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When you start believing in yourself, you realise that there's nothing that you can not do or have, you are so powerful!!! Have conviction and persevere, try again and again :) you will get there ♡
6:09 “Action dissolves fear” 💙 If you are not taking action, you will remain stagnant in your fears and keep doubting yourself.. Action also brings clarity and a first feedback loop you can leverage for self improvement. Thanks for this great video Lavendaire!
I was just having a moment of self-doubt when this video appeared on my feed. Seems like the universe is sending me a sign. Thank you for the uplifting words. :)
YES! The fear of failure is definitely the most common. It's normal to feel fear but we should never let fear consume and control us! We need to believe in ourselves and push to reach our goals regardless of any fears. The ironic thing is, once we go for it, the fear goes away! If you're reading this, YOU GOT THIS!!
Fear is a CHOICE, Defuse it!! There’s nothing wrong with feeling fear, recognize it then build a plan to not allow it to stop you from trying growth and new things! You go this!! 💕 From a self love content creator to another- Awesome video 💜
I had a fear of starting a TH-cam channel for many years. I finally learned to take action and start no matter what people think of me. My only regret is not starting sooner! Action really dissolves fear 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Indonesian, Hebrew, Turkish, Korean, and Spanish subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributors listed in the description 💕
Aileen you are a nice coach... about life.and really thankful by heart to be help us in reallity of by giving mantra ' actions dissolve fear ' 2.-thinking worst to worst but if find still alive ,then what will be the actiont take then, will really keep me enlighted and best choice & also change my all view to take a life challenges 3. There is nothing to fear but it,s fear so aware and seek for the choice Of you continue,dear hit the 👍 button of someone really find a solution of his/her life
"action dissolves fear"! Oh! I needed to hear that so badly! I'm currently applying to my masters, and I'm frequently postponing some applications requirements because of self-doubt and fear 🤦♀️ I'll keep that in mind whenever I feel like giving up ❤️
As I was listening to you, I kept sharing all these lessons of fear to my mom as well. I felt so happy to see her just get up and get back to doing her work and becoming so happy and positive. Thank you😊💞
Aileen, your talks help me in times even I cannot help myself. Happy days give me the misconception that I've overcome all the tough parts of life and I'm a queen and I don't need anyone to tell me these essentials of winning in being human. I can never thank you enough. Only love to you ❤
This video couldn't have come at the best time I needed , really recently I've been too scared , I've been doubting myself and my abilities. And mostly the fear of what the world is showing us. This video is really calming me down ...😫😪🤤😢😤
Seriously whenever aileen speaks you are like in the zone and whatever she says she says like she is speaking to every single person individually Love you Aileen !
Fear is simply because you are not living with in life, you are living in your thoughts. Thoughts that is always about what’s going to happen next, or in the future, That means your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the non-existent, your fear is 100% imaginary. If you are suffering the non-existential, we call that close to insanity. What fear does is it puts boundaries around you. It is because of fear that you build those boundaries all the time. If you put boundaries and restrict the area of your life, you may be safe because you`re living with your comfort zone, but the problem is you`re not going to be happy with your life because you will never grow. It`s like being in a prison or being trapped to something that controls you. You must decide whether you have come here to experience life, or to avoid life. You only have two choices. Forget everything and run ? or face everything and rise, If you want to experience something majestic, then you have to do something you never have done. There are 2 kinds of fear, The first one is Fear for our protection that already part of our intuition and the second one is the Fear that only planted to our thoughts, like fear of poverty, criticism, ill health, and life after death. Many people like you, are really very intelligent, talented, and brilliant in their own way, But because of our FEAR, we become dumb, illiterate, ignorant, untalented, never outgrow, unhappy and weak. This kind of fear is the one who controls us to become "something" that we really desire. "You are limitless". Fear is not a product of life. Fear is a product of hallucinatory thinking, You suffer that which does not exist because you are rooted not in reality but in your thinking, which is constantly eating up on the past and excreting into the future. You don’t actually know anything about the future. You just take a piece of the past, apply make-up on it and think it is future. Some people worry too much because they are so afraid that something bad will happen. Do you know what FEAR stands for? "FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL". Do not let your fear decide your future. Do not let your fear control you from the habit of drifting. If your fear was based only in our society like criticism, that is not a fear. It`s just a state of your thoughts. That fear was only planted to your thoughts. Remember that you cannot experience a true reality if you live in your fear. Wake up and live the reality and desire you prefer. Become a conscious creator because you are one consciousness.
