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Sad, to say, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT REBECCA ZUNG.. I LIVED IN A SOBER LIVING HOUSE WITH MORE THAN ONE TOXIC ,FUCHED UP NARCISSISTIC ABUSER, NARCISSIST. ..YES, I LEARNED THE HARD WAY..HOW TO INDENDIFY THE NARCISSIST, NARCISSISTIC ABUSERS, PREDATORS.. 2/12/2023
Narcissists want to see you broken, they “lift you up” so they can have the ”joy” to break you all over again..: the circle never ends and gets worse every time.
My sister's favorite attempt to disarm..."everyone says..." I said "who is this EVERYONE? Last i looked, you had only your narcissistic counselor and son left... i don't respect their opinions..." Done.
My ex of 41 years used to cut out pictures of clothing or gifts and paste them in a card and tell me I could buy it WITH HIM THERE but I never even got a wedding ring from him. He said he didn’t know what I wanted (yea right) then would start a fight and leave. 14 months free! 🙌✌️❤️
The same .like you are inside the cult family . They are happy when my ex narcissist hitting me .because of them .like fighting them .then my ex narcissist turn back to me to hit me. I can't fight my ex narcissist because I'm lockdown to my small kids at that time
Thats the feeling I have anytime one 3 of my narc brothers have a women in their lives . I feel extremely sad at the beggining because they all get abuse by my family and mother . But then all their first ex havent learn their lesson and still cry to get them back even tho they have new women in their lives . Im like wtf after 10, 5 years they can still toy with their exes Comon now
I have experienced it all. Narcisists behave exactly the way you have described, they are relentless and never learn. They will suck you dry of you vital life-force energy if you Let them. No contact and removing yourself from their sphere of influence is Absolutely vital gór our healing and living good peaceful life without drama, trauma and chaos!
YES. Unfortunately I’m having issues with the property manager that is a covert narcissist they cost me a six-figure job modified emails I even warned them I’m a systems engineer I know how to track an email they do it anyway and I’m left in a bad position right now but I have my head up trying to work with these people leaves you physically and mentally drained by the end of the day
My husband was the king of bare minimum. I used to put a lot of thought into what I gave him, but as the years went by I started to care less and less because he put almost no care into my gifts. He did the bare minimum all around, just enough to not be found out, but 5 years in, I had already figured it out. It just took me another 5 to get things together and leave. He is a huge liar too. I am 6 weeks out of the relationship now, and 2 months away from completing my master’s degree! I have worked hard to leave this man, this horribly unkind, selfish, lazy, lying, manipulative man.
😂😂 that’s so true! He was in east coast took care of his mom. I was in west coast took care of the house and pet….As soon as his mom passed he went online “zoosk” found 65 yo grandma😂. I confronted him first he said “I don’t love her, she loves me, what a liar!!! Later on, it was my fault because I don’t love him. A month later grandma “that they met in Zoosk” climbed in the same bed in west cost, that was my bed. I was discarded, I was in pain, anxiety, grief, insomnia for months. Now I am over it, they deserve each other. I am looking for a happy life ahead of me
I do think that sometimes you need lots of examples because there are lots of variations and if you have grown up with narcissists you may call what she is talking about by other words or have different descriptors. And it takes a lot of time to be able to identify covert narcissists who are especially adept with their skills, yes at narcissism tactics, but even more at being more covert than the person before them.
Yes. This is so insane, my mom is a narcissist and I only for some reason labeled my mom as a narcissist, and never put the pieces together that my husband is one until 5 years into the relationship. It’s the “you’re a last minute thought, so here’s your last minute gift that I resent giving to you, I will never have your back, but if you don’t have mine then I hate you, you’re my servant but will do as little as possible for you, I will be mad if you go out of your way to be thoughtful for me on holidays because it points out how unthoughtful I am, and now I have to do something for you!” Those things hit so close to home, I had to swallow back tears.
Beware of the person with a “built-in” excuse for selective memory. I dated someone who had bumped her head and needed stitches. She claimed that before the injury she was a genius with eidetic memory, but afterwards has a tendency to not remember saying and doing certain things. Run! Run away from this manipulative liar!
Yes, I'm married for 14 years and 3 kids. It's like a circle up and of. I didn't understand it. He was my first boyfriend/ husband and I was very naïef. Now I'm 38 and I feel lost, and I'm fighting this divorce. Kicked him out for 2 weeks now. And i feel very lonely at times. Thank you for educating me about this
It was the other way round. I recognized that I was being played, but I didn't know it was a real psychological disorder. I thought calling someone a narcissist was like saying they were way too conceited. Now I'm better informed.
