My marriage of 17 yrs ended when I went to the bathroom in the middle of the night and the wife was on the couch ..in the dark. She told me she doesn't want to stay married. 3 hours later she moved out.....I was almost homeless and had to sell my pets...my horses. She had someone else lined up. the weird part now is Im very good looking...I get phones numbers from girls all the time....But I don't trust anyone anymore......I just stay to myself and try to enjoy life. I have no family they all have passed and no kids........but I take the time thank the Lord for all he has helped me with.
@@attroenergizer8115preach. They can still exist but it’s like a strong breeze. You have to factor it in and there is less margin for picking your partner “wrong”
Foreign girls marriage statistics are way better than marriage with western women. And just became muslim because officialy beeing muslim will be the only western escape plan to pay for the women for the rest of your life or just till you drop down from a heart attack. I think AI will explain that in future to the common blue working dudes. Society in general just want to maintain himself because without welfare single mums with their children, old people, sick people, long term non working people, immigrants from all over the world, mentally and handicaped people, alcohol und drug addicts, people working in places like army, police and military, entire countrys like Swiss, Luxemburg or Monaco will starve. The only thing that society and the financial situation is a mess is just because the parasites above mentioned have efective lobby. Productive members of society dont want to flex their power and kill all those parasite lifestyles.
This is what set me free from all of this, in terms of worrying about relationships and giving a damn about expectations. I'm not bitter about being 32 and single. In fact, I've only dated a handful of girls and all, expect one, were great people. Unfortunately I put my then career first and other circumstances occured. I'll admit then my lack of relationship experience didn't help in certain situations. Don't get me wrong, accepting that dating is its own beast and accepting that at 20 years old was a hard pill to swallow but I've also learned to enjoy hobbies, improving oneself with regards to fitness, finding a career you enjoy and having a loving family or a set of friends or community to belong to are key elements to building a life you are, at the very least, content with. Even today as someone that other manosphere communities would describe as lucky with regards to the 6's (hopefully the salary soon), I still get questioned why I'm single, get suggested to have fun, get surprising looks from girls when they ask and get passive aggressive comments (some think I'm not telling the truth) and I brush it off. Why? Because I accepted years ago that dating can be horrible, I'm looking after myself internally and I'm happy in my own company whilst sticking to my guns and boundaries.
They never totaly shut their big gosuping mouths. Years later - way after they are out of your life - they cause reputational damage - they almost never know what they are talking about -- stupid and crazy opinions and never shut up
Congrats on the 100K TH-cam subscribers! You try to be so stone-faced in these videos, but the expression you had on your face when you unboxed the award was pure joy. I'm so happy for you!
35 going on 38, I get it. Been watching your videos and been through a lot of the same experiences as you. My boys and I came up with a saying, when we were 16. It’s not what you want, it’s what she wants.
I have a similar experience, I broke up with my ex 2 years ago after 11 years togheter. Todays dating game have completely run over me. I'm so exhausted from all the games and shit you have to put up with and all the avoidants and narcissistic woman out there. I have tried to date for a year now but I will take a pause since it's more peasful. 😬
From the time line to the description this is 100 percent accurate. Well done. The end result is a lot of top level men pudding age 40 who are single and never going to have a family. He damage done to our society is shown on the look of this man’s face. Props to him for making this video
This was a good one brother. I was in a few LTRs. 2005-2010, 2014-2016, 2016-2022. Now I'm a 36year old dad. I did the online dating thing for about a year and hooked up a few times but that's never been my goal. Meaningless sex is kind of boring. Online dating feels cheap and it doesn't seem like anyone takes it seriously. I deleted the apps and I'm going back to the old fashioned way.
LFA is correct. If I lived in any other generation, I would of flourished. Just born at the wrong time. I have to work harder now. And all I have to say is I feel bad for people that did not get to experience college around 2010s.
This is the easiest time to be alive. There’s more opportunities than ever. The average guy is fat, broke, and socially retarded. It’s never been easier to stand out from the crowd than it is today.
I'm 28 and looking back: being a teen and young adult in the 2010s, it was a completely different time back then. Social media wasn't as big as it is today, smartphones were just starting to kick off, and overall it was just a simpler time. Like you said, I'm grateful I experienced college in the mid to late 2010s. Nowadays everyone just seems more disconnected than ever
People are also very risk averse now, and I kind of know why. A combination of MeToo and poor diet has really made people over think life. My colleges Greek life average chapter was 50 in 2016 it has now dropped to 18. The people simply back then did not over think joining something to meet people. Now Gen Z and Gen A are thinking too hard. They have been raised on Instragram and TH-cam. We got dudes that actually think that a normal face is not good enough and that you need to be 6ft to date. Women litteraly do not even know what 6ft looks like. We have Gen Z black pill members that think dating apps are real life. It is insane. @@JonnnyStorrrm
Was in college 2009 2013 and the amount of promiscuity shocked and scared me seeing girls sleep with drunken drugged up guys I was still a virgin leaving college age 22 it was there I really seen how females truly are
As woman in my 70s, seeing the growing polarity between men and women, watching your videos is very informative. Your reason for all your experiences may be to help men at this time to move forward toward genuine an honest relationships. We have never really had that in known human history. We don't want to go back, but choose a quantum leap into a new future of cooperation rather then competition.
I've been really enjoying this channel lately. Me personally Ive matched with a lot of women on dating apps but usually they're overweight or unnatractive so I don't go for them, but then the ones that are attractive don't usually respond to my messages..so I've matched with plenty of women on dating apps but have not met up with any of them. Partly because that's not really the type of person I am. I prefer to get to know someone before just jumping into bed with them. And what's really true that he said is if you go out and be social wherever you like to go, and you go several times to the same place, your chances of meeting someone get pretty good
I'm thinking about moving to a small town or rural area just to see if it's better. In the big cities, I feel like it's 100% about money and I don't like it
Let got straight to this" If the woman do not look at the men as ALPHA CHAD in longtime relationship it is no reason for any men's to give away his freedom to settle with a woman!
One can make an argument that we are reaping what we sow as a society. I can't help but think of the Roman Empire with the bathhouses. That is the point we have reached as a society. Not good. The solutions you mentioned though are very good and are a start.
Yes, males who wanted not strings attached sex are definitely reaping what they have sown. The same with women who wanted sex with no or low attachment and no kids or family or no male in the house. Given that I'm neither of both I really marvell at all this and cannot stop wondering why people who in the ned got what wanted all along do not seem happy with finally getting what they wanted to start from.
I am the same age as you dude and honestly speaking, we all have to reflect and take responsibility for our part in all of this. Promiscuity in society, gender role reversals and other factors have played their part in all of this. These kinds of conversations are now going on in almost every community. We went against the laws of God.
