That's the reason the elites and corporations shove feminism down everyone's throat. Because they want to destroy nuclear families and make the society weak so they can leech it off and enslave everyone in it...
Ya it’s all just basically a given in my marriage (we’re Muslim too). Like it’s all just common and known and assumed and not even anything to think or debate about lol. Normal life.
Muslims are far right which basically means natural and non coco woke. American Muslim vote 🗳️ republican with your friendly people of the book 📕 “don’t let over zealous Muslims fool you” religious people stand together while arguing that’s fine.
Preach it girl! My man treats me like something precious because I treat him as precious. You reep what you sow! Wish women today would grasp this fact.
Yesss. So many people don't understand the command in Ephesians for wives to submit to their husbands. They are missing the part where husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Anyone who knows the depth of the gospel knows this is NOT a task to take lightly! Christ's love for the church is sacrificial and serving. Christ laid down His life for the church. Our husbands have a huge load to carry, and we are to be their helpers by following their lead.
Could not have said it better myself. The worldly definition of submission also gives the impression of the person who is submitting, is lesser than or inferior to whoever they are submitting to. The biblical definition of submission is much different. Jesus Christ is the king of kings, the Lord of lords. He was completely perfect and absolutely superior, but made himself a servant to the point of dying on the cross for things he did not do. Biblical marriage is a representation of that between two imperfect people. The reason it works is because those two imperfect people are also submitting themselves to God. That’s why I loved her video talking about dating. If you don’t choose a partner who is also seeking God’s will than this structure for marriage will not work as it is meant to.
You'd be surprised when you put in the effort without asking anything in return that eventually he'll start doing the same. You give him respect by the many things you do and don't do thus giving him a reason to cherish you.
This is absolutely a yes from me!!!! Hallelujah!!! Me and my hubby have been together for over 21 years!!!!!!! I agree and live 100 % with you !!!!! Yesss it’s so good to hear this!!!!!!! So many people disagree!!!!
I love how unashamedly you share the biblical roles in your marriage. My husband and I grew up in Christian homes and our parents are still happily married, but we still struggled in our first year of marriage to understand what it was supposed to look like. The closer our marriage gets to God’s word the happier our whole family has been. I really love what you said about not involving others in your marriage. It can be a very hard one to learn, but it’s so true. I also love that she didn’t feel the need to give a list of things. Your husband does for you to satisfy other people. When I was a teenager, I was talking with my dad one day about dating and what I wanted out of a husband. And I will never forget that he stopped me and asked me if I had ever thought about what a husband might want from me. He said have you thought about what you could be doing now to attract the kind of man you want? I have a daughter now, and I want her to find a man worthy of her. Love of course. I also make sure I teach her to be a woman of character who attracts that type of man
Wise man and good dad. He wanted to make sure you got exactly what you wanted by attracting the right person to you through your own advertisement of your personal values and character.
After we were married almost 10 years I felt a conviction to dress more modestly. My husband didn't stop me, but he didn't necessarily like/appreciate it for several years. We have been married almost 22 years now and he thanks me and says he is grateful for how I dress. So I wouldnt say I always do everything to please or that pleases my husband. God comes first.
Married too for ten years, but we don't practice any of these. 2 kids and also I own an eco building company :) I'm pretty sure it's a personality thing, some people just enjoy being home and talking about clothes with other women, cooking for kids.
@@thiacari Hahahaha...you think that is all women like this do??...hahahaha... You had to make sure to try and get that dig in, huh?? i will say just in my extended family i see the women who stayed home with their kids and raised them, ran a household the right way, and I've seen the ones who ran companies, went to work, put their children and all their childrens needs off on baby sitters, nannies and I'll tell you the kids raised by their moms are more rounded, they feel the love the others didn't get, they learned to work for what they got, the others are bratty, brash, hateful, spoiled, outspoken to the point of gagging everyone they talk to, and those kids when adults always say," I never felt loved, My mom had time for her business, her job, but never me". I have seen it first hand..... Thank God I stayed home and actually raised mine.
I'm glad there is more content now on the benefits of biblical marriage roles. Early in my marriage my husband and I both worked outside the home and when I got home from work he would expect me to still do the duties of a homemaker, such as making dinner and doing the cleaning. I would balk at that and get upset, because if we were both working I thought that we should share the household responsibilities. It wasn't until I met a woman who was deeply rooted in the word and she discipled me on what it meant to be a biblical wife, and how the disputes we were having were not because my husband was expecting too much, but because we were craving the biblical order in our home. I left my job and learned to be a homemaker, I stopped asking what he could do for me and starting focusing on all that he has given me, and it made me want to serve him. I've been a full time homemaker for over a year now and we have never been happier. We have less money, sure, but I love having the energy to devote to our home and he loves coming home to a cheerful and loving wife. God designed it this way for a reason.
Good for you for quitting your job. Seriously so many women try to "have it all" and end up miserable. If a man wants a clean home and home cooked meals, he needs to be the bread winner.
So instead of your husband helping you, you have him a pass and allowed him to be lazy? Not cute. I'm glad my husband isn't lazy like that. He works 60 hours a week and still comes home and cooks all weekend so I don't have to. It's great staying home with the kids. But to be forced to live on low wages simply to allow the man to be lazy isn't a long lasting relationship.
@@Jennthegreen when two people come home exhausted they are both trying to pour from an empty cup. By keeping my energy on taking care of our home, it frees him up to do things for me out of the joy of his heart, not out of obligation and nagging. When he helps me now I know he is doing it out of love, not because I am expecting him to. I am grateful to my husband for going out every day and working so hard to provide for me. Working 12 hour days of manual labor is not lazy, it is a sacrifice he makes to provide for us.
@@RussellMiller-i5h Actually yes, my husband is my best friend. :-) We do everything together and he is the love of my life. The other male friend, as mentioned, I know him since I'm 12 and he was always my best friend before I knew my husband. So actually when someone asks me who my best friend is i say: of course my husband. And if someone wants to know who else - then I mention the other friend, since we went through so much that he is not just "a friend", that would not do it justice. This works very well for us. Other couples should do what they want, but I would never accept to have to cut out a person of my life, that helped me through hell and with whom I spent so many amazing times. I would also not demand anything like that of my husband. Nonetheless I believe that it is inappropriate to hang around with loose friends, make new friends of the opposite sex which are not together friends. I just think it is not right to generalize and portray it as something bad to a marriage, to have friends of the opposite sex in all cases :-) Those close friends become in any case together friends ;-) But as said, it needs to work for every couple in their way.
@@Dad.Daughter.Healing more of a red flag when a girl is friends with all guys. No guy is your friend on purpose. It all started because the guy wanted you. Then maybe he got friendzoned. But make no mistake, that guy friend would sleep with u of he had the chance. Theres 2 types of guy friends. The one that wants u and got friendzoned or the one that you wanted and got friendzoned.
Love this, Estee! ❤ My husband & I practice these traditional/biblical principles in our marriage as Christians and we are very happy for it. He feels honored and respected, I feel loved & cherished, and when we go out in the world, others see how genuinely happy we are and at times, we've been mistaken for newlyweds. We've been together 10 years and married for 8 of them this July. Also, I want to highlight your last comment about Western culture: 100% agree that the self is idolized and prioritized and this does *not* allow for a happy marriage. Real love seeks the good of the other and esteems the other more highly than the self. Both partners behaving this way is a recipe for success. However, there are times when that's not happening and so the answer to that is: be the change you want to see. Lay your pride aside and serve the other in love and humility. Pray for them and be patient with them. You can only control your own behavior. Don't use your words or influence to tear down but to build up and encourage. ❤
Awww wow 10 years?! That’s amazing ❤ I love the way you explained that second part it’s amazing how much happiness can come from serving others over ourselves ❤
@@EsteeWilliams Thank you and absolutely! And I think the counter-cultural kicker is this: marriage isn't designed to make us happy. It's designed to conform us to the image of Christ but in doing so, there is much joy and fulfillment. It can be challenging but it is truly one of the most beautiful things in creation. God bless you, your marriage, and your wonderful content, my sister! 🙏💛
@Bella4Chrissy I agree with your advice on live & humility, praying for our spouse, our marriage, laying down our pride & being the change. Disaflgreements happen over time & how we handle the tough times, is key to how healthy the marriage will become. We cannot realistically have sunshine & roses every day at times we will experience storms & thorns as life happens. How we individually handle those times, will influence how we as a couple thrive, or do not. As for your comment, well said, sister!
