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Went thru a breakup in 2019 and I binged watched Rorys channel over and over and over again. He coached me to not chase and now it's been a while. I still think of them but it no longer makes me feel powerless. Just dropping to say thanks Rory!
Same my last relationship ended in 2019. I think I have moved on but I just stay here sometimes just to support rory who helped me get through from my breakup. I know it help me to be a better version of myself and reflect all the things that happened and learn from it.
Just did this last week, felt guilt and pain, we share the same workplace, but at the same time I felt I have control back in my life, I can be myself again.. Without the anxiety
I went on a date today with someone I've known for a while. I got up and walked away from him when I felt I was being mocked and made fun of. His answer was 'whatever'. I'll do it every single time I'm disrespected and would rather be single than with rudeness. 🍒
Heyy everyone, been following Rory since episode 40 something Soooooo, my ex came back to me. Needless to say she did not work on herself like I did lol Because I’ve had such a positive mentor(Rory) rather than rubbing it in her face. I’ve been trying to help guide her to find herself. Never in my life did I think I would share this channel with an ex. Trust the process!!
@@tonileolion9702 🤷♂️ idk. I haven’t bothered reaching out to her. I wish her all the best but she is no longer someone I think adds value to my life. Sooooo yeah 😂
@@jeffz7035 I can understand that... well as the dumpee I can say I’m going because I have to do it for myself I suffer from anxiety and after my mom died I was depressed so my way of handling pain isn’t the way that I should be handling it. I only asked because maybe she should have been open and went to therapy
Funny thing is most women never work on themselves they just get back out there after a week if that of dumping you seeing new guys if they aren't already my ex left me and actually downgraded and I love it no decent guy will ever want her again me on the other hand I'm a handsome guy I'm having lots of fun and when the time comes I will settle down with a great woman her on the other hand ruined her life her being in her late 30s going after drug dealing thugs and that culture has solidified her life being a dumpster fire and I couldn't be happier🤣 people change I knew this person for 8 years and that person I loved is gone forever but it's not my problem nor my fault and I accept that now
Walking away was the hardest yet most rewarding decision I have ever made. Realized a few days ago that it's been over a year and a half since the break up and nearly 7 months since I last spoke with her but I stopped keeping count. I put focus on my own life and the people who make an effort to stay in my life. No contact isn't easy but it's essential to be happy after a break up. Put the work in and DON'T stop putting that work in. Complacency doesn't just happen in romantic relationships, it can happen in the relationship with yourself. Much love everyone and get out there and enjoy life. You've only got one ~
I refuse to beg someone to stay with me. I have my dignity to take account. I was dumped and discarded like trash in 2018. The pain of rejection is like no other.
@@josevieira1843 Thank you José. I hope so it passes ASAP. The problem is, I see her at work every day and it makes the situation a little bit harder :))
Took me over 2 years to get there I knew her for 8 years she ended up liking the drug dealing culture and thugs and she's 37 she's ruined her life and im happy because of it
I just recently within the last month told my ex we can’t be friends as since the breakup in January 2021 he was keeping in contact with me but as friends only. I thought maybe he was doing it because of wanting to rekindle but I was wrong. Rory is right, when you are dumped and still love them, politely decline friendship and say if you change your mind let me know. That way they get the chance to miss you as otherwise they will have their cake and eat it as they don’t want you as a partner but want the good bits about you without commitment. It also helps to get yourself back and heal.
@@gamegirl8945 me too. Let it out. Cry . Write a letter to him and send it to yourself. Let all your anger , hatred, disappoint, love etc be expressed in it, and most importantly write that you forgive yourself for letting your own self down and now you value yourself even more... it’s really good for healing ...
I'm there too...thanks but no thanks. I'm using this exact mindset to heal from my break up a month and a half ago and things are slowly getting better. The breakup was peaceful and after an in-depth conversation we mutually agreed we both need to grow individually and see what the future brings. Working out, reading, journaling and traveling with family and friends has helped keep me stay spiritually fit during the process. Be strong and love yourself to everyone going through this. Some breakups are necessary to build a better relationship with your ex and most importantly ourselves.
This is really helpful for me. I cling on for dear life when I’m losing a relationship because I have serious abandonment issues. I know that no response is a response and silence is golden and that space and time helps to heal the wounds. But sometimes it’s easier to know it than to do it. But having this video explain why it’s beneficial and not something to feel guilty about.
I made the mistake of thinking about no contact as a strategy to get my ex back and it's made me obsessed about reconciliation for over a year. I don't regret going no contact but I do regret the wasted time.
@@dampnickers This obsession damaged my mental health and shifted my focus to a wrong direction for a very long time. It made me feel unhappy and abandoned, but at the same time the suffering forced me to reflect and grow. I would not learn as much if my ex had come back, so perhaps it was a good thing.
Rory you and Dating Guy were the most sincere channels I watched on breakups. You as well as several other dating coaches inspired me to make a dark, quirky, sci-fi romance movie in 2019.