From an evolutionary psychology standpoint (which the evidence is overwhelming) a woman usually looks for signs of commitment and that a man has the means to provide for her. The sexes have different sexual systems, stemming from thousands of generations of evolutionary influence, and these differences play out in meaningful ways. genes. The act of sex comes with a greater cost to women, due to the possibility of becoming pregnant and having to take on related responsibilities-giving birth, breastfeeding, raising the child, and ensuring his or her survival. By comparison, for men, sex requires an investment of several minutes. (About five or six minutes on average, according to recent studies.) As a result, the female sexual system evolved to account for this discrepancy, because women who made good mating choices were the ones who succeeded at passing on their genes. This is why women, on average, are more selective about their sexual partners, preferring those who possess status and resources that will benefit them and their future offspring. Back in the day, if these resources were of poor quality or inconsistent, this would threaten a woman’s survival and the survival of her children. Being less choosy about sexual partners could also result in raising a child without the help of the father, who could otherwise provide material resources in addition to emotional support and physical protection. In response, men have evolved to be highly competitive in order to be attractive to the choosiest (and, therefore, highest value) sexual partners. Individuals who are well adapted to their environment are more likely to survive and reproduce than those who are less well adapted. The mate preferences of one sex will determine the characteristics that are passed on in the other sex. For example, our female ancestors preferred male partners who could offer physical protection to them and their young, which is why greater height is generally seen as an attractive trait in men. Eggs are more costly to produce produce than sperm; consequently, women release one egg a month while men produce several hundred million sperm a day. Women are very selective about who gets to fertilize that egg, and men need to be competitive in order to get access to this precious resource. Studies have shown that for women who are successful, they place an even greater emphasis on their partner’s generosity and financial success. This explains why some men will purchase expensive toys, like flashy watches and cars, as a way of signaling status to potential partners. A woman usually looks for signs of commitment and that a man has the means to provide for her. and practical needs to also be met. As a result, when women cheat, it is usually due to a lack of emotional intimacy in their current relationship or because their sights have shifted to someone who is more successful than their current partner. It’s about more than lust or the physical act. When men cheat, however, it’s for sexual novelty-the desire to have sex with someone new. An organism exists to propagate its genetic material, and this is the sole “meaning” of its existence biologically. Masculinity has been unfairly pathologized. Successful mating consists of attaining a partner with good genes so that one’s offspring will survive and be successful at passing on their lineage. Men’s behavior is, to some extent, the result of female sexual preferences. If women didn’t want to mate with masculine men, these traits would have been removed from the gene pool long ago. It’s a case of feminists the lady doth protest too much. “Toxic masculinity” is the result of women’s sexual preferences over thousands of generations. A study found that women prefer men who exhibit benevolent sexismsexism over those who do not, despite also finding these behaviors undermining and patronizing. Benevolent sexism consists of chivalrous behavior, such as opening doors and paying for dates, and positive attitudes about women that reinforce the belief that women are less competent, relegating them to traditional gender roles. (This is in contrast to hostile sexism, which involves overtly misogynistic views.) Regardless of whether women endorsed high or low levels of feminist beliefs, they interpreted signs of benevolent sexism as signals that a man is willing to invest in them through an ability to provide, protect, and commit to them. The positives associated with this behavior outweighed the negatives. From a brief survey of my straight male friends, the more progressive and feminist a woman proclaims she is, the more she prefers dominant, masculine men. As for men’s sexual preferences, they are a solution to an interesting evolutionary quandary. Because men are unable to tell, simply by looking at a woman, whether she is of high fertility and high reproductive value, they’ve evolved to prefer partners possessing observable qualities indicative of both. Women have also evolved to attract men in beauty standards like breat, waist to hip ratio, houglass figure, youthful appearance, beautiful-possessing symmetry, smooth, clear skin, and shiny hair- full lips and high cheekbones are a sign of facial femininity, linked with higher levels of estrogen and fertility. etc. Youth and attractiveness are physical cues that a woman is healthy and will have greater reproductive success. Men have evolved to prefer partners possessing observable qualities indicative of both high fertility (able to produce healthy offspring) and high reproductive value (able to have many children) This explains, in part, why the beauty industry is today a $500 billion industry and also why the growing popularity of lip injections and women overdrawing their lips on social media. Contour and highlighting exaggerate facial contrast to make one’s features appear more feminine, and foundation and concealer hide under-eye circles and discoloration to give the appearance of an even complexion. This is not due to the patriarchy or capitalism trying to sell women things they don’t need. These are tendencies that are, to some extent, hardwired in us. In one study, the nucleus accumbens, a brain region associated with feelings of pleasure, was shown to activate when men looked at attractive female faces. Research has also shown on-average sex differences in brain activation during sexual arousal. When men and women are brought into the laboratory and are shown pornography during an fMRI scan, visual areas of the brain are more activated in men, and regions associated with inhibition and emotional processing are more activated in women. Another common indicator of attractiveness is waist-to-hip ratio (WHR), because it offers clues to a woman’s reproductive history and reproductive potential. Cross-cultural research has shown that, no matter where you are in the world, a low WHR (evident when a woman possesses a small waist and larger breasts and hips) is found to be attractive. The most attractive WHR, according to studies, is about 0.70.5 WHR tends to be lower in women who have fewer children, and also, women who are not currently pregnant, offering a visual estimate to an interested suitor regarding the likelihood that a woman would conceive and bear healthy children if he were to have sex with her. It is very unlikely that men have been socialized on a global scale to find an hourglass-shaped figure attractive. In modern-day beauty trends, this may explain the appeal of having a big “booty,” as popularized by celebrities and social media, and the subsequent rise in Brazilian butt lift cosmetic procedures, in which fat is taken from other parts of the body to create a more voluptuous bottom. I also think it’s a bit unfair that women get more flak from society for their partner preferences than men. Women who date wealthy men are commonly derided as gold diggers, while men who prefer to date young, attractive women will get an eye roll at most. Overall, for both men and women, a partner’s looks matter because having a child with someone who is attractive means your children will inherit those good looks and be in a position to attract better mates in the future, thereby ensuring that your lineage continues, although the emphasis is certainly more on womens looks. This does not apply to homosexuals because their brains are wired a differently from heterosexual people of the same sex due to pre natal hormonal exposure in the utero..
The denial of evolution is one of the most damaging myths I’ve encountered, because it throws everything we know about human sexual behavior out the window. It actually hurts women to behave like men, and vice versa, when it comes to courtship and sex. This is the case regardless of one’s political affiliation. Drawing upon biological or evolutionary explanations for behavior and abiding by traditional gender roles might actually help us when it comes to romantic relationships. The modern-day feminist movement maintains that a well-functioning society should do away with gendered norms. In theory, this would be a good thing; a person should be free to live as they please without being held to expectations based on an immutable characteristic like sex. But then this line of thinking goes too far-if the sexes are truly equal, it reasons, there should be no differences between men and women, including in the realms of dating and sex. Any deviation from this symmetry, or any adherence to gender-typical roles, is seen as chauvinistic or “toxic” of men and belittling of women. The admirable goal of gender equality has metastasized into meaning that men and women are the same, and therefore, any sex differences differences are socially imposed and can be unlearned, or altogether don’t exist. As a result, it’s become fashionable to call into question biology and evolutionary psychology, which is a shame because they offer a truly enlightening perspective into the way we think. Both have become verboten in recent years, tarnished with allegations of sexism, irrelevance, and being in opposition to women’s rights. In actuality, nothing could be further from the truth. One of the greatest myths perpetuated about female sexuality is that women enjoy casual sex as much as men. Young women are encouraged to pursue hooking up because that is what empowered women are supposed to. Those who abstain are seen as unfortunate casualties of a culture rampant with slut shaming and repressive gender norms. Considering everything we know about evolutionary psychology, this doesn’t make much sense. Despite feminism’s incessant prodding that women indulge in no-strings-attached sex, men consistently report greater enjoyment of it, while women experience more negative reactions. After having casual sex, women are more likely to self-report depression, regret, and feeling “used.” Men, conversely, self-report feeling like they had used their female partners. Is there any truth to the idea that social standards influence this behavior? When we look at sociosexuality (which refers to a person’s enjoyment of sex without commitment), in more egalitarian societies, like Norway and Denmark, women enjoyed casual sex more, but so did men, leading to larger sex differences This is not to say that women should cease having casual sex. Women should be free to have as many libidinous encounters with as many different partners as they’d like, if that’s what they choose to do. I’m a strong believer that what’s good for the goose is good for the gander; if promiscuity is socially acceptable for men, then it should be socially acceptable for women, too, and conversely, if it is frowned upon for one sex, it should be frowned upon for both sexes. There definitely