Iam a Chinese,,although my English speaking skills isn't very excellent ,but i believe I will achieve my goals that speak fluently with native speaker! give me confidence ! thank you!
Thanks for talking about fear, that's what I needed the most honestly today. Also, yes the Book you mentioned "Big Magic" is amazing and I always go back to it for inspiration! And guess what, currently I am reading her most famous book " Eat Pray Love" and for some reason I believe I just attracted this book into my life. Love you! I'm so grateful to have such amazing inspiration all around, via books and videos !!
Aileen, your videos and content are always so timely for me. Thank you so much 💜💜 I'm actually battling with fear and self doubts this season as I'm applying for an college internship for next year. I've applied to many companies and it's already been a week but I've still got no replies. I started getting so many negative thoughts about myself thinking, maybe I am not capable enough, or not impressive enough, maybe I don't stand out enough..... But through this video the part where you taught us to list out what is the worst thing that could happened made me realized that my fear of not getting accepted by even 1 company is close to impossible because there are so many more companies in this world, and also the fact that even if I don't get offered, it wouldn't be the end of the world, but a meaningful lesson for me to learn and remember for the rest of my life. 🌻 if you're reading this Aileen, just wanna let you know that we are grateful for you to share your journey with us here and even help us in ours! ✨ Much love from Malaysia🇲🇾 (do come travel here! Malaysia is so underrated for tourism hahaha xD)
Thank you for making this video right now! I’m struggling with a really tough mathematics class right now and because I have failed this class before and because I really struggle with mathematics and always have so I’ve been really scared now to fail my test on Wednesday this week. Thank you so much for reminding me and helping me create a distance between my good thoughts and the thoughts that are based on fear! Thank you for doing your videos. I usually watch them on a long binge while wearing a sheet mask and drinking tea on my “Self-improvement” days once a week! It really helps! 💖🙏🏻😭✨
You are literrally a masterpiece and a gift from the creator my sweety Aleen❤ You are among the things in my list to practise gratitude over every single day. Keep it up sister , your follower lilia from Algeria
*Taking* *control* *of* *your* *life* *is* *the* *KEY* *to* *happiness* *and* *success* . We all start somewhere, whether that be at the bottom or with a little help. Ultimately your potential is determined by your habits, which will *DEFINE* Who you are and what mark you leave on earth.
I spend my whole life bringing myself down with thoughts of failure or "not being/doing enough", and my internal dialogue gets me distracted and makes me incredibly sad. So thank you for your wise and kind words ❤
Hello... I wanted to ask you if it's possible to upload a video about how to forgive your past version and not to remember all your mistakes all the time and just let them go and start a new path? Sometimes i actually hate myself and i can't forgive myself because of what I've done... You really inspire me and help me a lot in all aspects of my life.... I need help. 😭
Im happy I found your channel! Every day its becoming my routine to watch atleast one of your videos. it helps with dealing with the voices in my mind. your voice is that powerful. keep it up! And also, every vid is a learning experience for me. thanks aileen! much love 🌷
Thank you Aleen! Really like I have a lot of self doubt and fears of every kind when it comes to big life decisions so thank you and hope you are doing great in Bali 😘😘😘
Just a small correction: In the book Everything is F*cked by Mark Manson ,he talks about how we like to think that the thinking brain is the driver and the feeling brain is this annoying thing that keeps shouting wrong directions to the driver. However he proposes that your feeling brain is the driver. Ultimately we give more value to our emotions, feelings,intuitions and fear than the logical side. So instead of shutting the feeling brain(the driver),the thinking one should focus on calmly rerouting the feeling brain. Hope this helps for anyone who is frustrated about your emotions!
Sometimes fear is based in reality, and you have to mitigate the situation. You have to look at all the facts. Like if your friend says they had bed bug dogs at their apartment. You have to mitigate the risk. Drop off food & soda to them, but don’t allow them in your house or car. Or go to theirs learned that the hard way.