Hey Rory, still listening to your content...this video appeared just when I needed it. After 2 years no contact, in 2020 me and my ex got back together. It wasn't easy but we managed to establish a relationship that wasn't based on the past....but the last few weeks have been a struggle, past issues arising and no amount of compromise was making a difference....tried reaching out after days of space but felt I was getting the brush off so after listening to your video I decided its best to walk away for my own sanity and to maintain my dignity without begging, screaming or arguing....he gave off a vibe that he is not interested at this time so I wasn't putting up a fight, I've given him what he's indirectly asked for.....all thanks to your videos I've listened to for the past two years 💙
I walked away 11 months ago and now I’m walking away from a break up now. Appreciate your videos, you got me on the right track last time. Love yourself first and always. Best lesson I’ve ever learned.
I needed this to confirm the inevitable, no!! Hell no!! 7 years trying to be understood!! Now I’ve got my self respect back!! Everything you said hear makes hard sense!!! I’m beautiful I’m valuable!!! I’m leaving as soon as I get enough $$ I need safety for my actions, do I need to tell him I’m leaving no!!!!! I’m quite and still! I’m a rock!! I will explain if he asks but this jerk doesn’t even care!!!!
I had a very engaging coaching session with Rory recently, he made sense of everything and really offered up a whole new perspective on the situation. You do you! Focus on yourself! Listen to Rory!
Thanks Rory! I’ve been in NC more than a month but have been thinking if I should walk back to drop him a note. And repeated this video thrice cause you’re right that I don’t owe him an explanation when he dumped me. I do need to defend myself and my boundaries so I need to walk away and not turn back for my own good.
It's been a while. Got quite busy with work but i make sure to listen to this during my free time. I need this..i need to listen to Rory to remind me that I'm worthy..that im valuable. I cant thank you enough. God bless you and your team 🏳️🌈
Thanks so much. Its been 3 months post break up and i have started feeling much better. Though there are days when a wave of emotions just knock me down, and i will cry like a baby..
Hi Rory, long time no "see" :) Im happy to see that your channel is still up and running. For everyone doubting the advice you hear on this channel and Dating Guy's channel - I got back with my ex after 6 months of NOTHING :D It was a long distance relationship that at first lasted for a bit over a year. We're married now and in November this year we're gonna become parents. It works but do your best to determine wheter or not you really want to get back with your ex. Im sure it's a no-brainer now but the real answer can be tricky :) Good luck and stay strong.
Rory you are a wonderful person, this video just came in right on time, this is a very noble thing to do, helping, saving peoples life from misery, regret and depression, thank u for your genuine good work, God bless you with abundance!
Hi Rory long times no see! I had watched your videos all the time, I had a new gf and we're dating. Today your video popped up on my youtube, just want to stop by and say hello, wish you the best. You are my life saver when I was in the dark.
This is great advice two years ago my ex broke up with me we continue to hang out and hook up about a week ago he told me I don’t wanna see you anymore I found a girlfriend he wanted to remain friends I told him that’s not gonna work for me and I’m walking away it felt so good
I just walked away from a relationship without saying a word. He knew what he was doing and I knew as well. I wanted to say a lot of things in anger but decided it would hurt more if I just disappeared without saying anything. I also blocked him on social media and my phone so he has no way of getting in touch with me or knowing what’s going on in my life. I feel great.
you saved me a lot of tears and pain. watching your videos opened my eyes and helped me to deal with break up in the best possible way. i feell cured for some reason lmao :D love this channel
I walked away when I was in a situation where I had to choose between my self respect and safety and my relationship. It happened within minutes. I realize now that up to that point he had been love bombing.
Another great upload from @ The Love Chat! Really enjoy your content and upfront honesty. Don't fall for the Dan Bacon BS out there. Know your value and walk away! Stay in NC and become the best version of yourself. NC is hard but believe in yourself. Use NC to love you!
I do really enjoyed this.... I have not been fair on myself at all when it comes to dating. Sometimes, I notice why I should walk away but then I rather stay and choose to be understanding making excuses on my head and how would my partner feel if I walk away..... Damn! I've self Sabotaging myself all along 😭
If you accept the break up in a easy way they will always manipulate you and break up in hopes that you'll accept easily next time. They have to know that your time is valuable and you will not be tolerate to be played around anymore. Walk away and mean it. Goddam it!
I was about to be in an official relationship, long distance, everything seemed to be going well and then she just ended things with me. Hurt like hell and I did try to reason at first but I did not become her friend. Been no contact for 4 months now and I do not think of her as often.
I told my ex wife that I wasn’t interested in being just friends with her going forward. She said that’s all “she had to offer so I guess we won’t be friends and bye”. I’m scared she’s gone forever now, but didn’t know what else to do.
Stay strong and don't let her give you what she wants, you deserve to be treated good and don't need her friendship. You are enough and trust me you are. You are powerful and a good human being. She will regret and you stay in NC and work for you. She lost you win. Is hard npw but in 1 or 2 month you will understand that you have value and she is blind. So keep your path and stay strong mentally and philosophically.
I dated a girl for 3 years. There was this guy that kept telling me that he was going to steal her and my ex got close to him behind my back after I told her to please block him since it was disrespectful to our relationship. She kept calling me toxic and that it was my fault, that I rarely made her feel great. She broke up with me. Heard trougth the grapevine that she was blowing him the next day at a party. Not taking her back ever. Shes dating someone else now.