These are so true. My ex-hubby told me before he left, after I complained of him hitting me was YOUR MOTHER USED TO HIT YOU. omg 😳 I was 60 year old, and yes my mom was a narcissist and did hit me but stopped when I was a teenager. He also tried saying I wanted a father for my 4 children, which I did, and I told him it didn’t have to be you. He left soon after stealing our joint checking and saving. All 10 signs are 💯 accurate. Thank you so much Rebecca. 🙏❤️✌️
“Yes”, it is like a movie. You tell something and I can see my narcissistic wife in front of me doing all these things. You are sort of a movie projector where the tone is present, but the movie is running in my head 🤭
I called my ex narcissist out on all of the hurtful things he’s done to hurt me. And why I am done. He never hesitated to say what he didn’t like about me, hurtful stuff as silly as saying I don’t look as attractive as I do in pictures, ouch. Blame shifting, I am crazy due to reactive abuse when I finally couldn’t take it anymore and now he says I am the narcissist! A little background, in September I sold all of my furniture, rehomed pets, because he lovebombed me and said he wanted me to move 800 miles to live with him. In less than 12 hours after getting there he changed his mind and left me homeless. He says it’s all my fault from things preasking me to move in, that he said all of a sudden hit him. He said me losing everything is my fault because I disrespect him. FYI I would stay silent for hours as he would go in a rage with him belittling me, criticizing everything about me, and when I finally give him my truth I am mean, and was blocked across the board. I don’t get these people, I said he refused to acknowledge any wrong doings, and he sits back and thinks he is perfect. A few months before breaking up I thought I had cancer for a 3rd time, and had to go in for biopsies etc. the night before he caused an argument and then I didn’t hear from him for 2 weeks, he didn’t even reach out to see what my results were, luckily I was okay but if the cancer came back I would’ve been dealing for the initial 2 weeks alone. When I remind him of that, he said that I shouldn’t be such a f*ck up, my attitude is why he didn’t check up on me. And since our break up all he did was say how I destroyed his life. Amazing. I hope he doesn’t unblock me, because whether I block him or not he finds a way to get in touch with me! Gotta love modern technology! Anyway wanted to share a quarter of my 10 month relationship. Don’t expect any of it to make sense because it never will. And I am left with nothing but a broken heart.
So sorry honey....same experience for me...a broken 💔 heart...is my life story....misleading me...with a fake romance to get a room mate...evil fake...
I know three that are pretty tight with each other... must be some type of narcissist personality disorder club. On a positive note one of the narcissists I knew just passed away.
They don't pay u back. No follow through. They sound so convinsing, so heartfelt. So endearing talk.. No Showing Up for someone they say they r loyal to. They LOVE U. They love to USE U. . OH GREIF. DISAPPOINTING 😞 PERSONALITY STYLES.
Yes! They like phrases starting with "Everyone..." When a toxic former coworker said "Everyone thinks so," I rejected him saying "That's not a problem because everyone has an opinion. This is my own thing. Thank you for sharing your thought." It worked well 😁
I’ve been dealing with this. I’ve recently been diagnosed as codependent. I’m in therapy and making progress. This woman I believe is a covert. When I quit tolerating one behavior she morphs and changes. I straight up set boundaries and told her I do not want a physical relationship without a commitment. She’s on board, until we plan something. Anything. Even a day of watching Christmas movies. Wishing two days, suddenly her ex is at her house for three days. “We are not together. And I’m not with my ex either.” I asked her nicely leave me alone. I told her very angrily to leave me alone using adjectives I thought would make her mad. She still slipped in bed. So last night it hit me finally. Why am I mad at her? I’m the one who keeps letting her in. Now I’m fighting the urge for payback. I already made her ex aware of what was going on. But I just want to let go. Going online to find a group or meeting or something for when I get lonely. This will be a long journey for me. I’m already exhausted
Dang. My mom would tell everyone in my family of an event coming up except me, who she’d mention it to offhand the night before. She knows I like to know a few days ahead or I get really stressed out. The amount of times I’ve heard “oh you didn’t know about x?” Then when I got a bit stressed and annoyed, it was all just an innocent mistake and I could have looked at the calendar where it was written down. Again, everyone would be told except me. I always wondered if I was crazy and making a big deal out of nothing. Your explanation of this made me cry. It’s nice to know I’m not crazy, but wow, that sucks.
Our term in psychology for someone you have to pick up the slack for is a "social loafer". I had identified my sister as that early on. I thought she just needed help with her homework from my brother all the time because she really wanted to understand the material. I did not know my brother was doing her homework. She has a fancy job with a "Lexus" car, and I thought she must have really gotten her act together, but now i remember that in corporations there are a LOT of social loafers who let their "underlings" do it or it goes not done at all and the "underlings" get the blame. Narcs get their status increased for new positions by "butt kissing" and "begging" and "demanding they are better". Now it all makes sense. She could never make it on her own because SHE NEVER DOES ANYTHING! This is real awareness for me. Thank you very much!
You are hitting the nail on the head and smacking it down in two smacks. without bending the nail. If I was told I did these things I would feel disgraced and they love the power feeling. A big problem is that some of them have power and money and the leader of society. the secret society.
YES!!!!!! I feel so much better, as I have just lived through all this, to a "T". And I felt bad? Thank you so much, as this is what I wasted a year on. Built them a business, did all the work, and maybe worked for only an hour in a whole year and then got one deal. Free for a friend, for a year. Thousands down the drain, $6K cruise, several day/weekend trips, didn't pay for anything, expected everything. They're alcoholic, and I'm a dope. Just got a book, Boundaries, by Cloud and Townsend
You are so spot on .According to her we are to blame,specifically me for how her life turned out .Oh the stories I could tell.Thank you Miss Rebecca for your support and guidance.