I love my wife, she may not be a stay at home mom/wife but she serves God working for the church. She loves her job and helps spread the good word to children, 1000+ kids from 1st grade to 8th. She is also the best thing to happen to me.
I love it! The fact that these things are considered strange or foreign is baffling to me. My husband and I do all of these things, and we have been happily married for 12 years. We let each other know where we are so the other doesn't worry. It's just basic consideration. It's sad to me that so many couples live more like roommates than as a married couple.
When you love someone you choose to serve. Submission is allowing yourself to be very vulnerable. If you are with the wrong person you will not serve/submit. When you are with the right person you are happy to…it almost comes naturally. The way I see it is that you are both serving each other. He is providing their house and everything inside while also contributing to society. And she is providing a home and safe space for them both and children in the future.
Wonderful video, Estee! I especially love the last point - putting your husband and family before yourself. That does not mean neglecting yourself, but rather blesses both you and your family! God bless! ☀️
It's not good nor bad advice. What I will say is she gone be so blinded sided when she has kids. She doesn't understand that right now her marriage is in easy mode. It's easy to be house wife when it's just her and her husband. It's easier to keep the house clean. Its easier to make meals. She has way more time for her self. The second she has a child all that is gone go out the window. She gone be completely blindsided. There a reason why 80% of women initate divorce. Let me show you why. 70% of working mothers and 69% of stay home mothers feel resentment towards their husband due to imbalance in work. 90% of working mothers and 89% of stay at home mothers feel overwhelmed by all the responsibilities they have to carry. This will be her the minute she has a child because she trying to do the traditional marriage thing. When she shouldering all the responsibilities and her husband is doing nothing to help other bring home a paycheck she will be singing a different tone. I know she thinks she will be different and there a chance her and her husband will beat the odds. However the sad fact is the statics are not on her side.
@@EsteeWilliams I don't think it's oppressive. However I think their are inherent problems with the kind of relationship you have. The firsr is that you are in for a rude awaking when you and your husband have kids. I all ready covered that. The back bone of any marriage should be communication and respect. This means actively talking and more importantly listen and respecting each other thoughts and opinions. The more submissive a women the less that relationship/marriage is built on communication. This can cause major problems in a marriage. Unlike the old days of traditional marriages your not stuck. The minute you have enough of something and make a stand the minute things are gone gone go south. Because if you and your husband don't know how to work things out and or make decisions together is when things will go badly. If you don't learn how to build that communication it will lead to anger and resentment and ultimately divorce. Furthermore being submissive can be a bad thing. Men can make bad decisions and poor choices just like a women. On that front we are equal. In my opinion it's important that when a man is making a bad decision or a poor choice that his partner or wife takes a stand when she see this. When your single it doesn't matter it only effects you. When your married and or have kids it effects your wife and possible your kids. So it'd importantly for a women to male a stand and you can't do that if you are being submissive and you back down and trust your husband judgement even when you know he wrong. But maybe you and your husband will be the odds and I truely hope so. I just feel the best way to have a successful marriage is one built on communication and respect. If you have that then everything else takes care of it self in its own time and way.
@@michaelrunk5930 I see what you're getting at. This is why there should be networking among married parents for sure. No marriage is perfect (duh), but it helps if you have people more experienced to help and counsel you throughout.
I’m a witness that what you’re saying is true. I have been doing all those things for 10 years and it works wonderfully. Especially the part about keeping my husband happy. The more I try, the more he tries to make me happy, too. It’s awesome 💕🌸
@MyWholeLifeWasALie yes 👍 you’re right. I made the choice first to be 100% in no matter what. Then when he was sure I meant it, he felt free to be vulnerable and decided to go all in as well. I believe one partner needs to do it first to establish the trust. Then you’ve strengthened your foundation on which to build.
@@spousewife going 💯 was a wise choice. When he feels like he's of value to you, he feels safe and loved. Work through anything. Never push his buttons or be cruel to him. I'm gonna show your comment to a friend. What you say is very true and helpful
Keep it coming. It is about time that we homemakers, who love and serve our husbands and families, speak out about our philosophy and our joy in choosing homemaking as our vocation. Thank you! 💖💖💖
The corrupt government and corporations won't be happy if women start serving their husbands who love them instead of serving the elites who enslave them and take them for granted. Nothing is more scary for the corrupt elites than strong nuclear families.
@@JennthegreenOmg. The establishment appreciates your blind support. Most large corporations, and most public officials want to say thanks and keep up the good work.
Im so impressed with how intelligently she lays everything out. Saftey and securoty is one of my main fous points so i greatly appreciated when you said you and your husband tell eachother everywhere you go and when youve arrived and that you dont go out after dark.
My best friend loved her husband like this and in time showed him he can be forgiven and loved by Jesus too and is now a Christian and has eternal salvation. His wife's loving kindness showed him and was patient enough with him that he now celebrates a relationship with Christ and they are experiencing such blessings in their home. She thought she couldn't be loved and he thought he could never be forgiven or good enough and through marriage and loving each other and Christ has revealed himself to them. They are rich in love and devotion and I cried today as she told me how much her serving her husband has filled him with an outpouring of love over their lives and that Jesus is responsible for all of it.
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, that if any obey not the Word, they also may be won without the Word by the conduct of their wives" 1 Peter 3:1
@felicity max No. She's late 30s he's 50. She never knew God in her youth and he was raised Buddhist. But now they both know Jesus and raise a beautiful devoted family together. 45 yrs ago when he was a boy Christians saved a his life by sheltering his family and helping them escape communism and the fields they wud take the families to kill them. They made it to America yrs later. And now he's a Christian too.
She is so correct, when one puts their partners needs and wants first it usually comes back ten fold in return! When two people love each other they automatically want to please and make the other person happy. Just as u ensure ur partners happiness, they will ensure ur happiness as well. A happy and loving marriage is a beautiful thing ❤
I practice these same things in regards to my marriage. Having a loving, supportive husband is a absolute blessing. Women that have to navigate everything alone will never know what true stability feels like.
I am a single mum, I have to do everything in the house : man's job and woman's job. Provide, protect, build, repair, take care, cooking, cleaning and so on. It's exhausting and I can't do each properly. It is what this modern society and modern womenhood has to offer... It is a big mistake! It had to go this far for me to understand that I need a man so that I could be fully a woman. I understand what is missing and I know what I am looking for, for me and my son. You all are very inspiring !
@@ceciliaferte4684the problem Is that men don't help, that's the difference. In a marriage women are supposed to take care of the house while working and their husbands don't even help their wives by dividing the chores(which Is very selfish) What happened to you Is the same things that would have happened to any man, It has nothing to do with marriage.
I was raised in a traditional family. I never rebelled. I felt safe and loved. I witnessed what happened to my friends that were also raised in a traditional family and they rebelled. They ended up confused and unhappy. What they thought they wanted wasn’t what they needed. My 30 year old son still lives with us. He’s saving money and wants to buy a house. That’s fine. I would never ask him to leave. My parents never asked me to leave.
What my mom said. Then my brother srarted snorting, my mother decided it was somehow my fault, and the week after my brother left for god knows where (iirc Austria that time) she told me that night to pack my bags and be out of the house tomorrow morning work time. Takes quite a bit of moving stuff to get a home in under 6 hours. At least she tossed out what I didnt need. Living light is a godsent having to move around a lot.
I also practice these things in marriage!! I feel so safe and protected by my husband. Especially now that I have a baby, I lean into my husband even more. He knows what’s best for our safety
What a breath of fresh air. I hope you have a tight knit community and/or extended family that share your values because this backwards world will try to bring you down.
Excellent video! I love that you cited Scripture as your foundation for how your marriage works. I'm currently reading "Fascinating Womanhood" and learning how to be the woman I ought to be. Your videos are so encouraging and very much needed! Thank you thank you thank you ❣
💯% spot on! Serving is an act of love and care. It’s a mindset and lifestyle. When we expect others to serve us we become self-focused and selfish. 😳. My husband appreciates that I take his likes into consideration. That’s when I get compliments 😉 He also wouldn’t want me looking tacky or unacceptable in public but he likes that I’ll take the time to make myself attractive for him.