Pain makes us stronger sister. I know what you are going through. Ill be divorcing the love of my life in 2 months because i chose to walk away from a ghoster.
It’s been almost 2 months. I’ve been in no contact since the day but he hasn’t reached out to me. I thought he would say -something- to me but no. It makes me sad. I probably didn’t mean much to him and he probably just doesn’t care anymore.
Romance and relationships are so hard. I’ve been heartbroken so badly by my ex it’s been 2 1/2 years and I’m still not over him, and he dumped me. I got dumped twice but my first ex and I are friends and wants me back but I’m no longer interested. Sometimes I wonder if future love is even worth it because I feel like I’ll never find anyone else because I have Tourette syndrome and ASD and I feel like I’m not worth it, or enough.
I feel like most of us have periods of time where we're assaulted with thoughts like "I can't be loved" or "I provide no value". I pretty much never have the same thoughts about people I interact with in my day-to-day, so I think we're just too hard on ourselves :(
@@2022l I would tell her that we all are imperfect humans having quirks, and I know you as whole person and I think you are awesome, which is why we are friends, so this little quirk of you doesn't bother me one bit
Broke up 8 months ago for our 4th time, Been NC for 4 months, was very needy and pushy as I lose my job, was a rough time I miss her so much, want to try again, doing martial arts, learning guitar, yoga, some gym, studying and reading but she is still stuck in.my head Wont to reach out so bad, was very hurtful things said when we parted and feel like I should say im not angry and hope she isn't too Not sure why, do I talk myself out of it every day, do think she will ever reach out So I need to let go and move on but its hard
I said to her that I'm not interested in ending it with her. I broke off our time as I said thank you but I have to move on now as this is not going to work. She misconstrues things I say as she is not to be trusted as she got dismissed.
Hey rory... ❤ Eid Mubarak❤ You're a Hero, A Gem to the Humanity❤ May Allah reward you for all the hardwork you do :) I wish someone can do a research survey of your amazing work so that you can see the result of how many relationships, marriages and our lives you have saved.. ❤ Thank you so much❤
rory! she reached out after 3 weeks a phone call lasted 10mins but ended the call with letting her know to get in touch when her schedule frees up! She did say she has missed me and also, was being unsure why she called me! Im still trying to move on because i gauged her interest and she did say she wanted to see me just not today. So thats when i did the whole let me know when your available..
Why did my ex not break up with me first before talking to someone new? he lied to me when i asked him if he was talking to her & he said no . Then i went through his phone & found out that he was flirting w her & asked her on a date. He was “planning” to tell me but instead i found out. What can i do? I am so lost w myself. I spent 6 years of my life w him.
Well what if the person knew from day 1 that it's easy for you to walk away and then even if it's 1 week fight he'd think i moved on because I showed him that strength, I don't think hell reach out to me in that case
What if you shared a great connection that you can't seems to get over....how do you handle the attraction,build confidence again and finally get over them???
Accept that the worst has already happened. They left and walk away with confidence. Fake it until you make it if you have to. Your future is never tied to someone who walked away. Let them walk away and believe in yourself. Know your value and believe that your worth it. Get over them by realizing that you were never under them.
I know this a hard one, but you know yourself better, if you know speaking your truth with help you with your mental health, mention to him you felt a great connection, and if he did too, and tell him you are doing this for yourself, and then leave it. Do this without expectations and even think you wont even get a response. If it is meant to be he will have to return with a solid suggestion.
I walked away after my ex dumped me for the 2nd time. I was a bit fierce (not yelling, but firm) when I said, "Listen to me: If you don't want to be with me, I don't want to be with you." Is this considered walking away? I don't want him back, but boy, do I want him to regret losing me.
Hey Rory please help me here... Anyone who can suggest me something here, please help. My breakup happened 3-4 months ago and now I'm in pretty good state. I'm doing gym, studying hard, learning guitar..... Actually i wanted to ask sometimes i feel i wanna show how much improvement I've made to her...like posting snaps clips of me playing guitar,etc....on Stories so that indirectly she can see... But is this behaviour against no contact... I mean doing this is beneficial???... Idk I'm not obsessing that i want her back but it's also not like I definitely don't want her back. So any suggestions on this?
Bhai, you gotta let her go and with intent. Focus on never wanting her back and believe with your heart and soul that she is dead to you. Only then can you heal and come out stronger. Ill be divorcing my wife and the love of my life in 2 months but i have zero regrets. She ghosted me and dissapeared after I did everything for her. I tried hard for months to fix things to no avail. Eventually i gave up and didnt give a shit no more. Thens when life started feeling better. I felt free, liberated, alive. I realised i didnt need her and that she doesnt deserve me. She never did. I gave her the world and she ghosted me so now she can go to h3ll for all i care. You need to do the same dude. You will thank me for it.
I would like to know what u think about life coaches like tony gaskins ... I find that he is triggering parts of me that get very angry when he talks about how poorly men treat women & that’s almost always another women when the relationship is not working. I find Craig Kenneth and you far more rational and helpful.
Never see no advice on this kind of subject when you have to see that person every day at work. (They work for you) so it’s not like you can just go get another job.
