I remember listening to this time and time again thinking to myself “man I really need to quit drinking it’s been messing up my life in so many ways.” I’m so proud of myself for gathering over 90 days of sobriety. God willing there will be many more months and many years of sobriety ahead thanks Dr. P for the extra nudge and all the encouragement!
I can say the same. And if you don't have English as your first language - you learn even more. I have to slow down the speed to 75% and some3 stop to translate some words. He's my English teacher too.
@Phantom Navigator Jordan peterson teaches truth from science and his life experience and wisdom. Call it a religion if you want. It does not take away from the experience of people who have found him to be a great help in their lives. He has touched mine in a way no human will ever.
I'm actually surprised by how accurate this is - i mean, everything he says is correct especially him talking about 'whipping yourself and then procrastinating' and then 'having an existential crisis'
I will try to wipe out too much alchool and bad habits. That man is cool ! Also : 00:01 Setting aims and goals based on values to improve conscientiousness 01:29 Plan a life you want in 3-5 years 02:57 Specify long-term ideal and goals that excite and terrify you 04:25 Set specific goals to build the person you want to be. 05:45 Create a life vision that justifies your effort 07:07 Balance responsibility and reward for productive scheduling 08:25 Plan a life you'd like to have 09:52 Value Your Time Wisely
God Bless Dr. Peterson🌹 keep driving Home , Direction, Goals , Needs, and Hard work . Young people Today, need your guidance more than ever. They're homeless, protesting, lazy, etc..
Homeless for what reason? They are not lazy put yourself in their shoes Almost no job guarantee and diminishing social benifits while sky rocket inflation is taking a toll on everyone
i just dropped out of engineering and it was a really hard decision it is very hard to truly decide what you are willing to suffer through and to strike at what you’re really meant to do. i’m business now and my personality definitely suits it more but now i MUST make sure i don’t let off and choose something big to aspire to
I also have fun doing this hypothetical exercise which is imagining I win the lottery and then what I would do. After all the _nonsense_ is spent, I then look at most of it and ask myself, "and do I really need a lot of money for that? Intriguing answers usually follow.
As a business consultant, and coach, one of the very first things I work with my clients on is getting crystal clear as to what it is they they want. Focus is one thing but there’s no chance in hell for you if you don’t have clarity in what it is that you want first - otherwise every single goal you set will be meaningless and you’re going to fail almost every time. The second main point JP notes at the end is the critical nature of the value of time and we underestimate and undervalue this pathetically! When business owners complain they don’t have enough time - their real issue isn’t the numbers in the day (we are all given the same!) - the issue is in their inability to leverage their time well.
Most people have an ideal LIFESTYLE, but what can be really helpful is planning an ideal SCHEDULE, I.e. time with people, working out, how much time at work, etc.
I had a dream last night of Jordan Peterson. I was extremely happy in my dream to meet him. He came into my home, sat on my couch and fell asleep. I know Jp talks about interpreting your dreams. I have no clue why I dreamt that, but it makes me smile.
I wish I had this class when I was a student back in 1987 in Japan. I never had a clear goal for life. As a result I don't feel satisfied with my career. I never took major risks. I think we should have this kind of class in all universities. On the other hand I think envisioning a goal that justifies all the effort required could be really hard, unless you have some very strong source of motivation.
I know this will sound cliche, but you have power in the present moment. You could do this exercise of let's say, where you want to be in a year, or 3. And work your way towards that. Wishing you hope and determination and light 🙏🙏
Setting a goal that motivates can be hard but if you really think about what you want in the next 1 - 5 years (not what you can have but what you actually desire), it helps. Like Jim Rhon said "set a goal that'll make you stretch that far, for what it'll make of you to achieve it"
I'm watching this video for the second time and I'm glad I am because I'm at the procrastinating phase after cracking the whip on myself last week. Wherever Mr. Peterson is, may God bless him for me.
It feels like the highs aren’t high enough, yet the lows are unbearably deep. Negativity is much more salient to our minds then positivity- this seems to me like a cursed existence that is not worth living for ANYONE.
@@neestovekin8251 Moreso in the back of my head. The subjective experience that typically summons this form of thinking is a bit dormant at the moment- the beast of nihilism is not so agitated. I hope I've been preparing myself for the next time whatever ails me leads me to this beast. I hope that I'm pulling away from it, but part of me is still fearful of it's return- I suspect that he's just resting for a moment and I'm doing nothing but fooling myself. I'm using metaphorical speech here intentionally- I'm not trying to come across as pompous or mysterious or Nietzschean.