still exists a double standard regarding women’s sexuality-for example, that men are free to roam sexually while women must remain chaste to preserve their inherent value as future wives and human beings, more broadly-and even though these attitudes are rooted in evolutionary psychology, that isn’t an excuse to hold women to a different standard than men. A person cannot make good decisions without having all of the information available to them. Currently, only one message is being aimed at women in the mainstream, and unless a young woman has parents, educators, or health professionals in her life-who have not embraced this particular ideology around casual sex-whom she feels she can turn to to talk about these very intimate and in some cases, potentially embarrassing, topics, the only place she will be able to access information will be on the Internet and through exposure to messages in the media. There are, of course, many women who do enjoy casual sex, and many men who don’t, and so long as everything is consensual, it’s no one’s place to judge. My concern is that only one perspective is being promoted as acceptable for young women, once again dictating to women that they should behave like men in order to be well adjusted, yet paradoxically, young men are being made to feel shameful if they behave like men. If a woman is more interested in having committed relationships, that should be completely fine, too. She should not be made to feel as though she is uptight, unenlightened, or a sexual prude. The narrative that sexism and socialization are the most powerful influences on women’s sexual behavior-or lack thereof-leads women astray in several ways. First of all, male sexuality is concordant. This means when a man is turned on psychologically, he’s also turned on physically, down below. Female sexuality, on the other hand, is much more context-dependent, and is lower in sexual concordance. Women may be psychologically turned on, but not physically, and vice versa. It can take a bit of extra time for a woman to get warmed up. From an evolutionary perspective, this ties into women’s greater selectivity when choosing their mates. For instance, a woman’s brain processes sexual cues differently, depending on where she is in her ovulatory cycle. A recent study using functional MRI demonstrated that women possess increased efficiency in inhibitory brain function when they are potentially fertile. This is adaptive because it allows a woman to be more cautious when evaluating a potential partner at times when it is more likely that she will become pregnant. It’s not appropriate or helpful to use male sexuality as the standard, because women’s bodies don’t operate this way. Women who believe female and male sexuality are no different will feel pressured to perform similarly to their male partners in the bedroom. When they don’t or can’t, they will internalize this, thinking there is something wrong with them. It may be the twenty-first century, but a man should still be required to make the first move. Initiating contact contact or romantic interest is a small act demonstrating he is willing to invest in her. As a woman, you do not want your boyfriend to treat you like one of the guys, even if that sounds commendable in the name of gender equality, because doing so requires him to put in much less effort. You want to know that if and when the day comes that you’re heavily pregnant and immobile on the couch, he will bring you what you need to ease your discomfort, instead of muttering that you should get it yourself. Even if you have no plans to have children, you want to ensure that your partner will prioritize you. We have not yet severed our modern-day sexual behavior from its history. It’s a system that has served us quite well, considering that we exist today. Acknowledging as much doesn’t mean women will get the short end of the stick, nor does it require perpetuating the cliché that women should be sexually submissive and men should be sexual aggressors. If anything, this knowledge can be used to the advantage of both sexes. Women have been told to take charge in their romantic lives as a sign of independence, confidence, and female strength. While I don’t think women should be sitting around, waiting for a guy to send a text, there is something to be said for letting him come to you. You want to give signals that you are interested, but not too interested-sexually appealing, but not too forward. Finding the right words to start a conversation can be hard, especially if it’s with a stranger. Requiring men to, at minimum, initiate interest will help to weed out those who are just going to waste your time. It also means that he values you. A man who isn’t required to invest will almost by default be interested. Beyond that, I’d advise women to not play hard to get. If you are interested in someone and they ask you out, say yes. As for men, don’t apologize for being masculine. Pull your weight in a relationship and be gentlemen. Some women may find holding doors open and gestures of the like unnecessary, but they shouldn’t be offended. Truly successful relationships require a healthy and accurate understanding of not only one another, but human behavior; otherwise you will end up with a partner who is only telling you what you want to hear.
As someone who has zero luck on apps (usually avoid but gave it another shot recently at immense cost to my metal health), I really needed to hear this today.
I haven't used dating apps in a few years, but just remember that your results on dating apps aren't neccesarily indicative of your worth as man and how attractive you are in the real world. My own experience has show that its not just about me but about other factors too. For example, when I first started using Tinder, I had 99+ matches. And managed to go on dates with probably like 10 women (and get close to dates and generally good responses for many more). Fast forward a few years and I was lucky to get 10 matches. And even they seemed to be of lower quality. And even the matches I did get tended not to reply and just be flaky. My conclusion was that it was nothing to do with me. It was simply a result of a) the algorithm that for whatever reason was holding matches from me- perhaps to try to convince me to pay for premium- perhaps it was some kind of Shadowban; b) I think in that time a lot of women stopped using dating apps and didn't bother to deactivate their account either- then theres the fact that many aren't actually looking to meet someone, they are just curious or looking to boost their ego- not to mention those that are only using it to gain followers to their Instagram (or even OnlyFans). In any case, I'd advise avoiding dating apps not only for your own sanity, but because it just seems like a waste of time at this point. You'll probably do much better meeting women in real life- especially considering that just having the balls to approach women in real life will instantly set you apart from 90% of men.
Me and my ex started dating in 09 through 15.. Facebook had just really started around 09. Shortly after I noticed a massive change in her attitude. She would see what everyone else was doing them start complaining. Dude is dead on about hookups dying.. when I was first single hooking up was extremely easy.. but the last few years even that shut down
I appreciate you for what you’re doing and the advice you’re giving. I’m learning a lot. And I’m even older than you. Thank you for everything. Keep posting. Come down to Texas and visit sometime.
I think a lot of this behavior has to do with economic issues in the US. More woman graduate college and now more single woman are buying homes then men. I think the reason for this is woman are more compliant and will not rebel against societal norms like men will imo...
I got married last year to one that didn’t even have faucet growing up she had to haul water her grandmother wasn’t strong enough she massages me on nights when I need it does all my clothes does a lot of thoughtful things for me. Her mom tried to thwart our marriage but she knew what she wanted, a foreigner.
There's nothing like a woman that doesn't think twice about mundane chores like doing laundry,claning up the house and cooking. My current gf does all those things,but I'm willing to bet your woman doesn't come without problems.
I found this channel several years ago because I was single for the first time after a 6-year relationship. Dating apps weren’t around before, and I was having a hard time adjusting to the new dating scene. Plus COVID hit soon after, and dating apps became the only way to meet women.
Watch your videos feels like Im talking with a wise and strong big brother. Congratulation for 100k subscriber, LFA. You produce great quality and aesthetic content. I learn much from you. Thank's LFA
Yeah man, society is decaying in real time, right infront of our eyes. Its scary cause all of this stuff was created innocently, an people just took it out of hand. This is why ive never had social media a day in my life. Cause i saw the bigger picture
I believe technology plays a big part of this. It gives everyone the idea that relationships are old fashion and being independent is more important. Women get the idea that they don’t need a man. Men believe that women only bring problems and unnecessary stress in their lives. Multiple this by ten fold by any other types of misinformation and theories and it’s a done deal. The Future is Now and its already looking bad and it can only get worse..
I'm from Sweden and I had a very similar experience as you did. I was in a 3 year relationship between 2013-2015 and during that time Tinder had arrived. So when I became single again I of course started using it and I can tell you that I've never slept around with so many different women as I did between 2015-2019. It was really easy to hook up.
Monk mode/MGTOW since 2013, well before I even knew those terms and right before the gender dynamic went to utter shit. Loneliness is a state of mind. I never get lonely, never get bored. A happy life is no wife, no kids, no distractions, no worry about the 50+% divorce rate that is plaguing this woke toxic feminist landscape. Unless you're a simp and settle or find a unicorn, the juice ain't worth the squeeze, gents!
I love your videos. I grew up when you did. My mindset is so different than most women. I have given up on things for the time being. Stoicism and working on my character is what I focus on. Amor fati at this point. I am happy with my dogs and my house but loneliness crosses my mind from time to time. But it’s better than being burned and broken. What’s meant for us will come when the time is right. Until then, maintain the highest good and control what you can…which is only yourself 💪
I'm 35 and you described my experience perfectly. I was just talking with a buddy about this today, nice to know it's not just me losing my mind. Great video my friend👊🏼
Hi there. Just came across your channel today & watched a few of your videos. This one intrigued me for sure & felt compelled to comment. I remember when dating used to be a lot of fun back in the day & definitely miss that time period prior to dating apps, etc. that you're referring to. I still prefer the "organic" method of meeting people in general, not just for dating. Unfortunately, that has basically dwindled down to a nub in today's world since not many people want to go that route anymore. Plus, since it appears that there's so much ridiculousness within dating & relationships these days, I can see why so many people (men & women) ultimately & completely opt out entirely.
