After 3 long years, my ex recently reached out. I don't feel the spark anymore so i didn't gave her a proper conversation. I'm happily single nowadays. You helped me a lot sir. I know I've outgrown her and my old self. And a huge amount of credit goes to you. God bless you. You are an amazing human being.
Hi, I'm back to your channel again. This time I'm a dumper and feel very bad that this relationship doesn't work out. As a dumper, I want to reconcile so badly, but only if the problem was gone. Yes, it was exactly like you told us here. From my former breakup that I was a dumpee, I stayed in no contact and I felt sooooo bad at first and it became peace of mind after few months later. I want to encourage everyone to trust the process. And, best wish to you Rory and everyone here.
Suggestion: as you are a behavioral analyst, it would be interesting (and reassuring) to throw some statistics in the video about how often dumpers reach out, after how long, how many actually miss you, etc..
Currently a 3 days into a break up, I was dumped, it hurts like hell. No matter how much I try to forget there’s this lingering feeling that I just CANT SHAKE! I just want to be over it, but I feel like I’m trapped because I see her almost every fucking day at school. I feel like she’s in front of me EVEN MORE, maybe I’m just going crazy, I never want to go through this shit again I know that. So I guess it’s time to binge the gym, eat healthier HARDCORE, and start working on myself mentally
So i come on TH-cam, Everytime when i see o Rory has uploaded a new video 1O mins ago,i just click on the thumbnail and hit like'and then i listen to the video. Hahaha, You see how i trust you,i don't need to listen to you to like your video..i am like i know it will be great. And that is how i loved someone but she just ruined everything...leave i am not talking about her, Wish she remain super healthY and super pretty!And now let me listen to You,what you are saying...start the video. Takecare brother Rory!
Similar case with me, just longer time frame (1 -2 years). Imagine getting a house and other things paid for by some dude. Couldn't be me. I can assure anyone reading this comment of one thing and one thing only. Whatever feelings they might've had for your are gone within 1~2 months of the breakup. For your own sake, don't look back. Just keep moving forward. Whatever regret, grief, and pain you have will never be very far away. The only thing you can do is learn how to set them aside until such a time comes where you can make peace with it.
The break up was brutal long story short we went to high school and grade school.together . We reconnected, I moved back to our home town, things got hard with some family stuff. She kicked me out. Then I find out she is engaged and now getting married. She had zero communication. One thing is for sure her patterns will continue with this new relationship. People have to see the issue and make changes. The kicker to this, her new partner looks a lot like me. Ha they met on tiktok. I don't have social media and won't go on social media. When relationships start out at lighting speed they tend to.crash just the same. It's been the hardest 6 months of my life, navigating not only emotions but how it ended and moving. I also know they tend to come back. When we broke up I went radio silent, we spoke a few times about some financial things. She kept reaching out to my sister. Then all while dating this new person she said I hope we can have dinner sometime and talk. Funny she wanted tontalk but couldn't talk in the relationship. When someone shows you who they really are believe it.
Update: they married at the same place we talked about. 🤣 you can't know someone so much in 5 months to make a huge commitment like that. This will end badly. I'm taking time to actually heal and be ready for a good healthy relationship.
"Its not just about physical, its not just about looks" *its about grind, its about power, we stay hungry we devour, put in the work, put in the hours and take what’s ours*
The point about someone reaching out on ex’s behalf is legit!! A mutual friend of ours from university reached out regarding my social media post about my career progression and asked me about it (we never speak about work). He’s one of “our” closest friends but my ex and he were much more on messaging terms Also he asked about my surgery date , something I’ve never really spoke to him about individually and has yet to ask about it since having it. I’ve noticed they’ve both active on social media around the same time (wasn’t actively checking until recently and noticed a pattern) It’s her, she’s been in a rebound relationship but I think she’s cracking now lol
My ex reached out indirectly about an event happening near me (we live in different states now). I responded politely and kept it short, our last contact was a month prior. Just recently I found out she had been seeing someone new a week or possibly earlier after our last conversation. I found her stalking my LinkedIn profile (lol) a day or two after her recent reach out. What does any of this mean?
Don't do it. You're not responsible for her. Especially if they were willing to let you go. Your brain is just trying to rationalize the breakup and figure out excuses to reach out in hopes of reassurance.
@@Tomczykkkk I saw the breakup coming. So when she said it. I just didnt say anything. No begging no pleading. Just went to NC. It is more than 3 weeks now.
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After 3 long years, my ex recently reached out. I don't feel the spark anymore so i didn't gave her a proper conversation. I'm happily single nowadays. You helped me a lot sir. I know I've outgrown her and my old self. And a huge amount of credit goes to you. God bless you. You are an amazing human being.
Hi, I'm back to your channel again. This time I'm a dumper and feel very bad that this relationship doesn't work out. As a dumper, I want to reconcile so badly, but only if the problem was gone. Yes, it was exactly like you told us here.
From my former breakup that I was a dumpee, I stayed in no contact and I felt sooooo bad at first and it became peace of mind after few months later. I want to encourage everyone to trust the process.
And, best wish to you Rory and everyone here.
