Actually, being narcissistic and being a narcissist are two different things. All humans have narcissistic traits as well. The difference is that the narcissist has a disorder, and lacks emotional empathy. "Normals" have empathic and narcissistic traits in their personality. So a person can demonstrate narcissistic traits and still be empathic. If there's gaslighting, constant cheating, manipulation, psychological abuse, constant pity play, victim mentality, physical abuse, triangulation, entitlement, inflated amount of self-important, blame-shifting, no accountability, etc. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck. Then it probably is a duck. A narcissist will also typically always blame the victim, and even convince them that THEY are the narcissist, or need help. They also mess with our perception of reality and will try to make us believe that what we see with our own eyes is not actually there.
I feel like everyone who’s hurt they call the person a narcissist. And I’m like I don’t believe that everyone is a narcissist. I’m breaking away from narcissistic. I can say I thought I was a narcissist also but I think I was emotionally immature then an actual narcissist. Thank for this definition it definitely cleared up a lot of the confusion
this is so sad. I keep watching these videos, reading the literature hoping he's just immature or maybe I'm the narcissist (because then I can perhaps fix this) but no, all his traits, his personality and behaviour, the things he says and makes up, all point to narcissism. It's been 9 years now, I have to let go.
Hey Christian, you seem to have focused on the traits of grandiose narcissists. There's however another type of narcissists who are known as covert/vulnerable. They appear as shy, kind, and empathic people (and some of them can keep up the facade for a very very long time) because they are very skilled at hiding well their grandiosity, lack of empathy, entitlement, lying, scheming, and other traits which make up the foundations of the disorder. Differently than the grandiose ones, covert/vulnerable narcs are very hard to spot/understand to the untrained eye, and may indeed come off as just immature/odd because they keep their narcissistic traits under the radar.
I’m well aware of other types or narcissists. In the end it’s all the same. The covert narcissist is just better at hiding it initially. This video is dedicated to give you an overall summary on things people confuse with narcissistic behaviour when it is simply the actions of someone who lacks emotional maturity.
@@RelearningRelationships Hey Christian, great content again. They can hide their narcissistic traits for years, it's like they live a double life. I only uncovered the truth from getting a look in their phone after years of marriage. What I did do was ignore some red flags early on in the relationship. She monkey branched to me and although I waited a while for her to end things properly I should have steered clear because after ten years she did the same. Always ask the relevant questions up front and put your lust on hold.
These types though are seen as immature tonnes and everyone thinks they are a nice person but its dangerous . The person makes a good point. And this is a spiritual thing too. And na we all have bits of narcissism in us that we need to get rid of with emphasis on maturing and meditation. The covert and immature act sadistic so it needs to be watched closely but most around them are flying monkeys wanting them to stay immature
Very well said ! I've seen too many people judging their ex (or partner) being narcissistic instead of being motional Immature. I myself was struggling with this issue a while back and pretty much came to the same conclusions as you very well put in this video. (The difference) Your video gave me another confirmation on what I already knew / learned after my (hard) break-up. Thanks once again Christian. You don't know me and this is the first time I commented on your videos but you helped me . . . A LOT
Their traits match up with the narcissistic ones. 1) no empathy 2) no regrets for bad actions 3) no apologies ever 4) extreme idealization and calling me the best person ever then going to saying you're the worst after cheating
Great one Christian.! I hope I can find one you have already done or iwill do n the future getting into the difference between a narcissist vs a sociopath and psychopath
I reckon the emotionally immature is likely more easily triggered; whereas, narcissists are more cunning and hide their feelings but plan their revenge. Your thoughts?
If they're clever and manipulative you might not, especially if exposed from a young age and you know nothing better. You'll know something is off but you won't have a clue what.
Actually, being narcissistic and being a narcissist are two different things. All humans have narcissistic traits as well. The difference is that the narcissist has a disorder, and lacks emotional empathy. "Normals" have empathic and narcissistic traits in their personality. So a person can demonstrate narcissistic traits and still be empathic. If there's gaslighting, constant cheating, manipulation, psychological abuse, constant pity play, victim mentality, physical abuse, triangulation, entitlement, inflated amount of self-important, blame-shifting, no accountability, etc. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck. Then it probably is a duck. A narcissist will also typically always blame the victim, and even convince them that THEY are the narcissist, or need help. They also mess with our perception of reality and will try to make us believe that what we see with our own eyes is not actually there.