What a great video and stunning advice, as usual! Thanks for the reminder Aileen, keep up the good work! And watch out, 1 million subscribers coming soon :)
Great video Aileen! Keep up the great work and loving the IGTV series/episodes too Self-Doubt affects all of us and it hinders our greatness within that is waiting to be unleashed. Overcoming this is one of the most gratifying experiences life has to offer as it empowers you to believe in your ability to overcome what holds you back :-)
You can’t believe how many times l listend to this Video ,truly you are awesome so awesome can’t describe hopefully many people will think the same way you do
Loved it! Lots of love from tokyo. :) your videos would be the best educational materials for kids. If I learned English through your video in primary school, that wouldve been amazing!
How timely! I just completed a High Ropes course yesterday to exercise working through my fears... oh man that was definitely taking Action through Fears 😱😂 "Do not let fear drive." I like that.
I needed to hear this now ❤️ thank you so much. When will you do a recommendations video? I need some book suggestions lol PD: loved loved loved your dress (shirt?)!
Discovered your channel today. It is definitely a GEM💎 love it and love u so much! Looking forward for more self-improvement/mental health content like this 💞💞💪🏻💪🏻
Hi loves! ✨ We just launched a new community program ft. masterminds and monthly live events for personal growth & wellness! Learn more & join here → lavendaire.com/DLC 🫶
When you start believing in yourself, you realise that there's nothing that you can not do or have, you are so powerful!!! Have conviction and persevere, try again and again :) you will get there ♡
this is so meaningful, thank you ~
@@maizuchan have a wonderful day! ♡
@@beautyandthesavage sending love !
I so need this. Thank you
@@anjeanettemadrid879 have a wonderful day !!!
I feel that ACTION strengthens self confidence, while POSTPONEMENT feeds fear. Who agrees? :)
Lindsey Spiteri Bellizzi I totally agree!
Well said👏
Very true lovely. It's amazing how fear strengthen through putting things off.
Hitouch LIFE Thank you, I wish you a great day!
Anne-Lou Thank you for sharing Anne-Lou
let's talk how soothing Aileen voice is. Omg it's like i'm mediating while watching this.🙂
Agreed! Her voice is so relaxinggg!!!
6:09 “Action dissolves fear” 💙
If you are not taking action, you will remain stagnant in your fears and keep doubting yourself.. Action also brings clarity and a first feedback loop you can leverage for self improvement.
Thanks for this great video Lavendaire!
Anne-Lou might need deeper work. But by taking action you would at least give yourself a chance to dissolve that fear. Makes sense?
Anne-Lou sorry to hear that...
Fear and self doubt are natural occurrences in a humans life.
They are tests, if we succumb - a downward spiral. If we face and overcome - we grow.
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me💯💯
so true!!
I was just having a moment of self-doubt when this video appeared on my feed. Seems like the universe is sending me a sign. Thank you for the uplifting words. :)
YES! The fear of failure is definitely the most common. It's normal to feel fear but we should never let fear consume and control us! We need to believe in ourselves and push to reach our goals regardless of any fears. The ironic thing is, once we go for it, the fear goes away! If you're reading this, YOU GOT THIS!!
Fear is a CHOICE, Defuse it!! There’s nothing wrong with feeling fear, recognize it then build a plan to not allow it to stop you from trying growth and new things! You go this!! 💕
From a self love content creator to another- Awesome video 💜
I had a fear of starting a TH-cam channel for many years. I finally learned to take action and start no matter what people think of me. My only regret is not starting sooner! Action really dissolves fear 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Indonesian, Hebrew, Turkish, Korean, and Spanish subtitles are available! Click "CC" and check the video settings. Thank you to the contributors listed in the description 💕
Every video of yours is so uplifting. Thanks Aileen for having an impact in my life.