Me and my ex worked together and broke up but we were still hanging out and doing the kind of relationship stuff, then I got offered a new job and she told me the same day she was seeing someone else and had been for two weeks. I was heart broken and did the begging and pleading that night. The next day she text me asking to meet up and told me she wanted to give it another go with me. We had a great weekend together and then she went quiet and I knew she was still talking to him. I deleted her off face book so I couldn’t see any updates and just talked about work when I saw her. I left that job and the following week she blocked me on everything for no reason. It’s been nearly 3 months now. I’m working on myself becoming a better person but I still miss her. Is there any chance that she might unblock me in future?
@Ken Hession can I asked how long it took for you to be unblocked? I know it varies but it seems like times going so slow, I know I miss her but I’m not sure I want to be with her anymore, would be nice to atleast be friends as daft as that sounds, we didn’t work for a reason but we were great friends before we got together.
it is never too late to walk away, just walk away. cut off everything. I did this a month ago after a year of struggling to win her back and I realized it is no point of holding on anymore. Do it
My ex wished me happy birthday the other day after 5 months of no contact. We exchanged a few messeges then went for a walk with her dog today even though she is in a new relationship. She wants to meet up again at somepoint, what are people's thoughts and advice on this?
It’s all or nothing dude. I wouldn’t just meet up with her to just go for a walk with her dog. You need to set the boundary that your not settling for just friendship, especially if she’s in a new relationship. When she reaches out, strike when the iron is hot and ask her out to get together and if she wants to go out with you as just friends then politely tell her that you’re only romantically interested, and to give you a call if she changes her mind
Men are driven by logic. Women are driven by emotions. NEVER try and use logic on a woman when it comes to relationships. You MUST keep her on an emotional rollercoaster.
You wish. It's been proven that people make all their decisions based on emotions. By doing this you scare off all the healthy ones and keep the ones so desperate for love they will accept anything.
I broke no contact and she replied and we agreed we would meet up again soon, go to message her and no response 😂😂😂 TAKE THIS MANS ADVICE focus on yourself champ
I don't see how it is manipulation at all. I said several times that this video is for all situations - not just breakups. What if it was casual dating? Someone you met on an app and nothing was exclusive? Etc etc.
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Went thru a breakup in 2019 and I binged watched Rorys channel over and over and over again. He coached me to not chase and now it's been a while. I still think of them but it no longer makes me feel powerless. Just dropping to say thanks Rory!
I am exactly where you are now, 2019 was where my relationship ended...we will be fine...xx
Same my last relationship ended in 2019. I think I have moved on but I just stay here sometimes just to support rory who helped me get through from my breakup. I know it help me to be a better version of myself and reflect all the things that happened and learn from it.
Also my relationship ended on 2019.
Rory saved me.
My worst breakup was in 2018 and I did the same thing, great videos and advice really helped alot, rory rocks
I literally feel ‘home’ rediscovering this channel 😂❤
I walked away from the confusion, manipulation, anxiety and control of a narcissist without looking back 😌
Just did this last week, felt guilt and pain, we share the same workplace, but at the same time I felt I have control back in my life, I can be myself again.. Without the anxiety
I went on a date today with someone I've known for a while. I got up and walked away from him when I felt I was being mocked and made fun of. His answer was 'whatever'. I'll do it every single time I'm disrespected and would rather be single than with rudeness. 🍒
Ouff . Well that was a close one .
@@Sali_B well a man that doesn't know how to respect a woman. Does know how to love right. Hi how are you doing
Obviously not comfortable with himself so belittle people. Good call, don't settle
I was dumped and discarded like trash in 2018. My ex disrespected me too. I would get up and walk away every time they mistreated me.
I'm sorry to hear that Cherry, sending love from Australia
Heyy everyone, been following Rory since episode 40 something
Soooooo, my ex came back to me. Needless to say she did not work on herself like I did lol
Because I’ve had such a positive mentor(Rory) rather than rubbing it in her face. I’ve been trying to help guide her to find herself.
Never in my life did I think I would share this channel with an ex.
Trust the process!!
Did she goto therapy ?
@@tonileolion9702 🤷♂️ idk. I haven’t bothered reaching out to her. I wish her all the best but she is no longer someone I think adds value to my life. Sooooo yeah 😂
@@jeffz7035 I can understand that... well as the dumpee I can say I’m going because I have to do it for myself I suffer from anxiety and after my mom died I was depressed so my way of handling pain isn’t the way that I should be handling it. I only asked because maybe she should have been open and went to therapy
Funny thing is most women never work on themselves they just get back out there after a week if that of dumping you seeing new guys if they aren't already my ex left me and actually downgraded and I love it no decent guy will ever want her again me on the other hand I'm a handsome guy I'm having lots of fun and when the time comes I will settle down with a great woman her on the other hand ruined her life her being in her late 30s going after drug dealing thugs and that culture has solidified her life being a dumpster fire and I couldn't be happier🤣 people change I knew this person for 8 years and that person I loved is gone forever but it's not my problem nor my fault and I accept that now
@@tonileolion9702 romans 10:9/Luke 11:13, not wanting to sound cliche my friend but, Jesus really does love you.