@@joshuaprivett3552 I see. if the beast is sleeping, then all you can do is make your habits strong and set your life up as well as you can before it returns. I will be wishing you well! deep and fulfilling joy to come, good trustworthy friends, trust in your own abilities, and ofc (though this overlaps with the others) meaning
He’s like “to think your time isn’t worth anything is a stupid idea” That made me laugh because he’s right, it’s like so literally simple idk why it’s difficult at times
"If you could have your life the way you wanted it in three to five years, if you were taking care of yourself properly; What would you want from your friendships? What would you want from your intimate relationship? How would you like to structure your family? What do you want for your career? How are you going to use your time outside of your job? And how are you going to regulate your mental and physical health? And maybe also your drug and alcohol use?"
I didn't notice that at first! Sorry, late to this vid, but here it is lol: it's Bite-sized philosophy (yt channel) watermark -- the guy put a lot of effort pulling short memorable clips out of hours-long lectures. I commend that. So the watermark means this uploader ripped off the clip from the other guy.
Thanks so much, Pescador de Hombres. As you have mentioned-PAIN- is a GREAT MOTIVATOR. So is fear. And so is LOVE. It is exhausting, to be waiting for the right time. But I think there is a right time, for EVERYTHING. I have been sad for a long time, but I'm trying to be better, and not feel sorry for myself, although I do. I feel stuck, and I feel that the World has betrayed me, by discriminating against me for not getting vaccinated. I have isolated myself too much, and I feel that people have forgotten about me. It's not completely true, but I feel that way. They accepted the vaccine, and the discrimination that went with it. I must forgive everyone for not fighting back two years ago. And I must forgive myself too, for not moving on. I'll do great things, when I do them. Thanks so much for the help. Te amo!
I'm really great at procrastinating and being lazy. I love doing these things, but they're not going to get me where I want to go, nor do what I want to do.
Purpose, meaning, service, calling, passion important for a meaningful life. I'm 70 years old now and one thing I learned you can plan, you can try to control every aspect of your life, you may think you are the captain the master of your sout. Time and chance play a part in all things, moreover we don't know when our time is up. As fish are caught in cruel nets or Birds are taken in snares so men are trapped by evil times that fall unexpectedly upon them.
Problem I'm having is that I have really reinforced the idea that there is no life that I would really want. Cut to me following Mr. Petersons advice about responsibility and all that and watching practices implemented nourishing my soul and washing away jadedness. So is my inability to plan for different reasons not important and the practice of planning is valuable in and of itself because you can course correct? Would love to hear your thoughts if someone has thought these issues through.
He talks about it in another lecture: of course it's ok to self-correct! It's not only unlikely, it's impossible to know exactly what your goal is before you've started: find something that looks like a goal you want in life, start working towards it, then if you find out it wasn't what you really wanted change, but keep moving! If nothing else you'll find out what you don't want and why, a great way to know thyself! Just don't stand still! A good way to find something you value is pondering about people that you admire or that inspire you: what do they have in common? Which traits makes you value them? Why? Who are you jealous of and why? That can be a great starting point. Good luck in your journey!
@@romanmajcher531 sculpting yourself into a version that's more in-life with your ideal is not betrayal; quite the contrary: not realising that potential is betrayal; not doing all the good you could, not being everything you could...
I wish I could have had this kind of help 40 years ago. Perhaps then I could have had the encouragement and support that I needed to navigate all of the betrayal, loss and tragedy exacted upon me by the military and their Marxist officers who took everything I earned, and destroyed my career. Now, it's too late.
Of course I want to workout and be fit, BUT : I also want to eat that slice of pizza. What "I" doesn't make sense, it's more like what "we" want. And "we" want different things both at the same time. THAT is the issue. Of course I know it would be worthwhile to meditate, eat healthy, exercise, journal, blablabla every day and I do to some degree, yet still indulge in vices because part of me wants to, the part that doesn't want to diet, meditate, exercise, etc.
People out there want a nice car , money, a partner , nothing wrong with that sadly they have no idea what happiness truly is because inside their heart they are blind following that they have to do the things they dont wana do
Because it's close enough. I don't necessarily follow these things. Necessarily. But I do. Because it's close enough. You take a test. 💯 score A+ you've passed. 70 percent is the cut off for fail. If you get a 70 score. You've passed. Passing is still passing. We're looking for practical solutions that are immediate not Buddha solutions. Not dissing Buddha. I've read his teachings. Happiness isn't important. It's not. Being really really miserable and avoiding it. Is wonderfully important.