Aileen you are a nice coach... about life.and really thankful by heart to be help us in reallity of by giving mantra ' actions dissolve fear '
2.-thinking worst to worst but if find still alive ,then what will be the actiont take then, will really keep me enlighted and best choice & also change my all view to take a life challenges
3. There is nothing to fear but it,s fear so aware and seek for the choice
Of you continue,dear hit the 👍 button of someone really find a solution of his/her life
"action dissolves fear"! Oh! I needed to hear that so badly! I'm currently applying to my masters, and I'm frequently postponing some applications requirements because of self-doubt and fear 🤦♀️ I'll keep that in mind whenever I feel like giving up ❤️
I always get that goosebumps when I’m listening to you. Thank you for letting me get back to my drive. ALWAYS 🥺🥺🥺
As I was listening to you, I kept sharing all these lessons of fear to my mom as well. I felt so happy to see her just get up and get back to doing her work and becoming so happy and positive. Thank you😊💞
"Action dissolves fear "
Thanks 🙂
who needs therapy when we have lavendaire?
totally true
true 😭😭😭
Aileen, your talks help me in times even I cannot help myself. Happy days give me the misconception that I've overcome all the tough parts of life and I'm a queen and I don't need anyone to tell me these essentials of winning in being human. I can never thank you enough. Only love to you ❤
This video couldn't have come at the best time I needed , really recently I've been too scared , I've been doubting myself and my abilities.
And mostly the fear of what the world is showing us.
This video is really calming me down ...😫😪🤤😢😤
This is CBT (Cognitive behavioral therapy) pure! Perfect video. Thank you for make it simple for everybody to understand.
❤️❤️
Fear is something natural as it is s part of our journies but we should not let it control us
"Action Dissolve fear." 💯
I think you just changed 19 years of life trying to feel better with myself, thank you🤩😁
Aileen your video helps me so much with my current situation.. thank you ✨
I was just having a huge moment of fear and self-doubt and this showed up in my search. Thank you for these wise words of encouragement.
Thank you Aileen for keeping updates even when you're overseas. 💜 Take care.
Thank you Lavendaire! That Elizabeth Gilbert analogy was super helpful. I so needed to hear this message.
Fear is illusion.
Success, failure, love also are illusions.
definitely agree :)
Seriously whenever aileen speaks you are like in the zone and whatever she says she says like she is speaking to every single person individually
Love you Aileen !
Before working towards our goals, we actually need heal and rebuild our self worth❤️
Fear is simply because you are not living with in life, you are living in your thoughts. Thoughts that is always about what’s going to happen next, or in the future, That means your fear is always about that which does not exist. If your fear is about the non-existent, your fear is 100% imaginary. If you are suffering the non-existential, we call that close to insanity.
What fear does is it puts boundaries around you. It is because of fear that you build those boundaries all the time. If you put boundaries and restrict the area of your life, you may be safe because you`re living with your comfort zone, but the problem is you`re not going to be happy with your life because you will never grow. It`s like being in a prison or being trapped to something that controls you.
You must decide whether you have come here to experience life, or to avoid life. You only have two choices. Forget everything and run ? or face everything and rise, If you want to experience something majestic, then you have to do something you never have done.
There are 2 kinds of fear, The first one is Fear for our protection that already part of our intuition and the second one is the Fear that only planted to our thoughts, like fear of poverty, criticism, ill health, and life after death.
Many people like you, are really very intelligent, talented, and brilliant in their own way, But because of our FEAR, we become dumb, illiterate, ignorant, untalented, never outgrow, unhappy and weak. This kind of fear is the one who controls us to become "something" that we really desire. "You are limitless".
Fear is not a product of life. Fear is a product of hallucinatory thinking, You suffer that which does not exist because you are rooted not in reality but in your thinking, which is constantly eating up on the past and excreting into the future. You don’t actually know anything about the future. You just take a piece of the past, apply make-up on it and think it is future.
Some people worry too much because they are so afraid that something bad will happen. Do you know what FEAR stands for? "FALSE EVIDENCE APPEARING REAL". Do not let your fear decide your future. Do not let your fear control you from the habit of drifting. If your fear was based only in our society like criticism, that is not a fear. It`s just a state of your thoughts. That fear was only planted to your thoughts.
Remember that you cannot experience a true reality if you live in your fear. Wake up and live the reality and desire you prefer. Become a conscious creator because you are one consciousness.
Iam a Chinese,,although my English speaking skills isn't very excellent ,but i believe I will achieve my goals that speak fluently with native speaker! give me confidence ! thank you!