At the end of the day all of us need to decide what we are cool with and what we are not cool with. If another adult lives a certain way or has a past you can't tolerate, move on. Technology and money only amplifies the way someone already is.
Everything went digital and synthetic, low effort and dystopic, including love, romance, friendships, music, art, movies, you name it. Everything is less human, we let machines take over our lives and even trust them with our happiness, it feels safe and convenient, but most of it is not real, it's actually a nightmare. Breaking free from that is an individual process before it's a collective one. Who knows if we'll live to see ourselves go back to relying more on our humanity than devices and technology, i guess total decadence will swing the pendulum in that direction.
Business coaches often say: "what you seek, seeks you". I never really had your experience since I never tried to seek such things. And this is probably why such things and people who actively pursue them never sought after me. And judging from what you have described I don't feel like I've missed out on something really worthwhile. Looking at all this from a distance: isn't it the case that people like you who have been seeking for easy way in and easy way out simple received what they were actively seeking? And if yes why you do not strike me like someone happy about such a turn of events?
What you’re describing is called hedonism. People that are living a life of hedonism are not thinking of the future, they’re only thinking of what feels good in the moment. The thing about hedonism is that it has to end someday. Whether it’s due to age, being jaded, health issues, an epiphany, something will inevitably make it extremely hard or impossible to continue a life of pure hedonism. Eventually, those people start to look at the life they have lived, they start to look at each and every single choice they have made and the results of that. It’s only then that they see that it was not worth it and that all the pleasure was merely a temporary escape from their immediate reality. It’s only then that they start to question the meaning of good vs evil. In conclusion, hedonists have reaped what they sowed but while they were living a life of pleasure, they weren’t aware of that. That or they simply didn’t care or they thought that their lifestyle wouldn’t come with a price. This is where those people have two choices: 1) Change nothing and keep doing the same things. Accept that they’re not getting what they want, continue being hedonists, and continue paying the price of such life until death. Or 2) Repent/regret, which will bring change. With that change, they may or may not get a different result, but they can definitely let go of their immoral self for good and have peace. Actions have consequences whether you have repentance or not, but peace is always a choice. Hedonists do not have peace because they are addicts that always need their addiction to feel alive.
I'm 53 years old, but I've been an adult for only 21 years. I don't grow up until age 32. I needed to grow up before involving anyone else in a long term relationship or marriage. The same holds true for both parties involved in said relationship. Don't hook up with people you work with. Don't hook up with someone based solely on appearance. Repeated viewing of explicit content can and will skew your view toward relationships and usually not for the better. Speaking all from firsthand experience of course.
Great video. I think you nailed it. I missed the hook up days because I was married to my wife that is my X wife now. The good thing that came from it was our kids. I like your advice on just get out, and let meeting women happen like it did in the old days before the internet when you had no choice, but to go out in person to meet anybody.
Funny thing. I am 35 and I exactly started to date with my ex in 2007 and We broken up due to her betrayal in 2016 just a month before our wedding. After that I was so shocked what happen to dating market during my absence on it... I am still alone.
@@djkadlubek-sp2lq dzięki stary, ale nie jest lekko... Niby stabilne życie, w zasadzie dobra praca, ale po wydarzeniach sprzed lat pasmo niepowodzeń w sferze realacji damsko męskich łącznie z wpakowaniem się w relację z narcyzką po drodze... Obecnie popadam w alkoholizm i jestem samotny...
I’m 39 this Friday. This is not how I thought my life would turn out. I do have the cars, house, and no debt which is a blessing. I also was spit back out after a six year relationship at the beginning of 2018 Dating was fun before that relationship. Getting matches on okcupid was easy and women actually put in an effort. These days I’m not talking to any women at all and hear all the horrible stories from coworkers(men/women)
Your observations are top tier. But could you please end each video with what YOU would do as a solution to the issues presented? Not necessarily telling people what they SHOULD do, but rather, what YOU would do if you were in their situation? Thanks.
Deleting social media and dating apps and spending as little time on your phone as possible definitely helps though. Nothing like leaving your phone on flight mode, in a completely different room, and watching some Ruthless Aggression Era WWE or playing some PS2- in my own little world where its 2002 and none of that BS exists, its just pure bliss haha.
I’m lucky to now have found 4 friends I would call brothers that have my back like some people would never understand, unfortunately the dating market is fucked because people are just low trust and are just fucking, idea of loyalty and building something meaningful is much harder but I’m not giving up.
@@SeanRussell-r1z the golden era !!! It will be missed.... Now you can't see who likes you ... Multiple pay walls and the bitches acting like they are 7/10s and higher
You know which is worse than a woman on birth control that "want to find herself" on the carousel? Woman "want to find herself" on the carousel and does not use birth control. This is tragedy!
I had much better luck with dating apps in my 20s. It's a totally different situation in your 30s, much similar to last call at a bar. You're really much better off choosing a woman before your 30s. Porn is only going to keep you single. And it sucks not getting any... 8 years of being single in my 30s no fun at all ...
It’s sad but it’s not going to be like it used to be it’s affects all of us me as a older woman trying to date and find the good old fashioned man it gets harder and harder it’s can’t trust no one older man and younger are having a tough time finding a he right person
My marriage of 17 yrs ended when I went to the bathroom in the middle of the night and the wife was on the couch ..in the dark. She told me she doesn't want to stay married. 3 hours later she moved out.....I was almost homeless and had to sell my pets...my horses. She had someone else lined up. the weird part now is Im very good looking...I get phones numbers from girls all the time....But I don't trust anyone anymore......I just stay to myself and try to enjoy life. I have no family they all have passed and no kids........but I take the time thank the Lord for all he has helped me with.
Stay strong brother
Jfc. That is brutal. Damn bro. I feel for you.
@@danieldigiuseppe7912 TY for the comment.... All the best to you!
How old are you?
@unknownT-wd2mf Same here bro. It is truly a difficult reality to ponder.
Hooking up is NOT relationship. Actually, it is the opposite. The more people hook up, the more difficult it is to have a real long term relationship.
That's all most women have too offer anymore
Social media and cellphones have DESTROYED relationships and marriage 😢
they didint....they just showed you their truest nature
@@attroenergizer8115Maybe, but they make doing the wrong things way more easy.
Yes it has
@@attroenergizer8115preach. They can still exist but it’s like a strong breeze. You have to factor it in and there is less margin for picking your partner “wrong”
They did
There is absolutely no going back from this. You can’t introduce all this garbage to the world and then take it back.
Only a collapse, dark age and rebuild of a civilization........and thats well beyond all our lifetimes, if we even survive it.
Foreign girls marriage statistics are way better than marriage with western women. And just became muslim because officialy beeing muslim will be the only western escape plan to pay for the women for the rest of your life or just till you drop down from a heart attack. I think AI will explain that in future to the common blue working dudes. Society in general just want to maintain himself because without welfare single mums with their children, old people, sick people, long term non working people, immigrants from all over the world, mentally and handicaped people, alcohol und drug addicts, people working in places like army, police and military, entire countrys like Swiss, Luxemburg or Monaco will starve. The only thing that society and the financial situation is a mess is just because the parasites above mentioned have efective lobby. Productive members of society dont want to flex their power and kill all those parasite lifestyles.
Peace and tranquility are gold. You dont know what youve got til its gone.
It's never going back to the way it was.
This is what set me free from all of this, in terms of worrying about relationships and giving a damn about expectations.
I'm not bitter about being 32 and single. In fact, I've only dated a handful of girls and all, expect one, were great people. Unfortunately I put my then career first and other circumstances occured. I'll admit then my lack of relationship experience didn't help in certain situations.
Don't get me wrong, accepting that dating is its own beast and accepting that at 20 years old was a hard pill to swallow but I've also learned to enjoy hobbies, improving oneself with regards to fitness, finding a career you enjoy and having a loving family or a set of friends or community to belong to are key elements to building a life you are, at the very least, content with.
