My EX Reached Out! Now What? | Therapist Dating Advice

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  • @TheLoveChat
    @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Hi everyone! I'm back after a very long hiatus. Do you want me to go over your story? Use this form: forms.gle/PZRHq86zBJQrvMDD7
    If you would like to join our free advice giving community and help others: discord.com/invite/CMxwjuFv
    All my content will be in this style going forward as it is much easier on my time, and mental health.

  • @keweez8626
    @keweez8626 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Rory being active again on YT is such a rare time we are in right now haha 🎉

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Oh i'm back!

  • @mattyman96
    @mattyman96 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Hey Rory, I'm the OP from the video! I really appreciate what you had to say. I just wanted to say thank you, the advice on your channel has been golden. I'll be sure to provide an update as the situation unfolds.
    For people watching, the three biggest things that helped me aside from no contact were:
    1) Watching the How to Heal video on this channel. The PERMITS stuff Rory talks about is fantastic.
    2) Ask yourself if money and time were no object, what would you be doing? Then try and do those things with the resources you have (I can't recall which video this is from).
    3) This one I got from an older friend with a lot more life experience. You never remember the days you stay home. So go out, touch grass, and live your best life.
    I know a lot of people here are not in great places emotionally/mentally right now, but please believe me when I say there is a light at the end of the tunnel. The catch is you need to take those first few steps in the dark before you reach it.

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You’ve done very well and should be proud of yourself! Please do keep us updated!!

  • @sallydm9838
    @sallydm9838 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    hi, Rory! just dropping here to say hi! 👋 Your voice healed me back in 2019. i am now in a relationship. i’m back here to check how i can support you. please take care

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hello Sally, I am so glad to hear that I was able to help you! You can support me by leaving comments on videos from time to time, clicking "like", and having an amazing life for yourself. :)

  • @c.t.martin3915
    @c.t.martin3915 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Sup Rory. I was dumped 6 months ago and your videos really helped. I was distraught and wanted nothing more than for her to reach out. She did a few times, but nothing more than fleeting 'how do you do' conversations. No asking to meet up etc. I was going to ask her to coffee to catch up, eventually I didn't bother to reply because it felt like chasing. Now I've met someone else - early days but she's 10 times better in every way (no shade to the ex). I'd wish my ex did say "I made a huge mistake", but that never came, and of course that's just the ego's appetite talking. Anyway, this channel is great. Time heals - and you've just got to walk away when someone doesn't want to be with you anymore.

  • @minhthifresh
    @minhthifresh 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Missed you Rory!!

  • @NikkiEvernight
    @NikkiEvernight 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I missed your voice and presence Rory! Hope you are well my friend ❤

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I am doing great! And right back atcha!

  • @russellcameronthomas2116
    @russellcameronthomas2116 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love the new format and content. Glad it works better for you, too.

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is good to hear, thank you very much for the feedback!

    • @russellcameronthomas2116
      @russellcameronthomas2116 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheLoveChat One suggestion: Maybe add one segment at the end (not recorded live) where you reflect on The Lessons from the individual case you just discussed. It's great that you are reading the case for the first time and reacting, but I think you can add a lot more value by pausing the recording, writing up a few notes to yourself, and then recording a "Takeaway Messages" segment. Maybe you are connecting three dots, maybe it is a "special case" or a rare or unlikely outcome, or maybe it is a broader message about values, ethics, purpose in life, personal growth and maturity, etc.

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@russellcameronthomas2116 great idea! I’ll think about how to do this

  • @backtophysicsPaulina
    @backtophysicsPaulina 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Rory ghosted us and then he is back again 😂😂should you take a ghost back😂

  • @baphometbby
    @baphometbby 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I’ve already been too available to my ex since he asked to get back together but I’m setting boundaries now… and I’m anxious. But we are still going on our date. I know I don’t need him though. And if he pulls away it’s my time to really put my foot down and do my own thing. And it’s not my fault. Or my responsibility to seek approval.

  • @PokemonTrainerDavid93
    @PokemonTrainerDavid93 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The goat

  • @CountOfMonteCristo_
    @CountOfMonteCristo_ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Rory can I get some quick advice? What does it mean when a girl who rejected you almost a year ago, randomly texts you about an achievement you did, and then completely disappears?!?! I randomly got a message from this girl who I was very infatuated with with who said hi and also asked me if I did a thing, and when I responded she ghosted me, I even saw her at college today and she pretended like nothing happened lol

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      With such little information it’s hard to say, but it’s possible she was just being nice

    • @CountOfMonteCristo_
      @CountOfMonteCristo_ 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheLoveChat sorry here’s a little more context, I’ve known her for about a year, I have been actively pursuing her for around that time, I was getting to know her little by little and we would flirt here and there, but it was mainly just casual banter, I asked her out in April and she declined, i then stopped pursing and I even remember she took notice by asking if I was ok, I kindly said yes everything’s fine I was just not giving her anymore attention, flash forward to the end of august and I get a message where she asked if I did a singing event where she saw a video of me and asked if it was me which it clearly was, I also have no idea how she got my number and she texted me like I already had her number even though I didn’t, it was strange and I don’t see why she even bothered unless she was interested in some capacity.

  • @anewman1976
    @anewman1976 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wont make an AI podcast of this i promise!

  • @fevernova101
    @fevernova101 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I MIGHT HAVE BROKEN YOUR ADVICE FROM 2020 RORY. LIKE YESTERDAY, HENCE IM BACK HERE AFTER SO LONG. P.S. I WISH I COULD UNSEE YOUR FACE 😆JK 🤗

  • @willywallbanger
    @willywallbanger 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hey Rory, just a quick question if you don't mind. My ex has a daughter that isn't mine and its the daughters 12th birthday next month, should i break no contact to say happy birthday or keep in NC? Breakup was 3 weeks ago and we where together for 3 years.

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I see no reason you couldn't wish them a happy birthday as long as it stays just about the birthday!

    • @willywallbanger
      @willywallbanger 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheLoveChat Thanks for the reply Rory :)

  • @Ap9-q5f
    @Ap9-q5f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Rory, if my ex blindsided me we had a tough time it was long distance, arguing, but i was diagnosed with a brain condition and he left me at my worst. If he said i see no future, we dont work , i ve lost romantic feelings am i being crazy by thinking he will regret? Im in nc 4 weeks. Not a peep. Im devastated 💔

    • @TheLoveChat
      @TheLoveChat  2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm sorry that you're having such a rough time, and i'm even more sorry to hear about your condition. I hope you are well. I would give the situation some time and see what develops. It's possible he could regret things, but I want you to focus entirely on yourself right now. Let things play out how they will!
      We are here for you if you need more support: discord.gg/C7vbwbwUjG

    • @Ap9-q5f
      @Ap9-q5f 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@TheLoveChat so just stick to no c?