AVOID these 5 MISTAKES if you want a MASCULINE ENERGY man
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 มิ.ย. 2024
- These 5 things have to be adressed since they come up in my questions so often. I am going to go through whether you should lend a man money, find him a job and what to look for when dating to avoid traps in destroying the masculine energy in a man.
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May you be blessed too! ❤
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Thank you!!! May you be blessed as well!!
Thank you. You deserve the best too 🩷
1. Don't find job for him. Make him take his own responsibility.
2. Don't loan him money.
3. Don't give him advice he didn't ask for.
4. Don't try to control him. Telling what he should do next isn't your job, pointing out what he's doing wrong
5. Don't make decisions for him: sit like an eagle, snatch his responsibility. Or he'll think you're enjoying doing that job.
I helped him get a job 🤦♀️ I'm fucked
@@harleysresinhouse299no problem Sis, that was your kind nature at work. But this time, take a step back and watch.
@@adaofcharles1217 Thanks I'm trying to do that now 😓 The situation has me feeling kind of used for comfort without him putting in any effort or interest in getting to know me personally
@@harleysresinhouse299 girl one time i did that and now he's been with a coworker he met at that new job for three years now lmao. you live and you learn
@@harleysresinhouse299we all did some stupid things
No worries 😂❤❤
It's comforting to hear your words, Margarita! I moved in with my man and 4 months in he said the dreaded words "I am not sure about you." I didn't even question it or argue or cry. I said ok and I moved out as soon as I could. It's been a few months. Sometimes I question if I should have stayed to work on things, but no... I need a man who is sure about me and steadfast for me. I love hearing other strong women say the same. Thank you!
"Don't stay where you are tolerated, go where you are celebrated."
I am sure you made the right decision, one that every woman should make.
Read the book "Not your mothers rules" By Ellen fein and Sherrie Schneider... literally a chapter on that exact thing. This book changed my life.
Wow Melissa that was such a strong, confident thing to do. Most women would have stayed and tried to convince him. You took control of your own happiness and showed self worth. You made the right decision ❤
You made a great decision. Good riddance
You're amazing
It’s like Scarlet Johansson giving me advices 😂
I thought its just me 😂
I thought the same!!
As a man I 100% agree with all these points. It really comes down to this. Don't try to solve his problems for him. This is a reversal of the natural roles. The man feels valued and masculine when he is the one solving his own problems, and solving problems for the people he loves. If he is failing to step up to that role, then having the woman fill that role will not help him in any way. However, having the woman there to support him in his efforts to solve problems is wonderful. It may sound like a fine line to walk. Don't solve his problems, but support and encourage him when he is solving problems.
Thank you..
I guess if they don’t know they have problems you just have to walk
@@fitwithbrittany2706or run ..
Thank you for this input!
thanks. My boyfriend even always tells me when he has problems, and every time I want to help him, he tells me that they are his own problems that he has to solve. Before I felt attacked by it but now I understand it all now
This was the old me! I cringe at the things I used to do for men - lending them money, finding them jobs. Ooof. Glad I’ve changed out of that way of living in relationships
😂😂 let's heal..we know better now and the future is bright Hun..one thing is for sure we are redeemed
@@cynthia-jo1zz haha yes! No point looking backwards, just learn and grow ❤️
Yesss onwards and upwards ladies. It can only get better from here 🙂
@@justibe_213 absolutely ❤️
Margarita, you speak the truth! I have lived this. After almost 30 years of carrying the load, I finally divorced. Now, I have to build myself back up physically, emotionally and financially. You have mighty words of wisdom here!
Reading your comment is confirmation for me that I did the right thing. I did it for almost 2 years then something inside of me snapped and broke up with my bf. He met someone new and proposed in 8 months after I told him I could never marry him. I know I dodged a bullet.
@@shaynalee so happy that you made the right choice! Wishing you a good happy life!
@@simplemidwestgirl6166 sometimes my mind plays tricks on me I must say when social media makes them look happy! But he smokes weed all day and can’t hold down a job. He just orbits around the woman he’s with which can be nice in the beginning to have someone so attentive. I’m keeping your words close by to read over and over when I’m gaslighting myself!! Wishing you a beautiful new start my love. You can and will do it. You are more than capable 💜
I'm blessed to be realising that while dating a guy we shouldn't just be focused about- oh why he ain't texting me back? he's taking too long to text or he's not planning out dates & what does it mean?? But also to control our own traits like unnecessarily advising them, bossing around, treating him like a child. He's a grown up adult and not a 2 y/o kid to be taken care of. Don't give him girlfriend or wife treatment when they clearly are not willingly to become your boyfriend or husband !!!