“You have to negotiate with yourself and not, you know, tyrannize yourself.” This man has just overhauled a lifelong worth of how I think about scheduling and failed schedules 😂
My ideal is having enough money to live like Paris Hilton, so I can be rich and feel so entitled I never have to do anything for anyone else. I used to want to make a difference in the world. Right now, I'm tired, burned out and probably depressed. He doesn't mention being realistic or mentally healthy. I think his plan probably has to involve that though.
am 25 here, i wanna know how the damn we gotta know or come to a point where we know that this xyz vision is what i want for my life, ik its basic maybe like see who you don't wanna become, to be specific am doing a chartered accountancy course similar to cpa but in india, but i am not able to see any vision in that or life in general in relationships, or career.
What if you can’t play a day you’d like because if you could plan a day you’d want, it would be nothing? Or just fun like gaming all day and watching tv? Anything work related is automatically a day I don’t want. I know this is bad. I just need help and clarity.
What if you dont know what you want? What should my schedule look like? I've thought it about it intensley for the last 5 years or so and I have no idea what to do.
You should assess your life. I found Peterson's self authoring helpful personally, but there's plenty of other tools too. I like to do a life wheel, or the proust questionnaire every once in a while. Even journaling 30 mins a day, stream of consciousness could help. Anything that helps you with insight & dialogue with yourself Lmk if this helps
Like, the stuff he was saying about letting your personality inform your goals. One of your life goals could be "have amazing friends". (it's one of mine, I lean agreeable). That's not very conventional, but it just makes sense, plus it makes me enjoy my life way more & actually helps with a ton of other things. I've put a lot of time & attention & care into my friends -- upkeeping old ones, making new ones, disagreements, disappointment, negotiating boundaries, learning. So your goal can be smth like that, it fills your soul, even if you think "this shouldn't be a goal bc (blablabla)", smth that's hard to argue with.
@@MrFunMonk I think i undeerstand what u said, I guess i m just lazy cause i know what is meaningfull for me but I still say never mind I play videogames
I suggest you read the book "Winning the Week" by Demir and Casey Bentley. It will give valuable insight regarding how to plan a week AND how to execute your plan. Best book so far.
Sounds like maybe a case of narcissists ( & the spoons parable, hell vs heaven). If so, are you able to go no-contact with them? If not, you could grey rock. And take some time to figure out your own goals.
I have no time to plan how I'd like to live and follow that plan, cause I have to live my real life. Otherwise, how can I create such wealth to clone unicorns that poop rainbows and burp fairydust what has the limitless capability to heal cancer ?
I enjoy Petersen telling teens how stupid they are with their life choices :D If I could go back and slap myself for wasting so many years on WoW, when I could have been making my first video game and released it. Built a business and today been living the dream life. my gawd!
you could still start that business don’t think for a second just because you missed the train, that doesn’t mean there never another train. you made those decisions and you might be behind many, the only way you make up that time begins with starting. quit pinning stuff on a version of you that you can’t change. blame your current self for not starting that business and get to work.
@@Mich-jk2ze Work is in progress, but back in my teens I had plenty of TIME, to do those things.. NOW I have a fulltime job doing bs stuff for others, for a good enough salary, but when you get home, you have the wife, Dog / kids, cooking, cleaning, and eating.. then your mind is barely able to put words together in a cohesive sentence anymore, and you end up doing some entertainment for an hour, then go to bed, and repeat. Weekends are too short and few, holidays usually planned out by wife / dog / kids etc.. Its not the will, its the energy level, and Time .. Also there were several financial trains i missed, that are too late now, example BitCoin was dirt cheap back then, tesla stock was dirt cheap, vestas stock dirt cheap, etc, and I had involvement in all of it, or had opportunities and chose not to do it, because playing games was more interesting..
How does one become the DJ at a strip club.. 1) DJ Skills, start making playlists that girls like to dance to 2) Visit strip clubs a lot - for research
KFC founder Colonel Sanders didn’t start KFC until he was 65. It’s never too late. Read Atomic Habits and start with building a different identity compared to “someone like me”. James Clear said: “Your behaviors are usually a reflection of your identity. What you do is an indication of the type of person you believe that you are-either consciously or nonconsciously.* Research has shown that once a person believes in a particular aspect of their identity, they are more likely to act in alignment with that belief.” Read the book and it will teach you how to start. Message me and I can help (free). Good luck!