I think that it all stems from me having to raise her child. She has always lied and wants her control. Haven’t had contact in seven years ,we live in the same town. But just recently befriended my husband on fb and the called us every name in the book. It’s just maddening that she can get away with that when she knows they are lies .Thank you for taking the time to answer.
EXACTLY - You have their back, they NEVER have yours. A friend asked me to support her at a courthouse when she was entangled with a member of her family. Thank me for coming? No, said something contemptuous about my clothes. (I was in basic business casual.) True colors get harder to hide.
OMG YES, you've just described my ex husband. and his family (the in laws)You have really shed the light on things. Just an example, I try to communicate what our daughter is doing. It's after Valentine's Day. He just got around to sending her a card.... Well it's after V day now. I call it where he throws us "bread crumbs". It's frustrating. I made sure to send him pics, and had a card to him at least 5 days prior/in case the mail was slow. I wish I knew then what I know now.....
Thank u Rebecca, Im getting your books today. My sister & I are co trustees of family trust. She has continued going above my consent with a broker to change investments with out my consent or required signature. She says Im the bully when I want to know answers to questions about investments. Completely dismisses me as if I dont exist or have legal rights. We had just discussed my opinion being against annuities, in Oct. I just discovered she did it again! Went over my head .. and invested in something I didnt approve. Ive had enough. She has pushed me too far, and blamed me fir things I didnt do without apology. Im taking this matter further to stop this abuse.
Rebbecaaaaa, I left my physically abusive wife in the middle of the night on advice from a life coach. I filled for divorce…long story but she snuck through my no contact. I feel back in love , despite her being abusive once. Our “ hook-ups” were great…….on our way to court, we found out that our lawyers divorced us… we were going to stop the divorce. Well , we pulled the divorce … however, she still has not let me come home.
Yeah Baby, 10 out of ten! 23 years of push pull, love bombing, then put downs , making me look useless in front of others and oh I will help you with that, (NOT)! thought I was going crazy till I found you channel. Cheers thanks for the enlightenment.
You better believe I want your new book! I will see where I can sign up. To find out why see my two comments below. You provide some "missing piece" information for me and I LOVE your approach now in my life of trying to grow into my self and my profession, with taking all my own responsibly, but with narcs absolutely everywhere!
I buy all the christmas presents during the holidays and then after christmas is over he feels "guilty" and buys me like one or two small things to make up for what I got him.
My Narc is a business aquaintence I am forced to brush elbows with at a once monthly meeting. A habitual liar, mainly by omission, a loud mouth, self centered bigot. When pulled up over the obvious lies and misinformation, doesn't deny the lies but accuses the accuser of having a deep seated vendetta against her. Then she expects an apology for calling her a liar.
They never give presents, and when they do it, they also takeinished the relationsh advantage from what they " give" They never support us I finished the relationship, douzen times, and he always came back, crying, and promising that would never happen again....yeeee it was worst than last time.....after 40 years, i said enough and left for good. Im free now, i wish i had your videos 30 years ago...... 30 years of pain and sorrow, neeeeever gets better, thats our biggst fault , thinking that we can change them, into a better person....WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
YES 💯 and that #7 struck me harder lol been married for 7 yrs and my narcissistic husband is exactly like that…but all you mentioned here were on point 💯
Hello, you just described my ex. All at his convenience and anything not in line with his command was because i had evil intent towards his precious daughter 🙄
I don't know what a top 1% attorney is. Could you explain? If it is good, I am sure you are it, but I don't know exactly what that is. Thank you very much. I love the way you seem to seek to be "hands on" when teaching others about phenomena encountered to a great degree in the legal profession like "narcissism"! We can only gain much indispensable information from someone like you for lots of life's challenges when it comes to such a difficult topic. Thank you if you could get back, and for what you have already done for me!
My wife I think is a narcissist. I think she has already cheated on me. Just don’t have proof but of course she always tells me she is loyal and faithful to me but I think the fact that she is on Instagram following men and posting her bikini Pictures online for the world to see is not very loyal at all
I knew it...they make blues songs old zepplin dazed and confused...at 62 years old I just came across my 2nd narc...first one at age 55 got me ready for number 2 but number 2 was horrrrible..just plain horrible...ten out of ten right spot on...were you talking to me? Bahahahaha I'll never learn I guess
Mine would shout abuse, kick me out, disappear for weeks than come back pretend nothing happened and blame me till I stood up for myslef and blosked him everywhere. He is back again hovering from foreigh number - blocked. Called him and recorded all conversation of gaslighting, denying and reflecting and trying to make out what a horrible person I am. I am so healed now I was unphased and told him he has been recorded and blocked back. Now he will go and do revenge cheating with a girl he has already been cheating with and she could be his daughter 21 years his junior. Good luck to them. He is getting Staurn enter his 8th house and his second Saturn return is due. The universe will teach him all the lessons he needs to learn. But one thing for sure I am staying well away from his toxic ass. All this has been foretold in tarot readings and this girl will destroy him. She is one nasty jealous insecure narcissistic thing - perfect for a narcissist.
