabic and Vietnamese subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributor listed in the description 💕

  • @heyitsvee881
    @heyitsvee881 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I just graduated last month and tbh i’m really scared of my future. Watching your video is like listening to my bestfriend talk about how faith is stronger than my fears 😊 thank you for sharing your words of wisdom! 💕

  • @heyitsme4322
    @heyitsme4322 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    GREAT VIDEO, I will practice it since now. Instead of fear, love what I do like studying. Instead of being afraid of failure, just love what I study in the moment.

  • @RaychRamos
    @RaychRamos 6 ปีที่แล้ว +93

    Just what I needed 😭 I wait for your uploads every single day. You and yor videos helped me so much in life. I love you aileen ❤️

  • @leilebantino4403
    @leilebantino4403 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I can totally relate to this. I grown up to an environment where everything is fear. My parents used to control everything in any aspects of my life. I came to the point where I hated them because I feel caged for so many years. My career, my friends, lifestyle and even my relationship are so controlled that it crushed me. My anger escalated as time goes by. But then I realized that they are doing that because they love me. They do not want me to experience the failures that they have. So I set a day where I opened my heart and apologized to them. Oh dear we cried together. Then that day I felt free from fear and anger from them. I felt free from loving them more now.
    Thank you for sharing this wonderful video 😊

  • @Chanyapat852
    @Chanyapat852 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    YES :) I feel like acting out of love to yourself is super important. I always have fear on my dream because i want to protect myself from outside world ; what if people criticize for what i love , what if they don't understand my intention , what if i become successful and people just be negative , will i create haters. if i can just be normal then i wouldn't hurt much but but inside me saying if i don't choose love to follow what i want then i will regret so much for the rest of my life :) well this video is definitely touch my heart so much. Thank you so much

  • @rowanelessar5892
    @rowanelessar5892 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yep. It's always that desperate need to control things. For me I know the biggest part of that stems from the fact that my life has had so much upheaval and that I never felt like I was on stable ground, and now that I'm consciously changing and trying to build a better life for myself, pursuing my Dreams, the fear of losing any tiny bit of stability or control that I have can sometimes overcome and overwhelm me.

  • @ashley8xuewei
    @ashley8xuewei 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    that is why the parent always mention about bad things about me...they wanna protect me to go wrong way. they are worring me means they loves me so much. thank you for letting me know Aileen!! you save my life!! omg

  • @untilthen...373
    @untilthen...373 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The analogy of the butterfly is so beautiful and a great example of loving someone for their own unique qualities and beauty.❤️

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Until Then... yes 🦋🦋

  • @remyajose7368
    @remyajose7368 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Truly changed my mindset Aileen..And your transformation from 2014 to 2018 is amazing..

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Aw thank youu 🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @tegandean1592
    @tegandean1592 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg love this because I’m in the midst of a lost phase right now... struggling with depression, uncertainty, anxiety, fear of the future, control issues, anger. Wow I needed this!!!!💜

  • @14BlackGoddess
    @14BlackGoddess 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This helped me understand control comes from fear, fear and love do not collide in the same room.

  • @nyx3683
    @nyx3683 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Exactly what i was just meditating about. That was a perfect addition! Thank you for being on this earth right now and sharing your light with us

  • @fariyan5324
    @fariyan5324 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're so strong for overcoming not only your fear but also the fear your loved ones had for you. Wish I could do the same.

  • @finaha.606
    @finaha.606 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I needed to listen to this. Thank you so much for the inspiration and words of wisdom! I had such an overwhelming day yesterday and so much of anxiety building up due to all the fears I have been feeling. This video shall set as a reminder for me daily to shift my fears to love and to embrace life for what it is. Keep up the good work, love!

  • @keylatwitty
    @keylatwitty 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This was in perfect timing! I love the analogy you gave of the butterfly, that is so right! Thank you Aileen for this message!