Evil Rory be like: 'Heeeeello, this is Worry from The Hate Chat'
Suggestion: as you are a behavioral analyst, it would be interesting (and reassuring) to throw some statistics in the video about how often dumpers reach out, after how long, how many actually miss you, etc..
Good suggestion 👍
i started watching you 4 ish years ago and i’ve had 2 breakups between now and then. you always help me!
Glad to help!
Currently a 3 days into a break up, I was dumped, it hurts like hell. No matter how much I try to forget there’s this lingering feeling that I just CANT SHAKE! I just want to be over it, but I feel like I’m trapped because I see her almost every fucking day at school. I feel like she’s in front of me EVEN MORE, maybe I’m just going crazy, I never want to go through this shit again I know that. So I guess it’s time to binge the gym, eat healthier HARDCORE, and start working on myself mentally
Who give a rats ass about the dumper ?
Just move on...be strong...and as Churchill said once :
When you walk through hell just keep WALKING.
I weirdly watched the original last night 😂
The one thing I wish people would cover is PEOPLE WHO DONT HAVE SOCIAL MEDIA. ;(
So i come on TH-cam, Everytime when i see o Rory has uploaded a new video 1O mins ago,i just click on the thumbnail and hit like'and then i listen to the video. Hahaha, You see how i trust you,i don't need to listen to you to like your video..i am like i know it will be great. And that is how i loved someone but she just ruined everything...leave i am not talking about her,
Wish she remain super healthY and super pretty!And now let me listen to You,what you are saying...start the video. Takecare brother Rory!
This was such a sweet comment, thank you!!
Dumper doesn't feel nothing engaged 5 months after break up. Getting married next month
This is quite rare actually
Similar case with me, just longer time frame (1 -2 years). Imagine getting a house and other things paid for by some dude. Couldn't be me.
I can assure anyone reading this comment of one thing and one thing only. Whatever feelings they might've had for your are gone within 1~2 months of the breakup. For your own sake, don't look back. Just keep moving forward.
Whatever regret, grief, and pain you have will never be very far away. The only thing you can do is learn how to set them aside until such a time comes where you can make peace with it.
The break up was brutal long story short we went to high school and grade school.together . We reconnected, I moved back to our home town, things got hard with some family stuff. She kicked me out. Then I find out she is engaged and now getting married. She had zero communication. One thing is for sure her patterns will continue with this new relationship. People have to see the issue and make changes. The kicker to this, her new partner looks a lot like me. Ha they met on tiktok. I don't have social media and won't go on social media.
When relationships start out at lighting speed they tend to.crash just the same. It's been the hardest 6 months of my life, navigating not only emotions but how it ended and moving.
I also know they tend to come back. When we broke up I went radio silent, we spoke a few times about some financial things. She kept reaching out to my sister. Then all while dating this new person she said I hope we can have dinner sometime and talk. Funny she wanted tontalk but couldn't talk in the relationship.
When someone shows you who they really are believe it.
Update: they married at the same place we talked about. 🤣 you can't know someone so much in 5 months to make a huge commitment like that. This will end badly. I'm taking time to actually heal and be ready for a good healthy relationship.
@@Crooked_oakupdate?
"Its not just about physical, its not just about looks"
*its about grind, its about power, we stay hungry we devour, put in the work, put in the hours and take what’s ours*
LOL
The point about someone reaching out on ex’s behalf is legit!!
A mutual friend of ours from university reached out regarding my social media post about my career progression and asked me about it (we never speak about work). He’s one of “our” closest friends but my ex and he were much more on messaging terms
Also he asked about my surgery date , something I’ve never really spoke to him about individually and has yet to ask about it since having it.
I’ve noticed they’ve both active on social media around the same time (wasn’t actively checking until recently and noticed a pattern)
It’s her, she’s been in a rebound relationship but I think she’s cracking now lol
What if they checking your social media at the beginning then gradually doesn’t anymore
My ex reached out indirectly about an event happening near me (we live in different states now). I responded politely and kept it short, our last contact was a month prior. Just recently I found out she had been seeing someone new a week or possibly earlier after our last conversation. I found her stalking my LinkedIn profile (lol) a day or two after her recent reach out. What does any of this mean?
Will you do a talk on password sharing abd transparency
He went straight back to his wife
What if they monkey branched and have no real time alone to miss me? 😖
They’re just already filling they’re time with someone else
My gf broke up with me while she was depressed. Is it okay to go no contact? Knowing that she might need support. ?
She broke up with you and now you want to be her emotional tampon, stay in NC lol
Don't do it. You're not responsible for her. Especially if they were willing to let you go. Your brain is just trying to rationalize the breakup and figure out excuses to reach out in hopes of reassurance.
@@Tomczykkkk Stay in no contact. Remember you are not responsible for anyone's happiness.
@@Tomczykkkk I saw the breakup coming. So when she said it. I just didnt say anything. No begging no pleading. Just went to NC. It is more than 3 weeks now.
Update?
it wont happen since she is too ego to do this.
I mean a dumped the person cuz he was treating my right; but could u make a video about how to forget that person and be at peace with yourself
Good job. Very inspiring!!! You need Promo>SM!