I think it's safe to say the people in this comments section believe in you, right as you are now. You might like to make all sorts of rationale (excuses) for why you're the most special case & so the rules that apply to everyone don't apply to you. But if you look at it like this, stripped of narrative, objectively, doesn't that ring false to you? Doesn't that sound like ego talking? I would dare to say you can work on your life. Wherever you are today. And you have no idea what sorts of miracles may open to you, if & when you open to life like this. Nature rewards courage. I believe in you 🙏 God bless you
Yes, exactly. In the same not having success is also very inheritable. But the thing is they're only predictors of success, it's mostly a numbers game. Having high industrious and IQ does not necessarily mean you will be successful at all, it means youre more likely to
Working memory is innate & unchangeable (mostly) too, and it plays a big role in being able to pay attention to what information is important (eg, determining a goal from an ill-defined primordial sludge). But I have seen people work miracles with atomic habits, in just last 5 years, so it's not all hopeless.
Official channel means it should be better at crediting the effort of Bite-Sized philosophy (the watermark) 🤷♀️ BSP actually really helped propogate a lot of these clips & ideas, BSP got so many views bc he did a good job picking out material & packaging them. I don't see anything in the video description acknowledging that, which is a little sad
I'm a widely-published poet, and I never plan anything. Planning is a piss-poor strategy for creative people, mostly because we are waiting on inspiration.
I remember listening to this time and time again thinking to myself “man I really need to quit drinking it’s been messing up my life in so many ways.” I’m so proud of myself for gathering over 90 days of sobriety. God willing there will be many more months and many years of sobriety ahead thanks Dr. P for the extra nudge and all the encouragement!
That's amazing. Well done!!!!
Fantastic! Keep going!!
That's awesome! Great job on the hard work! I wish you continued success!
Peace and love always until there is no more!😊❤
Keep on the path of sobriety brother, I am on day 65 myself. Stay the course!
Congrats! Keep moving forward - the momentum will grow, and your life will gain even more.
I can't explain how much this mere mortal has helped me in life. I will forever be thankful for his lessons.
I can say the same. And if you don't have English as your first language - you learn even more. I have to slow down the speed to 75% and some3 stop to translate some words. He's my English teacher too.
@Phantom Navigator Don't you have anyone you look up to? Or listen to in life?
@Phantom Navigator Projection. The real cultists are always the haters.
Same here.
@Phantom Navigator Jordan peterson teaches truth from science and his life experience and wisdom. Call it a religion if you want. It does not take away from the experience of people who have found him to be a great help in their lives. He has touched mine in a way no human will ever.
I'm actually surprised by how accurate this is - i mean, everything he says is correct especially him talking about 'whipping yourself and then procrastinating' and then 'having an existential crisis'
It's a proof of him being a phychologist and you being a human
I will try to wipe out too much alchool and bad habits.
That man is cool !
Also :
00:01 Setting aims and goals based on values to improve conscientiousness
01:29 Plan a life you want in 3-5 years
02:57 Specify long-term ideal and goals that excite and terrify you
04:25 Set specific goals to build the person you want to be.
05:45 Create a life vision that justifies your effort
07:07 Balance responsibility and reward for productive scheduling
08:25 Plan a life you'd like to have
09:52 Value Your Time Wisely
I'm so bloody grateful that this is not set to "inspirational music"
oh god yes.
finally they exist:).
God yes
I am not even religious, but oh GOD YES!
I find the music quite loud and over stimulating. Makes it so hard to listen calmly to anything. This is awesome
These 11 minutes are better than hours of motivational crap
He is the one who gets you to where you need to go. I'm really proud of him; it's almost as if he's saving lives, which is incredible.
Just remember, you can do anything you set your mind to, but it takes action, perseverance, and facing your fears.
I can do all things to Christ who strenghtens me
God Bless Dr. Peterson🌹 keep driving Home , Direction, Goals , Needs, and Hard work . Young people Today, need your guidance more than ever. They're homeless, protesting, lazy, etc..
Homeless for what reason?
They are not lazy put yourself in their shoes
Almost no job guarantee and diminishing social benifits while sky rocket inflation is taking a toll on everyone
i just dropped out of engineering and it was a really hard decision
it is very hard to truly decide what you are willing to suffer through and to strike at what you’re really meant to do.
i’m business now and my personality definitely suits it more but now i MUST make sure i don’t let off and choose something big to aspire to
He's so sweet and practical ☺️
I also have fun doing this hypothetical exercise which is imagining I win the lottery and then what I would do. After all the _nonsense_ is spent, I then look at most of it and ask myself, "and do I really need a lot of money for that?