Go Estee! This is so badly needed in 2023. My husband and I just celebrated 38 yrs (5/25/85) and we have always done those things you have outlined. Well the first few years were bumpy because I was trying to figure those principles out. I was a brand new believer and wasn’t raised in a home where traditional wife was modeled. Thank you for your channel!!!!!
Everything she said in this video is spot on. I love seeing happy people with healthy, strong relationships. Personally, I'd love to live a life similar to hers. Treating a man like a king? Yesssss please. Hopefully, one day, I'll have 6 kids and a husband I can cook for. I'm getting excited daydreaming about it.
Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes. I agree whole heartedly and find it so encouraging to hear other women who are serving as a great reminder and encouragement that these values and beliefs are still possible today!
Any godly man would do his best to out serve a woman like this. The most powerful thing she can do is pray for him and WITH him. Blessings to this very brave young couple.
I am a liberal Christian, and I just found your channel. I love it! Although we may have differing viewpoints, I find your videos very inspiring and plan on watching all of them. By the way, him being the provider would make it possible to do plenty of volunteer work. I enjoyed volunteering in the kitchen and garden at a church I used to go to. The complete lawn at this church is a permaculture garden. We use the bounty for our Sunday Grace Feast. If I married a man who was the sole provider, I would spearhead a garden and Grace Feast at a church that doesn't have this.
Wow, good for you! Wish more people shared your values. We'd have less problems in this world. The husband should always take care of the wife and kids, the wife should always take care of the kids and the husband. If we selflessly take care of each other, everything works.
As a trad housewife myself, I am 100% for all of this. My husband and I practice these things in our marriage also and we have a wonderful relationship. You are a wonderful inspiration and voice for all of us trad housewives, Estee! :)
Yes been married 8 years and the Word of God is our foundation. I stand by all of these as well. Most people don't understand and think negative petty things about us. But we choose to preserve our marriage and our lives the best we can and all of this is how... Truly this list has the first priorities. I don't do anything my husband says not to. He judges what is safe and good for us from the many things I present to him. I like that it's gotten me into the habit of thinking how something will affect us short or long term in various ways. I love everyone but I only trust God and my husband to protect me completely.
I completely agree with all of this. I never realized until recently how controversial these practices these are but this is what basic mutual respect looks like for my relationship too 😊
I love this girl! What does my husband do for me? My husband works everyday so I can be a wife and mother. Here are just a few more things. He fixed the broken sink, he gets my cars oil changed, makes sure I have good tires. He pays all the bills, takes care of them yard. It is the least I can do, to look nice when he gets home, keep the house nice, and make dinner. He takes care of me, I take care of him. We are 31 years married and happy. Thank you for sticking up for us woman who love our husbands and our lives. I’m so tired of these “women” who want to live in a “man’s world“ speaking for me. If they want to go out and have a working man’s life, go for it. But don’t decide for me and tell me I am less of a woman because I don’t want to.
That last tip - YES! I have been trying to share this advice to other wives for years. Our culture is so focused on “me me me” and what they don’t realize is that until you submit yourself to your husband and actually serve him well… you’re going to be miserable. When I serve him - he serves me. My gentleness softens his heart 9 times out of ten. Sometimes he’s down and I help bring him back up - and the other way around. Marriage is meant to be where each of us is trying to figure out the best way to serve one another but as long as we are digging in our heals waiting for the other person to serve US we will be doing damage. God made it the way He did for a reason. Love your channel!
Well, if this wasn't the most refreshing and healing youtube channel I've seen in a long time. Big round of applause for Estee, a wonderful young lady indeed and what a fortunate husband she has.
Love that last one there. When my wife and I were dating she would do things to make my day easier and I would always feel like I need to do more for her because of it. She still does this and I wouldn’t take a day without her.
This is why my marriage has been such a good relationship that others have coveted. We do all of the above. A big thing too is we serve each other. We constantly work on serving each other. Work on your relationship BEFORE the storms come too. It helps alot.
A lot of excellent points. I've been married for 12 years and the times we fought were when these guides were broken. My advice is to follow these guides and keep your marriage strong. My husband and I have been through a lot but came out stronger in the other side. If we had this advice ten years ago though, we could have saved ourselves a lot of headaches and heartache.
God Bless you!🙏 You are going to have a life filled with peace, joy, and happiness! Billy Graham was who I learned my Biblical role as a woman, wife, and mother from. 33 years later and the Blessing are pouring in and my marriage is stronger than ever. My grown children have beautiful Blessed lives as well. You definitely reap what you have sown 💓🙌🙏
A lot of these practices are a great way to lose yourself in a marriage/relationship. I've been with my partner for 10 years. It's completely unreasonable for a woman in this modern age to only have female friendships-- it also stigmatizes how we view men and worsen conversations around their emotional wellbeing. Male or female, they are human beings, deserving of friendship. Closing your disputes from the outside world and outside view can create a toxic environment-- sometimes you need a different perspective to see how to solve an issue, instead of the same fight over and over again. It's also a great tactic for narcissists and domestic violence abusers to control you, but isolating you from your friends and family. This may work for them, but these practices do not work for everyone. Take some of them with a grain of salt.
Finally, thank you. Looking for this kind of comment. It is lovely when both are full of love for each other. I have been there myself., loving the submission part, but finally I had to run away to save my life. I was so obsessed by submitting and not telling others about our problems that it almost killed me. Please be wise. Lovely to to do the best for your spouse, but do not let these ideas take over so it controlls you in a toxic and dangerous way. God bless 🥰❤️
This strong woman has everything absolutely 100% correct. She knows what's up and how relationships are supposed to work. In my marriage to my wife, we are traditional and I treat her like my queen and she treats me like her king! Always thinking of the other first.
I was raised with all these same values.I was happy to try to be a capable wife, as the Bible had taught me. I wish I had found a man that was on the same page.I am starting to be hopeful again, so many precious comments on this page. Thank you for putting this out there.I love when I see woman doing what is good. Every one around her benefits❤
You nailed it. A marriage based on Biblical principles will not only last long but will be rewarding to all. Especially any children that may come along. Ephesians goes on to say “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it;” Ephesians 5:25 ASV I have listened to both parts of your message and you are giving good advice whether people want to hear it or not. Keep up the good work
Everything this woman is saying is wisdom. And yes, I agree that western women have different motives than eastern women. It is an honor for Eastern women to be a wife and a mother. Western women consider this not a priority and garbage in comparison to a career and competing and contending with men. I will say it one more time. there is not a man who will not absolutely love everything that is spoken here. this will bring out the best in the great majority of men.
“You don’t know what benefits you receive when you put your partner before yourself.” That’s wisdom that applies to BOTH partners in the relationship. I bet her husband is always thinking of something that will be a blessing for his wife. Leaving the house after dark seems a bit extreme, but you should be comfortable in your environment. If that makes you uncomfortable, that’s understandable.
Perfecto! 👏🏼 👏🏼 My husband and I have been married for over 13 years and all of the tips you are sharing absolutely work for a long and happy marriage! Keep sharing your wisdom!!
Every one of these things makes sense to me. I never left the house after dark either. I still don’t. It’s just not safe anymore. Letting each other know where you are is really a safety practice. I always kept my husband’s opinions in mind regarding what I wear and how I wore my hair. Neither he nor I pursued opposite sex friendships. And I loved doing nice things for him. He did nice things for me. We were a team, a family, we cared for each other. Things like you mentioned come natural in a caring relationship. (I miss him.)
I'm so glad that many people are giving FULL picture concerning submission. The scripture says nothing about women being a doormat!! Thank you for your content. May God truly bless you and all who see and think about your content.
I feel like the question “what does your husband do for you” is still valid. You can say that you don’t serve your husband because of what he does for you, but that doesn’t answer the question. It’s apparent what you do for your husband, but I’m sure people are curious what the character and responsibilities of the masculine counterpart of a homemaker looks like.
This lifestyle is practiced in 99% of the world for millenia. This new thing where the genders are reserved is a modern phenomenon and will not last given that it is against the natural order as ordained by a higher power. So the world understands her really well, it's the less than 1% population of the West that don't understand. Don't let the fake media, both social and legacy, fool you. This is the norm for most families around the world.