Walking away was the hardest yet most rewarding decision I have ever made. Realized a few days ago that it's been over a year and a half since the break up and nearly 7 months since I last spoke with her but I stopped keeping count. I put focus on my own life and the people who make an effort to stay in my life. No contact isn't easy but it's essential to be happy after a break up. Put the work in and DON'T stop putting that work in. Complacency doesn't just happen in romantic relationships, it can happen in the relationship with yourself. Much love everyone and get out there and enjoy life. You've only got one ~
Thank you. 🍒
I refuse to beg someone to stay with me. I have my dignity to take account. I was dumped and discarded like trash in 2018. The pain of rejection is like no other.
I think I'm going to listen to this thousands times to numb my pain after what I went through recently.
Ali, believe me, my friend, it'll pass as soon as you think and you will feel free and light and you feel eager to improve :) I've been there too!
@@josevieira1843 Thank you José. I hope so it passes ASAP. The problem is, I see her at work every day and it makes the situation a little bit harder :))
5 months later....hope it did pass for you.
Took me over 2 years to get there I knew her for 8 years she ended up liking the drug dealing culture and thugs and she's 37 she's ruined her life and im happy because of it
The thing that "put a little less focus on something you can't control and put a more focus on things you control." 😍 Awesome words
I just recently within the last month told my ex we can’t be friends as since the breakup in January 2021 he was keeping in contact with me but as friends only. I thought maybe he was doing it because of wanting to rekindle but I was wrong. Rory is right, when you are dumped and still love them, politely decline friendship and say if you change your mind let me know. That way they get the chance to miss you as otherwise they will have their cake and eat it as they don’t want you as a partner but want the good bits about you without commitment. It also helps to get yourself back and heal.
I was in the same situation and did the same ! good on you! I know its hard! but so proud of you !
@@deepdiver849 thank you so much! I’m sorry you have went through similar :( I still feel heartbroken though
going through the same:( you're not alone and we can do this together!
@@gamegirl8945 me too. Let it out. Cry . Write a letter to him and send it to yourself. Let all your anger , hatred, disappoint, love etc be expressed in it, and most importantly write that you forgive yourself for letting your own self down and now you value yourself even more... it’s really good for healing ...
I'm there too...thanks but no thanks. I'm using this exact mindset to heal from my break up a month and a half ago and things are slowly getting better. The breakup was peaceful and after an in-depth conversation we mutually agreed we both need to grow individually and see what the future brings. Working out, reading, journaling and traveling with family and friends has helped keep me stay spiritually fit during the process. Be strong and love yourself to everyone going through this. Some breakups are necessary to build a better relationship with your ex and most importantly ourselves.
This is really helpful for me. I cling on for dear life when I’m losing a relationship because I have serious abandonment issues. I know that no response is a response and silence is golden and that space and time helps to heal the wounds. But sometimes it’s easier to know it than to do it. But having this video explain why it’s beneficial and not something to feel guilty about.
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I have the same issues. Therapy helps, but you have to love yourself and remember that YOU are the prize
The proper no contact way in this vidéo , moving forward is really the best thing to do
Rory. I'm currently going through a gut-wrenching breakup. Listening to your videos are helping me a lot right now.
You got this! One day at a time!
I made the mistake of thinking about no contact as a strategy to get my ex back and it's made me obsessed about reconciliation for over a year. I don't regret going no contact but I do regret the wasted time.
Did you really waste the time? Or was it time that allowed you to learn something? Do you understand yourself better?
@@dampnickers This obsession damaged my mental health and shifted my focus to a wrong direction for a very long time. It made me feel unhappy and abandoned, but at the same time the suffering forced me to reflect and grow. I would not learn as much if my ex had come back, so perhaps it was a good thing.
Rory you and Dating Guy were the most sincere channels I watched on breakups. You as well as several other dating coaches inspired me to make a dark, quirky, sci-fi romance movie in 2019.
Absolutely
Coach Lee too
U want be with someone who want be with u . Who respect u and care about abt u .
Hey Rory, still listening to your content...this video appeared just when I needed it. After 2 years no contact, in 2020 me and my ex got back together. It wasn't easy but we managed to establish a relationship that wasn't based on the past....but the last few weeks have been a struggle, past issues arising and no amount of compromise was making a difference....tried reaching out after days of space but felt I was getting the brush off so after listening to your video I decided its best to walk away for my own sanity and to maintain my dignity without begging, screaming or arguing....he gave off a vibe that he is not interested at this time so I wasn't putting up a fight, I've given him what he's indirectly asked for.....all thanks to your videos I've listened to for the past two years 💙
I walked away 11 months ago and now I’m walking away from a break up now. Appreciate your videos, you got me on the right track last time. Love yourself first and always. Best lesson I’ve ever learned.
There’s so much power in walking away even if it means not responding at first!!!
This is my coach from now on till I’m outta here!!thanks Cory
I was broken up with during the pandemic and I found your channel. Honestly, you were my saving grace and I'm in a much better place now 🥳🥳
This advice/guidance is worth more than gold to me right now 💪🏽
I needed this to confirm the inevitable, no!! Hell no!! 7 years trying to be understood!! Now I’ve got my self respect back!! Everything you said hear makes hard sense!!!