Intriguing answers usually follow.
Exactly! Its a great way to take out any irrelevant blockages out of your thinking to find out what you really want.
As a business consultant, and coach, one of the very first things I work with my clients on is getting crystal clear as to what it is they they want. Focus is one thing but there’s no chance in hell for you if you don’t have clarity in what it is that you want first - otherwise every single goal you set will be meaningless and you’re going to fail almost every time. The second main point JP notes at the end is the critical nature of the value of time and we underestimate and undervalue this pathetically! When business owners complain they don’t have enough time - their real issue isn’t the numbers in the day (we are all given the same!) - the issue is in their inability to leverage their time well.
"Because that's a stupid day!". I laughed out lout, but it's so obviously true.
Man I wish JP was my professor in college, Great explanation!
Id have to record the lecture, write down a list of terminology I can't define...
Dude makes us think, makes us grow and I like that.
@@peeonu25 I know right, I keep playing on loop to get all the info!
I have to watch these videos when I’m in a slump. Thank you Jordan.
This is perhaps the most comprehensive life advice given by JBP
I agree.
Most people have an ideal LIFESTYLE, but what can be really helpful is planning an ideal SCHEDULE, I.e. time with people, working out, how much time at work, etc.
I'll try that. Maybe that will be easier to make realistic.
I had a dream last night of Jordan Peterson.
I was extremely happy in my dream to meet him.
He came into my home, sat on my couch and fell asleep.
I know Jp talks about interpreting your dreams.
I have no clue why I dreamt that, but it makes me smile.
@Manoman Hudo thank you for interpreting that
I wish I had this class when I was a student back in 1987 in Japan. I never had a clear goal for life. As a result I don't feel satisfied with my career. I never took major risks. I think we should have this kind of class in all universities. On the other hand I think envisioning a goal that justifies all the effort required could be really hard, unless you have some very strong source of motivation.
He explains what the source of motivation is.....
@@allforjesus1971 Avoiding failure/existential crisis?
I know this will sound cliche, but you have power in the present moment. You could do this exercise of let's say, where you want to be in a year, or 3. And work your way towards that. Wishing you hope and determination and light 🙏🙏
Setting a goal that motivates can be hard but if you really think about what you want in the next 1 - 5 years (not what you can have but what you actually desire), it helps. Like Jim Rhon said "set a goal that'll make you stretch that far, for what it'll make of you to achieve it"
I read this title like, Plan A: Life you'd like to have
I feel like that’s equally effective. What do you think step B could possibly be?
@@acogjefe4769 its plan b lol
@@acogjefe4769 plan b: life you do not want to have
As long as you stay away from Plan 9 from Outer Space. . . .
@@acogjefe4769 I think the best plan B would be - Stick to Plan A.
So many Valuable Insights! Thank You Doctor Peterson!!!
Plan a life you’d like to have!!! Yes!!
JP, the dad I never had, but found online
I am 22 year old, thinking I'm late a little bit but that is the best time to build because time going to becoming past also, wish me a luck.
"Make a damn schedule" I wish my dad told me like this in very specific way even once
Boahhh this dude be speaking so much factss
Thank you Dr Jordan Peterson for REAL
okay i need more of this.
I'm watching this video for the second time and I'm glad I am because I'm at the procrastinating phase after cracking the whip on myself last week.
Wherever Mr. Peterson is, may God bless him for me.
It feels like the highs aren’t high enough, yet the lows are unbearably deep. Negativity is much more salient to our minds then positivity- this seems to me like a cursed existence that is not worth living for ANYONE.
Do you still feel this way today?
@@neestovekin8251 Moreso in the back of my head. The subjective experience that typically summons this form of thinking is a bit dormant at the moment- the beast of nihilism is not so agitated.
I hope I've been preparing myself for the next time whatever ails me leads me to this beast. I hope that I'm pulling away from it, but part of me is still fearful of it's return- I suspect that he's just resting for a moment and I'm doing nothing but fooling myself.
I'm using metaphorical speech here intentionally- I'm not trying to come across as pompous or mysterious or Nietzschean.
@@joshuaprivett3552 I see. if the beast is sleeping, then all you can do is make your habits strong and set your life up as well as you can before it returns. I will be wishing you well! deep and fulfilling joy to come, good trustworthy friends, trust in your own abilities, and ofc (though this overlaps with the others) meaning
@@joshuaprivett3552 life is horrible so let us fight to make it loving, that is all we can do
Hope things are better for you. Sending genuine best wishes:) may overly subjective thinking stay far far away. 🧡
Peterson! Peterson! Peterson!