Hmmm - Everybody generally speaking, has some narcissistic tendencies in their behaviour. We all want and need validation even for our mere existence. Not trying to side with a hard core narcissist here - just pointing out that first look inwards and determine what your needs (flaws) are before putting others down.
I think in some situations they are playing the fool themselves and not realise it - thats food for thought they have no self reflection - what are your thoughts on that? I am still leaning about these kind of people.
She thinks the restraining order she took out is funny, she did it to legally hogtie me... if I could only hand the judge a crystal ball. She'd be the one in trouble for filing a case under false pretenses. I need someone like Rebecca to haul her into court so I can have my name cleared and vindicated. It's not fair. I have my past, and I take responsibility for what I need to. But what she did was ruthless, underhanded and dirty. I wish you could help me, Rebecca.
My ex did the same. Put a DVO on me that's full of lies yet the courts believe her. Can't take responsibility for her own actions. Blames me for it all, yet, behind closed doors, she verbally, physically and emotionally abuses the children. And the 2 older ones (12 & 14) have both reported the abuse to the authorities yet they don't believe them and have ignored it. The abuse still continues although I had the current orders state that neither of us are to be abusive towards them. It's apparently lessened, going by my children, yet it's still happening. They're too scared of her to say anything. I've never abused my children, I barely raise my voice. These narcissists and their BS behaviour are/is DISGRACEFUL. Their time is coming!!
Yep this 💯 I've been going through this crap for about 20 years....he is a very scary mean individual...whomever created this monstrous of a man...is at fault.. I have been gained up on my him and his siblings...he told me everything you just said,...and #5 IS HIM TO A "T"!!!!! I've called him out on that...yep! I'm sick of him...I helped him through his broken heart hence we are married and when he had his hernia....he doesn't or hasn't done or given me or treated me to anything...I would go all put and he would dismiss me...he has been spending money on other women...#8 GETS ME ANGRY BECAUSE HE IS A LIAR....#9 HE HAS NEVER HAD MY BACK NOR MY CHILDREN BUT HE WOULD FOR OTHER WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN...I stopped having his back...I now let him fail....#10 IS HIM TO A "T"!....I'm kinda waiting for him to start up his gaslighting and his mental abuse and pushing me back into submission to his abuse. ...it's an emotional roller-coaster
@@RebeccaZungEsq no ma'am I do not as I am just a mother of 4...we are trying to save up to leave to another city when he atleast expects it....we already tried once but I didn't get very far...but hopefully soon we get out..we already had CPS because of him
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Sad, to say, I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT REBECCA ZUNG.. I LIVED IN A SOBER LIVING HOUSE WITH MORE THAN ONE TOXIC ,FUCHED UP NARCISSISTIC ABUSER, NARCISSIST. ..YES, I LEARNED THE HARD WAY..HOW TO INDENDIFY THE NARCISSIST, NARCISSISTIC ABUSERS, PREDATORS..
2/12/2023
THEY DON'T TAKE ACCOUNTABILITY FOR ANY THING..EVER..REALLY REBECCA AND THEY BLAME EVERYONE ELSE
Yes.
Withholding yep, omission is lying
Narcissists want to see you broken, they “lift you up” so they can have the ”joy” to break you all over again..: the circle never ends and gets worse every time.
They never lifted me up that I can remember.
Lifting you up after is part of their supply
So true 😢
@@morningglory3681 Exactly 😢
This is my toxic dying dad, still playing and enjoying the game!
#3...And they NEVER apologize for anything
NEVER!!!!! & If they do its NOT real
My sister's favorite attempt to disarm..."everyone says..."
I said "who is this EVERYONE? Last i looked, you had only your narcissistic counselor and son left... i don't respect their opinions..."
Done.
Also “Somebody,” their favorite friend. 😂
@@marcirobins5144 And "No one else..." Saying things like "No one else agrees with you."
They’re like the defiant teenagers of the adult world.
More like an adult 2 year old.
They are demons in Human disguise.
But their behaviour exposes them !
My ex of 41 years used to cut out pictures of clothing or gifts and paste them in a card and tell me I could buy it WITH HIM THERE but I never even got a wedding ring from him. He said he didn’t know what I wanted (yea right) then would start a fight and leave. 14 months free! 🙌✌️❤️
Wait. He played “ paper dolls?” That’s right up there with, “ I saw _________, and I thought about you.”
What? 🤔
Sounds like my recent ex of 14 years. Except he wouldn’t cut pictures out, he would just tell me what it was, but all the rest is the same.
Sounds actual crazy!
My husband and I are living through all of this right now. Literally all of it. His parents and siblings are monsters.
The same .like you are inside the cult family . They are happy when my ex narcissist hitting me .because of them .like fighting them .then my ex narcissist turn back to me to hit me. I can't fight my ex narcissist because I'm lockdown to my small kids at that time
Thats the feeling I have anytime one 3 of my narc brothers have a women in their lives .
I feel extremely sad at the beggining because they all get abuse by my family and mother .