I’m beautiful I’m valuable!!! I’m leaving as soon as I get enough $$ I need safety for my actions, do I need to tell him I’m leaving no!!!!! I’m quite and still! I’m a rock!! I will explain if he asks but this jerk doesn’t even care!!!!
I had a very engaging coaching session with Rory recently, he made sense of everything and really offered up a whole new perspective on the situation. You do you! Focus on yourself! Listen to Rory!
Thanks Rory!
I’ve been in NC more than a month but have been thinking if I should walk back to drop him a note.
And repeated this video thrice cause you’re right that I don’t owe him an explanation when he dumped me.
I do need to defend myself and my boundaries so I need to walk away and not turn back for my own good.
I’ve done all the mistakes
I’m walking away I’m done
Nc forever now
If she can’t fight for me why should I or we fight for them ??
It's been a while. Got quite busy with work but i make sure to listen to this during my free time. I need this..i need to listen to Rory to remind me that I'm worthy..that im valuable. I cant thank you enough. God bless you and your team 🏳️🌈
Thanks so much. Its been 3 months post break up and i have started feeling much better. Though there are days when a wave of emotions just knock me down, and i will cry like a baby..
You got this, Joan! It gets way easier!
Hi Rory, long time no "see" :) Im happy to see that your channel is still up and running. For everyone doubting the advice you hear on this channel and Dating Guy's channel - I got back with my ex after 6 months of NOTHING :D It was a long distance relationship that at first lasted for a bit over a year. We're married now and in November this year we're gonna become parents. It works but do your best to determine wheter or not you really want to get back with your ex. Im sure it's a no-brainer now but the real answer can be tricky :) Good luck and stay strong.
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Hello Am from America 🇺🇸 and his from Africa he helped me get my ex back and he can also help you as he did mine too
@@eammshedra8012 Wow that's a LLLLDR :) Congrats! These really help you get the best possible outcome! Keep it up!
Rory you are a wonderful person, this video just came in right on time, this is a very noble thing to do, helping, saving peoples life from misery, regret and depression, thank u for your genuine good work, God bless you with abundance!
Hi Rory long times no see! I had watched your videos all the time, I had a new gf and we're dating. Today your video popped up on my youtube, just want to stop by and say hello, wish you the best. You are my life saver when I was in the dark.
This is great advice two years ago my ex broke up with me we continue to hang out and hook up about a week ago he told me I don’t wanna see you anymore I found a girlfriend he wanted to remain friends I told him that’s not gonna work for me and I’m walking away it felt so good
I just walked away from a relationship without saying a word. He knew what he was doing and I knew as well. I wanted to say a lot of things in anger but decided it would hurt more if I just disappeared without saying anything. I also blocked him on social media and my phone so he has no way of getting in touch with me or knowing what’s going on in my life. I feel great.
you saved me a lot of tears and pain. watching your videos opened my eyes and helped me to deal with break up in the best possible way. i feell cured for some reason lmao :D love this channel
@@jamesgak8678 no
@@jamesgak8678 he is not
I so need this! You need a million subscribers!
Thank you! I appreciate it. :D
I walked away when I was in a situation where I had to choose between my self respect and safety and my relationship. It happened within minutes. I realize now that up to that point he had been love bombing.
Another great upload from @ The Love Chat! Really enjoy your content and upfront honesty. Don't fall for the Dan Bacon BS out there. Know your value and walk away! Stay in NC and become the best version of yourself. NC is hard but believe in yourself. Use NC to love you!
Do not take your Ex back. Move on. It’s not worth it.
When someone ghosts you it is evill. I did not keep in touch at all. Very hurtful. Thank you.
I do really enjoyed this.... I have not been fair on myself at all when it comes to dating. Sometimes, I notice why I should walk away but then I rather stay and choose to be understanding making excuses on my head and how would my partner feel if I walk away..... Damn! I've self Sabotaging myself all along 😭
If you accept the break up in a easy way they will always manipulate you and break up in hopes that you'll accept easily next time. They have to know that your time is valuable and you will not be tolerate to be played around anymore. Walk away and mean it. Goddam it!
thank you Rory for saving my life....
Self love is the best love ❤️❤️❤️
Finding love for yourself....sometimes it seems the hardest thing to do....and it shouldn't be.
4years this month..no contact. Pulled away from mutual friends. Never came back. I do think of him often
Not just in dating this works on all areas of life
I was about to be in an official relationship, long distance, everything seemed to be going well and then she just ended things with me. Hurt like hell and I did try to reason at first but I did not become her friend. Been no contact for 4 months now and I do not think of her as often.
I told my ex wife that I wasn’t interested in being just friends with her going forward. She said that’s all “she had to offer so I guess we won’t be friends and bye”. I’m scared she’s gone forever now, but didn’t know what else to do.
Stay strong and don't let her give you what she wants, you deserve to be treated good and don't need her friendship. You are enough and trust me you are. You are powerful and a good human being. She will regret and you stay in NC and work for you. She lost you win. Is hard npw but in 1 or 2 month you will understand that you have value and she is blind. So keep your path and stay strong mentally and philosophically.
I'm in the same situation. All you can do is walk away
Wow this was amazing! Just what I needed to hear or better yet reminded. Thank you.