He’s like “to think your time isn’t worth anything is a stupid idea”
That made me laugh because he’s right, it’s like so literally simple idk why it’s difficult at times
This hit hard, it described me perfectly
Is this the single greatest self-help video ever ?
"If you could have your life the way you wanted it in three to five years, if you were taking care of yourself properly;
What would you want from your friendships?
What would you want from your intimate relationship?
How would you like to structure your family?
What do you want for your career?
How are you going to use your time outside of your job?
And how are you going to regulate your mental and physical health?
And maybe also your drug and alcohol use?"
The little emoji in the corner is really breaking my mind lmao
Like what is that thing doing there xd
I didn't notice that at first!
Sorry, late to this vid, but here it is lol: it's Bite-sized philosophy (yt channel) watermark -- the guy put a lot of effort pulling short memorable clips out of hours-long lectures. I commend that. So the watermark means this uploader ripped off the clip from the other guy.
Thanks so much, Pescador de Hombres. As you have mentioned-PAIN- is a GREAT MOTIVATOR. So is fear. And so is LOVE. It is exhausting, to be waiting for the right time. But I think there is a right time, for EVERYTHING. I have been sad for a long time, but I'm trying to be better, and not feel sorry for myself, although I do. I feel stuck, and I feel that the World has betrayed me, by discriminating against me for not getting vaccinated. I have isolated myself too much, and I feel that people have forgotten about me. It's not completely true, but I feel that way. They accepted the vaccine, and the discrimination that went with it. I must forgive everyone for not fighting back two years ago. And I must forgive myself too, for not moving on. I'll do great things, when I do them. Thanks so much for the help. Te amo!
Amen.
u should get out. i have been isolated myself too much as well and it hasn’t done me any favors. i wish u well
I'm really great at procrastinating and being lazy. I love doing these things, but they're not going to get me where I want to go, nor do what I want to do.
This is the Jordan Peterson we need not the political Jordan Peterson.
It's not you have to but you get to. All perspective
1:00 2:02 4:29 6:04 6:56 8:23 9:30 10:01 10:38
3:06 ‼️ 3:43
Purpose, meaning, service, calling, passion important for a meaningful life. I'm 70 years old now and one thing I learned you can plan, you can try to control every aspect of your life, you may think you are the captain the master of your sout. Time and chance play a part in all things, moreover we don't know when our time is up. As fish are caught in cruel nets or Birds are taken in snares so men are trapped by evil times that fall unexpectedly upon them.
Well said Joe.
He's so motivating ❤
OK. So set goals.
Problem I'm having is that I have really reinforced the idea that there is no life that I would really want. Cut to me following Mr. Petersons advice about responsibility and all that and watching practices implemented nourishing my soul and washing away jadedness. So is my inability to plan for different reasons not important and the practice of planning is valuable in and of itself because you can course correct? Would love to hear your thoughts if someone has thought these issues through.
He talks about it in another lecture: of course it's ok to self-correct!
It's not only unlikely, it's impossible to know exactly what your goal is before you've started: find something that looks like a goal you want in life, start working towards it, then if you find out it wasn't what you really wanted change, but keep moving! If nothing else you'll find out what you don't want and why, a great way to know thyself! Just don't stand still!
A good way to find something you value is pondering about people that you admire or that inspire you: what do they have in common? Which traits makes you value them? Why? Who are you jealous of and why?
That can be a great starting point.
Good luck in your journey!
@@romanmajcher531 sculpting yourself into a version that's more in-life with your ideal is not betrayal; quite the contrary: not realising that potential is betrayal; not doing all the good you could, not being everything you could...
I wish I could have had this kind of help 40 years ago. Perhaps then I could have had the encouragement and support that I needed to navigate all of the betrayal, loss and tragedy exacted upon me by the military and their Marxist officers who took everything I earned, and destroyed my career. Now, it's too late.
Of course I want to workout and be fit, BUT : I also want to eat that slice of pizza. What "I" doesn't make sense, it's more like what "we" want. And "we" want different things both at the same time. THAT is the issue. Of course I know it would be worthwhile to meditate, eat healthy, exercise, journal, blablabla every day and I do to some degree, yet still indulge in vices because part of me wants to, the part that doesn't want to diet, meditate, exercise, etc.