Great video!! Not too much information to overwhelm, but enough to feel empowered! Happy to wake up to this 😊
Thanks for talking about fear, that's what I needed the most honestly today. Also, yes the Book you mentioned "Big Magic" is amazing and I always go back to it for inspiration! And guess what, currently I am reading her most famous book " Eat Pray Love" and for some reason I believe I just attracted this book into my life. Love you! I'm so grateful to have such amazing inspiration all around, via books and videos !!
This video is so helpful! Thankyou for making it!
I'm glad that i found your channel!
Aileen, your videos and content are always so timely for me. Thank you so much 💜💜 I'm actually battling with fear and self doubts this season as I'm applying for an college internship for next year. I've applied to many companies and it's already been a week but I've still got no replies. I started getting so many negative thoughts about myself thinking, maybe I am not capable enough, or not impressive enough, maybe I don't stand out enough..... But through this video the part where you taught us to list out what is the worst thing that could happened made me realized that my fear of not getting accepted by even 1 company is close to impossible because there are so many more companies in this world, and also the fact that even if I don't get offered, it wouldn't be the end of the world, but a meaningful lesson for me to learn and remember for the rest of my life.
🌻 if you're reading this Aileen, just wanna let you know that we are grateful for you to share your journey with us here and even help us in ours! ✨
Much love from Malaysia🇲🇾 (do come travel here! Malaysia is so underrated for tourism hahaha xD)
Thank you for making this video right now! I’m struggling with a really tough mathematics class right now and because I have failed this class before and because I really struggle with mathematics and always have so I’ve been really scared now to fail my test on Wednesday this week. Thank you so much for reminding me and helping me create a distance between my good thoughts and the thoughts that are based on fear! Thank you for doing your videos. I usually watch them on a long binge while wearing a sheet mask and drinking tea on my “Self-improvement” days once a week! It really helps! 💖🙏🏻😭✨
Good luck with the exam! I really hope youll pass :)
@@umazillah9812 Thank you so so much! :)
Thank you so much.. i was hitting low and this video came at the right time to lift myself up and fight my fears
Thanks for this! Hopefully this will help me get over my fear of actually starting a TH-cam channel!
You are literrally a masterpiece and a gift from the creator my sweety Aleen❤
You are among the things in my list to practise gratitude over every single day.
Keep it up sister , your follower lilia from Algeria
Needed this right now, Aileen. Thank you always, angel!
Really needed this right now! It’s currently passed midnight in South Africa and this video is definitely going to guide my week❤️ Thank you so much💫
I really, really like your vids, girl. No joke, it has picked me up a few times already. Thanks for sharing.
Thank u 💕
*Taking* *control* *of* *your* *life* *is* *the* *KEY* *to* *happiness* *and* *success* . We all start somewhere, whether that be at the bottom or with a little help. Ultimately your potential is determined by your habits, which will *DEFINE* Who you are and what mark you leave on earth.
I wish you always be happy and be yourself like the things that you've shared with us before💪
(Sorry for my grammatical mistakes 😅)
This is a such a great motivation video! love u aileen. have a nice day!
You are changing my life to the best, I don't know what to say, but you should know that you are changing the world to the best ❤😊
Love you aileen!!!!! much needed 😭
Action dissolves fear
I’ll remember it
i have watched this episode more than 5 times up to now, i still haven't got enough of it ,, it's really useful one
This and the self sabotage video are the kind of content I need in my life right now
I spend my whole life bringing myself down with thoughts of failure or "not being/doing enough", and my internal dialogue gets me distracted and makes me incredibly sad. So thank you for your wise and kind words ❤
Same here. I feel your pain
Hello... I wanted to ask you if it's possible to upload a video about how to forgive your past version and not to remember all your mistakes all the time and just let them go and start a new path? Sometimes i actually hate myself and i can't forgive myself because of what I've done... You really inspire me and help me a lot in all aspects of my life.... I need help. 😭
I needed this video. Thank you so much! ❤❤❤
Im happy I found your channel! Every day its becoming my routine to watch atleast one of your videos. it helps with dealing with the voices in my mind. your voice is that powerful. keep it up! And also, every vid is a learning experience for me. thanks aileen! much love 🌷
I agree 😭💓
THANK YOU AILEEN UR HELPING ME SO MUCH AND IM 15 SO THANK YOU I NEEDED THIS I LOVE UR CHANNEL UR AMAZING!!!😭😭💜💜😊
I truly believe that your followers are the most beautiful people in the world
I asked for the Artist of Life Notebook for Christmas! I'm so excited it's coming out so soon!