Life is about being selfless so we do for others and there is joy of giving in everything we do. Our actions make others happy and that in turn gives us happiness as well as reciprocation from those people
I have no idea if this is legit or not but not leaving the house after dark unironically makes your husband so much more comfortable. Nothing's worse than dating a girl that CONSTANTLY puts herself in danger and has zero survival sense. Like I get we're the protectors but you don't have to sign me up for fights
Great advice. If more females followed this advice there would be less divorce. Most men do not expect a lot from there wives. If women are Godly then they are submissive to their husbands and marriage is easier. God bless you and your husband. I will be praying for you and your husband and your future children. God bless.
You are such a lovely lady! I've lived a more traditional style and role in my marriage for 20 years. I've also gotten a lot of push back on it. I love your videos. They are soothing, feminine, and inspiring. A lot of women who get upset don't realize this isn't their style and they don't have to go with it. There's nothing wrong with choices, and this is what you choose, and it's what I choose.
A good husband wants to see his wife happy. My husband always tells me it doesn’t matter what I do with my clothes or hair for him as long as I like it and I SMILE he is happy with it. He said you’re beautiful without makeup but when you do your makeup you have confidence and you smile more and feel better and that is what I love most is you feeling good about you. Also the location tracking thing is great. My female friends here and our kids are all on each others phones for tracking. We live in a different world now y’all and we know where our loved ones are at at all times.
I really enjoy when my wife says, what do you think or what would you like to do..that makes me feel like I am a part of the marriage not just a person that doesn't matter. I think that she should have her times but, we are a couple! We are not just two people. Thank you so much.
What does it mean-- "don't twist this into something it's not"? Submit and serve mean what they mean. Usually people don't need to twist that to have a problem with it 😂
Wow Estee, I’m so glad I found your content! The world needs more people like you to help make marriages healthier and families stronger. Especially the way society is now. I’m in a twenty year marriage and my wife and I share many of your and your husbands values in our relationship. I believe it’s a big reason why we have lasted this long when other relationships around us have failed. And we still love and treat each other the same as when we first met 💕💕💕 You’re a breath of fresh air. Can’t wait to watch more of your videos. Keep up the great work 😊
The 50s were not a magical era of harmony. Women were abused with no legal recourse against DV. The air wasn’t even fresh because it was racked with pollutants, and it frankly still is. She mentioned several things that would make any sane woman who hasn’t lived in a bubble all her life raise an eyebrow about her husband’s level of control over her life. Wake up. This is a poorly written fantasy catering to men who have been allowed to stay children their whole lives because a woman is always picking up after them and treating them like they’re special little kings that can do whatever they want. It never worked. Women just couldn’t talk about it.
It looks like you ticked all the boxes. My wife and I follow the same “rules” for the past 42 years. And we both agree with everything you said! May you and your husband continue to be Blessed!
Yep been going 26 years and strong in my traditional marriage! Since the kids have grown up and moved out I’ve gotten a job to help with the finances but I still practice the traditional wife roll whenever I’m home. If I’m working he helps me out. We like to do for each other to balance it all out since we both work now.
I'd be interested to see a video on what your husband practices as traditional husband ideals too, love your unapologetic way of living out your values, keep up the good work!
Just thought of an example of a perspective I feel I must share: I mentioned previously that I distanced myself from male friends when I got married. Recently, I met a couple and we all hit it off and hang out frequently. The husband would seriously be a best friend if I didn’t feel it’s wildly inappropriate. Anytime I message him, I include his wife. And we go back and forth about ridiculous stuff and she kept requesting we text individually. I kept telling both of them, absolutely not. It’s not appropriate. Now, she agrees and they too have this “rule” in their relationship as well.
My grammie said: the man is the head of the family, the wife gives the head to the head of the family. With this simple mindset, life is generally good.
I love all these, All the things I did NOT practice in previous relationships turned it so toxic or just was toxic in the first place. It literally caused every single problem Ihave ever had in a relationship when I didn't put ALL these (and part 1) into play. Listen ladies, take it from someone who has been through a lot, you will absolutely be happier finding this dynamic with a LOVING partner
There is not enough appreciation for homemakers. I’ve been working off debts and working two jobs for my 20s. I just hit 30 and being a homemaker for my husband has become my dream. As soon as everything is cleared, I’m out of the rat race. Your content is an absolute inspiration and motivator for me! Thank you for all your hard work ❤
Your videos are great. This is the way my mom treated my dad. My dad was the head of the house but they each had areas that they took care of. My dad could not cook in the kitchen if his life dependent on it. He could grill like mad, but the kitchen was the danger zone. My mother ran the house and my dad took care of the outside. The went grocery shopping together, attended all of my games together. Most importantly they trusted, respected and loved each other.
Number 2 is the only thing I kinda disagree with. Don't understand me wrong, my best friend of opposite sex will always be my wife, but having friends of the opposite sex and cutting contact with them just for the sake of your spouse doesn't feel right. Of course you will keep a reasonable distance out of respect to your spouse and their insecurities. Same logic as with the gym, to not let uncomfortable situations take place, to not even entertain the possibility, but I wouldn't cut contact with my female friends if I had some. Because they too are humans, I see the humanity in them and I care for them as a friend
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As a traditional Muslim woman, I practice every single one of these in our marriage 🙌🏼 Strong families = strong societies
That's the reason the elites and corporations shove feminism down everyone's throat. Because they want to destroy nuclear families and make the society weak so they can leech it off and enslave everyone in it...
I was just going to say these are basically rules that muslims live by as well.
I might just convert
Ya it’s all just basically a given in my marriage (we’re Muslim too). Like it’s all just common and known and assumed and not even anything to think or debate about lol. Normal life.
Muslims are far right which basically means natural and non coco woke. American Muslim vote 🗳️ republican with your friendly people of the book 📕 “don’t let over zealous Muslims fool you” religious people stand together while arguing that’s fine.
Preach it girl! My man treats me like something precious because I treat him as precious. You reep what you sow! Wish women today would grasp this fact.
Not all upright women are fortunate to have upright men.
@@holyexperience1976 I see your point.
Yesss. So many people don't understand the command in Ephesians for wives to submit to their husbands. They are missing the part where husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Anyone who knows the depth of the gospel knows this is NOT a task to take lightly! Christ's love for the church is sacrificial and serving. Christ laid down His life for the church. Our husbands have a huge load to carry, and we are to be their helpers by following their lead.
jesus is a prophet, just like abraham, moses, and muhammed is the final messanger.....
Ok, this actually helped me understand this whole angle conceptually. Thank you!
I wish she had included the whole passage. The second half gives so much balance to a beautiful bit of scripture. We had this reading at our wedding.
Could not have said it better myself. The worldly definition of submission also gives the impression of the person who is submitting, is lesser than or inferior to whoever they are submitting to. The biblical definition of submission is much different. Jesus Christ is the king of kings, the Lord of lords. He was completely perfect and absolutely superior, but made himself a servant to the point of dying on the cross for things he did not do. Biblical marriage is a representation of that between two imperfect people. The reason it works is because those two imperfect people are also submitting themselves to God. That’s why I loved her video talking about dating. If you don’t choose a partner who is also seeking God’s will than this structure for marriage will not work as it is meant to.
Lol. There was no church at that time, how could Jesus have loved it? Besides he would be the first to finish that swamp off.
I cannot stress how important it is to keep family out of disputes. From a 65 yr old grandmother who learned from experience, sadly. ❤
God bless you 🙏🏻
“You don’t know the benefits you reap when you think about your partner first.” Yes!! The more we serve one another the happier our marriage is! ❤❤❤
@@lorimill187exactly Sis 💕💜💕💜
You'd be surprised when you put in the effort without asking anything in return that eventually he'll start doing the same. You give him respect by the many things you do and don't do thus giving him a reason to cherish you.
@@lorimill187 Bible says the woman is to submit to her husband, but it also says Christ is the head of the man - so the man is required to love her.
This is absolutely a yes from me!!!! Hallelujah!!! Me and my hubby have been together for over 21 years!!!!!!! I agree and live 100 % with you !!!!! Yesss it’s so good to hear this!!!!!!! So many people disagree!!!!