Even today as someone that other manosphere communities would describe as lucky with regards to the 6's (hopefully the salary soon), I still get questioned why I'm single, get suggested to have fun, get surprising looks from girls when they ask and get passive aggressive comments (some think I'm not telling the truth) and I brush it off. Why? Because I accepted years ago that dating can be horrible, I'm looking after myself internally and I'm happy in my own company whilst sticking to my guns and boundaries.
Societies change all the time
@@hamidalharbi5939 they don’t go backwards.
@@jacobrodriguez7771 it’s a cycle
Yesterday is gone men. Make the best choices you can, and then live with them. I wish you luck.
I own the house, the car, and I have 0 debt. No stress, no drama. What can f*ck up this paradise?
A woman.
Wise words sensei, wise words 🫡
So true
They never totaly shut their big gosuping mouths. Years later - way after they are out of your life - they cause reputational damage - they almost never know what they are talking about -- stupid and crazy opinions and never shut up
LOL. Well said
True bro! A woman can bring hell on your paradise! Best of luck bro!GOD bless!
Congrats on the 100K TH-cam subscribers! You try to be so stone-faced in these videos, but the expression you had on your face when you unboxed the award was pure joy. I'm so happy for you!
35 going on 38, I get it. Been watching your videos and been through a lot of the same experiences as you.
My boys and I came up with a saying, when we were 16. It’s not what you want, it’s what she wants.
I have a similar experience, I broke up with my ex 2 years ago after 11 years togheter. Todays dating game have completely run over me. I'm so exhausted from all the games and shit you have to put up with and all the avoidants and narcissistic woman out there. I have tried to date for a year now but I will take a pause since it's more peasful. 😬
From the time line to the description this is 100 percent accurate. Well done. The end result is a lot of top level men pudding age 40 who are single and never going to have a family. He damage done to our society is shown on the look of this man’s face. Props to him for making this video
This was a good one brother. I was in a few LTRs. 2005-2010, 2014-2016, 2016-2022. Now I'm a 36year old dad. I did the online dating thing for about a year and hooked up a few times but that's never been my goal. Meaningless sex is kind of boring. Online dating feels cheap and it doesn't seem like anyone takes it seriously. I deleted the apps and I'm going back to the old fashioned way.
LFA is correct. If I lived in any other generation, I would of flourished. Just born at the wrong time. I have to work harder now. And all I have to say is I feel bad for people that did not get to experience college around 2010s.
This is the easiest time to be alive. There’s more opportunities than ever. The average guy is fat, broke, and socially retarded. It’s never been easier to stand out from the crowd than it is today.
I'm 28 and looking back: being a teen and young adult in the 2010s, it was a completely different time back then. Social media wasn't as big as it is today, smartphones were just starting to kick off, and overall it was just a simpler time. Like you said, I'm grateful I experienced college in the mid to late 2010s. Nowadays everyone just seems more disconnected than ever
People are also very risk averse now, and I kind of know why. A combination of MeToo and poor diet has really made people over think life. My colleges Greek life average chapter was 50 in 2016 it has now dropped to 18. The people simply back then did not over think joining something to meet people. Now Gen Z and Gen A are thinking too hard. They have been raised on Instragram and TH-cam.
We got dudes that actually think that a normal face is not good enough and that you need to be 6ft to date. Women litteraly do not even know what 6ft looks like. We have Gen Z black pill members that think dating apps are real life. It is insane. @@JonnnyStorrrm
Was in college 2009 2013 and the amount of promiscuity shocked and scared me seeing girls sleep with drunken drugged up guys I was still a virgin leaving college age 22 it was there I really seen how females truly are
As woman in my 70s, seeing the growing polarity between men and women, watching your videos is very informative. Your reason for all your experiences may be to help men at this time to move forward toward genuine an honest relationships. We have never really had that in known human history. We don't want to go back, but choose a quantum leap into a new future of cooperation rather then competition.
LFA on the weekday!
Realest dude on TH-cam !!! 👍
I've been really enjoying this channel lately. Me personally Ive matched with a lot of women on dating apps but usually they're overweight or unnatractive so I don't go for them, but then the ones that are attractive don't usually respond to my messages..so I've matched with plenty of women on dating apps but have not met up with any of them. Partly because that's not really the type of person I am. I prefer to get to know someone before just jumping into bed with them. And what's really true that he said is if you go out and be social wherever you like to go, and you go several times to the same place, your chances of meeting someone get pretty good
I'm thinking about moving to a small town or rural area just to see if it's better. In the big cities, I feel like it's 100% about money and I don't like it
Recently left Chicagoland for a small midwestern farm town and have no regrets , I don’t ever see myself going back to city life
it's ALWAYS about the money, that's just the way it is.
@1MinuteFlipDoc I agree but it wasn't always that way, 2011 or so snd before women weren't choosing based on money, at least not from my observations
I did same. They are still wicked, maybe slightly less lol
It ain't. Slim pickings or cheaters. Sometimes both.
Let got straight to this"
If the woman do not look at the men as ALPHA CHAD in longtime relationship it is no reason for any men's to give away his freedom to settle with a woman!
One can make an argument that we are reaping what we sow as a society. I can't help but think of the Roman Empire with the bathhouses. That is the point we have reached as a society. Not good. The solutions you mentioned though are very good and are a start.
Yes, males who wanted not strings attached sex are definitely reaping what they have sown. The same with women who wanted sex with no or low attachment and no kids or family or no male in the house. Given that I'm neither of both I really marvell at all this and cannot stop wondering why people who in the ned got what wanted all along do not seem happy with finally getting what they wanted to start from.
@@agatastaniak7459 I 100 percent agree.
The Roman Empire analogy is accurate!
@@gregorylatta8159 Thank you! It's sad to think of it that way but it seems very close.
Same age here and I've never ran across a quality woman my entire life they are all the same they are all 304s
I am the same age as you dude and honestly speaking, we all have to reflect and take responsibility for our part in all of this. Promiscuity in society, gender role reversals and other factors have played their part in all of this. These kinds of conversations are now going on in almost every community. We went against the laws of God.
Accurate observation 👌
From an evolutionary psychology standpoint (which the evidence is overwhelming) a woman usually looks for signs of commitment and that a man has the means to provide for her. The sexes have different sexual systems, stemming from thousands of generations of evolutionary influence, and these differences play out in meaningful ways. genes. The act of sex comes with a greater cost to women, due to the possibility of becoming pregnant and having to take on related responsibilities-giving birth, breastfeeding, raising the child, and ensuring his or her survival. By comparison, for men, sex requires an investment of several minutes. (About five or six minutes on average, according to recent studies.) As a result, the female sexual system evolved to account for this discrepancy, because women who made good mating choices were the ones who succeeded at passing on their genes. This is why women, on average, are more selective about their sexual partners, preferring those who possess status and resources that will benefit them and their future offspring. Back in the day, if these resources were of poor quality or inconsistent, this would threaten a woman’s survival and the survival of her children. Being less choosy about sexual partners could also result in raising a child without the help of the father, who could otherwise provide material resources in addition to emotional support and physical protection. In response, men have evolved to be highly competitive in order to be attractive to the choosiest (and, therefore, highest value) sexual partners.
Individuals who are well adapted to their environment are more likely to survive and reproduce than those who are less well adapted. The mate preferences of one sex will determine the characteristics that are passed on in the other sex. For example, our female ancestors preferred male partners who could offer physical protection to them and their young, which is why greater height is generally seen as an attractive trait in men. Eggs are more costly to produce produce than sperm; consequently, women release one egg a month while men produce several hundred million sperm a day. Women are very selective about who gets to fertilize that egg, and men need to be competitive in order to get access to this precious resource. Studies have shown that for women who are successful, they place an even greater emphasis on their partner’s generosity and financial success. This explains why some men will purchase expensive toys, like flashy watches and cars, as a way of signaling status to potential partners. A woman usually looks for signs of commitment and that a man has the means to provide for her. and practical needs to also be met. As a result, when women cheat, it is usually due to a lack of emotional intimacy in their current relationship or because their sights have shifted to someone who is more successful than their current partner. It’s about more than lust or the physical act. When men cheat, however, it’s for sexual novelty-the desire to have sex with someone new.