You've got it Rory.
I am worthy. I am loved! 💗
This opening 👌🏼🔥 I’m all ears
I dated a girl for 3 years. There was this guy that kept telling me that he was going to steal her and my ex got close to him behind my back after I told her to please block him since it was disrespectful to our relationship. She kept calling me toxic and that it was my fault, that I rarely made her feel great. She broke up with me. Heard trougth the grapevine that she was blowing him the next day at a party. Not taking her back ever. Shes dating someone else now.
Nice to listen to u in the morning
I am experiencing it now
Started listening to your videos today , already listened more than 10 videos , man I love you bro ❤️ your videos made me smile after 1 month
My break up started this last summer 2022 oh the pain !
I always enjoy listening to your videos.
Glad you like them!
Thank you it hurts but it's,for the best 💚💚💚💚💚
How are you doing?
@@clarkbuck2120 I'm fine 🙂 thanks for asking
Pain makes us stronger sister. I know what you are going through. Ill be divorcing the love of my life in 2 months because i chose to walk away from a ghoster.
It’s been almost 2 months. I’ve been in no contact since the day but he hasn’t reached out to me. I thought he would say -something- to me but no. It makes me sad. I probably didn’t mean much to him and he probably just doesn’t care anymore.
Update?
@@pmdal nothing to report, but I’ve moved on
He has no time for me. I want to end up our relationship. But I love him
Romance and relationships are so hard. I’ve been heartbroken so badly by my ex it’s been 2 1/2 years and I’m still not over him, and he dumped me. I got dumped twice but my first ex and I are friends and wants me back but I’m no longer interested. Sometimes I wonder if future love is even worth it because I feel like I’ll never find anyone else because I have Tourette syndrome and ASD and I feel like I’m not worth it, or enough.
I feel like most of us have periods of time where we're assaulted with thoughts like "I can't be loved" or "I provide no value". I pretty much never have the same thoughts about people I interact with in my day-to-day, so I think we're just too hard on ourselves :(
Hey Natalie, please don't think like that about you. If you were my friend I wouldn't think like that about you.
@@JohnDoe-yg5hf what would you tell her if she was your friend?I am trying to find words to tell myself but I can’t find any.
@@2022l I would tell her that we all are imperfect humans having quirks, and I know you as whole person and I think you are awesome, which is why we are friends, so this little quirk of you doesn't bother me one bit
I was in a situtationship, she was not treating me right and eventually it was her that walked away....
❤️ Your content Rory! Keep going brother.
I’ll never love trust and love again.
Thank you Rory, i can finally sleep
Good night! Sleep tight!
Binge watch/listen to this video, you will thanks yourself later.
Broke up 8 months ago for our 4th time,
Been NC for 4 months, was very needy and pushy as I lose my job, was a rough time
I miss her so much, want to try again, doing martial arts, learning guitar, yoga, some gym, studying and reading but she is still stuck in.my head
Wont to reach out so bad, was very hurtful things said when we parted and feel like I should say im not angry and hope she isn't too
Not sure why, do I talk myself out of it every day, do think she will ever reach out
So I need to let go and move on but its hard
I said to her that I'm not interested in ending it with her. I broke off our time as I said thank you but I have to move on now as this is not going to work. She misconstrues things I say as she is not to be trusted as she got dismissed.
We don't need coaching from you if your videos are this wonderful. Ty Rory!
Hey rory... ❤
Eid Mubarak❤
You're a Hero, A Gem to the Humanity❤
May Allah reward you for all the hardwork you do :)
I wish someone can do a research survey of your amazing work so that you can see the result of how many relationships, marriages and our lives you have saved.. ❤
Thank you so much❤
Thank you ♥️
rory! she reached out after 3 weeks a phone call lasted 10mins but ended the call with letting her know to get in touch when her schedule frees up! She did say she has missed me and also, was being unsure why she called me! Im still trying to move on because i gauged her interest and she did say she wanted to see me just not today. So thats when i did the whole let me know when your available..
Why did my ex not break up with me first before talking to someone new?
he lied to me when i asked him if he was talking to her & he said no . Then i went through his phone & found out that he was flirting w her & asked her on a date. He was “planning” to tell me but instead i found out. What can i do? I am so lost w myself. I spent 6 years of my life w him.
Well what if the person knew from day 1 that it's easy for you to walk away and then even if it's 1 week fight he'd think i moved on because I showed him that strength, I don't think hell reach out to me in that case
Interesting word's. Hi🌹
If he loves you sister, trust in god, he will be back.
@@shabbeerazeez9263 thank you.. It didn't work out, I moved on and thankfully doing better
What if you shared a great connection that you can't seems to get over....how do you handle the attraction,build confidence again and finally get over them???
Accept that the worst has already happened. They left and walk away with confidence. Fake it until you make it if you have to. Your future is never tied to someone who walked away. Let them walk away and believe in yourself. Know your value and believe that your worth it. Get over them by realizing that you were never under them.
@@michaelvargas82 Exactly!
I know this a hard one, but you know yourself better, if you know speaking your truth with help you with your mental health, mention to him you felt a great connection, and if he did too, and tell him you are doing this for yourself, and then leave it. Do this without expectations and even think you wont even get a response. If it is meant to be he will have to return with a solid suggestion.