I love how unashamedly you share the biblical roles in your marriage. My husband and I grew up in Christian homes and our parents are still happily married, but we still struggled in our first year of marriage to understand what it was supposed to look like. The closer our marriage gets to God’s word the happier our whole family has been. I really love what you said about not involving others in your marriage. It can be a very hard one to learn, but it’s so true. I also love that she didn’t feel the need to give a list of things. Your husband does for you to satisfy other people. When I was a teenager, I was talking with my dad one day about dating and what I wanted out of a husband. And I will never forget that he stopped me and asked me if I had ever thought about what a husband might want from me. He said have you thought about what you could be doing now to attract the kind of man you want? I have a daughter now, and I want her to find a man worthy of her. Love of course. I also make sure I teach her to be a woman of character who attracts that type of man
Wise man and good dad. He wanted to make sure you got exactly what you wanted by attracting the right person to you through your own advertisement of your personal values and character.
‘Don’t involve others in your marriage’ but goes on about god in your marriage. If thats not irony then I’m not Napoleon.
@@wenlambotomy6231 get help
@@wenlambotomy6231 don't involve other humans.
👏🏽 you seem to be like the types of mother this fallen generation can use. Your father set you on the right path. Keep on shinning the light of Christ
After we were married almost 10 years I felt a conviction to dress more modestly. My husband didn't stop me, but he didn't necessarily like/appreciate it for several years. We have been married almost 22 years now and he thanks me and says he is grateful for how I dress. So I wouldnt say I always do everything to please or that pleases my husband. God comes first.
Yes absolutely
As a man, this motivates me to be the man that my future wife would want to follow.
That’s amazing! I wish you the best of luck finding and loving your future wife ✨
You needed a fake cosplay Tradwife influencer to change your views ? Hope you are. Buying everyth8ng the ads sell you to become a bettter man. Hehehe
Yes sister! Married for almost 10 years with 4 kiddos and all you practice is what we do and it’s worth it! The world doesn’t have to accept it ❤❤❤
Married too for ten years, but we don't practice any of these. 2 kids and also I own an eco building company :)
I'm pretty sure it's a personality thing, some people just enjoy being home and talking about clothes with other women, cooking for kids.
@@thiacari Hahahaha...you think that is all women like this do??...hahahaha... You had to make sure to try and get that dig in, huh??
i will say just in my extended family i see the women who stayed home with their kids and raised them, ran a household the right way, and I've seen the ones who ran companies, went to work, put their children and all their childrens needs off on baby sitters, nannies and I'll tell you the kids raised by their moms are more rounded, they feel the love the others didn't get, they learned to work for what they got, the others are bratty, brash, hateful, spoiled, outspoken to the point of gagging everyone they talk to, and those kids when adults always say," I never felt loved, My mom had time for her business, her job, but never me". I have seen it first hand..... Thank God I stayed home and actually raised mine.
bless your little rascals. Many ppl find now, the less the world accepts what you're doing, the better it actually is for you.
I'm glad there is more content now on the benefits of biblical marriage roles.
Early in my marriage my husband and I both worked outside the home and when I got home from work he would expect me to still do the duties of a homemaker, such as making dinner and doing the cleaning. I would balk at that and get upset, because if we were both working I thought that we should share the household responsibilities. It wasn't until I met a woman who was deeply rooted in the word and she discipled me on what it meant to be a biblical wife, and how the disputes we were having were not because my husband was expecting too much, but because we were craving the biblical order in our home. I left my job and learned to be a homemaker, I stopped asking what he could do for me and starting focusing on all that he has given me, and it made me want to serve him. I've been a full time homemaker for over a year now and we have never been happier. We have less money, sure, but I love having the energy to devote to our home and he loves coming home to a cheerful and loving wife. God designed it this way for a reason.
Amen 🙏🏻
Good for you for quitting your job. Seriously so many women try to "have it all" and end up miserable. If a man wants a clean home and home cooked meals, he needs to be the bread winner.
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So instead of your husband helping you, you have him a pass and allowed him to be lazy?
Not cute.
I'm glad my husband isn't lazy like that.
He works 60 hours a week and still comes home and cooks all weekend so I don't have to.
It's great staying home with the kids.
But to be forced to live on low wages simply to allow the man to be lazy isn't a long lasting relationship.
@@Jennthegreen when two people come home exhausted they are both trying to pour from an empty cup. By keeping my energy on taking care of our home, it frees him up to do things for me out of the joy of his heart, not out of obligation and nagging. When he helps me now I know he is doing it out of love, not because I am expecting him to. I am grateful to my husband for going out every day and working so hard to provide for me. Working 12 hour days of manual labor is not lazy, it is a sacrifice he makes to provide for us.
I have a male best friend since I am 12. I would never give him up because I am married now. This friend even did our ceremony on our wedding day.
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Is your Husband your best friend or is your "other" male friend your best friend?? Something to think about huh?
@@RussellMiller-i5h Actually yes, my husband is my best friend. :-) We do everything together and he is the love of my life.
The other male friend, as mentioned, I know him since I'm 12 and he was always my best friend before I knew my husband. So actually when someone asks me who my best friend is i say: of course my husband. And if someone wants to know who else - then I mention the other friend, since we went through so much that he is not just "a friend", that would not do it justice.
This works very well for us. Other couples should do what they want, but I would never accept to have to cut out a person of my life, that helped me through hell and with whom I spent so many amazing times. I would also not demand anything like that of my husband.
Nonetheless I believe that it is inappropriate to hang around with loose friends, make new friends of the opposite sex which are not together friends. I just think it is not right to generalize and portray it as something bad to a marriage, to have friends of the opposite sex in all cases :-) Those close friends become in any case together friends ;-)
But as said, it needs to work for every couple in their way.
Red flag if you can't have HEALTHY relationships with the opposite sex. But, I think every couple should do what's best for them.
@@Dad.Daughter.Healing more of a red flag when a girl is friends with all guys. No guy is your friend on purpose. It all started because the guy wanted you. Then maybe he got friendzoned. But make no mistake, that guy friend would sleep with u of he had the chance. Theres 2 types of guy friends. The one that wants u and got friendzoned or the one that you wanted and got friendzoned.
Love this, Estee! ❤ My husband & I practice these traditional/biblical principles in our marriage as Christians and we are very happy for it. He feels honored and respected, I feel loved & cherished, and when we go out in the world, others see how genuinely happy we are and at times, we've been mistaken for newlyweds. We've been together 10 years and married for 8 of them this July.
Also, I want to highlight your last comment about Western culture: 100% agree that the self is idolized and prioritized and this does *not* allow for a happy marriage. Real love seeks the good of the other and esteems the other more highly than the self. Both partners behaving this way is a recipe for success. However, there are times when that's not happening and so the answer to that is: be the change you want to see. Lay your pride aside and serve the other in love and humility. Pray for them and be patient with them. You can only control your own behavior. Don't use your words or influence to tear down but to build up and encourage. ❤
Awww wow 10 years?! That’s amazing ❤ I love the way you explained that second part it’s amazing how much happiness can come from serving others over ourselves ❤
@@EsteeWilliams Thank you and absolutely! And I think the counter-cultural kicker is this: marriage isn't designed to make us happy. It's designed to conform us to the image of Christ but in doing so, there is much joy and fulfillment. It can be challenging but it is truly one of the most beautiful things in creation. God bless you, your marriage, and your wonderful content, my sister! 🙏💛
So much wisdom in what you said. Absolutely agree!
@@EsteeWilliams Wow, your name is Estee, damn mine too!
@Bella4Chrissy I agree with your advice on live & humility, praying for our spouse, our marriage, laying down our pride & being the change. Disaflgreements happen over time & how we handle the tough times, is key to how healthy the marriage will become. We cannot realistically have sunshine & roses every day at times we will experience storms & thorns as life happens. How we individually handle those times, will influence how we as a couple thrive, or do not. As for your comment, well said, sister!
I love my wife, she may not be a stay at home mom/wife but she serves God working for the church. She loves her job and helps spread the good word to children, 1000+ kids from 1st grade to 8th. She is also the best thing to happen to me.
You're more mature than the resounding majority of commenters who buy into the false dichotomy.
I love it! The fact that these things are considered strange or foreign is baffling to me. My husband and I do all of these things, and we have been happily married for 12 years. We let each other know where we are so the other doesn't worry. It's just basic consideration. It's sad to me that so many couples live more like roommates than as a married couple.
When you love someone you choose to serve. Submission is allowing yourself to be very vulnerable. If you are with the wrong person you will not serve/submit. When you are with the right person you are happy to…it almost comes naturally.
The way I see it is that you are both serving each other. He is providing their house and everything inside while also contributing to society. And she is providing a home and safe space for them both and children in the future.