“You’ll be Monica from friends with no friends around you “ 😂😂😂
This should be mandatory viewing before dating any guy. Just a great refresher of dos and don’ts
Words of wisdom. Never loan money. I loaned money for a few months, I was sure he'd pay back. You couldn't convince me. He slept with a girl at work, still doesn't bother to pay it back almost 2 years on. Never loan money to somebody who hasn't shown you he can invest in you and your life together. I wanted to be a good person. I wanted to help when things were hard for him. I wanted to help when his father died. He paid me by having an affair, lying for months and the money is nowhere to be found.
Spot on 👏 wise words.
Messed up
Sorry and you deserve better do not ever feel bad for being human and caring❤.
Preach! If he needs your money, he's not responsible.
I wish I had this advice 19 years ago! The hubby couldn't keep a job for more than a few months. Once I told him we were short $300 on our mortgage, his answer "what do you want me to do?", I lost all respect for him then and there. I asked him for a divorce in June 2019. He found a job in January 2020 and was able to keep it through the pandemic, he's been strong and thriving ever since. However, once respect is lost, it is really hard to be earned again. He lost a good woman, and the potential he's had, will be for some other woman to enjoy. It's really a shame.
you are like the best friend nobody has, that is telling the truth straight into your face for making you feel and be better.
Spot on. An irresponsible man is sooo off putting. Watch carefully..when a problem or challenge comes up how he handles it. If he always says idk or not my problem...then everything will fall to you
I'm a man and I endorse all you said. I experienced every mistake you described and... I'm married no more. Such behaviour literally castrates a man. In my case this was more complex but it's another story. The underline one is - let a man be a man. Underline two is - expect from your man be a man,. Thank you Margarita.
I will never ever loan money to a man again who is not my husband. Totally got taken advantage of and exactly like you described, it felt like he was my child and it totally ruined our relationship.
I loaned money to my husband and now he wants me to go do the big job out there ! Dont lend money to even your husband or bf or pay bills...keep your money in saving and real man will understand.
I don’t recommend loaning it to your husband either
@@Dimple3 you are so right.a real man and most importantly the right man for u will never ask u for money or even put u in a position where u have wonder should i give it to him or not
That comment "when you're dragging him through life"... Gosh ladies please heed this advice. She's describing me of 17 years ago and here I am about to throw in the towel because I am exhausted of having been in my masculine all this time. Every thing she is saying is true. Go into relationships with discernment and critical thinking.
Big problem i see is men will not invest in you if u make more than him. I've lived it and other guys i make more they will not invest. Women need that investment to be safe and secure.
This is so true.
I am really struggling with this.
I feel like there's another underlying problem in these relationships where the woman takes the lead--not fully respecting him because he isn't actually in his healthy masculine. Since women tend to have more flexibility, we end up being pulled towards creating the polarity by taking on more of the masculine role.
I believe you cannot emasculate a man that doesn't want to be emasculated. They ask for help and seem incapable of doing it themselves. They want a mother and then blame you for the dynamic. You try to fix it, but they refuse because it is the set up they wanted. You are on a loop if you stay.
Loaned it to your cat 😂😂😂 I loveee youuuu
This is wonderful advice coming from a man. My current girlfriend is the first girl who truly does this and respects my responsibilities and ability to do so. What is the best is that she supports me in anything I want to do as long as it’s healthy, but won’t tell me how to do it. It also makes me feel much more comfortable going to her when I do need her help with something, and she appreciates that occasional vulnerability
So marry her!
"LOVE YOU LOTS LIKE JELLY TOTS" makes me giggle like a little girl! I guess my inner child is like yaaaaas!
Thank you for this beautiful reminder to not take responsibility for others missteps and allow myself to receive the treatment I deserve by loving myself first. No explanations. No feeling bad for them feeling bad and making any more exceptions for being mistreated by him or others. I release the desire to control others behaviors and only focus on what I can control in my own life. Blessed be!
In the sea of toxic dating advices online, It is so refreshing to find someone who gives mature advice and doesn’t view relationships as transactional. I love watching your videos for guidance 💕
I felllllt that when you said “If you want to work 7 jobs then I got you baby”. Yessss
This does make more sense now. I've started dating a quietly confident but REAL man, who appreciates me and likes to do things for people. His actions match his words so it will be interesting to see what happens ...
Keep him, he is a treasure... Those men are rare to find nowadays..... ❤
Don't give him wife benefits without a ring.