I walked away after my ex dumped me for the 2nd time. I was a bit fierce (not yelling, but firm) when I said, "Listen to me: If you don't want to be with me, I don't want to be with you." Is this considered walking away? I don't want him back, but boy, do I want him to regret losing me.
Yes it is.
Hey Rory! Thanks for all you do! Best wishes from Germany. PulseSurfer :)
So true👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 thank you!
You are so welcome!
well, I certainly did not win! he blocked me from the world and I have walked away from, changed his number too.....
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Hey Rory please help me here... Anyone who can suggest me something here, please help. My breakup happened 3-4 months ago and now I'm in pretty good state. I'm doing gym, studying hard, learning guitar..... Actually i wanted to ask sometimes i feel i wanna show how much improvement I've made to her...like posting snaps clips of me playing guitar,etc....on Stories so that indirectly she can see... But is this behaviour against no contact... I mean doing this is beneficial???... Idk I'm not obsessing that i want her back but it's also not like I definitely don't want her back. So any suggestions on this?
Bhai, you gotta let her go and with intent. Focus on never wanting her back and believe with your heart and soul that she is dead to you. Only then can you heal and come out stronger. Ill be divorcing my wife and the love of my life in 2 months but i have zero regrets. She ghosted me and dissapeared after I did everything for her. I tried hard for months to fix things to no avail. Eventually i gave up and didnt give a shit no more. Thens when life started feeling better. I felt free, liberated, alive. I realised i didnt need her and that she doesnt deserve me. She never did. I gave her the world and she ghosted me so now she can go to h3ll for all i care. You need to do the same dude. You will thank me for it.
He broke up with me 2 weeks ago because he is getting engaged with someone else his parents set up for him and I walk away
I would like to know what u think about life coaches like tony gaskins ... I find that he is triggering parts of me that get very angry when he talks about how poorly men treat women & that’s almost always another women when the relationship is not working.
I find Craig Kenneth and you far more rational and helpful.
I've never heard of that coach - But I will look into it!
@Ken Hession I do! You’re right.
Hello rory please help what to do if our partner cheated how to move on?
Never see no advice on this kind of subject when you have to see that person every day at work. (They work for you) so it’s not like you can just go get another job.
Me and my ex worked together and broke up but we were still hanging out and doing the kind of relationship stuff, then I got offered a new job and she told me the same day she was seeing someone else and had been for two weeks. I was heart broken and did the begging and pleading that night. The next day she text me asking to meet up and told me she wanted to give it another go with me. We had a great weekend together and then she went quiet and I knew she was still talking to him. I deleted her off face book so I couldn’t see any updates and just talked about work when I saw her. I left that job and the following week she blocked me on everything for no reason. It’s been nearly 3 months now. I’m working on myself becoming a better person but I still miss her. Is there any chance that she might unblock me in future?
Oh we were doing the relationship stuff for about 4 months
@Ken Hession can I asked how long it took for you to be unblocked? I know it varies but it seems like times going so slow, I know I miss her but I’m not sure I want to be with her anymore, would be nice to atleast be friends as daft as that sounds, we didn’t work for a reason but we were great friends before we got together.
Hey Rory, I was just trying to book a coaching session with you and all payments get declined :( any chance to pay by PayPal?
Hi Sarah! Do me a favor and email me!
@@TheLoveChat at thelovechat@gmail.com , correct? I sent an email there
Is it too late to walk away after communicating with your ex 2 months post break up?
it is never too late to walk away, just walk away. cut off everything. I did this a month ago after a year of struggling to win her back and I realized it is no point of holding on anymore. Do it
@@alexjeremy5509 hello - I did and ironically he’s been messaging me with items I left at his.
@@LittleMissDeeDee he’s trying to reel you back in for God knows what reason.
Caesar is happy
I miss my ex so much
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My ex wished me happy birthday the other day after 5 months of no contact. We exchanged a few messeges then went for a walk with her dog today even though she is in a new relationship. She wants to meet up again at somepoint, what are people's thoughts and advice on this?
It’s all or nothing dude. I wouldn’t just meet up with her to just go for a walk with her dog. You need to set the boundary that your not settling for just friendship, especially if she’s in a new relationship. When she reaches out, strike when the iron is hot and ask her out to get together and if she wants to go out with you as just friends then politely tell her that you’re only romantically interested, and to give you a call if she changes her mind
Just friendzone dude
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Wow
Men are driven by logic.
Women are driven by emotions.
NEVER try and use logic on a woman when it comes to relationships. You MUST keep her on an emotional rollercoaster.
You wish. It's been proven that people make all their decisions based on emotions. By doing this you scare off all the healthy ones and keep the ones so desperate for love they will accept anything.
I broke no contact and she replied and we agreed we would meet up again soon, go to message her and no response 😂😂😂 TAKE THIS MANS ADVICE focus on yourself champ
works for some
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I disagree with telling them "if I'm single" thats just throwing manipulation into the breakup which I disagree with.
I don't see how it is manipulation at all. I said several times that this video is for all situations - not just breakups. What if it was casual dating? Someone you met on an app and nothing was exclusive? Etc etc.