Wonderful video, Estee! I especially love the last point - putting your husband and family before yourself. That does not mean neglecting yourself, but rather blesses both you and your family! God bless! ☀️
Thank you, Estee . Few couples understand that true joy comes in serving. I love to serve my wife because I love my wife. I adore my wife.
Serving each other is a necessity but when only one is serving then you have a problem.
This is really sage advice. I hope more and more young women get into this. It's so weird how foreign it sounds in our current hookup culture.
I agree it’s crazy how weird this is to current culture and how some see this as oppressive is mind boggling lol
@@EsteeWilliams Exactly!! I don't think people have a lot of frame of reference in mind, which is kind of sad.
It's not good nor bad advice. What I will say is she gone be so blinded sided when she has kids. She doesn't understand that right now her marriage is in easy mode. It's easy to be house wife when it's just her and her husband. It's easier to keep the house clean. Its easier to make meals. She has way more time for her self.
The second she has a child all that is gone go out the window. She gone be completely blindsided.
There a reason why 80% of women initate divorce. Let me show you why.
70% of working mothers and 69% of stay home mothers feel resentment towards their husband due to imbalance in work.
90% of working mothers and 89% of stay at home mothers feel overwhelmed by all the responsibilities they have to carry.
This will be her the minute she has a child because she trying to do the traditional marriage thing. When she shouldering all the responsibilities and her husband is doing nothing to help other bring home a paycheck she will be singing a different tone.
I know she thinks she will be different and there a chance her and her husband will beat the odds. However the sad fact is the statics are not on her side.
@@EsteeWilliams I don't think it's oppressive. However I think their are inherent problems with the kind of relationship you have.
The firsr is that you are in for a rude awaking when you and your husband have kids. I all ready covered that.
The back bone of any marriage should be communication and respect. This means actively talking and more importantly listen and respecting each other thoughts and opinions. The more submissive a women the less that relationship/marriage is built on communication. This can cause major problems in a marriage.
Unlike the old days of traditional marriages your not stuck. The minute you have enough of something and make a stand the minute things are gone gone go south. Because if you and your husband don't know how to work things out and or make decisions together is when things will go badly. If you don't learn how to build that communication it will lead to anger and resentment and ultimately divorce.
Furthermore being submissive can be a bad thing. Men can make bad decisions and poor choices just like a women. On that front we are equal. In my opinion it's important that when a man is making a bad decision or a poor choice that his partner or wife takes a stand when she see this. When your single it doesn't matter it only effects you. When your married and or have kids it effects your wife and possible your kids. So it'd importantly for a women to male a stand and you can't do that if you are being submissive and you back down and trust your husband judgement even when you know he wrong.
But maybe you and your husband will be the odds and I truely hope so. I just feel the best way to have a successful marriage is one built on communication and respect. If you have that then everything else takes care of it self in its own time and way.
@@michaelrunk5930 I see what you're getting at.
This is why there should be networking among married parents for sure. No marriage is perfect (duh), but it helps if you have people more experienced to help and counsel you throughout.
This is great! Interesting how when you're looking to bless someone else, you usually end up blessed 😉
I’m a witness that what you’re saying is true. I have been doing all those things for 10 years and it works wonderfully. Especially the part about keeping my husband happy. The more I try, the more he tries to make me happy, too. It’s awesome 💕🌸
Keep doing what you do Girl! ❤ Much luck and love to your marriage
He cares about you more when he sees you care about him
@MyWholeLifeWasALie yes 👍 you’re right. I made the choice first to be 100% in no matter what. Then when he was sure I meant it, he felt free to be vulnerable and decided to go all in as well. I believe one partner needs to do it first to establish the trust. Then you’ve strengthened your foundation on which to build.
@@spousewife going 💯 was a wise choice. When he feels like he's of value to you, he feels safe and loved. Work through anything. Never push his buttons or be cruel to him. I'm gonna show your comment to a friend. What you say is very true and helpful
Keep it coming. It is about time that we homemakers, who love and serve our husbands and families, speak out about our philosophy and our joy in choosing homemaking as our vocation. Thank you! 💖💖💖
Amen!
The corrupt government and corporations won't be happy if women start serving their husbands who love them instead of serving the elites who enslave them and take them for granted.
Nothing is more scary for the corrupt elites than strong nuclear families.
SAHM isn't a vocation.
@@JennthegreenOmg. The establishment appreciates your blind support. Most large corporations, and most public officials want to say thanks and keep up the good work.
@@Jennthegreen
Yes it most certainly is. And it's an honorable one.
Im so impressed with how intelligently she lays everything out. Saftey and securoty is one of my main fous points so i greatly appreciated when you said you and your husband tell eachother everywhere you go and when youve arrived and that you dont go out after dark.
My best friend loved her husband like this and in time showed him he can be forgiven and loved by Jesus too and is now a Christian and has eternal salvation. His wife's loving kindness showed him and was patient enough with him that he now celebrates a relationship with Christ and they are experiencing such blessings in their home. She thought she couldn't be loved and he thought he could never be forgiven or good enough and through marriage and loving each other and Christ has revealed himself to them. They are rich in love and devotion and I cried today as she told me how much her serving her husband has filled him with an outpouring of love over their lives and that Jesus is responsible for all of it.
This is beautiful! Are they a younger couple?
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands, that if any obey not the Word, they also may be won without the Word by the conduct of their wives" 1 Peter 3:1
@felicity max No. She's late 30s he's 50. She never knew God in her youth and he was raised Buddhist. But now they both know Jesus and raise a beautiful devoted family together. 45 yrs ago when he was a boy Christians saved a his life by sheltering his family and helping them escape communism and the fields they wud take the families to kill them. They made it to America yrs later. And now he's a Christian too.
That’s amazing ❤ I hope my husband and I can achieve this as well.
Confirmation I needed to hear this, God bless this couple
She is so correct, when one puts their partners needs and wants first it usually comes back ten fold in return! When two people love each other they automatically want to please and make the other person happy. Just as u ensure ur partners happiness, they will ensure ur happiness as well. A happy and loving marriage is a beautiful thing ❤
I practice these same things in regards to my marriage. Having a loving, supportive husband is a absolute blessing. Women that have to navigate everything alone will never know what true stability feels like.
I am a single mum, I have to do everything in the house : man's job and woman's job. Provide, protect, build, repair, take care, cooking, cleaning and so on. It's exhausting and I can't do each properly. It is what this modern society and modern womenhood has to offer... It is a big mistake! It had to go this far for me to understand that I need a man so that I could be fully a woman. I understand what is missing and I know what I am looking for, for me and my son. You all are very inspiring !
Women are capable of that, so there's nothing wrong with It.
@@ceciliaferte4684the problem Is that men don't help, that's the difference.
In a marriage women are supposed to take care of the house while working and their husbands don't even help their wives by dividing the chores(which Is very selfish)
What happened to you Is the same things that would have happened to any man, It has nothing to do with marriage.
I was raised in a traditional family. I never rebelled. I felt safe and loved. I witnessed what happened to my friends that were also raised in a traditional family and they rebelled. They ended up confused and unhappy. What they thought they wanted wasn’t what they needed. My 30 year old son still lives with us. He’s saving money and wants to buy a house. That’s fine. I would never ask him to leave. My parents never asked me to leave.
What my mom said.
Then my brother srarted snorting, my mother decided it was somehow my fault, and the week after my brother left for god knows where (iirc Austria that time) she told me that night to pack my bags and be out of the house tomorrow morning work time.
Takes quite a bit of moving stuff to get a home in under 6 hours. At least she tossed out what I didnt need. Living light is a godsent having to move around a lot.
I also practice these things in marriage!! I feel so safe and protected by my husband. Especially now that I have a baby, I lean into my husband even more. He knows what’s best for our safety
Same here!!!!
Thank you for another great video!
Could you tell us a bit more about how you found each other and how traditional or modern your community is.
Thank you so much for the kindness and that’s a great video idea!!!
Amen! When it’s all about him and his purposes and mission, my joy is off the charts and so is his.
You’re such inspiration Estee, I love your TH-cam channel.
Thank you so much I really appreciate that 😊
What a breath of fresh air. I hope you have a tight knit community and/or extended family that share your values because this backwards world will try to bring you down.