  • @beautifulmindpodcast
    @beautifulmindpodcast 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This butterfly theory is so beautiful. Hold on to your dreams with care, but dont crush them. Allow them to fly. Thank you.♡♡♡♡♡

  • @lilayerinthecity
    @lilayerinthecity 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I really loved it Lavendaire! I needed this... thank you so much for the inspiration! Love you lots...
    -Aaron from Philippines! 😍😍😍

  • @mystictopazart4207
    @mystictopazart4207 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I love your hair, thumbnail, backround, voice and videos!! You are so amazing🌌🌌🌌

  • @elle5115
    @elle5115 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I felt like I really need this because I'm constantly getting anxious of my life and seeing you talking about this really motivates me that I'll get over with my fear. Again, thank you

  • @khaibhojkhai
    @khaibhojkhai 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I haven't had a very smooth relationship with my mom either and have kind of always blamed her and made her the bad guy. I ignored the fact that she had her own reasons or tried to ignore the place that she was coming from. I was also very scared, uncertain and terrified of the future; I still am and I guess I was looking for the validation of my parents to let me know that it was going to be okay. I guess all of us are in fear of the future. It's very recently that I am focusing on speaking my mind and working on nurturing the relationship with my parents. I am so grateful to you for making this video. It feels good to know that nobody is alone in this. Thank you so much.

  • @gymnadeniarubra
    @gymnadeniarubra 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I am watching this because I can't sleep, it's almost 1a.m. and it's my birthday.
    I am 20 now, and that sounds scary. Never slept on my birthday's nights... I always want to keep things in control more than I should.
    Thank you Aileen, I knew I could find some comfort in your videos.
    As many other people said, you changed my life, your videos came exactly when I was somehow embracing change, and they helped (and are helping) me a lot.
    Love from Italy ❤️

  • @carmenl9682
    @carmenl9682 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lately I've also been thinking about my parents and I was going through your old videos, came across this one I've never seen before. You make some really good points, I'm looking forward to more videos on relationships with parents and family. I know many of us have this struggle. Cheers

  • @LoveKeebuu
    @LoveKeebuu 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I really liked the butterfly analogy. This helped me out alot. I think my low self esteem makes me question the love I receive in relationships, but now your advice makes me think differently. I'm going to go with the flow & trust what I feel.

  • @dominika.dziadosz
    @dominika.dziadosz 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg, the timing of this video is so perfect for me ! I just had this parent-child conversation 2 days ago about my university/major change, and finally this morning when I decided to go with what I want to do instead of what my parents idea is, you posted this video. Thank you so much, I feel that when we finally make a decision which is good for us it gives so much relief and instantly all good thing start to happen ❤️ thanks one more time , I'm so grateful for this video.

  • @milkpink
    @milkpink 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Amazing. It sounds so simple but I think for a lot of people with struggles in life you never think to just not fear because you’re always worried about school, your job, career path, societal expectations, etc...
    Many things I’ve done in my life were definitely from fear, as I get older I realize I need to let go of what others may think of me and overall do what’s best for me and my well being/happiness.
    I always love your videos so much Aileen 💖 Thank you for always inspiring.

  • @Rawoonah2cool
    @Rawoonah2cool 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I've changed as a person for the worst and the reason to that all along was my look towards everything with fear. This little video of yours took me 3 years to realize and now trying to shift my life with this new mindset of LOVE is what's challenging me at the moment hopefully I can come back and replay to this comment that I've done it!
    thank you for making this

  • @toiletrol
    @toiletrol 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i really needed this :') im so lost in what i want to study and my whole life path but im scared of making mistakes or not being good enough. perfect timing to listen to this

  • @daliadabic1682
    @daliadabic1682 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    wow... this is something that i haven't really noticed in life but it makes so much sense and is such an important factor to love. thank you so much for making videos like this and helping me and the rest of your viewers become more aware on these kind of things. idk what i would do without your videos

  • @marika6079
    @marika6079 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I do this far too often... to the point that people around me are seeing me as manipulative (partly). It's really great that you brought it up, because it made me think more about how I act and how others might react to the way I express my "fear" etc.

  • @reba2876
    @reba2876 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Yes! I needed this because there is a big shift in relationships with parents from childhood to adulthood. I couldn't figure out what it was and you captured it perfectly!

  • @justineleconte
    @justineleconte 6 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Happy to see that you came back from China inspired and reloaded 💚 (

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hehe thank you Justine!! 💚💚

  • @ohpinkiepie
    @ohpinkiepie 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    What you said is so true and so beautiful. It makes a lot of sense when I think about my attitude to people, and how I act on fear rather than love. 🦋 I’ll try to remember your metaphor.

  • @priscillajimenez27
    @priscillajimenez27 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I use to tell myself that because my parents worry and care, it's why they were so controlling, but I've realized over the years in my case it was more toxic than I initially thought. My sister never went through what I went through up until I was kicked out back in January. And I've realized now I'm afraid to let my family in past a certain point because I'm done with toxicity everytime I let them in. Whether or not we ever get close again, I just want me inner person to heal. 😥 if I could I'd hug you as a thank you for your great videos.