An organism exists to propagate its genetic material, and this is the sole “meaning” of its existence biologically. Masculinity has been unfairly pathologized. Successful mating consists of attaining a partner with good genes so that one’s offspring will survive and be successful at passing on their lineage. Men’s behavior is, to some extent, the result of female sexual preferences. If women didn’t want to mate with masculine men, these traits would have been removed from the gene pool long ago. It’s a case of feminists the lady doth protest too much. “Toxic masculinity” is the result of women’s sexual preferences over thousands of generations. A study found that women prefer men who exhibit benevolent sexismsexism over those who do not, despite also finding these behaviors undermining and patronizing. Benevolent sexism consists of chivalrous behavior, such as opening doors and paying for dates, and positive attitudes about women that reinforce the belief that women are less competent, relegating them to traditional gender roles. (This is in contrast to hostile sexism, which involves overtly misogynistic views.) Regardless of whether women endorsed high or low levels of feminist beliefs, they interpreted signs of benevolent sexism as signals that a man is willing to invest in them through an ability to provide, protect, and commit to them. The positives associated with this behavior outweighed the negatives. From a brief survey of my straight male friends, the more progressive and feminist a woman proclaims she is, the more she prefers dominant, masculine men.
As for men’s sexual preferences, they are a solution to an interesting evolutionary quandary. Because men are unable to tell, simply by looking at a woman, whether she is of high fertility and high reproductive value, they’ve evolved to prefer partners possessing observable qualities indicative of both. Women have also evolved to attract men in beauty standards like breat, waist to hip ratio, houglass figure, youthful appearance, beautiful-possessing symmetry, smooth, clear skin, and shiny hair- full lips and high cheekbones are a sign of facial femininity, linked with higher levels of estrogen and fertility. etc. Youth and attractiveness are physical cues that a woman is healthy and will have greater reproductive success. Men have evolved to prefer partners possessing observable qualities indicative of both high fertility (able to produce healthy offspring) and high reproductive value (able to have many children) This explains, in part, why the beauty industry is today a $500 billion industry and also why the growing popularity of lip injections and women overdrawing their lips on social media. Contour and highlighting exaggerate facial contrast to make one’s features appear more feminine, and foundation and concealer hide under-eye circles and discoloration to give the appearance of an even complexion. This is not due to the patriarchy or capitalism trying to sell women things they don’t need. These are tendencies that are, to some extent, hardwired in us. In one study, the nucleus accumbens, a brain region associated with feelings of pleasure, was shown to activate when men looked at attractive female faces. Research has also shown on-average sex differences in brain activation during sexual arousal. When men and women are brought into the laboratory and are shown pornography during an fMRI scan, visual areas of the brain are more activated in men, and regions associated with inhibition and emotional processing are more activated in women.
Another common indicator of attractiveness is waist-to-hip ratio (WHR), because it offers clues to a woman’s reproductive history and reproductive potential. Cross-cultural research has shown that, no matter where you are in the world, a low WHR (evident when a woman possesses a small waist and larger breasts and hips) is found to be attractive. The most attractive WHR, according to studies, is about 0.70.5 WHR tends to be lower in women who have fewer children, and also, women who are not currently pregnant, offering a visual estimate to an interested suitor regarding the likelihood that a woman would conceive and bear healthy children if he were to have sex with her. It is very unlikely that men have been socialized on a global scale to find an hourglass-shaped figure attractive. In modern-day beauty trends, this may explain the appeal of having a big “booty,” as popularized by celebrities and social media, and the subsequent rise in Brazilian butt lift cosmetic procedures, in which fat is taken from other parts of the body to create a more voluptuous bottom. I also think it’s a bit unfair that women get more flak from society for their partner preferences than men. Women who date wealthy men are commonly derided as gold diggers, while men who prefer to date young, attractive women will get an eye roll at most. Overall, for both men and women, a partner’s looks matter because having a child with someone who is attractive means your children will inherit those good looks and be in a position to attract better mates in the future, thereby ensuring that your lineage continues, although the emphasis is certainly more on womens looks. This does not apply to homosexuals because their brains are wired a differently from heterosexual people of the same sex due to pre natal hormonal exposure in the utero..
The denial of evolution is one of the most damaging myths I’ve encountered, because it throws everything we know about human sexual behavior out the window. It actually hurts women to behave like men, and vice versa, when it comes to courtship and sex. This is the case regardless of one’s political affiliation. Drawing upon biological or evolutionary explanations for behavior and abiding by traditional gender roles might actually help us when it comes to romantic relationships. The modern-day feminist movement maintains that a well-functioning society should do away with gendered norms. In theory, this would be a good thing; a person should be free to live as they please without being held to expectations based on an immutable characteristic like sex. But then this line of thinking goes too far-if the sexes are truly equal, it reasons, there should be no differences between men and women, including in the realms of dating and sex. Any deviation from this symmetry, or any adherence to gender-typical roles, is seen as chauvinistic or “toxic” of men and belittling of women. The admirable goal of gender equality has metastasized into meaning that men and women are the same, and therefore, any sex differences differences are socially imposed and can be unlearned, or altogether don’t exist. As a result, it’s become fashionable to call into question biology and evolutionary psychology, which is a shame because they offer a truly enlightening perspective into the way we think. Both have become verboten in recent years, tarnished with allegations of sexism, irrelevance, and being in opposition to women’s rights. In actuality, nothing could be further from the truth.
One of the greatest myths perpetuated about female sexuality is that women enjoy casual sex as much as men. Young women are encouraged to pursue hooking up because that is what empowered women are supposed to. Those who abstain are seen as unfortunate casualties of a culture rampant with slut shaming and repressive gender norms. Considering everything we know about evolutionary psychology, this doesn’t make much sense. Despite feminism’s incessant prodding that women indulge in no-strings-attached sex, men consistently report greater enjoyment of it, while women experience more negative reactions. After having casual sex, women are more likely to self-report depression, regret, and feeling “used.” Men, conversely, self-report feeling like they had used their female partners. Is there any truth to the idea that social standards influence this behavior? When we look at sociosexuality (which refers to a person’s enjoyment of sex without commitment), in more egalitarian societies, like Norway and Denmark, women enjoyed casual sex more, but so did men, leading to larger sex differences This is not to say that women should cease having casual sex. Women should be free to have as many libidinous encounters with as many different partners as they’d like, if that’s what they choose to do. I’m a strong believer that what’s good for the goose is good for the gander; if promiscuity is socially acceptable for men, then it should be socially acceptable for women, too, and conversely, if it is frowned upon for one sex, it should be frowned upon for both sexes. There definitely still exists a double standard regarding women’s sexuality-for example, that men are free to roam sexually while women must remain chaste to preserve their inherent value as future wives and human beings, more broadly-and even though these attitudes are rooted in evolutionary psychology, that isn’t an excuse to hold women to a different standard than men.
A person cannot make good decisions without having all of the information available to them. Currently, only one message is being aimed at women in the mainstream, and unless a young woman has parents, educators, or health professionals in her life-who have not embraced this particular ideology around casual sex-whom she feels she can turn to to talk about these very intimate and in some cases, potentially embarrassing, topics, the only place she will be able to access information will be on the Internet and through exposure to messages in the media. There are, of course, many women who do enjoy casual sex, and many men who don’t, and so long as everything is consensual, it’s no one’s place to judge. My concern is that only one perspective is being promoted as acceptable for young women, once again dictating to women that they should behave like men in order to be well adjusted, yet paradoxically, young men are being made to feel shameful if they behave like men. If a woman is more interested in having committed relationships, that should be completely fine, too. She should not be made to feel as though she is uptight, unenlightened, or a sexual prude.