But then all their first ex havent learn their lesson and still cry to get them back even tho they have new women in their lives .
Im like wtf after 10, 5 years they can still toy with their exes
Comon now
How are you doing now? Hope you're feeling well and getting your power back! 💪
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I have experienced it all. Narcisists behave exactly the way you have described, they are relentless and never learn. They will suck you dry of you vital life-force energy if you Let them. No contact and removing yourself from their sphere of influence is Absolutely vital gór our healing and living good peaceful life without drama, trauma and chaos!
I know the signs now….hindsight! Tj the ex a covert narc conned me for 10 years SMH! NAMAslay!
YES. Unfortunately I’m having issues with the property manager that is a covert narcissist they cost me a six-figure job modified emails I even warned them I’m a systems engineer I know how to track an email they do it anyway and I’m left in a bad position right now but I have my head up trying to work with these people leaves you physically and mentally drained by the end of the day
My husband was the king of bare minimum. I used to put a lot of thought into what I gave him, but as the years went by I started to care less and less because he put almost no care into my gifts. He did the bare minimum all around, just enough to not be found out, but 5 years in, I had already figured it out. It just took me another 5 to get things together and leave. He is a huge liar too. I am 6 weeks out of the relationship now, and 2 months away from completing my master’s degree! I have worked hard to leave this man, this horribly unkind, selfish, lazy, lying, manipulative man.
#1-b) They do all the things they say they won't do.
😂😂 that’s so true! He was in east coast took care of his mom. I was in west coast took care of the house and pet….As soon as his mom passed he went online “zoosk” found 65 yo grandma😂. I confronted him first he said “I don’t love her, she loves me, what a liar!!! Later on, it was my fault because I don’t love him. A month later grandma “that they met in Zoosk” climbed in the same bed in west cost, that was my bed. I was discarded, I was in pain, anxiety, grief, insomnia for months. Now I am over it, they deserve each other. I am looking for a happy life ahead of me
Yes. Some of the signs are clear, while a few may be in some sort of variation.
I do think that sometimes you need lots of examples because there are lots of variations and if you have grown up with narcissists you may call what she is talking about by other words or have different descriptors. And it takes a lot of time to be able to identify covert narcissists who are especially adept with their skills, yes at narcissism tactics, but even more at being more covert than the person before them.
Number 4 is a BIGGY in my life. They had convinced me of it till I woke up and realized this was wrong.
Yes.
This is so insane, my mom is a narcissist and I only for some reason labeled my mom as a narcissist, and never put the pieces together that my husband is one until 5 years into the relationship. It’s the “you’re a last minute thought, so here’s your last minute gift that I resent giving to you, I will never have your back, but if you don’t have mine then I hate you, you’re my servant but will do as little as possible for you, I will be mad if you go out of your way to be thoughtful for me on holidays because it points out how unthoughtful I am, and now I have to do something for you!” Those things hit so close to home, I had to swallow back tears.
I was played for a fool for 59 years to late to make a difference but she knows her golden supply has ended
Beware of the person with a “built-in” excuse for selective memory. I dated someone who had bumped her head and needed stitches. She claimed that before the injury she was a genius with eidetic memory, but afterwards has a tendency to not remember saying and doing certain things. Run! Run away from this manipulative liar!
Yes, I'm married for 14 years and 3 kids. It's like a circle up and of. I didn't understand it. He was my first boyfriend/ husband and I was very naïef. Now I'm 38 and I feel lost, and I'm fighting this divorce. Kicked him out for 2 weeks now. And i feel very lonely at times. Thank you for educating me about this
Literally almost the same situation but I'm a man. Praying for you
With covert narcissist 31 years finally at peace !! If I told u u wouldn't believe me !! If u haven't lived it u never really know
My covert narcissist husband of 31 years died of stage 4 metatastic cancer of the brain two and a half years ago.
I'm relieved it's over.
It was the other way round. I recognized that I was being played, but I didn't know it was a real psychological disorder. I thought calling someone a narcissist was like saying they were way too conceited. Now I'm better informed.
These are so true. My ex-hubby told me before he left, after I complained of him hitting me was YOUR MOTHER USED TO HIT YOU. omg 😳 I was 60 year old, and yes my mom was a narcissist and did hit me but stopped when I was a teenager. He also tried saying I wanted a father for my 4 children, which I did, and I told him it didn’t have to be you. He left soon after stealing our joint checking and saving. All 10 signs are 💯 accurate. Thank you so much Rebecca. 🙏❤️✌️
“Yes”, it is like a movie. You tell something and I can see my narcissistic wife in front of me doing all these things. You are sort of a movie projector where the tone is present, but the movie is running in my head 🤭
Oh my gosh , these are so right on spot !
I've experienced all of these!
YES
So how long have you been dealing with this person?
@@RebeccaZungEsq it was off and on , in and out , for 23 years.
I value you so much, Rebecca. When I'm inundated by that freak, I always have your videos to look forward to.