This is a helpful reminder. Thank you! I was in a previous relationship with a guy who had always dated dominating women, so he wasn't very confident in making decisions himself. I found myself in an internal battle, wanting to give him space to step into that power, but also just wanting to get things done.
Your existence on this planet is a blessing margarita❤
Margarita! Gurl!!! I look forward to our chats so much! I recently found your channel and have devoured every ounce of advice from these videos! You always have the wise words of a wild woman in her power! YES!!! THANK YOU for being in your feminine energy and showing us how it looks, feels, and can evolve! I am here for it!!!
Absolutely brilliant! Everything you said Margarita is spot on. Thank you for your wonderful, eloquently verbalised content, I look forward to each new video of yours and I have learned so much from you. XX
just discovered this queen, have been religiously listening to her words
I love your channel so much! I have learned so much in just this one session ! I absolutely was miserable in my masculine energy and now have committed to never do those things again ! Hearing this sooner would have saved me years of pain!
Thank you for being so straightforward. It's truly what we need! These truths have changed my life and relationship and I'm slowly introducing my mother to these ideas as well.
Very valuable and clearly stated points, complete with very relatable analogies and supporting examples - thanks again for being you!! 😊❤
Margarita, congratulations on welcoming your beautiful baby girl! Your videos have helped me to change my mindset and my life. Thank you so much for your work! All my Love.
Well, that explains it. I'm just so tired. Thank you Margarita ❤
You are an amazing advisor but also a very hilarious person too!!! you analogies are to die for ahahahaha
You’re such an eloquent speaker, Margarita! You carry yourself with pose, and give careful advice mixed with experience. I love it! You have helped me a long way. I’ve read the book ‘Attachment’, and thanks to your general content (podcast etc.), I was able to get out of my writer’s block! You helped me gain clarity 💗
Again, every sentence was just on point. Was nodding all along the video 😅 You really have a nice way of talking about these issues directly but not offensively. Your own personal development journey shines through and motivates me to continue my own. Good point at the end that if you are sort of a neurotic person it will never cease to exist and you just have to learn to keep it under control. I feel in my current relationship I’ve finally found a way to lean into my feminine as my boyfriend is very proactive. ❤
thanks for chatting with us! very practical advice i love it.
thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom! 🥰Got my feminine energy back on full blast! Sending you lots of love and healing, protective energy! wish u a super fast recovery! take care, I appreciate you so much!🫂🤍
All This wish some one told my mom 45 yrs before today her children and she wouldn't be suffering... Thanks alot maggie your the best friend who keep us covered ❤
Now that you have learnt the right way your children will carry it forward.
you literally changed my life for the better with all your videos! THANK YOU
I'm so glad!
Thank you so much Margarita! Your wisdom is so helpful to me. ❤
GREAT VIDEO ❤ THANKS for bringing this so needed awareness to the young generation that are taking all this very LIGHTLY!
Thank you so much for this. You are absolutely right. Sending love and hopes for an easy labour xxx
I look forward to your videos!! You're so witty and inspiring, especially your metaphors LOL
Margarita is so wise. She rocks my world.
Great video!! You're absolutely right...❤
You are absolutely correct!!! Thank you for the reminder!!!
Absolutely love the fire truck example
I am so excited to listen to you everyday...just started with podcasts...well just yours...just thanks..keep them coming
I listen to the podcast and also watch it here because I need to hear it twice!
Your advices are gold. Thank you!❤
Thank you so much for your contacts. These videos have helped me so much!
Margarita❤ You Always upload the exact Video that I Need Right now !!🥰 Thank you so so much!‘
I have come to this realisation a while back but to hear it so well put really helps consolidate it. Thank you.
Everytime you rock a shirt you look so good. Would love a video on how you style/pick shirts.
I'm so f*cking glad that I found you!!! Thank you keep on going
I just found your channel and OMG I can't stop watching your videos, I watch one by one everyday, you feel like a sister giving me all of these advices (I am a first born). I love how you put humors into every video and I love how sassy you can be, OMG thank you so much
Absolutely! I’m new to your channel and this is how I think and what I believe when observing men as prospects! ❤❤ I’m not here to be your mother or nurse! I love your personality, message and channel!
Margarita this is spot on. I have been married 25 years and started out all wrong. I was a young parent and wife. I have worked way to hard in my life driving like a man. I am in the process of divorce because of everything you say in this video. My next relationship I will surely "sit like and eagle" and be In my soft woman era.