Eating pizza and being fit/going to the gym are NOT mutually-exclusive.
I'm fit but I eat pizza and other junk food here and there. What matters is your total diet (protein, fats, calories, etc).
Because you are holding onto resentment and don't actually want the best for yourself to some degree because of it
Thank you!
I wish I knew this 20 years ago...
What if you have low expectations from life, in that the way life is going, is good enough?
People out there want a nice car , money, a partner , nothing wrong with that sadly they have no idea what happiness truly is because inside their heart they are blind following that they have to do the things they dont wana do
Because it's close enough. I don't necessarily follow these things. Necessarily.
But I do. Because it's close enough. You take a test. 💯 score A+ you've passed. 70 percent is the cut off for fail. If you get a 70 score. You've passed. Passing is still passing.
We're looking for practical solutions that are immediate not Buddha solutions. Not dissing Buddha. I've read his teachings.
Happiness isn't important. It's not. Being really really miserable and avoiding it. Is wonderfully important.
“You have to negotiate with yourself and not, you know, tyrannize yourself.”
This man has just overhauled a lifelong worth of how I think about scheduling and failed schedules 😂
Thank u JP
You become what you think. So, think carefully))
My ideal is having enough money to live like Paris Hilton, so I can be rich and feel so entitled I never have to do anything for anyone else. I used to want to make a difference in the world. Right now, I'm tired, burned out and probably depressed. He doesn't mention being realistic or mentally healthy. I think his plan probably has to involve that though.
am 25 here, i wanna know how the damn we gotta know or come to a point where we know that this xyz vision is what i want for my life, ik its basic maybe like see who you don't wanna become, to be specific am doing a chartered accountancy course similar to cpa but in india, but i am not able to see any vision in that or life in general in relationships, or career.
Sahi bol rha hai bhai. Clarity do type ki hoti hai, kya chahiye and kya bilkul bhi nahi chahiye.
The problem isnt the plan, the problem is what life do you want to have?
I don't maybe a simple one with a 9-5 job and after sometime I want to becoming a monk in Himalayan region ( I live close to Himalayas)
Yea! Already planned. :)
Love One Another:)
What if you can’t play a day you’d like because if you could plan a day you’d want, it would be nothing? Or just fun like gaming all day and watching tv? Anything work related is automatically a day I don’t want.
I know this is bad. I just need help and clarity.
God willing
Is there even another option than a schedule?
I'd like to have an unplanned one
Lol then you're gonna get trapped in a paradox
What if you dont know what you want? What should my schedule look like? I've thought it about it intensley for the last 5 years or so and I have no idea what to do.
You should assess your life. I found Peterson's self authoring helpful personally, but there's plenty of other tools too. I like to do a life wheel, or the proust questionnaire every once in a while. Even journaling 30 mins a day, stream of consciousness could help.
Anything that helps you with insight & dialogue with yourself
Lmk if this helps
Like, the stuff he was saying about letting your personality inform your goals. One of your life goals could be "have amazing friends". (it's one of mine, I lean agreeable). That's not very conventional, but it just makes sense, plus it makes me enjoy my life way more & actually helps with a ton of other things. I've put a lot of time & attention & care into my friends -- upkeeping old ones, making new ones, disagreements, disappointment, negotiating boundaries, learning.
So your goal can be smth like that, it fills your soul, even if you think "this shouldn't be a goal bc (blablabla)", smth that's hard to argue with.
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can someone can actually gave me a EASY and USEFUL way to schedule my routine. Like include normal stuff work out, studying.. pls I need help
write it all down...
visualize what you want to do and how to accomplish it, write it down and then structure it in a useful way.
@@MrFunMonk I think i undeerstand what u said, I guess i m just lazy cause i know what is meaningfull for me but I still say never mind I play videogames
@@MrFunMonk how to develop clarity?
I suggest you read the book "Winning the Week" by Demir and Casey Bentley. It will give valuable insight regarding how to plan a week AND how to execute your plan. Best book so far.
I can’t have a goal, the posts get moved by those closets to me. Nobody wants me to succeeded, and they’ll sabotage it because of their egos.
Sounds like maybe a case of narcissists ( & the spoons parable, hell vs heaven). If so, are you able to go no-contact with them? If not, you could grey rock. And take some time to figure out your own goals.
I have no time to plan how I'd like to live and follow that plan, cause I have to live my real life.
Otherwise, how can I create such wealth to clone unicorns that poop rainbows and burp fairydust what has the limitless capability to heal cancer ?