AWESOME! Thank you so much. Stay strong over there! 💪
They never share custody.she took our daughter and left our son behind.At 10 and 12. There 32 and 34 still astranged after all these years
I called my ex narcissist out on all of the hurtful things he’s done to hurt me. And why I am done. He never hesitated to say what he didn’t like about me, hurtful stuff as silly as saying I don’t look as attractive as I do in pictures, ouch. Blame shifting, I am crazy due to reactive abuse when I finally couldn’t take it anymore and now he says I am the narcissist! A little background, in September I sold all of my furniture, rehomed pets, because he lovebombed me and said he wanted me to move 800 miles to live with him. In less than 12 hours after getting there he changed his mind and left me homeless. He says it’s all my fault from things preasking me to move in, that he said all of a sudden hit him. He said me losing everything is my fault because I disrespect him. FYI I would stay silent for hours as he would go in a rage with him belittling me, criticizing everything about me, and when I finally give him my truth I am mean, and was blocked across the board. I don’t get these people, I said he refused to acknowledge any wrong doings, and he sits back and thinks he is perfect. A few months before breaking up I thought I had cancer for a 3rd time, and had to go in for biopsies etc. the night before he caused an argument and then I didn’t hear from him for 2 weeks, he didn’t even reach out to see what my results were, luckily I was okay but if the cancer came back I would’ve been dealing for the initial 2 weeks alone. When I remind him of that, he said that I shouldn’t be such a f*ck up, my attitude is why he didn’t check up on me. And since our break up all he did was say how I destroyed his life. Amazing. I hope he doesn’t unblock me, because whether I block him or not he finds a way to get in touch with me! Gotta love modern technology! Anyway wanted to share a quarter of my 10 month relationship. Don’t expect any of it to make sense because it never will. And I am left with nothing but a broken heart.
So sorry honey....same experience for me...a broken 💔 heart...is my life story....misleading me...with a fake romance to get a room mate...evil fake...
Do narcissists recognize one another??
Do snakes??? Oh yes, it's either comradeship or competitiveness.
I know three that are pretty tight with each other... must be some type of narcissist personality disorder club. On a positive note one of the narcissists I knew just passed away.
They try to deflect and never take responsibility for their mess. No contact works for me always! thank you Rebecca 💕 Yes
They don't pay u back. No follow through. They sound so convinsing, so heartfelt. So endearing talk.. No Showing Up for someone they say they r loyal to. They LOVE U. They love to USE U. . OH GREIF. DISAPPOINTING 😞 PERSONALITY STYLES.
Sorry to hear these
Yes! They like phrases starting with "Everyone..." When a toxic former coworker said "Everyone thinks so," I rejected him saying "That's not a problem because everyone has an opinion. This is my own thing. Thank you for sharing your thought." It worked well 😁
" I gotta go to the bathroom"
Spot on . ❤on a daily basis. It's almost been 10 years. . Now as I sit back. Back to my silence. It's quite comical.
I’ve been dealing with this. I’ve recently been diagnosed as codependent. I’m in therapy and making progress.
This woman I believe is a covert. When I quit tolerating one behavior she morphs and changes. I straight up set boundaries and told her I do not want a physical relationship without a commitment. She’s on board, until we plan something. Anything. Even a day of watching Christmas movies. Wishing two days, suddenly her ex is at her house for three days. “We are not together. And I’m not with my ex either.” I asked her nicely leave me alone. I told her very angrily to leave me alone using adjectives I thought would make her mad. She still slipped in bed.
So last night it hit me finally. Why am I mad at her? I’m the one who keeps letting her in. Now I’m fighting the urge for payback. I already made her ex aware of what was going on. But I just want to let go. Going online to find a group or meeting or something for when I get lonely. This will be a long journey for me. I’m already exhausted
Dang. My mom would tell everyone in my family of an event coming up except me, who she’d mention it to offhand the night before. She knows I like to know a few days ahead or I get really stressed out. The amount of times I’ve heard “oh you didn’t know about x?” Then when I got a bit stressed and annoyed, it was all just an innocent mistake and I could have looked at the calendar where it was written down. Again, everyone would be told except me. I always wondered if I was crazy and making a big deal out of nothing. Your explanation of this made me cry. It’s nice to know I’m not crazy, but wow, that sucks.
And continues to lead you on and nothing they say is true!!!!!!
Our term in psychology for someone you have to pick up the slack for is a "social loafer". I had identified my sister as that early on. I thought she just needed help with her homework from my brother all the time because she really wanted to understand the material. I did not know my brother was doing her homework. She has a fancy job with a "Lexus" car, and I thought she must have really gotten her act together, but now i remember that in corporations there are a LOT of social loafers who let their "underlings" do it or it goes not done at all and the "underlings" get the blame. Narcs get their status increased for new positions by "butt kissing" and "begging" and "demanding they are better". Now it all makes sense. She could never make it on her own because SHE NEVER DOES ANYTHING! This is real awareness for me. Thank you very much!
You are hitting the nail on the head and smacking it down in two smacks. without bending the nail. If I was told I did these things I would feel disgraced and they love the power feeling. A big problem is that some of them have power and money and the leader of society. the secret society.