The narrative that sexism and socialization are the most powerful influences on women’s sexual behavior-or lack thereof-leads women astray in several ways. First of all, male sexuality is concordant. This means when a man is turned on psychologically, he’s also turned on physically, down below. Female sexuality, on the other hand, is much more context-dependent, and is lower in sexual concordance. Women may be psychologically turned on, but not physically, and vice versa. It can take a bit of extra time for a woman to get warmed up. From an evolutionary perspective, this ties into women’s greater selectivity when choosing their mates. For instance, a woman’s brain processes sexual cues differently, depending on where she is in her ovulatory cycle. A recent study using functional MRI demonstrated that women possess increased efficiency in inhibitory brain function when they are potentially fertile. This is adaptive because it allows a woman to be more cautious when evaluating a potential partner at times when it is more likely that she will become pregnant. It’s not appropriate or helpful to use male sexuality as the standard, because women’s bodies don’t operate this way.
Women who believe female and male sexuality are no different will feel pressured to perform similarly to their male partners in the bedroom. When they don’t or can’t, they will internalize this, thinking there is something wrong with them. It may be the twenty-first century, but a man should still be required to make the first move. Initiating contact contact or romantic interest is a small act demonstrating he is willing to invest in her. As a woman, you do not want your boyfriend to treat you like one of the guys, even if that sounds commendable in the name of gender equality, because doing so requires him to put in much less effort. You want to know that if and when the day comes that you’re heavily pregnant and immobile on the couch, he will bring you what you need to ease your discomfort, instead of muttering that you should get it yourself. Even if you have no plans to have children, you want to ensure that your partner will prioritize you.
We have not yet severed our modern-day sexual behavior from its history. It’s a system that has served us quite well, considering that we exist today. Acknowledging as much doesn’t mean women will get the short end of the stick, nor does it require perpetuating the cliché that women should be sexually submissive and men should be sexual aggressors. If anything, this knowledge can be used to the advantage of both sexes. Women have been told to take charge in their romantic lives as a sign of independence, confidence, and female strength. While I don’t think women should be sitting around, waiting for a guy to send a text, there is something to be said for letting him come to you. You want to give signals that you are interested, but not too interested-sexually appealing, but not too forward. Finding the right words to start a conversation can be hard, especially if it’s with a stranger. Requiring men to, at minimum, initiate interest will help to weed out those who are just going to waste your time. It also means that he values you. A man who isn’t required to invest will almost by default be interested. Beyond that, I’d advise women to not play hard to get. If you are interested in someone and they ask you out, say yes. As for men, don’t apologize for being masculine. Pull your weight in a relationship and be gentlemen. Some women may find holding doors open and gestures of the like unnecessary, but they shouldn’t be offended. Truly successful relationships require a healthy and accurate understanding of not only one another, but human behavior; otherwise you will end up with a partner who is only telling you what you want to hear.
As someone who has zero luck on apps (usually avoid but gave it another shot recently at immense cost to my metal health), I really needed to hear this today.
I haven't used dating apps in a few years, but just remember that your results on dating apps aren't neccesarily indicative of your worth as man and how attractive you are in the real world. My own experience has show that its not just about me but about other factors too. For example, when I first started using Tinder, I had 99+ matches. And managed to go on dates with probably like 10 women (and get close to dates and generally good responses for many more). Fast forward a few years and I was lucky to get 10 matches. And even they seemed to be of lower quality. And even the matches I did get tended not to reply and just be flaky.
My conclusion was that it was nothing to do with me. It was simply a result of a) the algorithm that for whatever reason was holding matches from me- perhaps to try to convince me to pay for premium- perhaps it was some kind of Shadowban; b) I think in that time a lot of women stopped using dating apps and didn't bother to deactivate their account either- then theres the fact that many aren't actually looking to meet someone, they are just curious or looking to boost their ego- not to mention those that are only using it to gain followers to their Instagram (or even OnlyFans).
In any case, I'd advise avoiding dating apps not only for your own sanity, but because it just seems like a waste of time at this point. You'll probably do much better meeting women in real life- especially considering that just having the balls to approach women in real life will instantly set you apart from 90% of men.
Dating apps def beat down your psyche. They are useless now
The weather is always nice in Oklahomi, you may not have a wife and kids, but you got the sun!
Me and my ex started dating in 09 through 15..
Facebook had just really started around 09. Shortly after I noticed a massive change in her attitude. She would see what everyone else was doing them start complaining.
Dude is dead on about hookups dying.. when I was first single hooking up was extremely easy.. but the last few years even that shut down
The end when u look off into the distance was majestic af
I appreciate you for what you’re doing and the advice you’re giving. I’m learning a lot. And I’m even older than you. Thank you for everything. Keep posting. Come down to Texas and visit sometime.
Ye as an average looking dude 33, unluckly short 5,7 its crazy hard
I think a lot of this behavior has to do with economic issues in the US. More woman graduate college and now more single woman are buying homes then men. I think the reason for this is woman are more compliant and will not rebel against societal norms like men will imo...
Spot on
I got married last year to one that didn’t even have faucet growing up she had to haul water her grandmother wasn’t strong enough she massages me on nights when I need it does all my clothes does a lot of thoughtful things for me. Her mom tried to thwart our marriage but she knew what she wanted, a foreigner.
There's nothing like a woman that doesn't think twice about mundane chores like doing laundry,claning up the house and cooking.
My current gf does all those things,but I'm willing to bet your woman doesn't come without problems.
Even during her period she’s getalongable
Thank you for the video LFA ❤
I love LFA!! 🇨🇦💪🇨🇦 I got 7 years on you, but I love truth! You're talking nostalgia to me and I'm having a flash back on society! Cheers!!
I found this channel several years ago because I was single for the first time after a 6-year relationship. Dating apps weren’t around before, and I was having a hard time adjusting to the new dating scene. Plus COVID hit soon after, and dating apps became the only way to meet women.
Watch your videos feels like Im talking with a wise and strong big brother.
Congratulation for 100k subscriber, LFA. You produce great quality and aesthetic content. I learn much from you.
Thank's LFA
Yeah man, society is decaying in real time, right infront of our eyes. Its scary cause all of this stuff was created innocently, an people just took it out of hand. This is why ive never had social media a day in my life. Cause i saw the bigger picture
It was not created innocently. There is nothing innocent about it
Looking swoll brother 💪🏼
I hate this world man
Bad times, man, bad times. Be strong. Nothing last forever.
I hate it too man.
Count me in
Where do I sign
go SIGMA
I believe technology plays a big part of this. It gives everyone the idea that relationships are old fashion and being independent is more important. Women get the idea that they don’t need a man. Men believe that women only bring problems and unnecessary stress in their lives. Multiple this by ten fold by any other types of misinformation and theories and it’s a done deal. The Future is Now and its already looking bad and it can only get worse..
AI and sex robots will be the next shift
I'm from Sweden and I had a very similar experience as you did. I was in a 3 year relationship between 2013-2015 and during that time Tinder had arrived. So when I became single again I of course started using it and I can tell you that I've never slept around with so many different women as I did between 2015-2019. It was really easy to hook up.
Good stuff broheme.
Good stuff. Thanks
Spot on with this one 🙏🏼
Good job LFA
Monk mode/MGTOW since 2013, well before I even knew those terms and right before the gender dynamic went to utter shit. Loneliness is a state of mind. I never get lonely, never get bored. A happy life is no wife, no kids, no distractions, no worry about the 50+% divorce rate that is plaguing this woke toxic feminist landscape. Unless you're a simp and settle or find a unicorn, the juice ain't worth the squeeze, gents!
I love your videos. I grew up when you did. My mindset is so different than most women. I have given up on things for the time being. Stoicism and working on my character is what I focus on. Amor fati at this point. I am happy with my dogs and my house but loneliness crosses my mind from time to time. But it’s better than being burned and broken. What’s meant for us will come when the time is right. Until then, maintain the highest good and control what you can…which is only yourself 💪
Whatever you say terminator 🦾🤖 🐕🦺
Facebook and social media in general have really messed relationships up, overall just a sad world we live in.