  • @brookeflood5683
    @brookeflood5683 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This really hit home. This message was wonderful. Thank you Aileen and I’m really happy for you!

  • @gabriellegd3524
    @gabriellegd3524 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I promise myself to shift, from now on, from fear to love. Tysm, what an amazing video❤️

  • @hannahk.3607
    @hannahk.3607 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you so much, Aileen! I didn't even know how much I needed this video right now...
    I'll graduate from High School next month and even though I do have more plans for the future than most of my classmates, I always get these little "panic attacks", where I feel like I could take the wrong path and should change everything while I still can. I'm such a control freak and really have to learn to enjoy the process instead of planning ahead for years.
    Love you!
    xx

  • @teresabeasley5241
    @teresabeasley5241 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Aileen you always know what to say to encourage and put your viewers/listeners at ease. I love your channel and listen to your podcast every morning. Blessings to you always because you are a blessing to us all.

  • @jarix3u
    @jarix3u 6 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    You have so many interesting little clips, like throwing around fruits and getting blinded by sun in Hawaii. It’s really cute! I like seeing what you will add to your videos to accompany what you’re talking about.

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      :) hehe thank you for noticing!

  • @airacarillo5834
    @airacarillo5834 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I got series of questions in my head of what went wrong and 2 days after he call our relationship off, you posted this. I immediately got my answers to my questions. Thank you Aileen for making me reflect over my situation and realize on what went wrong. ❤

  • @ROSALIE93
    @ROSALIE93 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for this advice! I’m in a point of my life where I really need this and fear was getting control of me

  • @aicha-5024
    @aicha-5024 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love this video it made me open up my eyes. I'm scared of finishing high school cause by finishing high school I have to know what I want to do for my life and I'm still uncertain about it. I'm acting on fear and thinking of choosing a job that is good instead of acting on love and choosing a job which I love.
    But thanks to this video I know what to do.
    Thanks Aileen!🌷

  • @sarahblais4551
    @sarahblais4551 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thanks for always posting inspirational content. You have most definitely have had a huge impact on myself since I have discovered you almost 6 months ago. Keep up the awesome work!

  • @oceanyuen8860
    @oceanyuen8860 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Recently I am dieting and this exactly happens. I fear a lot and forced myself to stick to the plans- and then over eat because of the pressure. Bearing love is so true and essential! Thanks for your video coming just in the prefect timing!!

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes!! The shift makes a difference.

  • @umeabihabatool6229
    @umeabihabatool6229 6 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    This is exactly what I wanted! You're Awesome Aileen! I quitted watching someone else's video to watch yours. You're *that* special for your subscribers. Love you!

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      It's me Abiha 💕💕

  • @maryaronida
    @maryaronida 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is very timely! I just had a conversation with my friend a few hours ago about making a decision in our career. She’s having a hard time making a choice & this is what I’ve been telling her. “Make your decisions out of love & not because you fear of failing at something.” Even if the road gets tough, we’ll have more strength to face it head on because we’re crossing it with love in our hearts. :)

  • @sxerosie
    @sxerosie 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Aileen for sharing your thoughts. The butterfly analogy helps illustrate this so well, I love you! 💞

  • @1dokbokki
    @1dokbokki 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for this vid Aileen! Reframing my perspective has been so helpful on my journey to finding more joy in my life 🌤️

  • @seigiaiko9340
    @seigiaiko9340 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    One year loving you and im so happy: you helped me coping with depression and totally changed my life

  • @melmusica
    @melmusica 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    oh yeah! 1000% ! surrendering and trusting your inituition leads to more miracles!

  • @tarusijain8650
    @tarusijain8650 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is exactly what I needed. Thank you so much for inspiring me every time, Aileen. Much love❤️

  • @ap3008
    @ap3008 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You have such a kind heart. Watching your videos is like a breath of fresh air. I've been living from fear for so long. Now, I am trying to learn how to live out of love more. This video describes perfectly what I've been thinking lately...

  • @GoddessInTheMaking
    @GoddessInTheMaking 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    This was so helpful! I’m dealing with this right now with a parent that doesn’t support my spiritual beliefs. I know she is operating out of fear but it’s still frustrating! Thank you for sharing some great advice 💜

  • @marjoleinvlogs676
    @marjoleinvlogs676 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    That's so weird, I had an argument with my boyfriend because my fear of us not fitting together was taking control of my love for him and I was thinking today that the same thing is happening with my self-love. Great timing, and thanks for the tips :)

  • @tahiahasan1505
    @tahiahasan1505 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Aileen your talking is just what i need to get through my mess

  • @nurinizzdhinie2407
    @nurinizzdhinie2407 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    the metaphor of butterflies opened my mind and my eyes bigger to see things clearly. thank you!