🙏🏾🫶🏽Thank you for evaluating these points. I'm learning how to brace myself with these masculine traits that are off. 🧡🧡❤️❤️
advice and decision making.. spot on. very easy to say though, but difficult to put into practice, as you may know.. ❤
So helpful! Thank you for this 🙏🏽✨❤️
breaking the habit of being yourself was a great book that you recommended, very life changing you should do a books on the self help books you have read and love your videos by the way :)
💖 merci beaucoup ! You are always so fresh looking and talking, Margherita! I sent this video to my 18 yo daughter and younger sister … I m a bit like this as a single mom of 2 but … keep learning and hoping for a nice long healthy relationship !
🎉happy 2024 😘
It’s my day off, and I came a few hundred miles north to visit my man with whom I’m in a relationship (which, by the way, you helped me hugely within the past couple of rocky months we were experiencing) for the weekend. I’m doing work while cleaning the house and listening to you, and I want to thank you for your empowerment, support, and encouragement. Thank you x 100!!!
You visited a boyfriend who lives miles away from you AND cleaning his place on your day off? 😬
@@alexialira3839 i felt the same😢 not good strategy doing all of that for a man
GIRL I LOVE TO LISTEN TO YOU YOU'RE MOTHERING!!!
There is nothing but truth in this video! I wish I had seen it 10 years ago 😩
I love your channel. Your advice is SO helpful I’m looking through your playlists and I’m SOO excited to learn more from your experience and wisdom. Your personality is just heaven sent and I’m so happy to have found you. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!! 😘🥳🩷
I love what you have to say. So much truth. Thank you for posting such helpful content.
Love this, thank you for putting the time ans effort to putting this together. As soon as I see your vidoe post I immediately have to listen!! ❤️❤️❤️ you have changed my life!
Appreciated this video, was insightful.
Thankyouuu for posting this. Literally loved it 💗 can we get these advices more often from you?
Banging video Margarita! WOW! ❤
Thank you Margarita. You're so wise and I appreciate your knowledge x❤
I just LOVEEEE your videos Margarita they are always so informational and SO funny at the same time🥹💖
♥️♥️♥️ much love from Berlin. You’re advice is always appreciated. Take care!
Are we so good to see your videos you keep me in my feminine energy and makes so much sense thank you for all you do
I love yor energy!! Thank you for making such videos. Love you ! ❤
Thank you for sharing all this! You are great 👏
Margarita you make me laugh, so on point, its like im listening to myself, keep going, you got this!
Margarita I love your content and it keeps me going!! But please do more videos for the women that are married and wanting to get advise on all of these exact topics .. a lot of us 😊here are not dating and alot of your videos are for these women in the dating scene… we need some advise too!!! Marriage is tough 😢
This was literally amazing
LOVED this!!!!
Love your channel! Such a great information xxx
love your vibe - all the things I've felt but can't articulate. This video has me appreciating qualities in my husband I took for granted. He is as reliable as the sun coming up. I also can relate to the masculine energy of the mother role.. going to adopt the "go with the flow" mantra and try to give space to my husband to lead... even if it's different than the way I would do it.
i heard the wind !! ☺
Love the advice in this video.
Um thank you for that humanitarian air drop of wisdom. Not only did I listen to every word you said and let in sink in but I really like that you thought it was so important to ask if we could hear the wild wind. As that was important also. It brought the energy of a wrinkle in time when Mrs. Whatsit said “wild nights are my glory.”
"But they never learned what it was that Mrs. Whatsit, Mrs. Who, and Mrs. Which had to do, for there was a gust of wind, and they were gone." I will love that book forever & ever! 💝💕
I found myself smiling everytime you're so in the zone in telling us "don't do this and that". 😂 I super love you and your channel, Margarita! Keep making videos that empower us (esp women).❤
Instantly subscribed!
Love you lots like jelly tots!!❤❤❤
Great! Makes sense! Enjoy your videos
Great video. Thank you 😊
Love this Margarita
Long time listener, first time caller... jk. but wanted to support you with a comment. Thanks for being so amazing and posting your content. I listen every day while getting ready for work. And slowly but surely incorporating all your advice.
Gosh I love listening to you, so insightful. Thank you Queen
Hello and thank you for your great channel! I started to study about feminine energy 7 years ago after my divorce. I had met a very masculine man. I pretty much ruined also that relationship and lots of money along the way until I finally believe I’ve got this 😅 I can guarantee myself that this all what she talks is so true!
Lol!!! My man is also so into the decoration of our house, and I let him make decisions :)
I'm glad to hear it’s okay, cuz I never thought about that before 🤔
I needed to hear all of this so much!!!