YES!!!!!! I feel so much better, as I have just lived through all this, to a "T". And I felt bad? Thank you so much, as this is what I wasted a year on. Built them a business, did all the work, and maybe worked for only an hour in a whole year and then got one deal. Free for a friend, for a year. Thousands down the drain, $6K cruise, several day/weekend trips, didn't pay for anything, expected everything. They're alcoholic, and I'm a dope. Just got a book, Boundaries, by Cloud and Townsend
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You are so spot on .According to her we are to blame,specifically me for how her life turned out .Oh the stories I could tell.Thank you Miss Rebecca for your support and guidance.
Yes, narcs never take
any responsibility for their messed up life.
I'm glad to be helping! What is one point that you wan to start using today?
I think that it all stems from me having to raise her child. She has always lied and wants her control. Haven’t had contact in seven years ,we live in the same town. But just recently befriended my husband on fb and the called us every name in the book. It’s just maddening that she can get away with that when she knows they are lies .Thank you for taking the time to answer.
The way you are putting it in this talk resonates so perfectly with my experience.
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EXACTLY - You have their back, they NEVER have yours. A friend asked me to support her at a courthouse when she was entangled with a member of her family. Thank me for coming? No, said something contemptuous about my clothes. (I was in basic business casual.) True colors get harder to hide.
As a single, independent women, stop worrying about the online assholes who are jealous cowards.
As another single independent woman, employ women tradespeople!
I’ve lived through all of these things! YES
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OMG YES, you've just described my ex husband. and his family (the in laws)You have really shed the light on things. Just an example, I try to communicate what our daughter is doing. It's after Valentine's Day. He just got around to sending her a card.... Well it's after V day now. I call it where he throws us "bread crumbs". It's frustrating. I made sure to send him pics, and had a card to him at least 5 days prior/in case the mail was slow. I wish I knew then what I know now.....
Absolutely yes! Very irritating to be honest!
I know what's you are communicating. I have experienced it.
shaggy it wasn't me
Their theme song
Thank u Rebecca, Im getting your books today. My sister & I are co trustees of family trust. She has continued going above my consent with a broker to change investments with out my consent or required signature. She says Im the bully when I want to know answers to questions about investments. Completely dismisses me as if I dont exist or have legal rights. We had just discussed my opinion being against annuities, in Oct. I just discovered she did it again! Went over my head .. and invested in something I didnt approve. Ive had enough. She has pushed me too far, and blamed me fir things I didnt do without apology. Im taking this matter further to stop this abuse.
Yes indeed. Been there, dealt with it multiple times & they took the t-shirt 😉
Yes! That’s precisely it. Every single thing you’ve said so far is spot on (currently at #8).
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Yes I went through this and now with co-parenting the circle is repeating again
YES, exactly what you described
YES!
YES!
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YES
Rebbecaaaaa, I left my physically abusive wife in the middle of the night on advice from a life coach. I filled for divorce…long story but she snuck through my no contact. I feel back in love , despite her being abusive once. Our “ hook-ups” were great…….on our way to court, we found out that our lawyers divorced us… we were going to stop the divorce. Well , we pulled the divorce … however, she still has not let me come home.
Definitely yes!! Two or three in a row with these darn people.
Yes, to infinity and beyond!!!
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Yeah Baby, 10 out of ten! 23 years of push pull, love bombing, then put downs , making me look useless in front of others and oh I will help you with that, (NOT)! thought I was going crazy till I found you channel. Cheers thanks for the enlightenment.
Mmm I'm going to have to say YES. And it's to the point where I don't know if it's me or them that is a narcissist that's real confusion
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Yes, False promises. Push pull behavior.. negative energy. A drag.
With gifts, they will often slip in that it was expensive. And that everyone is talking about it and want one. But that they were able to get it.
You better believe I want your new book! I will see where I can sign up. To find out why see my two comments below. You provide some "missing piece" information for me and I LOVE your approach now in my life of trying to grow into my self and my profession, with taking all my own responsibly, but with narcs absolutely everywhere!
Yes. Yes. Yes.
I buy all the christmas presents during the holidays and then after christmas is over he feels "guilty" and buys me like one or two small things to make up for what I got him.
My Narc is a business aquaintence I am forced to brush elbows with at a once monthly meeting. A habitual liar, mainly by omission, a loud mouth, self centered bigot. When pulled up over the obvious lies and misinformation, doesn't deny the lies but accuses the accuser of having a deep seated vendetta against her. Then she expects an apology for calling her a liar.
Any time that the narcissist is happy and content,
then he or she is getting what they want from you.
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Just keep watching 😊
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"YES!"
YES!
They never give presents, and when they do it, they also takeinished the relationsh advantage from what they " give"
They never support us
I finished the relationship, douzen times, and he always came back, crying, and promising that would never happen again....yeeee it was worst than last time.....after 40 years, i said enough and left for good. Im free now, i wish i had your videos 30 years ago......
30 years of pain and sorrow, neeeeever gets better, thats our biggst fault , thinking that we can change them, into a better person....WILL NEVER HAPPEN.
Hell Yes!!!!!! Bravo!