And then of course they can be both emotionally immature AND a narcissist.
I feel like everyone who’s hurt they call the person a narcissist. And I’m like I don’t believe that everyone is a narcissist. I’m breaking away from narcissistic. I can say I thought I was a narcissist also but I think I was emotionally immature then an actual narcissist. Thank for this definition it definitely cleared up a lot of the confusion
this is so sad. I keep watching these videos, reading the literature hoping he's just immature or maybe I'm the narcissist (because then I can perhaps fix this) but no, all his traits, his personality and behaviour, the things he says and makes up, all point to narcissism. It's been 9 years now, I have to let go.
A narcissist is emotionally immature, all the time, they are stuck in childhood… depending on the age they experienced massive abuse…
Of all the content on Narcissists, I've never heard this broken down so clearly and straight forward! So eye opening!! Thanks Christian!! 💯👌🏽👌🏽🙏🏽😊😊
Hey Christian, you seem to have focused on the traits of grandiose narcissists. There's however another type of narcissists who are known as covert/vulnerable.
They appear as shy, kind, and empathic people (and some of them can keep up the facade for a very very long time) because they are very skilled at hiding well their grandiosity, lack of empathy, entitlement, lying, scheming, and other traits which make up the foundations of the disorder.
Differently than the grandiose ones, covert/vulnerable narcs are very hard to spot/understand to the untrained eye, and may indeed come off as just immature/odd because they keep their narcissistic traits under the radar.
I’m well aware of other types or narcissists. In the end it’s all the same. The covert narcissist is just better at hiding it initially.
This video is dedicated to give you an overall summary on things people confuse with narcissistic behaviour when it is simply the actions of someone who lacks emotional maturity.
@@RelearningRelationships Hey Christian, great content again. They can hide their narcissistic traits for years, it's like they live a double life. I only uncovered the truth from getting a look in their phone after years of marriage. What I did do was ignore some red flags early on in the relationship. She monkey branched to me and although I waited a while for her to end things properly I should have steered clear because after ten years she did the same. Always ask the relevant questions up front and put your lust on hold.
These types though are seen as immature tonnes and everyone thinks they are a nice person but its dangerous . The person makes a good point. And this is a spiritual thing too. And na we all have bits of narcissism in us that we need to get rid of with emphasis on maturing and meditation. The covert and immature act sadistic so it needs to be watched closely but most around them are flying monkeys wanting them to stay immature
Very well said !
I've seen too many people judging their ex (or partner) being narcissistic instead of being motional Immature.
I myself was struggling with this issue a while back and pretty much came to the same conclusions as you very well put in this video. (The difference)
Your video gave me another confirmation on what I already knew / learned after my (hard) break-up.
Thanks once again Christian. You don't know me and this is the first time I commented on your videos but you helped me . . . A LOT
Narcs are emotionally immature so.......
This content was created for me. Thank you, thank you.
You're very welcome
Their traits match up with the narcissistic ones.
1) no empathy
2) no regrets for bad actions
3) no apologies ever
4) extreme idealization and calling me the best person ever then going to saying you're the worst after cheating
This is fantastic! Nailed it! Thank you
Glad you liked it!
This was such an incredibly helpful video on the distinction between the two! Thank you
😮 penny dropped
Great video, thanks! 🙏
You dont easy if a covert narcissist
Great one Christian.!
I hope I can find one you have already done or iwill do n the future getting into the difference between a narcissist vs a sociopath and psychopath
Thank you for how you explained this. I realize what my situation is and what I need to do.
I reckon the emotionally immature is likely more easily triggered; whereas, narcissists are more cunning and hide their feelings but plan their revenge. Your thoughts?
Yes I agree
I’m dating an EIP rarely does he Ever say sorry for acting badly 😢
Great info.thanks
Great video!
When you come into contact with a narcissist trust me you will know 😅
If they're clever and manipulative you might not, especially if exposed from a young age and you know nothing better.
You'll know something is off but you won't have a clue what.
Not really, I still have doubts, I don't know of he is inmature or a narcissist 😕