I'm 35 and you described my experience perfectly. I was just talking with a buddy about this today, nice to know it's not just me losing my mind. Great video my friend👊🏼
Amazing! Same shit in brazil! Reallu sad...god bless u all brothers ❤
Good information about the changes over time.
Hi there. Just came across your channel today & watched a few of your videos. This one intrigued me for sure & felt compelled to comment. I remember when dating used to be a lot of fun back in the day & definitely miss that time period prior to dating apps, etc. that you're referring to. I still prefer the "organic" method of meeting people in general, not just for dating. Unfortunately, that has basically dwindled down to a nub in today's world since not many people want to go that route anymore. Plus, since it appears that there's so much ridiculousness within dating & relationships these days, I can see why so many people (men & women) ultimately & completely opt out entirely.
LFA does the angled chest shot better than any woman on a dating site
We live in the kali yuga, the age of chaos
Interesting video
At the end of the day all of us need to decide what we are cool with and what we are not cool with. If another adult lives a certain way or has a past you can't tolerate, move on. Technology and money only amplifies the way someone already is.
All relationships are temporary
Everything went digital and synthetic, low effort and dystopic, including love, romance, friendships, music, art, movies, you name it. Everything is less human, we let machines take over our lives and even trust them with our happiness, it feels safe and convenient, but most of it is not real, it's actually a nightmare. Breaking free from that is an individual process before it's a collective one. Who knows if we'll live to see ourselves go back to relying more on our humanity than devices and technology, i guess total decadence will swing the pendulum in that direction.
Bro. Very nice shirt. I must say, very stylish
Business coaches often say: "what you seek, seeks you". I never really had your experience since I never tried to seek such things. And this is probably why such things and people who actively pursue them never sought after me. And judging from what you have described I don't feel like I've missed out on something really worthwhile. Looking at all this from a distance: isn't it the case that people like you who have been seeking for easy way in and easy way out simple received what they were actively seeking? And if yes why you do not strike me like someone happy about such a turn of events?
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What you’re describing is called hedonism. People that are living a life of hedonism are not thinking of the future, they’re only thinking of what feels good in the moment. The thing about hedonism is that it has to end someday. Whether it’s due to age, being jaded, health issues, an epiphany, something will inevitably make it extremely hard or impossible to continue a life of pure hedonism.
Eventually, those people start to look at the life they have lived, they start to look at each and every single choice they have made and the results of that. It’s only then that they see that it was not worth it and that all the pleasure was merely a temporary escape from their immediate reality. It’s only then that they start to question the meaning of good vs evil.
In conclusion, hedonists have reaped what they sowed but while they were living a life of pleasure, they weren’t aware of that. That or they simply didn’t care or they thought that their lifestyle wouldn’t come with a price. This is where those people have two choices:
1) Change nothing and keep doing the same things. Accept that they’re not getting what they want, continue being hedonists, and continue paying the price of such life until death.
Or
2) Repent/regret, which will bring change. With that change, they may or may not get a different result, but they can definitely let go of their immoral self for good and have peace.
Actions have consequences whether you have repentance or not, but peace is always a choice. Hedonists do not have peace because they are addicts that always need their addiction to feel alive.
@@adriana12995Good to see you again Adriana 😉. Great comment as well!
Social Media ruined every relationship.
36y checked out 2yrs ago.. at this point I have more respect for sewer rats than people
"first it is smiles. then it is lies. last is gunfire" - Roland Deschain
Solid info. Congrats on the 100k subscribers
I'm 53 years old, but I've been an adult for only 21 years. I don't grow up until age 32. I needed to grow up before involving anyone else in a long term relationship or marriage. The same holds true for both parties involved in said relationship. Don't hook up with people you work with. Don't hook up with someone based solely on appearance. Repeated viewing of explicit content can and will skew your view toward relationships and usually not for the better. Speaking all from firsthand experience of course.
Great video. I think you nailed it. I missed the hook up days because I was married to my wife that is my X wife now. The good thing that came from it was our kids. I like your advice on just get out, and let meeting women happen like it did in the old days before the internet when you had no choice, but to go out in person to meet anybody.
Good talk bro
well this was uplifting :)
Agree 100%, being that age from 2014-2020
Yu speak nothing but the truth
Funny thing. I am 35 and I exactly started to date with my ex in 2007 and We broken up due to her betrayal in 2016 just a month before our wedding. After that I was so shocked what happen to dating market during my absence on it... I am still alone.
Trzymaj się ziom, mam nadzieje , ze ulozyles zycie prywatne. Pozdro
@@djkadlubek-sp2lq dzięki stary, ale nie jest lekko... Niby stabilne życie, w zasadzie dobra praca, ale po wydarzeniach sprzed lat pasmo niepowodzeń w sferze realacji damsko męskich łącznie z wpakowaniem się w relację z narcyzką po drodze... Obecnie popadam w alkoholizm i jestem samotny...
You would have never expected this to happen😂
I’m 39 this Friday. This is not how I thought my life would turn out. I do have the cars, house, and no debt which is a blessing. I also was spit back out after a six year relationship at the beginning of 2018
Dating was fun before that relationship. Getting matches on okcupid was easy and women actually put in an effort. These days I’m not talking to any women at all and hear all the horrible stories from coworkers(men/women)
Spot on about the 2010’s
Amazing video
Being an adult has nothing to do with your age. It's all about your maturity level and willingness to listen to the good advice of your elders
good man
You and I have almost the same story and history/childhoods. I remember the past the same way.
I keep saying this, social media ruined men and women relationships.
I’m 40, I haven’t sex in 13 years.
Game was ALWAYS a requirement
Your observations are top tier. But could you please end each video with what YOU would do as a solution to the issues presented? Not necessarily telling people what they SHOULD do, but rather, what YOU would do if you were in their situation? Thanks.
I did.
I’m the same age as you as well and gay lol but it’s the same on my side too ugh. Great video and new subscriber here.
2008-2016 moved FAST 45 yr old male Los Angeles, CA
Relatable asf
all these problems go back to technology progression
Nah I checked out of the dating game last year and now I do my own thing
Dated back in 80s, prior to internet, there is no way to even compare the dating world or women
I enjoyed Pandora, especially her 📦
20:55 this man really said 🗿
There is no getting out of "the matrix".
Deleting social media and dating apps and spending as little time on your phone as possible definitely helps though. Nothing like leaving your phone on flight mode, in a completely different room, and watching some Ruthless Aggression Era WWE or playing some PS2- in my own little world where its 2002 and none of that BS exists, its just pure bliss haha.
Covid was a major part of the transition, as well.
I’m lucky to now have found 4 friends I would call brothers that have my back like some people would never understand, unfortunately the dating market is fucked because people are just low trust and are just fucking, idea of loyalty and building something meaningful is much harder but I’m not giving up.
You didn't even throw AI into the mix.
Pof....!!!! Was golden back then i used to bag chicks left n right on Plenty of fish 🐟 !!!!! Not anymore tho .... They changed the app
It used to be so simple, search locals based on age, ethnicity, body type, height, and stance from your current location.
@@SeanRussell-r1z the golden era !!! It will be missed.... Now you can't see who likes you ... Multiple pay walls and the bitches acting like they are 7/10s and higher
You know which is worse than a woman on birth control that "want to find herself" on the carousel?
Woman "want to find herself" on the carousel and does not use birth control. This is tragedy!
The world went to hell when sex became a casual activity like getting a haircut. It’s honestly disgusting that so many people have this mentality now.
Sport F****** is an actual thing now.
Gosh I got lucky. She does everything.
I had much better luck with dating apps in my 20s. It's a totally different situation in your 30s, much similar to last call at a bar. You're really much better off choosing a woman before your 30s. Porn is only going to keep you single. And it sucks not getting any... 8 years of being single in my 30s no fun at all ...
i agree on the porn and dating app/social media takes ..keep up the good work LFA ty 👊🏻
Eh the women that I’m attracted to don’t want me any way
It’s sad but it’s not going to be like it used to be it’s affects all of us me as a older woman trying to date and find the good old fashioned man it gets harder and harder it’s can’t trust no one older man and younger are having a tough time finding a he right person