Excellent video! I love that you cited Scripture as your foundation for how your marriage works. I'm currently reading "Fascinating Womanhood" and learning how to be the woman I ought to be. Your videos are so encouraging and very much needed! Thank you thank you thank you ❣
💯% spot on! Serving is an act of love and care. It’s a mindset and lifestyle. When we expect others to serve us we become self-focused and selfish. 😳. My husband appreciates that I take his likes into consideration. That’s when I get compliments 😉 He also wouldn’t want me looking tacky or unacceptable in public but he likes that I’ll take the time to make myself attractive for him.
This girl is so happy in her marriage. You can see. It just radiates out of her! 💍⛪✝️
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Go Estee! This is so badly needed in 2023. My husband and I just celebrated 38 yrs (5/25/85) and we have always done those things you have outlined. Well the first few years were bumpy because I was trying to figure those principles out. I was a brand new believer and wasn’t raised in a home where traditional wife was modeled. Thank you for your channel!!!!!
Everything she said in this video is spot on. I love seeing happy people with healthy, strong relationships. Personally, I'd love to live a life similar to hers. Treating a man like a king? Yesssss please. Hopefully, one day, I'll have 6 kids and a husband I can cook for. I'm getting excited daydreaming about it.
Yes Yes Yes Yes Yes. I agree whole heartedly and find it so encouraging to hear other women who are serving as a great reminder and encouragement that these values and beliefs are still possible today!
Any godly man would do his best to out serve a woman like this. The most powerful thing she can do is pray for him and WITH him. Blessings to this very brave young couple.
I am a liberal Christian, and I just found your channel. I love it! Although we may have differing viewpoints, I find your videos very inspiring and plan on watching all of them. By the way, him being the provider would make it possible to do plenty of volunteer work. I enjoyed volunteering in the kitchen and garden at a church I used to go to. The complete lawn at this church is a permaculture garden. We use the bounty for our Sunday Grace Feast. If I married a man who was the sole provider, I would spearhead a garden and Grace Feast at a church that doesn't have this.
Wow, good for you! Wish more people shared your values. We'd have less problems in this world. The husband should always take care of the wife and kids, the wife should always take care of the kids and the husband. If we selflessly take care of each other, everything works.
I’ve had all this for 13 years and it was never discussed, or even realised that it was a thing! We just knew we were happy and right for each other!
As a trad housewife myself, I am 100% for all of this. My husband and I practice these things in our marriage also and we have a wonderful relationship. You are a wonderful inspiration and voice for all of us trad housewives, Estee! :)
Yes been married 8 years and the Word of God is our foundation. I stand by all of these as well. Most people don't understand and think negative petty things about us. But we choose to preserve our marriage and our lives the best we can and all of this is how... Truly this list has the first priorities. I don't do anything my husband says not to. He judges what is safe and good for us from the many things I present to him. I like that it's gotten me into the habit of thinking how something will affect us short or long term in various ways. I love everyone but I only trust God and my husband to protect me completely.
I completely agree with all of this. I never realized until recently how controversial these practices these are but this is what basic mutual respect looks like for my relationship too 😊
I love this girl! What does my husband do for me? My husband works everyday so I can be a wife and mother. Here are just a few more things. He fixed the broken sink, he gets my cars oil changed, makes sure I have good tires. He pays all the bills, takes care of them yard. It is the least I can do, to look nice when he gets home, keep the house nice, and make dinner. He takes care of me, I take care of him. We are 31 years married and happy. Thank you for sticking up for us woman who love our husbands and our lives. I’m so tired of these “women” who want to live in a “man’s world“ speaking for me. If they want to go out and have a working man’s life, go for it. But don’t decide for me and tell me I am less of a woman because I don’t want to.
What a doll, outstanding relationship advice. Be proud to be you, I am. Keep spreading the word.
That last tip - YES! I have been trying to share this advice to other wives for years. Our culture is so focused on “me me me” and what they don’t realize is that until you submit yourself to your husband and actually serve him well… you’re going to be miserable. When I serve him - he serves me. My gentleness softens his heart 9 times out of ten. Sometimes he’s down and I help bring him back up - and the other way around. Marriage is meant to be where each of us is trying to figure out the best way to serve one another but as long as we are digging in our heals waiting for the other person to serve US we will be doing damage. God made it the way He did for a reason. Love your channel!
As long as he’s not a narcissist. I did this for 20 years and now a single Mom of 4. We are healthier without his abuse. Sad but true. 💜
Ughh, unfortunately there's so many of them out there. ANd they hide it well.
Exactly sis 💜💜
Amen
Congrats on getting out of that situation and putting your safety and your children’s safety first.❤
Oh please, EVERY woman accusing others of narsicism IS a narsicist
YOU are trying to allay blame for your situation upon others
As usual
Well, if this wasn't the most refreshing and healing youtube channel I've seen in a long time. Big round of applause for Estee, a wonderful young lady indeed and what a fortunate husband she has.
Love that last one there. When my wife and I were dating she would do things to make my day easier and I would always feel like I need to do more for her because of it. She still does this and I wouldn’t take a day without her.
A breath of fresh air. Giving the best of yourself, you will certainly get the best from your husband.
All the best to both of you.
This is why my marriage has been such a good relationship that others have coveted. We do all of the above. A big thing too is we serve each other. We constantly work on serving each other. Work on your relationship BEFORE the storms come too. It helps alot.
A lot of excellent points. I've been married for 12 years and the times we fought were when these guides were broken. My advice is to follow these guides and keep your marriage strong. My husband and I have been through a lot but came out stronger in the other side. If we had this advice ten years ago though, we could have saved ourselves a lot of headaches and heartache.
Loved this! My husband and I also share our locations with each other, safety is so important in todays society 😬
God Bless you!🙏 You are going to have a life filled with peace, joy, and happiness! Billy Graham was who I learned my Biblical role as a woman, wife, and mother from. 33 years later and the Blessing are pouring in and my marriage is stronger than ever. My grown children have beautiful Blessed lives as well. You definitely reap what you have sown 💓🙌🙏
A lot of these practices are a great way to lose yourself in a marriage/relationship. I've been with my partner for 10 years. It's completely unreasonable for a woman in this modern age to only have female friendships-- it also stigmatizes how we view men and worsen conversations around their emotional wellbeing. Male or female, they are human beings, deserving of friendship. Closing your disputes from the outside world and outside view can create a toxic environment-- sometimes you need a different perspective to see how to solve an issue, instead of the same fight over and over again. It's also a great tactic for narcissists and domestic violence abusers to control you, but isolating you from your friends and family. This may work for them, but these practices do not work for everyone. Take some of them with a grain of salt.
Finally, thank you. Looking for this kind of comment. It is lovely when both are full of love for each other. I have been there myself., loving the submission part, but finally I had to run away to save my life. I was so obsessed by submitting and not telling others about our problems that it almost killed me. Please be wise. Lovely to to do the best for your spouse, but do not let these ideas take over so it controlls you in a toxic and dangerous way. God bless 🥰❤️
Wow! ❤ Thank you for the good advice about "What can I do to make my husband happy?"
I love that mindset 😊
Thank you
As a Catholic this is what we practice in our home and we are truly so so so happy. ❤❤❤
This strong woman has everything absolutely 100% correct. She knows what's up and how relationships are supposed to work. In my marriage to my wife, we are traditional and I treat her like my queen and she treats me like her king! Always thinking of the other first.
I was raised with all these same values.I was happy to try to be a capable wife, as the Bible had taught me. I wish I had found a man that was on the same page.I am starting to be hopeful again, so many precious comments on this page. Thank you for putting this out there.I love when I see woman doing what is good. Every one around her benefits❤
You nailed it. A marriage based on Biblical principles will not only last long but will be rewarding to all. Especially any children that may come along. Ephesians goes on to say “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself up for it;”
Ephesians 5:25 ASV
I have listened to both parts of your message and you are giving good advice whether people want to hear it or not. Keep up the good work
Everything this woman is saying is wisdom. And yes, I agree that western women have different motives than eastern women. It is an honor for Eastern women to be a wife and a mother. Western women consider this not a priority and garbage in comparison to a career and competing and contending with men. I will say it one more time. there is not a man who will not absolutely love everything that is spoken here. this will bring out the best in the great majority of men.
“You don’t know what benefits you receive when you put your partner before yourself.” That’s wisdom that applies to BOTH partners in the relationship. I bet her husband is always thinking of something that will be a blessing for his wife. Leaving the house after dark seems a bit extreme, but you should be comfortable in your environment. If that makes you uncomfortable, that’s understandable.