YES 💯 and that #7 struck me harder lol been married for 7 yrs and my narcissistic husband is exactly like that…but all you mentioned here were on point 💯
Been through all of these.
Yes! Help!!!
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Yes
You are 100% accurate
Hello, you just described my ex. All at his convenience and anything not in line with his command was because i had evil intent towards his precious daughter 🙄
I don't know what a top 1% attorney is. Could you explain? If it is good, I am sure you are it, but I don't know exactly what that is. Thank you very much. I love the way you seem to seek to be "hands on" when teaching others about phenomena encountered to a great degree in the legal profession like "narcissism"! We can only gain much indispensable information from someone like you for lots of life's challenges when it comes to such a difficult topic. Thank you if you could get back, and for what you have already done for me!
My wife I think is a narcissist. I think she has already cheated on me. Just don’t have proof but of course she always tells me she is loyal and faithful to me but I think the fact that she is on Instagram following men and posting her bikini Pictures online for the world to see is not very loyal at all
I knew it...they make blues songs old zepplin dazed and confused...at 62 years old I just came across my 2nd narc...first one at age 55 got me ready for number 2 but number 2 was horrrrible..just plain horrible...ten out of ten right spot on...were you talking to me? Bahahahaha I'll never learn I guess
Mine would shout abuse, kick me out, disappear for weeks than come back pretend nothing happened and blame me till I stood up for myslef and blosked him everywhere. He is back again hovering from foreigh number - blocked. Called him and recorded all conversation of gaslighting, denying and reflecting and trying to make out what a horrible person I am. I am so healed now I was unphased and told him he has been recorded and blocked back. Now he will go and do revenge cheating with a girl he has already been cheating with and she could be his daughter 21 years his junior. Good luck to them. He is getting Staurn enter his 8th house and his second Saturn return is due. The universe will teach him all the lessons he needs to learn. But one thing for sure I am staying well away from his toxic ass. All this has been foretold in tarot readings and this girl will destroy him. She is one nasty jealous insecure narcissistic thing - perfect for a narcissist.
Yes,
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I have a very very nuts parent that’s left my life in rubble for “spirituality”
Yes. Everything you've said so far is true..
You got this! 💪
YES ! Dead on.
Sounds simpler to just break contact and keep your sanity.
Just a thought but I hope these evil narcissist aren't watching your channel for tips on how to play the game...we learn and so do they...
Thank you Rebecca
Truth
yes, this is familiar. My dad does all this.
Great video! Spot on!
Yes
For number four, I've heard the opposite "nobody has ever told me that" therefore, what I say must not be true.
Hmmm - Everybody generally speaking, has some narcissistic tendencies in their behaviour. We all want and need validation even for our mere existence. Not trying to side with a hard core narcissist here - just pointing out that first look inwards and determine what your needs (flaws) are before putting others down.
I think in some situations they are playing the fool themselves and not realise it - thats food for thought they have no self reflection - what are your thoughts on that? I am still leaning about these kind of people.
Yes.
She thinks the restraining order she took out is funny, she did it to legally hogtie me... if I could only hand the judge a crystal ball. She'd be the one in trouble for filing a case under false pretenses. I need someone like Rebecca to haul her into court so I can have my name cleared and vindicated. It's not fair. I have my past, and I take responsibility for what I need to. But what she did was ruthless, underhanded and dirty. I wish you could help me, Rebecca.
My ex did the same. Put a DVO on me that's full of lies yet the courts believe her. Can't take responsibility for her own actions. Blames me for it all, yet, behind closed doors, she verbally, physically and emotionally abuses the children. And the 2 older ones (12 & 14) have both reported the abuse to the authorities yet they don't believe them and have ignored it. The abuse still continues although I had the current orders state that neither of us are to be abusive towards them. It's apparently lessened, going by my children, yet it's still happening. They're too scared of her to say anything.
I've never abused my children, I barely raise my voice.
These narcissists and their BS behaviour are/is DISGRACEFUL. Their time is coming!!
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Yes ☺️
Yep this 💯 I've been going through this crap for about 20 years....he is a very scary mean individual...whomever created this monstrous of a man...is at fault..
I have been gained up on my him and his siblings...he told me everything you just said,...and #5 IS HIM TO A "T"!!!!! I've called him out on that...yep! I'm sick of him...I helped him through his broken heart hence we are married and when he had his hernia....he doesn't or hasn't done or given me or treated me to anything...I would go all put and he would dismiss me...he has been spending money on other women...#8 GETS ME ANGRY BECAUSE HE IS A LIAR....#9 HE HAS NEVER HAD MY BACK NOR MY CHILDREN BUT HE WOULD FOR OTHER WOMEN AND THEIR CHILDREN...I stopped having his back...I now let him fail....#10 IS HIM TO A "T"!....I'm kinda waiting for him to start up his gaslighting and his mental abuse and pushing me back into submission to his abuse. ...it's an emotional roller-coaster
Do you have a good support system in place?
@@RebeccaZungEsq no ma'am I do not as I am just a mother of 4...we are trying to save up to leave to another city when he atleast expects it....we already tried once but I didn't get very far...but hopefully soon we get out..we already had CPS because of him
For sure
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