  • @Mich1990G
    @Mich1990G 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This was exactly what I needed to hear right now. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this... It can be such a tough shift. ❤️ Im currently struggling with it

  • @The2010sigi
    @The2010sigi 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love can heal the world. Thank you so much for that important and inspiring video - you're amazing

  • @red-bv8xt
    @red-bv8xt 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Everything that you ever want is on the other side of fear🕊 thank you sm for being such an inspiration to us !💛

  • @malasana6849
    @malasana6849 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    So inspiring. I tend to focus on the fear... But just as you said, everything comes on purpose. The universe knows my way, I just have to follow it.Thank you so much Aileen!

  • @sewwithjenn
    @sewwithjenn 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Brighten up my day! Thank you for this video Aileen. I was struggling with fear and your video make me feel better right now 💕

  • @pigaroohq2732
    @pigaroohq2732 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this! Thank you so much for creating this video! I, too, have a lot of change happening in my life, and I am realizing that I am reacting to a lot of it in fear, rather than being proactive, and doing things with love.

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      🙏🏼💖 wishing you the best & that you can act with love

  • @redriley9065
    @redriley9065 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are such a beautiful person. Thank you for this. It's literally life changing.

  • @sigridkarl6206
    @sigridkarl6206 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love how you play with words and imagery - your videos are truly inspiring and uplifting

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thank you ✨✨

  • @khoubrowne9017
    @khoubrowne9017 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I totally understand your message. Perception of the mind is so strong and when you shift it to love, life is beautiful. Thanks Aileen! ❤️❤️

  • @allyjoyce
    @allyjoyce 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you SO much for this amazing video. I have an anxiety disorder, an eating disorder plus issues with trying to control everything so seeing this video has really helped and inspired me. You're incredibly wise Aileen. Thank you again for being such an inspiration to us all. xox

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sending you love and strength 🙏🏼

    • @allyjoyce
      @allyjoyce 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Aww thank you!! You're so kind. Thank you for taking the time to reply as I know you're a busy woman. Many hugs xx

  • @lurileyloo4541
    @lurileyloo4541 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This point of view is like a breeze of hope for me, thanks
    I will try to add that into my mindset, bc before this i believed that my parents were close minded, selfish, manipulative people who only wanted to use me to reflect their acompliahments and worth on me.
    But its still sad

  • @khagnn9446
    @khagnn9446 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank U so much i really need it because i keep being afraid from the future and i think that the fear is keeping me far away from achieving my goals ... always inspiring us with your beautiful content

  • @reciprocalhealing
    @reciprocalhealing 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow. Today I realized how much fear of failure I have... then I saw this video. THANK YOU

  • @CrystleDragon
    @CrystleDragon 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I tend to be a control freak when it comes to my own life, but not usually anyone else's. I know that comes from a childhood that was controlled by others, and I tend to look at this as: if I'm not controlling my life, someone else is. I know that is fear talking, because I am terrified of the possibility of being controlled again. It was hard enough to escape the first time. So while I do need to shift more to love, I also feel I have to be extra careful to whom I give the control (in my case, I choose God, since I don't always trust humans.)
    Now, don't get me wrong. I think you have a very valid point here. I once read about a woman who lost everything she owned in a fire. Her thought, after reflection on that, was this: the harder you hold onto something, the more it hurts when God has to pry it out of your grip.
    So I really do need to shift back to a place of love instead of fear, even with my own life. I have been hurting the butterfly in my life. It's time to loosen my grip.
    🦋🦋

  • @RachelSLee
    @RachelSLee 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Love this video, Aileen! When I started my Affiliate Marketing journey, it has been one fun and exciting experience for me. There are some people who did not believe in me, but now they were all proud of what I have become because I didn't give up. This is so inspirational, brings back those days. :)

  • @fawnsoftly9697
    @fawnsoftly9697 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ADORE this video; exactly what I needed to hear and I'll never let myself forget it again

  • @esztihusztik6858
    @esztihusztik6858 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Dear Aileen,
    I’m so glad that I found your channel, you inspire me so much, keep doing what you do and be who you are ☺️😍 your advices and thoughts are reflecting me to change with self love and encourage others to do that.
    Thank you so much for all your efforts,
    A follower from Hungary ☺️🇭🇺

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Husztik Eszti 🤗💖

  • @vylam383
    @vylam383 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you I needed this because I let fear hold me back from something that could be something. Love you and keep it up :D

  • @andhinaratri8648
    @andhinaratri8648 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Your video is coming in the perfect time. I'm now overwhelming my own fear and you're right, I need to loose my control towards something. So beautiful, thank Aileen :)

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m so glad it connected 💖💖

  • @VictoriaChama
    @VictoriaChama 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I am calling it.. this is most definitely VIDEO OF THE YEAR!!!!. Thank you so much for sharing this message.