Both Husband and wife doing whatever you can to make each other happy is what should be 💜
Perfecto! 👏🏼 👏🏼 My husband and I have been married for over 13 years and all of the tips you are sharing absolutely work for a long and happy marriage! Keep sharing your wisdom!!
Every one of these things makes sense to me. I never left the house after dark either. I still don’t. It’s just not safe anymore. Letting each other know where you are is really a safety practice. I always kept my husband’s opinions in mind regarding what I wear and how I wore my hair. Neither he nor I pursued opposite sex friendships. And I loved doing nice things for him. He did nice things for me. We were a team, a family, we cared for each other. Things like you mentioned come natural in a caring relationship. (I miss him.)
I'm so glad that many people are giving FULL picture concerning submission. The scripture says nothing about women being a doormat!! Thank you for your content. May God truly bless you and all who see and think about your content.
I feel like the question “what does your husband do for you” is still valid. You can say that you don’t serve your husband because of what he does for you, but that doesn’t answer the question. It’s apparent what you do for your husband, but I’m sure people are curious what the character and responsibilities of the masculine counterpart of a homemaker looks like.
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I have a traditional marriage and am now a grandmother of many years. You actually made me cry. Thanks for your lovely videos!
The world may not understand what you and your husband are doing, but it will be a huge blessing for your marriage. Stand strong. God bless you both.
This lifestyle is practiced in 99% of the world for millenia. This new thing where the genders are reserved is a modern phenomenon and will not last given that it is against the natural order as ordained by a higher power. So the world understands her really well, it's the less than 1% population of the West that don't understand. Don't let the fake media, both social and legacy, fool you. This is the norm for most families around the world.
Life is about being selfless so we do for others and there is joy of giving in everything we do. Our actions make others happy and that in turn gives us happiness as well as reciprocation from those people
Sounds commie.
I have no idea if this is legit or not but not leaving the house after dark unironically makes your husband so much more comfortable.
Nothing's worse than dating a girl that CONSTANTLY puts herself in danger and has zero survival sense. Like I get we're the protectors but you don't have to sign me up for fights
What I love best about these videos is that it makes me wonder what my own values are, not only theoretically, but in actual practice.
Great advice. If more females followed this advice there would be less divorce. Most men do not expect a lot from there wives. If women are Godly then they are submissive to their husbands and marriage is easier. God bless you and your husband. I will be praying for you and your husband and your future children.
God bless.
You are such a lovely lady! I've lived a more traditional style and role in my marriage for 20 years. I've also gotten a lot of push back on it. I love your videos. They are soothing, feminine, and inspiring. A lot of women who get upset don't realize this isn't their style and they don't have to go with it. There's nothing wrong with choices, and this is what you choose, and it's what I choose.
A good husband wants to see his wife happy. My husband always tells me it doesn’t matter what I do with my clothes or hair for him as long as I like it and I SMILE he is happy with it. He said you’re beautiful without makeup but when you do your makeup you have confidence and you smile more and feel better and that is what I love most is you feeling good about you.
Also the location tracking thing is great. My female friends here and our kids are all on each others phones for tracking. We live in a different world now y’all and we know where our loved ones are at at all times.
I really enjoy when my wife says, what do you think or what would you like to do..that makes me feel like I am a part of the marriage not just a person that doesn't matter. I think that she should have her times but, we are a couple! We are not just two people. Thank you so much.
What does it mean-- "don't twist this into something it's not"? Submit and serve mean what they mean. Usually people don't need to twist that to have a problem with it 😂
Wow Estee, I’m so glad I found your content! The world needs more people like you to help make marriages healthier and families stronger. Especially the way society is now.
I’m in a twenty year marriage and my wife and I share many of your and your husbands values in our relationship. I believe it’s a big reason why we have lasted this long when other relationships around us have failed. And we still love and treat each other the same as when we first met 💕💕💕
You’re a breath of fresh air.
Can’t wait to watch more of your videos. Keep up the great work 😊
The 50s were not a magical era of harmony. Women were abused with no legal recourse against DV. The air wasn’t even fresh because it was racked with pollutants, and it frankly still is. She mentioned several things that would make any sane woman who hasn’t lived in a bubble all her life raise an eyebrow about her husband’s level of control over her life.
Wake up. This is a poorly written fantasy catering to men who have been allowed to stay children their whole lives because a woman is always picking up after them and treating them like they’re special little kings that can do whatever they want. It never worked. Women just couldn’t talk about it.
It looks like you ticked all the boxes. My wife and I follow the same “rules” for the past 42 years. And we both agree with everything you said! May you and your husband continue to be Blessed!
Your husband would be the proudest husband in the world as he can totally trust her woman👍😎
We practiced every one of these too and we were happily married 40 years before he went home to the Lord
Yep been going 26 years and strong in my traditional marriage! Since the kids have grown up and moved out I’ve gotten a job to help with the finances but I still practice the traditional wife roll whenever I’m home. If I’m working he helps me out. We like to do for each other to balance it all out since we both work now.
You are truly a gift to this world.
I'd be interested to see a video on what your husband practices as traditional husband ideals too, love your unapologetic way of living out your values, keep up the good work!
Just thought of an example of a perspective I feel I must share:
I mentioned previously that I distanced myself from male friends when I got married.
Recently, I met a couple and we all hit it off and hang out frequently. The husband would seriously be a best friend if I didn’t feel it’s wildly inappropriate.
Anytime I message him, I include his wife. And we go back and forth about ridiculous stuff and she kept requesting we text individually. I kept telling both of them, absolutely not. It’s not appropriate. Now, she agrees and they too have this “rule” in their relationship as well.
My grammie said: the man is the head of the family, the wife gives the head to the head of the family.
With this simple mindset, life is generally good.
I love all these, All the things I did NOT practice in previous relationships turned it so toxic or just was toxic in the first place. It literally caused every single problem Ihave ever had in a relationship when I didn't put ALL these (and part 1) into play. Listen ladies, take it from someone who has been through a lot, you will absolutely be happier finding this dynamic with a LOVING partner
I love your videos… They’re simple and full of wisdom. I’m gonna introduce these this one to my wife.
We do all these things in our marriage too! 14 yrs and 4 children later and we are both very content. ❤
There is not enough appreciation for homemakers.
I’ve been working off debts and working two jobs for my 20s. I just hit 30 and being a homemaker for my husband has become my dream. As soon as everything is cleared, I’m out of the rat race.
Your content is an absolute inspiration and motivator for me! Thank you for all your hard work ❤
The more you serve your husband the more he cherishes and adores you ❤️ Great advice 😊
You should start a dating/marriage site for women like you and the men who will rise to deserving them.
Your videos are great. This is the way my mom treated my dad. My dad was the head of the house but they each had areas that they took care of. My dad could not cook in the kitchen if his life dependent on it. He could grill like mad, but the kitchen was the danger zone. My mother ran the house and my dad took care of the outside. The went grocery shopping together, attended all of my games together. Most importantly they trusted, respected and loved each other.
Living with those principles in your marriage will give your marriage so many blessings from God. Bless you!🙏🏻
Number 2 is the only thing I kinda disagree with. Don't understand me wrong, my best friend of opposite sex will always be my wife, but having friends of the opposite sex and cutting contact with them just for the sake of your spouse doesn't feel right. Of course you will keep a reasonable distance out of respect to your spouse and their insecurities. Same logic as with the gym, to not let uncomfortable situations take place, to not even entertain the possibility, but I wouldn't cut contact with my female friends if I had some. Because they too are humans, I see the humanity in them and I care for them as a friend
I whole-heartedly agree with #4. Spreading disputes makes everybody unhappy.
POV: You’re wondering why the actual fuck the algorithm brought you here, and then scrolling down the comments to find someone sane.
It's cosplay catering to American male libidinal fantasies, with a lot of fan service, Christian proselytizing and rightwing politics in the mix.
Just business 101- give the people what they want (though it’s all BS)
@DezCord31LMAO 🤣
@@CC3GROUNDZERO Well, yeah, but the progressives have been cosplaying for years changing genders like socks, so it was only a matter of time before some opposite madness emerged in social media.
I agree. It is not a control issue or lack of anything else. You do what works for you 2 and makes you 2 happy. My honey and I do that.