Yayy
Thank you Aleen! Really like I have a lot of self doubt and fears of every kind when it comes to big life decisions so thank you and hope you are doing great in Bali 😘😘😘
I feel like all your videos come at the perfect time to help me in life 💕
This brought so much clarity.. thank you
Just a small correction: In the book Everything is F*cked by Mark Manson ,he talks about how we like to think that the thinking brain is the driver and the feeling brain is this annoying thing that keeps shouting wrong directions to the driver. However he proposes that your feeling brain is the driver. Ultimately we give more value to our emotions, feelings,intuitions and fear than the logical side. So instead of shutting the feeling brain(the driver),the thinking one should focus on calmly rerouting the feeling brain. Hope this helps for anyone who is frustrated about your emotions!
Thank you lavendaire 😔🥺 made me take action from what i am fearing of. Iloveyou 💕
This video was just in time for me! Thank you dear Aileen❤
Thanks for sharing this message! Enlighten and motivated me. “Action dissolves fear” given me energy👍🏻☺️ is so helpful to many people❤️
Sometimes fear is based in reality, and you have to mitigate the situation. You have to look at all the facts. Like if your friend says they had bed bug dogs at their apartment. You have to mitigate the risk. Drop off food & soda to them, but don’t allow them in your house or car. Or go to theirs learned that the hard way.
I feel like meditation along your talking🍀
Thanks for this week's bujo quote: Don't let the baby drive!
My biggest fear is fear of failure (even before I've even tried to do whatever it is I'm afraid of).
Omg I need to hear this everyday ❤
What a great video and stunning advice, as usual! Thanks for the reminder Aileen, keep up the good work! And watch out, 1 million subscribers coming soon :)
Great video Aileen! Keep up the great work and loving the IGTV series/episodes too
Self-Doubt affects all of us and it hinders our greatness within that is waiting to be unleashed. Overcoming this is one of the most gratifying experiences life has to offer as it empowers you to believe in your ability to overcome what holds you back :-)
Thank you.#Am the driver of my life, Fear you are a baby, we ride together but I do the driving. Oh am so ready to continue in my journey. Thank you
So glad i found you at this important phase of my life. Thank you
Action dissolves fear. I like that :)
You can’t believe how many times l listend to this Video ,truly you are awesome so awesome can’t describe hopefully many people will think the same way you do
Your videos are perfect for the struggles I'm going through recently. So greatful ❣️
Let the baby cry and drive with him to a marvellous place!
ilysm!! you always manage to make me feel uplifted
Loved it! Lots of love from tokyo. :) your videos would be the best educational materials for kids. If I learned English through your video in primary school, that wouldve been amazing!
when I believe in myself, the outcome is oppoisentel
Love your videos, it is an inspiration! At first your videos helped me with study choices and now with everything else 💕 great job
Gosh!! Lavendaire, I love you. 🍍🍋🍊
How timely! I just completed a High Ropes course yesterday to exercise working through my fears... oh man that was definitely taking Action through Fears 😱😂 "Do not let fear drive." I like that.
Thank you for this!
Thank you Aileen💕 great video
That´s great because I´m struggling with this right now!
Your videos are so helpful. I can’t wait for Nov. 1 💜💜💜
A much needed video!
You look so shine and happy in this video😍
I realized that I was taught fear. But it's up to me whether I nurture it or not. Love the way you broke down the different spectrums of fear.
I wish I could like this video a million times!!! Thank you so much for sharing this❤
I needed to hear this now ❤️ thank you so much.
When will you do a recommendations video? I need some book suggestions lol
PD: loved loved loved your dress (shirt?)!
Discovered your channel today. It is definitely a GEM💎 love it and love u so much! Looking forward for more self-improvement/mental health content like this 💞💞💪🏻💪🏻
You are a great mental health teacher. Love ya ❤
Just what I needed :)
Wow, this is really worth hearing!
Very helpful! Love your work! Thank you!
Your videos always make me feel grateful and happier