I am 40 and kind of done. But I can still become a politician 😁
I enjoy Petersen telling teens how stupid they are with their life choices :D
If I could go back and slap myself for wasting so many years on WoW, when I could have been making my first video game and released it. Built a business and today been living the dream life. my gawd!
you could still start that business
don’t think for a second just because you missed the train, that doesn’t mean there never another train.
you made those decisions and you might be behind many, the only way you make up that time begins with starting.
quit pinning stuff on a version of you that you can’t change. blame your current self for not starting that business and get to work.
@@Mich-jk2ze Work is in progress, but back in my teens I had plenty of TIME, to do those things.. NOW I have a fulltime job doing bs stuff for others, for a good enough salary, but when you get home, you have the wife, Dog / kids, cooking, cleaning, and eating.. then your mind is barely able to put words together in a cohesive sentence anymore, and you end up doing some entertainment for an hour, then go to bed, and repeat. Weekends are too short and few, holidays usually planned out by wife / dog / kids etc..
Its not the will, its the energy level, and Time ..
Also there were several financial trains i missed, that are too late now, example BitCoin was dirt cheap back then, tesla stock was dirt cheap, vestas stock dirt cheap, etc, and I had involvement in all of it, or had opportunities and chose not to do it, because playing games was more interesting..
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Day 44 of VERY highly recommending that you read Berserk.
How does one become the DJ at a strip club.. 1) DJ Skills, start making playlists that girls like to dance to 2) Visit strip clubs a lot - for research
very interesting
Notes:
50% of your schedule
done is good
Bargain with yourself
I did not plan on Jordan Peterson stalking me.
In 10 years
How are people getting late to that class?
Jordan Peterson does have a lot of profound thoughts though.
I'm about to be 40 🤯
I fear the life I want is far gone for someone like me at this point. I won't have what I want, ever.
Who is someone like you?
KFC founder Colonel Sanders didn’t start KFC until he was 65. It’s never too late. Read Atomic Habits and start with building a different identity compared to “someone like me”. James Clear said: “Your behaviors are usually a reflection of your identity. What you do is an indication of the type of person you believe that you are-either consciously or nonconsciously.* Research has shown that once a person believes in a particular aspect of their identity, they are more likely to act in alignment with that belief.” Read the book and it will teach you how to start. Message me and I can help (free). Good luck!
Does it have to do with your age, if you don't mind me asking?
I think it's safe to say the people in this comments section believe in you, right as you are now. You might like to make all sorts of rationale (excuses) for why you're the most special case & so the rules that apply to everyone don't apply to you. But if you look at it like this, stripped of narrative, objectively, doesn't that ring false to you? Doesn't that sound like ego talking?
I would dare to say you can work on your life. Wherever you are today. And you have no idea what sorts of miracles may open to you, if & when you open to life like this. Nature rewards courage. I believe in you 🙏 God bless you
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#MahsaAmini #مهسا_امینی
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Dude says IQ is genetically inherited industrioussness is genetically inherited so success is also genetic.
Yes, exactly. In the same not having success is also very inheritable. But the thing is they're only predictors of success, it's mostly a numbers game. Having high industrious and IQ does not necessarily mean you will be successful at all, it means youre more likely to
Working memory is innate & unchangeable (mostly) too, and it plays a big role in being able to pay attention to what information is important (eg, determining a goal from an ill-defined primordial sludge).
But I have seen people work miracles with atomic habits, in just last 5 years, so it's not all hopeless.
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Industriousness....
this whole process sounds like suffering
And doing nothing sounds like even more suffering to me
Plan only to give your life away, it's not your life to have
Lmao the watermark in the bottom left. A re-upload of an upload of someone else who uploaded.
.... yes, and back on the official channel.
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Official channel means it should be better at crediting the effort of Bite-Sized philosophy (the watermark) 🤷♀️ BSP actually really helped propogate a lot of these clips & ideas, BSP got so many views bc he did a good job picking out material & packaging them.
I don't see anything in the video description acknowledging that, which is a little sad
I planned a life I'd like to have then terrorists and corrupt medical ruined it now I'm just all brain damaged
You should come to terms with the reality of life . . .no matter how good your plan is, there is always one more son of a bitch than you counted on.
That seems like a stupid solution.
ok so do it your way ig
He just described my life as a 27 year old bum perfectly.
I'm a widely-published poet, and I never plan anything. Planning is a piss-poor strategy for creative people, mostly because we are waiting on inspiration.