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg thank you dear! 💖💖

    • @VictoriaChama
      @VictoriaChama 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lavendaire I can't scream because I am in the library right now, but aahahh!!!!! Lol.
      This message is so true on so many levels. Everyone can relate to it. Yoing and old. Keep up the great work.

  • @anomie1000
    @anomie1000 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really relate to ur want to control things because ur scared of the unknown. I also tend to need to control my future because I’m scared of what may happen if I don’t, but I’m learning to trust God knowing that he loves me.

  • @ItsMeKeda
    @ItsMeKeda 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Beautiful life lesson for any age or stage. I will hold on to this principle and pass it along to my little ones. Thank you for sharing. 🦋

  • @christinasong7491
    @christinasong7491 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    you're so wise ❣️you helped me bring so many things to perspective thank you!

  • @emilychingy
    @emilychingy 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What an amazing video! I love that your videos are short and to the point, Aileen. I've always feared that I will never find a man to love me, but that could be a reason love is avoiding me because I'm too desperate. I should focus on enjoying loving others and being loved by friends & family too! :)

  • @bageerasf
    @bageerasf 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I LOVED this video. I live with fear most of the time...love the butterfly analogy xxx

  • @rebekahfritz3396
    @rebekahfritz3396 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for being so open. This was so helpful! Keep doing what you’re doing!

  • @christinacastellini2272
    @christinacastellini2272 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are such an amazing speaker, you have really made me think. Thank you so much, I can't wait for other videos!

  • @urbestiee4514
    @urbestiee4514 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    It's very beautiful. But i have a problem with letting go. Especially for the traumas. I've watched your videos about trauma too. but can you make videos or a playlist about how to let go, traumas, and about unhealed inner child too?

  • @sky.lience
    @sky.lience 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    It is exactly what I needed right now! Honestly I'm totally the control-freak and it is really hard for me to let go things rather than push even harder. But after those periods of time when I schedule things so perfectly I become so overwhelmed just like yesterday when I stucked in a dark hole unable to even wake up. Thank you so much for this reminder! I believe that the universe wanted to send me this message though you :) Thank you so much again!

  • @mahsa9022
    @mahsa9022 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I enjoyed translating this video into Arabic 💘 I wish TH-cam edit it soon so I can share it with my Arabic friends too. thank u for having such a gorgeous mindset lavendaire

  • @krysmclean5895
    @krysmclean5895 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I absolutely love your video and your message. Great timing, as I needed to hear this. Thank you for sharing ❤

  • @Calida
    @Calida 6 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I was praying about something specific when your video popped up, addressing exactly what I was thinking about!

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Wow, that’s the universe working it’s power for you 💖💖

    • @cykanetwork775
      @cykanetwork775 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      I only saw caillou getting fat at burger king

  • @LifeAsIHoneIt
    @LifeAsIHoneIt 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    That’s the actual definition of my teenage/young adult relationship with myself and my dad... but I love your idea of love not fear💗 it makes total sense and definitely something I will begin to put into practice in my life. Thank you so much for your videos Aileen 😊

    • @lavendaire
      @lavendaire  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yuupp not so pretty times, I know a lot of ppl out there can relate. I’m glad you liked this 💖

  • @inesa5369
    @inesa5369 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a great video Lavendaire. It really inspired me to shift my mindset, from fear to love. Thank you xx

  • @micaelaoyarzo8441
    @micaelaoyarzo8441 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    So happy to find this channel! Your words inspire me so much 💖 All my love from Argentine!

  • @barkhashrivastava9824
    @barkhashrivastava9824 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear. 🦋

  • @Marie-oh8es
    @Marie-oh8es 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I really liked that video. I'm christian and i think it's very interesting how similar our beliefs are, even though we're different "religions". Lots of love to you💕

  • @boxedndriven8545
    @boxedndriven8545 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    We really love your videos. It inspires us to be a light-bearer in this world.

  • @lydia4617
    @lydia4617 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love you so much. You shine with peace and joy. 💜☾